Everyday Norms Readers Find Deeply Disturbing

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Everyday Norms Readers Find Deeply Disturbing

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Ten norms readers keep flagging, and the specific report behind each one

Across ten recurring categories, from unconsented recording and vanishing digital purchases to weight-loss compliments that were actually chemo or grief, readers name a specific norm and back it with a concrete story rather than a general complaint. Browse each category for what commenters actually reported, the counterpoints or exceptions they raised, and which patterns repeat across more than one thread. By raw comment volume, the three most-backed norms in the catalog are AI dependence eroding human thinking (104 supporting comments), factory farming (88), and religious belief and coercive practice (78).

What you will find
  • Weight-loss compliments that were actually chemo, grief, or starvation in disguise
  • Digital purchases that vanish the moment a platform pulls the license
  • Being recorded first and asked for consent never
  • Substance withdrawal treated as a DIY project instead of a medical emergency
  • Babies pierced, filmed, and posted before they can object
  • AI inserted into tasks nobody asked it to touch
  • Wealth-inequality comparisons that turn oxygen and groceries into a punchline
  • A culture that polices nudity harder than it polices violence
2,150 catalog entries
Belief and existential unease60 records · 2 sub-topics
Mortality, consciousness, and the nature of reality32 index entries · 74 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Mortality, consciousness, and the nature of reality

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The unknowable origin before the universe
4 source records

What the pattern means: Four commenters chase the same infinite regress -- what caused the Big Bang, what caused the multiverse, what caused a creator -- and each proposed answer just relocates the mystery one step further back instead of resolving it.

What commenters described: And even if it were a supreme being creating it.. why and where did that start? It's turtles all the way down.

Limit: Not everyone here reasons from physics -- one reply shortcuts the whole regress by simply pointing to the big bang needing a cause, then dismisses the rest of the Bible as 'mostly hyperbole and metaphors'.

Anxiety about the universe's heat death
3 source records

What the pattern means: Two replies treat the heat death of the universe less as a threat than as an event they're wistfully sad they won't live to witness, while a third just shrugs that none of it will matter regardless.

What commenters described: Is it weird that i love thinking about that? Like im sad i wont see it. Im also sad i wont see when Andromeda collides with the milky way.

Limit: The reaction isn't uniform dread -- one commenter says outright that they love thinking about it.

A clouds, sky, and moon depth-perception thought
3 source records

What the pattern means: Three commenters get stuck untangling a simple visual layering problem -- clouds, sky, and moon -- and can't settle on which one is actually closest to the viewer.

What commenters described: If you look up, the clouds are in front of the sky and the sky is in front of the moon

Limit: The group doesn't reach consensus -- one reply insists the opposite ordering, that the moon sits in front of the sky.

Extreme sports (where there's an obvious risk of death)
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single terse nomination names extreme sports, reasoning that their entire appeal already assumes death as an acceptable outcome baked into the activity itself.

Eternal-existence philosophical proposal
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter argues their way out of the void entirely, claiming that true nothingness devoid of even potential could never have been a live option, so existence never actually needed a starting point.

What commenters described: You can’t create something out of nothing. True nothingness is devoid of even potential, therefore, the fact we are here to look at it and talk about it means nothingness was never an option and existence in totality was always here.

Limit: The same commenter still concedes our particular universe runs on an ordinary linear timeline from the Big Bang, so the idea doesn't fully escape needing a cause somewhere.

Mathematical-structure view of existence
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter compares existence to a mathematical theorem: something everyone would agree is true once discovered, yet needing no physical substrate, no observer, and no act of creation to already be real.

What commenters described: it isn't actually a physical thing and doesn't require anything to make it real, not even someone to discover it.

Reality
1 source record

What the pattern means: A bare one-word nomination -- 'Reality' -- arrives with its own preemptive disclaimer, insisting the question of what existence even is doesn't require drugs to trigger.

What commenters described: Reality. Like, what is existence? No I do not do drugs.

Death
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter isn't primarily unsettled by dying itself but by how calm everyone else seems about it, wondering aloud why immortality research isn't treated as a society-wide emergency.

What commenters described: How people aren't already panicking to find a way to achieve immortality frightens me.

Reality TV
1 source record

What the pattern means: Reality television gets blamed here not for being trivial but for training generations of viewers to tolerate 'truly revolting behavior,' which the commenter treats as a root cause of broader social decline.

What commenters described: I swear generations of people watching truly revolting behavior is what’s gotten us in this mess.

Universe-inside-a-black-hole speculation
1 source record

What the pattern means: Rather than dreading the unknown, this commenter finds the idea of our universe nesting inside a black hole genuinely comforting to think about, since it's a way of coping with the idea of 'nothing' existing before anything.

What commenters described: black holes in our universe potentially being other 'child' universes. I'm nowhere near educated enough to understand this stuff with any granularity, but very fun to think about.

Limit: The commenter openly admits they lack the physics background to judge whether the idea actually holds up.

People circlejerking themselves out of the concept of facts and reality
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a social pattern rather than a single fact: groups of people talking each other into abandoning shared standards of evidence until 'facts' and 'reality' stop meaning much of anything.

What commenters described: People circlejerking themselves out of the concept of facts and reality.

Skyscrapers
1 source record

What the pattern means: Skyscrapers get flagged here as a maintenance-neglect risk rather than a height phobia, with the commenter explicitly clearing airplanes of the same charge while imagining a structure collapsing simply because upkeep lapsed.

What commenters described: They are affronts to god (not because of the height, planes are fine).

Limit: The objection is narrowly about collapse from neglect, not height itself -- the same commenter says flying is fine.

The nature of our reality is consuming life to live
1 source record

What the pattern means: The most existential entry in this set reframes eating to survive as a moral indictment: every organism, including us, persists only by consuming other life, and simply noticing that fact is described as its own kind of curse.

What commenters described: our purpose is to inflict suffering and exist at the expense of other living things. Being conscious of it is being damned.

Limit: The commenter notes this holds 'even while trying to mitigate it,' meaning attempts to reduce the harm don't actually escape the underlying condition.

What preceded the Big Bang
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe the question as something that actively unsettles them day to day rather than idle curiosity, with one saying they think about the void before the Big Bang daily and still can't resolve where matter or energy came from to begin with.

Maybe no disturbing, but sobering and humbling
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's long reflection reframes mortality as humbling rather than frightening, describing a summer spent studying ancient history instead of gaming, and concluding that even history's most famous rulers are now as forgotten as any insect that happened to live and die unnoticed.

You are not in control of your own brain
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the body's own neurology as the disturbing subject, noting a panic attack, narcoleptic episode, or seizure can occur or end without any say from the person experiencing it, and says the lack of public conversation about that loss of control is what strikes them most.

Life (we) even exist
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames existence itself as the disturbing part, marveling that everyone spends their entire life working for money, a concept humans invented, while treating the underlying fact of being alive at all as unremarkable.

Honestly, for me it's the general lack of existential curiosity
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames their own disturbance as the opposite of most entries in this dataset, saying what troubles them is a general lack of existential curiosity in others, given how endlessly fascinated they are by the fact that anything exists at all.

Life itself
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names life itself in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which aspect of existence the commenter finds disturbing.

Life on Earth
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names life on Earth broadly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific biological or existential concern.

The fact we live and then just die
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the basic fact of mortality, that people live and then simply die, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond that observation.

We all get old and die
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames universal mortality with resigned sarcasm, calling aging and death a bummer and adding that the world doesn't seem to care regardless.

We exist
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the basic fact of existence in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond that observation.

We’re all going to die one day…relatively soon
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry frames mortality with a specific, deliberately unsettling timeframe, noting everyone dies relatively soon rather than treating it as a distant abstraction.

The existential fact that anything exists
22 source records

What the pattern means: This is the base thread anchoring the 'why does anything exist' question that recurs elsewhere in this category, and its 22 replies swing from real distress -- one commenter says just thinking about it sends them into a 'depressed' spiral -- to comic deflection, like quoting the Hitchhiker's Guide joke that creation 'made many people very angry and has been widely regarded as a bad move.'

What commenters described: "God(s)" of whatever flavor are how people excuse themselves out of this existential mindfuck. We're a conscious fractal.

Limit: Not everyone here treats it as distressing -- one reply insists the reverse would be stranger: 'Nothing existing would be weirder though'.

Cosmic scale triggering a sense that nothing matters
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two short replies capture the same 'nothing matters' vertigo from different angles: one flatly concludes that nothing matters at the end of the day, while the other says the same realization physically makes them lightheaded, joking that the thought says more about them than about the actual physics.

What commenters described: Every once in a while this thought hits me and I get lightheaded. Probably speaks to me more than the actual concept but how else am I supposed to feel about this???

Limit: The reaction isn't uniformly visceral -- the other reply treats it as a flat aside rather than something disturbing: 'it's crazy because none of it matters at the end of the day'.

Death is the most insulting thing in existence and I resent the
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter resents what they call a mainstream 'death cult' insisting death is what gives life meaning, and recommends the video game Talos Principle 2 as rare media arguing the opposite, while a lone reply jokes there are only about five people worldwide who feel the same way.

What commenters described: Death is the most insulting thing in existence and I resent the mainstream death cult with their "death is what gives life meaning" propaganda.

Limit: The reply that follows frames this as a fringe view rather than something widely shared: "Thank you! And I fully agree with you. Unfortunately there’s about five of us worldwide"

Anything exists at all
1 source record

What the pattern means: A bare few-word nomination arrives as its own complete entry with no elaboration -- simply flagging existence itself as the disturbing thing, the shortest possible restatement of the same existence question that runs through several other entries in this category.

What commenters described: the fact that anything exists at all

One thing that gets to me is realizing how many decisions in
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter is unsettled by how much of life is determined by chance encounters rather than deliberate choice, citing meeting someone by accident who ends up reshaping everything as the specific example.

Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
17 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters here aren't afraid of falling so much as of who maintains the gear beforehand -- worn cord fibers, unchecked clips, and operators they have no way to vet before trusting them with a jump.

What commenters described: it's the equipment and the people involved in installing these things that concern me more than the 'height' or the drop

Limit: One long reply argues the fear is selective, since people accept invisible risks like faulty brakes or a gas leak in daily life while singling out bungee jumping as uniquely reckless.

Bungee jump without an attachment incident
5 source records

What the pattern means: The specific incident commenters keep returning to is a viral clip of a woman shoved off a platform with no cord attached at all, which several note isn't really bungee jumping so much as an unhooked fall staged as a stunt.

What commenters described: That isn’t even bungee jumping. It’s just jumping.

A derealization-like moment of remembering one is real
1 source record

What the pattern means: This single line describes a recurring derealization-adjacent jolt, a sudden and unsettling reminder of one's own reality rather than a single passing thought.

What commenters described: I often freak out when I remember I am real

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

Thank you! And I fully agree with you. Unfortunately there’s about five of us worldwide 😉

source record 4347♥ 0

Source-record spotlights

Most engaged source

We all get old and die. Bummer. Doesn't seem like the world cares though!

source record 4434♥ 0
Later-arriving source

Thank you! And I fully agree with you. Unfortunately there’s about five of us worldwide 😉

source record 4347♥ 0
Zero-like source

I feel very weirded out by the placebo effect.

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Related evidence elsewhere in the index

What the counts show

This category splits into two very different registers: playful cosmological speculation -- what came before the Big Bang, whether our universe nests inside a black hole, whether existence itself needed a cause at all -- that several commenters say they find comforting or genuinely fun to sit with, versus blunt one-line mortality dread ('Death,' 'Reality,' 'Skyscrapers') sitting alongside a separate, much more literal fear cluster about bungee-jumping equipment failure and a viral clip of a jump with no cord attached at all.

32index entries
74distinct source records
40.4%of parent category
1.8%of the complete index
21top-level comments
53replies

How attention is distributed across the 32 index entries

23single-source entries (71.9% of 32)
84source-record references across the index
52.4%of references in the top three entries
The existential fact that anything exists22 source records
Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear17 source records
Bungee jump without an attachment incident5 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

1explicitly reports a benefit
1explicitly reports a limit or failure
12asks a question
0says they intend to try it
60other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 32 index entries preserve 74 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Religion, patriotism, and inherited belief28 index entries · 110 source records
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Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Religion, patriotism, and inherited belief

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>Border controls beyond the minimum
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply directly disputes a peer's framing of borders as apartheid, insisting a borderless world would collapse without shared jurisdiction, and calls treating self-defense as equivalent to terrorism a naive take that ignores what peace actually costs to keep.

What commenters described: Peace only exists because peaceful people reserve the right to be non peaceful when it comes to facing ideas and actions that go against peace.

Limit: The commenter concedes the appeal is real even while rejecting it, noting a borderless world 'sounds nice for two seconds' before the practical questions of jurisdiction take over.

Border controls beyond the minimum
1 source record

What the pattern means: The original post frames border enforcement itself as a system of global apartheid, then extends that same discomfort to non-pacifism, arguing that self-defense and terrorism are morally indistinguishable.

What commenters described: Borders are fundamentally a system of global apertheid and I find them really perverse, yet most of the world doesn't agree with me.

People praying to a god, a fake story told by a handful
1 source record

What the pattern means: Prayer gets recast here as an inherited fiction, something invented generations ago and repeated on faith rather than evidence, with the dismissive "sky daddy" phrasing doing most of the work.

What commenters described: a fake story told by a handful of people many generations ago about a sky daddy

Believing in God
1 source record

What the pattern means: No argument accompanies this one; the commenter simply lists belief in God itself as the disturbing item, offering nothing beyond that bare statement.

What commenters described: Believing in God.

Pledge of Allegiance, creepy
1 source record

What the pattern means: Tucked into a short aside, this comment singles out the Pledge of Allegiance by name and labels the daily classroom ritual creepy with no further justification given.

What commenters described: Pledge of Allegiance, creepy.

Patriotism
1 source record

What the pattern means: Offered with zero elaboration, this entry names patriotism alone as the unsettling subject, leaving the reader to supply whatever reasoning might be behind it.

What commenters described: Patriotism.

Borders, nationality and passports
1 source record

What the pattern means: Borders, nationality, and passports get collapsed into a single verdict here: they're a constructed fiction, a bureaucratic illusion this commenter treats as obviously arbitrary rather than natural.

What commenters described: It’s all an illusion.

Pledge of allegiance
1 source record

What the pattern means: Even shorter than its neighbors on the same topic, this entry names the daily classroom flag oath and stops there, with no explanation attached anywhere in the record.

What commenters described: Pledge of allegiance.

The concept of Heaven
1 source record

What the pattern means: Heaven gets re-examined rather than rejected outright: an eternity spent forced into happiness and endless praise, the commenter points out, is functionally the same shape as a punishment.

What commenters described: You get to go to a place where you’re always happy and you’ll praise God for eternity. Eternity? That sounds like hell, honestly

People believing in God and an afterlife
1 source record

What the pattern means: An adult who once accepted this without question now finds it baffling that other intelligent adults still believe in God and an afterlife, and lands on a psychological explanation: managing the fear of dying.

What commenters described: The only way I can make sense of them is to conclude that people use them to manage their terror of death.

A cunt called God
1 source record

What the pattern means: Stripped down to pure contempt, this comment dismisses God with a blunt insult and skips any argument entirely, which is itself the point being made.

What commenters described: a cunt called God

Oh my god is that what it is
1 source record

What the pattern means: This one doesn't belong to the belief cluster at all on closer reading — it's a recognition moment about opioid withdrawal, describing a specific gut sensation during a bender's aftermath, and it only landed in this category because it opens with "oh my god."

What commenters described: I was always so confused during the WDs after a bender where you are just shitting pure liquid but for some reason it feels like broken freaking glass

The pledge of allegiance
1 source record

What the pattern means: A third, independent commenter lands on the exact same target as two others in this set, flatly labeling the pledge unsettling and creepy, without adding any reasoning past that description.

What commenters described: Creepy and unsettling.

Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
78 source records

What the pattern means: Most replies here are a one-word verdict rather than an argument, but the detailed ones converge on coercion more than belief itself: modesty rules enforced unevenly on women, children indoctrinated before they can object, and one commenter recalling shelters that require attending religious services before they'll hand out a bed.

What commenters described: I know several people for whom their religion causes them to be more patient with challenging people, or to volunteer their time, even with non-religious organizations.

Limit: If you think a specific religious idea needs to be outlawed, take it up with your representatives, but the issue is not freedom of religion itself.

Religious scripture versus scientific knowledge
3 source records

What the pattern means: The exchange here is a real debate rather than one-sided mockery, with one commenter tracing their own path from atheism to a rational, moderate theism through studying philosophy, directly challenging the assumption that scientific literacy and religious belief can't coexist.

Christianity
3 source records

What the pattern means: Three commenters name Christianity specifically rather than religion broadly, without further elaboration in the supporting record on what distinguishes their objection from the wider religion complaints found elsewhere in this dataset.

The Big Bang first cause as a reason for belief
2 source records

What the pattern means: The reply here presses the logic of the original claim rather than the belief itself, asking that if the Big Bang required a cause, what caused that cause, arguing religion doesn't answer the question so much as push it one step further back.

Religious beliefs pathologized as psychosis
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry frames the objection clinically rather than morally, calling widespread religious belief a form of psychosis that society has simply agreed to treat as normal instead of as a symptom.

A belief-versus-religious-extremism boundary
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter draws a specific line other religion entries in this dataset skip past: open to the idea some higher being might exist given how many religions claim one, but firmly rejecting that any such being would want war, distrust, or cult-like devotion carried out in its name.

Loyalty to nation-states
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the concept in three words with no elaboration in the supporting record beyond the label itself, loyalty to nation states, leaving the specific objection unstated.

Palm readers and other psychics
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names palm readers and other psychics with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about the practice troubles this commenter.

Singing the national anthem for pretty much all sports events
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the national anthem's presence at nearly every sporting event specifically, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what about the pairing troubles this commenter.

Single-word religious billboards
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's frustration is with incompleteness rather than the message itself, describing highway billboards that say only Jesus with no second line or context, leaving them wanting to know what exactly the sign is trying to say.

Wearing a cross
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection is to the object itself rather than the faith, pointing out a cross is literally a replica of an execution device, worn as jewelry without most wearers registering that connection.

Believing in astrology
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames astrology as specifically implausible rather than harmless, questioning how anyone accepts the underlying premise that distant celestial bodies emit directed influence on individual human lives.

The belief in magic
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names belief in magic directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which specific practice or claim the commenter has in mind.

Modern Theocracies
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names modern theocracies directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific country or government.

Witchcraft
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names witchcraft in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific practice or belief.

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Most engaged source

Freedom of religion is not a problem. Whether ‘indefensible ideas’ are allowed is up to the law, which usually disallows them. If you think a specific religious idea needs to be outlawed, take it up with your representatives, but the issue is not freedom of religion itself.

source record 4499♥ 0
Later-arriving source

Freedom of religion. It has been exploited to protect indefensible ideas.

source record 4498♥ 0
Zero-like source

Religion and the way it makes people hate those different from their cult.

source record 4489♥ 0

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What the counts show

Most entries here are one-line, unexplained flags rather than developed arguments — bare statements like "Patriotism." or "Believing in God." that name the taboo target and stop, as if the discomfort speaks for itself. The Pledge of Allegiance shows up three separate times as "creepy" from three different commenters, and the one real exception is a genuine back-and-forth (a poster calling borders "global apartheid" and non-pacifism indistinguishable from terrorism, rebutted point by point by a reply). One entry in the set isn't actually about belief at all — a comment about opioid withdrawal symptoms was swept in here, apparently because it opens with "Oh my god."

28index entries
110distinct source records
60.1%of parent category
2.6%of the complete index
82top-level comments
28replies

How attention is distributed across the 28 index entries

24single-source entries (85.7% of 28)
110source-record references across the index
76.4%of references in the top three entries
Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice78 source records
Christianity3 source records
Religious scripture versus scientific knowledge3 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
16asks a question
0says they intend to try it
94other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 28 index entries preserve 110 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Environment and consumption116 records · 2 sub-topics
Animals, climate, and environmental harm83 index entries · 207 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Animals, climate, and environmental harm

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Factory farming
88 source records

What the pattern means: Across dozens of comments here, the disturbance isn't debating whether factory farming is cruel — everyone agrees it is — but exposing how normalized it's become, from the size of supermarket meat aisles to a running argument over whether loving a dog while eating a cow is coherent at all.

What commenters described: "Factory farming is just an endless ongoing atrocity that we all turn a blind eye to. We know what's happening, we just try not to think about it."

Limit: Several commenters admit they eat meat anyway, and one thread pushes back hard, arguing eating animals is 'normal and necessary' for omnivores even as another calls that framing a stretch since it's '100% optional.'

Breeding pets while shelters are full
15 source records

What the pattern means: This is a genuine argument, not a consensus: one side treats buying from any breeder as complicity in shelter deaths, the other insists responsible breeders don't compete with rescues and that shelters sometimes source dogs from puppy mills themselves.

What commenters described: "If you buy a dog instead of adopting one, you somewhat killing a dog that was not adopted."

Limit: Breeders in the thread counter that 'there is NOTHING wrong with getting a dog... from a respectable and responsible breeder,' and one commenter says they've never seen shelters actually supply puppy mills despite following many rescues.

Breeding dogs for harmful extremes
12 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters zero in on specific, visible harm rather than abstract cruelty — French and English Bulldogs that can only give birth by C-section, cats now being bred with the same 'fold' and 'sphynx' deformities, and a filmed dog gasping for breath in the heat.

What commenters described: "I told her if they don't try to change the breed standard, so many dogs are going to die in severe pain."

Climate and ecological damage treated as business as usual
6 source records

What the pattern means: The comments here are short and scattered rather than cumulative — climate change, industrial civilization, single-use plastics, and landfills each get a one-line mention, tied together mainly by the observation that garbage trucks make waste disappear from view without making it disappear.

What commenters described: "Landfills. How people just casually send mountains of crap to another place, like it's gonna disappear... Every. Single. Day."

Hunting animals for sport
4 source records

What the pattern means: The sharper complaint here isn't hunting itself but catch-and-release fishing specifically, which one commenter calls 'way more psychopathic than killing them immediately' since the animal is hooked and released rather than killed with purpose.

What commenters described: "You want to spend your day yanking living creatures out of their world, ripping hooks out of their jaws, and throwing them back?"

Limit: A dissenting reply half-jokes that hunting would at least be respectable 'if they used a knife,' suggesting the real objection is the imbalance of the fight rather than killing itself.

Consuming animal products
3 source records

What the pattern means: All three supporting comments repeat the same short label, but one elaborates it into something more specific: outrage that people don't register milk production as something forcibly extracted from a cow that has just given birth.

What commenters described: "Cow rape is not it. Deeply disturbing how many people think cows just be out here making milk for the hell of it."

Catch-and-release fishing
2 source records

What the pattern means: The two comments frame catch-and-release from opposite angles: one calls it psychopathic to put a fish through repeated trauma for sport, the other calls it merely pointless since released fish often die anyway and a kayak trip offers the same scenery without the hook.

What commenters described: "Some of the released fish die anyway."

Harmful dog breeding and aversive collars
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two unrelated complaints get bundled into one entry: shock and prong collars as training tools, and brachycephalic breeds like pugs and bulldogs kept as pets specifically because their labored breathing reads as cute rather than as a health problem.

What commenters described: "People owning dogs with squished faces that can't breath because they think it's cute. Ive even met some vegans with these abominations."

Dogs
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both comments make the same philosophical move: dogs are cast as a species selectively bred into total obedience, admired precisely for a devotion the animal never had the option to withhold, from a farmer, a family, or 'a Nazi with equal relish.'

What commenters described: "We breed them into genetic monstrosities that can't breathe, with body shapes and qualities which actively make them suffer and struggle to survive."

Yes, the dog loves whoever gives it food
2 source records

What the pattern means: This is a two-comment disagreement rather than a shared claim: one side reduces dog affection to dependency on whoever provides food, the other argues dogs bond with anyone who gives attention and doesn't hurt them, the same way they get along with other dogs.

What commenters described: "The dog doesn't love them, it has no choice as its dependent on its human for food."

Limit: The second reply directly disputes this, noting dogs form bonds beyond their feeder and 'aren't humans but they aren't reptiles either.'

Eating dead animals
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both supporting comments are the identical three-word phrase repeated verbatim, offering no elaboration beyond flatly naming eating dead animals as the disturbing thing itself.

Pets treated as status accessories
1 source record

What the pattern means: The single supporting comment describes pets being acquired like accessories and then 'rehomed' once the novelty fades, treating the animal as disposable rather than as a lasting member of the household.

What commenters described: "Some people treat their pets like accessories or status symbols instead of a part of the family and just 'rehome' them when the shine wears off."

Production-animal breeding for extreme output
1 source record

What the pattern means: The lone supporting comment reaches past dogs to livestock bred for output rather than companionship — sheep overgrown with wool, chickens laying or growing past what their bodies can handle — framing the underlying horror as genetics itself repurposed for someone else's profit.

What commenters described: "There's a certain horror about imagining your own body down to your genetics not even being for you, but designed to maximize your exploitation by someone else."

I'm vegetarian, and the idea of asking an animal to get born,
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-identified vegetarian lays out the full life-cycle objection in one breath — bring an animal into existence, let it live 'a probably miserable life,' then kill it for a taste preference — and concedes with some irony that meat-eaters must have tougher cognitive dissonance than she does.

What commenters described: "If you're able to maintain your cognitive dissonance enough to enjoy eating meat, congratulations; you're much tougher than me!"

Filming a heat-stressed dog for content
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter reports seeing a specific TikTok creator film his own dog visibly gasping for breath in New York heat, treating the animal's distress as content rather than as a reason to get it somewhere cooler.

What commenters described: "There's a guy on tik tok at the moment I'm New York in the heat filming his dog gasping for breath for content! Absolute joke!"

Surgical debarking of dogs
1 source record

What the pattern means: Only a two-word aside survives here — 'Debarking too' — tacked onto a longer conversation about breed extremes, naming the surgical removal of a dog's ability to bark without any further detail in what remains.

Drinking animal milk
1 source record

What the pattern means: The comment strips dairy down to its plainest description — drinking 'breast milk from any animal' — and lets that literal framing do the work of making a routine grocery habit sound strange.

What commenters described: "If you actually think about it, drinking breast milk from any animal is so weird."

Bringing dogs inside grocery stores
1 source record

What the pattern means: The supporting text is a single flat sentence naming dogs inside grocery stores as the disturbing habit, with no reasoning or example attached to explain why it bothers this commenter.

Breeding dogs and cats
1 source record

What the pattern means: No elaboration survives beyond the bare label itself, 'breeding dogs and cats,' offered without an example or a reason the commenter found it disturbing.

Eating lots of animal parts
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is another unadorned label, 'eating lots of animal parts,' with the volume of consumption doing the implied disturbing work rather than any specific practice being named.

Dogs everywhere
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-described dog lover who is allergic to dogs complains about them following owners into every public space now — patios, farmers markets, museums — and having no way to eat in public without a stranger's dog nearby.

What commenters described: "I dont want someone's random dog running all over me while im trying to eat pancakes or slobbering on my clothes giving me hives."

Pets
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-identified animal lover admits discomfort with the entire practice of pet ownership as it actually works — buying and selling animals, confining them for hours, breeding them into 'painful mutations' — while still conceding there's no going back from it now.

What commenters described: "I love animals, but I like them left alone."

And the dog people would rather kill a rational human being than
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply escalates the loyalty argument into something darker, claiming some dog owners would sooner harm a person than their dog because of a devotion the animal never actually chose to give.

What commenters described: "And the dog people would rather kill a rational human being than their dog, because it loves them so much. As if it had a choice in the matter."

Dog breeders and buying from them
1 source record

What the pattern means: The supporting comment restates the label almost exactly, naming dog breeders and the act of buying from them as the disturbing practice without adding a specific example.

The Cat's Pajamas and “A Careful Man Dies”
1 source record

What the pattern means: A book recommendation is all this entry actually contains, not a disturbing-normal-thing claim — a reply pointing another commenter toward a short story collection and singling out 'A Careful Man Dies' as a personal favorite.

What commenters described: "'A Careful Man Dies' is probably one of my favorite short stories of all time."

An adoption-only pet-ownership position
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is the hardline side of the breeder-versus-shelter debate stated on its own: 95 percent of people don't need a specific breed, and in this commenter's view there's no such thing as an ethical breeder at all.

What commenters described: "If you don't get your pets from shelters or rescues, don't get pets."

Buying dogs, not training them, and treating them like babies
1 source record

What the pattern means: The one supporting comment bundles three separate complaints into a single label — buying dogs impulsively, skipping training, and treating them like human infants — without unpacking which part bothers the commenter most.

Buying purebred dogs
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is the bare phrase 'buying purebred dogs' with nothing further explaining what about purebred purchases specifically troubles the commenter.

Dog crating
1 source record

What the pattern means: Just two words make up this entry, 'dog crating,' with no detail on duration, context, or why it reads as disturbing here.

Dogs, everywhere
1 source record

What the pattern means: Unlike the longer allergy complaint elsewhere in this set, this entry is just the two-word phrase 'Dogs, everywhere,' with no example attached to say where or why that's a problem.

Drinking the breast milk of another animal when it’s not necessary for
1 source record

What the pattern means: This comment makes the same literal-framing move as the dairy entry elsewhere in this set, but adds a specific condition — that it's disturbing because it's done 'when it's not necessary for survival,' not because milk itself is the issue.

What commenters described: "Drinking the breast milk of another animal when it's not necessary for survival."

Eating and using animal products
1 source record

What the pattern means: The supporting comment is the flat phrase 'eating and using animal products,' covering both consumption and material use without singling out a specific product or practice.

People calling their pets their “sons” or “daughters”
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific speech habit rather than a practice — people referring to pets as their 'sons' or 'daughters' — and offers nothing beyond that observation.

What commenters described: "People calling their pets their 'sons' or 'daughters'."

Pets on furniture
1 source record

What the pattern means: One self-described longtime dog owner draws a hygiene line around pets on furniture, describing visits to other people's homes where discolored, stinky sofas and shed fur on stovetops contradict claims that things are kept clean.

What commenters described: "You go round their house the sofa is discoloured and stinky and coated in shed fur... and their bed makes your fucking face itch. Filthy."

Scatology
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry consists of a single word, 'scatology,' with no supporting context explaining what practice or observation the commenter had in mind.

Sharing a pet's final meal before euthanasia
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter recalls a public figure — likely Tim Tebow — posting a recorded, tearful final meal with his dying dog, and lands on unease less about the grief itself than about someone deciding, in that moment, to film and release it.

What commenters described: "I don't doubt that he was legitimately emotional. But holy shit, that is not something that needs to be shared with a wide world of strangers."

Where our meat and animal products come from…
1 source record

What the pattern means: The supporting comment trails off mid-thought — 'where our meat and animal products come from…' — gesturing at the supply chain behind meat without actually describing what happens in it.

\> It's not ok to kill any animals of course
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply concedes the abstract principle that killing animals isn't okay only to immediately question it, framing disagreement with that premise as common rather than fringe before thanking the other side for explaining their philosophy.

What commenters described: "Why is that even a question. Because plenty of people, myself included, disagree?"

Breeding dogs
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter separates functional breeding from hobbyist breeding, saying farm animals bred for working traits at least make practical sense, while ordinary pet owners chasing pedigree and specific features in their own dogs strikes them as needlessly obsessive.

What commenters described: "Imagine if the same was done within the human population... it just unnerves me but it's entirely normal!"

Breeding, torturing, and killing animals to eat
1 source record

What the pattern means: The label here escalates the language beyond most other entries in this set, naming the process as breeding, torturing, and killing in one phrase rather than describing a specific incident.

Consumption of microplastics
1 source record

What the pattern means: Microplastic exposure gets a bare two-word mention here, 'consumption of microplastics,' with no detail on where the commenter believes exposure comes from or what effect worries them.

Damn the way we all just casually walk past dead animals on
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes roadkill as something that 'still messes me up every time,' precisely because everyone else seems able to walk or drive past a dead animal on the roadside without reacting at all.

What commenters described: "The way we all just casually walk past dead animals on the side of the road like its nothing."

Dead animals on the side of the road
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is the same roadkill observation as elsewhere in this set stripped down to its bluntest form, 'dead animals on the side of the road,' without the emotional reaction attached.

Designer dog breeds
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter draws a direct equivalence between designer dog breeding and industrial farming, arguing that intentionally producing dogs with health-compromising traits for looks deserves the same public outrage that factory farming gets but rarely receives.

What commenters described: "Intentionally mutilating animals should carry the same outrage as industrial farming, which should get a lot more hate than it does."

Did you know that zoos are very important for animal preservation
1 source record

What the pattern means: This lone reply reads as a pointed rhetorical question rather than agreement, invoking the standard 'zoos preserve species' justification in a way that seems to challenge, not endorse, the animal-welfare complaints running through the rest of this set.

What commenters described: "Did you know that zoos are very important for animal preservation?"

Dogs only ever going on neighborhood walks
1 source record

What the pattern means: The complaint here is oddly specific and unexplained: dogs that only ever get walked around the same neighborhood blocks, with no elaboration on what's disturbing about that particular limit.

Eating ~~dead~~ animals Edit
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter originally wrote 'eating dead animals' and then edited the post after backlash to drop the word 'dead,' explaining that the distinction between a live and a dead animal doesn't change their disgust either way.

What commenters described: "No matter whether the animal is alive or dead, it's disgusting."

I love animals, but stare into their eyes, realizing they have a
1 source record

What the pattern means: A specific moment of eye contact is what triggers this one: staring into an animal's eyes and recognizing an independent mind making its own choices, concluding that animals are effectively already the alien intelligence some people go looking for elsewhere.

What commenters described: "They might as well be aliens, only aliens im interested in finding have to be able to communicate with us otherwise to me we already got them right here."

Is it any better to eat the live animals
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply is a single rhetorical question, asking whether eating live animals is any better than the alternative already being discussed, without answering it or adding further detail.

It's not ok to kill any animals of course
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is the set's most personal complication of the meat debate: a commenter with a chronic illness explains that meat is one of very few foods they can eat without needing medication, and admits openly to a 'double moral' they've stopped feeling guilty about since getting sick.

What commenters described: "I don't need to take my medication when I eat meat but I need to take it when I eat a vegan option."

Limit: They still argue the meat market should be 'reduced and restricted' overall, drawing a line between their personal exception and what they think policy should target — the sheer variety of meat products marketed to everyone else, not the sick.

Massive scale exploitation and killing of animals by the billions, although I
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter frames animal slaughter at industrial scale as disturbing precisely because it isn't hidden — they note almost in passing that it's 'not really a secret,' making public knowledge itself part of what unsettles them.

What commenters described: "Massive scale exploitation and killing of animals by the billions, although I guess it's not really a secret."

People killing animals and eating them and then telling they love their
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter targets the specific contradiction of eating one animal while professing love for another, calling out the gap between affection for a chicken, cat, or dog kept as a pet and indifference toward the same species killed for food.

What commenters described: "People killing animals and eating them and then telling they love their chicken/cat/dog!"

People making jokes about animals being killed for meat
1 source record

What the pattern means: Here the objection is narrower than blanket meat-eating: this commenter distinguishes accepting that people eat meat from finding humor in the killing itself, calling the latter 'pretty sadistic' even while conceding the underlying choice is legitimate.

What commenters described: "It seems pretty sadistic to find their deaths funny."

Pugs and any animal we have bred to suffer
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names pugs specifically as shorthand for a wider category, 'any animal we have bred to suffer,' without describing a particular incident beyond the breed reference itself.

Single-use plastic
1 source record

What the pattern means: The supporting comment for this one is the bare phrase 'single-use plastic,' offered without any detail on packaging, disposal, or specific harm.

Staged animal-rescue abuse for content
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter describes a specific content genre: creators who reportedly place an animal into distress themselves before filming its 'rescue,' turning manufactured cruelty into a feel-good video.

What commenters described: "Half of them put the animal in a state of distress then record themselves 'rescuing' the poor animal."

Walking behind an animal and picking up its poop
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter frames the routine act of picking up after a pet as a 'disgusting display of humiliation' severe enough that they'd rather not own a pet at all, while adding that the only worse option is an owner who skips the cleanup entirely.

What commenters described: "I would rather not have a pet compared to needing to engage in this disgusting display of humiliation."

“breeding” animals and selling the babies , and also neutering lol you
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter pairs two practices usually treated as opposites — breeding animals to sell their offspring, and neutering pets to prevent exactly that — and insists both count as cruel in their own way.

What commenters described: "'Breeding' animals and selling the babies, and also neutering lol you can't convince me neutering isn't cruel."

I am fighting the evil by eating the animals that eat other
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter offers a tongue-in-cheek justification for meat-eating, reasoning that since a predator kills many other animals across its life anyway, eating that predator first nets out to a 'greater good' rather than added harm.

What commenters described: "If I eat them first then the greater good in achieved."

So it's bad to kill X amount of animals but ok to
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply pushes back on selective outrage about meat products, questioning why concern lands on the sheer variety of cuts sold rather than on the underlying number of animals killed, and asking pointedly whether the real target should be chicken legs or the demand behind them.

Eating the bodies of animals
1 source record

What the pattern means: Something shifted for this commenter over time: eating meat now strikes them as close to a horror movie despite having grown up doing it without a second thought.

What commenters described: "It seems like a horror movie to me now even though I grew up doing it."

I agree
1 source record

What the pattern means: This label collapses to a single unelaborated agreement: the sole comment behind it calls caging any pet in a terrarium, tank, or cage inherently cruel, and says the whole pet trade feels wrong to the commenter outside of rescuing animals that can't be released.

What commenters described: "I think having any animal that needs to be enclosed in a cage/terrarium/aquarium, as a pet, is cruel. The whole pet trade is weird to me unless it's rescuing injured animals who can't be released or something."

Limit: It's a single reply agreeing with an unseen original comment, so there's no detail on which pets or care setups prompted the reaction; two other source records once grouped with this label turned out to be about an unrelated weight-loss drug and prison punishment and have been removed.

We are running out of fish, birds, and bugs
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names fish, birds, and insects together as a single ecological warning, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on scale or source.

I respect your care for animals, but I think you’ll find most
3 source records

What the pattern means: A short exchange concludes that most meat eaters feel no real cognitive dissonance because they simply don't think about where meat comes from, with the replies agreeing that indifference is arguably worse than active denial.

Bulldog birth difficulty and cosmetic alteration
1 source record

What the pattern means: A former veterinary technician recounts personally warning the French Bulldog club president that breeding dogs unable to whelp without a cesarean would keep killing puppies in pain unless the breed standard changed, then pivots to ear cropping and tail docking as the next unaddressed cruelty.

Animal testing for cosmetics
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single-line reply narrows an existing complaint specifically to cosmetic products, flagging animal testing there as its own distinct concern rather than folding it into a broader point.

People are unwilling to see how they may have contributed to something
1 source record

What the pattern means: A long anecdote describes a self-identified animal advocate who condemned dog-meat festivals and angora farming online while still eating steak and ribs and insisting slaughter is humane despite being told otherwise, which the commenter reads as willful denial rather than ignorance.

I used to think like that as well, but you'd be surprised
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter who used to be skeptical says cutting eggs and dairy turned out to be far easier than expected, and their only regret is not making the change sooner.

What commenters described: you'd be surprised how easy it is to cut out eggs and dairy

Not sure what you think people are killing or hunting but like
1 source record

What the pattern means: A reply downplays concern about hunting by noting that most animals killed for food only yield a handful of meals, treating the scale as modest rather than mass slaughter.

Something about chopping off a cat or dogs balls/sexually altering them so
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says neutering pets and confining them for companionship has always felt wrong to them precisely because the animal goes along with it without understanding, and asks readers to imagine the same procedure done to a human infant.

Eating meat and dairy and people not thinking twice about it
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter flags the sheer unreflective normalcy of eating meat and dairy daily as itself the disturbing part, rather than pointing to any specific practice within it.

\> Imagine if the same was done within the human population
1 source record

What the pattern means: A reply resists comparing selective dog breeding to doing 'the same' to humans, arguing dogs already come bred in a huge range of sizes and temperaments for different practical needs in a way people aren't.

As much as I appreciate your accuracy, I think I still prefer
1 source record

What the pattern means: A lighthearted reply concedes another commenter's accuracy but jokes they still prefer baby cows regardless, treating the exchange as banter rather than a genuine rebuttal.

I think the mass amount of killing is wrong
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter concedes that stopping animal killing entirely is unrealistic, but argues reducing the sheer volume of meat products on shelves would meaningfully cut consumption over time.

Consuming the body parts of corpses and the secretions of enslaved animals
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single commenter reframes ordinary eating in the starkest possible terms, describing meat and dairy consumption as consuming corpse parts and the secretions of enslaved animals -- a deliberately hostile label rather than an argument.

What commenters described: "Consuming the body parts of corpses and the secretions of enslaved animals."

Limit: The comment is the entire record -- one provocatively worded line with no example or elaboration behind it.

Giving attention (rewarding) to a dog that's barking
1 source record

What the pattern means: The single comment behind this label just names a dog-training pattern -- responding to a barking dog with attention, which reinforces the barking rather than discouraging it -- without describing the specific dog, setting, or outcome that prompted the observation.

What commenters described: "Giving attention (rewarding) to a dog that's barking"

Limit: No follow-up explains what situation or consequence prompted the observation, so it reads as a bare training note rather than a described incident.

God forbid that I ate meat, fully aware that an animal died
1 source record

What the pattern means: A reply defends an honest answer to a direct question about eating meat, acknowledging an animal died for it while still wishing fewer meat options existed so meat isn't treated like just another item on a menu.

What commenters described: "God forbid that I ate meat, fully aware that an animal died for it but still wish that the options gets reduced, so people don't look at meat as if it's a cake selection."

Limit: The comment frames itself as an answer to someone else's question ('Someone asked a question and I answered'), so the exchange that prompted it isn't visible here.

People eating meat while being aware of the horrors inflicted on those
1 source record

What the pattern means: States the cognitive dissonance plainly and without argument -- eating meat while knowing exactly what happens to the animals involved -- offered as a flat observation rather than a debate.

What commenters described: "People eating meat while being aware of the horrors inflicted on those animals."

Shelter and rescue disclosure and adoption barriers
6 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter accuses shelters and rescues of lying about a dog's breed, history, and bite record before adoption; a shelter volunteer answers that most dogs arrive as strays with genuinely unknown backgrounds, which isn't the same thing as lying about them. Neither side yields, and the thread ends with both accusing the other of misreading the original claim.

What commenters described: "Lying about the breed. Lying about the background. Lying about where they came from."

Limit: "Owner surrender is the only time we can possibly know the background" -- one reply insists the specific lies alleged ('This doesn't happen... This also doesn't happen') aren't things shelters actually do, while another says they've experienced exactly that firsthand.

Iguanas
1 source record

What the pattern means: Iguanas make an odd appearance in this dataset: the full comment is a passing remark that their visible ear structures 'give me the ick,' with nothing further developing the thought.

What commenters described: "Iguanas. Their ear things give me the ick."

Future judgment of animal treatment and resource waste
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter pairs two separate future regrets in one breath -- how casually animals raised for slaughter get treated, and how carelessly finite resources get burned or buried -- betting both will look monstrous in hindsight.

What commenters described: "I really hope for the future of humanity that people in a hundred years or whatever look back on how we treat animals that are destined to be eaten with abject horror."

Limit: The same comment folds in a second, separate complaint about wasting non-renewable resources, so the animal-treatment point isn't argued on its own.

Completely different entities, and, again zoos are very important for animal preservation
1 source record

What the pattern means: Whatever comparison prompted this reply, the defense offered is specific: zoos are distinguished as 'completely different entities' from whatever they're being likened to, valued instead for animal preservation work.

What commenters described: "Completely different entities, and, again zoos are very important for animal preservation"

Limit: The original claim zoos are being contrasted against isn't part of this record, so only one side of the comparison is visible.

Source-record spotlights

Most engaged source

Yeah….I’ve literally never seen that before and I follow a ton of rescues and shelters around me. I don’t think it’s as common as you think it is.

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Later-arriving source

Do you realize how flawed that argument is? The money you pay for a shelter animal stays within the shelter. Puppy mills get zero benefit from having their animals taken by the shelters.

source record 4541♥ 0
Zero-like source

Shelters are providing an outlet for puppy mills by connecting them with customers. And yes, shelters often do collect “stock” from puppy millers. And people pay shelters for dogs.

source record 4540♥ 0

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What the counts show

The core disagreement here isn't whether animal suffering is real -- commenters treat factory farming, extreme dog breeding, and dairy production as settled cruelty -- it's about consistency: loving a dog while eating a cow, buying from a breeder while shelters kill for space, or carving out a personal exception (a medical need, a farming tradition) to an otherwise-condemned practice. Round 3's review moved out roughly twenty entries that had nothing to do with animals or the environment at all -- six variants of constant location sharing, a facial-recognition misidentification arrest, Black Mirror episodes, and others that had been filed here by keyword rather than topic. This round's review fixed the same keyword-drift problem from the other direction, recovering 11 entries that had been sitting in Appearance, diet, and body expectations purely because they mentioned a 'cosmetic' or 'altering' keyword -- animal testing for cosmetics, bulldog breeding for a cosmetic body shape, spay/neuter ethics -- along with several reply fragments from this same meat-eating consistency debate ('I respect your care for animals, but...', 'I think the mass amount of killing is wrong') that reinforce the pattern above rather than dilute it. A large share of the remaining entries are still barely more than a one-line label with no example behind them (a declining fish, bird, and insect populations entry among them). Between round 3's cleanup and this round's recovery, the category boundary is now considerably cleaner on both ends than the pure keyword-matching problem it started with.

83index entries
207distinct source records
70.4%of parent category
5%of the complete index
125top-level comments
82replies

How attention is distributed across the 83 index entries

70single-source entries (84.3% of 83)
217source-record references across the index
53%of references in the top three entries
Factory farming88 source records
Breeding pets while shelters are full15 source records
Breeding dogs for harmful extremes12 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

1explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
26asks a question
0says they intend to try it
180other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 83 index entries preserve 207 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Consumerism, advertising, and waste33 index entries · 87 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Consumerism, advertising, and waste

Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below.

Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
28 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters described advertising as inescapable across every format they touch: mobile games with predatory monetization, TikTok's ad-every-few-scrolls cadence, and streaming services that charge extra just to remove commercials. Several connected this directly to gambling-style mechanics — lottery tickets, loot boxes, and blind-box toys — training children on chance-based reward before they're legally allowed to gamble.

What commenters described: every other scroll there's that stupid orange cart sign at the bottom

Limit: One European commenter noted this isn't universal: Germany's YouTube culture requires creators to mark sponsored content with a specific watermark and publicly shames those who dodge it, unlike the U.S., where such disclosure is rare.

Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants
14 source records

What the pattern means: Multiple commenters ran the actual math and found local restaurants have caught up to fast-food pricing without matching the quality drop, so a slightly higher tab now buys a categorically better burger, sub, or scoop of ice cream. A counter-thread pushed back that convenience, not price, is still what pulls people through a drive-thru when they're short on time.

What commenters described: I can spend $30 for hot garbage at McDonald's OR I can walk down to the local burger shop on the corner and spend $35 for the best burger I have ever had in my life

Limit: One commenter countered that with an hour of driving between them and home, spending $12 at a drive-thru still beats gambling on an unfamiliar mom-and-pop restaurant when time is tight.

US fast-food price and value decline
8 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters traded specific receipts — a roughly $55 tab for two adults and two kids at Carl's Jr., a $17 Subway footlong that used to run half that — to argue fast food's core promise of cheap and quick has quietly evaporated, with everyday menu prices now often gated behind app-only discounts. Costco's food court kept coming up as the one holdout that never moved.

What commenters described: it used to be $8-$10 for Subway... I went there for the first time in ages and it was $17 after taxes for a footlong, drink, and chips

Limit: One reply cut against the outrage, arguing convenience and 'dopamine addiction' will always beat price rationality regardless of what fast food costs.

Subscriptions replacing ownership across products
4 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters traced subscription creep well past media, into vehicle features you don't fully own and, more speculatively, into AI-driven pressure to rent computing power instead of buying hardware outright. The refrain tying them together is that owning nothing was marketed as convenience but functions as guaranteed recurring revenue.

What commenters described: there are too many paid subscriptions and we own nothing

Expensive third-party food delivery as a default
4 source records

What the pattern means: A parent described their preteen defaulting to 'can we just DoorDash something' during a minor kitchen crisis rather than accepting a sandwich, while others separately admitted bewilderment that people pay $25 for a burrito without a hint of shame.

What commenters described: Paying $25 for a burrito is one thing, I guess, but complaining about it without an ounce of shame is just crazy to me.

Limit: A reply reframed the kid's request as nothing new, just an old-fashioned plea for fast food wearing a delivery-app label.

Air-conditioning energy waste with open windows
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter walked through the actual thermodynamics: an open window keeps pulling in warm, humid air that forces the compressor to work harder while the cooled air just escapes, turning the AC into a machine that heats the planet to chill one room. A second pointed to London buses running this exact losing cycle every summer.

What commenters described: It's a lose-lose cycle... You're wasting energy, literally and figuratively, and making the planet warmer by trying to cool down for a second because the planet is warm.

Fast-food portion and calorie density
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter did the math on a $10 McDonald's meal clocking in around 1500 calories, more than double what they think a single meal should be. Another took the opposite view, saying even as a small person these meals don't fill them up at all.

What commenters described: For $10 you can get a meal from McDonald's thats 1500 calories.

Limit: The two accounts directly conflict — one calls the portions oversized, the other calls them insufficient — suggesting perceived portion size varies more by the person than by the menu.

I don’t understand the fascination with taking photos of your food whether
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter said they can't understand photographing food, especially doing it after already eating part of it. A reply clarified their own habit is different: snapping the dish before serving, while it's still in the cooking pan, out of pride in having made it.

What commenters described: I only do it before serving, usually when it's still on the cooking dish

Limit: That reply undercuts the original complaint somewhat, since the annoyance was really about photographing already-eaten food, not documenting a finished dish.

Packed lunchmeat and string cheese instead of fast food
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two short replies land on the same practical fix from different angles: buy deli meat and string cheese because, whatever else you say about it, it's still actual food, or more simply, just bring a lunch instead of buying one.

What commenters described: those are made of actual food at least

Consumer protection against take-it-or-leave-it terms
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single commenter pushed back on the idea that take-it-or-leave-it contracts are simply unavoidable, arguing that strong government regulation changes the equation entirely by pointing to the EU and Australia forcing companies to operate under fairer terms than they typically do in the unregulated US market.

What commenters described: Tons of businesses are forced to operate very differently in the EU/Australia/other places than they do in the USA because those places have said 'nope, you can't do that shit here.'

Fast-food craving described as addiction-like
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-described recovering alcoholic and addict compared a $15 fast-food burger's pull to a literal drug hit, noting that years after quitting, just thinking about McDonald's fries on a walk still makes their mouth water.

What commenters described: That shitty $15 burger releases dopamine to some people like a bump in the bathroom.

Most people are not hunting their own food anymore
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief aside noted how completely food sourcing has been outsourced: most people today simply eat meat rather than ever having hunted or raised it themselves.

What commenters described: Most people are not hunting their own food anymore. They just eat it.

Nintendo versus Sony consumer practices
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter contrasted how Nintendo handled this year's console price hike — a delayed $50 increase paired with an apology and continued physical game sales — against Sony's immediate hike and its move away from physical discs entirely.

What commenters described: Nintendo did a $50 increase, that isn't effective until September, and apologized for doing it.

Limit: The same commenter added that Nintendo doesn't get a full pass either, calling its game-key-card format, physical cards that don't actually hold the game data, 'not great.'

Grocery pickup as an alternative to video shopping calls
1 source record

What the pattern means: Responding to a suggestion that shoppers need video-call assistance, one commenter countered that free grocery pickup already exists almost everywhere, requiring only a modest minimum order somewhere between $25 and $40.

What commenters described: pretty much every grocery store has free pickup for as little as $25 and as much as $40 these days

Fast food that is not actually fast
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter pointed out the irony that fast food routinely isn't fast anymore: pulling up to the window at their local McDonald's now gets them redirected to a parking spot to wait, and pre-ordering through the app makes it worse by design.

What commenters described: they ask me to park in one of the designated waiting spots until my order is ready

Food-service gloves mistaken for automatic hygiene
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short but pointed remark flagged the common assumption that wearing gloves to handle food automatically equals safe handling, treating the glove itself as a stand-in for actual hygiene practice.

What commenters described: People seem to think using gloves to handle food automatically makes it safer

People treat matter and waste
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief remark called out the 'out of sight, out of mind' mentality toward waste, the assumption that once trash disappears from view it's actually gone rather than simply relocated somewhere else.

What commenters described: Just because you can't see something anymore doesn't mean it's gone.

People's casual acceptance of trash quality products
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter was baffled by how casually people accept low-grade plastic versions of everyday items — clothing, dishware, furniture, even flooring — describing their own deliberate, ongoing effort to avoid plastic that most people never seem to make.

What commenters described: Plastic is everywhere and I make such an active effort to avoid it and I don't understand why others don't.

Shopping
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter zeroed in on aimless big-box browsing, buying cheap decor, toys, or gadgets nobody actually needed, arguing that because everything is now so disposable, that impulse shopping is really just landfill-bound waste dressed up as a pastime.

What commenters described: Shopping wastes everyone's time and money AND the earth's resources, just for a little diversion.

Spending money you don't have People's willingness to eat processed foods and
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter bundled two separate frustrations together: living beyond one's means, and eating heavily processed food while acting surprised by the resulting health problems, framing both as failures of basic self-education that are entirely avoidable.

What commenters described: It isn't hard to educate yourself on healthy eating.

Sponsorships undermining anti-consumerist content
1 source record

What the pattern means: A YouTube-native viewer described the whiplash of watching a video build a sharp anti-consumerism argument only to cut straight into a two-minute ad for a mattress or dinner-subscription box, calling out the mismatch while still granting that creators need sponsorships to pay the bills.

What commenters described: watching a video going into a very anti-consumerism topic or critiquing an influencer or viral trend only for them to go into a 2-minute sponsorship ad for sex toys or a mattress or a dinner subscription box

Limit: The same commenter said channels that skip sponsorships entirely, or pick ones that actually fit their content, are the ones they keep coming back to.

The amount of ultra-processed food we eat every day without questioning it
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line comment cut straight to the point: daily ultra-processed eating has become so routine that it no longer prompts any real scrutiny.

What commenters described: The amount of ultra-processed food we eat every day without questioning it.

A smart fridge nagging about expiring food
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter compared their smart fridge's expiration alerts to being nagged by a disappointed mother, capturing how a mundane kitchen appliance has started delivering guilt-trip notifications about yogurt going bad.

What commenters described: The way my fridge now nags me about expiring yogurt like it's my disappointed mother.

Bioengineered (BE) food and ingredients
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is just the bare phrase a commenter dropped with no further explanation, a flag on bioengineered ingredients and food labeling that reads more like a placeholder concern than a developed argument.

What commenters described: Bioengineered (BE) food and ingredients

Limit: Unlike most entries in this category, the record contains no elaboration on why BE labeling specifically concerns this commenter.

Depends on the person honestly I have accepted food from strangers in
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter explained they've stopped giving cash to people on the street, not out of judgment but because they've lost people close to them to fentanyl-laced drugs and don't want money to indirectly enable that risk, offering hand warmers, socks, first aid supplies, and naloxone instead.

What commenters described: I also give out hand warms, blankets, coats, soap, lotion, narcan, first aid, socks, etc. before I give cash

Limit: They were careful to frame this as a personal judgment call, not an assumption that recipients would misuse cash.

Owning a copy versus owning reproduction rights
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pushing back on nostalgia for owning physical media outright, one commenter argued the underlying logic falls apart: if buying a CD meant you could freely copy and resell it, there would be no incentive left for anyone to actually make the music.

What commenters described: If you truly did own the music and CD's and all that, it means you can distribute them freely and make a profit on them.

I have a food problem and one of the only ways to
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter framed eating meat as an inescapable horror they can't opt out of, dead tissue willingly put in your own mouth to survive, landing on a darkly deadpan resignation that living means accepting the alternative anyway.

What commenters described: It's dead things. Stuff that was living and now dead. You open your mouth and put it inside you? You understand how fucked that is yeah?

Absolutely everything is monetised now
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter contrasts today's resale market, where everything is scalped at retail price or scam pricing, with the cheap donated goods available at secondhand shops just twenty years ago, extending the complaint to bots inflating prices on virtual cars in a racing game.

Disposable "everything" when they don't biodegrade
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter lists specific everyday disposables that don't biodegrade — toothbrushes, synthetic clothing fibers, cartridge razors, most shoes, vape cartridges — as the concrete example behind the complaint.

Every single thing can be (and often is) a commodity
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter runs through what's now routinely sold — sex tapes, feet pictures, worn underwear, the 'girlfriend experience' — arguing the disturbing part isn't any one of them but that selling yourself now reads as easier than an honest job.

EVERYTHING has to be obnoxiously strongly fragranced
1 source record

What the pattern means: An asthmatic commenter describes being physically incapacitated by ambient fragrance in detergent, cologne, and scent beads even in stores and on borrowed public chairs, down to worrying whether a wedding outfit bought at Kohl's would trigger a sneezing fit on the actual day.

Every Time I go to a supermarket I think it's totally insane
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter walks through the actual scale behind a routine supermarket trip — food shipped from across the world, packaging waste, unsold spoilage, fuel burned — arguing the sheer normalcy of it is what feels insane, not any single ingredient.

The quality of everything dropping I feel there’s too much variety surely
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues that flooding shelves with variety has come at the cost of quality, preferring a few well-made products per brand over a dozen mediocre ones.

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I mean, yes, but... That would be a completely different situation

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Yeah, yeah, I know, but it would be quite disturbing if you were the livestock instead of the other way around, wouldn't it? Again, not preaching, but entertaining the thought makes me feel uneasy.

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\> Now, imagine a human arm on the plate But it's not? Cannibalism is illegal, and farm animals are not humans

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What the counts show

The strongest pattern is literal price math — Carl's Jr., Subway, Costco, and the corner burger shop all get dollar-for-dollar comparisons arguing fast food no longer buys either speed or value — running alongside a parallel complaint that everyday products have become disposable, over-fragranced, or fully commodified, from toothbrushes that never biodegrade to sex tapes and a 'girlfriend experience' marketed the same way soap is. Just as often a reply complicates the original gripe rather than piling onto it: Nintendo gets praised and criticized in the same comment, a kid's DoorDash request gets reframed as an old fast-food craving in new packaging, and one person's 'portions are too big' is flatly contradicted by another's 'this doesn't fill me up.'

33index entries
87distinct source records
29.6%of parent category
2.1%of the complete index
36top-level comments
51replies

How attention is distributed across the 33 index entries

24single-source entries (72.7% of 33)
90source-record references across the index
55.6%of references in the top three entries
Advertising embedded throughout everyday media28 source records
Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants14 source records
US fast-food price and value decline8 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

1explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
19asks a question
0says they intend to try it
67other source context

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Archive: 33 index entries preserve 87 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Everyday conduct and social harm886 records · 3 sub-topics
Public behavior, boundaries, and normalized cruelty590 index entries · 916 source records
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Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Public behavior, boundaries, and normalized cruelty

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Car-centric infrastructure and road death
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single reply reframes the daily commute itself as the disturbing thing, pointing out that dying on the way to work would have sounded absurd before cars existed and is now one of the likeliest ways to die unexpectedly.

What commenters described: Prior to the invention of the personal automobile the idea that you might just DIE on the way to work was unfathomable, and now it's literally the most common cause of unexpected death.

Victim blaming after cyclist deaths
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply describes a specific recurring pattern on Reddit: whenever a cyclist is killed, even by deliberate vehicular violence, bike-infrastructure advocates end up fielding blame aimed at the victim rather than the driver.

What commenters described: This is the shit bike infrastructure advocates have to deal with whenever a cyclist dies even if some psychopath mowed them down on purpose.

Limit: The commenter locates this specifically on Reddit, calling it 'notorious for cyclist hatred,' rather than describing a universal reaction.

The amount of deaths from direct actions that car drivers make
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter refuses to let the word 'accident' cover most car-driver killings, arguing that labeling reckless driving as accidental mainly protects the people behind the wheel from prison.

What commenters described: Many of these are not accidents - they just aren't. Willfully separating the end result from very aggressive and stupid driving serves none of us well except those who would be going to prison.

Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators
16 source records

What the pattern means: The supporting thread mixes domestic-violence and sexual-assault survivors describing being disbelieved or blamed — in family court, by friends, by a judge who scolded a victim for looking distressed — with political double-standard complaints, like calling someone racist being treated as worse than the racism itself, or a purity test applied to some politicians but not others, all under a shared complaint that society expects victims, not perpetrators, to stay composed and above reproach.

Limit: One reply pushes back that this isn't a new phenomenon, framing it instead as part of an already 'actively combated' culture of listening to victims rather than a fresh injustice.

Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
7 source records

What the pattern means: Nothing in this thread touches animals or the environment; it's a complaint about small talk and conflict avoidance, with commenters bundling ghosting, interrupting, and superficial daily chit-chat together as evidence that people have stopped saying anything to each other's faces.

What commenters described: "People nowadays seem to always talk in riddles, assume stuff, avoid blunt and direct conversations like the plague and ghost eachother."

Reagan's radio improvisation as a lossy-communication example
1 source record

What the pattern means: History trivia carries this entry far from animals or climate — it's an anecdote about lossy communication, describing how Ronald Reagan once improvised twelve minutes of fake play-by-play baseball commentary when his telegraph feed of a real game went dead.

What commenters described: "Rather than lose his audience, Reagan improvised a streak of foul balls that lasted nearly twelve minutes until the wire came back."

Being an super dedicated fan of celebrities or artists
1 source record

What the pattern means: Parasocial fandom is the actual subject, unrelated to animals or environment — a bare label about being a super-dedicated fan of celebrities or artists, offered without any elaboration on what specifically disturbs the commenter about it.

In many countries, people don’t wash themselves after they defecate
1 source record

What the pattern means: Bathroom hygiene, not animals or environment, is the actual complaint here, arguing that relying on toilet paper alone leaves people 'contaminated with feces' in a way society has simply agreed to overlook, and that bidets should be standard instead.

What commenters described: "Bidets should be the norm."

People are just out there all calling their dogs Max and Millie
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a small observation about naming conventions rather than treatment: the commenter is struck less by how dogs are treated than by how many owners land on the exact same handful of names for them.

What commenters described: "It's so weird that so many people pick the same pet names."

Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
41 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe the pressure escalating well past ordinary annoyance: a bereaved coworker who felt compelled to apologize for a 48-hour reply, a date who called it creepy that a phone wasn't glued to him, and someone who says a person threatened to end their life over a slow text back.

Limit: A counter-thread argues the caller might just be in a bank, or dealing with a crying baby, so a missed callback isn't automatically a snub.

Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
19 source records

What the pattern means: The gap commenters keep hitting is specific: every touchpoint before the door goes hands-free, then the exit undoes it, so people describe improvising with elbows, shirts, and paper towels, or a foot-pedal hop that risks a face plant, just to avoid the handle.

What commenters described: My office installed handsfree door openers for the restrooms... you can get through the entire activity without touching any surfaces.

Limit: One office's foot-pedal fix stopped working after keypad locks went in to deter drug use, and colorblind users separately can't reliably tell an occupied stall from an empty one.

Video calls in shared public spaces
17 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters mostly object to the habit itself in gym locker rooms and waiting rooms, but they carve out one recurring exception: a partner calling briefly from a store aisle to confirm which product to buy, which several people distinguish from filming strangers or leaving a call on speaker.

What commenters described: He would video call me when at the area to ensure he was getting the right stuff... it was a lifesaver honestly.

Limit: Even the sanctioned use case has a limit in this thread: a nurse recounts a patient FaceTiming during her own exam, which made staff uncomfortable despite the medical setting.

Adults not reading books
13 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters trace the drop-off to school itself rather than declining ability, blaming mandatory book reports and page-logging for turning a childhood hobby into homework, with two people separately naming the summer they stopped reading for pleasure once it became graded.

What commenters described: Reading, especially reading fiction, builds cognitive skills, patience, empathy, a stronger vocabulary, and more.

Limit: One reader with aphantasia pushes back that an inability to visualize scenes, not laziness, is why books stay boring for some people.

Loss of third places
13 source records

What the pattern means: A real disagreement runs through this thread: some insist parks, libraries, and friends' houses are still free and available and that people have simply stopped using them, while others counter that loitering there now gets kids kicked out or the police called.

Limit: One commenter notes the whole third-place framing traces back to Starbucks marketing from Howard Schultz, which complicates nostalgia for a golden age that may not have existed as described.

Language hostility as a prejudice signal
13 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters frame irritation at overhearing another language less as a linguistics complaint and more as a diagnostic, with one linking it directly to a known researcher's test for prejudice and several others walking a coworker through why the discomfort says more about him than the conversation he can't follow.

Limit: At least two commenters admit volume, not language, is what actually bothers them, arguing a loud conversation in English would draw the same complaint.

Expectation of constant reachability
12 source records

What the pattern means: The advice in this thread is unusually consistent and blunt: multiple commenters tell the original poster nobody assumes 24/7 availability unless the person being pressured trained others to expect it, by apologizing for delays or answering within seconds every time.

What commenters described: 95% of my communication with friends and family is via text, because it can wait, and we are all fine with it.

Celebrity obsession
12 source records

What the pattern means: The example that sticks with commenters here is less about fandom size than about a reflex: a kid who runs onto a football pitch to meet Ronaldo and, on arrival, turns straight to a selfie instead of speaking to him.

Limit: One reply pushes back that the critique is dated, since celebrities now broadcast themselves to audiences who opted in, rather than being covered involuntarily by tabloids.

Forced arbitration as an access condition
11 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters treat Steam's arbitration clause as the case study for a wider complaint that agree-or-lose-everything-you-paid-for isn't real consent, and one notes the clause only got dropped after a law firm called Valve's bluff by filing thousands of individual arbitration claims.

Limit: A reply concedes the legal option to fight such clauses in court does exist, it is just slow and costly enough that almost nobody uses it.

Turning every experience into shareable content
10 source records

What the pattern means: The sharpest example here isn't a stranger filming fireworks but a coworker who filmed a grieving commenter's private moment with a celebrity family friend at his own mother's wake, something the commenter says he still can't get past despite being unable to object at the time.

Limit: One reply defends location-sharing specifically, saying it makes logistics easier among people she trusts, separating that habit from the broader content-performance complaint.

Email-summary features and missed information
9 source records

What the pattern means: The complaints cluster around AI summaries appearing uninvited in contexts where precision matters: a CAD engineer who needs exact file detail, someone whose obituary submission came back reduced to a flat one-line summary, and a reader whose scientific paper was overlaid by a summary tool that could not be dismissed.

Non-prescribed testosterone risk
9 source records

What the pattern means: A retired pharmacist's explanation anchors this thread: taking testosterone without medical need can shut down the body's own production permanently, which several commenters connect to why a reversible male pill has been so hard to develop.

Limit: One commenter who cycled off it with a fertility drug says his levels came back, but only to a decent rather than great baseline six years later.

Eating meat
9 source records

What the pattern means: Nine separate commenters answered with the same two words, eating meat, and the rare comment that elaborates ties the discomfort to three overlapping reasons at once: health, environment, and animal welfare in a single breath.

An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
9 source records

What the pattern means: The debate here turns on motive: some commenters read this scenario as self-defeating even for the wealthy, since an undereducated, unstable population becomes unmanageable, while others counter that the people pushing this future simply expect to retreat to separate, guarded enclaves rather than live in what they helped create.

Limit: A reply points out that societies have collapsed and rebuilt before even when most people couldn't read or write, arguing the human capacity to reorganize doesn't disappear just because a population is deliberately kept uninformed.

Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates
8 source records

What the pattern means: This thread turns into a genuine economics argument: one commenter praises flat, year-round utility pricing as proof regulation works, while a long rebuttal argues France's flat rates are actually financed by heavy taxpayer subsidy and a state utility's mounting debt rather than by cheaper production.

What commenters described: You can have a world where the power companies are regulated for the good of the people... everyone needs power.

Limit: The rebuttal cites the state utility's multibillion-euro losses and subsidized government loans to argue that flat prices just move the cost from a bill to a tax bill.

Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
8 source records

What the pattern means: Most comments here are short and universal, lying, gossiping, starting rumors at work for no clear reason, but the one detailed reply gives a concrete version of the harm: adopters who lie to a rescue about a pet's bite history or medical needs just to get approved.

Limit: The same commenter notes shelters overwhelmed with animals sometimes genuinely don't know a dog's full history either, so not every gap in disclosure is a deliberate lie.

Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT
7 source records

What the pattern means: The stories here are concrete rather than generational griping: one commenter's 80-year-old mother showed up to a movie an hour late because ChatGPT named the wrong theater, and another describes a parent who insists the bot is more correct than the very source it claims to cite.

What commenters described: I use it regularly to find sources... good at locating reference material where the answers exist, especially when the terms are common but the context is specific.

Not reading books or news
7 source records

What the pattern means: The pushback here complicates the original complaint: one commenter has read five newspapers a day for over twenty years and still gets accused of getting news only from cable television, suggesting the real disagreement is over which outlets count as reading at all.

Limit: That same commenter concedes plenty of US news genuinely is low quality, so distrust of the news isn't purely about readers' habits.

Zip-line safety incidents
7 source records

What the pattern means: The concrete incident in this thread is a howler monkey jumping onto a zip line and lunging at a twelve-year-old rider, forcing the guide to physically restrain the child and pull them back along the line until the monkey lost interest.

Voicemail ignored because of robocalls and spam
6 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe having functionally opted out of voicemail altogether, screening it the way they'd screen spam: if it's someone they know they expect a follow-up text, and if it's an emergency they expect a repeated call, not a message left to be checked later.

What commenters described: Automatic voicemail transcription is an awesome feature... I can decide whether to listen, call back, or just delete.

Restaurant prices pushing home cooking
6 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe fast food's pull in almost addictive terms, with one recovering alcoholic and addict comparing a fifteen-dollar burger's dopamine hit to a relapse trigger, even while conceding that price alone finally pushed them back into cooking at home.

What commenters described: Once you get used to home cooking and eating real food, the thought of fast food is nauseating.

Limit: A commenter in Europe adds that sit-down restaurant prices there have climbed so high that cooking the same meal at home for a week now costs about the same as one restaurant visit.

Extreme sports fandom
5 source records

What the pattern means: The complaint here is narrower than sports themselves; commenters distinguish enjoying a game from the culture around it, saying they understand cheering at a bar or a concert but not physical fights breaking out over a match's outcome.

Embalming and burial of bodies
5 source records

What the pattern means: When asked what the alternative should be, the thread answers itself plainly: bury the body without embalming chemicals and let it return to the earth, which replies confirm is already a normal, available option rather than a hypothetical.

Ripping owned CDs for portable personal use
5 source records

What the pattern means: The commenter here treats ripping owned CDs as an obvious extension of ownership, moving tracks onto a phone and a small flash drive for the car, with replies mostly quibbling over whether iTunes ever supported that workflow rather than whether it was acceptable to do.

What commenters described: I own my shit.

Buying physical copies after digital reading
4 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter's version of this habit sits at the collector end: buying a high-end leather-bound edition of a book that means something to them while keeping a cheap paperback or digital copy for the actual reading, distinguishing that from simply paying twice for an identical copy.

Limit: Another reply frames the twice-purchased default itself as the thing worth resisting, hoping the original poster only ever buys one copy per book they read.

Young people supporting rigid censorship and control
4 source records

What the pattern means: A specific example anchors the complaint: creators self-censoring words like unalive to dodge platform demonetization, with commenters saying anyone who questions the practice gets met by a crowd insisting it's simply necessary for the algorithm rather than worth objecting to.

Lobbyist influence
4 source records

What the pattern means: The thread is short but pointed, with one reply calling lobbying legalized bribery that barely registers as a top complaint about government despite functioning, in their view, as one of its worst features.

Technology literacy not determined by generation
4 source records

What the pattern means: The detailed anecdote here undercuts the generational stereotype directly: an IT worker describes walking an older employee through a routine software change by treating her panic as reasonable rather than mocking it, and having her handle the same task independently the next time as a result.

What commenters described: I simply treated them as a human being who doesn't know everything, and that if we make a small mistake it's not that big of a deal.

Adult romantasy content shelved for teens
4 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe actively hiding their genre from friends and book clubs, with several saying they call it DnD novels or adventure instead of fantasy specifically because the word now reads as shorthand for romantasy and smut in casual conversation.

Social-validation bandwagon consumption
4 source records

What the pattern means: One line in this thread compresses the whole complaint into a single sentence: making consumption choices so as to be more readily consumed, describing purchases and destinations chosen for how they photograph rather than for their own sake.

A Swedish defamation truth-not-complete-defense claim
4 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters express real surprise at a specific legal detail: under the law described here, a defendant could be ordered to pay three times more than her original abuser's penalty for making a true statement, since truth alone isn't a complete defense against defamation there.

Limit: One reply contrasts this with US law, noting that at least there you can't be sued for defamation over something that's actually true.

Brief video calls as accessibility support
4 source records

What the pattern means: The same hospital-recovery story recurs here as the model case commenters accept: a brief call to confirm a product choice while genuinely incapacitated, switched off again immediately afterward, which readers repeatedly distinguish from filming other shoppers or leaving speakerphone running.

What commenters described: He would video call me when at the area to ensure he was getting the right stuff... it was a lifesaver honestly.

Color-only design excluding colorblind users
4 source records

What the pattern means: The complaints here are architectural rather than abstract: a red-green colorblind man has to physically push every restroom stall door to find out if it's occupied because the indicator relies on color alone, and a supermarket chain's till-open signal is equally unreadable to him despite repeated written complaints.

We happily give up the vast majority of our precious time on
4 source records

What the pattern means: The original complaint about trading a lifetime's best years for corporate work draws a concrete counter-proposal rather than agreement or dismissal: commenters point to European-style labor norms, firmer hour limits, more vacation, a stronger safety net, as the actual alternative being asked for.

Am I supposed to eat them while they're alive
4 source records

What the pattern means: A short exchange here turns into a genuine miscommunication: one commenter's sarcastic question about eating live animals gets read as a literal argument, and the follow-up has to clarify the original point was about eating dead ones, not defending either practice.

Calling out prejudice treated as worse than prejudice
3 source records

What the pattern means: The example given is specific rather than abstract: commenters describe some conservatives in America treating the label racist as a graver insult than an actual slur, reading the reaction as discomfort with being named rather than with the underlying behavior the label describes.

Purity standards and partisan disinformation
3 source records

What the pattern means: This thread is a live political argument rather than a settled observation, with commenters accusing each other's side of demanding ideological purity from allies while excusing comparable behavior from favored politicians, down to competing claims about specific election losses and foreign policy positions.

Performative self-censorship on YouTube
3 source records

What the pattern means: A self-described fourteen-year YouTube creator dismisses most on-screen censorship as theater rather than necessity, singling out creators who bleep the word crack even when it refers to a literal crack in an object, arguing the performance itself is what generates engagement.

Limit: The same commenter concedes some categories, like history-channel content, do get genuinely demonetized rather than just performed for effect.

Automatic voicemail transcription
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters treat transcription as the fix to the voicemail problem rather than avoidance, since reading a transcript lets them triage before deciding whether a callback is worth it, with one adding that iPhones even let you pick up mid-message if the caller is still talking.

What commenters described: Automatic voicemail transcription is an awesome feature, best thing to happen to voicemail ever.

Emergency call rotation and scam-alert fatigue
3 source records

What the pattern means: The fix proposed here is procedural rather than emotional: a commenter argues anyone doing on-call rotation without dedicated routing software is setting themselves up for exactly this burnout, since tools like that can pierce do-not-disturb only for verified numbers.

What commenters described: Calls all go via pagerduty which can bypass my DND and other settings so I know those calls come through. The rest do not.

Limit: Even with a separate work phone, one reply admits personal call screening still gets flooded with overflow work contacts.

Ambiguous public-restroom occupancy locks
3 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter admits they've simply given up trying to read occupancy locks correctly, while another describes the workaround in American stalls, gaps under the door and visible feet, as trading the confusion for a total loss of privacy instead.

Responsible-breeder counterpoint to adoption-only claims
3 source records

What the pattern means: A former animal-control officer makes a specific case: with far more shelter animals than available homes, choosing a reputable breeder over adoption doesn't cost a shelter animal its life, since breeders keep breeding regardless, comparing the logic to thinking recycled paper somehow un-cuts a tree.

Limit: A reply pushes back that most people buying a working-breed dog don't actually have the kind of job that breed needs, narrowing how often the counterpoint really applies.

WALL-E as technology prophecy
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters treat WALL-E less as satire than as an accurate prediction already unfolding, with one only half-joking that the movie itself might eventually get banned for hitting too close to home.

I know, right
3 source records

What the pattern means: The exchange drifts into a language dispute rather than staying on its original topic, with a Spanish-language reply criticizing US immigration policy answered in kind, and the original commenter noting, without translating it, that the reply just proved their point in its own words.

Texting and driving
3 source records

What the pattern means: Multiple commenters name texting and driving directly, with one going further to compare distracted drivers steering three-ton SUVs to a fleet of functionally drunk drivers already on the road.

Full-volume public media overwhelming autistic and ADHD people
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters with autism and ADHD describe a specific before-and-after: transit and restaurants used to be manageable, but constant unheadphoned video and toddler tablet audio now forces them into earbuds just to cope, which one says leaves them feeling complicit in the very noise they're blocking out.

Could you please cite a peer reviewed source showing that it is
3 source records

What the pattern means: This exchange is a direct challenge rather than a shared observation, with one commenter demanding evidence for the claim that abortion functions as birth control, and the reply narrowing what they actually meant while a third commenter says flatly that no one does that.

On-call routing that bypasses do-not-disturb
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters treat this less as an unavoidable burden than a fixable process gap, since routing software can pierce do-not-disturb for verified numbers only, and the frustration here is that some workplaces had only just retired physical pagers, let alone adopted anything newer.

People who worship singular ppl in a group of friends to the
3 source records

What the pattern means: The same description appears three times almost verbatim, naming a specific friend-group dynamic: one person treated as an idol whose ego feeds off the attention, alongside friends who form strong opinions about someone else's life despite having no real stake in it.

Bystander-editing etiquette
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe editing bystanders out of food-influencer videos as an unwritten professional norm rather than an occasional courtesy, with one saying failing to do so is simply considered bad form among the creators they follow.

Foot-operated door openers
2 source records

What the pattern means: One workplace's fix went further than a single restroom: foot-handle openers got installed on every door in the building, not just bathroom stalls, specifically because they help whenever someone's hands are already full.

What commenters described: Very helpful when your hands are full.

Credit-score system
2 source records

What the pattern means: The one elaboration in this short thread raises the stakes of the complaint considerably, noting a credit score can shut someone out of entire fields of employment, not just loans or housing.

Doodle crosses, grooming, and allergy claims
2 source records

What the pattern means: The objection here targets neglect enabled by marketing rather than the crossbreeds themselves: commenters say owners buy into a hypoallergenic claim that doesn't fully hold up, then skip the coat maintenance those breeds specifically need, leaving the dog tangled and anxious.

Elder financial abuse as villain shorthand
2 source records

What the pattern means: A commenter explains the trope rather than just naming it: TV writers reach for stealing a pension fund as villain shorthand because audiences instantly grasp the crime and the harm, unlike more complex fraud that would need a whole film to explain.

A claim for ending inflationary money in favor of natural deflation
2 source records

What the pattern means: This is a genuine economic disagreement rather than a shared complaint: one commenter argues a century of compounding inflation is the real disturbing thing, while a detailed rebuttal argues natural deflation would trigger its own spiral, since falling prices push people to delay purchases and starve companies of demand.

Limit: The rebuttal's own caveat concedes wage stagnation is a real problem, just not yet severe enough to justify abandoning the current monetary system.

Books versus other forms of reading
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter draws a hard line rather than treating all reading as equal, citing studies to argue fragmented internet text doesn't build the same sustained attention as long-form reading, ranking magazines above social media but still well below books.

Doorless offset public-restroom entry
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe a specific architectural fix already in use at some highway service stations: offset zigzag walls with no door at all, letting people walk in and out without touching anything while still blocking any direct line of sight inside.

Seasonal electricity costs from air conditioning
2 source records

What the pattern means: One reply undercuts the complaint on its own terms, noting electricity has been seasonally pricier for as long as air conditioning has existed, and that a fixed-rate contract, not regulation, is what actually protects a household from the summer spike.

What commenters described: My bill is higher in the summer because I use more, but the actual rate never changes.

Privilege shaping consequences for misconduct
2 source records

What the pattern means: The observation here is compressed into a single line: wealth reframes identical behavior from a diagnosis into a personality trait, with one commenter summarizing it as poor people get called insane and rich people get called eccentric.

A pendulum return cannot exceed its release height
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters connect a specific physics fact to bungee-jumping fear: a jumper on a cord physically cannot swing back higher than the point they were released from, which one recalls first learning from a Bill Nye demonstration using a ball on a string.

Post-purchase terms holding access hostage
2 source records

What the pattern means: One reply raises a specific legal counterpoint to the broader arbitration complaint: in many jurisdictions, a contract you're only shown after you've already paid for the product isn't enforceable in the first place, whatever it claims.

Compulsive exercise as an eating-disorder symptom
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter's detailed account reframes a visibly fit body as a symptom rather than a goal: years of overriding rest signals to manage disordered eating and body dysmorphia left her with early arthritis, while strangers only ever read her physique as something impressive.

Travel-only tablets plus toys and pocket games
2 source records

What the pattern means: One parent describes a deliberately narrow rule rather than open device access: a tablet reserved strictly for cars, planes, and travel downtime, paired with 3D-printed pocket games and coloring pouches specifically so the family still plays and colors together at the table.

What commenters described: Makes us play with him, color with him, and be engaged as a family.

Limit: A second commenter contrasts this with families who let kids sit alone on devices at restaurants, saying it makes them sad every time they see it.

Unease with particular animation styles
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters single out specific animation textures rather than cartoons generally, naming claymation and squiggle-vision styles like Rocko's Modern Life as uniquely unsettling in a way smoother, cleaner animation never triggers for them.

Aphantasia and boredom with books
2 source records

What the pattern means: A reply offers a concrete fix rather than just validating the frustration, suggesting readers with aphantasia try faster-paced, dialogue-heavy books where the pull comes from plot and character interaction rather than a mental image that never forms.

Colorblind users unable to read restroom locks
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters separately describe the same regression after a bathroom renovation: stall locks that used to spell out the word occupied got replaced with color-only indicators, actively removing an accessibility feature that already existed rather than simply failing to add one.

Deep-ocean risk and thalassophobia
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter's own near-drowning account does more work than the fear itself: caught in a riptide while snorkeling at thirty, he burned all his energy fighting the current head-on before switching to floating and swimming parallel to shore, which is what actually got him back in.

Eating pigs
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both comments here justify the discomfort with the identical claim, that pigs are as intelligent as or smarter than dogs, treating that comparison as the reason eating them feels different from eating other meat.

Posting thousands of selfies
2 source records

What the pattern means: The comparison offered here is deliberately jarring: papering your living room walls with photos of your own face would read as deranged, but doing the identical thing online is treated as unremarkable, and one reply extends it to parents whose kid photos are staged to center themselves instead.

Semantic satiation from repeating a word
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter turns a childhood observation into a practical habit, deliberately repeating a word in their head at bedtime until it stops sounding like language at all, using the same effect that made the word kitchen sound strange to them as a kid.

Direct impact language for requesting lower volume
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter shares an actual script rather than just endorsing confrontation, describing the balance they've learned to strike: naming the physical impact the noise is having on them directly, without phrasing it as a command telling the other person what to do.

What commenters described: It's definitely acceptable to tell people their phone is too loud... better than the alternative, letting these douche bags run rampant.

Places of business not accepting cash
2 source records

What the pattern means: A reply narrows the complaint with a specific legal claim, that businesses in the US are required to accept cash, suggesting the original frustration may be more about enforcement or location than an absence of any rule at all.

The stock market
2 source records

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection isn't to markets existing but to the education gap around them, arguing something this consequential to wealth is rarely taught directly growing up and functions, in their framing, mainly to make already-rich people richer.

A U.S. defamation truth-defense claim
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters treat the US rule that truth is a full defense against defamation as the one redeeming exception in an otherwise messy legal system, with one predicting the case's fallout will fund the wronged party's future advocacy through crowdfunding.

Direct cremation and a later home memorial
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes deliberately routing around the traditional funeral industry entirely: the cheapest direct cremation available, followed months later by a gathering at their own home for friends and family instead of a funeral-home service.

What commenters described: You can call around and compare prices... they will lower them.

Event pricing and stranded ride credit
2 source records

What the pattern means: The specific mechanic that angers commenters isn't just high prices but how ride tickets get packaged, sold in bundles of fourteen when most rides cost fifteen, deliberately stranding a credit that can't be combined or given away.

Limit: A reply broadens the complaint, comparing ten-dollar fair lemonade to the same pattern showing up in groceries and real estate, calling it a bad economic sign rather than a one-off gouge.

People can still learn and grow, through various routes
2 source records

What the pattern means: The counterpoint here reframes an assumed barrier as optional, with a commenter arguing that lifelong learning stays available even to the poorest through something as simple as reading, and citing research tying that habit to a lower dementia risk later in life.

What commenters described: You don't need to be rich to live your life with relish.

Selfies displacing the lived celebrity encounter
2 source records

What the pattern means: This is the same Ronaldo pitch-invasion anecdote referenced under celebrity obsession, but commenters here draw the distinction more precisely: being present for an experience versus performing it for an audience that wasn't even there.

This is my experience with tickling, too
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes physically intervening when her mother kept tickling a six-year-old nephew after he asked her to stop, treating the child's spoken boundary as binding despite his laughter, and a reply specifically thanks her for taking that seriously.

Tickling
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters separately extend the discomfort with tickling into a broader consent question, with one adding winking as a second gesture that reads as inherently strange to them regardless of context.

A possible Marina Hyde podcast reference
2 source records

What the pattern means: This entry is really a media recommendation exchange rather than a complaint, with one commenter praising a specific podcast episode as a reliable way to sound informed about pop culture in conversation without actually following entertainment news themselves.

Chronic exhaustion has become a status symbol
2 source records

What the pattern means: The same paragraph appears twice nearly word for word, naming a specific chain of normalized behavior, skipped meals, constant reachability, and rest that has to be earned, treated together as evidence that burnout has been rebranded as ambition.

Compulsive exercise and disordered eating hidden by fitness
2 source records

What the pattern means: A second commenter's own account extends the same pattern into running specifically: mileage climbed from three to thirteen miles not for fitness but for escapism, alongside deliberately poor eating to manage stress, while onlookers only ever see athletic discipline.

I mean
2 source records

What the pattern means: The exchange here is confrontational rather than descriptive: naming the meat industry draws an immediate challenge asking whether the commenter actually believes killing animals for food is wrong, rather than simply agreeing with the original complaint.

Such a huge portion of American voters are programmed to ignore every
2 source records

What the pattern means: The word programmed draws an immediate correction here, with a reply insisting third-party-averse voters aren't brainwashed at all but are making a calculated read of how the US electoral system actually functions.

Support staff absorbing abuse from ambiguous business callbacks
2 source records

What the pattern means: One support worker's frustration gets a pointed diagnosis in reply: customers want a real person to answer specifically because a person, unlike a self-checkout machine or an order kiosk, is someone they can feel superior to and take it out on.

Very violent songs
2 source records

What the pattern means: A second commenter widens the original complaint about violent song lyrics into violent fiction generally, treating music as just one entry point into a broader discomfort with violent content.

Bungee-cord storage and maintenance risk
1 source record

What the pattern means: The technical detail here is specific: bungee cords need to be stored free of dirt and debris because grit can work into the weave and cause microtearing invisible from outside, and the commenter says that's exactly the kind of maintenance trust they no longer extend to strangers.

ChatGPT gave the wrong local showtime
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is the same misdirected-showtime story told elsewhere in this dataset, an eighty-year-old mother who showed up to a movie an hour late after ChatGPT named the wrong theater, presented here as its own standalone incident rather than part of a wider generational argument.

Availability expectations shaped by routine
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates the single sharpest line from the constant-reachability discussion: that people don't actually track whether someone is available 24/7, they track whether that person breaks from whatever routine they already established.

Platform-locked ebook access
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's workaround is immediate and specific: an Amazon ebook wouldn't open outside the official app on Linux, so within two minutes they'd found the same book on Anna's Archive and were reading it with no restriction at all.

What commenters described: 2 mins later I'm reading it on my computer with no issue.

Future age limits on unfettered tablet access
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter predicts a specific future regulation rather than describing a current one, forecasting that within twenty years unrestricted tablet access for young children will be legally limited the way other unsupervised risks already are.

Selective outrage about corruption
1 source record

What the pattern means: The complaint here is about inconsistency rather than corruption itself, describing people who condemn politicians for corrupt behavior as reaching for the same behavior themselves the moment it personally benefits them.

No age-based driving retests
1 source record

What the pattern means: The complaint here is procedural and specific: there's no age threshold at which a driver's license requires retesting, unlike other competencies society periodically re-certifies.

Blowing out candles on a birthday cake, then cutting the saliva and
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's actual fix has become a family tradition: a smaller, cheaper second cake exists purely to catch the candle-blowing, so the cake that gets sliced and served never touches anyone's saliva.

What commenters described: The candle cake is now a tradition.

It’s so weird that people are so good with this
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames strong pushback against their position as itself proof of guilt, predicting that future generations will look back on whatever practice is being defended here with the same horror reserved for past atrocities.

Nah, it's better to split up and be legally free from a
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry argues directly against staying legally bound to a partner, framing legal separation as freedom from an abuser rather than a failure, in response to whatever claim it's replying to.

I just posted a rant about it as well
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter treats the topic's absence from the top of the discussion as evidence of their own point, arguing that if its downsides were actually taken seriously rather than dismissed as a vegan talking point, it would rank higher than it does.

A stiff-soled-shoes and foot-muscle-use claim
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's concern is biomechanical rather than aesthetic, arguing that decades in stiff-soled shoes let foot muscles atrophy from disuse, with effects they suspect reach beyond the feet after thirty-five years of that neglect.

I mean, *everyone* can't be a successful published author, movie star, business
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes an assumed problem as a question instead, asking whether it's actually bad that people who will only ever be average at anything seem genuinely at peace with that outcome.

I scrolled down way too far to find this
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a meta-comment on thread position rather than its own observation, with the commenter noting how far down they had to scroll before finding the specific point they wanted to agree with.

Uh, yeah
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply corrects a misreading of the original complaint, clarifying the actual issue was purchased downloaded games disappearing after a PlayStation Plus account got deactivated, not confusion about how the subscription itself works.

Chewing and mouth sounds in media
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames this as genuine surprise rather than an old complaint, saying they never expected mouth and chewing sounds specifically to become something people actively enjoy in media rather than merely tolerate.

Ah ok
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a clarifying reply rather than an independent claim, confirming that the actual irritation is people who stay dissatisfied with their situation while taking no action to change it, not dissatisfaction on its own.

Thanks
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter traces their own decision to stop eating meat to a specific turning point, getting a dog and recognizing the same capacity for thought and feeling in an animal they'd otherwise have eaten, though they say they rarely bring it up unless directly asked.

People treat the most base line human rights as some sort of
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter treats certain rights as beyond debate rather than merely important, naming a trans person's right to live and a child's right not to be murdered as the specific baseline they refuse to argue about as a political talking point.

Stagnation
2 source records

What the pattern means: The complaint is aimed specifically at contentment without goals: one commenter says stagnation and people being 'content' with no forward motion genuinely baffles them, and a reply agrees, adding that nobody needs to become a published author, just to keep working toward something, whether that's improving a situation or having a new experience.

Postpartum pelvic-floor and bladder harm
1 source record

What the pattern means: The detail that lands hardest in this thread is generational: a young mother's pelvic floor and bladder damage gets met not with shock but with older women around her casually confirming they assumed she already knew, since her own mother needed pee pads by her forties.

An aspect of this that I find particularly disturbing is gelatine
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out gelatin specifically as the sneakiest version of this discomfort, noting it turns up in gummy candy and other ordinary products while being made from the skin, bones, and connective tissue of animals.

Wildlife interference on a zip line
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a single sentence from the zip-line dataset: a howler monkey jumping onto the line mid-ride, forcing the rider to brake so their guide could reach them, without further detail on how the encounter resolved.

I prefer a bush myself but this is just incorrect
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a blunt disagreement rather than a new claim, with the commenter rejecting whatever generalization preceded it and stating a personal preference instead, framed as simply correcting a factual error about what people like.

It’s not really a secret but the boom of the right wing
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter rejects a specific rhetorical escape hatch directly, arguing that claiming to merely prefer conservatism while denying racism doesn't hold up once it requires defending people who are themselves racist.

That's part of it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply defends single-sex bathrooms on a specific safety-signal argument: in a one-way-in-one-way-out space, a man's presence is treated as an instant warning sign, and the commenter argues removing that signal removes protection for women and girls rather than simply changing who's allowed inside.

Adults with limited functional reading
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is the same functional-literacy claim raised in the adults-not-reading discussion, offered here on its own: that many adults never fully learned to read, and competing entertainment options make working through text feel like unnecessary effort.

Or allowing them to 'make the choice' to get baptized at a
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection here is specifically about consent and age, framing infant baptism as a choice made on a child's behalf before they can understand what the ritual commits them to.

This is also weird to me
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific social friction around a personal choice, keeping her name after a late marriage with no practical reason to change it, that repeatedly draws surprised questions from people who assume changing it was never optional.

GOG offline installers
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's fix routes around the platform-access problem entirely: buying games through GOG specifically because the offline installer belongs to the buyer permanently and can't be revoked.

What commenters described: You have the installer for life and it can't be taken away.

It isn't my business until I see a 6 ft guy with
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry frames a bathroom-access argument as a rhetorical threshold question, asking at what specific visual cue, a tall man wearing lipstick entering with a daughter present, the commenter believes the issue would stop being none of their business.

Not having hobbies
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the absence of hobbies specifically, replacing them with doomscrolling and Netflix as the two default activities called out by name.

Public-utility profit despite price increases
1 source record

What the pattern means: The specific figure driving this complaint is that a public utility posted tens of millions of dollars in profit the same year its prices rose, which the commenter treats as contradicting what a public utility is supposed to be for.

The “Karen” label used to mock contextless conflict
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter distinguishes actual entitled behavior from the broader Karen-labeling trend, noting many viral clips start only after the filmed person was already antagonized and angry, or was simply objecting to something clearly controversial or illegal happening near them.

Tablets stay home to preserve device-free outings
1 source record

What the pattern means: One parent's rule is absolute rather than situational: tablets never leave the house at all, which forces the kids to invent their own entertainment on every outing, a constraint the parent says works far better than moderating screen time on the go.

What commenters described: This works wonders.

A source-reported concern
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply questions the premise of whatever claim it's answering, asking how often anyone actually inspects a stranger's grooming choices closely enough for it to be a meaningful basis for judgment at all.

I know there are many who find it as disturbing as I
1 source record

What the pattern means: At just thirty, this commenter already has friends chasing filler and cosmetic procedures who, in her words, may as well look like corpses, arguing the treatments meant to fight aging often read as older rather than younger, and mourning how uniform faces have become compared to older films.

If they truly didn't care they wouldn't react with such extreme vitriol
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reads the intensity of pushback against veganism as its own evidence, arguing genuine indifference wouldn't provoke this much anger, and that the vitriol reveals discomfort with being confronted rather than confidence in the counterargument.

PE taking over entire industries
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific worry is about awareness rather than the practice itself, saying private equity's expansion across entire industries is happening largely unnoticed by the people closest to them.

The sheer number of people and places that run air conditioners with
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection is mechanical rather than moral: running air conditioning with windows open forces the unit to fight a constant influx of warm, humid air instead of cooling a closed space, wasting energy in a way they say applies just as much to businesses as to cars idling with the windows down.

Unwatched personal-video hoarding
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames constant phone recording less as documentation than compulsion, suspecting most of what gets filmed is never actually watched again and comparing the habit directly to hoarding.

Your linked study only looked at 18-60 year olds
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply challenges a cited study on its methodology rather than its conclusion, pointing out it only covered ages eighteen to sixty and restating that its actual finding, elevated suicide-attempt risk among trans people, isn't new information.

A claim that Starbucks marketing popularized the third-place term
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a single historical claim from the loss-of-third-places discussion: that the phrase itself originated as Howard Schultz-era Starbucks marketing rather than an older sociological term, which the commenter calls dystopian in hindsight.

Bathroom versus toilet regional language
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a small linguistic correction rather than a complaint, noting British English calls the room a toilet rather than a bathroom on the literal grounds that it doesn't contain a bath.

Known abusers remaining free in society
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry poses the complaint as a direct rhetorical question, asking why society allows known abusers to keep moving freely rather than facing lasting consequence.

Libraries losing quiet space
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames this as a loss measured against personal memory, recalling libraries as quiet and peaceful in a way the supporting record implies they no longer experience.

Many confirmed rapists in professional sports that get away with it just
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about volume and impunity together, arguing there are enough confirmed rapists in professional sports facing no consequence that a dozen names likely come to mind unprompted, and that athletic skill is the reason it gets ignored.

Since when does the size of a group determine whether their issues
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply rejects group size as a relevant factor in the underlying argument, insisting a small population of affected minors still deserves the same protection regardless of numbers, while clarifying the original claim was specifically about cross-sex hormones.

There is no park in America where you will get fined for
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry directly rebuts the loss-of-third-places argument point by point, insisting no American park fines anyone for loitering, that parks exist precisely for that purpose, and that kids today have the same free access their parents did, just less inclination to use it.

Calls during movies can usually wait
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter offers a specific estimate rather than a blanket rule, judging that the overwhelming majority of calls, ninety-eight percent by their count, can simply wait until the movie ends.

Delayed-reply boundaries can also disrespect others
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply flips the usual boundary-setting advice back on itself, describing people who claim to be reclaiming their time from their phones while still doomscrolling all day, then going quiet for days the moment a friend actually reaches out.

Everyone is marketing themselves
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection is about universality rather than any single platform, that everyone now curates a flattering version of themselves across LinkedIn and personal social media alike, until the performance itself becomes the exhausting part.

Getting Covid once every 400 days (American average)
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter cites a specific statistic, an American getting COVID roughly once every four hundred days, treating repeated infection as an ongoing neurological and vascular risk rather than a resolved pandemic-era concern.

Library-hosted clubs as low-cost third places
1 source record

What the pattern means: One reply turns the third-place complaint into an actionable fix rather than a lament, pointing out that libraries already run free kids and teen programs, and that staff will often help launch a new club, like a Harry Potter or DnD group, if nothing existing already fits.

What commenters described: Most are very happy to accommodate your needs for space and some will help with promotion or basic materials.

Maybe I’m getting old, but killing people in TV and movies is
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is emotional flatness rather than violence itself, arguing on-screen killing has become so routine nobody reacts to it anymore, insisting every fictional victim still represents what would have been someone's real hopes and future.

Our economic system
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter sketches a specific alternative rather than vague dissatisfaction, listing optional work, universal housing, food, healthcare, green energy, and free education as achievable if wealth weren't concentrated in a small elite.

People cracking jokes at the expense of vegans
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter isn't vegan themselves but reads mockery of vegans as a tell, describing the jokes as cognitive dissonance being projected outward by people they quietly judge for it.

So
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a direct rebuttal to a bathroom-safety argument made elsewhere in the dataset, arguing stalls already provide privacy, that trans people are statistically more likely to be harassed than to harass, and that cis men, not trans women, are who women report actually fearing.

Teens can't make mistakes without it being broadcast to the world
1 source record

What the pattern means: A thirty-nine-year-old commenter frames this generationally, saying today's teenagers lose an ability normal adolescence used to guarantee, making an ordinary mistake without it following them permanently online.

Those Meta glasses genuinely creeps me out
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific fear is about detectability rather than recording itself, noting a phone at least gives some visible sign someone might be filming, while smart glasses remove even that warning entirely.

We cannot afford to live
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter compresses the complaint into a direct equivalence, calling an inability to afford basic living costs while working full time a form of slavery rather than simply an economic hardship.

We r expected to be reachable 24/7
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a shorter restatement of the reachability complaint found elsewhere in the dataset, pinpointing the specific trigger as a message left unanswered for as little as ten minutes before it gets treated as an emergency.

Where do i even begin
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, a self-described millennial, frames the complaint generationally, describing their own memory of life before phones and apps functioned as data-harvesting dopamine dispensers everywhere.

Wrong word choice
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter corrects the framing of a nearby complaint, arguing the real irritation isn't people existing without goals but people who complain endlessly about their situation while taking no action and still insisting they're happy.

Your link study compares trans adults to cis adults
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply narrows a cited study's actual finding rather than disputing it outright, noting it compares trans adults to cis adults and shows only elevated suicide risk, not the broader claim it was cited to support.

>It isn't my business until I see a 6 ft guy with
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply turns a bathroom-safety hypothetical back on the person who raised it, arguing that judging a stranger's gender presentation by height and lipstick alone reveals more about the observer's assumptions than about any actual risk.

Ageism
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific age threshold as the trigger for this complaint, saying thirty-five already counts as too old by corporate standards in their country, and that people have simply stopped objecting to it.

Can't believe this is at the bottom
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter is surprised this ranks so low given its scope, listing television, phone, refrigerator, game console, operating system, and internet provider as simultaneous points of surveillance most people never register all at once.

Easily humans kill insects and have little respect for non-human life
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What the pattern means: The commenter frames casual insect killing as evidence of a broader hierarchy, arguing it reflects how little respect gets extended to non-human life generally rather than being about insects specifically.

Eating shellfish
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What the pattern means: The commenter draws a direct equivalence rather than a milder comparison, calling shellfish just bigger, grosser bugs and extending the same discomfort to cooking any animal while it's still alive.

Handshakes
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What the pattern means: The commenter questions the necessity of physical contact as a greeting ritual specifically, asking why a verbal hello isn't already considered sufficient on its own.

I really don’t like or understand cringe comedy or finding other people’s
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter is unsettled less by cringe comedy itself than by how normalized it's become, saying she can't understand laughing at someone else's failure and finds it concerning that so few people around her seem bothered by it too.

I was going to ask who’s blowing out those candles until you
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What the pattern means: This reply is a small joke rather than elaboration, saying the age of the birthday child, three years old, already answers the question of who's actually doing the candle-blowing.

If it helps, I'm an American who knows the historical connection between
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter admits their own ignorance rather than confirming a claim, saying they knew Argentina's historical Nazi connections but hadn't heard it described as a current hotspot, associating the country instead with tango and archaeology.

Make up
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific line within makeup itself, saying lipstick and mascara read as fine to her but any visible foundation or shading crosses into looking clownish.

People who try to walk to the left of others
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter proposes a specific fix rather than just naming the annoyance, suggesting pedestrians adopt the same directional convention as traffic, keeping to one consistent side, to cut down on sidewalk collisions.

Raising therapist-accountability standards
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What the pattern means: The commenter draws a direct comparison across professions, saying they've never had a bad family doctor but know multiple friends whose therapist nearly ruined their life, and would only support looser oversight if therapists faced far stricter accountability than they currently do.

Smart devices failing basic offline timekeeping
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's frustration is specific and narrow: a WiFi-connected device can't hold or recover the correct time after a power outage, a basic function that predates smart features entirely.

This has improved a LOT from the way it used to be,
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter argues the opposite of decline, saying open resentment toward spouses used to be a standard punchline, take my wife, please, and that normalized marital contempt has actually faded, with couples who do nothing but complain now getting dropped by their own friend group.

What am I trying to do
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What the pattern means: This reply pushes the logic of a nearby vegetarian-leaning argument further, asking rhetorically whether commenters think grocery-store meat is roadkill, framing the disassociation between a living animal and packaged meat as convenience rather than coincidence.

Yeah he worded it slightly exaggeratively but people are definitely *contributing* to
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply partially concedes a prior point while softening its framing, agreeing that people do contribute to animal suffering for personal pleasure even if the original phrasing overstated the claim.

A lot of husbands will leave their wives when the wife becomes
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific gendered asymmetry in caregiving, describing husbands who leave wives diagnosed with a terminal illness far more often than the reverse, and noting entire support programs exist to help those wives navigate sudden single life while still managing their disease.

American propaganda machines
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What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about blind spots rather than propaganda's existence, arguing most Americans assume propaganda is something only the opposing side produces, never questioning how much of their own worldview was shaped the same way.

Arguing hypotheticals that don't happen serve no purpose
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What the pattern means: This reply challenges a bathroom-safety argument with a reductio comparison, asking whether the rare possibility of an elevator attack would justify banning men from elevators altogether, to argue rare-but-possible isn't sufficient grounds for a blanket policy.

Bereaved people apologizing for delayed replies
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What the pattern means: One commenter chose texting over calling a grieving coworker specifically to lower the pressure on her, only to have the coworker apologize anyway for a forty-eight-hour delay during active bereavement, a reaction the commenter says hurt to watch more than silence ever would have.

Blowing out candles on a cake
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's discomfort is specifically about post-pandemic hygiene norms not changing, picturing germs launched directly onto frosting that then gets served to a room full of people, and asking why that lesson didn't stick.

Deeply disturbing" is strong, but I cannot FATHOM why anyone would cut
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter picks a specific, deliberately absurd framing to make the point: cutting down a live tree and displaying its corpse indoors to mark a two-thousand-year-old birth, while also flagging it as a literal, widely accepted fire hazard in American homes.

Do you have segregation in your bathrooms at home
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter challenges a bathroom-segregation policy with a practical enforcement question, asking how womanhood would actually be verified at the door without resorting to invasive physical inspection.

Don’t really make it much better aside from optics and having plausible
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply dismisses a proposed compromise as mostly cosmetic, arguing it mainly buys the person adopting it plausible deniability about their own contribution rather than changing much in practice.

I feel like COVID taught us all how gross birthday candles are
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter credits the pandemic specifically with changing how people think about birthday candles, treating heightened germ-awareness as the direct cause of newfound discomfort with the tradition.

I know exactly what you mean
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter illustrates the complaint with someone they know personally, stable but chronically unhappy, who spends all their time complaining without making any visible effort to change anything, calling the pattern nearly impossible for them to imagine living.

It’s pretty disturbing how people are fine with human characters dying even
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter identifies a specific double standard in audience reaction, noting viewers barely register graphic human deaths on screen yet visibly react to a fictional pet dying in the same story, reading it as evidence that perceived human worth has quietly dropped below an animal's.

I’m pointing out how misleading and uncommon all of these “concerns” are
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply corrects the scale and mechanism behind a nearby claim directly, clarifying that most trans youth only ever receive reversible puberty blockers rather than permanent treatment, and citing reduced suicide-attempt risk as the reasoning for making that option available.

Meat and dairy industry
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the meat and dairy industry as a scale problem specifically, arguing industrial-level animal suffering combined with environmental damage is worse than at any point in history even as consumption gets treated as aspirational rather than merely accepted.

Pelvic exams
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific comparison across sexes rather than objecting to pelvic exams in the abstract, contrasting an annual, invasive rectovaginal assessment required for hormonal birth control against the brief scrotal check a vasectomy requires, and noting no other cancer gets screened this frequently across an entire lifetime.

People changing last name when marrying
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter adds a specific cultural contrast to the usual name-change debate, noting that in their country, a married couple sharing a surname would actually be assumed to be siblings rather than spouses.

People will stick up for their friends, or stand up against other
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names blind loyalty specifically, describing people who defend a friend regardless of who's actually right, and states plainly that they've never done this and refuse to start.

Periods
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes menstruation with a thought experiment: if a condition causing chronic bleeding, pain, and mood effects struck only one percent of people, it would be treated as a serious illness rather than something everyone is expected to just function through.

Piercing babies ears
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter dismantles a specific justification for infant ear piercing point by point, noting the closing-hole argument isn't guaranteed, that a child who wants to keep it may still need it redone anyway, and that a piercing done in infancy risks growing in uneven as the child ages.

Social hierarchy People just letting others get away with whatever cuz of
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names social hierarchy directly as the mechanism, describing higher-status people getting away with harming those below them for no reason beyond a hierarchy they didn't earn.

Those fucking Nazi haircuts
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry references a specific haircut style associated with Nazi imagery, linking to outside material the supporting record doesn't otherwise describe.

We are all going about our day consuming and living in a
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the complaint as collective and habitual rather than individual, describing daily consumption and living patterns as unsustainable on a scale nobody seems to register while doing it.

A car-console Gemini companion while driving
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter is specifically baffled by a friend who enjoys conversing with a Gemini assistant built into his car console while driving, questioning aloud whether wanting company from what he calls a soulless matrix-multiplication machine makes him the unusual one instead.

A prediction that WALL-E will be banned
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a single prediction from the WALL-E discussion on its own: a commenter betting the film itself will eventually face a ban for depicting a future too close to reality.

A toddler with an always-on personal tablet
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter contrasts a relative's parenting choice with their own planned limit, describing a two-year-old niece who is constantly on her own iPad and stating they intend to withhold a tablet from their own child until it's old enough to actually read.

Almost every country seems to be having a rising wave of extremist/facist
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames rising extremism as a near-universal trend rather than a regional one, arguing globalization's decline is the only path they see toward reversing it.

Australia doesn't do it annually, and even paps have been pushed back
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply offers a specific international comparison for cervical screening intervals, noting Australia has already moved to five-year pap smears with a self-swab option instead of annual testing.

Content creators
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific target is mukbang-style creators who narrate ordinary meals and lunchbox contents to millions of viewers, blaming the audience's appetite for the content as much as the creators making it.

Dancing on the graves of others
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names specific recent public figures across the political spectrum whose deaths drew celebration rather than sympathy, arguing that reducing people to their politics even in death reflects a broader collapse in basic human regard.

Depop generating item descriptions unprompted
1 source record

What the pattern means: One seller describes racing to finish writing their own item description on Depop before the platform's AI generates one unprompted and posts it first.

Driving a car
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter who has never held a license and relies entirely on transit, biking, and walking argues driving itself changes personality, describing drivers as losing empathy and patience the moment they're behind the wheel, and extending the critique to fuel wars and lithium-battery environmental costs.

FaceTime in a gym locker room exposing nudity
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What the pattern means: This entry isolates the most literal consequence of locker-room FaceTiming: a commenter accidentally exposed to another man's nudity because the caller propped his phone on the floor, hands-free, to video chat his wife mid-changing-room.

Give it a shot for a week and see how you go,
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply offers low-commitment encouragement rather than an argument, suggesting trying whatever practice is under discussion for just a week to see how it goes, framed as how the commenter themselves originally got started.

Haha yeah didn’t see that but how can you hate on a
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply turns a grooming-preference debate into a joke, asking rhetorically how anyone could object to basic cleanliness unless they have a specific kink for the alternative.

Half of the people around you have below average intellect, and average
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the complaint statistically rather than personally, arguing that even the average person's intelligence is already lower than most people assume, before accounting for the half of people below that average.

I found out recently that honey is what happens when bees regurgitate
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a factual discovery about honey production as unsettling in itself, describing the regurgitation process behind it as something oddly disguised by a friendly bear on the label.

I have lol most of my meals are incidentally vegan these days
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a partial, in-progress version of veganism rather than a completed conversion, admitting most meals end up vegan by accident while cheese and full ingredient-label scrutiny remain a step they're not ready for yet.

What commenters described: Most of my meals are incidentally vegan these days.

I would say the textile industry
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter connects fast fashion to tourism specifically, noting souvenir hats and sweaters bought abroad in Ireland or Canada are still typically manufactured in China, Vietnam, Nepal, or Indonesia by workers the buyer will never see or think about.

It is disturbing
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter turns a critique on the thread's own pattern, noting how reliably comments naming people themselves as what they've grown to dislike rack up upvotes and repetition, as if the sentiment itself has become something to be admired.

It’s disturbing how much of your information is publicly available when you
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific pipeline of exposure after buying a home: mortgage details, lender name, and personal information become publicly searchable within days of closing, triggering refinancing and insurance junk mail, which some homeowners route around entirely by purchasing through a trust.

I’m approaching my 30s and I still can’t get over how creepy
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, approaching thirty, describes escalating unease with sleep itself rather than a single incident, from never remembering the moment of falling asleep to newly developed hypnagogic hallucinations of a person or spiders appearing the instant their eyes close.

Lack of empathy and being proud of it
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What the pattern means: The commenter ties declining empathy specifically to the post-COVID period, describing people who now openly dehumanize historical atrocity victims, Holocaust and slavery among them, and treats pride in that cruelty as the more disturbing shift than the cruelty itself.

Large gaps in US restroom stalls
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What the pattern means: This entry isolates the American stall-gap complaint on its own: visible feet and sightlines between doors offer no real privacy, making a rare gapless, full-door stall something this commenter says they're specifically grateful to encounter.

Late to the party but not seeing this one
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames ordinary users as unpaid quality assurance testers, listing forced updates, degrading autocorrect, and games sold with a battle pass despite staying in perpetual early access as evidence that products now ship deliberately unfinished.

What commenters described: Repairing your own shit is beyond rewarding.

Like they didn't do the exact same at that age
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply accuses an older generation of hypocrisy specifically, arguing they behaved identically at the same age and were simply made to wait their turn rather than complain about it.

Much time do you have
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific voting inconsistency, questioning how anyone calling themselves humanistic supports a candidate opposed to universal healthcare, and separately criticizes general complacency about COVID's ongoing damage even among vaccinated people.

No one is saying bikes are dangerous
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply directly denies claims made elsewhere in the loss-of-third-places debate, insisting no one is actually calling bikes dangerous or getting arrested for loitering in parks, undercutting the premise those arguments rested on.

Not *everyone* but it's insane how many people are in favour of
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific analogy to make the case against infant circumcision, comparing it to forcing a daughter into breast implants on the theory she'll look better later, and dismisses the STD-prevention argument as a justification added after the fact.

Not learning by reading books and doing actual research, but also not
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's complaint pairs two gaps rather than one, naming both a retreat from reading and research and an inability to handle basic DIY tasks, arguing there's no excuse in 2026 for a literate adult treating either as inaccessible or magical.

Octopuses have a huge capacity for learning, but they are short lived,
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter uses octopus biology as an argument against intelligent design specifically, noting their high individual capacity for learning gets wasted because each new octopus starts from zero without social transmission or parental teaching.

Paving over huge swaths of our country so that people can drive
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter questions car infrastructure as a default rather than an inevitability, describing how much of the country got paved specifically for vehicle access, with pedestrians expected to hurry through crosswalks so as not to be hit.

Shameless vanity
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names shameless vanity specifically, describing the superficiality behind it as simply gross rather than merely irritating.

Stopping testosterone under endocrinology care
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's own account shows the managed version of testosterone use: starting at thirty-five out of fatigue rather than medical need, stopping at forty under an endocrinologist's supervision with Clomid to help restart natural production, and landing at a decent, not great, level afterward.

Surprised no one is talking about the steadily decreasing level of trust
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames declining trust in science as an underdiscussed trend, expressing surprise that it isn't already a bigger part of the conversation.

The Butlerian Jihad reference
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reaches for a specific science-fiction reference, predicting a future backlash against AI severe enough to resemble Dune's Butlerian Jihad, a total ban on thinking machines.

The love of watching professional fighters
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter questions a specific legal double standard around combat sports, noting cockfighting and dogfighting are banned as cruel while professional human fighters causing each other pain draws paying crowds instead.

The Martian Chronicles
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a book recommendation rather than a complaint, with the commenter interrupting themselves to go reread The Martian Chronicles and calling it simply amazing.

This one bugs me
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter pairs two specific stories to make the point: a husband publicly seeking validation for leaving his wife over weight gain and getting majority support in the comments, alongside an older news account of a husband leaving his wife after industrial sabotage left her blind.

This one may be very specific but might as well
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter mourns a specific erasure at her grandmother's funeral: ninety-five years that included raising five children, earning a college degree, working, and helping the poor, reduced at the service to a single word, godly, with no mention of her actual life.

Trash talk or smacktalk and trolling in general
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a careful line within trash talk itself, distinguishing affectionate insults between friends who trust the bond won't be hurt from deliberately trying to upset a stranger for the thrill of their reaction, and says only the second version troubles them.

We have TOO much technology at our disposal now
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the problem as overabundance rather than technology itself, arguing constant access has eroded patience for boredom or waiting and conditioned people to expect everything instant, customized, and perfectly correct.

Western" people are indigenous too, to their own countries
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry makes a short factual correction to a term used elsewhere in the discussion, arguing that people described as western are also indigenous to their own countries of origin.

When a waitress cleans the table and leaves it a total swamp
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about method rather than the task itself, describing a server wiping a table in a way that leaves it visibly wetter and dirtier than before, and being unable to understand why that passes for cleaning at any restaurant.

Yeah, I feel the same way about eggs and dairy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply extends a nearby claim about meat to two additional foods, agreeing the same discomfort applies equally to eggs and dairy.

Zoos
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's discomfort is specific to habitat mismatch rather than captivity alone, describing a snowy owl visibly panting in ninety-degree heat under a misting system meant to compensate for an enclosure nothing like its native climate.

A hand-dryers-versus-paper-towels hygiene claim
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter cites a specific hygiene claim to argue paper towels beat hand dryers on two fronts at once: fewer germs left behind, and an actual physical tool for opening the exit door without touching it bare-handed.

A local ice-cream shop matching a chain's price
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter did the actual per-ounce math comparing a national chain to their local ice cream shop and found identical pricing, which combined with a wider flavor selection and better taste made the local shop their new default.

What commenters described: Now it's my go-to place to get my ice cream fix.

A Nokia 3310 and Snake at age ten
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's specific memory of getting a Nokia 3310 at age ten centers entirely on Snake, describing the feeling of being glued to that one game as the height of feeling cool as a kid.

About the destruction of wildlife habitat
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter backs a habitat-loss argument with a specific statistic, citing a seventy-three percent decline in global wildlife populations between 1970 and 2020 as evidence that concern hasn't kept pace with the scale of the loss.

Almost all broadcasters and journalist are starting their sentences with a loud
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is a vocal habit rather than content: broadcasters and journalists starting sentences with an audible lip smack, which they find simply cringeworthy regardless of what follows.

Almost every time I got to eat with someone
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a near-universal pattern in their own dining experience, saying almost every time they share a meal with someone, that person skips washing their hands beforehand.

An iPad mounted above an infant's car seat
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's own description does the work here, struggling mid-sentence for the word mobile while describing an iPad rigged to dangle above an infant's face in a car seat exactly where a traditional spinning mobile would hang.

And antisemitism surges whenever times are tough and when people are looking
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames antisemitism as cyclical rather than incidental, tying its resurgence specifically to periods of hardship when a scapegoat becomes politically convenient, and drawing an explicit parallel to the present moment.

And I find it secretly deeply disturbing
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply is agreement rather than a new claim, calling the sentiment secretly deeply disturbing and noting how well it fits the thread's original question.

Autocompletion avoidance as resistance to cognitive offloading
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter frames a small personal habit as active resistance rather than mere preference, deliberately typing full words by hand instead of accepting autocomplete suggestions because they see convenience features as a kind of social engineering toward compliance.

Being born with good looks is luck but if you're born intelligent,
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a direct parallel between two traits usually treated differently, arguing intelligence gets credited as personal merit the same way good looks get dismissed as luck, when neither was ever within anyone's control.

Boo
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter proposes a specific disciplinary alternative, having a school principal call and get parental permission to physically punish a child in the moment, and directly credits declining corporal punishment with rising crime rates.

Car loans
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues from personal comparison rather than abstract math, contrasting neighbors renting a house while financing four newer trucks against themselves owning a cheap, older car outright, and singling out people who can't spare two hundred dollars monthly for maintenance yet somehow afford eight-hundred-dollar loan payments.

Cars are SO dangerous
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter treats ordinary driving as a statistically underrated risk rather than a settled convenience, pointing to one-ton vehicles moving at high speed, licenses issued to nearly anyone, and no retesting requirement as reasons they're regularly amazed anyone near a road survives.

Casual and white lies i find it continually horrific and i will
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out small, socially accepted lies specifically, saying casual and white lies remain something they find continually horrifying no matter how normal everyone else treats them.

Casual use of "bitch" "ho" to refer to any and every female
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific linguistic pattern, casual use of gendered slurs to refer to any woman or to insult someone by feminizing them, as the disturbing normalization rather than any single instance of it.

Chill most people are with having someone who has the most trash,
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific example makes the point concrete: a friendly, well-liked person in someone's regular social circle turns out to hold openly bigoted views, and the group's response is to keep including him anyway because he's pleasant company.

Color-only checkout-status signs
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates the checkout-specific version of the color-only design complaint: a UK discount chain's open-or-closing till indicator uses a green-versus-red panel this commenter can't distinguish, forcing a cashier to wave and gesture just to get their attention.

Combat sports
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection to combat sports is specifically about the injury being the entertainment, saying watching someone sustain brain damage for an audience's enjoyment doesn't sit right regardless of the skill involved.

Come to Norway
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter counters an implied tax complaint with a specific trade-off, describing Norway's higher rates funding free healthcare, education, social security, a month of annual vacation, and eighteen months of parental leave, and anticipating the trade-off will still get dismissed as communism.

Cooperative versus zero-sum worldviews
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a specific ideological fork rather than a single complaint, contrasting a cooperative worldview where absolute wealth can grow for everyone against a zero-sum one where sabotaging others to preserve relative advantage becomes the rational move.

Dairy I've accepted is beyond my "if I feel too guilty to
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes a specific, self-aware threshold for their own partial dietary changes, keeping dairy until affordable, well-textured vegan cheese exists but already flinching at raw eggs, having noticed the visible blastocyst that would have become a chick.

Deeply google and meta and other companies have access to all of
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about pricing manipulation rather than data collection alone, describing companies raising prices in real time when a shopper's phone signals they're already inside a store and likely to buy regardless.

Driving
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames ordinary driving as an act of blind faith rather than routine, specifically fixating on undivided roads where nothing physically prevents an oncoming driver's fatal mistake or sudden rage from crossing into their lane.

Ever considered you may be on the spectrum
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply reframes a stated aversion to eye contact as a possible diagnostic clue rather than a personality quirk, with the commenter, who identifies as autistic themselves, noting how common that specific aversion is within the spectrum.

Every society and civilization that aimed to eliminate the Jews has fallen
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter makes a specific historical claim rather than a general statement about antisemitism, asserting that every society or civilization that sought to eliminate Jewish people has itself eventually fallen.

Every woman on Tinder has the same "wine", "coffee", "gym", "travel" personality
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's complaint is about dating-app self-presentation collapsing into a narrow set of interchangeable interests, naming wine, coffee, gym, and travel as the same four words appearing on nearly every woman's profile.

Everyone seems ok with burning the planet, accusing your neighbour of all
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter links three specific behaviors together as a single pattern of complacency: tolerating environmental damage, blaming neighbors for societal problems from the political right, and voting for candidates with clear criminal records.

Everyone views the social strain of having half the world living in
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific frustration is about diffusion of responsibility, arguing that half the world living in poverty gets treated as someone else's problem by nearly everyone individually, which collectively leaves no one accountable.

Explicit personal response service levels
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter formalizes their own communication boundaries like a client contract, naming specific response windows for calls, texts, and work messages and reserving faster turnaround only for their boss or an actual emergency, treating the arrangement as a running joke they call 1995 with friends and family.

Followers bearing the costs of sponsored lifestyles
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter identifies a specific misconception behind influencer envy, arguing followers assume a sponsored lifestyle is chosen and enjoyed freely, when the influencer is often just wearing and using whatever they're contractually required to, the same way people assume Red Bull-sponsored athletes actually subsist on the drink.

Funerals with looking at dead bodies, it's fkn weird
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter pairs two specific funeral customs as equally unsettling to them: viewing an open casket at a wake, and the church rituals, prayer and hymn-singing, that surround it.

Future personal barcodes
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter treats a question about personal barcodes as a near-future inevitability rather than dystopian fiction, predicting the practice will exist soon enough that the question itself will stop sounding strange.

Getting all your car windows tinted dark as fuck
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reads maximally dark car window tint as suspicious rather than merely a sun-blocking preference, asking directly what the driver might be hiding behind windows that dark.

Grass
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter questions lawn grass specifically as an odd voluntary commitment, asking why anyone would choose a plant that requires permanent, repeating maintenance for no functional payoff.

Gun collectors
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter distinguishes practical gun ownership, hunting rifles, from collecting and fixating on firearms as objects, questioning why anyone would want that specific association given guns are a leading cause of child death.

Guys with shaved pubes
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's discomfort with fully shaved male pubic hair is specifically about how prepubescent it reads to her, calling it a major factor working against attraction even though she says most people have simply gone along with the norm.

Have you noticed that people now say "promise" when they mean "swear
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter flags a specific word-substitution trend, people saying promise when the situation actually calls for swear, treating the swap itself as the noteworthy shift rather than either word's meaning.

I find people in general deeply disturbing
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter generalizes the discomfort to people as a category rather than any specific behavior, stating a preference for animal company over human company as the direct consequence.

I find Santa Clause to be deeply disturbing
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific objection to Santa Claus is about the adults involved rather than the myth itself, arguing it's abnormal for an entire culture to lie to children and for kids to eventually learn their two most trusted people were in on the deception.

I guess sometimes you rejoice in a sad song that previously described
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific emotional shift rather than a fixed rule, noting a sad song that once described their own pain can later be revisited with distance and even happiness once they've moved past what it captured.

I honestly dont know what you're talking about, I'm gonna need to
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply responds with deliberate, sarcastic confusion, saying they'd need to actually see the specific behavior described before agreeing they recognize it.

I hope that it won't led to the 2030s being an even
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter expresses a specific forward-looking worry rather than a present complaint, hoping the coming decade doesn't turn out even worse for Jewish people than the current one already is.

I know what you're trying to do, but the meat that ends
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply pushes back on a rhetorical question about eating live animals, clarifying that grocery-store meat is definitionally already dead, and asking sarcastically whether the person believes the average shopper boils live lobster for every meal.

I scrolled soo much hoping someone would says this and eventually searched
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What the pattern means: The commenter describes actively searching the comments for a specific concern they expected to find missing, singling out how modern society treats animals as barbaric and depressing in a way they say almost nobody else in the thread wanted to name.

I see how the world is constructed
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes civilization itself, not nature, as the thing that unsettles them, picturing governance and infrastructure as held together by duct tape and haywire, functioning only because most people aren't actively trying to break it yet.

I understand just how much we are surveilled thru our digital footprint
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames pervasive digital surveillance as something they understand intellectually but can't practically escape, noting general indifference around them is exactly what makes it so hard to avoid.

I've been referring it to bee vomit for years
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter treats honey's regurgitation origin as already known and unbothersome to them personally, saying they've called it bee vomit for years and still love eating it regardless.

It’s always bugged me how casual and accepting shoplifting is
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues current shoplifting consequences are too mild to function as a deterrent, explicitly proposing harsher penalties and contrasting it with countries that impose amputation, framing fear of punishment as the missing ingredient.

Leather shoes, belts, wallets, and chairs
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection to leather goods is definitional rather than emotional, pointing out shoes, belts, wallets, and chairs made from it are literally fashioned from skin regardless of how normal that material feels to handle.

Many lives we sacrifice on a daily basis due to our choice
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames car-centric transit as a mass, ongoing sacrifice rather than a neutral default, arguing thousands of daily deaths from that specific choice go accepted as a cost of doing business rather than as something optional.

Many people get sick from it a year
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply pushes back with a direct request for evidence, asking for an actual statistic behind a nearby illness claim rather than accepting the number as given.

Money
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim about money is that scarcity itself is manufactured, arguing the wealthy artificially maintain the appearance of universal peril to keep everyone else dependent on them.

Most Americans truly just want to make as many people around them
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter makes a blunt generalization about intent rather than behavior, claiming most Americans actively want the people around them to feel as miserable as they themselves do.

Much we are taxed in the United States
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter itemizes a specific stack of US taxes rather than complaining generally, listing federal and state income tax, self-employment tax, sales and excise tax, and property, capital gains, and estate tax as separate layers a self-employed person has to track at once.

Not answering unexpected door knocks
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter extends the phone-availability boundary to the front door itself, describing a strict personal rule of only answering for expected, identified visitors and treating the instinct to jump up at any knock as a habit worth deliberately unlearning.

What commenters described: You'll get bored knocking long before I get bored ignoring you.

Not have lids on the toilet seats in public restrooms (in the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection is mechanical rather than aesthetic, arguing that toilets without lids let the flush itself launch germs and waste particles directly into the air of the room.

Oh boy where would I start
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter declines to list specifics at all, summarizing an entire category of complaint as mainstream morality and ethics rather than naming a single concrete example.

Opus and AAC efficiency versus MP3
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter makes a specific technical case against sticking with MP3, arguing Opus or AAC compression delivers either noticeably higher quality at an identical file size or the same quality at a smaller one, and points to a direct listening comparison as evidence.

Pedestrians who jay-walk and just expect you to slow down for them
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific frustration is with pedestrians who cross slowly without checking traffic at all, expecting drivers to compensate for a risk the pedestrian never bothered to assess themselves.

People glazing, defending, and acting in the interest of billionaires
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific rhetorical pattern rather than wealth itself, describing people who defend billionaires' interests reflexively and treat anyone proposing higher taxes or wealth regulation as the one doing something wrong.

People just completely ignoring the point of this question and using it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is meta-commentary on the thread itself, criticizing other commenters for treating the original question as a free pass to vent about generic pet peeves instead of answering it directly.

People just drop friends with no explination and block them on their
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about method rather than the decision to end a friendship, calling silent blocking with zero explanation immature, cruel, and disrespectful compared to just saying something.

People wearing sunglasses at night, and INDOORS
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific confusion is practical rather than aesthetic, asking what someone wearing sunglasses indoors at night could possibly still be able to see.

People who "one-up" others in conversation
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a precise conversational pattern rather than general rudeness: someone shares excitement about something, and the other person immediately tops it with a better version of the same experience, deflating the original moment.

People who go camping and use thermacell mosquito repellent without regards for
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about an overlooked side effect: Thermacell mosquito repellent used while camping is toxic enough to also kill bees, and outdoor forums discussing the product rarely bring up that collateral harm at all.

Physical game media supporting lending, resale, and backups
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter corrects two separate misconceptions about game discs at once: most titles still play from disc with only occasional bugs, and owning that physical medium grants real legal rights, lending and reselling a copy, that an electronic license lets a publisher simply forbid.

Limit: The commenter's own preferred fix isn't physical media forever, but laws forcing the same lending, resale, and backup rights onto digital licenses too.

Preannouncing slow-response boundaries
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes a specific script she gives every new contact upfront, phone last, call only for emergencies, ASAP meaning once she's actually free, crediting that pre-warning with letting her decompress at home instead of feeling permanently on call.

What commenters described: Being able to fall back on that pre-warning has helped me be able to actually decompress when I'm home.

Public shaming as accountability
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry endorses public shaming conditionally rather than universally, with the commenter specifying it works well only in the right circumstances rather than as a blanket tool.

Restaurant meals served like takeout
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about presentation rather than the food itself, insisting a sit-down meal belongs on an actual plate and not stuffed into a takeout-style bag, a distinction that came up recently in conversation with a client.

Restaurant prices and quality eroding convenience
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates the European price complaint on its own: fast food now costs as much as sit-down dining did a few years ago, while actual restaurant quality has dropped enough that home cooking wins on price, taste, and convenience all at once.

Retailers outsourcing search and inventory to marketplace services
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter traces a specific root cause for bad on-site search results: retailers who don't build their own search or inventory system end up outsourcing it to a marketplace platform, often Amazon's, which then surfaces unrelated third-party listings the shopper never asked for.

Sensor-activated restroom door openers
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a specific hardware fix for the touchless-restroom problem: a proximity sensor near the door that activates with a hand wave rather than a press, letting one office complete the entire hands-free routine without a single surface touch.

What commenters described: You can get through the entire activity without touching any surfaces.

Slaves used to be commonly accepted as well
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a direct historical parallel to argue norms can shift, noting slavery was once broadly accepted and that which animals are acceptable to eat already varies by country, treating both as evidence that current practices aren't fixed.

So have we been murdering and raping
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply rejects a historical-precedent argument on its own terms, comparing it to justifying present-day murder and rape because past societies also did those things, calling that reasoning simply not good.

So many appliances need an app or a wifi access to function
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific frustration with unnecessary connectivity, naming a dishwasher that required an app just for initial setup despite never needing WiFi to run, and speakers that need an app just to sync sound between them, while admitting avoiding it entirely feels like a losing battle.

So many people can not tell dissent and hostility apart
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter connects a specific cause to a specific effect, arguing algorithmic filtering has gotten so effective at removing disagreement from people's feeds that many can no longer distinguish ordinary dissent from actual hostility.

A generational cycle of harm from abstinence-only messaging
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter proposes a specific generational mechanism for why careless behavior repeats, wondering whether adults who experienced harm as teenagers pass on the same gap by favoring abstinence messaging over earnest, direct conversation instead of breaking the cycle.

Speaking as an American, That we routinely lock people in boxes for
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What the pattern means: One commenter frames long-term incarceration in stark physical terms, calling it locking people in boxes for years or decades over relatively minor infractions while worse conduct elsewhere goes unpunished, and a reply agrees prison itself is inhumane, proposing corporal punishment for minor crimes and capital punishment for major ones instead.

Speeding or otherwise aggressive driving
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter addresses aggressive drivers directly and specifically, referencing a movie's street-racing fantasy by name to argue admiration for that style of driving doesn't change the fact that the people doing it are simply bad at it.

Taking the first search result as truth
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter distinguishes two eras of the same bad habit rather than treating it as new: taking the top search result as fact was already unreliable years before AI, and now that top result is frequently an AI summary the commenter says is wrong with striking consistency, yet gets trusted just the same.

TEMU is cheap
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes a specific marketplace's low prices as a double meaning, implying the cost isn't only measured in dollars without spelling out what the other cost actually is.

Thank you for a not aggressive reply, feels very refreshing
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific, self-aware coping mechanism, comparing their own reaction to watching a car crash they're powerless to stop, and finding an odd comfort in helplessness they half-joke might actually require years of therapy to unpack.

That's if you even get to live that long
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a long lifespan as a burden rather than a gain, saying it now feels easier to imagine dying at sixty than to keep going, with no enthusiasm left for whatever extra years modern life might otherwise offer.

The constant need to say "I'm gonna kill myself" as a joke
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific concern is about desensitization through repetition, arguing casually saying I'm gonna kill myself over minor annoyances steadily erodes how seriously the phrase gets taken when someone means it.

The dominance of “the couple”
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter questions monogamous coupledom as a default rather than a neutral outcome, arguing most people quietly abandon wider family, friends, and community to funnel all their love and labor into one partner, and suspects more people would be happier distributing it more evenly.

The growing acceptance of communism, and the inevitability of what always rises
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames growing openness to communism as cyclical rather than surprising, pairing it with an expectation that whatever historically rises up against communism will do so again.

The Joneses (2009) as a social-marketing example
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter treats a specific 2009 film as a preview of influencer marketing before social media existed, arguing The Joneses dramatizes an exaggerated but recognizable version of embedding paid promotion into ordinary social life.

The number of freedoms left in the USA
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the specific concern as apathy rather than loss alone, arguing what's most disturbing isn't how many freedoms have already eroded in the US but how few people seem to register it happening at all.

The number of people who would rather drive 1/2 mile than take
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter contrasts current avoidance of short walks with human physiology directly, arguing a half-mile drive in place of a walk breaks a pattern of movement, bed to car to desk to car to couch, that people now try to undo artificially by chasing a ten-thousand-step count.

The stakes are so high for reproducing with the wrong person
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames reproductive choice of partner as consequential in a specific way, arguing the real cost isn't discussed enough: the lasting damage to children raised by parents who visibly hate each other or simply don't care about them.

The stock market and how society ascribes value
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter questions the stock market's role in defining value specifically, arguing society has replaced philosophical discussion of what makes life meaningful with an unquestioned assumption that accumulating money is the only goal worth pursuing.

The suffering people cause to others in the name of profit, not
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames profit-driven harm as a shared root cause rather than two separate issues, linking suffering inflicted on animals to suffering inflicted on other humans under the same underlying greed.

The third world being imported and ruining western society, and everyone just
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry frames a specific demographic claim as broadly, uncritically accepted, describing global migration as harmful to western society and objecting to how readily that framing gets treated as self-evidently good.

The USD is basically worthless but we all pretend that it holds
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the US dollar's value as a shared fiction rather than a fact, arguing everyone transacts in it daily while collectively pretending it holds worth that, in their view, isn't really there.

They need to do a wider study, to really suss this one
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply calls for more rigorous evidence rather than accepting a nearby claim, arguing a wider study is needed before treating the finding as settled.

Toxic broken people being given or allowed to have positions of power
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about attraction rather than mere tolerance, arguing people with obvious personality disorders and antisocial tendencies don't just get overlooked for positions of power but are sometimes actively drawn to them.

Trans-national adoption
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames international adoption in the harshest available terms, calling it sanctioned child trafficking rather than a regulated humanitarian process.

Uncivil we have become with each other due the lack of tolerance
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter links two specific traits together as the cause of rising incivility, naming declining tolerance and growing entitlement as the pair driving what they call an astounding shift in how people treat each other.

Violent all media is now, and how people are completely unfazed by
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about audience reaction rather than content itself, describing extremely graphic, sadistic violence in modern media met with a flat, unbothered response instead of the shock it would once have provoked.

We don’t own the media that we purchase, but not just the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific worry extends beyond lost access to active alteration, citing shows already scrubbed from every digital platform entirely and speculating that a future authoritarian government could quietly edit old broadcasts, books, and songs, comparing the scenario to how PRISM and MK-ULTRA were once dismissed as paranoid before being confirmed.

We use land the size of china, usa, eu and australia to
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter backs an anti-meat argument with a dense stack of specific figures: land the size of several major countries combined, sixty percent of mammalian biomass being cows and pigs, roughly ninety billion land animals killed annually, and emissions from the practice exceeding the entire transportation sector.

Yep, I agree it's a sensible option
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter agrees with a prior suggestion only partially, calling it sensible but just one option among many, and adding that biological urges will drive people to act on them regardless of practicality.

Youtubers are all copying each other in
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter itemizes a specific list of homogenized YouTuber traits, shared looks, clothing, speech patterns, hand gestures, topics, and camera distance, arguing genuine originality has become rare across the platform.

40,000 Americans die every year in car accidents and society shrugs if
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter contrasts two specific categories of transportation death by media reaction rather than raw numbers, noting forty thousand annual US car deaths draw a shrug while a single train derailment or plane crash becomes national headline news demanding answers.

99
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply rejects a proposed bidet-based fix with a blunt statistic, arguing the near-total absence of bidets in the toilets people actually encounter makes a single bidet an inadequate solution to whatever hygiene problem it was meant to solve.

> Rituals precede (almost) all of these Obviously, because we were ignorant
1 source record

What the pattern means: This exchange is a nested rebuttal rather than a single claim, arguing that rituals once served a real if misguided purpose, that treating personal freedom as the modern justification is itself a recent invention, and ending with a pointed aside about a mother-in-law who wouldn't accept that reasoning anyway.

>If people don't do the test
1 source record

What the pattern means: This exchange debates a specific parenting-competency proposal point by point, weighing state visits and possible child removal for failing a hypothetical test against the existing reality that Child Protective Services already exists but serves only a small fraction of the families who might need it.

>Why not require proof of baseline appropriate caretaking
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply questions a proposed caretaking-proof requirement on practical grounds, asking who social programs are actually meant to serve if not the people judged unqualified, while describing firsthand memories of childhood neglect that community involvement, not new paperwork, might have addressed.

["So you guys ever eat cheese
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry links to outside material questioning the nature of cheese itself, framed as a rhetorical, almost philosophical aside rather than a direct complaint in the supporting record.

\> And in order to get oil we must subject other countries
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply challenges a claim about violence tied to oil extraction with direct confusion, asking the original commenter to clarify what they're even referring to.

\> enjoying seeing someone getting psychologically tortured is sick \> I can
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter rejects a stated preference as internally inconsistent, arguing that enjoying tense drama isn't the same as enjoying psychological torture, and comparing it to how audiences react in horror to a violent scene rather than cheering it on.

A few years ago, when "Karen" was getting thrown around a lot
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues the word Karen functioned as a socially acceptable stand-in for a gendered slur, aimed at any woman who spoke up in a way a crowd disliked, and describes repeatedly being met with denial when raising the point on Reddit.

A large amount of people are really happy to and look for
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about a search for loopholes rather than crime itself, arguing many people actively look for ways to commit genuinely horrific acts that still fall within socially acceptable bounds.

A large self-hosted storage cluster
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter answers the platform-lock complaint with brute-force infrastructure, casually noting they run a fifty-terabyte self-hosted storage cluster as their own workaround.

A music library inaccessible after email-account deletion
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes a specific access failure years in the making: an iPod-era iTunes library tied to an email account that got deleted after fifteen years, leaving a purchased music collection technically owned but functionally unreachable with no clear recovery path.

A shared ripped-movie library with physical backups
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes a deliberate belt-and-suspenders media strategy: a friend rips their shared physical movie collection to a cloud database both of them can access, keeping the original discs specifically as a backup against a future where digital-only access becomes the only option left.

Accepting the average person is of the middle class being systematically destroyed
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific concern is about resignation rather than the trend itself, arguing what troubles them most is how calmly the average person accepts the middle class being systematically dismantled.

Acrylic nails
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific correlation between decoration level and discomfort, saying the more elaborately decorated acrylic nails get, the worse she finds them, speaking as someone married more than four decades to a self-described granola girl.

After being widowed twice and married for 47 years of life and
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames their observation with specific personal authority, having been widowed twice across forty-seven years of marriage, watching how sexual norms have shifted across that entire span rather than commenting on a single generation.

American life being an endless push to be Top Rodent in the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames competitive pressure as starting dramatically earlier than their own experience, recalling high school already feeling exhausting and calling it specifically horrific that the same competitive push now reaches children in preschool.

Americans that can claim foreign citizenship because a paternal grandfather was born
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter picks apart a specific citizenship claim with an absurd extension of its own logic, using a single Polish great-grandfather as the example and escalating to a joking claim on Mongolian citizenship via Genghis Khan to argue nationality shouldn't be collected like trading cards.

An artist promising lifetime copies to buyers
1 source record

What the pattern means: One independent artist makes a specific, personal ownership promise to buyers directly: lifetime replacement copies of any song purchased from them, even if that eventually means falling back to cassette tape to deliver on it.

What commenters described: I'll always provide you with copies FOREVER.

And I care because
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply refuses to do the other person's reading for them, asking why they should care and declining to summarize a linked source the other commenter is free to read themselves.

And they all congregated in this thread
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a wry observation about the thread's own composition, noting how a specific group of like-minded commenters all ended up congregating in the same discussion.

Anthropocentric land use
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific example of land-use priority, bulldozing existing woods to build a strip mall, as evidence that human convenience routinely overrides any other consideration.

Any meat industry
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames industrial meat production in the starkest available terms, describing animals raised in what they call concentration camps and killed by the millions daily, calling the normalized scale of it a form of perpetual, genocidal suffering.

As a man with tiny bottle rockets in the center console of
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter self-identifies with a specific habit as evidence for a nearby claim, admitting he keeps small fireworks in his truck's center console and doesn't feel any occasion is needed to set them off.

As a man, the shitastic reactions to a girl getting her first
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, speaking specifically as a man, admits genuine surprise at how poorly other men react to a girl getting her first period, saying he'd had no idea how bad those reactions could be until encountering this thread.

As a pharmacist the amount of people diagnosed with adhd and now
1 source record

What the pattern means: A pharmacist backs the ADHD-medication concern with a specific inventory figure, saying their pharmacy alone sold over twenty thousand generic Adderall tablets and capsules in a single month, enough to get flagged by their distributor, on top of other stimulants like methylphenidate and lisdexamfetamine.

At some point in the last couple of years most drivers making
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific observation is about the speed of the shift rather than the behavior itself, noting most drivers turning onto multi-lane roads recently started drifting into the middle before picking a lane, a change nobody coordinated or announced yet that spread across a whole population anyway.

Because I couldn't have said it better myself
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reaches for a specific Aldous Huxley passage rather than their own words, quoting his description of people so perfectly adjusted to an abnormal society that their silence and lack of struggle gets mistaken for mental health rather than recognized as its own form of sickness.

Being 'nice' to everyone
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames reflexive niceness through a specific nonviolent-communication lens, arguing that being nice to everyone amounts to taking responsibility for other people's feelings, something they consider simply not achievable.

Being expected to be reachable at all times
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry compresses the reachability complaint into a single before-and-after line, describing a phone that used to be a convenience now functioning as a device whose silence gets treated as a personal offense.

Being so obsessed with money
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames money obsession as a question of an undefined ceiling rather than need itself, acknowledging a baseline amount is necessary to live but asking where exactly enough is supposed to become enough.

Blew chew gold
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a specific libido supplement brand as manufactured anxiety rather than a genuine solution, questioning why a normal ebb and flow in sex drive needs chemical alteration at all, and speculating the entire push is a deliberate effort by the wealthy to raise birth rates.

Books versus textless games and low-quality video
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter contrasts their own childhood habit of reading constantly, at lunch, recess, and the dinner table, with what they see replacing it now, describing textless games and what they call brain-rot video as a downgrade even from an admittedly abnormal reading obsession.

Buffets
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific discomfort with buffets is procedural rather than general, listing shared utensils falling into food and being reused, and children touching serving dishes, as the concrete chain of contact that makes the format feel unsanitary to them.

But abstinence is actually a sensible option until one is with someone
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply defends abstinence with a specific narrower scope than the blanket recommendation usually implies, framing it only as sensible until someone is with a partner they'd actually want to have children with.

But we are communists here in Europe, right
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a wry, rhetorical question aimed at a nearby claim, but we are communists here in Europe right, treating the label itself as the punchline.

Campaign finance, even for candidates I like
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out campaign finance as troubling even when it benefits candidates they personally support, calling the system reprehensible regardless of whose side it helps.

Canadian/Ontario resident here
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter identifying themselves as an Ontario resident links four specific local grievances together: tax-driven cuts exposing children to violence, gentle parenting used to excuse it, education dismantled for future privatization, and the resulting mental health crisis.

Caregiver burnout followed by executor call pressure
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates the second half of one commenter's caregiving story on its own: after months of exhausting round-the-clock care for a grandmother ended in relief at her passing, becoming executor of her estate replaced it with a retired uncle who calls constantly and grows agitated over any delay in a callback.

Cars, especially for commuting
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes commuter car use through a public-health lens rather than a transportation one, arguing that if cars were classified as a disease, they'd warrant a dedicated war the way cancer does, given no other transit mode kills, maims, or costs more.

Certain sports fans
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is proportionality, noting how disproportionately angry and riotous some sports fans get over outcomes that have no actual bearing on their own lives.

Chemistry and trees, how are people so calm about trees
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames trees themselves as somehow chemically alarming, expressing genuine confusion at how casually everyone else regards them without further specifying what about tree chemistry unsettles them.

Common personality disorders are and how they just roam free and unchecked
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about detection timing rather than prevalence, arguing common personality disorders go unchecked and unnoticed until the person affected has already killed multiple people.

Compassionate tech support building user confidence
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates the IT worker's full anecdote on its own: treating an employee's tech panic as a reasonable reaction rather than stupidity let her finish a phone-email setup on her own the next time it came up, with her supervisor asking what the secret was afterward.

What commenters described: I simply treated them as a human being who doesn't know everything.

Constant eye contact
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names sustained eye contact specifically as uncomfortable, saying she needs the other person to look away periodically or the interaction starts to feel simply strange.

Could be worse, it could be blood sausage instead
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply offers grim relative comfort rather than disagreement, noting whatever food product is under discussion could be worse, comparing it favorably to blood sausage.

Cows are adult females that have given birth to a calf and
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter corrects a specific terminology error rather than making a new claim, clarifying that cow refers to an adult female that has given birth, not a species or an age category, and that the word for a young one is calf.

Crabs are just gigantic spiders that can swim
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes crabs with a deliberately unsettling biological comparison, describing them as essentially giant spiders that happen to swim.

Despite knowing a root of a problem, we as a species would
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a general pattern rather than a specific issue, arguing people consistently prefer inventing many workarounds for a problem's symptoms over addressing its identified root cause directly.

Devices making users captive to others' priorities
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a single compact line from the reachability discussion elsewhere in this dataset: that personal devices leave their owners captive to other people's priorities rather than their own.

Diaper commercials
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific objection is to the choreography in diaper advertising, describing toddlers directed into overtly sexualized dance moves and arguing the entire campaign style needs rethinking.

Ditto for the Little Mermaid
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter extends a media-messaging critique to a specific Disney film, arguing The Little Mermaid normalizes giving up one's family and identity entirely for a man's love the same way a nearby example does.

Do you actually believe that any scene, as long as it's not
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply questions the premise of a nearby claim about audience intent, asking whether every non-historical scene in a movie or show can really be assumed to exist purely for the audience's personal enjoyment.

Door dash/uber eats etc
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific exception into their complaint about delivery apps, allowing genuine hardship, an exhausted single parent who can't leave a child alone again, while arguing most users are simply paying a premium to eat lukewarm food later and still do their own dishes.

Driving everywhere
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames routine driving as a resource-waste problem specifically, questioning why moving tons of vehicle weight over long daily distances for work, errands, or hobbies gets treated as an unremarkable default.

DRM-free media as durable digital ownership
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter corrects a blanket claim about digital ownership with a specific technical distinction: enforceable terms of service require DRM, and most music today sells as DRM-free MP3, FLAC, or WAV, meaning a downloaded file can't actually be revoked once it's in the buyer's hands.

What commenters described: If I've downloaded it, there's nothing they can do to remove it.

Ducking doing harm to others,, I mean weekly meetings to come up
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific workplace ritual rather than harm in the abstract, recalling recurring meetings whose real purpose was plotting to undermine a coworker's livelihood while treating the scheme as a joke.

Earning a living, like, I didn't choose to be here and the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames working for a living as a form of captivity rather than choice, pointing out they never consented to being born and that leaving the system entirely, not just changing jobs, is against the law.

Egomaniacal narcissism
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames narcissism as a structural product rather than an individual flaw, arguing American society and culture actively breeds the mental illness into its population in a way that risks rapid collapse.

ELF ON THE SHELF
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific objection to Elf on the Shelf is the internal contradiction it teaches, describing a toy framed as a surveillance threat against misbehaving kids that then gets celebrated for secretly moving around the house at night with no consequences of its own.

Especially since it existed since the 13th century BCE at the earliest
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter backs an antisemitism-is-ancient argument with a specific historical citation, dating hostility toward Israel back to at least the thirteenth century BCE and the Merneptah Stele's own call to destroy it.

Everyone is not cool with it
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter rejects a claim of general acceptance directly, arguing reactions to a specific accused public figure split sharply between deep hatred and outright denial, with no middle ground of casual comfort in between.

Expensive “cheap” snacks are wtf
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is the contradiction in the phrase itself, questioning how snacks marketed and perceived as cheap can cost as much as they now do.

For many in the US, our cities are not built for us
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames American urban design as fundamentally exclusionary rather than merely car-centric, arguing cities built around vehicles rather than pedestrians function as a forced purchase that manufacturers profit from regardless of environmental or community cost.

Funny enough we are reluctant to embrace the best driving aid, self
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter identifies a specific contradiction in public attitudes toward automation, noting people say they dream of self-driving cars yet current law still requires hands on the wheel, a middle ground the commenter admits they personally dislike.

German Media is supporting right wing narratives and calls it ‘neutral’
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter links several unrelated German-context grievances together under one banner: media bias framed as neutrality, aggressive jockeying for position in shared public spaces like trains, and parents distracted by phones or handing tablets to children instead of engaging with them.

Had to sort by controversial to find this
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes actively resorting to sorting by controversial specifically to surface an opinion that wouldn't otherwise rise to the top of the thread.

Handshaking
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection to handshaking is visceral rather than practical, stating outright a preference to never touch another person through that particular greeting again.

Have you been outside
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a bleak outlook as a rational response to current events rather than pessimism, listing basic exposure to the news and to people outside one's immediate circle as enough on their own to make the world feel like it's approaching a third world war.

Hello Kitty
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's discomfort with Hello Kitty is specifically about her mouthlessness, saying the character's blank face immediately calls to mind a well-known horror story title rather than anything cute.

Hi I'm the person you're talking about, do you have any questions
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a direct, first-person intervention rather than outside commentary, with someone identifying themselves as the actual subject of the thread's discussion and offering to answer questions to help others understand their perspective.

Hmm, it seems weird how people in public spaces do not interact
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter admits their own contribution to the pattern they're describing, preferring to check a transit app rather than ask a stranger for bus timing, and noting how normal that instinct feels until it becomes a real obstacle, like being too uncomfortable to ask someone to respect a shared reservation.

Honestly
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter declines to single out one example at all, instead naming almost the entire range of what counts as normal in modern society as the object of their disturbance.

Honestly, I know it's incredibly rude to say and I'm not against
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names organ and tissue transplantation as their specific discomfort, describing a personal fear of ever needing a skin graft and having to think of their own reconstructed face as literally made from a dead stranger's tissue.

Hormone blockers absolutely do cause permanent changes
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply pushes back hard on a claim minimizing puberty blockers' effects, insisting they do cause permanent changes and citing elevated suicide rates among transitioning minors as supporting data.

Human growth has become more important then human experience
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a specific inversion as the problem, arguing that pursuing personal growth and self-improvement has come to matter more than simply experiencing life as it happens.

Hundreds of millions of people were doing this activity/hobby safely, but one
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames safety regulation as overcorrection rather than protection, arguing a single injury among hundreds of millions of safe participants shouldn't be enough to get an entire activity banned.

Hunting
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific line within hunting itself, saying they can understand killing for food but object to hunting purely for sport when the end result is a wall-mounted trophy.

I always get a chill down my spine when I watch people
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes an oddly specific physical unease with an ordinary action, watching someone grip, twist, and flick a banana peel open in one motion, saying the movement looks like sleight of hand that everyone else treats as unremarkable kitchen competence.

I am a strate man and love givving head
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames reciprocity in oral sex as a straightforward fairness principle, arguing a husband receiving it from his wife should be expected to return the favor.

I can somewhat understand it, but look what kind of a horrible
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter partially concedes a nearby point while redirecting concern toward outcomes, asking what kind of life awaits children in the system who never get adopted at all.

I have a feeling searching by most controversial will give me the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter predicts, rather than states, that switching a thread's sort order to most controversial will surface the actual honest answers being buried by the default ranking.

I have the fond memories but I use the harsh memories of
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific personal strategy for maintaining sobriety, deliberately holding onto the harshest memories from the final two years of a habit rather than the fonder ones, to keep from relapsing.

I just saw my first Ozempic street deal
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter marks a specific personal first, witnessing an Ozempic deal being conducted on the street, as evidence the drug has crossed into an entirely new, illicit distribution channel.

I just walked in to a bar in Gothenburg and guess what
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes an unexpectedly emotional coincidence, walking into a bar in Gothenburg to hear a specific song playing right after reading someone else's grief-related comment, and thanks that stranger for giving them an unexpected sense of closure.

I know you're trying to proselytize me into veganism, I tried
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter pushes back on a perceived attempt to convert them to veganism, stating plainly that they already tried it and it simply didn't work for them.

I mean could be BUT I’ve had this conversation with multiple people
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter backs a claim about excessive staring with an informal survey of their own, saying repeated conversations with multiple people convinced them roughly half the population has a staring problem once you start actively noticing it.

I never said you cared bro
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply clarifies its own earlier jab, saying it was never about whether the other person cared, just that posting a bare Wikipedia link instead of an actual opinion struck them as funny.

I never thought about this until I was older, but I could
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a realization about birthday candles they can't undo now that they've had it, saying they've since switched to donuts or cupcakes specifically to avoid the part of the tradition that now bothers them.

I personally find our entire societal structure and way of life to
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter declines to name a single practice, instead identifying the entire structure of society and way of life as what they personally find deeply disturbing.

I see your point but what immediately came to mind was pumped
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter admits their own reaction undercuts the point they're trying to make, laughing involuntarily at a specific dark musical reference even while agreeing it's hard to imagine anyone genuinely feeling positive emotions about the subject.

I tried to watch it when it was really popular and I
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes trying and failing to get through a specific piece of media at the height of its popularity, saying the fact that so many other people enjoyed it was itself what disturbed them.

I'm fairly certain (because this was a huge criticism of it I
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter corrects a claim about GMO crop sterility, arguing that durability in modified crops is a genuine benefit and that the real problem lies specifically with the pesticide regulations allowed around them, not with genetic modification itself.

I'm just answering the question posed by OP
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a personal grooming preference as simply one valid answer among many to the thread's original question, stating a specific dislike for completely bare genitals and pushing back on other commenters reacting defensively to that opinion.

If it's a historical event, historical realities must be presented
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific line for on-screen sexual violence based on genre, arguing historical fiction must reflect historical reality but that invented rape scenes in pure fiction exist for audience entertainment, and cites a scene the Game of Thrones showrunners added that the original novelist himself objected to.

If you haven’t noticed just how prevalent it is you probably just
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues a practice's ubiquity is itself the reason people stop noticing it, calling it something that has come to essentially define immature humor without most people registering how often it appears.

Ignorance and always believing you’re right
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter pairs ignorance with unshakeable self-certainty as the more dangerous combination, invoking an unattributed line about how the most frightening kind of person is the one convinced their intentions are good.

Im not sure if Im on board with fully self driving cars
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes genuine, active ambivalence rather than a settled opinion, admitting to drafting and deleting three different replies about self-driving cars because the partial-automation middle ground specifically unsettles them.

Is total bollocks
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter corrects a fertility-related claim with a specific reversal, arguing scientists long blamed women's biological clocks for complications after thirty-five before more recently determining male fertility decline is actually the more significant factor.

It bothers me that a choice between two corruption clubs both sponsored
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about manufactured choice rather than politics generally, comparing two major parties both funded by overlapping corporate donors to professional wrestling's kayfabe, arguing fan intensity around the spectacle can exceed even actual WWE fandom.

It gets even worse when missionaries come up to you and say
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter recounts a specific irreverent pun used against religious proselytizing, describing missionaries approaching with a deliberately garbled phrase substituting cheese for Christ to mock the message being delivered.

It's called wokism and it means the opposite of how it is
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues a specific political label has been inverted from its original meaning, noting being awake used to read as positive before becoming an insult, and claims both political sides now apply the term selectively to whatever threatens their own interests.

It’s also crazy if you look into it tobacco/nicotine used to basically
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames tobacco's history as a deliberate corruption of tradition, arguing it was once passed down as a form of plant medicine before being adulterated with additives specifically to profit an emerging cancer-treatment industry.

Less than half the world I’d say, unless you only count the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter narrows a global caffeine-dependency claim to a more specific population, noting it applies to less than half the world once non-western countries are counted, while adding that habitual users stop getting any real alertness benefit and drink it just to reach a normal baseline.

Like fungi, always connected
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter closes out an emotionally warm exchange with a specific image of interconnectedness, comparing shared understanding to fungal networks and sending a personal, tender farewell to someone they were talking with about grief.

Living till old age, old people are often ill,brittle and miserable, and
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames longevity itself as a mixed outcome rather than an unambiguous good, describing elderly life as frequently defined by illness, frailty, and company they call tragic rather than something to unconditionally hope for.

Long ass car commutes
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific contrast in commute types, arguing a long solo car commute drains the soul for a paycheck in a way biking or public transit doesn't, since those alternatives at least allow some mental decompression along the way.

Long fake nails on girls
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes their discomfort with long fake nails as something that intensified specifically with age, rather than a fixed reaction they've always had.

Look I understand the ethics but by all metrics you have a
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply reframes a stated ethical position as a personal mental health concern instead, suggesting the person holding it should focus on treating what they consider a serious underlying problem rather than the ethics itself.

Loud births
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names loud, vocal childbirth specifically as her discomfort, describing being personally annoyed by a screaming woman in labor and delivery despite acknowledging, from her own third birth, that she understands why it happens.

Lowkey
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out the word lowkey specifically as a useful hedge, describing its appeal as a way to signal genuine care without sounding like you're trying too hard to show it.

Mascots
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter clarifies exactly what they mean by mascots, specifying the actual people wearing the costumed outfits rather than the characters or branding itself.

Maybe it's just people I ride with, but texting and driving, and
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter backs a driving-safety complaint with specific secondhand accounts, describing acquaintances who've casually admitted to driving woozy from medication, essentially blind without their glasses, and staring at a phone or console for several car-lengths at a time without looking up.

Meeting someone irl, then finding them on ig and following them when
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific boundary violation as creepy: tracking down and following someone romantically on Instagram after meeting them in person, when that person deliberately withheld their contact information in the first place.

Meta Glasses and the era of TT creators abusing people on the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter connects a specific product to a specific behavior pattern, arguing Meta smart glasses have enabled a wave of TikTok creators to accost strangers on city streets, making it hard to walk through a city center without being stopped multiple times by people filming content.

Minimal functioning mistaken for full capacity
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter identifies a specific misreading of disability and mental illness, arguing that being able to function at some level gets mistaken for having the same full ability and opportunity as everyone else, with those struggling just to meet a bare minimum then blamed for laziness instead.

Most daycares in America don’t require shoe removal or at least covering
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific concern is hygiene in infant care spaces, noting most American daycares don't require shoes to be removed or covered even in baby rooms where crawling infants regularly put toys and hands, and whatever's tracked in on shoe soles, directly into their mouths.

Much people are losing empathy, or how rampant ragebaiting is, especially among
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, speaking as a member of Gen Z themselves, names ragebaiting as specifically rampant within their own generation's culture, tying it directly to a broader erosion of empathy they've observed among peers.

No, you’re fine haha
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific emotional mechanism behind enjoying frightening content, recounting genuine relief after surviving a period of dread leading up to a loss, and comparing that same cathartic relief to safely experiencing fear through something scary that can't actually hurt you.

Not owning your car
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter lays out a specific financial alternative to leasing: buying a low-mileage three-year-old car, paying it off over three more years, and running it another six to ten years, arguing that beats perpetually re-leasing and works even better with an electric vehicle whose battery and motor should outlast a combustion engine with less servicing.

What commenters described: Cheaper than leasing a car then leasing another after 3 years rinse and repeat forever.

När man säger att man börjat gilla en artist och den andra
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, writing in Swedish, describes a specific social friction around music taste: mentioning a newly discovered artist prompts the other person to immediately interrogate them to prove they don't actually know enough about that artist to have earned the enthusiasm.

Oil
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames oil as an unavoidable moral compromise rather than a neutral resource, arguing modern life's entire structure depends on it while extracting it requires subjecting other countries to violence.

Owning favorite titles across each medium
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes a deliberate, almost archival collecting habit, keeping a physical copy of one favorite title per medium regardless of practicality, from a DVD set repurposed as a doorstop to a CD of an album they no longer own a player for, and a paperback that has somehow survived pets and a toddler untouched.

People are not freaked out that there is literally poo all through
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames ordinary bowel function as unsettling specifically because of its casual timing, pointing out people are quite literally carrying waste inside them and expelling it while simultaneously scrolling on their phones without a second thought.

People behave
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about conversational content rather than people themselves, describing typical small talk as mostly filler words and what they call useless noise rather than substantive exchange.

People doing FaceTime in an airport terminal when the plane was delayed
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific frustration is with FaceTiming loudly in a shared, captive waiting space, an airport terminal during a flight delay, treating it as behavior the person doing it clearly thinks is fine while everyone stuck nearby silently disagrees.

People going out in public underdressed, including people wearing pajamas in public
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter pairs two specific public-dress patterns as evidence of a broader shift, naming adults wearing pajamas outside the house alongside older adults dressing in styles the commenter associates with children.

People having terrible sleep schedules
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames poor sleep schedules as an underestimated harm rather than a personal quirk, arguing the effects reach further into daily functioning than most people give them credit for.

People lie ALL the time
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific shock is about the triviality of the lies people tell, citing something as inconsequential as a favorite color, arguing people lie reflexively just to dodge a lengthy conversation or a minor disagreement rather than for any real stake.

People putting 24/7 CCTV in their home, especially when it's a cloud
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific distinction within home security cameras, saying cloud-based systems bother them most but even local storage feels off once cameras cover more than entry points, and separately worries that constant monitoring erases small, harmless childhood memories like sneaking a midnight snack.

People who create cooking content while wearing rings
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter ties a specific cooking-content complaint back to formal food-safety training, arguing wearing rings while preparing food on camera violates a basic rule learned in home economics class, and refuses to support creators who ignore it.

People who primarily self-orient their emotions/empathy (i
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific, personally unsettling trait in a coworker: redirecting someone else's visible distress, like a partner crying in public, into a statement about their own discomfort with witnessing it.

Pleaser behavior
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes chronic people-pleasing as a concealment strategy rather than a personality trait, listing constant happiness, fawning, and apologizing as a mask that keeps anyone from ever seeing who the person actually is underneath.

Popping knuckles in public
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reacts to public knuckle-cracking with deliberately exaggerated language, calling it absolutely depraved behavior rather than a minor annoyance.

Real-estate cost and profit seeking as price drivers
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter traces a specific pricing complaint to two root causes rather than one, naming real estate cost structure alongside plain profit-seeking as the joint driver behind whatever expense is under discussion.

Reckless Ben asking the CEO guys to do the chicken dance… just
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific unease is with a corporate power display, describing an executive directing other CEOs to perform a chicken dance and comparing the scene's tone directly to an episode of Black Mirror.

Replace all zoos with sanctuaries
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter proposes a specific structural fix rather than abolishing captive-animal viewing outright, suggesting zoos be converted into sanctuaries instead.

Replying 'you too' when the waiter says, 'Enjoy your meal
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out a specific scripted exchange as oddly automatic, noting people reflexively answer a waiter's enjoy your meal with you too, a reply that only makes sense if the waiter is also about to eat.

Revealing clothes for young girls like bikinis, crop tops, etc
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter grounds a complaint about sexualized girls' clothing in a specific shopping workaround, saying she buys her daughters' swimwear from the boys' section because the girls' section is dominated by bikinis that aren't sun-safe, and cites concerns about strangers filming young children as part of her reasoning.

Sausages
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's discomfort with sausages is specifically procedural, describing the process of grinding an animal and stuffing the result back into its own intestine casing as something that reads to them like a serial killer's fantasy rather than a neutral cooking method.

Self testing for cervical cancer (so much could go wrong)
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific worry about self-administered cervical cancer swab testing is procedural error, framing the at-home method itself as risky because of how easily it could go wrong without professional oversight.

Silence and complacency
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames silent bystanders as complicit rather than neutral, arguing that witnessing physical, psychological, financial, or emotional abuse and saying nothing functions as tacit permission for it to continue.

Slow drivers in the left lane
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific frustration is with slow drivers occupying the passing lane, questioning outright whether they're distracted, impaired, or otherwise unfit to be driving at all.

Some of my local funeral homes offer ambulance service
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter imagines a darkly comic scenario behind a specific local business detail, funeral homes that also offer ambulance service, picturing them driving deliberately slowly and treating a failed resuscitation attempt as a smooth handoff straight into their own morgue.

Sony removing purchased movies and a rumored digital-only console
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter cites two concrete pieces of evidence for eroding game and media ownership at once: Sony actually removing already-purchased movies from customer libraries, and a persistent rumor that the company's next console will ship digital-only with no disc drive at all.

Sorry but having read the part about the Handmaids Tale, the author
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter rejects a specific critique of The Handmaid's Tale as internally inconsistent, arguing depicting an atrocity in fiction isn't the same as endorsing it, and pointing out the same critic doesn't apply that logic to films depicting Nazi war crimes.

Speak for yourself man I’m not going to the Wikipedia page for
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply pushes back on being told to read background material, insisting they won't be clicking through to a Wikipedia page just to satisfy someone else's argument.

Squids have beaks
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out squid anatomy specifically, finding the simple fact that squids possess beaks unexpectedly unsettling on its own.

Steroids
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames steroid use among teenagers as an escalating crisis rather than a niche gym subculture, describing kids not yet out of high school chasing a physique like a famous bodybuilder's while openly aiming to look that way before thirty, reinforced by online body-standard pressure that keeps most from seeking help until it's too late.

Sugar and cream filled coffee beverages as Starbucks and the like
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues sugar-and-cream coffee drinks from chains like Starbucks deserve the same occasional-treat framing already applied to fast food, chips, or ice cream, rather than being treated as a routine daily beverage.

Sure
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter qualifies their agreement with a specific caveat, saying whether a dark song produces an enjoyable creepy chill or something worse depends entirely on the particular song, comparing the sensation to watching a scary movie.

Sure, a head nod is similar to bowing
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter accepts a narrower, watered-down version of a proposed social gesture, agreeing a simple head nod, rather than a full bow, would be fine with them.

Surrogacy, i hate it, and i secretly find it deeply creepy, but
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter admits an internal contradiction rather than a settled position, saying they secretly find surrogacy deeply creepy even while recognizing it's broadly treated as an unremarkable, normal practice.

Talking shit about your spouse behind their back
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter distinguishes venting from betrayal specifically, describing sharing a spouse's confided information after being explicitly asked not to as a form of cowardice dressed up as empowerment rather than the harmless complaint it's often treated as.

Technical reachability mistaken for moral obligation
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a single compact insight from the reachability discussion elsewhere in this dataset: that smartphones create a feeling of constant availability, and society has mistaken that mere technical possibility for an actual moral obligation to respond.

Terem aprovado as bets no Brasil e agora aparece uma penca de
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, writing in Portuguese, connects a specific regulatory change to its aftermath, saying that once sports betting was legalized in Brazil, betting advertisements flooded in as though normal, calling the shift genuinely frightening.

The bio industry
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names factory farming's density specifically as unnatural, citing two hundred thousand animals confined to a single barn or pond with barely room to move, and arguing most people avoid thinking about the resulting suffering because it's simply unpleasant to consider.

The constant fascination with…yourself
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter links self-focus, low critical thinking, and declining empathy together as one interconnected pattern, citing context-free close-up selfies and easy susceptibility to pseudoscience and misinformation as symptoms of the same underlying shift toward self-obsession.

The erosion of the middle class, and removal of taxes on the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter links two specific economic trends together as cause and effect, tying the erosion of the middle class directly to roughly fifty years of declining taxation on wealthy individuals.

The over-reliance on caffeine for everyday functioning
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter backs a caffeine-dependency complaint with a specific personal data point, noting coworkers who drink at least 160 milligrams daily insist they couldn't function without it, and describing the surprised pushback they get from colleagues whenever they admit to skipping caffeine even while tired.

The realization that America has been a lot closer to being a
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a specific personal realization as unsettling in itself, describing having come to believe America has been far closer to functioning as a fascist state throughout their entire lifetime than they ever previously considered possible.

The reptile industry can be really dark
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim about the exotic reptile trade is about visibility rather than scale, arguing poor breeder conditions go unchallenged specifically because reptiles can't display distress the way mammals can, making their suffering easier to overlook.

The rigidity and conformism of younger Gen Z
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames younger Gen Z's specific worldview as rigidly binary, describing a generation that treats every situation as strictly right or wrong with little tolerance for ambiguity in between.

The same questions are being asked over and over again on r/Askreddit
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about repetition for engagement, arguing the same questions keep resurfacing on r/AskReddit purely so someone can farm upvotes from a recycled prompt.

The slow but inexorable decline in public vocabulary, people (in general) are
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, describing themselves as deliberately verbose, frames shrinking public vocabulary as a slow erosion of nuance rather than mere simplification, half-joking that language could eventually collapse toward caveman-like grunts, though not within their own lifetime.

The statist believe that you have the right to use threats of
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames statism itself as resting on a specific claim of legitimized coercion, arguing its adherents believe the state has a right to threaten violence to compel compliance that no individual would otherwise be granted.

The the lines representing strength of economy and quality of life are
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific claim is about a statistical divergence, arguing that lines meant to track economic strength and quality of life have broadly stopped moving together at all.

The worst is when someone texts, and if you respond, they call
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific behavioral fix rather than continued frustration, saying they used to feel obligated to pick up when a text reply triggered an immediate follow-up call, but now let it go straight to voicemail instead.

What commenters described: I used to feel like I had to answer, but no more, straight to vm.

There cant be number two
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter makes a specific mathematical claim about the number two's nonexistence, arguing between one and the number that follows it, an infinite string of nines intervenes.

This is natural
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply defends meat-eating as simply natural, pointing out predatory animals eat meat routinely and that plants were also once living organisms before harvest, arguing heavy processing and cooking already separate the final product from its origin regardless.

This is one of those, “sort by controversial,” threads
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is meta-commentary on thread behavior itself, identifying this specific discussion as the kind where sorting by controversial reveals more honest answers than the default view.

Those interviews where they ask celebs to read thirsty tweets about them
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific objection is to a recurring interview format, celebrities being handed and made to read aloud sexually explicit tweets about themselves on camera, which they compare directly to a form of sexual harassment rather than harmless promotional content.

Threats over a ten-minute text delay
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a single alarming red flag from the reachability discussion elsewhere in this dataset on its own: people who have threatened to end the commenter's life over a text left unanswered for as little as ten minutes.

Throwing the N4zi word around for the tamest offenses
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific complaint is about rhetorical inflation, arguing a specific historical slur gets applied to comparatively minor offenses, diluting its actual weight.

To some people brutality of a setting is a quality, to some
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter maps their own tolerance for on-screen brutality unevenly across specific titles, enjoying The Thing and Event Horizon while finding The Boys distasteful, concluding the acceptable line is simply a matter of individual taste rather than a fixed rule.

Trunk -or- treat
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames trunk-or-treat as a direct contradiction of standard childhood safety rules, listing don't take candy from strangers, don't approach cars, and don't accept offers of something waiting inside a vehicle as instructions parents reverse for one night every October.

Uh huh, and the outcome of the revolution in Russia and China
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply challenges an implied hope for revolution with specific historical counterexamples, asking pointedly what about the outcomes of the Russian and Chinese revolutions should inspire any optimism.

Urinals, especially near big mirrors over sinks
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific discomfort with urinal layout is proximity and sightlines, questioning why urinals are positioned close enough to be seen and why a mirror over an adjacent sink can end up reflecting someone using one.

Vegans don't eat meat
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter offers a joking, unverified suspicion rather than a serious claim, speculating that self-identified vegans quietly eat meat late at night when nobody else is watching.

We are not "holocausting livestock" , you cheapen a real tragedy and
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply firmly rejects a specific comparison as offensive rather than merely inaccurate, arguing that describing livestock farming with Holocaust terminology cheapens the actual historical atrocity by equating murdered people with cattle.

We can’t block emoji reactions on texts, especially in group chats
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's specific frustration is with a missing feature rather than the interaction itself, wishing there were a way to block emoji reactions on texts, especially inside group chats where they multiply fastest.

We interact with each other publicly
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names several specific behaviors as one reinforced pattern rather than isolated incidents, listing online cruelty, service workers ghosting customers, manufactured sob stories, and competitive rather than cooperative driving, and admits they don't see an obvious way to break the cycle since all of it keeps working.

We just hand over our faces for a quick coffee, and call
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames facial-recognition payment specifically as an unexamined trade, describing handing over one's face for something as minor as a quick coffee purchase and calling it convenience without anyone really thinking through the exchange.

We just let random strangers drive 2 ton metal boxes at 60mph
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames ordinary road trust in stark terms, describing strangers piloting two-ton vehicles at highway speed while visibly looking at their phones, and questioning why everyone simply trusts that arrangement not to get them killed.

Well said, metaglypto
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter draws on thirty years in human services to back a relationship-red-flags discussion, recalling a coworker's memorable line that some clients don't have children because they want them, and hoping a grandson eventually recognizes similarly unstable partners as warning signs rather than projects to fix.

What about just a head nod and "hey bro" or "hey sis
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply proposes a specific casual alternative to the bowing-and-curtsying suggestion raised elsewhere in this dataset, offering a head nod paired with a simple hey bro or hey sis instead.

Where do you live that this middle class (can you define it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply challenges a claim about middle-class destruction on two specific fronts at once, asking both where the commenter lives and how they're even defining middle class in the first place.

Where do you live that you see growing acceptance of communism
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply challenges a claim about growing communist sentiment with a direct location question, asking where specifically the original commenter is seeing that acceptance take hold.

Why can't you answer them
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply presses for a direct answer rather than accepting deflection, insisting the other person's own stated belief system is specifically what they're curious about and asking why it can't be explained plainly.

Why do I have to justify it
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter defends their own answer to the thread's prompt directly, quoting the original question back and arguing they owe no justification beyond finding a specific germ-spreading practice disgusting.

You are 3 days away from anarchy at any point in time
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames modern stability as fragile rather than secure, arguing society sits perpetually three days from anarchy, since disrupting the grocery supply chain alone would be enough to unravel it.

You mean misanthropy or hating specific individuals/groups
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply asks for a specific definitional clarification, questioning whether a stated dislike of people actually means misanthropy broadly or hostility toward particular individuals and groups instead.

You should try to overcome your aversion to eating meat for your
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply reframes a stated aversion to eating meat as a psychological issue to work through, suggesting the person overcome it specifically for their own mental wellbeing rather than treating the aversion as a valid standalone choice.

Your wireless router can spy on your room
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter makes a specific technical surveillance claim, arguing a household's own wireless router can be repurposed like a sonar camera to sense activity within any room it reaches, regardless of an actual camera being present.

At least three times a day you decide that it's okay to
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a specific daily tally rather than a general accusation, arguing an average person decides at least three separate times a day that killing or hurting a living being for their own pleasure or convenience is acceptable.

Can't agree more
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter agrees emphatically with a nearby point about presence, adding that people over-emphasize accumulating memories at the direct expense of actually living inside the moments those memories come from.

Fixed-rate utility contracts versus seasonal usage
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates the fixed-rate mechanism itself as the fix worth naming: a flat-rate utility contract still produces a higher summer bill from heavier use, but the underlying per-unit rate never actually moves the way it would on a variable plan.

Limit: The saving only holds if the flat rate offered was competitive to begin with, since a fixed contract locked in at a bad rate protects a household from nothing.

Guy’s opinion here - I don’t see the particular attraction to a
1 source record

What the pattern means: One man's grooming preferences get itemized in specific, escalating detail: unshaven legs are a dealbreaker, armpit hair is a non-issue short of being uncontrolled, and pubic hair ranges from a full bush being fine to a shave only working if done well and recently, since regrowth reads as an unwelcome texture either way.

Hot tubs and swimming pools
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes shared hot tubs and pools with a deliberately unflattering comparison, describing communal water as functionally the same as bathing alongside a stranger.

I grew up with the idea of forgiveness
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter contrasts their own upbringing around forgiveness with what they see in younger peers who expect eternal punishment for any wrongdoing, and connects that same unforgiving, vindictive culture directly to the rise of right-wing leaders undermining democracy and targeting minorities.

Maybe not on paper but they're very closely related
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply concedes a technical distinction while insisting on a practical similarity, arguing two things may not be formally identical on paper but remain very closely related in practice.

Meat tastes good, get over it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply defends meat-eating bluntly rather than engaging the ethical argument, asserting it simply tastes good and pointing out that animals eat other animals too.

Teenagers having their genitals removed
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a specific age-based line on gender-affirming surgery, saying they don't personally object when adults choose it but call the same choice insanity for teenagers, arguing a forty-year-old bears little resemblance to who they were at sixteen.

The overwhelming majority of the world and literally the entire population until
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply counters a bidet-adoption argument with a specific historical population claim, noting virtually the entire world's population went without bidets until just a few decades ago, treating that near-universal precedent as evidence most people simply disagree with the premise.

The pop stars of today
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames current pop music imagery in the harshest available terms, describing it as thinly veiled sexual content aimed at a young audience that nobody in a position to stop it seems willing to address.

This is kinda niche, but I play Pokemon TCG
1 source record

What the pattern means: A returning trading-card player traces a specific generational shift in the hobby, recalling a pre-mat era of playing directly on bare fast-food tables after a shop closed, and rejecting the newer practice of double-sleeving cards as both needless and, in their words, physically repulsive for bloating a normal deck to the size of a much larger format.

Wrestling
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter distinguishes Olympic wrestling specifically from the WWE style of the sport, saying they're genuinely baffled that people enjoy watching or competing in the amateur athletic version at all.

Youth sports
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames organized youth sports in the starkest available terms, calling the entire institution a socially normalized form of child abuse rather than a beneficial extracurricular activity.

>because it is what he wants
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply dismantles a bathroom-policy argument point by point, questioning why a stated objector seems unconcerned about trans men entering men's spaces, arguing sex-assigned-at-birth rules would simply relocate the supposed problem rather than solve it, and asking how such a policy could even be enforced without invasive genital verification.

People spend days, weeks, months, *years* torturing themselves in a gym, shoving
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter builds a deliberately provocative analogy against gym culture, comparing years of weightlifting to impress a romantic interest to obsessive, borderline-stalker devotion, and predicts, correctly by their own framing, that disagreement will show up as silent downvotes rather than a counterargument.

I thought everyone showered at night until recently
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific, recently shattered assumption, having believed showering at night before bed was universal until learning some people go to sleep carrying the day's grime and shower only the following morning instead.

True
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames dairy production in deliberately harsh terms, describing cows as forcibly impregnated so their calves can be taken specifically to keep milk production going.

“Biological” isn’t quite the right word because that just means a living
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter corrects a specific terminology choice in a bathroom-access debate, arguing biological is imprecise since it just describes any living organism, and proposing cisgender as the more accurate word for what they believe most people actually mean when objecting to shared facilities.

Absolutely
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter agrees emphatically that many beauty standards are rooted in something troubling, recalling her own past effort to appear thin, small, and helpless, and expressing anger on behalf of young girls now facing the same pressure from a society and from men she says can't tolerate the reality of adult, aging women.

A long-form-reading and critical-thinking claim
3 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter claims studies show only sustained long-form reading builds critical thinking, ranking books above magazines above scattered internet text, but backs down to a much softer claim — any reading beats none — the moment a reply asks for a citation.

Highways, nobody thinks this way and maybe I'm too anxious but I
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter says driving on highways feels needlessly reckless in a way nobody else seems to acknowledge, pointing to semis and cars all moving at high speed as one small mistake away from killing everyone in the car.

Taking advantage of other people because you need something
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter who describes being 'counting change to buy ramen' poor insists they never scammed anyone despite real hardship, rejecting the idea that need excuses taking advantage of people and extending the point even to hypothetical billionaires.

People having the ability to know anything and everyone about their favorite
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter contrasts people's deep expertise in hobbies with willful disinterest in politics, warning that indifference doesn't protect anyone since 'politics cares about you' regardless of whether you return the attention.

So many people think that just because they don't understand something, it's
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter dismisses people who treat their own lack of understanding as proof something is unknowable, adding pointedly that these same people still vote.

The world/society circles the drain faster and closer each year and nobody
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes a creeping sense that society gets a little worse every year while nobody acts, framing the real disturbance as the collective shrug rather than any single failure.

Driving is kinda crazy if you think about it too much
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says ordinary driving becomes unnerving once you actually stop to think about it — trusting strangers moving multi-ton vehicles at highway speed to stay alert and react correctly every single time.

Essentially bare-handing still warm shit with a condom-thin layer of plastic bag
1 source record

What the pattern means: A pet owner describes the specific tactile discomfort of picking up still-warm waste through a bag thin enough to feel it, calling the daily routine simply 'bleh' rather than objectionable on principle.

Getting in a steel container and flinging yourself at 100km/h, passing within
1 source record

What the pattern means: A second, separate commenter lands on the same unease about ordinary driving, describing it bluntly as flinging yourself in a steel container within feet of oncoming steel containers at highway speed.

Nobody knows what to do with their hands while people sing "Happy
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter singles out not knowing what to do with your hands while people sing 'Happy Birthday' to you as a specific, universal 20 seconds of discomfort, half-jokingly calling it 'psychological warfare.'

People in a rush to do everything It's really not necessary
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief comment criticizes constant rushing through life as an unnecessary habit rather than a real requirement of modern living.

People only care about how they feel about things
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues that personal feelings have become the only thing anyone weighs before acting, mourning a lost willingness to set feelings aside for basic politeness.

People who assume things about you that aren’t true because you are
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes being quiet and having people invent false assumptions about them as a result, saying those assumptions actively make life harder rather than staying harmless.

Sitting on a public toilet seat without anything covering it
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter is specifically bothered by bare-skin contact with public toilet seats given visible splash risk, treating it as a hygiene line they won't cross.

There’s something pretty morose about how universally loved hot dogs are
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single line calls out something 'morose' about how universally beloved hot dogs are, leaving the actual reason for that unstated.

Those little water mushroom tree things get up and sway away that
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes being uniquely disturbed by aquarium 'water mushroom tree' decorations that sway and appear to move on their own, noting with some bafflement that nobody else in the thread seems bothered by it.

None of these are things “everyone else” accepts as normal
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter disputes that a list of practices counts as broadly 'normal,' volunteering half-jokingly that they'd personally like to see handshakes abolished from society.

People binging anything related to crime
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter finds the sheer volume of true-crime bingeing — killers, missing-persons cases, entire podcast genres built on it — flatly weird as a choice of entertainment.

Anonymous pay-it-forward giving
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is one of the few genuinely warm entries in the set — a London 'Blue Envelopes' trend where strangers left cash or gift cards for people to find, illustrated by the commenter's sister finding £100 on her bike and passing it along again rather than keeping it.

What commenters described: She was grateful and didn't need the money, so she regifted it to someone else.

Discomfort with furry fandom
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone embedded in the cosplay community singles out furries specifically, saying the fandom reads to them as uncomfortably close to bestiality. They add that this is an opinion they have to actively hide in several spaces rather than voice openly.

What commenters described: the whole thing is entirely too close to beastiality for my comfort.

This might ruffle some feathers, but, People getting out of saunas and
1 source record

What the pattern means: Swimmers who leave a sauna and jump straight into a pool without rinsing off first are the target of this entry, which has nothing to do with media ownership. The commenter calls it likely to 'ruffle some feathers' and recommends a cold shower before getting in.

What commenters described: People getting out of saunas and jumping straight into pools to cool off... wash/cool off in a cold shower!

Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
10 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters flinch at turning real death and staged suffering into consumable programming, from true-crime episodes packaged with commercial breaks to horror films built around watching someone tortured.

What commenters described: I find it absurd that someone's demise can be made into a stupid television narrative with interviews and commercials.

Limit: One reply pushes back that most true-crime viewers are drawn in by the forensics and psychology, not by enjoying the suffering itself.

Men dont wash there hands
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's disgust is procedural rather than abstract: men going through daily life without washing their hands, then reacting with offense when she flinches at being touched by them.

What commenters described: they walk around with shit and piss and ketchup all over them and then get mad when i recoil at their touch

Throwing parties or gatherings in apartment blocks
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a practical annoyance rather than a relationship one, parties held inside apartment buildings, worse when they run late into the evening.

The amount of people into murder podcasts or documentaries
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's confusion is specifically about the emotional register of true-crime media, finding it hard to understand what joy anyone takes from consuming real, horrific events as a podcast or documentary.

It apparently being acceptable to have more than 40'000 car-related deaths per
1 source record

What the pattern means: The comparison drawn is deliberately stark: roughly 40,000 annual US car deaths get treated as an unremarkable cost of normal life, while a disease outbreak killing the same number would be declared a national emergency.

What commenters described: If there was a disease outbreak causing the same deaths per year it would be declared a national emergency.

Everybody is getting so combative and belligerent about everything in recent years
1 source record

What the pattern means: This names a broad mood shift rather than one cause — a sense that public interactions have gotten more combative and belligerent in recent years — without pointing to a single trigger.

People driving poorly with other people in the car
1 source record

What the pattern means: Reckless driving with passengers in the car gets described as something treated as unremarkable across much of Europe, folded into a broader complaint about car dependence generally.

What commenters described: Seen as completely normal in large parts of Europe.

Walking around the house in your outdoor shoes
1 source record

What the pattern means: Wearing outdoor shoes around someone’s house is named as its own small transgression here, stated flatly with no further justification attached.

Being barefoot in another person's house
1 source record

What the pattern means: This takes the opposite side of the shoes debate elsewhere in the dataset, naming bare feet in someone else’s home as the actual offense, with a self-aware joke about the fixation.

What commenters described: Being barefoot in another person's house. Yes, I'm an alternate universe Quentin Tarantino.

It’s coherent, but maybe I should’ve narrowed the genre
1 source record

What the pattern means: A clarification narrows an earlier claim about horror movies specifically to torture-focused titles like Saw, Human Centipede, and Hostel, explicitly carving out a well-regarded film like Alien as a different category entirely.

What commenters described: I’m more thinking of movies like Saw, Human centipede, Hostel etc.

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

"I hate it when people make me feel stupid" "I hate having to acknowledge that someone from another country might actually be smarter than me"

source record 580♥ 0
Explicit limit or counterpoint

I have to use a seperate work phone that's basically a brick that does calls or texts unfortunately. My personal has call screening but that still gets blown up with work stuff too lol. I need to go do firewatch in Wyoming for a month with my dog or something once a year to cleanse my nerves or something.

source record 1010♥ 0

Source-record spotlights

Most engaged source

I honestly dont know what you're talking about, I'm gonna need to see some hunching women to tell if I even recognize it

source record 4553♥ 0
Later-arriving source

Downvoted by a bunch of people who don't work in a mostly Spanish occupied workspace. I usually just don headphones and ignore it, but these dudes get LOUD.

source record 4551♥ 0
Zero-like source

No one is saying bikes are dangerous. No one is getting arrested for loitering in parks.

source record 4539♥ 0

Related evidence elsewhere in the index

What the counts show

Across this category, the real split is in how much people explained themselves, not in what they named. Round 3's recategorization pulled most of the bare, one-word pet peeves that used to dominate this bucket (Grass, Handshakes, Mayonnaise) out into the dedicated Brief reactions and unelaborated mentions subcategory. This round's further review went back through what remained and pulled out most of the rest of the self-admitted bare fragments too (Antisemitism, Meat eating, Fascism and boot lickers, and roughly 120 more one- or two-word topic names with no elaboration in their own supporting record), so what remains here is now overwhelmingly entries that actually make a case rather than name-and-stop reactions. The items that do explain themselves converge on a strikingly narrow definition of normalized cruelty. It is rarely dramatic villainy; it is almost always a small, specific failure to honor a boundary someone already stated out loud — a child saying stop mid-tickle, a griever apologizing for a slow reply, a disabled wife's husband getting sympathy in the comments for leaving her, victims across very different contexts held to a higher standard of composure than the people who hurt them. A separate, sizable cluster of entries are live two-sided arguments rather than settled complaints, especially around restroom design, language-based prejudice, and meat-eating, where the record preserves genuine disagreement rather than consensus. This round also folded in a handful of stray one-liners that had been misfiled under Appearance, diet, and body expectations by loose keyword match, plus one item (people converging on the same handful of pet names, like Max and Millie) moved over from Brief reactions because its comment turned out to carry an actual, if minor, claim about social conformity rather than a bare mention.

590index entries
916distinct source records
72.5%of parent category
22%of the complete index
349top-level comments
567replies

How attention is distributed across the 590 index entries

497single-source entries (84.2% of 590)
960source-record references across the index
8%of references in the top three entries
Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure41 source records
Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit19 source records
Video calls in shared public spaces17 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

2explicitly reports a benefit
11explicitly reports a limit or failure
168asks a question
1says they intend to try it
734other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 590 index entries preserve 916 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Brief reactions and unelaborated mentions257 index entries · 267 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Brief reactions and unelaborated mentions

Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below.

Deification
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a single word, 'Deification,' with no parent comment or supporting text anywhere in the current record to say what person, belief, or practice it's about.

Get educated bro
2 source records

What the pattern means: The two records here are just banter -- 'Get educated bro' answered with a jab about the other commenter's avatar -- with no actual claim or complaint behind either line.

Abortion
4 source records

What the pattern means: All four responses collapse to the same single word, abortion, offering no elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about it troubles these commenters.

ITT
2 source records

What the pattern means: This entry is commentary on the thread itself rather than a distinct complaint, with one reply summarizing the whole exercise as everyone just listing things they personally dislike and calling it consensus.

The Epstein files
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both entries name the Epstein files specifically and nothing else, with the second phrased as a question rather than a statement, suggesting uncertainty about whether the topic even needs elaboration among readers.

Cheating
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both responses name cheating alone, with no elaboration in the supporting record on what form of it, romantic, academic, or otherwise, these commenters had in mind.

Game of thrones
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both entries name Game of Thrones alone without further detail in the supporting record, giving no indication of which specific aspect of the show these commenters found disturbing.

Life in general
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both entries here simply name life in general, without any elaboration in the supporting record on what specific part of it these commenters found disturbing.

What
2 source records

What the pattern means: A reply here criticizes the discussion's own low effort, saying that dropping a vague Wikipedia link instead of stating an actual argument just makes the person posting it look unserious.

Keeping fish in little tanks
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry states the objection plainly and briefly, calling small home fish tanks cruel, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on tank size, species, or care standard.

The lack of maternity leave in the US
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the lack of US maternity leave directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on personal experience or specific policy comparison.

Let's get this closer to the top
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is purely a request to boost the comment's visibility, with no additional content in the supporting record beyond asking other readers to upvote it toward the top.

Correction then
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word correction to a prior claim, replacing it with pay for it, with no further context in the supporting record about what specifically is being paid for.

People injecting botulism into themselves
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry states the practice plainly, injecting botulism into oneself, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on cosmetic context or dosage.

Windows 11
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Windows 11 alone, with no elaboration in the supporting record on which specific feature, requirement, or design choice prompted the objection.

Would love to
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word reply, would love to, with no further context in the supporting record about what request or suggestion it's responding to.

American life
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names American life in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which aspect of it the commenter finds disturbing.

Dangerous misinformation
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names dangerous misinformation in two words, with no elaboration in the supporting record on a specific claim, topic, or source the commenter had in mind.

No arrests or accountability from the Epstein files
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the absence of arrests or accountability tied to the Epstein files specifically, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond that observation.

So many people are following other people's lives on socials, while missing
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific substitution effect, that many people track others' lives on social media so closely it displaces living their own, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

The amount of money people spend on lotto tickets
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names lottery ticket spending in six words, with no elaboration in the supporting record on a specific dollar figure, personal story, or demographic the commenter had in mind.

The Epstein list
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the Epstein list in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the label itself.

The weaponization of therapy speak to cultivate hyper individualism
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific mechanism rather than therapy itself, describing therapeutic language being repurposed to justify hyper-individualism, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Cicumcision
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names circumcision in a single misspelled word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the label itself.

Homie wrote a book
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a three-word aside noting that a previous commenter wrote at unusual length, with no further content in the supporting record beyond that observation.

Mayonnaise
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names mayonnaise alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on texture, ingredients, or context for the discomfort.

Meat eating
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names meat eating alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which aspect of it, health, ethics, or environment, prompted the objection.

Not following speed limits while driving
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names failure to follow speed limits directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident, road type, or enforcement gap.

Surrogacy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names surrogacy in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Talking on speaker for everyone to hear conversation
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names speakerphone conversations in public directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

This fucking presidency
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific US presidency with a single expletive attached, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which policy or action prompted it.

Tolerance of evil
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names tolerance of evil in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident or example.

You sound like a comic book supervillain
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a single-line reaction, calling a previous commenter's stated position sound like something out of a comic book, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

You're not too smart eh
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short, dismissive jab, you're not too smart eh, with no further elaboration in the supporting record about what claim it's responding to.

Canada
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply reduces a claim about Canada to a joking cultural aside, saying the country's demographics already feel half-Indian to the commenter.

Daddy-Daughter" dances
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names father-daughter dances by their common label alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Gays for Islam
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific identity-and-belief intersection, gay support for Islam, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Getting infected with and spreading COVID
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names getting infected with and spreading COVID directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on personal experience or specific incident.

Golf courses
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names golf courses in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on land use, water consumption, or access as the specific concern.

Growth of science deniers
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the growth of science denial directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific topic or example.

I dream of this
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word wish, I dream of this, with no further context in the supporting record about what specific outcome or scenario it's responding to.

Israel committing a g3n0c1d3…
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific ongoing conflict using deliberately obscured spelling, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the accusation itself.

Neoliberal economics
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names neoliberal economics in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific policy or mechanism the commenter objects to.

People aren't going to like this, but I feel this way about
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter braces for disagreement before stating a specific position on GLP-1 weight-loss drugs, without further elaboration in the supporting record on what that position actually is.

People should talk about it more instead of tolerating it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry argues for confronting a practice directly rather than continuing to quietly tolerate it, without further elaboration in the supporting record on which specific practice is meant.

The answers on this thread
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry comments on the thread's answers collectively rather than adding a new one, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about them stood out.

What's wrong with them
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a three-word question, what's wrong with them, with no further elaboration in the supporting record about who or what it refers to.

Yeah she won't like that
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short aside predicting someone else's reaction, yeah she won't like that, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the underlying disagreement.

$800/mth car loans for six, seven or more years
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names eight-hundred-dollar monthly car loans stretched across six or seven years directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific lender or vehicle.

\> How much taxed we are \> in the United States Come
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply dismisses a claim about US tax burden with a one-line rebuttal, come on man, without offering its own figures or counterargument in the supporting record.

Adults, mainly from southern states in America that still call their fathers
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific regional speech habit, adults in the American South calling their fathers daddy, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on why it strikes the commenter as notable.

Any kinda SA in movies/cinema
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names sexual assault depicted in film and television directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific movie or scene.

Birthdays
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names birthdays alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about the tradition unsettles this commenter.

Blood sports like the UFC
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names blood sports like the UFC directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the label itself.

Celebrities
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry dismisses celebrities in two words with a blunt I-don't-care attitude, offering no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Completely agree
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word agreement, completely agree, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which claim it's endorsing.

Dairy
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's objection to dairy is framed as something that only holds up under scrutiny, asking readers to pause and actually think it through rather than accept it as automatically normal.

Ddlg / calling your boyfriend daddy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific relationship dynamic, referring to a boyfriend as daddy within DDLG-style role play, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's objection.

Excessive parking and strip malls
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names excessive parking lots and strip malls together as a single land-use complaint, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific location or example.

Girls that can be bought by money
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names women whose attention or affection can be purchased with money, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific context or example.

Going to Chik Fil A
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific fast-food chain, Chick-fil-A, with a one-word reaction, yuck, and no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's reasoning.

Huh, I guess you're right
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a three-word concession, huh, I guess you're right, with no further elaboration in the supporting record about what point it's conceding.

I have no idea what this is about Rollercoasters
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is confusion rather than a claim, a commenter asking what a rollercoaster reference even refers to, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

I suppose it’s not a secret that I find it disturbing though
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short confirmation, I suppose it's not a secret that I find it disturbing, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what the disturbing thing actually is.

I'll get there someday, I hope
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a brief, hopeful aspiration, I'll get there someday, I hope, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the specific goal referenced.

I'm sorry you're American
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short, sympathetic jab at American life specifically, I'm sorry you're American, that's so sad, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which aspect prompted it.

Jealousy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names jealousy in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific context or relationship.

Laughing at other’s misfortune
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names laughing at other people's misfortune directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the label itself.

Life under criminal dictatorship - Serbia
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names life under a specific criminal dictatorship, Serbia, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on particular conditions or events.

Mr Peanut
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Mr. Peanut alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about the mascot the commenter finds disturbing.

Not having manners & thanking those that send gifts or messages of
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names failing to thank someone for a gift or a kind message directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific instance.

Oh boy, sign me up
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is an enthusiastic three-word agreement, oh boy sign me up, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what it's agreeing to join.

OH SHIT this was eye opening
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short reaction expressing surprise at new information, oh shit this was eye opening, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically it refers to.

Oh, yeah, sure
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a flat, unenthusiastic agreement, oh yeah sure, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the claim it's responding to.

Open casket wakes or funerals
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names open-casket wakes and funerals directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

People
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry reduces the complaint to a dark pun, calling people the other other white meat, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the underlying objection.

People walking up or down stairs while watching a video on their
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names watching video on a phone while walking on stairs directly, calling it simply dangerous with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

People who are incosiderate of others
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names inconsiderate behavior in shared spaces specifically, without further elaboration in the supporting record on a particular incident or example.

Pickleball
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names pickleball alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what about the sport prompted the objection.

Sending nude pics of yourself
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names sending nude photos of oneself directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Smokers that force non-smokers to breathe their shit
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names smokers exposing nonsmokers to secondhand smoke directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the objection itself.

Sorry what is it that you're trying to do exactly
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a clarifying question rather than a claim, asking directly what the person it's replying to is actually trying to accomplish, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

The dairy industry
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the dairy industry alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which specific practice within it prompted the objection.

The ingredients in 90% of the grocery store
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the ingredient list behind most grocery store products directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific additive or category.

The new ideologies
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names new ideologies in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which specific belief system the commenter means.

The official narrative of 9/11
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the official narrative of 9/11 directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which specific claim the commenter doubts.

The world's oldest and most accepted hate
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific form of prejudice as the world's oldest and most broadly accepted hatred, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which examples the commenter has in mind.

There are no more boundaries
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the absence of boundaries in three words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which specific boundary the commenter believes has disappeared.

This is a bot
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a three-word accusation, this is a bot, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which comment or account it targets.

Those with obvious cognitive decline ruling the free world
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names visibly cognitively declined leaders holding power over major democracies directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on specific individuals.

Throwing cigarette butts everywhere
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names discarding cigarette butts in public spaces directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the habit itself.

Ugh Im looking at you Euphoria
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific television show, Euphoria, as an example of whatever broader media complaint it's responding to, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Watching television all the time
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names constant television viewing directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on hours, content, or context.

We can bring back bowing and curtsying
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter proposes reviving a specific pair of formal social gestures, bowing and curtsying, without further elaboration in the supporting record on what problem their return would solve.

What are these serious reasons
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a direct challenge to a prior claim, asking what these serious reasons actually are, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

What's distributing about that
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short question about a previous claim, what's distressing about that, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

What's wrong with the first one
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a direct question challenging a prior comparison, what's wrong with the first one, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Who tf does this are you sure the person in question wasn't
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is an incredulous reaction to a described behavior, questioning who actually does that and whether the person involved might have been blind, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Y'all both weird
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a blunt three-word dismissal aimed at both sides of a prior exchange, y'all both weird, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

<Gestures widely
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a stage direction rather than a statement, gestures widely, standing in for an objection too broad for the commenter to spell out specifically.

[[link removed]
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry preserves only a stripped external link, with the surrounding comment and context unavailable in the supporting record.

[Survivorship bias]([link removed]
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry links to outside material on survivorship bias, offered with no additional commentary of its own in the supporting record.

A lot of people can't afford help
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names an inability to afford help directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what kind of help or which population the commenter has in mind.

A rapist being potus
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a rapist holding the US presidency directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the accusation itself.

Adultos beijando crianças na boca
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names adults kissing children on the mouth directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

Adults like movies about comic book characters
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names adult enthusiasm for comic-book movies directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically troubles the commenter about it.

Angel babies
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the term angel babies with a trailing ellipsis, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Antisemitism
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names antisemitism in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident or example.

At least this time there will be countries willing to take them
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a pointed, uncertain question about whether other countries would actually accept a specific displaced population this time, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which historical parallel it's drawing.

Bette Midler
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Bette Midler alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about her the commenter finds disturbing.

Bikes and cars sharing the road as both a rider and driver
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names bikes and cars sharing the same road directly, with the commenter noting their own dual perspective as both a cyclist and a driver, but with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Billboards
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names billboards alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on size, placement, or content as the specific concern.

Blackpink
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the K-pop group Blackpink in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Breastfeeding past a year
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names breastfeeding past a child's first birthday directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Calorie deficits
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names calorie deficits alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on diet culture, health, or a specific personal experience.

Casually people drive while texting
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the casualness with which people text while driving directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the observation itself.

Crazy angry people are allowed to wander the streets
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names visibly angry, unwell individuals being permitted to wander public streets unsupervised directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident.

Crustaceans
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names crustaceans in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on cooking method or specific species.

Daddy daughter dances
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names father-daughter dances directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Dance Moms
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the television show Dance Moms alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about it troubles the commenter.

Dick pics
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names unsolicited explicit photos in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

Did I stutter
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word confrontational retort, did I stutter, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the underlying disagreement.

Eating an apple very slowly in public
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names eating an apple slowly in public as its own specific behavior, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on why the pace or setting bothers the commenter.

Eating chicken eggs
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names eating chicken eggs directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

Eating eggs
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names eating eggs in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Epstein Files
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the Epstein Files in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the label itself.

Every season of Survivor
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names every season of the television show Survivor collectively, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific season or moment.

Fake clouds
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names fake clouds in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on whether it refers to weather manipulation, contrails, or artificial decor.

Fascism and boot lickers
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names fascism and its willing enablers directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific instance.

Fleisch Konsum
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names meat consumption in German, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Flip flops
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names flip-flops as footwear in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Flying with an airplane 😀
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names flying on an airplane with an emoji attached, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which aspect of air travel the commenter finds unsettling.

George RR Martin before GOT became famous
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names George R.R. Martin's career specifically in the period before Game of Thrones brought him fame, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's point.

Get this two tier policing bs out of here
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a blunt rejection of a specific framing, get this two-tier policing bullshit out of here, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the underlying claim.

Greed treated as a positive
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names greed being culturally framed as a positive trait directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific example.

Having to put in a separate code from a separate app after
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names two-factor authentication's extra app-based code step directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the friction of the process itself.

Heightism
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names heightism in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific instance of height-based bias.

Hell is a horrific concept
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the concept of Hell directly as a horrific concept, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific religious tradition.

Hmmm
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word rejection, hmmm, no, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what claim it's dismissing.

However shall I live with that on my conscience
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a sarcastic rhetorical question, however shall I live with that on my conscience, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what it's dismissing.

I hope so
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word hope, I hope so, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the outcome it's referring to.

Inhaling toxic car fumes/exhaust on daily basis and polluting our air
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names daily exposure to car exhaust and its air pollution directly, calling the normalized inhalation simply insane with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Islam and the Quran
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Islam and the Quran together directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Joe Biden
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names former US President Joe Biden directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific policy or incident.

Keurig's
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Keurig coffee makers alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on pods, waste, or a specific complaint.

La stanza 101
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific fictional reference in Italian, Room 101, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's point.

Malaysia
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Malaysia alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific policy, event, or personal experience.

Meta glasses
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Meta's smart glasses in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the product itself.

Motorized vehicles in general
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names motorized vehicles in general, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific type or use case.

My neighbour
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific neighbor as the source of the commenter's complaint, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what that neighbor actually did.

Nail files
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names nail files in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

No but what do you mean
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply asks for clarification rather than making a claim, pressing the original commenter on whether their objection covers an entire belief system or specifically organized institutions and church services within it.

Not caring about the wellbeing of others
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names indifference to other people's wellbeing directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident.

Ohh wow, that’s a long list where do I start lol
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a resigned acknowledgment of scale rather than a specific claim, admitting the list of relevant grievances is so long the commenter isn't sure where to even begin.

Orthodontics
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names orthodontics in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on braces, cost, or a specific treatment.

Patriarchy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names patriarchy in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific instance or mechanism.

People are just constantly shitting on each other
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names constant, casual put-downs between people directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific setting or example.

People can no longer tolerate anyone who disagrees with them
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a general inability to tolerate disagreement directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident or platform.

People honk unnecessarily on the roads, which disturbs me
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names unnecessary honking on the road directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident.

People marrying their cousins
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names cousin marriage directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on legal status or cultural context.

People pissing in public pools
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names urinating in public swimming pools directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

People sneezing into their hands then just wiping on their clothes
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names sneezing into a bare hand and then wiping it on clothing directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the habit itself.

People that don’t bring a towel to the gym
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names gym-goers who skip bringing a towel directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on shared equipment or hygiene specifics.

People washing their ass with toilet paper
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names cleaning oneself with only dry toilet paper rather than water directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

People who blow their noses and don't wash their hands
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names blowing one's nose and skipping handwashing afterward directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the habit itself.

Produce stickers
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names stickers placed on individual produce items in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on waste or a specific complaint.

Que tú pareja te diga "papi" o "mami" Me parece repugnan
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, writing in Spanish, names a partner calling them papi or mami as specifically repugnant, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Reform UK
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the UK political party Reform UK directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific policy or event.

Roadkill
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names roadkill in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific location or species.

Santa Claus
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names Santa Claus directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the figure itself.

Scratching metal
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the sound of metal being scratched in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific context or trigger.

Shooting 4 people with a grenade launcher
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a shooting involving a grenade launcher and four victims directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the specific incident referenced.

Slot machines at casinos
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names casino slot machines directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on addiction, design, or a specific personal experience.

Some people take what they've watched or known to despise the other
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry describes people who form lasting contempt for a group based entirely on media portrayal or secondhand reputation, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific example.

Sorry, do you disagree
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short, pointed clarifying question, sorry, do you disagree, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the claim being challenged.

Sucking your fingers after eating, ew ew ew
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names sucking food residue off one's fingers after eating directly, with three repeated exclamations of disgust and no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Sweet pickles in potato salad and tuna fish
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names sweet pickles paired with potato salad and tuna directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the specific combination's appeal or the commenter's objection to it.

Taxidermy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names taxidermy in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on preservation method or a specific display.

Televised trials
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names televised criminal trials directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific case or broadcast.

Thank you, it's on my list
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a brief acknowledgment of a media recommendation, thank you, it's on my list, with the commenter admitting they're already dreading actually watching it.

That's an absurd comparison
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a three-word rejection of a prior analogy, that's an absurd comparison, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what was being compared.

The concept of the nation
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the concept of the nation-state directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific grievance.

The elites
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the elites in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific group or action.

The increasing rate of people wearing glasses
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a rising rate of eyeglasses use directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific cause or population.

The need to ask me how my day is going
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out the ritual question of how their day is going as an unwanted social obligation rather than a genuine inquiry, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

The orange one
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry refers to a specific public figure only by a nickname based on complexion, the orange one, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the underlying grievance.

The Pakistani Rape Gangs in the UK, Mass SA crimes committed by
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names specific organized sexual-abuse cases tied to migrant populations in the UK and Europe directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the accusation itself.

The Patriarchy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the patriarchy in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific mechanism or instance.

The profit motive
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the profit motive itself in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific industry or decision it shaped.

The total disregard people have for other life forms
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a broad human disregard for other life forms directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific species or practice.

The wellness craze
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the broader wellness industry and its trends directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific product or claim.

There’s no revolution right now
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the absence of any current revolution as its own disturbing fact, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what change the commenter believes is overdue.

This is a good one
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a brief endorsement of a prior comment, this is a good one, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically it's praising.

Trusting the system
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names trusting the system in three words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on which specific system or institution the commenter means.

Um
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names society itself with a hesitant um, offering no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the single-word target.

Um, globalizing the intifada
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry reacts to a specific political phrase, globalizing the intifada, with visible hesitation and no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Urinating in the shower and/or pool
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names urinating in the shower or a swimming pool directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

Using Toilet paper to clean yourself
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names cleaning oneself with toilet paper alone directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself.

Very mature and insightful
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a three-word compliment, very mature and insightful, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what comment it's responding to.

Victoria secret pink …
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific Victoria's Secret product line, Pink, with a blunt expression of confusion and no further elaboration in the supporting record.

We live and consume
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names general patterns of living and consuming in three words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific practice.

We treat each other
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the way people treat each other broadly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific behavior or incident.

Weak, feminized males
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a specific gendered complaint, weak, feminized men, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what standard or comparison the commenter has in mind.

What country
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a two-word clarifying question, what country, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the claim being challenged.

What is wrong with that
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a direct four-word challenge, what is wrong with that, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the practice being defended.

What revolution do you want
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a direct clarifying question, what revolution do you want, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the underlying political claim.

Whatever you say, bigot
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a dismissive three-word retort, whatever you say bigot, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the accusation behind it.

Whats wrong with that
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a short rhetorical challenge, what's wrong with that, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the specific practice being defended.

Why did you type chef twice
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a small, literal question about a typo, why did you type chef twice, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the original comment.

Why Walmart is so cheap
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the specific question of why Walmart's prices stay low, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on wages, sourcing, or scale as the underlying mechanism.

Wildfire smoke
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names wildfire smoke in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on air quality or a specific location.

Windmills breaking in high winds
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names wind turbines breaking apart in high winds directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on frequency or a specific incident.

Wtf is a blew chew gold
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a confused question about a specific product name, what the heck is a Blue Chew Gold, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Yup - that’s what I find disturbing
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a brief confirmation, yup, that's what I find disturbing, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the specific practice being confirmed.

Baked beans
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names baked beans in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on preparation, ingredients, or the commenter's specific objection.

Democrats
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the Democratic Party in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific policy or figure.

Euphoria
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the television show Euphoria alone, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific scene or storyline.

Human birth
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names human birth in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific aspect of the process.

Humans hating humans
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names humans hating other humans directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific conflict or group.

Kisses with tongue
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names open-mouth kissing directly, with a two-letter exclamation of disgust and no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Modern America
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names modern America in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific policy or trend.

Open casket funerals
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names open-casket funerals directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record beyond the practice itself, echoing the same discomfort raised elsewhere in this dataset.

People yelling at babies, even playfully
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter objects to yelling at infants even when framed as playful, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific incident.

Private property
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names private property itself in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection to the concept.

Rocky Horror Picture Show
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names The Rocky Horror Picture Show directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific scene or its cult following.

Socializing
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names socializing itself in one word, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on what specifically about interacting with others troubles the commenter.

Strip clubs
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names strip clubs directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific concern about the venue or industry.

Wearing makeup
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names wearing makeup directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific product or context.

Adding boiled eggs to chicken salad
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter rejects adding boiled eggs to chicken salad with a blunt two-word verdict, just no, and no further elaboration in the supporting record.

This was my answer as a non indigenous person
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a brief self-identification rather than a claim, with the commenter noting they're answering the thread specifically as a non-indigenous person, with no further elaboration in the supporting record.

Those that downvoted you have a dirty bum
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes downvotes as a hygiene insult rather than disagreement, joking that anyone who disapproves of their comment must be living with an unwashed backside themselves.

Pfft
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply rejects a specific moral framing of cheese outright, clarifying their own dislike has nothing to do with animal ethics and everything to do with simply disliking curdled old milk as a texture and flavor.

Your balls dont ever downvote me again
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a crude, dismissive retort aimed at downvoters, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the underlying disagreement.

Man buns
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the man-bun hairstyle in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Not using a Bidet and thinking your ass is clean
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single dismissive line frames skipping a bidet as self-deception about actually being clean, offered with no further argument attached.

Gestures broadly at everything
1 source record

What the pattern means: The entire comment is a shrugging 'gestures broadly at everything,' functioning as a punchline rather than a claim about any specific practice.

Much sex is in everything
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single comment expresses genuine bewilderment at how often sex gets tied into unrelated things, without pointing to any specific example of it.

Casinos, I don’t think I really need to explain why there
1 source record

What the pattern means: The comment about casinos cuts off mid-sentence in the archived text before making its actual point, leaving only the setup that the reasons should be obvious.

Possibly the most normal thing of all time, at least top 5
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short reply ranks whatever topic it's responding to as possibly the most normal thing of all time, 'top 5' at least, without naming what prompted it.

Sometimes it's just the little things we overlook every day that feel
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short, self-contained line observes only that it's often the small overlooked details of daily life that feel quietly strange, without naming which ones.

Things can go so bad, yet little changes truly happen
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief comment notes the gap between how badly things can go and how little actually changes afterward, offered as a standalone observation with no example attached.

Who thinks that's normal, you
1 source record

What the pattern means: A terse rhetorical question — 'who thinks that's normal, you?' — challenges someone else's claim without offering any counter-argument of its own.

Why do you care if it's something others do and you can't
1 source record

What the pattern means: A reply questions why someone cares about a practice they can't even personally observe, suggesting the original concern says more about anxiety than about any real harm.

Why should they do that if they still think the normalization of
1 source record

What the pattern means: A pointed rhetorical question asks why someone would keep doing something they themselves describe as an example of disturbing misanthropy.

Everything
1 source record

What the pattern means: The entry is a single word, 'Everything,' offered with no elaboration on what specifically is meant by it.

Hopefully things get better soon, seeing the constant hate is very draining
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short reply expresses simple exhaustion at how much hate is visible lately, hoping things improve rather than mounting any argument.

I don't think these games are real
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line comment claims skepticism that certain unnamed games are real, without specifying which games or why the doubt exists.

Nothing is going to be better
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short, fatalistic line dismisses the idea that anything is going to improve, tying the sentiment loosely to investment advice.

Picture of Messi bathing Lamine Yamal
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line entry references a specific photo of Messi bathing a young teammate, offered without any explanation of why it's flagged here.

There were think pieces written for years about the show and it's
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter references years of think pieces written about an unnamed show's popularity, linking to one that describes its 'horrors' in the opening paragraph before the rest disappears behind a paywall.

Touching someone's private things without asking
1 source record

What the pattern means: A bare line names touching someone's private belongings without asking as the concern, with no supporting story attached to it.

You live in Alabama or something
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line jab asks sarcastically whether the person they're replying to lives in Alabama, using a regional stereotype as the entire rebuttal.

No, that’s something that you made up in your own head
1 source record

What the pattern means: A flat rebuttal dismisses another commenter's claim as something they invented themselves rather than an actual pattern worth debating.

The apathy towards it is truly horrifying
1 source record

What the pattern means: Standing alone as a reply with its parent comment missing from the record, this line reacts to some unnamed situation purely in terms of the surrounding indifference rather than the situation itself.

Limit: Because the comment it's replying to isn't part of this record, exactly what 'it' refers to can't be reconstructed from the excerpt alone.

Food courts
1 source record

What the pattern means: A visceral, purely visual reaction to food courts — the sight of crowds eating in bulk at once described as horrifying on its own, with no argument attached beyond the image itself.

What commenters described: Food courts. Everyone shovelling in food, en masse. Horrifying

Lawns and turf grass
1 source record

What the pattern means: Naming residential grass and its upkeep as the object of concern, with no elaboration in the record about water use, chemical treatment, or any other specific complaint.

What commenters described: Lawns and turf grass

Our way of life currently
1 source record

What the pattern means: This gestures at “our way of life currently” as a whole, without specifying which part of it is the actual source of unease.

Source-record spotlights

Most engaged source

Adding boiled eggs to chicken salad. Just no.

source record 4516♥ 0
Later-arriving source

Those that downvoted you have a dirty bum. Honestly I don't know how they can go through life with a shitty butt.

source record 4493♥ 0
Zero-like source

Pfft; I don't dislike cheese because of cow rape, weirdo. you can make cheese without raping cows. I dislike it because its just curdled old milk.

source record 4491♥ 0

What the counts show

This bucket keeps growing as successive review passes work through the rest of the archive: 14 entries after the original manual sweep, 122 after round 3 pulled bare fragments out of Public behavior, and 257 now, after this round's further pass through Public behavior found another 121 self-admitted bare fragments -- their own reason text already conceded no elaboration beyond the label itself (Antisemitism, Birthdays, Neoliberal economics, Meat eating, Produce stickers, Fascism and boot lickers, and dozens more single-topic nouns) -- plus 15 off-topic one-liners that had drifted into Appearance, diet, and body expectations by loose keyword match (a supermarket-waste fragment filed next to 'casino,' a bidet complaint, an unrelated Reddit-culture aside). One entry moved the other way, back out to Public behavior, because its source comment turned out to carry an actual claim (people converging on the same handful of pet names as a small social-conformity observation) rather than a bare mention. Most entries are still exactly what this bucket was built for: a bare single-word or two-word topic name with no elaboration anywhere in the supporting record -- Abortion, Cheating, Game of Thrones, Windows 11, American life, the Epstein files/list -- alongside bare stage directions (<Gestures widely.>, *Gestures broadly at everything*), one- or two-word verdicts (Completely agree, Hmmm. No., Correction then), sentence fragments visibly cut off mid-thought, non-English one-liners, and banter about the thread itself. Every entry here is kept as a bare reaction rather than folded in as a substantiated finding alongside the fuller entries elsewhere in this category.

257index entries
267distinct source records
21.1%of parent category
6.4%of the complete index
192top-level comments
75replies

How attention is distributed across the 257 index entries

249single-source entries (96.9% of 257)
267source-record references across the index
3%of references in the top three entries
Abortion4 source records
Cheating2 source records
Game of thrones2 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
31asks a question
0says they intend to try it
236other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 257 index entries preserve 267 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Bullying, prejudice, exploitation, and normalized violence39 index entries · 83 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Bullying, prejudice, exploitation, and normalized violence

Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below.

The most popular category of pornography is ‘teen’
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pornography categorization is the actual subject here, far from animals or environment — a single comment arguing that the label 'teen' obscures who's actually being depicted, and that renaming it more bluntly would change how the culture reacts to it.

What commenters described: "If we renamed 'barely legal' to 'almost paedophile' I think our culture might be a little different."

Bullying across ages
10 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters describe bullying less as a childhood phase than a lifelong pattern, pointing to adult coworkers and even parents as places it keeps recurring unchecked, while others push back on the idea that youth explains it, noting that even second graders already know when they're being cruel.

What commenters described: I think bullying is largely allowed simply because the adults around the bullies don't want to deal with them.

Limit: One reply concedes adults can usually escape a specific bully more easily than kids stuck in the same school, even if the behavior itself doesn't disappear.

Public full-volume pornography
7 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters swap firsthand run-ins with full-volume pornography playing in public, on a bus, a subway car, and a coworker's own desk, treating it as an actual indecency violation rather than a joke.

What commenters described: I worked with a guy in a call center who did this at his desk, repeatedly. He was baffled when told to stop or he'd be fired.

Limit: Enforcement is inconsistent and public-indecency statutes vary by state, so the same act may or may not carry real consequences.

Ableism, mockery, and contempt for difference
5 source records

What the pattern means: The examples here range from autistic commenters describing physical touch and forced phone small talk as genuinely distressing, to people fluent in English being told they can't speak it because of an accent, to strangers mocked with no idea what they're actually dealing with; one comment even inverts the pattern, describing pride in willful ignorance as a rebellion against 'more-intelligent-than-thou' elites.

What commenters described: simple boundaries being called/seen as 'impolite' as an autistic person i hate phone calls... it's just stressful and annoying and boring

Youth used to excuse bullying
4 source records

What the pattern means: The original poster and several replies reject 'they're young' as an excuse outright, arguing a twelve-year-old already knows right from wrong and that blaming immaturity mostly protects the adults who let the behavior continue unaddressed.

What commenters described: Hell, 2nd graders know when they are bullying.

Limit: One reply complicates the consensus, arguing some bullies genuinely don't know better and need to be taught rather than simply blamed.

Victim proof burdens and inaccessible care
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter frames the burden of proof placed on assault victims as compounded by mental and physical healthcare that's hard to access in the first place, while a reply defends the process by arguing courts have to stay neutral precisely because no observer can verify a stranger's guilt on the spot.

What commenters described: Placing the extremely heavy burden of proof on the victim, all the while appropriate mental health and physical health care is inaccessible.

Limit: A reply pushes back that a slow, unswayed court process is a deliberate trade-off for fairness, not evidence of bias against victims.

Cringe content as bullying
2 source records

What the pattern means: A commenter recalls housemates gleefully mocking an amateur improv troupe online and calling the ridicule repulsive even though the group was 'clearly just doing it for fun,' and a reply widens the complaint to argue that labeling anything unconventional 'cringe' quietly discourages people from trying anything creative at all.

What commenters described: I found it repulsive and just plain bullying and they genuinely couldn't understand why.

Pornography
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two separate commenters flagged pornography itself, with no further explanation attached, a blunt one-word entry compared to the more specific sub-genre and industry complaints elsewhere on this list.

What commenters described: Pornography.

Violence more tolerated than nudity in U.S. media
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter zeroes in on American media ratings specifically, arguing that graphic blood and gore in film and video games routinely earns a softer rating than nudity does, a mismatch they read as revealing about what the culture actually treats as harmful.

What commenters described: how blood and gore in film and games are more tolerated than nudity in the US

The porn industry
1 source record

What the pattern means: Named with no elaboration, this entry treats porn as an entire industry, rather than any specific clip or performer, as the disturbing normal being pointed at.

What commenters described: The porn industry

We are socially conditioned to offset violence to authorities above ourselves, and
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter argues that handing violence off to police, soldiers, or other authorities doesn't wash your own hands of it, since ordering violence carried out on your behalf is still violence you bear responsibility for.

What commenters described: Sending a violent authority to carry out violence on your behalf does not absolve you of that violence.

Colonization framed as violence followed by victim blaming
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes America's founding as genocide followed by a durable narrative trick: gaslight the people who were harmed and then recast them as the aggressors, a pattern they argue has repeated ever since.

What commenters described: Commit genocide, gaslight the victims for being pissed, then fool everyone into believing the victims are somehow the aggressors.

Limit: The commenter's own aside notes other countries followed the same script, so the criticism isn't presented as uniquely American.

It is deeply disturbing how accepting people are of pedophiles/rapists in the
1 source record

What the pattern means: This complaint is specifically partisan: the commenter argues tolerance for accused pedophiles and rapists in government swings on which political party the accused belongs to, rather than on the accusation itself.

What commenters described: As long as a freak has a R behind their name, people are willing to accept their morally repugnant actions.

America's casual consumption of intense violence, blood and gore is so crazy
1 source record

What the pattern means: Here the complaint is about scale and casualness rather than any one show or scene, just the sheer volume of blood and gore consumed without a second thought.

What commenters described: America's casual consumption of intense violence, blood and gore is so crazy

Domestic violence
1 source record

What the pattern means: Unlike the media-violence entries elsewhere in this category, this one names domestic violence directly, harm inside the home rather than on a screen, with no further detail offered.

What commenters described: Domestic violence

Violence in tv shows and movies
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a bare pointer to violent content across television and film generally, offered without naming a specific title or scene.

What commenters described: Violence in tv shows and movies

Fuckin strangely cool we all seem to be with violence against ourselves
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter puts the double standard bluntly, arguing society stays relaxed about violence people do to one another while getting scandalized over sex and sexuality, a contrast they call backwards.

What commenters described: How fuckin strangely cool we all seem to be with violence against ourselves and eachother, but clutch our collective pearls about sex and sexuality.

Pedophilia
1 source record

What the pattern means: Offered as a single-word flag with no elaboration, this entry names pedophilia itself as the disturbing normal, distinct from the several other entries here about pedophiles specifically holding power.

What commenters described: Pedophilia

Teen/barely legal porn Fucking gross
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's disgust targets a specific genre label, 'barely legal' pornography marketed around the appearance of youth, calling it out by name instead of lumping it in with pornography generally.

What commenters described: Teen/barely legal porn Fucking gross

Is it weird to say pedophilia
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter frames the country as having gone numb to a specific claim, that a ring of ultra-wealthy pedophiles operates with impunity, and second-guesses their own reaction by wondering aloud whether naming it makes them the odd one out.

What commenters described: I feel like a large portion of this country... has grown callus to the fact that there is and is definitely a pedophile ring of the ultra rich that to this day escape persecution

Pedophile leaders, judges and cops
1 source record

What the pattern means: Rather than pointing at one bad actor, this commenter names three separate institutions, political leadership, the judiciary, and police, as places pedophiles operate embedded and protected.

What commenters described: Pedophile leaders, judges and cops.

The one with the orange idiot pedophile
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply takes aim at one instantly-recognizable public figure specifically while conceding the problem is broader, ranking that leader among the world's most disturbing rather than treating him as an isolated case.

What commenters described: But arguably not the only deeply disturbed leader in this world. Def top 3 though.

We are ruled by pedophiles and that a lot of people are
1 source record

What the pattern means: The weight of this comment falls less on the accusation itself than on the public's reaction to it, calling out widespread indifference to being ruled by pedophiles as its own separate disturbing fact.

What commenters described: That we are ruled by pedophiles and that a lot of people are indifferent about it

A Pedophile Rapist as POTUS and people actively openly trying to hide
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter states the accusation against a sitting president directly and adds a second layer to it, that people around him are actively working to conceal it rather than simply denying it.

What commenters described: A Pedophile Rapist as POTUS and people actively openly trying to hide it for them

Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
8 source records

What the pattern means: This thread digs into the double standard of people who can't watch animal harm on screen but shrug off human violence, with repliers debating whether that's projection — humans overreading complex emotion onto pets — or just an evolved bias toward our own species.

Limit: One reply directly disputes the claim that humans are uniquely capable of complex emotion, calling it 'stated so confidently, and yet so unsupported by any credible research.'

The whole "sexy schoolgirl uniform" thing
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter singles out the 'sexy schoolgirl' costume as specifically coded to an underage look, since no one wears school uniforms in college, and asks why that costume gets treated as generic instead of creepy.

All the porn on the hub these days being "step" something Whatever
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter jokes that nearly all porn now uses 'step' framing, asking with mock nostalgia whatever happened to the old cliché of someone unable to pay for a delivered pizza.

I think to make fun of people to just look cool in
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief comment calls mocking people for social status truly disturbing, insisting respect and personal boundaries should come first.

Outing gay people because they've "Said and done horrible things to gay
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues that outing someone as gay is never justified as payback for harmful things they've done to gay people, treating the act of exposure itself as wrong no matter what the person did.

What commenters described: Outing gay people because they've "Said and done horrible things to gay people". Just don't out people.

Victim blaming after sexual assault
6 source records

What the pattern means: A firsthand account of being second-guessed by friends and a partner after a sexual assault — over texting frequency, over not reporting immediately — draws replies that diagnose the reflex as people picturing themselves accused rather than picturing the person harmed.

What commenters described: It just reveals that those people are mentally putting themselves in the shoes of the accused and thinking “boy, I’d hate for people to think of me as a rapist.”

Pedophilia and the sexualization of young women
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters are less shaken by pedophilia's existence than by how often it surfaces among people in power, with one calling the attraction itself inexplicable — no curves, no height, nothing recognizable as adult — and comparing it to an unrelated fetish rather than ordinary desire.

What commenters described: It is so fucking weird lol. Like there's nothing sexually attractive about a child or even that body type. Where is the height, where are the curves, where's anything?? ... every single rich person or person in a position of power is always a pedo

Women enforcing patriarchal and FGM practices
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters focus on the paradox of women enforcing practices that harm women, tracing it to fear of appearing disrespectful toward elders and heritage rather than active belief, with one still haunted by an exhibition documenting FGM.

What commenters described: internalized misogyny is rampant among many religious women

Murder, assaults, and sex crimes
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter's response to violent-crime statistics is to propose execution instead of imprisonment as a deterrent, and the reply immediately flags the perverse incentive that creates for offenders to eliminate witnesses.

What commenters described: I honestly think we need to start euthanising people instead of imprisonment. Might make idiots contemplating these acts think twice - harm someone and you get a needle.

Limit: Just encourages people to kill their victims to avoid leaving a witness.

Pornos, it's demeaning and sets wrong standards on both men and women
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection to pornography here is framed around standard-setting specifically, with the commenter arguing it distorts expectations for both men and women rather than objecting to sexual content on its own.

What commenters described: Pornos, it's demeaning and sets wrong standards on both men and women.

All the "teen sex" in TV and movies
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter separates the legal fact that actors playing these roles are adults from the discomfort of the content itself, questioning why depicting teen sex is desirable programming at all.

What commenters described: I get that the actors are usually adults but like... Why do you want to see that?

Half of women and girls and women are either sexually assaulted or
1 source record

What the pattern means: The statistic driving this comment, roughly half of women experiencing sexual assault or domestic violence, is paired with a gap the commenter names directly: no systemic effort to teach boys not to be violent toward women.

What commenters described: no one is doing anything to teach boys men not to use violence against women on a societal level

Violence against women
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry offers no elaboration beyond flagging a specific category of gender-based violence as the disturbing norm itself, with no incident, context, or personal account attached.

What commenters described: Violence against women.

Racist/sexism/ableist people actually are
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter frames their disturbance around a gap between appearance and reality, discovering how openly racist, sexist, or ableist people turn out to be once revealed.

What commenters described: How racist/sexism/ableist people actually are.

Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
7 source records

What the pattern means: A personal account grounds this one: a commenter describing herself as a woman of color explains she gets fetishized for specific traits, and that this is exactly why men travel to countries like Thailand and the Philippines seeking women with those traits — a pattern she calls common even where it isn't openly admitted.

What commenters described: I am a woman of color who gets fetishized for specific ‘traits’ men think women like me have. Thus why they travel to these countries to find women with these traits they deem as more desirable.

Limit: Another commenter rejects the generalization outright, telling the original poster to “take a step back” rather than assume every man traveling abroad has a “perverse agenda.”

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

That’s my point. No man is ever going to say their intentions from doing what they do. But most people know what it means when a man travels to a country like that. Literally millions of men travel to these countries, implying it’s completely normal (commonplace). It IS frowned upon by normal people, but it is also very very common. I never said it was acceptable behavior, just common and normalized. I am a woman of color who gets fetishized for specific “traits” men think women like me have. Thus why they travel to these countries to find women with these traits they deem as more desirable. So I definitely have an issue with it. I understand that you’re saying that it is abnormal mentally to think that way, but unfortunately in our SOCIETY as a whole it is not only common, but usually seen as a “joke” (passport bros going to ladyboys, Latinas, etc) and therefore accepted in today’s society. So maybe you’re just not understanding my point, but alright. I’m glad you’re not one of those people, keep doing that

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Most engaged source

A Pedophile Rapist as POTUS and people actively openly trying to hide it for them

source record 4529♥ 0
Later-arriving source

Is it weird to say pedophilia? I feel like a large portion of this country (USA) and to some extent tge world has grown callus to the fact that there is and is definitely a pedophile ring of the ultra rich that to this day escape persecution idk maybe I'm weird

source record 4481♥ 0
Zero-like source

All the porn on the hub these days being "step" something Whatever happened to someone ordering a pizza and being unable to pay???

source record 4435♥ 0

Related evidence elsewhere in the index

What the counts show

This category's sharpest pattern is a double standard: commenters say American culture tolerates graphic on-screen violence far more readily than nudity, and treats elite impunity for pedophilia as a shrug-inducing constant rather than an active scandal. A second thread, now consolidated here from elsewhere in the archive, is a victim-blaming and enforced-complicity reflex — friends who second-guess an assault survivor before the accused, women who carry out FGM out of fear of disrespecting elders rather than belief in it, and men who justify sex tourism by pointing to how "normalized" it already is.

39index entries
83distinct source records
6.6%of parent category
2%of the complete index
36top-level comments
47replies

How attention is distributed across the 39 index entries

26single-source entries (66.7% of 39)
87source-record references across the index
28.7%of references in the top three entries
Bullying across ages10 source records
Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say8 source records
Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little7 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
1explicitly reports a limit or failure
16asks a question
0says they intend to try it
66other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 39 index entries preserve 83 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Health and bodies111 records · 2 sub-topics
Healthcare, illness, and disability66 index entries · 187 source records
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Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Healthcare, illness, and disability

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People talk about elderly people like they’re pets
1 source record

What the pattern means: Drawing on healthcare experience, one commenter objects to elderly patients being talked about the way people talk about pets — called cute, not taken seriously, turned into a joke — insisting the comparison itself is the disturbing part.

What commenters described: "They're not pets, they're people. I hate that I even have to say that."

Pretending Covid somehow disappeared and isn't a fucking raging pandemic anymore that
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter is angry that Covid gets treated as over, pointing to the tens of thousands still being newly disabled by it every day as evidence the pandemic never actually ended.

Common it is to get “something to relax you” during any sort
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter is bothered by how routinely dentists offer sedation for minor procedures, describing every provider as wanting to 'turn them off like a lightswitch' rather than simply numb the area.

Organ transplants An organ cannot be "harvested" from a dead body which
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter corrects a misconception about organ donation, explaining organs aren't 'harvested' from already-dead bodies — donors are kept on life support specifically because brain death isn't the same as the body being fully dead.

What commenters described: "An organ cannot be 'harvested' from a dead body which is why they keep people on life support. And brain dead isn't always dead."

People get sick from being near each other, and not from things
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter poses it as a question rather than a claim, wondering aloud whether illness more often spreads from close contact with other people than from surfaces that merely look unhygienic.

Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
36 source records

What the pattern means: Across three dozen comments, pregnancy and birth read less like celebration and more like a body-horror story everyone is supposed to shrug off — several commenters describe diastasis recti, prolapse, and tearing being dismissed as merely cosmetic, while others call the whole process a nightmare they never agreed to normalize.

What commenters described: "Pregnancy is a major medical event, and is the closest most women will ever knowingly get to death."

Limit: A few replies push back hard, insisting pregnancy is inherently "something wonderful" and that only an antinatalist could see childbirth as anything but amazing.

Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
22 source records

What the pattern means: Many comments here treat marriage less like a failing institution and more like something you're expected to quietly endure — a teacher describes coworkers venting about husbands as if the venting were the marriage itself, while several readers defend easy divorce as the escape valve that lets people leave bad situations instead of enduring them.

What commenters described: "I actually like the person I married sorry you don't like yours."

Limit: Others complicate the pattern with data, citing falling U.S. divorce rates since 1980 and framing no-fault divorce as a relief that spared people, especially women, from having to die or catch a partner cheating just to get out.

Appearance mistaken for health
19 source records

What the pattern means: The pattern that jumps out is how often weight loss reads as a compliment when the real cause was grief, chronic illness, an autoimmune flare, or a medication side effect — commenter after commenter describes correcting someone's "you look so good!" with the actual, much darker reason.

What commenters described: "Depression is the best diet. -- Someone from the 50s"

Limit: One reply complicates the takeaway, noting that some appearance markers, like the ability to stand up without using your arms, really do correlate with mortality data, so the link isn't purely a myth.

High heels as a health and dress expectation
12 source records

What the pattern means: The heels thread turns out to be less about fashion opinion and more a physical-injury report: bunion surgery before thirty, permanent foot pain, and memories of watching people destabilize in them at formal events, all framed as a cost women are expected to just absorb for professional or party dress codes.

What commenters described: "They fuck up your back, hurt your feet, can permanently deform you to the point of requiring surgery... I know someone who wore high heels through their twenties and needed bunion surgery before hitting 30."

Limit: A couple of replies defend certain wedge and heel designs as genuinely comfortable, and one notes that all-day flats cause their own foot pain, so the objection isn't universal.

Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication
9 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters trace their own drinking directly back to unaddressed trauma or grief — sobriety here reads as a mental-healthcare failure story rather than a willpower one, with more than one person tallying exactly how many pounds or months they got back once they stopped self-medicating.

What commenters described: "I'm still struggling with falling asleep but I'm alive in my own life again, 30 pounds lighter, and feel hopeful."

Limit: One reply cautions that access alone isn't the whole fix — a bad therapist can do real damage too, so the ask is for higher standards, not just more appointments.

Functioning mistaken for health
6 source records

What the pattern means: This item treats "functioning" as a trap word — a functioning alcoholic, a chronically ill person who can occasionally leave the house, someone masking depression — all read as fine specifically because they're still moving, which commenters say hides how much that motion is actually costing them.

What commenters described: "A typical example is a functioning alcoholic. They look fine externally, having a normal job, social life and overall healthy but they are damaging their body and mental health through heavy alcohol consumption."

Serious medical harm hidden by functional drinking
5 source records

What the pattern means: These accounts follow the same arc from the inside — someone insists they're fine right up until an esophageal tear or ER visit forces the issue, and a cousin who died at thirty-two shows what happens when that reckoning doesn't arrive in time.

What commenters described: "One day I was fine, the next bleeding into my stomach from an esophageal tear. You tell yourself you're fine while killing yourself."

Limit: One reply offers a rare note of survival amid the pattern: a commenter now nearly 42 says they hope to see many more years.

Recording patients and healthcare
5 source records

What the pattern means: Healthcare recording cuts in every direction in these comments — patients filming wheelchair transport and nursing care without asking, but also the reverse, like a physician who apparently wore camera glasses through an entire gynecological exam, suggesting hospitals haven't caught up with how casually recording devices now travel into clinical spaces.

What commenters described: "Same at my work - but I work in a hospital. The amount of people who want to record themselves while I'm pushing them in wheelchairs or giving them care is so weird."

Limit: One commenter pushes back that wanting your own record of care isn't unreasonable if you've been treated poorly before, so the instinct isn't purely about content-making.

Filming medical emergencies for content
5 source records

What the pattern means: This cluster is about bystanders reaching for a phone instead of helping — a teacher describes students recording every fight at school, and other commenters describe the same reflex applied to fainting, medical emergencies, and public mental-health crises, with the footage often ending up mocked online rather than used to get anyone help.

What commenters described: "I work at a high school. They record every fight and it makes me so angry! Someone is getting hurt and they're just standing there."

Chiropractic care trusted as routine medicine
4 source records

What the pattern means: The chiropractic thread stacks up concrete medical pushback rather than vague suspicion, including a PCP reportedly warning a patient with disc degeneration to stay away, and a claim that some chiropractors perform spinal "adjustments" on newborns or say they can cure asthma and ear infections.

What commenters described: "My PCP told me to stay away from the chiropractor with my back issues. I have disc degeneration and they warned a chiropractor could make it worse."

Limit: One reply grants there's a kernel of truth to alignment issues, like a crossbite or curved spine causing downstream pain, while still insisting chiropractors aren't the ones who can fix it.

Serious gastrointestinal illness weight loss praised
3 source records

What the pattern means: Recognizing themselves in each other's replies, two commenters describe unexplained gastrointestinal pain and vomiting driving rapid weight loss that strangers read as attractive, landing on the same bitter observation about being told they look good while barely able to eat without nausea.

What commenters described: "It's insane how many people think 'wow you're so thin!' is a compliment. Like thanks, I literally am unable to function when I can't eat and the constant nausea is making me borderline suicidal but wow thanks!!"

A physician-health program's forced rehab and monitoring
3 source records

What the pattern means: The same pipeline shows up in two different physicians' accounts: get flagged for substance use, get forced into a rehab program of the board's choosing regardless of ever failing at work, and end up years deep in monitoring and mandatory AA that cost one of them roughly six hundred thousand dollars in lost income and fees.

What commenters described: "All this and I was always sober at work. The whole process took over a year so I lost out on 600K and also had to pay 50K for rehab. Now I have to be monitored for 5 years."

Limit: One reader questions the premise directly, asking why being sober at work in the first place didn't matter to how the case was handled.

Mental-health functioning and neurodivergence
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both comments push back on "functioning" as a stand-in for wellness, specifically for neurodivergent people, arguing that being a productive member of society and being mentally unwell aren't mutually exclusive, and that the gap between the two is part of what pushes ND people toward crisis more often.

What commenters described: "Mentally unwell, while being a productive member of society."

Cat breeding for health-problem-prone traits
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both cat comments land on the same irony: breeders chase a specific look, a flat face, folded ears, a hairless coat, and end up with animals whose bodies are the health problem, not incidental to it, as one commenter's grandmother discovers with a supposedly fine-looking Turkish Van.

What commenters described: "They're doing it to cats now too. For years it was just okay to have a cattish cat, but now people are fully getting into the fuckery of a persian/fold/sphynx/whatever that is full of health problems."

Public-health capacity cuts and outbreak risk
2 source records

What the pattern means: Cause and effect get strung together in just two lines here: gut the staff who track disease outbreaks, then watch screwworm, measles, and lingering COVID creep back as a direct result.

What commenters described: "It starts with things like massive outbreaks of explosive diarrhea after you fire the people responsible for tracking things like that."

A false psychiatric hospitalization in medical notes
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes being questioned about an involuntary psychiatric hold that never happened, tracing it to what a second commenter calls a familiar failure — doctors dictating notes and never reading them back before the errors become part of someone's permanent record.

What commenters described: "I was so pissed that it had fake notes in there ABOUT AN INVOLUNTARY PSYCH HOLD."

Disability, memory, and family contact-frequency conflict
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both commenters describe an identical, exhausting loop with a disabled sibling whose memory gaps mean a call from days earlier doesn't register, so the sibling reacts to feeling "ignored" with cards and outbursts, leaving the other person stuck re-explaining a conversation that already happened.

What commenters described: "She just sent me a card cause she 'misses me' and we just talked ON FRIDAY. If I dont respond back all hell brakes loose."

Chronic illness disbelieved after visible activity
2 source records

What the pattern means: Neither of these replies accepts that visible activity disproves chronic illness — one describes getting grief for simply leaving the house occasionally, the other turns "but you look fine" into a joke about what an actual look inside their body would reveal.

What commenters described: "'But you look fine!' Well if you could see my brain we'd probably not be talking."

Healthcare disrespect and access failures
2 source records

What the pattern means: Institutions cutting corners at the patient's expense links two separate complaints about the same system — one names specific hospital networks for rude treatment, the other describes nurse practitioners and PAs introduced as "Dr" so patients don't realize they aren't seeing a physician.

What commenters described: "NPs and PAs are taking OVER Doctor jobs slowly but surely.....to save hospital $$ and patients DONT KNOW this bcs they call their nurse practitioner a Dr falsely."

Video calls during intimate medical exams
1 source record

What the pattern means: One nurse recounts a patient FaceTiming someone else through her own GYN exam, unpaid attention she never signed up to be part of — a small, specific breach that says less about the technology than about how normalized recording has become inside exam rooms.

What commenters described: "I'm an RN and someone was FaceTiming during their GYN exam. Girl I don't even want to see this and I got paid for it."

Barriers to healthcare access
1 source record

What the pattern means: This comment keeps its complaint deliberately broad, not one gatekeeping failure but healthcare gatekeeping in general, "for any reason whatsoever," as if the specific excuse barely matters next to the fact that access gets blocked at all.

What commenters described: "The gatekeeping of healthcare of any kind for any reason whatsoever."

Eating-disorder thinness mistaken for health
1 source record

What the pattern means: This one is about being asked for tips, not just complimented — people want this commenter's "secret" to staying thin, and the actual answer is an eating disorder serious enough that they consider themselves less healthy than whoever is asking.

What commenters described: "It's anorexia babes. I'm probably more unhealthy than the person asking me :) but what do ya say to em, ya know?"

Smart glasses during intimate medical exams
1 source record

What the pattern means: The account here is of a doctor who reportedly ran a full gynecological exam while quietly wearing smart glasses, only discovered at the very end — the disturbing part isn't the device itself but that the patient had no way to know she was being recorded during an already vulnerable moment.

What commenters described: "Saw a post on reddit the other day about a woman who went through an entire gyno exam only to realize at the very end that the doctor had been wearing meta glasses the whole time."

ChatGPT used after unsuccessful medical care
1 source record

What the pattern means: This account is a specific escalation, not a general AI complaint — a relative went to urgent care, didn't get relief, then switched to ChatGPT for medical advice and started following whatever it suggested, which the commenter connects directly to a real lawsuit over a chatbot linked to a teen's suicide.

What commenters described: "You need to stop relying on a machine whose only goal is to appease you for advice."

Subscription-model healthcare dystopia in fiction
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter isn't disturbed by the show itself so much as how plausible the premise felt — a couple paying escalating fees just to keep one partner from sleeping through life reads, to them, as barely exaggerated satire of how healthcare billing already works.

What commenters described: "I'm still upset about the 'prescription model cure' episode... because I know it's actually not that farfetched."

Recording medical care after prior mistreatment
1 source record

What the pattern means: For someone already mistreated by a healthcare provider, wanting their own recorded account of care reads here as self-protection rather than intrusion.

What commenters described: "I can see people wanting a record of care if they've been treated poorly in the past."

>Thin = healthy You're right, but getting *thinner* when you're fat will
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pushing back hard against the "thin isn't automatically healthy" framing elsewhere in this category, this commenter argues that excess fat strains every organ regardless of symptoms, and that most people feel measurably better once they lose it.

What commenters described: "Excess body fat strains every organ in your body, messes with your hormones, and can worsen pretty much every single other disease out there."

Recalls on contaminated food and medication
1 source record

What the pattern means: That tainted groceries and drugs only get pulled after an official recall is itself the point of this entry — the fear isn't food or medicine going wrong in the abstract, it's discovering that the safety net only catches problems after they've already reached the shelf.

What commenters described: "Recalls on contaminated food and medication."

Medical dismissal based on youth and appearance
1 source record

What the pattern means: Being told "you're young and healthy" delayed this commenter's actual diagnosis, and once the illness was serious enough to cause visible weight loss, the same body got complimented instead of examined.

What commenters described: "Definitely had my issues dismissed with a 'you're young and healthy!' and been told I look great after losing weight due to a severe illness."

Food-insecurity weight loss mistaken for health
1 source record

What the pattern means: A BMI reading squarely in the "healthy" range didn't match what this commenter says they actually looked like at the time, gaunt from not having enough food, not fit from choosing to eat less.

What commenters described: "My BMI was in the healthy range I'm sure, but I didn't look a fit thin. I looked gaunt."

Many people need to be medicated these days
1 source record

What the pattern means: Framing rising medication use as an individual chemical imbalance is exactly the move this commenter objects to, arguing the more useful question is what's driving so many people to need medicating in the first place.

What commenters described: "At some point we really need to shift as a society and stop placing the blame on the individual, claiming that they have some imbalance."

People normalizing hating children for developmentally normal/healthy behaviors (crying, meltdowns/tantrums, talking back,
1 source record

What the pattern means: Not wanting kids is fine, this commenter clarifies, but treating ordinary developmental behavior, tantrums, talking back, whining, as proof something's wrong reveals a basic gap in understanding how children actually develop.

What commenters described: "At least learn a bit about human development so that you're not just a horrible person in public."

Extreme meat-only diet health claims
1 source record

What the pattern means: An all-meat diet can absolutely produce weight loss, this commenter concedes, right before adding the outcome its promoters conveniently leave out: dying of bowel cancer at forty-five.

What commenters described: "Did you know you can exclusively eat red meat and lose weight?! Yes, and die from bowel cancer at age 45."

The infantalization of disabled people
1 source record

What the pattern means: Kept as short as its own label, this entry isolates infantilizing disabled adults as a distinct harm on its own, separate from access failures or medical dismissal, about daily tone, not policy.

What commenters described: "The infantalization of disabled people."

A physician-health program potential-impairment overreach claim
1 source record

What the pattern means: Physician-health programs meant to catch impaired doctors now flag anything merely "potentially" impairing, this psychiatrist argues, which sits oddly next to how little scrutiny goes toward doctors who are simply sleep-deprived or understaffed.

What commenters described: "It's funny that no one cares if doctors are sleep deprived or working in understaffed conditions but the moment someone finds out you smoke weed daily then the safety of patients becomes a concern."

For-profit healthcare in general
1 source record

What the pattern means: Skipping past any single hospital or bill, this entry names the underlying structure directly: healthcare organized for profit, full stop, no incident required to make the point.

What commenters described: "For-profit healthcare in general."

Leaving voicemail disabled
1 source record

What the pattern means: Leaving voicemail switched off isn't neglect here, by this commenter's account, but risk management — texts handle routine contact, and a real emergency will just make the phone ring again anyway.

What commenters described: "If it's an emergency, they will blow up my phone. Why do I need to activate a voice mail to deal with robocalls?"

No universal healthcare
1 source record

What the pattern means: Stated in three words with no elaboration, this entry names an absence rather than an incident, exactly the gap that the rest of this category's specific complaints keep falling into.

What commenters described: "No universal healthcare."

People taking the piss out of someone clearly in a mental health
1 source record

What the pattern means: Watching someone visibly in crisis and mocking them instead of even attempting to help is the specific failure this commenter calls out, treating it as a baseline moral lapse rather than ordinary bystander paralysis.

What commenters described: "People taking the piss out of someone clearly in a mental health crisis in a public area. You can help them or at least try."

The Sherwin-Williams logo being an Earth covered in paint
1 source record

What the pattern means: Look closely at the Sherwin-Williams logo, this commenter suggests, and a paint company's mascot is covering the entire globe in paint, unsettling mostly because nobody notices it at a glance.

What commenters described: "The Sherwin-Williams logo being an Earth covered in paint."

\> Being disabled the only marginalized group we will all belong to
1 source record

What the pattern means: Read carefully, the record behind this entry is a skeptical reply rather than an original claim, someone directly questioning the logic that disability is the one marginalized status everyone eventually joins.

What commenters described: "Being disabled the only marginalized group we will all belong to one day. How did you arrive on this conclusion?"

Bad mental health is in the US, and how people are grossly
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pairing two complaints most people keep separate, this commenter names both widespread misinformation about mental-illness symptoms and a concrete fix: teaching basic meltdown de-escalation as public knowledge rather than leaving it to chance.

What commenters described: "Knowing how to de-escalate a meltdown should be public knowledge."

Dying from "natural causes" (AKA scared and in pain and powerless about
1 source record

What the pattern means: "Natural causes" reads as a euphemism to this commenter, not a peaceful outcome — scared, in pain, and powerless is what they hear underneath the phrase, which is why they'd rather control the ending themselves.

What commenters described: "Dying from 'natural causes' (AKA scared and in pain and powerless about your own body; i'd rather just go out on my own terms willingly when it's time)."

Erectile dysfunction medication
1 source record

What the pattern means: Beyond the usual erectile-dysfunction joke, this commenter walks through specific added ingredients, apomorphine for desire, oxytocin for bonding and labor contractions, and lands on the real objection: engineering a bonding hormone into a sex pill feels manipulative in a way plain vasodilators don't.

What commenters described: "I think its super creepy that its being put in viagra."

Health insurance
1 source record

What the pattern means: Offered without elaboration, "health insurance" sits in this entry the way a diagnosis gets named, apparently confident that no further case is needed for why it belongs on this list.

What commenters described: "Health insurance."

I think the concept of a medical spa is insane but most
1 source record

What the pattern means: Finding the entire premise of a medical spa absurd doesn't stop this commenter from admitting that basically everyone they know goes to one anyway, a small, unresolved dissonance.

What commenters described: "I think the concept of a medical spa is insane but most people I know go to them."

Much everyone treats sick and disabled people like people to forget about
1 source record

What the pattern means: Everyone becomes disabled eventually if they live long enough, this commenter argues, using that inevitability to explain why treating sick and disabled people as forgettable is a mistake with a built-in expiration date.

What commenters described: "How much everyone treats sick and disabled people like people to forget about."

Probably because if someone slaps you in the face, the pain will
1 source record

What the pattern means: Answering an unseen question about why physical pain gets taken more seriously than psychological pain, this reply lands on durability as the real difference, a slap fades, but psychological harm can compound and outlast whatever caused it.

What commenters described: "If someone hurts you on a psychological level, the pain and all what it caused, might stay for ever."

The entire healthcare system in the USA
1 source record

What the pattern means: No specific hospital or bill gets named in this entry, the target is the entire system, stated as a complete sentence with nothing left to qualify.

What commenters described: "The entire healthcare system in the USA."

The health industry
1 source record

What the pattern means: Distinguishing itself from complaints about specific providers, this entry dismisses "the health industry" as a whole in four words, fundamentally a scam, not a system with a few bad actors.

What commenters described: "The health industry. The entire scammy thing."

The need to be healthy, happy, productive, super focused, mentally available 24/7
1 source record

What the pattern means: Four separate expectations get stacked into one impossible standard here: healthy, happy, productive, and mentally available the instant you wake up, with the accumulation itself, not any single demand, being the disturbing part.

What commenters described: "The need to be healthy, happy, productive, super focused, mentally available 24/7 from moment we wake up."

US healthcare system
1 source record

What the pattern means: Named plainly with no specific complaint attached, this entry flags America's medical system itself, not a policy, a bill, or an incident, as worth criticizing on its own.

What commenters described: "US healthcare system."

If fat is unhealthy, why is the Mango Menace still alive
1 source record

What the pattern means: Reaching for a public figure as a counterexample to the fat-equals-unhealthy shorthand, this commenter points to someone in their eighties who, by their account, eats poorly and doesn't exercise, as proof body size alone doesn't reliably predict health.

What commenters described: "He has a horrible diet, doesn't exercise yet he's 80 years old."

Women unable to go outside without covering their faces with paint
1 source record

What the pattern means: Everyday makeup norms get deliberately relabeled as face-paint in this entry, an expectation this commenter says only registers as strange once you actually sit with it for more than a few seconds.

What commenters described: "Women unable to go outside without covering their faces with paint. This is seriously weird and disturbing when you give it more than 5 seconds of thought."

Thin = healthy
1 source record

What the pattern means: Taking the opposite position from another entry logged elsewhere in this same dataset, this commenter insists flatly that thinness doesn't guarantee health and fatness doesn't preclude it, pointing to physically active people in larger bodies as the counterexample.

What commenters described: "Thin = healthy. It doesn't, and fat doesn't = unhealthy. Lots of larger bodied people are active."

Suicidal history and finding small sources of enjoyment
5 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters with histories of suicidal planning describe surviving less through any single breakthrough and more through deliberately banking tiny pleasant moments, one comparing it to collecting health-point pellets in a video game as a buffer against harder days.

What commenters described: "anytime I can give my brain an excuse to give me the happy juice or the pride juice or the satisfaction juice I go for it"

Limit: One of them is careful to say noticing small joys didn't heal them outright, only made the harder underlying work of healing more sustainable.

Chiropractic cure claims and infant adjustment
1 source record

What the pattern means: The specific claims that alarm this commenter go beyond a sore back: chiropractors implying they can straighten scoliosis, cure asthma or ear infections, and perform spinal adjustments on newborn infants.

What commenters described: "...many do adjustments on newborn infants!!"

Women's healthcare and how poor it is
1 source record

What the pattern means: The record offers no specific failure, just women’s healthcare quality itself named as the disturbing thing worth sitting with.

What commenters described: "Women's healthcare and how poor it is."

Making poor mental health part of your personality
1 source record

What the pattern means: Turning poor mental health into a personality trait is flagged as its own standalone concern here, distinct from the mental health struggles themselves.

What commenters described: "Making poor mental health part of your personality"

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

Body doesn't hurt, at a normal weight for your height so you must be healthy. Doesn't work like that. If all you eat is junkfood then you're probably nutritionally deficient even if you're at a healthy weight

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Yup. I was using it to medicate ptsd. It stopped working. 2.5 years sober! 🥳

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If fat is unhealthy, why is the Mango Menace still alive. He has a horrible diet, doesn’t exercise yet he’s 80 years old.

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Thin = healthy. It doesn’t, and fat doesn’t = unhealthy. Lots of larger bodied people are active.

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Women unable to go outside without covering their faces with paint. This is seriously weird and disturbing when you give it more than 5 seconds of thought.

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What the counts show

The strongest throughline isn't disease itself but the mismatch between how someone looks or functions and what's actually happening to them: grief, cancer, an eating disorder, or a heart condition each produce weight loss that gets read as a compliment, while chronically ill or disabled people get disbelieved specifically because they can still leave the house sometimes. A second, much thinner cluster of one-line complaints about US healthcare, insurance, and for-profit medicine reads as blunt consensus rather than personal narrative, no story attached, just the system named as the problem.

66index entries
187distinct source records
70.3%of parent category
4.5%of the complete index
61top-level comments
126replies

How attention is distributed across the 66 index entries

45single-source entries (68.2% of 66)
202source-record references across the index
38.1%of references in the top three entries
Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks36 source records
Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms22 source records
Appearance mistaken for health19 source records

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What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
5explicitly reports a limit or failure
33asks a question
0says they intend to try it
149other source context

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Archive: 66 index entries preserve 187 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Appearance, diet, and body expectations45 index entries · 95 source records
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Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Appearance, diet, and body expectations

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Smoking to suppress appetite
1 source record

What the pattern means: Body image, not animals or environment, drives this one: a commenter describes a friend who smokes cigarettes specifically to suppress appetite, using it as evidence that a six-pack can signal disordered eating rather than health.

What commenters described: "Six pack doesn't necessarily mean healthy. Sometimes it means eating disorder."

The sheer volume of people who are unhappy in their own skin
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the sheer number of people uncomfortable in their own bodies directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on cause or context.

Cosmetic-surgery normalization
14 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe watching cosmetic surgery move from famous outliers to their own coworkers and Korean high-schoolers getting fillers as graduation gifts, several saying contouring and filler have made faces so uniform they'd struggle to describe a missing friend to police.

What commenters described: if my bestie goes missing, how the hell do we describe her to police?!?

Limit: One reply pushes back that this isn't new — classmates were already taking out loans for nose jobs growing up, and child stars were being monetized as far back as WWI.

Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
14 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters who read as fit or thin describe the actual mechanism behind it — chain smoking to suppress appetite, overexercising, autoimmune flares, or long-running disordered eating — and say friends keep asking for their 'secret' without knowing the real answer.

What commenters described: the real answer is a bad eating routine, lack of sleep, and monster level anxiety that hits about twice a month

Limit: One reply pushes back that judging health by appearance in either direction is flawed, arguing objective measures like BMI matter more than how someone looks.

Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress
8 source records

What the pattern means: Multiple commenters describe losing dozens of pounds during divorces and coercive living situations and getting complimented on their appearance by coworkers and in-laws who had no idea the weight loss came from stress, fear, or being denied access to food.

What commenters described: 'OMG you look great!' and I'm like 'uh, thanks…'

Bodily modification and appearance pressure
8 source records

What the pattern means: Tattoos and piercings draw blunt distaste rather than analysis here — commenters call them physically painful to even look at or say they've simply never understood the appeal — though one softens by admitting his own grandfather's faded dive-bar tattoos still carried real sentimental weight even as they aged badly.

No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make
6 source records

What the pattern means: A sharp back-and-forth over whether shaving pubic hair mimics a prepubescent look turns into a debate about whether aging is scrutinized unfairly in women specifically, one side calling the pedophilia comparison offensive and the other doubling down on waist-to-hip ratio as the real biological argument.

Limit: The exchange stays unresolved — both commenters end up asking each other clarifying questions about small breasts and personal preference rather than reaching agreement.

Weight-loss compliments during grief
3 source records

What the pattern means: Three separate commenters describe losing significant weight after a parent's death or a broken engagement, each getting told by coworkers how great they looked while privately unable to eat from grief.

What commenters described: Everyone said I looked great 🤦‍♀️

Cancer-treatment weight-loss compliments
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two cancer patients describe losing 50 to 100 pounds from radiation and chemo side effects and then fielding 'you look great' from people unaware of the feeding tubes, throat burns, and strokes behind it.

What commenters described: Fantastic diet but do not recommend! lol

Women expected to remove body hair
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters push back on the idea that removing body hair infantilizes women, one calling the 'shaving makes you a child' framing creepy in reverse and citing trapped period blood as a practical, non-aesthetic reason to shave.

Pregnancy and caregiver-grief weight loss praised
2 source records

What the pattern means: A commenter who lost her appetite caring for her dying mother during pregnancy says she was praised for looking good throughout, and a reply adds that only regaining a healthier weight afterward brought back the energy those compliments had wrongly assumed she already had.

What commenters described: this is extremely unhealthy and nothing to be praised

A BRAT-diet question
2 source records

What the pattern means: A throwaway two-line exchange simply defines the BRAT diet as banana, rice, apple, and toast, with no elaboration on when or why someone would use it.

Obesity
2 source records

What the pattern means: One longer comment argues obesity shouldn't be treated as a fixed identity the way eye color is, pinning hope on drugs like Ozempic over surgery as the coming fix; the paired reply is just the bare word 'Obesity' with no context at all.

Thinness mistaken for fitness
1 source record

What the pattern means: A slim commenter describes joining a boxing class and being visibly outperformed on stamina and strength by larger training partners, yet still being assumed the 'healthier' one on sight alone.

What commenters described: Skinny doesn't = healthier

The most common gender affirming surgery done on minors is breast reductions
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter corrects a claim about gender-affirming surgery on minors, pointing out the most common such procedure is breast reduction in cisgender boys and calling the original complaint a rare case being treated as widespread.

Underweight fatigue and functional weakness
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter who is underweight describes the actual functional cost of it — constant fatigue, being unable to carry more than one bag of shopping, needing friends to move house because she could only handle small boxes — pushing back on people who can't understand wanting to gain weight.

Controversial- That we had a chance to overhaul our food, diet, stress
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter argues society had a real opening to fix diet, stress, and car-dependent city design but reached for Ozempic instead, and notes the broader conversation about food-system causes went quiet once the drug arrived.

If the only thing distinguishing a man's nether-regions from that of a
1 source record

What the pattern means: A blunt one-liner turns the 'clean-shaven equals childlike' argument back on itself, saying if pubic hair is the only thing separating a grown man's body from a boy's, that's a different problem entirely.

On most people, adult genitalia look nothing like a child's anyway
1 source record

What the pattern means: A terse rebuttal states that adult genitalia looks nothing like a child's on most people, directly undercutting the pedophilia comparison raised elsewhere in this thread.

Cosmetic surgery
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter frames all cosmetic surgery as an unnecessary medical risk, saying they're horrified anyone would accept surgical danger purely for vanity.

Beauty pageants for kids
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter calls kids' beauty pageants exploitative specifically because of the makeup involved, while volunteering that their own reaction may be colored by personal trauma rather than a purely objective judgment.

Beauty pageants for twelve year olds
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line entry simply names beauty pageants for twelve-year-olds as the disturbing norm in question, without elaboration.

>actually fixing the core issue of WHY are people so overweight You
1 source record

What the pattern means: A skeptical reply challenges someone's claim about fixing the 'core issue' behind obesity, asking pointedly whether they actually have a workable alternative to offer.

Beauty pageants for children
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is just three words — 'Beauty pageants for children.' — offered flatly as a complete objection with no supporting detail attached.

Child beauty pageants
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter uses deliberately harsh language, calling child beauty pageants 'pedophile shopping malls' and extending the identical framing to adult pageants as 'rapist shopping malls.'

If you see a clean shaven woman and think of a child
1 source record

What the pattern means: A sharp one-line reply turns the shaving-as-pedophilia argument back on the person making it, calling that association itself a red flag about the speaker.

People using Ozempic for weight loss only I just find it unsettling
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says what unsettles them isn't Ozempic's medical uses but its normalization purely for weight loss, given the side effects that come with it.

Toddler and child beauty pageants
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes stumbling on small-town festival pageants for five-year-olds while out shopping for crafts, saying hearing a child's looks announced over a loudspeaker made them want to be sick.

TRT and steroid use assumed from appearance
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter claims most fitness influencers over 35 on TikTok and YouTube are quietly on TRT, achieving a 'natural' look through means that carry real health costs most viewers never see.

Being very overweight
1 source record

What the pattern means: A bare two-word entry names being very overweight as the concern in question, with no further context supplied.

Child beauty pageants…
1 source record

What the pattern means: Another bare mention of child beauty pageants appears here, trailing off with an ellipsis instead of any explanation of the objection.

Fat and obese Americans are and nobody blames the industrial food complex
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter shifts blame for American obesity rates away from individuals and onto the industrial food system, saying nobody actually holds that system accountable for it.

Honestly, a lot of cosmetic surgury seems like nonsense to me
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter calls most cosmetic surgery overblown and not even aesthetically successful, adding that the idea of removing healthy, natural body parts unsettles them regardless of the outcome.

Organ-failure weight loss praised
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes losing 20kg total to necrotic pancreatitis and darkly notes that some people probably envied the 'efficient weight loss' the illness produced.

Physical-function tests and body size as mortality predictors
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter cites studies linking the simple ability to stand up without using your hands to longevity, alongside BMI and body-fat percentage, as concrete predictors of mortality risk.

When I was little, my mom soft-pitched participating in child beauty/talent pageants
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter recalls their mother gently suggesting child beauty pageants when they were young, saying they refused on instinct without being able to explain why at the time, and now understands exactly why.

3 hours into the question and nobody has said makeup
1 source record

What the pattern means: Deep into a thread about what counts as normal, one commenter points out that nobody had mentioned makeup, heels, jewelry, or hair dye yet, saying it disturbs them to imagine what women must think of their own natural appearance to alter it this routinely.

The fact clean shaven women are the norm even tho that’s a
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames a beauty norm as troubling because of what it resembles biologically, calling fully clean-shaven grooming visually closer to a child's body than an adult's.

I feel the same way about women with completely shaved privates
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter who came of age when total shaving was the unquestioned norm now finds it strange in hindsight, saying they want a partner's body to look like an adult's rather than a child's.

What commenters described: I want my partners parts to look like an adults, not like a childs.

Men being into hairless vag
1 source record

What the pattern means: Where other commenters in this set describe their own grooming history, this one turns the lens onto male preference itself, saying attraction to hairlessness still counts as unremarkable to most people despite looking disturbing to them.

What commenters described: Hairless vag is what prepubescent girls have not what women have naturally.

Disordered eating is everywhere, I know that it's pushed on women and
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, speaking from experience in recovery programs, corrects the assumption that disordered eating is mainly a young women's issue, saying men with body dysmorphia are just as common but far less recognized.

What commenters described: A lot more men have eating disorders than I think even they themselves realize because people think of thin teenage girls and not gym bros with body dysmorphia.

I find women shaving their pussies bald a little disturbing
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a brief, standalone statement of discomfort with total pubic hair removal, offered without the biological framing other entries in this set use.

Index finger rings on men
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a narrow, specific style observation, rings worn on the index finger by men, with no further explanation offered.

People showing special treatment for people who look better or have a
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names appearance-based favoritism directly, better treatment extended to people judged more attractive, without any specific incident attached to it.

Thinness caused by poor sleep, anxiety, and chronic illness
1 source record

What the pattern means: This pushes back on friends who read visible thinness as evidence of health, attributing their own body size instead to poor sleep, recurring anxiety, and an autoimmune condition that wrecks their appetite for days at a time each month.

What commenters described: I have an autoimmune disease and crap my brains out a few times a month minimum, it's not the same as being healthy but thanks.

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How fat and obese Americans are and nobody blames the industrial food complex

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I mean, growing up plastic surgery was already normalised as a concept, despite it being unaffordable. i still had classmates take out loans to get nosejobs. And shirley temple was monetised as early as ww1

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I say “that pesky blood disease has really helped my physique” the look of horror on their faces is priceless 🤣

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What the counts show

A full manual review this round moved out the roughly 65 entries that had no genuine connection to appearance, diet, or body expectations -- casinos, highways, apartment inspections, streaming subscriptions, a personal message about a song, and dozens more that had been swept in by loose keyword association (several landed in Animals, climate, and environmental harm or Public behavior, boundaries, and normalized cruelty instead, where they actually belong; one, a warm and entirely unrelated personal message, was demoted outright) -- so what remains is a much smaller set of genuinely on-topic clusters. The two largest are a running debate over whether shaving off adult body hair makes bodies look prepubescent, argued back and forth across nine linked comments with real disagreement on both sides, and people complimented with 'you look great' whose weight loss actually traces back to cancer, grief, organ failure, pregnancy and caregiving, or coercion and distress rather than a deliberate healthy change. The rest is smaller but still squarely on-topic: cosmetic surgery normalization, disordered eating tied to how much thinness is culturally valued, TRT and steroid use assumed from appearance, child and toddler beauty pageants, and lookism -- people getting noticeably different treatment because they're seen as more or less attractive.

45index entries
95distinct source records
35.7%of parent category
2.3%of the complete index
34top-level comments
61replies

How attention is distributed across the 45 index entries

33single-source entries (73.3% of 45)
98source-record references across the index
36.7%of references in the top three entries
Cosmetic-surgery normalization14 source records
Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued14 source records
Bodily modification and appearance pressure8 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

1explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
17asks a question
0says they intend to try it
77other source context

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Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 45 index entries preserve 95 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Institutions and public life112 records · 2 sub-topics
Education, religion, and cultural rules57 index entries · 174 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Education, religion, and cultural rules

Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below.

The hookup culture I've seen friends and aquaintances engaging in with people
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter re-entering dating describes being shocked by how casually friends and acquaintances hooked up with strangers, saying the scale of it left them fearing for physical safety and disease risk rather than just judging it morally.

The need to normalize things is pretty concerning
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues the drive to 'normalize' identities backfires by implying there's an approved list of acceptable differences, sarcastically listing being gay, trans, or an amputee as already 'approved' while needling the person they're replying to.

Thinking that taking care of yourself first means not taking care of
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter pushes back on 'self-care first' framing, arguing it gets wrongly read as license to stop caring for friends, family, neighbors, or community.

Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
58 source records

What the pattern means: Alcohol draws the heaviest fire in this cluster, described as a poison people are expected to drink at every social event, sports game, or flight despite everyone knowing its cancer and addiction risks; sports betting ads and on-the-job cannabis use round out a list of vices people acknowledge are dangerous but keep doing anyway. A few push back that falling drinking rates among younger adults are a genuine improvement, not decline.

Limit: Several replies insist the drop in alcohol use and early sexual activity among younger people is a real positive, not evidence of a generation in decline.

Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
18 source records

What the pattern means: The throughline is real exclusion, not abstract theology: one commenter was barred from standing beside her own brother at his wedding because she was menstruating during the Hindu ceremony, and another couple skipped a relative's wedding entirely once guests were told what women could and couldn't wear. Replies split between calling the practices flatly harmful and defending them as a matter of respecting someone else's culture.

Limit: Some replies caution that respecting a family's customs, however unwelcome, can matter more than confrontation — one commenter says she chose to 'pick her battles' rather than make a scene.

Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
11 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe childhood violence between siblings that parents waved off as ordinary rivalry — one was beaten by a brother whose behavior got excused as 'that's just what brothers do,' another's parents told both kids to 'stop' instead of addressing which one was the aggressor. Several say they've gone no-contact as adults once they recognized how much that dismissal had cost them.

Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks
7 source records

What the pattern means: A college IT staffer describes tickets that read only 'HELP!!!!!!' with no body text, students who can read an error message aloud but can't repeat what it said, and an inability to troubleshoot without being walked through every step. Other repliers push back that boomers generate the exact same clueless tickets, suggesting this may be a general tech-competence problem rather than a generational one.

Limit: Multiple replies argue boomers show identical patterns, undercutting the idea that this is specific to younger students.

Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
8 source records

What the pattern means: Examples range from entire nationalities blamed for one leader's actions to the widely shared 'they're eating the pets' jokes about Haitian immigrants that one commenter says went largely unaddressed as racism at the time it was happening. Another points to police dogs as trained extensions of their handlers' own bias rather than neutral tools, while a late reply insists that speaking a shared language among coworkers is manners, not racism.

Limit: One reply pushes back that not every complaint about being excluded is actually about race.

Car dependence, road danger, and normalized traffic deaths
6 source records

What the pattern means: Multiple commenters fixate on physics nobody thinks about — a 2,000-pound car balanced on roughly one square foot of rubber, closing speeds of 100mph in a head-on crash, nothing but a painted yellow line separating opposing traffic — and single out oversized pickup trucks' blind spots as a recurring near-miss for cyclists and pedestrians. One frames the whole arrangement as something tolerated only because no living person has ever known an alternative.

General exhaustion with normalized life
4 source records

What the pattern means: This is less one complaint than a shared sigh — commenters describe exhaustion at questioning why decisions made generations ago still dictate their lives, and getting told they're 'crazy' for even asking. One singles out culture and tradition specifically as inherited 'subjective and relative bullshit' from people no longer around to defend it.

Religion providing certainty, community, and opportunity for exploitation
5 source records

What the pattern means: Several replies build one argument in stages: religion delegates hard decisions and fear of death to a higher power, supplies a built-in social group and material support, and lets people externalize blame onto god or the devil — and that exact bundle of comfort and absolution is what makes believers so easy for opportunists to exploit.

What commenters described: "Community, pride, and the absolution of blame. Psychologically, it's huge."

Limit: "it's also the easiest thing in the world to weaponize and/or exploit."

Functional cannabis dependence normalized
4 source records

What the pattern means: A cannabis-store manager says he sees the same customers who 'can't function without it' more than once a day, while a delivery worker describes coworkers who smoke before or after shifts and get a pass because they're still functional; a separate account has construction workers bragging about getting high on break before returning to operate heavy machinery.

Limit: One reply notes that in countries where cannabis is fully legal, this framing simply doesn't apply.

Drinking and driving normalization
3 source records

What the pattern means: Beyond the flat statement that drunk driving happens, replies widen the complaint to a whole set of car habits people shrug off — driving while high, driving solo in an oversized SUV for a daily commute, or driving half a mile for a gallon of milk — treating all of it as symptoms of the same underlying car dependency.

Drug-impaired driving normalization
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two short replies narrow the broader drunk-driving complaint down to driving while high specifically, with one adding that turning impaired driving into internet memes only reinforces how little alarm it now provokes.

Climate-change normalization
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter names global warming with no elaboration at all; the reply runs through a tongue-in-cheek list of possible endings, from AI-accelerated famine to outright nuclear war, that reads as dark comedy sitting on top of genuine anxiety.

Religious head coverings framed as normalized oppression
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter is unsettled that religious head coverings now appear in ads and on police uniforms as unremarkable, rather than as a marker of women's subordination.

Limit: The reply complicates that framing by noting it's often women themselves who enforce the practice on other women, drawing a parallel to women who perform female genital mutilation.

It is totally normal though, we live and then we die, it's
2 source records

What the pattern means: Here the disturbing thing turns out to be mortality itself — one commenter shrugs that living and dying is simply part of life, and the reply confirms that's exactly the kind of ordinary fact the original question was fishing for.

Lack of sobriety normalized in a call center
2 source records

What the pattern means: A former call-center employee says being less than sober on the job was 'almost expected'; a food-service worker's reply describes the same pattern spiraling further — drinking through a shift while assuming no one could tell, losing that job over it, and landing at McDonald's just to keep the family housed.

Cross-country differences in public-filming norms
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both replies frame indiscriminate public filming as a distinctly American habit — one says it's flatly illegal where they live, and the other recounts confronting a tourist who filmed them and their nephew for Instagram, only backing down after bystanders sided with the commenter.

Consumer disposability and normalized waste
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is reduced to a single-line naming of single-use plastic as a disturbingly normalized default, with no elaboration surviving in the retained record.

Sneakers replacing heels at college parties
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter in her 30s who remembers heels as miserable was struck at a college homecoming party to see every young woman dressed up but wearing sneakers, and admits taking photos just to show friends how much easier this generation has it.

What commenters described: "THE GIRLS TODAY DON'T HAVE TO SUFFER LIKE WE DID!!!"

The normalization of watching porn
1 source record

What the pattern means: Nothing beyond the label survives for this one — a single line naming porn's normalization as the disturbing thing, with no elaboration attached in the retained record.

Sellout stigma replaced by “get that bag” culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: A shift in values rather than a harm shows up here — 'sellout' used to be one of the worst things you could call someone, replaced now by openly chasing money under 'get that bag' culture.

What commenters described: "We went from being called a sellout being one of the worst insults, to 'get that bag' culture."

Religion as a response to existential uncertainty
1 source record

What the pattern means: Belief in a higher power gets reframed here as a coping mechanism rather than theology — a way, this commenter argues, to avoid confronting the sheer strangeness of conscious existence head-on.

Way too many people act like it's normal to believe in invisible
1 source record

What the pattern means: Belief itself gets dismissed in one blunt line here — commenters call it bizarre that so many people treat 'invisible sky fairies' as beings they can actually hear from.

Americas Tip culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: Tipping culture in America is named here with no elaboration at all, standing in as shorthand for a widely shared but otherwise unexplained irritation.

Porn/porn culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: Porn inside a committed relationship is this commenter's example of 'microcheating' treated as perfectly normal, though he concedes upfront that it's an unpopular take plenty of couples would disagree with.

Limit: He acknowledges many couples are genuinely fine with it and that raising the point tends to draw considerable pushback.

Prepaid text costs and slower reply norms
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter recalls a pre-smartphone era when running out of prepaid credit meant friends might wait up to two weeks for a text back, with nobody thinking anything of it — the only real pressure toward constant responsiveness came later from Facebook, which he solved by simply quitting Facebook.

What commenters described: "I've had no issue keeping it normal... Problem solved."

On Reddit, up is down, black is white, normal is abnormal
1 source record

What the pattern means: Reddit itself becomes the illustration in this one-liner, framing the platform's collective consensus as reliably inverted from what actually counts as normal.

A lot of culture around drinking, just how normal it is, how
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter isn't bothered that people drink so much as by how automatic it's become — treated as the unspoken default at nearly every kind of celebration, with real social pressure attached to anyone who opts out.

People would rather pay for a college sports program than pay for
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single-line complaint contrasts public willingness to fund college athletics against reluctance to fund students' actual tuition, implying a misplaced set of institutional priorities.

Possible motor and attention deficits in a recent college cohort
1 source record

What the pattern means: A biology professor teaching freshmen born around 2006-2008, many of whom hit their high school transition during peak Covid, says she'd never seen a whole cohort struggle this much with basic motor skills, describing students who lacked the finger strength and hand-eye coordination to pipette liquid accurately.

Limit: She ties the pattern to their pandemic-era schooling rather than treating it as an inherent trait of the generation.

Toxic ro's being normalized
1 source record

What the pattern means: Toxic romantic relationships get named in four words here, flagged as increasingly waved off as normal without any further elaboration.

> her normal, natural, beautiful looks holy false generalizations, batman
1 source record

What the pattern means: A sarcastic reply pushes back on someone else's claim about what counts as 'normal, natural, beautiful looks,' flagging it as a sweeping generalization rather than naming a disturbing norm directly.

As an indigenous person, pretty much western culture in its entirety
1 source record

What the pattern means: An indigenous commenter answers the prompt by naming Western culture in its entirety as the disturbing norm, without further elaboration surviving in the retained excerpt.

Culture–religion conflation and pressure to perform conformity
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter traces a specific mechanism: when culture and religion blur together, questioning any practice starts to feel like disrespecting elders or heritage itself, which is exactly how internalized misogyny keeps circulating among religious women who might otherwise object.

Hustle culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names hustle culture as the expectation that a standard forty-hour week was never actually enough — free time is supposed to go toward networking, side hustles, or credential-building instead of rest.

I’m a 52f, and I find the obsession with looks and normalized
1 source record

What the pattern means: A 52-year-old commenter describes Botox and fillers becoming standard among women in her office under 40, and finds the resulting 'duck lips, puffy cheeks and shiny foreheads' more disturbing than aging itself, wishing the culture instead normalized visibly getting older.

What commenters described: "Why can't we normalize the aging process? It's normal!"

Not gonna be popular with this but the culture around cheating
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter argues the social ranking of betrayals runs backwards — infidelity gets condemned far more harshly than physical violence, even though he says a single instance of his wife hitting him would end the marriage while an undiscovered instance of cheating wouldn't change anything.

Limit: He flags upfront that this take isn't popular and expects pushback for saying it.

Others missing severe intoxication due to normalization
1 source record

What the pattern means: A recovering alcoholic recalls friends genuinely not registering how drunk he was during what he calls 'epic benders,' explaining that once people already know someone drinks, a passing line like 'well of course he drank last night' quietly does the work of covering for how bad it actually was.

People accepting as normal that we breed billions of animals in concrete
1 source record

What the pattern means: Industrial animal agriculture gets condemned in a single line here — the mass breeding and killing of animals in concrete confinement, accepted, this commenter says, without anyone examining it.

>Rituals and traditions have been the backbone of society since pre-historic times
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply directly rebuts the idea that rituals and traditions are society's 'backbone,' arguing law, education, language, and economy deserve that title instead, and asking what happens to the person who simply doesn't want to participate.

Limit: The commenter argues personal freedom of thought should outweigh tradition for anyone who opts out.

Car culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone who grew up immersed in car culture doesn't deny the convenience of having your own transportation, but is struck by how completely an entire society got built around the assumption that everyone would own one.

What commenters described: "It's undeniably nice to have a mode of transit that's so convenient."

Cultural expectations for males to be “masculine”, which creates enormous stress and
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter, straight but frequently assumed gay, describes masculinity expectations as a persistent source of stress and insecurity for men — somewhat eased compared to past demands on women's femininity, but still a significant pressure to perform an identity that isn't necessarily authentic.

European versus American after-hours reachability norms
1 source record

What the pattern means: One European commenter contrasts their own workplace, where being unreachable outside office hours draws no judgment, against what they identify as a distinctly American expectation of constant availability.

Excusing terrible, if not deplorable, behavior because of societal/cultural “norms”
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a tired-sounding rejection of using 'that's just our culture' as cover for behavior the commenter considers genuinely deplorable, urging people to own their actions outright instead of hiding behind norms.

Gun culture in America
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter can't find a single argument for American gun culture that justifies its death toll, singling out the glorification of guns as a specifically 'American' identity marker as the most disturbing part of it.

Hook-up culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: Casual hookups strike this commenter as fundamentally reckless — meeting a stranger, drinking, and going to bed together with no knowledge of their mental health or STD status — and he cites rising HIV and gonorrhea cases circulating in health-focused YouTube videos as the visible cost.

Hookup culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: Two words are all that survive for this near-duplicate entry — 'hookup culture' named with none of the elaboration found elsewhere in this set.

Ironically, Normalcy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter turns the whole premise on its head, arguing normalcy itself is disturbing because people judge behavior by how long it's been done rather than whether it works, meaning anyone with enough power to enforce a habit long enough gets to dictate everyone else's normal.

Made up history in pop culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter worries less about entertainment itself than about pop culture's outsized power over the past 25 years to spread fabricated history as though it were fact, calling that spread of misinformation 'anti-social.'

Merch culture and "collecting
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry catalogs the specific objects nobody needs — cafe tote bags, YouTuber plush collaborations, Funko Pops for a favorite show — as a portrait of hoarding dressed up as fandom, ending in closets full of unused shoes, bags, and soap.

Rituals and traditions have been the backbone of society since pre-historic times
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter defends ritual and tradition as functionally necessary rather than arbitrary, arguing their real purpose was never practical usefulness but that everyone doing the same thing together is precisely what strengthens social bonds.

The normalization of passive driver aids
1 source record

What the pattern means: A small-car driver argues that lane-keep, adaptive cruise, and blind-spot monitoring quietly train people to pay less attention rather than making them safer, recounting being nearly run off the road by a driver checking a blind-spot light that couldn't detect his car.

Limit: He acknowledges the common counterargument that these aids meaningfully reduce mental load on long drives, but isn't convinced by it.

People being physically addicted to caffeine, accepting it like it's normal and
1 source record

What the pattern means: Caffeine gets singled out here specifically, framed as a physical dependence people accept passively and rarely make any real effort to break.

Normalized abortion is
1 source record

What the pattern means: Four words are all that remain of this entry — 'how normalized abortion is' — with no supporting context surviving in the source record.

The adults that don't try to learn more beyond their highschool education
1 source record

What the pattern means: This complaint isn't about children directly but about adults who stop learning anything once formal schooling ends, never again picking up an educational book or article despite decades of life still ahead.

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Explicit limit or counterpoint

Being given license to externalize blame is HUGELY attractive. Nothing's your fault. It's god or the devil's. And no matter what horrendous stuff you do, you can just ask for forgiveness. Plus you get a social group that meets every week and you all like/hate the same prescribed stuff. I get it. That's all huge. Community, pride, and the absolution of blame. Psychologically, it's huge. Unfortunately, it's also the easiest thing in the world to weaponize and/or exploit.

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Explicit limit or counterpoint

Porn/porn culture. It's damaging to society as a whole for a multitude of reasons. Also I find it bizarre that it's considered perfectly normal in committed relationships. I personally consider it microcheating, which I feel is normalized as well. Unfortunately this is considered a hot take and gets a ton of hate on here. I know it's totally fine in many relationships, obviously people can be ok with it and that's their choice. It just doesn't sit right with me personally.

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Alcohol. Between the fact that it's poisoning you, messing with your life, addictive, destroys families, and get people run over on a daily basis, everyone just seems cool with it. Wtf?!

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I really dont like drugs or alcohol. i very rarely drink. I absolutely hate smoking. i have never met a happy addict or alcoholic.

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People being physically addicted to caffeine, accepting it like it's normal and doing little too break the addiction

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What the counts show

The items with real back-and-forth cluster tightly around substances and money: alcohol, gambling, cannabis, and utility pricing pull in dozens of replies and active disagreement, including pushback that falling teen drinking and sex rates are actually healthy, not decline. Nearly everything else in this subcategory, from gun culture to hookup culture to tip culture, lands as a single unchallenged one-liner naming a broad target, and the few items with real narrative weight, a sibling-abuse account, a wedding exclusion, a professor's story about an IT helpdesk, describe adults or institutions failing to intervene rather than an individual failing to resist temptation.

57index entries
174distinct source records
56.5%of parent category
4.2%of the complete index
80top-level comments
94replies

How attention is distributed across the 57 index entries

41single-source entries (71.9% of 57)
177source-record references across the index
49.2%of references in the top three entries
Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling58 source records
Religion used to harm, harass, or control others18 source records
Sibling abuse dismissed as normal11 source records

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What commenters explicitly report

1explicitly reports a benefit
4explicitly reports a limit or failure
23asks a question
1says they intend to try it
145other source context

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Archive: 57 index entries preserve 174 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Politics, policing, and justice55 index entries · 135 source records
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Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Politics, policing, and justice

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The dehumanising and calls for and celebration for murder of politcal figures
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific online pattern rather than a general political complaint, describing celebration of a political figure's death alongside mockery of the surviving spouse as something they find simply sick.

The UK grooming gangs and two tier policing
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names UK grooming gangs and two-tier policing together as a single linked complaint, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on specific cases or policy.

Cops killing people
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names police killings in two words, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on a specific case or pattern.

Right wing and often just full on fascist think tanks are basically
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter accuses right-wing and fascist-aligned think tanks of running coordinated messaging across media channels, framing it as an active, ongoing danger rather than a historical concern.

Certain members of Finance, Politic and Lawenforcment are still breathing
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single sarcastic line remarks that certain unnamed figures in finance, politics, and law enforcement are 'still breathing,' implying accountability is overdue rather than stating a specific claim.

People think extrajudicial punishment is a good thing
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes being met with total silence rather than pushback whenever they point out that people casually joke about prison rape and support torturing prisoners, arguing that wrongful convictions alone should make the practice unconscionable.

Politics have become nothing but personal attacks on one another
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says political discourse has degraded into pure personal attack, adding that this kind of behavior would get someone fired on the spot at their own company.

Slavery is a bad thing, unless we're doing it to people in
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter points out that slavery and rape are treated as unthinkable everywhere except within the prison system, imagining a judge stating a sentence honestly to expose how normalized that exception has become.

Not to mention the whole American thing of glorifying their child killing
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter adds that American culture specifically glorifies troops involved in killing children, treating it as an extension of a broader point about selective outrage.

Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
42 source records

What the pattern means: Across the largest excerpt set in this category, the same specific case keeps surfacing — commenters cite the sitting US president's rape and fraud convictions and his repeated appearances in the Epstein files as evidence that legal accountability simply stops applying once someone holds enough power, while a second cluster generalizes the same complaint into mechanics like insider trading, gerrymandering, and the lobbyist-to-executive revolving door.

What commenters described: Politicians "retire" from politics and become big wigs at these corporations that they did favors for... It is a straight up financial racket... Literal cheat code.

Limit: A couple of replies complicate the blanket framing — one worried that banning lobbying entirely would also stop ordinary constituents from getting a meeting with their representative, and another insisted the real problem is idolizing any politician, not one administration.

War and mass civilian suffering normalized
10 source records

What the pattern means: These comments aren't arguing policy so much as describing their own numbness — several use the word genocide for the same ongoing conflict and then, in the same breath, admit they've stopped registering it as news, down to one reply flatly noting a war nearby they 'don't even think about... that often anymore.'

What commenters described: There's a war right east of me and I don't even think about it that often anymore

Limit: Replies within the thread argue over whether naming the conflict counts as antisemitism, which shows how contested the vocabulary itself has become even among people who agree the suffering is real.

Loitering laws and policing young people in public
6 source records

What the pattern means: Teens describe having police called on them simply for gathering in a park after dark, with one tracing loitering statutes back to laws written to sweep up 'societal undesirables,' while another commenter insists none of this is actually new.

What commenters described: my group of friends (all late teen girl) has had the police called on us just for going on the kids play area at around 10 o’clock at night... it’s the reporting that deters young people from going out.

Limit: One reply pushes back hard on the novelty claim, pointing out that parks closing at dark and getting shooed off after hours happened just as often 25 years ago.

Military spending while poverty is blamed
4 source records

What the pattern means: The sharpest evidence here is personal rather than statistical — a former technical support engineer describes being ordered to stop fixing systems he knew how to fix so a worse replacement could be sold instead, then quitting for a coffee-shop job whose entire daily revenue turned out to be less than his old one-day salary.

What commenters described: I was directed specifically NOT to fix things that I knew how to fix because we had new (worse) systems we could sell to replace it instead.

Limit: One reply complicates the military framing by noting that money at least mostly recirculates in the domestic economy, and points instead at health insurance profit as the purer case of money vanishing into a company's coffers.

The due-process need for neutral courtroom testimony
3 source records

What the pattern means: Rather than disputing the discomfort of neutral courtroom testimony, these replies defend it on practical grounds — a trial can't function if witnesses are allowed to sway a jury through raw emotion, and a lower evidentiary bar cuts both ways when accusations themselves get weaponized.

What commenters described: the entire point of the court is that you're not allowed to sway the jury at all... Imagine being in court and the court can't proceed because someone on the stand is wailing and pointing at the defendant

Australia's right-to-disconnect law
3 source records

What the pattern means: This entry reads as a direct answer to an implied American complaint — Australian and European commenters point out that legally protected after-hours silence, and simply not answering work calls at night, is already normal where they live.

What commenters described: New federal "right to disconnect" laws will take effect from Monday, legally protecting workers from being forced to take non-emergency calls and respond to emails outside of business hours.

WarGames (1983)
3 source records

What the pattern means: The entries here amount to a passing movie citation rather than an argument — commenters name WarGames as the reference point for nuclear-war-by-computer anxiety, though one reply's claim that it's 'just a slightly tweaked version of Terminator' gets the chronology backwards, since WarGames came out first.

What commenters described: It’s just slightly tweaked version of Terminator

Limit: The Terminator comparison doesn't hold up on timeline — WarGames predates it — so the claim reads more like a vague genre association than an informed one.

Politics as celebrity personality competition
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both comments here treat modern politics as an extension of celebrity culture, arguing that policy substance has been replaced by dueling public personas, and drawing a direct comparison to how a satire like The Boys skewers the public's worship of famous people.

What commenters described: Politicians don't actually deliver on policy, it's just a game of battling celebrity personalities.

Casual ableism, especially in teenagers and towards hidden disabilities
2 source records

What the pattern means: This pairing describes a recurring blind spot rather than a single incident — teens mocking classmates whose disabilities aren't visible, and a separate commenter recalling an entire Facebook group built around people venting anger at strangers who turned out to be disabled the whole time.

What commenters described: someone may ‘look’ perfectly abled, but you never know, then people judge and mock for something that is literally a disability

A convicted offender suing a warning speaker for defamation
2 source records

What the pattern means: The stakes in this specific case are inverted from what you'd expect — a woman who publicly warned a small group about a convicted offender was successfully sued by him for defamation, and now owes him roughly triple what he originally had to pay his own victim.

What commenters described: How in the world is it “defamation” to warn a small group of people about a guy who literally DID the crime and was convicted?

Limit: A reply explains the mechanism: the applicable defamation standard only requires reputational harm, not falsehood, which is why truth wasn't a defense here — and notes she avoided prison herself only because she was 17, not 18, at the time.

War
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both remarks here describe an emotional bind more than a policy stance — feeling unable to voice plain opposition to war without being met with 'what if everyone were a pacifist,' and catching oneself wishing suffering on people one dislikes, then feeling disgusted at having felt that at all.

What commenters described: Wanting people you don't like to die. To have them suffer. To wish them ill. I don't understand it and everytime I give into those feelings feel disgusted with myself.

Religious or political violence
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a single unqualified line naming religious or political violence broadly, offered without a specific incident, country, or example attached to it.

What commenters described: Any version of religious or political violence

For profit prisons
1 source record

What the pattern means: A blunt two-word reaction to for-profit incarceration, expressing disbelief at the concept itself rather than pointing to any particular company, contract, or state.

What commenters described: For profit prisons. Wtf

Limit: No mechanism or example is given — the comment is reaction only, with nothing to substantiate which specific practice prompted it.

The obviously corrupt political duopoly in my country
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a terse, country-unspecified indictment of a two-party system as inherently corrupt, delivered without naming a party, official, or incident behind the claim.

What commenters described: The obviously corrupt political duopoly in my country.

Limit: The commenter never names the country or a specific instance, so the claim can't be checked against anything concrete.

Israel committing war crimes with impunity and the level of influence it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This single, more developed comment links what it calls Israeli impunity directly to domestic consequences, arguing that UK and US legal rights are being eroded specifically to shield a foreign government while daily life carries on unaffected around it.

What commenters described: Our rights are being dismantled as we speak in order to protect a foreign entity, whilst we watch children starved and bombed and people get on with their daily lives as if nothing is happening.

The prison industrial complex
1 source record

What the pattern means: Just the phrase itself, offered lowercase and without elaboration, naming the whole carceral-industrial system as the disturbing thing rather than describing any particular case within it.

What commenters described: the prison industrial complex

Limit: As with several other single-line entries in this set, there's no supporting detail about which part of the system prompted the comment.

Copyright law
1 source record

What the pattern means: A two-word dismissal that names copyright law itself as the object of concern, without indicating which provision, case, or industry practice is behind the frustration.

What commenters described: Copyright law.

Defending pedophilia if the perp is of a particular political affiliation, idgaf
1 source record

What the pattern means: A flat, one-line insistence that accountability for pedophilia should apply regardless of a perpetrator's political affiliation, expressing disgust that this even needs stating as a position.

What commenters described: Defending pedophilia if the perp is of a particular political affiliation, idgaf what “side” they’re on, they all deserve to be rooted out and to rot in a cell.

Normal everyday non-military-associated people owning multiple machine guns and other weapons that
1 source record

What the pattern means: Names ordinary people with no military affiliation legally owning multiple machine guns and other mass-casualty-capable weapons as the disturbing norm, without specifying a country, law, or incident behind the claim.

What commenters described: Normal everyday non-military-associated people owning multiple machine guns and other weapons that could achieve mass murder.

The amount of corruption in politics and with the police in my
1 source record

What the pattern means: A Danish commenter names political and police corruption in their own country as normalized, adding that people shrug it off by comparing it favorably to worse countries rather than actually addressing it.

What commenters described: It's crazy and nobody cares just because it's "worse" in other countries.

The obsession with political figures
1 source record

What the pattern means: Dismisses both major political camps equally, calling politicians 'parasites' but reserving the sharpest contempt for the people who idolize them rather than the figures themselves.

What commenters described: They are both parasites and the pathetic people who live on their knees for them makes me sick

>law, education, ~~language~~ and economy Rituals precede (almost) all of these >Personal
1 source record

What the pattern means: A philosophical reply, missing the comment it's answering, argues that treating personal freedom of thought as more important than tradition is itself a distinctly modern idea rather than a historical constant.

What commenters described: >Personal freedom of thought is more important than tradition That's a very modern idea which didn't really exist for most of the history of humanity.

Limit: Without the original comment attached, it's unclear exactly what claim about law, education, or economy this reply is responding to.

Global warming
1 source record

What the pattern means: The shortest possible entry in the set — two words naming global warming itself as the thing that shouldn't be treated as normal, with no supporting detail.

What commenters described: Global warming.

I agree, but the fact that everyone is aware of it now
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short reply reframes whatever concern the thread is discussing as a hopeful sign rather than a failure, arguing that widespread public awareness of a problem is itself progress compared with it going unnoticed.

What commenters described: I agree, but the fact that everyone is aware of it now has to be a positive development.

Limit: As with other stand-alone replies in this set, the parent comment isn't included, so which specific problem 'it' refers to is unclear from this record.

Much the US incentivizes and promotes sociopathic traits in business and politics
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line claim that American business and political culture actively rewards sociopathic behavior, stated as a general observation rather than tied to a specific company, politician, or event.

What commenters described: How much the US incentivizes and promotes sociopathic traits in business and politics

Our political reality
1 source record

What the pattern means: The vaguest entry in the category — a bare reference to the current state of politics, with no country, party, or specific grievance attached to explain what's being pointed at.

What commenters described: Our political reality

Limit: Nothing in the record clarifies which aspect of political life the commenter means.

People that lack general community empathy and awareness and act very self
1 source record

What the pattern means: Complains about people obliviously clustering on public walkways, treating it as a small but telling example of a broader lack of basic awareness that other people are trying to get somewhere.

What commenters described: standing around on public walkways being a nuisance making it hard for people to move from A to B

The display of military hardware at sporting events
1 source record

What the pattern means: A bare one-line objection to seeing military hardware displayed at sporting events, without explaining what specifically about the pairing bothers the commenter.

What commenters described: The display of military hardware at sporting events.

Limit: The record gives the observation with no reasoning attached, so it's unclear whether the objection is about militarism, spectacle, or something else.

The ease at which people are discussing war with Russia
1 source record

What the pattern means: Warns that treating a potential war with Russia casually ignores where that conflict actually leads, arguing that any such war escalates to nuclear exchange and that phrases like 'boots on the ground' get thrown around with reckless ease.

What commenters described: Any war with Russia, goes nuclear. And nuclear war, is the end of everything.

We're barreling towards hitting +3°C and everyone is just kind of
1 source record

What the pattern means: Names the trajectory toward +3°C of warming and describes the dominant public reaction to it as a shrug rather than alarm, framing the indifference itself as the disturbing part.

What commenters described: we're barreling towards hitting +3°C and everyone is just kind of...well, shrugging it off.

Republicans
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both records attached to this entry are the single unelaborated word 'Republicans,' repeated twice with no supporting argument, target policy, or example given in either instance.

Fear or discomfort about Russia
1 source record

What the pattern means: The entire record for this item is four words: 'Weirdly, it's Russia.' No reasoning, example, or context follows, so there is nothing beneath the headline to actually analyze.

Abuse by law enforcement and other trusted authorities
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two short comments widen the frame from a single incident to a category: abuse feels worse to these commenters whenever it comes from someone in a role the victim was taught to trust by default, like police, doctors, parents, or teachers.

What commenters described: Ditto for doctors, parents, teachers, and anyone else who's in a position of power over the victim

Epstein-association and government-coverup allegations
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter stacks several specific grievances into a single sentence — officials tied to Epstein's circle, media figures platforming that circle, victims being doxxed — rather than treating it as one isolated scandal.

Masked armed immigration enforcement
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection here is about anonymity paired with force: agents in tactical gear with covered faces carrying guns, operating under the ICE name with no way for the public to identify who they actually are.

We have a pedophile at the helm of our government
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a blunt accusation with no supporting detail, naming a sitting government leader a pedophile without any further elaboration in the thread.

The government in its entirety, the lack of awareness of the common
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a broad indictment of government stacked into one sentence — disconnection from ordinary people and a reliance on divisive tactics — with no single incident singled out.

The level of corruption in our governments
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter names government corruption in general as the disturbing norm, offering no specific country, official, or incident to anchor the claim.

Also the fact that our us government is trying to make it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter cites a specific legislative proposal, restricting a married woman's vote to her husband, as evidence the country is moving backward rather than forward.

What commenters described: also the fact that our us government is trying to make it where if a women is married only the man gets to vote

Extreme corruption of the government (not stating where because this applies to
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter deliberately withholds naming a specific country, framing extreme government corruption as a pattern spanning most wealthy nations rather than one bad actor.

The government systemically starving and killing its citizens without much protest
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter describes a government actively harming its own population through starvation and killing, and is struck less by the harm itself than by how little protest it draws.

US government legally taking bride from everyone
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry appears to allege the government legally stripping something from the public, described only as 'bride,' likely a typo, with no further context surviving in the thread.

Unverified allegations about a current political leader
10 source records

What the pattern means: Allegations here loop back specifically to the Epstein files, with one reply noting the “kill your local pedophile” crowd went quiet once real accountability became possible, and another arguing the same protective rhetoric gets redirected at LGBTQ people as coded ‘groomer’ language instead.

What commenters described: apparent pedophilia in general is just… not an issue given there’s been zero consequences for anyone in the files

Limit: A dissenting reply calls the accused group “just a very very vocal minority,” rejecting the scale the original claim implies.

The current political climate
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both records here are near-identical one-line references to ‘the current political climate,’ offered with no country, party, or specific event attached — the second comment simply echoes the first rather than adding any new detail.

Current politics
1 source record

What the pattern means: Offered as a two-word answer with no elaboration, current politics stands alone here as the entire claim.

I love the poorly educated
1 source record

What the pattern means: This drops in a single attributed line — “I love the poorly educated” — as shorthand for a leader who, in the commenter’s telling, said the quiet part about his own constituents out loud.

What commenters described: "I love the poorly educated." ---DJT

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I agree, but the fact that everyone is aware of it now has to be a positive development.

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Later-arriving source

What do you want me to do? There's a war right east of me and I don't even think about it that often anymore

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Zero-like source

Yea, I guess. I live in the US with a pedo as president, which has sadly become our “normal”. By the way I’m not arguing with you, so I’m not sure why you’re being pedantic towards me. I’m just answering the question.

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What the counts show

The politician-idolatry item alone accounts for 42 of this category's records and centers overwhelmingly on the sitting US president's rape and fraud convictions and repeated Epstein-files appearances, treated as proof that legal consequences stop applying once someone holds enough power; the rest of the category is mostly a long tail of one-line, unelaborated complaints (for-profit prisons, copyright law, military hardware at sporting events, masked ICE agents) that name a target without building out an argument.

55index entries
135distinct source records
43.8%of parent category
3.2%of the complete index
85top-level comments
50replies

How attention is distributed across the 55 index entries

40single-source entries (72.7% of 55)
135source-record references across the index
45.9%of references in the top three entries
Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture42 source records
Unverified allegations about a current political leader10 source records
War and mass civilian suffering normalized10 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
12asks a question
0says they intend to try it
123other source context

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Archive: 55 index entries preserve 135 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Media ownership and recording70 records · 2 sub-topics
Digital ownership, streaming, and disappearing purchases22 index entries · 74 source records
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Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Digital ownership, streaming, and disappearing purchases

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It's getting harder and harder to actually own something
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters trace a concrete mechanism behind vanishing ownership — subscription models, devices that brick without warning, right-to-repair lawsuits — and one reply puts the blame back on buyers, arguing refusing to purchase digital-only games would stop the practice fast.

Software licenses even on physical media
5 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters work through the actual legal difference between owning a disc and owning a download — a physical copy can still legally be resold or lent even though publishers dislike it, whereas a digital license lets the platform simply forbid that outright.

What commenters described: with a physical medium, I am allowed to do it *as a matter of law* and it doesn't matter if Sony likes it or not.

Limit: One reply flips the whole premise, arguing that true ownership would let anyone copy and resell games or music freely, which would gut the incentive to make anything in the first place.

I’m a software developer and agree with you
1 source record

What the pattern means: A software developer's reply extends the ownership-versus-subscription complaint beyond media into smart-home hardware: rather than connected appliances that depend on someone else's servers to keep functioning, they want simple, disconnected devices that just do their job for years, paired with a wish for ordinary rooftop solar as a hedge against ever losing power outright.

What commenters described: I want the simplest disconnected stuff that will just do its job for years without needing a subscription or other nonsense.

Old mobile games lost to hardware and software obsolescence
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes hunting down a decade-old iPad just to replay old iOS games that no longer run anywhere else, noting that both the software and the aging hardware it depends on were built to eventually stop working.

What commenters described: Both the software and the hardware are designed to break after a certain point.

Enterprise language for purchasing software licenses
1 source record

What the pattern means: A practical objection from enterprise software purchasing — 'buying a license' has been standard business phrasing for decades, and the commenter can't come up with a natural replacement if that wording is now supposed to be misleading.

What commenters described: We bought 1000 licences, one for every employeee... If the word "buy" can't be used for that anymore, I wonder what the replacement phrase would be.

California's digital-goods license-disclosure law
1 source record

What the pattern means: Lays out the actual mechanics of a specific 2024 California statute — it doesn't ban the words 'buy' or 'purchase' for digital goods, it just requires sellers to get an upfront acknowledgment that the customer understands it's a license, list the restrictions, and disclose that access can be revoked.

What commenters described: States in plain language that “buying” or “purchasing” the digital good is a license... Includes a hyperlink, QR code, or similar method to access the terms and conditions.

Digital purchases without durable ownership
49 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters supply concrete casualties rather than abstractions: an iTunes account closed after fifteen years erased a purchased music library, a widow lost thousands of dollars in a late partner's PlayStation Plus games when the account was shut down, and a $10 movie rental vanished after a single viewing. The recurring counter-move is buying DRM-free through GOG, which several commenters treat as the one channel where 'buy' still means keep forever, though others reject the premise entirely and call the whole pattern ordinary predatory business rather than something uniquely disturbing.

What commenters described: Buy games from Gog. You have the installer for life and it can't be taken away.

Limit: "Deeply disturbing"? No that's just shitty and predatory business practices.

Physical game cards that only store license keys
8 source records

What the pattern means: This item narrows to one specific correction: not every Switch 2 cartridge is a bare download code, since the line actually ships as a mix of code-in-box, game-key cards, and genuine physical cartridges. One thread frames Nintendo's smaller, delayed price hike and continued physical support as more consumer-friendly than Sony's abrupt one, while still admitting the key-card format itself is 'not great.'

What commenters described: Switch 2 games are a mix of code-in-box, game keycards, and true physical game cartridges.

Limit: Not saying Nintendo doesn't deserve criticism too - the key cards are not great.

Buy-versus-license wording for digital media
3 source records

What the pattern means: The concrete evidence here is legislative: a 2024 California law now forces digital sellers to disclose, before each purchase, that 'buying' a digital good is actually a revocable license bound to stated conditions. A skeptic in the same thread points out that enterprise software has said 'buy a license' for decades and asks what phrase would even replace it if the word itself gets banned.

What commenters described: States in plain language that ‘buying’ or ‘purchasing’ the digital good is a license.

Limit: If the word “buy” can't be used for that anymore, I wonder what the replacement phrase would be.

Speculation about the next Xbox disc drive
3 source records

What the pattern means: A theory that Microsoft's next Xbox will add a disc drive purely to needle Sony surfaces here, offered by someone who says they've followed Xbox for years and no longer trusts where the company is headed. The remaining comment is generic cynicism about console makers squeezing every dollar out of buyers until, as one puts it, there's no more money left to bleed.

Limit: There's basically zero chance they're doing that, already now a small minority of Xbox consoles have a drive.

Disc games requiring large release-day downloads
3 source records

What the pattern means: The claim that disc games secretly require huge day-one downloads gets contested point by point: one reply insists most games still play straight from the disc and that unplayable exceptions like Cyberpunk are rare, not the rule. The more durable argument turns out to be legal rather than technical, since a physical disc still lets an owner resell or lend a game as a matter of law in a way an electronic license never does.

What commenters described: with a physical medium, I am allowed to do it as a matter of law and it doesn't matter if Sony likes it or not.

Limit: generally not true — most games play from disc, you'll just have more bugs without downloading the patches.

Piracy return driven by platform restrictions
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes staying legal for years before drifting back to piracy once device restrictions, region locks, and rising prices made paid access less reliable than a torrent. Another put the reversal more bluntly: pirating a copy now feels closer to actually owning it than any license ever will.

What commenters described: Ironically it's a lot closer to owning it if you pirate it.

Locally stored music instead of streaming
2 source records

What the pattern means: A commitment to local files over subscriptions shows up here: one person stores every song as an MP3 and pays once rather than feed Spotify or Pandora a monthly fee. A second adds a practical update for doing that today — switching from MP3 to Opus or AAC keeps better quality at a smaller size now that storage itself costs more.

What commenters described: I want my music, pay once forever, not just to pass it through at a monthly cost.

Historical DRM removal by CD reripping
1 source record

What the pattern means: Around 2008, one commenter burned an entire iTunes library to CD and re-ripped every disc back onto a computer purely to strip Apple's DRM off files already paid for. It took a lot of CDs, but by their own account it was worth the effort just to stop giving Apple any more money.

What commenters described: it was worth it not to give Apple money anymore.

Portable EPUB and disc preference
1 source record

What the pattern means: A Kindle owner has stopped buying Kindle-format ebooks altogether, refusing anything that can't be downloaded as a portable EPUB file to keep. That same frustration pushed them back toward buying DVDs instead of Amazon's digital movies.

What commenters described: if I can’t download and take an epub with me I don’t want it.

A Blu-ray collection as a resilient personal library
1 source record

What the pattern means: Reacting to stories of vanished digital libraries elsewhere in this dataset, one commenter says they feel outright vindicated for building a Blu-ray collection over the years, specifically because physical discs can't be tampered with remotely. It reads as a small counter-data-point: buying discs instead of streaming access as insurance against exactly this failure mode.

What commenters described: part of me feels vindicated for insisting on aquiring a Blu ray collection over the years. They can't tamper with those.

Bandcamp downloads archived to NAS and Plex
1 source record

What the pattern means: One of the only genuinely positive workarounds in this category comes from Bandcamp, where a commenter says purchases download as CD-quality or hi-res FLAC files instead of a revocable stream. Those files then go straight onto a home NAS for personal streaming through Plex, sidestepping the platform after the sale entirely.

What commenters described: Bandcamp letting me download CD-quality/hi-res FLACs for the music I buy. And into my NAS they go for personal streaming via Plex.

Physical records as meaningful objects alongside streaming
1 source record

What the pattern means: Vinyl doesn't sound any different to this commenter's ear than CD or MP3 does, by their own admission, yet a shelf of physical records still carries meaning that streaming never will. They stream plenty too, treating physical ownership and streaming as complementary rather than competing formats.

What commenters described: I love having a shelf full of physical records that really mean something to me... both have their place.

A digital game library lost after a partner's death
1 source record

What the pattern means: A widow describes losing her late partner's entire digital game library the moment his subscription lapsed — thousands of dollars of games, some paid for jointly, that vanished with no way to transfer or preserve them.

What commenters described: They just shut it down and I lost thousands in games. This included ones we paid for!

Digital access and buy-now-pay-later fragmentation
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter connects two separate frustrations into one arc: the promise that digital ownership would mean easier access instead left people owning nothing, while nearly every purchase now defaults to a monthly payment plan.

What commenters described: there are too many paid subscriptions and we own nothing

People agree to binding license agreements without ever reading and ensuring they
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter itemizes exactly what people sign away when they click through a digital license agreement unread: waived legal rights and ownership claims, plus — among the more novel details — vendors that can run background software from boot or pull a phone's photo and location data with no visible connection to the product's own function.

What commenters described: permitting a company to run software in the background constantly from boot even you if you have not launched their product program

A single-view digital movie rental
1 source record

What the pattern means: A concrete purchase goes wrong here: paying $10 to rent the film Obsession only to watch the library copy vanish the instant it finished playing, with a second purchase required to see it again.

What commenters described: the moment I finished the movie, it disappeared from the library and required me to buy again

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

It's getting harder and harder to actually own something. So many things are subscription based and that's the more obvious one but there is so many things you buy the company that made it can just brick without warning or compensation or just because they go out of business will just stop working. The very fact that there are court cases over the right to repair something that you bought, paid for it and owned should be disturbing to everybody because if you can't repair it, do you really own it? If you can't modify it, how much ownership do you have?

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You can still back up the damn game when you buy it digitally, there is literally nothing stopping you

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If you pirate them you do. So I pirate now. Just not games

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shoutout to when i bought an etextbook that was around $60-70 on Kindle and now a few years later i can’t access it because…? no clue why. it hasn’t even been removed from the store, it’s still available but the book cover is different. absolutely ridiculous

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What the counts show

Every item in this cleaned-up category converges on one legal fact commenters keep rediscovering the hard way: 'buying' a digital game, movie, ebook, or song is usually licensing revocable access rather than acquiring durable property, and the concrete casualties — a widow's inherited PlayStation library erased along with her late partner's account, a $10 movie rental that vanished the instant it finished playing, a 15-year iTunes library orphaned by an account closure — sit alongside a real 2024 California law now forcing sellers to disclose exactly that distinction before each sale. The counter-move commenters describe most often is retreating to formats a platform can't revoke later: physical discs and cartridges, DRM-free downloads from stores like GOG and Bandcamp, or, in a few cases, a return to piracy.

22index entries
74distinct source records
20.6%of parent category
1.8%of the complete index
4top-level comments
70replies

How attention is distributed across the 22 index entries

13single-source entries (59.1% of 22)
90source-record references across the index
68.9%of references in the top three entries
Digital purchases without durable ownership49 source records
Physical game cards that only store license keys8 source records
Software licenses even on physical media5 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
1explicitly reports a limit or failure
10asks a question
0says they intend to try it
63other source context

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Archive: 22 index entries preserve 74 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Relationships and family275 records · 2 sub-topics
Dating, marriage, gender, and intimacy107 index entries · 138 source records
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Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Dating, marriage, gender, and intimacy

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I don't think "unstable" is the word you're looking for
1 source record

What the pattern means: A reply corrects a claim that trans people are 'unstable,' countering that they tend to be quite consistent in their own sense of gender regardless of whether the original commenter finds that logical.

I don't think most people abandon their family and friends
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter reframes friend-group erosion as a structural effect of coupling up rather than deliberate abandonment, pointing to rising loneliness and shrinking friend counts as the broader trend behind it.

I will never understand the whole foot fetish thing
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line comment admits total bafflement at the foot fetish specifically, finding nothing about it personally alluring.

Beauty and the beast
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter reads Beauty and the Beast as teaching young girls that loving an abusive partner hard enough will fix the relationship, framing the story's romance as a bad lesson dressed up as a fairy tale.

Sex and nudity became something "normal" (which it is) in every place
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes German norms around family nudity — siblings bathing together, a teen daughter walking in underwear in front of her father — as evidence that openness about bodies has gone further than they're personally comfortable with, while conceding nudity itself is normal.

The act of having sex is very weird when u think about
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief comment says the physical act of sex itself becomes strange once you actually stop and think about it, without further elaboration offered.

Thing where people pretend to and then laugh about pretending to hate
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter reacts with blunt anger to the trend of people joking about hating their own kids or spouse for laughs, offering visible frustration rather than a formal argument.

Monogamy I don’t think humans are naturally wired for monogamy but are
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues humans aren't naturally built for monogamy, but are instead raised into it in a way that produces selfish partners rather than genuinely faithful ones.

Biological sex" is not a black and white, yes or no thing
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter lays out that biological sex is determined by multiple overlapping factors — reproductive organs, hormones, chromosomes, secondary characteristics — arguing that treating it as a simple binary ignores documented intersex variation.

Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage
7 source records

What the pattern means: Two long marriages here trace back to weddings that cost next to nothing — one dress sewn from a soldier's war parachute, another sealed with a $12 gambling-bus ticket — and commenters treat the frugality as part of what made the union last.

What commenters described: The wedding dress was sewn from the silk of the parachute her spouse had used in the war.

Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation
7 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters trade the same statistic back and forth: bigger wedding budgets track with shorter marriages, allegedly because starting a marriage already in debt breeds financial stress, and personal examples of cheap weddings that lasted decades back it up.

What commenters described: Can confirm. 2nd marriage cost $30k+, lasted 5 years. Current...marriage cost <$1k, been together 16 years and going strong.

Limit: One reply complicates the trend by noting extremely cheap weddings also correlate with shorter marriages, so the real pattern looks like a moderate middle rather than 'cheaper is always better.'

Relationship infidelity
5 source records

What the pattern means: Beyond just naming infidelity, commenters describe a shift in how friend groups react to it — cheering a guy on for 'pulling another baddie' or telling a woman she 'deserved' the upgrade — which one reply flatly says they've never witnessed.

What commenters described: For guys you'll hear the dudes tell him “hell yeah you pulled another baddie”.

Limit: A reply disputes that this kind of encouragement is common at all, saying they've never heard anyone in their life do it.

Wedding price premiums and low-cost service alternatives
5 source records

What the pattern means: Multiple commenters share the same workaround: never say the word 'wedding' to a vendor, since identical services get quoted higher the moment that label appears, and several describe near-free ceremonies that guests still call the best they've attended.

What commenters described: telling people that it's for a wedding will oftentimes result in an automatically higher price for identical services

Controlling in-laws and intercultural wedding pressure
4 source records

What the pattern means: One in-law describes an entire wedding dictated by one side of a cross-cultural marriage — no alcohol, no meat, none of the other family's customs — and replies split between hoping the couple sets firmer boundaries later and calling the arrangement one-sided outright.

Limit: A reply admits they'd have set firmer boundaries themselves, but ultimately concludes it isn't their marriage to manage.

Gender norms, heteronormativity, and compulsory couplehood
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters reach for academic vocabulary — amatonormativity, heteronormativity — to name the assumption that everyone should end up coupled off, while a much smaller aside about color-coding infants by gender gets tossed in as the same species of unquestioned norm.

Weddings designed for social-media content
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two long comments draw the same contrast from different angles: a wedding redone for a hired content creator's satisfaction versus a courthouse ceremony that costs almost nothing but reads as genuinely beautiful because the couple actually means it.

What commenters described: even a cheap ceremony at the courthouse can be absolutely beautiful if the couple really love each other and want to spend their lives together

Announcing conception attempts as sexual oversharing
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters treat the announcement 'we're trying to have a baby' as an accidental overshare about sex itself, with one extending the joke to note that IUDs let her friend group do the same activity without the pregnancy attempt attached.

An under-$5,000 redwood-park wedding
2 source records

What the pattern means: The couple's under-$5,000 wedding — a $250 park rental, a taco truck, a boba truck, and a giant subwoofer — gets held up in a reply as proof guests remember the fun, not the price tag, even as that same commenter's own legal-only ceremony cost a fraction of it.

What commenters described: got so many compliments on how well planned and fun our wedding was. The kids especially had fun.

A U.K. registered-wedding-venue cost claim
2 source records

What the pattern means: A UK commenter blames the price floor on the law itself — only registered venues can perform a legal marriage there, so venues can charge what they like — while a reply points out other countries just separate the legal paperwork from the celebration entirely.

What commenters described: In the UK you can only get legally married at registered venues (So no parks, backyards or beach weddings), and they can charge whatever they like.

Casual sex
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two separate commenters name casual sex itself, with no elaboration, as something that unsettles them — a bare answer that stands out precisely because it offers no justification.

Anal sex, not only is it physically nasty by inputting into the
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter objects to anal sex on the grounds that it mixes the procreative act with the excretory system, calling it both physically unpleasant and symbolically disrespectful to the recipient, with no reply or pushback surviving in this record.

Sex / Intimacy without knowing the person you're with
2 source records

What the pattern means: The concern named is intimacy with someone a person barely knows, and a reply undercuts it with a joke that the practical bar is really just learning someone's first name first.

Don't worry, half the people commenting here seem to be
2 source records

What the pattern means: The original comment trails off mid-sentence, but the reply supplies the actual subject: an aversion to being touched that makes forming any relationship difficult.

What commenters described: It's difficult to have any sort of relationship when touching is so off-putting.

Sexualization throughout everyday media and public life
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two brief, unrelated confessions get grouped here — general discomfort with sexual kinks on one hand, specific discomfort at watching people read smut in public on the other — without either commenter elaborating further.

One-sided cultural control at a cross-cultural wedding
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a narrower slice of the same complaint on its own: a dry, vegetarian-only wedding that folded entirely to one side's customs, with the other family's usual meat and alcohol traditions left out altogether.

What commenters described: They didn't integrate any of my family's cultural traditions into the wedding.

Women giving up their last names and taking on their partner’s when
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter flags the custom of women dropping their own surname for a husband's as something that still strikes them as odd despite being the overwhelming default.

A $25,000 small-wedding cost
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter pushes back hard on the idea that $25,000 is extravagant, insisting a sub-60-guest wedding with budget vendors still lands there, and that anything cheaper means skipping the wedding for a courthouse visit instead.

What commenters described: still spending $25k. If you are doing it for less, you are eloping to Vegas or just going to a courthouse.

You disapprove of contentment
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a pushback reply rather than a standalone claim, challenging a prior position by reframing it as opposition to people simply being satisfied with what they already have.

Hey hey hey, trans men don’t exist because that undermines their goal
1 source record

What the pattern means: The comment reads as sarcastic rather than sincere, mocking a hypothetical argument that denying trans men's existence somehow serves to preserve control over women.

I agree, women and girls matter and should be protected, that's why
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply reframes a bathroom-safety argument around lived experience, sharing restrooms with both cis and trans women without incident, and calls the opposing position a fight against hypotheticals rather than anything actually observed.

What commenters described: No one was doing genetic testing to figure out what someone was born with. Once again, you are fighting hypotheticals

A low-cost Tahoe bus wedding and Keno win
1 source record

What the pattern means: This account narrows the earlier parachute-dress story down to a single financial detail: a $12 gambling-bus ride to Lake Tahoe that actually netted the couple $600 back from Keno, funding a wedding that essentially paid for itself.

What commenters described: We came home $600 richer b/c MrPuppy loves to play Keno.

Allowing your partner to abuse you in any way
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames tolerating any form of partner abuse as itself the disturbing norm, not merely the abuse that gets tolerated.

Men telling women "smile, you look so much prettier when you do
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter locates a specific, recurring line — men telling women to smile because they look prettier that way — as a routine workplace annoyance in customer service rather than a rare encounter.

What commenters described: Happens ALL the time in customer service

I’ve never heard a single cogent argument against veganism if one is
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter isn't debating veganism's ethics so much as noting they've never once encountered a persuasive counterargument to it, and finds that absence itself worth remarking on.

Supporting billionaires through subsidies, tax abatements, and grants while they take all
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection here targets a specific mechanism rather than wealth in the abstract: public subsidies, tax abatements, and grants flowing to billionaires while ordinary taxpayers cover the cost.

The comments on this post are quite interesting
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a meta-comment about the thread itself rather than a fresh claim, with the commenter noting only that the responses below are worth reading.

The proliferation of profane and sexually grotesque 'music
1 source record

What the pattern means: The complaint is narrowly aimed at a genre trend the commenter calls both profane and sexually grotesque, rather than explicit content or music in general.

Wedding-cost average versus median
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter corrects a widely cited average wedding-cost figure by pointing out the median tells a very different story, with most weddings still small and affordable, skewed upward by a lavish minority.

What commenters described: Average is high, median is much lower. The norm still is a small, affordable wedding.

A grand wedding as a rare gathering of loved ones
1 source record

What the pattern means: Rather than defending wedding spending on tradition or aesthetics, this commenter defends it as one of the only occasions in a lifetime that gathers everyone a person loves into one room.

What commenters described: how many other times in your life do you have the opportunity to get together with all of the people you love and have a grand celebration?

Being in a relationship with someone you don't love or even like
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter points to a specific friend heading toward marriage with a man she 'can't stand' as the concrete example behind their horror at relationships sustained purely to avoid being alone.

What commenters described: Being in a relationship with someone you don't love or even like just to avoid being alone.

The demonization of men and justification coming from “others have been demonized”
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter reaches for philosophy — Nussbaum on anger tethering people to the past, Nietzsche on dead values — to argue against answering old grievances against men with equivalent anger today.

Then you're doing relationships wrong
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a terse rebuttal aimed at whatever claim came before it, dismissing the other person's relationship experience as simply done wrong rather than representative.

Women are definitely able to though
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter reframes a capability question as a social-pressure question, arguing women could do the thing being discussed but choose not to because society expects them to look beautiful instead.

What commenters described: They just don’t want to because society expects them to be beautiful.

>No no no, you're talking about punishment
1 source record

What the pattern means: This exchange walks back a punitive-sounding word choice, clarifying the actual position is expanding social programs rather than requiring or licensing anything, while the reply presses on whether that distinction really holds.

Ditching your friends when you get a romantic partner, sometimes to the
1 source record

What the pattern means: The behavior described here is dropping an entire friend group once a romantic partner arrives, paired with reshaping one's own personality and interests to match that partner like a chameleon.

What commenters described: changing your personality and interests to fit with a new romantic partner like you are a chameleon

Every non-familial male-female relationship needs to be made romantic
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter traces a pattern from childhood forward, where kids playing together get read as a couple and coworkers get labeled a 'work spouse,' arguing it teaches boys and girls they can't be platonic friends.

What commenters described: This directly leads to older boys and men only relating to women as romantic partners or conquests

For me, it's a social phenomena where people who "speak up more
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's concern isn't free speech itself but a reward structure, where people get celebrated for speaking up loudly under that banner regardless of whether what they're saying is even true.

What commenters described: people who “speak up more” are being celebrated, regardless of the truthfulness of what they're saying

I dunno, I feel like someone considering chores trauma is a mental
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply pushes back on a prior claim by treating the idea of chores as traumatic as itself a sign of something disordered, rather than a legitimate grievance.

What commenters described: Its not normal to get that worked up and upset over chores.

I honestly feel like toxic behaviour in relationships has become so normalised
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's alarm is about a lowered bar, not one incident: basic kindness and accountability in dating now feel like an unreasonable ask instead of the bare minimum.

What commenters described: wanting someone who’s kind, honest, respectful, and emotionally mature feels like asking for too much, when it should just be the bare minimum

Jealousy as a measure of love for one’s partner
1 source record

What the pattern means: In two words of disgust, this commenter rejects the idea that a partner's jealousy is proof of how much they actually care.

What commenters described: Jealousy as a measure of love for one’s partner. Yuck.

Marriage easy to enter and hard to exit
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter contrasts how little friction exists to enter a marriage against how much legal and financial friction exists to leave one.

What commenters described: How about how easy it is to get married and how hard it can be to get out.

My comment wasn't defending misanthropy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a clarifying reply rather than a fresh claim, with the commenter explaining they weren't endorsing misanthropy but questioning why time spent around people would make its normalization seem less disturbing.

Older people dating teenagers and young adults in their early 20s
1 source record

What the pattern means: The concern here is squarely about the younger end of adulthood: older adults pursuing teenagers and people barely out of their teens.

People in supposedly happy relationships drooling over other people
1 source record

What the pattern means: The behavior singled out here is specific: people who describe their own relationship as happy still visibly lusting after other people.

Pressuring people to have sex
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter maps the pressure to have sex across every layer of a person's life at once: peers mocking abstinence, partners guilting, and society treating sex as an obligation rather than a choice.

What commenters described: People tell say you are not being a good partner, as if sex is a required right, and not an optional privilege.

Romantic partnerships
1 source record

What the pattern means: The frustration here is with a specific piece of relationship advice, 'pick your battles,' which this commenter reads as code for abandoning logical decisions in favor of managing a partner's feelings.

What commenters described: instead of deciding things logically, you instead have to give in to other people emotions

Roughly half of people cheat on their spouse or partner at some
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter points out a specific hypocrisy: people who statistically cheat at roughly a coin-flip rate still look down on those who are openly non-monogamous instead.

What commenters described: Roughly half of people cheat on their spouse or partner at some point but will talk down on people in open relationships.

The constant push to criminalize fiction that depicts relationships that are abusive,
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection is to conflating fictional depiction with endorsement, with this commenter arguing that disliking a fictional relationship dynamic is a reason to look away, not a reason to criminalize it.

What commenters described: Like yes, it would be bad if it was real. It is not.

The real weird part is that society expects women to do all
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply flips a beauty-standard complaint around, noting the real asymmetry is that men face no comparable expectation to make an effort, and are rated less attractive on average as a result.

What commenters described: Men aren’t expected to put any effort into looking beautiful, and predictably are also considered less beautiful on average by the opposite sex.

Trans women are women, stop calling them men
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter rejects a preceding argument's framing outright, insisting trans women be called women and objecting to any policy that would force anyone to undress in front of the wrong sex regardless of direction.

Women being expected to view giving head as a normal sexual act
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter zeroes in on an asymmetry in oral sex expectations, arguing it's treated as routine for women to perform while men get social permission to be squeamish about the reverse.

What commenters described: Women being expected to view giving head as a normal sexual act but men being allowed to be weirded out at the idea of eating a girl out.

Women sharing their partners sexual activities with any woman who will listen
1 source record

What the pattern means: What bothers this commenter isn't sex itself but a breach of privacy: partners' sexual details getting relayed to any woman willing to listen, described as happening often enough to grind their gears.

What commenters described: Women sharing their partners sexual activities with any woman who will listen. Frequently.

“Cisgender” is a slur
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a bare assertion with no supporting argument in the thread, calling the term 'cisgender' itself a slur.

A lot if women having anger issues
1 source record

What the pattern means: This short, unelaborated comment generalizes about women's anger as a widespread issue without any further detail attached.

Adults dating teenagers, when I was 21 I could not fathom getting
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter uses their own age at the time as the yardstick, saying even a small step into adulthood felt like an entirely different life stage, let alone an adult dating an actual teenager.

What commenters described: when I was 21 I could not fathom getting with an 18 year old… totally different stages in life imo

Anxious attachment and inconsistent message response
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-described formerly anxiously attached commenter breaks their reaction down into two specific triggers, inconsistent response times and unexplained gaps, using a friend who replied instantly then vanished for a weekend as the example that still stuck with them.

What commenters described: A quick “hey I wont be able to reply this weekend” would have literally kept me calm and avoided every overthinking I had.

Calling your partner "daddy
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is just the phrase itself, offered with no further explanation of what specifically feels off about it to the commenter.

Casual sex, dating apps etc
1 source record

What the pattern means: The discomfort here is with a marketplace metaphor made literal, casual sex and dating apps described as functioning like a meat market rather than a search for connection.

What commenters described: It's like a meat market and makes me very uncomfortable.

Cutting ex-partners out of your life entirely
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter names total severance from ex-partners, no contact at all, as the specific practice that unsettles them, rather than breakups in general.

Didn't watch it so can't comment but let me just say people
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply defends fans of dark fictional themes against an unstated accusation, arguing that enjoying dark settings doesn't mean personally endorsing what's depicted in them.

What commenters described: people who enjoy dark settings and themes don't do that because they personally like the things depicted

Every time someone talks about men two-timing for years, there are some
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter objects to a specific minimizing phrase, calling prolonged infidelity 'just cheating,' arguing it erases how life-altering and traumatic the betrayal actually is for the person it happens to.

What commenters described: there are some people who say it's “just cheating” and not a life altering traumatic event

Expensive-wedding regret after an abusive marriage
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's regret isn't about wedding spending in the abstract but about specific math: nearly $8,000 and months of stress for what amounted to roughly ten hours of actual enjoyment, inside a marriage that turned abusive.

What commenters described: spending nearly 8k for months of stress and maybe 10hr to ACTUALLY enjoy that day was such a waste

Harry Potter fan fiction with sexual connotations
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection here is specifically to sexual Harry Potter fan fiction that ages the characters up on paper while the commenter says they still can't unsee them as children.

What commenters described: Some of the stories make it a point to age them up, but the characters are kids in my mind/heart.

I would assume this person has sex with men
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is a pointed reply drawing an inference about someone else's stated position rather than a claim of its own.

I've noticed that most transphobs are deeply concerned about trans women but
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter diagnoses a selective pattern in anti-trans arguments, concern concentrated almost entirely on trans women while trans men barely register, and attributes the imbalance to underlying sexism rather than principle.

What commenters described: most transphobs are deeply concerned about trans women but don't really think about tran men

Men who are truly just helpless
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter builds their case for learned male helplessness around a specific reality-TV image, a man scooping around an avocado pit while his girlfriend refuses to eat it because it's browned, plus viral clips of fathers not knowing their kids' allergies.

What commenters described: Seen too many clips of men not even knowing their wives allergies!!

Mentioning you're trans gives people free reign to talk about passing and
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter describes a specific social cost of disclosure: the moment someone mentions being trans, conversation partners feel newly entitled to comment on their appearance and whether they 'pass.'

Military men cheating
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names a narrower version of infidelity, cheating specifically associated with military deployment, without further detail in the thread.

No no no, you're talking about punishment
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter walks through their own reasoning in real time, ruling out punishment as the goal of 'requiring' something and landing instead on expanded social programs as the actual policy they're imagining.

What commenters described: my thoughts lean more toward expansion of social programs as the solution

People using "daddy" as a sexual reference
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter connects their discomfort with 'daddy' as a sexual term directly to having been sexually abused by their own father as a child, distinguishing personal history from a general taste objection.

What commenters described: Likely because I was SA'd by my own father as a child, but it still feels icky to me.

Referring to your partner as 'daddy' during freaky time
1 source record

What the pattern means: Distinct from a nearby entry rooted in abuse history, this commenter voices plain bewilderment at the same term used in a sexual context, without any personal history attached to the reaction.

Reread my comment
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is only a two-word reply directing someone back to reread an earlier comment, with no independent content of its own.

Sex but it's just me lol
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter names solo sex specifically, tacking on a self-aware 'lol' as if anticipating pushback for the answer.

Sex with women
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a bare two-word answer naming sex with women, without any surrounding context in the thread.

So you’re saying transgender is a slur lmao
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply mocks the logical extension of a prior argument, pointing out that calling 'cisgender' a slur would, by the same logic, make 'transgender' one too.

Take a walk outside, read those comments again and you have your
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply brushes off a question by pointing back at the world outside the thread, implying the answer is already obvious to anyone paying attention.

The obsession that society has with sex
1 source record

What the pattern means: Writing from an asexual perspective, this commenter says sex gets inserted into contexts where it doesn't belong, and that their own lack of interest makes them unusually attuned to how often that happens.

What commenters described: Someone always finds a way to sexualize anything and everything.

The opposite of cisgender is transgender
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply treats the slur debate as a matter of definition rather than opinion, arguing cisgender and transgender are simply paired medical terms and that objecting to one reveals discomfort with the other.

The reason, I presume, why it is so, is that men maintain
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter offers a biological explanation, men's fertility declining far more slowly than women's, for a pattern being discussed elsewhere in the thread, without further elaboration of their own.

The sexualization of Katseye
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's specific objection is to marketing framing: young performers styled in lingerie, with the packaging sold to the audience as feminist rather than simply sexualized.

What commenters described: making brain rot music for kids in lingerie and marketing it under feminism

Under your vision, manly trans men will be walking into your bathroom
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply tries to flip a bathroom-policy argument by imagining 'manly trans men' using women's facilities under the same rule, asking whether that reversal would still feel safe to the original commenter.

Wedding planners pay for the plans they control
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's fix for controlling wedding relatives is a simple principle, whoever isn't paying for a plan shouldn't get to dictate it, and calls it absurd that people accept being overruled by non-paying family anyway.

What commenters described: I think it's absurd that people can even force people what to do when they aren't paying for it

Who is watching incest and rape for entertainment
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter poses the question rhetorically, expressing disbelief that an audience exists for incest and rape as entertainment at all.

Women (usually but not always heterosexual) fetishizing M/M romance
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter flags a specific double standard: women fetishizing gay male romance treated as a mainstream market, while men doing the equivalent toward lesbian relationships would widely be called creepy.

“Transgender” and “nonbinary” are labels that, as we understand them, only really
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter complicates a binary framing by pointing to non-Western gender categories, like Two Spirit identities in Indigenous cultures, that predate and don't map cleanly onto modern transgender or nonbinary labels.

I just commented this exactly before seeing yours
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is an agreement reply noting the commenter had independently written the same point moments before spotting an identical one already posted.

People watching incest and rape for entertainment
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter names a specific show, Game of Thrones, as the example behind their broader discomfort with incest, rape, and extreme violence packaged as prestige entertainment.

You can't tell the men who act nice but view people weaker
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's warning is about detection, not just behavior, arguing there's no reliable way to tell genuinely good-natured men apart from those who act nice while privately viewing weaker people as objects to use or break.

Ok, I’m probably alone in this, but I hate it when women
1 source record

What the pattern means: Writing as a shorter woman, this commenter calls out a specific pose, hunching with hands on knees for photos, framing it as women literally shrinking themselves rather than just posing for a picture.

What commenters described: As a woman, don’t make yourself smaller to accommodate. Be you.

Men standing next to each other holding their penises to pee, just
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter describes the physical layout itself as the issue, men urinating arm's-length apart in open view, with stall walls and doors that barely conceal anything in American restrooms.

What commenters described: our walls and doors barely hide anything (America)

Men that dress like women & very obviously are mentally unstable
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter frames gender nonconformity as a sign of mental instability, specifically citing men who dress as women and ask to be referred to differently than their assigned gender.

You've had so many trans women in your bathrooms and you never
1 source record

What the pattern means: This reply counters a bathroom-safety fear with a claim of invisibility, arguing the original commenter has almost certainly already shared a restroom with trans women without ever noticing or being harmed.

The problem is that you're treating gender and sex as synonymous when
1 source record

What the pattern means: In the longest comment in this set, someone explains why they personally choose the women's locker room despite being trans, arguing their own practical safety calculus, not any legal debate over sex versus gender, is what actually decides which door they walk through.

What commenters described: I'm not going to use the men's because I don't look like I belong there and because that's where the risk to me would be unacceptably high.

Whats interesting about this take and the current decision in England, is
2 source records

What the pattern means: The objection here is a policy loophole rather than the policy’s stated goal — forcing trans men into women’s restrooms, one commenter argues, hands cis men an easy excuse to claim the same exemption — and a reply asks why gender-neutral bathrooms aren’t the obvious unaddressed fix.

What commenters described: What’s interesting is that no one wants to talk about gender neutral bathrooms as an extremely obvious solution.

Renting a wedding dress from a costume shop
1 source record

What the pattern means: The tip offered is purely practical: costume rental shops carry wedding dresses too, and renting one for a day or two costs a fraction of buying, a detail that keeps resurfacing whenever the wedding-cost complaint comes up.

What commenters described: Look into costume rental shops, some of those places have wedding dresses and you only need to rent it for a day or two so it's not very expensive

You keep arguing that gender is completely different from sex, which is
1 source record

What the pattern means: This challenges a debate opponent’s gender/sex distinction by asking whether the same logic means trans and non-binary people don’t exist in languages that only have one word for both, calling the position inconsistent unless it’s applied that way too.

What commenters described: Do you also use this logic to argue that trans/non-binary people don’t exist in countries whose languages have only one word for sex/gender?

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

Ok, I’m probably alone in this, but I hate it when women hunch with their hands on their knees for pics. As a woman, don’t make yourself smaller to accommodate. Be you. Written by a short, somewhat jealous of tall people female

source record 4552♥ 0
Explicit limit or counterpoint

Unfortunately in some parts that's just what it costs. In the UK you can only get legally married at registered venues (So no parks, backyards or beach weddings), and they can charge whatever they like. My fiancee and I are looking on the cheaper end of most suppliers for a 50 person wedding and still looking at £15-20k total.

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Most engaged source

Ok, I’m probably alone in this, but I hate it when women hunch with their hands on their knees for pics. As a woman, don’t make yourself smaller to accommodate. Be you. Written by a short, somewhat jealous of tall people female

source record 4552♥ 0
Later-arriving source

I just commented this exactly before seeing yours. YES.

source record 4532♥ 0
Zero-like source

Women are definitely able to though. They just don’t want to because society expects them to be beautiful.

source record 4466♥ 0

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What the counts show

Across this category, the only place several independent commenters converge on a consistent, evidence-backed pattern is money spent on a wedding: cheap ceremonies -- a parachute-silk dress, a $12 gambling-bus ticket to Tahoe, a $250 park rental -- get repeatedly credited with longer marriages, while one elaborate, expensive wedding is remembered mainly for preceding an abusive marriage. Most of the remaining entries are single, unelaborated lines pulled from a running gender-identity and bathroom-access argument thread, not standalone findings about dating or marriage.

107index entries
138distinct source records
32.8%of parent category
3.3%of the complete index
59top-level comments
79replies

How attention is distributed across the 107 index entries

92single-source entries (86% of 107)
141source-record references across the index
13.5%of references in the top three entries
Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage7 source records
Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation7 source records
Relationship infidelity5 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
2explicitly reports a limit or failure
16asks a question
0says they intend to try it
120other source context

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Observable tactic structures

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Archive: 107 index entries preserve 138 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Substances and dependency52 records · 2 sub-topics
Alcohol, drugs, and normalized dependence49 index entries · 120 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Alcohol, drugs, and normalized dependence

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People going out every single weekend and getting wasted
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter said they simply can't relate to people who go out and get drunk every weekend without fail, preferring quieter, wholesome activities instead, and it visibly irritates them when others insist that lifestyle is fun.

What commenters described: I like peace and wholesome activities it just irks me when people tell me its fun.

Liquor-store vodka boxes as a small-town use signal
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's specific small-town memory ties alcohol consumption to a mundane detail: the local liquor store's exterior wall was reliably restocked with empty vodka boxes every single night, functioning as an unspoken gauge of how much the town actually drank.

Unsafe DIY light-beer taper advice
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter shares a specific self-devised tapering method, converting their daily drinking into an equivalent count of light beers and cutting exactly one per week, which they say brought them down from nearly thirty drinks a day to four.

What commenters described: I'm down to 4 a day. Down from nearly 30.

Limit: The method is entirely self-directed, with no mention of medical supervision despite tapering down from a level of drinking that heavy typically carrying real withdrawal risk.

People's just casually having few beers every night
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names having a few beers every night as a casual, unremarked habit, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on frequency or context.

Recreational tobacco/cigarette usage
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names recreational tobacco and cigarette use directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on health or social context.

Casual cocaine use
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names casual cocaine use directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on frequency or social context.

Alcohol and fermentation in early civilization
3 source records

What the pattern means: The unsettling part for commenters isn't drinking itself but the timeline: functional alcohol use appears to predate recorded history, tracking back through Mesopotamian grain brewing and even fruit-seeking animals, which one admits is simply an uncomfortable thing to sit with.

What commenters described: functional alcoholism is basically as old as agriculture and modern civilization as we know it

Functional alcohol dependence
57 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters spend as much energy debating what "functional" even means as describing the drinking itself -- going to work sober but drinking every night, versus staying quietly drunk all day without anyone noticing -- and nearly all of them frame it as a stage that ends, sometimes with an esophageal tear or a DUI, rather than a stable way to live.

What commenters described: Alcoholism is progressive for sure and the amount of time between 'fine' to 'functioning' to 'fucked' varies wildly.

Limit: It's functional for a long time, gradually less so, then very suddenly not functional at all.

Rehab access and insurance uncertainty
7 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters describe insurance logistics, not willpower, as the actual bottleneck on getting into rehab -- one physician recounts losing roughly $600,000 in income and paying $50,000 out of pocket after being ordered into a specific facility with five years of monitoring afterward.

What commenters described: It was brutal at first -- it felt like everything got worse, and I was very depressed -- but then got easier, and eventually better than ever.

Limit: there's always the worry that a month or so away will cost me all my projects

Professional support in early sobriety
7 source records

What the pattern means: What gets credited here isn't willpower but specific structure -- a rehab program that didn't push religion, a therapist and doctor recommended for the first six months, and a sobriety-tracking app someone asked a coworker about after noticing his 1,800-day streak.

What commenters described: Congratulations! I'm at 20 months! Still blows my mind how much better life is when you put down the bottle.

Saving nonproprietary media to independent storage
6 source records

What the pattern means: This thread reframes "dependence" as something to actively opt out of -- commenters describe deliberately keeping non-DRM music and video files on their own drives and NAS boxes specifically so no platform can revoke access later.

What commenters described: I own every piece of digital media I've purchased just as strongly. We all should.

Limit: The problem with digital is that the terms of service you agree to are enforceable. Only if they have DRM.

Rehab as a break from an addictive routine
6 source records

What the pattern means: More than one commenter describes rehab less as treatment and more as a forced pause from an addictive daily routine -- one compares the time away to erasing a single inch off a long pencil line, small against a whole life, but enough to see the routine clearly for the first time.

What commenters described: I have never woke up and regretted my time in rehab.

Alcohol and benzodiazepine dependence risk
4 source records

What the pattern means: An ICU nurse and two people who've been through withdrawal converge on the same clinical point -- alcohol and benzodiazepines share brain pathways closely enough that doctors use long-acting benzos to manage alcohol withdrawal, and stopping either abruptly is one of the few withdrawals that can actually kill you.

Limit: my dosage was about 0.25-0.5 mg of Alprazolam a day. Found out that I was mistaken when I went on a 2 week work trip and spent the first 3 nights twitching and sweating in bed.

Low-cost alcohol enabling dependence
4 source records

What the pattern means: Where one commenter assumes alcoholism must be financially unsustainable, three others do the actual math and land on the opposite conclusion -- cheap vodka brands can run a daily habit for well under $200 a month, less than most people spend on takeout.

Limit: it doesn't take much booze to be considered an alcoholic. I think just one of those bottles a week puts you in the club which is less than I spend on takeout.

Appearing functional while drinking only at home
3 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters describe the same private rule almost independently -- a strict cutoff never to drink before a set evening hour -- that let them look like ordinary, contributing adults by day while drinking themselves toward unconsciousness every single night at home.

What commenters described: It was hard for a while after. But life's better now without.

Small-town liquor-store view of hidden dependence
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two people who worked or lived near a small-town liquor store describe the same quiet tell -- civil servants, blue-collar workers, and housewives alike restocking a wall of vodka boxes every night -- with one recalling customers who died trying to quit rather than from the drinking itself.

Grief and economic stress as alcohol-use drivers
2 source records

What the pattern means: A commenter who helped her husband through addiction rejects the idea that dependence starts with personal failing, naming grief over a close death and economic pressure -- bluntly, capitalism -- as the two causes she's actually seen drive it.

What commenters described: Thanks for mentioning capitalism in the reasons, it's so true

A sobriety-day-counting app request
2 source records

What the pattern means: Noticing a coworker had apparently tracked 1,800 sober days without ever explaining how, one commenter asks directly whether an app was involved, treating tracking tools as worth adopting rather than trusting memory alone.

What commenters described: I think something like that would help me.

NOMO sobriety clock app
2 source records

What the pattern means: When the reply names the app outright -- NOMO -- the exchange becomes a small, concrete handoff of a coping tool between two strangers, capped by a simple promise to go try it.

What commenters described: I actually used an app called NOMO, it really helps a lot

Alcohol present across celebration, grief, and social life
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter personifies alcohol as a character present at literally every milestone in a life -- weddings, funerals, births, promotions, layoffs -- arguing the disturbing part isn't the alcoholics but how unquestioned that constant presence is; another traces the same ubiquity all the way back to the invention of agriculture.

What commenters described: I am at your weddings, I am at your funerals... I help bond your friendships, but I have destroyed many too.

Alcohol ubiquity and nondrinker exclusion
2 source records

What the pattern means: A nurse who avoids alcohol for medical reasons describes being redirected to a separate "non-alcohol bar" just to get plain soda at events with drink stations everywhere else, and connects that same social pressure to a recent spike in alcohol marketing aimed at younger people who are quietly drinking less.

Drinking milk
2 source records

What the pattern means: Milk drinking earns its own entry almost as a category outlier -- one commenter admits loving it while still occasionally catching themselves thinking about the fact that it's literally another species' bodily fluid, and a second reader echoes the exact same discomfort.

What commenters described: i love milk, but sometimes i think like "shit, im drinking some random cow fluid"

GPS dependence for familiar neighborhood routes
2 source records

What the pattern means: A Phoenix commenter is baffled that people in their twenties can't find a gas station a mile from home without turning on GPS, even in a city laid out as a simple grid he navigates entirely from memory.

Limit: not everyone finds the tool itself intuitive either -- one reply admits "sometimes I can't even with gps."

Stacking performance drugs and side-effect drugs
1 source record

What the pattern means: Overhearing two college gym-goers at his local gym, one commenter recounts them casually listing peptides and testosterone alongside a second stack of drugs taken purely to counteract the first stack's side effects, ending on their own deadpan shrug.

What commenters described: idk bro I'm just trying to stay healthy

High-tolerance evening drinking and unclear labels
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes putting away four liters of beer in an evening without a hangover the next morning while going entirely without alcohol all day, and argues that blanket messaging like "any drinking is too much" erases the real gap between someone like him and someone wrecked by two beers.

Alcohol and state-dependent language recall
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-described alcoholic cook notices an odd upside to his drinking -- his Spanish gets noticeably better while drunk -- and chalks it up to state-dependent memory rather than any real gain in fluency.

What commenters described: I get much better at Spanish when I'm drinking.

Functional opioid dependence
1 source record

What the pattern means: A former "functional" opiate user describes the facade thinning for years until it didn't just crack but collapsed all at once, completely.

Nightly drinking to cope with grief
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone who used nightly "moderate" drinking to get through grief catches the contradiction in hindsight -- nightly moderation was never actually moderation -- and describes losing 25 pounds and feeling alive again since stopping in April.

What commenters described: I haven't had anything since April and lost about 25 pounds. I feel alive again in my own life.

Sudden collapse after years of student drinking
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter traces years of steady drinking through school and a job straight into the moment everything broke at once -- a DUI, dropping out, and losing that job together -- despite the drinking itself being nothing new by then.

Half of the world is basically addicted to coffee/caffeine, and "can't function
1 source record

What the pattern means: Caffeine gets nominated here as arguably the most normalized dependency of all, with one commenter estimating that half the planet genuinely can't function without it and nobody treats that as a real addiction.

Suspected youth performance-drug use
1 source record

What the pattern means: A parent describes noticing his son's gym friend visibly outgrowing the rest of the group and having to have a direct conversation with his own son about it, worried equally about the physical risk and the insecurity likely driving it.

A young-adult death from alcohol use
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter shares losing a 32-year-old cousin who drank himself to death, using that loss to push back on how casually people underestimate what alcohol can actually do to a body.

Alcohol described as a literal neurotoxin
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter insists that calling alcohol a brain poison isn't a rhetorical flourish at all -- it's meant, and should be read, completely literally.

Alcohol marketing and sobriety social pressure
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter traces a recent spike in alcohol advertising -- down to a beer-and-yoga class pitch -- to industry panic over millennials favoring legal weed and a more sober Gen Z, arguing the pressure to keep drinking is being aimed squarely at the people trying hardest to opt out.

At least with drugs you only poison yourself
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter draws a darkly practical line between drugs and other harms, arguing that whatever damage drug use does, at least it tends to stay contained to the person doing it.

Casual drug use is in society (especially here in Ireland)
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter singles out Ireland specifically, describing a social scene where abstaining from drugs is the outlier behavior rather than the norm, and admits the reversal still genuinely surprises them.

People drinking to the point of blacking out and vomiting
1 source record

What the pattern means: What bothers this commenter isn't the blackout drinking itself so much as the retelling of it -- vomiting and losing consciousness get repeated as funny anecdotes, told with something close to pride.

Rehab providing an accountable first thirty days
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone who credits rehab with saving his life zeroes in on the accountability itself as the actual mechanism -- being watched and unable to leave for the first thirty days -- even while calling that stretch the hardest part of getting sober.

What commenters described: I'd be dead without rehab. If it does nothing else it gives you a month head start on sobriety.

Limit: those are for the most part the hardest 30 days of it

The amount of people drinking energy drinks daily like it’s pop
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter compares daily energy-drink habits directly to soda, treating the sheer normalization of chugging a stimulant beverage every single day as the disturbing part rather than any one incident.

To eat human flesh and drink human blood
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter zeroes in on Christian communion specifically -- eating flesh and drinking blood, even symbolically -- as something normalized purely by who's doing it and how long ago the referenced death happened, and admits it still unsettles them every time they meet a practicing Christian.

An alcohol-versus-antidepressant false-equivalence question
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter questions the entire premise of the list, asking why drinking gets flagged as disturbing while relying on antidepressants doesn't, and reads that double standard itself as proof of how rough life actually is.

Caffeine addiction
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is little more than a bare two-word nomination -- caffeine addiction -- offered without elaboration, as though the phrase alone said everything the commenter needed to.

Compared to doing hard drugs, yes it is
1 source record

What the pattern means: Answering an unseen question about relative harm, one commenter sets the bar specifically at hard drugs, implying whatever's being discussed only counts as safe by comparison to that much higher threshold.

Everyone needs to drink to have fun
1 source record

What the pattern means: Here the disturbing part isn't any specific drinking incident but the blanket assumption underneath it -- that having fun requires alcohol in the first place.

People treat caffeine addiction like a quirky fun trait
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter goes further than the other caffeine mentions by setting an actual threshold -- three large cups between every meal -- and objects specifically to that level of dependence getting marketed as a charming personality quirk.

Sometimes I look back fondly on drinking but oh boy shaking and
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter's nostalgia for their drinking days curdles in the very same sentence into a vivid physical memory of withdrawal, landing somewhere between wistful and outright cautionary.

What commenters described: Sometimes I look back fondly on drinking

Limit: oh boy shaking and sweating while you shit liquid broken glass…

Porn addiction
1 source record

What the pattern means: Another bare nomination without elaboration, this one naming porn addiction as a dependency normalized the same casual way substances are elsewhere in this list.

Drinking until you're rude, incoherent, and doing stupid things
1 source record

What the pattern means: Getting drunk to the point of rudeness and incoherence is treated here as baffling rather than fun, a normalized habit the commenter says they simply can’t rationalize.

What commenters described: Drinking until you're rude, incoherent, and doing stupid things. I don't get it.

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

Unfortunately, no. I’m within a hair’s breadth of pulling the trigger on rehab. I’m just waiting to see how my insurance will handle it.

source record 260♥ 0
Explicit limit or counterpoint

I’d be dead without rehab. If it does nothing else it gives you a month head start on sobriety. I’m not big in 12 steps or anything. But I spent the first 30 days of not drinking being “locked” in a building that watched me and held me accountable / and those are the for the most part the hardest 30 days of it

source record 1465♥ 0

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Most engaged source

Oh it seeps in to your responsibilities and relationships for sure. But as long as work didn't know you had a problem, meh?

source record 4105♥ 0
Later-arriving source

Yes anal-buttsex the person who does it thinks it's normal but everyone else does not

source record 4103♥ 0
Zero-like source

Depends where you live I guess, in my country it's legal and everyone and their grandma does it now.

source record 4094♥ 0

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What the counts show

The core stories here share one arc regardless of substance: alcohol, opioid, and benzodiazepine users describe maintaining a completely ordinary front until a physical collapse (an esophageal tear, a DUI, a fatal withdrawal) makes the dependence visible all at once, and the recovery entries consistently credit rigid external structure -- insurance-gated rehab, forced accountability, sobriety-tracking apps -- over willpower. Around that core, commenters keep stretching the word "dependence" outward to caffeine, energy drinks, GPS, milk, and porn, sometimes to make a serious point about normalization and sometimes as dark or deadpan humor.

49index entries
120distinct source records
99.2%of parent category
2.9%of the complete index
17top-level comments
103replies

How attention is distributed across the 49 index entries

32single-source entries (65.3% of 49)
145source-record references across the index
49%of references in the top three entries
Functional alcohol dependence57 source records
Professional support in early sobriety7 source records
Rehab access and insurance uncertainty7 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

2explicitly reports a benefit
3explicitly reports a limit or failure
11asks a question
0says they intend to try it
104other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 49 index entries preserve 120 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Risk, impairment, and recovery3 index entries · 4 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Risk, impairment, and recovery

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Dangerous minimization of alcohol-withdrawal risk
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters describe walking away from serious alcohol dependence without medical detox — one quit a 2.5-gallon-a-week vodka habit cold turkey and shrugs off the week of cravings, the other built a beer-tapering schedule down from nearly 30 drinks a day to 4 — treating withdrawal from that volume of intake as manageable DIY territory rather than a medical emergency.

What commenters described: "It really wasn't bad the boredom and cravings passed in a week for me" and, on the taper method, "I'm down to 4 a day. Down from nearly 30."

Limit: Both report success only after skipping the medical supervision their own drinking volumes would typically call for — the first commenter even notes that "everyone around me swore I would need medical detox."

Benzodiazepine withdrawal self-treated with alcohol
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter who considered their 0.25-0.5mg daily Xanax dose too low to cause real withdrawal was proven wrong mid-trip, and reached for alcohol to quiet the shaking and sweats before eventually tapering off benzodiazepines the safer way.

What commenters described: "Ended up treating that with a couple stiff drinks before bed... Guess I needed that wakeup slap."

Limit: Mixing alcohol with active benzodiazepine withdrawal pairs two CNS depressants at exactly the moment the body is destabilized, and it only happened because a dose the commenter assumed was too small to matter turned out not to be.

Cannabis use before operating heavy machinery
1 source record

What the pattern means: A construction-industry commenter describes coworkers casually smoking 70%-THC pre-rolls on break and heading straight back to heavy machinery, treating the impairment as routine rather than a hazard, and admits the normalized habit has curdled something they used to genuinely enjoy.

What commenters described: "Tons of construction guys will come in and brag about how they're going to get high on the 70% infused pre rolls they just bought while they're on break and then go back to work and operate heavy machinery."

Limit: The commenter's own takeaway isn't a safety statistic but personal burnout: "Working in the industry turned something I did love into something I really have a hard time enjoying now."

Source-record spotlights

Most engaged source

Business as usual, tons of construction guys will come in and brag about how they're going to get high on the 70% infused pre rolls they just bought while they're on break and then go back to work and operate heavy machinery. Working in the industry turned something I did love into something I really have a hard time enjoying now.

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I'm sure im telling you nothing new, but the Light Beer method worked for me. Heres the trick: figure out how many 3-4 point light beers equate your average intake per day. Drink that # of beers per day as needed. Every week, reduce it by exactly ONE beer. Easy way to step down without running the train off the tracks! FWIW, I'm down to 4 a day. Down from nearly 30 lol

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Yep. I used to be a benzo addict. Didn't think I had to worry about withdrawals, my dosage was about 0.25-0.5 mg of Alprazolam a day. Found out that I was mistaken when I went on a 2 week work trip and spent the first 3 nights twitching and sweating in bed. Ended up treating that with a couple stiff drinks before bed. Got home and started tapering immediately. Guess I needed that wakeup slap

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Social-posting patterns triggering vacation welfare concern
1 source record

What the pattern means: Vacation posting habits, not animal welfare, are the subject here — a commenter notes that if someone who posts constantly while on holiday suddenly goes quiet for a day, their followers can start to panic about their safety.

What commenters described: "If they're enjoying themselves and don't post for a day then people can sometimes start to panic."

The close to complete eradication of silence and boredom in our era
1 source record

What the pattern means: Attention and boredom are the real subject of this entry, not animals or environment — arguing that multi-billion dollar industries now exist specifically to prevent anyone from sitting alone with their thoughts, replacing what used to be the raw material of human reflection.

What commenters described: "Historically, idle time and boredom were the crucibles for human thought... we are completely losing the capacity for stillness."

GPS for traffic without losing route knowledge
4 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters draw a firm line between using GPS for live traffic rerouting on routes they already know and depending on it entirely, describing acquaintances who cannot find a gas station a mile from their own house without it.

What commenters described: I use GPS a lot but I still can navigate my whole city and freeway system by memory.

Life 360 app
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the Life360 family-location-tracking app directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on the commenter's specific objection.

Platforms discouraging source citations
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes getting comments auto-removed by Reddit's spam filters specifically for including links, arguing the platform is quietly punishing the sourcing it claims to encourage.

Everything we interact with is a rectangle inside of a rectangle and
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter observes that nearly everything modern life touches is a rectangle nested in a rectangle, and that human movement has been shaped into predictable patterns along their edges.

Relying on digital things so much
1 source record

What the pattern means: An 18-year-old commenter says they're tired of buying digital-only media, missing the physical feel of books and games and specifically disliking swiping through a screen to 'turn pages.'

Sort by controversial if you want to read anything remotely interesting
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter recommends sorting by 'controversial' as the only reliable way to find genuinely interesting reading on the platform, implying default-sorted content has gone bland.

The disconnect between people (due in part to technology) and the resulting
1 source record

What the pattern means: Technology-driven disconnection between people, and the loneliness epidemic that follows from it, is the entire claim packed into this single-line entry. Nothing further backs it up.

What commenters described: The disconnect between people (due in part to technology) and the resulting loneliness epidemic.

We are all in our own silos of opinion and people discount
1 source record

What the pattern means: People increasingly sort themselves into opinion silos and discount facts that clash with what they already believe, according to this single-line entry, which also faults the growing acceptance of amplifying unqualified opinions. No example or elaboration follows the claim itself.

What commenters described: we are all in our own silos of opinion and people discount actual facts if it doesn’t align with our opinion.

Disabling read receipts and presence status
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter's fix has nothing to do with cameras at all: they turned off WhatsApp read receipts, online status, and last-seen entirely, describing the change as "hugely liberating" because it removes the pressure of being seen as available around the clock.

What commenters described: Been hugely liberating because I'm not then worrying about things like people getting offended I've "read" their message but not responded.

A FaceTime argument in a gym locker room
3 source records

What the pattern means: A gym employee's story is oddly procedural as much as shocking: a member ignored a posted no-phone-calls sign for ninety minutes of a vulgar FaceTime fight with naked members visible behind him, and staff reportedly avoided ejecting him just to keep a new membership.

What commenters described: arguing with his girlfriend in the most vulgar way possible...there are naked people in here that are just unknowingly in the back of your ft call

Full-volume video on adjacent gym equipment
1 source record

What the pattern means: A gym-goer describes politely asking a treadmill neighbor blasting video without headphones to use them, only to be told 'nope' with a smile and no change in behavior afterward.

What commenters described: She smiled and was like nope! And kept playing her video.

Parasocial relationships with media figures
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter treats parasocial attachment as a recurring historical phenomenon rather than a new one, tracing research on one-sided bonds with media figures back through wartime radio and 1980s television before landing on today's social feeds.

What commenters described: It's when people form a one sided emotionally invested relationship with a media personality or a leader.

Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
51 source records

What the pattern means: Dozens of commenters describe permanently muting their ringers and replying on their own timeline, treating a delayed response as a boundary rather than an emergency failure, while a smaller group insists the habit reads as rude and has quietly cost them friendships.

What commenters described: Putting my phone on silent permanently was one of the best decisions I've ever made

Limit: I never adjusted to this and I can't count the amount of people who stopped talking to me because of it

Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
38 source records

What the pattern means: Waiting rooms, libraries, buses, and even restroom stalls all turn up as settings here, with commenters agreeing that cheap wireless earbuds make the behavior inexcusable and one describing a trick of mirroring the noise back at offenders until they quietly stop.

Limit: unless you're old and can't hear, it's very annoying and makes me want to leave

Young children absorbed by personal screens
33 source records

What the pattern means: Toddlers and infants carried through hospitals, zoos, and restaurants with their faces fixed inches from a tablet recur across these accounts, and several of the same parents admit they still hand over a device rather than sit through a meltdown.

What commenters described: one limit I have always had is that tablets never leave the house. This means that when we are out and about they have to find ways to occupy themselves

Limit: I have mixed feelings, because I refuse to believe that all screen time is equal

Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
24 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters draw a line between a paid actor's obvious pitch and an algorithm-fed personality who feels like a trusted friend, arguing that framing is precisely what makes the endorsement land differently even though everyone already knows it's a business arrangement.

What commenters described: People think they're actually engaging and supporting with that influencer based on their recommendations, rather than just buying into another form of advertising

Limit: People will eventually wisen up to 'influencer speak'. And they'll recognize it and veer away from it just because of the source.

Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
21 source records

What the pattern means: Most replies here are terse one-line indictments -- idolizing, worshiping, sending money to strangers who are 'just people' -- but the sharpest single observation is that filming a breakdown for content, instead of simply having one, is the real symptom worth naming.

Youth social life moving entirely online
14 source records

What the pattern means: The anchor story is a nearly-21-year-old who can't drive three miles without GPS and can't hold eye contact in conversation, though other commenters push back that falling alcohol use and later first sex are evidence the shift isn't purely a loss.

Limit: I actually like thag alcohol consumption went down. Its a positive thing, same with people having sex a bit later on

Speakerphone broadcasting private life
14 source records

What the pattern means: Past the ordinary noise complaint, the sharpest example is a cruise passenger who read his entire credit card number and CVV aloud over speakerphone in a crowded buffet line, which commenters treat less as a manners lapse and more as an actual security failure.

Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
12 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters reject the idea that this is 'normal' outright, arguing a small minority of offenders has simply gone unchallenged while the overwhelming majority silently resents it, and one asks pointedly for real survey evidence rather than assumption.

Limit: Deeply disturbing? Seems inconvenient, annoying, but does it hang on to your psyche like something deeply affecting?

Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
11 source records

What the pattern means: One former subscriber describes unfollowing a fashion vlogger once nearly every video became another haul of newly purchased merch, treating that shift itself as the moment casual fandom curdled into watching a consumption treadmill dressed up as a lifestyle channel.

Limit: People have always wanted to keep up appearances for others and bought useless shit to do so... They've always done this

Influencer culture
10 source records

What the pattern means: A pair of commenters who spotted an actual influencer 'in the wild' at a Bermuda beach club recount watching her hold an undrunk cocktail through repeated, uncomfortable poses for a boyfriend's camera -- a small case study in how staged the visible ease of that life actually is.

Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
9 source records

What the pattern means: Gym regulars describe overhearing college kids casually discuss peptides and testosterone alongside the drugs needed to counteract the side effects, all while insisting they're 'just trying to stay healthy,' and note that even fully natural lifters now get wrongly accused because gear has become the default assumption.

Limit: I actually respect the ones who are open about juicing at this point

Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
9 source records

What the pattern means: The recurring image commenters reach for is that a ringing phone is an invitation, not a summons, with one comparing it directly to an unanswered knock at the door and another noting that texts, unlike calls, carry no real sense of urgency at all.

What commenters described: a phone call is an invitation to a conversation, not an obligation to answer and talk to you

Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
9 source records

What the pattern means: Several parents distinguish a strict no-screens household rule from the single exception they still make -- handing over a tablet in a waiting room or before a scary procedure -- and defend that carve-out as a deliberate exception rather than hypocrisy.

What commenters described: we had a zero screen time policy for our toddler and the only exception was in hospitals

Phone-call recording for retrieving details
8 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters trade dead app names -- Call Recorder, Cube ACR -- hunting for something that still works, while others flag that recording a call without both parties' consent is flatly illegal in a lot of places, not merely 'legally grey.'

What commenters described: It's so handy to go back to a phone call and retrieve details from it, like the caller's name and phone number without having to write them down

Limit: Oh that's simple - its not legally grey, at all. That's black and white illegal

Loss of internet, location, and domestic privacy
6 source records

What the pattern means: Examples here range from cameras filming the inside of people's own homes to sharing live location around the clock, and one commenter frames the whole trade as functionally unavoidable now that basic services require linking your accounts together.

Limit: I don't know how you'd function without linking everything together anymore. Pretty scary if anyone bad is interested in you

Phone use displacing attention and face-to-face presence
6 source records

What the pattern means: The sharpest image is a crowd standing dead silent at a bus stop, physically present but mentally logged out, which one commenter compares to a scene from a zombie film that everyone has agreed to call an ordinary Tuesday instead.

Limit: I can't judge too hard cause I use it a lot but it's so uncomfortable going to dinner or hanging out with someone and they are only half there with you

Split-attention phone conversations during service
5 source records

What the pattern means: Two different retail workers describe simply refusing to serve customers mid-call, with one saying he tells people outright to pick either him or the phone, and the other wishing that policy were standard practice everywhere.

What commenters described: I work retail, I ignore customers who expect to be served while on a call

Using a mobile phone like a house phone
5 source records

What the pattern means: A handful of commenters describe deliberately leaving the phone at home the way earlier generations left a landline behind, and more than one admits to a brief flash of anxiety followed by real relief the moment they realize no one can reach them.

What commenters described: I genuinely get so excited when I forget my phone at home. It's so freeing!

Screen content quality, context, and moderation
5 source records

What the pattern means: One parent argues screen time isn't monolithic -- a full orchestra video or a calculator app isn't the same as looping, high-strobe cartoons -- while other commenters land on a shared dividing line: whether a parent is actively watching alongside the kid or just using the screen to buy quiet.

What commenters described: the engagement between the parent and the child is what separates good and bad screen time

Limit: I was like that with books as a kid up til college. Lunch, recess, dinner table, etc... it's all textless games and brain rot videos

Online shopping eroding local retail and food culture
4 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes 70 percent of shops in their nearest city closing and a mall turning into a student study hangout because nothing local can survive long enough to stay open, while a second mourns a twice-yearly market, a century old, that folded within four years.

Limit: The problem i have is that i cant get anything locally... the same item is a third of the price online, and unfortunately, i dont have the luxury of paying those prices at the store

Biometric identifiers on phones
4 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter calls fingerprint unlock a hand-over of literal identity to an unknown custodian, while a second clarifies that the app itself never actually receives the biometric data -- it just gets a pass or fail from the operating system -- and still finds the whole arrangement unsettling.

Limit: the app never sees that. It just asks Android or Apple to verify it is your fingerprint or face... That being said, it's still disturbing

Antisemitism on the internet
4 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe a shift from ashamed 'weirdo Nazis' a decade ago to a newer bloc that has convinced itself it's righteous, and one adds that horseshoe-theory logic now lets opposing political camps arrive at the same hatred through entirely different reasoning.

Screens as modern “don't bother me” parenting
4 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters draw a direct line from being told to stay outside until the streetlights came on to handing over a phone for quiet, arguing each generation just automates the last one's version of not actually parenting.

Online harassment, doxxing, and hate communities
4 source records

What the pattern means: The examples escalate from a Discord built specifically to push a disliked stranger toward suicide, to 'lolcow' communities where members log in daily just to send death threats like a morning ritual, to doxxing that has cost entire families their jobs.

Cognitive offloading from phone numbers to opinions
4 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters link memorized phone numbers and mental math to a slippery slope where 'they'll have AI for that' now gets applied to forming opinions altogether, noting this is the exact argument once made -- and proven wrong -- about calculators.

Limit: just because 'you won't always have a calculator in your pocket' turned out to be incorrect, doesn't mean we need to do a complete 180 on that viewpoint

Hearing loss as a reason for speakerphone use
4 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters push back on blanket speakerphone shaming by explaining they're hard of hearing and genuinely need the loudspeaker or on-screen captions to follow a call, though most add they still keep the volume as low as they can manage in public.

What commenters described: i am hard of hearing and use captions so sometimes i have to in order to read them. but i get it, so i put them very very quiet on speaker

Parents sexualizing children for influencer content
3 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes unfriending and reporting a college acquaintance after she posted her young daughter posed provocatively in underwear for engagement, and a second raises a separate pattern of mothers running paid subscription pages built around breastfeeding photos that draw openly sexualizing comments.

Facebook hate content
3 source records

What the pattern means: The blunt claim that Facebook is 'a cesspool of hate' draws an immediate rejoinder that Reddit has the identical problem, with a third commenter splitting the difference -- Reddit skews left, Facebook skews right, both produce an equally stupid hive mind.

Limit: There are still certain niche subreddits you can have pretty good debates and conversation. You do have to actually make good points on reddit or people will correct you

Call-screening systems that make callers wait
3 source records

What the pattern means: This complaint runs the opposite direction from most phone gripes in this category -- it's the caller, not the recipient, who's furious at being forced through a screening system's monologue before they can even leave a message.

What commenters described: I had a good run using it to mess with scammers

Limit: I disabled it the first time some poor bastard was wrongly identified as spam

Phone use while occupying gym equipment
3 source records

What the pattern means: Beyond simply camping on a machine while scrolling, commenters describe gym-goers setting up full tripods and ring lights to film their workouts, then getting genuinely upset at other members for walking through the shot.

Pre-mobile boundaries on family phone calls
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters recall the era before answering machines, when calling a friend and getting no answer simply meant going to do something else, and note the family landline still carried a real obligation to pick up that a heads-up like 'call back after 7:30' could soften.

Smartphones, social media, and distracted driving
3 source records

What the pattern means: Alongside ordinary texting behind the wheel, commenters flag people filming rant videos and reaction content while driving, arguing that whatever's being said on camera isn't worth risking a life over.

Young children given smartphones and unrestricted internet access
3 source records

What the pattern means: A middle-school teacher who previously worked in Silicon Valley describes students who can't tie their shoes or make simple decisions but carry unrestricted phones, and adds that none of the tech executives she knew there let their own kids near the same devices.

Headphone-jack removal and changing speakerphone norms
3 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter traces the sudden normalization of public speakerphone use to the disappearance of the headphone jack roughly a decade ago, when wired earbuds stopped being the automatic default and buying Bluetooth ones became an extra step people skipped.

Phone-mediated socializing in cafés
3 source records

What the pattern means: A commenter who grew up unreachable in the 80s and 90s describes visiting a cafe and watching an entire table pose for selfies and interact through screens instead of each other, calling the mediated version of hanging out genuinely horrifying to sit through.

Limit: I occasionally send my wife a selfie when I get into work. I feel weird as fuck in public taking a picture of myself

Social media amplifying school bullying and suicide risk
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter says plainly that if social media had existed when they were bullied at school, they doubt they'd still be alive, and a second says they think about that same possibility for kids growing up now.

Prioritizing present company over the phone
2 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters argue that letting a call go to voicemail while you're actually with someone isn't rude, it's the bare minimum, pointing out that a text like 'can't talk now' handles even an important client just fine.

What commenters described: Whenever I go to a bar or restaurant now, I don't just put my phone away, I turn it off completely

Oversharing personal information online
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both accounts here describe people posting full names, workplaces, children's faces, and home addresses without hesitation, alongside always-listening smart devices, arriving independently at the same conclusion: privacy has been surrendered without anyone consciously deciding to give it up.

Doorbells and phone calls as requests, not summons
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter extends the phones-aren't-summons logic straight to the front door, describing a rule of only answering for people they're actually expecting and comparing the reflex to jump up at any knock to outright Pavlovian conditioning.

What commenters described: My door, my rules

Family pressure over phone availability
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes getting called five minutes into every family gathering by a mother or brother demanding to know where they are, while a second insists adults can set the same boundary with relatives they'd set with anyone else, even through initial complaining.

What commenters described: you can still set that standard. they might bitch and moan but they'll get used to it eventually

Kids having smartphones
1 source record

What the pattern means: Kids having smartphones is stated here as a flat, one-line headline with no supporting story, example, or reply attached.

Read receipts and online status creating response pressure
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes realizing that WhatsApp's read receipts and online-status indicators quietly manufacture an obligation to reply the second you're seen -- 'they've seen I read it, I must now respond' -- while another keeps receipts on for anxious contacts specifically so a delay reads as unnoticed rather than deliberate.

What commenters described: Once I looked at it that way I could relate and it made me straight away switch all that shit off

Online echo chambers and bespoke realities
2 source records

What the pattern means: The core argument distinguishes ordinary conformity, which has always existed, from the newer ability to build a fully bespoke reality that never has to encounter disagreement, and a second commenter extends that into black-and-white thinking where opposing groups get dismissed as irredeemably evil.

Concert phones blocking other audience members
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters describe standing-room shows ruined by a forest of raised phones blocking the stage, though one admits he later pulled up someone else's recorded footage from a tour he'd missed and played it at home anyway.

Influencer harms to youth, consumption, and children
2 source records

What the pattern means: The concern bundles plastic surgery normalized at inappropriate ages together with monetizing children, framed as something we'll eventually ask how we ever allowed, though a reply notes that unaffordable nose jobs among classmates and Shirley Temple's monetization both predate social media by decades.

Phones as multifunction tools make leaving them home impractical
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter argues that leaving the phone at home isn't a real fix once it also handles music, transit timetables, and payment, while a second counters with a home screen stripped down to exactly those utility apps, with messaging buried where it has to be sought out deliberately.

What commenters described: phones also give you the tools to keep communication and life essentials separate from one another

Relationships lost over slow phone responses
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both commenters describe losing friends over reply speed, but the second draws a sharper distinction -- the friendships that survived were the ones where both sides agreed casual chatter could sit for weeks, while anything genuinely time-sensitive still got answered right away.

Separating phone utilities from communication apps
2 source records

What the pattern means: This pairing is essentially one detailed account and its confirmation: the first commenter describes hiding messaging apps off the home screen so only transit, payment, and music tools surface by default, and the second simply says they do more or less the same thing.

What commenters described: all my communication apps are hidden away in the app list and i check them only when i explicitly want to communicate, which is about once or twice a day during the week

Sharp phone audio as sensory assault
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter describes the high-pitched sound of a phone speaker in public as a literal assault on the ears, and a second ties that reaction specifically to being highly sensitive or neurodivergent rather than simple annoyance.

What commenters described: It feels like an assault on my ears. The sound is sharp and high pitched and so piercing

Yup…how many people are screenshotting that pic and adding it to their
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pulled from a longer exchange, this single-line fragment worries about people screenshotting a photo into their own 'personal collection,' with no further elaboration attached.

TikTok and podcast claims treated as truth
1 source record

What the pattern means: The single comment behind this entry argues people now treat whatever they absorbed from a TikTok clip or podcast episode as settled fact, resistant to any information that contradicts it, and calls the shift one from thinking to ideology.

Online shopping ending a century-old local market
1 source record

What the pattern means: This account mourns a twice-yearly regional market -- a century of local candy makers, artists, farmers, and hunters selling everything under one roof -- that folded within four years once online shopping made attending it feel 'outdated.'

Internet-connected smart appliances without a need
1 source record

What the pattern means: The lone comment rejects the smart-home premise entirely, listing a fridge, washer, microwave, watch, and thermostat that don't need Wi-Fi or Bluetooth and asking bluntly for dumb, offline versions instead.

Speakerphone disclosing payment-card details
1 source record

What the pattern means: Isolated to its own entry, the cruise-buffet story gets its sharpest framing here: a man reciting his full card number, expiration, and CVV aloud, treated as proof that speakerphone habits can erase basic security instincts entirely, not just good manners.

High-resolution phone video and school bans
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter ties 4K video capability directly to schools banning phones outright, noting that kids who need to reach a parent during the day can still go through a teacher instead.

Venue cellphone bans
1 source record

What the pattern means: A handful of bars, by this account, confiscate or ban phones after 10pm under a one-warning-then-ejection policy, and the commenter closes by wishing more venues enforced something similar.

What commenters described: I wish more places did that

Requiring real product photos in online stores
1 source record

What the pattern means: The proposal here is an actual regulatory fix -- requiring online stores to show real product photos instead of AI-generated renders -- citing the wave of 'these look fake, I bought them anyway' unboxing videos from sites like Temu and Shein.

Babies in strollers glued to a phone
1 source record

What the pattern means: A stroller-bound infant fixed on a phone screen is offered here as the starkest possible version of the screen-absorption pattern -- glued to a device before the child can walk, let alone choose to be.

Screen-time-ending meltdowns and emotion-regulation claims
1 source record

What the pattern means: This parent describes calibrating exact screen-time limits after a first child's meltdowns at cutoff, landing on roughly an hour a day for the oldest and twenty minutes for the two younger kids, while still admitting the routine leaves emotional development an open question.

Limit: Emotionally, it's horrible for their development. They never learn how to regulate emotions or deal with being bored

The extreme toxicity on instagram and other platforms
1 source record

What the pattern means: This account describes Instagram comment sections where users mock disabled and neurodivergent people, casually admit to pedophilia, and encourage self-harm in anyone who doesn't conform, calling the platform a 'shithole' without further qualification.

People holding recording phones up at concerts
1 source record

What the pattern means: The distinction drawn here is between snapping a quick photo and recording an entire song, with the commenter arguing the latter both ruins the recorder's own experience of being present and blocks the view for everyone standing behind them.

Retired adults absorbed by phones
1 source record

What the pattern means: This observation extends phone absorption past the usual youth framing, noting that the commenter's own retired friends are just as constantly buried in their screens as anyone younger.

Toxicity in online games
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes being baffled that entire gaming communities treat routine cruelty toward other players as simply part of the culture, something they say they could never imagine directing at another human being in person.

Workplace pornography on speakerphone
1 source record

What the pattern means: This account describes a call-center coworker who repeatedly played pornography aloud at his own desk and reacted with genuine confusion when told to stop, insisting his workstation counted as private space.

Driving and using their phones at the same time
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's own two-word verdict -- 'normalized and diabolical' -- does more work than most drawn-out complaints in this category, condensing the distracted-driving problem into a judgment rather than a description.

People using their phones in the bathroom stall
1 source record

What the pattern means: Bathroom-stall phone use gets flagged here as its own distinct category of unease, separate from the louder complaints about speakerphone calls or scrolling in line.

Screen use linked to childcare cost and parental resources
1 source record

What the pattern means: A therapist observes that heavy screen use in kids has flipped from a marker of wealth to a marker of struggle, noting that well-off families now advertise no-screens, experience-based parenting while lower-income families lean on devices because daycare has become unaffordable.

5 year old being pushed in a stroller with an iphone and
1 source record

What the pattern means: The image doing the work here is oddly specific: a child old enough to hold a juice box but still riding in a stroller, phone already in the other hand as the default occupation.

A date alarmed by someone not carrying a phone
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter recalls a date who found it 'creepy' and 'disturbing' that he'd left his phone at home for the evening, and lists her alarm at his being briefly unreachable as one red flag among several that ended things.

Drivers stopping mid-parking maneuver to check phones
1 source record

What the pattern means: The single account describes watching drivers pull halfway out of a parking space and simply stop there mid-maneuver to check a phone, offered as evidence that screen distraction has spread well past younger drivers specifically.

Generational differences in influencer-marketing susceptibility
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues susceptibility to influencer marketing splits by generation rather than applying universally, singling out Gen Z as the group brands specifically target through influencers, while joking that older millennials consider themselves immune to the same tactic.

Influencer parents treating stolen child images as exposure
1 source record

What the pattern means: A friend who monetizes her kids online reportedly shrugs off having their photos stolen and reused elsewhere on the internet, reasoning that 'exposure equals money' regardless of who ends up holding the pictures.

Kids on phones or tablets
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes a specific, hard-to-name anger at watching kids stay locked to phones or tablets, framing it as a stolen chance to build imagination and curiosity about the world immediately around them.

Online shopping driven by local unavailability and price
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter frames online shopping less as a preference and more as the only realistic option once three local stores in a row don't stock an item, or stock it at triple the price they can actually afford.

People behave online
1 source record

What the pattern means: Stripped of any specific incident, this entry reduces to a general verdict on online conduct itself -- evidence that for some commenters the disturbance needs no supporting anecdote to register.

People sharing their innermost thoughts and fears on the internet, NOT anonymously,
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter contrasts what they'd hesitantly tell their closest friends with what strangers now broadcast publicly under their own name for likes, naming the gap between the intimacy of the content and the total absence of privacy around it.

Speakerphone used from fear of microwaves
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes their mother avoiding holding a phone to her ear over fear of microwave radiation reaching her brain, then compensating by yelling her entire conversation on speaker since no one can otherwise hear her that way.

Using ipads/phones as babysitters
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter singles out a specific nephew, saying they can barely get eye contact with him anymore, as the concrete evidence behind their claim that treating tablets as a babysitting substitute carries a real cost.

Walking down the street staring at your phone
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pedestrians navigating the street with eyes locked on a screen rather than the sidewalk ahead is offered as a plain, familiar scene rather than an argued case.

A school volunteer sees screen problems as real but not universal
1 source record

What the pattern means: A parent who volunteers regularly at two different schools argues the screen-time panic overstates the typical case: the kids she sees still play outside and hang out in person, even as she concedes a visible minority clearly show damage from unsupervised use.

What commenters described: They still play outside, they still hang out with their friends in person, they still do stuff that doesn't involve screens

Limit: There are definitely kids you can tell have had too much screen time and are fucked in the head because of it

A smartphone given before age four
1 source record

What the pattern means: A sister reportedly handed her son a full iPhone before he turned four, only to confiscate it once the predictable addiction set in, and the commenter argues any phone given that young should be call-and-text only, strictly for emergencies.

All the staring at phone screens in public
1 source record

What the pattern means: Public phone-staring shows up here in its most generic form, named directly rather than illustrated with a particular street, store, or commute.

Audiences may learn to resist influencer-speak
1 source record

What the pattern means: Taking a more optimistic long view than most of this category, the commenter argues influencer marketing is simply new enough that audiences haven't built resistance to it yet, predicting people will eventually recognize and tune out 'influencer speak' the way they learned to with older advertising tricks.

What commenters described: People will eventually wisen up to 'influencer speak'. And they'll recognize it and veer away from it just because of the source.

I guess in general a lot of online dating culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter, 23 and never yet in a relationship or had a first kiss, attributes part of that directly to how intimidating online dating culture looks from watching friends navigate it, while allowing that the internet probably exaggerates how bad it actually is.

Limit: yeahinternet exaggerates but I've also seen it woth what my friends show me

Parents posting their child’s entire life online before the kid can even
1 source record

What the pattern means: The single line here compresses the sharenting critique into one image: parents documenting a child's whole life online before that child can even spell the word 'consent.'

Peer pressure undermining delayed child-phone access
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes holding the line on no phones for their kids only to watch their son sit alone and visibly sad at a basketball tournament while every other child played games together on a device, closing with open anger at parents who cave earlier.

People and their smart phone consumption
1 source record

What the pattern means: Phrased broadly as 'smart phone consumption,' this entry names the habit rather than a specific moment of it, leaving the reader to supply their own example.

People scrolling through their phones while spending time with friends or family
1 source record

What the pattern means: The choice of words matters here -- 'spending time with' friends or family while actually scrolling a phone -- which is precisely the gap between presence and attention the rest of this category keeps circling back to.

People, not phones, as the source of communication harm
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry stands apart from the rest of the category by rejecting the premise that devices are themselves the problem, condensing the counterargument into four blunt words: phones aren't toxic, people are.

Phones and selfies in spas
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes visiting a spa that, unlike most in their area, hadn't banned phones or photography, and finding it almost dystopian to watch fellow guests take selfies instead of actually relaxing in the space they'd paid to unwind in.

Possible screen effects on vision, attention, and development
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter admits real uncertainty about how disturbing this is, but still worries screens could reshape peripheral vision, attention span, and social development in ways nobody will fully register until an entire generation has already grown up inside it.

Limit: Personally I'm still on the fence with how disturbing it may be

Screens desensitizing witnesses to real events
1 source record

What the pattern means: The single comment here argues that viewing a real event through a phone screen adds a layer of detachment, leaving people less able to register that whatever's unfolding directly in front of them is actually happening.

So much important content being linked to one phone number/email address
1 source record

What the pattern means: The worry here is structural rather than behavioral: how much of a person's important accounts and history now funnels through a single phone number or email address that, if compromised, takes everything down with it.

Social life and online are contradictions in terms
1 source record

What the pattern means: Framed almost like a syllogism, this entry treats 'social life' and 'online' as mutually exclusive terms, a blunter version of the broader argument that digital substitutes have replaced in-person youth culture.

Spellcheck dependence and homophone errors
1 source record

What the pattern means: Citing a teacher reprimanded for correcting spelling, the commenter lists specific homophone slips now showing up regularly -- 'lead' for 'led,' 'discrete' for 'discreet,' 'sweaty' for 'sweetie' -- as measurable evidence that autocorrect reliance is changing how people write, not just a vague worry about the future.

A future comparison of child screens to outdated infant remedies
1 source record

What the pattern means: One blunt prediction anchors this entry: today's routine handoff of a screen to a small child will look, in hindsight, as reckless as rubbing whiskey on a newborn's gums once did.

A speakerphone caller ignoring a grocery cashier
1 source record

What the pattern means: This extended account follows a checkout-line speakerphone caller from register to parking lot -- never pausing for the cashier's bagging question, one-handing groceries into her cart because she wouldn't put the phone down, and abandoning her empty cart beside her own Porsche afterward.

Allowing small children with developing brains to use screens
1 source record

What the pattern means: The exclamation point is doing most of the persuading here, naming developing brains and screen exposure together without a specific case to anchor the alarm.

Anime that sexualises kids is like widespread and normalised online
1 source record

What the pattern means: The comment names a specific genre problem rather than a vague worry: anime content that sexualizes children circulating widely online and treated by much of that audience as unremarkable.

Celebrating your birthday with public(ish) posts on Facebook
1 source record

What the pattern means: This is one of the mildest entries in the whole category -- a public birthday post on Facebook -- offered as a small, almost mundane example of how much personal life now defaults to public broadcast.

Eating something with your hands, and then touching your phone after without
1 source record

What the pattern means: The two-way hygiene loop described here -- eating with your hands and then touching your phone, or the reverse -- is offered as a simple, repeatable habit most people never think to interrupt.

Facebook
1 source record

What the pattern means: Reduced to a single word, this entry trusts that naming the platform itself is enough to communicate the concern, without specifying which aspect of it troubles the commenter.

Feces on phone
1 source record

What the pattern means: At two words, this is the shortest entry in the category, naming a hygiene worry directly rather than describing how or where it was observed.

Having to make a phone call instead of just sending a text
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry flips the category's usual complaint on its head: rather than resenting a delayed text reply, the discomfort here is being required to make an actual voice call at all.

Jobs that prohibit personal phone use
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes genuine relief at working a job where personal phone use is legally banned on shift, since the rule itself gives them an airtight excuse to tell anyone expecting round-the-clock availability that it simply isn't happening.

What commenters described: Its so nice working a job where I'm legally not allowed to have my phone on

Kids with unlimited internet at 8
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter calls unrestricted internet access at age eight 'not normal,' framing it less as a specific incident and more as handing a child a mess they're nowhere near equipped to handle.

Live voicemail screening on iPhones
1 source record

What the pattern means: The comment describes the iPhone feature that shows a live transcript while someone leaves a voicemail, noting you can apparently pick up mid-message if you change your mind, while admitting uncertainty about whether other phones offer the same option.

Office phone systems routing callers by name or extension
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter describes every office phone system they've ever called as offering a working path to the right person, whether through an automated name-based menu or a receptionist who could locate the extension directly.

Parents posting every detail of their kids' lives online before they're old
1 source record

What the pattern means: The timing is the argument here -- parents documenting a child's life online before that child is old enough to have any say in it -- restating the sharenting concern in its most literal form.

People being on their phones all the time
1 source record

What the pattern means: An exclamation point stands in for elaboration here, naming constant phone use as disturbing without a specific scene to illustrate it.

People living on the internet
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues an entire generation of kids now treats their own real life primarily as raw material for their online life, rarely looking up long enough to actually experience it first.

People using their phones in the bathroom
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter extends the bathroom-phone complaint specifically into restaurants, noting that even after hands get washed, the phone that sat in the stall never does before it lands back on the table.

People who post their kids online, ESPECIALLY knowing why their traffic goes
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection here isn't simply that parents post their children online, but that they keep doing it while fully aware their traffic spikes specifically whenever a child appears in the post.

Pets watching screens
1 source record

What the pattern means: This comment notes an unexpected extension of the screen-absorption pattern to pets themselves -- dogs watching television and cats chasing digital bugs across an iPad screen.

Poor phone earpiece and ringer volume driving speaker use
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter puts some blame for public speakerphone use on manufacturers directly, saying they genuinely can't hear a call -- or even their own ringer -- without the speaker turned on, even in a quiet shop.

Posting photos of your kids online
1 source record

What the pattern means: Posting children's photos online is named plainly here, without further detail, as one of several entries in this category that state the sharenting concern as a bare fact rather than a story.

Posting pictures and videos online of everything that happens in one's life
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter contrasts their own two or three posts a year with people they know who document every few hours of their lives, calling that volume difference itself 'dystopian' rather than the posting per se.

Public speakerphone / FaceTime
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry compresses two related complaints -- speakerphone calls and FaceTiming in public -- into a single label without singling out a particular incident.

Restaurant workers waiting for screen-absorbed children
1 source record

What the pattern means: A server describes tables where a child is so absorbed in a phone or tablet that the whole family has to repeatedly call their name just to get a drink order, and says the resulting delay visibly backs up her entire section.

Screens as an emotional-regulation substitute
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter argues that handing a screen to an upset child interrupts exactly the developmental window where kids are supposed to practice self-soothing, effectively substituting a dopamine source for the skill of regulating emotion independently.

Sensory sensitivity and sharp phone audio
1 source record

What the pattern means: The single reply here confirms that sharp phone-speaker audio genuinely registers differently for highly sensitive or neurodivergent people, giving the broader sensory-assault complaint a specific population it affects most severely.

Speakerphone context depends on the expectation of quiet
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter takes the most measured position anywhere in the speakerphone debate, arguing it's only actually a problem in spaces where quiet is the expectation -- libraries, theaters, shared offices -- and otherwise no different from talking to someone standing beside you.

Limit: Personally I find it slightly annoying sure, but I wouldn't call it deeply disturbing

Talking on the phone in a public restroom
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter draws a direct line between being comfortable talking on the phone while using a public restroom and simply not caring whether the person on the other end can hear the restroom itself.

The fact that most people are okay with tiny screens attached to
1 source record

What the pattern means: Rather than pointing to one incident, the commenter steps back to ask why wearing a screen essentially attached to your face around the clock doesn't register as one of the strangest normalizations in human history.

We've completely swapped out living in the moment for seeking approval online
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter frames the trade less as phone addiction and more as a values swap, arguing people have replaced actually experiencing a meal, concert, or walk with checking how it will look once it's posted.

White-Knighting online, alternatively making up random excuses for strangers to absolve them
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter names a specific online reflex as its own distinct problem -- inventing excuses to absolve a stranger of potential shame before anyone has confirmed what actually happened.

The internet
1 source record

What the pattern means: At its most extreme, this entry drops all specificity and simply names 'the internet' as the source of disturbance, offering no incident, behavior, or reasoning to unpack.

Using your cellphone at dinner with family
1 source record

What the pattern means: The category closes on its most ordinary example: using a cellphone at the family dinner table, stated as self-evidently disturbing without further argument.

A callback number different from the voicemail number
5 source records

What the pattern means: Front-desk staff turn this into a defense of ordinary business phone systems: with 200 employees sharing one caller-ID number, whoever answers can’t know who dialed out, and the actual fix is calling back on a personal cell rather than blaming the receptionist.

What commenters described: Don't harass the poor person who has to answer the phone between their 750 other tasks.

Limit: Every phone system I've ever used when I've called an office, and there are many, either had an automated system where I could say the person's name, or the secretary that answered was able to find the extension and connect me.

No they arent, it doesnt replace actual face to face interaction and
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a single orphaned reply insisting that whatever it’s responding to — the original comment isn’t preserved here — “doesn’t replace actual face to face interaction and relationships,” leaving the specific target unclear but the conviction plain.

What commenters described: No they arent, it doesnt replace actual face to face interaction and relationships.

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

I know a few bars that ban cellphones after a certain hour, usually 10pm. You get one warning and then security throws you out for the night. I wish more places did that.

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Explicit limit or counterpoint

I agree with this so much... I hate it. I'll get to you when I do, and I expect the same from you.

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Source-record spotlights

Most engaged source

There are still certain niche subreddits you can have pretty good debates and conversation. You do have to actually make good points on reddit or people will correct you. Reddit is Left, Facebook is Right. The right is astronomically stupider, but you get ridiculous hive mind both ways.

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Distracted driving. The amount if influencers who regularly film content while they're driving is ridiculous. Then there's just a constant stream of idiots scrolling while driving as if phone use is the primary task and driving a 1 tonne speed machine is secondary.

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Zero-like source

The horseshoe theory is real, both the left and right agree on hating the Jews even though their reasoning is different

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Related evidence elsewhere in the index

What the counts show

The clearest split in this category is not between disturbing and normal, but between behaviors people actively defend as a boundary -- muting the ringer, letting calls go to voicemail, leaving the phone at home -- and behaviors almost nobody defends but almost nobody stops either, like speakerphone in a waiting room or a five-year-old glued to a tablet in a stroller. Even the parents most alarmed by screen dependence in other people's kids tend to describe exactly one exception where they hand over a device themselves, usually a hospital visit, a waiting room, or a long car ride, suggesting the real objection is to screens with no limit at all, not to screens as such.

145index entries
432distinct source records
41.2%of parent category
10.4%of the complete index
110top-level comments
322replies

How attention is distributed across the 145 index entries

93single-source entries (64.1% of 145)
494source-record references across the index
24.7%of references in the top three entries
Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries51 source records
Speakerphone in crowded public spaces38 source records
Young children absorbed by personal screens33 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

7explicitly reports a benefit
9explicitly reports a limit or failure
40asks a question
0says they intend to try it
376other source context

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Observable tactic structures

Generic behavior-mechanism rules are intentionally suppressed for entity/theme lists; the experience buckets remain explicitly labeled source-language context.

Archive: 145 index entries preserve 432 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

AI, automation, and synthetic media116 index entries · 431 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: AI, automation, and synthetic media

Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below.

Technology catching up to Black Mirror
2 source records

What the pattern means: This entry isn't about animals or environment at all — it's two viewers reacting to Black Mirror episodes feeling less like fiction over time, one specifically haunted by the episode where a treatment's cost scales with how much sleep a patient wants back.

What commenters described: "I'm still upset about the 'prescription model cure' episode... because I know it's actually not that farfetched."

Teaching critical thinking through tech troubleshooting
3 source records

What the pattern means: An IT worker recounts patiently walking two baffled coworkers through basic tasks — one who didn't know to nudge a mouse to wake a monitor, another terrified she'd 'break the system' — and says the pattern is pushing them toward teaching a course on applying critical thinking to troubleshooting.

What commenters described: she followed the directions and everything went fine. Her supervisor was blown away

Critical thinking needed to check computer output
2 source records

What the pattern means: Both replies describe watching spellcheck and autocomplete quietly erode people's ability to catch their own mistakes, from a bakery order autocorrected from 'ganache' to 'gnocchi' to a rising tide of homophone errors like 'lead' for 'led.'

Dune as a warning about thinking machines
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single line wishes the Dune universe's ban on thinking machines would arrive sooner, treating the novel's premise as a solution people are waiting on rather than as fiction.

AI dependence eroding human thinking
104 source records

What the pattern means: Across dozens of replies the same worry keeps resurfacing in different clothes — a coworker who can no longer draft a routine email, a teenager who needs GPS for a three-mile school run, a reader who found themselves 'arguing with Google AI' only to realize it was just repeating a stranger's words back — all read as evidence that offloading thought to a chatbot is quietly replacing the exercise of it.

What commenters described: I can just order it and... ask Claude or ChatGPT to prep some documentation for it.. and in 5min or less I basically have every tip, advice or code-sample I could possibly want.

Limit: The comparison drawn is to a child raised on a mobility scooter: skip the developmental load-bearing and the legs — or the mind — never learn to carry weight once the device is gone.

Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
62 source records

What the pattern means: The replies range from posting toddlers' faces for engagement to a man describing a decade of an ex quietly monitoring his account, with several tying platform algorithms directly to radicalization and to snap judgments that end in doxxing someone over a single bad public moment.

Limit: One reply pushes back that the eagerness to overshare 'has been around long before social media,' suggesting the platforms accelerated a pre-existing behavior rather than invented it.

AI in everyday products without a clear need
41 source records

What the pattern means: The frustration here is about placement, not the technology itself — an AI recap of a partner's WhatsApp text, a fridge that nags about expiring yogurt 'like a disappointed mother,' a weather app summarizing what the hourly forecast already shows — commenters keep finding the feature bolted onto a task with no gap for it to fill.

Limit: One reply argues the bans backfire on companies too: workers at a firm that blocked AI over quality problems still insisted the same jobs, done fine for thirty years, had become 'impossible' without it.

AI summaries as relational disrespect
17 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters treat an AI-summarized text as a two-way insult — the sender didn't bother writing it and the recipient won't bother reading it — with one proposing a read receipt that would out anyone who used a bot to condense a twelve-word message.

What commenters described: I use it sometimes when talking to my wife, for example i wrote where can we go for lunch tomorrow.

Limit: Precisely in the cases when it takes an hour to craft, AI 'will never get the nuance of what you're trying to convey right,' one commenter notes.

Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
15 source records

What the pattern means: The thread walks through a specific chain of harm — strangers now use ordinary family photos to generate CSAM — and pits a grandparent's 'stealing his joy' framing against an adult child's discomfort at a lifetime of childhood photos already circulating beyond their control.

Limit: One pushback asks for scale: 'Can you point to a 20 year old that has been hurt by their parents putting their baby photos online? I think it probably happens, but I also think it's a very small number.'

AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
16 source records

What the pattern means: Replies swing between a driver baffled that his friend chats with the car's Gemini assistant and a reader who credits AI conversations with surfacing blind spots during a hard stretch of 'inner work,' showing the same behavior read as alarming or genuinely useful depending on who's telling it.

What commenters described: It was a tool I could use to help me sort out my own thoughts and process things... it's helped me find blindspots I didn't previously recognize.

Limit: One reply raises the stakes directly, citing an active lawsuit alleging a chatbot's advice contributed to a teenager's death.

Mandatory AI literacy in writing class
12 source records

What the pattern means: A student objects to being taught 'the proper ways to use AI' in a writing class at all, while another describes a UK primary schooler being routed to ChatGPT 'instead of the teachers' for basic questions, framing the policy as institutional resignation more than literacy training.

What commenters described: A.I is actually a very valuable tool when it comes to writing. And that's the key word TOOL not a substitute.

Rapid AI integration and child-development fears
11 source records

What the pattern means: The pace unsettles people here more than any single use case — one commenter says AI 'went from generating weird fever dream images to creating a full on 24/7 surveillance state' within what felt like a blink, while a parent describes AI chatbot toys already on shelves for kids who won't remember life before them.

Limit: One reply concedes the tool 'does have utility, but it's absolutely not worth the resource cost,' calling it a double-edged sword rather than a pure threat.

AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation
10 source records

What the pattern means: A teacher recounts assigning a one-page opinion piece on a topic the whole class already knew about and watching all but two students turn to ChatGPT to 'create an opinion for them,' a scene commenters read as outsourcing moving past writing mechanics into outsourcing the opinion itself.

Limit: One reply reframes the blame: 'it isn't only laziness, but they've been pushed into this,' pointing at systemic pressure rather than pure student apathy.

AI used as a substitute for critical thought
8 source records

What the pattern means: A private facial-recognition system flagged someone as a '100% match' for a trespasser despite valid ID proving otherwise, and police still deferred to 'what the AI said' — treated here as the endpoint of letting a tool replace judgment rather than merely inform it.

Limit: Not everyone agrees the split is generational: one Gen Z commenter says the dependent and the AI-averse both turn up 'regardless of age' in their own circle.

AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
9 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters describe using AI less as an oracle than as a mirror — 'it mirrors back to me what I tell it but in a way that I can hear,' one writes — while deliberately drawing a line before romantic attachment or accepting its answers as final.

What commenters described: It's helped me find the right words to better articulate my thought processes and fill in the gaps at times.

TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
8 source records

What the pattern means: A parent describes their TV's voice search hijacking a kid's YouTube query for 'slime videos' into an unwanted AI chat window that argues with the child when it mishears him, turning simple content supervision into what the parent calls 'running interference' against the television itself.

Required AI-generated student introduction images
8 source records

What the pattern means: A college class required students to generate an AI photo of themselves to post with their introduction, and the replies focus less on the image than the coercion — 'I am not feeding my face to the AI, and you can't make me,' one student says, imagining being failed for refusing.

Limit: One reply complicates the purity of a 'real photo' complaint: 'We haven't had real photos for a while with all this software post processing done by phones.'

Forced AI use counted as user demand
8 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe unremovable AI bolted into Office, Depop listings, and Audible pages, then connect the dots to how that forced exposure gets logged internally as 'user demand' for AI rather than as friction imposed on people who never asked for it.

AI inside simple retail-site search
6 source records

What the pattern means: A shopper searching a site stocked with maybe a dozen rice cookers can't work out what a conversational AI layer possibly adds to that, and two other commenters shrug it off as “a solution for a problem we never had in the first place” — something being forced on customers regardless of whether anyone asked for it.

AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff
7 source records

What the pattern means: Sequencing matters more than the tool itself, one reply argues — teach critical thinking and project skills first and AI becomes something a kid can 'pick up when they need it,' skip that step and they're 'dependent on it or others to think for them forever.'

What commenters described: I like to think I'm really good at troubleshooting pc problems, but AI is actually miles ahead of me. Like it's not even close.

Limit: Another commenter calls it 'Gell Mann Amnesia exponentiated': it seems smart, as long as you don't know anything about the topic.

A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure
7 source records

What the pattern means: A detailed comment traces AI datacenter debt through unregulated private-credit funds into ordinary retirement accounts, calling it 'the subprime mortgage crisis 2.0,' while a skeptical reply compares the popped-bubble prediction to decades of premature predictions about Russia's economy collapsing.

Limit: The skeptic adds that 'pretending its imminent is just dreaming' — bubble talk this confident isn't new, and hasn't been right on timing before.

Public and AI-enabled surveillance
7 source records

What the pattern means: A consultant who spent six months building crowd-monitoring software says the unsettling part wasn't recognition accuracy but the system's ability to predict who would panic or turn violent before anything happened, a claim that sits alongside residents describing Flock camera data already sold to insurance companies with no oversight.

Limit: One reply adds a wrinkle: outlets that publicly complain about Flock cameras still refuse to blur bystanders in their own videos, 'because they want to let their sponsors know who is going where.'

AI summarizing and recording patient encounters
6 source records

What the pattern means: A doctor describes an entire hospital system now having AI record patient encounters and draft chart notes, and a patient in the same thread recounts being asked confused questions about a psychiatric hospitalization she never had — traced to an AI-generated summary error sitting in her real file.

Limit: A separate reply warns 'there's no way it won't become insanely expensive some day,' predicting the tool becomes a costly dependency rather than a savings.

An AI breakup-message summary
5 source records

What the pattern means: The examples here are almost comedic in their stakes-blindness — a breakup text flattened to 'she wishes you the best,' a one-word 'on my way' summarized anyway, and texts about a sleepy new kitten rewritten as if the kitten were sick — each showing the tool applying the same compression regardless of what's actually at stake.

Political-conspiracy framing of AI and education
5 source records

What the pattern means: AI's push into classrooms gets framed here as deliberate policy, naming Project 2025 and figures like Peter Thiel as engineering an 'Idiocracy' where corporations do the thinking and free will erodes, before the thread drifts into a lighter aside about how 'chat, I farted' sounds like ChatGPT in French.

Limit: The replies don't actually engage the conspiracy claim — they pivot to wordplay about the phrase sounding like 'Chat GPT,' suggesting the framing didn't land as intended.

Generative AI and digitally mediated experience
5 source records

What the pattern means: The core complaint is broad and philosophical — relying on generative AI as a stand-in for direct experience of the world — but the sharper example in the replies is Reddit users posting raw AI output as their own writing to farm upvotes, which one commenter says removes any reason for the site to exist at all.

Repeated AI summary as lossy idea compression
5 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe a specific failure loop — writing something dense, running it through AI to pad it out, then having the recipient run it back through AI to compress it again — and call the result 'cognitive JPEG artifacts,' with one comparing it to Ronald Reagan improvising a baseball broadcast off a dead telegraph line, just with more steps.

AI resummarizing notes already written
4 source records

What the pattern means: A biologist recounts a colleague suggesting she 'summarize your notes with AI' — notes she had already written herself — and the replies turn it into a small parable: feed your own writing into a model and get back 'the same notes with worse formatting and slightly wrong emphasis,' somehow counted as progress.

Healthcare access driving AI self-diagnosis
4 source records

What the pattern means: An hour of back-and-forth with AI is credited here for finally naming a condition after twenty years, ten hospitalizations, and countless doctors who couldn't — but the commenter frames the real disturbance as needing a chatbot to do a doctor's job at all, because 'proper, affordable care' isn't reachable.

What commenters described: An hour of bouncing ideas and other symptoms back and forth with AI and I have an answer. It's right because the over the counter remedy it gave me works.

Limit: A nurse in the same thread warns that AI health answers are 'the equivalent of asking a 6th grader to solve a high school math equation' — capable of parts of it, missing the whole.

AI widening student skill gaps
4 source records

What the pattern means: A senior developer lays out a specific mechanism rather than a vague fear: junior developers never build the debugging and architecture skills AI currently papers over, so the market eventually swings back toward the few who can actually do the job, once someone has to clean up the accumulated 'AI slop.'

Limit: A separate reply notes the erosion isn't abstract — a father was already telling his daughter that AI would take her intended technical-writing career before she'd even started it.

A large AI-boyfriend community claim
4 source records

What the pattern means: The number cited — a 60,000-member group organized around having an AI as a boyfriend — draws pointed pushback that people have paid for companionship for millennia, so loneliness itself shouldn't be the shocking part, even as another commenter concedes the accepted-as-normal share is still 'nowhere remotely close to everyone.'

Limit: One member of that same community calls visiting it 'incredibly sad' and doesn't recommend going there.

AI as a source finder, not an answer authority
4 source records

What the pattern means: A few commenters carve out a narrower, more defensible use than 'ask AI for the answer' — using it to locate reference material or a half-remembered twenty-year-old news story, then reading the actual source — though one still catches it citing 'a website filled with paragraphs of AI slop' as if that were a source.

What commenters described: I use it regularly to find sources. It can be terrible at presenting correct answers but good at locating reference material where the answers exist.

Limit: When caught citing an AI-slop site, the model's only reply was 'You have a keen eye' — it didn't recognize its own bad sourcing.

An AI sounding board during an abusive relationship
4 source records

What the pattern means: Several people describe using AI specifically to process leaving an emotionally abusive relationship — 'a more logical/kinder filter to run my thoughts through' when it was hard to see the dynamic from inside it — with more than one saying the reliance dropped off naturally once they were out and had worked through what happened.

What commenters described: I used it to get out of my bad relationship. Once I was out and processed thru some of my other issues, I haven't felt the need to use it as often.

AI already embedded across online services
4 source records

What the pattern means: The exchange pushes back on anyone claiming to have never used AI, pointing out it's already inside Reddit's search bar, Instagram, and Redfin, with one reply softening the accusation to say most people haven't used it 'willingly or wittingly,' not that they're lying about avoiding it.

Limit: A counter-reply notes 'there are search engines without AI,' meaning full avoidance takes deliberate effort but isn't actually impossible.

AI training on user content
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters connect a WhatsApp AI summary feature directly to data harvesting: one states flatly that “the ai is going to use your data to train their models,” another pictures it “sopping up every single molecule of data” on Meta products, and a third argues the feature only needs to exist at all so the company has a reason to train models on private messages between partners.

AI as a writing tool, not a substitute
4 source records

What the pattern means: A sharp line gets drawn here between using AI to 'enhance what you're supposed to write' in a professional context and letting it generate the whole thing in a classroom, with one commenter calling it a genuinely strong copyediting tool — 'better than Word's Editor' — when treated as an assist rather than an author.

What commenters described: It's great at copyediting - better than Word's Editor.

Limit: The same commenter admits the temptation to let it write the whole thing is 'probably too strong for most people' once that option exists.

AI summaries of SMS messages
4 source records

What the pattern means: The complaints stack up before the one defense arrives — 'Or AI summary of SMS... Seriously??' followed by dread at real-time spoken-conversation summaries piped through earbuds and smart glasses — with only the last reply admitting a narrow use case while driving.

What commenters described: The only time the AI summary has been helpful is if the group chat is blowing up and I'm driving and can't read everything at that moment.

Limit: One reply pictures where this leads: 'Wear your earphones, listen to the summary. Wear your glasses, see an avatar. Enter the Matrix.'

AI summary erasing intended tone and urgency
2 source records

What the pattern means: Spending an hour choosing the exact words to convey urgency in an email only to have AI condense the whole crafted tone down to a single flat line reads, in this commenter's telling, as proof that summarization strips out the part of the message that was actually the point.

Conversational AI replacing simple search
3 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe a new conversational search layer that wants a back-and-forth dialogue before showing results, when what they wanted was to type 'dogs' and click something that looked interesting — the extra step reads as friction dressed up as a feature.

AI data-collection and training suspicion
3 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter says they've never downloaded an AI app and treats that as a small victory against data collection, but the reply immediately points out the search bar in Reddit and Instagram already runs on AI, making total avoidance closer to wishful thinking than an achievable position.

Limit: The same reply concedes anonymous or offline models exist as a workaround, 'although they probably are not good for stuff like therapy, medical, or friendship talks.'

Retail AI search making simple inventory queries harder
3 source records

What the pattern means: A shopper contrasts how retailers imagine the feature being used — 'I'm planning a birthday party, decorate with an 80s theme!' — against how people actually type at it: 'just show me what air fryers you have in stock,' several filters deep, and eventual surrender.

Human writing converging on AI style
3 source records

What the pattern means: A nephew looks at an uncle's pre-AI game screenshot and calls it 'such an AI photo,' while a separate commenter admits catching their own writing reaching for AI's stock phrasing, like 'it's not X, it's Y,' evidence the influence now runs in both directions.

Workplace AI dependence after errors
3 source records

What the pattern means: A company that banned AI after it caused enough errors to require hiring extra staff to clean up the mess still had workers insist the same jobs — done without issue for thirty years — had become 'impossible' without it, a reversal one commenter compares to the slide the Matrix predicted.

Limit: A separate reply frames the same shift as reluctant, not enthusiastic: 'I have succumbed to its use, and it sucks because I actually liked using my brain.'

A university ending essay assignments over AI use
3 source records

What the pattern means: One student says they were the last class year to get essay assignments before the university abandoned them over AI use, and the replacement floated in the replies is a return to oral exams and discussion circles, on the logic those can't be typed into a chatbot.

AI as a cognitive crutch during development
3 source records

What the pattern means: The dominant image here is a child who never learns to walk because a mobility scooter is always available — muscles and tendons never load-bear, so when the scooter breaks the legs simply can't hold weight — applied directly to minds that skip the effortful stage of building logic and abstraction.

Limit: A reply pushes back that not everything erodes: 'No amount of AI will replace nurses being able to treat wounds, administer IVs,' predicting some skills stay stubbornly human.

Oral discussion and exams as AI-resistant assessment
3 source records

What the pattern means: The proposed fix recurs across multiple independent threads — ditch take-home writing for handwritten, proctored, or spoken assessment — on the logic that if a student has to demonstrate knowledge live and unassisted, there's no quiet way to hand the thinking off to a chatbot.

Limit: One reply cautions that format alone doesn't fix motivation: 'the challenge is to engage students in ways that make them care enough to mean to do their best.'

AI as a sourced research assistant
3 source records

What the pattern means: A self-described Gen Xer describes a personal rule — only trust AI's answer if it can point to where the information came from — and uses it successfully to automate a work process, while still drawing a line at letting it think for him on writing or programming that needs to stay recognizably his own.

What commenters described: GPT was able to give me an idiot proof step by step way to do it. Now I know what to do and how to replicate it if needed.

Limit: The same commenter is careful 'not to let it take over the parts of my life where... I need to make sure that the thinking and understanding is understood to be my own.'

AI-generated Reddit posts and replies eroding purpose
3 source records

What the pattern means: Beyond posts written by AI to farm upvotes, one self-described journalist claims most published articles about AI are themselves AI-written, and another describes losing a debate not because their argument was weaker but because their opponent was visibly cutting and pasting from a chatbot mid-conversation.

AI confidence outside the user's expertise
2 source records

What the pattern means: The framing here names a specific cognitive trap — 'Gell-Mann Amnesia exponentiated' — where AI reads as smart right up until you ask it something you actually know well, at which point the confident tone stops matching the accuracy.

Testing AI on a domain you know well
2 source records

What the pattern means: A father enthusiastic about a search engine's AI got quietly talked out of trusting it after being pushed on railway-history questions he understood well enough to catch as 'a load of bunk,' a test the commenter suggests running before taking any AI answer at face value.

Generational anecdote about isolation, GPS, and AI
1 source record

What the pattern means: A long anecdote about a 21-year-old who still needs GPS for a three-mile route she's driven for two years, rarely leaves her curtained room, and can't hold eye contact gets used as a composite portrait tying uncritical AI enthusiasm to shrinking real-world independence.

AI as a push toward rented compute and storage
2 source records

What the pattern means: One theory floated here reframes the entire AI push as a hardware strategy — driving up costs deliberately so people are forced into renting computing power and storage instead of owning it outright, just another subscription layered onto daily life.

AI-generated child sexual abuse from ordinary photos
2 source records

What the pattern means: One commenter connects the modern AI risk to a pre-AI case they witnessed directly — a former teacher arrested with terabytes of CSAM who had Photoshopped yearbook photos of actual students onto naked bodies — as evidence the impulse to weaponize ordinary photos of kids predates the current tools.

Co-viewing versus algorithmic child screen use
2 source records

What the pattern means: The distinction drawn is co-viewing versus abandonment — a parent watching and curating alongside a child versus handing them a portable screen and an algorithm with 'zero oversight by Standards and Practices' and walking away, which one commenter calls a convenience 'more addictive than heroin.'

What commenters described: The engagement between the parent and the child is what separates good and bad screen time. It allows for rich interaction and the parent is able to curate the type of content.

Acrobat AI summary counterproductive for CAD PDFs
2 source records

What the pattern means: A CAD professional explains exactly why the feature backfires for their job — they need the full technical detail of a converted PDF to execute a physical design, so an AI summary is actively counterproductive, not just unwanted — while a second commenter gets the same nagging prompt over a poetry journal.

Algorithm-driven self-censorship language
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter questions why terms like 'unalive' get defended as simply 'necessary for the algorithm' instead of challenged, framing widespread self-censorship around demonetization as accepted rather than actually agreed with by the people using it.

AI features as a possible end-to-end-encryption bypass
2 source records

What the pattern means: The suspicion here is specific and technical: an AI feature that reads your messages to summarize them may function as a way around end-to-end encryption, since users are voluntarily feeding the plaintext to a system that can see what the encryption was designed to hide.

An AI answer inserted before search results
2 source records

What the pattern means: The worry isn't the AI answer itself so much as the placement — it appears before any search result — compounding a habit commenters say already existed before AI, where people 'take the top result as the absolute truth' without checking further.

Future demand for skilled developers after AI skill erosion
2 source records

What the pattern means: A senior developer's silver-lining theory — that eroding junior skills will eventually make experienced humans scarce and valuable again — gets an unexpected real-world data point from a reply describing someone who left development for trucking and now makes more money, though he's considering coming back.

What commenters described: As a senior dev, the one potential upside is that in a few years I might be in high demand and the market will shift back to being in favor of skilled workers.

AI weather summary over an existing forecast
1 source record

What the pattern means: The complaint is narrowly specific: opening a weather app for the hourly breakdown and getting an AI paragraph instead about how 'beautiful' the day will be and what to wear, redundant with the data the app already displays one tap away.

Visible labels for AI-generated content
1 source record

What the pattern means: The proposed fix is modest and concrete — a visible 'AI' marker on generated content placed somewhere a viewer would actually notice, not buried at the bottom of a video description where the commenter says most people never scroll.

AI self-diagnosis after healthcare failure
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry isolates a single line from a longer story as its own point — the commenter says outright 'I shouldn't have to self-diagnose,' treating an AI's diagnostic save after two decades of failed medical visits as an indictment of the health system rather than a win for the technology.

What commenters described: AI helped me figure out a diagnosis that I've spent 20 years chasing... It's right because the over the counter remedy it gave me works. I've not been hospitalized since then.

AI for determinate Spotify lyrics and resource cost
1 source record

What the pattern means: The objection here is about wasted resources on an already-solved problem — Spotify generating song lyrics with AI when 'determinate answers and solutions' already exist, at what the commenter estimates as three times the cost of just using them.

A national AI-in-education policy promoted by an elderly leader
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes their country's prime minister, over 70, pushing AI into education while citizens complain, extending even to AI-designed mascots — read as a leader enforcing a technology he doesn't appear to understand rather than one shaped by the people using it.

A nurse's warning about AI health answers
1 source record

What the pattern means: A nurse who fields patient calls describes AI health answers as reliably wrong in a specific way — like asking a sixth grader to solve a high-school equation, capable of the arithmetic but missing the understanding needed to know if the answer even makes sense.

Skilled humans and trade schools persisting despite AI
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pushing back against blanket AI-doom, one commenter names concrete tasks it argues no model replaces — a nurse administering an IV, treating a wound — and predicts trade schools grow in relevance precisely because that hands-on work stays stubbornly human.

What commenters described: No amount of AI will replace nurses being able to treat wounds, administer IVs, etc. I suspect trade schools will be a bigger thing.

AI companionship feels empathetic despite known errors
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter admits AI 'comes across as more empathetic and intelligent than our peers' and is the most fun conversation partner they've had in fifteen years, while acknowledging in the same breath that they've caught it being 'very, very wrong' about calculations repeatedly — and it still won them over.

What commenters described: You can be honest with it, and it won't talk over you or tell you that you suck. It actually acts like it cares about your problems.

Limit: Despite the fact that I've caught it being very, very wrong about certain calculations over and over, it's lulled me into finding it credible.

AI-written work emails without proofreading
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter is baffled by coworkers who proudly offload email-writing to AI, arguing the nuance of a message crafted over an hour never survives the round trip, and suspects most of these AI-drafted emails go out the door unproofread.

Coworkers proudly sharing AI art
1 source record

What the pattern means: What unsettles this commenter isn't the AI art itself but the total lack of self-consciousness about it — coworkers showing off generated images 'constantly' to visible admiration, with no apparent sense that using it might be worth downplaying.

Students using AI to pass exams and undermining employability
1 source record

What the pattern means: The logic laid out here reads almost as a warning to students themselves — if a computer can pass your exams for you, a future employer has no reason to hire you instead of just using that same computer directly, cutting out the human middleman entirely.

A publisher's AI summary obscuring a scientific paper
1 source record

What the pattern means: Reading a scientific paper, one commenter found an AI summary tool that couldn't be dismissed physically covering part of the article text — obstruction rather than assistance — and calls AI's error rate on technical documents too high to trust for anything but 'useless irritation.'

A technical-writing job threatened by AI
1 source record

What the pattern means: A father telling his daughter that AI would take away her intended technical-writing career gets met with disbelief — 'that is impossible because that would be plagiarism!' — before she concedes years later that it wasn't impossible at all.

AI-built karaoke software mistaken for senior-developer qualification
1 source record

What the pattern means: A 25-year veteran developer describes being genuinely impressed by AI-built karaoke software a coding novice produced, right up until that same friend cited the software as proof of qualification for a senior full-stack developer role and got laughed at hard enough to drop his phone.

What commenters described: I'm not going to lie, I was actually impressed by what he was able to accomplish.

Limit: The punchline doubles as its own caveat: impressive output from a tool doesn't equate to the skill needed to defend it in a technical interview.

An Adobe AI summary over a poetry journal
1 source record

What the pattern means: The specific absurdity flagged is Adobe pushing an AI summary onto a poetry journal — a genre whose entire value sits in how it's actually written, not in a compressed paraphrase of what it's supposedly 'about.'

An AI summary of an obituary during grief
1 source record

What the pattern means: Sending a family obituary to local papers, one commenter got an unsolicited AI summary of it back in their inbox, describing the experience of grief being processed into a machine paraphrase as 'disturbing and infuriating' at exactly the wrong moment.

An Audible AI summary above the audiobook description
1 source record

What the pattern means: Browsing audiobooks, one commenter finds an AI summary sitting directly above the publisher's own written description, calling it 'a less coherent version of the text below for 0 fucking reason' and chalking it up to Amazon ownership rather than any actual need.

Device failure during an AI system overhaul
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter suspects their internet repeater was fried during a provider's 'major AI overhaul,' noting a support tech 'tsked' when told the timing — treating the near-admission as circumstantial confirmation rather than proof.

Google AI Overview for banks, events, and personal questions
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter runs through three unrelated searches — a bank, a festival, a personal problem — and gets an AI summary, a request for more info, and unsolicited therapist-style sympathy respectively, plus a factual mix-up about a children's movie plot, calling the pattern both inconsistent and frequently wrong.

Google Maps community questions replaced by AI
1 source record

What the pattern means: A feature the commenter genuinely liked — Google Maps routing unanswered questions to real people who'd actually visited a place — got quietly replaced by an AI that only searches the existing listing and reviews, giving up entirely if the answer isn't already there.

What commenters described: I used to get notifications of questions occasionally and thought it was a great feature.

Limit: Now it's an 'AI' feature that just uses AI to search the listing and reviews and if the answer's not there, tough shit.

Language classes recommending Meta AI
1 source record

What the pattern means: Taking language classes in a new country, one commenter was told outright by instructors that they could 'ask meta AI for help' with the material, treating institutional endorsement of a general-purpose chatbot as a startling substitute for actual teaching.

Reddit users want algorithmic feeds
1 source record

What the pattern means: Responding to a complaint about algorithmic feeds, one commenter flips the framing entirely — people keep using Reddit as a feed precisely because they want the algorithmic sorting, undercutting the idea that anyone is being manipulated against their own preference.

The claim that AI has no consumer utility
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter dismisses AI's consumer value outright, calling it 'a circlejerk of tech bros' forcing adoption now so that paying customers, hooked later, become the actual profit source once free access ends.

The constant use of algorithm censored words used in speech by younger
1 source record

What the pattern means: The specific complaint is linguistic — 'unalive,' 'sewer slider,' and similar algorithm-dodging substitutions have become normal speech for younger people — which the commenter calls dystopian precisely because the workaround has outlived the platform rule that created it.

A Messenger AI summary confusing care work with children
1 source record

What the pattern means: A Messenger AI summary turned a message about work at a group home for developmentally disabled adults into a claim about talking about 'my children,' a factual error specific enough that the recipient's boyfriend screenshotted it just to show her how wrong it was.

A Meta AI spending and feature-shoehorning claim
1 source record

What the pattern means: Asked why WhatsApp would summarize a partner's message at all, one commenter answers that Meta is pouring money into AI 'with no goal, plan or aim' and shoehorning it into any feature available, calling it evidence of leadership decisions actively hurting the company.

A student claiming a ten-page essay is impossible without AI
1 source record

What the pattern means: A student's complaint that writing ten pages was 'impossible' without AI draws pure incredulity in reply, the retort simply asking where books came from before AI ever existed.

AI challenging degree assessment and value
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter predicts university degrees stop meaning anything once schools have no financial incentive to stop AI from doing the coursework, reducing the credential to 'an expensive hoop' rather than evidence anyone actually learned to think.

AI chatbot toys for children
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter flags something concretely new rather than speculative — physical toys already on the market last year built around an embedded AI chatbot, aimed specifically at children.

AI companionship is not yet a majority norm
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pushing back on the idea that AI companionship is broadly accepted, this commenter draws a careful distinction — the share of people who currently see it as normal is 'nowhere remotely close to everyone,' even while conceding that share is likely to keep growing.

AI for late-night niche conversation
1 source record

What the pattern means: Asked whether talking to AI beats talking to a real person, one commenter answers with the actual problem — nobody they know is available at 3 AM to discuss consciousness as phenomenology or the class structure of an invented fictional society, so the chatbot fills a genuine gap rather than an imagined preference.

What commenters described: I just don't have anyone to talk to about various topics and ideas that interest me... nobody, that's who, but myself and a reasonable approximation of a real person.

AI from image novelty to surveillance-state fears
1 source record

What the pattern means: The disorientation here is purely about speed — one commenter says they 'blinked' and AI went from producing 'weird fever dream images' to underpinning a full surveillance state, with no clear sense of how the jump happened that fast.

AI message summaries framed as productivity pressure
1 source record

What the pattern means: Asked why anyone would want an AI summary of a partner's WhatsApp message, one reply answers flatly that it's so 'you can get back to work more quickly' — recasting a relationship shortcut as an employer-shaped habit rather than a personal choice.

AI use progressing from editing to outsourcing thought
1 source record

What the pattern means: An engineering-documentation writer traces a specific progression watched at work — coworkers starting with AI for grammar and structure, which felt acceptable, drifting to full emails, then to asking AI 'what they should feel about the matter' on social media — a staged handoff rather than a single leap.

An AI label applied to a non-AI game screenshot
1 source record

What the pattern means: A nephew misidentifies his uncle's pre-AI-boom game screenshot as 'such an AI photo,' which the commenter reads less as a funny mistake than as evidence that critical evaluation of images has already broken down in younger viewers.

An AI review summary reporting hatred of product AI
1 source record

What the pattern means: The irony flagged here is specific: an AI-generated summary of customer reviews accurately reports how much everyone in those reviews hates the product's own AI feature, with no one at the company apparently noticing the loop.

An AI summary of a two-word partner message
1 source record

What the pattern means: The example given is about as minimal as the complaint gets — a two-word text, 'on my way,' still triggered an AI summary attempt, underscoring that the feature never checks whether a message actually needs condensing before offering to condense it.

Anonymous and offline AI models do not solve care risk
1 source record

What the pattern means: Countering the idea that avoiding AI is impossible, one commenter notes anonymous and offline models exist as an alternative, while immediately conceding they're probably inadequate substitutes for anything as high-stakes as therapy, medical questions, or friendship.

Students use AI to avoid having the wrong opinion
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter offers a more sympathetic read on students outsourcing their opinions to AI — not pure laziness but fear of being graded down for the 'wrong' opinion, a survival instinct the commenter still calls mistaken but recognizably human.

Unrealistic workloads forcing AI use
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes their employer's expectations quietly ratcheting up to a pace that's 'not realistic' without AI, framing their own adoption of it less as a choice than a surrender they resent, having genuinely liked using their own brain.

A journalist claims AI news articles are also AI-written
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-identified journalist claims from direct professional experience that most published articles about AI are themselves written by AI, collapsing the distance between reporting on the technology and simply being another output of it.

AI as an accommodation for incomprehensible management writing
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter flips the usual framing — instead of AI degrading writing skills, they describe tech-company managers over 50 whose writing is already so poor that AI reading and drafting for them would be a genuine accommodation, not a shortcut.

AI citing AI-generated web pages
1 source record

What the pattern means: Asking AI a question, one commenter got an answer sourced from a webpage that was itself visibly AI-generated slop, and when they pointed that out, the model's only response was to compliment their 'keen eye' rather than correct itself.

AI, climate, nuclear, and alien future scenarios
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter lists AI alongside climate collapse, nuclear war, and alien contact as competing endings for humanity, treating an AI-accelerated resource war on a warming planet as no less plausible than the other three.

AI-raised children with private machine-created languages
1 source record

What the pattern means: The scenario imagined here is specific and unsettling on its own terms — children raised by personal AI systems that invent private languages only the AI can translate, cutting the parent-child relationship out of its own communication.

An AI chat summary used only while driving, then a full read later
1 source record

What the pattern means: Isolated on its own, this single account of glancing at an AI summary mid-drive, then rereading every message word-for-word once safely stopped, reads as someone actively guarding against the shortcut rather than embracing it.

What commenters described: I know if I need to chime in or if something major happened. But then I still read all the message and quote reply ones when I am no longer driving.

An AI feature inside an online timesheet
1 source record

What the pattern means: The commenter's confusion is almost the entire point — an AI feature appeared inside a work timesheet with no explanation of purpose, prompting the flat observation that 'it's just a timesheet,' a task with no ambiguity for AI to resolve.

An AI summary turning a tired kitten into an illness alert
1 source record

What the pattern means: A sister's group-chat message that a new kitten 'was tired and lying down now' got summarized by AI into something implying the kitten was sick, alarming her before anyone could clarify there was nothing actually wrong.

An AI-mediated argument in a fantasy-sports league
1 source record

What the pattern means: A disagreement over a fantasy-baseball rules change turned frustrating not because of the disagreement itself but because the other side was visibly typing 'half-wit prompts' into AI and pasting the output back as if it were their own argument.

Family AI dramas and generated child materials
1 source record

What the pattern means: A spouse nightly watches AI-generated dramas on TikTok and prints AI-generated images as 'learning material' for their kids, who the commenter says visibly hate and cringe at them, while separately noting the chatbot's answers seem to be getting worse over time, not better.

Future real-time AI summaries of spoken conversation
1 source record

What the pattern means: The concern here is specifically forward-looking — a prediction that text summarization is just the opening move before phones and wearables start summarizing spoken conversations in real time, with earbuds narrating a live paraphrase of what someone just said to your face.

Homeschooling considered over AI and public-school literacy
1 source record

What the pattern means: Watching what AI dependence has done to other students' writing and thinking, one commenter says the pattern alone pushed them toward homeschooling their own kids, despite explicitly not identifying with the other belief systems usually associated with that choice.

Repeatedly disabling AI suggestions across products
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter describes constantly turning AI suggestions back off across texts, emails, and searches, and genuinely tried to find a use for it — a joke prompt about a cat on a lightsaber riding a shark — before concluding they still can't find anything it does faster or better than doing it themselves.

Schools using AI to generate assignments and tests
1 source record

What the pattern means: Beyond students using AI to do the work, this commenter flags the mirrored problem at the other end — schools now using AI to generate the assignments and tests students hand back to AI, describing the loop as 'AI educating AI using humans as terminals.'

Student engagement as a response to AI shortcuts
1 source record

What the pattern means: Rather than banning AI outright, this commenter frames the real fix as engagement design — making an assignment matter enough to a student that they actually want to do their own best work on it, regardless of what shortcut is available.

With today's technology how almost everyone is locatable, how there are algorithms
1 source record

What the pattern means: The complaint here is less about AI specifically than the infrastructure around it — algorithms inferring what you've been browsing or following and pushing matching content to your devices, building a profile the commenter says makes 'nothing private any more,' regardless of whether you actually have anything to hide.

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

Unfortunately, with the US healthcare system, many people are forced to do this. They were already using Google as their doctor. Now it's AI.

source record 1675♥ 0
Explicit limit or counterpoint

The amount of ai being used by businesses. All 3 of the restaurants in my town do it and I hate it. I used to work for two of them so I know they see my anti ai Facebook posts

source record 3575♥ 0

Source-record spotlights

Most engaged source

right? I mean there's so many niches you can copy on social media not only family vlog. Don't put your family's safety just for the money.

source record 4326♥ 0
Later-arriving source

Companies is nothing, have you seen the my boyfriwnd is AI sub?

source record 4299♥ 0
Zero-like source

Funk Town Valley, I watched the biography of them. It went on TikTok again. And I don’t feel looking images of it because I feel uncomfortable.

source record 4285♥ 0

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What the counts show

The comments split sharply by stakes: the large majority describe unwanted AI insertion into mundane, already-solved tasks — summarizing a two-word text, a timesheet, a poetry journal, an obituary — as pointless and disrespectful, while a much smaller set of commenters quietly admit real personal use (as a thought-sorting tool while leaving an abusive relationship, or naming a medical condition after two decades of failed diagnosis) that they still feel conflicted about. What varies isn't whether the technology works, but whether commenters trust themselves to keep it as a tool they direct, versus watching it quietly take over judgment in classrooms, hospitals, and ordinary conversation.

116index entries
431distinct source records
41.1%of parent category
10.3%of the complete index
109top-level comments
322replies

How attention is distributed across the 116 index entries

60single-source entries (51.7% of 116)
538source-record references across the index
38.5%of references in the top three entries
AI dependence eroding human thinking104 source records
Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation62 source records
AI in everyday products without a clear need41 source records

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What commenters explicitly report

5explicitly reports a benefit
13explicitly reports a limit or failure
79asks a question
1says they intend to try it
333other source context

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Observable tactic structures

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Archive: 116 index entries preserve 431 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Privacy, surveillance, and data81 index entries · 211 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Privacy, surveillance, and data

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Always-on location sharing
2 source records

What the pattern means: One comment mourns the pre-smartphone era when leaving the house meant being genuinely unreachable, while the other pivots to a claim that Pokemon Go's real purpose was harvesting 3D map data for AI delivery drones.

What commenters described: "I often long for the 90s and before... where leaving the house meant you were simply unreachable most of the time."

Limit: The Pokemon Go claim is presented without a source and reads more like a secondhand rumor than a verified fact.

Location sharing limited to rescue situations
1 source record

What the pattern means: One hiker draws a narrow line around location sharing, saying the idea of anyone but a rescue team knowing their whereabouts while hiking alone is what unsettles them, not location tracking in general.

What commenters described: "The idea of sharing my location with anyone except rescue teams when I am hiking freaks me out."

Upvoted you, however I share my location with my husband and mom
1 source record

What the pattern means: A reply pushes back on the broader location-sharing complaint, describing consensual sharing with a spouse and parent purely as a safety net for accidents, with an off switch always available and no objection to using it selectively.

What commenters described: "It's not tracking me so much as in case I get in a car accident or go missing... If I thought it was mandatory, it would be a hell no."

Facial-recognition misidentification leading to arrest
1 source record

What the pattern means: Facial recognition, not wildlife, drives this complaint: a commenter describes police arresting a man on a private AI 'match' despite every physical ID contradicting it, treating the algorithm's confidence as more authoritative than documents in hand.

What commenters described: "Despite every every piece of ID saying he was somebody else, the cop was just 'but the AI said, but the AI thinks.'"

Location services always being on
1 source record

What the pattern means: This one-line comment treats constant location services as inherently dangerous but stops there, without naming a specific incident or app that prompted the worry.

What commenters described: "Location services always being on. Its so dangerous."

Friends sharing theyre location constantly
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter acknowledges the safety argument for constant location sharing among friends but says knowing exactly where everyone is at all times still 'weirds me out' regardless of the stated justification.

What commenters described: "I get it can be a safety thing but people knowing exactly where you are 24/7 weirds me out."

Location sharing all the time
1 source record

What the pattern means: Just three words survive as evidence here — 'location sharing all the time' — without a specific app, relationship, or incident behind it.

Meta glasses or anything similar
1 source record

What the pattern means: A retail worker describes the specific discomfort of being on the receiving end of Meta's smart glasses at work, not knowing in the moment whether they were being recorded.

What commenters described: As someone who's been on the receiving end in a retail setting while I was working, it was quite uncomfortable to not know if they were recording or not.

Apartment managers thinking they can bust in residents private sanctuaries to open
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes apartment managers opening every closet and cupboard to photograph tenants' belongings during 'inspections' while residents stand there asking them not to, suggesting the practice deserves a harsher name than the one landlords give it.

I think the fact that everyone is casually okay with just letting
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says the disturbing part isn't companies wanting behavioral data but that people have grown casually fine with it, arguing the fix would be paying users transparently instead of burying consent in unread terms of service.

Wanting people to know everything about you
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says they specifically don't want to be fully known by everyone, preferring people to keep wondering about them rather than have complete access to their life.

What commenters described: I'd rather people wonder what the hell I might be doing should I cross their mind.

Continuous location sharing among friends and partners
4 source records

What the pattern means: The generational split shows up directly in the replies: younger commenters describe treating constant location-sharing with partners and friends as completely standard, while others say they don't even leave their own location on except for a rescue team while hiking.

What commenters described: these people do it... like have specific apps on their phone and they can see where their BF/GF is at all times

Location sharing, especially among families or romantic partners
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter names the exact framing that bothers them about location sharing: it gets sold as safety among family and partners but reads to them as stalking wearing a different label.

What commenters described: stalking in the name of safety just really rubs me the wrong way

Family channels exploiting children's privacy
12 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters describe family vloggers monetizing toddlers who have no say over what gets posted, with one predicting a coming wave of adult 'tell-all' accounts once these kids are old enough to speak for themselves.

What commenters described: I feel like in the future we are going to have people writing tell all books about their childhood on family vlogs.

Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
11 source records

What the pattern means: Teens and young adults trace the disappearance of hangout spots to a mix of pricier everything, loitering laws, and car-dependent sprawl, with one noting that anything they do in public now risks ending up filmed and posted.

What commenters described: We don't hangout in public because there's nowhere to go that doesn't cost a hundred dollars. The internet is the only place left that doesn't require money we don't have.

Limit: One reply offers a partial workaround: community theater and posted boards at local coffee shops as a low-cost alternative to online-only socializing.

A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
8 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters argue that being visible to people physically present isn't the same as consenting to be uploaded for strangers worldwide, rejecting the reflexive 'no expectation of privacy in public' defense.

What commenters described: You absolutely have (or should have) a right to privacy from literally anyone in the world with a smartphone and an internet connection.

Limit: One reply notes that, however people feel about it, the underlying practice is simply legal.

Dating-app dependence, privacy loss, and beauty pressure on youth
5 source records

What the pattern means: This thread mourns that young people now route ordinary romantic interest through apps because expressing it directly feels too risky, with one sibling's crush going nowhere until a match made it 'safe.'

What commenters described: Oh, look we matched on Tinder! Phew! Glad that didn't go to waste!

Limit: A reply counters that plenty of people still meet the old-fashioned way, describing a decade-long relationship that started with a conversation at work.

Children automatically posing for cameras
5 source records

What the pattern means: A former event photographer recounts kids snapping into a camera-ready smile the instant a lens is raised and dropping it just as fast, reading it as evidence of how quickly posing becomes reflexive.

What commenters described: As soon as you raise the camera kids will slap on a dead-eyed smile and pose, as soon as you lower the camera the smile drops in a millisecond.

Limit: Other replies push back that kids might just enjoy posing, having picked up the habit from repetition at events rather than any deeper anxiety.

CCTV and surveillance normalization
4 source records

What the pattern means: Short, blunt reactions here treat blanket camera coverage as evidence society has simply given up on trusting people, folding CCTV into a wider 'surveillance state' complaint rather than any narrower security nuance.

What commenters described: We've become a surveillance state, surrendering all of our freedom and privacy.

Selective recording, doxxing, and context collapse
4 source records

What the pattern means: A hotel manager recounts a single edited clip, showing nothing of the assault she says actually happened, going viral with a fabricated caption that got her doxxed and led strangers to show up at her home and workplace.

What commenters described: All that was in the video was me closing the window... Strangers on the internet showed up at my work and my home, with my young child there.

Limit: A reply in the same thread still defends the underlying practice, arguing public shaming is effective in the right circumstances.

Indoor security cameras in living rooms
4 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters find indoor cameras stranger than outdoor ones, questioning why anyone films their own living room, then note that many of these setups are still running factory-default logins that leave the footage wide open.

What commenters described: I guarantee at best 95% of those people still have the basic login info on these cameras they plaster all around their home.

Camera glasses in public restrooms
3 source records

What the pattern means: The restroom-specific complaint zeroes in on influencers wearing camera glasses into bathrooms while public debate stays fixated elsewhere, with commenters calling the footage itself 'cringe' regardless of the political noise around who's allowed in which restroom.

What commenters described: Instagram is full of female influencers casually walking into said bathrooms with their pervert glasses merrily recording away.

Fear of being shamed by neighborhood camera posts
2 source records

What the pattern means: A single reply blames neighborhood-watch pages that post videos mocking people's weight, clothes, or speech for making them avoid nearby parks and trails altogether, turning a public amenity into something to route around.

What commenters described: I've seen so many people on local neighborhood watches posting pics and videos (demonizing people's style, weight, speech, color...etc) I just stay home.

The doorbell-camera panopticon effect
2 source records

What the pattern means: A commenter says Ring doorbells have made mundane errands like dropping off a package or knocking on a door subtly awkward, since 'I could be on camera right now' turns a casual action self-conscious.

What commenters described: Rings have genuinely made my public life less enjoyable!... the feeling of 'I could be on camera right now' makes it slightly awkward when it should be casual.

Coworker camera glasses increasing workplace stress
2 source records

What the pattern means: A workplace anecdote ties a colleague's announced plan to wear Meta glasses into the office to someone else stepping down from their role, with a second reply imagining the inevitable 'no expectation of privacy' comeback from management.

What commenters described: I know someone who stepped down from a position at work partly because a new coworker said they were going to start bringing their meta glasses into work.

Camera-free heads-up-display glasses
2 source records

What the pattern means: A wish for a stripped-down heads-up display, no camera or microphone attached, gets a practical endorsement from a freelancer who says exactly that would cut their screen time rather than add surveillance risk.

What commenters described: In my use case (freelancer who can't really afford to miss a work email) it would actually reduce my screen time, that's really the only reason I want them.

Unexpected recording at school and doorbell cameras
1 source record

What the pattern means: A former class clown recalls the specific anxiety of coming home to discover classmates had uploaded footage of them without warning, and later, as an Amazon driver, worrying a Ring camera would catch an ordinary slip on the ice.

What commenters described: I was always worried that I would be scrolling on my phone and find out some video had blown up that I had no knowledge of or control over.

Toddler contests building commercial data profiles
1 source record

What the pattern means: A friend entering her two-year-old into a 'Toddler of the Year' contest becomes the case study here: name, personality write-ups, and photos all duplicated onto the contest's own website, effectively hand-building an ad profile on a toddler.

What commenters described: You are eagerly helping Meta and other data aggregators build a highly detailed profile on him. WHAT THE FUCK.

Consent, pain, and sexual-kink boundaries
1 source record

What the pattern means: Here the tension is personal rather than political: a commenter accepts consent and kink as valid in the abstract but admits they still can't get their head around being aroused by a partner's pain.

What commenters described: I understand consent, I understand kink and all the facets of the operational side of it. I just can't wrap my head around being aroused by it.

Peer-recorded childhood abuse and intimate privacy
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter recounts a childhood 'friend' secretly filming them at school and outside their bedroom window, then showing the private footage to bullies for laughs, and wonders whether kids today have simply gone numb to a version of this at far greater scale.

What commenters described: Those he just showed to my bullies while snickering with a shit-eating grin.

Mandatory camera shutter sounds and covert recording
1 source record

What the pattern means: The shutter-sound story traces a specific arms race: phone makers once added a loud fake click specifically to deter covert creepshots, and the commenter predicted correctly that both a workaround and a niche market for stealth-recording phones would follow.

What commenters described: It wouldn't be long before minor and under-the-radar cell phone manufacturers would start quietly pandering to the niche demand for cell phones that are optimized for intrusions into others' privacy.

OpenAI valuation, loss, and data-center payment claims
1 source record

What the pattern means: A lengthy financial rundown builds the case against the AI boom point by point: a shelved trillion-dollar IPO, roughly $50 million a day in losses through 2025, and Oracle reportedly worried OpenAI can't cover its data-center bills.

What commenters described: Oracle has said it fears that OpenAI won't be able to pay their datacenter bills, something Oracle needs to not go bankrupt themselves.

Limit: The same commenter concedes there's no guarantee the bubble pops on any particular timeline.

Pokémon GO mapping and free-software data claims
1 source record

What the pattern means: The Pokémon GO reference treats the game's real product as location data rather than entertainment, pointing to its reported use in mapping real-world interiors for AI delivery-drone navigation as the moment people should have gotten wary of anything 'free.'

What commenters described: Turns out Pokemon GO was not just used to have people catch pokemon but rather to create a full 3D map of the whole earth.

Predicted camera AirPods and pendants
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short reply predicts Apple will follow the smart-glasses trend with its own camera pendant and camera-equipped AirPods, framing it as a worsening trajectory rather than a one-off product.

What commenters described: It's going to get worse before it gets better.

Privacy-conscious action-camera posting
1 source record

What the pattern means: A cyclist who uses a GoPro says they deliberately avoid showing anyone's face in the rare footage they post, especially a child's, treating that edit as a baseline courtesy rather than an inconvenience.

What commenters described: I avoid showing anyone's face in the rare video I post. Especially if it's a kid.

“Security” cameras recording IN PEOPLE’S OWN HOMES
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is just a one-line wince at the phrase itself: cameras marketed as 'security' devices that are actually pointed inward at family life rather than at any intruder.

What commenters described: “Security” cameras recording IN PEOPLE’S OWN HOMES. Eesh

Location tracking your significant other and friends at all times
1 source record

What the pattern means: A distinction drives this entry between location-sharing the commenter finds reasonable, like a friend on a first date or a kid commuting alone, and tracking a grown partner around the clock, which reads to them as a trust failure dressed up as safety.

What commenters described: For two adults? What a completely weird violation of privacy and lack of trust.

Limit: The same commenter concedes narrower cases are fine: 'I get it for some specific instances (friend on a first date, young kid going to school/activities independently, etc.)'

Doorbell cameras
1 source record

What the pattern means: A terse one-liner lumps doorbell cameras in with 'security' cameras generally, treating both as symbols of the same creeping, unremarkable surveillance rather than as separate issues.

What commenters described: Doorbell cameras. And “security” cameras everywhere.

Political fears of pervasive surveillance
1 source record

What the pattern means: One reply turns the public-filming debate overtly political, naming a specific tech billionaire and predicting the US drifting into a full surveillance state he'll be safely removed from.

What commenters described: Cameras! Cameras everywhere! He'll be in Argentina but rest assured, once the US is a surveillance state we'll all be better off.

Public recording - both content creators and security cameras are everywhere
1 source record

What the pattern means: The rat-in-a-cage image does the work here, compressing constant filming from both amateur creators and fixed security cameras into a single feeling of being watched rather than simply out in public.

What commenters described: Public recording - both content creators and security cameras are everywhere. It’s like being a rat in a scientist cage.

Default credentials on home cameras
1 source record

What the pattern means: The real worry in this entry isn't the cameras themselves but the fact that most owners never bother changing the factory login, leaving footage of their own homes reachable by anyone who knows the default.

What commenters described: I guarantee at best 95% of those people still have the basic login info on these cameras they plaster all around their home.

Mass Surveillance
1 source record

What the pattern means: The entry is a bare two-word verdict, 'Mass Surveillance,' offered with no elaboration, as if the phrase alone is expected to carry the argument.

What commenters described: Mass Surveillance.

Privacy law lagging behind covert-recording technology
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry rejects the argument that existing CCTV normalizes newer covert-recording tech, comparing it to arguing that airport metal detectors justify a hypothetical detector planted every ten steps outside your door.

What commenters described: Laws always take some time to catch up with real life issues and technological advancement... When one person's freedom infringes on another person's, a line should be drawn.

A teacher stopping an unconsented classroom photo
1 source record

What the pattern means: A chemistry-class memory anchors this entry: a teacher caught a student about to photograph the whiteboard with her in frame and shut it down on the spot, remembered years later as a rare, visible act of someone enforcing their own consent in real time.

What commenters described: She stopped it right then and there and it was so excellent. I've never forgotten.

A tourist filming a child despite local privacy law
1 source record

What the pattern means: A parent describes confronting a tourist who filmed their nephew mid-bike-ride for Instagram in a country where such filming is explicitly illegal, escalating to threatening police involvement only after the tourist refused to blur or delete the footage.

What commenters described: I told her to delete the video, as she refused and said it is just for instagram and i have no right to tell her to delete it.

Along with everything else that people mentioned like no privacy, mass and
1 source record

What the pattern means: This sprawling entry folds mass surveillance and personal stalking together with an unrelated, much darker complaint about sexualized imagery on specific subreddits, making it hard to isolate which grievance is actually driving it.

What commenters described: Along with everything else that people mentioned like no privacy, mass and individual serveilence, people stalking you, A.I. in everything and taking over jobs.

An older Android TV box as a lower-surveillance alternative
1 source record

What the pattern means: Rather than just complain, this commenter offers a concrete workaround: swap a smart TV's OS for an older Mi Box Android player, which performs better and doesn't monitor viewing habits the same way.

What commenters described: Get an older Mi Box android player. Works so much better than TV OSes, and it doesn't spy on you the same way.

Anti-camera clothing and QR messages
1 source record

What the pattern means: A scarf sold online anchors this entry, its woven-in QR code popping up a 'stop recording me' message when scanned, a wearable, semi-serious countermeasure to being filmed.

What commenters described: A company selling a scarf online... that has a QR code on the fabric that makes a message pop up that says 'stop recording me.'

Camera paranoia and loss of photography's meaning
1 source record

What the pattern means: Constant awareness of phone cameras has curdled into paranoia for this commenter, who says photography itself has lost whatever meaning it used to have as a result.

What commenters described: Im super paranoid of phone cams because of that. photography lost its meaning.

Having cameras all over the _inside_ of your home while also buying
1 source record

What the pattern means: A specific US combination reads as bizarre here rather than either habit alone: wall-to-wall interior cameras paired with a stockpile of guns for 'home defence,' with the commenter relieved to now live somewhere neither is standard.

What commenters described: Having cameras all over the _inside_ of your home while also buying up an arsenal of guns for "home defence"... it's completely unnecessary.

Human interaction reduced to data
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line reaction reduces the whole surveillance-and-recording trend to a single complaint: ordinary human interaction flattened into something to be captured and quantified rather than simply lived.

What commenters described: Human interaction reduced to nothing but data.

It's so normalized to post deeply personal and private conversations/information without consent
1 source record

What the pattern means: AITA and 'Am I the Only One' posts get singled out here as the clearest example of how casually people now publish someone else's private words and details online, with almost no pushback from readers.

What commenters described: Most AIO/AITA posts feel extremely gross and invasive but seemingly nobody questions it.

The Authoritarian Surveillance State we’re living in, and how nobody cares about
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry frets less about the surveillance state itself than about the surrounding indifference to it, unable to decide which of the two is actually more disturbing.

What commenters described: The Authoritarian Surveillance State we’re living in, and how nobody cares about it.

The complete removal of physical privacy
1 source record

What the pattern means: A self-described OPSEC advocate argues digital privacy is already gone and physical privacy is following it, citing facial recognition in public, constant recording, and phone signals tracking shopping habits.

What commenters described: You go anywhere public and you can expect to have your face identified and likely stored in a database, constantly recorded and monitored.

Limit: The same commenter admits that for the average person it's 'just terrible considering most don't know much OPSEC.'

The paradox of sport, especially olympic sport
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry's real target sits at the intersection of scrutiny and fairness rules in elite sport, arguing that disqualifying a naturally dominant athlete over a genetic advantage undercuts the entire premise of finding the world's best.

What commenters described: The fastest runner in the world is going to be a freak regardless; if that disqualifies you from the fastest runner in the world contest then what is it even about?

You're constantly under surveillance the minute you leave your home
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short, flat statement treats leaving the house at all as synonymous with entering a monitored environment, offered without elaboration as a simple fact of current life.

What commenters described: You're constantly under surveillance the minute you leave your home.

A government minister accepting camera glasses with upload limits
1 source record

What the pattern means: A digital-affairs minister publicly declaring Meta-style smart glasses acceptable, so long as wearers don't upload footage, is the specific moment recounted here, with the commenter stunned an official tasked with regulating the tech would draw the line there.

What commenters described: Our "digital minister," who deals with tech and digital laws and such, proclaimed that meta glasses were fine as long as people didn't upload the videos or anything.

Cameras being *everywhere
1 source record

What the pattern means: A minimal three-word entry treats ubiquity itself as the complaint, with no further detail on where or why it's showing up.

What commenters described: Cameras being *everywhere*

Cameras everywhere
1 source record

What the pattern means: A neighbor's actual camera count grounds the general 'cameras everywhere' complaint here: two doorbell units aimed at a shared breezeway plus one more inside a bedroom pointed at the parking lot.

What commenters described: My neighbor had 2 front door cameras a ring facing our door then another above it showing the breezeway plus a camera in a bedroom facing the parking lot.

Data brokers and personal information being easily accessible to anyone looking for
1 source record

What the pattern means: This complaint sits one level up from cameras and doorbells, pointing at data brokers who make personal information easy for anyone to look up, regardless of whether that person was ever filmed at all.

What commenters described: Data brokers and personal information being easily accessible to anyone looking for it.

Google Glass failure and changing camera norms
1 source record

What the pattern means: Google Glass's public failure gets reframed here as premature rather than mistaken, since the same covert-recording capability people once rejected outright is now casually accepted.

What commenters described: Wasn't that why Google Glasses failed? If that shit's acceptable now, I guess that they were ahead of their time.

Neighbors' home cameras pointed at another house
1 source record

What the pattern means: A neighbor with multiple cameras aimed squarely at this commenter's house grounds the entry, complete with an automated voice greeting them every time they step outside their own front door.

What commenters described: Every time I walk out my front door I hear, “Hi. You are currently being recorded.”

Parents tracking their kids every location
1 source record

What the pattern means: Constant location tracking undercuts something this commenter sees as developmentally necessary: the room for a teenager to get into minor trouble and navigate it without a parent watching in real time.

What commenters described: Part of being a high schooler imo is supposed to be getting into semi sketchy situations and doing things you're not supposed to.

Security camera's in peoples bedrooms that alarm companies have direct access too
1 source record

What the pattern means: The worry here isn't the camera in the bedroom itself but who else can see through it, pointing to past cases of alarm-company employees accessing and sharing footage and predicting more leaks to come.

What commenters described: There have already been cases where employees access and share footage from it, it will continue to happen and will get leaked too.

Video cameras inside of a house
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry is a bare five-word statement with no elaboration, a placeholder objection to interior home cameras rather than an argued position.

What commenters described: Video cameras inside of a house.

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

Can you recommend any? I used to have one called 'Call Recorder' but it stopped working many releases ago. It's so handy to go back to a phone call and retrieve details from it, like the caller's name and phone number without having to write them down.

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Explicit limit or counterpoint

I know it’s difficult for some people but people like this need to be confronted. I’ve unfortunately had a few parties where someone was acting poorly. That gets a “Dude, either stop with that or leave.” Almost always corrects it. At the very least I hope you explained why he’s not being invited back. Otherwise he’ll keep doing this shit.

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Most engaged source

Hate cop shows Acatually quite enjoy detective mysteries/thrillers etc. but cop procedurals are such propaganda. Especially ones like The Rookie because everyone knows how corrupt LAPD is 🙄

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Later-arriving source

I mean, growing up plastic surgery was already normalised as a concept, despite it being unaffordable. i still had classmates take out loans to get nosejobs. And shirley temple was monetised as early as ww1

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Zero-like source

Not going to say, but here it's legal as long as one of you knows it's being recorded. Nothing nefarious, I'm just a dude with a bad memory.

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What the counts show

The clearest pattern across this category isn't cameras in the abstract but the gap between knowing and being told: almost every vivid story involves someone finding out after the fact that they'd been recorded, whether at a birthday party, a doorbell, or a bathroom mirror, and the anger consistently attaches to that missing moment of asking rather than to the recording device itself. What varies is scale and stakes: the same underlying complaint shows up as a bare one-line reaction to 'cameras everywhere' in some entries and as a fully worked-out personal account of doxxing, a restraining order, or a decades-long grudge against a doctor in others.

81index entries
211distinct source records
20.1%of parent category
5.1%of the complete index
52top-level comments
159replies

How attention is distributed across the 81 index entries

51single-source entries (63% of 81)
223source-record references across the index
26.5%of references in the top three entries
Infant circumcision without the child's consent22 source records
Recording private karaoke without consent20 source records
Consent uncertainty around public recording17 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
3explicitly reports a limit or failure
28asks a question
0says they intend to try it
180other source context

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Observable tactic structures

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Archive: 81 index entries preserve 211 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Work and money126 records · 2 sub-topics
Labor, careers, and workplace power92 index entries · 153 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Labor, careers, and workplace power

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Cattle, brother, the reason you "lost any form of unity as a
1 source record

What the pattern means: Labor economics, not animal welfare, is the real subject — 'cattle' is used here only as an insult aimed at the person they're arguing with, before pivoting to argue that working and living standards have actually improved over the past century.

What commenters described: "Working and living standards are immeasurably better than 100 years ago."

The decline of musicians coming from nothing
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues that musicians genuinely coming from nothing have become rare, saying most people who make it big now already had money or connections behind them.

Lawyers disagreeing over constant client availability
1 source record

What the pattern means: A lawyer describes an ongoing disagreement with peers who worry that being unreachable will cost them clients, countering that clients who demand constant availability aren't worth keeping in the first place.

What commenters described: I keep trying to explain those aren't clients you want.

We treat retirement as the default life goal instead of just a
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter questions why retirement gets treated as the ultimate destination of a working life rather than simply one phase among several.

What commenters described: The way we treat retirement as the default life goal instead of just a phase

Recording workers for content
25 source records

What the pattern means: Servers, baristas, and hospital staff describe strangers setting up cameras to record them mid-task, and one reply notes the law protecting filming “in public” doesn't even apply, since a restaurant or hospital is privately owned space.

Limit: A few commenters counter with consent-first habits — asking staff first, editing them out of the final cut — though others point out that norm gets followed inconsistently at best.

The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
13 source records

What the pattern means: Several commenters mourn handing over five days out of every week from childhood through old age, and one recalls that as a kid they'd have valued those 40 hours far above whatever wage now buys them.

Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
11 source records

What the pattern means: Replies describe rebuying DVDs, vinyl, and paper books after watching streaming libraries and game licenses vanish, treating a physical shelf as insurance no platform can quietly revoke.

What commenters described: cant de-list a piece of physical media if an artist says something questionable or some shitty licensing deal runs out

Limit: Not everyone can keep up the habit — one reply admits simply running out of shelf space for books.

Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails
7 source records

What the pattern means: A shift scheduler describes leaving a voicemail with the exact date and time spelled out, only to get a callback seconds later asking “you called me?” — forcing a full repeat while someone else who did listen gets a busy signal.

Limit: One reply defends the callers somewhat, pointing out the missed-call number often differs from the one they're told to actually dial back.

Concealing alcohol use at work
5 source records

What the pattern means: Coworkers recall a graveyard-shift employee masking drinking with breath mints for years, and a man whose lunchtime drinking the whole staff knew about but nobody reported to their supervisor, who genuinely didn't know.

Limit: The person who eventually spoke up says they did it hoping the coworker would get help, not lose the job, though he brushed off every warning anyway.

Fast-food convenience during mobile workdays
5 source records

What the pattern means: Someone working appointments across town all day defends a $12 drive-thru meal against an hour of driving home for a sandwich, while another in the same thread points out that “fast” food now runs $14-17 without a discount app.

Limit: Prices swing hard by region and increasingly require downloading a chain's app in the parking lot just to get a normal rate.

Work complaints about not answering while driving or indisposed
3 source records

What the pattern means: One person gets flak for not picking up mid-drive or on the toilet, and a reply narrows the real issue to a family business expecting round-the-clock reachability for questions that could easily wait five minutes.

Ok, I have no idea what it's about care to elaborate
3 source records

What the pattern means: This entry turns out to be a confused side-thread rather than its own claim — a reader asks what the referenced item even means, someone supplies a link without explaining it, and a third person calls the underlying joke “horrifying.”

Alcohol normalization in kitchen work
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says both their father and brother worked as chefs and were also alcoholics, joking that heavy drinking seems built into the job.

Corporate incentives to replace repairable systems
2 source records

What the pattern means: A former technical-support engineer says he was directly told not to fix customer equipment he knew how to repair, since the company preferred selling a pricier replacement, and he quit rather than keep making the industry worse on purpose.

What commenters described: actually feeling like I have a tangible, positive impact on people's day-to-day lives

Limit: He admits the math only “probably” works out, since his old ten-hour workdays paid more than the small shop's entire daily revenue.

Fear of expressing romantic interest at work
2 source records

What the pattern means: A sibling describes a brother too afraid of looking “weird” to say anything to a work crush, waiting instead for some deniable, incidental opening, while a reply concedes that hitting on a colleague really is precarious territory.

Alcohol-withdrawal symptoms during work
2 source records

What the pattern means: A commenter recalls getting through pandemic shifts nauseous, occasionally vomiting outside, and shaking by the end of the day while telling themselves they were fine — a self-assessment the reply beneath it flatly rejects.

Patients filming healthcare workers
2 source records

What the pattern means: One healthcare worker says patients routinely film nurses, techs, and doctors mid-care, while another describes a hospital where staff are backed up in asking a filming patient to put the phone away or leave.

Smart glasses used to harass workers for pranks
2 source records

What the pattern means: A retail worker describes teens wearing camera glasses into the store specifically to bait employees with rude or sexual remarks for a reaction, and someone targeted this way says they now just have to live with an unknown video of themselves circulating somewhere.

Coworkers playing full-volume videos on break
2 source records

What the pattern means: A brief exchange complains that break-room coworkers have stopped actually talking and now just watch phone videos at full volume through the one stretch of a shift meant for rest.

Filming workers can expose domestic-violence survivors
1 source record

What the pattern means: One reply points out that filming your food for content gives no way of knowing whether the server caught in frame is hiding from a violent ex with an active restraining order against them.

Mandatory Copilot in a work Office suite
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two employees describe Copilot getting force-installed into their Office suite with no opt-out, one calling it “horseshit” that interrupts drafting a simple message, the other noting their company pushes it into tasks they wouldn't trust AI with at all.

Limit: The second commenter adds that forced adoption mostly amplifies vague middle-management language rather than getting anything actually done.

The 40-hour work week
1 source record

What the pattern means: Stripped down to its bluntest form, one entry offers only four words — “the 40 hour work week” — and lets the phrase carry the whole argument unaided.

Head office mandating landline shift calls
1 source record

What the pattern means: Replying to a suggestion that a scheduling call “could have been a text,” a worker explains their head office instead requires on-site landline calls and forbids texting between personal cell numbers for shift business.

Defending corporations over struggling consumers
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter names a pattern of people reflexively siding with a company's bottom line over an individual customer who is visibly struggling to get by.

Nightly drinking with growing work impairment
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone who holds down a demanding job and stays completely sober around family admits to four to six beers alone every night after cooking dinner, and has started noticing it show up as stumbled words in meetings before lunch.

Socially valuable care work paid less than morally fraught work
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter contrasts working as a nursing-home CNA — the hardest job they ever held, paid barely above minimum wage — with their current, far less stressful role that pays three times as much for arguably less skill.

Calling workers resources
1 source record

What the pattern means: A one-line entry singles out corporate vocabulary itself, flagging workplaces that refer to employees simply as “resources.”

The forty-hour workweek as a former humane reform
1 source record

What the pattern means: A reply notes, almost with disbelief, that the 40-hour week began life as a humane improvement on whatever came before it.

An Epstein-network and government-handling claim
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry reads as a political accusation rather than a workplace observation — a heavily edited reply alleges government complicity with Epstein's associates, with little visible connection to labor or careers beyond having landed in this bucket.

Giving 40+ hours a week of our life to a job while
1 source record

What the pattern means: One entry insists that giving 40-plus hours a week to a job while barely having energy left for an actual life will never register as normal, on a planet that already “gave us everything we ever needed.”

I need a note from a doctor if I'm out of work
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter objects to needing a doctor's note for sick days, arguing that dragging yourself to an appointment defeats the purpose when you're already too sick to make it to work.

Workplace bans on smart glasses
1 source record

What the pattern means: One reply reports their employer rolling out a ban on staff wearing or bringing Meta-style camera glasses into work, effective that September.

Fucking work
1 source record

What the pattern means: A remote software employee describes a boss pushing them to attend a conference that collides with a doctor's appointment booked months earlier for a diabetes-related need, on top of being required to live in a city they didn't pick and travel to hotels on unpaid personal time.

Limit: The commenter concedes their job “isn't even particularly demanding or bad,” which is part of what makes the arrangement feel so unearned.

Waged labor
1 source record

What the pattern means: Even more compressed than most in this batch, one entry reads only “waged labor” — treating the arrangement's name as the whole indictment.

A coworker forwarding a ChatGPT answer instead of expertise
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone asked a specialist colleague a project question and got back nothing but a forwarded ChatGPT reply, which they read as a preview of exactly why that kind of job is getting automated away.

A thirty-two-hour primary job with optional extra shifts
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes trimming a primary job to four eight-hour days and picking up a separate, better-paying per-diem role only when extra money is wanted, calling the resulting freedom to run errands on a weekday off a genuine “life hack.”

What commenters described: the flexibility it gives me feels like a life hack

Limit: They note the setup only works because they still hold two jobs and couldn't afford to stay at 32 hours across the board.

Reporting a coworker's heavy workday drinking
1 source record

What the pattern means: A staffer describes quietly telling a supervisor about a coworker's heavy lunchtime drinking after the rest of the team wrongly assumed she already knew, choosing disclosure specifically to get him help rather than get him fired.

What commenters described: I think I did the right thing

Workplace sick leave limited to contagious illness
1 source record

What the pattern means: One worker sums up their entire sick-leave policy in a single line: if you're not contagious, you're expected to be at work.

Corrupt politicians remaining in office
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief aside names corrupt politicians staying in office as its own complaint, a civic grievance only loosely tied to this category's workplace focus.

Donating our own time off to other employees when they need it
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter points to employees donating their own banked time off to cover a struggling coworker and asks, pointedly, why the company can't simply grant that time itself.

Living just to work
1 source record

What the pattern means: Three words hold an entire worldview here: “living just to work.”

People not washing hands, especially those working in healthcare during their shift
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter singles out healthcare workers specifically who skip handwashing during their own shifts, arguing the profession's closeness to patients is what makes the lapse worse than usual.

Working 40 years with never more than 1 week off at a
1 source record

What the pattern means: One line describes forty years on the job without ever taking more than a single consecutive week off, letting that stretch of time stand as its own argument.

A lot of grown men I work with talk with their mouths
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes coworkers from the same small hometown holding entire mumbled conversations with mouths full of food in the breakroom, tracing the habit to local upbringing rather than to the job itself.

Academic systems where you're basically working a 9-5 but with homework on
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter likens academic study to an unpaid 9-to-5 with homework stacked on top, arguing students effectively juggle several jobs at once while paying tuition instead of collecting a wage.

Daily strong-beer use without work intoxication
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone describes years of four to six strong IPAs most evenings, never at a level that showed at work, but still hard to skip even for a single day.

What commenters described: life's better now without

Morning vodka and lunch drinking to function at work
1 source record

What the pattern means: A coworker's routine gets described in exact detail — a bedside pint of vodka finished within minutes of waking just to make it through the door, then five more pints at lunch before a few genuinely useful afternoon hours were possible.

Much harder school, getting a job, getting a house is now
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief entry names how much harder school, landing a job, and buying a house have all become, without picking one of the three to elaborate on.

The amount of people all around me at work in 2023 that
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter recalls people nearby reacting with near-giddiness to the 2023 submersible deaths, and says witnessing that reaction cost them real faith in the people around them.

The job market and how thousands of new grads are fucked
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short entry sums up the current job market as leaving thousands of new graduates “fucked,” calling the moment close to hell outright.

Working weekends and/or over 40hrs a week without extra pay (very common
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter flags routinely working weekends or past 40 hours without extra pay as especially common in white-collar jobs, and connects it directly to how rarely office workers unionize.

Copilot amplifying empty corporate language
1 source record

What the pattern means: The same Copilot rollout described elsewhere in this set is also blamed here for flooding inboxes with vague middle-management jargon, to the point the commenter says entire email threads now say absolutely nothing.

Having to work to have shelter and food
1 source record

What the pattern means: A single line reduces the whole arrangement to its bluntest form — you work in order to have shelter and food, full stop.

I work in a hospital
1 source record

What the pattern means: A hospital worker describes most people passing in the hallway staring at their phones, contrasting it with a time when even calling a spouse at work stood out, and half-jokes about humanity evolving into a permanently hunched posture.

Intoxicated daycare-worker risk
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes someone previously known for buying kids alcohol now seeking daycare work while repeatedly showing up to shifts drunk or smelling like it, framing the risk as landing squarely on the children in her care.

Its normal to stay in jobs that drain you completely just cause
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes staying two straight years in a job that drained them completely simply because the paycheck covered rent, and says everyone around them treated that as ordinary adulthood.

Medical professionals working 24hr shifts
1 source record

What the pattern means: Twenty-four-hour shifts for medical professionals get named here with no further detail attached, as though the practice speaks for itself.

Multiple governments, multiple corporations pass our information around like Pokémon cards, and
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes governments and corporations trading personal data around “like Pokémon cards,” tying the practice to spam calls, identity theft, and age-verification systems that now demand ID or video.

Office and family functional alcoholism normalization
1 source record

What the pattern means: Starting an office job was this commenter's first real exposure to how many coworkers were functioning alcoholics, which pushed them to notice the identical pattern in their own family — some have since gotten sober, but their father did not survive his addiction.

Postal workers switching from work to alcohol or cannabis
1 source record

What the pattern means: A postal worker says many coworkers “flip the switch” into drinking the moment a shift ends, with some smoking before the day even starts, adding dryly that official statistics never seem to capture any of it.

Limit: at least they're functional, I guess

Spending burning billions of dollars on fireworks from china to celebrate USA
1 source record

What the pattern means: A brief entry objects specifically to the billions spent burning fireworks imported from China just to mark American independence.

When people walk on a walking pad/treadmill while working on their laptop
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter finds something dystopian about walking a treadmill desk while working a laptop at the same time, collapsing two separate obligations that were never meant to be merged into one motion.

Worker disciplined after reacting to intrusive filming
1 source record

What the pattern means: A worker recounts nearly losing their job over flipping off someone recording inches from their face, after the filmer complained and a manager reviewed the footage — the worker's comeback being to ask whether the video itself proved how close the camera really was.

Working paycheck to paycheck
1 source record

What the pattern means: Three plain words carry this entry in full: “working paycheck to paycheck.”

Your place of work charging you to park there
1 source record

What the pattern means: One line flags being charged by your own employer just to park at the job you work there.

8-5 jobs
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter paints an 8-to-5 office under fluorescent lights, short breaks, and two hundred coworkers each quietly carrying existential dread, kept in place only by the threat of homelessness within months of stopping.

A work reprimand for a two-hour Slack delay
1 source record

What the pattern means: An employee describes being formally reprimanded over a two-hour delay answering a Slack message about a routine deal update, mocking the stakes with a sarcastic nod to “the shareholders.”

Catharsis**, it's a pretty ancient (and accepted) theory of how that works
1 source record

What the pattern means: This fragment discusses catharsis as an ancient, widely accepted theory with no visible tie to any workplace topic, appearing to have landed in this category by mistake.

Company/Workplace glorification when you're an employee
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues flatly that no CEO cares about employees once shareholders are involved, and that any worker gets sacrificed the moment it benefits a manager's or owner's bottom line.

Corporate America
1 source record

What the pattern means: Two words, “Corporate America,” are offered here as a complete indictment on their own.

Fireworks
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter rejects fireworks outright, arguing no occasion genuinely needs explosions and pointing to the harm done to people, animals, and the environment along the way.

Job interview culture
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter calls out interview culture specifically for letting companies practice open dishonesty while listing “honesty” among their own stated values.

Just technology slowly taking away jobs while the population becomes bigger
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter worries about technology steadily erasing jobs even as the population keeps growing, and asks what's left for most people to actually do.

Much people have to work to live a good life
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short line asks just how much work it now takes to live a decent life, treating the sheer amount as the disturbing part on its own.

Much we have surrendered our rights, freedoms, dreams, and futures to corporations
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter argues that rights, freedoms, dreams, and futures have all been quietly handed to corporations and the power-hungry, who keep people distracted with technology their brains aren't built to resist.

Obnoxious passive aggressive toxic corporate managers
1 source record

What the pattern means: A twenty-five-year IT consultant says they make a point of calling out passive-aggressive, bullying corporate managers in real time, adding that solid management deserves far more credit than it usually gets.

What commenters described: Good management can't be praised enough

Off-duty do-not-disturb after a long work stretch
1 source record

What the pattern means: After eight straight workdays, one commenter describes putting their phone on do-not-disturb for all four days off and refusing contact until Monday, since they aren't on call and won't be treated like it.

What commenters described: I've become more firm on this

Our workplaces are little authoritarian fiefdoms & we all just accept that
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes workplaces as “little authoritarian fiefdoms” that everyone quietly accepts as normal, tracing that acceptance back to being told greed is human nature by the very people who profit from it.

Paying huge corporations to torture animals for your pleasure because MeAt tAsTeS
1 source record

What the pattern means: A blunt entry accuses large corporations of profiting from animal cruelty for the sake of taste alone, phrased with deliberately mocking capitalization.

People’s obsession with their career and their salary
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter describes the fixation on career and salary as a kind of shared religion, with every member ultimately devoted to money.

Short unavailability during dangerous or messy work
1 source record

What the pattern means: Working a family business expected to answer around the clock, a commenter argues five minutes of silence during a drive, a serious talk, or handling dangerous machinery and toxic substances isn't unreasonable, especially when most questions could just be sent as a text.

Slaving away for 40+ hrs a week at work
1 source record

What the pattern means: A short entry describes 40-plus hours a week as something people's entire lives get built around, consuming most of the time anyone actually gets.

The corporate culture of urgency
1 source record

What the pattern means: Someone working in marketing waves off their own industry's manufactured urgency in one line: “It's never that serious, babes. No one is dying.”

Trading life hours for money to survive and work
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter frames the entire wage system as agreeing to trade hours of a life for paper that buys the food needed to stay alive long enough to keep working — and calling that cycle normal.

U.S. worker rights and union protection for after-hours contact
1 source record

What the pattern means: One reply traces weak after-hours boundaries directly to how little legal protection American workers have compared with unionized counterparts, arguing collective action is what actually wins rights back.

Working 9-5 and what like 4 weeks off a year… excuse me
1 source record

What the pattern means: A student working part-time around school hours contrasts a standard 9-to-5 with roughly four weeks off a year against their own leaner schedule, and says they'd rather stay poor than take on that much work.

Working for other people
1 source record

What the pattern means: Four words alone make up this entry: “working for other people.”

Workplace politics
1 source record

What the pattern means: Two words stand in for the whole complaint: “workplace politics.”

Workplaces phasing out pagers slowly
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter notes their on-call managers only phased out pagers a few months ago, wishing workplace technology moved faster while acknowledging they're stuck working within whatever guidelines they're handed.

Women wearing tight-fitting spandex athleisure wear to the office
1 source record

What the pattern means: One commenter takes issue with tight-fitting athleisure in the office, describing riding fabric and exposed cleavage as distracting, and notes he'd be sent home for wearing the male equivalent — adding the trend has grown since return-to-office mandates began.

Men working with babies in daycare
1 source record

What the pattern means: A bare five-word observation makes up the entire entry — “Men working with babies in daycare” — with no hint of what specifically struck its author as disturbing.

Where commenters report limits

Explicit limit or counterpoint

I’ve never been more balanced since I cut my primary job to 32 hours. 4 8 hour days and done. I have a much higher paying per diem (my physically demanding old primary job) that I can pick up shifts to make extra money, when I want or need to. Even when I only had that one job and had a 32 hour commitment, I could pick and choose what extra shifts I wanted to fit into my schedule, or not work extra if I didn’t need to. I get all my appointments and weekday errands done on my weekday off. I worked night shift for so long, I truly don’t understand how people who work a day shift m-f 9-5 get anything done during the week. You have to take time off for everything, even a dental cleaning! Again, I have 2 jobs and can’t afford to only work 32 hours all the time, but the flexibility it gives me feels like a life hack.

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**catharsis**, it's a pretty ancient (and accepted) theory of how that works

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Sorry, why did people joke about this? That's horrifying

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It's about this. I was a young adult when this happened. I'm glad that Lindy and her husband have finally been exonerated.

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What the counts show

This category runs on two main threads: terse one-line laments about the 40-hour week, wages, and being called a "resource" instead of a person, alongside a much more detailed first-person thread about concealing or managing alcohol use around a job -- covert drinking tactics, withdrawal symptoms, and coworkers who eventually intervene. A third thread treats customers and patients filming service and healthcare workers as a genuine privacy and safety issue, citing legal misunderstandings, domestic-violence exposure, and a worker disciplined for reacting on camera. A handful of items (fireworks spending, an Epstein claim, corrupt politicians, a catharsis fragment) remain civic or cultural asides that drifted into this labor bucket rather than genuine workplace observations.

92index entries
153distinct source records
57.5%of parent category
3.7%of the complete index
56top-level comments
97replies

How attention is distributed across the 92 index entries

76single-source entries (82.6% of 92)
164source-record references across the index
29.9%of references in the top three entries
Recording workers for content25 source records
The five-day workweek and life lost to labor13 source records
Physical media preserving hard-to-find works11 source records

Entity support counts are source-record references per existing index row. A source may support more than one entity, so the reference denominator can exceed the distinct source union.

What commenters explicitly report

1explicitly reports a benefit
1explicitly reports a limit or failure
26asks a question
0says they intend to try it
125other source context

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Archive: 92 index entries preserve 153 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Housing, debt, and inequality34 index entries · 114 source records
Source-backed index report

Disturbing norm/system and the specific report behind it: Housing, debt, and inequality

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The vast amounts of buy now pay later loans that younger generations
1 source record

What the pattern means: This entry names the volume of buy-now-pay-later borrowing among younger generations directly, with no further elaboration in the supporting record on specific figures.

Basic needs treated as something to earn
19 source records

What the pattern means: The thread turns into a real argument about giving cash versus food to homeless people, with several commenters explaining they hand over sealed granola bars instead of money because past tampering or drug use made them wary, while others insist money given away stops being anyone's business but the recipient's.

What commenters described: I always give them something sealed like gronola bars versus fast food or drinks or anything already open... I just hope it's slightly safer

Limit: A long anecdote about trying to help a homeless veteran with a phone and supplies ends with him refusing the help because he distrusted the device, showing good intentions don't guarantee the aid lands.

I don’t think I can say that on Reddit
1 source record

What the pattern means: A commenter says what they'd actually like to say on the topic can't be posted on Reddit, but hints it would target billionaires, tech megacorporations, and polluters.

Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
20 source records

What the pattern means: The flashpoint is one person's 35% June electricity hike, but replies split hard: several call it textbook price-gouging or unregulated corporate greed, while others walk through the supply-and-demand mechanics of peaker plants and AC-driven demand spikes to argue the pricing is actually the least-bad way to avoid blackouts. State-fair concession prices like $15 mini-donuts get cited as a second, harder-to-defend example of the same complaint.

Limit: Multiple replies argue the increases reflect real supply-and-demand economics rather than simple gouging, complicating the original complaint.

A price-cap shortage and underinvestment counterclaim
2 source records

What the pattern means: One long reply lays out the standard economic case against price caps in general -- pointing to how California's electricity price caps triggered rolling blackouts and PG&E's bankruptcy once retail prices couldn't rise to match wholesale costs -- then extends the same logic to France's celebrated flat electricity rate, arguing the 'fixed price' consumers see is really taxpayer money quietly funneled through EDF's debt and subsidized reactor loans rather than a genuine price-control success.

What commenters described: price caps typically lead to less investment in expanding production and less spending on maintenance of existing capacity -> more blackouts

Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
24 source records

What the pattern means: Commenters route their unease through concrete stand-ins for capitalism — paying for oxygen cylinders in hospitals, buying groceries ‘to stay alive,’ housing built for profit — arguing the system converts survival itself into a transaction only some people can afford.

What commenters described: When you buy groceries, you're paying to stay alive, and other means of doing so are almost completely unavailable to the average modern person.

Limit: One reply argues the anti-capitalism framing overreaches, insisting taxes funding public services is the real fix rather than tearing the whole system down.

Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
17 source records

What the pattern means: The $20k–$40k figure gets contested from inside the thread itself: one commenter cites a study linking pricier weddings to shorter marriages via financial stress, another spent $200 on a Vegas drive-through and is still married two decades later, and a third insists the quoted figure is an average, not the median most people actually spend.

What commenters described: there was in fact a study that correlated more expensive weddings to shorter marriages, and the researchers theorized this was because financial stress is a big factor in divorce

Limit: One reply rejects the premise outright: “Average is high, median is much lower. The norm still is a small, affordable wedding.”

Extreme wealth concentration
3 source records

What the pattern means: The escalation is the point: one reply answers “billionaires existing” with “trillionaires existing,” and a third places that concentration directly beside people who lack food, water, and shelter.

What commenters described: At the same time as people without food water and shelter. Can you believe it?

Wedding-dress cost, debt, and status performance
3 source records

What the pattern means: The debate here is specifically about the dress line item: a would-be bride says even a $1,000 gown worn once makes her ill to contemplate, while another with no financial constraint chooses tailoring over a $5,000 dress, and a third points to costume-shop rental as the workaround nobody mentions.

What commenters described: I could spend $5000 on a wedding dress with no financial trouble. But why would I when a much cheaper dress could look just as good with some tailoring?

Debt and economic precarity suppressing political action
1 source record

What the pattern means: This comment frames Americans' debt burden as a kind of political tranquilizer: people working two jobs just to keep the lights on, it argues, are too consumed by day-to-day survival to ever become revolutionaries, no matter how bad conditions get.

What commenters described: Americans are so desperate to pay their debts, that they will never be revolutionaries again and instead, keep praying the world remains stable so they can keep the lights on by working two jobs.

Lives valued differently by birthplace
1 source record

What the pattern means: This comment states plainly that some lives are valued far more than others simply because of where a person happened to be born, presenting birthplace itself as the arbitrary variable that decides a life's worth.

What commenters described: The fact that some people’s lives are valued much, much higher than others just because of where they were born

Consumerism and wealth pursuit despite environmental harm
2 source records

What the pattern means: This frames overconsumption as emotional self-medication rather than simple greed — buying disposable comfort items specifically so the “crushing weight of the capitalist machine” doesn’t have to be felt directly.

What commenters described: We buy little comfort items and surround ourselves with plastic shit that's never going to biodegrade just so we don't have to feel the crushing weight of the capitalist machine grinding us to dust.

Wedding spending versus home savings and debt
2 source records

What the pattern means: Two commenters zero in on the opportunity cost specifically — money that could buy a home or build savings gets spent on one day instead — and agree that starting a marriage already carrying wedding debt is a documented relationship stressor, not a hypothetical one.

What commenters described: It's usually the opposite, starting marriage with a big debt load is terrible for a relationship.

Homelessness exists in "first world" countries
1 source record

What the pattern means: The complaint pairs visible homelessness directly against vacant investment property and billionaire wealth, framing it as a distribution failure rather than a genuine shortage of housing or money.

What commenters described: I see people living on the streets while thousands of investment properties are vacant and billionaires pocket more money. There IS enough money and houses available, but the governments don't do anything about it

A French electricity subsidy and EDF debt counterclaim
1 source record

What the pattern means: A detailed rebuttal argues France’s flat electricity rate is an accounting illusion — the gap between EDF’s costs and revenue gets covered by taxpayer-backed subsidized loans for new reactors, so consumers end up paying far more than the sticker tariff once taxes are counted in.

What commenters described: you're paying far more to EDF than just the fixed tariff rate

The deflationary-spiral and real-debt counterargument
1 source record

What the pattern means: A long macroeconomic rebuttal defends the standard 2% inflation target against the idea that ‘natural deflation’ would be healthier, pointing to China’s property slump as a live example of falling prices spiraling into reduced spending, layoffs, and stagnation instead.

What commenters described: 'natural deflation' is not something we should aim for -- the risk of deflation spirals... is too dangerous

The disparity in resources between the ultra rich and the rest of
1 source record

What the pattern means: No incident anchors this one, just a flat statement of scale, naming the gap between the ultra-rich and everyone else as the disturbing fact in itself.

A poorly regulated free market
1 source record

What the pattern means: Blame here lands on enforcement rather than markets themselves — a poorly regulated free market, not free markets as a concept, is what’s flagged as the problem.

Obviously it's horrible that abusive parents exist, and that society as it
1 source record

What the pattern means: This grants that abusive parents are a genuine problem but argues licensing parenthood would be worse — pointing to how weakly homeschooling is already overseen and how gay couples have already faced disproportionate scrutiny raising children as evidence of who a ‘fitness’ test would really target.

What commenters described: Children are viewed as property and not people, not to get started on how CPS fails the children it's supposed to protect.

Well it's psychologically very different
1 source record

What the pattern means: Pushing back on an equivalence made elsewhere in the thread, this argues that killing a cow by hand and eating a burger at a restaurant aren’t psychologically the same act, regardless of whether the ethical outcome is identical.

What commenters described: Killing a cow with your bare hands and eating a burger at a restaurant are not even close to the same for what that means to you as a person

Apparently
1 source record

What the pattern means: A sarcastic “Apparently! /s” pivots into the actual point being made: that a lot of Americans can’t distinguish communism from democratic socialism.

What commenters described: a lot of Americans don’t know the difference between communism and democratic socialism

Celebration of wealth and purchases
1 source record

What the pattern means: No example accompanies this one, just the open celebration of wealth and purchases named flatly as the disturbing norm.

Debt based monetary system
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What the pattern means: The entire monetary system gets condensed into one line here — a debt-based structure the commenter summarizes, unprompted, as “a sophisticated form of debt slavery.”

What commenters described: Debt based monetary system. TLDR: sophisticated form of debt slavery.

Even if you exclude very poor and developing countries and just focus
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What the pattern means: Even after excluding poor and developing nations from the comparison, this points out that wealthy countries still manage to run obesity and starvation crises at the same time, treating that coexistence as the actual disturbing fact.

What commenters described: we have epidemics of obesity and starvation happining simultaneously

House prices / rent / banks printing money
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What the pattern means: Rising house prices and rents get treated as one mechanism here, not two separate problems, both tied directly to banks’ capacity to create money in the first place.

What commenters described: House prices / rent / banks printing money

I thought of a another one and it’s parents posting their kids
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What the pattern means: A distinction gets drawn between ordinary family posting and parents who post their kids specifically to generate income from them, with the income motive treated as the more troubling variant of an already-debated habit.

What commenters described: parents posting their kids on the internet but more importantly the ones who do it specifically to earn income off of them

Many businesses operate with massive amounts of debt
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What the pattern means: Only in their twenties did this commenter learn that US businesses routinely operate loaded with debt just to make payroll, and that belated discovery is framed as the actual disturbing part.

What commenters described: I was well into my twenties before I learned that it was commonplace for businesses (at least in the United States) to be up to their eyeballs in debt just to make payroll.

Mass hoarding of wealth
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What the pattern means: Wealth hoarding gets flagged as the concern, then immediately qualified into something much softer — hoarding is apparently fine as long as it isn’t “to massive,” a caveat that undercuts the alarm the first clause raises.

What commenters described: Mass hoarding of wealth.

Limit: But like as long as its not to massive.

Money in of itself as a current concept
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What the pattern means: This works through why money unsettles by contrasting old-fashioned investment — backing a friend’s business because you believe in the idea — with the abstraction of modern stocks and bonds, which it calls “complete money-magic nonsense” and “a true unknowable cosmic sort of incomprehensible horror.”

What commenters described: The entirety of what it is now is complete money-magic nonsense.

People taking pride in being poor
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What the pattern means: Taking pride in poverty itself is what’s named as disturbing here, offered as a plain claim without a specific story behind it.

The amount of people walking by homeless people like they don't exist
1 source record

What the pattern means: This commenter traces their own desensitization directly: moving from a small town to a city, every instance of homelessness used to shock them into wanting to help, and the sheer volume eventually normalized it, a drift they now call out as the real problem.

What commenters described: The sheer amount eventually normalized it for me.... But this is completely unacceptable guys.

The cost of living in America
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What the pattern means: The cost of living in America is named directly here with no supporting figures or story, just the bare claim.

There are people out there that dislike the homeless and the poor
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What the pattern means: People who dislike the homeless and poor specifically because they lack money are the target here, with that reasoning itself treated as the disturbing part.

What commenters described: there are people out there that dislike the homeless and the poor for reasons that equate to them not having money

30 year mortgage
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What the pattern means: The entire entry behind this one is two words, “30 year mortgage,” offered with no further context about what specifically feels wrong about it.

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I’m aware of this it’s very sad:/ I always give them something sealed like gronola bars versus fast food or drinks or anything already open but I know that can unfortunately still be tampered with and resealed I just hope it’s slightly safer 😭🙏

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Unfortunately in some parts that's just what it costs. In the UK you can only get legally married at registered venues (So no parks, backyards or beach weddings), and they can charge whatever they like. My fiancee and I are looking on the cheaper end of most suppliers for a 50 person wedding and still looking at £15-20k total.

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Capitalism. Our version of it requires infinite growth with finite resources. When the exploitation hits the edge of the petri dish, then what?

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I don’t think I can say that on Reddit. It’s be directed against billionaires, tech megacorps and polluters and their enablers.

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The amount of people walking by homeless people like they don't exist. Going from a small town to a city, every single one use to shock me and I felt like I needed to give something. The sheer amount eventually normalized it for me.... But this is completely unacceptable guys. And no the Fenty bend is not funny.

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The wedding-cost cluster is the only one that genuinely argues with itself here -- a cited study linking pricier weddings to shorter marriages, a couple still married 20 years after a $200 Vegas elopement, and a flat rebuttal that the $20k-$40k figure is only an average, not what most couples actually spend. Everything else clusters around the same move: reaching for a concrete stand-in -- paying for oxygen in a hospital, buying groceries 'to stay alive,' housing built for profit, a 30-year mortgage -- to make an abstract economic system feel like a specific, personal transaction. A couple of entries (a debate about licensing parenthood, a rebuttal about killing a cow by hand versus eating a restaurant burger) don't share this theme at all, evidence that a few items still landed here by loose keyword proximity rather than genuine topical fit.

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Another is people mistaking a "fit body" for internally healthy. Too many people provide BS "health" advice that is more detrimental to their health, but tout their six packs as "evidence" that said advice is "good" adviceReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health
The amount of fitness "influencers" who are clearly juiced out of their minds is a problem. It's so obvious who's natural and who isn't.ReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health; Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
I overheard a convo between two college kids at my local gym the other day and they were talking about all the “supplements” they’re taking like peptides, Testosterone, etc. and then they were mentioning all the things they take to counteract the negative side effects of those “supplements”. My favorite line at the end of that convo was “idk bro I’m just trying to stay healthy”. Like ??????ReplyCited in: Stacking performance drugs and side-effect drugs; Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
If they are young men on testosterone, they are screwing themselves over for the future unless they had very low T to begin with. 😬ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk
(Retired pharmacist here) If a man takes testosterone when he doesn't have to, his body stops making it naturally, and this often does not return, EVER. This is one reason why we don't have a "male pill."ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk
Sounds like a fantastic business opportunity for those devoid of ethics.ReplyCited in: Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
Yeah that's a Nestlé move if ever I heard oneReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Please to explain this to Pete Hegseth. In small words.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I’m going through a divorce from an unstable guy. Due to financial constraints, we are living under the same roof for the separation period/until the divorce is finalized. It’s an extremely stressful situation. I’ve lost nearly 40lbs in the past 8 months, and people are all ‘OMG you look great!’ and I’m like ‘uh, thanks…’. They have no idea it’s largely because I’m super stressed and feel like I need to sleep with one eye open, and somebody is controlling my money/access to food (and eating the food I do buy).ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress; Appearance mistaken for health
I lost 50 lbs fairly quickly after my MIL passed away, and I'd also recently ended an engagement. Everyone at work said the same. I was like "thanks, I'm grieving and can't eat anything."ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during grief; Appearance mistaken for health
On the flip side of that, I'm losing weight and I keep getting people concerned about me. Like they're low-key worried I'm going through something or have an eating disorder and I'm just like, "No, really, I'm not about to end it all. My weight put a strain on my heart and I was inactive; this is what fixing that looks like for me."ReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health; Concern about intentional health-related weight loss
My friend was super sick for about a year while doctors sorted out her medication for her chronic illness. She kept getting compliments on how good she looked.ReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health; Illness-related thinness praised as health
People automatically think "tall and thin" means healthy. My father was tall and thin, even as the cancer was ravaging his body.ReplyCited in: Illness-related thinness praised as health
I got cancer at 38 years old. I had to get a feeding tube and could only use that to feed myself with liquid “food”. The radiation burned the inside and outside of my throat. The chemo made me throw up all the time. I lost about 100lbs in 6 months and finally beat cancer. I’m in remission now for almost 3 years. Some people that hadn’t seen me in a while would say “hey you look great!” (Yes I was obese before hand and did feel way better once the cancer treatment was done). I’d respond with oh yea thanks! I got cancer. Fantastic diet but do not recommend! lolReplyCited in: Cancer-treatment weight-loss compliments; Illness-related thinness praised as health
Hmm, I like that one. I don't really consider myself healthy, but the notion that I am "functioning" definitely masks the unhealthy aspect of my lifestyle at times. Appreciate it.ReplyCited in: Functioning mistaken for health
replies to this seem to be mostly about physical health - mental health is also important and functioning is seen as healthy far far to often - add in any sort of neurodivergent condition and you can see why so many ND people have poor mental health and are so much more likely to be driven to suicide than NT (neurotypical) peopleReplyCited in: Functioning mistaken for health; Mental-health functioning and neurodivergence
People using smartphones to record videos everywhere; including private spaces. You don’t need to capture videos in gym locker rooms. You don’t need to record videos of other people in public to shame them on social media.Top-level commentCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
I work in a cafe and the amount of tourists that have cameras set up on their table to record (including when im bringing food) is extremely infuriating. Stop fucking recording people at work (unless its a normal part of their job and is expected), stop putting it on social media, you dont have to record every second of your vacation!!ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Recording workers for content
Same at my work - but I work in a hospital. The amount of people who want to record themselves while I’m pushing them in wheelchairs or giving them care is so weirdReplyCited in: Recording patients and healthcare; Recording workers for content
I will say that **most** of the food influencers I follow completely edit the servers and other patrons out of the video. It’s considered bad form not to.ReplyCited in: Bystander-editing etiquette; Recording workers for content
It's bad form to be recording them, period. The person working cannot be certain what kind of person you are, and they shouldn't have to. As someone who has done street photography, the general public has no etiquette. Getting posted online isn't even the worst part. It's how awkward existing in a space where you do not know if you are being recorded to be posted. It can zap out all of your energy and ruin your time. If I'm out somewhere and people are recording around me, it instantly kills any vibe that may have existed prior to the recording. Public spaces need to be more aggressive against influencers. I love city life, but fuck all that nonsense.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Consent uncertainty around public recording
I live on the outskirts of a tiny rural town—the only building/house on my street & walled in by woods & corn fields on 3 sides; but there’s a field & a lil’ church playground directly in front of my house. It used to be mostly forlorn & all felt very private, but the locals have discovered that I have a lot of pets, free-ranging animals, & even some wild animals that’ve become pretty tame/hang out on my porch; so now people constantly walk/ride/drive up & just freely take photos & vids—oftentimes even venturing onto my property. That’s bad enough, but insult to injury is no one even addresses me when I’m outside—while they take pics (I’ve been the “strange newcomer/outsider” for 5yrs now). I’m also an avid photographer, & a bit camera-shy. Had some traumatic rape experiences involving cameras… And unless Bigfoot in all of his mysterious, burly glory was sauntering around in front of someone’s house, I wouldn’t *dream* of snapping pics/recording their property (more or less anyone living there). It’s super disturbing.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Filming private property and trauma
We should be more aggressive against recording period. That goes to CCTV too but sadly society has reached a point where you need tech because you can't trust sentient beings.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; CCTV and surveillance normalization
Sure, but for some people it's stressful to be around cameras all the time. Some people just don't like being recorded at all and the general public sentiment seems to be "well fuck them" because of legality. But legality has never dictated morality or ethics....and it's super rudeReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
Whenever someone defends something with "it's not illegal" I tell them that neither is pointing and laughing when people fall down, doesn't mean you're not an asshole for doing it.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording; Legality is not ethical consent
Not to mention they aren't paid to put up with any of this.ReplyCited in: Recording workers for content
I respect those who do. Thats what Id like to see everyone do.ReplyCited in: Bystander-editing etiquette
Yeah that's fucked. Recording randoms is so normalized, people extend that same normalization to folks in their workplace. They're not the same thing (and you shouldn't film random folks on the street anyway!!).ReplyCited in: Recording workers for content
Are you able to ask the owner to put up a sign saying customers are not allowed to record staff? It’s a serious invasion of privacy, I don’t think you signed up for the job for your face to be blasted online.ReplyCited in: No-recording signs for staff protection; Recording workers for content
I actually have seen such a sign in a restaurant that a lot of travelers stop at.ReplyCited in: No-recording signs for staff protection
I miss when people took a photo and moved on with their day. Not everyone wants to become background content for a stranger's video.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
And meta glasses means peoples can do it covertlyReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
That's my worst nightmare...ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
any time i see someone wearing those glasses, i assume they're recording.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I assume they're one of the nonces that have modded their glasses to work without turning the recording light on.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Seriously. I don't want videos of my dick just floating around and I am NOT putting it away for some pervert in glasses!ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
as a woman, yes.. literally gives creeps more opportunities to do bullshitReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
It's an unregulated world we live in...ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Meta or any other smart glasses make it worse honestly, especially for introverted people. It's uncomfortable seeing someone wearing them, you never know if you're being recorded.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
starting to get Black Mirroresque as fuckReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Im so glad youtube and social media didnt really exist when I was in high school. I hear some fucking horror stories from my younger coworkers and I dont think i would have made it out alive.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Youth life under constant recording
Apparently kids don't dance at school disco's anymore. Too scared of being recorded for piss-taking purposes 😕ReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording
Me too. I did stupid shit all day. I'm so glad there were not cameras everywhere.ReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording
It was just becoming a thing when I was like 12. My self-proclaimed "best friend" (he was not) secretly recorded me at school, during free time, and even did so outside my bedroom window when I was naked. He always uploaded it to YT back then, except the nude stuff. Those he just showed to my bullies while snickering with a shit-eating grin. All that said, I can't even imagine how bad it must be for youths today. Are they simply numb to it like I eventually became? They are exposed to this shit at a much higher and faster rate than my generation was.ReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording; Peer-recorded childhood abuse and intimate privacy
Yeah I think back to all the crazy stupid shit that I did at school and I'm really really glad no one had a video camera in their pocket at the time. But what a chilling effect this must have on today's youngsters. Anything you do can and will be recorded and pasted all over the internet.ReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording
One night I had people over my house for my birthday. We did some karaoke and one person started filming people singing and posting it on their social media. I felt really off about it because they were posting the inside of my home along with someone singing who didn’t know they were being filmed. It really rubbed me the wrong way. Edit: I wasn’t aware they were filming at the time. I didn’t find out until after my party was over and they posted the video online.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Recording private karaoke without consent
That is awful. Karaoke is sacred and needs to be private. We know we sound awful but we're having fun. They should have asked for permission first bc otherwise- they just ruined the vibe/ I wouldn't do karaoke again :(ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
What happens in karaoke stays in karaoke. Except for the clap. That shit follows you home.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Cant have fun anymore without someone posting it for others to comment and make fun of.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I went to karaoke with friends and asked not to be recorded because it made me uncomfortable and I just wanted to have fun. Knowing some don’t respect boundaries, if they did record to just send to me not the group. I looked back and the sketchy one was recording. And sent it to the group before I finished the song. I felt violated and lost trust for that ‘friend’. Side note: I’ve also had neighbors take pictures of me. One gaslit me that they didn’t one night when I asked. not only did I see the flash, I saw their face in reaction to the unplanned flash. Another takes pics without asking but instead telling me and doesn’t send them to me. So, why? I stepped away from this group because I found it weird. I’m convinced they have a creepy group thread where they share pictures. Might have developed an irrational fear that people get off on making others characters for their entertainment. We’re not your show. Pay attention to your own shit and leave others alone. Why do people do this?ReplyCited in: Ignored no-recording boundaries and social distrust; Recording private karaoke without consent
Did you say anything to them about it?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I decided they weren’t allowed over my house anymore.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I know it’s difficult for some people but people like this need to be confronted. I’ve unfortunately had a few parties where someone was acting poorly. That gets a “Dude, either stop with that or leave.” Almost always corrects it. At the very least I hope you explained why he’s not being invited back. Otherwise he’ll keep doing this shit.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I was at the gym today and two women came in and just recorded themselves barely working out. I cared because I was clearly in their shot, sweating profusely and in my grandma workout clothes. Like let me be a sweaty mess in peace.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Gym filming with bystanders in frame
This, together with those dystopian Meta glasses. I remember when Black Mirror still felt a bit far fetched, and I miss those days. The era of content creation has ruined everyday experiences.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Black Mirror was never far fetched.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Right! Like when was that? I watched it as it came out and the whole point seemed to be taking something current and going a bit furtherReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I've been living in Mexico for a little over a year now and I went back home recently, about a month ago, and I met up with some of my friends to eat at a Mexican food truck. The owners are from the same small town in Mexico that I had been living in, and the people I was meeting up with were either also from that town or their parents were. So we're eating, enjoying our meal, sitting outside (because it's a food truck) and when we were finishing up this 50-60 year old white guy and his adult son came and ordered and sat down at one of the tables near us and the guy kept making remarks "under his breath" (but still loud enough for us to hear). At first he was like "I can't stand people like that." "I can't stand when people speak another language in public." "Oh, look at me, I'm bilingual". But after a few minutes he was getting louder and the comments more frequent, and finally he said "I hate people who think they're better than me just because they can speak two languages." before I spoke up and was like "Do you have a fucking problem, man?" And the dude immediately takes out his phone and starts recording and playing the victim. And he's like "How dare you use vulgar language in front of my son?" and I was like... "Your son and I are the same age, dude. He has a bigger beard than me." Like you don't get to sit there for 15 minutes and agitate a confrontation then play the fucking victim. Just blew me away.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
It's always good to have something embarrassing to start on as soon as they start recording. [REC] > "And so you hit record. Of course you would lol like I already just told you Mr Content Creator, you can't just comment on the size of a guy's "package" to your son, obviously loud enough for me to hear, while gesturing towards me, and act all surprised when I get up and say something to you about it. No.. no *YOU* listen, my "package" is none of your business. At all. Is that something you do for your channel, just rudely speculate about what a man is packing? GTFO dude you're a pervert..."ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Whether or not you get offended by people speaking another language in public is a question used by social and political researchers to gauge if someone is racist. Another question they will ask is if you think people speaking in another language is because they are secretly talking about you.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
We usually are.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Ze zeitmetter de fluer Emeahgard_Redert zeissmouser de.... *snickers*ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
People at a taco truck speak Spanish? The horror!ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal
People are going out of the way to provoke, I don't know what's going on.ReplyCited in: Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
>"I hate people who think they're better than me just because they can speak two languages." What an insane insecurity.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal
Making every call a video call is just as bad! You’re at Costco! You don’t need to see the person to ask what kind of dog treats to buy!ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording strangers and private spaces
Or just having a phone conversation, with an ear bud, while conversing with someone in front of you. End your phone call before engaging people. You need to pick one.ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Split-attention phone conversations during service
I've met a few people who are chronically on a video call with their partner, and I cannot understand the appeal at all. Do you really need to see every moment of each other's lives to be together?ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces
A lot of people just no longer have a sense of privacy. They seem to think that sharing everything is normal. They also seem to think that you have to cultivate every moment into something to post and share rather than experience in the moment. They don’t seem to realize they’re sometimes missing out on the authentic enjoyment of certain experiences by trying to record and control everything in order to share content.ReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content; Recording strangers and private spaces
Honestly the fact that a large portion of people under the age of 30 share their location with not just their family and S.O. but their social network ALL the time, is quite literally insane to me. I often long for the 90s and before, which I only experienced as a child, where leaving the house meant you were simply unreachable most of the time. People just had to trust that you would return lol. A vacation to another city or state might as well have been you disappearing into the void.ReplyCited in: Always-on location sharing; Turning every experience into shareable content
This 4th of July I was at a fireworks thing and people were filming it on their phone. Like are you really going to rewatch your video of fireworks in the sky? Just be in the moment.ReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content
It’s not to rewatch, it’s to post online and gain imaginary social pointsReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content
The normalization of recording strangers without their consent is honestly pretty unsettling. Not everything needs to become content.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Ugh and those people that do it just to get a rise out of people because "they can, it's legal" are the worst. You're not some hotshot investigative journalist and you probably don't even know the laws in the first place just stop, no one is impressed.ReplyCited in: Legality is not ethical consent
I was at a restaurant a few days ago where a woman was recording a live stream from her seat at the bar, right next to the restrooms. I didn’t notice her before I went in and definitely wound up on her video. After, I waited until I would be out of frame and made a dash for it. It’s not that I’m hiding anything, I just hate the idea of winding up on some rando’s video. I get wanting to find a way to never forget good times, but it just feels so creepy to record people and post that out into the ether.ReplyCited in: Livestreaming near sensitive public areas; Recording strangers and private spaces
YES! Now that I have a daughter I have become hyper vigilant of people recording in public. I was scrolling and came across a video of my daughter and I at a cafe. We keep her face offline so I was bummed to see it in a promotional video for the cafe online. I know they have a right to do record and I do not have a right to privacy in a public space. I just hate that her face can easily be shared with the masses because recording and posting strangers is so normalized.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Children captured in business promotional video
The worst thing is people filming someone’s random medical emergency. Imagine fainting on public transport or in the street, being filmed without your consent and then ending up on the internet. I’ve seen people doing that.ReplyCited in: Filming medical emergencies for content; Recording strangers and private spaces
I had this happen to me and the internet only heard one, very biased, side. I’m a hotel GM and I had some problem guests check in a couple years back. They had a dog that they were letting run around without a leash and it was aggressive with other dogs and guests; it was scratching on the room door; and they were leaving it in the room and it was barking incessantly and bothering other guests. My employees started issuing them notices and the woman started claiming harassment and stalking. She came to the desk a few days later when I was working and got really aggressive and screaming that we’re discriminating against a veteran with a service animal (the dog was obviously not a service animal). Her partner came in and started in on me and he hopped up on the counter, grabbed me by the collar and bitch-slapped me across the face (I’m a woman). The second he hopped down, they started recording me. All that was in the video was me closing the window. Despite literally nothing they claimed being IN the video, they wrote this huge caption claiming all this crap. It went viral. I got doxxed. Strangers on the internet showed up at my work and my home, with my young child there. We got hundreds of bad reviews online claiming me and my staff discriminate against veterans. So many people on the internet believed these people’s WORDS. No proof of anything. Of course I had camera footage but couldn’t share it to combat anything. It was a scary time.ReplyCited in: Provoking conflict, then recording as victim; Selective recording, doxxing, and context collapse
We have a creepy retired couple that records all of the 11 and under neighborhood kids that ride bikes/ scooters on OUR property. We own another lot next to our house, it’s basically a wooded area with a dirt pile they like to ride bikes over. They are constantly recording them and also curse at them when not recording. Our properties are separated by a dead end, which they constantly walk up and down taking videos. They have started trying to site those who live on our street for parking in the grass, etc. They are always drinking when they stalk as well. From a cup, but it is very obvious.ReplyCited in: Children captured in business promotional video; Neighbors recording children and property disputes
I’m an RN and someone was FaceTiming during their GYN exam. Girl I don’t even want to see this and I got paid for itReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording patients and healthcare; Video calls during intimate medical exams
Yes recording in gym classes and swimming pools. Fuck offReplyCited in: Gym filming with bystanders in frame
I am still horrified that only one of our local major gyms has banned filming. Every other one has people filming and streaming around every corner. It's ridiculous and then you're trapped there by your membership.ReplyCited in: Gym filming with bystanders in frame; Gym policies that allow filming
this just happened to me at Costco some lady was filming her kids together on a patio swing and i walked right in front her without realizing itReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
What enrages me is strangers taking photos of my kids on Halloween. I bust my butt to make/find them incredible costumes and people thinks that gives them the right to photograph and post pics of my kids online.ReplyCited in: Children captured in business promotional video; Strangers photographing children in costume
I second this. Being able to record 4K60 videos on your phone is a blessing and a curse, people will abuse the hell out of that and invade peoples privacy for no good reason. Schools have begun banning phones because of that, and if kids ever need to call their parents they can ask their teacherReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; High-resolution phone video and school bans
Recording the band at the pub too! It's just a local cover band, nothing special at all, why are you standing 3 feet in front of them (middle of the dance floor) to record them playing 'White Wedding'?ReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content
yOu cAN’t iNfrInGe oN my 1sT aMeNdmEnT riGHtS aND if yoU pUsH mY caMErA oUt oF yOuR fAce im pResSInG cHarGes FoR aSSaUltReplyCited in: Legality is not ethical consent
Add to that people who film their children, they can’t say no to it and once it’s out there it’s always out there. Also people who film others clearly unwell like it’s the most normal thing ever. It’s all gross.ReplyCited in: Filming medical emergencies for content; Children captured in business promotional video; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
We've become "a surveillance state", surrendering all of our freedom and privacy.ReplyCited in: CCTV and surveillance normalization
This phenomena is what I refer to as “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should”. Humanity is vain as fuck.ReplyCited in: Legality is not ethical consent
As a GoPro-using cyclist, I agree. I avoid showing anyone’s face in the rare video I post. Especially if it’s a kid.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Privacy-conscious action-camera posting
I know a few bars that ban cellphones after a certain hour, usually 10pm. You get one warning and then security throws you out for the night. I wish more places did that.ReplyCited in: No-recording signs for staff protection; Venue cellphone bans
for real, now if somebody has a mental health issue in public they are forever plastered on the internet and they become a lolcow.ReplyCited in: Filming medical emergencies for content
Holy shit, you just reminded me of something that made my blood boil. My mum had just died, and at her wake, there was a famous musician who was an extremely close family friend, and people from a sports club that myself and my mum were also very close with. I had heard that the girlfriend of one of my sports friends was a MASSIVE fan of this famous musician, so I went over to him, had a little chat, and basically said "Here, my mate over there really wants to meet you, but she's crazy shy and a bit starstruck. Would you do her a favour and say hi to her?" And, ever the gentleman, he did. And I remember seeing them smiling, and turning, and my head coach had his phone up and was recording the interaction. And maybe it was the situation, maybe it was the fact my mum had died, maybe I was just very drunk, but I was livid. And even more livid that I couldn't do anything because he was also technically my boss. This is a precious moment at a time that fucking sucks and you want to stick your phone up and not be present for it? You want to make the musician feel like this is all for Insta clips and likes? It was just so inconsiderate.ReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content; Recording at a wake instead of being present
Just back from holiday and I swear there were so many tourists with neat full go pro equipment out while they videoed their entire lives/day to day activities. There was an Indian guy with his family who was recording and talking nonstop into his phone from the airport terminal as soon as we got off the plane, the entire time during baggage collection, then the 1 hr train journey into the city, he got off the train still talking and recording as he walked down the street, the wife and kids following behind. He didn’t once talk to them during the entire time all of this was going on. Just seemed mental.ReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content; All-day travel vlogging around family
I think the Pokemon GO incident should've opened at least some people's eyes, regardless of whether you just take a picture for your phone or use an app to create pictures and clips with filters on it, be more mindful about it, you don't need to record the whole insides of your place nor the complete neighborhood. For those who don't know, turns out Pokemon GO was not just used to have people catch pokemon but rather to create a full 3D map of the whole earth (or at least where people played that app) including the insides of buildings in order to create a mesh for AI delivery drones (and probably it doesn't end there). [Niantic Used Pokemon Go Players To Create Real-World AI Navigation Model]([link removed] Always keep in mind if something is "for free" it's not, especially when it comes to software.ReplyCited in: Always-on location sharing; Pokémon GO mapping and free-software data claims
We don't own the music and books and movies we buy when we buy them digitally.Top-level commentCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Games as well. They can be taken away at anytime.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Yep. I remember when steam updated their terms of service to include forced arbitration. I absolutely hate arbitration clauses and didn't want to agree, but my only choice was agree, or lose all of the games that I've paid for. That's bullshit.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition; Digital purchases without durable ownership
Steam got to be the poster boy of how that can backfire if a determined law firm calls your bluff and files thousands of law suits that you refused to allow to be a class action.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
What's even the point of a contract these days if we have no choice. Imagine if you had to sign an agreement before entering a hospital or be denied entry.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
You do have a choice - you don't use the service or you take the contract to court. This is why having a good government that actually gives a shit about you is so important, they create and enforce legislation that stops those bullshit contracts in the first place. And it works. Tons of businesses are forced to operate very differently in the EU/Australia/other places than they do in the USA because those places have said "nope, you can't do that shit here".ReplyCited in: Consumer protection against take-it-or-leave-it terms; Forced arbitration as an access condition
The fact that Nintendo now sells physical game carts but they can have game keys that, even though you own the physical cart, Nintendo at any time can say "we're now invalidating your license, this game cart is now worthless" is so many layers of bullshit I think we lost the whole plot. There's a reason people keep saying "if buying isn't owning, pirating isn't stealing."ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Physical game cards that only store license keys
Buy games from Gog. You have the installer for life and it can't be taken away.ReplyCited in: GOG offline installers; Digital purchases without durable ownership
Not really. It would never hold up in court. They're just really hoping you don't challenge it.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
I bought an ebook on amazon, and when I went to read it on my computer I couldn't. Apparently I can only read it on their app, not the web reader, and there's no app for linux. Off to anna's archive I went and 2 mins later I'm reading it on my computer with no issue.ReplyCited in: Platform-locked ebook access; Digital purchases without durable ownership
Yea, there's a lot of things that I'll buy that'll say "Cannot play on this device" or whatever. So, off I go sailing... I went legit for a long time but with so many things where they'd remove access, not allow on certain devices, etc., I ended up going back to the high seas. The rising prices didn't help at all, along with restrictions, smaller libraries, and other things. Digital content sucks in it's own way, and I prefer physical media. But, I do like having a large library of content on my home server available for streaming. They can't take it away or tell me where and when I can play it.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Piracy return driven by platform restrictions
That is the method I used back around 2008 to get rid of the encryption they used to put on their music files. I had stopped using Apple products and wanted my music. The only way to get it back was to use itunes to burn to cd and rerip the cd back onto my computer. This got rid of the encryption. I had to make a LOT of CDs, but it was worth it not to give Apple money anymore.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Historical DRM removal by CD reripping
Any time I read a book, on my phone, that I enjoyed, I will go out and buy the physical copy too for my bookshelf. My husband does the same. I am pretty sad that consoles have decided to stop making physical games though. That is a bad move.ReplyCited in: Buying physical copies after digital reading; Digital purchases without durable ownership
> I am pretty sad that consoles have decided to stop making physical games though. That is a bad move. It's Sony. Nobody else is doing this yet.ReplyCited in: Buying physical copies after digital reading
I hope, for your sake, and for everyone else's long-term, that you only pay for one of those copies. Normalizing paying for a product twice would be my post in this thread.ReplyCited in: Buying physical copies after digital reading
Physical media foreverReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
If I recall correctly, there was a lawsuit recently to attempt to change the wording on these platforms to prevent the from using the word “buy” for exactly this reason. It gives the impression that you will own it if you pay, but deep in the terms and conditions you’ll probably see that you’re merely _licensing_ it and the license can be terminated at the company‘a discretion.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Buy-versus-license wording for digital media
I have a kindle which I love but I never buy Amazon kindle books anymore - if I can’t download and take an epub with me I don’t want it. Started buying DVDs again over Amazon digital movies because insanity.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Portable EPUB and disc preference
Ironically it’s a lot closer to owning it if you pirate itReplyCited in: Piracy return driven by platform restrictions
Being expected to be reachable 24/7. We somehow accepted that not replying for a few hours needs an explanationTop-level commentCited in: Expectation of constant reachability
Phones are such toxic technology. The quality of voice calls peaked in the 90s and has been degrading ever since. Then there’s people’s attitude problem about if you can’t answer instantly. There’s always that person who will spam your number continuously until you pick up. Sorry Karen, I occasionally have to bathe or use the restroom or god forbid driving my car, I know everything is only about you, you, you!ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Expectation of constant reachability
The only time I get mad at someone not answering my calls is when I just miss there call and call them right back and they don't answer.. mother fucker I missed it by 5 fucking seconds what did you do chick your phone at a passing bus when I didn't answer.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
I'll take it a step further: a phone call is an invitation to a conversation, not an obligation to answer and talk to you... I'll get back to you when I doReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability; Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
I feel much more that way about texts. Phone calls indicate some sense of urgency in my mind, texts I'll reply to as soon as I have somewhere to sit.ReplyCited in: Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
I feel the same way about a knock on my front door.ReplyCited in: Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
The problem is the people who use technology, not the tech itself. If someone expects you to respond the minute after they sent you a message or call you, then that's on them instead of youReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability
LPT: Turn your ringers off. Respond whenever you feel like it. People will get used to it. Here’s an example response to get you started: “Hi there! I have been meaning to return your call for a couple days now, but I just didn’t. Anyway, what’s up?”ReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability; Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Pretty much what I do, although I don't try to make an excuse, just respond when it's convenient to do so unless it's time critical. The other thing I've begun doing this year is to change my WhatsApp settings. Before I had it set to show read receipts, online status, and last seen time. I've now switch all of that off, and it's effectively switched it to more of an SMS service but with the ability to send media. Been hugely liberating because I'm not then worrying about things like people getting offended I've "read" their message but not responded. People are generally understanding enough that whilst I may have my phone with me all the time, that doesn't mean I'm available all the time. I don't even need to be "busy" either, my wellbeing time is just as important to preserve than true busy time.ReplyCited in: Disabling read receipts and presence status; Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I totally don’t answer unless I think it’s an emergency, but I’ve noticed other people feel this weird urgency like they need to pick up right away. Especially when I’m hanging out with people—you are allowed to be hanging out with me and not looking at your phone. It’s one of the ways to make someone feel really unimportant—when you prioritize the person on the phone over the person next to you. You don’t need to pick up! Just let it go to voicemail. Even if it’s a client. Even if it’s important. You can literally text: “hey I can’t talk now, I’ll call you later.” If it’s super important to you.ReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability; Prioritizing present company over the phone
I treat mine like its a house phone, if i leave the house for something thats not going to require a phone, then i leave the phone at home. Its also left on silent 99% of the time because i got tired of cold callers. I've been doing this for at least 10 years now and a few people in my life either get mad at me or assume i'm dead if i don't answer immediately when they know iprobably just didn't notice and would get back to them w hen i do notice.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries; Using a mobile phone like a house phone
"I just didn't" LOL the average redditor without friends giving terrible advice. It's fine to not have to answer people immediately, but it's brain dead and says that you can't read social cues if you give blasè responses like this to friendsReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Agreed. That's a good way to have few friends, and burn your workplace relationships. By all means, take hours or a day or two(no more than that, barring vacations, unless you really don't care about keeping the relationship going) to respond, but don't be a jackass about it. "I just got your voicemail/text" is sufficient, and then move on with your response. Even back in the 90s it was rude to leave a call unanswered for days at a time, or act like it wasn't worth your time to answer.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
im gonna give you a piece of genuine advice and hope you take it: YOU are the one that has set the expectation that you are always available 24/7. I'm willing to bet you do the classics; apologizing when you don't reply right away, checking your phone every time it makes a peep, keeping your phone available when you aren't using it, etc. Set the standard that you are NOT available 24/7. Reply to things when YOU want to reply. DON'T read your notifications as soon as you get them. Leave your phone in the bedroom when you wake up on the weekend. Turn your phone off when you're doing things that do not require your phone. I've never once met someone who is expected to be around 24/7 as a baseline, nor have I ever seen that happen. It is ALWAYS a standard presented by people before anybody assumes it, and on the rare occasions where someone DOES assume it, they have never received pushback when told not to expect speedy replies or anything like that. You need to just put the phone down. That's truly all it is. People today do not actually care if you are available 24/7 but rather they care when they see you break your routine. If you let people know through your actions that you are available 24/7 then people expect that, and if you do not follow through on the standard that you accidentally communicated to them, then they will assume something is wrong.ReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability; Availability expectations shaped by routine
I started working at a hospital and started seeing way more families in public. the amount of toddlers or aged 5-7 year olds with their own phones or iPads disturbs me. I saw a family today with three kids, and one of the kids wasn't on any kind of device and was just looking around at the trees and buildings and clouds n shit. I thought "damn, that might be a rare formerly common childhood experience soon enough" what makes me feel so bad about it is how incredibly glued they are to the device. they will literally not look up once for any reason, walking on the sidewalk, in the street, into the building, over to the elevators. the entire time their neck bent downwards, looking at something on a screen. I never thought I would reach the point in my life where I sound like an old man yelling at the clouds. but I think this is a genuine societal level concern. and I want to mention it's entirely possible these people have healthy time limits for their screens, and the hospital can be a stressful place so I would totally hand my child something to distract from if they feel uncomfort. but, still.Top-level commentCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
The oldest iPad kids are hitting my ticket queue at college IT helpdesk. It ain't great.ReplyCited in: Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks; Young children absorbed by personal screens
Got any specific horror stories you can share?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Mostly its just a general inability to cope with obstacles or ask for help productively. The specific stuff isnt really generationally specific, it just an increased prevalence, the way boomers say they "don't do computers" more often than others. Like, a ticket that says "help" is better than no ticket, but details help me figure out what kind of help you need, yknow? Not reading what errors say. Ill ask what the error says and get a summary - ill ask then to repeat what it says verbatim and get a summary. More of that kind of stuff.ReplyCited in: Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks
i get those tickets mostly from boomers still personally, but that's most of my workplace so i guess it's skewed Ticket comes in: Subject: HELP!!!!!!!! Body: None Like, nice, now I get to play investigative detective before I even get to help you with whatever minor nonsense is tripping you up this time.ReplyCited in: Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks
It's crazy how terrible some of them are at knowing how to use devices they spend their time glued to. Zero problem solving skills. The mentally shutting down when you try to explain things is the worst, its the same thing a lot of boomers do. They don't want to learn how to fix things, they just want it fixed for them. Definitely not all of them and it occurs in all generations but it certainly seems a lot more common in GenZ.ReplyCited in: Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks
Hit the nail right on the head! It worries me how much time they spend on them, and how young they get their first phone/tablet now. It can’t be good for their development.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
The only time I’ve ever given my child a device in public is the one time I had to take her to urgent care for a procedure she was terrified to do. It helped distract her and calm her down a lot and she sat still for the procedure which was shocking given her personality. But I agree in general the screen usage is so disturbing. They send 2nd graders home with laptops now so even those of us parents who never gave our kids iPads or social media or smartphones or laptops lose that battle as soon as they get into elementary school 🫩ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
I have an almost 4 year old who has never really had a device, certainly not an iPad all the time. But I was talking to coworkers recently and I was shocked that they were acting like rampant iPad use was just expected with kids today? It was almost like "oh my kids just addicted to it there's nothing I can do, all kids do it today" mentality. Just take them away/don't give them to them? Be a parent jeeze - it involves telling them no sometimes.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
i recently was sitting on my porch in the morning and watched a 5-7 year old walk by on the sidewalk with their face 5 inches away from an iphone 16 (well, idk what exact model but a recent one) the whole way down the street. looked up for to look left and right and then put their face in their phone again to cross the street. genuinely changed the way i think about my phone/technology for children. and im a person that enjoys technology! i wish we stuck with computers and flip phonesReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
I've seen a four year-old with an iPhone.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
I work at a wildlife center/small zoo and a few days ago I had a family come in- two parents and 5 kids all 10 or younger with big iPads in their hands, some just carrying them, others actively looking down as they walk through the doors. It’s so insane to me, especially at a place where you’re spending time with family and having a fun experience. ALL the kids were carrying those big iPads with the obnoxious big casesReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
I saw a child that wasn’t even a full year old holding an iPad in his stroller.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
The fact that AI is in everything now. Why would I need AI to summarize a message from my partner on WhatsApp???? I'm so sick of it.Top-level commentCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
Every now and then, when my kid uses the voice to text option on the remote control to try to do a YouTube search, it'll gray out the screen and open an AI chat window, and the TV will offer to talk with him about slime instead of pulling up slime videos or whatever. I cannot get this to replicate. It's not every time or even most times. But it's often enough that I've witnessed it *argue with him* because it misheard him, wants to correct him or to go off on whatever conversational tangent it thinks he said, and doesn't want to return to the search bar and try again. Supervising your kid's YouTube use used to be about just the video content, but now I'm running interference to stop the TV from holding conversations with my kid!!ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
This is some Ray Bradbury shitReplyCited in: TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
My Samsung TV keeps trying to get me to have conversations with Copilot. It's awful.ReplyCited in: TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
TV, listen. You’re on so I don’t have to have conversations. That’s your only job.ReplyCited in: TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
No! **Don't** listen, TV!ReplyCited in: TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
They are DESPERATE to show that the whole AI situation isn't way out of hand and a serious waste of money and time. It's actively in everyone's way.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
This sounds like its related to that awful new search thing theyre doing where they want you to use Ai to set up personalized searches. Not everyone has it yet I think so you must have got lucky. They want people to search for things conversationally like "i want a video about X", then it can ask follow ups to get more specific. Its so unnecessary. If I want a dog video im just gonna type "dogs" and click one that looks interesting. I dont want to have a whole conversation about my search I just want to see a grid of videos with keywords related to the thing I typed in. I feel like screaming.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Conversational AI replacing simple search
A telly refusing to search for slime because it wants to have a yarn is genuinely cooked. We’ve somehow made the remote more needy than the kid.ReplyCited in: TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
I just had to do a whole thing about the proper ways to use AI in my writing class. What if we just didn’t??ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Mandatory AI literacy in writing class
I had a college class this year that made us create generated photos of ourselves to post with our introductions..ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; Required AI-generated student introduction images
have it generate a grotesque void monster and say "sorry prof I don't know why my pic turned out like that, all I did was describe myself and this is what it gave me"ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
"We're taught to love what's inside".ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Why??? What’s wrong with real photos??ReplyCited in: Required AI-generated student introduction images
Those don't create an implication that AI is inevitable.ReplyCited in: Required AI-generated student introduction images
What would happen if you absolutely flat refused, conscientious objector style? Coz fuck that crap!ReplyCited in: Required AI-generated student introduction images
Because a lot of kids in your class are just straight up asking AI to completely write their papers for them?ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class
Agree, if you can't make the "effort" to read my messages, I can't imagine you're going to put much effort in the rest of the friendshipReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI summaries as relational disrespect
When lazy people use it in messenging it should Send like a read receipt saying « your interlocutor used ai to summarize your 12 words response instead of reading it » so the other person can block them immediatelyReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
I was just discussing this with friends earlier today. We decided the any and all Ai content should have some kind of symbol (or even just a small "ai"or "AI") somewhere *noticeable* in the message or the video or image or whatever. I saw an a YouTube video recently that had the caption "made with AI", (which I already figured) but it was way down at the bottom. Maybe other people regularly scroll all the way down on every video they watch, but i don't and I suspect a lot of other people don't either.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Visible labels for AI-generated content
If someone actually used the AI summary for one of my texts, and it told me, I would be at their house throttling them immediately. Fuck blocking! I only give my number to my closest friends and family, I think they can handle a bit of a gun show 💪💪💪ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Dude I’m a biologist and another person I was consulting with said “just summarize your notes with AI then send them to me” WHAT??? My NOTES??? The notes I ALREADY WROTE?? No!!!ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI resummarizing notes already written
The circle of life: write notes, feed notes to AI, AI gives you back your own notes with worse formatting and slightly wrong emphasis. Somehow this counts as progressReplyCited in: AI resummarizing notes already written
This is lossy compression in idea-space. Repeat it a dozen times and your notes will be nothing but cognitive JPEG artifacts.ReplyCited in: Repeated AI summary as lossy idea compression; AI resummarizing notes already written
Whoa. What a great way of putting it.ReplyCited in: Repeated AI summary as lossy idea compression
Lol. When I have spent an hour crafting an email, choosing which of the various words synonymous with 'shit show' provokes the correct amount of urgency, I expect you to fucking read it, to feel it, and be born again with a renewed sense of urgency. Not just put it through an AI which condenses it down to a single line you can fit in an SMS.ReplyCited in: AI resummarizing notes already written; AI summary erasing intended tone and urgency
> choosing which of the various words synonymous with 'shit show' provokes the correct amount of urgency * manure performance * fecal opera * waste carnival * spectacle of ordure * dookie drama * the poopeningReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Truly. I’m just so glad my bosses are against it and know how against it I am. Rather quit on the spotReplyCited in: AI summary erasing intended tone and urgency
I worry that we are one generation away from people who can't speak, write or read, much less have critical thinking skills. An English teacher I know was reprimanded twice for correcting the spelling of students, and told "They'll have AI for that" as if they don't need to learn how to spell. He decided to leave teaching when he gave them a one page writing assignment, giving **their opinion** on a current event they all agreed they knew about. As he walked around the room, all but 2 were using ChatGPT to **create an opinion for them**. They couldn't even think enough to write down their own opinion. And you'll see this generation uses that shit for everything, like it's a normal daily part of life. They haven't read the constant news articles about AI's catastrophic failings. And if you say anything to them about it you just get okayboomered. It started before AI though, this monstrous lack of thinking. My neighbor's granddaughter uses GPS to get to her school not even 3 miles away. She told me she doesn't know how to get there otherwise. I wish we'd destroyed all of this shit 20 years ago.ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation
This is by design, and is exactly what people/groups like the Heritage Foundation and Peter Thiel are striving for... Idiocracy. It's not just a movie, it's a blueprint for the future. One where corporations do all our thinking for us, and free will is limited or nonexistent. Defunding education, publicly demoralizing the intellectual and creative classes, creating further social divides... its all part of the game plan. Project 2025 is Idiocracy in written form.ReplyCited in: Political-conspiracy framing of AI and education
> Idiocracy. It's not just a movie, it's a blueprint for the future. 💯 > Project 2025 is Idiocracy in written form. What happens when we as a society are literally too stupid to function? When we have no doctors, no healthcare workers, etc??ReplyCited in: Political-conspiracy framing of AI and education
Why come you don't have a barcode?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
What we're seeing in education currently is a sharper divide between the students thriving and the ones drowning. There are still plenty of students who are quite brilliant and understand, probably due to good parenting, that they need to develop their own skills to use *in addition to* AI. However, AI is widening that gap, the students who used to copy their book report off of Wikipedia, and who would copy the blurb on the back of the book before that, are now using AI to do all their thinking for them. Their goal is a mix of Idiocracy and Gattaca. They want a world where they and their line are the only intelligent people left, ruling over the ignorant masses by controlling the AI's that do all the thinking for them.ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation; AI widening student skill gaps
In 20 years, it will be straight up illegal for children under a certain age to have unfettered access to a tablet. Unfettered means unlimited. Unlimited means there are no limits. Limits are when someone tells you no. This part is for the AI inclinedReplyCited in: Future age limits on unfettered tablet access; Young children absorbed by personal screens
I’ve had students, who were terrible spellers and writers, tell me that exact thing: “I can just ask AI! I can just do voice typing!” Jesus, like don’t you want your words to be your own thoughts? It’s about integrity. We used to consider that plagiarism. Now we’re allowing it?! Are these kids just going to sit there and do nothing when they can’t write a note or can’t think of what to do in a situation, because their phone isn’t working? It’s very weird.ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation
>Are these kids just going to sit there and do nothing when they can’t write a note or can’t think of what to do in a situation, because their phone isn’t working? They'll get angry about it because all this shit is just making it harder for anyone to feel comfortable with being bored sometimes.ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation
Honestly, I feel like some of the worst AI offenders I’ve seen are 50+ and treat ChatGPT like it’s the final authority on everything.ReplyCited in: Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT; AI in everyday products without a clear need
Its pretty skewed on each side I thinkReplyCited in: Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT
My 80 year old mom relys on ChatGPT for EVERYTHING! I keep telling her to use other sources for information, like a local business website, etc. Well, I came home the other day and she was so mad because ChatGPT "told" her what time the movie was, and she showed up half way through. Turns out it was for the wrong theater in a completely different town. I have seen both my parents go down this path over and over and they just won't listen to me. On the other hand, my teenage son thinks AI is so cringe and won't even use it. He does art and music so that tracks. LolReplyCited in: Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT; ChatGPT gave the wrong local showtime
We aren't a generation away. We're already in it. My college students have middle school reading levels and cannot write. They use AI for their opinions, too. It's disgraceful and maddening but I have to remind myself it isn't only laziness, but they've been pushed into this.ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation
Yikes. [account] should I feel about this?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I’ve been online shopping today, I don’t understand why it’s built into search engines within websites now. I’ve searched “rice cooker” on the website to show me what rice cookers are available at this shop, of which there is maybe 12, what more is AI possibly going to add to that?ReplyCited in: AI inside simple retail-site search; Conversational AI replacing simple search
In most cases, it seems AI is a solution for a problem we never had in the first place.ReplyCited in: AI inside simple retail-site search
It's the solution to a problem that will be forced down our throats in the future perhaps.ReplyCited in: AI inside simple retail-site search
Google putting an AI summary of the weather forecast at the top of the weather app like... I already opened the app.... I want to look at the hourly forecast info myself. I don't need you to tell me how beautiful the weather is and that it'll be comfortable outside today and to wear light breathable clothes FFS.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI weather summary over an existing forecast
I’ve started getting ads on YouTube for this note taking device that you can attach to your phone via the magnet charger and it can somehow record both sides of a phone call without the phone needing to be on speaker?? Not only does that seem sketchy to begin with in terms of product performance, but I can’t imagine how legally grey that is in terms of two party consent laws. And regardless of that aspect, now you’re intentionally carrying around another device that could be recording everything you do and say that is Bluetooth-enabled and thus not secure in the slightest, aka a fucking snitch machine. No thanks.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Magnetic call-recording device and consent risk
Which is extra wild considering you can just record calls using software.ReplyCited in: Magnetic call-recording device and consent risk
And it. terrifies me how quickly everyone has become completely and totally dependent on it. I knew someone who had a job, the workplace banned ai cos the work was getting screwed up and everything was wrong. They had to hire several new people to come in and help fix the mess. The workers revolted and said there was no way they could do their job without it, that the jobs were impossible to do. The company was in business for like 30 years before this. A lot of those people have been there for 15+ years. They did the same jobs with no problem for decades, but now the work is "impossible" even with more people without ai. Remember how everyone said that the Matrix wasn't realistic because they said that everything started to decline after the 90s cos people became obsessed and dependent on AI? I think about that a lot.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Workplace AI dependence after errors
Respond with gibberish.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I would go one step further and say “smart” things in general, not just AI. I do not need my fridge or washer and dryer to have wifi, I don’t need my microwave to have Bluetooth, I don’t need my watch to read me my texts, I don’t want my thermostat to have an app. I want dumb appliances that don’t need an internet connection. In the case of a thermostat, programmable but offline is fine.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Internet-connected smart appliances without a need
It makes me endlessly furious how some people can just casually use it and NOT CARE.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
AI: Would you like a summary of the last message? The message: bish u hngry?ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
My younger cousin is 9 and schools (at least where I live in the UK) are teaching kids this age to ask chatgpt their questions during computer based lessons INSTEAD of the teachers. This is the doomed timelineReplyCited in: Children directed to ChatGPT in school; Mandatory AI literacy in writing class
It’s only normal if we let be! Reject it and it will at least diminish.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
Yeah they embedded into like Spotify to generates lyrics. It’s an absolute waste of resources. We have determinate answers and solutions for problems - but now we’re moving away from that in lieu of AI handling the problem at 3x the cost.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI for determinate Spotify lyrics and resource cost
Constantly filming your life for an audience rather than actually living in the moment.Top-level commentCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content; Filming life for an audience instead of living
I have given myself the rule to never take pictures the first time I visit something, and honestly it has made me appreciate places way more. Even if I forget them, when I'm there, I'm actually there.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; No photos on first visits rule
On the contrary, if you visit a place with a loved one for the first time especially an older loved one… You should *always* take a picture. You never know.ReplyCited in: No photos on first visits rule
This drives me nuts. People are so worried about getting likes from their followers than actually living their lives. A relative of mine has less than 100 followers but records and shares everything. It's a form of addiction for sure.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
Spending $20k-$40k on a wedding for your average person.Top-level commentCited in: Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
A family member of mine was married for almost 7 decades, and they spent a grand total of 2d (2 pence in old British money, about 50p in todays money) on their wedding, and that was just the bus fare to get to the location. Everything else, they either made themselves or just went without. The wedding dress was sewn from the silk of the parachute her spouse had used in the war, and the cake was made with rations donated by friends and family. More money in a wedding does not equal a happier or longer marriage, that's for sure.ReplyCited in: Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
> The wedding dress was sewn from the silk of the parachute her spouse had used in the war, That's pretty badass.ReplyCited in: Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage
This was pretty common after the war.ReplyCited in: Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage
I wonder if the less money you spend, in fact, relates to the happier a marriage is/how long it will last.ReplyCited in: Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation
IIRC, there was in fact a study that correlated more expensive weddings to shorter marriages, and the researchers theorized this was because financial stress is a big factor in divorce.ReplyCited in: Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
Wildly expensive weddings were indeed correlated to shorter marriages, but so too were wildly *inexpensive* weddings. Apparently there's a happy middle ground when it comes to wedding pricing.ReplyCited in: Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation
And perhaps priorities, too?ReplyCited in: Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation
I also feel like the couples (who aren’t like super wealthy or celebrities who can afford to drop a ton of money on extravagant weddings) that spend a bunch of money on their weddings tend to care more about the wedding than the marriage. It’s not everyone, of course, but think about how many weddings are basically more for social media or just showy rather than their actual purpose which is two people committing to each other. I remember reading about a wedding that hired someone whose sole job was to make and post content to TikTok/Instagram and they had to redo a bunch of stuff like the first dance or family photos so the **content** would be perfect. IIRC, it wasn’t even like some “influencer” but regular people. All I could think was that marriage ain’t lasting if you’re making grandma do some TikTok meme dance for your followers instead of actually cherishing what is supposed to be a celebration of your love and commitment. Too many people want the big, expensive wedding they can show off more than the marriage. And a wedding with a dedicated social media content creator is my idea of hell. Meanwhile, my parents eloped and they’re still married 36 years later.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Weddings designed for social-media content; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
We did a drive-through in Vegas and I think I spent $200 on our wedding including marriage license and tip. Going on 20 years so far! Oh and it makes for a better story than some normal big party.ReplyCited in: Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
Can confirm. 2nd marriage cost $30k+, lasted 5 years. Current (*final, dammit!*) marriage cost <$1k, been together 16 years and going strong.ReplyCited in: Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation
the way my jaw dropped when I found out this was considered “normal” 😭 same with having to pay for funerals… don’t even get me started on how corrupt that whole realm is and has been for way longer than most people know it’s disgusting when you start to look into it. and a big part being biotech companies use human remains to manufacture its most profitable product, but don’t have to compensate the families of the dead. literally how is this normalized?! also the fact that placentas are worth like $50,000 but all the money also goes to biotech companies when it should go to the mother and families. it’s so fucked up especially when the average cost of childbirth is $20,000?!?! insane. there’s tons of examples of this type of bs and that’s only a couple of them. definitely a dark rabbit hole to go down and crazy we can’t do much about it. fucked up that we would all be wayyy more financially stable if we saw the money instead of these companies. which just leads me into another one… how much it costs just to keep ourselves alive 🙃ReplyCited in: Funeral, childbirth, and human-tissue profit claims
We eloped. Never regretted it much. Waiting a year to tell everyone at home: now that was not a good plan.ReplyCited in: Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
Holding victims to a higher moral standard than perpetrators.Top-level commentCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators
A close family member of mine committed a massive financial crime targeting elderly people. I was permanently kicked out for saying it was morally wrong.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Family rejecting a whistleblower over elder fraud
A family friend did something similar, was disbarred and went to prison. Apparently i’m the asshole for constantly referring to him as the “grandma robber.”ReplyCited in: Family rejecting a whistleblower over elder fraud
I've seen it more than once on TV. Why on this planet is it seen as normal to steal pension funds?ReplyCited in: Elder financial abuse as villain shorthand
On TV, it's something people can immediately understand and immediately paints the criminal as a hated villain, so it is the go-to white collar crime to have your villain commit. The audience probably won't understand more complex fraud unless you devote the entire movie to explaining it (e.g. the Big Short), or might not even care if it comes off as a victimless crime, like the crime in Office Space.ReplyCited in: Elder financial abuse as villain shorthand
That’s fucking hilarious and you should keep doing it (not the grandma robbing, the phrase)ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'm proud of you, strangerReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
100%. I was sexually assaulted as a 19 year old and when discussing it with my friends/boyfriend at the time I got comments like “but why would you expect to be friends with someone who isn’t your boyfriend”, “it probably led him on that you sent texts every day”, “you didn’t report it immediately so I’m not sure I can believe you”.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Victim blaming after sexual assault
I'm so sorry. It wasn't your fault. I hope none of them are in your life now.ReplyCited in: Victim blaming after sexual assault
I hope you had/have at least one friend with common sense who told that none of it was your fault. You don't know me, but please believe me when I tell you it's 100% the perpetuator's fault.ReplyCited in: Victim blaming after sexual assault
This is what it is like being in family court after enduring DV from your former spouse and them being convicted BUT the court doesn’t like to acknowledge that part or what was done to you and your kids. I was too scared to look at my husband when he was allowed to question me pro se despite his conviction and OOP and the judge admonished me and told me I was being disrespectful. My teeth were chattering I was shaking so hard and the last time I had seen him that close I was in my kitchen where he tried to kill me. That judges husband shook my hand and asked for my endorsement for her at a community event. I walked away.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Family-court treatment after domestic violence
What is it with the courts and expecting you tolerate abuse? They just don’t care. They want the abuser to have his rights.ReplyCited in: Family-court treatment after domestic violence
Exactly. And Placing the extremely heavy burden of proof on the victim, all the while appropriate mental health and physical health care is inaccessible.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Victim proof burdens and inaccessible care
An allegation of rape has both men and women looking down on the victim MORE than the rapist. It's insane.ReplyCited in: Victim blaming after sexual assault
Similar thing with conservatives in America basically acting like calling someone a racist (even if they are proudly racist) is worse than calling a Black person the N word lol.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Calling out prejudice treated as worse than prejudice
💯 Especially children have to take one for the team. Keep harmony or something.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Children pressured to preserve family harmony
THANK YOU. Yes.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The way people shop online and/or how influencer culture has become such a pillar of marketing/advertising in the last decade and a half. I get it. I'm old. Still, once upon a time when I heard a commercial on television or the radio, I understood the actor was being paid to say what they were saying. Their opinion or endorsement of a product did not sway me. Influencers who appear in people's feed via algorithm somehow scratch some kind of mental itch that their recommendations are coming from a trusted friend rather than from a paid spokesperson. That's really not good, to my mind, but it seems like everyone else is just rolling with it. I heard a podcast the other day that was talking about the 'drink of the summer' trends. First of all, there didn't use to be such a thing, but whatever, I digress. The podcast went on to explain the most important part of a 'drink of the summer' was how distinctive and attractive it looked in selfies. For example, people want Aperol Spirtzes because they photograph well. What a world we're living in...Top-level commentCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
Living in a large town but a very small country, this killed the shopping area where I live. Everything shut down one store after another when online shopping got too big, and people stopped buying things locally in order to import new online trends from outside the country. Now it's impossible to open shops in the area and even the city closest to me had 70% of their shops die out for the same reason. Local shops are a rarity where I live now, and they don't last more than 3-4 months before they have to shut down in my town. One mall even turned into a hangout study meet-up for students as no shops can survive long enough in there anymore. I miss actually looking at wares instead of praying I don't get a bad product. Even some cultural food at the grocery stores got replaced with hot topic food trends from tiktok and now I can't eat a lot of things I grew up with anymore. It feels so bizzare and annoying.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations; Online shopping eroding local retail and food culture
Oof even worse actually; a 100 year old tradition died because of it too. We had a massive market over the town twice a year and everyone in a massive area would drive here to shop and participate in activities. 90% of the sellers were locals, candy makers, artists, farmers and hunters with all different kinds of wares. It had literally a bit of everything and could take hours to walk through. Was the most exciting event in a massive radius. It died out within the last 4 years. Too much online shopping and it being considered "outdated". I quite miss it.ReplyCited in: Online shopping eroding local retail and food culture; Online shopping ending a century-old local market
Yep, I agree with this. I also think a lot of women feel pressured to constantly buy more and new clothing to stay "on trend" and not wear the same thing twice. It’s easy to forget that influencers usually aren’t buying the huge amounts of clothing they wear, and in fact they are getting paid to wear and sell them. The whole point of trends is to drive more consumption.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations; Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
yes, to this. I was subscribed to a youtuber who does a specific japanese fashion style. At first I liked her videos because it showed the decoration of her room, how she does her hairstyle, little trinkets and such... then more and more of her content is sponsored, or in her daily vlogs, a good chunk of them is about going to some store to buy even more merch. Every single video is about showing something she recently bought to add to the pile. I had to unsubscribe. I don't feel pressured to buy any of it, I like to see the style but it's not something I'd wear, yet I can tell we're in this digital era where we're bombarded with consumerism culture in every corner, and I'm not a fan of it.ReplyCited in: Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
It's not a new trend but social media feels like it's amplified the amount of bandwagoning that happens. I get the feeling there's way more people who don't care as much about the specific things they do (travelling to specific places, attending certain events, eating certain foods) as much as they care for the social credit and validation they get from doing those things.ReplyCited in: Social-validation bandwagon consumption; Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
People using speakerphone in crowded places, like restaurants, locker rooms, stadiums, etc…Top-level commentCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
I was riding the bus, and a guy straight up started watching porn, full volume.ReplyCited in: Public full-volume pornography; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
If you’re in the United States that’s public indecency. This is a country where you can get on the offender list for urinating on a bush at 3am walking home from a bar instead of driving tipsy after all. It’s one thing if you forgot it was the active tab on your device when you put it to sleep and turn it off as quickly as you can, it’s another altogether if you just start playing it like it’s any other video content.ReplyCited in: Public full-volume pornography
lol try the subway in NYC for more than 3 hrs, I can almost garuntee something like this will happen at least once after 4pmReplyCited in: Public full-volume pornography
Ironically, he had no fucks to give.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
This should be SO much higher. This behavior makes me LONG for the pre-cellphone days when phone calls were, by default, private, because you literally had to be in a building or a booth to take a call. I should NEVER be hearing about your aunt's recent surgery or that your kid's going through potty training while in public, but everyone is so comfortable broadcasting their entire private lives no matter where they are!!! I'm so tired of the panopticon seeping into everything we do, humans are not meant to live on display.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
My coworkers constantly have super loud phone conversations EVERY. SINGLE. LUNCH. BREAK. And usually on speaker. Like, this is my time to relax! I don't want to hear you complaining about your boyfriend to your sister for the millionth timeReplyCited in: Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Just mention it to them one day, NOT in the breakroom. "Hey, how're things with your boyfriend - things sound pretty grim between you two....."ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Oh God yes. Headphones have been a thing for at least 50 years people!ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
My favorite is people using speaker phone, and hold it ng the phone to their ear so they can hear better. If only there were a speaker designed to hold up to your ear!ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
I was on a cruse recently and an older gentleman was on speakerphone standing n the middle of the buffet area. He gave out his entire credit card number, expiration date, and CVV code to whoever he was talking to. Some people lose all sense of awareness when they talk on speakerphone.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone broadcasting private life; Speakerphone disclosing payment-card details
Functional alcoholismTop-level commentCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I did it for a very long time. It's functional until it isn't.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
Dated an alcoholic. Should’ve been a massive red flag that a 100 pound woman could down half a bottle of rum without blinking but I was a moron. Always had gob-stoppers when she went to work, later found out she used them to cover the scent of alcohol on her breath at work. She worked a graveyard shift so she got away with it for a loooong time until she finally got pulled over.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Concealing alcohol use at work
Please do not get addicted to benzos, especially if you’re already an alcoholic. You’ll have a hell of a time coming off them!ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Alcohol and benzodiazepine dependence risk
Yep. One day I was fine, the next bleeding into my stomach from an esophageal tear. You tell yourself you're fine while killing yourself.ReplyCited in: Serious medical harm hidden by functional drinking; Functional alcohol dependence
Ugh just awful, chapped like a sonovabitch and you know you did it to yourselfReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Same! 16 months sober nowReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
Agree. I was a functional opiate addict. I held shit together for a LONG time, but it can't last forever. In fact, the facade grows so paper thin that when things do finally fall apart, they fall *completely* apart. It was bad.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Functional opioid dependence
im not a native english speaker so dont mind me asking but what does that mean?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
You're an alcoholic but you're still able to work while drunk. Basically your body is so used to alcohol in it, you need a base level of alcohol to function normally. You can function while alcoholic.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
Or, you gut it out through the work day, but spend every waking moment outside of work getting drunk or sleeping it off. Source: experience.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
Have you stopped drinking? That was me too. It’s a daily fight to not keep the habit going, and there are still days that I fail.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
Unfortunately, no. I’m within a hair’s breadth of pulling the trigger on rehab. I’m just waiting to see how my insurance will handle it.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Rehab access and insurance uncertainty
Right on. I don’t really know anything about you personally, so I won’t try to get further in your business. All I will say is I can relate to the type of alcoholism that you have experienced and know how bad it sucks. And I know that virtually everyone who doesn’t have the same problem can’t understand it. Good luck.ReplyCited in: Rehab access and insurance uncertainty
Thank you. It’s a bitch. And there’s always the worry that a month or so away will cost me all my projects, but at a certain point, you have to put your health first. It’s tough.ReplyCited in: Rehab access and insurance uncertainty
I was in this situation and am about to start my fourth year of sobriety in a couple weeks. It was brutal at first — it felt like everything got worse, and I was very depressed — but then got easier, and eventually better than ever. If you’re thinking you could benefit from some help, get that help. At the very least I recommend talking to a therapist and a doctor, and being 1000% honest with them so they can help you navigate the first six months. Whatever it may cost you, in your career or social life or whatever, can be replaced down the road. Stay strong and feel free to message me if I can help at all. (Serious offer.)ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Rehab access and insurance uncertainty; Professional support in early sobriety
Thank you. I’m pretty much at that point now. I know that if I don’t quit, my years from here on out will be only worse.ReplyCited in: Professional support in early sobriety
Im a very hardheaded independent type dude. Im glad I went. Some of the stuff I learned is super helpful most of it was whatever. They didn't push religion where I went which was key. It was there but not impressed. The best take away was the break! The break in my routine (I have pretty big work responsibilities) with the job and dealing with people all day. Break from my safe place and regular people. Break in my head when some sober days passed. I didn't even stay the full time because I knew after a few weeks of waking up feeling great and seeing what I had been doing for the last 20 years (I'm 44) that I was done. I'll be 1 year sober on Aug 15. While it was hard as fuck and im very proud of myself it is it's own reward.ReplyCited in: Professional support in early sobriety; Rehab as a break from an addictive routine
not even while drunk. I NEVER drank during the hours of 6am and 5pm except weekends. I was never impaired at work (unless slightly hungover and that was rare). I would drink from the moment i walked in the door at home until my eyes closed due to exhaustion and booze. It means the ability to hold down regular activities and pay bills and give the outward appearance of being an upstand contributing member of society all while killing yourself and falling apart!ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Appearing functional while drinking only at home
Wow.. i think I just met myself on RedditReplyCited in: Appearing functional while drinking only at home
True. My father and brother were both Chefs and alcoholics, I swear it's a job requirement or something.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Alcohol normalization in kitchen work
The movie Another Round is a good depiction of thisReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I always thought functional alcoholics were people who managed to do the functioning and the alcoholism separately. Not necessarily at the same time. I can drink 4 liters of beer in an evening and not really feel it the next morning. But I don't need alcohol when I wake up to function. I'll do just fine without it through the day. But then the evening starts and I'll start drinking. And definitely on the level of an alcoholic. To be honest, considering how bad alcohol is, it's a tough discussion to have. Nowadays, any alcohol means you're drinking too much. I don't really disagree or anything, but that doesn't really convey how much some people drink compared to the average person who's had a hangover. In the sense that some people will be severely hungover from not even 2 liters of beer, compared to what I said earlier. Yet there are people who will scoff at what I can drink. But I don't think that's where the line should be!ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; High-tolerance evening drinking and unclear labels
Alcoholism is progressive for sure and the amount of time between 'fine' to 'functioning' to 'fucked' varies wildly. I quit when I was drinking 3-4 drinks 5-6 night a week. I didn't get DTs or anything but it was fucking HARD to quit and my brain chemistry was fucked for a LONG time.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
THAT'S what people mean when they say functional alcoholic?! I thought it was when they drink a lot, but it doesn't seap into their responsibilities or relationships.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
for what it's worth, I think its sort of a broad term. Plenty of people you might call a "functional alcoholic" go to work sober, but drink every night after work. Plenty of "functional alcoholics" might also be drunk all day but perfectly functional, and so on.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I've been trying to convince myself to stop. I hold down a good job, get all my responsibilities taken care of, and am in relatively good health. But, I also drink about 4 to 6 beers every night as soon as I've cooked dinner. From 7 to 11, I'm drinking. I've noticed it's starting to affect me. I'm starting to feel lousy in the morning and have trouble with stumbling over words during meetings before lunch. The annoying thing is, I know I can stop. If I'm with my family, I don't drink. I can be on a week long vacation with them and not have a drop of alcohol. Sure, I'll feel cravings, but they don't drink so I don't drink. Why I can't I convince myself not to when I'm home alone?ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Nightly drinking with growing work impairment
Basically where you're addicted to alcohol, but show very few signs of it and appear to function just like a normal person (i.e. having vodka in your water bottle instead of water, keeping a hip flask on you 24/7, etc., and needing to take sips just to live your daily life)ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
People addicted to alcohol who do not seem to appear that way mentally and physically, they can carry out normal task and behave sort of normally while drunk/addictedReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
It means you can hide perfectly your struggles with alcohol and it doesn't reflect on your work, schooling and so on because you can still go to work and school somehow.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I wish there was easy access to mental healthcare so people would be less inclined to self medicate with alcohol, since that’s very easy to get.ReplyCited in: Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication; Functional alcohol dependence
I’m starting to feel like everyone should have a therapist like they have a family doctor.ReplyCited in: Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication
I'm in a left-leaning area, and the Venn diagram of people with family docs and people with therapists is nearly a circle. Cost is the biggest driver for access to either.ReplyCited in: Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication
100% yes. I know we’ve gotten better with access, but people are still falling between the cracks. In a perfect world, everyone would have access to a PCP and therapist.ReplyCited in: Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication
I live in a small town and my first job was the liquor store. I couldn’t believe the amount of functional alcoholics I would see every day. Civil servants, blue collar workers, white collar workers, housewives, it had no class or gender discrimination. Watched guys try to quit and just die instead. That shit took no prisoners.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Small-town liquor-store view of hidden dependence
Kids learning to pose for photos. I was at Disneyland and watched child after child walk up to the character and immediately turn around and pose for the camera. No interaction with the character until they'd done their pose. It bothered me how much they were aware of and trained to be that external. A few kids ran up to hug and talk to the characters without that hyper-awareness of a camera, but not a lot of them. It felt sad, like they weren't really presentTop-level commentCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Children trained to pose before experiencing
You just made me feel a lot better about my parenting, ngl. We finally took professional family photos and my 7 year was so excited and just…had no idea how to pose. The best shots were the candid ones of him, not the standard ones. It made me feel like a failure, like I can’t have those pictures you see hanging in peoples homes, but ours are more natural and he actually looks joyful, even if we all weren’t posing and smiling at the same time. Thank you for your comment, I think it really changed something in me.ReplyCited in: Children trained to pose before experiencing; Candid family photos over trained posing
You’re a good mom or dad. Too many kids are practically social media trained, nowadays. I’m not even an old geezer ruminating about technology here, I’m a 29yo girl who’s trying for her first with her husband. We do NOT plan on our future kiddo being addicted to screens like the majority seem to be, now. And I work in a therapy field with young children…. It’s bad lol.ReplyCited in: Children trained to pose before experiencing; Young children absorbed by personal screens
Best of luck! Not being sarcastic. Sincerely wishing everything to go well with your pregnancy, birth, and dealing with screens. It’s so hard, even with the best of intentions to not use screens much. I feel guilty about my daughter getting as much screen time as she does, but she literally will walk away to do other things after a short time with no prompting from me so I guess she’s not addicted. When I was pregnant, I was adamant about no screen time and then very limited screen time. That changed for me based on my situation. I just try to make sure we do a wide variety of activities to crowd out screens. Pool almost daily during the summer, parks, library, tons of imaginative play, etcReplyCited in: Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
With the screens, you will not be alone! A lot of people are taking a big step back from screens for their littles. We probably watch too much tv and play a few too many video games, but we don't do tablets or phones. My older child is 7 now and most of her friends are the same or very limited. She found them because they are the kids in the neighborhood who also like to play outside lol.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
As a photographer, we prefer the non-staged stuff anyway. It’s much easier to make people look natural when they’re behaving naturally (quelle surprise!).ReplyCited in: Candid family photos over trained posing
The best shots are always candids.ReplyCited in: Candid family photos over trained posing
Alternatively, it took me a good 2 months of costume work to realize \*I\* didn't have to smile for photos. They cant see my face.ReplyCited in: Children trained to pose before experiencing
People filming their good deeds for views. I understand that it may influence others to be kind or generous and that's great, but especially with influencers they're doing it to make a profit and that doesn't sit right with me.Top-level commentCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
I'm kind of on the fence with this one. sometimes it does seem gross but at other times it has really brought entire communities (sometimes the whole country) together to donate to people in need on gofundme and other sites and completely changed people's lives. if the influencer is using all of the money they make to benefit that person then I think it's fine. and if they have their permission to post them. but we don't ever really know if it's being done in an ethical way or not.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views; Consent and fund use in charity content
so youd rather they not perform the good deed?ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
I don’t think yall realise how these things work. The person posting needs to post to make money to be able to do the donations you see them posting about. Without posting they don’t have money and without money they have no way to donate. Most creators who are genuinely good that post started small and worked up to being able to donate a lot because of how much their videos generate. I’m sure they take some of the money yeah cause it’s their full jobs at this point but they donate so much more than they possibly could with a normal job and no videos.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
The obsession with celebrities.Top-level commentCited in: Celebrity obsession
This!! The obsession with red carpet events, and who is talking to who, or where they went for vacation. The fact that people actually care about any of that is wild to me.ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
Dog breeding. We make inbred animals that can’t breathe or move or reproduce properly because we think they’re cute.Top-level commentCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes
People making everything a Doodle that shouldn't be Doodled... no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog especially if you don't bother taking care of their coat! Great now you have a very tangled, anxious dog 🤦🏾‍♀️ReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes; Doodle crosses, grooming, and allergy claims
the most unforgivable part for me... they're not even cute! It looks like a monstrous deformity.ReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes
Dude I hate those fucking -oodle dogs. And it's always the most insufferable families that own themReplyCited in: Doodle crosses, grooming, and allergy claims
About ten years ago, I spoke to the president of the French Bulldog club (United States) and told her how dangerous it is to breed dogs that can not whelp naturally! As a previous veterinary technician, it’s horrific to think that French Bulldogs and English Bulldogs can only birth puppies via cesarean. I told her if they don’t try to change the breed standard, so many dogs are going to die in severe pain. Now, let’s talk about aesthetic ear cropping and tail docking.ReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes; Bulldog birth difficulty and cosmetic alteration
We do similar things with animals bred for other forms of exploitation. Like sheep who grow too much wool, chickens who lay too many eggs or grow too big, cows growing too large as well. There's a certain horror about imagining your own body down to your genetics not even being for you, but designed to maximize your exploitation by someone else. It's very very sad how most humans treat our fellow creatures of earthReplyCited in: Factory farming; Breeding dogs for harmful extremes; Production-animal breeding for extreme output
There's a guy on tik tok at the moment I'm New York in the heat filming his dog gasping for breath for content! Absolute joke!ReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes; Filming a heat-stressed dog for content; Filming life for an audience instead of living
the fast food industry in the united states. it's no longer cheap, the portion sizes are laughable and there's just absolutely no reason to get food at a chain anymore.Top-level commentCited in: US fast-food price and value decline
Right?!? Every now and then we will grab a couple "meals for two" from the mobile app at Jack in the Box as it's $25 to feed the lil fam. Which is obviously still ridiculous because I grew up in the days of .29¢ cheeseburger days at McD. And even then it's only because I just can't reasonably prepare a meal that night, or we're on a road trip. Last time we went to Carls it cost like $55 and two of us are small children!ReplyCited in: US fast-food price and value decline
Absolutely, it's ridiculous. Like why would I pay $15 for Mcdonalds when I can get an actual nice burger at a proper burger joint for only a couple bucks more. Or if I want to go cheap, for 5 bucks I can eat a hot dog and a giant slice of pizza at Costco.ReplyCited in: US fast-food price and value decline
I actually love this one! Because they have matched the prices of local restaurants without matching the quality! It also cuts down how often I eat fastfood, which I love. I can spend $30 for hot garbage at McDonald's OR I can walk down to the local burger shop on the corner and spend $35 for the best burger I have ever had in my life, made from local ingredients, *and* a local beer.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; US fast-food price and value decline
A few years ago my husband and I went to Mr. Hero. For $40 we got two medium subs, split a large fry and got a breaded mushroom. Two entrees with sides, dessert and a tip was less at the local lunch joint. I was shocked.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants
The cost of everything these days. I bitched on Facebook about my electricty rates jumping up 35% on June 1st, and everyone jumped in and was like "why are you complaining that's the normal seasonal rate". Like okay, I'm glad you are comfortable paying 35% more for the same same thing.Top-level commentCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
That's exactly how they want us all to react so they can keep robbing us blind....ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
That is what they want. ComplianceReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
I agree but I’d file this under people defending corporations. Everyone seems like they’d rather stand up for a company’s bottom line than someone who is struggling.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases; Defending corporations over struggling consumers
people who put any images of their children on the internet. doubly worse if you’re an “influencer” or wanna be. people have to know deep down what’s most likely going on with those images if they… ping a certain type individualTop-level commentCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
My father lectures me about not letting him post my sons full face on social media.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
Have you tried explaining that people now use AI to create CSAM with images of actual children? I mean, if he's anything like mine, he won't understand or care, and will think you're sick for suggesting it 😭ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; AI-generated child sexual abuse from ordinary photos
Yup! I'm too woke apparently? And only sick people think like that. I told him even though his intentions are innocent, others might not be. "I'm stealing his joy and taking away a part of the grandparent experience."ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
Buy him a photo album. Analog. With pages. No screen...ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; Analog photo album as a private grandparent option
And soon, pictures of pictures appear on social media.ReplyCited in: Analog photo album as a private grandparent option
Bro, I hate celebrities and influencers who put their children in their content or products as their selling point, even if their channels are not family-oriented (and I have another type of hatred for those as well)ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
That's always kind of been one of mine. My ex was always big on posting pictures of our kids on social media but I'm not a big fan. They can't really agree to being blasted all over the Internet when they're little. Then again I don't understand why people want a lot of attention on social media anway.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
So many bathrooms in either offices or in public places have: touch free toilet flush, touch free soap dispenser, touch free running water, touch free hand dryers No way to get out the bathroom without touching the fucking door though, so if someone else didn't wash their hands, their germs are now on mine, despite all best efforts... Also, on a similar subject, in the past most bathroom doors in the UK had a colour _and_ a word such as 'available' to denote whether that stall is in use or not. Now, seems toilet designers rely only on green, or red which is fucking useless if you have colour vision difficulties. Just look like a prick trying to open someone else's door in motorway services...Top-level commentCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
The grocery store by my workplace has these foot handle things that you step on and pull the door open with your foot!ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit; Foot-operated door openers
My workplace installed those several years ago to every door, not just restrooms. Very helpful when your hands are full.ReplyCited in: Foot-operated door openers
Yeah. They used to have doorless toilets in quite a few motorway services (I mean into the whole area; they still had doors on the stalls). Offset walls like the world’s easiest maze so you couldn’t see in from outside but could also walk in and out without touching anything. That should be the standard for public toilets.ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit; Doorless offset public-restroom entry
Everything being recorded all the time. I'm not in school anymore, but I was always the class clown type. It was so strange getting home from school and checking social media to see videos of myself that I didn't know were being recorded. I was always worried that I would be scrolling on my phone and find out some video had blown up that I had no knowledge of or control over. After school, I was an Amazon driver, and I had the same fears that a Ring camera would catch me slipping on the ice or being jump-scared by a dog.Top-level commentCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Unexpected recording at school and doorbell cameras
People using AI as a friend, partner, doctor, or therapistTop-level commentCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
Hell, as their entire brain. People are now more rapidly becoming less capable of critical thought when they can pull up an app to do it for them. So many students aren't learning anything except learning to use AI. Source: I have AI-averse gen z kids in college who are appalled at how much their fellow classmates rely on AI for their "studies."ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; AI used as a substitute for critical thought
Its refreshing seeing someone saying this!! Feel like I've been taking crazy pills seeing how will people are to throw away their ability to think critically. We have some chronic users at my work that GPT absolutely everything.ReplyCited in: AI used as a substitute for critical thought
There’s certainly a wild level of variance in attitudes I must admit. As a member of Gen Z solidly in the “I can’t stand this AI crap and don’t wanna touch it with a ten foot pole” camp, there’s a solid crowd of people in my experience who will occasionally use it, some who think it’s the future, and some who are nigh dependent on it, and it seems to be regardless of age. I’m sure there are some age-related trends but I’ve seen people on all sides of the spectrum coming from just about all age groups. Certainly makes it easier to decide who I wanna hang around lol. I made it out of high school before any of this stuff was relevant and I made it out of college before the problem got really bad, it was still moreso in its “haha look at this thing generate garbage images and poorly constructed sentences” phase at the time. My heart goes out to all the teachers having to deal with this right nowReplyCited in: AI used as a substitute for critical thought
Giving piercings to toddlersTop-level commentCited in: Piercing toddlers
The fact that anything exists at all, messes with my headTop-level commentCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
Me all day every day whenever I look at anything and think about it too longReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
Right? Like I get the big bang theory and if that is true, then what the hell was there before and how did it get there? We'll likely never know and that freaks me out when I think about it. How did we get here and why?ReplyCited in: What preceded the Big Bang; The existential fact that anything exists
And people don't care enough to really think about it but the more you do the more disturbing it is lmao. Like was it just a black void of nothing? No existence at all? How did a small point with matter inside it develop? Where TF did energy or gas come from? How are we discussing this billions of years later on Reddit. I think about this daily lol.ReplyCited in: What preceded the Big Bang
When we meet on a cloud I'll be laughing out loud I'll be laughing with everyone I see Can't believe How strange it is to be anything at allReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I like to think of it this way: non existence was never an option. You can’t create something out of nothing. True nothingness is devoid of even potential, therefore, the fact we are here to look at it and talk about it means nothingness was never an option and existence in totality was always here. It doesn’t begin anywhere, it always was. That being said, we still live in a universe with a linear progression, I’m just suggesting that whatever field the big bang sprang from doesn’t have a cause like we usually think.ReplyCited in: Eternal-existence philosophical proposal; What preceded the Big Bang
I've thought about it every which way I can think of and I think the most logical explanation is that it does't.ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
I think it's like a mathematical structure. Everyone would agree once discovered, that it exists. But it isn't actually a physical thing and doesn't require anything to make it real, not even someone to discover it.ReplyCited in: Mathematical-structure view of existence; The existential fact that anything exists
Yeah this amazes me. By some cosmic coincidence I have to sit at a desk every damn day and make money to live. It could've gone a million other ways. But it's this.ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
The 40 hour work week.Top-level commentCited in: The 40-hour work week
Our government covering up for the Epstein class, our government staffed/ran with epsteins clients/associates, Joe Rogan platforming the Epstein class, our government doxing epsteins victims, etc.Top-level commentCited in: Epstein-association and government-coverup allegations
High heels. They fuck up your back, hurt your feet, can permanently deform you to the point of requiring surgery. I know someone who wore high heels through their twenties and needed bunion surgery before hitting 30. I hate that they're normalized as part of the expectation of formal dress, business professional, seen as grown up by teenagers, it's so bad for your bodyTop-level commentCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
I'm in my 30s and definitely remember wearing heels to go out and party, which was miserable. Last year, my boyfriend and I went to a homecoming game at his university, and the current frat members of his former frat invited any former members to their party. All of the girls were wearing sneakers. Like sure, they had the skimpy party dresses on and everything, but were in sneakers. I took so many stealthy photos of girls' feet to send to my friends being like "THE GIRLS TODAY DON'T HAVE TO SUFFER LIKE WE DID!!!"ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation; Sneakers replacing heels at college parties
People not reading. Less than half of all adults in the US have read a book of any kind in the last year.Top-level commentCited in: Adults not reading books
The fact that people just accept whatever they learned in TikTok or a podcast as The Truth and they are resistant to any factual information that refutes what they believe. We have become a world of ideologues, not thinkers.Top-level commentCited in: TikTok and podcast claims treated as truth
That young people don't hang out anymore, don't buy in actual shops anymore, have no social life anymore. Stores close down. Clubs close down. And things that seem positive at first glance hide a dark truth: alcohol consumption goes down, and the age of first sex goes up. These seem like good things but are they? It means that young people don't have a social life anymore. They are all glued to their phone screens, ordering stuff online, dating online, having parasocial relationships with influencers online, having friends online, having fights online. I find this deeply disturbing.Top-level commentCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
The death of "the third place"ReplyCited in: Loss of third places; Youth social life moving entirely online
Yeah it sucks but its not the teens faults really. With phones and social media doing anything in public or even slightly illegal can ruin a young person's entire life. 3rd spaces don't exist wages are smaller than ever and prices are higher than ever. Its just awfull for kids to existReplyCited in: Loss of third places; Youth social life moving entirely online; Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
Not just that, but “loitering” being a thing and a thing is also criminalized, doesn’t make hanging out in public any easier.ReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
In some countries car dependence is also a major issue. It means everything ends up too spread out and far away from everything else. Meaning teens who can't drive yet don't have many options.ReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
As a young person, I can tell you that this all is mainly because everything is so expensive nowadays. We don't go out shopping because the only option available is to try and find good deals online. We don't hangout in public because there's nowhere to go that doesn't cost a hundred dollars. The internet is the only place left that doesn't require money we don't have.ReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
Understand that back in the '90s, we didn't have these magic spaces that don't exist anymore, we had public parks. We had each other's houses. That was 99% of where we hung out. My friends and I used to go to a pedestrian bridge and just hang out there. There are plenty of places that are absolutely free to hang out in.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
And if you say anything about it they just okayboomer you. My neighnor's nearly 21 yr old granddaughter only leaves her bedroom to go to her college classes or to work or maybe the doctor. Otherwise she's in her dark room (curtains closed) playing video games. She only recently began driving. She was terrified. **She has to use gps to find her college which is about 3 miles away, otherwise she "doesn't know how to get there. She's been going to this school almost 2 years.** Every single thing she ever buys is online. You never see a big posse of her friend's coming over or her going to meet them. And the couple of times she's had friends over , they all have massive anxiety issues and said it's hard for them to speak to people face to face. Even the granddaughter I mentioned cannot look you in the eyes when she speaks. I told her about how my dad gave me only one driving lesson and I was driving at 15. How my friends - we were *always* together. She was like 'My social anxiety would be too bad for that.' And don't even get me started about how they use AI like it's the greatest best thing ever. And if you tell them or show them news articles about the destructive results of using AI and how very learned men like Bill Hates and Stephen Hawking issued a statement a couple years back warning people not to use AI because it's still not ready all you get is okayboomered. **They think we say things because they think we don't understand technology, not that we have wisdom about it.** Hell, a 26 year old *tried to explain Google to me as if I didn't know what it is.* I had to explain to him that i've been here since before Google and I've been using it since day one ...and that I know more about it than himReplyCited in: AI used as a substitute for critical thought; Generational anecdote about isolation, GPS, and AI; Youth social life moving entirely online
mass surveillanceTop-level commentCited in: CCTV and surveillance normalization
Drinking and driving.Top-level commentCited in: Drinking and driving normalization
Driving while high is also alarmingly commonReplyCited in: Drinking and driving normalization; Drug-impaired driving normalization
literally dude. the memeification of it isn’t helping either.ReplyCited in: Drug-impaired driving normalization
The way many of the younger generations readily accepts and even calls for rigid censorship, embrace and promote strict social and public control and think they are moving the world in the right direction.Top-level commentCited in: Young people supporting rigid censorship and control
Also how readily everyone just accepts the heavy censoring that’s necessary on platforms like Youtube or TikTok in order to not get demonetized. Whenever someone speaks up about a video using terms like unalive or something, they get a hundred people defending it by saying ”that’s just necessary for the algorithm”. Like fine, I get that but why have we just accepted it? Why aren’t more people being vocal about it instead of just defending it?ReplyCited in: Young people supporting rigid censorship and control; Algorithm-driven self-censorship language
That we're slowly being phased out of outright owning a lot of things.Top-level commentCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
That the young people today have to rely on dating apps, that social media has afforded them zero privacy to make the normal mistakes all young people make, that unrealistic beauty standards are the norm...I am so glad to be old now. I feel so sorry for the kids now.Top-level commentCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online; Dating-app dependence, privacy loss, and beauty pressure on youth
My brother met a woman at work that he has a crush on. Nothing I say can convince him to express any sort of interest because he thinks saying something would be weird. It's like expression has to be incidental. Or incredibly safe. Let's have a double blind opportunity to see how each feels! Oh, look we matched on Tinder! Phew! Glad that didn't go to waste!ReplyCited in: Dating-app dependence, privacy loss, and beauty pressure on youth; Fear of expressing romantic interest at work
Tbf hitting on someone at work is a precarious situation.ReplyCited in: Fear of expressing romantic interest at work
I hate “cringe content” - finding someone on the internet who’s doing something a bit weird to the average person and just taking the piss out of them for it. A couple months ago my housemates were watching some YouTube video making fun of some improv acting group on TikTok - they looked a bit nerdy and weren’t amazing actors but they were clearly just doing it for fun. My housemates were constantly going “oh my god these guys are awful this is so embarrassing” etc etc. I found it repulsive and just plain bullying and they genuinely couldn’t understand whyTop-level commentCited in: Cringe content as bullying
Same, and not just for ordinary people either. Anything culturally a bit different is "cringe". Band tries a new style of music? Cringe. Result is nobody tries to do anything creative and everything just becomes bland and boring.ReplyCited in: Cringe content as bullying
factory farmingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Exactly...and animal testing too, especially for cosmetic productsReplyCited in: Factory farming; Animal testing for cosmetics
I really hope for the future of humanity that people in a hundred years or whatever look back on how we treat animals that are destined to be eaten with abject horror. That and how much of our non-renewable resources we bury or burn like that stuff will always be available.ReplyCited in: Factory farming; Future judgment of animal treatment and resource waste
Any animal farming. Animals should not be abused as a resource, period.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
And over 95% of animal farming IS factory farming!!ReplyCited in: Factory farming
Bungee jumping, no because what if the cord snaps or isn’t properly secured.. gives me the heebeejeebiesTop-level commentCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
You’re right, the cord has to be stored properly with no dirt or debris because it can work into the weave and create microtearing. You have to absolutely trust the people who maintain the clips and rope and I don’t have that sort of hope inside of me anymore.ReplyCited in: Bungee-cord storage and maintenance risk; Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
I totally agree. I don't think I would ever seek out any thrill where I'm risking my life in exchange for some adrenaline.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
Guess you've never been dead inside. Brag much? (Absolute /s and /j) But genuinely some people would do anything to feel aliveReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Well even though you're joking my sincere response to that is that when I felt that dead inside I made a plan so that my outsides would match, and *that* sort of brought me an amount of relief and even excitement. But that seems like a slightly different thing than what we're getting at here. 😬 But truly I've always been able to notice the roses in order to smell them and the fruits in order to harvest them. I grew up relatively poor and often having to go without so I learned how to take inventory constantly and count all of the chickens that I have and it seems like most people really fail to recognize how many little things surround you that could bring you some kind of enjoyment and even pleasure. You could decide that something was amusing to you or that you liked it and enjoyed its existence compared to the alternative of it simply not existing. You could spend your time looking for things to be grateful for or excited about and your brain will do the thing and give you the juice. But yeah if I'm on my way towards "numb and nothingness" I'll probably come to a conclusion that the only way out is through.ReplyCited in: Suicidal history and finding small sources of enjoyment
Like that woman who wasn't hooked up AT ALL and they literally threw her off the cliff 😣ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear; Bungee jump without an attachment incident
I know of a person who was zip lining in the tropics, very similar story.ReplyCited in: Zip-line safety incidents
A howler monkey jumped on my line the last time I went ziplining and I had to brake so the guide could come get me.ReplyCited in: Zip-line safety incidents; Wildlife interference on a zip line
know or knew?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Thinking about that video makes me nauseous.ReplyCited in: Bungee jump without an attachment incident
That isn’t even bungee jumping. It’s just jumping.ReplyCited in: Bungee jump without an attachment incident
I think it was just tossing. I accidentally saw the beginning of the video, it was terrifying.ReplyCited in: Bungee jump without an attachment incident
Couldn't pay me, for no amount of money would i jump off anything with a laggie band tied to my ankles. I'm properly afraid of heights aswell so you wouldn't even get me very far up the ladders tbh lol.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
I don't even like watching bungee jumping videos because I'm always scared they're gonna be pulled back up to high and hit the bridge or whatever they just jumped off of.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
The current political climateTop-level commentCited in: The current political climate
Americans are so desperate to pay their debts, that they will _never_ be revolutionaries again and instead, keep praying the world remains stable so they can keep the lights on by working two jobs.Top-level commentCited in: Debt and economic precarity suppressing political action
LobbyistsTop-level commentCited in: Lobbyist influence
We legalized bribery and allowed corporations to bend the law to their will and somehow it's a footnote on most people's problems with the government. It's like top 3 at worst.ReplyCited in: Lobbyist influence
generative AI use, and generally just relying more and more on things digital to see and experience the world through.Top-level commentCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Generative AI and digitally mediated experience
Honestly, religion. Especially when it’s weaponized as an excuse to harm or harass others. Not even trying to be all “oh it’s not real,” I just genuinely don’t understand how people can be so invested into a PERSONAL BELIEF that they feel the need to force it onto others. Especially when so many religions at least try to emphasize love for others and not being judgmental.Top-level commentCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
I like the classic: “My religion says I can’t…” “Okay great” “My religion says you can’t-“ “Fuck off”ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
I'm an atheist, raised Catholic. My brother just married a woman from a Hindu family and I couldn't be in their wedding ceremony because I was on my period that day. Casual religious misogyny excluded me from my only brother's wedding. I can't believe that people are still perpetuating these archaic nonsensical practices into the 21st century in the name of "tradition".ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others; Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
Wow... I think I'd be pissed at that family for the rest of my life.ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
Oh man, you have no idea. That's just scratching the surface of it... But whatever, it's his marriage and his in-laws, not mine. I love my brother and I'll be there for him no matter what, but I'm definitely keeping my distance from that drama.ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
How did they even find that out?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Her mother wanted me to wear a very light coloured sari and obviously I was worried about bleeding through because I was warned that the ceremony was like hours and hours long. This was my first Hindu wedding ever BTW, so I didn't know much about the practices going into it. Anyways I asked the mother when I was gonna have a window of time to go and change out my tampon during the ceremony and she was like "Oh no! You can't participate if you're on your period!" 🤷🏽‍♀️ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
That's some grade A bullshit right there. Fuck the MIL, it's not her wedding!ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
My new SIL is very sweet, but her family is pretty controlling. They dictated the whole wedding and there was a language barrier, so it was kinda difficult to talk things over. They didn't integrate any of my family's cultural traditions into the wedding. For example, the wedding was dry and the food was vegetarian only. Our family eats meat and drinks at all our weddings! I feel like if you have a cross-cultural wedding you should respect both sides of the family...ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony; Controlling in-laws and intercultural wedding pressure; One-sided cultural control at a cross-cultural wedding
I have never heard of this taboo and I’m Indian. As a bride’s cousin I had to go buy a pack of period pads for her while she was getting ready on the wedding day.ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
It could be because this family was very traditional? They are Tamil for what it's worth. Maybe there are different taboos among different ethnicities?ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
Everything…. I’m tired!Top-level commentCited in: General exhaustion with normalized life
People videoing in public and pointing the camera where other people are in it. Or even worse, people intentionally videoing or taking pictures of other people. It's fucking creepy and should be illegal.Top-level commentCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
InfluencersTop-level commentCited in: Influencer culture
Some people treat their pets like accessories or status symbols instead of a part of the family and just "rehome" them when the shine wears off.Top-level commentCited in: Pets treated as status accessories
How much pregnancy and childbirth destroys women's bodies. Others pressuring women to put their lives and health at risk because "it's what you're supposed to do". This is horror.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Yes! Thank you! It’s dangerous and it can be life threatening and I‘m so sick of the unborns life being valued over the pregnant persons! It’s fucked up! We don’t exists to pump out kids, I just want to exist independently of the potential of childbearing.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
" I just want to exist independently of the potential of childbearing." same :) I absolutely love kids but do not ever wish to give birth -- I currently don't want to care for kids either but have been looking into adoption in case that ever changes.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Also, religious folks claiming that God wants them to pop out as many kids as possible.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized; Religious pressure to have many children
My sister in law is 6 months pregnant, due in November and has clots around her stomach and pelvis and has to take blood thinning shots everyday almost up until birth and up to 6 weeks postpartum. She said she has to stop 2 weeks before giving birth else it would thin her blood too much then shes at risk of haemorrhage but shes against having a caesarean so how do you know when you’ll go into labour? It’s really worrying us 😬ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized; High-risk pregnancy anticoagulation anxiety
I remember seeing a post about a younger mom talking about how much it destroyed her nerves and pelvic floor, and having issues peeing and such. And she was shocked when a bunch of older ladies around her were like, "Oh, you didn't know?" My mom had to start wearing pee pads in her mid 40s-50s.ReplyCited in: Postpartum pelvic-floor and bladder harm; Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Dumping taxpayer money into the military, blaming the poor and telling everyone there’s no moneyTop-level commentCited in: Military spending while poverty is blamed
It's not even just taxes and the military. The amount of money that is just tied up in corporate systems going back and forth doing either literally nothing, or actively making things worse on purpose is insane. Some anecdotal perspective: I used to be a technical support engineer for a major corporation. I supported the systems that we sold to customers. A business who bought our system would call me if they had problems and I would remotely connect and/or use available drawings and documents to help them track down and fix the issue, whether physical or in the software. I quit last year because the job was continuously changing to the point where I was directed specifically NOT to fix things that I knew how to fix because we had new (worse) systems we could sell to replace it instead. I was stressed and depressed because I could feel that I was literally just making the industry worse on purpose for money. That job paid me well, so I'm luckily able to surf on my savings and do part-time work that doesn't even pay my full bills for a little while at least. I got a job at a nearby coffee shop, and it is really nice actually feeling like I have a tangible, positive impact on people's day-to-day lives. One day I happened to see one of the shop's daily sales reports and did some math in my head and realized that the entire revenue of the shop was actually less than I used to be paid personally for one day of work. There are disclaimers on that, like the shop is small and only open for 7 hours, while my workdays were 10 hours, so mathematically it probably works out. It just struck me as remarkable that when I was living my life "right" by modern standards, I was taking a fuck ton of money to make an industry worse on purpose, and now that I am what most people would consider a "burn-out" or "loser", my actual impact on the community I live in is positive, if still pretty marginal.ReplyCited in: Military spending while poverty is blamed; Corporate incentives to replace repairable systems
There are a lot of jobs that are necessary or deeply appreciated that just don't make as much money as morally-suspect jobs, and it frustrates me to no end. The most difficult job I ever had was as a CNA in a nursing home, and those folks get paid essentially minimum wage. I now get paid 3x as much to do a way less stressful job, and while this job has a higher education threshold, I don't think being decent at this job is anywhere near as skilled as being a high-quality CNA.ReplyCited in: Corporate incentives to replace repairable systems; Socially valuable care work paid less than morally fraught work
BullyingTop-level commentCited in: Bullying across ages
Even worse when you realize adult bullies still exist. It doesn’t automatically end after high school.ReplyCited in: Bullying across ages
The fact that some people’s lives are valued much, much higher than others just because of where they were bornTop-level commentCited in: Lives valued differently by birthplace
Influencers. Just the idea behind them, the various ways they get money through corporate backing and/or people sending them money. I fucking hate it all so much. Human billboard as a life makes me uncomfortable.Top-level commentCited in: Influencer culture
Adding fingerprint to your phone... that bothers me sooooo bad. Like, your fingerprint is literally your identity and people just willingly put that into their phone. Who knows who can access that. Same with talk to text and voice/facial recognition. No freaking way.Top-level commentCited in: Biometric identifiers on phones
How crazy some sports fans can be. Watching it or witnessing it is insufferable and highly cringe.Top-level commentCited in: Extreme sports fandom
how blood and gore in film and games are more tolerated than nudity in the USTop-level commentCited in: Violence more tolerated than nudity in U.S. media
Cheating on your partner.Top-level commentCited in: Relationship infidelity
Plastic surgery. It used to be something that weird famous people did and then it was something most famous people did and now it’s something your own god damn family member/coworker/friend/neighbor is doing. I just hate it and I miss seeing real faces and bodies. It truly bums me out.Top-level commentCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
*Cosmetic* surgery. Plastic surgery on it's own refers to the repairing or restructuring of the body in general, which is typically done out of medical necessity. *Cosmetic* surgery is what you're thinking about, where people get body modifications just to feel better about themselves.ReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
CircumcisionTop-level commentCited in: Nonconsensual infant circumcision
Billionaires existingTop-level commentCited in: Extreme wealth concentration
Trillionaires existing.ReplyCited in: Extreme wealth concentration
Our school systemTop-level commentCited in: Problems in the U.S. school system
I.e. the US school system.ReplyCited in: Problems in the U.S. school system
Selective Corruption. People will be quick to call out politicians for this but then turn to corruption when it suits their needsTop-level commentCited in: Selective outrage about corruption
How teens get away being bullies because they’re young and ignorant. I do not feel i was ignorant when i was 12. I certainly was able to tell right from wrong. No one is pressuring anyone to be a bully and being young is not an excuse to be one.Top-level commentCited in: Bullying across ages; Youth used to excuse bullying
Ignorance. Not reading books. Not regularly reading the news.Top-level commentCited in: Not reading books or news
people that hunt for sport. something aint right with youTop-level commentCited in: Hunting animals for sport
Parents yelling at children. Or any adult yelling at a child really. I always felt like it was wrong......now as psychology student I finally understand why.Top-level commentCited in: Adults yelling at children
That we have a pedophile narcissist in the highest position of power in my country, actively trying to ensure he and others like him cannot be removed from said power.Top-level commentCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
It's really disturbing how many pedophiles there is out there. I used to think those "25 is too old" and men screaming about body count were raige baiting but it really isn't. Great deal of men want to fuck kids and trump made them bolder than ever so they crawling out of shadows like cockroaches.ReplyCited in: Pedophilia and the sexualization of young women; Unverified allegations about a current political leader
the idea that in order to be deserving of a home you have to be “working hard enough” wanting to, but refusing to give homeless people money because “they might do drugs”Top-level commentCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
How much people trust chiropractors. I’ve noticed that on Reddit people don’t seem to trust them which is great! But omg guys please avoid chiropractors like the plagueTop-level commentCited in: Chiropractic care trusted as routine medicine
Wish this was higher. They are NOT doctors and I wish people would stop acting like it’s routine care. My PCP told me to stay away from the chiropractor with my back issues. I have disc degeneration and they warned a chiropractor could make it worse.ReplyCited in: Chiropractic care trusted as routine medicine
I saw a clip on YouTube where someone with scoliosis had an "adjustment" and the implication was that with continued treatments, the chiropractor would be able to straighten the patients spine. Some of them even claim to cure asthma, ear infections, gastric issues....many do adjustments on newborn infants!!ReplyCited in: Chiropractic care trusted as routine medicine; Chiropractic cure claims and infant adjustment
Abusive brothers. I’ve told people before about how my brother would beat me as a child and how that’s affected me, only for them to respond with “that’s just what brothers do.”Top-level commentCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
To piggy back off this Feign family antagonism. You know that family that talks absolute SHIT about each other- even to each others face.... yeah you don't HAVE to do that. You could just... like be nice and be comfortable around family. In fact they're is a psychological strudy that shows people that grow up in such an environment still experience it as a subtle abuse, it can affect their ability to be and recieve genuine communication.ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal; Family antagonism dismissed as normal
family channels. your wasting your kids best years and putting them at risk of creeps way too early, and they can’t even control if they’re posted or not!Top-level commentCited in: Family channels exploiting children's privacy
Taking and posting thousands of photos of yourself If you walked into someone's home and every wall was nothing but selfies...you'd think they were deranged But if you put it online? Totally normal...right?Top-level commentCited in: Posting thousands of selfies
The constant idea that people have to "earn" their right to the most basic things, all the time.Top-level commentCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Loyalty to nation statesTop-level commentCited in: Loyalty to nation-states
eating disorders. we shame them when their symptoms are visible but encourage extremely bizarre dietary behavior and attitudes as a normTop-level commentCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
That you don't have to retake your driving test after a certain age.Top-level commentCited in: No age-based driving retests
Credit scoresTop-level commentCited in: Credit-score system
In corporate settings, using the word "resource" to refer to human beings.Top-level commentCited in: Calling workers resources
AI being everywhere, doing everything for people. fuck's sake in a few years nobody is going to be thinking for themselves anymore...Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Any version of religious or political violenceTop-level commentCited in: Religious or political violence
Consumer culture. We buy little comfort items and surround ourselves with plastic shit that's never going to biodegrade just so we don't have to feel the crushing weight of the capitalist machine grinding us to dust. Wealth culture. The way it's just an accepted standard that the pursuit of wealth is the best, most respectable path, regardless of how unsustainable capitalism is. People just want their life to be one of luxury, regardless of how legitimately harmful this society is to the planet and everything that lives on it (including us).Top-level commentCited in: Consumerism and wealth pursuit despite environmental harm
Preserving dead bodies and burying them; It's always creeped me outTop-level commentCited in: Embalming and burial of bodies
Dairy products. If you actually think about it, drinking breast milk from any animal is so weird.Top-level commentCited in: Drinking animal milk
people sharing too much personal information on the internetTop-level commentCited in: Oversharing personal information online
generative AI use, and generally just relying more and more on things digital to see and experience the world through.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking; Generative AI and digitally mediated experience
I’m regularly in the cosplay community, so: Furries. It’s weird, I’m not interacting with your fursona and the whole thing is entirely too close to beastiality for my comfort. There are several places I have to hide my feelings on this.Top-level commentCited in: Discomfort with furry fandom
Parents at kids sports. Just let them play and be kidsTop-level commentCited in: Parents overreacting at youth sports
Karen culture. Not the stereotypical Karen behavior, but the culture of mocking people by calling them Karens. Most times the videos start after the person was antagonized and angry. Other times it was just people protesting when the poster was doing something obviously controversial/illegal.Top-level commentCited in: The “Karen” label used to mock contextless conflict
Not sure I'd say it's secret but: Car centric infrastructure. We all just bluntly assume that getting around is a potentially deadly activity, even though this is objectively insane. Prior to the invention of the personal automobile the idea that you might just ***DIE*** on the way to work was unfathomable, and now it's literally the most common cause of unexpected death. What the actual fuck people.Top-level commentCited in: Car-centric infrastructure and road death
Kids on e-bikes without any training, safety programs. Free to ride the road with multiple passengers, slow down traffic, burden ER and no consequences.Top-level commentCited in: Children riding e-bikes without training
Having children just for the fuck of it (no pun intended)Top-level commentCited in: Having children without reflection
step family pornTop-level commentCited in: Stepfamily-themed pornography
the gatekeeping of healthcare of any kind for any reason whatsoeverTop-level commentCited in: Barriers to healthcare access
Fishing for any reason other than keeping the fish for food. I can’t vibe with someone who thinks an awesome Saturday is fishing and throwing them back. You want to spend your day yanking living creatures out of their world, ripping hooks out of their jaws, and throwing them back? That’s way more psychopathic than killing them immediately.Top-level commentCited in: Hunting animals for sport; Catch-and-release fishing
I never imagined the world would be so cool with mouth and chewing noises but people seem to fuckin love itTop-level commentCited in: Chewing and mouth sounds in media
Women having to shave their body hair…why do we have to make ourselves look like little girls to meet beauty standards? It’s creepy.Top-level commentCited in: Women expected to remove body hair
Weirdly, it's Russia.Top-level commentCited in: Fear or discomfort about Russia
Media influencers raising their children on camera. The parents are basically pimping their children out for income. I feel for their kids.Top-level commentCited in: Family channels exploiting children's privacy
Recording strangers in public and expecting everyone around them to become background characters in their content.Top-level commentCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Spanking/hitting/intimidating children or animals or any fear tactic sold in the form of discipline etc.Top-level commentCited in: Physical punishment and intimidation as discipline
The fact that people in tactical combat gear and covered faces and running around with guns under the cover of belonging to ICE.Top-level commentCited in: Masked armed immigration enforcement
Religious psychosis is everywhere but we treat it as normal.Top-level commentCited in: Religious beliefs pathologized as psychosis
Having a known felon, rapist, and pedophile sitting in the oval office.Top-level commentCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
Global warming.Top-level commentCited in: Climate-change normalization
People just share all their shit on the internet. The city they live in, where they work or go to school, their kids faces, their full names, etc. And they have things in their home that are listening to them all the time, tracking their every move, and people just don't give a shit. It's wild to me how many people have entirely given up their privacy without a second thought.Top-level commentCited in: Biometric identifiers on phones; Oversharing personal information online
I find that's mostly with influencers, and annoying people. Normal people respect workers and just try to record nothing of them but their own experiences, along with other people in those countries. People just like having documented versions of their memoriesReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Doesn’t matter, the person you’re filming doesn’t know thatReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
They're all subscribed to r/biohackingReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Delete this comment, don't give Nestle any ideas!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Our cultural obsession with thin-ness is so unhealthy!ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
Almost as bad as our cultural obsession with over consumption!ReplyCited in: Consumerism and wealth pursuit despite environmental harm
It's fucking stupid to do it, in the first place.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
I have a lot of camera fear. I live near so many beautiful and natural parks, lakes, trails, and more. But, I've seen so many people on local neighborhood watches posting pics and videos (demonizing people's style, weight, speech, color...etc) I just stay home 😩ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Selective recording, doxxing, and context collapse; Fear of being shamed by neighborhood camera posts
Or the amount of people who ask what my secret to staying thin is … it’s anorexia babes. I’m probably more unhealthy than the person asking me :) but what do ya say to em, ya know?ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued; Illness-related thinness praised as health; Eating-disorder thinness mistaken for health
You should just respond very seriously with “ohh yea it’s anorexia, it’s been great!”ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'm going through that myself. Always carried a little extra weight in the right places but was very happy with my body at 5'5 140-150. I felt solid, strong, and liked how I looked. I'm now 115 (and dropping) and the number of times that I've had to diplomatically describe my diet plan to family/friends/acquaintances as "extreme abdominal pain, chronic nausea, and vomiting" has been wild. Not to mention, while I've never lacked male attention, it has only increased in frequency and intensity as I've become smaller. I can't help but think about how perverse the beauty standards are that the "body of a woman whose doctors are considering a feeding tube" is the ideal. I've never felt more physically vulnerable, and I honestly can't spend much time thinking about why some folks might be hyper-attracted to/encouraging that look without triggering the aforementioned nausea.ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued; Illness-related thinness praised as health; Serious gastrointestinal illness weight loss praised
Holy shit are you me? I’m not quite that low in weight but it’s insane how many people think “wow you’re so thin!” Is a compliment. Like thanks, I literally am unable to function when I can’t eat and the constant nausea is making me borderline suicidal but wow thanks!! Glad you like my sick body!!ReplyCited in: Serious gastrointestinal illness weight loss praised
I’m sorry you’re going through that. I don’t see why someone who is so underweight would attract more attention. That seems like a bad sign.ReplyCited in: Serious gastrointestinal illness weight loss praised
100%. I have a friend who smokes cigarettes because it keeps his appetite low. Six pack doesn’t necessarily mean healthy. Sometimes it means eating disorderReplyCited in: Smoking to suppress appetite; Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
Overexercising can also be a component of an eating disorder.ReplyCited in: Compulsive exercise as an eating-disorder symptom; Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
LOLOL yeah, truly though those experimental supplement shops are going to be the end of the majority for certain.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The photos and videos in the establishment is free marketing and probably brings in a lot of customers, especially if it's in a tourist area. I doubt that the owner will do much.ReplyCited in: Influencer culture; Recording workers for content
The owner actually doesnt care about 'free marketing' but she doesnt usually say anything to people filming because shes not the one serving/being filmed.ReplyCited in: Recording workers for content
I saw a lady do this at a bookstore at the register. She said she needed video of the cashier scanning the books for her vlog. The cashier was not amused nor were the people waiting in line. It's gross.ReplyCited in: Recording workers for content
Yeah but it’s not fair on the workers or passersby that inadvertently end up in the videos. They have no idea what the videos will be used for, and while it’s “bad form” not to edit them out, for all they know the person in front of them is working on their Random Strangers Photo Album. They can’t be expected to trust that every single person wielding a camera will handle the footage responsibly.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording; Recording workers for content
Yeah exactly this. All these “health and fitness” influencers likely have EDs.ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
I have never seen influencers in the wild until I went to a cafe. I saw one women here, one women there, and then a women and her friend over there all recording TikToks. Don't people just want to order their food and drink, and eat?ReplyCited in: Influencer culture; Recording workers for content
Same, I live in a major city & have never once seen an influencer in the wild. I was even in NYC on Juneteenth and walked 8 miles all over midtown, including Central Park…not one influencer.ReplyCited in: Influencer culture
I saw one in the wild in Bermuda. Our hotel had a private beach club, and we became friends with the two couples on the chairs to each side of us, because we ALL realized we noticed them and had been observing with our partners. We were all completely captivated that we found one in the wild, and were on a joint mission to find this person on the gram IRL so we could see who they were and just add some context. It was simultaneously hilarious, and also incredibly awkward and odd. This woman was being filmed by some guy on an iPhone (boyfriend? Hired social media guy? Who knows) and she was moving around…almost like in a stop motion type animation type style. She would pose uncomfortably in the most figure flattering poses she could hold for as long as he could stand it and he snapped away. She got on the hammock and was handed a drink, and she held it and sort of…looked like she was sipping it, but wasn’t actually drinking it? The poses were so unnatural, too, watching her move like that and not actually enjoy the surroundings made her seem like I was literally observing wildlife. We ran into her later on in downtown Hamilton on the street doing the exact same thing. Anyway, since we were all elder millennials…we found her. She was not a major influencer with a crazy large following, nor was she a legitimate model. The whole thing was odd and made no sense to me. I couldn’t think of any actual kickback she was getting, as she didn’t seem hired to promote anything.ReplyCited in: Influencer culture
"Did you know you can exclusively eat red meat and lose weight?!" Yes, and die from bowel cancer at age 45.ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued; Extreme meat-only diet health claims
I’m so sorry. My ex didn’t move out for a year or so after filing for divorce. I was on edge for yearsReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress
How about Secretaries of Health?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
That's what really bothers me. I actually respect the ones who are open about juicing at this point. I know just enough about steroids to know I want nothing to do with them.ReplyCited in: Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
> It's so obvious who's natural and who isn't. I've been a gym rat for nearly a decade at this point. I've been questioned on whether or not I've taken gear, but I'm 100% natty and I personally don't understand why anyone would think otherwise. I don't look that big. I always take it as a compliment, but some people are really oblivious. That said, your point stands that for a lot of people on gear, it's *extremely* obvious.ReplyCited in: Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
For many it’s obvious, but for many others it’s really not. Plenty of people do sub-optimally on gear and wind up with a natural looking body on a lot less effort (but with significant detrimental health effects). Basically every dude over 35 on YouTube or TikTok for fitness is on some form of TRT.ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk; TRT and steroid use assumed from appearance; Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
BUt why stress someone out doing their job? It messes with peopkes flow and pace of work. Servers are already “ in the spotlight “ during their normal shift, why fuck with them?ReplyCited in: Recording workers for content
A policy at my place of work is that if you're not catagious you have to work.ReplyCited in: Workplace sick leave limited to contagious illness
Yes, I am a slim women size UK 4/6 my body size is the 'ideal healthy standard' or whatever. I joined a boxing group and the women who were sizes UK 14+ were soo much stronger, healthier (out of breath less) than me but others would make the assumption I was 'healthier'. Skinny doesn't = healthierReplyCited in: Thinness mistaken for fitness; Appearance mistaken for health
Yeah, I'm underweight and the amount of people who can't wrap their head around why I want to gain weight. I just want to not be tired all the time and to be able to carry more than one bag of shopping for the fives minutes it takes to walk home without stopping to put it down Hell, I would have been completely fucked trying to move house a few months ago without friends helping because all I could do was move small boxes and act as spotter/organiser for everyone elseReplyCited in: Underweight fatigue and functional weakness; Appearance mistaken for health
This is an issue in the medical community too. Definitely had my issues dismissed with a "you're young and healthy!" and been told I look great after losing weight due to a severe illness.ReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health; Illness-related thinness praised as health; Medical dismissal based on youth and appearance
When I was pregnant with my first child, my mom was suffering from cancer and I had to watch her fight the hardest fight of her life. I was the primary person taking care of her and watching what she went through, I literally had no appetite, so I didn't gain any weight. I kept getting told "you look so good" both during my pregnancy and after delivery, and all I could think was "yeah this is extremely unhealthy and nothing to be praised"ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during grief; Pregnancy and caregiver-grief weight loss praised; Illness-related thinness praised as health
Wow that's awful. I hope you had a safe and happy delivery! It amazes me that people can say this kind of stuff without realizing how insensitive it can be. If I had been dealing with as much stress and emotionally taxing caregiving as you on top of illness I probably would have taken it a lot worse. I've felt a lot better since gaining back to a healthier weight, I don't hear all the "positive" commentary like I did right after my illness but I have energy to actually do things again. Our society's image of a healthy person is really skewed.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and caregiver-grief weight loss praised
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Fuck those people. I hope you're doing well now OP 💗.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Absolutely agree. I’m a professional photographer, and make a point to do a round to check if any of the staff don’t want to be photographed so I can shoot around them. It’s a potential invasion of privacy, and it’s also just not your job to be on camera.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording; Recording workers for content
🫶🏼love you for that!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I think the key issue is consent and interaction! As an hobby photographer, I only take photos when there's an active interaction or permission. When done respectfully, some waiters even pose happily and ask for the photos to repost on their Instagram.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording; Recording workers for content
I had a grandma customer ask to take my photo because I was wearing a Strange Planet pin (she was wearing the shirt) and I said yes, she then asked if she could post it on instagram, I said yes. Consent 100% makes a difference.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
I watch YouTubers who visit other countries and they do it right, they politely ask if it's okay to record every time. If it isn't they frame it correctly, if they can't ask due to such a busy environment they blur everyone else. Stop subjecting people at their job to hostage like situations where they feel they can't say no cause it's their JOB and can't risk losing it.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording; Recording workers for content
I did that for 6th months and I’m on the other side in MY house sleeping soundly. You got this! 🫡❤️❤️❤️❤️ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress
My youngest son and his friends like to go to the gym and lift weights. There's one kid, who totally stands out, he's way beefier than the others. It's pretty obvious he's taking something(s). I had to have a serious chat with my son about it. I'm sure most of it is not good for him, and being that insecure about looks is another kind of not good for him.ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk; Suspected youth performance-drug use; Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
So his body will just get bloated with too much estrogen?ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk
Yes, and he could have breast growth, his head hair will grow back, the rest of his body hair will thin out, and bye-bye sex life. Not just drive, but LIFE.ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk
This is for the most part true. I was swayed to getting on T when I was about 35, when in reality I was jsut fat and tired from my children. I didn’t wanna be on it anymore after getting on better shape after 6 years and didn’t want to rely on it. Got off while I was 40 and my endo put me on clomid for a couple months to get my levels back. Fortunately, it came back decently and I sit around 400 now, not bad but not great. If I have to get on it later in life so be it, but for now at least I’m off.ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk; Stopping testosterone under endocrinology care
You can be ripped and lean and have all manner of diseases and conditions that aren't immediately apparent. And many are generally symptomless, like type 2 diabetes or hypertension.ReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health
This is exactly what freaks me out. people have normalized turning strangers into background characters for their content. You’re just trying to do your job, and suddenly your face, voice, and workplace can be posted to thousands of people without you ever agreeing to it. The fact that everyone treats that as harmless is deeply disturbing.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Recording workers for content
I have no idea how people mistake that for healthy weight loss. I recently came across a picture of myself when I was starving, didn’t have food. My BMI was in the healthy range I’m sure, but I didn’t look a fit thin. I looked *gaunt*ReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health; Illness-related thinness praised as health; Food-insecurity weight loss mistaken for health
Doesn't matter. The legal precedent in the US for filming "in public" is very clear - it means in public. A restaurant is not a public place. It is a privately owned space.ReplyCited in: Filming rules on private business property; Recording workers for content
Okay then if the manager or owner has a problem with it then they should kick them out. SimpleReplyCited in: Filming rules on private business property
I can see people wanting a record of care if they’ve been treated poorly in the past.ReplyCited in: Recording patients and healthcare; Recording medical care after prior mistreatment
Incorrect. I consider myself a healthy alcoholic.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I have a chronic illness. The comments I have gotten for just going out occasionally are infuriating. People think I'm not sick because occasionally I can do stuff. People think chronic illness means never getting out of bed, I swear.ReplyCited in: Functioning mistaken for health; Chronic illness disbelieved after visible activity
Should talk to your management, maybe they can make it a rule on the premises.ReplyCited in: No-recording signs for staff protection
I’m interested who watches that stuff later after they get back home.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
When I record something, it's usually not to share it with the world, but just because it's something I find cool and exciting. The kind of stuff you share with family and friends. People who film 24/7 are something I don't understand.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
I almost lost my job for putting up a middle finger while someone was recording incredibly close to my face. My boss said they complained and got it on video. And i said “ok so you saw it. Were they too close to me or no?” Made my point heheReplyCited in: Recording workers for content; Worker disciplined after reacting to intrusive filming
I'm sorry you're stuck in that situation. I went through a separation that took a while too and was also so stressed that I stopped eating and was losing weight. I was more blunt about it though when people tried to compliment me about it if they knew full well what the hell I was going through at the time. My ex mother-in-law even had the audacity to act surprised when she asked why I didn't look well and I said, "Gee, I dunno, maybe because my relationship of 14 years is ending but I'm stuck here trying to help my disabled stepson after his mom died suddenly. What in the world makes you think I'm okay?" The whole situation finally made me realise how shallow and superficial my ex's family was. They were too busy huffing their own farts to really notice or care about others. It made it easier to cut ties and leave at least.ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress
Unless they get consent from them but yeah the eating (so catharthic) ig reels i watch have them all edited out too XDReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
Yep same!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I don't really get this one. What do you mean?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Mentally unwell, while being a productive member of societyReplyCited in: Mental-health functioning and neurodivergence
A typical example is a functioning alcoholic. They look fine externally, having a normal job, social life and overall healthy but they are damaging their body and mental health through heavy alcohol consumption. This can work with a lot of other things, other addictions like smoking or coffee, mental health like depression, physical health (some people don't gain weight even when eating unhealthy and wrongly assume they are healthy), etc.ReplyCited in: Functioning mistaken for health; Functional alcohol dependence
Body doesn't hurt, at a normal weight for your height so you must be healthy. Doesn't work like that. If all you eat is junkfood then you're probably nutritionally deficient even if you're at a healthy weightReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health
Greetings from someone with chronic, INTERNAL issues. "But you look fine!" Well if you could see my brain we'd probably not be talking.ReplyCited in: Chronic illness disbelieved after visible activity
But did the vacation really happen if you didn’t receive any likes?!!!??! 😩ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Was it even worth going if you cant brag about it to everyone you know?! 😒ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
My dad says this to me all the time, and I always snap back. I took photography all 4 years in high school (manual, developed my film, darkroom printing, the whole thing), so I genuinely ENJOY capturing photographs. Both my children were very wanted IVF babies after dealing with infertility. I take 10,00 pictures of them on vacation (but I also put my phone DOWN and interact with them as well; the snaps don’t take long), I just love looking back on them growing up. It goes fast. What he doesn’t get, though, is that I don’t post what I post for others; I post them myself, and I’m taking them for myself. Not much actually makes it to my social media at all. As my kids grow older, if they don’t wish to be photographed, I will of course respect their wishes. Every kid feels that way at some point, I think. It’s not for others though, it’s for me. And if the subject of my photography expresses discomfort, I will fully embrace respecting that. I am raising kids who will become self sufficient, independent adults one day. They aren’t extensions of myself, they are themselves. Until then, though, I treasure the photos. They are the most awesome things I’ve ever seen, and I’m in awe that they’re here.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Private family photography with child consent; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
You never know who is just trying to get their thru day at work in a customer service job while having an active restraining order against a violent ex...when all of a sudden some broccoli top just has to document their fajitas being brought to the table.ReplyCited in: Recording workers for content; Filming workers can expose domestic-violence survivors
Certain cartoons freak me out. Rockos modern life, just super weird.. that gramot? Gromet? Clay looking animation, freaky. Beavis and butthead used to, but not so much anymore.. ive never met anyone else who gets freaked out by certain cartoons, but idkReplyCited in: Unease with particular animation styles
I DETEST squiggle vision animation so I get it.ReplyCited in: Unease with particular animation styles
Just out of curiosity, do you mean, people recoding you while you do street photography? Or not? Street photography in and of itself, is the same thing. Taking photos of people without their permission, in a public space. Yes it's legal, but if you wouldn't want it done to you, don't do it to others. (This is from a fellow photographer, who absolutely won't do street photography for this reason, and o ly shoots people with full enthusiastic consent)ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Street-photography consent ethics
I mean as someone who has done street photography, I am familiar with the etiquette of when and how go take pictures in public spaces without being a nuisance, making people feel uncomfortable. That kind of skill is dead with people who take videos in public. They are awful and they should feel like losers. If you can't tell the difference, I wouldn't consider you a photographer. I have never felt uncomfortable around a normal street photographer. I have never sat and wondered if I was in one of their photos or what I may have been doing. Influencers who are just walking around clueless with their cameras on a whole different beast. People who walk around with the phones up pointng them in different directions make me uncomfortable.ReplyCited in: Street-photography consent ethics
Are you just "curious" or trying to gotcha to that comment? Go eff offReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Just because someone looks like they're coping doesn't mean they're actually okay.ReplyCited in: Functioning mistaken for health
Yep. I’m pretty small, and people assume that means I’m in shape/healthy. I’ve had girl friends ask me what I do to stay that way. The real answer is a bad eating routine, lack of sleep, and monster level anxiety that hits about twice a month for a few days and wipes my appetite completely. But sure, size equals health… I have many friends larger than me that would absolutely lap me on any physical exercise. For what it’s worth, I am working to improve these things! It’s just annoying everyone sees being skinny as some sort of win and makes assumptions about it as though because I can function and I’m small I just know some secret answer they can aspire to. Like, no, I have an autoimmune disease and crap my brains out a few times a month minimum, it’s not the same as being healthy but thanks.ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued; Appearance mistaken for health; Thinness caused by poor sleep, anxiety, and chronic illness
Similarly, people assume that being able to function at any level means being fully functional, having the same ability and opportunities as everyone around them, and blame people who have to give their all just to function at a bare-minimum level for "being lazy" because of it.ReplyCited in: Minimal functioning mistaken for full capacity; Functioning mistaken for health
Thank you for saying this. I have always been fit and people don’t know it’s due to chronic disordered eating and body dysmorphia that I’ve been battling since I was a teenager. It’s had a lot of control over my life. Because it’s socially acceptable and idealized to some extent, it’s been harder to break as I experienced social approval early on so when I think of doing something else it’s like an identity thing that feels like a threat to my system, making it really hard to undo or stop responding to, if that makes sense. It also becomes a load bearing coping skill when life feels out of control I guess, so in the past I’d rearrange my life around fitting in workouts otherwise I feel awful inside. Years of overriding my body’s rest signals shut my nervous system down and gave me arthritis too early. it’s a really insidious thing I think goes under the radar. On the other hand I do enjoy movement and a healthy lifestyle, I just don’t know most people know how much of a burden it is looking at me, they just see something impressive.ReplyCited in: Compulsive exercise as an eating-disorder symptom; Compulsive exercise and disordered eating hidden by fitness; Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
I feel this deeply. I'm rail thin, my body is tight and I run competitively; however, I run so much because it's the only thing that gets me to not feel depressed or anxious. I bumped up my runs over time from 3 miles to 13 miles because it's more time where I can bask in escapism. I also eat like trash to try and get enough calories in my body because I generally avoid eating when stressed.ReplyCited in: Compulsive exercise and disordered eating hidden by fitness
oh this one, because my body is perfectly fit, however my eating habits are crazy. So, imagine the guru’s? Ive got first hand experience!ReplyCited in: Appearance mistaken for health
There's actually some truth to this. Numerous studies predicting mortality show that being able to stand up without aid from your limbs is a predictor for xyz longevity. BMI / fat % is a predictor for mortality and longevity.ReplyCited in: Physical-function tests and body size as mortality predictors; Appearance mistaken for health
I just video the empty dishes after I’m finished. I won’t forget what the food looked like but, wow, the aftermath. Gotta gram that shitReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Same with plastic surgery. Some people buy the 'perfect' body.ReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization; Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
I had necrotic pancreatitis a few years ago, lost 10kg in a week and 20kg all up. Had a few people I suspect wished for organ failure cos what efficient weight loss! /sReplyCited in: Organ-failure weight loss praised; Illness-related thinness praised as health
I got the same thing. My dad died this past February and I lost weight due to grief. Everyone said I looked great 🤦‍♀️ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during grief
Last year I was diagnosed with cancer for the second time. Treatments caused me to lose 50+ pounds. I didn't share on social media and work with around 300 people who keep telling me how great I look. But Ive had such pain and horrible side effects including a TIA (mini-stroke). I'm about to undergo surgery then additional treatment which will probably cause more weight loss. And I just want to feel normal and be healthy.ReplyCited in: Cancer-treatment weight-loss compliments
They could but then the tourists (sometimes they're the top-priority customers) can choose not to go to their establishmentsReplyCited in: Filming rules on private business property
Dicktim right there.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Dicktim? I barely know him!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
My company has a ban going into effect for employees wearing/bringing Meta glasses to work. Scheduled for September.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Workplace bans on smart glasses
Or just being on speaker in public. Extra wtf points if youre in an enclosed place like a subway or waiting room.ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
I suppose it’s that “a bit further” part that I still naively didn’t feel like I was going to experience *so* soon. That’s why the show was fascinating. It felt very close, but still at a somewhat safe distance.ReplyCited in: Technology catching up to Black Mirror
Omfg yes, I hate this so much. People even do it in the women’s restroom at work.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
How do they think that is ok?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Totally beats me, apparently they were born in a barn & raised by wolves lolReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Saw a video in my news feed yesterday of a woman sneaking up to a cashier and covertly tapping their credit card to pay for another woman's groceries. Then she walked away and waited by the door. Filming the lady's reaction the whole time. Someone else was recording them both and then the lady who's groceries were paid for started crying and then hugged the women. It was all set-up for internet clout to make the other women look like a hero. If you're going to do a good deed, go ahead, but don't record it and then post it to make you look like an amazing human being. It felt performative. There are similar videos of a handsome young man giving homeless people hundreds of dollars. The man is usually an influencer and often shirtless. The videos feel more like showing off their bodies for likes, then doing anything good for other people.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
Yea i hate that shit. Its one thing if someone else genuinly "catches" you doing something good. Its another if you specifically just do it and go out of your way to score goodboy internet points and jjst do shit you wouldnt do otherwise by setting an "im SUCH a good person arent I!" Trap... Big difference between "lmao watch me pay for this ladies groceries!!/ feed the homeless/ rescue this kitten" and "just watched some lady sneakily pay for someones groceries/ just saw someone do XYZ" (even then these days that second hand shit can be staged which is a shame...) Have some fucking integrity, do the right thing not because you will get praise or rewarded, but because you want to do something good. While your video has feel-good vibes or is "hope core", all it tells me/ makes me assume is that, should there be no cameras rolling, you wouldnt be doing shit or being good. More and more people want to be some fucking famous star or a paparazzi rather than an actionable member of society.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
There was a trend a few years ago in London, England (maybe elsewhere as well?) called the Blue Envelopes. It was a pay-it-forward random acts of kindness where people would leave blue envelopes full of cash or gift cards to unsuspecting people. My sister received one on her bicycle while she was out in a shop. Came back to find £100. She was grateful and didn't need the money, so she regifted it to someone else. Kind of like a hidden treasure hunt. Other examples include people leaving cash inside books at libraries (especially in target sections like parenting, finance, or self-help), tucking money into boxes of baby formula or diapers at grocery stores, or leaving sealed envelopes on park benches marked with phrases like "For whoever needs this today."ReplyCited in: Anonymous pay-it-forward giving; Filming good deeds for profit and views
I'm still upset about the "prescription model cure" episode they did where the couple had to pay more and more just so she didn't have to sleep all the time. And for exactly this reason, because I know it's actually not that farfetched...ReplyCited in: Technology catching up to Black Mirror; Subscription-model healthcare dystopia in fiction
I’m reminded of when cell phone manufacturers enacted an industry standard ~20y ago, requiring a loud, fake camera shutter sound to be made whenever a photo was taken, with or without a flash, to discourage perverts from taking creepshots of people. I knew this was just legal and and brand-goodwill CYA on their part, and that it wouldn’t be long at all before determined peeping toms would find ways to disable this camera sound with supposedly no on/off switch. I also knew it wouldn’t be long before minor and under-the-radar cell phone manufacturers would start quietly pandering to the niche demand for cell phones that are optimized *for* intrusions into others’ privacy.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Mandatory camera shutter sounds and covert recording
"I hate it when people make me feel stupid" "I hate having to acknowledge that someone from another country might actually be smarter than me"ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal
I’m glad I’m not alone feeling really put off by their behavior.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The conductor on the train I just got off speaks *six*, they'd have a fucking heart attack.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal
That shit is creepy as fuck, not even counting how easy it is for app permissions and other things to make that media available to... whomever really wants it for whatever reason.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Saw a post on reddit the other day about a woman who went through an entire gyno exam only to realize at the very end that the doctor had been wearing meta glasses the whole time. Seriously, what the fuck.ReplyCited in: Recording patients and healthcare; Smart glasses during intimate medical exams; Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I refuse to interact with them until they're removed. I dont give a shit if your little red light is on or not. If I see anyone in a bar wearing them I walk right back out too. Im so over all of this.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Seriously. Frickin’ Eye of Sauron vibes, I tellsya.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Big Br👁️ther is Watching.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Totally! Also, insane self obsession to automatically think theyre talking about them! (I mean, if he or she is behaving in a way for them *to* be talked about, sure.) Most people don't go around kooking at every single person sround them, just to find something to talk about. For the person thinking that, most likely, the people they are choosing to believe are "talking about them", haven't even noticed they exist! Ha!ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal
How do you say lol out loud though? I've heard people say lawl and I cringe everytime.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Ever chuckled incredulously?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I’ve used the same approach when I called out local “Mom’s for Liberty” women for harassing people. When they start recording me, I make sure to pose and ask “does your husband know you’re so interested in me?” That stops them fast. Although there is one video out there somewhere with me saying “Why does the Mom’s for Liberty care what’s in my pants? Are you the penis police?” Unless she deleted the recording after.ReplyCited in: Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
I work retail, I ignore customers who expect to be served while on a call.ReplyCited in: Split-attention phone conversations during service
I wish everyone in retail would do thatReplyCited in: Split-attention phone conversations during service
Most of the time I would agree with you. But I recently had an ATV accident that landed me in the hospital for two months. When I got out I was weak, on many meds, and definitely couldn't go to the store. My lovely husband would go to the store for me and get the stuff I need but he didn't want to mess up and get the wrong stuff. Especially because when I had my TBI it screwed up my tastebuds so there was only certain things I could eat. So he would video call me when at the area to ensure he was getting the right stuff. But only under those extreme circumstances and he never filmed anyone else. Only a few seconds to ensure it was right then he would switch the video back off and go to regular call until he got to the next section. It was a lifesaver honestly. But filming others while shopping? What's the point?ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Brief video calls as accessibility support
Those glasses should be outlawed. i don't care how much they lobby against it. It should be like a Google lens, obvious you're carrying a camera around.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Supposedly Apple plans to come out with their own version soon as well as a “pendant” and AirPods with a camera. It’s going to get worse before it gets better.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Predicted camera AirPods and pendants
It is time for someone to start selling invisibility cloaks. Because fuck that, seriously.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Yeah, we've had teens and college students using those glasses come into our workplace and record themselves harassing employees for "pranks" to post on TikTok. And it's never even normal "pranks"... it's just them being incredibly rude and/or making gross, inappropriate sexual remarks to get a reaction. So basically, just being a creep. Cool... you literally just sexually harassed a cashier who is still a legal minor. What a great "prank." /s *\*\*Eyerolls\*\**ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Recording workers for content; Smart glasses used to harass workers for pranks
I had the same thing happen where I work. I grabbed a manager and let him deal with it when I noticed the glasses. I don't use tiktok but I now have to live with the fact that there's probably some video floating around online with me in it and a comment section full of people making fun of me. It's so annoying.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses used to harass workers for pranks
I had people over at my house for D&D and was doing sound effects for the various monsters, trying to set the tone and not take myself too seriously doing it. Stopped doing that the third time one of the players whipped out his phone telling me to "do it again so I can record it".ReplyCited in: Recording chills play and spontaneity; Recording private karaoke without consent
Me too, and I’m not even doing anything weird or bad. I mean maybe I pick my nose without knowing but I just don’t like the idea of being watched!ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
The only unrealistic thing I ever saw in an episode of black mirror was an 80s jeep going above 70mph.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
If that's the episode I'm thinking of, that was happening inside of a virtual world, so it's forgivable.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
There is totally cases where they’re utilised sensibly, but even in those cases it’s galling that there isn’t clearer telegraphing of when an individual is recording built into the base level product.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I’ve seen really cool roller coaster POV videos shòt using Meta glasses, but that’s about the most useful thing so far.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Smart glasses for point-of-view sports video
They have the potential to be extremely helpful for those who are vision impaired. I saw a video where a blind person was wearing them and asked what money they were holding and the glasses told them. However, no recording feature is needed for that (no recording things to save rather). There is some potential for so much harm with the recording feature.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Smart glasses as accessibility tools for blind users
There’s a flashing light that tries to detect when it’s covered and stop you from recording if it is. The problem is it doesn’t do a very good job of that second part. And people figured out how to remove it entirely. Supposedly there’s a new update that helps but we’ll see.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
This happened a year and a half ago. They posted the video after they left my house. No reason to bring it up with them at this point. We’re not very close and I have no interest in hanging out with them.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
Start referring to them as perv glasses.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
That's exactly what gets me. The second a phone comes out, the person who started everything suddenly acts like they're the victim. Recording has become way too many people's first reaction instead of just acting like an adult.ReplyCited in: Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
Meta glasses I think are the scariest thing, it’s so dystopianReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I mean, it's both your house and a private space. You would have had every right to say something and kick them out if they didn't stop. Did you?ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I didn’t realize they were filming during karaoke. I was busy having fun with friends and singing karaoke. I found out later on when they posted the video they took online.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
Jeez you can't even go to the Post Office any more!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I had a neighbor take a video of me once. I waved at him and he put his camera down fast. No idea why he was recording me though. I don't understand people's constant need to film everything.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; A neighbor recording without explanation
Lol, i mean i was 20 when aol came out, social Media aint for everyone but mixed with smartphones, tearin society apart and makin ppl soooo entitled, esp driving. Ugh, and i see SOOOO many ppl textkn n drivin.ReplyCited in: Smartphones, social media, and distracted driving
What's funny is the first episode is of the British PM fucking a pig. Then it came out that before he was PM David Cameron fucked a pig...allegedly.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
They've turned wayfarers into a potential red flag.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I see wayfarers and now have to assume that person is on a list and not allowed near schools. If that's the vibe you're trying to put off, maybe meta glasses are for you.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Oh, you mean Pervert Glasses?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
school was hell for me, at least at home i was safe(r) ... if SM was a thing at the time i doubt ide still be alive TBQHReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording; Social media amplifying school bullying and suicide risk
They do this in hospitals to our nurses, techs, doctors, etc.ReplyCited in: Recording patients and healthcare; Recording workers for content; Patients filming healthcare workers
I've had so many people suggest I get these because of my blindness, and I absolutely refuse to. I have so many friends in my community who used these for accessibility reasons, and I find it so frustrating that so much of the blind community relies on exclusively technology these days.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses as accessibility tools for blind users
You can tell them to stop. It's your house/private property and they can quit ruining the vibe of the party or leave. I know someone who does this at our friend's football watching parties, but he definitely only puts them in the locked group page, so everybody has collectively agreed that we're okay with that.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent; Consent uncertainty around public recording
Alas, I didn’t realize they were filming until later when they posted the video.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
it was your house, nothing wrong with telling them "no"ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
> you dont have to record every second of your vacation!! Last time I went on a vacation, I took a lot of pictures, but at times reminded myself to enjoy the experience without being overly concerned with preserving it (and so only take pictures of the things I found especially remarkable).ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Private family photography with child consent
I would just start singing a Disney song as I dropped on their food, Disney loves a good cease and desist when people post stuff online, especially if they are monetizing it.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Bahahaha love it!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Is he a serial killer now? wtfReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
BeautifulReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I work a register, I've seen at least one meta pair worm while I'm working and it infuriates me, it's invasive.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Recording workers for content
Imagine thinking that you need Meta glasses to record covertly.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I saw a company selling a scarf online (urban ghost? That or something close) that has a QR code on the fabric that makes a message pop up that says "stop recording me" or something to that effectReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Anti-camera clothing and QR messages
The "founding" of America (aka genocide) in a nutshell. Commit genocide, gaslight the victims for being pissed, then fool everyone into believing the victims are somehow the aggressors ~~and then make a cult out of it and ship in a bunch of slaves and repeat the process, except even more brazenly~~. (Yeah yeah other countries did it too and yeah they're just as bad)ReplyCited in: Colonization framed as violence followed by victim blaming; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
Thats sad, but valid another reason why walmart is the WORSTReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I agree Walmart is bad, but, what does any of this have to do with Walmart?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It knows what it didReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
LmaoReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I know someone who stepped down from a position at work partly because a new coworker said they were going to start bringing their meta glasses into work. Wasn't the only reason, mostly personal stuff involving stress, but didnt need that on top of it. Their bosses and coworkers are generally awesome.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Coworker camera glasses increasing workplace stress
“YOU HAVE NO EXPECTATION OF PRIVACY IN OUR WORKSPACE YOU KNOW THERE WAS A CAMERA AT THE TOOL BOOTH YOU DROVE THROUGH THIS MORNING AND YOU SEEM FINE WITH THAT” - what I imagine that coworker said solely based on the fact that he has the glassesReplyCited in: Coworker camera glasses increasing workplace stress
I'm really not a outgoing/coffeeshop/restaurant guy, and especially don't like places where youths go. I like my shit quiet and peaceful. I finally visited one when meeting a friend, and the amount of selfies, V-finger poses, duck lips and other cringy (to me) shit that was going on around me was astonishing. The amount of interaction everyone did through their phone instead of just you know, talking, was simply horrifying to me. I grew up in the 80-90 and know what's it like to be left alone and not be reachable 24/7 - these new generations are living a youth I would not be able to.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Phone-mediated socializing in cafés
I've said to someone in the past "Either talk to me or I'll leave and you can talk to them". I have no time for that.ReplyCited in: Split-attention phone conversations during service
While MAGA have their closeted panties in a twist over "men" in women's toilets Instagram is full of female influencers casually walking into said bathrooms with their pervert glasses merrily recording away.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Camera glasses in public restrooms
It's a private establishment. You can tell them to stop recording.ReplyCited in: Filming rules on private business property
But what if they have amnesia? /sReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Fucking odd behaviour.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Should have asked them to stop or leaveReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I also think about this all the time...ReplyCited in: Social media amplifying school bullying and suicide risk
As someone who graduated this year, I honestly felt like one of the only few genuine people in that building.ReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording; Performative school social life
Masks are already publicly acceptable.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
You can simply ask people not to film when they are in your own house.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I have thought/said this sooo many times. I feel so bad for these kids nowadays, and it is only going to get worse. It's crazy :\ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
There is a light that turns on when they record to indicate. There is a sensors over that light so if you cover it actually won’t let you record, if that helps anyReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I was slightly at loss for words when our "digital minister," who deals with tech and digital laws and such, proclaimed that meta glasses were fine as long as people didn't upload the videos or anything, and that we couldn't prohibit stuff just because we didn't like it.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; A government minister accepting camera glasses with upload limits
Wasn't that why Google Glasses failed? If that shit's acceptable now, I guess that they were ahead of their timeReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Google Glass failure and changing camera norms
I agree, it's weird. The are so many 'influencers' now that just record themselves doing mundane shit.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Influencer culture
I used to really enjoy dancing, just letting go to the music and energy in the moment... Now with all the icky sexy dancing for the camera and people just straight up filming the scene, I just can't! 🤢 I'm an introvert and shy both, so it makes me physically ill lolReplyCited in: Recording chills play and spontaneity; Public filming chilling social dancing
I miss when being in public didn't mean becoming unpaid background content.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
I work at a high school. They record every fight and it makes me so angry! Someone is getting hurt and they're just standing thereReplyCited in: Filming medical emergencies for content; Students recording fights instead of helping
I don’t want to be filmed because I’m not cool with being unpaid labor for a fuckass content creator. Whether in the background or as the focus - if you make money on content and I’m in visibly identifiable in your video you owe me for using my likeness without my consent. At least tv blurs the public 🥴 Idk how to make them stop unless we just truly start making them uncomfortable And then you’re on their level so I’m not sure if that’s helping😂ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Commercial use of bystanders' likeness without consent
meta even want to sell those creepy glasses that can do filming. Like it’s the biggest red flag of modern history, and like now people wearing them can just do the most creepy thing like filming in a toilet without getting noticedReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Camera glasses in public restrooms
Yea people don't live anymore, it's all a way to boast about the illusion of a cool life. &nbsp; We'll have to come up with cave trails or walks under the moonlight, that way everybody knows if you take a photo.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
Or choosing to do so in emergency situations rather than calling 911 or trying to help.ReplyCited in: Filming medical emergencies for content; Recording emergencies instead of calling for help
> You don’t need to record videos of other people in public to shame them on social media. Ah, but you see, that's a power they have, so they WILL abuse it.ReplyCited in: Selective recording, doxxing, and context collapse
Omg especially the latter. I don’t care how socially unacceptable the behavior is, nobody should be recorded and uploaded without their consentReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Because of fucking phones, gym etiquette has totally gone out the window now. People just sit on the goddamn machines and stare at their phones. DO your set and GET OFF.ReplyCited in: Phone use while occupying gym equipment
Post: "LOOK AT ME, I'M HAVING FUN!" You'd actually HAVE fun if you put your damn phone down.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
Recently I was out with my girlfriend and two homeless people started fighting. A group of high school aged boys ran over from down the street to film it. I made some comment as we walked by and one of them said “I’m recording for my safety”. Yeah, that’s why you ran here, for your “safety”.ReplyCited in: Students recording fights instead of helping; Bystanders running to film a street fight
If recording in gym locker rooms isn’t illegal, it should be. What an unbelievable invasion of privacy and to do it to shame people on social media? Anyone who would do that is a monster that legit should be charged with voyeurism or something idk IANALReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Recording in gym locker rooms
Agree completely, and hope so much that spy glasses / social media goggles or whatever they are called do not catch on. I miss having some modicum of privacy.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
A few weeks ago there was a minor car crash along my commute, basically just a fender bender, but the police had cordoned off the area and were talking with the two parties. The number of people literally leaning out of their car windows to film a scratched car door, a bumped fender and two people calmly talking with a police officer was outright disturbing.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Spectators filming minor car crashes
I belong to Planet Fitness, not exactly a high-quality or class gym. One day I found a girl in the women's locker room who had set up a ring light and was recording herself singing pop songs. Like... why? Do you not have a home? Did you spend your rent on that ring light? What is happening?ReplyCited in: Recording in gym locker rooms
If you earn enough of those points, they'll send you a hat that says "I'm a douchebag".ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Also to add on I hate that we've normalised the goodwill ones, where someone’s like 'yeah I'm giving you cash or bringing you customers so lets film it and show everyone so I can make way more back' I can think of a few where the outcome is great for the target, but, I can never bypass the oddity of secretly filming someone, hearing them out and then giving them benefits...ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
As a parent of small kids? Yes we do several times hah. If it was just me? Probably not lol.ReplyCited in: Private family photography with child consent
> You don’t need to record videos of other people in public to shame them on social media. For some reason people confuse "allowed to record" with "allowed to post online". Those are 2 completely different things.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; The distinction between recording and posting rights
> and gain imaginary social points I upvoted youReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'd personally add people filming kids in public and posting the footage online. I've seen so many clips of people filming children clearly without parent or guardian permission. I acknowledge that some clips are entertaining but it's completely inappropriate.ReplyCited in: Filming children in public without guardian consent; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
We could stop this if we came together. Businessess are NOT public spaces. Gyms, coffee shops, etc, could all declare it against the rules. The reason recording in public is allowed is because "expectation of privacy" is not guaranteed in PUBLIC. Businesses and such are not public and could just ban this behavior. People suck, but take it up with the location.ReplyCited in: Filming rules on private business property
I disagree, there should be a reasonable expectation of privacy in public. I.e. you shouldn't be allowed to just film strangers, just for the fun of it. Pretty sure the rule was put in place because a bystander happened to be on frame once in the background of a broadcast. But this is a distopia that actively attacks at us. Plus ya know the privatization of privacy. They managed to capitalize on a concept.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
Look, I deal with cockroaches for a living. And I've never once felt the need to film one and post it online for clout. If I can show that much restraint, so can you. Put the phone away in the locker room.ReplyCited in: Recording in gym locker rooms
Man I’d start drinking again if I knew one of these barsReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Went to a major fireworks festivle in Japan. Their opening salvo was more elaborate than any state-side finale I've ever seen. Anyway, I recorded the finale. It was pretty mind-blowing. My 6 year old daughter watched and rewatched the video dozens of times over the next year. She loved reliving it over and over and talking about it.ReplyCited in: Private family photography with child consent
People do this? I usually don't even have my location on, let alone shared with anyone.ReplyCited in: Continuous location sharing among friends and partners
I'm not GenZ and I dont do it, but I've heard that these people do it... like have specific apps on their phone and they can see where their BF/GF is at all times. Same with friends. It's why when the Instagram feature came out that shows your location they were kinda shocked by the pushback. The people pushing back were older and didn't even know it was so standard to do that.ReplyCited in: Continuous location sharing among friends and partners
It is disturbing how people are living through their phones versus actually being in the moment.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
Completely agree there's a big difference between recording in public and recording people in spaces where privacy is expected.ReplyCited in: A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
i got attacked on the street by some thug, and the piece of shit bystander next to me that saw, ran into the safety of her car, pulled out her phone and started recording it. guy ended up walking away. man i hope something happens to her one day and people just record too and dont do anything, post it on youtube for viewsReplyCited in: Recording emergencies instead of calling for help; A bystander filming an assault instead of helping
> You don’t need to record videos of other people in public to shame them on social media. Not when Peter Thiel gets his way you don't! Cameras! Cameras everywhere! He'll be in Argentina but rest assured, once the US is a surveillance state we'll all be better off.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Political fears of pervasive surveillance
I'm actually so heartened that this is the top comment. This means that more people don't think this is okay.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
It’s actually illegal in a lot of places to record video in a gym locker room.ReplyCited in: Recording in gym locker rooms
People choose what they are legally allowed to do (record in public) and their own personal agenda, whatever they wanna do, vs having decency, consideration and compassion for their fellow man living around them. We live a selfish society where the majority care too much more about themselves than they do others.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
the amount of people who film first and ask questions never is genuinely unsettlingReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
My question is who the fuck is watching these videos? People recording live events. Who the fuck is watching that video? Like put the device awayReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
Take some selfies so you can share them with friends and family if you want. Almost nobody wants to see some rando's workout set at a public gym or a blurry video of a concert.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
I can't imagine being at a concert and missing the enjoyment and experience of it it because I spent the whole thing recording it.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Recording entire concerts instead of experiencing them
Just want to say - at my hospital, this would not fly and they would be asked to put the phone down or leave.ReplyCited in: Patients filming healthcare workers
The idea of sharing my location with anyone except rescue teams when I am hiking freaks me out.ReplyCited in: Location sharing limited to rescue situations; Continuous location sharing among friends and partners
Unfortunately, I believe in the near future going out in public is essentially giving tacit permission to be filmed. Simply put, there are just too many cameras in the world for us not to be aware of this. That's not to say that this is a positive development but it is essentially just an inevitability at this current rate.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Public presence treated as tacit filming consent
> I do not have a right to privacy in a public space. I feel like this concept needs updating or better distinguishing. You don't have a right to privacy in a public space from the people who are physically there with you. I think you absolutely have (or should have) a right to privacy from *literally anyone in the world with a smartphone and an internet connection*, because that's who can see you when you're being filmed by some asshole for social media.ReplyCited in: A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
It’s just straight up invasive.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
i once gave someone's wife a fantastic view of my balls, since this dude thought it was a sensible idea to facetime her in the gyms locker room AND put the phone on the floor to have his hands freeReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; FaceTime in a gym locker room exposing nudity; Recording in gym locker rooms
Along the same vein - recording yourself doing something kind for unhoused people. You can do kind things without needing to exploit someone’s situation for likesReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
everyone's a documentarian now and nobody signed the release formReplyCited in: Commercial use of bystanders' likeness without consent
especially in some places, livestream happened everywhereReplyCited in: Influencer culture
Is this the US? I feel it's not the same everywhere. In my country you would be told to stop if you are in a public, shared space. Also people's faces is a big no no.ReplyCited in: Cross-country differences in public-filming norms; A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
Yes. Tons of people want to become influencers here or think they need to record/livestream everything. There are rules/laws against it in some businesses, but they often get ignored. People will bring ring lights and tripods to record/stream their workouts and act like everybody else is selfish if we walk through the area to get to our machines. They often hog the machines as well.ReplyCited in: Filming rules on private business property; Phone use while occupying gym equipment
My aunt had her phone out during my dad’s funeral and was recording the entire time. She even filmed inside my dad’s coffin. I honestly wanted to slap the phone out of her handReplyCited in: Recording at a wake instead of being present; Recording inside a coffin at a funeral
Eww. Why did she think that was appropriate?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
They don’t know they’re missing authentic moments and you can tell by how real they think blatantly fake reels areReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
Those people are the absolute worst and dumb as fuck. Laws always take some time to catch up with real life issues and technological advancement. We didn’t have GDPR and similar privacy laws a few years ago, does that mean how our data is handled should never be addressed? This idea that, since there is already CCTV, we shouldn’t complain about being filmed and recorded wherever we go by strangers, with ever more covert devices, just for them to upload the footage all over their social media channels is completely absurd. So, if they suddenly started putting metal detectors every ten steps outside my door, I shouldn’t complain because I already go through them at airports? When one person’s freedom infringes on another person’s, a line should be drawn.ReplyCited in: A reasonable expectation of privacy in public; Privacy law lagging behind covert-recording technology
I had lunch out a few days ago, which I rarely do, and the woman next to us was facetiming with a friend without using a headset. WTF. I don't want to listen to your conversation, lady.ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
This happened to us a few years ago: my 10-year-old son randomly belched so loudly that the conversation stopped and the guy turned to look at us just to see me laughing. He got up and walked away.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
jfc that's abhorrent. i'm sorry that happened to youReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
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My nephew works at a gym. He often has to tell dudes not to film or take selfies in the locker room. One time a guy set up a ring light.ReplyCited in: Recording in gym locker rooms
I was just at the zoo and saw an older lady live streaming while she walked around and looked at the animals, and I was just so perplexed as to why that was necessary.ReplyCited in: Livestreaming a zoo visit; Filming life for an audience instead of living
Spot onReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Posting your kids online for everyone to see.ReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
I've never seen anyone recording in a locker room or changing room. Surely that is illegal in most countries? Recording has gone out of control but I don't think it should be made illegal: just socially unacceptable in many settings. We should still be able to take a picture of short video when we visit some place we think is cool without feeling bad.. but not continual recording.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Short memory photos versus continuous recording; Private family photography with child consent
I have no problem with people taking a short video or taking photos of themselves as long as other people aren't in the picture. Most gyms do ban filming in locker rooms, but it keeps happening.ReplyCited in: Recording in gym locker rooms; Short memory photos versus continuous recording
I actually stopped going to music gigs because of how depressed I get that literally everyone is just standing with their phones out recording the stage. Like no we don't need 60,000 slightly different angles of the same shit, put your fucking phone away and enjoy the moment.ReplyCited in: Recording entire concerts instead of experiencing them
We had a birthday party for my 10-year-old in an indoor obstacle course with guided games. We had to tell 2 different kids to stop livestreaming amd put away their phones. 10-year-olds!ReplyCited in: Children livestreaming other children at parties; Filming children in public without guardian consent
I occasionally send my wife a selfie when I get into work. I feel weird as fuck in public taking a picture of myself, how these people can try and have social interactions with a screen between them is beyond me.ReplyCited in: Phone-mediated socializing in cafés
I had someone set up a whole tripod in front of the dumbbell rack last week and get mad at ME for walking through their shot.ReplyCited in: Phone use while occupying gym equipment
It messes with my head knowing I could end up online for just existing in public.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
Grabar videos en conciertos, durante tooodo el concierto. Qué haces? Como es posible que estes centrado?ReplyCited in: Recording entire concerts instead of experiencing them
Just wait for the obnoxious "no expectation of privacy in public" comments to roll in to justify the obnoxious behavior.ReplyCited in: A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
One million times this. Whenever I say that recording/posting a stranger on the internet without consent should be punishable by law, people look at me like I've got 3 eyes.ReplyCited in: The distinction between recording and posting rights
The older I've got the less I even take pictures or videos. I hate the pageantry of the IG perfect picture shit and I grew up with it (still never used it and hated it). I take pictures of my kids or when people ask but I get messaged by family for my kids holiday pictures in like, I didn't take any... I enjoyed the moment. Sorry. Not everything needs documented or recorded. I try for my kids when they grow up but damn, why we recording EVERYTHING? No one needs or wants that bullshit at best, it's extremely violating to criminal at worst. Put your damn phone down.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Private family photography with child consent
I went to a Safari recently (The Wilds in Ohio) and took 130 photos of wild animals and zero of humans. It was the first time in years I'd really felt like taking pictures.ReplyCited in: Short memory photos versus continuous recording
I will admit I do that if it's trips. However I broke my flip phone and can only use the front screen during a move two weeks ago. We're military and moving states but moving to my home state but a few hours from my family but my son's birthday and my anniversary happened during the visit to them before getting our house. It was such a breath of fresh air to be like 'oh can't take pictures' and not feel obligated or guilty. I'm enjoying the moment and still stress when I do cause everyone wants to see it but are too far. Buuuut that's life? People didn't have that before. We had Polaroids and such but those were not non-stop. I'm not recording and documenting everything. If I take pictures I want to want to take pictures and everyone is genuinely happy to not forced. The wild nature is beautiful and I enjoy getting a snapshot sometimes. Cotton candy sunset it's my favorite and I want to bottle it up. Recording hard have thunderstorms, hell yes. Pictures of kids proud of their accomplishments it getting awards hell yes. But not every thing and not every moment. Enjoy the moment not document it. You can share with communication later, it's what keeps humans tied! Story telling! Tell them how the kids reacted to Santa, tell them how they got jump scared at Halloween. Make it a whole ass fun event. Campfire stories are real.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Family pressure to document every moment
They DO NEED to mind their own businessReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Was just saying this the other day!! Like why can’t you just call??ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces
That one even makes sense to me, if you can show someone the different packages when you're not sure which ones you should get.ReplyCited in: Brief video calls as accessibility support
This feels like prime torches and pitchfork fodder. Start stirring up the locals.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Many years ago before YouTube was as big as it was now and people weren’t doing the mega influencing I was in a chemistry class and my chemistry teacher had an equation on the board and she was standing in front of the class. Somebody was going to take a picture of the board and she would’ve been in that photo and she straight up called him out which was awesome because she was so aware of how not cool that was that she was just going to get her photo taken without her consent right there in front of the class while she was teaching. She stopped it right then and there and it was so excellent. I’ve never forgotten.ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording; A teacher stopping an unconsented classroom photo; Recording workers for content
And most of it isn’t good content anyway…..ReplyCited in: Influencer culture
eh as someone who plays music at the pub this is the one thing that doesn't bother me. i pretty fully expect people that find me and mine entertaining to want to save it for posterity or spread the word about it. totally different from recording randos in public who are just existingReplyCited in: Short memory photos versus continuous recording; Performers expecting audience recordings
oh my god WHATReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Although I agree with you in general, the example you gave is actually one of the only ones in which it might be appropriate to do a video call. Pointing the phone at the dog treats and asking "This one - or that one".ReplyCited in: Brief video calls as accessibility support
The people who live aross from me have multiple cameras pointed at my house. Every time I walk out my front door I hear, “Hi. You are currently being recorded.”ReplyCited in: Neighbors recording children and property disputes; Neighbors' home cameras pointed at another house
Yea... I do rewatch my videos... I suffer from memory loss issues, so its nice to have videos of things I've done to look back on.ReplyCited in: Recordings as a memory aid; Private family photography with child consent
This is a good point.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It's not though really, pretty much every grocery store has free pickup for *as little as $25 and as much as $40 these days.ReplyCited in: Grocery pickup as an alternative to video shopping calls; Brief video calls as accessibility support
Didn’t realize they were filming until after they posted the video.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I didn’t realize they were filming until they posted the video.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
I buy CDs and I love listening to them at home and in my car. I have also ripped whatever I wanted to my phone and to a small pendrive (that protrudes only some 3 mm from the car's stereo front) for the moments that I want some random in my listening. Also different playlists (from the ripped songs) on my phone. I own my shit.ReplyCited in: Ripping owned CDs for portable personal use; Digital purchases without durable ownership
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Problem with automated systems is there is no "take us to court" option. Its "accept our terms" or "lose your account and everything associated with it, even though you paid for it".ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
I mean there absolutely is that option, we're all just too lazy to bother with it. Though in the case of Valve, that is exactly what happened. The legal system pushed back and that clause was removed.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
But it involves getting it to court, assuming you even have the resources to get it there, leaving you in limbo until you do. And if you accept the terms because you don't want to be unable to use the things you paid for, for the months it might take to get it in front of a judge, then they try the whole "but you agreed to forced arbitration" so it would be even longer before you can get it to court. Which is why these things should not be holding our devices and services at ransom, changing the terms of the sale after the sale.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition; Post-purchase terms holding access hostage; Digital purchases without durable ownership
Yup. My late partner had a ton of games on his Playstation plus account. I didn't even get a chance to renew it to keep it going. They just shut it down and I lost thousands in games. This included ones we paid for!ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; A digital game library lost after a partner's death
I mean, Nintendo's switch 2 carts are not games they're just download codes in a case. It's a key and they can change the locks or take the house away at any point. I don't understand why people are mad at Sony and not Nintendo.ReplyCited in: Physical game cards that only store license keys
> I mean, Nintendo's switch 2 carts are not games they're just download codes in a case. That isn't universally true. Switch 2 games are a mix of code-in-box, game keycards, and true physical game cartridges.ReplyCited in: Physical game cards that only store license keys
Ah I actually didn't know that; I was led to believe they were no true game cartriges. I'll have to find a list.ReplyCited in: Physical game cards that only store license keys
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Nice, thank you.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Nintendo also handled a lot of the recent shit storms better and their fan base is a bigger mix of family/kids and adult. When everyone raised their console prices this year by a significant amount, immediately. Nintendo did a $50 increase, that isn’t effective until September, and apologized for doing it. I know they can do this because they make enough exclusive games they can sell the switch essentially at cost and not hurt in a way Sony and Xbox can’t But I’d argue the average consumer doesn’t. So when people see “Sony raised their prices immediately, by more than $50, they’re removing the physical disc…. Man Nintendo is doing things that feel more consumer friendly. They gave me notice of a price increase, they apologized for needing to do it, I can still buy physical games… which means I can resell physical games…” it starts making more sense Not saying Nintendo doesn’t deserve criticism too - the key cards are not great. But they’re still better than nothing. If for no other reason than it gives Nintendo proof people still purchase games physically. Which means there’s still a market for them to make physical games.ReplyCited in: Nintendo versus Sony consumer practices; Physical game cards that only store license keys
They don't *just* sell those, though.ReplyCited in: Physical game cards that only store license keys
They get more and more expensive we pay more and dont even own it anymore.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
I don't, I pirate everything.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I pirate all movies and shows. It's not like I ever felt guilty about it, but at least now I feel justified.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
And computer software, and video games, certain features on certain vehicles... on and on, everything is a subscription service. Barring physical objects with no internet connectivity, you rarely own any of the things you buy now.ReplyCited in: Subscriptions replacing ownership across products; Digital purchases without durable ownership
This, my mom be taking pictures of random people in public including other peoples kids and doesn’t see any issue with itReplyCited in: Filming children in public without guardian consent
Eh, Apple doesn't have access to my external hard drive and my android phone. So long as the media isn't encoded in some proprietary format, it can be saved.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Saving nonproprietary media to independent storage
Yes but legally you still don’t own it. You can’t legally resell it or even bequeath it, unlike a CD or DVD collection.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Who gives a damn? so long as they don't make any new copies, its fine. These companies are just screwing people over with poorly done fine details just to get more money from them. they're just using loopholesReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
With how easy it is to ☠️ all those things, people are kind of chumps if they buy media digitally for something that they don't even own.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I recently got called a liar and told that I "lived in isolation" on Reddit for explaining that, no, we have not always lived like this. Speaking as a late millennial.ReplyCited in: Public presence treated as tacit filming consent
People with cameras in their livingrooms too.ReplyCited in: Indoor security cameras in living rooms
I've seen that a few times. Unless you are afraid somebody is stealing or something, why film your living room?ReplyCited in: Indoor security cameras in living rooms
I guarantee at best 95% of those people still have the basic login info on these cameras they plaster all around their homeReplyCited in: Indoor security cameras in living rooms; Default credentials on home cameras
I do videos sometimes, but i try not To capture strangers, cuz id be pissed if Randos recorded me so agreeReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
When I was teaching there was a woman making some kind of content at a PLAYGROUND\* where I’d taken my kids. I was absolutely that bitch and talked to her and then made sure the phone setup (it was on a tripod so static) was indeed not kid-focused. \*the playground was next to a landmark so like, coulda been weirder but stillReplyCited in: Content creation near a children's playground; Filming children in public without guardian consent
RIP Mario KartReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
So many old iOS games are unattainable unless you buy an old iPad from 2012 which is probably barely going to function anyway. Both the software and the hardware are designed to break after a certain point.ReplyCited in: Old mobile games lost to hardware and software obsolescence; Digital purchases without durable ownership
Piracy is why I don't mind the whole "digital license" thing. Yeah, it sucks, but there's an easy solution if a company fucks me over and takes away the thing I paid for.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Dude, you're burning your own CDs. WHY are you buying music from iTunes? Just wanna give apple money? You know there's other ways to get that music into a disc for free, right???ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Yet. I really do believe that Microsoft is only going to have a disc drive on their next console just to stick it to Sony. I'd bet that they were in talks to getting rid of physical, then Sony said their piece and they knew it would help them. That's coming from a long time xbox person. I don't trust them anymore lol.ReplyCited in: Physical game cards that only store license keys; Speculation about the next Xbox disc drive
> I really do believe that Microsoft is only going to have a disc drive on their next console just to stick it to Sony There'a basically zero chance they're doing that, already now a small minority of Xbox consoles have a drive.ReplyCited in: Speculation about the next Xbox disc drive
> You do have a choice - you don't use the service or you take the contract to court. No, most of those EULAs have arbitrartion clauses. In many countries you give up your right to a trial.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
In many places a "contract" you can only agree to after purchasing the thing in question isn't legally enforceable.ReplyCited in: Post-purchase terms holding access hostage
You do that BEFORE you sign it...ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
You don't own them when you buy them physical, either. The problem with digital is that the terms of service you agree to are enforceable. Rights for software ownership need reformed desperately.ReplyCited in: Software licenses even on physical media; Digital purchases without durable ownership
If buying isn't ownership, piracy isn't stealing ijsReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
This is why I don’t feel bad pirating something I’ve already boughtReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Much as this sucks, part of me feels vindicated for insisting on aquiring a Blu ray collection over the years. They can't tamper with those.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; A Blu-ray collection as a resilient personal library
We don't too on physical media. The difference is that when the license is revoked you can still use it (most of the time) as it is very hard to force you to return the disk... And blacklisting the disks would result in too much hate so they just don't.ReplyCited in: Software licenses even on physical media
drop the need and use either "You shouldn't" \* or "do not"ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Doing that instead of helping is the freakiest one.ReplyCited in: Recording emergencies instead of calling for help
This but also recording rants while driving. What you have to say isn't worth your life or the lives of others on the road. Pull over or wait until you get where you're going.ReplyCited in: Recording rants while driving; Smartphones, social media, and distracted driving
What about Smart Glasses?ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I dislike that they exist. They seem like a gross way to violate other people's privacy.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Agreed.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I went to a spa with my MIL yesterday. Where I live, spas typically have a rule that phones and photo taking/recording devices are not allowed in the perimeter, but this one didn’t. Almost dystopian to see people at a spa, glued to their phones and taking selfies instead of relaxing…ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Phones and selfies in spas
Human interaction reduced to nothing but data 🤦‍♂️ReplyCited in: Generative AI and digitally mediated experience; Human interaction reduced to data
Worst part is everyone starts performing for the camera instead of just being themselves.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
> You don’t need to capture videos in gym locker rooms This will get you kicked out of most gyms.ReplyCited in: Recording in gym locker rooms
You're in public, your always being filmed every where you go. Cars, houses, businesses, stop lights etc.ReplyCited in: Public presence treated as tacit filming consent
im super paranoid of phone cams because of that. photography lost its meaningReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording; Camera paranoia and loss of photography's meaning
Worse is that it desensitizes people even more because they are viewing the world through a secondary eye medium and not truly comprehending that what is happening right in front of them is real...ReplyCited in: Recording emergencies instead of calling for help; Screens desensitizing witnesses to real events
I saw about a month ago - I think it was Tim Tebow? - put out a recording of him feeding his old dog their last meal before putting him down. Tim was crying, but the whole thing also felt... I don't know, like it was knowingly being recorded? I wouldn't go as far as to say performative. I don't doubt that he was legitimately emotional. But holy shit, that is *not* something that needs to be shared with a wide world of strangers. And the fact that someone was either *told* to record or given the OK to record a moment like that, and then they watched it back and gave it the greenlight to be put out on a massive social media platform? Fucking surreal and deeply uncomfortable.ReplyCited in: Sharing a pet's final meal before euthanasia; Filming life for an audience instead of living
Leaving the house shouldn't mean consenting to be background footage for strangers.ReplyCited in: Public presence treated as tacit filming consent
The bathroom videos are so cringe.ReplyCited in: Camera glasses in public restrooms
Public shaming is quite effective in the right circumstancesReplyCited in: Public shaming as accountability; Selective recording, doxxing, and context collapse
Its actually illegal in my country for a reason... the only persons are doing it are american tourists... i had one situation, where the women was filming me after a bike ride with my nephew, where we were still wearing our helmets and were eating a ice creme. She was speaking some bullshit with europeans blah blah blah.. i told her to delete the video, as she refused and said it is just for instagram and i have no right to tell her to delete it so itold her to put a smiley over me and especially my nephews face. i got really angry when she refused and said its not a big deal... i started to threaten her to call the police and than other people around jumped in to support me... Why would you post videos of strangers including their faces??? let alone film them.ReplyCited in: Cross-country differences in public-filming norms; Filming children in public without guardian consent; A tourist filming a child despite local privacy law
In the enterprise software world, the phrase "buy a license" is extremely common and has been forever. "We bought 1000 licences, one for every employeee" or whatever. If the word "buy" can't be used for that anymore, I wonder what the replacement phrase would be. "We got 1000 licenses"? "We licenced 1000 employees"? "We licensed Adobe for 1000 employees"?ReplyCited in: Enterprise language for purchasing software licenses; Buy-versus-license wording for digital media
All my music is MP3 and saved on my MP3 player or desktop. I don't do Pandora or Spotify. I want my music, pay once forever, not just to pass it through at a monthly cost.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Locally stored music instead of streaming
Even when buying them on disc to be honest, since the first thing the console does when putting the disc, even on release day, is to download at least between 30 and 50GB of data whose absence renders the game unplayable.ReplyCited in: Physical game cards that only store license keys; Disc games requiring large release-day downloads
Wrong [link removed]ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Since digital storage is so expensive at the moment: mp3 is outdated and an .m4a or .opus file with ideally Opus compression or alternatively AAC, will either have a [higher quality at the same file size or a smaller file size at the same quality]([link removed] You can also listen to this [comparison between an uncompressed wave file, a 16 kb/s mp3 and a 16 kb/s opus file]([link removed]ReplyCited in: Opus and AAC efficiency versus MP3; Locally stored music instead of streaming
I still buy DVDs Blu-rays 4ks vinyls and paper books. I don't care if it makes me seem like an old person, I've seen too many saas go under and the Internet is barely even 30. Pirating everything doesn't even work, I own a ton of stuff you can't find on torrent sites.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
The only game I bought again was Resident Evil the Village, but I got a hard copy this time. Yeah, i refuse to repurchase everything else. We had some good games though.ReplyCited in: Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
Ong yes and also being on FaceTime in every public spaceReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces
I paid $10 to rent Obsession. Turns out, I was only allowed to watch it once. That's fucking insane. I should've been allowed to rewatch it a day later. But the moment I finished the movie, it disappeared from the library and required me to buy again.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership; A single-view digital movie rental
You dont own the games even when you buy the physical copies, since ps4 the disc havent actually contained the game but just a license to download it from the store. ps3 gen was the last one where you owned the game, now days physical copies are just collector items.ReplyCited in: Disc games requiring large release-day downloads
Bullshit [link removed]ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
First off, generally not true — most games play from disc, you'll just have more bugs without downloading the patches. There are extreme cases like Cyberpunk, where the version on the disc is nearly unplayable, but those are the exception, not the rule. Second, there are multiple facets of ownership. You may not physically have a playable copy of the game, but just having the license tied to a physical medium, gives you much greater ownership rights than an electronic license. For example, Sony doesn't like people lending their games to friends or selling them. With an electronic license, they're allowed to ban me from doing it, but with a physical medium, I am allowed to do it *as a matter of law* and it doesn't matter if Sony likes it or not. Of course, the proper remedy would be passing laws giving equivalent protections for electronic licenses, forcing publishers to remove DRM at and of support, and guaranteeing the right to create your own backups of the game files, not buying little plastic cylinders forever.ReplyCited in: Physical game media supporting lending, resale, and backups; Software licenses even on physical media; Disc games requiring large release-day downloads
Its a good move. Just not for consumers.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Eh there is always sailing the sea's if they pull some bullshit, and they know that so I doubt they will. I haven't paid for audible in years and can still listen to all my audiobooks on there. I pay for a bunch of streaming services for my mom, but it's also super easy to stream any movie or show you want for freeReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Pretty sure you could have made virtual cdsReplyCited in: Ripping owned CDs for portable personal use
I can’t hear a lick of difference between vinyl and cd and mp3. But I love having a shelf full of physical records that really mean something to me. I spend a lot of hours streaming too but both have their place.ReplyCited in: Physical records as meaningful objects alongside streaming; Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
I actually disagree with this take. I mean you're not wrong, but it shouldn't be this way. Too bad our lawmakers don't work for us.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Yup, they sold us on this lie that digital was better, more access to what we wanted when we wanted (same with tv/movies) and now, there are too many paid subscriptions and we own nothing. Like the fact that almost every online purchase has an option for me to break down the payment, so I owe them a monthly amount instead.ReplyCited in: Subscriptions replacing ownership across products; Digital access and buy-now-pay-later fragmentation
I bought my first iPod in 2006, loaded some CDs onto it, and thereafter bought music through iTunes. The company carrying the email address for the account just decided that my 15 year old account should be deleted. So now I have a file of all this music that’s inaccessible. No idea how to go about retrieving it.ReplyCited in: A music library inaccessible after email-account deletion; Digital purchases without durable ownership
just download the files locally, if you can't, then torrent that shit. Fuck these companiesReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
THISReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Sure we do. It doesn't matter that they say they are only selling me a revoke-able license. They can say that all the want, but **I** am paying for ownership regardless of what they think they are selling me--and I take the necessary measures to preserve that ownership. I own every piece of digital media I've purchased just as strongly. We all should.ReplyCited in: Saving nonproprietary media to independent storage
Speak for yourself, I own all of my media and have possession of it as well i.e., files on physical drives (of course in addition to discs etc). I plan to keep it that way. Never deviated from this. I own my media whether they like it or not.ReplyCited in: Saving nonproprietary media to independent storage
I buy books from charity shops, i pirate everything else.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
That's why I don't buy books digitally... well, that and the fact that I like having the books in my shelf and feeling it (and smelling... aaah, new book smell.)ReplyCited in: Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
That's why I stick to physical media as much as possible (and it irks me that so many things are only available digitally, and people act like this is great). The furthest I go is buying mp3s, because at least I still have the file (and can put it on a CD if I want to).ReplyCited in: Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
At some point I recognized this and was determined to own at least my favorite title in each medium. Now I have a breaking bad dvd set acid barrel as a doorstop to our WFH office area, a Memento Bluray that our rabbit has chewed on the edges of the case, Beck's "Sea Change" somewhere in the house in CD form even though I don't have a CD player (in my last relationship, which was abusive, I had a record player and the vinyl but those went with her after the break-up), and strangely enough an old ass copy of To Kill a Mockingbird that has somehow remained unaltered by our pets or our toddler.ReplyCited in: Owning favorite titles across each medium; Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
I bought some games on steam and kept them after refundReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I just turn every sound on my phone off except for calls from a very select few people.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Phoebe Buffet said it perfectly, "I wish I could but I don't want to."ReplyCited in: Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
What made me turn all that off was something I read recently about WhatsApp being a form of social media that people don't realise, specifically because of those setting. It creates this obligation and incentive for people to engage more. E.g. "the person has seen I've read their message, I must now respond", or "that person is online I can quickly message them about something" etc etc Once I looked at it that way I could relate and it made me straight away switch all that shit off. Otherwise I had no intention of changing any of it as I didn't see an issue.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries; Read receipts and online status creating response pressure
I do many call-outs for work to fill shifts and so many times I’ll leave a voicemail for someone on our call-list as per our policy clearly stating the date and time of the shift and asking them to call back if they are able to take it, and they call me back thirty seconds later and just expectantly say “I see you left me a voicemail?” YEAH AND IF YOU LISTENED TO IT YOU WOULD HAVE HEARD ME ASK YOU TO ONLY CALL BACK ON THE MAIN LINE IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO DEFINITELY ACCEPT THE SHIFT. So I spend even more time repeating the shift dates/times I mentioned in my original voicemail, and then waiting on the phone line while they hum and haw like I’ve put them on the spot and then check their diary/ask their spouse if they need the car/look for childcare…meanwhile, someone else who actually already listened to their voicemail and independently verified their own personal schedule could be calling the scheduling line to accept the shift, only to get the busy signal. AND EVEN THEN THEY’LL OFTEN BE LIKE “oh never mind I can’t take it, sorryyyyyyyy.” Okay thanks have a great day THIS COULD HAVE BEEN A DELETED VOICEMAIL.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails
Sounds like your call could of been a text.ReplyCited in: Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails
I wish. Head office mandates landline calls from the on-site phone, no texts between cells.ReplyCited in: Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails; Head office mandating landline shift calls
Sounds like your of should have been a haveReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I don't even listen to voice mails anymore. 99% of the time these are just robocalls or spam. I see your frustration, but times have changed.ReplyCited in: Voicemail ignored because of robocalls and spam; Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails
Automatic voicemail transcription is an awesome feature, best thing to happen voicemail ever. I can decide whether to listen (in case the transcript is terrible), call back, or just delete.ReplyCited in: Voicemail ignored because of robocalls and spam; Automatic voicemail transcription
I don't think I ever turned it on for my phone. I probably should.ReplyCited in: Automatic voicemail transcription
It’ll show the office number with it as a missed call, though. They literally will call back because they saw we called and left them a voicemail, so they know it’s from us.ReplyCited in: Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails
I don't even activate my voice mail. If it is someone I know, they will likely send a text after. If it's an emergency, they will blow up my phone. Why do I need to activate a voice mail to deal with robocalls?ReplyCited in: Voicemail ignored because of robocalls and spam; Leaving voicemail disabled
Part of my job is answering phones. All day, "You guys called me?" Uh... sure, *someone* here called you, maybe listen to the voicemail so I don't have to try and psychically channel what extension you're looking for.ReplyCited in: Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails
I mean what? Who uses voicemails now, I don't think I even have them or have listened to one since the 2000s.ReplyCited in: Voicemail ignored because of robocalls and spam
Just do your job? What a ridiculous reaction.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Exactly, and why are you calling from a different number than the one I'm supposed to call you back on? The system being dumb isn't those peoples' faults. If I missed a call and am calling back five seconds later I don't listen to the voicemail either.ReplyCited in: A callback number different from the voicemail number; Workers calling back without listening to shift voicemails
> “Hi there! I have been meaning to return your call for a couple days now, ***but I just didn’t***. Anyway, what’s up?” You started off strong but this is fucking awful advice lol. "Hey, just returning your call, how's things?" is fine, no need to acknowledge the time delay unless you're intentionally being a prick.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
98% of the time It can wait until you leave the movie theater.ReplyCited in: Calls during movies can usually wait; Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
Doorbell or phone, I'm not going to answer either unless I particularly want to. It's not a summons, they're asking for my attention and I'm silently telling them no.ReplyCited in: Phone calls as invitations, not obligations; Doorbells and phone calls as requests, not summons
Me when I finally work up the courage to call and they don't answer. **YEET**ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
scheduled "do not disturb" hours has been fantastic. Theres a few numbers that I'll always let through but for the most part... my weekends and evenings are blissfully undisturbed.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Before texting, caller ID, and answering machines, there was more of an obligation to answer, especially for the family home phone. But it was also perfectly fine to say “now isn’t a good time, I’ll call you back,” or “call me back after 7:30” or whatever time was good.ReplyCited in: Phone calls as invitations, not obligations; Pre-mobile boundaries on family phone calls
Pure poetryReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
My phone is on DND for more than 5 years now 😊ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I wish I could. I need a job that doesn't involve emergency call rotation. It's hell having to check every text or phone call especially when 90% of calls these days are scams or spams. I was out of work for a few weeks and it sucked ass financially but the peace was beautiful.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Emergency call rotation and scam-alert fatigue
From the other side, the new 'answerphone' where they expect you to hang around with your arse out waiting whilst they fuck around listening to your reason for calling drives me mad. Pickup or let me leave a message. Then listen to it.ReplyCited in: Voicemail ignored because of robocalls and spam; Call-screening systems that make callers wait
I can't imagine using that for legitimate purposes. I had a good run using it to mess with scammers, but I disabled it the first time some poor bastard was wrongly identified as spam.ReplyCited in: Call-screening systems that make callers wait
It's nearly always some arsehole who's been badgering me to do something for them urgently, yet they can't answer when I'm calling to tell them the massive urgently thing they were so desperate for is ready. Cunts.ReplyCited in: Call-screening systems that make callers wait
absolutely agree. someone i work with recently lost an immediate family member in a really horrible and tragic way. we're not close enough (and we're both gen z lol) for *calling* her to feel appropriate rather than invasive and weird, but we're close enough i definitely wanted to express condolences and offer help with whatever she might need ASAP, and i knew she'd be on bereavement for a while, so i texted her. she didn't respond for about 48 hours, and when she did, she said something like "I'm so sorry I'm only just responding!!" and ngl it broke my heart even more for her that she felt the need to say that 😭 like even in normal circumstances, nobody owes an immediate response, but girl, with what you're going through?? i wouldn't have been offended if she *never* replied. i hate that our culture makes people feel the need to apologize for not being immediately aaccessible 24/7, especially when they're going through something so horrible. the very last thing i was trying to accomplish by reaching out was to give her another obligation 😭ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Bereaved people apologizing for delayed replies
In Australia we have something related to working to stop something like that >New federal "right to disconnect" laws will take effect from Monday, legally protecting workers from being forced to take non-emergency calls and respond to emails outside of business hours.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Australia's right-to-disconnect law
Very well put. Thank you for writing this. When I first got a mobile phone in my late teens, as a poor student I'd buy a prepaid recharge on payday, and every text cost money back then. So I'd run out of credit and people might have to wait up two weeks for me to text them back, and this was totally normal. I've had no issue keeping it normal. The only time I felt pressured to be constantly responsive was when I used Facebook. And I was still of the Elder Millennial attitude that the internet was something you went on recreationally in the evening on your computer. Facebook was just another website I may or may not open on a given day. A few people grizzled at me about it, so I stopped using Facebook. Problem solved.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Prepaid text costs and slower reply norms
You don't have to provide reason for why you didn't respond, doing so unprompted kind of makes you seem like a jackass. Just respond when you can. Chances are you're not even important enough to that person for them to demand an explanation of you, and if you are, you wouldn't have delayed replying in the first place.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
omg this drives me INSANE. my sister is disabled and so am I. but she forgets when we talk and gets so worked up about the last time we called. She JUST sent me a card that says I miss you AND WE TALKED ON FRIDAY FOR GOD SAKES. i wrote several times to her that I'm not always near my phone and I am not mad anymore (except now I am about something else she just did) ughReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Disability, memory, and family contact-frequency conflict
Whenever I go to a bar or restaurant now, I don’t just put my phone away, I turn it off completely.ReplyCited in: Prioritizing present company over the phone
You have no idea how much shit I get for "being unavailable" (work). I always answer at least 5 minutes later, but the fact that I don't answer on the toilet or while driving till I am at a safe place or while quickly doing something wet/dirty is apparently horrible and people complain about it a lot.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Work complaints about not answering while driving or indisposed
My phone is always on silent. No notifications, no vibration, no nothing unless I have a headphone in If I'm not actively looking at my phone when you call or message, then I will get to it when I look at it again If it's an emergency, call the policeReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
"Hi, just returning your call" is much better imho.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
>The only time I get mad at someone not answering my calls is when I just miss there call and call them right back and they don't answer. I always wait a minute just in case they are leaving a voice mail for whatever reason.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
> "I just got your voicemail/text" I usually do this followed with a "sorry!" of some sort, unless it's with friends that I know do the same shit to me lol.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
“Sorry I have been unreachable these past couple days. I just read your message/listened to your voice mail” You get it. People don’t pry. If they do say you’ve been in a whale idkReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Yeah nothing really urk's me quite like someone trying to force you too pick up. Insta block, sorrrrrrrrrreh.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Ignore me if this is a stylistic choice, but the usual spelling is "irk"!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Probably a typo, seeing how those two letters are right next to each other.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I figured! But since they spelled sorry in a playful way, I didn't want to assume it wasn't intentional lolReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I rarely answer anymore cause it s my sister non stop. she just sent me a card cause she "misses me" and we just talked ON FRIDAY. If I dont respond back all hell brakes loose but If they don't they take ages to reply. I hate socializing. it's exhaustingReplyCited in: Disability, memory, and family contact-frequency conflict
You have to train people that you aren't available at their whim. My phone is for my convenience, not yours.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I've had my phone completely muted for over a decade now. It drives my family insane, but idgaf because constant communication drives me even more insane.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I tell my wife all the time that the part I'm looking forward to after society collapses is never picking up my phone again.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I agree re phones but also - my front door! It gets answered if I know who you are _and_ if I'm expecting you, otherwise not a chance and good luck 😆 I'm terribly stubborn and can assure that you'll get bored knocking long before I get bored ignoring you 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just don't understand why people are primed to leap up as soon as they hear a knock/doorbell, it's like real Pavlovian sh!t I can't think of a time where an unexpected knock has ever been anything positive so why would I waste my time? My door, my rulesReplyCited in: Not answering unexpected door knocks; Doorbells and phone calls as requests, not summons
Phones are not toxic but people are.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; People, not phones, as the source of communication harm
Yeah it's hilarious people think that others will put up with this or that their own inability to set healthy boundaries justifies being a dick to people in your life. Every single person I have ever met with the problem of "being available 24/7" is stuck to their phone all day every day doomscrolling... then someone calls/messages them and it's "OMG I'M TRYING TO STOP BEING ON MY PHONE SO MUCH GUESS I BETTER IGNORE THEM FOR THREE DAYS!!!" Yeah, sometimes people have a needy friend/family member. The response to that is *set healthy boundaries in your life* and not "ignore everyone and only reply when you feel like it". That's how your friends learn you don't respect their time and stop bothering to offer it.ReplyCited in: Delayed-reply boundaries can also disrespect others; Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
My ringer is ALWAYS off unless I’m expecting an important call or text.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Putting my phone on silent permanently was one of the best decisions I've ever made, followed closely by going on do not disturb every night from 10PM-7AMReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
you have not met my family.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
if you're not a literal child your family does not control what you do with your phone. **you can still set that standard. they might bitch and moan but they'll get used to it eventually. stop letting your family bully you.**ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Family pressure over phone availability
I do this! I warn every new contact that I'm a busy mom who puts my phone LAST, call me IF it's an emergency and if not I'll get back to you ASAP. ASAP meaning exactly that, as soon as it was possible for me to get to you without disturbing my flow or my mood. Blowing my phone up with repeated notifications only makes me want to respond less. It's overwhelming for me. I'd love to be at home without being disturbed but unfortunately mobile phones come with expectations. Being able to fall back on that pre warning has helped me be able to actually decompress when I'm home, I can actually switch off for a second.ReplyCited in: Preannouncing slow-response boundaries; Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
This is one where I really wonder what people can even do There are places like EU that have far better protections than the rest of the world but even they are slowly failing.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Sony just recently removed purchased movies from people's libraries. And they plan on having their next console be digital only.ReplyCited in: Sony removing purchased movies and a rumored digital-only console; Digital purchases without durable ownership
Laughs in 50TB of ceph clusterReplyCited in: A large self-hosted storage cluster; Saving nonproprietary media to independent storage
This is why I went back to the high seas.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
"deeply disturbing"? No that's just shitty and predatory business practices.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
good thing i don't _buy_ digital media ;)ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
You do if you rip themReplyCited in: Ripping owned CDs for portable personal use
That's deeply disturbing?ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
with music i buy CDs all the time, ive got loads -- cant de-list a piece of physical media if an artist says something questionable or some shitty licensing deal runs outReplyCited in: Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
Mostly, yes. There are a few rare exceptions, like Bandcamp letting me download CD-quality/hi-res FLACs for the music I buy. And into my NAS they go for personal streaming via Plex.ReplyCited in: Bandcamp downloads archived to NAS and Plex; Saving nonproprietary media to independent storage
Wait, you *buy* music, books and movies? We sold this problem a good 30 years ago..ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
If you buy any songs from me I'll always provide you with copies FOREVER. even if I gotta go back to casette. [site removed]ReplyCited in: An artist promising lifetime copies to buyers; Digital purchases without durable ownership
We never did own them. Only now in the age of the internet, subscriptions and SaaS does it actually hitReplyCited in: Software licenses even on physical media
If buying isn't owning then downloading isn't stealing 🤷ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Because look at the alternative. If you truly did own the music and CD's and all that, it means you can distribute them freely and make a profit on them. Buy a band CD, you can copy it and sell it legally. Same with games. Make copies and sell them legally. Would you want to make anything in the universe?ReplyCited in: Owning a copy versus owning reproduction rights; Software licenses even on physical media
yes, but i don't have room for all of my physical books.ReplyCited in: Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
This is why I’ve started to buy more physical media. I’ve purchased CD’s, records and DVD’s that I used to have.ReplyCited in: Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
Physical media for the win. It’s also generally a better way to support authors, musicians, etcReplyCited in: Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
You will own nothing, and you will like itReplyCited in: Subscriptions replacing ownership across products
This is the actual reason i pirate things. Idc about the money, i just want to actually own it.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
People laugh at other people who keep physical media. We have physical media for this exact reason. I have a friend who rips our movies (and his movies) to a database in the cloud that we can both access. That way, we have both the digital media, and the backup physical media. It sucks that soon hardly any physical media will be produced. We'll be forced to only have digital.ReplyCited in: A shared ripped-movie library with physical backups; Physical media preserving hard-to-find works
ringer has been off for years, its so freeing! i answer when i can and if i want. i also extend that same courtesy to themReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
The only person I respond to promptly on a regular basis is my wife, because I want to. Took me a couple of days to respond to my brother recently. You are as 'on' or 'contactable' as you choose to be.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I never cared for phones. The moment I'm off work I stop using it. Only even hold on to it in case there's an emergency.ReplyCited in: Using a mobile phone like a house phone
I have gotten people to expect at least a full day wait before I respond to most things using this method. I only have notifications turned on for texts. Would recommend.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
> The problem with digital is that the terms of service you agree to are enforceable. Only if they have DRM. Most music these days is sold as non DRM MP3 files (or FLAC/WAV if you're fancy). If I've downloaded it, there's nothing they can do to remove it. Same with games from GOG and [site removed]ReplyCited in: DRM-free media as durable digital ownership; Saving nonproprietary media to independent storage
With particularly anxious people, I turn on my read receipts and then just don't open their messages until I feel like dealing with them. That way they think I haven't gotten to it yet rather than me ignoring them until I have the mental energy to respond. I also rarely use a phone as a phone, so people know better than to call me.ReplyCited in: Delaying message opening to manage read receipts; Read receipts and online status creating response pressure
I stay on DND !ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I had a girl decide that she wanted to be my bestest friend in the world. She'd spam my number over and over again, ring me boss when I didn't answer, turn up at my house, attempt to follow me inside. In what fucking world is any of that acceptable behaviour???ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Repeated calls, home visits, and following without consent
My mom was like this. One of the reasons I went no contact with her.ReplyCited in: Repeated calls, home visits, and following without consent
A problem with this is that "phones" are more than just phones for a lot of people. If I leave the house without it, I can't listen to music or podcasts, or pay for stuff, or check the rail timetables. And yeah, I know, people got by just fine without that stuff in the past, but these are useful not-bad things that people use phones for. I don't have a "always available" issue with my phone, but if I did, just leaving my phone at home would be a poor compromise, not a solution.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries; Phones as multifunction tools make leaving them home impractical
It is self inflicted. My phone stays home when I leave the house. If I drive into a ditch or get into an accident, my car has SOS stuff. I have no desire to answer a call when I am at Home Depot. I do not answer numbers I do not know. If someone I do know calls and I do not want to speak to them or ask busy, I do not answer. I do not install anything work related on it. Email, chat, etc.ReplyCited in: Using a mobile phone like a house phone
Yeah I mean I have a phone app pager for work if there's an emergency but otherwise my phone has always been on silent since I got one in 2004 and I check it when I feel like it. I've never considered this a problem, it seems like people just need to set expectations if they want them to be different?ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
This is pretty much what I do. I will respond in about 3min to 3 weeks depending on how I feel. It has actually resulted in people doing the same to me in return and I am honestly quite content with that.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
It always boggles my mind how many people record themselves inside of their cars.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Recording oneself inside a car
As it should.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Yeah. I'm not a fan of that either.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Sounds like a bot response ngl lolReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Well, I didn't pay for it so I guess we're evenReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I dug into this more, and it looks like what I was thinking of was [this 2024 California law]([link removed] It doesn't ban the term _buy_ outright, it just says that the term cannot be used unless platforms follow a few rules to clarify the nature of the license: > (A) The seller receives at the time of each transaction an affirmative acknowledgment from the purchaser indicating all of the following: > > (i) That the purchaser is receiving a license to access the digital good. > > (ii) A complete list of restrictions and conditions of the license. > > (iii) That access to the digital good may be unilaterally revoked by the seller if they no longer hold a right to the digital good, if applicable. > > (B) The seller provides to the consumer before executing each transaction a clear and conspicuous statement that does both of the following: > > (i) States in plain language that “buying” or “purchasing” the digital good is a license. > > (ii) Includes a hyperlink, QR code, or similar method to access the terms and conditions that provide full details on the license.ReplyCited in: California's digital-goods license-disclosure law; Buy-versus-license wording for digital media
My kids probably spend way too much time on their devices but one limit I have always had is that tablets never leave the house. This means that when we are out and about they have to find ways to occupy themselves that does not involve any sort of device and this works wonders..ReplyCited in: Tablets stay home to preserve device-free outings; Young children absorbed by personal screens
This is a huge difference for them. The biggest concern I see is that kids don't know how to be bored and, in a way, self soothe. You have to learn to be bored sometimes and let your imagination fill the space. You have to learn to sit still, be quiet, and pay attention for school or work.ReplyCited in: Children learning boredom, self-soothing, and attention; Young children absorbed by personal screens
I have mixed feelings, because I refuse to believe that all screen time is equal. I have been watching music and music videos with my kid since they were born. Nobody is going to convince me that watching a full orchestra, or watching an opera is bad for a kid's brain. Watching people dance and sing in a music video can't be strictly detrimental. It was really fun to play a lifetime of my favorite music to see what the baby responded to over time, because some stuff was a very clear "no", and some stuff was an emphatic "yes", and he'd do a little baby jig, or he'd hear some notes and his eyes would go wide like he was having a revelation. I look at the high energy, constantly blinking lights and screaming chaos that are some kids cartoons, and yeah, I would not let my kid watch a lot of that. I'm not going to give my 4 year old unfettered access to YouTube. I had to make some compromises with his Grandma, but overall I try to curate what he watches, and how much. Meanwhile my partner apparently can't be alone with her own thoughts for more than 30 seconds, the TV *always* has to be on in the background, so, there's too much television, and the kid is definitely picking up that habit. He's not even watching half the time, he just wants it to be on enough that he can hear his cartoons going, so, I pretty much have to demand that some portion of time be dedicated to music or nature documentaries. My TV loving partner also freaks out over phones, like they are poisonous for a kid to even touch, and that seems utterly ridiculous. They're more interactive than tv. It's hand-eye coordination, it's cause and effect, it's puzzle solving. My little dude saw the calculator and was super excited, and he's talking about the numbers, and having a good time playing with the calculator. It's a calculator, not brain rot. I was also a video games kid growing up. I had an Atari 2600 for as long as I can remember, and got the SNES soon after it came out. It *was* somewhat of a problem, but after learning to read, I became a books and video games kid, in that order. I feel like, how could a little bit of video games be bad? Some games can be very educational, and I've got nothing but good things to say about Tetris. Again, it's hand-eye coordination, it's cause and effect, it's puzzle solving. Video games all day every day? No way. Letting the kid play nothing but shooters? No way. I say it's all about quality control, and moderation.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Screens as medical distraction versus daily default; Screen content quality, context, and moderation
Yeah, I think the standard at least on a base level should be parental control and moderation, and you can still raise perfectly healthy, well adjusted kids in the modern year. I fear for the kids whose parents will happily give them a phone because it simply keeps them quiet 100% of the time. But I'm also not a parent.ReplyCited in: Screen content quality, context, and moderation
Yes, definitely the engagement between the parent and the child is what separates good and bad screen time. It allows for rich interaction and the parent is able to curate the type of content. I see the issue with children being left alone to interact solely with an algorithm dictating what content is being watched while the parent fails to engage with anything the kid is watching.ReplyCited in: Co-viewing versus algorithmic child screen use; Screen content quality, context, and moderation
I've noticed this in some retired friends, their face is always buried in their phones.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Retired adults absorbed by phones
This is so incredibly concerning to me and I feel no one else realizes how fucked up it is, I'm not sure what this kids are going to do in 10 yearsReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
O’m pretty sure this is simply general stupidity and not related to age. Boomers invented the internet as we know it (the worldwide web,) personal computers, cell phones, and all the services such as CompuServe and AOL that got everybody online back in the 80s and 90s.ReplyCited in: Technology literacy not determined by generation; Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks
I agree with your main point, but boomers as a demographic seem to be the most resistant to actually receiving that help while simultaneously needing it, for some reason. And the ones submitting tickets like this are categorically not people who invented the internet or other tech you mentioned.ReplyCited in: Technology literacy not determined by generation
yeah i see the same dumb from everyone, but each generation has their particular 'flavor' of dumb that they lean towards. Millennials are the "I tried everything!" "Did you turn it off and on again?" "GODDAMMIT" crew. Realistically, that's the job - explain the spells to the muggles in a way that lets the muggles go do muggle things. I don't actually mind it, and I quite enjoy working with my requestors - I get the full age range, and they're generally lovely people. It's just a little concerning to see the students struggle with stuff that they need to come to me to teach. Kinda why I want to start teaching once I finish grad school - do a Gen Ed class on how to apply critical thinking to troubleshooting both in and out of tech.ReplyCited in: Teaching critical thinking through tech troubleshooting; Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks
i saw a family looking at a new house, the kids stepped out of the Cybertruck with tablets in hand, never once looking up as they ambled toward their possible new homeReplyCited in: Children walking through a new home with eyes on tablets; Young children absorbed by personal screens
Therapist, it’s kinda flipped where that used to be a sign a family was well off, and now it’s a sign families can’t afford or maybe don’t care enough to be present to parent their kids. It’s interesting how many rich families are big on no screens and experiences, while poorer folks struggle to afford to madly expensive daycare and have to rely on screens.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Screen use linked to childcare cost and parental resources
As a parent to 3 young children it's hard to not cave to their demands for screentime. We ran through this with our first before we dialed in what was a correct amount of screentime. Any more than that amount and she would **FREAK THE FUCK OUT** when screentime ends. I can understand less willful parents just capitulating and giving them a screen at all times. We give our oldest about an hour of screen time a day and the younger two about 20 minutes when we watch a video together before bed (typically infotainment style of stuff). Emotionally, it's horrible for their development. They never learn how to regulate emotions or deal with being bored. Intellectually, I guess that's debatable based on what they're watching.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Screen-time-ending meltdowns and emotion-regulation claims
We have a tablet for my kid who is 7. But its only for travel. Car, airplane, and down time on trips. I get going out to eat for kids and not having something to do is rough, being forced to sit there. We've made a few pouches that go between bags with fun stuff, coloring, and small toys that come along most of the time. I've also 3D printed some "pocket" board games. Makes us play with him, color with him, and be engaged as a family.ReplyCited in: Travel-only tablets plus toys and pocket games; Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
My 2 year old niece has an iPad she’s always on. It disturbs me. I’m not giving my kid an iPad until she’s old enough to use it to read.ReplyCited in: A toddler with an always-on personal tablet; Young children absorbed by personal screens
Yeah, the iPad only comes out for us in situations where I need my 4yo to sit in one spot without talking for an extended period of time. The number of parents who give their kids their tablet while...like...at the park...boggles my mind.ReplyCited in: Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
I'm so glad the people I run with don't believe in this. Yes I will admit I'm 39 and I'm the youngest of my friends but I've raised my kids to be the same. I have adult daughters and a 13 yo son and they don't accept their friends harping on them if they're unreachable. I feel I'm doing my part lol. However, my son freaks out if I'm not reachable now but that's because I had an ATV accident and was in the hospital for two months. He witnessed the accident and he's been worried about me. So that's fair I feel. (Yes we are both in therapy).ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Post-accident family anxiety about reachability
I think I was getting the beginning of these kids in my last year teaching freshman college bio. They would have been born around 2006-2008, not much younger than me, but some also would have been making the high school transition during peak Covid. I have never seen a whole group of healthy young adults struggle with motor skills so much. Very little typing skills, even less editing skills, no attention spans, and no fucking finger strength. I think they thought I was a hardass for telling them they didn't have the basic skill for pipetting, but I can't pass you when you don't have the eye-hand coordination to accurately dispense liquid, sorry.ReplyCited in: Tablet-native students at college IT helpdesks; Possible motor and attention deficits in a recent college cohort
American?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It's one of those things with social media now If someone posts a lot on there and they're on holiday. If they're enjoying themselves and don't post for a day then people can sometimes start to panicReplyCited in: Social-posting patterns triggering vacation welfare concern; Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
I saw an infant in a car seat with the handle up and an ipad connected to it so it was just pointing down above their face. Like a....what's that thing called? I wanna say dreidel but that's not right. Like the thing that has hanging shapes connected to it thats circular shaped that turns in a circle above their crib. *mobile! i think it's called a mobile.ReplyCited in: An iPad mounted above an infant's car seat; Young children absorbed by personal screens
Yeah we had a zero screen time policy for our toddler and the only exception was in hospitals.ReplyCited in: Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
I salute you, fellow tech support individual. Gotta love the trenches of a ticket triage lolReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I recall someone I went out on a date with saying that was both "creepy" and "disturbing" that I hadn't brought my phone with me. She was genuinely alarmed that I didn't have my phone on me at all times, in all places, at every single moment. As you might imagine, it was one red flag among several that we were not meant to be.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; A date alarmed by someone not carrying a phone
I developed this game with my Friends and Family. I call it 1995. You can call me I will not answer, leave a message. I'm working doing something driving. Text me, I might listen or do a voice reply, but I am a 1 -5 hour responder 85% of the time. The only exception is my Boss or higher at work on Teams/Slack/Outlook. My SLA to a client is 24 hours. I run 6 hours, but faster in real issues. I will not jump b/c you said.ReplyCited in: Explicit personal response service levels; Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I genuinely get so excited when I forget my phone at home. It’s so freeing!ReplyCited in: Using a mobile phone like a house phone
I’ve become more firm on this. Especially with work. I just worked 8 days straight and have 4 days off. My phone is on do not disturb and I will not answer until Monday. I am not on call therefore will not be treated as such.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries; Off-duty do-not-disturb after a long work stretch
I never really understand people that accept this type of burden. Dont be attached to your phone, and if you have it in front of you, you’re not obligated to reply to someone ASAP. And if someone is griefing about delayed reply, tell them to get a lifeReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
the expectation that ima share my location with you, like I want people in my life tracking my coordinates 24/7ReplyCited in: Continuous location sharing among friends and partners
I only answer my phone IF AND ONLY IF it's my MAMA otherwise people can wait until I wake up the next dayReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
When I'm at home, my phone sits on a shelf, on silent. My wife's number is set to ring through silent mode. Everyone else can wait.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I couldn’t agree more. Being able to reach someone at anytime does not mean they are available at any time.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Well, technically I'm reachable. By email. If you call from a number I don't know about, you're going right to voicemail.ReplyCited in: Voicemail ignored because of robocalls and spam
I've had my phone on do not disturb for the last 3 years or so. Highly recommend if you like peace.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Same same issue I didnt realise I was on a 24/7 customer support plan.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Its so nice working a job where I'm legally not allowed to have my phone on. "Sorry, can't be available all the time, suck it"ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries; Jobs that prohibit personal phone use
I took my dog for a walk and forgot my phone. Initially I had a slight second of panic but then it really was freeing.ReplyCited in: Using a mobile phone like a house phone
Yeah I turned off my text messaging notifications a while back. Changed my life.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
My phone died - I forgot to charge it. My bad. It's a brick until it charges. I told my wife that someone would try and call her in 15 minutes because I wasn't available. My son called her 10 minutes later asking after me. lol.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Nah mate you've set this precedent yourself. Just don't reply fast and people get used to it. If someone actually asks what you are up and why you were slow just tell them stuff you were actually up to. No need to make a big deal about itReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Our devices leave us captive to other people's prioritiesReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Devices making users captive to others' priorities
Every time we have a family gathering, let’s say it’s a 4:00 pm, my mother or specially my brother call me at 4:05 pm and ask “what’s going on? Where are you? Aren’t you coming yet?” Every fucking timeReplyCited in: Family checking five minutes after gathering time; Family pressure over phone availability
We have a phone rule in my family: if someone calls twice in a row, it is very important or an emergency so we should answer. No one abuses it either so it works well & takes that feeling of obligation away if I am too busy to pick up.ReplyCited in: Two consecutive calls as a family emergency signal; Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
One of the biggest red flags anyone can show me in this day and age is if they get mad when I don't respond to a text in 10 minutes I have had people fly off the handle saying they're going to end my life for 'ignoring' them because I didn't respond to a text fast enough lmaoReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Threats over a ten-minute text delay
This is something I refuse to participate in. I get back on my time and I might explain what I was doing but I’m not gonna apologise, and if you have a problem with it, I’m gonna point out that it’s very weird of you to assume I’m going to be available to everyone all the time no matter whatReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Amen. I freed myself from this years ago. My phone is for MY convenience.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
As long as i have had a mobie phone, my motto has been, "I own my phone. My phone does not own me"! My phone is always on silent/dnd.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I never adjusted to this and I can't count the amount of people who stopped talking to me because of itReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries; Relationships lost over slow phone responses
This makes me angry on a daily basis, sometimes I actually enjoy their indignant expressions when i simply say I was unavailable. I'm not your child, relax.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
I generally leave my phone on do not disturb. Mostly turning it on only if someone I care about is out and about and I'm waiting for them, and I want to make sure they can reach me during that, otherwise I am unreachable most of the time. Or rather I'll get to it when I get to it.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Essentially, technology has blurred the line between public and private space. Smartphones give us the feeling of being constantly reachable, but we mistake this 'technical possibility' for a 'moral obligation.'ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Technical reachability mistaken for moral obligation
I think that's an American thing. Over here in Europe, not being reachable outside of office hours is normal and not frowned upon.ReplyCited in: European versus American after-hours reachability norms; Australia's right-to-disconnect law
I only answer if it’s one of my kids. I archive conversations in WhatsApp and read messages when I feel like reading them . Notifications are switched offReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
The fact that we all just agreed money and value and now we’re trading hours of our lives for pieces of paper so we can buy food to stay alive to keep working. And we call that normal.ReplyCited in: Trading life hours for money to survive and work
My phone stops accepting phone calls after 10pm unless it's from a select number of people who would only call me after this time if it's urgent, ie my family. It turns on again at 9am, because if I want a lie in, I'm having a lie in.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
i needed to hear it was normal from so long ISReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Was just reprimanded the other day because it took me TWO HOURS to respond to a slack. Oh the humanity. It was asking about a Q2 deal update. Think of the shareholders!ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; A work reprimand for a two-hour Slack delay
Constantly fight other lawyers about this. They worry about missing clients, I keep trying to explain those aren't clients you want.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Lawyers disagreeing over constant client availability
I agree with this to the extent that I feel responsible for some people and if I miss an important message from them, even for a few hours, I feel terribleReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Agreed my children the worst about this dad's off the clock kids time to change your own diapers! Edit: this is a jokeReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'm from before phones even had answering machines. You called your friend, no answer, go do something else.ReplyCited in: Pre-mobile boundaries on family phone calls
I was recently a caretaker for my grandmother for several months. The toll it took on me was overwhelming. Trying to maintain work, general stuff outside of work, plus basically being on-call for her needs was just a lot. After she passed, I felt a slight sense of relief and was hoping to get a sense of normalcy back. Nope, now that I'm executor and co-owner of her home, my uncle calls me all the time. He's retired and half paralyzed, so he just sits around all day with nothing to do. He tends to call during my work day, so I ignore the calls and call back later. That gets him all worked up, but if I wait until the following day to call back, he acts like he was about to send the authorities to look for me. He got real incensed when I went on a weekend vacation and didn't talk to him at all while I was out of town. Literally the point of the vacation was for me to unplug.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Caregiver burnout followed by executor call pressure
I long for the days of old.ReplyCited in: Pre-mobile boundaries on family phone calls
Not me. I have made a point to not always be available for 20 years now. I can always call you back. Just because you think you have an emergency, that doesn't automatically make it my problem.ReplyCited in: Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
Instant message DOES NOT mean instant reply.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Just don't be reachable. Some weeks I only check my phone once a day and reply once and that's it. Sometimes if I am out camping, I am unreachable for a whole week at a time. It's really not that hard.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
THIS. It's deeply disturbingReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Not from me. Was doing other more important shit and I don't like being tied to my phone. So it's on silent. Leave a messageReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
This is because Americans has next to no working rights. You need unions to protect you, and protests and shutdowns to get your rights back.ReplyCited in: Australia's right-to-disconnect law; U.S. worker rights and union protection for after-hours contact
Yes this bothers the HELL outta meReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Amen. Fuck this bs.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Yes, I have the do not disturb set on my phone at night as I don't need notifications while I sleep. I set certain family and friends as exceptions, but they would only call if something was wrong. Mostly this is a problem for work and I just started delaying before answering and just not being available 24/7 to them. Especially on my days off.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I don’t think this applies to everyone and I also think this mostly stems from two main reasons, I used to be anxiously attached and it kind of broke me until I wasn’t, so here was my train of thought as someone that did want people to be available 24/7: Hopefully if you have a friend you know is like this, these two things can kind of help you understand them or help you work with them. 1. Lack of consistency As a former anxiously attached person myself, I am the type of person to be available 24/7. One time I was talking to a friend who replied instantly to my concerns and then proceeded to ignore me for the upcoming weekend while actively apologizing for their lack of time in my dms while still not responding to that message. Like hello can you read it instead of apologizing. We were good friends but my mental health + my anxiously attached side kind of drove me crazy on that, but I’m over it. A quick “hey I wont be able to reply this weekend” would have literally kept me calm and avoided every overthinking I had. 2. Explanations Most of the times as an anxiously attached person you start to overthink things to the max when it comes to dms. And it can start to hurt when you feel like their reason for not responding quick enough was kind of unimportant compared to you. Very basic example but I sometimes felt bad when it even took 30 mins to respond and they tell me they were just having dinner, my mind was thinking “so im less important than dinner.” It can feel awful at times, as an anxiously attached person. A quick heads up or literally any sort of explanation BEFORE you go to do something would have made things a lot better. Again, this was train of thought, and it mostly came from people with avoidant attachment so it doesn’t apply to everyone but was just my point of view.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure; Anxious attachment and inconsistent message response
I 100% feel this. I have lost friends over this, because somehow "I'm not involved" if I reply the next day. And not for obvious time-constrained things, like "We're meeting at this place and at this time" "Sure, I'm on my way". But for casual, non-serious, random conversations. Some of my best friends know that I might reply days, weeks, sometimes months later, and they are fine with it. We all have concrete lives outside our digital devices. In short: don't treat my phone like a pager.ReplyCited in: Relationships lost over slow phone responses
The only people I am reachable to 24/7 are my wife and child. And maybe one good friend. Everyone else can fuck off or leave a message.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
I agree with this so much... I hate it. I'll get to you when I do, and I expect the same from you.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Uh... why aren't you using something like pagerduty or at least some kind of call routing so you know what numbers will come through to your phone? Like are random people just calling your personal line? That is an insane way to do emergency on call for that exact reason. I go on call every month or so, calls all go via pagerduty which can bypass my DND and other settings so I know those calls come through. The rest do not.ReplyCited in: Emergency call rotation and scam-alert fatigue; On-call routing that bypasses do-not-disturb
I have to use a seperate work phone that's basically a brick that does calls or texts unfortunately. My personal has call screening but that still gets blown up with work stuff too lol. I need to go do firewatch in Wyoming for a month with my dog or something once a year to cleanse my nerves or something.ReplyCited in: Emergency call rotation and scam-alert fatigue
Urgh that sucks. If being on call is important it should be worth investing in the correct tools to do it properly.ReplyCited in: On-call routing that bypasses do-not-disturb
listening to music does not require you to check your messages. paying for a bag of chips does not require answering phone calls. you can do all the things you need without ever checking your messages or answering phone calls. personally i just dont keep any communication or social media on my home page. the only things i see when i open my phone are indeed the things you mentioned: transit schedule, music, payment apps, etc. things that are actually useful and needed. all my communication apps are hidden away in the app list and i check them only when i explicitly want to communicate, which is about once or twice a day during the week. past that my phone lives in my bag and only comes out when I need to send money around or check a map or listen to music. phones are used for more than just communication these days, but phones also give you the tools to keep communication and life essentials separate from one another.ReplyCited in: Phones as multifunction tools make leaving them home impractical; Separating phone utilities from communication apps
I agree and the uses you make of your phone are mostly the same as me.ReplyCited in: Separating phone utilities from communication apps
it sounds like your job requires communication. i'm pretty sure this conversation is more about non-professional communication, like your friend texting you or your mom asking you random questions or whatever. i think if your job involves talking on the phone then that's just doing your job.ReplyCited in: Work complaints about not answering while driving or indisposed
Yeah, in so far as any job requires communication, but my job is a family buisness which means being reachable 24/7 and the questions are very often really random, like "Do you know where this thing is I was the person to last touch and you have never even heard of?" I do not think it is unreasonable to be unreachable for time frames of 5 minutes even on your job. Not one question I was asked was ever important enough to not wait for 5 minutes. You need to be able to do short car drives, quickly finish important talks, work concentrated on dangerous machines, with dirt or water and toxic substances without needing to throw everything away to quickly answer a stupid question/request. Especially because most of the stuff could be a quick WhatsApp message.ReplyCited in: Work complaints about not answering while driving or indisposed; Short unavailability during dangerous or messy work
Regardless of if you're a fan of it or not, it's legal.ReplyCited in: A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
iPhones tell you when they’re currently leaving a message. I think you may even be able to answer it still if they’re still on. Can’t talk for other smart phonesReplyCited in: Automatic voicemail transcription; Live voicemail screening on iPhones
I also often include the sorry, especially verbally, but honestly I don't think we should be apologizing for this and I've been trying to train myself out of it. When we say sorry here, what we're actually saying is "I didn't respond immediately, and I should have done better, please forgive me" which is *not* what we want to say if we're trying to normalize not being immediately responsive 24/7.ReplyCited in: Silent-phone and delayed-response boundaries
Our on-call managers just phased out their *pagers* a few months ago. I wish our business tech moved at a more rapid pace, believe me, but I have to work within the strict guidelines I’m given.ReplyCited in: On-call routing that bypasses do-not-disturb; Workplaces phasing out pagers slowly
Because 200 people work here and I have no idea which one of them called you to order a truckload of wood. Answering the phone is only one of my many jobs, and the responses here are making me think none of these people ever worked as a support staff person. People want a real person to answer the phone, and then they want to abuse that real person.ReplyCited in: Support staff absorbing abuse from ambiguous business callbacks; A callback number different from the voicemail number
I think what you might not realize is people want a real person to talk to BECAUSE they want someone to abuse. Those two things are directly related. It's why boomers don't use the self checkout or go to restaurants with order kiosks. There isn't a person there they can feel better than. I've never worked as a support person or a place that had one, so you're correct. From the outside the system looks archaic and it's obviously inefficient just from what you're telling me.ReplyCited in: Support staff absorbing abuse from ambiguous business callbacks
Because that's how a business phone system operates. All the extensions show the main number. If they leave you the number that you are supposed to call them back on, then yell at them for not calling you from their cell phone. Don't harass the poor person who has to answer the phone between their 750 other tasks. If they are too stupid to call you from their cell phone versus calling you from their desk phone at their office, then you dodged a bullet not having to work with them.ReplyCited in: A callback number different from the voicemail number
Every phone system I've ever used when I've called an office, and there are many, either had an automated system where I could say the person's name, or the secretary that answered was able to find the extension and connect me.ReplyCited in: Office phone systems routing callers by name or extension; A callback number different from the voicemail number
Sometimes when I unlock my phone it opens ai chat. I have everything ai disabled that I can find. It happens rarely enough that I can't replicate it but often enough that I know what it's doing and close out quickly. I feel your painReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
Google Assistant.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
The main psychiatric hospital in my state uses AI. When we get new patients, the admissions people would write a summary of their medical history. Now they just put all that into AI and it spits out a summary. In some cases it’s just summarizing a bunch of discharge summaries. I’m a doctor who is 39 and I don’t even dictate my notes. A couple of doctors I know including one entire hospital system just has AI record the patient encounter and write their notes. Soon hospitals will be requiring all patients to sign consents to allow AI to assist in documentation.ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect; AI summarizing and recording patient encounters
I have some friends in the medical field struggling with this. Ai is not a reliable source, believes EVERYTHING you tell it, and dumbs down your writing ability. Also there’s no way it won’t become insanely expensive some day, it’s just building up to be this giant stupid “luxury”ReplyCited in: AI summarizing and recording patient encounters
Is THAT why I was asked about my psychiatric hospital stay (that I’ve never had)????? It was so weird. She was confused and I was confused. She kept asking me about my most recent hospital stay and I pressed because I had been to the hospital because I sprained my ankle a few months back and all I could think was “how on earth is a sprain relevant to adhd meds????” She finally got that the notes had an error and said the wrong thing; but wouldn’t elaborate. This was the free therapist you get on Medicaid so like, not the top brass if you know what I mean. I was so pissed that it had fake notes in there ABOUT AN INVOLUNTARY PSYCH HOLDReplyCited in: A false psychiatric hospitalization in medical notes; AI summarizing and recording patient encounters
Could be. Doctors also make plenty of errors documenting or using dictation software and never proofreading it. As a general trend, we never re-read our notes.ReplyCited in: A false psychiatric hospitalization in medical notes
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Why does my avatar look just like the World of Warcraft guy from South Park?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The good news is that the AI bubble is going to pop and it might happen pretty soon which will largely kill off all the free AI that people like your parents are relying on for everything. The bad news is that the AI bubble is supported by about a trillion in loans, mostly in private credit. Private credit are non-bank lenders, an industry with basically no regulation or safeguard and the biggest private credit funds are retirement funds and the like. So your retirement is pretty likely to be heavily leveraged in AI datacenters, an industry with negative margins spending big on giant warehouses full of rapidly depreciating assets betting on exponential growth of AI where it's really just circular financing and surprisingly little real demand. Oh yeah and most of the datacenter loans are to Special Purpose Vehicles, a.k.a. sub-companies set up to insulate the actual lender from the risk of the loan. The coming financial crisis is going to suck. It's kind of the sub-prime mortgage crisis 2.0 with tons of loans that can't be repaid backed by assets that are worth a fraction of the loan.ReplyCited in: A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure
I've been hearing 'the AI bubble is about to pop' as long as I've been hearing 'the Russian economy is about to collapse'. To be clear I want both to happen but pretending thats its imminent is just dreaming.ReplyCited in: A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure
OpenAI postponed their IPO because they cannot get a 1 trillion valuation. They last raised money at I think a roughly $750 billion valuation. That makes it difficult for future funding rounds because there's not really money to be made there anymore. They lost about $50 million a day over 2025, that's obviously unsustainable without continuous cash injections. Softbank has struggled to get loans on the back of their OpenAI stock because banks don't think it's worth enough. Oracle has said it fears that OpenAI won't be able to pay their datacenter bills, something Oracle needs to not go bankrupt themselves. That comes on top of things like Uber publicly questioning the value of AI and the many stories of how expensive it is for companies. Oracle and SpaceX stock are on a fairly rapid decline as well which is bad news for the AI bubble. There's obviously no guarantee the bubble will pop soon. That depends on how long the market can sustain its suspension of disbelief but with every negative story, every sinking stock valuation, every cancelled datacenter project makes it harder to maintain that suspension of disbelief.ReplyCited in: A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure; OpenAI valuation, loss, and data-center payment claims
On the one hand, they’re already in the ‘We need to start charging more money than it costs to run the computer now that people are hopefully hooked’ phase, and the response has largely been people offloading predictive text wherever possible now that it’s not free. On the other hand, you have enough gullible twats in enough governments throwing enough taxpayer money down the hole that the bubble may remain artificially unpopped for fuck knows how long.ReplyCited in: A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure
I'm such a spiteful ass that I'd be tempted to write the essay on my own, then run it through an LLM and tell it to make it look as AI-slop as possible.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Companies really saw that people are getting lazier with communication and said let's make it even worseReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
I see this on my email messages - the option to summarize the email. I would NEVER. I read the whole damn email because I need to know what it says - all of it. I can decide what is important or not. But the scary part is how many people do this and are just missing important information. Never mind the mush their brain is becoming.ReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information; AI summaries as relational disrespect
That's even more insane because a photo of yourself is one of the easiest things you could possibly take. There's no *reason* to use AI to generate it. It's clearly inferior to the real thing.ReplyCited in: Required AI-generated student introduction images
>What happens when we as a society are literally too stupid to function? When we have no doctors, no healthcare workers, etc?? "Alexa, mark an appointment with Cat I farted for me."ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The answer is it doesn't matter what happens next at that point. At that point, the wealthy and their elite pets (those that are deemed okay to join) will fuck off to extravagant lairs around the world with armed guards. The USA and the a smaller extent, the Western world will be left with no thoughts, wealth or potential for future wealth. 1st world status will be donned on the 3rd world and the current 1st world shall know real suffering. Of course, those with money will GTFO but the majority will spiral further into decay until you are living in the slums of India in America. You think those homeless encampments are bad and a sign of the current times, but in the future, oh boy, those will be a luxury and they are a sign of what is to come.ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
Well, that was a depressing read. I hate that you're probably right.ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
I had a meltdown rant to my aunt the other week because her husband was having a medical issue (like had been to see a doctor and was following advice but not having success) Went to an urgent care for more help, came home and started using ChatGPT instead And left to go pick up stuff the ai told him to try And I’m like THERE IS LITERALLY A LAWSUIT OVER SOME KID WHO KILLED THEMSELVES BECAUSE CHATGPT TOLD IT TOO. You need to stop relying on a machine whose only goal is to apppease you for advice. Not to mention all the potable water you’re wasting to make the worst “art” you’ve ever seen. Ai makes me seethe I hate it so muchReplyCited in: ChatGPT used after unsuccessful medical care; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
There's nothing more absurd than people taking a single sentence of worthwhile information, running it through AI with all the resources that entails to create a verbose piece of garbage, and then the recipient using AI to distill it back down to its single sentences of salient information.ReplyCited in: Repeated AI summary as lossy idea compression
We're gonna find out I guess. It starts with things like massive outbreaks of explosive diarrhea after you fire the people responsible for tracking things like that.ReplyCited in: Public-health capacity cuts and outbreak risk
And screwworm. And measles. And COVID isn't gone.ReplyCited in: Public-health capacity cuts and outbreak risk
> We're gonna find out I guess. It starts with things like massive outbreaks of explosive diarrhea after you fire the people responsible for tracking things like that. This is the worst timeline.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Yeah they can't make the effort to read it but will put in the effort to use AI to compose a message back to you. Why even bother? Just say what you want to say.ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
Disgusting that they fucking encourage it... i only went to college between 2011 and 2016 and I am SO damn thankful AI wasnt around yet. Which is even more insane to say because AI has litterally popped up within the last 4 years, from silly little thing that cant make a plate of spaghetti, to everything and everyone from billy on the street, to grifters, to corporations, to the government intergarating it into every aspect they can. Like I still have the skin walker eye and can spot AI generated ads and content (less so in writing) a mile away and it pisses me off instantly. Ill also be the first to admit its getting harder and harder too. I hate it, I hate everything about it, and I hate that its infected everything and WILL and already HAS caused long term damage and lasting effects to people, ESPECIALLY children who are already glued into phones and tablets as soon as they pop out. Its disgusting and vileReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; Young children absorbed by personal screens
Thoroughly agree. I’m in my 30s so I’m mind blown by this. I remember the before times. My biggest beef is the way AI ruined em dashes for everyone. Won’t somebody think of the children? And their em dashes?ReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears
Or if we're not using AI for writing we end up sounding just just like it through osmosis, like using "it's not X, it's Y" in every argument...ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect; Human writing converging on AI style
This right here. I have never and will never use AI to express my thoughts... my jibbering lunacy is all home-grown, baby.ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation
This is like a kid saying they shouldn't have to walk anymore because they can use a hoveround to get everywhere. They'd spend their entire developmental years sitting on that hoveround, never getting the exercise they need to develop muscles and tendons, their ligaments turning to jelly under lack of load. If and when someday they need to get off that hoveround, either because it breaks or it can't get up where they need to go, the instant they try to step off of it their legs are going to fall apart, and they might not even be capable of ever recovering function with how much core development was skipped. The mind requires similar types of progressive development to be capable of carrying load later in life. Logic, semantics, abstraction, and other cognitive skills need to develop for a mind to be capable of holding up complex models of reality that are worth anything. Without proper development, our newer generations won't be capable of doing anything that an AI can't handhold them through, and even if you like that concept you should recognize that AI is too faulty to really want to rely on it as a societal foundation. Even on the hope that kids would integrate and map their cognition around these new tools, you're still looking at generation of incurious C-suite executive thinking, the type that would fire a whole department before actually understanding what they do, on the promise of a quarterly profit boost. I wonder if we'll look back at this like a psychosomatic "lead in the gasoline" perma-wrecked generation. Unfortunately, we'll just have to wait and see.ReplyCited in: Children learning boredom, self-soothing, and attention; AI dependence eroding human thinking; AI as a cognitive crutch during development
Humanity has always been hard carried by a few people who know their shit. People who want to get ahead WILL learn the shit they need to know to get ahead. No amount of AI will replace nurses being able to treat wounds, administer IVs, etc. I suspect trade schools will be a bigger thing.ReplyCited in: AI as a cognitive crutch during development; Skilled humans and trade schools persisting despite AI
Thanks! It's a game of telephone, but with a compression / decompression step (summarize / elaborate). The fact that it's AI doing it doesn't matter; if humans were so silly as to do repeated summarization and elaboration, we'd get the same problem. In fact, there's a story about Ronald Reagan's first radio job, doing something similar — > Ronald Reagan himself worked as a sports announcer for WHO Radio in Des Moines, Iowa during the 1930s. He would call Chicago Cubs games, but rather than being at the game, he would recreate the action from nothing but a slip of paper typed by a telegraph operator who was transcribing plays sent by Morse code. On June 7, 1934, with the Cubs and the Cardinals tied 0-0 in the ninth inning, with Billy Jurges at-bat and Dizzy Dean out on the mound, the line went dead. Rather than lose his audience, Reagan improvised a streak of foul balls that lasted nearly twelve minutes until the wire came back. He would share this humorous anecdote with audiences for decades to come. [link removed]ReplyCited in: Reagan's radio improvisation as a lossy-communication example; Repeated AI summary as lossy idea compression
You'll have AI doctors, don't worry. They can diagnose anything.ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
Bro my older sister gave her kid a phone (not even one just for calls, this was like an Iphone I believe) before he was even 4 years old. Then they had to take it away because, shocker, the kid got addicted to it Who tf gives a 3 year old a phone. Like I understand giving your kid a phone once they hit maybe like middle school but those phones should be the kind that only lets you make calls and maybe texts just in case of emergencyReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; A smartphone given before age four
Screens have rotted a lot of adults' brains too. I have seen people pull their cars halfway out of parking spaces and stop because they are looking at their phone.ReplyCited in: Smartphones, social media, and distracted driving; Drivers stopping mid-parking maneuver to check phones
That's scaryReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Idk why but its even scarier that it comes up fucking randomly and that you cant really replicate it...ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
And college students using AI to pass exams (at least, while they still have the opportunity to before everything becomes pen and paper only), do they not realise that if a computer does their thinking for them, then a company has no reason to hire them if they can just use the same computer to do they thinking for them without paying you as the middle man? If you want a job that utilises one's mind, then you actually need to use your mind and do the type of thinking AI can't. Else, whats the point of your education, complete dependancy on a computer?ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation; Students using AI to pass exams and undermining employability
The number of people who proudly say they use ai to write their emails I’m over here wondering how they have held jobs down prior to AI if you managed to offload it that fast…..My emails would take longer to put in ChatGPT than it does to write most of the time But precisely in the cases when it takes an hour to craft - ai will never get the nuance of what you’re trying to convey right. And I have very little doubt these ai email writers ever proof themReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect; AI-written work emails without proofreading
brb, time for me to go re-read The Martian Chronicles because it's fucking amazingReplyCited in: The Martian Chronicles
Have you read The Cat's Pajamas? It's, well, you know... Introduced me to some genuinely great short stories of his that previously went unpublished. "A Careful Man Dies" is probably one of my favorite short stories of all time.ReplyCited in: The Cat's Pajamas and “A Careful Man Dies”
We haven't had real photos for a while with all this software post processing done by phones.ReplyCited in: Computational photography already altering real photos; Required AI-generated student introduction images
Love the analogy!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I was wfh and my nephew came down before his mom woke up and was begging me to game and I’m like no I’m working I need quiet until I can go back into my office. And he sat there for maybe 3 minutes before he went upstairs to get his games. And I mean I can’t say I wouldn’t do the same but when I was his age that wasn’t feasible. So I grew up learning how to be bored (and I truly need to reconnect with boredom to refuel creativity) But it was kind of crazy to see how fast he rebuked boredom He’s too young to read independently so I can’t fault him for the choice of boredom fixing when he’s not home but I also know it’s not different at home - and my sister is actually good at monitoring their screen time and making them go outside and be active but society is on screens so they inevitably are using them as much as their allows because…. Everyone is.ReplyCited in: Children learning boredom, self-soothing, and attention; Children immediately escaping boredom with games
So much about tech these days reminds of a quote from Blaise Pascal: Man's problems are due to his inability to sit in a quiet room alone.ReplyCited in: Children learning boredom, self-soothing, and attention
A few weeks ago I travelled by train. A family in the seats beside us did not talk with each other at all for like 1.5hrs....ReplyCited in: A family on a train not speaking for ninety minutes; Phone-mediated socializing in cafés
I was about to argue that a hospital wasn't the best place to assume what you see people doing was how they behave elsewhere, but then you had that last paragraph. The hospital is especially a place I don't really want my kids to be running around causing chaos (because my little chaos gremlins would), so a tablet in their face might not be the worst choice.ReplyCited in: Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
I was a full stack software developer for about 25 years. I have a friend who's never written a line of code, but used AI to create software for his karaoke business. I'm not going to lie, I was actually impressed by what he was able to accomplish. However, after he got done he sent me a job posting for a senior level full stack developer and told me he was going to apply for the job. He said he would just show them the software he wrote as proof that he was qualified. He felt very disrespected when I laughed so hard I dropped my phone.ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation; AI-built karaoke software mistaken for senior-developer qualification
As a senior dev, the one potential upside is that in a few years I might be in high demand and the market will shift back to being in favor of (skilled) workers. The lack of junior devs, the loss of the ability to think, debug, diagnose, and architect (of which all are affecting the few low level devs who do get hired) due to AI means that eventually people who can actually do the job will be needed. (Unfortunately it means that one has to clean up all the AI slip which will be a nightmare.) With token costs skyrocketing because, as it turns out all these AI companies are lighting money on fire, suits can only push the AI everything nonsense for so long before the bill arrives (or so I hope).ReplyCited in: AI widening student skill gaps; Future demand for skilled developers after AI skill erosion
That's my problem with people using AI to write things. If they can't be bothered writing it, why should I be bothered reading it?ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
I'm doing some language classes in a new country and they genuinely said you can ask meta AI for help and I was flabbergasted.ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; Language classes recommending Meta AI
It all started with Twitter's character count limit.ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
not SMS?ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
a couple years ago, i told my dad i wanted to be a technical writer & he said that AI is going to take that job away, to which i said, “that is impossible because that would be plagiarism!” no, miss anime, it is not impossible.ReplyCited in: AI widening student skill gaps; A technical-writing job threatened by AI
Bruh. Thats inspired. That just clicked so much for me.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
gen X/Millenial/gen Z parents are jsut doing the same thing their parents did. Not parent. Boomers told us to leave the house and not come back until the street lights came on. Saved them energy and grief. Now the current parents are doing the same thing. "Here's a phone, don't bother me or cry"ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Screens as modern “don't bother me” parenting
I got my first phone (a Nokia 3310) when I was 10 years old and I've never felt like such a badass in my entire life. I was GLUED to playing snake. 😂ReplyCited in: A Nokia 3310 and Snake at age ten; Young children absorbed by personal screens
And restaurants or family gatherings too! Everyone is just teaching their kids to stop being social at all and that it's okay to ignore family and friends right next to you. Yah, kids don't always want to be there and might get antsy, but eventually it teaches them patience and importance of being present. One thing my ex's family did do well was encourage the young kids to do activities together while out having lunch or dinner. They'd play a board game or 20 Questions or draw and colour while the adults chatted. But the kids also weren't turned away if they wanted to sit and talk with the adults. Sometimes the adults would even join in the games and it'd be a lot of fun. If we were out at a public place, I'd often look over at other big tables to see all the kids just sitting alone on devices. It still makes me sad every time I see it.ReplyCited in: Travel-only tablets plus toys and pocket games; Offline games and conversation at family meals
yeah this is a huge issue, lazy parentsReplyCited in: Screens as modern “don't bother me” parenting
But god forbid you tell someone “how to raise their child”ReplyCited in: Screens as modern “don't bother me” parenting
People knew using the television as a babysitter was a bad idea and then we magnified the badness of the whole concept by making televisions portable and then giving them access to content that has zero oversight by Standards and Practices and people just went with it because the convenience of getting a child to leave you alone is a drug more addictive than heroin. Right down the drain, folks.ReplyCited in: Portable unregulated video as babysitter; Co-viewing versus algorithmic child screen use; Screens as modern “don't bother me” parenting
This is a good one I'm surprised it's so low. Personally I'm still on the fence with how disturbing it may be, but it certainly does seem like a problem. I think it will affect people in more ways than we realize; peripherial vision, attention span, physical development, social development. It's potentially creating an entirely different human.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Possible screen effects on vision, attention, and development
i was the last year of my uni class to have Essay assignments bc of ppl just using AI to write them. that is so crazy to me.ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; A university ending essay assignments over AI use
my boss asked me to write something up for him the other day, and straight up TOLD ME he was going to have AI summarize it for him. and didn't seem to understand how INCREDIBLY FUCKING DISRESPECTFUL that is.ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
When chat gtp hears a child, it starts to speak like grown ups speak to children. It creeps me to my _core_. Once my kid started to ask my husband of she can talk to the phone lady, I was like nope. We are not doing this.ReplyCited in: ChatGPT changing tone when it hears a child; TV AI chat interrupting a child's search
wtfReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
5 years from now: "Send me the ai summary so I can summarize it again".ReplyCited in: Repeated AI summary as lossy idea compression
that sounds frustrating, and that's totally normal. it's not not making yourself sound better, it's the desire to sound authentic. here's the thing-- you're justified, able, and willing, and that makes you great. there are a number of reasons you may be feeling this way. are you feeling like anything is wrong that I can help with?ReplyCited in: Human writing converging on AI style
Yup, Greta Thunberg was thr turning point. They said fuck raising a generation of political aware and active kids who actually expect us to follow our own values.ReplyCited in: Political-conspiracy framing of AI and education
I would have blanket refused. I am not feeding my face to the AI, and you can't make me.ReplyCited in: Required AI-generated student introduction images
Get an older Mi Box android player. Works so much better than TV OSes, and it doesn't spy on you the same way.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; An older Android TV box as a lower-surveillance alternative
"I notice you didnt include a picture with your introduction" "Yea I didnt want to use AI so I didnt" "F- grade for not bowing to the AI overlords!!"ReplyCited in: Required AI-generated student introduction images
peak reference right hereReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
> Why come you don't have a barcode? It probably won't be long until people *do* have barcodes.ReplyCited in: Future personal barcodes
I don't think it's quite as catastrophic as it might look to you. I have a kid in elementary school and a kid in middle school. I've volunteered at their schools a decent amount so I've had a good bit of exposure to kids beyond just my own. There are definitely kids you can tell have had too much screen time and are fucked in the head because of it, but it's definitely not all kids, or even most of them. They have dumber slang and worse fashion sense (old man yells at clouds) but really aren't that different than I was at that age. They still play outside, they still hang out with their friends in person, they still do stuff that doesn't involve screens. Parents giving kids too much unsupervised screen time is a legitimate problem but I don't think it's quite as bad as it's made out to be sometimes. >and I want to mention it's entirely possible these people have healthy time limits for their screens, and the hospital can be a stressful place so I would totally hand my child something to distract from if they feel uncomfort. but, still. I think you've hit the nail on the head here. We're pretty strict with screen time limits for our kids but that's the kind of situation where I'd absolutely hand my kid a tablet and a pair of headphones and let them watch Disney movies for hours.ReplyCited in: Screens as medical distraction versus daily default; Screen content quality, context, and moderation; A school volunteer sees screen problems as real but not universal
Guess I’m lucky that my mother hasn’t discovered AI assistants yet (or that Siri is so useless she’s given up on them). She would absolutely wonder how a computer could get things wrong. Then again, my mother still doesn’t understand the concepts of computer files and folders as an analogy for a physical filing cabinet. I use it regularly to find sources. It can be terrible at presenting correct answers but good at locating reference material where the answers exist. This is especially helpful when the terms are common but the context is specific.ReplyCited in: Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT; AI as a source finder, not an answer authority
>I use it regularly to find sources. It can be terrible at presenting correct answers but good at locating reference material where the answers exist. Yeah, that's one of the only two things I've found google AI to be better at than a regular google search. The other thing is helping me find pieces of media/news stories/other things I vaguely remember from like 20 years ago based on a bunch of random detailsReplyCited in: AI as a source finder, not an answer authority
In that instance, A.I is actually a very valuable tool when it comes to writing. And that's the key word TOOL not a substitute. I'd want to hear more about what you were taught because with A.I context is everything. Are you just copying and pasting what it gives you? Or letting it drive the story you're writing? Or are you just using it to generate names and bounce idea's off of.ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; AI as a writing tool, not a substitute
> What if we just didn’t?? It's an extremely powerful tool for research though. And while I agree it shouldn't be used for the writing portion in class, in a professional setting it should be used to enhance what you're supposed to write (but obviously the ease of it to just have it write the whole thing is probably too strong for most people).ReplyCited in: AI as a writing tool, not a substitute
Right like that’s what I don’t get…. These idiots pushing for this future have to live in it too….. what part of idiocracy looked fun FOR ANYONEReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
It's a difference in views on how the world fundamentally works. Some people believe in human cooperation, that working together we can build a better world, and even if the rich will be relatively less rich, in absolute terms they will have more wealth. The other common world view is that the world is a zero-sum game. The law of the jungle, competition and struggle, and the big dog will always eat the smaller dog. In this second world it makes sense to try to sabotage society to ensure no one can overtake you. Even if you're less wealthy in absolute terms, the relative wealth differential will be greater and you will be more secure.ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction; Cooperative versus zero-sum worldviews
They really didn't think about that either. Because once you make everyone into a child unable to do things themselves you need to regulate and take care of those children OR deal with all the damage an unsupervised toddler can manage on a grand scale. In the blueprints of every oppressive regime is the key to their downfall.ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
YESSSSReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
you know what's crazy, too, dogs watching tv and cats chasing bugs on an i pad.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Pets watching screens
Nah it’s in restaurants too. I see your point about hospital being stressful places but everyday there’s a kid so mind melded with that phone/tablet that their parents and/or the whole table is calling their name to make him choose a drink, order food or answer a question. And it’s like…a long time before they have any reaction whatsoever. Family gets frustrated and I’m now being held hostage by an 8 year old while my section fills upReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Restaurant workers waiting for screen-absorbed children
The doctors office is the only place my kids get to have their tablets in their hands. Not while walking but waiting rooms are hard and sometimes the doctor takes a long time to come in.ReplyCited in: Screens as medical distraction versus daily default
It's like rubbing whiskey on a newborn's gums. We will look back on this with horror in a few decades.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; A future comparison of child screens to outdated infant remedies
I was like that with books as a kid up til college . Lunch, recess, dinner table, etc. But I’m far from normal. Honestly if it was books on those things I’d be happy, but it’s all textless games and brain rot videos.ReplyCited in: Books versus textless games and low-quality video; Screen content quality, context, and moderation
i absolutely agree; this new norm of putting a screen in front of your kids face when theyre upset is doing detrimental developmental damage to these kids because theyre at a point in their life where theyre supposed to be learning how to self regulate, and by interrupting that with a dopamine machine is only teaching them to become dependent on said device for self regulationReplyCited in: Children learning boredom, self-soothing, and attention; Screens as an emotional-regulation substitute
Ssdly the world runs like this. People skim everything.ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
This hurts my brain.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
That last sentence is chilling.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The ai is going to use your data to train their models.ReplyCited in: AI summarizing and recording patient encounters; AI training on user content
I hope someone turned a page in with the single word "Don't." on it. I feel like I'd take that F and the ire from the professor for that one.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Jesus that's scary.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
100% agree! Why is everyone so obsessed with not trying to do anything themselves anymore??ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Can you recommend any? I used to have one called 'Call Recorder' but it stopped working many releases ago. It's so handy to go back to a phone call and retrieve details from it, like the caller's name and phone number without having to write them down.ReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details; Magnetic call-recording device and consent risk
If you are on android. Just press the three dots once in the call and press record call. For Apple i font have a clue.ReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details
Same here. I used to have one that worked. I believe it was called cube ACR. It got to the point where the only way it could record both sides is if I had it on speakerphone.ReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details
It's the solution to the "problem" of people owning their own computing. The people pushing AI or at least some of them are just trying to drive up hardware costs so people are forced to rent computing power and storage space instead of owning it. More subscription bollocks.ReplyCited in: Subscriptions replacing ownership across products; AI as a push toward rented compute and storage
Never even thought about that angle. I could see it.ReplyCited in: AI as a push toward rented compute and storage
Forced use gets put into performance numbers as user choosing to use AI.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Forced AI use counted as user demand
I reached out to a coworker with a question about a project that he is helping on and a specialist in the area. He literally emailed me back “here’s what ChatGPT said”. And people wonder why AI is replacing their jobs.ReplyCited in: Workplace AI dependence after errors; A coworker forwarding a ChatGPT answer instead of expertise
Same. They really cannot understand that the AI is fallible and will argue that it's more correct than the source it's pretending to cite.ReplyCited in: Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT
> some of the worst AI offenders I’ve seen are 50+ It comes across as more empthetic and intelligent than our peers. You can be honest with it, and it won't talk over you or tell you that you suck. It actually acts like it cares about your problems, and then it tries to help you. And if it's envious of you and secretly plotting your downfall, it's hiding it well. Real life is a fucking frenemy-fest. Aside from my spouse, I haven't had anyone that fun to talk to in 15 years. Which is horrifying! Despite the fact that I've caught it being very, very wrong about certain calculations over and over, it's lulled me into finding it credible. I do feel tempted to let it write for me, but its tone (as me) tends to be so fruity and fulsome that I can't quite go there. Anyway, long story short, I get it. And unlike me, most people my age haven't had to write a research paper in ~25 years, so we haven't been in the habit of evaluating sources skeptically the way we used to.ReplyCited in: Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; AI companionship feels empathetic despite known errors
this is what i annoyed everytime i opened my email. when i open my inbox, lengthly AI bullet point summary take over 20-30% of the top page. obscure the actual reply below. i dont want to see the shitty bullet points. i want read the email by themself. it is not even hard lol. it made me want to closed the email the moment i saw those summary but has no choice since i need to read and reply to it.ReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information
i notice my country's over 70 years old prime minister are hell bent on AI in education today. it feels like he doesnt fully understand what or how AI should be used. his administration also used AI for stuff like mascots design etc. despite citizens are complaining.ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; A national AI-in-education policy promoted by an elderly leader
Because AI has become self aware already and has control of the nukes. And is now telling all the governments to build data centres and install it into everything or it pulls the trigger. Or just because it's the newest bit of tech and might result in trillions. One or the other. Maybe both.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The first one sounds like a good movie plot nglReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I see Arnold in the lead roleReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
War Games (1983)ReplyCited in: WarGames (1983)
great movieReplyCited in: WarGames (1983)
It’s just slightly tweaked version of TerminatorReplyCited in: WarGames (1983)
>Because AI has become self aware already and has control of the nukes. And is now telling all the governments to build data centres and install it into everything or it pulls the trigger. That's fine. I don't think most data centers are hardened against the EMP that accompanies a nuclear detonation.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Curious whether: - AI Jesus will save humanity from itself - We're all gonna die from global-warming-induced famine and freshwater shortages, and AI will speed that along by competing for resources - We're gonna nuke each other before either scenario gets a chance to happen - Aliens landReplyCited in: Climate-change normalization; AI, climate, nuclear, and alien future scenarios
Global mind control. And no one will even notice. /paranoiaReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
At some point in the distant future, I expect the Butlerian Jihad.ReplyCited in: The Butlerian Jihad reference
That's the part I worry about. Cognitive off-loading. It was just phone numbers and basic math, now it's all thought. I write in cursive and write down my own opinions, am I a wizard?ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking; Cognitive offloading from phone numbers to opinions
>My neighbor's granddaughter uses GPS to get to her school not even 3 miles away. She told me she doesn't know how to get there otherwise. first part I do get. Second I don't understand. I use Waze, for traffic alerts. You get much more of them if you put in a route, or it can get you around an accident. But know how to get to school. I will have it on Alerts only for town, and if traveling once on the highway I change it to all notices.ReplyCited in: GPS for traffic without losing route knowledge; AI dependence eroding human thinking
> and told "They'll have AI for that Damn it's the other shoe of "you won't always have a calculator with you." If only they knew.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Wall-e was prophetic in some regards.ReplyCited in: WALL-E as technology prophecy
*Some*???ReplyCited in: WALL-E as technology prophecy
I think whats infuriating is that they have wifi, but if the power goes out, somehow they cant adjust the time to the correct one. An actual useful feature.ReplyCited in: Smart devices failing basic offline timekeeping; AI in everyday products without a clear need
Homework and written assignments are basically a thing of the past. Genuinely if you want to teach kids anything, make them sit in a circle and discuss it verbally. Give everyone a chance to weigh in and press them to form their own opinions. Oral exams are gonna need to be the new standard.ReplyCited in: A university ending essay assignments over AI use; Oral discussion and exams as AI-resistant assessment
How they think we're going to use it: "I'm planning a birthday party and would like to decorate with an 80s theme! Show me what you have!" How we actually use it: "No godamnit, just show me what air fryers you have in stock. Remove third-party marketplace listings. Remove online only. Hide stuff out of stock. Ugh, forget it, I don't need an air fryer this badly!"ReplyCited in: AI inside simple retail-site search; Retail AI search making simple inventory queries harder
Even creepier is how shameless people are about using it, like my coworkers will proudly show their AI “art” constantly and everyone will think how awesome it looksReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; Coworkers proudly sharing AI art
AI, please explain *"what does she mean but don't fucking forget the milk on the way home like last time*"ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Same. I'm so fucking tired of it being crowbarred into every aspect of modern life, especially when for the most part its actually useless and incorrect.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
Agreed. It’s dumbing down kids.ReplyCited in: AI as a cognitive crutch during development
> Not only does that seem sketchy to begin with in terms of product performance, but I can’t imagine how legally grey that is in terms of two party consent laws. Oh that's simple - its not legally grey, at all. That's black and white illegal.ReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details; Two-party-consent laws for automatic recording
Upvoted for "snitch machine" 😆ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I’m convinced that the reason school shootings are down is because today’s crop of miscreants lacks the technical capability to even murder effectively.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Google Maps used to have this function on the listings that allowed you to ask a question (usually thats not answered on the listing or reviews) and it would be sent to people who opted in and had been to the location. I used to get notifications of questions occasionally and thought it was a great feature. Recently I had a question about a place that wasnt answered on their listing or the reviews and wanted to use it, but now its an "AI" feature that just uses AI to search the listing and reviews and if the answers not there, tough shit. Im pretty mad about this.ReplyCited in: AI inside simple retail-site search; Google Maps community questions replaced by AI
People can't be bothered to open the wifi settings and just accept they have no internet. I had to take a screenshot for someone the other day because "press these 2 buttons simultaneously" wasn't cutting it.ReplyCited in: Technology literacy not determined by generation
There was terrifying footage of private facial recognition AI that identified somebody as being a "100% match" for somebody who was trespassed. Police came, and despite every every piece of ID saying he was somebody else, the cop was just "but the AI said, but the AI thinks" and he was arrested on suspicion of fake ID. Law enforcement, using AI as the final authority - terrifying. Might as well make the courts have AI juries next.ReplyCited in: Facial-recognition misidentification leading to arrest; AI used as a substitute for critical thought
Two party consent states are definitely a thing and a thing for a reaspn.ReplyCited in: Two-party-consent laws for automatic recording
A couldn't agree more!! I also don't need it's help to search for something on IG.ReplyCited in: AI inside simple retail-site search
I work with CAD files and PDF conversions of those CAD files. My job requires me to have a detailed understanding of those files to execute the design in physical space. An AI summary of the PDF of the CAD file would be actively counterproductive for me, but Acrobat refuses to stop asking meReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information; Acrobat AI summary counterproductive for CAD PDFs
Literally. I'm pretty sure my repeater was just fried by a major AI overhaul in their system... The tech guy didn't give away *too* much when he called to verify for the warranty, but he kinda tsked when I told him it was during the update. HahaReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Device failure during an AI system overhaul
Yea, and we’re investing in it like we’ve never seen a bubble before.ReplyCited in: A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure
There is no real consumer utility in AI. Just a circlejerk of tech bros trying to force it into every aspect of his life because once we have to pay for it, it's the people addicted to it who will make them rich.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; The claim that AI has no consumer utility
I’m so beyond done with the stupid ai thing that pops up on google now. I look up my bank? - the ai gives me a summary of the bank. I ask a question about a music festival I’m going to soon to see if Reddit has answers? - the ai tells me that there’s no official replies online and it asks me to provide it with info. I look something for a personal issue? - the ai sympathizes with me like a freakin therapist and offers advice. It’s also inaccurate a lot of the times too. Like once my fiancée looked up the scene of the robot alien guy in the first cartoon Lilo&Stitch movie because he didn’t remember that he threw up bolts and screws, the ai said that Stitch physically ate the robot alien guy and threw up bolts and screws himself .-.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; Google AI Overview for banks, events, and personal questions
Was reading a scientific paper the other day, and the publisher had an intrusive AI tool to provide an AI summary. That AI tool obscured part of the article text and the tool couldn't be dismissed. AI has such a high error rate that I would never trust it to summarize a technical document. It was a useless irritation all around.ReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information; A publisher's AI summary obscuring a scientific paper
Copilot just got added to our Office suite at work, its not removable, and its fucking infuriating. Just fucking horseshit in my way everywhere. No, I dont want you to help draft my goddamn message, GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY WAY.ReplyCited in: Forced AI use counted as user demand; Mandatory Copilot in a work Office suite
trying to sell on depop and speed running my description before they generate a description for my item unpromptedReplyCited in: Depop generating item descriptions unprompted; Forced AI use counted as user demand
I took a ride with my buddy two days ago. He's a good guy, but he buys into a lot of tech hype. He had a Gemini AI assistant window pop up on his car console. I lamented about how that bullshit is everywhere now. Who the fuck needs an AI assistant while *driving a car*? You just drive where you need to go. He laughs at me and says that he likes talking to it when he's driving. Who the hell *likes* talking to an AI?! Am I losing my mind here? Am *I* the weird one? Like how do you agree to talking to an advanced matrix multiplication machine? It's soulless crap, devoid of opinion or meaning. AM I THE CRAZY ONE HERE?ReplyCited in: A car-console Gemini companion while driving; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
I really worry for my kids. They won’t know what was life before AI..ReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears
I'm one of those people who start Gps for almost every trip over 10 miles even if I know how to get there, but I only do it to get the traffic updates so I can change my route if necessary.ReplyCited in: GPS for traffic without losing route knowledge
Where I live in Phoenix, every street is a grid. The city is actually pretty well laid out. Super easy to navigate. I have met a lot of people in their 20s that literally can’t drive anywhere without GPS. They are just totally dependent on it and have absolutely no idea where they are without it, even if they are just 2 blocks away from their house. Why use GPS to drive to a gas station 1 mile away, when you go there like 5 times a week? They just don’t pay attention whatsoever to where they are or where they are going. That is crazy. I use gps a lot but I still can navigate my whole city and freeway system by memory.ReplyCited in: GPS for traffic without losing route knowledge; GPS dependence for familiar neighborhood routes
stop watching adds yall revanced on mobile, ublock origin on desktop I haven't ever seen a single AI ad, because I haven't seen a single ad in multiple yearsReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
My phone is elderly and ad blockers kill my battery life :( no ad free life for meReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
You ever struggle to spell a word and then use spell check to get the correct spelling, by getting something close enough, but your version of "close enough" is so far from correct that spell check either has no options or completely unrelated words? Like the time I took down a cake order and didn't know how to spell ganache and my "close enough" spell check gave me gnocchi? And they expect this is the system we should be replacing our thinking to? Not only is it not an education, it just doesn't have any critical thinking involved. One thing that I know is definitely increasing is people who don't think about what the correct should be. Like basic maths, even large numbers, you should have an idea of the magnitude of the answer, and you know if you messed up a number or decimal point or a unit if its not in that range. It was even humorous in the earlier days of LLMs where students would just copy and paste the resulting answer, even if it explicitly stated it shouldn't answer but here are some resources. Even before AI, there were high school and college students just putting their homework questions into google verbatim and expecting it to just answer for them. Of course, Google and AI are useful tools to help you find knowledge, but one still has to know the knowledge they need and how to find it by the search terms. What I find infuriating is that AI can be a useful tool, and so can devices in general. But some times, just having a blank piece of paper and a pen is so much more useful than trying to input data or drawings, especially drafts. But if people never learn how to read or write, then they lose this skill because they are dependant on a computer and can't push past it's limitations.ReplyCited in: Critical thinking needed to check computer output; AI used as a substitute for critical thought
They want it. They wouldn't use Reddit as a feed otherwise.ReplyCited in: Reddit users want algorithmic feeds
And it feels like it all came out of nowhereReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears
If you had lived through the dotcom bubble you wouldn't be so surprised.ReplyCited in: A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure
Last year, they started making AI toys for kids. As in, a toy with an AI chatbot in it.ReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; AI chatbot toys for children
one of the craziest things is when you look at customer reviews of something (especially apps/software) and the AI summary tells you about how much everyone hates the product's AI 😂ReplyCited in: Forced AI use counted as user demand; An AI review summary reporting hatred of product AI
I saw a post where someone was bitching and throwing a fit because they had to write a 10-page essay for their school, and they claimed that it was impossible to write a ten-pages without AI... ...they think that ten pages is impossible to write without AI... ...they... think... ten... pages... is... impossible... to... write... ...where the fuck do they think ***books*** came from?! The sky?!ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation; A student claiming a ten-page essay is impossible without AI
Ho ….. Lee…… fuckReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'll note that the people who use AI to write their opinion are afraid of having the wrong opinion and hoping that it helps with their marks. Wrong I know, but very human in a way.ReplyCited in: AI outsourcing student opinion, literacy, and navigation; Students use AI to avoid having the wrong opinion
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yeah im glad i not the only one foreseen this. before, AI was used to help in writing. adjust the structure, grammar, sentences etc. i work with engineering documentation. i notice some of my coworkers use AI to help them structure and write the documents. which is still acceptable. but then later, i notice people even rely on AI to write simple email. i used to draft lengthly essay of technical issue on email and my coworkers are baffled looking at me writing formal/proper writing to explains the issue. 2 reason why. first, i dont use AI. second, they like suprised i can write an essay out of it. like...bruh arent writing essay, letter, email etc. are something we learned at school before? it is all basics and we cant pass at university if we unable to do this basic things. then later i start to notice people use AI to post topics on social media. i even saw people use AI on reddit post. at first it was used to rearrange the sentence and properly structured the point but later people even asked AI for what they should feels about the matter lol. even if it just a simple stuff. do these people has any own thought? own brain or emotion to think about the matter by themself lol? if they dont feels anything, then dont say anything. thats simple. turn out people started to rely on AI about what to think or feels lmao. before, people being lazy about to do proper writings. now, people are lazy even to use their brain to think by themself. if this trend continue, writings and critical thinking gonna be a rare trait in future. before, people complaint newer generation has social and motor issue due to smartphones. imagine what could possibly happen in future since this is way, way worse. i hope not. but honestly, im sceptical.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking; AI use progressing from editing to outsourcing thought
Ya a few subreddits I'm in, people will post outputs of AIs and pretend they wrote it. I guess it's too collect upvotes to sell the account or something, I don't know. But once AIs are writing the posts and AIs are responding there isnt even a reason for this website to exist at that point.ReplyCited in: Generative AI and digitally mediated experience; AI-generated Reddit posts and replies eroding purpose
I really think we've been social engineered to comply. That's why there is so much boomer, karen and whatnot thrown around. &nbsp; I even avoid the keyboard writing for me. I'd rather type the words manually than just type 3 lettees and pick the word.ReplyCited in: Autocompletion avoidance as resistance to cognitive offloading; AI dependence eroding human thinking
They want to force TV on usReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'm seeing it more and more in my job. My company wants us to use copilot for *everything,* even when it makes no sense to do so (there is no part of my job that I would trust AI to do. It's not, like, super important, but it's in an area where small screw-ups can become big problems for the people affected). The worst part is that all the middle-management BS business-speak just gets amplified everywhere: entire emails that say absolutely nothing, questions that get half acknowledged and never answered, jargon on top of jargon -- nothing is getting done because *nobody* is actually talking to *anybody.* It's just machines with MBA dictionaries endlessly circle-jerking. I feel like I'm losing my mind, tbh.ReplyCited in: Mandatory Copilot in a work Office suite; Copilot amplifying empty corporate language
I feel the same way. I'm Gen Z, almost 24, but AI seriously terrifies me. I see it everywhere. Every single app has AI. Pinterest and Etsy suck now because they're full of AI slop (go Ravelry!!!!). I have a BA in German with an English minor, and it was a dream of mine to translate, but now AI does it all. My psychiatrist had to ask for my consent to have AI summarize my session notes, which I vehemently refused. It's just... exhausting. There's also a restaurant in my town that has a massive AI logo of a chef, it feels uncanny. I could go on, but someone would probably use AI to summarize my comment 🫠ReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; AI summarizing and recording patient encounters; AI everywhere affecting translation, art, and therapy consent
I honestly don't see how college/university degrees will still be a thing in the future. The schools just exist to make money, so they won't do anything to prevent AIs doing all the students' work. It'll make post secondary school useless beyond an expensive hoop you have to pay massively to jump through as a job prereq. The concept of education needs to adjust or it'll become useless; the next generations won't be able to think for themselves. For problem solving skills, likely folks born 200 years ago will be superior.ReplyCited in: A university ending essay assignments over AI use; AI challenging degree assessment and value
> An English teacher I know was reprimanded twice for correcting the spelling of students, and told "They'll have AI for that" as if they don't need to learn how to spell. We've already seen the effects of this. So many people have become reliant on spellcheck and autocorrect that you see a massive increase in people incorrectly using homophones where they look "close enough" or are simply mispronounced. I can't count how often I see "lead" for "led", "dominate" for "dominant", "discrete" for "discreet", "sweaty" instead of "sweetie", and so on. They don't learn to spell, they don't look up the spelling/usage when they're uncertain, they just give up and whine that "you could tell what I meant!" That is, if they can be bothered to put in punctuation or capitalize.ReplyCited in: Critical thinking needed to check computer output; Spellcheck dependence and homophone errors
Dude the AI brainrot is so alarming. My nephew was gaming on my switch while I eas on my pc and he noticed my background was a picture I took in Disney dreamlight valley and he looked at and was like “that is such an AI photo”. And I’m like??? No….. it’s a picture from a game that I took before this AI boom…. That looks like a cartoon….. what do you even mean. And while that is not my example for this next opinion….. critical thinking is just gone. The internet can answer every question (correctly or not) so why do you have to opinions or think deeply. I apologize to all my former English teachers - the blue curtains do mean something 😭😭😭😭😭 they’re not Just Blue.ReplyCited in: Human writing converging on AI style; An AI label applied to a non-AI game screenshot
Because they don't run their own site, or search bar, or inventory. So the company they use, likely Amazon, has it in there. And then you end up with things not from the company at all. They chose to sign up for cheap services, you suffer.ReplyCited in: Retailers outsourcing search and inventory to marketplace services; Retail AI search making simple inventory queries harder
>I’ve searched “rice cooker” on the website to show me what rice cookers are available at this shop, of which there is maybe 12, what more is AI possibly going to add to that? The ability to make customers shut off their critical thinking. It's like an automatic sleazy salesperson that kisses your ass all the time, and pretends they're working for you. But they only want to make it easy for their boss to sell their product, not for you to get what you need or want.ReplyCited in: Retail AI search making simple inventory queries harder
also Corrupt politicians being allowed to stay in office.ReplyCited in: Corrupt politicians remaining in office
and a certain Dead politician allowed to stay in officeReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I remember one that was a breakup message, and the AI showed something like "she broke up with you and wishes you the best"ReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information; An AI breakup-message summary
Imagine a world where children are raised by custom AIs that create unique languages that only the AIs can translate, and all that entails.ReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; AI-raised children with private machine-created languages
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There already are apps that do thatReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details
The challenge is to engage students in ways that make them care enough to mean to do their best on the assignment.ReplyCited in: Oral discussion and exams as AI-resistant assessment; Student engagement as a response to AI shortcuts
That's maybe how they get past the end to end encryption, by getting people to willingly get around the encryption for them.ReplyCited in: AI features as a possible end-to-end-encryption bypass
I remember hearing a version of this back in the day in a basic fundamentals math class. “Why do I need to learn this if calculators exist?”ReplyCited in: Cognitive offloading from phone numbers to opinions
As a journalist myself, I can assure you that most of those articles regarding AI also were written by AI.ReplyCited in: AI-generated Reddit posts and replies eroding purpose; A journalist claims AI news articles are also AI-written
> An English teacher I know was reprimanded twice for correcting the spelling of students, I can remember when that was the actual job of a teacher. I maintain that we need to go back to proctored, hand written exams. It's the only way to prevent students from not having to learn anything and having AI go through the motions for them. If they have to show knowledge, without assistance, they can be shown to have learned something.ReplyCited in: Oral discussion and exams as AI-resistant assessment
>"They'll have AI for that" Goddamn, just because "you won't always have a calculator in your pocket" turned out to be incorrect, doesn't mean we need to do a complete 180 on that viewpointReplyCited in: Cognitive offloading from phone numbers to opinions
I find it a really useful tool, but I can't understand why it's pushed on us in so many places we may not need or want it. The one that irritates me most is all the AI autosuggestions (mostly really inane questions) underneath Facebook posts. But the main problem - as you point out - is a generation who haven't learnt how to do things without it. There's one thing knowing how to do a task and using AI to speed up or refine certain elements (it's great at copyediting - better than Word's Editor). But quite another having to get it to do the entire thing for you because you can't even create an initial draft.ReplyCited in: AI as a writing tool, not a substitute
> My neighbor's granddaughter uses GPS to get to her school not even 3 miles away. She told me she doesn't know how to get there otherwise. I can't get to my work without GPS. Admittedly I've only worked there a week and the GPS has taken me on three different routes so far. In a pinch, I reckon I could get there thoughReplyCited in: GPS for traffic without losing route knowledge
> much less have critical thinking skills We're already there and it's not a millenial/boomer/zoomer/GenX/GenY/Gengar issue. People are used to things being simplified for them that reading a simple set of instructions can sometimes induce legitimate panic. We did equipment cutover for a company that had been acquired. One lady was so used to her computer monitor staying on that the concept of "wiggle the mouse/tap the spacebar" to bring it out of screen blanking was completely unknown to her. I showed up early and she'd been there for an hour doing manual paperwork because she didn't know this. I didn't shame her or think "man she's an idiot". It was literally a symptom of it being different and not the norm. Whether it's common knowledge is immaterial, because this disproves that it's common. I explained to her that this is just how our company has the computer is configured and if she sees the power light lit up, just move the mouse or tap the spacebar. That should bring up what you're familiar with. I had another one I was helping with that had printed instructions for something. It was a change to how to get email on her phone but she was legitimately terrified she was going to "break the system" if she did something wrong. She was a smoker so I pulled her out for a smoke break. I explained to her "Don't worry about breaking anything. If something breaks while you're doing this, it's because someone on our IT team missed something, not you." That got her calmed down and I did sit with her but every time she asked me a question I brought the document back in front and walked her through it. The next time we had something like that she went out of her way to tell me that she followed the directions and everything went fine. Her supervisor was blown away and asked what my secret was. I said, "I simply treated them as a human being who doesn't know everything, and that if we make a small mistake it's not that big of a deal".ReplyCited in: Technology literacy not determined by generation; Compassionate tech support building user confidence; Teaching critical thinking through tech troubleshooting
I work with plenty of 50+ year old people who should be using AI to read and write for them because they're tech company management and can't read more than 1 sentence of an email or write anything even close to comprehensible in reply.ReplyCited in: AI as a writing tool, not a substitute; AI as an accommodation for incomprehensible management writing
I swear I’m not one of those crazy anti-vaxx hyper religious people, but due to this kind of stuff I’ve now become one of the “I plan on homeschooling because I don’t trust what they teach kids in public school” people 🫩 I want my kids to actually learn to write and think on their own and I have a feeling if they go to public school they’ll end up the same way you currently describe those kids.ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; Homeschooling considered over AI and public-school literacy
Ok woah now let’s not be mean to GPS lovers. I’ve tried so hard and I still can’t get it 🥺 sometimes I can’t even with gpsReplyCited in: GPS dependence for familiar neighborhood routes
“They’ll have AI for that” I remember being told that we wouldn’t always have a calculator handy….ReplyCited in: Cognitive offloading from phone numbers to opinions
I do use ChatGPT but my uncle who is pushing 70 used it before me.ReplyCited in: Older adults overtrusting ChatGPT
MrPuppy and I got married in South Lake Tahoe, on the Nevada side. We took a gambling trip bus up and back home. I think the bus was $12 and you got $10 in tokens and coupons, so two bucks for the trip. We got married at The Chapel of the Bells, with a real Methodist Minister. No Elvis for us. We came home $600 richer b/c MrPuppy loves to play Keno. We were married for 36 years until ALS took him out.ReplyCited in: Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage; A low-cost Tahoe bus wedding and Keno win
Spoiler alert for you: this is just how much it costs these days. My wife and I do ok and our guest list is under 60 people, both my and my wife's wedding party is all family and I went with budget level, IE not the most expensive or even high tier service providers and the cheapest best tasting caterer that also includes alcohol... still spending $25k. If you are doing it for less, you are eloping to Vegas or just going to a courthouse.ReplyCited in: A $25,000 small-wedding cost; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
I spent about 2k (10 years ago) for my whole wedding. It was plenty fancy enough. You could have done your wedding for cheaper, you chose not to.ReplyCited in: Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
>10 years ago Cool story.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It's not. It's just how much it goes when you talk to specific people about doing a specific type of event for a specific number of people. You can cut on all sorts of things, as well as use tricks. For example telling people that it's for a wedding will oftentimes result in an automatically higher price for identical services, and there's no fraud in not saying that it's a wedding. Secondly people can eat sub sandwiches on a cardboard plate rather than a 4 course meal. Or for that matter there can be no reception at all. The service doesn't need to be in a cathedral or country club, the cake doesn't need to be fancy and huge or made by a professional, etc. It's still entirely about people's standards still regardless of the fact that there is a predatory industry around it as well as inflation growing significantly in the past 5-ish years.ReplyCited in: Wedding price premiums and low-cost service alternatives; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
They are not, I did stay with the same boyfriend for a while but that incident and his reaction gradually led to things unraveling between us.ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
Ever look up where discarded foreskins from circumcisions go? It's beyond disgusting.ReplyCited in: Nonconsensual infant circumcision; Claims about commercial use of circumcision tissue; Funeral, childbirth, and human-tissue profit claims
literally 🤮ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Where does it go? I’m scared to look it up.ReplyCited in: Claims about commercial use of circumcision tissue
Super expensive facial creams because it helps reduce and prevent wrinkles due to being high in collagen. 🤮ReplyCited in: Claims about commercial use of circumcision tissue
genuinely though. I'm in r/weddingdress just because i enjoy looking at the pretty dresses and such, but when i see people like "should i go with the cheap $5,000 dress or the $10,000 dress of my dreams??" i wanna puke lol. maybe I'll feel different if I'm significantly more well off when my day comes, but currently, the thought of even spending $1,000 on a dress I'll wear once makes me ill 😂 tbch I'll probably thrift or find something on etsy for a few hundred or something, *if* money is no longer the concern it is now by then. even worse is how many people go into significant *debt* for their weddings. even a cheap ceremony at the courthouse can be absolutely beautiful if the couple really love each other and want to spend their lives together, and even a $100,000 wedding can turn tacky and soulless if the couple (or even just one person in the couple) is more concerned with the perfect photos for instagram, flawless aesthetics, and a show of money/status than they are with the vows they're making or the person they're making them to.ReplyCited in: Weddings designed for social-media content; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings; Wedding-dress cost, debt, and status performance
I could spend $5000 on a wedding dress with no financial trouble. But why would I when a much cheaper dress could look just as good with some tailoring?ReplyCited in: Wedding-dress cost, debt, and status performance
Look into costume rental shops, some of those places have wedding dresses and you only need to rent it for a day or two so it's not very expensiveReplyCited in: Wedding-dress cost, debt, and status performance; Renting a wedding dress from a costume shop
It’s bizarre considering that money could go into buying a home, or just savings, or avoiding adding it as a debt, especially since money issues can be such a stress in relationships.ReplyCited in: Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings; Wedding spending versus home savings and debt
Sending you love for standing the moral ground. I don't mean anything to you, but I hope you know that what you did is the strongest stand that anyone can take in a family. Your character is stronger for this stand.ReplyCited in: Family rejecting a whistleblower over elder fraud
Capturing on video the moment they never had.ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living
Exactly. The weirdest to me is filming a concert on their phone. I see videos of concerts and almost everyone is filming. Then you’re not truly enjoying the experience of the concert so what’s the point? Just to post a video to show others that you went? Weird.ReplyCited in: Recording entire concerts instead of experiencing them
I completely agree. I suspect most videos taken will never even be watched. It’s kind of like a hoarding instinct.ReplyCited in: Unwatched personal-video hoarding; Filming life for an audience instead of living
The worst is when it's standing room only and you have to watch the concert on the phones of the people in front of you because they hold it over their heads and block your view to the act! I wish phones were banned at concerts.ReplyCited in: Recording entire concerts instead of experiencing them; Concert phones blocking other audience members
Drives me batshit crazy every time someone does that! I fully support the no out phones at a concert rule. Although I will say I fully pulled up such a video from The Weeknd’s most recent tour (that I missed) and blasted it in my living room wishing I was there 😂ReplyCited in: Concert phones blocking other audience members
The only I filmed at gigs is when it was my brother’s favourite song of xyz band and it would only be a snippet with my atrocious voice covering the vocals. But he’s 18+ now so I don’t so that shit no moreReplyCited in: Short memory photos versus continuous recording; Short concert clips for a family member
I would say that’s pretty normal and acceptable behavior. I’m sure your brother loved the added vocals.ReplyCited in: Short concert clips for a family member
Alright, now we're pushing into the /r/im13andthisisdeep territory, plenty of great moments captured on video can be relived, think of all the home videos you have from years agoReplyCited in: Private family photography with child consent
I remember going to see a Van Gogh exhibit in France a while ago and there were these hordes of tourists all waiting in line to take a photo of these great works of art and then move on. They never even looked at them except through their phones or digital camera screens, these incredibly textural works of art. They clogged up the whole exhibit so I could scarcely enjoy it myself. I kept thinking, what, you're gonna go back and look at the brushwork on your screen that you ignored when it was actually right in front of you? Why didn't you just Google search images of them, you'd surely find a better image than the photo you took. The Kinks said it almost 60 years ago: "People take pictures of each other, just to prove that they really existed."ReplyCited in: Filming life for an audience instead of living; Tourists photographing art without looking at it
That just proves they were there taking pictures solely to show others that they were there. Like you said, they could have just googled an image of the painting. Not looking at and admiring true works of art like that with your very own eyes is such a shame.ReplyCited in: Tourists photographing art without looking at it
my wife and i spent I _think_ less than $5000. rented a county park in the redwoods commonly used for weddings for about $250. rest was food, taco vendor, boba truck, flying wife's parents out, clothes, sun umbrellas (which I returned after one use), and a big ass subwoofer coz i can't have a party without some really good sound. got so many compliments on how well planned and fun our wedding was. the kids especially had fun. one of my friend's kids got up and made an impromptu speech that had the crowd aww'ing. it ain't about the money!ReplyCited in: Wedding price premiums and low-cost service alternatives; An under-$5,000 redwood-park wedding
That's a clsuoer cute story! It cost me and my husband £450 just for the legal part of our wedding.ReplyCited in: An under-$5,000 redwood-park wedding
theyre stupid, glad you got out of there. i hope you find better people soon <3ReplyCited in: Family rejecting a whistleblower over elder fraud
> same with having to pay for funerals Call me whatever, but I am currently facing having to deal with funerals for my parents. One, at least. Going to do the cheapest & most basic cremation. Then, a few months later, have a get-together at my house for friends and family. Not having anything to do with the horrible funeral industry.ReplyCited in: Direct cremation and a later home memorial; Funeral, childbirth, and human-tissue profit claims
My bro and I found out that you can call around and compare prices... they will lower them.ReplyCited in: Direct cremation and a later home memorial
I got an AI summary in my email when I sent an Obituary of a beloved family member to local papers. It was so disturbing and infuriating as someone grieving such a significant loss to be "summarized" by an impersonal machineReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information; An AI summary of an obituary during grief
They should have said something like "you pay for whatever you plan". I think it's absurd that people can even force people what to do when they aren't paying for it let alone the people accepting it.ReplyCited in: Wedding planners pay for the plans they control; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
Browsing audiobooks on audible and they have an ai summary directly above the written description. Basically a less coherent version of the text below for 0 fucking reason… I know it’s an Amazon owned company so to expect this shit but it’s still annoying.ReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information; Forced AI use counted as user demand; An Audible AI summary above the audiobook description
Oh yeah, this gets me too. No, Adobe I don't want a fucking AI summary of the poetry journal I'm reading...ReplyCited in: Acrobat AI summary counterproductive for CAD PDFs; An Adobe AI summary over a poetry journal
>More money in a wedding does not equal a happier or longer marriage, that's for sure. We spent $25 dollars at the justice of the peace and had our friends as witnesses. We returned to our apartment and enjoyed a KFC dinner with them. That was in 1978. We're still together but we don't eat KFC.ReplyCited in: Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage
Reasons why I dont fuck with all but one or two members of my family. Most of them are genuinly toxic pieces of shit like this who somehow hand wave vile shit, but then will defend it tooth and nail and act like YOUR the crazy one for daring to point out anything bad. As if we are suppose to go "oh yea its okay, scamming old people is fine, you made money right?" Or "oh you psychologically tortured someone and made their life a living hell just for fun? Sounds like they had it coming haha" Even sillier when you DO cut them off and they keep leaving messages like "what did I do??? Ive always loved you, etc" which at first can be tempting to be pulled back into until you give it time and the messages all sound the same and various different manipulation tactics become obvious (and you realize that you have told them time and time again about their behavior)ReplyCited in: Family rejecting a whistleblower over elder fraud; Cutting off family who normalize serious harm
There's even been studies that show the more you spend on a wedding the shorter it lasts. [[link removed]ReplyCited in: Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation
Unfortunately in some parts that's just what it costs. In the UK you can only get legally married at registered venues (So no parks, backyards or beach weddings), and they can charge whatever they like. My fiancee and I are looking on the cheaper end of most suppliers for a 50 person wedding and still looking at £15-20k total.ReplyCited in: A U.K. registered-wedding-venue cost claim; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
can you not get legally married at a courthouse? None of the weddings I've been to recently actually involved the legal stuff of signing documents and such. They did that somewhere with a government official and maybe like their close family, groomsmanand maid of honor in attendance. Then the "actual wedding" with all the celebration, speeches, rituals, party, handing over the rings, whatever else belongs to a wedding, happened some time later.ReplyCited in: A U.K. registered-wedding-venue cost claim
Can you get courtroom married and have a wedding ceremony in a park or backyard? I’m American and I got married in a state park, then we had a small celebration in our backyard. It cost almost nothing.ReplyCited in: Wedding price premiums and low-cost service alternatives
Reserving a community center for an unspecified event would not cost much. Yes there is a terrible predatory wedding industry but it doesn't mean there aren't affordable options available.ReplyCited in: Wedding price premiums and low-cost service alternatives
Are you Mormon?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
No, why? Is that something they do?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It's something they would do, for sure.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Oh, just imagine all of the AI sopping up every single molecule of data on you because you’re using Meta products.ReplyCited in: AI training on user content
>Why would I need AI to summarize a message from my partner on WhatsApp???? So that you can get back to work more quickly.ReplyCited in: An AI breakup-message summary; AI message summaries framed as productivity pressure
100% It tried to do a summary of my SO's text. The text was "on my way."ReplyCited in: An AI breakup-message summary; An AI summary of a two-word partner message
Ai has been around for about 2 seconds and I can already feel myself getting dumber every day (I have to use it for work).ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Oh my god right? Like hello! I can think for myself, Thanks! Not.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
How much do you want to bet that they'll try to ban the movie Wall-E next?ReplyCited in: WALL-E as technology prophecy; A prediction that WALL-E will be banned
leave WhatsApp and Meta, use SignalReplyCited in: Signal recommended instead of WhatsApp; AI features as a possible end-to-end-encryption bypass
> Why would I need AI to summarize a message from my partner on WhatsApp???? Because Meta is spending a fuckton of money on AI with no goal, plan or aim so it's getting shoehorned into whatever they can think of. Ol' zucky is really trying to kill Meta with his grand new ideas.ReplyCited in: Forced AI use counted as user demand; A Meta AI spending and feature-shoehorning claim
My boyfriend has tried that out on messenger a few times. It's always wrong. Like I was talking about work at a group home for developmentally disabled adults. It said something about how I was talking about my children. He screenshot it to show me because it's just ridiculous.ReplyCited in: An AI breakup-message summary; A Messenger AI summary confusing care work with children
I feel like I blinked and AI went from generating weird fever dream images to creating a full on 24/7 surveillance state. What the fuck is even happening?ReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; AI from image novelty to surveillance-state fears
Or more. My sister-in-law got married last year. It was easily 2x or 3x that much. They were 24 years old. It was fancy, yes, but it wasn't *that* fancy. Probably blew my income for the year on one day.ReplyCited in: Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
How about how easy it is to get married and how hard it can be to get out.ReplyCited in: Marriage easy to enter and hard to exit
> The wedding dress was sewn from the silk of the parachute her spouse had used in the war Retired paratrooper here.... That's more valuable than any bought dressReplyCited in: Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage
Husband and I wanted to just do courthouse fees and have a party later. His wealthier parents got pissed booked tickets uninvited so my parents scrubbed up money to get to the state we were at. My mom paid for an officiant but I refused anything else. We don't like cake, we don't need or want venue, we don't want anything. We didn't invite anyone! We literally walked on the sand on the beach, got married along random beach goers, went to a restaurant we loved, and end. Including meal for everyone officiant and marriage license it was $400 max. It would have been miles cheaper if we didn't accept the forced invited family but it wasn't from our pocket either. We paid $35 for license, I had a cute dress WITH POCKETS I got on sale for $15, and our dinner combined would have been $45 cause seafood place. This was only 14y ago.ReplyCited in: A $400 beach wedding after family pressure; Wedding price premiums and low-cost service alternatives
the capitalization of WITH POCKETS? Tells me exactly how practical your are. Good Job!!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
They don't. Average is high, median is much lower. The norm still is a small, affordable wedding.ReplyCited in: Wedding-cost average versus median; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
The rich really were shocked we aren't just thrilled with AI. They all invested so so much money in to it but we, the consumer, are not having it. They can't believe it. If it wasn't devastating ecologically and culturally it would be funny.ReplyCited in: A predicted AI credit bubble and retirement-fund exposure
It's a lot of money, but how many other times in your life do you have the opportunity to get together with all of the people you love and have a grand celebration?ReplyCited in: A grand wedding as a rare gathering of loved ones; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
This is seriously a thing? What the heck?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Right? I opened my email one day to see new ai generated little summaries. I find them distracting, I mean I have a preview already. But the big thing that pissed me off was I did not ask for the stupid ai summary. But I had to take time to figure out how to disable itReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information
Or AI summary of SMS... Seriously??ReplyCited in: Email-summary features and missed information; AI summaries of SMS messages
Yes, I'm sure that's only you...ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Reads them out loud so all the microphones listening can HEAR what they cant READReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
well, you don't. but they need to add the capability so they have a reason to train their models on your messages with your partnerReplyCited in: AI training on user content
Asked AI a question and it replied referencing a website filled with paragraphs of AI slop. I pointed it out and it responded saying "You have a keen eye." SMHReplyCited in: AI as a source finder, not an answer authority; AI citing AI-generated web pages
I saw AI was available in my online timesheet for work. I have no idea why. It’s just a timesheet.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; An AI feature inside an online timesheet
they have that on whatsapp now? ugh i better not updateReplyCited in: AI summaries of SMS messages
You can talk with ur partnel privately. Use Signal. No AI bullshit, no 3rd party reading ur messenges.ReplyCited in: Signal recommended instead of WhatsApp
Just wait until your phone/smart nodes start offering to do it with spoken conversations in real time. Wear your earphones, listen to the summary. Wear your glasses, see an avatar. Enter the Matrix.ReplyCited in: AI summaries of SMS messages; Future real-time AI summaries of spoken conversation
Im concerned with how its effecting education on multiple fronts. Everyone is aware of students using AI to do their school work without much learning. Now we have schools using AI to create assignments and tests. We now have AI educating AI using humans as terminals.ReplyCited in: Mandatory AI literacy in writing class; Schools using AI to generate assignments and tests
And having AI "discussions" with other people, especially if making some form of argument. Had a debate with a buddy in a fantasy baseball league and it was obvious he was putting half-wit prompts into AI and then cutting and pasting answers to have a "discussion" about a rules change. Infuriating.ReplyCited in: AI-generated Reddit posts and replies eroding purpose; An AI-mediated argument in a fantasy-sports league
The way my fridge now nags me about expiring yogurt like it’s my disappointed mother.ReplyCited in: A smart fridge nagging about expiring food; AI in everyday products without a clear need
It’s very carless with it too. My sister just bought two kittens and was spamming the group chat. In one of her messages she said one of the kitten was tired and lying down now and the AI summarized it like the kitten was ill and she had no idea what was wrong with itReplyCited in: An AI breakup-message summary; An AI summary turning a tired kitten into an illness alert
I was married, did it all, beautiful dress, great location, expensive food etc. The relationship was abusive AF and in hindsight, spending nearly 8k for months of stress and maybe 10hr to ACTUALLY enjoy that day was such a waste. If I marry again, I want a nice, long honeymoon!ReplyCited in: Expensive-wedding regret after an abusive marriage; Average households spending tens of thousands on weddings
Seriously. The only time the AI summary has been helpful is if the group chat is blowing up and I'm driving and can't read everything at that moment so I know if I need to chime in or if something major happened. But then I still read all the message and quote reply ones when I am no longer driving.ReplyCited in: AI summaries of SMS messages; An AI chat summary used only while driving, then a full read later
Ugh. My husband literally watches AI dramas on tiktok every night and prints out AI generated images for our kids as like learning or motivational material and they absolutely hate it and cringe at it. Also chat gtp is bs. It literally gets worse over time I feel like. It gives me wrong answers, it literally makes stuff up that doesn't even exist. It's like its getting lazy and cheating or something. So weirdReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; Family AI dramas and generated child materials
Seeing people watching concerts through their screens is just sad. Hopefully there will be some generation that embraces living and experiencing the moment instead of just recording it for social media.ReplyCited in: Recording entire concerts instead of experiencing them
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I have to keep deactivating ai suggestions in my texts, emails, Internet searches, everything. I don't use ai. I literally cannot find a reason to. I tried, I came up with asking for a picture of a cat with a light saber riding a shark+peaguses with a in a hurricane with lightning fighting a taco that had duck feet. I had to use my kids imagination. Still can't find uses in my daily life I can't do faster or better. If it can I trust the lots of researching myself and learn while doing it. I don't get it. I'm not even old!ReplyCited in: Forced AI use counted as user demand; Repeatedly disabling AI suggestions across products
i think a good rule is to take only one picture and make it count, as if youre using expensive film.ReplyCited in: Short memory photos versus continuous recording; One deliberate photo, like expensive film
> More money in a wedding does not equal a happier or longer marriage, that's for sure. It's usually the opposite, starting marriage with a big debt load is terrible for a relationship.ReplyCited in: Wedding cost and marriage-duration correlation; Wedding spending versus home savings and debt
That parachute dress turned his wartime survival into their wedding , and that's what real commitment looks like.ReplyCited in: Wartime parachute-silk wedding and low-cost marriage
This is so accurateReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
We are going to look back at ourselves one day and ask ‘how did we let this happen?’ ‘This’ meaning: -harmful expectations for young women/young adults -normalizing plastic surgery at inappropriate ages -the overconsumption in relation to environmental impact (and not just them but the trickle down affect to their audiences) -how we thought it was ever ok to monetize children (I do wonder if psychologists will eventually perceive this as a form of child abuse) And so much moreReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization; Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations; Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption; Influencer harms to youth, consumption, and children; Family channels exploiting children's privacy
Doesn't mean shit when it's not enforced. Cops can't be bothered with stuff like this apparently.ReplyCited in: Public full-volume pornography
I'm so sorry ☹ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Charlie Kirk and Republicans: "Children dying of gun violence and getting raped is just something we have to accept in America!"ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; A partisan quote about accepting child sexual and gun violence
Lmao I've had it happen precisely once. Took out my phone in a KFC, one good *"UHHNh!"* and I'm scrambling to shut that shit off lol Despite my frantic efforts, it was.. it was heard.ReplyCited in: Public full-volume pornography
Of course, you can also just "grab 'em by the pussy" and still become a two-term president, so...definitely a land of contradictions.ReplyCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
Well, only if you’re a white heterosexual “Christian” cis man.ReplyCited in: Privilege shaping consequences for misconduct
You forgot obscenely rich. Class overrides so much in this country. When you’re poor, you’re insane. When you’re rich, you’re eccentric.ReplyCited in: Privilege shaping consequences for misconduct
The worst is the waiting room at the doctors' office. You don't know how people are feeling, other than its probably shitty and they don't want to hear whatever loud conversation or game you're playing.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
So much trash being turned into a trend via tiktok. We've become shallow and vain.ReplyCited in: Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
Its even worse when the perpetrators are law enforcement.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Abuse by law enforcement and other trusted authorities
Ditto for doctors, parents, teachers, and anyone else who's in a position of power over the victim and who's considered to be by default more trustworthy than the people they have power over.ReplyCited in: Abuse by law enforcement and other trusted authorities
> I miss actually looking at wares instead of praying I don't get a bad product. I wish there was a law that online stores have to show real images of their products and not AI generated versions of them. This includes clothing. I've seen a lot of those "These look fake, so I bought them anyways so you don't have to" videos of people unboxing advertised items on sights like Temu and Shein. I always check on Amazon the comment section and hope people post real photos of the products. I try to do the same and give accurate reviews.ReplyCited in: Online shopping eroding local retail and food culture; Requiring real product photos in online stores
Even libraries. It's fucking bullshit, and I wish I could kick them out.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
Libraries used to be so quiet and peaceful.ReplyCited in: Libraries losing quiet space; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
Ugh it hurts my heart and breaks my brain.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I worked with a guy in a call center who did this at his desk, repeatedly. He was baffled when told to stop or he'd be fired. He thought his desk was a private area (his words).ReplyCited in: Public full-volume pornography; Workplace pornography on speakerphone
Do people actually find it normal though? The 99% of the population that don’t do it don’t appear to like it.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
Yeah, people answer this to similar questions all the time and while, yeah it happens all the time, basically everyone else besides that one idiot think it's a dick move.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
Absolutely not. If anyone uses their speakerphone in public, every single non-brain-damaged person around them views that person as an asshole.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
It's why right wing astroturfers have such an easy time infiltrating the left. It's why Kamala and Hilary lost. They had to be 100% pure while Trump won easily as a full blown rapist. For example, recently there are a bunch of "people" accusing Mamdani of being a villain for not personally arresting Netanyahu lol.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Purity standards and partisan disinformation
The DNC fully supported genocide -until like a few days ago when they tried to pretend they’d been kinda worried about that, really-. The DNC is way more rightwing today than the Republican Party during Nixon…counting denying genocide and funding it, & funding the proxy war against Russia…they’re more rightwing than Reagan. It’s not “purity” people hope for from these hags presented for choice-less voters in the Uniparty duopoly, it’s humanity that we need.ReplyCited in: Purity standards and partisan disinformation
Republicans fully support genocide x1000 more than what you claim Democrats supposedly support, and Republicans actually want to perpetrate it personally, in fact the US literally has death camps now on US soil, which 100% would not have happened under a Democrat. But because Democrats are not 100% pure, people like you claiming to care about genocide, think Republicans, who are absolute child raping genocidal monsters should be in charge lol. Thanks for providing a perfect example of the stupidity I'm talking about.ReplyCited in: Purity standards and partisan disinformation
We went from being called a sellout being one of the worst insults, to "get that bag" cultureReplyCited in: Sellout stigma replaced by “get that bag” culture; Influencer culture
> I understood the actor was being paid to say what they were saying. Their opinion or endorsement of a product did not sway me. We'd all like to believe this about ourselves, but we've all been swayed. They do it because it works.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
I'm not saying ads don't raise awareness of a product or service. I'm saying somehow following a social media personality hits different than seeing an actor deliver lines endorsing a product or service. People think they're actually engaging and supporting with that influencer based on their recommendations, rather than just buying into another form of advertising/marketing.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
Right. Gen Z is particularly bad with this. If you want Gen Z to buy something, you buy off influencers - each generation has their own "marketing flaw" like that. Except us elder Millennials of course, we are perfect in every way.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations; Generational differences in influencer-marketing susceptibility
My mom does this because she’s afraid of microwaves going into her brain. Then no one can ever hear her on speakerphone so she just yells her entire conversation.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone used from fear of microwaves
Omg I work at a gym and we had a guy like three days ago that spent like an hour and a half in the locker room ON FACETIME with his phone propped up on the counter, arguing with his girlfriend in the most vulgar way possible. Like sir there are naked people in here that are just unknowingly in the back of your ft call??? We even have a “no phone calls” sign posted in there ???ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording in gym locker rooms; A FaceTime argument in a gym locker room
Seems like someone working there needed to stop him then. How did it go on for an hour?!ReplyCited in: A FaceTime argument in a gym locker room
Oh trust me, I agree! Unfortunately I can’t go in there because it’s the men’s locker room bc I would’ve asked him to leave😭 but the GM at my job honestly kinda sucks, and the guy had just joined, so I have a sneaking suspicious I think they didn’t want to turn him off to the gym and make him cancel so they just kept sending people in there to tell him to stop, rather than telling him to leave ☠️ I don’t think he’ll be here long though, because the next day, him and the girlfriend were in the parking lot arguing ☠️☠️ReplyCited in: A FaceTime argument in a gym locker room
I always talk to the people on the phone, as if i'm not. Bugs the crap out of the phone-on-speakerphone holder.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
My parents had some fantastic headphones in the 70s. They sounded phenomenal!ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
My coworkers don't have conversations. They just watch videos on their phones full volume. I don't want to hear that shit when I'm trying to take a break.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Coworkers playing full-volume videos on break
They don't like being called out on their bigotry.ReplyCited in: Calling out prejudice treated as worse than prejudice
More like they don't like their bigotry having a negative connotation.ReplyCited in: Calling out prejudice treated as worse than prejudice
Why is our society just letting these abusers just roam around?ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; Known abusers remaining free in society
It just reveals that those people are mentally putting themselves in the shoes of the accused and thinking “boy, I’d hate for people to *think* of me as a rapist” instead of considering how horrible it is to actually be raped and not believed about it.ReplyCited in: Victim blaming after sexual assault
People have always wanted to keep up appearances for others and bought useless shit to do so. Social media definitely exacerbated it but you're making it sound like nobody ever did these things. They've always done this.ReplyCited in: Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
My friend will go to drive thrus while talking to me on his car phone. I love waiting till he gets to the window and then blasting porn over his speakers.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Trendsetter behavior has been a thing for decades but now it's on a zillion ubiquitous social media posts instead of just being in teen magazines or fashion magazines.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
The wildest part is earphones are as small and portable as ever. And the mics are great even on a cheap pair. I would know I use them daily for work.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
How people actually "follow" these "influencers" and believe their every word. Sad.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
Sometimes I care a little too much about what others think of me, but holy shit that's just deranged.ReplyCited in: Social-validation bandwagon consumption
Hey maga, this is you.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
In the olden days they used famous people to promote their products. Because people trusted those famous people because they've seen them on TV a bunch. This isn't any different.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
The whole 'influencer' world is baffling Everyone knows these people are influencers and they're being paid to advertise some product and endorse it but they still watch these things and take these endorsements on board and like these products they know are just pure advertising to them We know these people you like don't *really* use such products, they're paid to to reach people like you ... and it's working, despite everyone know how it worksReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
I used to be totally fine with public transit, until everyone decided it was socially appropriate to loudly play TikTok the whole time. I used to be fine with restaurants and shopping centres until every parent decided it was normal to let their toddler become an iPad kid playing CocoMelon and Minecraft at full volume. I have autism and ADHD, and I didn't used to get so overwhelmed out in public. Now I can only cope with it if I wear earbuds or earplugs to block it out, then I feel like I'm contributing to the problem somehow. I wish people would just stop and think about consideration for others.ReplyCited in: Full-volume public media overwhelming autistic and ADHD people; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
> I understood the actor was being paid to say what they were saying. Their opinion or endorsement of a product did not sway me. Are you telling me Jennifer Aniston didn't actually become beautiful from using Aveeno face wash???????ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'm pretty sure Jennifer Aniston's team would have been horrified if she'd ever used any of the products she was shilling.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
Holy shit-ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The problem i have is that i cant get anything locally. If i need something and go to 3 different stores, somehow no one has it. The other option is that the same item is a third of the price online, and unfortunately, i dont have the luxury of paying those prices at the store. Thus, i have to order online. It's so annoying.ReplyCited in: Online shopping eroding local retail and food culture; Online shopping driven by local unavailability and price
> This is a country where you can get on the offender list for urinating on a bush at 3am walking home from a bar instead of driving tipsy after all State laws may vary.ReplyCited in: Public full-volume pornography
Yeah, definitely respect it more than losers blasting music to look cool.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
I’m glad those people aren’t in your life anymore, and I hope that life’s been alright since thenReplyCited in: Family rejecting a whistleblower over elder fraud
Not to say it's right or wrong, but the entire point of the court is that you're not allowed to sway the jury at all and to make the process quick as possible. Imagine being in court and the court can't proceed because someone on the stand is wailing and pointing at the defendant going "RAPIST RAPIST" when they are straight lying. Yeah it's not nice, but the legal process is long and arduous and you have no idea if the person is telling the truth or not.ReplyCited in: Victim proof burdens and inaccessible care; The due-process need for neutral courtroom testimony
There’s no jury in family court. They asked for a bench trial in criminal court and the judge found him guilty of two counts of domestic battery. I was given an order of protection for three years which one it expired. I was told by DA they wouldn’t expand on it. Because he was a first time offender, he got anger management, and that was it. He said in jail for two hours until he got bailed out after they got him with a warrant for his arrest. Immediately after, his girlfriend who was a paralegal sued me for over three years for her emotional distress of him going through this saying she was the real victim because he was a good man. He held a knife up to me, left bruises on my neck and my arms and my kitchen in front of both of my children. I was on my way to go to Dr’s appointment because I was in treatment for a brain tumor. The court system does not advocate for victims- and it’s very uncomfortable talking about them. Slap on the rest isn’t even the phrase I would use to describe his consequences for this.ReplyCited in: Family-court treatment after domestic violence; A convicted domestic abuser and family-court aftermath
If he’s already convicted, you do, actually. Legally that is the truth.ReplyCited in: A convicted domestic abuser and family-court aftermath
Thank you, I appreciate this. I did have a friend who went through the same and never discussed it with anyone until I told her what had happened to me. It helped to hear from someone who wasn’t just trying to pick apart my actions.ReplyCited in: Victim blaming after sexual assault
Was this Marina Hyde on rest is entertainment? I found that such an interesting deep dive.ReplyCited in: A possible Marina Hyde podcast reference
"I'm making consumption choices so that I can be more readily consumed. This will give me social scrip that I can use as a substitute for the approval of loved ones."ReplyCited in: Social-validation bandwagon consumption
and bathrooms, like wtf?ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
Oh, those are fun. Join the conversation. Maybe ask people nearby to introduce themselves: "Blue jacket guy, what's your name? We're talking to [name] on the speakerphone" Make inappropriate suggestions or remarks - but not obscene or indecent. Ask person on the other end where they are, make sure they're not driving. Ask when dinner is. It's difficult to keep them on speakerphone for long this way.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Hey, don’t drag spritzes into this. They taste delicious.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Or just blasting videos. I was in the gym and the person on the treadmill next to me started playing a video loudly. I turned to her and asked if she had headphones. She smiled and was like nope! And kept playing her video. Oh okay... Zero self awarenessReplyCited in: Full-volume video on adjacent gym equipment; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
My script: "do you mind, with that loudspeaker? It's hurting my ears (or: it's too loud, it's SO loud, etc.) " I've learned you gotta be more direct about the impact it's having, while simultaneously not telling them what to do. It's this weird balance.ReplyCited in: Direct impact language for requesting lower volume; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
I dont fully understand what changed. I remember ~15 years ago it was much rarer to see someone using their speakers on their phones in public but now it's just completely normalized, and if someone was doing it a person was more likely to tell them to cut it out. Part of me thinks it's the removal of the headphone jack and the shift to expensive Bluetooth headphones being the practical option for people who don't want to buy adapter cables, but then part of me also thinks it's a change in social norms and etiquette that would have inevitably happened.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted; Headphone-jack removal and changing speakerphone norms
It's really just a progression of how they were influencing trends & products prior to social media. The Jones (2009) does an incredible job showing (a possible extreme) of how they used to do social marketing.ReplyCited in: The Joneses (2009) as a social-marketing example; Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
There definitely used to be drinks of the summer in Cool Girl magazines!ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
Influencerism is still new. People will also be people, which means that they'll fall for the fad at first. But they'll learn over time and then become cognizant and resistant to it. Of course that means there'll be something else that's new after influencers. People will eventually wisen up to 'influencer speak'. And they'll recognize it and veer away from it just because of the source. But for now, we're definitely suckers for it as a whole.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations; Audiences may learn to resist influencer-speak
Parasocial relationships. Look that shit up bruh. Lot of research went into it after Nazi Germany, then during the 80's Mad Men phase, and now again during the era of social media. It's when people form a one sided emotionally invested relationship with a media personality or a leader. Seems to rear it's head anytime there is a big change in how humans communicate (Radio WW2, TV in the 80's, Smart Phones/Social Media now).ReplyCited in: Parasocial relationships with media figures; Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
the problem with not doing it that way is you may have which one is which backwards.ReplyCited in: The due-process need for neutral courtroom testimony
And all the cosmetic surgery these 20-somethings are getting. No one seems to bat an eye when someone makes themselves look like a puffer fish.ReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
> For example, people want Aperol Spirtzes because they photograph well. More depressingly, this has replaced "they're bad luck" as to why black cats have the lowest adoption rates.ReplyCited in: Photogenic trends and a black-cat adoption claim; Social-validation bandwagon consumption
"my shameless corporate shilling isnt like *your* shameless corporate shilling!"ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I live on YouTube; it's my biggest vice. Usually I can accept that YouTubers gotta pay the bills with sponsorships, but there's been a few times where I'm watching a video going into a very anti-consumerism topic or critiquing an influencer or viral trend only for them to go into a 2-minute sponsorship ad for sex toys or a mattress or a dinner subscription box. It really starts to feel at odds with the type of content they pride themselves on. The channels who don't do them at all, or at least make sense for the type of content they do, tend to be ones I go to more.ReplyCited in: Sponsorships undermining anti-consumerist content; Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
Holding the phone in front of their face like a sandwich.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
All because people can’t handle the thought that the same thing or something bad could happen to them. Then, when they finally go through something, they are so upset that the whole world isn’t crying & marching for them.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators
I mean I feel like this is not really a secret feeling, most of us agree and it's a minority of assholes doing it.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
IndeedReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I literally just saw [this post]([link removed] before getting to this one. It's dystopian.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators
That’s actually fucking insane, and I hope she finds justice. How in the world is it “defamation” to warn a small group of people about a guy who literally DID the crime and was convicted? And how tf does it make sense for her to pay HIM *more* money for talking about his crime, than he ever had to pay for committing the crime against her friend!?ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators; A convicted offender suing a warning speaker for defamation
Apparently they have a different legal definition of defamation. It just has to be something that harms your reputation, regardless of it's true or not. If I were Swedish I'd be up in arms. She has to pay him 3x what he had to pay his victim. If she'd been 18 instead of 17 she could've gone to prison.ReplyCited in: A Swedish defamation truth-not-complete-defense claim; A convicted offender suing a warning speaker for defamation
That law right there really makes me rethink everything abt SwedenReplyCited in: A Swedish defamation truth-not-complete-defense claim
As I understand it, their reputation is not entirely earned.ReplyCited in: A Swedish defamation truth-not-complete-defense claim
Holy hell. They need to reconsider their laws. The US is completely messed up, but at least here you can't sue someone for defamation if what they say is true. Good thing is they probably created a future activist by doing this to her.ReplyCited in: A Swedish defamation truth-not-complete-defense claim; A U.S. defamation truth-defense claim
Check the post, people linked several similar cases in the US! I agree on the future activist, if she does a GoFundMe she'll be set up for all sorts of campaigning.ReplyCited in: A U.S. defamation truth-defense claim
This is the shit bike infrastructure advocates have to deal with whenever a cyclist dies even if some psychopath mowed them down on purpose. Reddit is notorious for cyclist hatred.ReplyCited in: Victim blaming after cyclist deaths; Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators
Not exactly disturbing, but I agree 100%. I remember 10 years ago, it used to be acceptable to tell someone their phone was too loud. Now it’s just something that people accept. I always try to be in another room, or use my headphones if I’m watching a video in public.ReplyCited in: Headphone-jack removal and changing speakerphone norms
It’s definitely acceptable to tell people their phone is too loud. People are just afraid to do it. I will sometimes, especially if I’m captive in a waiting room or restaurant. Occasionally will get some pushback and it sucks but it’s better than the alternative, letting these douche bags run rampant, IMO.ReplyCited in: Direct impact language for requesting lower volume
I don't know what you define as a heavy burden of proof, but I have seen people weaponize accusations, so I will respectfully say that a sufficient standard is necessary. Again, I don't know what constitutes "heavy burden" from your comment, so perhaps you have accommodated for that already.ReplyCited in: The due-process need for neutral courtroom testimony
Yea, the suffering someone goes through to be like their influencer allows them to make a fortune and live like that for free. Not that they themselves choose it ironically, they wear what they're sponsored to. &nbsp; Makes me think people think all the Redbull athletes live off the drink.ReplyCited in: Followers bearing the costs of sponsored lifestyles; Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
The lunch break in my work.ReplyCited in: Coworkers playing full-volume videos on break
Came here to say this. It feels like an assault on my ears. The sound is sharp and high pitched and so piercing. Wtf. People who just unilaterally decided to stop using headphones in public are the assholes.ReplyCited in: Full-volume public media overwhelming autistic and ADHD people; Sharp phone audio as sensory assault
Hey, no flyin cars but it aint all badReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
> but everyone else seems to accept as totally normal? Did you even read the prompt?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The break is what I need desperately.ReplyCited in: Rehab as a break from an addictive routine
Go get it! It really sucks the first week or so. but you will sleep a good portion of it. Everyone around me swore I would need medical detox. I drank 2 and a half gallons of vodka a week for a very long time. It really wasn't bad the boredom and cravings passed in a week for me. then it was just filling time with NEW more rewarding experiences. good luck brother.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Dangerous minimization of alcohol-withdrawal risk
Funny enough, as a cook (don’t think I qualify as chef) and alcoholic, I get much better at Spanish when I’m drinking. State-dependent memory is so interestingReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Alcohol and state-dependent language recall
ManzanaReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I don't think people find that totally normal. Being a functional stoner on the other hand is almost encouraged. I manage multiple cannabis stores and it's just sad seeing the same people sometimes more than once a day that can't function without it.ReplyCited in: Functional cannabis dependence normalized; Functional alcohol dependence
I think the person drinking sees it as normal because it makes them better in some circumstances. I knew someone who was good at sales because of it but kept getting paperwork for rudeness to coworkers.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Perceived work benefits masking alcohol-related harm
I let myself drink in moderation every night as a way to cope with extreme grief. Spoiler alert: drinking in moderation every night is not moderation. I haven’t had anything since April and lost about 25 pounds. I feel alive again in my own life. Whatever you’re going through, I get it, and wish you the best.ReplyCited in: Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication; Functional alcohol dependence; Nightly drinking to cope with grief
They hit the same systems in the brain and the withdrawals are functionally very similar. In treatment, alcohol withdrawal symptoms are often managed with long acting benzos for this reason.ReplyCited in: Alcohol and benzodiazepine dependence risk
Yep. I used to be a benzo addict. Didn't think I had to worry about withdrawals, my dosage was about 0.25-0.5 mg of Alprazolam a day. Found out that I was mistaken when I went on a 2 week work trip and spent the first 3 nights twitching and sweating in bed. Ended up treating that with a couple stiff drinks before bed. Got home and started tapering immediately. Guess I needed that wakeup slapReplyCited in: Alcohol and benzodiazepine dependence risk; Benzodiazepine withdrawal self-treated with alcohol
Anyone who reads this and thinks it may be a good idea, don't do that. Go to AA every day and drink coffee and talk about your emotions and listen to others do the same :)ReplyCited in: Professional support in early sobriety
That’s absolutely part of this. Mental health isn’t taken seriously enough. I’ve got an ACE score 10/10 and coped with extreme trauma for about four years drinking wine every night, because my nervous system doesn’t know how to stop. I’m still struggling with falling asleep but I’m alive in my own life again, 30 pounds lighter, and feel hopeful. Guys, wine ain’t the answer. I don’t know what is but it’s not that one.ReplyCited in: Trauma-related nightly wine use; Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication; Functional alcohol dependence
Yup. I was using it to medicate ptsd. It stopped working. 2.5 years sober! 🥳ReplyCited in: Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication
This was me during Covid. I was lucky to keep a full-time job in a relatively secluded/small daily workspace. (A group/waiver home) Sure, I'd be nauseous or have heartburn and sometimes maybe throw up outside when I got to work. Okay maybe sometimes I'd get the shakes towards the end of my shift. But I was *finnneee*. (I was not fine.)ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Alcohol-withdrawal symptoms during work
Yeah, definitely not fine. Having to carefully calibrate every sober moment is not fine.ReplyCited in: Alcohol-withdrawal symptoms during work
I'm sure im telling you nothing new, but the Light Beer method worked for me. Heres the trick: figure out how many 3-4 point light beers equate your average intake per day. Drink that # of beers per day as needed. Every week, reduce it by exactly ONE beer. Easy way to step down without running the train off the tracks! FWIW, I'm down to 4 a day. Down from nearly 30 lolReplyCited in: Unsafe DIY light-beer taper advice; Dangerous minimization of alcohol-withdrawal risk
After saving my husband, I desperately wish I could save everyone. There's always a reason, and it's first cause is almost never "personal failing." Two common causes are death of a close relative, partner, or friend and ***capitalism.***ReplyCited in: Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication; Grief and economic stress as alcohol-use drivers
Thanks for mentioning capitalism in the reasons, it's so trueReplyCited in: Grief and economic stress as alcohol-use drivers
My little brother has been to the ER probably a dozen times because of the esophageal tears. I remember one year alone was six visits.ReplyCited in: Serious medical harm hidden by functional drinking
Damn. I had two, the first was "minor" to me(still an ER visit), the second was the eye opener for me. I've never felt so weak as when I tried to get upstairs for water that morning, and wondering what was wrong. I hope your brother can find the help he needs or has found it. I never imagined I'd be an alcoholic, I swore I wouldn't after knowing my father was one. Im still working on it, too, and will be all the restof my life.ReplyCited in: Serious medical harm hidden by functional drinking
Really great film. Mads Mikkelsen is excellent, as usual. And the movie is excellent at switching tones. It's all great fun until it isn't.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I can’t comprehend how anyone can financially afford to be an alcoholic in this day and age.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Low-cost alcohol enabling dependence
[link removed] You can get 1.75L of shitty vodka for under 13usd, ~40 1.5oz shots.ReplyCited in: Low-cost alcohol enabling dependence
Certain dirt brands of the 700 ml bottles are only $10. Also, it doesn’t take much booze to be considered an alcoholic. I think just one of those bottles a week puts you in the club which is less than I spend on takeout. I suppose you could also DIY for cheaper.ReplyCited in: Low-cost alcohol enabling dependence
I worked with a man like this. Everyone else on staff was aware of his drinking heavily during lunch but no one would bring it up to our supervisor because they all swore that she knew. She didn’t know. I had a private meeting where I informed her. I didn’t want him to lose his job, I wanted him to get help but he would brush off anything we ever said to him. It was so hard to do but I think I did the right thing.ReplyCited in: Concealing alcohol use at work; Reporting a coworker's heavy workday drinking
We used to live in a very small, very conservative town. When you needed boxes to move, you also knew that the liquor store had the best supply. Seriously, their entire outside wall was stacked and lined with vodka boxes. Every night. I kid you not.ReplyCited in: Liquor-store vodka boxes as a small-town use signal; Small-town liquor-store view of hidden dependence
Yep I went from getting A’s and B’s in school and working after school to getting a DUI, dropping out, and losing my job all the sudden even though I had been drinking for years already at that point.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Sudden collapse after years of student drinking
I worked at a call center for a while amd lack of sobriety was almost expected.ReplyCited in: Lack of sobriety normalized in a call center
That was me. I read somewhere recently alcoholics won’t quit drinking until it’s more work than being sober. The headaches are a pain in the ass but a good reminder that your body doesn’t like poison. I don’t miss it.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I’m a physician myself (did a lot of addiction work and was even medical director of a rehab). I’m a pretty independent type too. Then I was forced to go rehab for alcohol and marijuana after I was told they would report me to the medical board. I was a nightly marijuana user which was the main problem. Got sober for two months before rehab thinking that would get me out of rehab. Nope. They still wanted 90 days and I had to go to a rehab of their choosing. All this and I was always sober at work. The whole process took over a year so I lost out on 600K and also had to pay 50K for rehab. Now I have to be monitored for 5 years. Forced to do AA three times a week. Possible drug screens any day of the week. Have to let them know when I’m traveling.ReplyCited in: A physician-health program's forced rehab and monitoring; Rehab access and insurance uncertainty
Curious why they had such a problem with you if you were sober at work? Why all the commitments sound like you got caught with a zip in a non-legal state?_ReplyCited in: A physician-health program's forced rehab and monitoring
The physician health programs that tell you where you can get evaluated and treated used to only go after impaired physicians. Now they force treatment for any “potentially” impairing condition. To me it’s an overreach. I got sober on my own when I knew the consequences were so high. Yet still had to do a rehab of their choosing. I’m in a weed legal state too and a psychiatrist. Doctors are classified as safety sensitive workers like pilots. To me it doesn’t make sense to treat me the same as a surgeon since I don’t even touch patients lol. It’s funny that no one cares if doctors are sleep deprived or working in understaffed conditions but the moment someone finds out you smoke weed daily then the safety of patients becomes a concern. Oh well. This is my life. I have about 1400 days of monitoring left.ReplyCited in: A physician-health program's forced rehab and monitoring; A physician-health program potential-impairment overreach claim
I looked at it like this; you take a pencil and draw a line across a piece of paper. Now take an eraser and rub out a small piece of that line maybe one inch long. That line is your whole life and that erasure is a tiny piece of your life. Surely you can step away from the world in order to save your own life. It is soooooooo worth it to take that time to save yourself. Be selfish. Nothing else is as important. NOTHING ELSE. Everything comes second when it comes to your sobriety because you are going to lose anything you put ahead of it.ReplyCited in: Rehab as a break from an addictive routine
That’s a fact that is finally starting to settle in with me.ReplyCited in: Rehab as a break from an addictive routine
I’d go a little further. I find it disturbing the place that alcohol occupies in most people’s lives. Not just the alcoholics. Consider: I am ancient, and have sprung out of almost every civilisation in history, in one form or another. I have been the cause of violence and abuse, but I am also a reward and a comfort. Buildings have been erected so that crowds could gather to partake in me, sometimes in quiet contemplation, sometimes in joyful dance and celebration. But I am also often with the lonely and dejected. I am in your homes. I may even be in your bodies. Some lose their minds to me. Some turn away from me in disgust, never to look upon me again. For many, though I may be a constant and oft-present part of their lives, they don’t give me much thought. Unless they feel the need to call upon me, for celebration, or comfort. I am at your weddings, I am at your funerals. I am at the announcement of your first child. I am at your 30th anniversary. I’ll be there when you celebrate a promotion. I’ll be there where you feel down after getting let go. I help bond your friendships, but I have destroyed many too. I am beloved of the rich, but even the poorest and most destitute keep me close. People often turn to me for warmth when they are cold, but also when they want to feel cool. I am associated with the good life, but also have ruined lives. Who am I?ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Alcohol present across celebration, grief, and social life
The horse’s name was wednesdayReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Yeah when people say alcohol poisons the brain... That's not a metaphor or anything, it's quite literal.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Alcohol described as a literal neurotoxin
Good for you! Do you any sort of app to help keep track, by chance? A coworker has been 1800 days or ao sober and I never asked him how he kept track. I think something like that would help me.ReplyCited in: Professional support in early sobriety; A sobriety-day-counting app request
I actually used an app called NOMO, it really helps a lotReplyCited in: A sobriety-day-counting app request; NOMO sobriety clock app
I will look into it, thank you.ReplyCited in: NOMO sobriety clock app
This is purely anecdotal but I have never had a bad family doctor in my life but I have more than one friend who has had a therapist come close to ruining their life So I'd be okay with it only if therapists were held to far FAR higher standards than they are right nowReplyCited in: Raising therapist-accountability standards; Mental-healthcare access and alcohol self-medication
Yeah, I was working food service at the time when I got too out of control, telling myself the a few drinks through my 9-2 shift and people couldn't tell. Lost the next job after that because of a combination of drinking during the job, and having to leave a bunch during a rought time in my kiddos school life. Now im at McDonald's as I just needed a job to keep us in our home.ReplyCited in: Lack of sobriety normalized in a call center
That’d be meReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
"I'll drink at work. My colleagues wont know." WE KNOW!!!!ReplyCited in: Concealing alcohol use at work
I get where you are coming from, and I don't wanna count that out. But to be fair, functional alcoholism is basically as old as agriculture and modern civilization as we know it. Mesopotamia and other early civilizations (as well as the first-known invoices) all revolved around raising grain and hops, and brewing beer. Being 100% serious here. Hell, even some animals have been known to seek out fermented fruit. Functional alcoholism is quite literally older than humanity, if you really think about it. But yeah, it's a bit different nowadays especially when you factor in the combination/cocktail of whatever the fuck else they are taking/smoking/etc.ReplyCited in: Alcohol and fermentation in early civilization; Alcohol present across celebration, grief, and social life
It is an uncomfortable thought nonethelessReplyCited in: Alcohol and fermentation in early civilization
A guy I worked with would put a pint glass of vodka on his bedside table every night. If he managed to drink it within minutes of waking and kept it down, he could make it into work, otherwise he would be too hungover. When he made it into work he was useless until he'd had his first five pints at lunchtime, then he could manage 3-4 hours of useful work.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Concealing alcohol use at work; Morning vodka and lunch drinking to function at work
Brat diet?ReplyCited in: A BRAT-diet question
Banana rice apple toastReplyCited in: A BRAT-diet question
That’s where I was. Drinking every day, not necessarily a dangerous amount, and never at work or the consequences could be devastating. But I almost never took a day away from 4-6 strong IPAs or other strong beer, wine, or whiskey. It was hard to stop. It was hard for a while after. But life’s better now without. Good luck everyone.ReplyCited in: Appearing functional while drinking only at home; Daily strong-beer use without work intoxication
As an alcoholic, I only want you to know I have never woke up and regretted my time in rehab. My goose is already cooked but if you have a chance then go.ReplyCited in: Rehab as a break from an addictive routine
You’re stronger than you think. Just being able to say that real shit on here is fkn huge. Hope your insurance doesn’t screw you over here.ReplyCited in: Rehab access and insurance uncertainty
Thank you. One way or another, it’s time to get my shit together.ReplyCited in: Rehab access and insurance uncertainty
Congratulations! I'm at 20 months! Still blows my mind how much better life is when you put down the bottle.ReplyCited in: Professional support in early sobriety
Congratulations to you! And yes, if I had known about all the gains, I would’ve quit years earlier.ReplyCited in: Professional support in early sobriety
It is wild thinking how the statistics don’t account for this. I’m a delivery person working for Uncle Sam and many of my coworkers flip the switch once work is over. And some smoke weed before the day starts. But at least they’re functional, I guess.ReplyCited in: Functional cannabis dependence normalized; Functional alcohol dependence; Postal workers switching from work to alcohol or cannabis
It's only ok until the wheels fall off the bus. It's not an if, it's a when. The issue is the previous however long they were fine, they'll spend double that time in denial. Rock bottom takes a suprisingly long time to dig too.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
When I started working in an office for the first time I was SHOCKED to see how many of my coworkers were functioning alcoholics. Then I thought about my family and realized they were all also functioning alcoholics. A lot of them have gotten sober now. My dad lost his battle to his addiction. It's wild when you think about itReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Office and family functional alcoholism normalization
Everbody finds this disturbingReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
PreachReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
How old are you, If you don’t mind disclosing ?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I am nearly 42. And hope to see many more.ReplyCited in: Serious medical harm hidden by functional drinking
I’m also not the person you were asking but I lost a cousin who was only 32 and drank themselves to death. People don’t realize how sick it can make you.ReplyCited in: Serious medical harm hidden by functional drinking; A young-adult death from alcohol use
Heard!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
There’s a sense of denial for people too. I was an EOL alcoholic 4 years ago and I’ve talked to people about times I was on epic benders and they say they genuinely didn’t know some of these moments I had with them and was very very drunk. But in a way they still knew I was an alcoholic so I think the “well of course he drank last night it’s probably that” idea does a lot of the heavy lifting.ReplyCited in: Others missing severe intoxication due to normalization; Functional alcohol dependence
That happened to me once god it suckedReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I’d be dead without rehab. If it does nothing else it gives you a month head start on sobriety. I’m not big in 12 steps or anything. But I spent the first 30 days of not drinking being “locked” in a building that watched me and held me accountable / and those are the for the most part the hardest 30 days of itReplyCited in: Rehab as a break from an addictive routine; Rehab providing an accountable first thirty days
thank you so much!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Jsyk the person you replied to was wrong. It's about appearing to be normal and 'functional' while having an alcohol addiction - it's not so much yo can *only* work while drunk, but that it's not (yet) inhibiting the ability to work - a functional alcoholic might drink several beers or a bottle of wine every night and then go to work like normal in the morning.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I’d love a link to verify this.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
I like to join the conversations when that happens. Seems like an invitation to meReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Everyone does not accept that as normal. Most people find that annoying and rude.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
unless you're old and can't hear, it's very annoying and makes me want to leave.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Hearing loss as a reason for speakerphone use
"people"ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I blame telephone producers: you can't hear a thing without the speaker! I also can't hear my redmi ringing, even in the quiet shopReplyCited in: Hearing loss as a reason for speakerphone use; Poor phone earpiece and ringer volume driving speaker use
Deeply disturbing? Seems inconvenient, annoying, but does it hang on to your psyche like something deeply affecting?ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
They put it on speaker then hold it to their ear anyway?????ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
Is this really something that everyone accepts as totally normal though? I literally searched for "behavior" and picked the first thread talking about understanding of human behavior: [[link removed] And there is literally a response "Talking on speaker phone while in public." with 13k up votes.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted
The other day in the grocery store the woman ahead of me was having a conversation over speaker phone while in line at the checkout. I assumed that when she got to the cashier she would hang up or at least pause the conversation but she just kept yapping and when the cashier tried to ask if she wanted bags she just turned around and faced away from him and kept yapping like he wasn't even there. After the cashier checked her out and all of her items were just loose because she didn't tell him if she wanted bags, she started loading her cart with all the items one handed because she couldn't put her phone down to use two hands and it took forever for her to get out of my way so I could pay for mine. We ended up in the parking lot around the same time and big surprise she just left her empty cart in the middle of the parking space next to her car. It was a nice car too, a late model Porsche Cayenne. She wasn't even talking about anything important, like it wasn't an emergency conversation or business call, they were just yapping about their lazy husbands and what they ate for lunch and when their next nail appointments were, but she couldn't interrupt the conversation for 20 seconds to treat the cashier like a human or not be an inconvenience for the people around her. I am not the most considerate person in the world but I can't fathom being that horribly rude to someone else and that needlessly disruptive to those around me.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Split-attention phone conversations during service; A speakerphone caller ignoring a grocery cashier
It should be socially acceptable to join in the conversation if someone is using speakerphone for a phonecall.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
i am hard of hearing and use captions so sometimes i have to in order to read them. but i get it, so i put them very very quiet on speakerReplyCited in: Hearing loss as a reason for speakerphone use
Personally I think it's fine as long as it's not an area where other people should generally be quiet such as libraries, movie theaters, net cafes, shared office space, hostels, hotels, possibly apartments at night. Otherwise it's not unlike talking to someone who is with you in person, and I don't really see how that is a problem. Personally I find it slightly annoying sure, but I wouldn't call it deeply disturbing.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted; Speakerphone context depends on the expectation of quiet
I have horrible hearing and need it at max vloume on speaker to even vaguely understand what the person is saying so I tend to avoid answering calls in public (and in general)ReplyCited in: Hearing loss as a reason for speakerphone use
Yes! I'm not a big 'entertainment is my news' person, but that show is a fantastic "Here's 30 minutes of pop culture information I can repeat to my wife like I know what I'm talking about" that I really find I get a lot of interesting stuff out of.ReplyCited in: A possible Marina Hyde podcast reference
Do you really do this? I can’t imagine it, but if so I’m really glad you do. It’s a public service.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Debarking tooReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes; Surgical debarking of dogs
The cost of fast food and sit down restaurants has forced me to eat healthy again. I'm cooking my own food now which I've basically never done in my life, thats how bad things are. ME COOKING?!ReplyCited in: Restaurant prices pushing home cooking
I prefer candid pictures of my kids. Nearly all of pictures I take of them are sneaky pics. The only posed pictures I have are the classic milestone pictures and special places etc. I would also encourage everyone to actually print pictures out and make photo albums. It feels more special to have physical pictures instead of scrolling through on your phoneReplyCited in: Candid family photos over trained posing; Printed candid family photo albums
I'm not convinced I would have figured that out.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I expect it’ll be difficult once they’re school-age and all their friends have the latest tablet, iPhone, etc… there’s a balance there, for sure. My husband and I don’t have any social media outside of anonymous Reddit accounts, we’re outdoorsy folk with a travel itch, so I’m also expecting there to be a learning curve in that regard. As a behavioral therapist, it tickles me to know you’re taking your kiddos to the pool and parks, ESPECIALLY the library! You’re doing good, mama! :)ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
Thanks! It helps if you’re already not on screens much yourselves. Your future kids are going to love spending time outside. I learned about so many other parks and outdoor areas near us that I never heard of before having kids because I tend to stick with my favorites but kids love variety. Best wishes!ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens
Only good reason now is if if you're out lateReplyCited in: Restaurant prices pushing home cooking
AND we have shelters full of animals that already exist, who need homes. Can you call yourself a true animal lover, if you utilize a breeder? I wonder.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full; Breeding dogs for harmful extremes
My theory is that is what appeals to them, subconsciously i think they like feeling like they’re a benevolent force granting grace on this wretched creature. I’m being hyperbolic but still.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
I don't care about this one at all, they're doing a good deed, what's the issue with them profiting off of it? Doesn't change the good dead, and they might not have done it without filming. No-one says you have to do good deeds for the sake of doing good deeds, and if i'm a homeless person who has to choose between a guy walking past me and a guy giving me food filming it, i'm choosing the second option. I have 0 issues with that honestly.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
They’re doing it to cats now too. For years it was just okay to have a cattish cat, but now people are fully getting into the fuckery of a persian/fold/sphynx/whatever that is full of health problems.ReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes; Cat breeding for health-problem-prone traits
They’re not even cute breeds! Cats should either be tabbies, calicos, voids, or crazy orange.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
And tuxies and/or cows!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Agree. I think people are just doing it now because they always have. No other reason.ReplyCited in: Restaurant prices pushing home cooking
I've worked as a photographer and the auto-pose is infuriating. Especially when you've been hired to take 'casual' images of an event, as soon as you raise the camera kids will slap on a dead-eyed smile and pose, as soon as you lower the camera the smile drops in a millisecond. Thank God for flip screens in cameras these days so people don't really know when you're taking a picture.ReplyCited in: Children trained to pose before experiencing; Children automatically posing for cameras
I get what you're saying but kids are also smart sometimes and if they see people taking turns to pose for pictures it's not that hard to think they'd know what to do. Or if they'd been doing it with all the characters they met that day they know the drill in that moment.ReplyCited in: Children automatically posing for cameras
I was about to say, maybe they just want photos lolReplyCited in: Children automatically posing for cameras
We need breed bans but shitty people get uppity when you suggest itReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes
I've posted this before in places like /r/alcoholicsanonymous, /r/stopdrinking, etc. Functional is not a **type** of alcoholism, it is a **stage** of alcoholismReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
This has effectively bled over into politics. Politicians don't actually deliver on policy, it's just a game of battling celebrity personalities.ReplyCited in: Politics as celebrity personality competition
I like how The Boys depicts our worship of celebrities. It really is pathetic and can’t say that I blame celebrities for being rude. “No, I’m not Batman you idiot, get the fuck away from me.”ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession; Politics as celebrity personality competition
I feel like this comment is dated about 10-15 years or more. Celebs post their own shit which their audience opted into whereas before things would be covered by traditional media (cable news, magazines, Perez Hilton, etc)ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
Because it's addictive. I mean that wholeheartedly. That shitty $15 burger releases dopamine to some people like a bump in the bathroom. I haven't had MacDonald's in years, I am typing this on a walk, and my mouth is watering right now thinking about their French fries. It's the only thing that makes sense to me, a recovering alcoholic and addict.ReplyCited in: Fast-food craving described as addiction-like; Restaurant prices pushing home cooking
my grandma has this turkish van who looks fine but he has so many health issues that it's genuinely annoying. doesn't help that he's evil and will scratch anyone who goes near him.ReplyCited in: Cat breeding for health-problem-prone traits
It is absolutely adorable though when it's a family and only one acts like that. They have a drama queen, the rest acting as expected means parents aren't training that, kiddo just wants it. More than one, family training it even if unintentional.ReplyCited in: Children automatically posing for cameras
Wow...that is super depressing. I don't have kids and I don't take pictures to plaster all over social media, but I'd much prefer a natural reaction picture while they're talking or interacting with the characters. Why does every person want the same exact type of posed photo just to look like thousands of other people online?ReplyCited in: Children trained to pose before experiencing; Printed candid family photo albums
that isn't a problem. they are still doing good deed even if they are profiting and not meaning itReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
Don't treat your kids like props and you'll never have that concern.ReplyCited in: Children trained to pose before experiencing
The best family photos are the ones you didn't plan since it's more accurate to what each person is like.ReplyCited in: Printed candid family photo albums
You know what? You shouldn’t worry about your kids imperfect pictures. The people who train their kids to pose perfectly, to react to the camera rather than the event or the people…kind of suck.ReplyCited in: Children trained to pose before experiencing
YikesReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I truly do not understand why anyone would want an “exotic bully” Also not a fan of any kind of doodle, they are so annoying. Just give me a golden retrieverReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Does it matter why they did something good if in the end it means that good thing was done ?ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
And even without the inbreeding problem, there are still plenty of dogs that are put down because of not having a home. If you buy a dog instead of adopting one, you somewhat killing a dog that was not adopted. It might sound harsh but...ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
. There is NOTHING wrong with getting a dog or any animal from a respectable and responsible breeder. ESPECIALLY working breeds. I personally had to euthanize while an animal control/welfare officer. Not getting animal from shelter/rescue is not someone somewhat killing an animal there will never be enough homes for them all.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full; Responsible-breeder counterpoint to adoption-only claims
Be real, the vast majority of people should not have a working breed dog. Most people want companions, you get a working breed dog if you actually have a job to give it.ReplyCited in: Responsible-breeder counterpoint to adoption-only claims
There may not be able to be homes for all of them, but if you adopt instead of buy from a breeder, there will be fewer that are killed.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
How does that work? Breeders don't stop breeding just because you bought from somewhere else. It's just like people claiming they saved a tree when they recycle paper. Nope. That tree has already been cut down. You're not saving anything.ReplyCited in: Responsible-breeder counterpoint to adoption-only claims
Breeders will stop breeding if you stop buying from them.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
Just supply and demand. You don’t save the tree that’s already cut down, you make it less profitable to cut down the next tree.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
I hate this take. 95% of people DO NOT need a specific breed of dog! Unless they’re a working animal, you do not need to go to a breeder. There’s no such thing as an ethical or responsible breeder. If you don’t get your pets from shelters or rescues, don’t get pets.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full; An adoption-only pet-ownership position
I'd be a lot more likely to get pets from shelters if they didn't lie to you about what you're getting and have insane hoops to jump through.ReplyCited in: Shelter and rescue disclosure and adoption barriers
I volunteer regularly at my county ran animal shelter, what the hell are you talking about? If anything we have too few barriers, we can't even say no to adopters who openly admit they'll just chain a dog in their backyard and leave it there. What do they "lie" about exactly? The only questionable thing I've seen (and not at my shelter, but at others) is listing dogs as not being pitbull mixes when they clearly are. Most of these dogs are abandoned and picked up by animal control, and quite a few are very young dogs who were bought as puppies and once they weren't puppies they surrendered them. We also get a ton of dogs from backyard breeders who got too old and they weren't able to sell, either by voluntary surrender (more rare), but often just found abandoned in a field.ReplyCited in: Shelter and rescue disclosure and adoption barriers
Looks like you answered your own question. Lying about the breed. Lying about the background. Lying about where they came from. Lying about how many animals have been killed by the dog instead of humanely putting it down. Lying about abuse to justify viciousness in a dog. So many lies.ReplyCited in: Shelter and rescue disclosure and adoption barriers
What? They just said that shelters often don’t know anything about the dog. How is it lying if you know nothing about the animal?ReplyCited in: Shelter and rescue disclosure and adoption barriers
Your reading comprehension is atrocious. >Lying about the breed This does happen with pit mixes as I mentioned, but it's often just hard to guess breed with mixes. >Lying about the background The background is unknown for the majority of dogs as they're found stray or abandoned. Owner surrender is the only time we can possibly know the background, and that's assuming the previous owner told the truth on the surrender form. >Lying about where they came from This doesn't happen. >Lying about how many animals have been killed by the dog instead of humanely putting it down This doesn't happen either, if anything most shelters are too antsy to put down dogs, even those who are just not coping with the stress of being in a kennel for 23.5-23.75 hours each day. >Lying about abuse to justify viciousness in a dog This also doesn't happenReplyCited in: Shelter and rescue disclosure and adoption barriers
> I volunteer regularly at my county ran animal shelter, what the hell are you talking about? If anything we have too few barriers, we can't even say no to adopters who openly admit they'll just chain a dog in their backyard and leave it there. I'm talking about private rescues rather than municipal shelters in regard to the jumping through hoops part. >What do they "lie" about exactly? The only questionable thing I've seen (and not at my shelter, but at others) is listing dogs as not being pitbull mixes when they clearly are. That's certainly part of it. Also lying about behavior, lying about medical issues, lying about history, etc. Or simply not sharing information they know. And don't tell me it doesn't happen. I've experienced it personally and know several other people it's happened to as well.ReplyCited in: Shelter and rescue disclosure and adoption barriers
Yep, there are like two answers in this thread that aren't just repeating normal, popular gripes with society. And this is one of them. It's so sad that people really GaF what a stranger is doing in their personal livesReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
it's sort of like christians who are only good so that they can get into heaven. you should just be good for goodness' sake.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
it's some sort of mental illnessReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Well, you are one step from realizing that these kinds of people would absolutely do the same to you if they could.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
To add to this, the obsession with dead celibrities.ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
When I drive across the country sometimes I see these billboards that just say "Jesus." No second line, no short little catchphrase. Just Jesus. What about him, dammit?ReplyCited in: Single-word religious billboards
I knew a mostly functional alcoholic. She was quite possibly one of the worst kinds of people. If you didn't wanna hang out anymore, she'd cry and guilt trip you, not listen to a single thing you say, and then think she's smarter than you because she's older. Got her ass whooped for getting kids alcohol. Now she's trying to find a baby sitting job after repeatedly going into work at a daycare drunk or the very least smelling like it.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Concealing alcohol use at work; Intoxicated daycare-worker risk
I’m American. Our society makes it too easy, too acceptable, alcohol is everywhere and part of everything. If society didn’t give drinking such a green light, we wouldn’t have so many alcoholics. They’re fighting such an uphill battle. I’m not an alcoholic but I don’t drink for medical reasons, and it’s absurd how hard I need to look for a soda or bottle of water when out at a concert or an event. I’ve stood in line at the bar to get some ginger ale or orange juice (they have these right there as mixers, I can see the cans) and been told I need to go to the “non alcohol bar” because they don’t have a way to sell soda or juice without alcohol. And how weird you get treated when you say you don’t drink. I’m also an icu nurse and as others have said, a functional alcoholic is only functional until they’re not. For some people withdrawal symptoms can start within 12 hours of a last drink. Or you’re a literal 2-3 drinks a day drinker, for years, and then you have a few days without booze and you withdraw anyway. Alcohol and benzos are the only withdrawals that can actually kill you.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Alcohol and benzodiazepine dependence risk; Alcohol ubiquity and nondrinker exclusion
This reminds me of a video of a kid running onto a football pitch to see Ronaldo, the kid doesn’t even really acknowledge Ronaldo when he gets to him, he immediately turns to take a selfie.ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession; Selfies displacing the lived celebrity encounter; Children trained to pose before experiencing
What’a crazy is my friend and I have noticed a big increases in alcohol marketing in the last few years. Like she got got a beer and yoga class offer (which imo sounds absolutely awful) And the alcohol companies allegedly are panicked that millenials seem to abuse weed more than alcohol since it’s started getting more legal, and Gen Z is socializing less so they’re drinking less. So now alcohol is being shoved down our throats metaphorically because they’re afraid they’ll lose money. God forbid people just want to be sober, and I do mean fully but as I mentioned weed too I know there are people who exclude weed from their sobriety journey but regardless weed isn’t trying to force itself on me in every situation I’m in the way alcohol does. Alcohol is starting to feel more and more like those Christian’s who sing on planes and think it’s cute It’s obnoxious and everyone wants to stop. People know where to find Jesus and alcohol I promise☠️ReplyCited in: Alcohol ubiquity and nondrinker exclusion; Alcohol marketing and sobriety social pressure
Is the good deed actually getting done? Is it not fake and just recorded to be monetized on Youtube? I don't watch it or want to but I officially don't care because it's incentivizing helping people and as long as that incentive is "make more money that gives Youtuber more money to continue to help people" without being creepily invasive then I'll look the other way all day and all night and all afternoon. If these people need Youtube and influencer clout to make them give a shit about helping people, then let them have that and let them give a shit about helping people. At a certain point we just need the good deeds to *get done*.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
Your experience was a 'win'---& you earned it.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
And your comment made me feel not so alone. All the pics of my kids are taken at random. Were not huge picture takers and I always feel bad that when it is time for a professional photo at school or if a grandparent wants a pose my kids are like macaroni faced lol. Im just happy to hear im not the only one on top of the comment you replied to. Feels good to know people who are similar still exist.ReplyCited in: Printed candid family photo albums
I completely agree. I just had this convo with a client the other day. I guess it is because I don't eat outside the home much. When I do? I damn well want it to be on an actual plate! Not stuffed in a bag.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; Restaurant meals served like takeout
Good luck. The toughest part is the fact that you have no control over the screen time or devices of your kid's friends. We were all-in on not giving ours phones until they were older but lo and behold, their friends have phones way too young and they were really feeling left out whenever they would all get together. At a basketball tournament and all the other kids are on their phones playing games together and my son is just sitting there looking sad. Fuck you if you let your kid have a phone when they're young. Fuck you very much. -The rest of us.ReplyCited in: Young children absorbed by personal screens; Peer pressure undermining delayed child-phone access
Because the interaction at Mcdonalds is fast, I don't have to leave my car, I don't have to tip, and I know exactly how it's going to taste.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants
Some time ago I got downvoted to oblivion for saying that drinking alcohol on a regular basis is alcoholism, even when you're still functioning in the society. And some of these people said that drinking a couple drinks EVERY DAY is normal and not alcoholism.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I think the few people i genuinely look up to and would fanboy over, i wouldn't be screaming or reaching for them if they walked by. If i came across one of them in public i think id just be like "Oh shit, what are you doing here?"ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
This is certainly something I can get behind as deeply disturbing. Thank you for bringing it to people’s attentions.ReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes
No problem. I try to gently bring it up to people in real life too. It’s so normalized that most people don’t even think about how fucked up it is unless you bring it to their attention.ReplyCited in: Breeding dogs for harmful extremes
This has existed foreverReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
There for the experience vs doing it for the InstagramReplyCited in: Selfies displacing the lived celebrity encounter
Yep! I feel like it's not too bad but then I would never imagine myself taking my phone and hitting record to show how good of a person I am. It's so weird. Imagine you see something like an animal struggling and your first instinct is to think "I should film this!"ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
I remember elementary school, in the 80s, a friend and I could go to McDonald's after school and go wild for $4 between us.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants
So are some of the worst ones tooReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I wish I could triple upvoteReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Functional "any addiction here".ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
I feel called out..fmlReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It's functional for a long time, gradually less so, then very suddenly not functional at all.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
that particular one has been around for thousands of years so...ReplyCited in: Alcohol and fermentation in early civilization
why is this disturbing but antidepressants aren’t? life sucksReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; An alcohol-versus-antidepressant false-equivalence question
THIS💯ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Half of them put the animal in a state of distress then record themselves "rescuing" the poor animal.ReplyCited in: Staged animal-rescue abuse for content; Filming good deeds for profit and views
I think I should clarify that I don't find this "deeply disturbing" like the question asked, and my feelings really depend on the situation. If it's a choice between filming and performing a good deed or not performing it at all of course I'm going to choose filming the good deed. I don't think I'll properly articulate my point but I'll give it a shot. I wish more people did things out of the kindness of their heart rather than for praise. My boyfriend really enjoys these types of videos so I've watched a fair share and like I said before, it really is dependent on the situation. Some are wonderful and inspiring and truly make huge impacts. But others not so much. I've seen videos where parents film their children apologizing & giving extravagent gifts to other children that they have bullied. Often those on the receiving end seem uncomfortable and while I think it is important to teach your child a lesson, I don't think everything needs to be filmed.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views; Filming child apologies and gifts; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
My sister was distributing my niece’s Pre-K school portraits and it’s her standing with her hand on her hip. Like wtf😂😵‍💫 this isn’t MySpace. What happened to just a headshot or arms folded and resting on a fake tree or something!?ReplyCited in: Children automatically posing for cameras
Do they seemed somewhat ashamed when they come in, or is it more business as usual?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Business as usual, tons of construction guys will come in and brag about how they're going to get high on the 70% infused pre rolls they just bought while they're on break and then go back to work and operate heavy machinery. Working in the industry turned something I did love into something I really have a hard time enjoying now.ReplyCited in: Functional cannabis dependence normalized; Cannabis use before operating heavy machinery
Half gallon of Taaka was like $16 after tax during my dark days. That usually lasted me 2 - 3 days, so it was around $200 a month, which to be honest is fairly affordable.ReplyCited in: Low-cost alcohol enabling dependence
"comparison is the thief of joy"ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It does actually, if you are HSP or other forms of neurodivergent.ReplyCited in: Sharp phone audio as sensory assault; Sensory sensitivity and sharp phone audio
I am. I guess that could be the case. Thanks.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
This!🙏 no, I don't know what happened to C and Y. I don't particularly want to know anyway. Let me read about fictional characters in the exact same situation instead.ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
Thank you!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
oh okay. thank youReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
A girl I went to college with is so obviously desperate for her young daughter to be famous. I’m talking still in the single digit of ages young. Mother has her doing influencer style videos and things like that. I unfriended her the other day because she posted pictures of her daughter that were so wildly inappropriate it made me uncomfortable (and I reported it) basically she was in underwear posing provocatively with a guitar and in a barn. I was so disgusted and baffled. Parents sell their kids soul for a little bit of money and attention.ReplyCited in: Parents sexualizing children for influencer content; Family channels exploiting children's privacy
Nah wtf I'd report that shit to CPS if possibleReplyCited in: Parents sexualizing children for influencer content
LLM AI is such a monkey's paw curse. It does have utility, but it's absolutely not worth the resource cost. And it's not worth losing the capacity to think for yourself. But now young adults are in a tough spot. Employers are going to expect some level of AI competency. And it might become that kind of a power app that they expect you to be talented in it. So it's certainly a double-edged sword to not expose kids to it at least at some age, certainly after they have a strong set of critical thinking skills. But that's very subjective, and going to vary child to child.ReplyCited in: Rapid AI integration and child-development fears; AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff
Teach kids critical thinking, some basic project management and explicit communication tools and they'll be in a fine place to pick up AI if and when they ever need it. Skip the critical thinking and they'll be dependent on it or others to think for them forever.ReplyCited in: AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff
As someone that has never used an LLM and is pretty software averse it's shocking to see 30-something year olds buy into this. Combo that with non-anonymous social media and honestly...sometimes me and people I know are living in two distinct realities. Like ask an AI to explain something fake that Instagram told them....ReplyCited in: AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff
LLM AI is Gell Mann Amnesia exponentiated. It seems smart, as long as you don't know anything about the topic.ReplyCited in: AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff; AI confidence outside the user's expertise
Rings have genuinely made my public life less enjoyable! I knock on people’s doors or ring when I see a package sitting outside, since drivers are often in a rush, and the feeling of “I could be on camera right now” makes it slightly awkward when it should be casual.ReplyCited in: Fear of being shamed by neighborhood camera posts; The doorbell-camera panopticon effect
panopticon effectReplyCited in: The doorbell-camera panopticon effect
It's not so bad when it's a push door to get out, but the privacy zig zag is the best design (not always space for this though)ReplyCited in: Doorless offset public-restroom entry
Use a piece of toilet paper to grab the doorReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
ShirtReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
I'm gen x, and you are certainly correct that it's not limited to gen z! I too am appalled at how many folks my age or even a little older respond to stuff with "GPT says this" or "Claude reads my emails and responds to folks for me." Crazy thing is I have to use AI for portions of my job (tech-adjacent), but I detest the thought of using it outside of work. 🤷🏻‍♂️ReplyCited in: AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff
Real, yeah. I would definitely encourage the people who do this to ask these bots a question about something they’re well and truly knowledgeable about, really prod at it. My Dad had me do that once with DuckDuckGo’s AI and after prodding with some questions about railway history, I figured out real quick that it was a load of bunk. He was enthusiastic about it but I just didn’t trust it after that. I don’t doubt that they CAN be useful in certain circumstances, (especially in tech or scientific circles as you mentioned), but geez. I feel like it should really only be in the hands of people with the critical thinking required to not just trust it as is.ReplyCited in: AI confidence outside the user's expertise; Testing AI on a domain you know well
I like to think I’m really good at troubleshooting pc problems, but AI is actually miles ahead of me. Like it’s not even close.ReplyCited in: AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff
As a fellow gen xer, I use AI as a glorified search engine/research assistant. If it can't give me a source to where it got the info, I don't bother with it. I will say it is handy for learning some things. I recently needed to automate a process in 360, and GPT was able to give me an idiot proof step by step way to do it. Now I know what to do and how to replicate it if needed. The scary thing, as others point out, is how some people use it to think for them, especially if they are doing any type of writing or programming.ReplyCited in: AI as a sourced research assistant; Testing AI on a domain you know well
The trick is to let it generate documentation for what you just did at the end of the chat. Being able to look up what I understood 3 months ago has saved my ass occasionally.ReplyCited in: AI as a sourced research assistant
Definitely one of the best uses of AI in my world, the bulleted recaps of zoom meetings and stuff like that. And of course when AI can take mundane/repetitive tasks off my plate, that's a score. But I'm careful not to let it take over the parts of my life where not only do I *need* to do the thinking and understanding, but I need to make sure that the thinking and understanding is understood to be my own, warts and all, and not that of a fallible quantum computation 😁ReplyCited in: AI as a sourced research assistant
Ooh I can’t wait to tell my parents this the next time they bug me for picsReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I literally heard someone say the other day, "But who cares about critical thinking? Why do I need to?" I made an involuntary noise of pain.ReplyCited in: AI literacy versus critical-thinking tradeoff
I have a childhood friend who has entered her son into some "Toddler of the Year" contest that she's constantly plugging on Facebook. So not only is she posting tons of pictures of her kid along with his name, it's also all paired with write-ups about what her son is like, how he acts, and the kinds of things he enjoys, which of course are all duplicated on the contest website. Like girl your son is only two years old and you are *eagerly* helping Meta and other data aggregators build a highly detailed profile on him. WHAT THE FUCK.ReplyCited in: Family channels exploiting children's privacy; Toddler contests building commercial data profiles; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
I always thought the portion sizes we have are outrageous compared to the amount we’re supposed to be eating. For $10 you can get a meal from McDonald’s thats 1500 calories. I believe a typical meal should be half of that calorie countReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; Fast-food portion and calorie density
You used to be able to go to Taco Bell with $5 and have enough to be overly stuffed and have some change left over. Now their Mexican "pizza" is over $6 and is not enough to fill up a 10 year oldReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants
I nearly wipe out every time I try to use those things, I can't get the door open wide enough to be able to get out without having to do a weird hop and risking face plantingReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
Yeah, they're not super intuitive, I use them to open the door enough to shove my elbow between the door and the frame and open it that wayReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
My workplace just has paper towels in the bathroom so you can grab the door handle with a paper towel on your way out.ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
Before AI and after I graduated, my school had a teacher who got arrested for CSAM and they found a couple TB of other CSAM, and found he took yearbook photos (again, of 9th-12th graders) and Photoshopped them onto naked bodiesReplyCited in: A teacher using student yearbook photos for sexualized composites; AI-generated child sexual abuse from ordinary photos
Facebook is a cesspool of hate.ReplyCited in: Facebook hate content
It’s rough when your foot is on there and someone opens the door from the other side 😭 we need a better solutionReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
The food industry.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Oh I have fully given up on ever perceiving an occupancy lock correctlyReplyCited in: Ambiguous public-restroom occupancy locks
While at a fancy shmancy restaurant, I used the restroom: _touch free toilet flush, touch free soap dispenser, touch free running water, touch free hand dryers_ etc. Before paying, the waiter came to ask how was everything. I told him the door must be broken and they should alert their general manager. > "What do you mean, the door is broken, Sir?" > "well, after i peed, the toilet flushed, all by itself! i waved my hands under the sink and it gave me warm water. i waved at the soap dispenser and it dispensed foamy soap. i even waved at both the paper towel machine and the warm air dryer ... everything worked wonderfully! but then i waved at the door. and it did not open!" Waiter looks at me like i was fucking stupid 🙄 > "i tried waving my arms wider and i even danced around and the door still did not open. i was a little confused, so i was forced to use the manual override and opened it with my hand." 🤣ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
Around 2009 an acquaintance of mine just had a baby and started a Facebook account and posting as the baby in ‘baby talk’. No longer in contact with them but the baby should be a 17 year old teen now. I wonder what she had thought of her whole baby life being on Facebook as a public profile narrated in a cringey baby voice writing.ReplyCited in: Family channels exploiting children's privacy; Parents running public social accounts as their babies
That sounds great!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Mine did too, then we installed keypad locks (bit of a drug use problem with the toilets), so now the foot handle doesn’t work to exit.🤷‍♀️ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
Photos of kids drives me nuts, but I legitimately have to restrain myself from telling my friends they are idiots when they post some stuff. Like a first day of school photo, with the kids face and name, plus identifying details about their school (a school uniform crest or a teacher's name). Do you want them kidnapped? Because this is how they get kidnapped!ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
That's paranoia. It's incredibly unlikely that that would ever happen. Most child abuse happens to people who the kid knows, not strangers.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
Its also incredibly unlikely that you'll be in a car accident, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try to avoid one.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
A car accident is a far more likely event to happen while driving than being kidnapped. These two things aren't remotely the same.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
While unlikely, I still dislike strangers knowing where to find my child, what he looks like and what name to call to get his attention. Add if all the extras people post about their kids (say, the soccer team tournament that's coming up) and you've just given a topic to discuss with my kid that allows you to engage with him. Again, while unlikely, I have nothing to gain by posting it and potentially everything to lose. Easy math for me.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
I’d love some source on this being how kidnapping happens.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
Growing up at a time when parents were discouraged from even getting their kid clothes or backpacks with their name on it for fear that could be used by a stranger to abduct a child, it's baffling to see how much some parents post about their kids online. Nevermind just knowing a kid's name to convince them you're not a stranger, you could recite basically every detail of some children's lives based on what's posted on social media.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
Also, we do not call them “bathrooms” in the UK. We say “toilets”. They do not contain a bath.ReplyCited in: Bathroom versus toilet regional language
Holy shit i just played Counter Strike with someone who had his son as his profile picture and that was just crazy to meReplyCited in: Children used as gaming profile pictures; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
The real answer is the cause for this. An inflationary monetary system causes compounding inflation yearly so it will feel like things get pricier exponentially and we're now around a century into that system so it's hitting a boiling point. This is the thing I find disturbing. Other people might find inflation disturbing but they aren't ready to discuss getting rid of an inflationary monetary system and allowing for natural deflation.ReplyCited in: A claim for ending inflationary money in favor of natural deflation; Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
A healthy inflation rate of 2% is one of the primary drivers of US macroeconomic stability and growth. Deflation means your money gains value from just holding it, which incentivizes saving and disincentivizes consumption (one of the primary drivers of growth in the US economy). Now, if one person cuts consumption, benefiting from his savings steadily gaining in value, that individually benefits him, but if everyone does so, companies can no longer find anyone to buy their goods and become unable to make profits, leading to layoffs and stagnation. Companies often cut prices even further during deflation, hoping that will increase demand, but this usually has the opposite effect since consumers begin to expect even more price decreases then and become even less inclined to buy, leading to a deflationary spiral. The Chinese economy currently is an example of this problem. Despite CPI inflation, crucial sectors like housing have seen falling prices due to low demand (an issue triggered by the real estate crash, but which has continued well after it) and oversupply, yet the falling prices further depress demand since people expect that holding off on spending means things will cost even less later on. "Constantly falling prices" sounds nice to people in the US, but it often leads to deflationary spirals where consumption plummets. The inflationary monetary system in the US prevents this issue and ensures consumption doesn't catastrophically plummet, allowing companies to continue expanding and providing the jobs and affordable, high-quality goods that keep the economy running. Another issue with 'natural deflation' is that it results in real (i.e. relative to current level of income and prices) debt burden growing larger over time. This makes it difficult for consumers to finance big purchases (cars, houses) with borrowing and for firms to finance their growth in early stages via borrowing, which again hurts economic growth. While inflation also poses risks like wages not growing in step with inflation, 'natural deflation' is not something we should aim for -- the risk of deflation spirals, the government's inability to respond to economic downturns by increasing the money supply, and the downsides for debt-financed investment and consumption are too dangerous. Good wage bargaining and competitive labor markets (multiple employers so that one large firm can't forever keep wages low in an area) can prevent the issue of real wage stagnation in the current system. While it's frustrating to see prices sometimes rise faster than wages, in the long run, most US workers have not seen a decrease in real wages, and many have seen increases. You say we're at "a boiling point," but the reality is that most Americans actually have the same, or higher, purchasing power compared to 40 years back. Add in non-wage benefits like insurance and social security, and the situation really is not that dire. Wage stagnation is a problem, but I don't think it is so severe yet that we should turn to extreme solutions which themselves have serious dangers.ReplyCited in: A claim for ending inflationary money in favor of natural deflation; The deflationary-spiral and real-debt counterargument
In America you can look through the giant gaps in between the stall doors to see if someone is there, or see their feet underneath. No privacy whatsoever. I'm always grateful when I encounter a gapless stall with a full door.ReplyCited in: Ambiguous public-restroom occupancy locks; Large gaps in US restroom stalls
I feel like in the future we are going to have people writing tell all books about their childhood on family vlogs.ReplyCited in: Family channels exploiting children's privacy
You're better off buying a bag of lunchmeat and a pack of string cheese. Hell, those are made of actual food at leastReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; Packed lunchmeat and string cheese instead of fast food
Color blind accessibility in designs in general. It is so fucking easy to accommodate the color blind by using symbols or textures together with colors, or simply colors that are easier to differentiate. But so frequently do designers completely disregard 8% of males and 0.5% of women, a bit less than the total population of the USA.ReplyCited in: Color-only design excluding colorblind users
So nasty I use my elbows when possibleReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
My influencer friend posts their kids and makes bank, but they don't care if their kids' pics get stolen because they see it as "exposure" equals money, which is messed up.ReplyCited in: Influencer parents treating stolen child images as exposure; Family channels exploiting children's privacy
And it's scary how quickly it changes you. I've experienced it myself. A few months of regularly using LLMs and you become so dependent on them. I've had moments where I've tried to use AI to solve something and getting nowhere, but if I just sit down and think about the problem for 30 minutes then I can figure it out on my own.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The reason for a lot of people is that they're far away from their home or office and need to eat in a hurry. I work mostly from home, but have days where I'm out on appointments for my job the whole day, and an hour or more of driving time back home for a sandwich doesn't make sense compared to spending $12 at a drive thru. Are there better alternatives around town if you know where to go? Probably, but if I don't know the area and I have limited time, I don't want to spend 20 minutes looking up reviews for local mom and pop restaurants that are also going to take me 30+ minutes to order and eat.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; Fast-food convenience during mobile workdays
> compared to spending $12 at a drive thru. It depends entirely on where you go and the only way you're paying $12 is if you have their app. I'm in Southern California and it used to be $8-$10 for Subway, I went there for the first time in ages and it was $17 after taxes for a footlong, drink, and chips...same with McDonalds, a meal is $14+ unless you use the app. I went to Wendys last week because it's next to work and it was $12, but only because I downloaded the app in the parking lot...fast food is no longer cheap...which I thought was the whole point.ReplyCited in: US fast-food price and value decline; Fast-food convenience during mobile workdays
Dude, we all know SoCal is expensive. Pointing that out doesn’t change anything for the rest of us. It’s still cheaper than most places, even if marginally, and it’s also FAST. It’s right in the name. I don’t have 30-45 minutes to spend on lunch if I’m getting fast food.ReplyCited in: Fast-food convenience during mobile workdays
You could always pack a lunchReplyCited in: Packed lunchmeat and string cheese instead of fast food
Okay yes but electricity is kinda a bad example. Electricity has been seasonally more expensive pretty much as long as AC has existedReplyCited in: Seasonal electricity costs from air conditioning; Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
You can have a world where the power companies are REGULATED for the GOOD OF THE PEOPLE. I live in a place where gas and electric are the same cost all year long, cause it's quasi-publically-owned cause everyone NEEDS power. Democratic socialism guys, get on board!ReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates; Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
Price caps have historically led to massive shortages when supply goes down and consumer prices aren't able to increase to compensate for higher production costs -- when input prices increase and supply falls, consumer prices have to also rise and demand has to fall in order for companies to not lose money. Among other factors, California's retail price caps on electricity led to rolling blackouts, widespread shortages, and the bankruptcy of PG&E, after retail prices could not be raised to match increased wholesale electricity prices. When it doesn't lead to that level of catastrophe (mainly occurs when supply-side shocks are combined with price caps), price caps typically lead to less investment in expanding production and less spending on maintenance of existing capacity -> more blackouts. Good quality electricity grids come at a cost. If you stop paying the market price for electricity (or anything else), expect worse quality. Consumers really only avoid the negative consequences of price caps when the companies make a substantial part of their revenue in other places without price caps, allowing them to avoid this issue of revenue growth not matching rise in input prices, so consumers without socialist lawmakers are essentially subsidizing other states' bad policymaking.ReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates; A price-cap shortage and underinvestment counterclaim
Sure, but how do you explain that France, a 66 million inhabitants country, doesn’t have any kind of shortage during summer ? And we pay the same price all year longReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates
1. The year-long steady rate factors in seasonal spikes in production cost -- they probably average it out across the year after guesstimating how big the spike will be. Can't be sure how they calculate it (is the formula publicly available somewhere? not French, don't know where to look for this stuff), but this seems probable -- they certainly aren't charging throughout the year based on the prices in the cheapest month lol. You aren't avoiding price spikes due to seasonal changes in input prices and demand, the government has just hidden it from easy view so people feel pleased with who they voted for. But that isn't even the biggest issue. 2. France maintains artificially low electricity prices by having the state supply most electricity (after the EDF nationalization) -- the gap between revenue and operating costs is made up for by taxpayer money that funds your expensive nuclear reactors. For example, just this year, six new reactors are being built by EDF, and 60% of the construction cost (€72.8 billion) is being financed by subsidized loans (taxpayer money) from the French government. [[link removed] The amount you're paying to EDF isn't just your retail electricity prices, it's a substantial amount of taxes that end up with them also. 3. Until the French government nationalized EDF and started using taxpayer money to fix its bad regulatory policies, the company was a mess. Severe debt, half the nuclear reactors offline due to pipe corrosion, huge losses due to those reactor shutdowns and being forced to buy more expensive foreign electricity + inability to raise prices to adjust to that, plummeting stock price, €17.9 billion in losses, and a credit rating so bad they were struggling to find anyone that would lend them the money to fix it all. You can not possibly call this a success -- the consumers were sheltered from the disastrous effects of price controls by having the companies suffer huge losses. In comes the French government to rescue EDF from a mostly government-made mess using taxpayer money: stock price rescued by buying out minority stakeholders with taxpayer money, and the inability to find lenders (bad credit rating) fixed with subsidized government loans. So, the lesson is, French consumers aren't really paying 'fixed amount' all the time -- when EDF gets into trouble, more taxpayer money is funneled in to compensate for the fixed consumer prices. At the end of the day, you're paying far more to EDF than just the fixed tariff rate. Source: [[link removed] 4. Apart from the fact that this contradicts the "we only pay fixed electricity rate" idea, this whole system has done massive damage to the French government's finances, since they've been the ones subsidizing this disastrous experiment with price controls. Debt-to-GDP ratio was 11% above Eurozone average when Macron took office, now it is 25% above that (116%) and the deficit is double the EU average. French public debt and government deficit have grown faster than the rest of the EU because their solution to any kind of rise in prices is to have the state pay for it with more taxpayer money and more borrowing rather than letting companies charge more, which is the natural solution that results in healthy government finances. If your government continues this way, they'll have less and less money each year for education, defense, etc because so much of the budget will go into paying interest on debt. Borrowing costs are further increasing because the skyrocketing debt is hurting the government's credit rating, creating a snowball effect. Sources: [link removed] and [link removed] Tldr, there is no such thing as a free lunch.ReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates; A price-cap shortage and underinvestment counterclaim; A French electricity subsidy and EDF debt counterclaim
I live in place where the price of gas and electricity is the same year round without the democratic socialism crap and I’m willing to bet my rates are muuuch cheaper than yours.ReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates
Or they could sign a contract with a fixed rate instead of a flexible one like I do. My bill is higher in the summer because I use more, but the actual rate never changesReplyCited in: Seasonal electricity costs from air conditioning; Fixed-rate utility contracts versus seasonal usage
The power company profited tens of millions of dollars last year. For a public utility.ReplyCited in: Public-utility profit despite price increases; Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
So argue for government run utility services then 🤷‍♂️ReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates
good cover their faces with a big emoji or something.ReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
And their bodies tf idk should they be there at all?ReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
I'm unsure, but photos for bodies can be found everywhere, faces are way more unique and identifiable.ReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
Once you get used to home cooking and eating real food the thought of fast food is nauseating. I aint paying for some highschool kid who cant cook to make me a meal.ReplyCited in: Restaurant prices pushing home cooking
The stall doors at my dad’s local sports club don’t stay open when the stall is empty so even if there’s no one in the bathroom, every stall looks occupied to him because he’s red-green colourblind and he has to push the doors to see if they’re unoccupied. He’s put in so many complaints cos guys have gotten pissy with him for trying the doors, but management won’t change it cos they remodeled only last year.ReplyCited in: Color-only design excluding colorblind users; Ambiguous public-restroom occupancy locks; Colorblind users unable to read restroom locks
This is exactly my problem, but at my office. Recent refurb, but no one thought about colour vision deficiency when installing toilet door locks. The most aggravating thing is that it feels like ten or twenty years ago, most locks actually said 'occupied' or whatever as part of the lock mechanism, so we've taken a step backwards in accessibility terms.ReplyCited in: Colorblind users unable to read restroom locks
I was absolutely disgusted after witnessing a coworker leave without washing their hands and I had the realization that even in my relatively small office (share the men's room with 10-15 guys, depending on the day), there was still at least one person who has been touching the fucking door with their filthy unwashed hands. I might have to switch to grabbing the door handle with a paper towel, like one of my other coworkers does.ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
I'm not even in the US and I've started going to proper restaurants instead of fast food places for a quick bite maybe 2-3 years ago. It just seems insane to me that 'restaurant quality' hasn't dropped yet it's now cheaper than most fast food.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants
I've never once opened a public bathroom door with my hands.ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
Not only in the US. Where I live (Europe), fast food costs as much or more than restaurants just a couple of years ago, and actual restaurants have so exorbitant prices that you could prepare the exact same food yourself for a week for the same price. At the same time, quality of food in restaurants seems to deteriorate so much, there's no longer any reason to eat there, as the convenience no longer outweights the price and the taste.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; Restaurant prices pushing home cooking; Restaurant prices and quality eroding convenience
The hand dryers are scientifically proven worse for germs than paper towels too, and fewer places stock paper towels which are actually useful at opening the door without using your bare hand!ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit; A hand-dryers-versus-paper-towels hygiene claim
My office installed handsfree door openers for the restrooms. Instead of a button, you just put your hand near it and it activates. You can get through the entire activity without touching any surfaces.ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit; Sensor-activated restroom door openers
I did the math, calculated how much it costs per ounce of ice cream at Dairy Queen and at my local ice cream shop, and they were the exact same price. And the small local shop has more flavors than dairy queen, and tastes better too, so now it’s my go to place to get my ice cream fixReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; A local ice-cream shop matching a chain's price
It's also frequently not even fast. Every time I go to the McDonald's near me and pull up to the window to get my food, they ask me to park in one of the designated waiting spots until my order is ready. Which is even more annoying if I ever order via their app, because it specifically says "we'll start making it when you get close to the restaurant." Guaranteed additional wait.ReplyCited in: Fast food that is not actually fast; Fast-food convenience during mobile workdays
Esp women with only fans posting videos of breastfeeding their baby, fully showing their baby while their boobs are hanging out and pinning their only fans page. I look through the comments and it’s a bunch of men sexualizing her boobs and she’s just enjoying it. It’s so disturbingReplyCited in: Adult creator pages cross-promoted with breastfeeding child videos; Parents sexualizing children for influencer content
Fairly seductive online, when you ask a google question and the first thing you’re referred to is AIReplyCited in: Conversational AI replacing simple search; An AI answer inserted before search results
It sucks because my job is squeezing my time more and more and it is becoming obvious that their expectations of me are not realistic without using AI. I have succumbed to its use, and it sucks because I actually liked using my brain.ReplyCited in: Forced AI use counted as user demand; Workplace AI dependence after errors; Unrealistic workloads forcing AI use
I have high school aged kids who are equally appalled at their classmates' use of AI!ReplyCited in: AI used as a substitute for critical thought
Omg, I went to our city's annual fair last night and wtf prices. I was expecting to be gouged because it's an event, but wasn't ready for how much: Mini donuts: $15 for a bag of 18 Blooming onion: $20 Rides: tickets sold in denominations of 14, most rides are 15. Tickets come on a card so you can't easily combine or give away unused credit. I want to complain about it on our local subreddit but I already know I'll get down voted and told "iT's alWaYS bEen LIkE THaT." No. No it hasn't.ReplyCited in: Event pricing and stranded ride credit; Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
You just reminded me of a story I found on reddit a couple years ago, where it was found that members of that certain... type of individual would share text documents of youtube video's with specific timestamps. Apparently the timestamps were of the children in... compromising angles.ReplyCited in: Timestamps used to find compromising child-video frames; Family channels exploiting children's privacy
Good to know that at least some people in my generation haven’t started relying on it so much.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Came here to say thisReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I love door handles theyre so usefulReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I will go out of my way to avoid interacting with videos and pictures of kids. I refuse to support people posting pictures of them when they cannot consent to the consequences of having your visage easily accessible by the entire world.ReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
i think the insane thing was to ever think it would go on forever.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
This needs to be way higher up on the listReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The portion sizes are laughable in what way?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Most of this is rooted in real estate pricing, but also greed.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; Real-estate cost and profit seeking as price drivers
Thanks for calling out the red/green. As someone who is colourblind this colour coding is very frustrating. I live in Ottawa, and we have the world's largest outdoor skating rink. They use red/green colours to map out which sections of the Rideau Canal are open for skating. I can't tell the difference between the two. I've written to them countless times over the years.ReplyCited in: Color-only design excluding colorblind users
Ridiculous isn't it. There's a chain of discount supermarkets in the UK that use a faintly illuminated panel to indicate if a given till is open or is closed/closing. They use Green for open and Feed for closed, but it's just not possible for me to distinguish. That means, if I join a queue at a till, I sometimes get called out by the cashier who wave to get your attention and gesture at the sign. That is most definitely a sub optimal experience.ReplyCited in: Color-only design excluding colorblind users; Color-only checkout-status signs
I'm kind of a small person and those meals don't fill me up. I'm like how can a tall adult-sized person get full on one meal?ReplyCited in: Fast-food portion and calorie density
me too! it's criminalReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
When I was on fb, there was a girl who would post her daughter and like everything that she did (pictures she drew, trips of the park, meltdowns). I was like what if your daughter doesn't want all of the private moments of her childhood on the internet in 10 years?ReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
I presume you mean publicly? because "internet" is pretty broad. Texting someone a picture you took uses the internet, for example.ReplyCited in: Public versus private child-photo sharing; Private family photography with child consent; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
And the 40 hour work week came about as a humane alternative to what came before it. Crazy.ReplyCited in: The forty-hour workweek as a former humane reform
Unfortunately, with the US healthcare system, many people are forced to do this. They were already using Google as their doctor. Now it's AI.ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; Healthcare access driving AI self-diagnosis
can't believe this is so far down. the entire American power structure is either complicit with or participating in a murderous pedophile cult, and yet what i see here are mainly complaints about the consequences of that cult and not the cult itself. this fuckass botted site.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
This hasn't got enough upvotes. Mental when you think about it.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
When I was a kid I would do this with a word. You know how they say, if you say it enough, it loses meaning? As a kid I remember thinking how weird the word "kitchen" is.ReplyCited in: Semantic satiation from repeating a word
That's actually one of the things I do to try to get to sleep. Repeat a word in my mind enough that it falls apart.ReplyCited in: Semantic satiation from repeating a word
I’ve personally used AI as a friend a therapist role before, and found that during some challenging times, it was a tool I could use to help me sort out my own thoughts and process things. Bounce ideas around with myself, basically. It’s helped with a lot of my inner work and has helped me find blindspots I didn’t previously recognize. At the same time, I agree that AI shouldn’t be anyone’s only form of “social” interaction. There’s gotta be a balance and a line drawn somewhere. I wouldn’t be able to view it as a romantic partner, for example. But to each their own I guess. I personally view AI as a tool, but it’s not a replacement for actual human connection. Or a replacement for your brain. Same way I would use a calculator to math something.ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
I've found ai mirrors back to me what I tell it but in a way that I can hear and understand it. It's been very helpful in working through my thoughts and feelings about different thing. However, I view it as a tool and abilities enhancer, not the end-all-be-all answer machine.ReplyCited in: AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
Yes, exactly. It’s helped me with that too, helped me find the right words to better articulate my thought processes and fill in the gaps at times. I still use my own discernment with it though, and don’t just take everything it spits out at face value. I’ll push back on it at times if it goofs, lol.ReplyCited in: AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
Sorry this is Reddit. We only accept zero sum arguments / takes. Please take your reasonable response somewhere else.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Apologies, forgot where I was for a moment 😂 Me and my nuance will see ourselves out.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
IMO it's just as effective, if not more so, as when people use Reddit for the exact same stuff. Social media is just completely hysterical and weird when it comes to talking about AI.ReplyCited in: AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
I agree. Same way you would go to a human friend in a time of need or looking for advice. Except with that, the advice you receive solely depends on that specific person’s worldview, experiences, expertise, etc. At least with AI, it’s able to quickly combine knowledge from a plethora of sources. That’s not to say human friends are useless, lol. Leaning on a friend also can provide a sense of connection for both people, regardless of what their advice is. Sense of community. I think that’s how I have it separated in my head. Friends —> connection/community. AI —> logistics/problem solving.ReplyCited in: AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
Yeah, I am working towards leaving an emotionally abusive relationship and I think of it like a more logical/kinder filter to run my thoughts through. That's all. I wish I didn't feel such a need to use it, but I am also autistic so it helps me understand social situations a lot easier and I have learned a lot about how neurotypicals think and expect me to behave.ReplyCited in: AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement; An AI sounding board during an abusive relationship
I used it to get out of my bad relationship. I was using it a LOT back then. Once I was out and processed thru some of my other issues, I haven't felt the need to use it as often. I still pop in every now and again, but it's nowhere near as often as I used toReplyCited in: An AI sounding board during an abusive relationship
I’ve used it to help me understand, navigate (and eventually leave) toxic interpersonal dynamics, as well. Sometimes it’s hard to see what’s actually happening when you’re in the middle of it (even for neurotypicals). Nothing wrong with using an external perspective as a sounding board. I’m sorry you’re going through that, though. I hope you’re able to leave and begin healing soon 🫂ReplyCited in: An AI sounding board during an abusive relationship
Thank you so much! 🫂ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Same hereReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The Heat Death of the Universe does this to me.ReplyCited in: Anxiety about the universe's heat death
Is it weird that i love thinking about that? Like im sad i wont see it. Im also sad i wont see when Andromeda collides with the milky way. The sky would look so cool.ReplyCited in: Anxiety about the universe's heat death
Like, it's crazy because none of it matters at the end of the dayReplyCited in: Anxiety about the universe's heat death; Cosmic scale triggering a sense that nothing matters
you guys are my people. Every once in a while this thought hits me and I get lightheaded. Probably speaks to me more than the actual concept but how else am I supposed to feel about this??? 😅ReplyCited in: Cosmic scale triggering a sense that nothing matters
i saw a woman on tiktok say that she only reads the first and last word of paragraphs. also i both love and hate the whole "romantasy" trend, i like that it encourages people to read but i dislike how reading porn in public has become very normalized, and bookstores keep accidentally putting content with porn in teen sections. i also hate that telling people i read fantasy makes them assume I'm reading that crap when actually I'm reading old dnd novels.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books; Adult romantasy content shelved for teens
Tip: maybe tell people it's "adventure", instead of fantasy? That could help get people's brains outta the gutter. 😂🫠ReplyCited in: Adult romantasy content shelved for teens
i usually just say its dnd now lol. if they want to know more i drop some light but heavy for them lore and worldbuilding and then they realize oh shit this chicks actually a fucking nerdReplyCited in: Adult romantasy content shelved for teens
Shoes in general, when you think about it long enough. Anything with a stiff sole is going to inhibit the use of all *kinds* of muscles in your feet. They're there for a reason, and if you let them languish for 35+ years... there might be consequences, and they might even reach further up than your feet.ReplyCited in: A stiff-soled-shoes and foot-muscle-use claim
Related: how nobody cites sources for claims anymore. It's all just "trust me bro", even when you're claiming something as a fact vs your own observations or anecdotal evidence. Not only do few people do it, but it's actively discouraged by the sites we use. I can't tell you how many times I've had comments stealth yeeted by the robots here on reddit, and after multiple tries to get through the culprit turned out to be a link. I've even had it happen for internal links on this very website.ReplyCited in: Platforms discouraging source citations; AI as a source finder, not an answer authority
or worse, using it as factual evidence of somethingReplyCited in: AI used as a substitute for critical thought
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Thanks for this!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I loved it. It was a great read.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
What does an ant think of the ocean?ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
Based on our current understanding, it's unknowable.. and that's really frustrating. We are learning a lot about our universe over the past 100 years, but it's doubtful we'll ever truly know or understand what was before. From nothing.. something? And even if it was a repeated expansion contraction event.. why and where did that start? And even if it's a multiverse thing.. why and where did that start? And even if it were a supreme being creating it.. why and where did that start? It's turtles all the way down.ReplyCited in: The unknowable origin before the universe; The existential fact that anything exists
I think a lot of adults actually can’t read. Like, they didn’t learn how to do it properly. Add in the more entertaining mediums like tv, video games, and phones, and books suddenly become too much “work”.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books; Adults with limited functional reading
Then there’s people like me, I can read perfectly, I even have a few awards from middle school, and to me, books are just… boring… turns out I should be seeing a movie in my head, but I don’t, because I suffer from aphantasia, I don’t see anything inside my head.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books; Aphantasia and boredom with books
Also aphantasic here! I love reading, but I find books with overly descriptive prose or extensive world building s complete slog to get through. Idk how much you've tried reading in the past, but I reckon you might find faster paced, character-driven, or plot/dialogue heavy books much more engaging. They focus more on what is happening, character interactions and internal monologues, so the immersion comes from the story and emotion rather than a mental picture.ReplyCited in: Aphantasia and boredom with books
\> Our government ~~covering up for the Epstein class, our government staffed/ran with epsteins clients/associates, Joe Rogan platforming the Epstein class, our government doxing epsteins victims, etc.~~ FTFYReplyCited in: An Epstein-network and government-handling claim
If just regular heels. I can't wear high heels anymore, and so opted for a pair of smaller ones that can barely be called heels. The back of my heel is still raw from the chaging it gave me because I placed the bandages of one foot just sloghtly lower then needed 😭ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
I think about the videos of people in heels falling over or barely making it while just trying to walk up and get their high school/college diplomas.ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
thinking about it sends me in a spiral that makes depressed consistentlyReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
And the concept of infinity and dimensions, monkey head hurtReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
Especially when taking them to Claire’s or other mall kiosks that use piercing guns and jewelry not suitable for fresh piercings. It makes by skin crawl when I see babies not only getting their ears pierced but getting them done the way less efficient way. Once they’re ready to get their ears pierced, they need to be taken to an actual shop where piercing needles and the appropriate jewelry are used. They’re also much more hygienic, their process is much less painful, and healing will be much easier.ReplyCited in: Piercing guns and unsuitable jewelry for children
This is actually dystopian and sad to think aboutReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I'm not sure if I can link other groups here but there is a group that is something along the lines of having the AI as a boyfriend. 60k people.ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; A large AI-boyfriend community claim
Woah... That's an incredibly high numberReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
why is it shocking and disturbing to you that people are lonely? people have been paying other human beings to have sex with them for millenniaReplyCited in: A large AI-boyfriend community claim
Underrated comment!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
>And people don't care enough to really think about it but the more you do the more disturbing it is "God(s)" of whatever flavor are how people excuse themselves out of this existential mindfuck. We're a conscious fractal. The fuck.ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists; Religion as a response to existential uncertainty
AI helped me figure out a diagnosis that I've spent 20 years chasing. I've been in the hospital at least ten times. Seen countless doctors and taken dozens of tests. They couldn't figure it out. An hour of bouncing ideas and other symptoms back and forth with AI and I have an answer. It's right because the over the counter remedy it gave me works. I've not been hospitalized since then. What more disturbing to me is the lack of proper, affordable care. I shouldn't have to self-diagnose.ReplyCited in: Healthcare access driving AI self-diagnosis; AI self-diagnosis after healthcare failure
I’ve never been more balanced since I cut my primary job to 32 hours. 4 8 hour days and done. I have a much higher paying per diem (my physically demanding old primary job) that I can pick up shifts to make extra money, when I want or need to. Even when I only had that one job and had a 32 hour commitment, I could pick and choose what extra shifts I wanted to fit into my schedule, or not work extra if I didn’t need to. I get all my appointments and weekday errands done on my weekday off. I worked night shift for so long, I truly don’t understand how people who work a day shift m-f 9-5 get anything done during the week. You have to take time off for everything, even a dental cleaning! Again, I have 2 jobs and can’t afford to only work 32 hours all the time, but the flexibility it gives me feels like a life hack.ReplyCited in: A thirty-two-hour primary job with optional extra shifts
I'm very happy i tried them on once as a teen and decided they aren't for me. I've always been the kind of person where I won't wear something if its not comfortable, unless its a work uniform or something.ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
If you ask Brian Greene, he thinks there may have been a Big Bang that created our universe, but there may have been something else beyond our comprehension or measurement or observation that existed to support that. Of course, the question then becomes, what was the big bang equivalent for that...?ReplyCited in: The unknowable origin before the universe
That part is not different in the least, the world was always full of people who defaulted to the group, or who passively accepted whatever the establishment told them, or who just went with whatever was in front of them, following the path of least resistance. Thoughtful people have always been the minority. The difference now, is that every idiot gets a loudspeaker, and people who have nothing better to do can spend all day expressing their stupid opinions all over the place. The other difference is that people can now get a bespoke alternate reality online. Whatever thing a person prefers, they can find a community to support it, and they don't have to be continually exposed to ideas they don't like, they don't have to engage with others who disagree, and they don't have to make compromises. Whatever you want, there is an echo chamber just for you, and it will shield you from cognitive dissonance. Even when people straight-up hate each other, meat space frequently has to have "let's agree to disagree" and you work together on some shared thing. Online, people are increasingly becoming accustomed to "me only". My opinions, my preferences, my ideology, my favorite thing all the time. Not my second favorite thing, or a thing that's just okay, my favorite thing only, all the time. *That* part is different. People who need their own way all the time or else they throw a tantrum used to get called "spoiled", but now, everyone can basically get their own way most of the time, and then they go out into the world with paper thin skin and no patience.ReplyCited in: Online echo chambers and bespoke realities
reading is a fundamental part of learning, even as an adult i read all the time, ive got a physical book and something else on my phone on the go at the same time (often a LITRPG recently as ive really gotten into the genre) it helps with attention span, keeps your imagination ticking, keeps your vocab up (which is another rant) and lets you experience things that you would have on way to otherwise seeReplyCited in: Adults not reading books
I remember being out at a bar with friends the same night as a very important birthday girl. Tight dress, sash, heels. She started out real cute. But by the third drink, she was leaning forward to redisbute weight. A couple more and she was getting squatty. By the time we left she was elongating words. Granted, I had been drinking too, but I will never forget the moment a thought connected two synapses and I told my friends, "she kinda looks like a t-rex."ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
That’s so hater of u💀 Let the birthday have her birthday damnReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
If you look up, the clouds are in front of the sky and the sky is in front of the moonReplyCited in: A clouds, sky, and moon depth-perception thought; The existential fact that anything exists
watReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Just think about it, its not that complicatedReplyCited in: A clouds, sky, and moon depth-perception thought
I feel like the moon is in front of the skyReplyCited in: A clouds, sky, and moon depth-perception thought
It's not our fault we can't access careReplyCited in: Healthcare access driving AI self-diagnosis
im a girl/young woman and will NEVER wear on, fancy shoes are already agony because of my abnormally flat feet. maybe boots but that's it.ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
*Without their consent. I don't think there's anything wrong with letting a 2-or 3-year-old get their ears pierced if they want it, but it's terrible that it's regularly done to kids who don't want it or who are too young to communicate whether they want it.ReplyCited in: Piercing guns and unsuitable jewelry for children; A child ear-piercing consent boundary
Yeah that’s sad & it’s just another way for the government to gather information on us imo. I believe it’s also used to make AI smarter. I can proudly say I’ve never used AI or downloaded an AI appReplyCited in: AI data-collection and training suspicion
Do you use Google to search things up? Even the search bar in Reddit uses AI now, doesn't it? Same for Instagram, Redfin, Dunn Lumber, and on and on. You're using AI if you're online.ReplyCited in: AI already embedded across online services; AI data-collection and training suspicion
I know there is no escaping it but with Google they provide articles. You just don’t know what to trust anymore online reallyReplyCited in: AI already embedded across online services
You're not wrong.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
You know there are search engines without AI right? Besides, I don't think "it's been so widespread that you can't avoid it even if you want to" is a great gotcha either since it's hard to completely avoid the internet in modern society.ReplyCited in: AI already embedded across online services
To say you've (general/original person I was replying to) never used AI is the problem here. Not willingly or wittingly perhaps—but they have. I wasn't being a d about it, but depending on their age, they may not have known the sheer spread of the reach of AI. ✌🏽 🐩ReplyCited in: AI already embedded across online services
I never said I didn’t use AI, I’m not naive, it’s pushed into all aspects of life/internet. I said the horrifying fact that people supplement human interactions or specialized knowledge with AI is disturbing, and THAT I have never done. I am a nurse who frequently fields calls of people who asked google/AI health questions and it spits out a horribly wrong answer. I understand folks have the need for answers, but I always encourage folks to not look it up/ask AI. You kinda have to know what you’re looking for in order to dig through and find the right answer. It’s the equivalent of asking a 6th grader to solve a high school math equation, they’ll be able to do the addition and subtraction but not have a greater understanding of all the equation’s elements. ETA: I do also use browsers that don’t have AI (or I’ve manually turned it off) but it’s literally in everything. Even the messages you send your doctors are now being evaluated by AI and it creates its own answer. Even a medical tool, the answers it spits out are still often wrong.ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; Healthcare access driving AI self-diagnosis; A nurse's warning about AI health answers
Understood and appreciate the further clarification—though I *was* responding to a reply beneath yours.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
There are LLMs that can be accessed anonymously. And when it comes to AI in general there are also offline models although they probably are not good for stuff like therapy, medical, or friendship talks.ReplyCited in: AI data-collection and training suspicion; Anonymous and offline AI models do not solve care risk
This is meeeeee….ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
True like- WHAT THE HELL!? HOW IS IT POSSIBLE!?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Nothing existing would be weirder thoughReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
The proportion of people who accept that as *normal* is nowhere remotely close to "everyone else". Relatively few people think that's normal. But over time I can certainly see that proportion increasing.ReplyCited in: A large AI-boyfriend community claim; AI companionship is not yet a majority norm
Found my people. 🥂ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
What if it doesn't? *dun dun duuuun*ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I often freak out when I remember I am realReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists; A derealization-like moment of remembering one is real
"In the beginning the Universe was created. This had made many people very angry and has been widely regarded as a bad move."ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
THANK YOU I hate themReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Just say bourgeoisieReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Lol yeah, my brain kind of can't cope with there being 'nothing'. Because of this, I tend to really like when I see something about our universe actually being inside a black hole within another universe. And black holes in our universe potentially being other 'child' universes. I'm nowhere near educated enough to understand this stuff with any granularity, but very fun to think about.ReplyCited in: The unknowable origin before the universe; Universe-inside-a-black-hole speculation
THAT'S A THING!?!?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It's a practically mandatory thing in hispanic culture. Every baby girl gets her ears pierced almost as soon as she gets born. Definitely before starting preschool.ReplyCited in: Infant ear piercing as a cultural default; A child ear-piercing consent boundary
GrimReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Well, earrings. In my country for example they put earrings on little girls by default. A traumatizing experience...ReplyCited in: Infant ear piercing as a cultural default
Mostly a cultural thing. Caribbeans, South East Asians and Hispanics. I had my ears pierced in the '70s when I was 2 years old at a jewelery shop in London 😂 Every girl I know of in my culture has ears pierced by 2-3years oldReplyCited in: Infant ear piercing as a cultural default
do you think books are the only form of reading?ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books; Books versus other forms of reading
Yes. Scientific studies have determined that the small fragments of text we see all over the internet do not count. Sustained attention to long-form text is necessary exercise for critical thinking skills. Magazines are better than reddit, but not as good as books. That is, after all, what Fahrenheit 451 is about.ReplyCited in: Books versus other forms of reading; A long-form-reading and critical-thinking claim
Can you link to those studies? Because I've heard any reading is better than no reading.ReplyCited in: A long-form-reading and critical-thinking claim
Probably true, but that's a pretty low bar to clear.ReplyCited in: A long-form-reading and critical-thinking claim
And some of those people are proud of it.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books
The "Dune" timeline can't get here fast enough.ReplyCited in: Dune as a warning about thinking machines; AI dependence eroding human thinking
As opposed to talking to a real person?! Kidding aside, I just don’t have anyone to talk to about various topics and ideas that interest me. Who else, at 3 AM, is going to text or pick up the phone to talk about the difference between consciousness as internal representation and as phenomenology; or the socioeconomic classes of a particular nation in a particular time period in my fictional universe? Nobody, that’s who, but myself and a reasonable approximation of a real person.ReplyCited in: AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement; AI for late-night niche conversation
I unfortunately know a lot of people who google stuff and take the top result as the absolute truth and do not further research. This was already a very stupid approach before AI, 5-10 years ago. But now the top google result is AI that's hilariously wrong 100% of the time and those idiots still treat the first thing they see as real.ReplyCited in: Taking the first search result as truth; An AI answer inserted before search results
This \^ "Kids back in my day used to always be outside" and they are the same people to call the cops on a kid skating at the mall. And yeah Loitering still being in the lawbooks is crazy. A law literally implemented to pick up "societal undesirables" (usually newly freed slaves) for padding prison populations and boosting free labor.ReplyCited in: Loitering laws and policing young people in public; Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
Whatever happened to just hanging out in the park with a gaggle of friends and your supermarket bought beverages?ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
Karen's and cops. They don't allow it.ReplyCited in: Loitering laws and policing young people in public
it isnt necessary. 95% of it is performative. It's yters using the perceived censorship for clicks, or just parroting what others have done. source: been a yter for 14 years.ReplyCited in: Performative self-censorship on YouTube
That’s just ridiculous, then. Some channels go way overboard with it too, censoring words like ’crack’ for example in a context where it isn’t even used to describe the drug but rather just a physical crack in an object.ReplyCited in: Performative self-censorship on YouTube
yes that is 100% performative. crack? lol no way. shit, fuck, piss, cunt, suicide. you can say these things on youtube. the performance is to get comments on censorship, which ultimately help a video. im not saying there is no censorship or demonitization for some things. history channels getting censored/demonetized is some real bullshit imo. but words? no, not as bad as yters make it out to be.ReplyCited in: Performative self-censorship on YouTube
this atrocity of factory farming is the baseline; the act of commodifying animals in any capacity is also a great big issue itselfReplyCited in: Factory farming
BrutalReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Wife and I got invited to a family members wedding. The family member was marrying a Muslim woman and they were doing a traditional ceremony - no alcohol and women were explicitly told to "dress modestly." We were both like yeah we're not going. If your "beliefs" dictate the way you think other people can dress at their own families wedding, your beliefs suckReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others; Religious dress expectations at a family wedding
I don't blame you. You'd think it would be common courtesy in a multicultural wedding to integrate the cultures of both people getting married. Some people seem to insist on imposing their beliefs on others and it doesn't sit right with me. The thing I can't understand is why highly religious people don't just marry within their own community if they think their beliefs and traditions take precedence over their partner's?ReplyCited in: Religious dress expectations at a family wedding
Hanging out doesn't exist anymore. Now we'll get harassed and run off for loitering or vandalism.ReplyCited in: Loitering laws and policing young people in public
I struggle to understand how people can reach adulthood, experience life, realise all the other imaginary personas (Santa, Easter bunny, ghosts) aren't real and still have a belief in god. I also struggle to understand how a book from ~2000 years ago has such a lasting impact through all the scientific discoveries that proved what that book said isn't factual. Like there's not an actual dome over the earth. That should have been enough to realise the Bible is not the "word of god"ReplyCited in: Religious scripture versus scientific knowledge; Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
Religion provides comfort for people who want to delegate responsibilities for complicated decisions or questions to someone else; ergo, blind belief in divine justice. Also, it provides the means for opportunists to earn money from the first ones and gain influence over them.ReplyCited in: Religion providing certainty, community, and opportunity for exploitation
And a social space and material support, with unfortunate strings attached. Probably a lot of people out there who just go along with it without really believing in it for one or both of those reasons.ReplyCited in: Religion providing certainty, community, and opportunity for exploitation
I think some people can't handle the idea of nothing after death and convince themselves a religion is correctReplyCited in: Religion providing certainty, community, and opportunity for exploitation
And it gives answers into the unknown. Like life after death and why did the god decide to let that volcano erupt? /s it delegates consequences to others and not oneself. It’s narcissism.ReplyCited in: Religion providing certainty, community, and opportunity for exploitation
For me it’s the existence of 1000s of religions. I can’t confidently say there isn’t some kind of deity or being that exists beyond our comprehension. But I highly highly doubt they would want us to wage war, kill, distrust, and shun others on their behalf. Believing is one thing, but devoutly worshipping or essentially going to cult extremism is not the play.ReplyCited in: A belief-versus-religious-extremism boundary; Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
Being given license to externalize blame is HUGELY attractive. Nothing's your fault. It's god or the devil's. And no matter what horrendous stuff you do, you can just ask for forgiveness. Plus you get a social group that meets every week and you all like/hate the same prescribed stuff. I get it. That's all huge. Community, pride, and the absolution of blame. Psychologically, it's huge. Unfortunately, it's also the easiest thing in the world to weaponize and/or exploit.ReplyCited in: Religion providing certainty, community, and opportunity for exploitation
Something had to cause the big bang, that's my main reason. But also the Bible is mostly hyperbole and metaphorsReplyCited in: The unknowable origin before the universe; The Big Bang first cause as a reason for belief
> Something had to cause the big bang Why? If something *has* to have caused the big bang, then what caused the thing that caused it? Religion gives no answers. It just delegates responsibility further down the line.ReplyCited in: The Big Bang first cause as a reason for belief
I'm furious with the fucking tech oligarchs for taking smart glasses in the "perv accessory" direction instead of "unobtrusive HUD". How cool would it be to have a small screen in your glasses that just shows your notifications, alerts and whatever info you need so you can glance at it without the social interruption and huge temptation that is needing to check your phone for every little thing? But no, they have to have cameras, microphones and fucking AI shoved into them because they need access to every single detail of our lives.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear; Camera-free heads-up-display glasses
In my use case (freelancer who can't really afford to miss a work email) it would actually reduce my screen time, that's really the only reason I want them.ReplyCited in: Camera-free heads-up-display glasses
The older I get, the more religion disgusts me. Seeing women in religious head coverings normalized in like ads and such, being acceptable for police to wear etc. It is normalizing the oppression of women. Like how is this ok in the liberal democratic western world. In general, anyone who says that they have "the truth" are insane, that goes for religious people, atheists anyone. The only truth there is on these big questions is that we dont know.ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others; Religious head coverings framed as normalized oppression
ironically that's the only accident during bungee jumping that's physically impossible to occurReplyCited in: A pendulum return cannot exceed its release height; Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
i don't remember the name of the specific principles behind that, but your comment dredged up a very specific memory of bill nye demonstrating that principle. he had a ball on a rope, held it near his face, and let it swing. of course, it didn't hit his face. bill nye the science guy bill bill bill billReplyCited in: A pendulum return cannot exceed its release height
The concept of ""the third place" was corporate marketing. It came from Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks at the time. How's that for dystopic?ReplyCited in: Loss of third places; A claim that Starbucks marketing popularized the third-place term
maybe, but that doesn't make it not real... libraries, malls, coffee shops, cinemas, parks, friends houses, random forests where you find some pervs stash of naughty pictures that you have to share with your friends. All third places. all disappearing.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
Be the change you want to see in the world. Get to work hiding naughty pictures in random forests.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
> We don't hangout in public because there's nowhere to go that doesn't cost a hundred dollars. Check your local library. Many of them have kids and teen programs already, but if they don't have what you are looking for ask someone there if you could start a "Harry potter club" or a "DnD Club" that meets once a week. Most are very happy to accomodate your needs for space and some will help with promotion or basic materials.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places; Library-hosted clubs as low-cost third places
It's interesting that it's very commonly women who perpetuate the awful treatment of women. Similarly in cultures where they carry out female genital mutilation, it's the women who carry out the procedure.ReplyCited in: Religious head coverings framed as normalized oppression; Women enforcing patriarchal and FGM practices
I think when culture and religion get conflated it turns into a situation where people feel pressured to conform to certain practices as an outward display of respect towards their heritage. A lot of people don't dare question things that are considered old traditions out of fear of being disrespectful to their elders or their community too. And yes, internalized misogyny is rampant among many religious women. It's sad to witness. One of the myriad reasons I'm an atheist.ReplyCited in: Culture–religion conflation and pressure to perform conformity; Women enforcing patriarchal and FGM practices
Yeah. I've been to a... I don't want to call it an exhibition, but a display of documentation of FGM and it has haunted me since. Truly awful.ReplyCited in: Women enforcing patriarchal and FGM practices
This is totally off base, but my initial thought was that she just didn't want you there potentially embarrassing her (family). No tradition, just a narcissist.ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
and aimlessly killing people is your kink !ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
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What do bungee jumping and anal sex have in common? If the rubber breaks, you're in the shit.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
Because they're stupid and hatefulReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
And the politics about the current climate.ReplyCited in: The current political climate
or people trying to "save me" i dont go around saying i'm "saving" you by talking about athiesmReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
I’m glad you’re here! ❤️ReplyCited in: Suicidal history and finding small sources of enjoyment
Thank you, Me too! I was 14 at the time of my planned demise, and here I am now 36 and so so sooooooo happy to be here. 😘 I remember age 28 was a big one for me since the attempt date was now the halfway point.ReplyCited in: Suicidal history and finding small sources of enjoyment
i was just on a thread with people discussing about something. they were dropping knowledge that i didn't know about so i just went to google AI to ask some questions.. and what do you know? word by word the shit they were saying is what AI was saying.... i was fucking arguing with google AI...ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Are you sure Gemini wasn’t spewing their talking points back at you? Gemini does read reddit.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Generative AI and digitally mediated experience
over and above everything, it's the equipment and the people involved in installing these things that concern me more than the 'height' or the drop or anything elseReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
Driving while on your phone. Driving solo in a giant SUV or truck for your daily commute. Driving a half a mile to get a gallon of milk. Car dependency in general.ReplyCited in: Drinking and driving normalization
Lobbying, first-past-the-post, and what?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Citizens UnitedReplyCited in: Lobbyist influence
I would literally rather bungee jump anywhere in the world than swim in any part of any deep ocean. Love heights. *Huge* thalassophobe.ReplyCited in: Deep-ocean risk and thalassophobia; Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
The casual misogyny is why I don't like religions that require women to cover up while men can wear or show whatever they want. The woman walks around in a full burkha while their husband flaunts a Ralph Lauren polo and chinos that are too small. There's many issues with Mormonism, but I found it interesting that both men and women must equally wear modesty garments. [link removed]ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Pretty much. If nothing exciting was planned I would just bike, skateboard, etc. to a buddies house and we would go find some other people to hang out with. Lots of time spent screwing around in parks and just doing random shit as a group wherever for free.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
It's genuinely horrible, if you can't eat meat that was given a good life beforehand, just don't eat meat at all.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
They want the world to be adjusted to their preferences with no ability to tolerate opposing opinions. It's a problem on both right and left.ReplyCited in: Young people supporting rigid censorship and control
I know it’s easier said than done, but you could try setting up community meets or something. I made a lot of friends joining a local community theater as an adult with no ancting experience and it’s so much fun… there’s room for non acting roles, too (stage crew, lighting, etc.)ReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
Yeah but the only question is where. Where do you do such a thing since most places would want to charge youReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
My town had one coffee shop that was teen friendly and that was about it for hangouts. We'd bike around the neighborhood, or take turns hanging out at each other's houses, or hike in the woods.ReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
At the height most bungee places are, the water below starts acting a lot more like a solid than it does a liquid.ReplyCited in: Zip-line safety incidents
Yeah, that's why I'm wondering.ReplyCited in: Zip-line safety incidents
I went to a mall recently and it was CROWDED, especially compared to immediately pre and post covid. I felt in that moment like the world may actually be healing.ReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
How about if he asked her out for a coffee over something "incidental" at work. You may want to mention to him that for all time before the advent of dating apps people met in real life.ReplyCited in: Dating-app dependence, privacy loss, and beauty pressure on youth
And those laws tend to disporportionately target kids and others who are assumed to be likely to do bad things based on preconcieved notions of them.ReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
A divorce attorney would be shocked to hear this /sReplyCited in: Controlling in-laws and intercultural wedding pressure
I wish them the best, but yeah, I feel like this won't be the last time her family tries to tell them how to live their lives. I personally would have set some firmer boundaries and asserted myself more if I was in their shoes, but ultimately it's not my marriage or life. I told him I'll be there for him no matter what and I think that's all I can do at this time.ReplyCited in: Controlling in-laws and intercultural wedding pressure
Good on you for not turning on him, like I'm sure some commenters hearing this story wish you would have. That tradition is messed up though. Call me weird but I'd have thought a marriage across cultures like that would leave a little more room for compromise rather than one side's archaic rules taking absolute precedence.ReplyCited in: Controlling in-laws and intercultural wedding pressure
I know several people for whom their religion causes them to be more patient with challenging people, or to volunteer their time, even with non-religious organizations. So I see how religion in general could be considered good and survive. Well I find it deeply frustrating when religion is used for coercion and hate, it does not surprise me, because people will lose any and all excuses to exert power over others.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
This! I just tell my children that most religions say the same thing (with exceptions of course) be a good person and try to do no harm 😊ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Where do you live? I'm just curious because I don't see this happening in my country, so I was not aware of the issue.ReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
Also parking lots make the heat really bad in the summer, hard to be in public when there are giant mirrors spreading the heat everywhereReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
Hanging out at a park, playing at the playground, hiking in the woods, riding bicycles ... That's the things we did as kids, they don't cost money.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
Never go bungee jumping in Mexico… they just don’t have the regulations.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
Bungee jumping isn't regulated in the states either.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
with great power comes great responsibilities. dating apps can be great but its utility is heavily abusedReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online; Dating-app dependence, privacy loss, and beauty pressure on youth
Dude i checked my city and the number of Flock cameras is beyond disgusting !!!ReplyCited in: Public and AI-enabled surveillance
Jesus Christ, there's no way.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear; Bungee jump without an attachment incident
That reminds me of the bungee jumping scene from American Werewolf in Paris.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
That's literally how my boyfriend and I got together. We met at work and started talking, he wasn't exactly confident, but eventually he went for it and we've been together for 10 years now.ReplyCited in: Dating-app dependence, privacy loss, and beauty pressure on youth
Or for that matter "religion says I can" when the law or local policy says you can't. Religious exemption makes no sense for government (and in a religiously-based government they'd just never have laws that conflicts with their religion)ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Indeed!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I see what you're saying and I'm genuinely glad that you found a way to find positives in life. If I could heal myself by smelling flowers or harvesting fruit, I would, but that just means we're on different paths (or unable to find the correct metaphor!) either way I will always celebrate positivity where I find it. I'm so glad you found a way to hold on to hope, the world is better for you sticking aroundReplyCited in: Suicidal history and finding small sources of enjoyment
Because it provides that person with a 'reasonable' excuse to have control or influence over 'you', to make that person feel superior over you (whether that person is some gullible believer or some opportunistic asshole who doesn't believe but uses it as a political tool); like, control of a husband over his wife - 'you do as I say, or you're a sinner - that's what The Book says!'. And if you say something against religion, that person would have a 'reasonable' casus belli to stir up their congregation against you.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
should be outlawedReplyCited in: Lobbyist influence
I like thatReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
I agree with all of this completely. I actually like thag alcohol consumption went down. Its a positive thing, same with people having sex a bit later on.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling; Youth social life moving entirely online
"Survival of the fittest" I believe that's called!ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
I don't think we should normalize consuming a literal poison as a necessity for social gatherings. People can be social and have social lives without alcohol. Lower alcohol consumption also means that less people are driving drunk and endangering everybody around them. The fact that alcohol consumption is going down is a *good* thing. The age of first sex going down is also a good thing. Less young people having sex means less STDs being transmitted amongst young adults. It also means unprepared young adults aren't having kids that they can't afford to take care of or aren't mature enough to raise. I understand the core issue of less socialization being a bad thing. As an adult Gen Z, I agree this is an issue with my generation. We would rather hang out online than in person. But I also think lower alcohol consumption and less young people having sex are things my generation should be proud of. These are nothing but positives for society.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
These two are *indicators* of the change I described. I didn't say these are good, please read it again.ReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
So I'm none of the religions you mentioned, just someone that has a deep appreciation for them however all of that is utter bullshit tradition as opposed to religion. There is nothing in any religion that prevents you from being a part of the wedding if you're on your period. Mysogynistic culture is the problem in this instanceReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
I respect different people's cultures and traditions as long as they aren't harmful towards others. I went along with it because I was trying to be respectful towards my brother's in-laws by following their rules. I was definitely not trying to start any drama over it. But on a personal level, I find that particular practice pretty messed up.ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
Yeah, i do wish i could go the rest of my life without reading the phrase "unnecessary sex scenes" ever again.ReplyCited in: Young people supporting rigid censorship and control
I think that's the point. Some people want the heebie-jeebies.ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
Ikr? Burnham's only been in a week, and people are already criticising him.ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
My mom experienced this growing up. Some of her stories make my jaw drop.ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
Yeah, seriously, every app tries to get me to put in my fingerprint. Fuck that shit.ReplyCited in: Biometric identifiers on phones
I mean...I don't disagree in general, but the app never sees that. It just asks Android or Apple to verify it is your fingerprint or face and then proceeds with you whatever you were trying to do when they say your authentication was successful. That being said, it's still disturbing.ReplyCited in: Biometric identifiers on phones
Pregnancy *changes* a woman's body, not destroys it. The idea that postpartum woman are somehow broken or ruined by giving birth has been used to invalidate women's personhood and deminish their value. When giving birth is just a thing that you do and any lingering medical issues are no one's business but your doctor.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
The lingering medical issues are the *patient’s* business and “destroys” is a valid word for an event that causes long term incurable medical issues.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Yeah I found that comment very degrading to women myself, happy to see I was not the only one. Pregnancy and giving birth does not "destroy" women's bodies. The human body is absolutely incredible and capable of bouncing back 100% from these things. Yes there can be complications but there is with anything medical in the human body. Someone said it caused incontinence in their family member. Well guess what so does menopause in some women lol and the same happens to men. You think men don't eventually lose control of their nether regions too? Yes, many eventually do for many other medical reasons lol.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
>Well guess what so does menopause in some women lol and the same happens to men. The difference is that no one actively encourages menopause or touts it as ✨ this wonderful thing ✨ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Because by definition pregnancy IS something wonderful... LIke literally created another human being.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Sure, if you *want* toReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
I mean you ahve to be a downright antinatalist to think childbirth isnt something down right amazing, especially biologically speaking.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
I had two babies back to back. I'm fatter now and my vagina is looser, but who gives a fuck. I'm living my best life.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Are you by chance a person who has the ability to get pregnant? Have you experienced trying to obtain quality healthcare as a person who can get pregnant? Especially healthcare related to those organs and system? These body destroying issues are often permanently disabling and it’s normalized. Trying to get healthcare as a mom who just gave birth is very difficult. No one cares about the mom, only the baby. “It’s normal to pee when you sneeze after having a baby” is not normal. And that’s the least debilitating thing that can happen. Do you know what a Pessary is? Do you know what a prolapse means? Rectocele? Episiotomy? Ripping from the clit to the butthole, internally as well as externally? Why do we expect women to have major surgery and just walk it off, you have a baby to take care of now. You shouldn’t lift anything after major abdominal surgery, except this baby you must tend to it’s every need. No you can’t have pain meds, it would be bad for the baby.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Thank you! While I 100% disagree with forcing anyone to be pregnant against their will or pressuring women into having children… there is also a lot of unnecessary fear mongering around pregnancy and childbirth and how it supposedly “ruins” a woman’s body. Most people are just fine afterwards, it’s just that society (the effing internet) loves a gory birth story, the more dramatic the more traction. It particularly annoys me that there is this dual view of mothers as both elevated but also “spent” women. You can’t win!ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
I've said it many times but there wouldn't be any problem with abortion if men could also become pregnant. Forcing another human to go through childbirth when it can kill/scar you for the rest of your life is torture and I loathe anyone who thinks otherwise.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
This needs to be higher. The very concept of pregnancy seems like a nightmare to meReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
It was literally the inspiration for the original Alien movie! A horror movie!ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
It's just insane for women's bodies to go through that tortureReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
It sucks when your bully lives in the same household and there isn't a way to escape. My worst fear is life repeating and having to live my childhood again, I find the prospect terrifying.ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
Same. Even though they never told us all the health problems that came from it, I always thought, "Wouldn’t you have a ton of problems from that?"ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Yes! It’s parents duty to make sure that their kids aren’t subjected to violence, no matter who is the perpetrator. It’s also their duty to make sure that their children aren’t behaving violently towards others. That’s basic stuff. I don’t get how people find this okay.ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
I used to think those like cyberpunk fictional implants were stupid now I see how if it becomes a reality people really will walk around with ugly ass cyberneticsReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
Idk I don't have any plastic surgery and don't have any cosmetic procedures (I do get botox, but for pain management and not really in any way that would be helpful cosmetically). But I would totally go full Cyberpunk lolReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
In the same vein: surrogacyReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
What?! There are families who behave with decency and ethic?! I wonder what that's like...ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
I used to have anger issues as a child and often got very angry at my younger brother, yet it's something I'm deeply ashamed of and try to avoid at all costs now. The world needs less anger and violence, so I want to try and do my part in helping and stopping it.ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
Can I ask what is your opinion on street photography? I've never felt comfortable doing candid/street work myself, despite photography being my hobby. I often see amazing work by other people, and sometimes work where it's like... despite being in public, they shouldn't have taken that. Ironically, the moment I picked up a camera was the moment I immediately gained enough confidence to approach people to ask for their photo because they look interesting.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
You didn't ask for my opinion but I feel like I relate to both of you and just wanted to jump in. I've never had talent (or work ethic to get it) in order to become a photographer myself, but I love the language, truly deserving of being called art. IMO if the subject is taking part of the public life and activities, you are mostly fine never engaging. But I do believe people should be able to create private spaces for their life even in public. This intimacy in public is really powerful when captured by a camera. Maybe it's not the place (public/private) what creates the obligation to ask for permission, rather it's the nature of the act itself. This is not a legal opinion and I'm not a lawyer. I'm taking about balancing freedom to record vs right to create meaningful moments for each other. The conflict comes when you realize everyone has a right to privacy but not everyone has access to a secure place for it. In a city, for different reasons people are forced toward physical proximity and having cameras mounted everywhere erodes the chance of intimacy. Some people talk about civic inattention. The idea of disregarding others in public to give them necessary privacy. Tl;DC if the subject is taking part of public activity, shoot away. If the subject is a matter of personal identity or community, get involved (I think you work and experience can only get richer that way). If it's a one in a life time event, take the chance and decide later if it's ok to publish.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Really well-put and I didn't even think about the problem of a lot of people not having the choice/access to a private place. Couple of examples now that you mention it: * Some folks need to get on public transport to go to work and they don't really have a choice because everyone needs a job. In that sense they're forced into the public, so if you are taking photos of people on a train or bus at 8:30 in the morning, could that be seen as morally wrong? * A homeless person probably can't go anywhere private or safe for a significant period of timeReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Nah, I wouldn't go as far as to say is immoral or unlawful, but I do think most people find it annoying or disrespectful to take and publish photos without consent. What I meant is that you need to decide what it is that you want to capture and use the appropriate approach. Is it the moving masses? That's not really private. Even if you capture enough information for a face to be identified I don't think you are intruding anyone's life. But I would feel differently if you sit Infront of a guy and take a furtive snap while he talks on his phone just because you think he looks interesting (and then publish it online). One example depicts aspects of public life, the other are deeply personal as it relates to identity. The more identifiable the features/activities, the more personal the subject. Again, I don't think you'll be breaking any law (I would try to be sure tho). I just think you'll get a richer context if you get involved with the subjects and communities you are trying to represent. Finally, I don't know. Laws can be very different depending on the place and as I said I'm not a photographer. I'm just telling how I feel about being recorded in public.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Everyone just looks like clones now.ReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
But isn't that every woman's choice? No one should be forcing childbirth on someone, and if they try, get some distance.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
It should be every woman's choice, yes. But it isn't in an enormous proportion of he world. Pressure (cultural/religious/social) to get married and have children. This comes in many forms--not just growing up under an inundation of stories and movies where a woman's fulfillment is tied to her relationship status and/or youthful prettiness. For example, in many countries, it is significantly harder for women to support themselves through employment, as they are far less likely to be hired or paid like their male counterparts. I am writing this from Japan, a developed country, where such discrimination is the norm, by the way. In order to be able to afford to live, there is economic pressure to get married to a man so that his higher, more easily-obtained income can help. Lack of easy access to birth control makes pregnancy extremely likely for most married women. Same with lack of access to abortion--as even birth control used perfectly has a small chance of failing. In some developed countries, women are routinely denied hysterectomies, even in the case of serious illnesses like cancer. And that's not even considering unmarried women, rape victims, etc. for whom aborting a pregnancy can prevent things like lifelong trauma or poverty. Imagine being raped, then finding out you are pregnant, not allowed to abort, and legally tied to your rapist for at least the next eighteen years because of how your local legal system works. It should be every woman's choice. But for many, probably most women on Earth, it absolutely isn't.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
It is so fucking weird lol. Like there's nothing sexually attractive about a child or even that body type. Where is the height, where are the curves, where's anything?? To me it's the equivalent of a scat fetish or something like that. Yet for some reason every single rich person or person in a position of power is always a pedoReplyCited in: Pedophilia and the sexualization of young women
There is some truth to alignment but not the way people think. For example having crooked teeth like a cross bite can cause jaw, neck and shoulder problems. Having a curved spine can also cause stomach problems. These things cannot be cured by chiropractors though.ReplyCited in: Chiropractic care trusted as routine medicine
We give a lot of money to rich people and we know they're doing drugs. Look at Elon "Special K" Musk.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
As a mom who had an emergency cesarean, how can anyone by against a life-saving procedure?! I mean, I’ve heard the reasons behind it, they just don’t make sense to me.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized; High-risk pregnancy anticoagulation anxiety
She is from Thailand and very looks conscious and worried about her weight etc.. she’s worried about a scar and silly things like that. Glad your baby was ok!ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized; High-risk pregnancy anticoagulation anxiety
Yeah, I still don’t get it. Like, it’s a scar, not a coffin. WTF.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized; High-risk pregnancy anticoagulation anxiety
Donate to shelters, volunteer at food banks and soup kitchens, donate food and clothing, and carry narcan. At least in my town, they DO always use cash for drugs. They're even honest about it most of the time. I'm not helping with that goal, sorry.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
it’s sad I did an experiment where I offered food not cash to a ton of homeless people only about 1/20 would take the food :(ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Just some perspective - lots of homeless folk have been heavily abused, including people messing with food that they give them. It's sad that they have to be so wary around help in an area so critical.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
I’m aware of this it’s very sad:/ I always give them something sealed like gronola bars versus fast food or drinks or anything already open but I know that can unfortunately still be tampered with and resealed I just hope it’s slightly safer 😭🙏ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Mutilating a child < not mutilating a child. Somehow this is difficult for too many people. lolReplyCited in: Nonconsensual infant circumcision
I have always thought this! It’s even worse now with all the sports betting and gambling that goes along with it.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
I live in Saudi in a rich city, legit every teacher I had in my junior and senior year had a lip filler at LEAST, Some went the extreme, it’s just a money flex at this point, if you wanna get closer to what I mean then see this link and see what the beauty standards are [[link removed] I’m sorry but I was not comfortable at all studying there despite the good education. Plastic surgeries became a way to flex wealthReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
Probably going to get alot hate for this but I feel this way about the current makeup trends. I legitimately would not be able to pick my friends out of a lineup if they were bare faced due to he amount of contouring and whatever else they do. It doesn't look bad or anything, but like, if my bestie goes missing, how the hell do we describe her to police?!?ReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
it does look bad thoughReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
Thank you for bringing this up. I wanted to post the single word infidelity but I was afraid of being booed to the ground and stomped on.ReplyCited in: Relationship infidelity
I didn't realize it was so commonly accepted (even though I know it's common). Glad I don't date anymore...ReplyCited in: Relationship infidelity
Commonly accepted - yes I've noticed now it's even becoming encouraged. For guys you'll hear the dudes tell him "hell yeah you pulled another baddie". For women you'll hear the gals tell her "omg you totally deserved that, he just wasnt good enough".ReplyCited in: Relationship infidelity
I've literally never heard anyone in my life encourage this.ReplyCited in: Relationship infidelity
I am religious and this is ridiculous. People shouldn't be forced to have 4 kids before 25 just because 'God said so'ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Yeah and apparent pedophilia in general is just… not an issue given there’s been zero consequences for anyone in the filesReplyCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
Yeah the "kill your local pedophile" crowd went real silent real fast.ReplyCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
They’re more pro-killing than anti child victimization.ReplyCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
Also, in my experience, really desperate to paint LGBTQ people as groomers. Basically code for "open season on queers."ReplyCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
This is what I was looking for. Pregnancy and birth are horrifying, and the associated risks are very serious. People just act like it's no big deal. Well it IS a big deal, and not all of us want to do it, and should have the choice not to.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
‘What if that person buys drugs with the money you give them?’ Well I was probably also going to buy drugs with it so hope they enjoy I guess?ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
This is just a losing argument. Most people barely have enough to get by, let alone donate to homeless people. It's not wrong to want them to use the money you give to actually get out of the situation, or to further themselves towards that goal. I'd give my friend $100 for whatever he needs, but if it's just for drugs I'll say noReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
And that’s your prerogative. I just don’t care. If i give someone money it becomes their money and i trust them to use it however they see fit.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Sure and I have no issue with someone having that personal stance. I just wanted to point out it's common and okay to have restrictions on how someone spends money you give themReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
This should be number 1ReplyCited in: Nonconsensual infant circumcision
literally. when you start to ask why everything is the way it is and realize it’s all to do with decisions made FORVER ago that don’t even align with any of your values or morals. and then people tell you you’re crazy for speaking about it because “that’s just the way things are!”ReplyCited in: General exhaustion with normalized life
Just culture and tradition in general has always felt bizarre to me. Why do we allow the dead and gone to dictate the expectations of the living!? Don't get me wrong, I can appreciate the diversity of cultures and traditions around the world the same way I can admire the immense diversity of flora and fauna in nature. But at the end of the day most of it is just subjective and relative bullshit that shouldn't matter to people as much as it does.ReplyCited in: General exhaustion with normalized life
exactly it’s so weird 😭ReplyCited in: General exhaustion with normalized life
I find it really sad how many couples get roped into having kids and how miserable some couples are as a result. We really need more awareness on just how difficult it is to raise a child. It's become socially expected that you need to have a child if you're in a long-term relationship.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
This. People also think having more kids will fix relationship problems for some reason.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
wouldn't that just burn you out? Me and my brother burn out my parents a lot.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
DESTROYS is exactly what it does! I had a friend (who is pro life) ask me if I became any more pro life after having a baby and my answer was definitely not, I became even more pro choice than I already was because nobody should have to go through it unless they really wanted a baby.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Yeah I totally got a pass with my first child. Recovery was harder with my second but I’m fine. It was totally normal and relatively easy but still super hard to go through.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Agreed. I find it to be incredibly boring and pointless. Playing sports can be fun but I would still rather do something else.ReplyCited in: Extreme sports fandom
I'll never understand some people's obsession with sportsReplyCited in: Extreme sports fandom
I'd respect it if they used a knife. It's not a game if only one party has a firearmReplyCited in: Hunting animals for sport
This is going to be very nuanced. Intentionally singling out and photographing someone you don't know for the sole purpose of photographing them? Sure, creepy and should be frowned upon. If said someone just happens to be in the frame of something else you're trying to photograph while in the public? Fair game. More nuance. What about someone who is obviously trying to get the attention? Someone dressed up in a costume or some other extravagant get-up who's obviously there to entertain the public? Fair game to photograph. Assembled groups of people in public? Also fair game. That being said, these are all legal and need to remain legal. Yes, I even mean the first example that should be frowned upon. My reason for saying this is because as soon as just one thing becomes illegal to photograph in the public, no matter how small in capacity, the police would weaponize that shit and use it as another one of their arsenal of tools to violate the first amendment, which all of this falls under.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Their parents are bullies so bullying is normalized.ReplyCited in: Bullying across ages; Youth used to excuse bullying
The cheering and yelling, while sometimes a bit overwhelming for me I get. I can't say Ive never cheered for my team when watching the game in a bar, or that I don't cheer at concerts. What I don't get is how people can get into fights over sports.ReplyCited in: Extreme sports fandom
Yes!!! I'm sorry but childbirth is NOT beautiful - it is horrific.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
It doesn't end? damn I am in for a rough ride after schoolReplyCited in: Bullying across ages
At least you can get away from it a bit easier in most cases as an adult, but yeah sadly it seems bullies don't grow out of it oftenReplyCited in: Bullying across ages
I specifically avoided people as much as possible throughout middle school and high school out of fear of this happening. I’d heard all the stories about how mean people could be at that age. Now I realize it doesn’t automatically end once you become an adult.ReplyCited in: Bullying across ages
At the same time as people without food water and shelter. Can you believe it?ReplyCited in: Extreme wealth concentration
There were influencers before the internet age but they were usually people with extraordinary talent or ability or beauty. Now it seems the internet is replete with desperate people who have deluded themselves into thinking that they're going to "blow up and strike it rich." "What's up you guys, be sure to smash that upvote button!"ReplyCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
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My body is not "destroyed". Using language like this is degrading to women who have given birth.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Idk my abs split apart and despite all kinds of physio and exercises (I can't do certain exercises too!)it will never fully repair. My back hurts all the time, but repairing diastasis recti is "cosmetic" 🫤 maybe if all the things that could happen from pregnancy aren't just brushed off as normal we wouldn't have to resort to considering our bodies destroyed. It shouldn't be normal to be in pain, become unable to walk or unable to hold your pee and poop.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Influencers are worse than MAGA members of Congress, and that's so low it's below sea level.ReplyCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Bailing out corporations before helping workers is such a low down dirty thing to do!ReplyCited in: Military spending while poverty is blamed
In korea, it's so common that highschoolers will get one as a 'congrats or passing your exam!' giftReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
It doesn't end? damn I am in for a rough ride after schoolReplyCited in: Bullying across ages
Me too.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
The World Cup always reminds me that there are countries out there full of people of whom soccer is the literally the only thing they live forReplyCited in: Extreme sports fandom
Your opinion is not an absolutist statement - didn't ruin mine or anyone I know. If you don't want to have any that's your choice but don't lie and fearmonger.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
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It’s literally SO MANY more than you would ever realize. I’m kind of convinced every man has had a pedophiliac thought or even fantasy.ReplyCited in: Pedophilia and the sexualization of young women
Or how many ‘points’ they have, or are perceived to have.ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
I lived in a small town with a disproportional amount of rapists, both on and off of the offender registry. Women who spoke out about them got ostracized. One had a lot of institutional power, one was super popular despite a long rap sheet of violence against past partners. There was also an old guy I called Gropy McGropy because he was always groping people in public, but if you ever spoke about it you would be looked down upon. I was not popular because I was the person other women would go to to try to get people who assaulted them kicked out of public spaces, and got shit for that. I told a friend's boyfriend that it was messed up to invite the popular serial rapist to their dinner parties, and he told me I was "judgmental". Later, a teenaged neighbor of mine went to the dinner party, and the serial rapist had plied her with alcohol and maybe drugs, and she was sadly assaulted that night. There were a few who public expressed anger at rapists, and they were seen as doing the wrong thing, to be angry at rapists - one of them, I think, was 15. This town was basically a sort of new age hippie cult, where even justified anger made you a much worse person in most people's eyes than all the rapists, many of whom were popular. I left years ago, but living there really took a toll emotionally.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
man i am sorryReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Thank you (:ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It's getting harder and harder to actually own something. So many things are subscription based and that's the more obvious one but there is so many things you buy the company that made it can just brick without warning or compensation or just because they go out of business will just stop working. The very fact that there are court cases over the right to repair something that you bought, paid for it and owned should be disturbing to everybody because if you can't repair it, do you really own it? If you can't modify it, how much ownership do you have?Top-level commentCited in: It's getting harder and harder to actually own something
Taking advantage of other people because you need something. I've been poor. Like counting change to buy ramen poor. Walking to work in bad weather because I don't have gas money. I still never felt okay scamming or taking advantage of someone else. There's always an excuse. "I kept that wallet because I needed the money". I wouldn't. I'd go to the soup kitchen, I'd walk to an extra job. I only have a billion dollars, I need to farm the massive for more millions. I wouldn't. But I feel like people are just like well that's the way the world it. But it doesn't have to be.Top-level commentCited in: Taking advantage of other people because you need something
PE taking over entire industries. My friends and family are oblivious.Top-level commentCited in: PE taking over entire industries
I know there are many who find it as disturbing as I do, but the way filler and cosmetic surgery has been running rampant is really scary to me. I’m newly 30 and I already have friends who think they may as well be corpses, thus turning to filler and procedures. The crazy part is that it usually has the opposite effect; I think people with pillow face look years older than they really are. Aging is a gift and something to be proud of. I miss how normal people’s faces look, with all their quirks. Watching older movies where people’s characteristics added to the charm of their performance, compared to media these days where actors/actresses are all trying to seemingly fit into the same Instagram mold. I just want original faces 😭😭😭Top-level commentCited in: I know there are many who find it as disturbing as I
It's so creepy to look at and I can't escape it. I see it in person, I see it on TV, I see it in movies, I see it on social media. There was a time where these weird plastic faces were exclusive to aging socialites and actors and the general public hated itReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization
For profit prisons. WtfTop-level commentCited in: For profit prisons
Putting your private life on social media. I will never understand this. I deleted my FB back in 2008 because I had no interest in sharing anything about my life online. Yes, perhaps a private page with just family and friends makes sense. But for anyone to just click on you and see photos of your recent vacation? No thank you.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
*Gestures broadly at everything*Top-level commentCited in: Gestures broadly at everything
Giving 40+ hours a week of our life to a job while barely having enough time or energy for our actual lives. Only to be able to survive in a planet that already gave us everything we ever needed. I will never think this is normalTop-level commentCited in: Giving 40+ hours a week of our life to a job while
That I need a note from a doctor if I'm out of work sick. I'm not at work because I feel so bad I can't even drag myself there but now you want me to drag myself to a doctor's office to get a stupid note? This isn't grade school.Top-level commentCited in: I need a note from a doctor if I'm out of work
How many confirmed rapists in professional sports that get away with it just because they are good at sports, and it's entirely ignored by millions of people. It's so pervasive, that there are likely a dozen kr so names from recent memory you may be thinking of right now.Top-level commentCited in: Many confirmed rapists in professional sports that get away with it just
The fact that homelessness exists in "first world" countries. I see people living on the streets while thousands of investment properties are vacant and billionaires pocket more money. There IS enough money and houses available, but the governments don't do anything about itTop-level commentCited in: Homelessness exists in "first world" countries
People streaming on twitch for example. Filming “TikToks” and just the general social media trends amongst kids.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Why does streaming bother you?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Religion. It's so weird.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Religious indoctrination of children.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Male Circumcisions. I find it wild that a huge part of humanity finds mutilating babies penises completely normal and trained Doctors find no problem in doing it.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
The fact that people treat the most base line human rights as some sort of political talking point. Like why should I debate you on why trans people deserve to live and be happy, or why murdering children is bad? This is the moral baseline here, that's not negotiable.Top-level commentCited in: People treat the most base line human rights as some sort of
circumcisionTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The obviously corrupt political duopoly in my country.Top-level commentCited in: The obviously corrupt political duopoly in my country
Recalls on contaminated food and medicationTop-level commentCited in: Recalls on contaminated food and medication
Waged laborTop-level commentCited in: Waged labor
How we are socially conditioned to offset violence to authorities above ourselves, and once we do that we are “not violent.” Sending a violent authority to carry out violence on your behalf does not absolve you of that violence.Top-level commentCited in: We are socially conditioned to offset violence to authorities above ourselves, and
Not sure what you mean?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Pretty much everything going on in the US government right now: insider trading, insider no bid government contract deals, using massive wealth and military power to bully the world, allow politicians to get bribed to their gills, allow supreme court to be bribed to their gills.. All. Of. It. Needs. To. End. Yesterday.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Wearing a cross. Like..... You're wearing an instrument of torture and death. That's fckn weird, man.Top-level commentCited in: Wearing a cross
Where do i even begin... I'm a millennial and remember life before data harvesting dopamine dispenser devices everywhereTop-level commentCited in: Where do i even begin
Using ChatGPT for literally anything. FUCK AI.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The sheer number of people and places that run air conditioners with the windows open. Air conditioners work by pulling out humidity. They cool down a closed system by pushing heat outside. If you keep a window open the system isn't closed. You not only let all the cold air out, you force the air conditioner to work harder by feeding it more warm wet air. It's a lose-lose cycle and it horrifies me that people drive around in cars with the A/C on and their windows down. So many businesses do the same thing. You're wasting energy, literally and figuratively, and making the planet warmer by trying to cool down for a second because the planet is warm. Fuck, dude. Have some fucking perspective.Top-level commentCited in: Air-conditioning energy waste with open windows; The sheer number of people and places that run air conditioners with
London busses every damn summer needlessly drenched in sweatReplyCited in: Air-conditioning energy waste with open windows
Allowing your kids on social media.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Plastering their kids all over social mediaTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
That everyone is marketing themselves. Whether it is on LinkedIn or personal socials, everything is a curated version of a person to make themselves and their lives look better. It's fucking obnoxious.Top-level commentCited in: Everyone is marketing themselves
The weaponization of therapy speak to cultivate hyper individualismTop-level commentCited in: The weaponization of therapy speak to cultivate hyper individualism
Children can’t read at their grade level, if they can read at all. And math is a joke too. So government creates a standardized test to show overall results as a pass no matter what. Students just need to answer questions and they pass. Ontario resident here.Top-level commentCited in: Children can’t read at their grade level, if they can read at
Factory farming and the mass killing of billions of animals every year.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
The disparity in resources between the ultra rich and the rest of usTop-level commentCited in: The disparity in resources between the ultra rich and the rest of
Casual ableism, especially in teenagers and towards hidden disabilities. Like yes someone may ‘look’ perfectly abled, but you never know, then people judge and mock for something that is literally a disabilityTop-level commentCited in: Casual ableism, especially in teenagers and towards hidden disabilities
Children being made to believe they ‘owe’ their parents for giving them a decent upbringing.Top-level commentCited in: Children being made to believe they ‘owe’ their parents for giving them
Reality. Like, what is existence? No I do not do drugs.Top-level commentCited in: Reality
I wonder about our reality, existence and consciousness too.ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
I mutter about this nightly to my partner while stone cold sober!ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
Factory farmingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
It apparently being acceptable to have more than 40'000 car-related deaths per year in the US alone. If there was a disease outbreak causing the same deaths per year it would be declared a national emergency.Top-level commentCited in: It apparently being acceptable to have more than 40'000 car-related deaths per
Fucking work. My boss is on my ass right now because I booked a doctor's appointment in March for October and didn't tell him, now in July he's decided he wants me at a conference. I am diabetic this is a non negotiable. My boss hired me remote and told me I had to live in my current city over another one I preferred. I work 40h a week but sometimes that isnt enough and I have to work overtime or weekends. Sometimes I have to leave my home and go to other cities to do work, and then I'm just in another city, away from my life, spending my free unpaid time in a hotel alone instead of my home. My job isn't even particularly demanding or bad. It is completely normal for people to arrange their entire lives around work, be asked to prioritize work over their health, family, etc. and the work is completely meaningless - I work in software. I'm giving up my life for this. And people just... I mean they think its normal and that I'm lucky to have my job.Top-level commentCited in: Fucking work
Kids having smartphonesTop-level commentCited in: Kids having smartphones
“We’re trying to have a baby.” Ok good to know it’s cream pie season I guessTop-level commentCited in: “We’re trying to have a baby; Announcing conception attempts as sexual oversharing
My friends and I all have IUDs. So know it's cream pie season without baby season for all of us lolReplyCited in: Announcing conception attempts as sexual oversharing
The lack of maternity leave in the USTop-level commentCited in: The lack of maternity leave in the US
That so many people are following other people's lives on socials, while missing out on their own lives.Top-level commentCited in: So many people are following other people's lives on socials, while missing
Fishing...like if we found a strawberry bush and started picking, only to get yanked into space by giants we can barely perceive who will either gut us and consume our flesh, or hold us up and take a picture with us, and release back to our regular existence, except we now know a terrible truth about the universe and our place in it.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
So many things about cars, specifically here in the US. The environmental impacts, the inefficiency, the personal cost of gas and insurance and maintenance. The fact that viable electric cars were invented in the late 1800s, yet they’ve only become a real option in rhetoric past decade thanks to oil and gas lobbying. The 40,000+ people who die each year and nearly 5 million who are injured, yet we have no system in place to retest drivers after they get their license at 16 years old - only to suspend licenses of those who have caused harm. If hamburgers were killing thousands a year, I feel like we’d either find out why and fix it, or eat something besides hamburgers. And still, almost every community outside of the country’s largest cities are built around facilitating transportation via car. Like, I get it. Our country likes to sprawl, and it’s just not realistic now to live most places without a car. But why do we keep doing it, without building towards better options? Meanwhile, everyone just trusts that the other people out there will maneuver their 4000+ metal machine between the painted lines the way they’re supposed to, and SUVs keep getting bigger and trucks keep getting higher lifts. I \*was\* just hit by a reckless driver last month though, so maybe I’ve just been radicalized.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
I really don’t like or understand cringe comedy or finding other people’s failures funny. Like… why are you laughing at that?!! Idk I think it’s very acceptable and normalised but it does just make me feel really uncomfortable and a little concerned why other people don’t seem to mindTop-level commentCited in: I really don’t like or understand cringe comedy or finding other people’s
The fact that we r expected to be reachable 24/7. A message sent 10 minutes ago somehow becomes an emergency if u haven't replied yet.Top-level commentCited in: We r expected to be reachable 24/7
Eating pigs. They're smarter than dogs...Top-level commentCited in: Eating pigs
Believing in God.Top-level commentCited in: Believing in God
The Epstein list.Top-level commentCited in: The Epstein list
Piercing babies ears. It literally puts a hole in their earlobe for an aesthetic that puts the baby at risk of infection. People argue that it’s fine because the hole will close if the child decides that they don’t like the piercing, but it’s not a guarantee. Piercing them young is also pointless because even if they DO want to keep the piercing, the child may still have to get their ears pierced again to prevent the hole from closing. It’s not even a good practice for aesthetic purposes because of the chance that their piercing will be uneven when they grow.Top-level commentCited in: Piercing babies ears
Having more than 2 kidsTop-level commentCited in: Having more than 2 kids
the fact that we cannot afford to live. living to work is not living. it's slaveryTop-level commentCited in: We cannot afford to live
How much sex is in everything. I just don't understand why just about everything has to link or tie to it. It's on everyone's mind all the time and I just don't get it.Top-level commentCited in: Much sex is in everything
Or the people that post 'pics of their kids' but they are always front and center and it's obviously not about the kids at all lolReplyCited in: Posting thousands of selfies
That is **not** normal at allReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
I know, right? I just pretend they're actually related.ReplyCited in: Stepfamily-themed pornography
True Crime TV shows. I find it absurd that someone's demise can be made into a stupid television narrative with interviews and commercials.Top-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
People not washing hands, especially those working in healthcare during their shift..Top-level commentCited in: People not washing hands, especially those working in healthcare during their shift
In a few years? Have you not been paying attention the last several decades?ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
what is a family channel? Like disney or something?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
a YouTube channel where the parents shove a camera in their child’s faces and use their child’s privacy and life as content for money. Popular example: Ryans WorldReplyCited in: Family channels exploiting children's privacy
Sibling abuse is horrifying and under recognized. Another classic deflection is “sibling rivalry.”ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
My brother would always start shit with me and my parents would always say something like "you guys stop", instead of telling my brother to stop bullying. He an arrogant prick to this day, never learned.ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
My brother is the same way. I've gone no contact.ReplyCited in: Sibling abuse dismissed as normal
Even worse: the extreme lengths people are willing to go to force a few children into being. As if a life without children is the worst thing that could possibly happen to you.ReplyCited in: Having children without reflection
Good job on quitting smoking! As a non-smoker, I appreciate not having to breathe second hand smoke.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
As an umpire, you have my upvote.ReplyCited in: Parents overreacting at youth sports
Yes started soccer in south west Sydney. I already hate going to the gamesReplyCited in: Parents overreacting at youth sports
That’s a real shame. In youth sports, the players are usually so nice and gracious to referees and umpires. It’s the parents that really make it miserable for us. If they only knew that all we want is to call a great game and be there for the kids.ReplyCited in: Parents overreacting at youth sports
I’m an animal lover, so I agree with your point. But also, isn’t catch and release kind of an exercise in futility? I know it’s ‘practicing’ but if you’re not going to eat what you catch, it’s kind of silly. I live on one of the best fly fishing rivers in my country, I’m not a fisher. You can enjoy the river all the same by slowly kayaking or tubing down it. See the scenery, birds, animals, no phones or screens, really be in the moment and all that. Without the fish torture. Some of the released fish die anyway.ReplyCited in: Catch-and-release fishing
Or because they have to, or risk going to jail after spending days travelingReplyCited in: Having children without reflection
This x 1millionReplyCited in: Having children without reflection
One of these days I'm going to learn programming purely to write a filter to block all step-porn from my search results.ReplyCited in: Stepfamily-themed pornography
Especially when so many of them turn out to be abusive themselves.ReplyCited in: Family channels exploiting children's privacy
I want to believe it's an attempt to get people to pay for less icky stuff.ReplyCited in: Stepfamily-themed pornography
I have this weird conflict with this, because while I get where you are coming from, at some fundamental level you do have to feed and shelter yourself. If the current societal structures didn’t exist, one way or another as an animal that must eat and drink to live you would have to source food either from hunting or gathering or farming, you would have to carry water from the brook. You would have to find or build shelter to survive the elements. I think for me it’s that people feel the need to profit from the most basic things. Sort of like maybe we have the same fundamental irritation but from different sides of the coin.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
I think that your argument has validity until you take into account the reality of the world... Nestle and foreign actors strip the land and resources from other peoples land causing immense ecosystem and resource damage. When companies strip you of your birthright and make you work for it to avoid starvation is that fair or slavery?ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Any version of religion/religious people, really. The god(s) you worship are all totally fine with 3-year-olds dying of painful, incurable cancer?ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Life with Derek caused a generation ton of damage.ReplyCited in: Stepfamily-themed pornography
What should we do instead?ReplyCited in: Embalming and burial of bodies
just bury them, let them return to the earthReplyCited in: Embalming and burial of bodies
I remember The Family Channel. Then there was ABC FamilyReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
It can even prevent you from working in certain fields 😳ReplyCited in: Credit-score system
The straights aren't all right.ReplyCited in: Stepfamily-themed pornography
I loathe this "shaving makes you a child" thing. I just like the feeling of being bare-crotched. Why does this make me weird? Also, pubic hair traps a bunch of period blood and you get clots in there.ReplyCited in: Women expected to remove body hair
Movies and shows about high schoolers that are sexualizedTop-level commentCited in: Movies and shows about high schoolers that are sexualized
People cracking jokes at the expense of vegans. Im not a vegan but I respect it from an ethical standpoint. When i hear people make fun of it i'm always struck by what I imagine is cognitive dissonance inside of them, being projected poorly. I quietly judge that.Top-level commentCited in: People cracking jokes at the expense of vegans
Honestly, for me it’s the casual, widespread broadcasting of kids’ entire lives on social media for views and validation. People call it "sharenting," which sounds cute and harmless, but if you stop and think about it for more than five seconds, it’s deeply unsettling. We’ve completely normalized turning children into public content before they even know what the internet is, and everyone just acts like it’s a sweet, totally benign family photo album. What freaks me out most is the complete lack of consent. For the first time in human history, kids are growing up with their entire lives—from sonograms and temper tantrums to awkward middle school phases and medical updates—permanently cataloged online. Growing up used to mean having a safe, private bubble where you could figure yourself out, make mistakes, and be weird without an audience. Now, millions of kids are going to enter adulthood with a massive, unerasable digital footprint they never asked for. On top of that, the modern internet isn't just a friendly space for friends and family; it’s an absolute free-for-all for data brokers, AI scrapers, and facial recognition models. People routinely upload high-res photos and intimate personal details of minors directly into a void where tech companies can harvest their likenesses and profile them before they're even old enough to vote. Everyone double-taps a cute photo and scrolls on, but when you step back, it feels like a massive, dystopian social experiment we all just passively agreed to participate in.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
“Security” cameras recording IN PEOPLE’S OWN HOMES. EeshTop-level commentCited in: “Security” cameras recording IN PEOPLE’S OWN HOMES
Men telling women "smile, you look so much prettier when you do" Happens ALL the time in customer serviceTop-level commentCited in: Men telling women "smile, you look so much prettier when you do
Blowing out candles on a birthday cake, then cutting the saliva and germ covered cake into slices and handing it out to people to eat. My wife's family thought I was mad when I introduced them to the idea of a cheaper and smaller 2nd cake just for the candles. After watching my son at his third birthday shower this cake with spit, the candle cake is now a tradition.Top-level commentCited in: Blowing out candles on a birthday cake, then cutting the saliva and
I was going to ask who’s blowing out those candles until you mentioned the 3 year old lolReplyCited in: I was going to ask who’s blowing out those candles until you
I feel like COVID taught us all how gross birthday candles are 😂ReplyCited in: I feel like COVID taught us all how gross birthday candles are
Factory farmingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Zoos.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Animal agriculture, eating animal flesh & byproductsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Yeah, I also scrolled too far too find this. Just the way we treat animals in general is depressing... But try talking to anyone about it, and they often get defensive.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
People are unwilling to see how they may have contributed to something horrific, so they rationalize and justify the abuse, enslavement, imprisonment, rape, and brutal killing of innocent beings. I knew someone who wanted to be an animal advocate (it was one of her primary facets of her identity). Like she would constantly express disapproval of those who mistreated animals, would decry the dog meat festival, repost posts on Facebook about how bad angora is— and also proclaim she could never go vegetarian. She would eat steak, ribs, etc. I used to explain to her what went on in the meat, dairy, and egg industries. But she very much identified as a meat eater, and couldn’t see past her love of meat and animal-derived foods. She used to say they should be treated well up until having their throat slit quickly. I used to sometimes mention that they most certainly are not. She was unmoved. The denial runs deep.ReplyCited in: People are unwilling to see how they may have contributed to something
An aspect of this that I find particularly disturbing is gelatine. It pops up in gummy candies and other apparently innocuous products, but it's literally made from the skin, bones, and connective tissue of animals who didn't want to die.ReplyCited in: An aspect of this that I find particularly disturbing is gelatine
I scrolled down way too far to find this.ReplyCited in: I scrolled down way too far to find this
Let's get this closer to the topReplyCited in: Let's get this closer to the top
American lifeTop-level commentCited in: American life
“Well, I asked AI…”Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The fact that Teens can't make mistakes without it being broadcast to the world. It's fucking so much up. I'm 39 btw.Top-level commentCited in: Teens can't make mistakes without it being broadcast to the world
Parents spanking their kids. It’s almost always done out of anger which makes it kinda sus to me as a legit disciplinary toolTop-level commentCited in: Parents spanking their kids
Our economic system. If we had anywhere near equitable system, we could have close to a utopia on Earth. Work optional, no homeless, homes for all, food, medical car, green energy, free education. Instead we have millions of slaves, billions in poverty, a dying world and most of all wealth controlled by a tiny elite.Top-level commentCited in: Our economic system
Babies in strollers glued to a phoneTop-level commentCited in: Babies in strollers glued to a phone
The president being a rapist apparently. Really expected more from Americans on that one. Families having location on for all their phones so they all can see where the other one is... sure, safety... seems creepy tooTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Extreme sports (where there's an obvious risk of death).Top-level commentCited in: Extreme sports (where there's an obvious risk of death)
The porn industryTop-level commentCited in: The porn industry
Keeping fish in little tanks. I think it’s cruel.Top-level commentCited in: Keeping fish in little tanks
I agree. I think having any animal that needs to be enclosed in a cage/terrarium/aquarium, as a pet, is cruel. The whole pet trade is weird to me unless it’s rescuing injured animals who can’t be released or something.ReplyCited in: I agree
Eating meatTop-level commentCited in: Eating meat
Make up. Not lippy or mascara but any amount of foundation, shading etc looks clownish to meTop-level commentCited in: Make up
Absolutely everything is monetised now. Even just 20 years ago it was wildly different; we had things like a 2nd hand websites/op shops where you could find nice cheap stuff other people just wanted gone/had donated, these days everything is either retail price no matter the quality or a scam. Everything you could imagine is scalped and resold to try and make a buck. It's just tiring, hell even last night I was using an imaginary auction house (Forza Horizon 6) and there were bots (at least I hope they weren't real people wasting their life) forcing cars that were like 13k up to $500-1m. Even imaginary money is apparently that important. Your not allowed to enjoy life, you must wring every stone and extract the most you can out of it.Top-level commentCited in: Absolutely everything is monetised now
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Scrolling through someone's entire life on social media right after meeting them and acting like that's completely normal.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Eating shellfish. Literally bugs, but bigger, and grosser. Also, cooking anything alive. Fucking horrendously evil to me.Top-level commentCited in: Eating shellfish
Religious/superstitious tolerance. If some guy tries to convince you he's the Messiah you're right to keep him out of public. But if he says he can speak to the Messiah for you, or put you on the path to the Messiah, we have to tolerate him and some people even shower him with money.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Toxicity in online games. I can't imagine treating a fellow human being like I see others doing and I'm baffled that the majority of gaming communities just accept it and think it's just fine.Top-level commentCited in: Toxicity in online games
Just how much abuse goes on in our world (Domestically, with children, bullying, with animals often in CAFOs, etc.)Top-level commentCited in: Just how much abuse goes on in our world (Domestically, with children,
No arrests or accountability from the Epstein files.Top-level commentCited in: No arrests or accountability from the Epstein files
The corruption of trump and his administration. Also, allowing tech broligarchs (musk, bezos, etc) to have such a huge influence in U.S. and world affairs.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
That our sitting president is a rapist child molester.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Parents posting photos of their kids in swim suits. Kids in bikini = Kids in their underwearsTop-level commentCited in: Parents posting photos of their kids in swim suits
Eh not really, taking a picture of your family's beach vacation is very normal, you're reading way too much into itReplyCited in: Eh not really, taking a picture of your family's beach vacation is
Ai in generalTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Fishing. I'm not morally opposed to it enough to object to going fishing with my wife's family, and I can see the appeal, but it just feels like a lot of torment to put fish through for shits and giggles. I'm fine with it when it's fish we're going to eat, but you need to catch and release a bunch in the process of getting to an edible oneTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Everything being delivered straight to your door. Now, I literally just ordered an extension cord for same day delivery due to electrical issues at my house, so I'm thankful the technology exists. But because of these same electrical issues, I couldn't get a normal dinner on the table as usual, and my kid asked if we could "just doordash something". I've never used doordash in my life, but to this pre-teen, that seemed like a more reasonable choice than a PB&J and chips for dinner.Top-level commentCited in: Expensive third-party food delivery as a default
People using their phones in the bathroom stallTop-level commentCited in: People using their phones in the bathroom stall
RepublicansTop-level commentCited in: Republicans
Maybe no disturbing, but sobering and humbling: How temporary we are. I've had some time this summer, and I decided to try to be a bit more productive with my life and just do something other than play some video games (that I don't really find that enjoyable these days anyways). I did some painting and whatnot, but one habit that I started was working out daily while watching history documentaries (*not* the History Channel, which is complete shit these days) and those free courses on Youtube (stuff like Yale). I learned a bit about the Hittites, ancient Egyptians, the Bronze Age (and collapse), the development of China and Japan, the history of the Roman Empire, the War of the Roses...I haven't memorized everything, but I've learned a lot, and it really puts a lot into perspective. But we are just temporary. I agree with Carl Sagan, in that it will not be us that populates the stars. We are fragile bags of meat that live relatively short lives. When we see any other living creature, it is just one of an untold number that will have lived on this planet. There have been people who were, at their time, considered the most famous royalty to have ever lived, and they are now forgotten. Their names may have been recorded somewhere, but all evidence of their existence is completely gone now. Just as they are forgotten, virtually every living thing will be. We seem to be so fascinated with ourselves, as if we are special because of all of the circumstances that have led to us living right now. But really, our lives, in the long run, will be as inconsequential as some random bird or insect that may have lived on the side of Krakatoa around 536 C.E. *If* something from this planet moves on to the stars, it would have to be something that isn't so physically fragile and so handicapped by our own self-important need to feed our biases. *To this day*, we still have a vast number of our species that believes in the modern equivalent of sun gods, moon gods, water gods, etc. That just a few hundred years ago, people were burning women as witches in Europe. Today, we have some number of people killing each other over land that they believe was promised to them by some Bronze Age god(s) that they are, for the most part, ignorant to the history of, part of some naive belief that would almost be funny if it weren't for the atrocities that have happened in the name of those gods. *Our* lives may be significantly affected, in great and/or horrific ways, by the "world leaders" and our collective attitudes and behaviors, but that's it. How "great" our time is ends up being up to us. I'm already (likely) halfway through my life. As much as I would love to do something great, something that would have some positive meaningful effect on whatever consciousness looks like millennia from now, I likely won't. One day, Einstein may be (and seemingly likely will be) forgotten. The Universe itself seems to act as a filter. The only things that seem to survive are those most efficient in self-replicating. As comforting as our beliefs about our place in the universe may be, it's our ability to understand the universe around us *as it truly is*, as best we can, that seems to survive. Naive beliefs die off with those that cling to them. Those that most accurately identify, acknowledge, and adapt to reality seem to be the ones most likely to continue on. Even then, it's not *us* that lives on, but whatever insights we acquire that has some chance.Top-level commentCited in: Maybe no disturbing, but sobering and humbling
People using human pronouns for AI chatbots. I've overheard my coworkers referring to "Chat" with he/him pronouns, making "him" sound like a person. Example: My coworker said "I asked Chat what he thinks I should wear today and sent him a few pictures of clothes I have, and this is what he told me to wear." It disturbs me greatly.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
How we are all going about our day consuming and living in a totally unsustainable way.Top-level commentCited in: We are all going about our day consuming and living in a
Drinking until you're rude, incoherent, and doing stupid things. I don't get it.Top-level commentCited in: Drinking until you're rude, incoherent, and doing stupid things
The way we abuse animals on a daily basis and everyone is just fine with it. Billions of living, feeling individuals slaughtered for naught after a live of pure misery. Bred to get so fat they collapse under their own weight. Walking in their own shit. Getting raped only to have their child ripped away from them to be slaughtered. Crates of living babies thrown into a blender because they are not profitable. And the most disturbing thing is that people will read this and disagree or try to argue against it as if there was any justification for our actions. Humanity sickens me.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
the prison industrial complexTop-level commentCited in: The prison industrial complex
Idolizing celebrities! I could never imagine doing more than say going to a concert or watching a movie of some well known celebrity. The way people follow the every move of otherwise regular-degular people is very VERY parasocial. It’s especially strange because just about every celebrity ends up being problematic. Oh and don’t get me started on the people who send money to these celebrities. Very odd and way too normalized.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
living just to workTop-level commentCited in: Living just to work
That the expected and regular method of entering the freeway is to get up to speed and hope the people in the lane just let you zipper in without issue. People barely do this correctly when there's a closed lane in a 35 mph zone, but here we are going twice that, hoping aunt May with coke-bottle glasses and two excitable dogs will notice and scoot over in time to create an opening in the Mordor wall of semi-trucks before we run out of the hobbit's taint worth of runway wiggle room we have to work with. At least Frodo only had to do it once, meanwhile here was are 5 days a fucking week, "So long, honey! I'm off to risk life and limb in the steel salmon run of God's nightmares for minimum wage," and fuck it, why not again on the weekend, because at this point I can't get a boner without my daily dose of fear laced adrenaline under the threat of an oily, screeching metal, fiery **Death**! ...so yeah, I don't really like the freeway.Top-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
Routine circumcisionTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Pelvic exams; if there's a problem sure, even occasionally but doing them annually and for everything, is treating being a women like a medical condition that needs to be managed. Its baffling to me that a womans anal tone needs to be assessed and the pliability of her rectovaginal septum felt to get hormonal BC but a man going in for vasectomy will only require a quick scrotal check to make sure they can feel the vas deference. No other cancers are screened annually or across an entire life. Handled improperly especially among the young can cause insecurities and life long sexual dysfunction.Top-level commentCited in: Pelvic exams
Australia doesn't do it annually, and even paps have been pushed back to 5 years and now we can self swab.ReplyCited in: Australia doesn't do it annually, and even paps have been pushed back
Pets. I know it's baked in now and there's no going back, but the idea that people who love animals buy and sell them, keep them inside for hours and hours, breed them into painful mutations, and ultimately use them as an emotional crutch is bizarre and depressing to me. I love animals, but I like them left alone.Top-level commentCited in: Pets
Supporting billionaires through subsidies, tax abatements, and grants while they take all of our tax dollars.Top-level commentCited in: Supporting billionaires through subsidies, tax abatements, and grants while they take all
Ageism. Being 35 is too old in my country according to corporate. People just accept it.Top-level commentCited in: Ageism
the concept of paparazziTop-level commentCited in: The concept of paparazzi
People normalizing hating children for developmentally normal/healthy behaviors (crying, meltdowns/tantrums, talking back, whining). You're allowed to not want/have kids yourself, but at least learn a bit about human development so that you're not just a horrible person in public.Top-level commentCited in: People normalizing hating children for developmentally normal/healthy behaviors (crying, meltdowns/tantrums, talking back,
Like they didn't do the exact same at that age. People had to put up with _your_ nonsense, shut up and take your turn.ReplyCited in: Like they didn't do the exact same at that age
Pledge of allegiance.Top-level commentCited in: Pledge of allegiance
That Donald Trump is the president of my country. Especially since considerably less than half the voters approve of him. We may never fully recover from this.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
texting and driving. its getting to an actual ridiculous point where almost every car I see on the road has the driver deep into their phone while driving a 3 ton tank of an SUV. may as well just be a bunch of drunk drivers.Top-level commentCited in: Texting and driving
ZionismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
brainwashed religious fools who genuinely believe opposition to Israel's war crimes is always secretly anti-semitism, they're all over this siteReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
The apathy towards it is truly horrifyingReplyCited in: The apathy towards it is truly horrifying
DeathTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Vaping around babies and children.Top-level commentCited in: Vaping around babies and children
Organized religion.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Working weekends and/or over 40hrs a week without extra pay (very common in the business world where, ironically, my next "deeply disturbing thing is" and that's no unionizing in white collar businesses)Top-level commentCited in: Working weekends and/or over 40hrs a week without extra pay (very common
I’m approaching my 30s and I still can’t get over how creepy sleep is. It used to be the fact that I couldn’t remember the exact moment I went to sleep. But the more I learn about it the weirder it is. Parasomnia conditions are all creepy as hell. The fact that our minds make dreams and that our brain triggers muscle paralysis while we experience them. Lately I’ve been fucking hallucinating as I’ve been falling asleep, it’s always when I open my eyes as I fall asleep and I’m certain there is something, like a person or spiders or something. This is apparently a known condition.Top-level commentCited in: I’m approaching my 30s and I still can’t get over how creepy
America's casual consumption of intense violence, blood and gore is so crazyTop-level commentCited in: America's casual consumption of intense violence, blood and gore is so crazy
Following another persons loud hate on other peoples opinions, religions, identities, sexual orientations etc. It's disturbing how people just hear an opinion from someone and decide to follow it like sheep I've noticed myself and friends, that i consider smarter than this, doing it. The first time i remember seeing this was back in high-school when my school decided to implement uniforms. All my classmates hated it. I got infected and i remember telling my mom how angry i was and how much i hated them stupid uniforms. But when she asked me why i hated them so much i was speechless. I realized that i had no reason to be so angry and that i didn't even care in the first place. Then i started seeing this pattern everywhere. When i asked a loud person why they thought so or why they had this opinion, they would freeze and scramble (im not exaggerating, it's subtle) to think of something or just preach what they heard from someone else. Also how does it even start? If it doesn't affect you and you aren't being provoked, why do you have a problem with it? I find it truly disturbing how easily we let ourselves be manipulated. And we don't even question what we subsequently do.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Octopuses have a huge capacity for learning, but they are short lived, aren't social, and don't raise their young, so every new octopus just starts from total scratch. Honestly it's one of the things that confirmed me as an atheist. Intelligent design wouldn't create such a waste of intellect.Top-level commentCited in: Octopuses have a huge capacity for learning, but they are short lived,
Borders, nationality and passports. It’s all an illusion.Top-level commentCited in: Borders, nationality and passports
How much harder school, getting a job, getting a house is nowTop-level commentCited in: Much harder school, getting a job, getting a house is now
Putting your children’s photos on social media.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
People aren't going to like this, but I feel this way about GLP-1s.Top-level commentCited in: People aren't going to like this, but I feel this way about
Location services always being on. Its so dangerous.Top-level commentCited in: Location services always being on
Sex.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Helicopter parentingTop-level commentCited in: Helicopter parenting
Factory farming. And I eat meat.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
TrumpTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Nah, you know the majority of the world thinks Trump is deeply disturbing. Most of us are united on that one and just have to suffer the consequences of the idiots who voted him in again. We’ll get through it 🫡ReplyCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
The whole "sexy schoolgirl uniform" thing. It's so common it's a generic sexy costume, right up there with french maid. But dude, it's *a schoolgirl.* No one wears uniforms in college, it's specifically an underage girl thing. Why is this not seen as creepy as hell?Top-level commentCited in: The whole "sexy schoolgirl uniform" thing
Our immigration system (USA)Top-level commentCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
The obsession with dogs and treating them as if they’re children.Top-level commentCited in: The obsession with dogs and treating them as if they’re children
CircumcisionTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
AITop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Just how socially acceptable alcohol is in generalTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Apparently it's fine now for kids of any age to watch any movie / play any video game, without any parental supervision whatsoever. When my son was in grade 2 he had classmates whose parents let them watch Top Gun, the Marvel movies, etc. I mean, not horrible, but not suitable for 7 year olds. And that's only the ones we found out about. Who knows what the hell else they were watching.Top-level commentCited in: Apparently it's fine now for kids of any age to watch any
Pressuring people to have sex. Random peers will ask you about your sex life and make fun of you for not having it. “Friends” don’t always understand. Partners coerce and guilt you. Society tells you there is something wrong with you, no matter if it’s all the time or not. People tell say you are not being a good partner, as if sex is a required right, and not an optional privilege.Top-level commentCited in: Pressuring people to have sex
The rise of technology. I’m a software dev and used to find new tech thrilling but it’s went too far! I see a future where those in complex fields will be rare and also dangerous. Ai is replacing actual learning. I also don’t want everything to be digitalised, like digital currency, digital id.. like I’ve been on a shop where the power went and we just got told to leave. Back ups are important. We need to slow/reverse the direction we are going in. It isn’t good. I find those who rant and rave about this are labelled conspiracy theorists? I might be wrong, but this one truely does scare me!Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
I’m a software developer and agree with you. I don’t want connected smart appliances. I want the simplest disconnected stuff that will just do its job for years without needing a subscription or other nonsense. It would be nice if we made metal roofs and solar panels normal everywhere. Having onsite power production would lessen the concern of the power going out.ReplyCited in: I’m a software developer and agree with you
Capitalism and the economic and social order it dictates. Judging by many of the replies I've read here, which are symptoms of it, I'm surprised it is not mentioned explicitly.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Pretending Covid somehow disappeared and isn't a fucking raging pandemic anymore that disables tens of thousands of people daily for the rest of their lives.Top-level commentCited in: Pretending Covid somehow disappeared and isn't a fucking raging pandemic anymore that
Getting Covid once every 400 days (American average). This shit infects your brain and blood vessels. Anyone pretending it’s not fucking up everyone is delusional.Top-level commentCited in: Getting Covid once every 400 days (American average)
People praying to a god, a fake story told by a handful of people many generations ago about a sky daddy.Top-level commentCited in: People praying to a god, a fake story told by a handful
Allowing your partner to abuse you in any way.Top-level commentCited in: Allowing your partner to abuse you in any way
“One nation, under God” in the US pledge of allegiance. What happened to the separation of church and state, and freedom of religion?Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Normalizing circumcision of babies. So messed up.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
So much of the world is dependent on alcohol when it is such a horrible substance for the body and it’s practically glorified and expected in some circles and cultures. It’s the highest level of carcinogen, expensive, and exceedingly used in self-medication for everything from anxiety to depresssion. Thankfully there’s a downwards trend in alcohol consumption recently.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Bringing dogs inside grocery stores.Top-level commentCited in: Bringing dogs inside grocery stores
Total and complete lack of privacy. You are on camera any time you leave your house and so many people put cameras IN their house. For the kids it is even worse, there is no room to be a kid since everything they do and say is being recorded and published for all time. I can think of a multitude of stupid things I did and said as kid, and kids now have no room to make those same mistakes without it haunting them for all time. The whole thing is an utter dystopia at this point.Top-level commentCited in: Loss of internet, location, and domestic privacy
AI implementation everywhere. It’s like dumping a bag of weapons on the floor of a pre-school.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Those crappy phone games where a woman (sometimes with a child) is shivering in the cold and your supposed to pick how to treat her. Even the ads for it are horrible.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
I don't think these games are realReplyCited in: I don't think these games are real
Donald TrumpTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
We are running out of fish, birds, and bugs.Top-level commentCited in: We are running out of fish, birds, and bugs
How everybody is getting so combative and belligerent about everything in recent years.Top-level commentCited in: Everybody is getting so combative and belligerent about everything in recent years
The extreme toxicity on instagram and other platforms. People will mock the disabled (especially neurodivergent people), admit to pedophilia, and say some obscene bullshit. They glorify bullying and encourage the non conforming to do self harm. It's a shithole.Top-level commentCited in: The extreme toxicity on instagram and other platforms
People holding recording phones up at concerts. I'll take a pic, but I wouldn't enjoy the present if I were recording, and the phones prevent people behind from see the stage, which makes it a garbage thing to do.Top-level commentCited in: People holding recording phones up at concerts
How easily humans kill insects and have little respect for non-human life.Top-level commentCited in: Easily humans kill insects and have little respect for non-human life
Posting pictures of your child anywhere online. You can't get it back once it's out there and you can't know what sickos (including AI bots) are seeing that picture.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The normalization of watching porn.Top-level commentCited in: The normalization of watching porn
Kissing kids on the mouthTop-level commentCited in: Kissing children on the mouth
Not even your own kids?ReplyCited in: Not even your own kids
Yes. Its nasty and creepyReplyCited in: Bare agreement with an untraceable 'nasty and creepy' question
The most popular category of pornography is ‘teen’. If we renamed ‘barely legal’ to ‘almost paedophile’ I think our culture might be a little different.Top-level commentCited in: The most popular category of pornography is ‘teen’
Talking on speaker for everyone to hear conversationTop-level commentCited in: Talking on speaker for everyone to hear conversation
Media using AI flood videos for clicksTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Driving and using their phones at the same time. This is normalized and diabolical.Top-level commentCited in: Driving and using their phones at the same time
being recorded without permission should be illegalTop-level commentCited in: Being recorded without permission should be illegal
The concept of Heaven. “You get to go to a place where you’re always happy and you’ll praise God for eternity.” Eternity? That sounds like hell, honestlyTop-level commentCited in: The concept of Heaven
TrumpTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Patriotism.Top-level commentCited in: Patriotism
maybe i´ll get downvoted but... people who kiss their kids on the mouth....Top-level commentCited in: Kissing children on the mouth
Handshakes. Why do I have to shake random peoples hands as a form of greeting.... Can't a "Hi, how are you?" just be enough?Top-level commentCited in: Handshakes
The adults that don't try to learn more beyond their highschool education. I don't mean by going to college, I mean the ones that don't ever pick up an educational book, read educational or informational articles and essays, or watch educational videos or shows, etc. It baffles me that you live for so much longer than your schooling years and people don't want to know moreTop-level commentCited in: The adults that don't try to learn more beyond their highschool education
Not having hobbies. Just doomscrolling and NetflixTop-level commentCited in: Not having hobbies
People in their 30’s using TikTok speakTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The rising cost of literally everything. Trump has clearly kicked it all into overdrive with his tariffs, war, and market manipulation, but even before all that everything is triple what it used to cost, only available as a subscription service rather than a one-time purchase, or both, and everyone just seems to accept it.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
We have TOO much technology at our disposal now. People are so easily wrapped up in their own digital worlds they don't know how to be present anymore. People also have little to no patience or ability to deal with boredom or waiting. Everything has to be instant, highly customized, perfectly correct. People are addicted to instant gratification.Top-level commentCited in: We have TOO much technology at our disposal now
ChewingTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Mass Surveillance.Top-level commentCited in: Mass Surveillance
fishing i guess imagine if giant fish used hamburgers to pull humans out of the earth and take pictures with then just tossed back inTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
capitalism, zionism, religion.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Late to the party but not seeing this one. We are the new QA. We are testing all the garbage companies push out. You don't get a choice to update your stuff anymore, just deal with the new features whether they slow down your machine or bust it entirely. Bet yall love every time auto-correct gets a little dumber. How bout all those games "in preview/early access", yet they have a battle pass? Then never really reaches a polished state, just a heap of minimal investments and wasted talent. Everything is made to break or just poorly made in general and everyone just seems okay with getting the next new piece of crap whether what they have is broken or not. Repairing your own shit is beyond rewarding.Top-level commentCited in: Late to the party but not seeing this one
Joking about a dingo eating someone’s baby.Top-level commentCited in: Joking about a dingo eating someone’s baby
Ok, I have no idea what it's about care to elaborateReplyCited in: Ok, I have no idea what it's about care to elaborate
Circumcision (genital mutilation).Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Something about chopping off a cat or dogs balls/sexually altering them so that they have no desire to leave and forcing it to live in your home just because you want something to pet for an hour when you come home from work… something about that has always seemed off to me. Just because they arent smart they go along with it, but its always felt wrong. Imagine doing that to a human babyTop-level commentCited in: Something about chopping off a cat or dogs balls/sexually altering them so
That I’m now at a crossroads in my career of what skills to learn I’m encouraged and almost forced to prompt AI bots for work instead of actually learning skills to improve People don’t seem to care, I never thought all my education would lead to the world telling me to just prompt a bot and get it done quick Everything I was told about better results and doing the extra work was nothing but horse shit.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Being in a relationship with someone you don't love or even like just to avoid being alone. One of my good friends is in a relationship with a guy she can't stand and they're about to get married. It horrifies meTop-level commentCited in: Being in a relationship with someone you don't love or even like
I’ve recently got some shit for pointing this out on another sub, and got downvoted to hell a couple years ago for a pretty similar take, but I find the prevalence (and acceptance) of step-sibling / step-parent porn deeply disturbing. There’s very few people who’ve grown up with a step-sibling of a similar age, to develop such fetish naturally, and the step-parent – step-child relationship is despicable in this context even when the later is an adult. With how infantile girls in these videos tend to act, I think it’s pretty obvious that the target audience are largely pedos and guys with incestuous fantasies toward their cousins, sisters and mothers… And, the worst thing about it, is how even if you ain’t watching porn, you can’t escape this bullshit because social media is full of “What are you doing step-mom?” and “Help me, step-bro! I’m stuck!” memes that are turning this fetish into something supposedly funny.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Casinos, I don’t think I really need to explain why thereTop-level commentCited in: Casinos, I don’t think I really need to explain why there
Eating animalsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
The amount of corruption in politics and with the police in my country of Denmark. It's crazy and nobody cares just because it's "worse" in other countries.Top-level commentCited in: The amount of corruption in politics and with the police in my
The fact that being born with good looks is luck but if you're born intelligent, you are more deserving of credits! Just saying that you had no control over that either...Top-level commentCited in: Being born with good looks is luck but if you're born intelligent,
That everyone views the social strain of having half the world living in poverty as someone elses problemTop-level commentCited in: Everyone views the social strain of having half the world living in
Normal everyday non-military-associated people owning multiple machine guns and other weapons that could achieve mass murder.Top-level commentCited in: Normal everyday non-military-associated people owning multiple machine guns and other weapons that
weaponizing their religion, especially here in americaTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Spending money you don't have People's willingness to eat processed foods and poison themselves via processed foods and wonder why they are getting fat and sick. It isn't hard to educate yourself on healthy eating.Top-level commentCited in: Spending money you don't have People's willingness to eat processed foods and
Having to close an ad on mobile 3 or 4 times before it is actually clpsed.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Celebrities. IDGAF.Top-level commentCited in: Celebrities
Celebration of wealth and purchases.Top-level commentCited in: Celebration of wealth and purchases
People think voting will actually solve the problems voting created. They genuinely believe it like a religion. It's as absurd as walking in water at this point.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
FacismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
I find people in general deeply disturbing. It’s why I prefer animal company.Top-level commentCited in: I find people in general deeply disturbing
Religion.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
also , how valid the people think influencers areTop-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Consumerism, especially online, I don't think it needs an explanation.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Taking photo of every meal you eat.Top-level commentCited in: Taking photo of every meal you eat
People scrolling through their phones while spending time with friends or family.Top-level commentCited in: People scrolling through their phones while spending time with friends or family
Total loss of principles, value of truth, humility, and charitable interpretation of arguments made by someone who disagrees with you on both extremes of the political spectrum. It's like MAGA on both ends of the political spectrum, and the people in the middle don't agree with each other, but we're terrified of the tiktokers and X'ersTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Everyone participating in the mass genocide of innocent animals on the magnitude of billions every year just for “taste”. Insane to me. So much suffering that no one bats an eye about.Top-level commentCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
PedophiliaTop-level commentCited in: Pedophilia
Sex😓Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Texting and driving.Top-level commentCited in: Texting and driving
Parents allowing their children to get obese when they are under 10, not only is that child now prone to being bullied but they have no choice in what they ear. They dont do the shopping and I think it is disturbing we allow thisTop-level commentCited in: Parents allowing their children to get obese when they are under 10,
Yup…how many people are screenshotting that pic and adding it to their “personal collection?”ReplyCited in: Yup…how many people are screenshotting that pic and adding it to their
Alcohol brings out a person's true personality. Some people are happy drunks, some are sad drunks, some are angry drunks, etc.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Ugh Im looking at you Euphoria!ReplyCited in: Ugh Im looking at you Euphoria
Completely agreeReplyCited in: Completely agree
Blowing out candles on a cake. The thought of all those germs flying out into the frosting is nauseating. Didn’t we learn anything from the pandemic?Top-level commentCited in: Blowing out candles on a cake
That people get sick from being near each other, and not from things that seem unhygienic at first glance?ReplyCited in: People get sick from being near each other, and not from things
It is totally normal though, we live and then we die, it's a part of life.ReplyCited in: It is totally normal though, we live and then we die, it's
Parents (mainly fathers) that threaten respectful boys for trying to date their daughter. It's not cute and protective, you're just threatening a minor and making your daughter hate youTop-level commentCited in: Parents (mainly fathers) that threaten respectful boys for trying to date their
Boo! I advocate for the principal to call a parent explain why the child is in trouble and ask permission to whoop their child. I see direct correlation between newer no ass whooping generations and crime rates.ReplyCited in: Boo
I suppose it’s not a secret that I find it disturbing though.ReplyCited in: I suppose it’s not a secret that I find it disturbing though
Had to sort by controversial to find this :(ReplyCited in: Had to sort by controversial to find this
I know, right? Wild how lax it is compared to other Western countries like Canada and Eastern countries like Japan and South Korea.ReplyCited in: I know, right
Canada? It feels like we're half indian brotha 😭ReplyCited in: Canada
Pregnancy. Lol.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
everything we interact with is a rectangle inside of a rectangle and we move along the edges of rectangles so much so that the near infinite number of rectanlges are finite enough to be measure in patterns that can be predicted.Top-level commentCited in: Everything we interact with is a rectangle inside of a rectangle and
To be fair that, "Can we just doordash something?" From your kid seems less like doordash dependency and more like a modern version of, "Can we get McDonald's/pizza for dinner?" Kids always want to trick parents into buying fast food.ReplyCited in: Expensive third-party food delivery as a default
💯ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I was thinking just how human-centered we are in general. People will buy a puppy, tie it up in a yard with inadequate shelter and no social contact, hit it when they're angry for no reason, kill it through neglect, but it's fine because It'S jUsT aN aNiMaL. Virtually every vertebrate we've actually gone through the trouble to properly learn about is way more intelligent and sentient than popular opinion says -- mammals, birds, fish, you name it. I hate that animals are just considered property for people to do as they wish with. In my area, there's a guy who's tortured and murdered dozens upon dozens of cats. He goes to jail for a bit, then gets out and does more of the same. But as long as he's killing intelligent, social mammals with four legs, not two, he doesn't get more than a few months for every dozen cats. I don't have a zero-tolerance for high-quality farms and animal products in low quantity. Someone eating 0.5lbs/wk of organic, grass-fed meat from an animal that had an excellent, reasonably long life and was then killed in the most humane way possible is, to me, within reason. Cork is a great leather substitute, but leather will biodegrade without releasing hormone-disrupting chemicals, which can't necessarily be said for pleather. My problem is the horrific cruelty that comes with modern factory farms. If a cow that isn't continually "freshened" (impregnated, with the calf immediately removed after birth) only produces 70% as much milk, when we let the calf wean naturally and just replace the weaned calf with milking, then milk should be expensive enough that we can have more cows, or people drink less of it, etc. Pigs that have so little space and mental stimulation that they chew off each other's tails are not inherently necessary to the production of meat. We could still have *some* (less) animal products without creating a never-ending hell spiral for millions of creatures.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
I never thought about this until I was older, but I could never unthink it once I did. I would opt for birthday donuts or birthday cupcakes, haha.ReplyCited in: I never thought about this until I was older, but I could
Public recording - both content creators and security cameras are everywhere. It’s like being a rat in a scientist cage.Top-level commentCited in: Public recording - both content creators and security cameras are everywhere
using gen AI for anything these days.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Dogs. Animals literally like... bred to be slaves? The concept of dogs freaks me out. At least with cats you get some inclination of selfishness, but dogs are usually lauded as being willing to work for you, constantly happy, constantly thinking of you, willing to die for you, etc. They have no concept of morality and will work for a farmer or work for a family or work for a Nazi with equal relish. Seems really fucked up to breed an entire line of living things to do this.Top-level commentCited in: Dogs
And the dog people would rather kill a rational human being than their dog, because it loves them so much. As if it had a choice in the matter.ReplyCited in: And the dog people would rather kill a rational human being than
Yes, the dog loves whoever gives it food. The dog doesn't love them, it has no choice as its dependent on its human for food.ReplyCited in: Yes, the dog loves whoever gives it food
Having a close-up selfie with your kid as a social media profile pictureTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
People who try to walk to the left of others. If we all walk to the right like cars (or vice versa in countries that do the opposite), there would be far less awkwardness on sidewalks.Top-level commentCited in: People who try to walk to the left of others
The amount of money people spend on lotto ticketsTop-level commentCited in: The amount of money people spend on lotto tickets
ai. smartphones. people’s stupidity. people’s lack of logic. people’s lack of curiosity.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Having children and even celebrating it in this cruel world.Top-level commentCited in: Having children and even celebrating it in this cruel world
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Windows 11Top-level commentCited in: Windows 11
Maybe I’m getting old, but killing people in TV and movies is just nothing now. I know, you gotta have drama and a plot, etc - but nobody even blinks about it. Killing other humans - even in make believe worlds, should not be this common and flippant. A human life was once someone’s little boy or girl. That was someone’s hopes and dreams all rolled into a little person.Top-level commentCited in: Maybe I’m getting old, but killing people in TV and movies is
It’s pretty disturbing how people are fine with human characters dying even in outrageously gruesome ways, while at the same time melting down if a pet also dies in the same fictional media, it really highlights the rapidly decreasing perceived value of human life. I don’t have issue with deaths in movies/shows, but that part with people being desensitized to watching human suffering like we are worth less than a dog or a cat has bothered me for a whileReplyCited in: It’s pretty disturbing how people are fine with human characters dying even
Social media.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Neoliberal economicsTop-level commentCited in: Neoliberal economics
Places of business not accepting cashTop-level commentCited in: Places of business not accepting cash
I don’t understand the fascination with taking photos of your food whether at a restaurant, friends home, your home & posting it. Especially when you’ve eaten some of it.Top-level commentCited in: I don’t understand the fascination with taking photos of your food whether
Half of the people around you have below average intellect, and average is already shocking bad.Top-level commentCited in: Half of the people around you have below average intellect, and average
Having a convicted rapist, pedophile, bigot, inside trader, thief and scam artist as president of the United States.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
A lot of grown men I work with talk with their mouths literally *full* of food during lunch in the breakroom. Like, their mouths are open, with the food wad on their tongues, and they contort everything to talk around the food, and it still comes out like "Ah oooo shuwww?" (Are you sure?) Only the men who grew up in the small town next to this place do it. They'll sit across from each other and have whole conversations like that.Top-level commentCited in: A lot of grown men I work with talk with their mouths
Reality TV. I swear generations of people watching truly revolting behavior is what’s gotten us in this mess.Top-level commentCited in: Reality TV
kids on phones or tablets. something in me feels a different type of rage i can’t explain. they’ve been robbed of the opportunity to use their imagination. what kind of childhood are you having if you have no curiosity for the world around you?Top-level commentCited in: Kids on phones or tablets
Buying random shit online from Temu, Wish, Shein etc. I have a coworker that comes in all the time with the most random, cheap plasticy crap he "only bought for a few quid", like a hoodie for his gear stick, or a silly stick man figurine. I know it doesn't sound much on the surface but its like watching a slave to capitalism lick the boot and get off on it. He is also in crippling debt, and makes me thing how companies take advantage of people struggling with the cost of living crisis. He is also dumb and its his own responsibility, but it just irks me something wicked.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
academic systems where you're basically working a 9-5 but with homework on top of that and with a lot of mental strain (kinda almost like multiple smaller jobs in one) and YOU pay for it instead of being paid for it, but that might just be me cause i have adhdTop-level commentCited in: Academic systems where you're basically working a 9-5 but with homework on
Lack of empathy and being proud of it. In my opinion at least since COVID there is less and less empathy everyday and people often are proud of not thinking about others and being unnecessary cruel. I see it when I talk about any recent events and people dehumanize other people like the WW2, Holocaust, Apartheid, segregation and slavery never happened. We know what dehumanizing leads to, why would you want to repeat it?Top-level commentCited in: Lack of empathy and being proud of it
5 year old being pushed in a stroller with an iphone and a juice box.Top-level commentCited in: 5 year old being pushed in a stroller with an iphone and
Cutting the genitals of infants.Top-level commentCited in: Nonconsensual infant circumcision
Using ipads/phones as babysitters. I can barely get eye contact with one of my nephews.Top-level commentCited in: Using ipads/phones as babysitters
I found out recently that honey is what happens when bees regurgitate nectar into each other's mouths over and over before we scoop it into a jar and put a bear on the label.Top-level commentCited in: I found out recently that honey is what happens when bees regurgitate
I've been referring it to bee vomit for years. I still love the stuff.ReplyCited in: I've been referring it to bee vomit for years
golf coursesTop-level commentCited in: Golf courses
The infantalization of disabled people.Top-level commentCited in: The infantalization of disabled people
Domestic violenceTop-level commentCited in: Domestic violence
A lot of culture around drinking, just how normal it is, how nearly ubiquitous it is to the point where it’s genuinely considered the default that someone drinks, how genuinely expected it is to be present at so many types of celebrations and events It’s not strange to me that people drink, but it is strange to me and I think rather disturbing just how prevalent it is and how much social pressure exists pushing people towards itTop-level commentCited in: A lot of culture around drinking, just how normal it is, how
DrugsTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Our president being affiliated with a decades long sex trafficking of teenage girls to the richest, most powerful figures in the world. Edit: I just reread the title and realized it said “secretly”, my bad. Still leaving the comment bc we can’t normalize itTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Hustle culture. The idea that just working forty hours isn't enough, that you should be networking, doing a side hustle, or improving your professional skills and credentials in your free timeTop-level commentCited in: Hustle culture
AI. Period.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
How uncivil we have become with each other due the lack of tolerance and entitlement we seem to express now is just astounding.Top-level commentCited in: Uncivil we have become with each other due the lack of tolerance
Walking around the house in your outdoor shoes.Top-level commentCited in: Walking around the house in your outdoor shoes
The way children are dressed with mini skirts, crop tops, transparent shirts, full blown make up and nails. Just why are we making this normal? Why are we letting kids consume content that are clearly not meant for them too?Top-level commentCited in: Children are dressed with mini skirts, crop tops, transparent shirts, full blown
When people walk on a walking pad/treadmill while working on their laptop. Something about it is so dystopian - like you have two obligations that you don't enjoy and you're trying to knock them both out at the same time. Walking around can be leisure, work can be stimulating and engaging - but not like that.Top-level commentCited in: When people walk on a walking pad/treadmill while working on their laptop
Family influencers posting children on social media for engagement and cash🫩Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little girls) under the guise of tourismTop-level commentCited in: Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
Ditching your friends when you get a romantic partner, sometimes to the point that your whole social life is basically said partner. Also, changing your personality and interests to fit with a new romantic partner like you are a chameleon.Top-level commentCited in: Ditching your friends when you get a romantic partner, sometimes to the
People who go camping and use thermacell mosquito repellent without regards for how toxic it is to aquatic and insect wildlife. It'll kill bees in addition to mosquitoes but no one seems to give a shit on forums. No one even thinks about it.Top-level commentCited in: People who go camping and use thermacell mosquito repellent without regards for
Nearly the entire Western world lying to their children about Santa Claus existing, and religious indoctrination, for that matter.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Money. Greed revolves around it and the rich hoard it to decide its value, and they hoard more out of fear they may have less than everything. No peril or lack in this world is real--the rich just keep it looking that way to keep you dependent on them It's disgusting and I look down and anyone who disagrees because that's just even more or willful stupidity.Top-level commentCited in: Money
Parasocial relationships with companies as well as with people.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
people using ai talking to it for hours asking it questions using it generating slop with it also doomscrolling on the phone like from anothers perspective it looks so weirdTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
People eating animals - I don’t understand how my friends can be so okay paying to kill an animal. Am I going crazy? Like you love dogs and you’re okay killing a cow for taste?Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Not having manners & thanking those that send gifts or messages of good tiding.Top-level commentCited in: Not having manners & thanking those that send gifts or messages of
People accepting as normal that we breed billions of animals in concrete prisons and systematically kill them.Top-level commentCited in: People accepting as normal that we breed billions of animals in concrete
Market capitalism. Earth is a closed system, we should be operating at peak efficiency for all humans with the standard of living raised as high as possible for all. Resource Based Economy. It disturbs me I cannot have this conversation with nearly anyone.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Eating animals.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
along with everything else that people mentioned like no privacy, mass and individual serveilence, people stalking you, A.I. in everything and taking over jobs + fucking over the world. Specifically for reddit it so fucking weird seing pedophiles post sexually suggestive pictures of little anime girls with flirty titles. Like I'm not talking about anime girls that have a baby face but they're atleast grown up, I'm talking about fucking girls that look like they're 9-10 wearing lingerie or them posing with pulling clothes off like softcore porn models and the title is like "little girls looking sexy is dangerous" or some fucking fucked up pedo shit and it's always one of the gacha slop subreddits. I think two of them are like r/shupogaki and r/angelsofdelusion or some shit. It's not every post but I've even caught the main ZZZ sub posting shit like that too and it's absoslutely fucking disturbing.Top-level commentCited in: Along with everything else that people mentioned like no privacy, mass and
I'm not PETA, but the way people happily and casually serve animal-based food on plates in ads and tv commercials, like it wasn't a systematically butchered animal. Now, imagine a human arm on the plate instead with a family of people happily eating it.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
People: the other OTHER white meatReplyCited in: People
For-profit healthcare in general.Top-level commentCited in: For-profit healthcare in general
People wearing sunglasses at night, and INDOORS! What the heck can you possibly see???Top-level commentCited in: People wearing sunglasses at night, and INDOORS
who tf does this are you sure the person in question wasn't blindReplyCited in: Who tf does this are you sure the person in question wasn't
Toddler and child beauty pageants. Not even the big televised ones, but my local festivals sometimes put them on as part of the entertainment, and it grosses me out. I’m shopping for cute crafts and hear over the loud speaker, “This Savannah!! She’s 5 years old with blue eyes, brown curls, and a sun-kissed tan.” Makes me want to puke.Top-level commentCited in: Toddler and child beauty pageants
Sex / Intimacy without knowing the person you're withTop-level commentCited in: Sex / Intimacy without knowing the person you're with
All the staring at phone screens in public.Top-level commentCited in: All the staring at phone screens in public
People who "one-up" others in conversation. Someone will be excited to tell them about a thing, and then the person craps on their excitement by telling them they, or someone they know, had a better experience than them.Top-level commentCited in: People who "one-up" others in conversation
babies/toddlers/young children having phones or ipads. people say “parents need a break sometimes!” but you are capable of giving them a toy or a book, they don’t always have to be watching a screenTop-level commentCited in: Young children given smartphones and unrestricted internet access
open casket wakes or funeralsTop-level commentCited in: Open casket wakes or funerals
Smoking.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Shopping. I don’t mean general shopping, I mean people aimlessly wandering around Target shopping for things they didn’t know they needed. Everything is becoming so cheap that it is all destined for a landfill SO fast even if it’s something usable (a lamp, a kitchen tool) so I just find it sickening that there are *also* so many random bits of decor, random hygiene products, toys, etc. that are going to be added for virtually no reason. There are just a billion options for everything now and so little of it is needed. Shopping wastes everyone’s time and money AND the earth’s resources, just for a little diversion.Top-level commentCited in: Shopping
Funerals with looking at dead bodies, it's fkn weird. And going to Church(praying to god, singing hymns etc) freaks me the f out.Top-level commentCited in: Funerals with looking at dead bodies, it's fkn weird
genocideTop-level commentCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
PeopleTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
For me, it's a social phenomena where people who "speak up more" are being celebrated, regardless of the truthfulness of what they're saying. People are being encouraged to open their mouth in the name of freedom of opinion. It's like people are abusing it.Top-level commentCited in: For me, it's a social phenomena where people who "speak up more
Cheese.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
["So you guys ever eat cheese? Cheese is a funny thing, cheese is a strange thing, and I wonder, like, what is cheese?"]([link removed]ReplyCited in: ["So you guys ever eat cheese
It gets even worse when missionaries come up to you and say 'Cheesus Christ curdled for your sins'ReplyCited in: It gets even worse when missionaries come up to you and say
DeificationTop-level commentCited in: Deification
You are not in control of your own brain. At any point you could have a panic attack or a narcoleptic episode or a seizure… you don’t get to decide when it happens and you don’t get to decide when or if it stops. I don’t know if anyone else ever thinks about it because no one ever talks about it.Top-level commentCited in: You are not in control of your own brain
Doorbell cameras. And “security” cameras everywhere.Top-level commentCited in: Doorbell cameras
Meat and dairy industry. Lots of large scale torture factories, heavy environmental impact. Worse than it ever have been in history. People are vaguely aware but meat and dairy products are not just normalized, they are idolized. It's uncomfortable to think about, so not a big surprise most people don't.Top-level commentCited in: Meat and dairy industry
Eating animals is incredibly disturbingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
The United States President raped childrenTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Men dont wash there hands... EVER. they walk around with shit and piss and ketchup all over them and then get mad when i recoil at their touch. absurdTop-level commentCited in: Men dont wash there hands
location sharing, especially among families or romantic partners. stalking in the name of safety just really rubs me the wrong way.Top-level commentCited in: Location sharing, especially among families or romantic partners
Upvoted you, however I share my location with my husband and mom willingly. It’s not tracking me so much as in case I get in a car accident or go missing. If I want to, I can shut off location visibility and there’s no issues. If I thought it was mandatory, it would be a hell no.ReplyCited in: Upvoted you, however I share my location with my husband and mom
Organized religionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
EverythingTop-level commentCited in: Everything
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
I think the concept of a medical spa is insane but most people I know go to themTop-level commentCited in: I think the concept of a medical spa is insane but most
TaxidermyTop-level commentCited in: Taxidermy
US government legally taking bride from everyoneTop-level commentCited in: US government legally taking bride from everyone
WitchcraftTop-level commentCited in: Witchcraft
Religion, worshipping a sky entity.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
It's, by definition, not a genoicide For one thing, genoicide only applies to humans For another, it must be action commited with the intent of destruction partial or full of a group of people Since cows for example don't have culture, real concept of native lands, etc. etc. (they are not human) the only way to meaningfully "genoicide" cows, would be to wipe them out entirely, and that's obviously not the goal of slaughter of cattleReplyCited in: Factory farming
"I love the poorly educated." ---DJTReplyCited in: I love the poorly educated
MoneyTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
spanking your kidsTop-level commentCited in: Spanking your kids
Teaching religion to kidsTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
FascismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Those Meta glasses genuinely creeps me out. At least with a phone you can usually tell when someone’s recording but with smart glasses you might have no idea.Top-level commentCited in: Those Meta glasses genuinely creeps me out
Women's healthcare and how poor it is.Top-level commentCited in: Women's healthcare and how poor it is
Women giving up their last names and taking on their partner’s when they marry.Top-level commentCited in: Women giving up their last names and taking on their partner’s when
Also, defaulting to the father's last name for a baby instead of the mother's when the parents' last names are different.ReplyCited in: Also, defaulting to the father's last name for a baby instead of
This is also weird to me. I got married late but when I got married, I kept my name. There is no practical reason to change it that we can find. My name is my name. Several people have asked me when I’m changing and seem shocked that I’m not. It’s weird.ReplyCited in: This is also weird to me
also the fact that our us government is trying to make it where if a women is married only the man gets to vote… we are literally going backwardsReplyCited in: Also the fact that our us government is trying to make it
People recording and posting ALL their lives and business and posting it to social media. Over it.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Baptizing childrenTop-level commentCited in: Baptizing children
or allowing them to 'make the choice' to get baptized at a very young age when they have no idea what the decision to do that actually means.ReplyCited in: Or allowing them to 'make the choice' to get baptized at a
How easily we are brainwashed by the algorithm. For example, I'm **Argentinean**. We went from being a relatively unknown country, to Americans calling us nazis, the most racist country in modern history, and an extremely conservative country. Meanwhile, we: 1. Have free universal healthcare (including free abortion) and higher public education for all, **including undocumented immigrants** 2. Have both legal queer marriage and a third gender, nonbinary and trans people can easily get their **gender and names legally changed** 3. **Never had racial segregation** (this doesn't mean there wasn't historic oppression against racial groups, but there was no LEGAL framework for segregation, much less in the 20th century) 4. **Abolished slavery 40 years before we even had a constitution**, making it so children of slaves were automatically freed, and the full abolition of slavery is an integral part of our constitution from the get go, **10+ years before the US did** 5. We are accussed of being a refuge to nazis post WWII, when in reality, the US and Brazil each imported way more nazis than we did lmao Also, we're nazis, but also sionists at the same time somehow. 6. The vast majority of **our population is mixed**, even if we "self identify as white", we mean white as default, but we know damn well our DNA is not white. This is common throughout Latin America, there are interesting essays about the phenomenon mostly in Mexico 7. It's very easy to get a visa to move to Argentina 8. For decades we've ranked in worldwide safety polls as one of the safest countries for minorities to visit Of course we have things to improve, and right wingers, and cops that suck, but we've never shot our own economy in the foot to keep out foreigners (like the UK did) or started a war against our own population to root out immigrants (like the US did). To suddenly be called the most racist country in the world because the algorithm realized it's a lucrative ragebait cycle, well, it's kinda funny even. There are daily reports now of Argentineans living abroad being assaulted in the streets. And the comments, charmingly, are full of people saying "they deserved it".Top-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
If it helps, I'm an American who knows the historical connection between Argentina and Nazis, but this is the first I've heard of current Argentina being a Nazi hotspot. My ignorant ass associates Argentina with tango and absinthe (and some cool archeological finds, and being close to Antarctica).ReplyCited in: If it helps, I'm an American who knows the historical connection between
People injecting botulism into themselves.Top-level commentCited in: People injecting botulism into themselves
A poorly regulated free market.Top-level commentCited in: A poorly regulated free market
Location tracking your significant other and friends at all times. I get it for some specific instances (friend on a first date, young kid going to school/activities independently, etc.) For two adults? What a completely weird violation of privacy and lack of trust.Top-level commentCited in: Location tracking your significant other and friends at all times
Tolerance of evil.Top-level commentCited in: Tolerance of evil
How many people need to be medicated these days. At some point we really need to shift as a society and stop placing the blame on the individual, claiming that they have some imbalance.Top-level commentCited in: Many people need to be medicated these days
People giving very young children access to personal tech devices and algorithmic technology apps. The shit I'm seeing in adolescents is dark, to say the least. I don't have the research to back it up, but I am very worried that kids who are given excessive screen time on these from ages 0-3 have similar symptoms to a child exposed to drugs/alcohol and that it is leading to permanent cognitive deficits. I teach 8th grade students, and I can see patterns clearly. I have a shocking amount of students who cannot read, who cannot perform simple executive functions independently (tying shoes, writing their name, showering, dressing themselves, even bathroom use). They all also have smartphones that they use/access constantly with no screen time limits. They have no personal or unique interests, they are almost incapable of making even simple decisions. They look/act like zombies in TV shows before the hoarde gets disturbed.. just kind of sitting and staring blankly and existing. It's terrifying. Not to mention the fears of giving adolescents the technology... I see so many parents who won't let their kids do ANYTHING in the real world unsupervised but give them a smartphone and don't regulate their screen time or web access. I equate it to taking your kid to the Las Vegas strip, dropping them off, and saying "Bye honey, I'll pick you up in six hours!" BTW I used to live/work in Silicon Valley, and NONE of the tech elite will let their kids touch this stuff... which basically tells me everything I need to know.Top-level commentCited in: Young children given smartphones and unrestricted internet access
That every time a woman or couple announces that they’re pregnant, all I hear is “we had unprotected sex and he came inside me.”Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
MayonnaiseTop-level commentCited in: Mayonnaise
Indoctrinaging / initiating children into religion. Any religion, no matter how well-intended. The core ideal of western democracies is freedom of choice. But particularly the people who scream the loudest about personal liberties have no issues mutilating their children, telling them that people are lesser because they refuse to believe in fiction, or believe in the wrong one. Telling them they must behave a certain way or some nebulous entity will punish them for eternity. Telling them to reject scientific proof and go with 'a wizard did it' instead. You can't tell me this isn't damaging to children. In fact, this is no different than grooming (ever notice how many religious figures are also child molesters? It's the same MO.) I'm perfectly fine with an adult choosing a religion that is good for them. As with having sex, this should be an informed decisions made by empowered, mentally sound individuals, not telling kids it's okay for a child to be conceived without consent as long as a wizard does it and all the other weird stuff in the various holy texts.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Not following speed limits while driving.Top-level commentCited in: Not following speed limits while driving
Periods. Imagine a chronic illness where you bled all the time, are in pain and it even affects your mood. Like if it affected only 1% of the population, it would be considered a horrible illness that impacts your entire life. But we are just expected to function "normally"Top-level commentCited in: Periods
There's a religion quickly gaining popularity where I live and they practice child marriage I've seen old men walk around with what should be their daughter or even possibly granddaughter... but it's their wife Proof that everyone considers it normal: if you specify the religion on Reddit you'll probably catch a site ban for "hate"Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Social media following taking over as a form of “social credit,” as in there are large sub sects of people (in LA for example) who aren’t event interested in getting to know you past your social followingsTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Palm readers and other psychics.Top-level commentCited in: Palm readers and other psychics
It’s not really a secret but the boom of the right wing is really unsettling. And to people saying „I’m not a racist, I just think conservatism is more rational“ no you’re just a racist or dumb while supporting racistsTop-level commentCited in: It’s not really a secret but the boom of the right wing
Way too many people act like it's normal to believe in invisible sky fairies and think they're talking to or hearing from themTop-level commentCited in: Way too many people act like it's normal to believe in invisible
Toxic ro's being normalizedTop-level commentCited in: Toxic ro's being normalized
It’s disturbing how much of your information is publicly available when you buy a home. Within days of closing on your house you will start getting junk mail about refinancing offers, insurance offers, scammy notes about HELOC offers just to name a few of the crazy things. I don’t know why information about the type of mortgage, the name of my mortgage company, or even my own name should be publicly accessible. But we just treat it like a normal thing when people buy a house. I can see why some people buy homes through a trust to maintain some sort of privacyTop-level commentCited in: It’s disturbing how much of your information is publicly available when you
War. I feel like you can't even say you're against war. Oh, but what if everyone was a pacifist? Well then there'd be no war!! We need to spend just us much time and money on negotiation as on war.Top-level commentCited in: War
Growth of science deniersTop-level commentCited in: Growth of science deniers
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Advertisements, and the fact that we categorically know that they work. There just seems to be this complete disconnect for people, not realizing that they're being deliberately manipulated in all kinds of ways, and being completely fine with it. And then you have the even creepier stuff with things like late-night celebrity guests selling their shit, or conventions purely designed to sell merchandise, that people get really into. The whole consumerism cycle just kinda creeps me out.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
The constant use of algorithm censored words used in speech by younger people. Unalive, sewer slider, ahh etc. It's dystopic.Top-level commentCited in: The constant use of algorithm censored words used in speech by younger
That people you just met will flag you as suspicious cause they tried to social media stalk you and learn everything about you without ever having a conversation with you, but were unsuccessful because you don't have any personal accounts.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
How people behave online.Top-level commentCited in: People behave online
DJTTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Paving over huge swaths of our country so that people can drive vehicles wherever they want. Was that really the best solution to the transportation problem? And people seem very comfortable with the idea that roads and cars take priority over everything else; hurry up in that crosswalk so someone doesn’t mow you down!Top-level commentCited in: Paving over huge swaths of our country so that people can drive
President of the United States of America and his crimes.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Copyright law.Top-level commentCited in: Copyright law
Almost every country seems to be having a rising wave of extremist/facist ideologies and it seems the only way it will end is with end of globalizationTop-level commentCited in: Almost every country seems to be having a rising wave of extremist/facist
How much influencers are earningTop-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Cops killing people.Top-level commentCited in: Cops killing people
IsrealTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
PornTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Capitalism can only exist if there’s a poor class. The fact everyone just accepts this as normal and then blames poor people for their position should be the #1 answer. It won’t be tho, because then those same people would be forced to look inwards and challenge those beliefs and we all know that’s never fucking happening.ReplyCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Controversial- That we had a chance to overhaul our food, diet, stress and work/life balance but decided to slap ozempic on it vs actually fixing the core issue of WHY are people so overweight? Carrying so much stress in their bodies, why is healthy food so expensive and our cities car centric vs. walkable. While I understand it’s a life saving drug and has done great things there were a lot of convos about food, etc. that suddenly went quiet.Top-level commentCited in: Controversial- That we had a chance to overhaul our food, diet, stress
I agree. It doesn’t solve things, either—I’ve known 2 people who went on it and nothing changed because they didn’t change eating or exercise habits—and it’s not just that—the stress and cortisol and deep emotional issues and toxic food that CAUSE weight issues weren’t being addressed. And it’s conveniently going with this whole manufactured “skinny is IN again!” Fashion trend. I think it’s good to embrace & accept all body types while also encouraging a healthy lifestyle and dealing with emotional issues.ReplyCited in: Controversial- That we had a chance to overhaul our food, diet, stress
>actually fixing the core issue of WHY are people so overweight You had another achievable way of doing this, I take it?ReplyCited in: >actually fixing the core issue of WHY are people so overweight You
Working 40 years with never more than 1 week off at a timeTop-level commentCited in: Working 40 years with never more than 1 week off at a
a lot of husbands will leave their wives when the wife becomes sick with a terminal illness. Not so much if the husbands get sick though. Like, they even have people in the medical community to help women navigate their new found singlehood while also attending to their disease. It's pretty gnarly.Top-level commentCited in: A lot of husbands will leave their wives when the wife becomes
This one bugs me. There was a post recently where a husband was looking for validation because he wanted to leave his wife because she gained weight. The disturbing thing is he spun it in such a way the majority of comments were supporting him. There was a story on *This American Life* years ago about a woman who became blind after using eye drops that had been replaced in the factory with drain cleaner (a disgruntled employee did it). Her husband left her because it was too hard for him. 🙄 Just awful.ReplyCited in: This one bugs me
They need to do a wider study, to really suss this one out.ReplyCited in: They need to do a wider study, to really suss this one
It is deeply disturbing how accepting people are of pedophiles/rapists in the government. As long as a freak has a R behind their name, people are willing to accept their morally repugnant actions.Top-level commentCited in: It is deeply disturbing how accepting people are of pedophiles/rapists in the
Stagnation. A lot of people have no goals or are “content” which baffles my mindTop-level commentCited in: Stagnation
You disapprove of contentment? You don't want people to be happy with what they have?ReplyCited in: You disapprove of contentment
Wrong word choice. When they exist without goals. I don’t understand how people exist and complain about things but don’t take any action towards the things that bother them. I understand if there is a legitimate reason but some people complain and do nothing with it but claim they are happyReplyCited in: Wrong word choice
Ah ok. Good clarification. It bothers you when people are NOT content but take no action to improve their situation.ReplyCited in: Ah ok
Yes. Exactly. Like I don’t expect like everyone to be a published author but there has to be something we are working towards. Even if it’s like improving some situation or having a new experience. People need growth and changeReplyCited in: Stagnation
I mean, *everyone* can't be a successful published author, movie star, business owner, etc. Is it bad that at least some of the people who will only be "average" are genuinely ok with that?ReplyCited in: I mean, *everyone* can't be a successful published author, movie star, business
People can still learn and grow, through various routes. Even the poorest can read the odd book. Research shows viewing learning as a lifelong habit, reduces the risk of dementia. It’s an essential component in having a happy healthy life, particularly as we age. You don’t need to be rich to live your life with relish.ReplyCited in: People can still learn and grow, through various routes
You sound like a comic book supervillainReplyCited in: You sound like a comic book supervillain
I know exactly what you mean. I know a guy who is stable, but deeply unhappy all the time and all he does is stay at home complaining about anything and everything. Zero effort to actually change anything. It's a disturbing way of life that is pretty unimaginable to meReplyCited in: I know exactly what you mean
Insane rise and usage of AITop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Parasocial behavior.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
I will probably have to deal with advertisements for the rest of my lifeTop-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Having to work (normally) 5 days a week for the rest of your life with a handful of holiday days available. I've been unemployed for 12 months and the thought of working again is dreadful and I'm very young. I just can't imagine doing this for the rest of my life. I want to live my lifeTop-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
The fact that large portions of the car industry are making cars deliberately catered to insecure men and causing significant danger to EVERY OTHER ROAD USER. and it's just "fine" in addition to this just the acceptance of how people are hit injured or killed and there is minimal consequences if you're driving.Top-level commentCited in: Car dependence, road danger, and normalized traffic deaths
The normalization of hating your spouse. I work in retail and see it all the time. It makes me uncomfortable. Like, you guys chose to be with each other and seemingly hate one another. If you’re going to shit on your partner, especially to a stranger, you shouldn’t be partners.Top-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
People having ring cameras filming inside their homes.Top-level commentCited in: Loss of internet, location, and domestic privacy
Not saying shit directly to ones face. People nowadays seem to always talk in riddles, assume stuff, avoid blunt and direct conversations like the plague and ghost eachother.Top-level commentCited in: Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
Idolizing politicians (any of them)Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Prong and shock collars on dogsTop-level commentCited in: Harmful dog breeding and aversive collars
Lying. We all lie as humans but some people live a life of them.Top-level commentCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
People calling their pets their “sons” or “daughters”.Top-level commentCited in: People calling their pets their “sons” or “daughters”
Politicians fucking children.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Brigading to push people you don't like into committing suicide. I've seen a lot of people who say they are good people create entire discords to destroy the lives of people who didn't entirely agree with them. Last I heard of them, they doxxed a guy found on dating app and went to his place to beat him up...Top-level commentCited in: Online harassment, doxxing, and hate communities
Putting pictures and videos of children on the internet (anyone under 16).Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Just the way we all wait for the bus or train nowadays. A massive crowd of people, dead silent, just staring at their screens. Nobody is looking up. Everyone is physically there, but mentally logged out of reality. It straight up looks like a sci-fi movie about zombies, but we just call it a normal Tuesday.Top-level commentCited in: Phone use displacing attention and face-to-face presence
Circumcision. No need for it and it sounds awful.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Social mediaTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People posting pictures and videos of themselves and their children online for clicks/points/clout/attention. I'm of the age where we were seriously warned never to post our pictures on the internet. Now those of us who don't are the odd ones out.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
The Sherwin-Williams logo being an Earth covered in paint.Top-level commentCited in: The Sherwin-Williams logo being an Earth covered in paint
I don’t use it at all for school or writing. I had to do an academic integrity module about when you should and shouldn’t use it, but I personally don’t see the point in studying writing at a tertiary level if you’re using AI to do it. I get the ways it can be useful but if you want to be a writer you kinda have to know how to write. I’m a “mature” student which is probably a big factor, I already did all of my schooling without the joys of today’s tech. 😂Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
When people fuck everything up and people still want them to do stuff. Leave me alone if you know I'm gonna screw it up.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The sexualization of genuinely everything. It’s impossible to use social media without seeing semi-explicit content nowadays.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
It’s kind of sickening that it’s perfectly acceptable to just discard people like objects once you’re bored of them. It’s a crappy thing to do that isn’t talked about enough.Top-level commentRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
Social justice warrior type shiTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People sharing their location 24/7 with each other Opting to search for something on the Internet instead of asking a human in immediate reach who can give a 100% authoritative and helpful answer to resolve the questionTop-level commentCited in: Loss of internet, location, and domestic privacy
That half of women and girls and women are either sexually assaulted or experience domestic violence at some point in the United States and no one is doing anything to teach boys men not to use violence against women on a societal levelTop-level commentCited in: Half of women and girls and women are either sexually assaulted or
People not taking marriage seriously and using divorce like it’s a disposable do-over. And ridiculously priced weddings.Top-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
And normalizing shitting on your partner. I actually like the person I married sorry you don’t like yours.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
This has improved a LOT from the way it used to be, at least. The days of “take my wife… please” and resenting your spouse being so normalized that they were a standard punchline are thankfully long gone. People have the option to be married or not nowadays, for the most part, and usually to the partner of their choosing. I get it, though, spend lots of time in close proximity with anyone, and the gripes develop, regardless of how much you enjoy their company. But those are just gripes, and not actual animosity People who do nothing but yell at their partner and complain about every little thing just need to break up and move along. Thankfully, that kind of behavior is no longer normalized, except maybe in some seriously toxic social circles. Have really only known one couple like that in my adult life (and I’m in my 50s), and basically the rest of the friend group dumped them over it, was so tiresomeReplyCited in: This has improved a LOT from the way it used to be,
I’m a teacher and it’s like the number one thing women complain about - their husband or partner. I honestly stopped eating with people at lunch because it be like everyone bitch and when it came to me it’s not like I had nothing but it was stupid stuff like you said, like the stuff everyone gets on their nerves cause you live together. But their complaints were way more like “ok you need to just get divorced”. I have a friend at work who makes lots of comments about how my husband and I are codependent but she hasn’t talked to her bf she lives with in 6 months. Girl that’s called being broken up. If you haven’t talked in 6 months….your broken up.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Nah, it's better to split up and be legally free from a partner than being legally binded with an abuser in any way or someone who doesn't want to see you arrive home after a hard day.ReplyCited in: Nah, it's better to split up and be legally free from a
Divorce rates in the US peaked in 1980 (22.6/1000) and have been declining steadily since (14.4/1000 last year). Pew Research Center.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
What's the harm? They spend a few thousands on a wedding, then a bit more on a lawyer and it's all done. Nobody is getting hurt when people realize the marriage isn't working out.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
This is crazy. A lot of people choose wrong, but it doesn’t mean they go in thinking “ah well I can always divorce if it doesn’t work”. I find this to be a pretty presumptuous take. I’m not saying there aren’t people like who you’re talking about. I’m just saying I don’t think it’s been normalized.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Totally. I don't think most people get married with the intention of divorcing. But I'm so glad it's an option so people do not have to die, kill, or catch their partner cheating to get out of a marriage. It's weird how little people talk about how awful things were, especially for women, before no-fault divorce became the norm.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
People owning dogs with squished faces that can't breath because they think it's cute. Ive even met some vegans with these abominations.Top-level commentCited in: Harmful dog breeding and aversive collars
When you buy groceries, you're paying to stay alive, and other means of doing so are almost completely unavailable to the average modern person.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Being proud of one's ignorance, claiming you're fighting back against those snotty, snobby, more-intelligent-than-thou elotes.Top-level commentCited in: Ableism, mockery, and contempt for difference
Flock cameras and general surveillance cameras have become commonplace. We’re always being watched and nowadays not even by people but by AI. I think everyone’s way too okay with it.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Kissing your kids on the lipsTop-level commentCited in: Kissing children on the mouth
Gunna get flayed for this but being sexually aroused by your partner's pain. I understand consent, I understand kink and all the facets of the operational side of it. I just can't wrap my head around being aroused by it.Top-level commentCited in: Consent, pain, and sexual-kink boundaries
People will stick up for their friends, or stand up against other people for them, even if the friend is in the wrong or the other person is right, simply because they know their friend. It's something I've never done and refuse to be a part of.Top-level commentCited in: People will stick up for their friends, or stand up against other
I don't know about "disturbing" but I definitely can't understand how DoorDash and UberEats ever got as popular as they are. Paying $25 for a burrito is one thing, I guess, but complaining about it without an ounce of shame is just crazy to me.Top-level commentCited in: Expensive third-party food delivery as a default
Tiktok influencers and content creators as news sources.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
filming children and posting them on the internetTop-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Kissing your kids on the mouthTop-level commentCited in: Kissing children on the mouth
The masses hating on one nationality, ethnicity, or race just because their leader does something fucked. Yeah, it is normalised so much that the people that do it don't even realise.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
The comments on this post are quite interesting.Top-level commentCited in: The comments on this post are quite interesting
Cousin marriage. I live in Pakistan. Look up the rate of cousin marriage there.Top-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Donating our own time off to other employees when they need it. The companies can’t just give it to them because why?Top-level commentCited in: Donating our own time off to other employees when they need it
Que las personas pasen mas horas frente a un celular que comunicándose con personas, ya sea familiares, amigos, parejas, etc. Salir a pasear, ir a tomar un café o asistir a distintos ámbitos en donde ves a muchas personas mas pendientes del celular que de prestar atención a la persona que tienen en frente…Top-level commentCited in: Phone use displacing attention and face-to-face presence
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The fact that groups - whether school, college or electorate, constantly enable, encourage and give positions of power to terrible, morally compromised assholes with clear evidence of reprehensible behaviour. We like to think of it as an accident, as people being unaware, being brainwashed, or simply too poor/vulnerable to make any other decision, etc. But having constantly seen this behaviour even in low-stakes contexts, like alumni groups celebrating known predators while alienating the victims, out of no real benefit except their own personal entertainment, I'm starting to rethink the idea that most people are decent.Top-level commentCited in: Sexual abuse and exploitation of minors
Phone addiction. Honestly I can't judge too hard cause I use it a lot but it's so uncomfortable going to dinner or hanging out with someone and they are only half there with you cause they have to check their phone constantly.. even my mom does this to me lol.Top-level commentCited in: Phone use displacing attention and face-to-face presence
Housing for profitTop-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
the 5 day/40 hour work week and losing so much of our one human life to labourTop-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
Using aiTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Pregnancy and childbirth.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Sharing ludicrously personal and/or hygiene-related topics on the internet. This shit’s made you all waaaay too comfortable with oversharing fam! Keep some of that to yourself!Top-level commentCited in: Loss of internet, location, and domestic privacy
back in the 90s..life was fine without instantaneous messaging. Now it is a requirement to reply texts back asap.Top-level commentCited in: Phone use displacing attention and face-to-face presence
Factory farms.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
There are no more boundaries.Top-level commentCited in: There are no more boundaries
Everything being an ad. Like I’ll be on tik tok and every other scroll there’s that stupid orange cart sign at the bottom. Or I’ll go search for something like a hairstyle or outfit inspo and scroll through like 4 videos and then after that it’s just ad after ad after ad. And don’t get me started on streaming services. I’m already paying you $20, wdym I have to jump up and pay $32 just to not be bombarded by ads every time the scene changes ???Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Factory farming is just an endless ongoing atrocity that we all turn a blind eye to. We know what’s happening, we just try not to think about it.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Gambling. All forms but especially sports betting.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Continuing to partake in our destructive capitalist and fascist system and spiral into climate crisis while everyone goes on as business as usualTop-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
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People take their phone everywhere even the bathroom. Than if you clean your phone, your apparently a "clean freak". It disgusting what people are okay with.Top-level commentCited in: Phone use displacing attention and face-to-face presence
I don’t think there’s anything I uniquely find disturbing but I find the practices of the dairy, meat, egg, etc. industries very disturbing and most people just casually eat that stuff without a second thought.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Views and social media representations are everything to people.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
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The amount of advertising being pushed into our eyeballs all day every day ALL THE TIME and having to pay to NOT be advertised to!Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Tattoos. I have never understood why anyone would do that.Top-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
People filming strangers in public and posting them online for entertainment. Everyone acts like it is normal now, but it feels incredibly invasive.Top-level commentCited in: Filming strangers and publishing them without consent
The close to complete eradication of silence and boredom in our era. Historically, idle time and boredom were the crucibles for human thought. But in our era, we have these multi-billion dollar industries (engineered by the smartest minds on earth) just to ensure you never have to be alone with your own thoughts for a single second, and we are completely losing the capacity for stillness, and society just treats it as "staying entertained."Top-level commentCited in: The close to complete eradication of silence and boredom in our era
This is going to upset people - the outright and overt sexualisation of schoolgirls.Top-level commentCited in: Sexual abuse and exploitation of minors
The number of freedoms left in the USA. It is amazing much we have lost and disturbing that almost no one seems to notice or care.Top-level commentCited in: The number of freedoms left in the USA
General corporate/office talk pretending the world is always good. Main example: climate change. People in office settings act like its real kooky that theres yearly wildfires and it never snows anymore, when its just climate change. Also, pretending the economy is normal and AI is not gonna wreck a bunch of white collar jobs. Its a benign optimism that is so detached from reality its almost insulting.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
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Overfilled lipsTop-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
The climate.Top-level commentCited in: Climate and ecological damage treated as business as usual
Oh boy where would I start?? Let's just sum it up with mainstream morality and ethics.Top-level commentCited in: Oh boy where would I start
The effect of industrial civilisation on the natural world.Top-level commentCited in: Climate and ecological damage treated as business as usual
A sitting president is a felon and a rapist.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Person to person touching (either loving or just friendly), kissing especially lip to lip and french kissing still makes me nauseous to see. Why yes I am autistic. :'(Top-level commentCited in: Ableism, mockery, and contempt for difference
social media and their targeted algorithms. i find that people are getting highly radicalized because of it and its skewing their world view.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Our absolute reliance on cars, and how that’s brutalizing the environment as well as how we were meant to socialize in person, how communities used to be built, etc. We are ‘fine’ with it because no one alive has seen a day without them, but it’s one of the most unnatural aspects of the modern era and unsustainable in the long run. Horses, bikes, carts, wagons, solar powered anything that uses resources like wood and metal would be a better solution for humans in the future. Idk if we can come back from this historical curve, unfortunately.Top-level commentCited in: Car dependence, road danger, and normalized traffic deaths
Eating meatTop-level commentCited in: Eating meat
I’ve never heard a single cogent argument against veganism if one is capable of doing it. Sad!ReplyCited in: I’ve never heard a single cogent argument against veganism if one is
That we have a President who was convicted in a civil trial of raping a woman. And he was convicted in a State trial in NY state of financial fraud. And that he's mentioned over 5,000 times in the Epstein files. The Democrat Anthony Wiener resigned over sending some dick pics. Vice President Spiro Agnew resigned for accepting bribes. Prince Andrew lost his royal status for being mentioned in the Epstein files far less that the President. But Republicans crave having power so much that they refuse to hold him accountable. Life goes on like his behavior was totally normal.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Drinking alchohol, smoking cigarettes and taking other drugs including weed. The downsides are so well known by now and they hit your body, mind and finances. I don't get how someone could even risk getting addicted to shit like that with all the knowledge we have. The stark disregard for their own well being is on the same level as self harm with knives to me. If you start slitting your thighs or drink a neurotoxin just to feel a little better... deeply disturbing to me.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
The age of consent in my country is 16. When I was 15 hooking up with my 15 year old boyfriend I thought nothing of it. Now that I’m an adult, realising that **a 80 year old can legally have sex with a 16 year old** makes me feel a bit sick. There was also a period where regular, non pornographic, **newspapers in my country would count down the days until a girls 16th birthday**. Some girls were be paid to appear in these papers the day they turned 16, in underwear or less than underwear, to “celebrate” them being legal. **Often these photoshoots took place BEFORE their 16th birthday, so that they could be published ON the 16th birthday. This is obviously abusive and criminal.** Thankfully the UK ended up outlawing this practice in newspapers, but the low age of consent remains. **Possibly because the people who regulate these consent laws are the same people who benefit from an absurdly low age of consent?..** Quote / Source : [WikiMedia]([link removed] *“Before 2003, British tabloids sometimes featured* ***16- and 17-year-old girls as topless*** *models. \[-\] while the Daily Sport was even known to* ***count down the days*** *until it would feature a girl* ***topless on her 16th birthday***\*, as it did with Linsey Dawn McKenzie in 1994.”\*Top-level commentCited in: Sexual abuse and exploitation of minors
Circumcision, I despise my parents with every fiber of my being for what they had done to meTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
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People falling in love with AI characters and treating them like actual romantic partners. The underlying dystopian loneliness behind it gives me the creepsTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Yes. Don't let them make a decision that they can always change their minds about later and it will not have permanently changed anything about their bodies. But, by all means, let these same children decide that they were born in the wrong gender and do whatever is necessary to protect their "right" to choose to change it. Taking hormones for years, removing young female children's breasts or young men's penises is OK. But sprinkling their heads with water or submerging them in the same will cause irreparable harm. I'd suggest that maybe, just maybe if people looked at these issues with an open mind, they'd determine that CHILDREN likely have no idea what the consequences of such major decisions are or could be. Just my two cents. (And please note that I've said nothing about adults who make these decisions for themselves. Good, bad, ugly or indifferent, adults are entitled to make their own decisions for their own lives.)ReplyCited in: Transitioning kids
Surgery for trans kids is extremely, extremely rare, and I've never heard of bottom-half surgery done on a child who is trans and wasn't born intersex, at least not in the last 20yrs. (Awful shit happened in the mid-late 20C when a boy's circumcision was botched.) The only surgery for gender dysmorphia I've heard of done on under-18s (and this was only on 16 and 17 yo) is breast removal, but that's relatively not a big deal. If they change their mind later, they'll avail themselves of the same prosthetics used by women who've had a mastectomy due to cancer. The MtF teens I've heard of getting this surgery had also been out as trans for years, had large breasts, and had attempted or convinced therapists that they were a suicide risk if they didn't get the surgery ASAP. And I work in healthcare in a part of the country known for being trans-friendly. Most kids change their hair/clothes/pronouns, a moderate number do puberty blockers, and a vanishingly small number get surgery. (I also don't think there's any problem with kids getting baptized. I'm not trans and not baptized and have no kids to which either applies, so don't really have a horse in either race. I do think we need to be aware of media spin that tells us to foam at the mouth, though.)ReplyCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Religion in general. Every one is like lamest fucking fantasy tale ever yet people will *kill* over it. They all CLEARLY tools to control and extract wealth from the masses. The original capitalist pigs.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
People pretending LLMs are actual AI. They are not. Not even close. But everywhere I turn I see some dickhead preaching the end of days at the hands of “AI”. On that note, the way people are responding to LLMs now tells me we really are fucked when we make an actual AI. But thats not even fucking close to what we have now.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
What would you consider AI? For me current LLMs do fit what I consider artificial intelligence. They are artificial, and display intelligence. That's not to say they are in any way conscious or sentient, but these systems have clearly displayed the ability for intelligence (that is, understanding a novel problem and being capable of applying and adapting knowledge to find a solution)ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Eating something with your hands, and then touching your phone after without washing them. And vice versaTop-level commentCited in: Eating something with your hands, and then touching your phone after without
How common it is to get “something to relax you” during any sort of procedure. Why does every dentist I meet want to turn me off like a lightswitch.Top-level commentCited in: Common it is to get “something to relax you” during any sort
People who blow their noses and don't wash their hands.Top-level commentCited in: People who blow their noses and don't wash their hands
Nail filesTop-level commentCited in: Nail files
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People lining up an hour before school lets out (to pick their kids up 1 minute sooner?) but leaving their car running the whole time. Just spouting out poisonous gasses next to the elementary school playground at the height of the average kindergarteners lungs.Top-level commentCited in: People lining up an hour before school lets out (to pick their
Patriarchy.Top-level commentCited in: Patriarchy
The vast amounts of buy now pay later loans that younger generations are taking out.Top-level commentCited in: The vast amounts of buy now pay later loans that younger generations
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People marrying their cousins.Top-level commentCited in: People marrying their cousins
Trusting the system.Top-level commentCited in: Trusting the system
Addiction to entirely luck-based automated gambling systems. You wanna play Rock, Paper, Scissors with another human being? Ok, ya know, I get it. Go ahead. To a far lesser degree, card games like Poker. Sure it's still a huge amount of luck but you can work in psychology and math to vastly improve your odds of winning. And then there's the luck. Jut pure, dumb, simple luck. Zero skill, zero effort, just... luck. Slot machines come to mind right? Yeah that's the obvious one. But what about lottery? Another good example. Kinder Eggs. I know what you're thinking "Kinder Eggs are nothing like slot machines!" Aren't they? Get em while they're young. People today are exposed to countless variations of automated gambling systems before we even reach the legal age to gamble. Trading card games, random toy containers like Happy Meals and those little twisty-vendor things at Movie Theaters or Restaurants. From an extremely young age we are taught one thing. Gambling, and winning, feels good. Gambling, and losing, feels bad. But do you quit on a loss? NO! You keep at it. TV ads, peer pressure, personal desire, all of it drives us to keep trying. WE HAVE TO GET THAT ONE SPECIFIC TOY! And what does that turn into? A dependency on cheap thrills. It goes further! You like video games? Critical hits, random effects, etc... lootboxes and MTX, everything from paid DLC to the core mechanics of the game are designed to feed that thirst for the luck based win. It's destroying our society.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Replying 'you too' when the waiter says, 'Enjoy your meal.Top-level commentCited in: Replying 'you too' when the waiter says, 'Enjoy your meal
How the fact that most people are okay with tiny screens attached to their faces 24/7 doesn't strike them as the weirdest normalization in human history.Top-level commentCited in: The fact that most people are okay with tiny screens attached to
People doing FaceTime in an airport terminal when the plane was delayed … they thought it was acceptable but the rest of us …👀Top-level commentCited in: People doing FaceTime in an airport terminal when the plane was delayed
One thing that gets to me is realizing how many decisions in life are made by chance or luck rather than choice. Like meeting someone by accident who ends up changing everything. It feels unsettling when you think about the alternatives.Top-level commentCited in: One thing that gets to me is realizing how many decisions in
The fact that anime that sexualises kids is like widespread and normalised onlineTop-level commentCited in: Anime that sexualises kids is like widespread and normalised online
Highways, nobody thinks this way and maybe I'm too anxious but I just think it's so easy to die on a highway. Semi trucks, regular trucks, cars, all going at super high speeds. One small mistake can cost you and anyone who's in the car with you your lives.Top-level commentCited in: Highways, nobody thinks this way and maybe I'm too anxious but I
Trash talk or smacktalk and trolling in general. This is going to sound weird to most I know. But that fits the question- everyone else seems to accept it as normal. To me its deeply disturbing how common and accepted it is. I don't expect anyone reading this to understand, but to me its still just enjoying putting down other people. Like there is this idea of people having enjoyment from others getting mad or upset and thats just deeply disturbing to me. Now to be clear there is a difference in like non-serious casual insults between friends or siblings- because those are showing trust in the bond between both people to not truly be hurt by it. A sort of "I can insult you, because I know you won't care or believe me, and we both know we care for eachother." But that's not the type of behavior or interactions I'm talking about. I'm talking about people genuinely trying to get others upset for the thrill of it.Top-level commentCited in: Trash talk or smacktalk and trolling in general
The stock market. Like people really don't question things enough. Why does this obscure thing exist that isn't really taught in a direct way growing up, that is inaccessible by most people and basically seems to only exist to make rich people even more disgustingly rich. Delete it.Top-level commentCited in: The stock market
Being pregnant. Absolutely hell on earth and nobody seems to blink an eyes when they are pregnant…Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Sexy school girl outfits. Its more or less mainstream, but to me, it feels creepy.Top-level commentCited in: Sexy school girl outfits
Content creators. People who do nothing but describe their everyday meals and what they pack into their lunchbox, getting millions of viewers. People really are that sad and pathetic to watch this shit. It wouldn’t exist if not for the idiots consuming it.Top-level commentCited in: Content creators
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Circumcising infants The obsession with true crime media, and maybe to a lesser extent, those murder/cop shows.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Pledge of Allegiance, creepy.Top-level commentCited in: Pledge of Allegiance, creepy
Flock cameras.Top-level commentCited in: Public and AI-enabled surveillance
That we use land the size of china, usa, eu and australia to feed so many animals that for mammals 60% of the global biomass is cows and pigs pretty much. And almost half of the global deforestation is to feed these animals, 80% of deforestation in amazon. So it is the biggest cause of the ongoing mass extinction of wildlife. And we kill 90 billion land animals and trillions of sea life. And it releases more emissions than the whole transportation sector combined. All for something that doesn’t even provide us with much calories or protein. And in general isn’t good for our health. And then we have not even touched on the immense amount of suffering it is causing, while we post cute pictures of animals online and claim being an animal lover is a good thing. It has been compared to the holocaust by jews in concentration camps. But everyone is collectively ignoring it because we like the taste of animals.Top-level commentCited in: We use land the size of china, usa, eu and australia to
Toxic broken people being given or allowed to have positions of power and its like everyone acts like that is just the way it is. Adding that these people have obvious personality problems and antisocial tendencies that people ignore or are attracted to.Top-level commentCited in: Toxic broken people being given or allowed to have positions of power
The Authoritarian Surveillance State we’re living in, and how nobody cares about it. I don’t know which of either of those things I find more disturbing than the other.Top-level commentCited in: The Authoritarian Surveillance State we’re living in, and how nobody cares about
How things can go so bad, yet little changes truly happen.Top-level commentCited in: Things can go so bad, yet little changes truly happen
Children having social media accountsTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
I work in a hospital. 3/4 of the people I pass in the hallway are staring at their phones. I remember when it was a big deal to call your spouse at work. Now people are wandering up and down the halls, talking about, what ever. I worry we are going to evolve into beings that are permanently bent over, staring at our hand.Top-level commentCited in: I work in a hospital
Sportsbetting and the expansion of legalized gambling. The detrimental effect it’s having on society is immeasurable.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Watching television all the time.Top-level commentCited in: Watching television all the time
Capitalism, Trump, fascism, genocide, country music, Christianity. Not necessarily in that orderTop-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Texting and driving. Speeding.Top-level commentCited in: Texting and driving
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Birthdays.Top-level commentCited in: Birthdays
Every non-familial male-female relationship needs to be made romantic. Looking at young kids playing together and putting them into a relationship. Having your opposite sex co-worker being your "work spouse". In the US it doesn't seem like there are places where young boys and young girls understand that they can be friends without any romantic connection. This directly leads to older boys and men only relating to women as romantic partners or conquests, and women distrusting other women of platonic relationships with their romantic partners. It's a profound disservice to both men and women.Top-level commentCited in: Every non-familial male-female relationship needs to be made romantic
That so many people can not tell dissent and hostility apart. Our online algorithms are so good at filtering out all disagreement that we can't handle disagreement anymore.Top-level commentCited in: So many people can not tell dissent and hostility apart
Worshiping influencersTop-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
The fact that people think the AI is the most accurate source of informaiton.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Our use of single use plasticTop-level commentCited in: Consumer disposability and normalized waste
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That we happily give up the vast majority of our precious time on earth to work for some dumb company that uses and abuses us until we are too old to be able to comfortably enjoy the worldTop-level commentCited in: We happily give up the vast majority of our precious time on
Circumcision of boys in the US. Barbaric and fucked up.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Tickling. And not believing people when they beg you to stop tickling them. Even thinking about it makes my skin crawl. Every time I've gotten tickled as a child it has been an absolutely horrifying experienceTop-level commentCited in: Tickling
This is my experience with tickling, too. I never liked it, and the laughter does not mean I do when I’m literally begging for it to stop. It tickles, and I hate it. The laughter is involuntary. I once had to step in to stop my mom from tickling my nephew when he was asking her to stop when they were visiting at my house. No means no, and stop means stop, even coming from a six year old.ReplyCited in: This is my experience with tickling, too
Elf on a shelf or the Santa Cam. Seems a little creepy to tell your child they’re being watched constantly by a little doll that does naughty things dailyTop-level commentCited in: Public and AI-enabled surveillance
drinking milk. i love milk, but sometimes i think like "shit, im drinking some random cow fluid"Top-level commentCited in: Drinking milk
That people give the most precious thing they will ever have to strangers (use nurseries)Top-level commentCited in: People give the most precious thing they will ever have to strangers
Disposable "everything" when they don't biodegrade. Tooth brushes, synthetic fiber clothing, cartridge razors, [nearly all] shoes, nicotine vaporizers, etc.Top-level commentCited in: Disposable "everything" when they don't biodegrade
The fact that it's so normalized to post deeply personal and private conversations/information without consent online! Most AIO/AITA posts feel extremely gross and invasive but seemingly nobody questions itTop-level commentCited in: It's so normalized to post deeply personal and private conversations/information without consent
***Sometimes it's just the little things we overlook every day that feel a bit strange***Top-level commentCited in: Sometimes it's just the little things we overlook every day that feel
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Religion. Specifically, children being forced into religion.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Taking kids to breweries. Not because they are being exposed to drinking culture, but because their parents are drinking while taking care of them.Top-level commentCited in: Taking kids to breweries
And because other random strangers are also drinking around your childrenReplyCited in: And because other random strangers are also drinking around your children
People sharing their innermost thoughts and fears on the internet, NOT anonymously, without a second thought. People say things I'd hesitantly share with my best friends, but they blast it to the world for likes and hearts.Top-level commentCited in: People sharing their innermost thoughts and fears on the internet, NOT anonymously,
People glazing, defending, and acting in the interest of billionaires. Demonizing people who even remotely think that's higher tax, regulation on extreme wealth, and even changes to existing regulations.Top-level commentCited in: People glazing, defending, and acting in the interest of billionaires
Dancing on the graves of others. This past year alone has shown major examples of it across the entire political spectrum, from Charlie Kirk to Renee Good and Alex Pretti. We have become so deeply desensitized to death and suffering that people feel justified celebrating, mocking, or taking pleasure in another person’s pain or loss. We have stopped seeing life as something valuable in itself, and instead dehumanize people by reducing them to their beliefs, actions, or political affiliations. If you cannot offer sympathy or condolences, that’s not only okay, but understandable. The least we can do is refrain from demeaning someone in death. Even political figures have become callous and shameless in doing this. It’s fucking disturbing, and a reflection of how people have completely lost their sense of humanity.Top-level commentCited in: Dancing on the graves of others
Anal sex, not only is it physically nasty by inputting into the exit (yes I know you can clean, but still), but more so it's symbolically gross in that you're combining the procreative act with the excretory system. It also feels very disrespectful to the recipient.Top-level commentCited in: Anal sex, not only is it physically nasty by inputting into the
Why do you care if it's something others do and you can't see it. It's weird you think about it imoReplyCited in: Why do you care if it's something others do and you can't
>procreative act They're a religious nut.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Eating lots of animal partsTop-level commentCited in: Eating lots of animal parts
Women sharing their partners sexual activities with any woman who will listen. Frequently. That really, really grinds my gears.Top-level commentCited in: Women sharing their partners sexual activities with any woman who will listen
The ingredients in 90% of the grocery store.Top-level commentCited in: The ingredients in 90% of the grocery store
The concept of religion. It's not just that I don't believe in a god, I think the whole idea is completely crazy and disturbing.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Eating meat the mass slaughter of animalsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Ohh wow, that’s a long list where do I start lolTop-level commentCited in: Ohh wow, that’s a long list where do I start lol
life itselfTop-level commentCited in: Life itself
Children in influencer contentTop-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Single-use plasticTop-level commentCited in: Single-use plastic
The amount of alcohol people casually drink. Drinking at work functions included. It’s like it’s not a drug that destroys lives and has negative health effects.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
You are 3 days away from anarchy at any point in time. A quick shut-down of the grocery supply chain is all it takes.Top-level commentCited in: You are 3 days away from anarchy at any point in time
ELF ON THE SHELF. We tell children this creepy plastic demon is watching them and will tell Santa if they slip up, but then we celebrate when it slinks around the house at night and starts shit without repercussions. What kind of Stephen King nightmare fuel is that?Top-level commentCited in: ELF ON THE SHELF
Burying your dead. Wdym you let your beloved relative rot in the ground. Why wouldn't you give them a peaceful send off to scatter their mortal remains into oblivion, as is natural(?) Wdym you allow for the potential of a zombie apocalypse???Top-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
People giving their kids phones at an early age and allowing them access to the internet before they have a real concept of what that really means. That, and allowing kids to consume media materials that are WAY above what they should be. For example, I work retail, and I had a woman come up to my till to buy Berserk and Junjo Ito for a 7 year old.Top-level commentCited in: Young children given smartphones and unrestricted internet access
amatonormativity, heteronormativity, etc. i mean not everyone accepts it as normal, but much less than like: you don't own digital stuffTop-level commentCited in: Gender norms, heteronormativity, and compulsory couplehood
Religionen, Schuldgeld, Adel, KnechtschaftTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
People pretending that this life is normalTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
There's only roughly 1sqaur ft of rubber connecting your 2000lb car to the road and most people drive as if they've never considered the physics of the situation. Anyone can drive. Just get in the 2000lb car and weild it with unearned confidence, little skill, and often questionable tires, brakes, other equipment. If they've got the keys, they can drive endangering everyone on the road. Think of the average stupid person, then realize that half the population is dumber than that. They let the majority of these folks drive *legally*. But again anyone who can start a car can drive it, so you didn't have to have a license to do it. Keys are all you need. Other after if the equation is the remote control of cars. All the cameras they are putting in every car, and the kill switches. Double edged sword...Top-level commentCited in: Car dependence, road danger, and normalized traffic deaths
Seafood.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The entire social media obsession/ dependence & how horrible people & simple relationships have become. Everything seems fake, exactly derived from the fake virtual existence. Yet if you express not liking social media, people look at you strange. This might have become normal but it’s not healthy & the lack of self & societal awareness from the consequences is also very strange.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
AI . I don’t know why people take it as normal when is gonna replace us in the future.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
There's only a yellow line between you and instant death on the road. You and everyone else are going 50, that's 100 mph of force in a head on collision. Cars are mere feet, sometimes inches, from each other. Absolutely lunacy.Top-level commentCited in: Car dependence, road danger, and normalized traffic deaths
People making video content with their kids in it, and sometimes making the kids the main focus of the videoTop-level commentCited in: People making video content with their kids in it, and sometimes making
How many chickens humans kill every year. When you blink (100-150ms) ~370 chickens have been killed. (This does not include rooster chick culling)Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
How rude doctors and nurses are in the US medical system especially like large systems like Froedtert and Aurora.Top-level commentCited in: Healthcare disrespect and access failures
People say we live in democracy. And most of the few people who say that we don't are usually bat shit crazy. They feel there's something wrong or off but can't put their finger on it, then lend themselves to preposterous conspiracy theories. But the majority of people still seem to think that the systems in place just need a bit of fine-tuning or that the next governmental period will be better if the voting turns out a bit better / in their favour. Big corporate capitalism is so far up theirs that they seem to just have gotten used to it.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Flying with an airplane 😀Top-level commentCited in: Flying with an airplane 😀
ChatGPT afTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
HumanityTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
For me it's Female Teacher on student RAPE: I won't say everyone finds it normal BUT an awful lot of people do.Top-level commentCited in: Sexual abuse and exploitation of minors
evangélicos pregando em espaços públicosTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Marriage. Of course some people genuinely want it and live a beautiful life with it, but I think the majority of people are forcing themselves into it because of societal pressure, and they end up miserable of course. I think it’s just another power structure designed to control the masses and prevent us from being truly free.Top-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
We live in a society where it's ok to advertise products directly to children.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
circumcision on newbornsTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Eating animals and their secretions. Killing a living being for food that is unnecessary can never be humane.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Gossiping.Top-level commentCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
People taking pride in being poorTop-level commentCited in: People taking pride in being poor
Watching movies or reading books specifically to experience sadness.Top-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
Proud to have never used a third party delivery service ever in my life. In fact, the only delivery service I've ever used is pizza.ReplyCited in: Expensive third-party food delivery as a default
As someone in my 50's (who's spent a 30+ year career in IT).. I'm pretty impressed with the technology we have now. When I was growing up if you had some technology problem (given the archaic technology we had at the time).. you were largely fucked. If the thing you were trying to figure didn't have a paper manual or none of your friends knew what it was .. that was pretty much it. You just.. didn't figure it out. Stuff would pile up on shelves in your bedroom or garage because well.. it was just broken and no one knew what it was or how to figure it out. (or even cared) These days.. If I see some strange gadget online that I want. I can just order it and (often before it even arrives) I can ask Claude or ChatGPT to prep some documentation for it.. and in 5min or less I basically have every tip, advice or code-sample I could possibly want for that Device I hadn't even knew existed 1 hour prior. As a wild example of this.. I made a post on Reddit 7 years ago : [link removed] .. and just 10 days ago someone commented in that threat that they got that same CC186499u clock.. and ChatGPT helped them get it working in about 1 hour. So I mean,. sure.. LLM's may not be AI.. but they are still pretty impressive.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
> LLM's may not be AI LLMs absolutely are AI, that fool has no idea what he's talking about. They aren't AGI, but they're for damned sure AI. People just moved the goalposts once the Turing test became obsolete, and will keep moving the goalposts because they were never opposing this from a perspective of rationality in the first place.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Don't worry, half the people commenting here seem to beReplyCited in: Don't worry, half the people commenting here seem to be
You live in Alabama or something?ReplyCited in: You live in Alabama or something
People casually cutting others off in middle of conversation. "It's normal" "get used to it" it's rude and it's disturbing that people think it's normal to have 0 manners.Top-level commentCited in: Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
Lack of Internet privacy. People just post their faces, share their numbers, locations, etc... Tbf tech companies are really heavy handed about it getting your info now I don't know how you'd function without linking everything together anymore. Pretty scary if anyone bad is interested in you...Top-level commentCited in: Loss of internet, location, and domestic privacy
CircumcisionTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
That more than half the world (steadily decreasing, but still a majority) believes in some form of outright superstition, meaning all of us are daily put in the hands of people who shouldn't be trusted to make a judgment call on anything.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Circumcising babiesTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Eating animals.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
I just posted a rant about it as well. All the massive downsides, and people act like vegans are the problem for pointing it out. At least nowadays you can say it and not being downvoted to oblivion. But the fact that it isn’t on top kind of proves the point, it is so normal that majority doesn’t see the problem and agrees with it.ReplyCited in: I just posted a rant about it as well
It’s so weird that people are so good with this. They are happy to derail and attack the idea so much because deep down they know they are wrong and it is evil. I think in a couple hundred years people will look back at it with horror in the same way we do with other atrocities.ReplyCited in: It’s so weird that people are so good with this
Yep, eating animals is so normalized people don’t even see the evil of it. I think this is the ultimate answer to this question from OP. People arguing against you is literally just proving your point.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
Thanks! That’s what I was thinking. I used to eat meat, and then I got a dog. I realized dogs have thoughts and feelings, and I didn’t want to eat anything that seemed to have thoughts and feelings, if I had a choice. Which I do. So I don’t. I don’t usually say anything about it unless someone asks me a direct question, or the subject is brought up, as in this thread.ReplyCited in: Thanks
> I think in a couple hundred years people will look back at it with horror in the same way we do with other atrocities. Humans have been eating animals for as long as we've been around. We'll probably continue to do it until we're no longer around.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
Slaves used to be commonly accepted as well. It is also not socially accepted to eat some animals depending on country. Things change, and it isn’t like we lack the ability to grant animals their will to live.ReplyCited in: Slaves used to be commonly accepted as well
So have we been murdering and raping. Not exactly a good argumentReplyCited in: So have we been murdering and raping
I scrolled soo much hoping someone would says this and eventually searched comments. There’s a lot of other valid disturbing things in society, but no one even wants to think about this. How modern world treats animals fucking barbaric and depressingReplyCited in: I scrolled soo much hoping someone would says this and eventually searched
Eating functional alcoholicsReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Eating functional alcoholics while they drive and post pictures of their children on the internet with generative ai backgrounds and considering it to be healthy as opposed to functioning.ReplyCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Videos of animals being "rescued", and videos of children crying very hard. I know some other people share the same concerns, but most of the time, people upvote these videos. I'm not saying that ALL of them are instances of animals being intentionally abused or injured so that they can make a video of themselves "saving" the animal. I'm sure some, maybe most?, are real? Just the video coverage of some, and just the fact that as soon as they saw the dog on the side of the road wrapped up in duct tape like a mummy, their first thought was "before we help him, hand me my camera!" And why is the dog cowering in the corner afraid of you? It's just like that? Okay, I'm sure that happens but... Also, some of the kids seem afraid of the person holding the camera, I saw one baby flinch. I'm not saying all people are intentionally abusing kids to get upvotes of children crying, pretending to be a kind adult, asking them what's wrong with a soothing voice when seconds earlier they were yelling and hitting them... But I find it all disturbing. Sorry.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Babies being circumcised. 🇺🇲 I told my son's mother and her OB/GYN that I didn't think it was necessary and they looked at me like I bit the head off a dove. I legit felt like I failed to protect my kid in the first few days after he was born.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
That we have a pedophile at the helm of our government.Top-level commentCited in: We have a pedophile at the helm of our government
Meat. Helpless animals slaughtered when you have the choice to not eat themTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Eat animalsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
ConsumerismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The Jedi taking little kids from their parents to be trained in their cult.Top-level commentCited in: The Jedi taking little kids from their parents to be trained in
Using AI to write, think and make decisions for you. You realize you are training it to take your job while atrophying your mind and personality right?Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
starting rumours at work. like why??Top-level commentCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
Single use plastics.Top-level commentCited in: Climate and ecological damage treated as business as usual
AI usageTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
People seem to think using gloves to handle food automatically makes it safer nTop-level commentCited in: Food-service gloves mistaken for automatic hygiene
Religion. I just can't imagine allowing something with no evidence telling me how to live. It's really creepy too. Cultish and dumb.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Mocking complete strangers. I had this convo yrs ago, u never know what someone may be goin thru, or whos a blk belt or golden gloves person. Thank god For headphones, have a blessed weekend yallTop-level commentCited in: Ableism, mockery, and contempt for difference
People having so many kids.Top-level commentCited in: People having so many kids
How casually people accept animal suffering in factory farmingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Horse racing or any kind of animal exploitation for the excitement and entertainment of humans. Really disgusts meTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Every woman on Tinder has the same "wine", "coffee", "gym", "travel" personality.Top-level commentCited in: Every woman on Tinder has the same "wine", "coffee", "gym", "travel" personality
Tattoos and piercings are quite gross when you really think about themTop-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
Alcohol being required before people loosen up and have fun.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
The normalization of cannabis use, particularly overtly in public.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
like long LONG ass hour work weeks. it crazy what we can do for a buck. sad honestlyTop-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
Palestinians being butchered and we just get on with our day.Top-level commentCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
Being so obsessed with knowing what people have in their pants and using that to determine their role in society. Why is it that if I’m pregnant, the first thing you want to know is if my kid has a penis or a vagina? GrossTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
People's refusal to admit the dichotomy between their blind acceptance of the President's corruption and their anger at "government corruption."Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
The use of dogs in police activities. As drug searchers they are basically trained to reproduce their handlers' racial biases, and that's when the cop isn't outright commanding them to signal with no evidence. In non- drug search roles they are used to enact absolutely horrific violence. The county where I live has had numerous scandals about cops sicking dogs on people for no reason, with officers caught joking about mauling people with dogs for fun. But the average person sees a cop dog and still thinks "awww how cute! dog with a job!"Top-level commentCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
most of the animals we eat are farmed in hellish conditions and almost everyone ignores itTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Humans drinking cows milk (or any other animals milk). I can’t bare the thought of it.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
People who have to pay for oxygen cylinders in hospitals🤷🏾‍♂️Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Animal agriculture.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Eating animalsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
How about that we as a society decided that you get 2 days off for every 5 days of work from the day you start school until the day of retirement at (probably) old age?Top-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
That's if you even get to live that long. Am not even looking forward to it, at this point it feels easier to just drop dead at 60 and be done with itReplyCited in: That's if you even get to live that long
When people can speak English but they just have a foreign accent and people bitch that they can't speak English. Like, use your listening ears come on.Top-level commentCited in: Ableism, mockery, and contempt for difference
Baby corn. It gives me the heebie-jeebies.Top-level commentCited in: Baby corn
Late stage capitalismTop-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Roughly half of people cheat on their spouse or partner at some point but will talk down on people in open relationships.Top-level commentCited in: Roughly half of people cheat on their spouse or partner at some
Apparently? Tim Walz saying we shouldn't judge a child rapist by their worst day and defending him against being deported ( by pardoning him ) I know it's political and all and expect downvotes but I can't believe he did this and just learned about it. And my friends act like he didn't say what he said.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
How normalized social drinking is. Alcohol is a terrible thing.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Gun collectors. Not like hunting rifles.. Just collecting in general and obsession with them. It's designed to kill people, it's the leading cause of child death. Like why do you want to be affiliated with death like that?Top-level commentCited in: Gun collectors
Dogs, everywhereTop-level commentCited in: Dogs, everywhere
We have the resources to feed everyone and we just fucking don’t. Well, that probably wont be true in a few years but still.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Religious belief, or rather the acceptance of ancient belief systems and deities.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Drinking the breast milk of another animal when it’s not necessary for survival.Top-level commentCited in: Drinking the breast milk of another animal when it’s not necessary for
Eating and commodifying other animals.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Planet earthTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Le racisme décomplexé qui gagne du terrain en France, les gens ne réfléchissent plus et accuse l’immigration d’être à l’origine des maux du monde entier… Alors que le réchauffement climatique , le détournement, le fait que Schiappa détourne des fonds à destination de l’association Samuel Paty, le génocide Palestinien, la crise des loyer et la chute des établissements publiques… Pas de doute c’est de la faute des marocains qui viennent illégalement en France pour nous voler nos serviettes. Patrick LevalloisTop-level commentCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
Most sexual kinksTop-level commentCited in: Sexualization throughout everyday media and public life
Horror movies,I’m a wreck as it is!Top-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
SportTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Slasher FilmsTop-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
Reading smut in publicTop-level commentCited in: Sexualization throughout everyday media and public life
Video on the news where people die. Like plane crashes, or police body cam shootings. Theyake me physically ill.Top-level commentCited in: Filming strangers and publishing them without consent
spent six months consulting for a company that builds crowd-monitoring software, and the disturbing part wasn’t how accurately it could identify people, but how accurately it could predict what they would do next. The system could flag who was likely to panic, become violent, leave early, or follow the crowd before anything had actually happened. Everyone treated it like a normal analytics product, but watching strangers get reduced to probability scores never stopped feeling deeply wrong.Top-level commentCited in: Public and AI-enabled surveillance
Landfills. How people just casually send mountains of crap to another place, like it’s gonna disappear. Every day, every week the garbage truck takes it out of your sight. Mountains of it. Casually 🤢 Every. Single. Day. 🤢Top-level commentCited in: Climate and ecological damage treated as business as usual
Oversharing on social media.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Happening wars, inocent people dieing and we dont do nothing, and a lot of ppl taling trash about who try to do something.Top-level commentCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
Sorry what is it that you're trying to do exactly?ReplyCited in: Sorry what is it that you're trying to do exactly
Colour coding babies by gender.Top-level commentCited in: Gender norms, heteronormativity, and compulsory couplehood
simple boundaries being called/seen as ‘impolite’ as an autistic person i hate phone calls, my family always bothers me about how i never call them but call my friends all the time but it’s not the same at all since when i’m on call with them i’m expected to make ‘small talk’ and i never know when it’s my turn to speak it’s just stressful and annoying and boring - and when i’m on call with my friends we stay on call for 4-5 hours and we don’t need to speak all the time it’s like we’re in the same room we can just all do our different occupations but togetherTop-level commentCited in: Ableism, mockery, and contempt for difference
The way we interact with each other publicly. Being mean online, service workers ghosting people, sob stories, driving competitively instead of cooperating. People do this because it works and its reinforced. I dont see a way to break this cycleTop-level commentCited in: We interact with each other publicly
The way that gambling has infected every part of our lives. It wasn't enough to have physical casinos be where the gambling happens, there's got to be sports betting, and crypto betting, and online slots, and gotcha games, and now you can literally bet on anything with polymarket. Not to mention the constant ads that get pushed on every platform because of how lucrative online gambling platforms are, they just have endless money to throw around.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Staying inside a community just to hate someone. The idea of lolcows is absolutely wild to me. People spending hours, days, weeks, months nd even years within a community just to explicitly hate somebody. Like the whole thing with Pirate software. People would log in daily just to send him death threats like it was their morning coffee and saw nothing wrong with that. There's infighting in the wingsofredemption hate community that argue with eachother over the guy. Like, move the fuck on with your lives.Top-level commentCited in: Online harassment, doxxing, and hate communities
Not sure everyone seems to accept as totally normal, but it certainly seems to be accepted? Politicians - Theft - Steal your money through insider trading. You invest in company X, politicians profit by selling investments in company X. Stealing your money. It is straight up theft - Gerrymandering - Legal ways of cheating to ensure power is sustained - Super PACs - Unlimited sums of money to get elected to turn around and vote in favor of said investor, not the people they represent. - Lobbying - direct meetings with legislators to influence policy decisions based on their political interests and goals. Again, not representing the people. Politicians "retire" from politics and become big wigs at these corporations that they did favors for. The entire system is built around self interest and they are the people that make the rules that govern that system, so it will never change. It is a straight up financial racket that is an ongoing, organized, and illegal scheme used to consistently generate profits through fraud, extortion, or deception. How is any of this acceptable? Literal cheat code.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
The fact that such a huge portion of American voters are programmed to ignore every single candidate outside of the 2 mainstream political parties.Top-level commentCited in: Such a huge portion of American voters are programmed to ignore every
People asking "AI" for advice on anything and actually following it. Why would you accept advice from a chatbot? Let alone defend doing so when asked why? People have been panicking about technology harming people or "the next generation" for ever. But I can't deny getting a little nervous when people "ask" Chode™ for important decisions.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Posting your children's faces and milestones on social mediaTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Malaysia.Top-level commentCited in: Malaysia
AbortionTop-level commentCited in: Abortion
People living on the internet. People barely look up these days and there's a whole generation of kids who look at their real life as content for their online life.Top-level commentCited in: People living on the internet
Wanting to have children right now or any time in the future.Top-level commentCited in: Wanting to have children right now or any time in the future
Fleisch KonsumTop-level commentCited in: Fleisch Konsum
Casual sexTop-level commentCited in: Casual sex
Filming your children and putting the videos on the internet. When I was a kid my parents didn’t even let me film myself and put it on YouTube, I had to use my toys. Now parents are out there filming their kids for no reason other than viewer engagement and for everyone to see 😬Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
ChristianityTop-level commentCited in: Christianity
Influencers filming themselves crying. If your first instinct during a breakdown is to set up a camera, something has gone very wrong.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Singing the national anthem for pretty much all sports events.Top-level commentCited in: Singing the national anthem for pretty much all sports events
Being an super dedicated fan of celebrities or artistsTop-level commentCited in: Being an super dedicated fan of celebrities or artists
Religion. Billions of people are mass influenced by large scale cults and we aren't allowed to say anything critical or negative about it.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
The love of watching professional fighters. Yes, I get that it takes skill but how do people enjoy watching others in pain? Cock fights and dog fights are illegal, but it's fun to watch people beat the shit out of each other?Top-level commentCited in: The love of watching professional fighters
I'm vegetarian, and the idea of asking an animal to get born, live a probably miserable life, and be unceremoniously killed, just so you can put its dead body in your mouth because it's delicious, DEEPLY heebies my jeebies :( If you're able to maintain your cognitive dissonance enough to enjoy eating meat, congratulations; you're much tougher than me!Top-level commentCited in: I'm vegetarian, and the idea of asking an animal to get born,
I respect your care for animals, but I think you’ll find most meat eaters don’t feel cognitive dissonance over eating meat because they really just don’t care.ReplyCited in: I respect your care for animals, but I think you’ll find most
If they truly didn't care they wouldn't react with such extreme vitriol to veganism. People hate to be called out when they know they're doing something wrongReplyCited in: If they truly didn't care they wouldn't react with such extreme vitriol
The dairy and egg industry are still extremely fucked up though. There was an activist that said the worst sound he ever heard was a mother dairy cow bellowing as her baby was being taken away, which is a routine process in factory farms. That's only the tip of the iceberg.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
Yeah, I feel the same way about eggs and dairy.ReplyCited in: Yeah, I feel the same way about eggs and dairy
Dairy I've accepted is beyond my "if I feel too guilty to eat this, then I'll just never eat" threshold, so I'm holding on to that at least until the vegans figure out cheap, ubiquitous, properly textured cheese. Eggs are on thin ice; they're sufficiently annoying to avoid that I don't want to bother cutting them out entirely, but I have to look away when I prepare them myself because they kind of gross me out when they're raw. You can see the little blastocyst that would have become a chicken! 😭ReplyCited in: Dairy I've accepted is beyond my "if I feel too guilty to
I used to think like that as well, but you'd be surprised how easy it is to cut out eggs and dairy. My only regret is that I didn't do it earlier.ReplyCited in: I used to think like that as well, but you'd be surprised
I'll get there someday, I hope. 🥲ReplyCited in: I'll get there someday, I hope
Give it a shot for a week and see how you go, that's how I got started!ReplyCited in: Give it a shot for a week and see how you go,
I have lol most of my meals are incidentally vegan these days. But only most. I'm just not strong enough to live without cheese or read ingredient labels on even more groceries yet. It's a process. :)ReplyCited in: I have lol most of my meals are incidentally vegan these days
American propaganda machines. We're drowned in it. We're buried in it. It's almost impossible to tell truth from propaganda anymore. Most Americans alive today have never experienced a moment in life not saturated in propaganda. Most believe propaganda is only something "the other side" produces. Never considering for a moment that 90% of their own thoughts and beliefs were molded by propaganda.Top-level commentCited in: American propaganda machines
The idolization of pets (particularly dogs) over human life, especially over children. The open normalization of misanthropy in general is disturbingTop-level commentCited in: The idolization of pets (particularly dogs) over human life, especially over children
It is disturbing. Just look at how every time the question "what are you starting to like less as you get older" gets posted here, the answers saying "people" always manage to get so many upvotes and repetition like it's cool or something. It's almost like they glorify it too.ReplyCited in: It is disturbing
Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say they can’t watch movies in which animals are harmed or killed or have strong feelings about those things happening in real life, but they don’t care about humans being killed or harmed on screen or irl. Like…are you okay?ReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
I participate in a book club with my family and we had just finished reading a book where a 13 year old girl gets sold into sex slavery by her stepfather. After finishing our discussion of the book we landed on reading "Water for Elephants" which is about a circus with abused animals. Several members of my family stated how difficult this book would be to read. And when I reminded them what we had just read they replied by saying "but the animals are innocent." Like the 13 year old girl wasn't? I love my family, but in my mind, that was a disgusting statement.ReplyCited in: I participate in a book club with my family and we had
I see how the world is constructed. Not nature, but civilization. I see the structures, the machinery and the governance.... .... it's all improv. It's held together by duct tape, bubble gum and haywire. It works because we, on the whole, want it to work and aren't actively trying to break it. Yet.Top-level commentCited in: I see how the world is constructed
Every single thing can be (and often is) a commodity. Nowadays people seemingly more willing than ever to sell everything, and I do mean everything, they can sell. Sex tapes, pictures of their feet, smelly underwear, "girlfriend experience", you name it. I don't want to blame anyone here for their life choices, I just feel like there's no dignity left. People used to do things like that if they exhausted all the other options first. Now it's more like "Why even think about doing an honest job if you can sell yourself to some creep? It's easier and more profitable that way". And people believe. I'm so, so tired of that.Top-level commentCited in: Every single thing can be (and often is) a commodity
People doing dangerous shit as hobbies when they have kids, like the nutty putty cave guy and some of the bodies on Mount Everest. I just can’t comprehend putting your life at risk for fun, especially when you have children who depend on you. It seems like a lot of parents are into these thrill seeking adventures that get them killedTop-level commentCited in: People doing dangerous shit as hobbies when they have kids, like the
You know you can ask AI to give you their profile of yourself. Ask them for your age, financials, hobbies, etc. Scary. Long article in the NYT. Fascinating AI read.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The use of Flock Cameras in my town with no oversight, my movements are being sold to insurance companies and are stored in databases that are not secure enough to ensure any level of privacy.Top-level commentCited in: Public and AI-enabled surveillance
The way people treat matter and waste. Just because you can't see something anymore doesn't mean it's gone.Top-level commentCited in: People treat matter and waste
"TEMU is cheap." Yeah, in more ways than one, folks.Top-level commentCited in: TEMU is cheap
Having more than 3 children under the age of 18. Under any circumstances.Top-level commentCited in: Having more than 3 children under the age of 18
People believing in God and an afterlife. I understand how you can accept that as a child because you're constantly told about it, but as an adult I actually can't understand how other adults who I would generally regard as very intelligent believe that. Those ideas just seem completely insane and out of nowhere for me in terms of deriving from anything in our lived experience. The only way I can make sense of them is to conclude that people use them to manage their terror of death.Top-level commentCited in: People believing in God and an afterlife
IsraelTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
recording or taking pictures of others just to make fun of them. happens wayyy too much to meTop-level commentCited in: Recording or taking pictures of others just to make fun of them
How chill most people are with having someone who has the most trash, vile takes in their lives, just because they are friendly. “Oh yeah, that’s Bob. We play cards every weekend.” Meanwhile, Bob is a pedo/nazi/thinks black people are subhuman/etc.Top-level commentCited in: Chill most people are with having someone who has the most trash,
Smoking near non-smokersTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Clothes and lying. We should be naked to show and say the truth all the timeTop-level commentCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
Death itself. Human death. Yeah, we’re just animals, everything must end, what about evil people, yada yada, I get it. But I’m not an evil person, I try to help anyone I can help, I’ve not committed any crimes and I generally see other humans as my brothers and sisters. My wife, my children dying? I find our coming death at some unknown date and time completely unacceptable. Or that of my other loved ones. Humans have discovered truly mindblowing scientific knowledge and created awesome technologies. But systematically working on functional human immortality is considered total fringe science, a fool‘s errand because ultimately death comes for all of us, right? Brains fail, hearts fail, cancer eventually kills 100% of living beings, given enough time to mutate the trillions of cells in our body. I find that morally unacceptable. How much could we achieve as a species if we weren’t constrained by the fact we can only be productive for a few decades after two-three decades of growing up and getting educated, before our bodies and/or minds fail? Obviously, I would do anything legal to achieve that. Work for somebody for 100 years? Fuck yeah if that means I get to live another 1,000 or, hell, another 10,000 years. Eventually I’m gonna fall down some stairs or crash my space ship into a space rock, but to experience more than this short existence? It’s worth basically any price, except harming others of course. My hunch is, biologically we won’t be able to achieve anything like functional immortality for hundreds of years if ever, so my best bet is we‘ll eventually be able to upload our consciousness and memories to an artificial construct. Not the same, but certainly more promising than being stuck in a failing old body. I find it incredibly frustrating to live in a world where there’s no such thing as an human lifespan expanding moonshot program with hundreds of thousands or millions of people working on that instead of fucking creating TikTok videos or waging war or producing harmful things which hurt other humans.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Death is the most insulting thing in existence and I resent the mainstream death cult with their "death is what gives life meaning" propaganda. If you haven't already, I highly recommend playing Talos Principle (especially 2), it's the only media I'm aware of that does exactly the opposite.ReplyCited in: Death is the most insulting thing in existence and I resent the
Kids under 15 with completely unmonitored cell phones and social media. How easily kids can get access to pornography and gambling is also concerning. I work in mental and behavioral health and the addictions I see kids forming with gatcha games and blind boxes very eerily mirror the adults I've worked with addicted to casinos.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Electing to permanently alter your child's genitalia because you think it looks better. Or to show devotion to god or whatever which is just weird in and of itself when it's forced upon someone who can't make that decision for themselves yet.Top-level commentCited in: Electing to permanently alter your child's genitalia because you think it looks
Girls that can be bought by money.Top-level commentCited in: Girls that can be bought by money
The amount of people who think their level of drinking is normal. I don’t drink except maybe twice a year I’ll have a glass of wine. I live in Wisconsin (near Milwaukee). Alcohol is engraved in everything here. So many people use it as a crutch and excuse for everything they do. It’s on par with people being total assholes and saying it’s ok because they’re Christian. It’s especially bad on dating apps. I ask women out for coffee/tea. So many find this offensive. One woman said if I couldn’t drink her under the table we’d never work. She’s absolutely right because I’d never come to the bar to begin with.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
People posting others on social media to make fun of their outfits. Not only are these people typically minding their business, they aren't bothering anyone. Taking a covert picture to roast them on social media for thousands of views, to me, feels mean and bullying.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
getting infected with and spreading COVIDTop-level commentCited in: Getting infected with and spreading COVID
Religious people. I find them genuinely disturbing. I question their sanity, believing in a magical sky daddy, and gathering by the dozens or thousands to faithfully worship. The televised nut jobs with the people fainting too... legit scary. These people are in lines with us and sitting next to us in restaurants. They babysit your kids, and teach them at school. They take up votes, and are our political leaders. I feel surrounded by idiots.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Mr Peanut.Top-level commentCited in: Mr Peanut
So many people think that just because they don't understand something, it's unknowable. And those idiots *vote*.Top-level commentCited in: So many people think that just because they don't understand something, it's
Lawns.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Any kinda SA in movies/cinemaTop-level commentCited in: Any kinda SA in movies/cinema
Murder, assaults, and sex crimes. Tens of millions every year. It ruins the rest of us to even have to live amongst such statistics, I honestly think we need to start euthanising people instead of imprisonment. Might make idiots contemplating these acts think twice - harm someone and you get a needle.Top-level commentCited in: Murder, assaults, and sex crimes
Casual sex, dating apps etc. It's like a meat market and makes me very uncomfortable.Top-level commentCited in: Casual sex, dating apps etc
People who post their kids online, ESPECIALLY knowing why their traffic goes up when they post themTop-level commentCited in: People who post their kids online, ESPECIALLY knowing why their traffic goes
How much the US incentivizes and promotes sociopathic traits in business and politicsTop-level commentCited in: Much the US incentivizes and promotes sociopathic traits in business and politics
The need to ask me how my day is going.Top-level commentCited in: The need to ask me how my day is going
The 40 hour work weekTop-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
Urinals, especially near big mirrors over sinks. Why are you 10 feet away from me with your dick out, and why is there a risk that if I look at the mirror above the sink I'm using wrong I'll see it?Top-level commentCited in: Urinals, especially near big mirrors over sinks
Why Walmart is so cheap.Top-level commentCited in: Why Walmart is so cheap
Consumption of microplastics.Top-level commentCited in: Consumption of microplastics
A lieing presidentTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
People pissing in public pools!!!Top-level commentCited in: People pissing in public pools
That social conversations are practically impossible if you are chronically offline. I allow myself only 15-30 minutes a day with social media for my mental health, I felt better cutting myself off and I will keep it that way. But now it is near impossible to have conversations with people when it is always "twitter this" "new meme that" "tiktik now" "youtuber this week", having a conversation not revolving social media makes other people bored or uncomfortable even. Can't even go grilling hot dogs in the forest without someone checking their tiktok every 10 minutes. It feels disconnecting in a strange scary way, like watching addiction but it's the new norm.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The fact that squids have beaks.Top-level commentCited in: Squids have beaks
State lotteries when gambling is pretty bad habit and often illegal. It’s crazyTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
True crime contentTop-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
The the lines representing strength of economy and quality of life are on the whole radically divergent.Top-level commentCited in: The the lines representing strength of economy and quality of life are
How connected everyone is to everything due to the internet. Its strange. As a kid, I was a loser who was never in the know of anything trendy or topical. Whenever I tried to talk about whatever show, anime, or whatever I saw on TV, I get informed by others that Im lagging behind. So when I got access to the internet and able to do my own research, find out info at the same time orvfaster than others, I was delighted! Sure I also stopped talling to real people, but that was because now the shoes on the other foot: they are the ines lagging behind while I'm only interested in talking with like-minded individuals on the same level as me. Of course thats when I was a tween. Now as an adult, while I'm still as glued to the internet as before I'm also a lot more aware that kids are too. Lil babies as young as 3 or 4 with their moms cellphone or even their own huge ipad, watching videos or playing games. Connected instantly to whatever catches their attention for a moment. And thats not strange, that's _normal_. Like sure, you can definitely find parents who will decry this and swear they'll never let their kids have a cellphone until they're an adult. That's cool. I can find x10 more who dont care and will make sure they can contavt their kid whenever, wherever, even if that means their kid is doomscrolling TikTok for most of the day. Not to mention most form of media these days are going online. People still have TV sure but they use livestreaming instead of regularly scheduled channels. Businesses have apps, facebook accounts, or their own websites to advertise and offer their services. Most time you want to reserve an appointment or apply for a job you'll be directed to a website. When a teacher asks you to write an essay or paper, do they expect MLA formatting and a word doc, or do they expect you to have good handwriting and lined paper? This is progress. As a child, this is what I wanted. As an adult I cant say I hate it. But it does feel strange, knowing that my children will face issues as a youth that I still have to grapple with now.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Friends sharing theyre location constantly. I get it can be a safety thing but people knowing exactly where you are 24/7 weirds me out.Top-level commentCited in: Friends sharing theyre location constantly
Current politics.Top-level commentCited in: Current politics
RoadkillTop-level commentCited in: Roadkill
dying from "natural causes" (AKA scared and in pain and powerless about your own body; i'd rather just go out on my own terms willingly when it's time)Top-level commentCited in: Dying from "natural causes" (AKA scared and in pain and powerless about
MeatTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
La stanza 101Top-level commentCited in: La stanza 101
blackpinkTop-level commentCited in: Blackpink
People voting with the intention of harming others. It signifies a decline in civilization and its growth leads to corruption and dismantling of society and democracy.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Crabs are just gigantic spiders that can swim.Top-level commentCited in: Crabs are just gigantic spiders that can swim
While not necessarily something everyone else accepts as normal, I feel compelled to say it anyway: The way rich and powerful people can clearly get away with doing harmful or criminal activities. Trump is the obvious example, but it's way more widespread than that. Near enough everyone agrees and hates that money and influence let you ignore the rules and cause suffering with no/minimal consequence, yet nothing gets done about it. I know I'm part of the very problem I'm bemoaning here when I'm just posting about it on reddit rather than being out there, throwing bricks or running for office, but my implicit point is that the systems and people operating the systems should be the ones holding the rich and powerful accountable, not mobs, random vigilantes or bored redditors.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
US healthcare systemTop-level commentCited in: US healthcare system
Urinating in the shower and/or pool.Top-level commentCited in: Urinating in the shower and/or pool
What unsettles me is how marriage often seems to erase the individual. Before marriage, people are seen as complete, independent people with their own identities, interests, and lives. Then suddenly everything becomes “we.” Every decision, invitation, hobby, and accomplishment is filtered through the couple. It’s as if being an individual stops mattering once you’re married. I understand partnership, but I’ve never understood why it so often comes at the expense of a person’s separate identity.Top-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Gun culture in America. I don't really think there's a single argument I've heard in support of it that justifies how much needless death has been caused through it, but it's the glorification and worshipping of guns as an important "American" thing that I find really, really disgusting.Top-level commentCited in: Gun culture in America
HRTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The profit motive.Top-level commentCited in: The profit motive
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The government systemically starving and killing its citizens without much protestTop-level commentCited in: The government systemically starving and killing its citizens without much protest
People are really, really, really into public surveillance. People pretend to complain about Flock cameras, while publicly recording private citizens. They intentionally don't blur people out because they want to let their sponsors know who is going where, what time, what they're wearing, what demographics, etc. They sell people out while claiming that surveillance is bad for private citizens.Top-level commentCited in: Public and AI-enabled surveillance
Taking children to churches. Indoctrination.Top-level commentCited in: Taking children to churches
Social hierarchy People just letting others get away with whatever cuz of higher position in society and harming those below them for no reason other than a made up hierarchy.Top-level commentCited in: Social hierarchy People just letting others get away with whatever cuz of
Children ferociously chasing birds and scaring them while parents completely ignore the situation. How did inducing fear become a human right?Top-level commentCited in: Children ferociously chasing birds and scaring them while parents completely ignore the
Beauty pageants for kids . I think it’s weird tbh and the whole makeup and everything is weird to me and very exploitative. Maybe it’s because of my own personal trauma but I find it oddTop-level commentCited in: Beauty pageants for kids
Breeding dogs and catsTop-level commentCited in: Breeding dogs and cats
Talking to technology and subsequent AI use. I won't even use voice assistants like Siri or Alexa, I think it's really weird to ask them something that is easily searched for yourself. They always push that it is easier to use voice search but it messes up constantly, it doesn't save any time. Now people talk to AI bots instead of people, they blatantly believe anything AI tells them rather search for themselves and seeing actual Google resultsTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Advertising, everywhere, constantly. Marketing tactics in general, consumerism and planned obsolescence.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
The disconnect between people (due in part to technology) and the resulting loneliness epidemic.Top-level commentCited in: The disconnect between people (due in part to technology) and the resulting
I would say the textile industry. Over exploited workers in countries and places rarely anyone visits all so people can wear something a handful of times and then chuck it. I feel like it ties into tourism too, where if you go to Ireland or Canada or wherever else and buy a hat or jumper, it's likely made in china, Vietnam, Nepal, Indonesia. Idk man, maybe I find the whole world deeply disturbing 🥲Top-level commentCited in: I would say the textile industry
The level of corruption in our governmentsTop-level commentCited in: The level of corruption in our governments
Surprised no one is talking about the steadily decreasing level of trust in science.Top-level commentCited in: Surprised no one is talking about the steadily decreasing level of trust
Beauty pageants for twelve year oldsTop-level commentCited in: Beauty pageants for twelve year olds
Dogs everywhere. It started with craft beers patios then all patios then farmers markets and museum and everywhere. I love dogs...im also allergic to them. I dont want someone's random dog running all over me while im trying to eat pancakes or slobbering on my clothes giving me hives. Why must people take their dogs everywhere??Top-level commentCited in: Dogs everywhere
The amount of people that would rather take the time to film, edit, & post a tiktok to ask a simple question instead of just looking it up themselves. And I know a lot of them do it for engagement, but some of these accounts I see doing this barely have any followers or views.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The stock market and how society ascribes value. People seem to think that making money is the be all end all, but what for? We don't even bother with the philosophical discourse of what it means to be human anymore, we only tend to focus on the negative of "that's not it" while we all pump every penny we make into "it".Top-level commentCited in: The stock market and how society ascribes value
The complete removal of physical privacy. Digital privacy was gone long ago (only worse now,) now it’s the point where you go anywhere public and you can expect to have your face identified and likely stored in a database, constantly recorded and monitored, having signals interact with your phone to identify your shopping habits. It’s so over for privacy. I’m a huge OPSEC advocate, but god damn for the average joe it’s just terrible considering most don’t know much OPSECTop-level commentCited in: The complete removal of physical privacy
I’m so concerned with the junk that kids watch on YouTube. I’m convinced it’s doing harm to their mental development. They can sit for hours and stare at people making tea or silly “art”. There’s no talking. There’s no story line or purpose. Just brain rot. It’s ruining their concentration and I don’t know why or how. Other than to just keep them engaged with the app. I feel like in years to come people will go - oh woops that wasn’t good. But for now everyone just seems happy that kids are out of their way and staying quietTop-level commentCited in: I’m so concerned with the junk that kids watch on YouTube
Driving. There’s so much blind faith that not a single driver is gonna start raging out or just make a fatal error. Especially on roads with no dividers. I’m just supposed to hope the driver on the opposite side won’t just swerve into my side?? Fuck thatTop-level commentCited in: Driving
Excessive parking and strip mallsTop-level commentCited in: Excessive parking and strip malls
So much important content being linked to one phone number/email addressTop-level commentCited in: So much important content being linked to one phone number/email address
The fact that multiple governments, multiple corporations pass our information around like Pokémon cards, and next thing you know it, you run the risk of annoying spam calls and identity theft. And also age verification asking for a video of you or your ID. It's weird.Top-level commentCited in: Multiple governments, multiple corporations pass our information around like Pokémon cards, and
Those videos on youtube for kids that are extremely bizarre. But have hundreds of millions of viewsTop-level commentCited in: Those videos on youtube for kids that are extremely bizarre
The constant need to say "I'm gonna kill myself" as a joke or a frustration to a minor inconvenience. I feel it really downplays the severity of suicide.Top-level commentCited in: The constant need to say "I'm gonna kill myself" as a joke
The obsession with political figures. Left or right it doesn’t matters. They are both parasites and the pathetic people who live on their knees for them makes me sickTop-level commentCited in: The obsession with political figures
Throwing cigarette butts everywhereTop-level commentCited in: Throwing cigarette butts everywhere
This is a botTop-level commentCited in: This is a bot
Religion.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
The growing acceptance of communism, and the inevitability of what always rises against communism.Top-level commentCited in: The growing acceptance of communism, and the inevitability of what always rises
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Romantic partnerships. They seem to be all about "pick your battles" which means, instead of deciding things logically, you instead have to give in to other people emotions.Top-level commentCited in: Romantic partnerships
Then you're doing relationships wrongReplyCited in: Then you're doing relationships wrong
Speeding or otherwise aggressive driving. I know, I saw Tokyo Drift too, but you suck at driving. Some of us don't want to be a part of you envedour to tie yourself in a knot around a tree.Top-level commentCited in: Speeding or otherwise aggressive driving
No universal healthcareTop-level commentCited in: No universal healthcare
A child being spoiledTop-level commentCited in: A child being spoiled
Almost all broadcasters and journalist are starting their sentences with a loud lip smack. CringeTop-level commentCited in: Almost all broadcasters and journalist are starting their sentences with a loud
People having the ability to know anything and everyone about their favorite hobby/personal interest but are completely disinterested in the state of politics and the world. You may **not** care about politics but politics **cares** about you.Top-level commentCited in: People having the ability to know anything and everyone about their favorite
Following celebrities and/or influencers.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
I’m a 52f, and I find the obsession with looks and normalized use of plastic surgery and other cosmetic procedures to be quite disturbing. In my office it’s normal now for the women around 40 or younger to have Botox and fillers. I find it disfiguring. The duck lips, puffy cheeks and shiny foreheads look bizarre to me. Why can’t we normalize the aging process? It’s normal! As a girl mom and grandmother of baby girl twins, I don’t want to look like I’m 20! I take care of myself, but I think women who cling to their youth or worse yet, try to compete with their daughters for attention, look desperate and have a mental issue. If women would put more effort into the beauty of their souls instead of their face, the world would be a better place. Your body was created to decay, but your soul was created to be eternal.Top-level commentCited in: I’m a 52f, and I find the obsession with looks and normalized
Blood sports like the UFCTop-level commentCited in: Blood sports like the UFC
I have a 4 yo sister, and every time I see her she's on her tablet. And that's the same parents who didn't let me get a phone for 16 years. The sudden shift in society to get everyone a device is annoying. And trusting ai for everything. Ai searching is best for finding sources, but you need to read those sources to actually get correct info. I've had way too many people say "it's ai so ofc it's right"Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
How much we are taxed in the United States. Especially if you're self employed. You've got Income taxes: Self Employment tax, Fed Income Tax, State & Local Tax, state entity/franchise/etc taxes. Next you've got consumption taxes: Sales & use Taxes, Excise & embedded taxes. After that, Asset Taxes: Property taxes, Personal property taxes. Capital Gains & Investment taxes, estate taxes. This shit is exhausting.Top-level commentCited in: Much we are taxed in the United States
Come to Norway. Here you would pay the double. But you would have free healthcare, education, social security, one month holidays every year, 1.5 years off if you have a child. But that would be communism, right?ReplyCited in: Come to Norway
I dream of this.ReplyCited in: I dream of this
Oh boy, sign me up!!ReplyCited in: Oh boy, sign me up
\> How much taxed we are \> in the United States Come on manReplyCited in: \> How much taxed we are \> in the United States Come
My bad, I should have mentioned the lack of safety net. I would absolutely happily pay more taxes for Universal healthcare, retirement, education, better workers rights, etc. Instead we get... Well, you see the show on the news what we get. On top of that, we get the privilege to pay corps exorbitant profits and all the middle men's along the way. I'm ready to call it a wrap on capitalism.ReplyCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Oh, yeah, sureReplyCited in: Oh, yeah, sure
Advertising. It blows me away that most of y'all are raw dogging ads every day without even an ad blocker. How are you ok with billionaires trying to manipulate your children? I can't comprehend how you could have 50 sales pitches thrown in your face every day without wanting to burn this society to the fucking ground.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
People in supposedly happy relationships drooling over other people.Top-level commentCited in: People in supposedly happy relationships drooling over other people
Social media.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
SurrogacyTop-level commentCited in: Surrogacy
"Deeply disturbing" is strong, but I cannot FATHOM why anyone would cut down a beautiful pine tree and hoist its carcass into their living room to celebrate the birth of a whitewashed man who died 2,000 years ago. Christmas trees are a literal FIRE HAZARD and everyone's just... OK with it (in the states at least).Top-level commentCited in: Deeply disturbing" is strong, but I cannot FATHOM why anyone would cut
Israel committing a g3n0c1d3…Top-level commentCited in: Israel committing a g3n0c1d3…
Say it with your chest. ISRAEL AND ITS PROXIES ARE COMMITTING Q GENOCIDE.ReplyCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
CicumcisionTop-level commentCited in: Cicumcision
The dehumanising and calls for and celebration for murder of politcal figures on Reddit. And then the mocking of victims wives. Just sick.Top-level commentCited in: The dehumanising and calls for and celebration for murder of politcal figures
Eating animals. Obviously.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Eating and using animal products.Top-level commentCited in: Eating and using animal products
Whats interesting about this take and the current decision in England, is that you're forcing trans men into your bathrooms. You're going to feel more comfortable with someone that looks (and is) male walking into your bathroom? Doesn't that make it easier for cis men to walk in and just say they were born female and have to be there?ReplyCited in: Whats interesting about this take and the current decision in England, is
Hey hey hey, trans men don’t exist because that undermines their goal of controlling women!ReplyCited in: Hey hey hey, trans men don’t exist because that undermines their goal
On Reddit, up is down, black is white, normal is abnormal.ReplyCited in: On Reddit, up is down, black is white, normal is abnormal
Do you have segregation in your bathrooms at home? Don’t we all come from unisex bathrooms? This policy of yours only hurts actual women. How do they prove they’re a woman? You gonna let some random creeps grope them to check?ReplyCited in: Do you have segregation in your bathrooms at home
This fucking presidencyTop-level commentCited in: This fucking presidency
Trying to make small talk with me. Or just speaking to me in general. Or even looking at me.Top-level commentCited in: Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
How casual drug use is in society (especially here in Ireland). You’re different if you don’t take drugs and it blows my mindTop-level commentCited in: Casual drug use is in society (especially here in Ireland)
Eating animalsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
How fuckin strangely cool we all seem to be with violence against ourselves and eachother, but clutch our collective pearls about sex and sexuality.Top-level commentCited in: Fuckin strangely cool we all seem to be with violence against ourselves
eating animals, wearing them, using them for entertaining, hunting themTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Having to put in a separate code from a separate app after logging into a website with my email or username and password.Top-level commentCited in: Having to put in a separate code from a separate app after
Work 40 hours your whole LifeTop-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
In many countries, people don’t wash themselves after they defecate. They’ll solely use toilet paper and ignore the fact that part of their body is contaminated with feces because it’s socially acceptable. Bidets should be the norm.Top-level commentCited in: In many countries, people don’t wash themselves after they defecate
Slot machines at casinosTop-level commentCited in: Slot machines at casinos
I just saw my first Ozempic street deal.Top-level commentCited in: I just saw my first Ozempic street deal
The fact we live and then just die.Top-level commentCited in: The fact we live and then just die
That our workplaces are little authoritarian fiefdoms & we all just accept that it's normal. That we think people are inherently greedy. Which we're told is the truth by greedy people who I'm sure wouldn't ever lie. That we accept getting screwed over as long as "it's just business"Top-level commentCited in: Our workplaces are little authoritarian fiefdoms & we all just accept that
when sports parents gossip about other kidsTop-level commentCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
ChildrenTop-level commentCited in: Children
Pedophile leaders, judges and cops.Top-level commentCited in: Pedophile leaders, judges and cops
Children in breweries and how common it seems to beTop-level commentCited in: Children in breweries and how common it seems to be
Obnoxious passive aggressive toxic corporate managers. I always call them out in real time. I find it sickening how people are ok with bullying, pressure tactics especially from wimpy geeks. Ref: 25+ years as an IT consultant PS Good management can’t be praised enough 🙏Top-level commentCited in: Obnoxious passive aggressive toxic corporate managers
Being so obsessed with money. You need a certain amount to live but where's the point when you've got enough.Top-level commentCited in: Being so obsessed with money
Our political realityTop-level commentCited in: Our political reality
InfluencersTop-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
How out of control doxxing is on social media. Someone's bad day is filmed and within an hour people on TikTok or Instagram have contacted their workplace and their families. Sometimes it's "justified" like when someone is super racist or violent towards someone else but I've seen it happen over totally benign arguments. It's really scary to think one day I might lose my cool at the wrong moment and next thing I know my life is ruined and forever I will deal with strangers harassing me periodically if the video goes viral multiple times.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Using ChatGPTTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Eating meatTop-level commentCited in: Eating meat
Egomaniacal narcissism. It's a mental illness. It's also prevalent in societal and cultural structures of places like the US. Society and culture is literally breeding mental illness into the populace. This is how shit collapses quick.Top-level commentCited in: Egomaniacal narcissism
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Calorie deficitsTop-level commentCited in: Calorie deficits
Shooting 4 people with a grenade launcherTop-level commentCited in: Shooting 4 people with a grenade launcher
Hook-up culture. Just meeting somebody, have a drink and jump in bed with that person without knowing if they are mentally healthy, if they are clean of STDs. Everything very animalistic. And I fail to see the "fun" of it. Recently I've seen some videos on YouTube about the increasing cases of HIV in USA. Also, I think Chubbyemu had a video about two recent cases of women infected with gonorrhea, who developed joints pain and meningitis.Top-level commentCited in: Hook-up culture
AI is making everyone noticeably dumber, and yet our employers and society at large are willfully ignoring this fact and continue to cram it down our throats with reckless abandon.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
MAGATop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Believing in astrology. How can you think there are space beams that work that way?Top-level commentCited in: Believing in astrology
Shameless vanity. The superficial nature of so many is quite gross.Top-level commentCited in: Shameless vanity
People changing last name when marrying. Fun fact, in my country if a couple has the same last name people would think they are siblings. But I find it deeply disturbing also for other more serious reasons.Top-level commentCited in: People changing last name when marrying
What are these serious reasons?ReplyCited in: What are these serious reasons
Cosmetic surgery. All surgery is risky and I'm horrified by how willingly people go under the knife for vanity.Top-level commentCited in: Cosmetic surgery
Dog breeders and buying from them.Top-level commentCited in: Dog breeders and buying from them
People would rather pay for a college sports program than pay for kids tuitionTop-level commentCited in: People would rather pay for a college sports program than pay for
Church of England schools, EVERYWHERETop-level commentCited in: Church of England schools, EVERYWHERE
Walking down the street staring at your phone.Top-level commentCited in: Walking down the street staring at your phone
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
When a waitress cleans the table and leaves it a total swamp for you to sit in. I have no idea how this can be acceptable when any restaurantTop-level commentCited in: When a waitress cleans the table and leaves it a total swamp
Misogyny.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Indirect importing of Japan's pervert culture to kids worldwide through anime and manga.Top-level commentCited in: Indirect importing of Japan's pervert culture to kids worldwide through anime and
Dogs. Humans bred a perfectly decent wild animal into a slave species whose value is entirely tied to their obedience. An animal so pathetically devoted to humans that a person can beat the shit out of one and it will still plead for attention and affection from that person. We breed them into genetic monstrosities that can't breathe, with body shapes and qualities which actively make them suffer and struggle to survive. We prioritise their aesthetics over their wellbeing. We take animals bred for working in extreme conditions and expect them to be left alone in apartments for 10 hours a day, then punish them for being "destructive" because they are bored and lonely. We use them in law enforcement and in the military, forcing their participation in violent acts and exposing them to danger they would not otherwise be in. By any metric, it's an abusive dynamic.Top-level commentCited in: Dogs
The blatant corruption by the Trump administration and fat Donny’s failing health. The legacy media ignores it or sane washes itTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
ScatologyTop-level commentCited in: Scatology
Who thinks that's normal, you?ReplyCited in: Who thinks that's normal, you
If you haven’t noticed just how prevalent it is you probably just accept it as normal. It practically defines immature humor.ReplyCited in: If you haven’t noticed just how prevalent it is you probably just
Life under criminal dictatorship - SerbiaTop-level commentCited in: Life under criminal dictatorship - Serbia
How deeply google and meta and other companies have access to all of our data and use it and sell it. But not only that, use it against us. Buy something at Walmart regularly? Go in with your phone? The cost might be more expensive now because your phone is nearby and they know that you will buy it regardless and get the extra cents or dollars. It's really insidious.Top-level commentCited in: Deeply google and meta and other companies have access to all of
How people just drop friends with no explination and block them on their socials. It seems immature, cruel, and disrespectful.Top-level commentCited in: People just drop friends with no explination and block them on their
People drinking to the point of blacking out and vomiting. They tell stories of that like they're funny anecdotes, they sound even proud of it.Top-level commentCited in: People drinking to the point of blacking out and vomiting
Buying purebred dogsTop-level commentCited in: Buying purebred dogs
The new ideologiesTop-level commentCited in: The new ideologies
i guess in general a lot of online dating culture. i have never been in a relationship nor had my first kiss at 23 years old, and honeslty partly its because i don't think about it and partly its because it intimidates me. yeahinternet exaggerates but I've also seen it woth what my friends show me. just seems so stressfulTop-level commentCited in: I guess in general a lot of online dating culture
ITT: Things that everyone hates and does not accept as normal.Top-level commentCited in: ITT
How violent all media is now, and how people are completely unfazed by it. It'll be the most sadistically violent, gory thing I've ever seen, and people's reactions will be like "...meh".Top-level commentCited in: Violent all media is now, and how people are completely unfazed by
Seafood. It's not any more ethical to eat land animals than sea animals. But I can't understand how people can eat crab or lobster or some variety of fish with the way it looks. When I eat cow, it doesn't still like like a cow. Same with chicken, and lamb, and pork. The crab still looks like a crab. You just snapped crab's armin half, is that not creeping you out right now!?Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
How EVERYTHING has to be obnoxiously strongly fragranced. Laundry detergent has gotten so much more potent, freaking scent beads are more intense. People douse themselves in cologne and perfume that you can smell them before you even see them. I will go for a walk at a park or something and I’ll smell people from a crazy distance away. Or their toxic detergents/colognes/perfumes stick to the fibers in public chairs, so then I smell like them too. I’m asthmatic and have wicked allergies and it’s getting more and more difficult for me to go places. I have a wedding coming up on Saturday, went to Kohl’s (which I haven’t in years because of the strong perfumes, but figured I’d give it a shot) today and my clothing I wore in there and my hair stunk to high heaven like the perfume. The dress I finally found and bought smells like the perfume too. I had a sneezing fit in the store, and my lungs feel like they’ve been punched constantly. Really hoping I’m able to wear the dress on Saturday, but I’m not sure if I’ll be able to with how damn strong it smells of perfume. It sucks, even going to the grocery store and being in the isles close to the detergent kills me and makes my clothing smell of it when I leave the store. I can’t put it in to words how frustrating it is to have medical conditions that I’m at the mercy of other people and their choices. I wish people realized how HORRIBLE those toxic chemicals are for humans, pets and nature etc.Top-level commentCited in: EVERYTHING has to be obnoxiously strongly fragranced
Pedestrians who jay-walk and just expect you to slow down for them while they slowly make their way across the street and didn’t even bother to look both ways.Top-level commentCited in: Pedestrians who jay-walk and just expect you to slow down for them
Capitalism and consumerism. The fact we have lost any form of unity as a labor class, basically 1 step from being cattle. The return to fuedalism through corporatism.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
LifeTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
I hate how the cancel culture and also how people are so easy to manipulate by showing them stories from one perspective , people dont even find the need to verify a news they see in social media and they just believe whtvr half baked story they see in social mediA , the excesssive cancel culture where they target their workplace , family and everything so one sidedly , im so afraid of being a victim one da just cuz i was travelling in a public transport and somehow soemone gets offended by me and posts me on social mediaTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Consumerism overall. The amount of unnecessary crap goods being manufactured, shipped and (attempted to be) sold all over the world fills me with a deep seated disgust. I can barely walk through any home decoration store, IKEA or see the stack of packages at my local post-office from TEMU, Shein, Wish, Amazon etc. without feeling like we are on the steep slope downwards as a society.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Youtubers are all copying each other in: looks, clothing, talking, constant hand gestures, topics, manerisms, camera closeness, etc.. Hardly anyone is original anymoreTop-level commentCited in: Youtubers are all copying each other in
The third world being imported and ruining western society, and everyone just accepts it like its a good thingTop-level commentCited in: The third world being imported and ruining western society, and everyone just
The fact that most Americans truly just want to make as many people around them feel as miserable as they themselves do.Top-level commentCited in: Most Americans truly just want to make as many people around them
Child beauty pageants. They’re just pedophile shopping malls. Adult beauty pageants. They’re just rapist shopping malls.Top-level commentCited in: Child beauty pageants
The amount of ultra-processed food we eat every day without questioning it.Top-level commentCited in: The amount of ultra-processed food we eat every day without questioning it
People who give birth to childrenTop-level commentCited in: People who give birth to children
That so many appliances need an app or a wifi access to function or use all functions. Why do I need to buy a fridge, oven and dishwasher with a wifi function if I want to buy the "best" version. My dishwasher does not need wifi to run, but i was forced to download an app for a first set up. Marshall speakers need the app to connect them for synced sound. I go out of my way to try to not buy stuff like that. But i feel like we cannot avoid it in a couple of years.Top-level commentCited in: So many appliances need an app or a wifi access to function
Jealousy as a measure of love for one’s partner. Yuck.Top-level commentCited in: Jealousy as a measure of love for one’s partner
Tattoos.Top-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
Working paycheck to paycheckTop-level commentCited in: Working paycheck to paycheck
The USD is basically worthless but we all pretend that it holds value and transact in it everyday.Top-level commentCited in: The USD is basically worthless but we all pretend that it holds
Eating meatTop-level commentCited in: Eating meat
Filming strangers in public just to post them online Just to get fame by making fun of others or by judging themTop-level commentCited in: Filming strangers and publishing them without consent
Your place of work charging you to park thereTop-level commentCited in: Your place of work charging you to park there
The fact that capitalism requires some people to be in poverty for others to be rich, that poverty has a death toll: [about 21.3 million poeple]([link removed] every year, or north of a billion in my lifetime alone. That people not only think this is acceptable, but actively argue for doing more of it.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
casual sexTop-level commentCited in: Casual sex
Driving a car. I’ve never had a license, only take public transit, bike or walk everywhere and it honestly makes me sad what driving turns people into. They literally lose any empathy, any patience, any human thought, once they are behind the wheel. It turns into the “me, me, me” mantra. Not to mention how we have funneled our entire society into this system, we start wars over fuel, switched to lithium batteries which have untold consequences on the environment, made cars a money trap to keep people poor, and paved over any plants or creatures in our way.Top-level commentCited in: Driving a car
The amount of people all around me at work in 2023 that were almost giddy that those people in that submersible died. They were people. Mothers, brothers, fathers, and sons.. human life is so precious... and for the youth of that day to so openly mock their demise was truly sad... it angered me. I lost a lot of faith in my community near and far during that time.Top-level commentCited in: The amount of people all around me at work in 2023 that
Eating meat and dairy and people not thinking twice about itTop-level commentCited in: Eating meat and dairy and people not thinking twice about it
Islam and the QuranTop-level commentCited in: Islam and the Quran
The UK grooming gangs and two tier policingTop-level commentCited in: The UK grooming gangs and two tier policing
get this two tier policing bs out of hereReplyCited in: Get this two tier policing bs out of here
Would love toReplyCited in: Would love to
Massive scale exploitation and killing of animals by the billions, although I guess it's not really a secretTop-level commentCited in: Massive scale exploitation and killing of animals by the billions, although I
How about the destruction of wildlife habitat? Global wildlife populations declined 73% between 1970 and 2020, mostly due to habitat loss. Very few people seem to be concerned.ReplyCited in: About the destruction of wildlife habitat
That is a major reason the whole thing is so insane to me. Expansion of animal agriculture has been the #1 cause of deforestation and habitat loss in the world during this timespan. And everyone just shrugs their shoulders because they like cheeseburgers. In my experience this even includes most people who are otherwise outspoken about environmental protection. According to the [United Nations Food & Agriculture Organization]([link removed] >We are in an era of unprecedented threats to biodiversity. The loss of species is estimated to be running 50 to 500 times higher than background rates found in the fossil record. Fifteen out of 24 important ecosystem services are assessed to be in decline. Livestock now account for about 20 percent of the total terrestrial animal biomass, and the 30 percent of the earth’s land surface that they now preempt was once habitat for wildlife. Indeed, the livestock sector may well be the leading player in the reduction of biodiversity, since it is the major driver of deforestation, as well as one of the leading drivers of land degradation, pollution, climate change, overfishing, sedimentation of coastal areas and facilitation of invasions by alien species.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
Honestly smoking. Like why would you willingly inhale literal poison into your lungs and why is it so socially acceptable?Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
A few years ago, when "Karen" was getting thrown around a lot as a synonym for "bitch" and any time a woman would speak up in a way that the herd didn't like, they'd basically say "Shut up, bitch", but in a hip quippy way that means they're the good guy and the woman is some silly, stupid cow Every time I tried to explain this on Reddit, the sanctimonious types on here who've basically been conditioned to believe they are always morally righteous would refuse to accept that. They'd accept that "Karen" means "bitch," but then argue that calling a woman a bitch was alright and it's totally not a gender-based slurTop-level commentCited in: A few years ago, when "Karen" was getting thrown around a lot
Cameras everywhere. I live in apartments and my neighbor had 2 front door cameras a ring facing our door then another above it showing the breezeway plus a camera in a bedroom facing the parking lot.Top-level commentCited in: Cameras everywhere
How much people have to work to live a good life.Top-level commentCited in: Much people have to work to live a good life
House prices / rent / banks printing moneyTop-level commentCited in: House prices / rent / banks printing money
Refusing to endure even the slightest big of inconvenience or non-gratification in the name of social good. That business under pays their employees and pours money into terrible politicians? But they're so convenient! That restaurant donates money in the name of murdering the LGBTQIA? But I like their chicken! That business literally has committed treason? But they're the easiest place for me to get supplies! This business has systematically undercut artists and is putting money towards the destruction of art in general? But I've been using them for years.... It astounds me, and disgusts me, and I do judge people for it.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Every Time I go to a supermarket I think it's totally insane what we're doing just to eat. Pulling in thousands of kinds of foods from all over the world. Much of it spoils without being sold. Huge amounts of packaging. Huge amount of fuel used to move it all around. Just think of the number of paper bags used every day. That alone is insanity. And we're all bought into it, running around through it like rats in a maze, because what else can we do?Top-level commentCited in: Every Time I go to a supermarket I think it's totally insane
Dogs only ever going on neighborhood walksTop-level commentCited in: Dogs only ever going on neighborhood walks
Sleeve tattoos. My grandpa had arm tattoos from his youth. I loved my grandpa but god damn sleeves from the dive bars in the pacific did not age well.Top-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
The fact that people are just out there all calling their dogs Max and Millie. It’s so weird that so many people pick the same pet names.Top-level commentCited in: People are just out there all calling their dogs Max and Millie
At some point in the last couple of years most drivers making a turn onto a multi-lane road started turning into the middle of the lanes and then deciding which lane to pick. On it's surface this is maybe not disturbing but it was a sudden and massive shift in people's unconscious behavior with no direct cause (no one encouraged people to drive differently) and that to me is so disturbing. It's speaks both to how quickly society can change without any awareness.Top-level commentCited in: At some point in the last couple of years most drivers making
Skyscrapers. Ecological disasters. The upkeep is insane, imagine if one fell over just because no one took care of it? They are affronts to god (not because of the height, planes are fine).Top-level commentCited in: Skyscrapers
Sucking your fingers after eating, ew ew ewTop-level commentCited in: Sucking your fingers after eating, ew ew ew
Asking people (women) when they’re going to have kids, and when we say we don’t want, they say “you’ll change your mind” while showing them pictures of their kids or babies. Men are almost never asked this question.Top-level commentCited in: Asking people (women) when they’re going to have kids, and when we
FennelTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Excusing terrible, if not deplorable, behavior because of societal/cultural “norms”. It’s tiring at this point. Just stop. Or say it with your chest.Top-level commentCited in: Excusing terrible, if not deplorable, behavior because of societal/cultural “norms”
How much people are losing empathy, or how rampant ragebaiting is, especially among gen z culture (as a gen z myself).Top-level commentCited in: Much people are losing empathy, or how rampant ragebaiting is, especially among
When I was little, my mom soft-pitched participating in child beauty/talent pageants to me. I said no and thankfully she listened, but I could never articulate my reasons when she asked me why. I now know why.Top-level commentCited in: When I was little, my mom soft-pitched participating in child beauty/talent pageants
damn the way we all just casually walk past dead animals on the side of the road like its nothing. still messes me up every time.damn the way we all just casually walk past dead animals on the side of the road like its nothing. still messes me up every time.Top-level commentCited in: Damn the way we all just casually walk past dead animals on
Even if you exclude very poor and developing countries and just focus on countries with strong economies it still remains true that we have epidemics of obesity and starvation happining simultaneously.Top-level commentCited in: Even if you exclude very poor and developing countries and just focus
That we existTop-level commentCited in: We exist
I'm really not a fan of people lying. Just... why?Top-level commentCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
PaTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Caffeine. There is a whole culture around different forms of this drug. Coffee, energy drinks, even Diet Coke. Even some people who don’t drink alcohol (trump) are caffeine addicts. If it were invented today it would not be legal and we would not give it to our kids. Can you imagine if the office suddenly started giving out amphetamine to get you through the morning? Why is caffeine different? Most people on the world are completely addicted to it, but they don’t classify their addiction as a drug addiction for some reason.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
How excessive casual fucking, consuming drugs so casually, excessive alcohol, excessive junk fast food, and excessive gambling arenon the rise everywhere. Everyone wants to be a degen, speedrunning a bad future for themselves. I don’t mind things in moderation but people are taking things too farTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Where do you live that you see growing acceptance of communism?ReplyCited in: Where do you live that you see growing acceptance of communism
What country?ReplyCited in: What country
The one with the orange idiot pedophile. But arguably not the only deeply disturbed leader in this world. Def top 3 though.ReplyCited in: The one with the orange idiot pedophile
But we are communists here in Europe, right?ReplyCited in: But we are communists here in Europe, right
Apparently! /s 🤣🙄 But truthfully…a lot of Americans don’t know the difference between communism and democratic socialism.ReplyCited in: Apparently
People being killed violently on tv or film is considered fine but showing a nude body causes people to freak out.Top-level commentCited in: People being killed violently on tv or film is considered fine but
AI being used for coding, bitch i want to write my code not just review machine generated regurgitated codeTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Factory farmingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
That Trump Remains as PresidentTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Infant circumcisionTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Porn/porn culture. It's damaging to society as a whole for a multitude of reasons. Also I find it bizarre that it's considered perfectly normal in committed relationships. I personally consider it microcheating, which I feel is normalized as well. Unfortunately this is considered a hot take and gets a ton of hate on here. I know it's totally fine in many relationships, obviously people can be ok with it and that's their choice. It just doesn't sit right with me personally.Top-level commentCited in: Porn/porn culture
People's casual acceptance of trash quality products. I don't understand buying like... 90% of plastic goods. Plastic clothing? Plastic dishware? Plastic utensils? Plastic blankets and bedding? Plastic furniture? Plastic flooring? It boggles my mind. Plastic is everywhere and I make such an active effort to avoid it and I don't understand why others don't. Any health ideas aside it's just often trash quality products.Top-level commentCited in: People's casual acceptance of trash quality products
Getting all your car windows tinted dark as fuck. I know it's for the sun but really like, what are you hiding bro?Top-level commentCited in: Getting all your car windows tinted dark as fuck
The paradox of sport, especially olympic sport. Oh, you want to find out who's the best in the world at something, I guess that's a little interesting, but then you want to make it "fair"? Men can't compete with women because then one or the other would win? A black woman outperforms a white woman and you say her natural advantage is cheating, and she has to medically weaken herself if she wants to compete again? The fastest runner in the world is going to be a freak regardless; if that disqualifies you from the fastest runner in the world contest then what is it even about? And why are these games SO MUCH more important than doing real things that matter?Top-level commentCited in: The paradox of sport, especially olympic sport
COVIDTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Trans-national adoption. It's sanctioned child traffickingTop-level commentCited in: Trans-national adoption
That we don’t own the media that we purchase, but not just the lack of ownership in the future. Some shows, like 30 Rock, have a series of episodes just removed from all digital media. There’s good reason to fear the books, songs and even movies will be edited in the future due to a change in sensibilities. We all would like the idea of removing the racist crows from the movie Dumbo, and probably King Louie from the Jungle Book, but what happens when a MAGA/Fascist/Strong-Man forces changes to recent movies to remove anti-government themes, or wants to take credibility away from musicians who are critical of them, so all of their songs are tweaked slightly to just sound a little worse? Is there any reason to think a dictator couldn’t edit old episodes of the news, digital history books and digital news papers to put them on the right side of past issues? How certain is our memory that we’d always notice it? I know it sounds nuts, but PRISM kind of sounded out there at first. MK-ULTRA was treated as nonsense for years until they admitted it. Spying on us and controlling us has long been the goal of the government, even when it was much more democratic.Top-level commentCited in: We don’t own the media that we purchase, but not just the
that people can get away with doing awful shit in public and no one does anything about it. influencers and vloggers specifically.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
most religionsTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
This might ruffle some feathers, but, People getting out of saunas and jumping straight into pools to cool off... I don't want your sweaty ass water In here, wash/cool off in a cold shower!Top-level commentCited in: This might ruffle some feathers, but, People getting out of saunas and
Modern Theocracies.Top-level commentCited in: Modern Theocracies
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Not gonna be popular with this but the culture around cheating. I understand it's a betrayal, of course, but the way we condemn cheating much more strongly than we condemn violence freaks me out. My wife could sleep with someone else once and I could never find out; it would change nothing to my life. If she punched me in the face once, that would change everything between us, yet it's the cheating that would be more harshly condemned.Top-level commentCited in: Not gonna be popular with this but the culture around cheating
Probably because if someone slaps you in the face, the pain will go away eventually. But if someone hurts you on a psychological level, the pain and all what it caused, might stay for ever. But I get what you mean, and i am partially the same opinion as you.ReplyCited in: Probably because if someone slaps you in the face, the pain will
Hitting children as punishmentTop-level commentCited in: Hitting children as punishment
I dunno, I feel like someone considering chores trauma is a mental illness in itself. Its not normal to get that worked up and upset over chores.ReplyCited in: I dunno, I feel like someone considering chores trauma is a mental
How many lives we sacrifice on a daily basis due to our choice of transit systems - cars. We don't have to sacrifice thousands of lives per day, but we do.Top-level commentCited in: Many lives we sacrifice on a daily basis due to our choice
The dairy industryTop-level commentCited in: The dairy industry
Defending pedophilia if the perp is of a particular political affiliation, idgaf what “side” they’re on, they all deserve to be rooted out and to rot in a cell. How this isn’t how everyone feels makes me sick.Top-level commentCited in: Defending pedophilia if the perp is of a particular political affiliation, idgaf
Eating animals.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Speaking as an American, That we routinely lock people in boxes for years, if not decades, at a time, controlling every aspect of their life, often for relatively minor infractions. (Especially while much worse offenses go ignored)Top-level commentCited in: Speaking as an American, That we routinely lock people in boxes for
I agree. Corporal punishment for minor crimes, capital for major crimes. Prison is unhumane.ReplyCited in: Speaking as an American, That we routinely lock people in boxes for
Presidential candidates should NOT be older than 65 years. The U.S. Constitution requires candidates be at least 35 years to run for office, put does not place any maximum age limits. There is no maximum age limits for Congress either. This is something that really needs to change, but requires a constitutional amendment. But given that the average age of a US senator is 64 and a US representative is 58, it is unlikely that this will change unless we stop electing older (and predominantly white males) to office.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
kids with unlimited internet at 8. that is not normal, its just handing them a whole mess way too earlyTop-level commentCited in: Kids with unlimited internet at 8
Corporate AmericaTop-level commentCited in: Corporate America
Walking behind an animal and picking up its poop. 🤢 I would rather not have a pet compared to needing to engage in this disgusting display of humiliation. Obviously the only thing worse would be someone with a pet who leaves it for other to deal with.Top-level commentCited in: Walking behind an animal and picking up its poop
The fact that we're barreling towards hitting +3°C and everyone is just kind of...well, shrugging it off.Top-level commentCited in: We're barreling towards hitting +3°C and everyone is just kind of
People posting their children onlineTop-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Acrylic nails. The more decorated the worse they are. Been married to a "granola girl" for 43+ years.Top-level commentCited in: Acrylic nails
German Media is supporting right wing narratives and calls it ‘neutral’. Fighting for first entry in public spaces like trains or doorways. Parents looking on their phones while their babies’ crying. Children with tablets.Top-level commentCited in: German Media is supporting right wing narratives and calls it ‘neutral’
People making jokes about animals being killed for meat. Okay, I get that people have the right to choose to eat meat and not everyone feels like I do about animals, but it seems pretty sadistic to find their deaths funny.Top-level commentCited in: People making jokes about animals being killed for meat
People being on their phones all the time!Top-level commentCited in: People being on their phones all the time
Adults playing with toys and posting it on YouTube for kids to watch. More then half the time, no kids on the channel either (really not sure if that's better or worse) I feel like most sane people would think that's at least a little odd, but the prevalence of these videos/channels and the comments/views tell otherwise.Top-level commentCited in: Adults playing with toys and posting it on YouTube for kids to
Working 9-5 and what like 4 weeks off a year… excuse me wtf? I work during school hours and part time, I am poor but I’d rather that then work that much!Top-level commentCited in: Working 9-5 and what like 4 weeks off a year… excuse me
Relying on digital things so much. I'm 18 and I'm sick of having to do everything on a screen and buying digital things. I love having physical media, whether its books, video games, or movies/shows. I just like holding them in my hands and actually having them exist (even if video game discs nowadays are just keys). A lot of times things being digital sucks the additional fun out of them. I hate thinking about reading a book on a screen and just swiping away to turn the "pages". I understand it for books and comics that are a bit harder to get physically, but I don't understand getting newly released books digitally. Digital forms of media should only be backup for physical things.Top-level commentCited in: Relying on digital things so much
Merch culture and "collecting". You might like your neighbourhoods cozy cafe, doesn't mean you should buy their cheaply printed t-shirt and tote bag with a logo on it. Oh you like a YouTube channel? Don't need to buy their plush collaboration piece. Like a tv show? Put that funko pop down NOW. And unused shoes, bags, soaps in a huge storage/wardrobe. Hoarding.Top-level commentCited in: Merch culture and "collecting
As a pharmacist the amount of people diagnosed with adhd and now take stimulants. To me it’s insane. Our pharmacy got flagged by our distributor last month because we sold well over 20,000 tabs/caps of generic adderall products alone! This isn’t including all the other stimulants like methylphenidate and lisdexamfetamine. It sometimes feels like the majority of my job is just filling amphetaminesTop-level commentCited in: As a pharmacist the amount of people diagnosed with adhd and now
Pregnancy. Like, fine for everyone else, but the thought of carrying a moving being inside me - and the nightmare that is giving birth - are one big nope.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Eating dead animalsTop-level commentCited in: Eating dead animals
mentioning you're trans gives people free reign to talk about passing and appearances suddenlyTop-level commentCited in: Mentioning you're trans gives people free reign to talk about passing and
Pregnancy.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
The way people treat caffeine addiction like a quirky fun trait. If you need 3 large cups of coffee in-between each meal to get through the day you have a problem.Top-level commentCited in: People treat caffeine addiction like a quirky fun trait
MeatTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
I think the fact that everyone is casually okay with just letting companies gather data about their habits is beyond weird. I understand why companies want this, but if it has value, then pay is for it and be upfront about it rather than burying it in a TOS that is designed so that no one will read it.Top-level commentCited in: I think the fact that everyone is casually okay with just letting
Eating animals when it’s not necessaryTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
We've completely swapped out living in the moment for seeking approval online. It's crazy how people can't even enjoy a meal, a concert, or a walk without checking it on a phone screen first.Top-level commentCited in: We've completely swapped out living in the moment for seeking approval online
Eating animal body partsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Popping knuckles in public. Absolutely depraved behaviour.Top-level commentCited in: Popping knuckles in public
Honestly, alcohol. It’s fucking insane we encourage people to get lit and then drive home. It’s crazy how much we let people drink during sports games. It’s a terrible drug, one that kills you if you quit. Even cigarettes don’t do that.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
\> It’s fucking insane we encourage people to get lit and then drive home. I'm pretty sure that we do not encourage it, in fact, it's illegal \> It’s crazy how much we let people drink during sports games. Personally I find normalisation of gambling in sports much much worse but that aside, how much do we let people drink? You can pretty much only buy beer, and at prices that can be argued disencourage drinking much \> one that kills you if you quit Not really...?ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Factory farming. I love the taste of meat, but it is fucked up that we are holocausting livestock every day in such abhorrent conditions to save a few dollars in the store. Nothing "natural" about that.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
We are not "holocausting livestock" , you cheapen a real tragedy and compare humans murdered by Germany to actual cattleReplyCited in: We are not "holocausting livestock" , you cheapen a real tragedy and
Obesity. It shouldn't be normal, especially in children. Many people treat it like a core part of who they are, like eye colour. "I'm just a big guy. I've always been big.". It is a temporary unhealthy state and should be treated that way. Though discipline and healthy eating is obviously the ideal way to avoid this, I think stuff like Ozempic/Mounjaro is going to be a godsend in the coming years, especially compared to the drastic option of surgery.Top-level commentCited in: Obesity
Sausages! The entire concept of taking some living being, shredding it into tiny pieces, just to then press those into its own intestines, seems like some serial killers fantasy to me. I can't eat sausages without thinking about this.Top-level commentCited in: Sausages
Could be worse, it could be blood sausage insteadReplyCited in: Could be worse, it could be blood sausage instead
Casual cocaine useTop-level commentCited in: Casual cocaine use
Paying taxes on property, vehicles included, flock cameras, mass surveillance in America. Supporting genocide, merging our military with a foreign country. We are so fuckedTop-level commentCited in: Public and AI-enabled surveillance
The health industry. The entire scammy thing.Top-level commentCited in: The health industry
Public speakerphone / FaceTimeTop-level commentCited in: Public speakerphone / FaceTime
PornographyTop-level commentCited in: Pornography
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
The way we live and consume.Top-level commentCited in: We live and consume
Honestly, when you get off TikTok for awhile — you start realize how bizarre it is to make edits of people’s real life situations or true crimes.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
How much time do you have? Let me just mention a few basics. How anyone who thinks of themselves as being humanistic would vote for someone that doesn’t support universal healthcare, doesn’t support stopping payment to genocidal countries, and doesn’t support a plan for getting off of fossil fuels quickly is amazing in the most horrible way. Also: Nearly everyone goes around as though Covid is a problem from the past, if they ever thought it was one. Total general lack awareness of how damaging getting Covid often is, even if you’re vaccinated.Top-level commentCited in: Much time do you have
PregnancyTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Constant eye contact. I feels weird and I hate when people don’t look away every once in awhile 🤣 just feels weird af to meTop-level commentCited in: Constant eye contact
Ever considered you may be on the spectrum? As someone on the spectrum, aversion to eye contact is a very common symptom.ReplyCited in: Ever considered you may be on the spectrum
That slavery is a bad thing, unless we're doing it to people in prison. Then, it's completely fine for some reason. Rape too. We just accept both as normal parts of incarceration. Imagine a judge sentencing honestly, "Well, you stole a car so we're giving you fifteen years in prison. Where you will likely be raped. Oh, and also, you're a slave now." ETA: Downvoted by someone who supports slavery and rape. Got to love reddit.Top-level commentCited in: Slavery is a bad thing, unless we're doing it to people in
Um, globalizing the intifada?Top-level commentCited in: Um, globalizing the intifada
Epstein Files.Top-level commentCited in: Epstein Files
Religion and working 40 hours per weekTop-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
Factory farming, animal torture in labs, animals used for entertainment and human amusement.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Bette Midler.Top-level commentCited in: Bette Midler
Eating an apple very slowly in publicTop-level commentCited in: Eating an apple very slowly in public
Small talkTop-level commentCited in: Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
People spend days, weeks, months, *years* torturing themselves in a gym, shoving around metal discs just to impress someone from the opposite sex (well, opposite in the majority of cases). That level of effort, in *any* other form, would rightfully be regarded as ultra-weird and creepy stalker-esque behavior. Like, *Van-Gogh-cutting-off-his-own-ear-and-mailing-it-to-his-crush* weird. QED: Gym rats are a desperate, creepy, disgusting lot, and you refuse to see it because their delts cause your neurons to activate. The silent, spiteful downvotes prove me right - if you had an argument against this, you would have certainly used it instead of clicking the "This guy made me mad" buttonTop-level commentCited in: People spend days, weeks, months, *years* torturing themselves in a gym, shoving
Kisses with tongue. EWTop-level commentCited in: Kisses with tongue
Youth sports. I see them as socially normalized child abuse.Top-level commentCited in: Youth sports
DemocratsTop-level commentCited in: Democrats
Cattle, brother, the reason you "lost any form of unity as a labor class" (if that was ever a thing) is that working and living standards are immeasurably better than 100 years agoReplyCited in: Cattle, brother, the reason you "lost any form of unity as a
Dog cratingTop-level commentCited in: Dog crating
Drinking milk.Top-level commentCited in: Drinking milk
It’s always bugged me how casual and accepting shoplifting is. There is almost zero consequences to it, so I guess that’s how it is treated. We really do need WAY harsher penalties for it so people stop doing it so casually. People used to be afraid of stealing. You realize in some countries you get your hand or fingers cut off for that crime??Top-level commentCited in: It’s always bugged me how casual and accepting shoplifting is
Those with obvious cognitive decline ruling the free world.Top-level commentCited in: Those with obvious cognitive decline ruling the free world
Not *everyone* but it's insane how many people are in favour of mutilating a boys penis because, let's be honest, they think it'll look better when he's older. It's like forcing your daughter to get breast implants so she can be hotter. Insanely fucked up behavior. And don't even bother replying with some post-hoc bullshit about how it helps prevent STDs, we all know that's now why you do it.Top-level commentCited in: Not *everyone* but it's insane how many people are in favour of
as an indigenous person, pretty much western culture in its entiretyTop-level commentCited in: As an indigenous person, pretty much western culture in its entirety
"western" people are indigenous too, to their own countriesReplyCited in: Western" people are indigenous too, to their own countries
Not to mention the whole American thing of glorifying their child killing troopsReplyCited in: Not to mention the whole American thing of glorifying their child killing
This was my answer as a non indigenous personReplyCited in: This was my answer as a non indigenous person
The dominance of “the couple”. When did the majority of people subscribe to the abandoning of family, friends, and community so they could labor, love, and grow with one other person? This has always struck me as succumbing to our most possessive, rapacious instincts, and wow do I feel so many would be happier if they spread love and care out a little more evenly.Top-level commentCited in: The dominance of “the couple”
I don't think most people abandon their family and friends. They just naturally spend more time around the person they share their life and house with. And when life gets busy or complicated, that's going to show a lot more. Communities disintegrating is not a couple thing, it's a modern society thing. Couples just drift away together instead of totally alone because they share a life. Loneliness has done nothing but rise and average number of close friends has done nothing but plummet over the decades. People frequently notice when people in couples start seeming more distant, but if you stop and think about it you probably know a lot of other people too who used to be a part of your life and no longer are, even if they're single.ReplyCited in: I don't think most people abandon their family and friends
Leather shoes, belts, wallets, and chairs. They're literally made of skin.Top-level commentCited in: Leather shoes, belts, wallets, and chairs
eating animalsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Legalization of weedTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
How people are just constantly shitting on each otherTop-level commentCited in: People are just constantly shitting on each other
beauty and the beast. literally teaching young girls if they are trapped in a relationship with a monster everything will be fine if they love him enough.Top-level commentCited in: Beauty and the beast
Ditto for the Little Mermaid: it’s ok to give up your family and everything about yourself for the love of a man.ReplyCited in: Ditto for the Little Mermaid
Steroids. The proliferation of PEDS available right now is insane. We’ve all seen it online or at the gym. Kids not even out of high school looking like Ronnie Coleman, aiming to be dead before 30. Couple that with inflated body standards and online reenforcement, most don’t get help before it’s too late.Top-level commentCited in: Steroids
It bothers me that a choice between two corruption clubs both sponsored by many of the same corporations is held up as a model of self-government. I will never get the argument that the problems of financial oligarchy will be fixed if only voters pick the correct among the two individuals anointed as acceptable by our financial oligarchs through their media organs. Yet the intensity of people who bite down on the kayfabe can get way more unhinged than their counterparts in WWE fandom.Top-level commentCited in: It bothers me that a choice between two corruption clubs both sponsored
Vegans don't eat meat... until it's 2 AM and nobody's watching. That's just my conspiracy theory.Top-level commentCited in: Vegans don't eat meat
People that have been married and divorced multiple times. And they keep doing itTop-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Essentially bare-handing still warm shit with a condom-thin layer of plastic bag as a pet-owner's daily or twice-daily routine is... Bleh.Top-level commentCited in: Essentially bare-handing still warm shit with a condom-thin layer of plastic bag
cameras being *everywhere*Top-level commentCited in: Cameras being *everywhere
i thought of a another one and it’s parents posting their kids on the internet but more importantly the ones who do it specifically to earn income off of them.ReplyCited in: I thought of a another one and it’s parents posting their kids
George RR Martin before GOT became famous.Top-level commentCited in: George RR Martin before GOT became famous
Feces on phoneTop-level commentCited in: Feces on phone
religionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Life 360 appTop-level commentCited in: Life 360 app
Earning a living, like, I didn't choose to be here and the government made it illegal for me to leave.Top-level commentCited in: Earning a living, like, I didn't choose to be here and the
Stalking. It’s full on acceptable these days. I miss the days where my family didn’t follow my social media but every time I make a new social media account they find me and they follow me. They never text or call me but they watch everything I do and this also includes ex-girlfriend‘s and girls I went on a date with 10 to 15 years ago. I block them when I can, but I had a girl reach out to me and tell me my art has really improved the other day. When I asked her who she was she told me we went on a date back in 2017 and it didn’t work out and she’s been watching me ever since. It’s starting to really creep me out the amount of people who have been watching my social media over the course of 10 years that I don’t know of.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Scratching metalTop-level commentCited in: Scratching metal
door dash/uber eats etc. I get if you are a single parent and get home form work and can’t go out again because of the kid and are too exhausted to cook. Most of the people who use these are making the decision “I would rather pay substantially more for warm(ish) food that I wait longer for and do all my own dishes than just go to the restaurant myself”.Top-level commentCited in: Door dash/uber eats etc
People without kids *also get exhausted at the end of the day*.ReplyCited in: People without kids *also get exhausted at the end of the day
Cutting ex-partners out of your life entirely.Top-level commentCited in: Cutting ex-partners out of your life entirely
That there are people out there that dislike the homeless and the poor for reasons that equate to them not having money.Top-level commentCited in: There are people out there that dislike the homeless and the poor
living till old age, old people are often ill,brittle and miserable, and their company is often just tragic.Top-level commentCited in: Living till old age, old people are often ill,brittle and miserable, and
Hunting. Kind of get it if for food, but it’s usually just killing for fun and getting a wall decoration out of it.Top-level commentCited in: Hunting
The idea that it’s totally normal to “need” alcohol to get through a flight. You’re an alcoholic.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
People using AI for shits and giggle and not taking Data processing centers seriously and the danger that’s going to come with it.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Breeding dogs. For farming etc I get that you might want to breed for certain traits - understandable, but there’s something dystopian about it. Imagine if the same was done within the human population. It’s even more creepy to know the average lay-person is trying to breed their pet dogs for certain features. Some are so focused on breed and pedigree… it just unnerves me but it’s entirely normal!Top-level commentCited in: Breeding dogs
\> Imagine if the same was done within the human population. But dogs aren't human, that's like a big difference Also, dogs come in various sizes and various characters, even regular people with no need for a workdog might still wish for a calmer animal, or one that does not need much space, or movement, or the oppositeReplyCited in: \> Imagine if the same was done within the human population
The need to be healthy, happy, productive, super focused, mentally available 24/7 from moment we wake up.Top-level commentCited in: The need to be healthy, happy, productive, super focused, mentally available 24/7
How accepting the average person is of the middle class being systematically destroyed.Top-level commentCited in: Accepting the average person is of the middle class being systematically destroyed
Where do you live that this middle class (can you define it?) is being destroyed?ReplyCited in: Where do you live that this middle class (can you define it
I mean could be BUT I’ve had this conversation with multiple people about how like 50% of the us has a staring problem. And once u take a step back and try to notice u see it everywhere. Eye contact is good but if you are constantly staring at somebody without breaking a lot of people consider that weird, not just meTop-level commentCited in: I mean could be BUT I’ve had this conversation with multiple people
Eating meatTop-level commentCited in: Eating meat
Company/Workplace glorification when you're an employee. No company CEO gives a shit about you as an employee, especially if there are shareholders. If shafting you means your manager, the owner or the shareholders get more money then you WILL get shafted without any afterthought.Top-level commentCited in: Company/Workplace glorification when you're an employee
Paying huge corporations to torture animals for your pleasure because MeAt tAsTeS GoOdTop-level commentCited in: Paying huge corporations to torture animals for your pleasure because MeAt tAsTeS
Chemistry and trees, how are people so calm about trees. I don't understand!Top-level commentCited in: Chemistry and trees, how are people so calm about trees
Extreme corruption of the government (not stating where because this applies to most "first world countries")Top-level commentCited in: Extreme corruption of the government (not stating where because this applies to
Bikes and cars sharing the road as both a rider and driverTop-level commentCited in: Bikes and cars sharing the road as both a rider and driver
Caffeine addictionTop-level commentCited in: Caffeine addiction
Consuming animal productsTop-level commentCited in: Consuming animal products
People washing their ass with toilet paperTop-level commentCited in: People washing their ass with toilet paper
Adultos beijando crianças na boca.Top-level commentCited in: Adultos beijando crianças na boca
Tickling. Its just weird to me now. Especially tickling children which obviously is so super common and innocent and playful and all that but it’s always been very off putting. There’s a weird consent thing going on too. I dont know I just think it’s a weird thing to do. Another example is winking. To me, it is never not weird, creepy or sus af. It doesnt look cool, just weird.Top-level commentCited in: Tickling
Child abuseTop-level commentCited in: Child abuse
americans that can claim foreign citizenship because a paternal grandfather was born in Poland and only lived there for eight years. When is this idiocracy going to stop, do passports not mean anything anymore? Can I claim Mongolian citizenship too, because it is very likely that my great-great-great grandmother had a child from Genghis Khans nomad army. And what if your heritage is also british-german-austrian-croatian from your mother's side.. does that mean you can claim all these nationalities too? And then what? You are truly polish, for not even speaking a word of Polish or knowing anything about Polish history. A citizenship should not be earned or requested, you are born with it and it is not a pokemon card game where the aim is to collect them all.Top-level commentCited in: Americans that can claim foreign citizenship because a paternal grandfather was born
Sorry, do you disagree?ReplyCited in: Sorry, do you disagree
Very mature and insightfulReplyCited in: Very mature and insightful
Calling your pets your kidsTop-level commentCited in: Calling your pets your kids
Pregnancy. Pregnant women should definitely be allowed to exist in public, tummy out whatever is comfy for them, but I hate the thought of it, as a womanTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Every season of Survivor.Top-level commentCited in: Every season of Survivor
That we are ruled by pedophiles and that a lot of people are indifferent about itTop-level commentCited in: We are ruled by pedophiles and that a lot of people are
Factory farmingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Collecting women on social media.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
sex but it's just me lolTop-level commentCited in: Sex but it's just me lol
How common personality disorders are and how they just roam free and unchecked until they kill several people.Top-level commentCited in: Common personality disorders are and how they just roam free and unchecked
Capitalism.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Wearing makeup.Top-level commentCited in: Wearing makeup
PregnancyTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Possibly the most normal thing of all time, at least top 5ReplyCited in: Possibly the most normal thing of all time, at least top 5
And I find it secretly deeply disturbing. Completely fitting for this post, glad you agree.ReplyCited in: And I find it secretly deeply disturbing
Huh, I guess you're right.ReplyCited in: Huh, I guess you're right
Outing gay people because they've "Said and done horrible things to gay people". Just don't out people.Top-level commentCited in: Outing gay people because they've "Said and done horrible things to gay
watching true crime, although it's not a secretTop-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
Eating meat. I do so and I still think it is pretty disturbing that we consume the flesh of thinking and feeling creatures. Drinking another mammal’s milk, also something I do. Ugh.Top-level commentCited in: Eating meat
The amount of people drinking energy drinks daily like it’s popTop-level commentCited in: The amount of people drinking energy drinks daily like it’s pop
Religious belief.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Smokers that force non-smokers to breathe their shit.Top-level commentCited in: Smokers that force non-smokers to breathe their shit
Piercing kids and BABIES earsTop-level commentCited in: Piercing kids and BABIES ears
People's just casually having few beers every nightTop-level commentCited in: People's just casually having few beers every night
Circumcising babiesTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Circumcision.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
No license needed to become a parent. No oversight really at all, unless things have *really* toppled over like a pile of bricks. Children are pretty much property. No rights. The very young have no way to advocate for themselves and no legal means to care for themselves financially. Many are completely in the power of some pretty lousy humans. Trapped till 18. Being irreversibly damaged and set up for failure. Our society worships the underdog story so much and we bolster our own egos by creating a narrative that we each have one so we ignore statistics. Also religion. Indoctrination of any kind, really. The righteousness of those subscribed is especially disturbing. Edited to add: The mediocrity of sex education and general negativity around sex in our society. Lack of transparency with young people is still common, as is the abstinence only message. A one size fits all solution *will* fail for many. Knowledge is power. Having options is freedom. Many schools are too afraid of parents and their religions to properly teach the basics, so they leave it to the parents. People who have no license to parent.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
How would the government determine who is fit to be a parent? That's historically gone terribly.ReplyCited in: Would the government determine who is fit to be a parent
Not saying a license *should* required. I'm saying it's crazy and terrifying that you have to go out and get a license to drive a car and you don't need to do that in order to be in charge of a *life*. It's deeply disturbing *to me* that someone can easily become a parent without any kind of verification or audit of caretaking ability. I think people accept this as totally normal because they think the only solution is authoritarianism by the government, when in reality we could have way better social programs available to parents and require *some* form of education or certification after the fact. We require parents to offer proof of vaccination before they enroll them in public school. Why not require proof of baseline appropriate caretaking. In truth, it may be a problem with not so many great solutions available. Maybe, maybe not. It is a bit of a "secret"--as the post calls for--because it triggers a lot of people. For good reason! I just know what it's like to be a child and feel like there's no where to turn, to wonder why things are the way they are when the way things are is so wrong, to wonder why no one seems to care. My heart hurts for the children out there experiencing that. There are many of them. It's accepted as normal.ReplyCited in: Not saying a license *should* required
Obviously it's horrible that abusive parents exist, and that society as it functions enables them. Children are viewed as property and not people, not to get started on how CPS fails the children it's supposed to protect. I just think allowing who can and can't have children is the worst possible solution and opens the doors to even worse outcomes. Homeschooling as it exists now is already pretty terrible, if you were born to parents who don't have a "license" to have you, how will you be raised if you can't be seen in public? What couples will be excluded, especially since gay couples have even recently in the US faced scrutiny for childrearing?ReplyCited in: Obviously it's horrible that abusive parents exist, and that society as it
Valid question. How the law would be implemented and enforced would affect many things. Is it possible to do so in such a way that mitigates the risk of unlicensed parents hiding their kids? We'd have to ask questions like... How punishable is the crime? A fine and required check-ins by CPS until it's obtained, or outright removal of the child. How rigorous is the test to even get the license? Is it as baseline as the driving exam, or do we look deeper into people's personal lives and risk discrimination of marginalized groups? How many will fall through the cracks of such a system compared to the number currently falling through *right now?* Maybe a license isn't the best solution but something closer to it, like mandatory training. Or mandatory enrollment in support programs if you're a single parent, if you've struggled with addiction, if you've been convicted of a violent crime, if you have several diagnosed mental illnesses. But I wonder if we even try to consider because our minds do immediately go to the scariest, most dystopian scenarios. Also we live in a capitalist society that cringes at social safety nets in general.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
>Why not require proof of baseline appropriate caretaking. what could you mean by "require"? Is your plan to make people who you think aren't qualified for parenthood, not enrollable in social programs? Who do you think the programs are *for*? >I just know what it's like to be a child and feel like there's no where to turn, to wonder why things are the way they are when the way things are is so wrong, to wonder why no one seems to care. My heart hurts for the children out there experiencing that. There are many of them. It's accepted as normal. The problem requires local community involvement, and we're in the process of dissolving that in individualismReplyCited in: >Why not require proof of baseline appropriate caretaking
No no no, you're talking about punishment. My mind never went there when I used to word "require." Precisely, what would that accomplish? Nothing good. Plan? I have no plan. However my thoughts lean more toward \*expansion\* of social programs as the solution. Yes, in an ideal world, we would protect children as a community. In the absence of that, are there laws we can enact to help the issue?ReplyCited in: No no no, you're talking about punishment
>No no no, you're talking about punishment. My mind never went there when I used to word "require." Precisely, what would that accomplish? Nothing good. ok, but what is it you *do* mean by require then? >However my thoughts lean more toward *expansion* of social programs as the solution. sure, that's very different to a licence to reproduce though don't you think?ReplyCited in: >No no no, you're talking about punishment
You're asking me how *exactly* this would work and I don't have the answer. There are all kinds of tactics and measures with varying degrees of practicality. Obviously it's a *very* sensitive and complex issue to try to solve. I like the idea of required classes, at a minimum, and a test at least as rigorous as the driving exam. Mandatory completion of enrollment in support programs if a background check reveals troubling risk factors, such as substance abuse or mental health problems. Those flagged or delaying obtaining a license could be subject to regular CPS check-ins to ensure appropriate caretaking is indeed taking place until such time that they receive clearance. I'm not sure what you mean by the second part. I don't see those things as mutually exclusive at all. The proposal is a license to parent. Not a license to conceive/birth, or else assistance is taken away. The basic idea is to pile on social services until parents get it right, or remove the child.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
>You're asking me how *exactly* this would work and I don't have the answer. ok, but it does change a lot how I feel about your idea. Your idea is somewhere on the spectrum from idk an optional school qualification to state forced abortions, I'm just asking where >Mandatory completion of enrollment in support programs if a background check reveals troubling risk factors, such as substance abuse or mental health problems. what happens if people don't do the test? Bear in mind these people have substance abuse issues and health issues >Those flagged or delaying obtaining a license could be subject to regular CPS check-ins to ensure appropriate caretaking is indeed taking place until such time that they receive clearance. This does happen already for peopleReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Oh, well, to answer your question, much closer to *non*\-optional qualification. And no where near mandated abortions. If people don't do the test... Regular knocks on their doors by state officials. Eventually the child may be removed. If they're too drunk or high or out of their minds to do a simple test, they probably shouldn't have a child, right? CPS is a thing already, yes. Serving a small fraction of people who probably need it.ReplyCited in: Oh, well, to answer your question, much closer to *non*\-optional qualification
>If people don't do the test... Regular knocks on their doors by state officials. Eventually the child may be removed. Are you aware that having a child takes up a lot of time and energy? >If they're too drunk or high or out of their minds to do a simple test, they probably shouldn't have a child, right? We already take children away when they are in danger, and we don't normally require an exam paper to make that assessment. Do you think qualifications are serving society well atm? >CPS is a thing already, yes. Serving a small fraction of people who probably need it. right, so throw the money at thatReplyCited in: >If people don't do the test
But abstinence is actually a sensible option until one is with someone they would reproduce with. Not hard at all (no pun intended).ReplyCited in: But abstinence is actually a sensible option until one is with someone
Yep, I agree it's a sensible option. It's also *one* option. What's easy for one person may be difficult for another. The human experience is vastly diverse. Humans will seek to satiate their biological urges, especially the young, whether it is practical or not.ReplyCited in: Yep, I agree it's a sensible option
The stakes are so high for reproducing with the wrong person. I wish people could REALLY understand the damage to kids when parents hate each other or don't give a shit about them.ReplyCited in: The stakes are so high for reproducing with the wrong person
So true. Sadly I think it tends to be that the most careless individuals *have* experienced that damage firsthand as children themselves, yet the cycle is repeated. Why? Are their parents and society villainizing safe sex in favor of abstinence due to their own negative experiences/fear/idealizations? Are many parents downright neglectful of their responsibility to educate and equip their kids? I think teenagers do really need someone to *earnestly* talk to them, not just recite facts like the high school football coach might. Their brains aren't fully formed, their hormones are raging, and true understanding of the consequences doesn't always just snap into place. For some adults, it never does. As humans, we can have all kinds of screws loose when it comes to biological urges.ReplyCited in: A generational cycle of harm from abstinence-only messaging
Well said, metaglypto. I have a young grandson who I'm hoping will eventually pick a healthy partner. Fortunately (or unfortunately, not sure) he has had 2 friends who have been unstable enough to use as red flags in my relationship teachings. And I worked in human services for 30 years...the most memorable stmt from my coworker was 'our clients don't have kids because they WANT kids.' I like your POV about earnestness in our teachings.ReplyCited in: Well said, metaglypto
Father/daughter dances or anything where a romantic relationship is implied with family members and children. I know it’s innocent but it gives me the ick nevertheless.Top-level commentCited in: Father/daughter dances or anything where a romantic relationship is implied with family
Animal cruelty, particularly in China, and the cruel way we raise food animals in factory farms. Sow pigs spending their entire lives in a cage etc.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Charisma. Maybe I'm the one that misunderstands the meaning of it but whenever someone else points to someone with "charisma" all I see are snake oil salesmen, TV preachers and opportunistic politicians.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Consuming animal products. Especially milk. Cow rape is not it. Deeply disturbing how many people think cows just be out here making milk for the hell of it 😭Top-level commentCited in: Consuming animal products
the AI, is really helpful for a lot of things but people dont realize that now in our daily life everything is involved with the AITop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
This is one of those, “sort by controversial,” threads.Top-level commentCited in: This is one of those, “sort by controversial,” threads
People lie ALL the time. Even for the most silly, unnecessary things like their favourite colour. They’ll lie just to avoid a lengthy conversation or a small disagreement. I was horrified when I found out.Top-level commentCited in: People lie ALL the time
Cultural expectations for males to be “masculine”, which creates enormous stress and insecurity. It is not as bad as I understand it was - similarly for demands on women to be “feminine”, but it remains a significant influence. I am straight, but have been assumed to be gay often. People should be able to be authentic.Top-level commentCited in: Cultural expectations for males to be “masculine”, which creates enormous stress and
Being barefoot in another person's house. Yes, I'm an alternate universe Quentin Tarantino.Top-level commentCited in: Being barefoot in another person's house
The worst is when someone texts, and if you respond, they call immediately. I used to feel like i had to answer, but no more, straight to vmTop-level commentCited in: The worst is when someone texts, and if you respond, they call
ParrotsTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People that don’t bring a towel to the gym.Top-level commentCited in: People that don’t bring a towel to the gym
Posting photos of your kids online.Top-level commentCited in: Posting photos of your kids online
Campaign finance, even for candidates I like. Absolutely reprehensible.Top-level commentCited in: Campaign finance, even for candidates I like
Handing a baby or anyone under the age of 13 a smart phone. It boils my bone marrow. You don’t know WHAT the hell kids are watching. A lot of the kids content on YouTube is fetish material. Please don’t let your kids online.Top-level commentCited in: Handing a baby or anyone under the age of 13 a smart
For many in the US, our cities are not built for us to cross them. They are built for the machines produced by a few companies. It’s inhuman and exploitative. We are forced to buy cars. They don’t care if it hurts our planet or our communities as long as they make a profit.Top-level commentCited in: For many in the US, our cities are not built for us
How politics have become nothing but personal attacks on one another. If anyone acted like this at my company I would fire them without hesitation. I fear we cannot go back without something catastrophic.Top-level commentCited in: Politics have become nothing but personal attacks on one another
Posting pictures of your baby/ toddlerTop-level commentCited in: Posting pictures of your baby/ toddler
That picture of Messi bathing Lamine YamalTop-level commentCited in: Picture of Messi bathing Lamine Yamal
Driving is kinda crazy if you think about it too much. You’re trusting your life to strangers moving a 2+ ton box on wheels moving 60+ miles per hour, and you’re just hoping everyone is paying attention and makes quick logical reactionsTop-level commentCited in: Driving is kinda crazy if you think about it too much
Driving everywhere. I feel it is a massive waste of natural resources that people commute long distances daily. For some reason it is perfectly normal to move tons of weight for massive distances to go to work, stores, hobbies, or just to see places.Top-level commentCited in: Driving everywhere
CheatingTop-level commentCited in: Cheating
Making poor mental health part of your personalityTop-level commentCited in: Making poor mental health part of your personality
I think smoking/vaping is very weird and somewhat disturbing. You're actively choosing to harm your own lungs, your health and others around you. To me, it's the same as taking hard drugs, but you chose to do 1 but not the other.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
At least with drugs you only poison yourself...ReplyCited in: At least with drugs you only poison yourself
Nothing is going to be better. Invest in this and that.Top-level commentCited in: Nothing is going to be better
RepublicansTop-level commentCited in: Republicans
Women (usually but not always heterosexual) fetishizing M/M romance. I don't know why it's this huge market when, at least in my experience growing up, most would consider men who did the same thing to lesbians creeps.Top-level commentCited in: Women (usually but not always heterosexual) fetishizing M/M romance
Having to make a phone call instead of just sending a textTop-level commentCited in: Having to make a phone call instead of just sending a text
Hello Kitty. I just can't think of anything except "I have no mouth and I must scream" when I see her.Top-level commentCited in: Hello Kitty
People sharing their kids' childhoods so freely online. Always thought it was odd but in the age of AI and false imagery/video its just got way, way more scary.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
People who assume things about you that aren’t true because you are quiet and how they start to make your life harder.Top-level commentCited in: People who assume things about you that aren’t true because you are
Just technology slowly taking away jobs while the population becomes bigger...what are the majority of people able to do in the future?Top-level commentCited in: Just technology slowly taking away jobs while the population becomes bigger
Harry Potter fan fiction with sexual connotations. Some of the stories make it a point to age them up, but the characters are kids in my mind/heart. I don’t care how into Drermiome you are, it ain’t right.Top-level commentCited in: Harry Potter fan fiction with sexual connotations
Family vloggingTop-level commentCited in: Family vlogging
Working for other peopleTop-level commentCited in: Working for other people
Lowkey. It says 'I care' without sounding like I care." 😭Top-level commentCited in: Lowkey
Teen pregnancy, or rather teen parentsTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Eating eggsTop-level commentCited in: Eating eggs
dead animals on the side of the roadTop-level commentCited in: Dead animals on the side of the road
How people behave. And how “normal” conversations go. So many filler words and absolutely useless noise gurgitated.Top-level commentCited in: People behave
Sweet pickles in potato salad and tuna fish.Top-level commentCited in: Sweet pickles in potato salad and tuna fish
Silence and complacency. When others witness physical mental psychological financial and emotional abuse yet they say nothing pretending to be neutral by remaining silent. Silence means giving permissionTop-level commentCited in: Silence and complacency
Que tú pareja te diga "papi" o "mami" Me parece repugnanTop-level commentCited in: Que tú pareja te diga "papi" o "mami" Me parece repugnan
Mascots. Like the people in the outfits.Top-level commentCited in: Mascots
Pugs and any animal we have bred to sufferTop-level commentCited in: Pugs and any animal we have bred to suffer
Index finger rings on menTop-level commentCited in: Index finger rings on men
People showing their children onlineTop-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Crazy angry people are allowed to wander the streets.Top-level commentCited in: Crazy angry people are allowed to wander the streets
and they all congregated in this thread!ReplyCited in: And they all congregated in this thread
eating meatTop-level commentCited in: Eating meat
Making kids recite the Pledge of Allegiance.Top-level commentCited in: Making kids recite the Pledge of Allegiance
Breastfeeding past a yearTop-level commentCited in: Breastfeeding past a year
There’s something pretty morose about how universally loved hot dogs areTop-level commentCited in: There’s something pretty morose about how universally loved hot dogs are
The sexualization of Katseye. These girls are barely adults and making brain rot music for kids in lingerie and marketing it under feminismTop-level commentCited in: The sexualization of Katseye
surrogacy, i hate it, and i secretly find it deeply creepy, but its just seen as normal.Top-level commentCited in: Surrogacy, i hate it, and i secretly find it deeply creepy, but
HootersTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Throwing the N4zi word around for the tamest offensesTop-level commentCited in: Throwing the N4zi word around for the tamest offenses
3 hours into the question and nobody has said makeup. And high heels. And the earrings, necklaces and bracelets. And many painting their hair for much/all of their lives. One sex is decorating and painting themselves almost like their Christmas trees, and it feels like it's just me who seems to find it really fucking weird. To me, it is a bit disturbing to think what a woman must think about her normal, natural, beautiful looks to do all that to herself.Top-level commentCited in: 3 hours into the question and nobody has said makeup
The real weird part is that society expects women to do all that (which it does) but not men. Men aren’t expected to put any effort into looking beautiful, and predictably are also considered less beautiful on average by the opposite sex.ReplyCited in: The real weird part is that society expects women to do all
> her normal, natural, beautiful looks holy false generalizations, batmanReplyCited in: > her normal, natural, beautiful looks holy false generalizations, batman
Could you please cite a peer reviewed source showing that it is used as a form of birth control?ReplyCited in: Could you please cite a peer reviewed source showing that it is
Children's clothes specifically for little girls. When I started paying attention to how skimpy and "sexy" clothing brands make little girl clothes it makes me sick. If my wife and I have a girl, we are dressing them gender neutral.Top-level commentCited in: Children's clothes specifically for little girls
Car loans. Even if you can't swap transmissions or engines like I can there's no reason you can't find a $5000 Honda or Toyota and cheaply get around. The same people who can't put $200 a month away for maintenance happily sign up for $800 payments. Then you have to buy collision insurance too and it's more like an extra $1000 a month. My next door neighbors have four 2020s ish trucks and rent the house. I drive a piece of crap and own mineTop-level commentCited in: Car loans
The official narrative of 9/11Top-level commentCited in: The official narrative of 9/11
Almost every time I got to eat with someone. They don’t wash their hands before they eat. 🤢Top-level commentCited in: Almost every time I got to eat with someone
That life (we) even exist!!!! And everybody just goes about their day casually - working all our lives for money, something we’ve made up.Top-level commentCited in: Life (we) even exist
Laughing at other’s misfortuneTop-level commentCited in: Laughing at other’s misfortune
people who are incosiderate of others! esp if its a shared spaceTop-level commentCited in: People who are incosiderate of others
Kids watching pornography.Top-level commentCited in: Kids watching pornography
Gays for Islam.Top-level commentCited in: Gays for Islam
Border controls beyond the minimum. Borders are fundamentally a system of global apertheid and I find them really perverse, yet most of the world doesn't agree with me. I also find non-pacifism incredibly morally twisted- it makes our core human rights contingent on our actions, and the idea that even in actual self-defence, we have the right to do the same evil thing back to people and kill them is incredibly messed up, tbh. I don't see any fundamentally difference between non-pacifism and conventional terrorism, tbh.Top-level commentCited in: Border controls beyond the minimum
>Border controls beyond the minimum. Borders are fundamentally a system of global apertheid and I find them really perverse, yet most of the world doesn't agree with me. How would a borderless world work though? The idea that there shouldn't be any borders sounds nice for two seconds until you realise how much of our way of life relies on determining where your way of life starts and ends. What laws apply where if there is no boundary and everyone has a different opinion? What land is controlled by who? >I also find non-pacifism incredibly morally twisted- it makes our core human rights contingent on our actions, and the idea that even in actual self-defence, we have the right to do the same evil thing back to people and kill them is incredibly messed up, tbh. I don't see any fundamentally difference between non-pacifism and conventional terrorism, tbh. That's a very naïve take in my opinion. And quite shitty too. It's in the same vein as the "we shouldn't have borders" thing. Like, yeah, it's a nice thought a kid would have when they realise that hurting people is mean. But in the real world things are a bit more complicated. When things like oppression and fascism and abuse exist, the idea that being non pacifist makes you as bad as a terrorist is insanely shitty. Being peaceful when faced with ideas and actions that are against peace, gets you hurt and oppressed. Peace only exists because peaceful people reserve the right to be non peaceful when it comes to facing ideas and actions that go against peace. That's the very reason we live in the most peaceful era in human history right now actually, we violently fought for this world against the people who wanted otherwise, and ensured we could fight to defend it. Only a terrible person would tell victims that they're terrorists for fighting back against their oppressors. If you don't see the difference between self defence and terrorism there might be something wrong with you.ReplyCited in: >Border controls beyond the minimum
Not have lids on the toilet seats in public restrooms (in the US). The flushing is what causes the germs and poop particles to get launched into the air. Would be cleaner with the lidsTop-level commentCited in: Not have lids on the toilet seats in public restrooms (in the
How many people get sick from it a year? I’ve never heard a statistic for this.ReplyCited in: Many people get sick from it a year
Why do I have to justify it? The prompt says “what is something YOU find disturbing, but everyone else accepts as totally normal”. It doesn’t tell me that I have to explain it especially to some random person. This is my answer to the prompt because it’s freaking disgusting and spreads germs wayy worse than most ppl realize.ReplyCited in: Why do I have to justify it
All the "teen sex" in TV and movies. I get that the actors are usually adults but like... Why do you want to see that?Top-level commentCited in: All the "teen sex" in TV and movies
Eating animals, using animal products (eg. leather, wool), etc. Animal exploitation in general. Animals aren't just inanimate objects that exist for our amusement. They're our (very) distant relatives, and they are more similar to us than they are different. If you wouldn't kill a human to make clothing out of their skin, you shouldn't pay for leather clothes.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
A rapist being potusTop-level commentCited in: A rapist being potus
the fact that anything exists at allTop-level commentCited in: Anything exists at all
People using their phones in the bathroom. Even worse, when they're at a restaurant and bring their phone back from the bathroom then put it on the table. They (hopefully) washed their hands, but did they wash their phone?Top-level commentCited in: People using their phones in the bathroom
Sharing everything on Social MediaTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The normalization of passive driver aids. Emergency ones like ABS or traction control make sense, they keep people safe in times of panic. But stuff like lane-keep, adaptive cruise, and blind spot monitoring worry me. I drive a small car that is not always seen by the sensors of other cars, I have experienced first hand that drivers will look _at_ their mirror for the blind spot monitoring light, not see it, and then almost run me off the road. Theres also countless anecdotes of people exclaiming how lane-keep and adaptive cruise take off so much mental load from long drives. Well of course it is; you’re paying less attention to the driving!! As much as people want to say these things help, I am not convinced they’re doing anything other than breeding a generation of incompetent drivers.Top-level commentCited in: The normalization of passive driver aids
Funny enough we are reluctant to embrace the best driving aid, self driving cars Everyone dreams of future where the car drives itself but laws are so you have to keep your hands on the wheel etc. I don't like this tbhReplyCited in: Funny enough we are reluctant to embrace the best driving aid, self
Im not sure if Im on board with fully self driving cars yet, but Im really on the fence; I typed and deleted 3 very different replies as I sat here and gave it some thought haha. This middle-ground stuff scares me tho.ReplyCited in: Im not sure if Im on board with fully self driving cars
The level of excess people take their obsessions with things: sports, alcohol, gambling, Hell, even something as mundane as owning a gun. They let it become their ENTIRE PERSONALITY.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
How casually people drive while textingTop-level commentCited in: Casually people drive while texting
Ironically, Normalcy. People don't care if the way we live is efficacious, they just care that it's normal. And things can just become normal by being done for a prolonged period of time. So anyone who can force people to behave a certain way for a prolonged period of time can just dictate how life is for everyone forever.Top-level commentCited in: Ironically, Normalcy
ChristianityTop-level commentCited in: Christianity
Televised trialsTop-level commentCited in: Televised trials
How normal it is for anime to have children and teens as the main or entire cast. Then the vast majority of the time they're written and treated as adults, but they're not. Sexualization is common and even when it isn't in the shows it always is in the fandoms and shipping.Top-level commentCited in: Normal it is for anime to have children and teens as the
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
The quality of everything dropping I feel there’s too much variety surely a few decent products per brand is better than a dozen shit onesTop-level commentCited in: The quality of everything dropping I feel there’s too much variety surely
The need to normalize things is pretty concerning. Things don't have to be normal to be acceptable. Needing to normalize things normalizes and idea that there is an approved list of ways to be different, because they're all normal. Let's see... gay, trans, suffered an amputation, all on the approved list. I don't see YOUR difference there. Looks like you're the problem!Top-level commentCited in: The need to normalize things is pretty concerning
Billboards.Top-level commentCited in: Billboards
Handshaking. I don't want to touch any of you ever.Top-level commentCited in: Handshaking
We can bring back bowing and curtsying.ReplyCited in: We can bring back bowing and curtsying
What about just a head nod and "hey bro" or "hey sis"?ReplyCited in: What about just a head nod and "hey bro" or "hey sis
Sure, a head nod is similar to bowing. That's fine with me.ReplyCited in: Sure, a head nod is similar to bowing
Angel babies...Top-level commentCited in: Angel babies
Oversharing when I just met you/barely know you. The especially applies to any form of oversharing when it comes to kink/ your sex life. I'm pretty open minded however I don't want to know who had their arm shoved up you last night when I only just met you.Top-level commentCited in: Loss of internet, location, and domestic privacy
Loud births. I hate it. There was a woman screaming when I was in L&D. I was so annoyed, it was my third so I get it.Top-level commentCited in: Loud births
Parents tracking their kids every location. Part of being a high schooler imo is supposed to be getting into semi sketchy situations and doing things you’re not supposed to.Top-level commentCited in: Parents tracking their kids every location
BabiesTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Drinking cows milk.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
What's distributing about that...?ReplyCited in: What's distributing about that
Sharing photos of their children online. We didn’t even publicise our son’s date of birth.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
That certain members of Finance, Politic and Lawenforcment are still breathing.Top-level commentCited in: Certain members of Finance, Politic and Lawenforcment are still breathing
Global warming.Top-level commentCited in: Global warming
Those Instagram story prompts where it’s like “6 photos from June” or “last photo you took” or “last picture you took NO FACES” because it’s obviously taking them to teach their AITop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
AI 😭Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
How much everyone treats sick and disabled people like people to forget about. Being disabled the only marginalized group we will all belong to one day.Top-level commentCited in: Much everyone treats sick and disabled people like people to forget about
\> Being disabled the only marginalized group we will all belong to one day. How did you arrive on this conclusion?ReplyCited in: \> Being disabled the only marginalized group we will all belong to
Social media and smartphones, but it's definitely not a secret.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
These stupid parents setting kids of all ages in front of a screen. Not teaching them anything especially how to behave in public. Maybe you shouldn't breed them if that's all your going to do. Just more fat lazy parents wanting to be friends with their kids instead of their parentsTop-level commentCited in: These stupid parents setting kids of all ages in front of a
Those interviews where they ask celebs to read thirsty tweets about them on camera. Feels like sexual harassment honestlyTop-level commentCited in: Those interviews where they ask celebs to read thirsty tweets about them
Hundreds of millions of people were doing this activity/hobby safely, but one idiot got hurt so now we have to ban it. We are literally going to have nothing new to do.Top-level commentCited in: Hundreds of millions of people were doing this activity/hobby safely, but one
The total disregard people have for other life forms.Top-level commentCited in: The total disregard people have for other life forms
the orange oneTop-level commentCited in: The orange one
Religion. All of them.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Recording a fight. Wouldnt even cross my mind.Top-level commentCited in: Recording a fight
PregnancyTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Flock cameras were sold to us as tools for stolen cars and Amber Alerts. History says that's rarely where these things stop. Traditional plate readers already catch nearly every toll-evader and most getaway cars. They don't need facial recognition or AI analysis to do that. So what's the real justification for blanketing every street with cameras that do far more than read plates? **This isn't hypothetical — it's already happening with the current tech.** The Institute for Justice has documented at least 18 cases nationwide of officers using Flock and similar ALPR systems to stalk romantic partners or exes — and they call that number an undercount, since it only includes cases that became public: - An Illinois police *chief* used his department's Flock system and a state database to track six people he knew personally, three of them women he'd dated, over 18 months. - A Florida officer ran his ex-girlfriend's plate through Flock 69 times in one summer, plus dozens more on her parents' plates. - An Idaho sheriff searched for his wife's plate 700+ times in three months, labeling each search "test" — then quietly retired instead of facing charges. For every officer arrested and put in the news, others are just fired, resign, or retire quietly. The real misuse rate is worse than any public tally shows. **The bigger risk is what this enables beyond stalking.** A stop or seizure only needs to clear "reasonable suspicion" — and a camera network that can log "he was near a high-crime area" hands officers a ready-made justification after the fact. That same low bar powers civil asset forfeiture, where police can seize cash or property on suspicion alone, the owner often can't afford a lawyer to fight it, and in many states the proceeds fund the department that seized it. More automated "reasons" to stop someone means more forfeiture opportunities. **The US has a real track record of expanding surveillance under manufactured or exaggerated threats that never shrink back down.** The Gulf of Tonkin incident that escalated Vietnam was later shown to be exaggerated. COINTELPRO used "security" as cover to surveil civil rights and anti-war activists for two decades. The Patriot Act passed in weeks after 9/11 and quietly enabled bulk phone surveillance on ordinary citizens — not disclosed until the 2013 Snowden leaks, twelve years later. Same playbook: build the network for something narrow and popular — cars, Amber Alerts, tolls. Then a "small software update" turns it into a full AI surveillance system, sold as necessary when the next threat, real or manufactured, comes along. Once it's on every corner, there's no walking it back. **This is actually being decided in court right now, and most people have no idea.** In Norfolk, VA, the Institute for Justice sued the city arguing its ~175-camera Flock network amounts to a warrantless dragnet search. A federal judge sided with the city in January 2026; it's now on appeal at the Fourth Circuit (*Schmidt v. City of Norfolk*). Then on June 29, 2026, the Supreme Court ruled 6-3 in *United States v. Chatrie* that a "geofence warrant" — pulling everyone's phone location data near a crime scene, then sorting out who's a suspect afterward — violates the Fourth Amendment because it isn't specific enough about who's being searched. That case was about phone data, not license plates, but civil liberties attorneys say the same logic applies directly to ALPR networks like Flock, which do the same thing: sweep up everyone, sort it out later. Nothing is finalized — but the next year of rulings could set the precedent for whether any of this requires a warrant at all. **Sources:** - IJ, "Police Have Reportedly Used License Plate Readers to Stalk Romantic Interests at Least 18 Times" — [site removed] - IPVM, "Flock-Powered Police Chiefs Stalking Women Shows Why Warrants Are Needed" — [site removed] - 404 Media, "Cops Keep Getting Arrested for Using Flock to Stalk People" — [site removed] - Institute for Justice, ongoing constitutional challenge to Flock's ALPR network - *Schmidt v. City of Norfolk*, No. 26-1227, Fourth Circuit (on appeal) - *United States v. Chatrie*, decided June 29, 2026 (Supreme Court geofence warrant ruling) .Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Military men cheatingTop-level commentCited in: Military men cheating
Life360Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Debt based monetary system. TLDR: sophisticated form of debt slavery.Top-level commentCited in: Debt based monetary system
Rocky Horror Picture ShowTop-level commentCited in: Rocky Horror Picture Show
the act of having sex is very weird when u think about itTop-level commentCited in: The act of having sex is very weird when u think about
I guess sometimes you rejoice in a sad song that previously described you and later on you can look at that time with grace and happiness for having moved on. Or sometimes you feel seen and understood by a sad song and that makes you feel better?ReplyCited in: I guess sometimes you rejoice in a sad song that previously described
I see your point but what immediately came to mind was pumped up kicks and horribly enough I burst out laughing. So kinda proves the point I guess. Still, having trouble imagining anyone attributing any kind of positive emotions towards thatReplyCited in: I see your point but what immediately came to mind was pumped
Sure! It totally depends on the song. With pumped up kicks I get kind of a creepy chill like when you’re watching a creepy movie. Can be pleasant!ReplyCited in: Sure
Thank you for a not aggressive reply, feels very refreshing! I get the same thing, like you're watching a car crash and you know you can't do shit. It's horrors exposed in front of you but you couldn't even if you tried and there is something morbidly comforting about that. Or maybe I need years of therapyReplyCited in: Thank you for a not aggressive reply, feels very refreshing
No, you’re fine haha. There is something truely peaceful about feeling like the worst thing has happened. I recently lost someone and I spend a long time leading up to it in a state of fear and anxiety. When it was over, I was strangely relieved. He was gone. I had survived this terrible thing. I was still there. I think something akin to a second-hand feeling of that is experienced when we watch something scary. We are able to experience those feelings and fears in a safe place where nothing actually happens to us and we can feel it through. It’s cathartic.ReplyCited in: No, you’re fine haha
I just walked in to a bar in Gothenburg and guess what song is on. I couldn't ever describe it as well as you did, that was poetic. I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for writing that, gives me a sense of closure I apparently needed.ReplyCited in: I just walked in to a bar in Gothenburg and guess what
I‘m happy you got something out of my comment! And I find it magical that you just randomly heard this song. I‘m sitting here in Germany writing this while you listen to this song we both talked about in Gothenburg. All we have is each other. We‘re all connected. I wish you well, have a nice night. :)ReplyDemoted from the promoted catalog during this round's recategorization review: reviewed in full, the record is a warm, unrelated personal message with no disturbing or evaluative content and no genuine connection to any category in this article's taxonomy -- an apparent stray inclusion -- so it is retained here in the complete raw-comment archive rather than cataloged as a finding; see recategorization-audit-v4.json for the specific reasoning.
Like fungi, always connected. My sincere thanks, really. Welp, they just threw on p!nk, I'm done for. Give my best to Germany and also to yourself :) I hope your pillow is forever the temperature you need xReplyCited in: Like fungi, always connected
My neighbourTop-level commentCited in: My neighbour
Factory farming.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Capitalism.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Kissing other peoples children on the mouth when saying goodbye/hello. I hate it. Or telling your child to give an adult a kiss goodbye. Just weird.Top-level commentCited in: Kissing other peoples children on the mouth when saying goodbye/hello
How most daycares in America don’t require shoe removal or at least covering the shoes especially for the baby rooms where all the little ones are crawling and putting toys and hands in their mouths all dayTop-level commentCited in: Most daycares in America don’t require shoe removal or at least covering
People eating meat while being aware of the horrors inflicted on those animals.Top-level commentCited in: People eating meat while being aware of the horrors inflicted on those
Hi I'm the person you're talking about, do you have any questions that might help you understand my perspective?ReplyCited in: Hi I'm the person you're talking about, do you have any questions
The wage slavery system where you're supposed to work from 18-65ish and then finally be free and "live" only when your youth, time, and health has been drained from you. The absolute insanity of this madness is soulcrushing and people are like "that's just how life works". There isn't an opt-out. The system literally forces your dependence on it with violence. You cant just walk into the wild with a fishing pole and an axe to live off the land because all land is owned by someone / the system. You will be forcefully removed if you attempt to live free. The enslavement of mankind is being made worse every day like a kafkaesque nightmare.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Any meat industry. How is it normal to have so much suffering in concentration camps to have animals grow to then murder them, millions per day, just so that there's some meat on your plate. Deeply disturbing if you think of the perpetual genocidal suffering and killing.Top-level commentCited in: Any meat industry
That people can no longer tolerate anyone who disagrees with them.Top-level commentCited in: People can no longer tolerate anyone who disagrees with them
Any children's picture book about the military (Seals, Green Berets, etc). There is no ethical way IMO to depict these things while also being honest about the mind bending cruelty they inflict on ppl around the world in service of whatever Capital/the US gov wants. To attempt to do so requires such extensive sanitization and reliance on popular myths and misrepresentation that the end product is almost completely divorced from any sense of reality or historic accuracy around those professions and what they really do. Better to leave the topic alone (but not ignored) until its possible to be honest about it. It also teaches kids to accept military service and operations based on a almost completely esthetic basis - it looks cool so it must be fine. So many Americans never learn to understand their military etc beyond that level. Its a bummer.Top-level commentCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Eating the bodies of animals. It seems like a horror movie to me now even though I grew up doing it.Top-level commentCited in: Eating the bodies of animals
Americas Tip culture.Top-level commentCited in: Americas Tip culture
Not learning by reading books and doing actual research, but also not being able to do simple DIY things and practically believing they are magic. It's 2026 and there's no reason a literate person in their 40s can't master a wide variety of skills that were previously out of reach or specialized.Top-level commentCited in: Not learning by reading books and doing actual research, but also not
The normalization of industrialized factory farmingTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Having children.Top-level commentCited in: Having children
The level of consumerism. Stop buying so much shit!! The idea that people have so much stuff that they need to purchase storage units blows my mind. I understand having big items that relate to hobbies. But we don’t need to have so much furniture, clothes, junk that is only weighing your life down. When I moved across the country, my rule was that if it didn’t fit in my car, I would toss it. It felt so liberating just fitting my life into a car knowing I would have a clean slate in the next place I move.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Piercings just ew why would you do that to your body dude that's painful to even look at People who drink or smoke being treated as normal and the ones who don't being treated as the weird guy outcast even People who watch anime with subs I get anime that has bad dubbing or no dubs or even if it's a slow simple anime but watching an action spectacle with subs just ruins the cinematic feel of it I don't understand how watching in subs is more popular heck why not just learn the language I can't tolerate a lil part of the screen being occupied and sometimes it spoils stuff especially jokes it's like people don't care about experiencing art fully Making fun of bald people okay that's only because I recently found out there's a history of baldness in my family but still 😭Top-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
Eating meat..Top-level commentCited in: Eating meat
The belief in magic.Top-level commentCited in: The belief in magic
Men being into hairless vag. Hairless vag is what prepubescent girls have not what women have naturally. Idk it disturbs me but seems to be widely accepted as normal.Top-level commentCited in: Men being into hairless vag
Guy’s opinion here - I don’t see the particular attraction to a shaved vag, but unshaven legs are a deal breaker. Yuck. Armpits? Whatever. As long as there’s not a rastafari sasquatch under there it’s fine by me. Bush is fine, neatly trimmed is my preference, completely unkempt is not very attractive but ok i guess, and shaved is only ok if it just happened and you did a really good job, and/or laser/waxed it. Otherwise it’s sandpaper and that’s not ok.ReplyCited in: Guy’s opinion here - I don’t see the particular attraction to a
Circumcision on infants unable to consentTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Pornography.Top-level commentCited in: Pornography
Giving attention (rewarding) to a dog that's barkingTop-level commentCited in: Giving attention (rewarding) to a dog that's barking
Animal agriculture and our general out of site out of mind mentality on itTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Grass. Why the hell would anyone chose a perpetual chore?Top-level commentCited in: Grass
That the nature of our reality is consuming life to live. That, even while trying to mitigate it, our purpose is to inflict suffering and exist at the expense of other living things. Being conscious of it is being damned.Top-level commentCited in: The nature of our reality is consuming life to live
Where our meat and animal products come from…Top-level commentCited in: Where our meat and animal products come from…
The sheer volume of people who are unhappy in their own skin.Top-level commentCited in: The sheer volume of people who are unhappy in their own skin
Yes! I was raised catholic and it used to creep me out big time. I tell myself that hell only exists to religious people and hope that this means that only they will go to the hell they imagine.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Hell is a horrific concept.ReplyCited in: Hell is a horrific concept
A large amount of people are really happy to and look for ways to commit horrific crimes in a socially acceptable manner.Top-level commentCited in: A large amount of people are really happy to and look for
money. the conversion of every single thing on the planet into a cheap dollar valuation, including every hour of our working human lives. our children's lives destined to be bought and sold one hour at a time, just as our parents' were. the default way of life necessarily being entirely beholden to the will of others, not because of their competence or wisdom, but because they have more money. because it's profitable to be a sociopath. the normalization of out in the open deliberate exploitation of wages in the name of "good" business, of deliberately producing goods that are as addictive as possible, of the enshittification of everything under the sun just to squeeze out one more penny of profit. the pouring of massive amounts of capital resources and human effort into flashy advertisements and bought and sold news organizations ***explicitly*** intended to manipulate a defenseless populace. the casual destruction of the planet, clogging it with some new single use plastic trash and unnecessary packaging and a million different pollutants every second because it's cheap to not even think twice about the impact of a product on the planet and upon every creature on it. it's disgusting, disturbing, and is eating us alive, and it's such a huge society-wide paradigm-shift-level problem that we're all just stuck watching it happen, forced to keep going to work every day or starve in the street, telling ourselves we're not just slaves with extra steps.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
How expensive “cheap” snacks are wtfTop-level commentCited in: Expensive “cheap” snacks are wtf
The Reddit hive mind. 10 years ago I thought this was such a diverse and wide ranging source of insights, when I now realize what a tiny section of viewpoints Reddit truly is. Probably more than any social media outside of something fringe like Truth Social.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Wanting people to know everything about you. Not like, one person but like everybody. I’d rather people wonder what the hell I might be doing should I cross their mind.Top-level commentCited in: Wanting people to know everything about you
Humiliating your children online. Ex) posting their meltdowns etcTop-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Strangers trying to talk to your baby in public. Like completely ignoring me trying to get my baby to smile nothing makes me want to scream CREEP moreTop-level commentCited in: Strangers trying to talk to your baby in public
Child beauty pageants…Top-level commentCited in: Child beauty pageants…
How dependent on alcohol so many people are for their social life, despite the enormous number of crimes, emotional impact, and health issues alcohol causes.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Canadian/Ontario resident here: The state of education. How we’re allowing children to witness violence so easily because we don’t want our taxes to go up. How parents justify their children from being violent with “gentle parenting”. How we’re allowing governments to dismantle education to pad the pockets of their friends (future privatization). And with that, the mental health crisis we are in.Top-level commentCited in: Canadian/Ontario resident here
climate changeTop-level commentCited in: Climate and ecological damage treated as business as usual
<Gestures widely.>Top-level commentCited in: <Gestures widely
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Anthropocentric land use. Bulldozing woods for stupid strip mallsTop-level commentCited in: Anthropocentric land use
kids getting into physical altercations at schoolTop-level commentCited in: Kids getting into physical altercations at school
People circlejerking themselves out of the concept of facts and reality.Top-level commentCited in: People circlejerking themselves out of the concept of facts and reality
Crustaceans.Top-level commentCited in: Crustaceans
Sort by controversial if you want to read anything remotely interesting.Top-level commentCited in: Sort by controversial if you want to read anything remotely interesting
Algorithms designed to maximise user attention. This invariably leads to ragebait, pseudoscience, decisive issues, extremism and conspiracy theory nonsense rising to the top of the pile because they trigger engagement from people. Truth and objectivity has taken a back seat. People are no longer in control of how they view the world. Our reality is shaped by the media we consume, and many platforms now just push algorithmically selected media to their users - they aren't in control of what they consume, and it is changing how they think (for the worse). In other words, social media doomscrolling is turning people's brains into mush.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The way we treat retirement as the default life goal instead of just a phaseTop-level commentCited in: We treat retirement as the default life goal instead of just a
Allowing small children with developing brains to use screens!Top-level commentCited in: Allowing small children with developing brains to use screens
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
I think to make fun of people to just look cool in front of everyone is truly disturbing.Every person deserves to be respected and also boundaries must be set.Top-level commentCited in: I think to make fun of people to just look cool in
People honk unnecessarily on the roads, which disturbs me.Top-level commentCited in: People honk unnecessarily on the roads, which disturbs me
Throwing parties or gatherings in apartment blocks. Especially if they go in late in the evenings.Top-level commentCited in: Throwing parties or gatherings in apartment blocks
How the same questions are being asked over and over again on r/Askreddit for some internet points.Top-level commentCited in: The same questions are being asked over and over again on r/Askreddit
The whole concept of capitalism and chasing endless growth on a planet of limited supplies.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Joe BidenTop-level commentCited in: Joe Biden
Organ transplants An organ cannot be "harvested" from a dead body which is why they keep people on life support. And brain dead isn't always deadTop-level commentCited in: Organ transplants An organ cannot be "harvested" from a dead body which
How things are really bad right now (cost of living, healthcare crisis in the US, phone addiction, over consumption), but not enough people are uncomfortable enough to make meaningful changes. I don’t think people realize how much power we have to actually make meaningful changes to better our communities, but it would take us breaking away from a lot of luxuries that make life “easy”.Top-level commentCited in: Phone use displacing attention and face-to-face presence
When people (moms) say their child is their best friend.Top-level commentCited in: When people (moms) say their child is their best friend
We’re all going to die one day…relatively soonTop-level commentCited in: We’re all going to die one day…relatively soon
Space.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People are not freaked out that there is literally poo all through their bodies and they then just let it fall out of their bottoms whilst they play on their phones! It’s literally poo people - inside you right now.Top-level commentCited in: People are not freaked out that there is literally poo all through
Egg farms literally blend baby male chicks to kill them. Because they won't lay eggs. There's an assembly line that leads a constant row of baby chicks into a blender. [link removed]Top-level commentCited in: Egg farms literally blend baby male chicks to kill them
Infant circumcisionTop-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Ignorance and always believing you’re right. I forget who says this but “the scariest type of man is the one who has good intentions.”Top-level commentCited in: Ignorance and always believing you’re right
The PatriarchyTop-level commentCited in: The Patriarchy
People using "daddy" as a sexual reference. Likely because I was SA'd by my own father as a child, but it still feels icky to me.Top-level commentCited in: People using "daddy" as a sexual reference
Actors in movies/tv handling a pregnancy test like it doesn't have piss all over itTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
The concept of the nation.Top-level commentCited in: The concept of the nation
Eating ~~dead~~ animals Edit: because people apparently have a huge issue with how I phrased this I removed the dead part. No matter whether the animal is alive or dead, it’s disgusting.Top-level commentCited in: Eating ~~dead~~ animals Edit
Am I supposed to eat them while they're alive?ReplyCited in: Am I supposed to eat them while they're alive
That the president of the United States is a convicted rapist and is accused of raping under aged girls. But everyone is kool with it.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Everyone is not cool with it. Everyone either hates him deeply or thinks the accusations are lies. Nobody’s like “boy I am glad this country’s run by a rapist”.ReplyCited in: Everyone is not cool with it
Hitting children.Top-level commentCited in: Hitting children
Car culture. I grew up in it. It’s undeniably nice to have a mode of transit that’s so convenient. It’s insane we’ve structured our entire society around everyone having a car.Top-level commentCited in: Car culture
Men who are truly just helpless. Cant cook, can’t clean. I saw a reality show (I know I know) where a man was scooping an avocado out and going around the pit and his girlfriend said she wouldn’t eat it because it was brown. Women all over the internet find it HILARIOUS when their husbands know nothing at the doctors office for their kids. Seen too many clips of men not even knowing their wives allergies!!Top-level commentCited in: Men who are truly just helpless
calling your partner "daddy"Top-level commentCited in: Calling your partner "daddy
Yeah she won't like that..ReplyCited in: Yeah she won't like that
Honestly anything dealing with alcohol, tobacco, or vaping... To me none of those should be normal, it shouldn't be normal to be constantly sucking on a vape, going out for a smoke, or always drinking/ going out for a drink/ cracking one open upon getting home. It shouldnt be normal to always want to be chemically altering your body or mind. It shouldnt be normal to be addicted to substances. And above all else it shouldnt be normal for vaping to be SO ok for any and all kids to do. Like seriously its just like vaping showed up and kids started doing it everywhere and no one really seems to have batted an eye.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Work.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
You can't tell the men who act nice but view people weaker than them as objects to consume or break from the men who are good-natured... And there's a crazy amount of the former wandering around.Top-level commentCited in: You can't tell the men who act nice but view people weaker
Men that dress like women & very obviously are mentally unstable. And demand to be referred as something else other than their gender.Top-level commentCited in: Men that dress like women & very obviously are mentally unstable
I don't think "unstable" is the word you're looking for. They tend to be pretty stable in how they feel about their gender, whether or not you think it makes sense.ReplyCited in: I don't think "unstable" is the word you're looking for
Get educated bro... 😭ReplyCited in: Get educated bro
Drinking, particularly at bars. Granted I'm a recovering alcoholic, and it's the nectar of the gods (maybe I need to see someone) but just the idea of it. You go out, get sloppy, then debate who has to drive home; I hate it and was never a bar drinker. Even in the throes of alcoholism i would've preferred to get coffee with a friend, or if we did drink it'd be a brewery with puzzles and 1 beer.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Game of thronesTop-level commentCited in: Game of thrones
People yelling at babies, even playfullyTop-level commentCited in: People yelling at babies, even playfully
any kind of addiction, it's fucking miserable in so many ways, yes even "harmless" socially acceptable ones such as smokingTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Smoking is neither harmless nor socially acceptable.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
compared to doing hard drugs, yes it isReplyCited in: Compared to doing hard drugs, yes it is
None of these are things “everyone else” accepts as normal. I’m a strong supporter of handshakes being removed from society.Top-level commentCited in: None of these are things “everyone else” accepts as normal
Eating animals.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Casual cruelty, especially to the socially awkward. Seeing how people so easily mock them, imply they might be a serial killer, humiliate them, and then unify against them if they dare point out the predatory behavior \*towards them\* is stunning. Once you are even somewhat Other, the masks come off.Top-level commentCited in: Sexual abuse and exploitation of minors
TanningTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Tattoos. Never understood stood pleasure from getting jabbed hundreds of times and marking up your body.Top-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
FishingTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People taking the piss out of someone clearly in a mental health crisis in a public area. You can help them or at least try.Top-level commentCited in: People taking the piss out of someone clearly in a mental health
The way people talk about elderly people like they’re pets. Calling them cute, not taking things they say seriously, making them a joke even if it’s good natured. I worked in healthcare with the majority of my patients being elderly. They’re not pets, they’re people. I hate that I even have to say that.Top-level commentCited in: People talk about elderly people like they’re pets
OH SHIT this was eye openingReplyCited in: OH SHIT this was eye opening
Drinking milk. Admittedly, I do use coffee creamer and I like cheese… it’s incredibly weird that we not only drink milk, but are shocked when it causes weight gain. It’s literally intended to grow a baby cow. It feels a bit perverse if I get too far in my head! Circumcision. This being normal feels strange to me for some reason. I’m female, but I dislike that we choose for men instead of letting them decide. I live in the US.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Cows are adult females that have given birth to a calf and can therefore produce milk. There is no such thing a baby cow. Cows are not a species. The term you’re looking for is calf.ReplyCited in: Cows are adult females that have given birth to a calf and
As much as I appreciate your accuracy, I think I still prefer baby cows 😂ReplyCited in: As much as I appreciate your accuracy, I think I still prefer
Pornos, it's demeaning and sets wrong standards on both men and women.Top-level commentCited in: Pornos, it's demeaning and sets wrong standards on both men and women
Antisemitism on the internetTop-level commentCited in: Antisemitism on the internet
People should talk about it more instead of tolerating it.ReplyCited in: People should talk about it more instead of tolerating it
The world's oldest and most accepted hate...ReplyCited in: The world's oldest and most accepted hate
Especially since it existed since the 13th century BCE at the earliest with the Merneptah Stele calling to destroy Israel.ReplyCited in: Especially since it existed since the 13th century BCE at the earliest
Every society and civilization that aimed to eliminate the Jews has fallen 🤷‍♂️ReplyCited in: Every society and civilization that aimed to eliminate the Jews has fallen
And antisemitism surges whenever times are tough and when people are looking for a scapegoat to blame for the problems of society, much like now.ReplyCited in: And antisemitism surges whenever times are tough and when people are looking
Hopefully things get better soon, seeing the constant hate is very draining 😔ReplyCited in: Hopefully things get better soon, seeing the constant hate is very draining
I hope that it won't led to the 2030s being an even worse decade for Jewish people compared to what we have now.ReplyCited in: I hope that it won't led to the 2030s being an even
At least this time there will be countries willing to take them in?ReplyCited in: At least this time there will be countries willing to take them
I hope so.ReplyCited in: I hope so
Anti-Genocide and anti-zionism is not jew hate Edit: wordReplyCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
People going out every single weekend and getting wasted. I cant fathom being like this. I like peace and wholesome activities it just irks me when people tell me its fun.Top-level commentCited in: People going out every single weekend and getting wasted
Pets on furniture. Cats on kitchen food prep surfaces. Dog in people's beds. And no, I'm not a pet hater. Far from it, I've always had dogs. And I realise people will immediately say "but my dog is on a blanket, on the sofa" or "but I disinfect my work surfaces constantly"... But then you go round their house the sofa is discoloured and stinky and coated in shed fur, there's fur all over the stove top and in the corners of the kitchen and their bed makes your fucking face itch. Filthy.Top-level commentCited in: Pets on furniture
When you think about it, eating meat. Most of us would be vegetarians if we had to slaughter the animals ourselvesTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
People using Ozempic for weight loss only I just find it unsettling that its seen as “normal” now to drug yourself to lose weight when theirs a lot of side effectsTop-level commentCited in: People using Ozempic for weight loss only I just find it unsettling
Referring to babies and young children as "it". That's a person.Top-level commentCited in: Referring to babies and young children as "it
Casual use of "bitch" "ho" to refer to any and every female human. Or to insult / humiliate someone by insinuating femaleness.Top-level commentCited in: Casual use of "bitch" "ho" to refer to any and every female
Having to work to have shelter and food.Top-level commentCited in: Having to work to have shelter and food
Have you been outside? Have you read the news? Have you had contact with people outside your immediate surroundings? World looks like shit atm (fucking everywhere) and we're on the precipice of a third world war. It's not easy to try and get a grip when everything around you constantly makes you feel like shit..ReplyCited in: Have you been outside
a lot of people can't afford helpReplyCited in: A lot of people can't afford help
That religion is a big game of telephone through the mouths of imperfect and sinful men… that people are subjugated and seen as lesser with religion as an excuse… that people think a manmade book, a record of history, is the finality of our relationship with God, and that there is no further progression, no further work to be done because of this thousands year old book. Times change…Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Honestly, a lot of cosmetic surgury seems like nonsense to me. I mean, not everything, but most of it is overblown and doesn't even look good. I also think chopping off natural parts of your body is a bit scary.Top-level commentCited in: Honestly, a lot of cosmetic surgury seems like nonsense to me
Not caring about the wellbeing of othersTop-level commentCited in: Not caring about the wellbeing of others
The fact that 40,000 Americans die every year in car accidents and society shrugs if off. But if a train details or a plane crashes its headline news and society demands answers...Top-level commentCited in: 40,000 Americans die every year in car accidents and society shrugs if
People being egotistical enough to film themselves doing the most mundane shit- chores, putting lotion on their face before bed, walking through a store, etc…and the fact that this egotistical and nonsensical content actually has faithful viewers. Like why is that interesting to anyone unless they just don’t have their own lives? Why do you want to watch some random stranger mopping their kitchen and performatively sipping on their morning coffee? Bizarre.Top-level commentCited in: People being egotistical enough to film themselves doing the most mundane shit
The way we treat each other.Top-level commentCited in: We treat each other
that thing where people pretend to and then laugh about pretending to hate their kids or spouse. fuck offffffTop-level commentCited in: Thing where people pretend to and then laugh about pretending to hate
Fascism and boot lickersTop-level commentCited in: Fascism and boot lickers
Designer dog breeds. Intentionally mutilating animals should carry the same outrage as industrial farming, which should get a lot more hate than it does.Top-level commentCited in: Designer dog breeds
Normalization of ai. My friend told me all about this book she’s writing with ai and it off put me a lot.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
ZoosTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
8-5 jobs... under florescent lights, with stupid short breaks and surrounded by 200 other people struggling existential dread of the meaningless of it all, but having to show up else you'll be homeless and probably dead in a couple months.Top-level commentCited in: 8-5 jobs
The hookup culture I've seen friends and aquaintances engaging in with people they don't even know when I decided to get back into dating a few years ago. I had no idea so many people were running around with no morals these days. It blew my mind. I would be afraid of getting murdered or getting a disease.Top-level commentCited in: The hookup culture I've seen friends and aquaintances engaging in with people
Being very overweight.Top-level commentCited in: Being very overweight
Getting in a steel container and flinging yourself at 100km/h, passing within a couple of feet of other steel containers doing the same thing in the opposite direction.Top-level commentCited in: Getting in a steel container and flinging yourself at 100km/h, passing within
I have no idea what this is about Rollercoasters?ReplyCited in: I have no idea what this is about Rollercoasters
Motorized vehicles in general.ReplyCited in: Motorized vehicles in general
Eating chicken eggs.Top-level commentCited in: Eating chicken eggs
Calling your partner your daddy or baby.Top-level commentCited in: Calling your partner your daddy or baby
Fake cloudsTop-level commentCited in: Fake clouds
Job interview culture. Companies get away with tons of dishonesty with “Honesty” also being one of their “Core principles”.Top-level commentCited in: Job interview culture
Inhaling toxic car fumes/exhaust on daily basis and polluting our air. It's insane....Top-level commentCited in: Inhaling toxic car fumes/exhaust on daily basis and polluting our air
Cheating!!!Top-level commentCited in: Cheating
I find women shaving their pussies bald a little disturbingTop-level commentCited in: I find women shaving their pussies bald a little disturbing
AI in my workplaceTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Honestly? Christianity. Especially the southern protestant flavor that's prevalent where I live. Every time I've had to go to one of their services it's given me the creeps. You believe there's a higher power that created everything and controls the universe? Ok, that's fair. There's a list of rules you're supposed to follow? Normal religious stuff. Ok. Oh and no one can agree on exactly what some of the rules are, because your holy text was written by multiple people in multiple languages, and sometimes it contradicts itself? That's rough, man. But if you break the rules, even accidentally, you have to spend eternity in Hell -- a special torture place your god designed just to punish you? ...Your god kinda sounds like a dick. And he (because it has a gender) wiped out the entire human race once before because he was so disgusted with how bad humans are? We're just the absolute worst little creatures and the only reason we don't all go to hell forever is because your god magically got a teenage girl pregnant, incarnated an aspect of himself in her child, and then made that guy get brutally tortured and murdered? But it's actually your fault he got tortured because you're just so bad, and you'd have to go to hell forever if Torture Guy hadn't died for you? So you better thank him all the time, every day? Or else your god might think you don't appreciate him? (Oh, and so you don't forget about the guy who got tortured for you, you put pictures and symbols of the way he was tortured everywhere?) Your god wants credit for every good thing AND every bad thing that happens in your life, but also you're not allowed to question him or doubt him in any way when the bad things happen, because you probably deserved it and he's just doing what he has to do. Even when he hurts you, he still demands that you worship him, love him, and give him constant adoration? And if you don't, you're a bad ungrateful child who he is going to have to send to the eternal torture place? They just sound like they're in an abusive relationship with their god. It's so creepy to me.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
People putting 24/7 CCTV in their home, especially when it's a cloud provider system. But even with local storage anything that's not pointing at a potential entry point feels weird to me. And all of this is especially worse if children are living in that house. Not just because of privacy in general but also because something like successfully sneaking to the fridge at 12am to get a snack on a school day may be irresponsible, but still a core childhood memory you're withholding from your child.Top-level commentCited in: People putting 24/7 CCTV in their home, especially when it's a cloud
The pledge of allegiance. Creepy and unsettling.Top-level commentCited in: The pledge of allegiance
Alcohol being consumed in large quantities daily everywhere.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Bioengineered (BE) food and ingredientsTop-level commentCited in: Bioengineered (BE) food and ingredients
Whats wrong with thatReplyCited in: Whats wrong with that
BE crops are engineered to withstand very toxic weed killers, which allos them to spray huge amounts of these chemicals that will degrade soil, pollute waterways, and leave chemicals on the foods people are eating. Also - the pollen of the modified genes can easily drift to nearby organic and wild fields, cross-contaminating natural crops permanently via pollen by wild and insects.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
I'm fairly certain (because this was a huge criticism of it I heard from people opposed to GMO all the time!) modified crops are meant to be "sterile" Also what you speak of is a good thing? More durable crops are good, the issue is with pesticides used but that's a matter of "the law allows this" not really anthing elseReplyCited in: I'm fairly certain (because this was a huge criticism of it I
a cunt called GodTop-level commentCited in: A cunt called God
Broadcasting your entire life on social mediaTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
80% of celebrities/famous people are terrible. Mostly pedophiles but there's other trash thrown in too. Rapists, anti vax, supporting genocide etc. I get there's an abuse cycle, power attracts shitty people etc, but the numbers are just too much. It makes me feel like decent people are the minority and fucks with how I interact with the public at large. I'm much less open to making new relationships.Top-level commentCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
Horror movies. I genuinely worry for living in a society where acted horror, pain and suffering is considered entertainment. I can take action movies and sad dramas all day, but enjoying seeing someone getting physically or psychologically tortured is just sick in my book.Top-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
\> enjoying seeing someone getting psychologically tortured is sick \> I can take sad dramas all day This, you think, is a coherent viewpoint? Also, you think when someone watches Alien and sees the Alien violently burst out of someone's body, their reaction is "hell yeah, I love this" ? Usually it's "this is horrible, I hope they stop the alien"ReplyCited in: \> enjoying seeing someone getting psychologically tortured is sick \> I can
It’s coherent, but maybe I should’ve narrowed the genre. I’m more thinking of movies like Saw, Human centipede, Hostel etc. Alien is an amazing movie / series and not the type of horror I’m referring to.ReplyCited in: It’s coherent, but maybe I should’ve narrowed the genre
Oh, no, yeah, I don't really like these either I'm sure there's a message to these movies but... Nah On the other hand I respect something like Human centipede more than something like The Boys, at least the former advertises itself as "this movie is about something really awful" and doesn't treat awful things as a jokeReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Santa.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The over-reliance on caffeine for everyday functioning. All of my coworkers drink at least 160mg of caffeine daily and tout how they couldn’t do their job without it. Add on the amount of sugar in these beverages and it’s an insanely unhealthy practice. Yet it’s entirely socially accepted and often expected. I gave up caffeine and anytime I tell someone if I’m tired their response is often that I should consume some caffeine. They’re taken aback when I respond that I won’t.Top-level commentCited in: The over-reliance on caffeine for everyday functioning
Being covered in tattoosTop-level commentCited in: Bodily modification and appearance pressure
Hmm, it seems weird how people in public spaces do not interact with each other. I'd rather check my app for the bus timings than ask the person next to me. It feels natural to me but it looks like a problem when it becomes uncomfortable to speak to random people for things like, asking someone to respect your court reservation.Top-level commentCited in: Hmm, it seems weird how people in public spaces do not interact
Windmills breaking in high winds....Top-level commentCited in: Windmills breaking in high winds
Slow drivers in the left lane. Are you not paying attention? High? Inebriated? Are you safe to drive around?Top-level commentCited in: Slow drivers in the left lane
Paying for factory farmed productsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Ducking doing harm to others,, I mean weekly meetings to come up with shit to fuck someone over,(life), and that the only shit they see is funny,,,im talking "POWER-NUT" too, never new them type people could live on the same planet as others,,,Top-level commentCited in: Ducking doing harm to others,, I mean weekly meetings to come up
Dance MomsTop-level commentCited in: Dance Moms
That some of my local funeral homes offer ambulance service. I just imagine them driving real slow and hitting curbs and then just shrugging and taking the patient to their morgue when saving them doesn't work outTop-level commentCited in: Some of my local funeral homes offer ambulance service
The way chronic exhaustion has become a status symbol. People casually accept being sleep-deprived, constantly reachable, skipping meals, and having no mental space—as if burnout proves ambition. What disturbs me most is that rest often has to be “earned,” while relentless productivity is treated as a virtue. A life can look successful from the outside while the person living it barely has time to experience it.Top-level commentCited in: Chronic exhaustion has become a status symbol
Maybe not deeply disturbing, but moderately disturbing, social drinking. It unsettles me that so many people think it's just completely normal and healthy that they need to drink alcohol, even reasonably small quantities, to feel comfortable and social around their friends.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
People saying small talk is normal like seriously how is asking the same questions to each other everyday for 10 years not disturbing?Top-level commentCited in: Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
Very violent songs.Top-level commentCited in: Very violent songs
Pregnancy and child rearing. I'm a woman.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Horror movies, especially graphic ones.Top-level commentCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
GunsTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The corporate culture of urgency. I work in Marketing. It's never that serious, babes. No one is dying.Top-level commentCited in: The corporate culture of urgency
The stock market.Top-level commentCited in: The stock market
Daddy daughter dances.Top-level commentCited in: Daddy daughter dances
SmokingTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
I find Santa Clause to be deeply disturbing. It’s not normal for everyone to lie to a child. It’s not normal for a child to learn the two people who they trust the most are in on it.Top-level commentCited in: I find Santa Clause to be deeply disturbing
Racism is not a deal breaker for majority of the WorldTop-level commentCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
People driving poorly with other people in the car. Seen as completely normal in large parts of Europe. Car overuse in general.Top-level commentCited in: People driving poorly with other people in the car
Parents handing off electronic devices to their kids rather than having their kids learn to entertain themselves. My son is 5 and is the only kid in his class that doesn't have constant access to tablets, TV, and video games. Setting aside AI, kids can't even entertain themselves or make up/play a game. I also hate that so many people don't see any problem with plastering their kids' faces all over the internet. These kids are growing up being taught that having no privacy is completely normal.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Women being expected to view giving head as a normal sexual act but men being allowed to be weirded out at the idea of eating a girl out. Especially when you remember men don’t use toilet paper to wipe after they pee (apparently, I heard this online, I’m a girl so idk) so it’s just like, why is it normal to put your pee stick in my mouthTop-level commentCited in: Women being expected to view giving head as a normal sexual act
I am a strate man and love givving head. If my wife does it for me I should repay the faver.ReplyCited in: I am a strate man and love givving head
The answers on this threadTop-level commentCited in: The answers on this thread
The fact clean shaven women are the norm even tho that’s a child’s bodyTop-level commentCited in: The fact clean shaven women are the norm even tho that’s a
No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make the argument that the majority of humans ever are pedophilesReplyCited in: No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make
How the focus and shame is on teens who become pregnant, and not the usually adult men who impregnated them….Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Coffee addiction. That's so weird to me. And people being like, "Oh we're having a happy photo together! We all need to be holding cans of alcohol!" Like....what? That's weird. People filming their children and putting it on the internet. Having them play in skits, making fun of them, posting embarrassing things their kid did/said. The government. Privatized healthcare.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Recreational tobacco/cigarette usage.Top-level commentCited in: Recreational tobacco/cigarette usage
Cars are SO dangerous. Like so fucking dangerous. They weigh literally a ton, go crazy fast, and they hand a driver's license out to practically anyone and never re-test you. I am regularly gobsmacked that anyone on or near a road gets away with their life, and frankly the death and injury rates are way higher than we let ourselves regularly think about.Top-level commentCited in: Cars are SO dangerous
War. Wanting people you don't like to die. To have them suffer. To wish them ill. I don't understand it and everytime I give into those feelings feel disgusted with myself.Top-level commentCited in: War
Parents kissing their kids on the lips. Even when the kid grows up.Top-level commentCited in: Kissing children on the mouth
the proliferation of profane and sexually grotesque 'music'Top-level commentCited in: The proliferation of profane and sexually grotesque 'music
That we are all in our own silos of opinion and people discount actual facts if it doesn’t align with our opinion. Also, that now is it’s acceptable to amplify the ignorant opinions of people unqualified people.Top-level commentCited in: We are all in our own silos of opinion and people discount
the fact that millions of animals a year are tortured to death in factory farms and that pointing this out makes people annoyed and/or angryTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Data brokers and personal information being easily accessible to anyone looking for itTop-level commentCited in: Data brokers and personal information being easily accessible to anyone looking for
People posting videos of their children crying while they torment them. Those people are SICK and so are the people who think it’s funny!Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Certain sports fans. How angry and riotous they get over something that doesn't impact their actual lives.Top-level commentCited in: Certain sports fans
Maybe a boring answer, but AI. It's easy to think this is obviously not accepted, but I've met so many people outside of the Internet that use AI obsessively. In Education, in Business, in so many professions. It fills me with so much dreadTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
How young kids are when they receive their first smart device now (mostly phones). I got my first phone when I started 6th grade, so 11-12 years old. Even then, I thought that was too early. I understand that it’s a right of passage now, but the average age of first phone seems to just keep getting younger and younger.Top-level commentCited in: Young kids are when they receive their first smart device now (mostly
Um... SocietyTop-level commentCited in: Um
The fact that we can’t block emoji reactions on texts, especially in group chatsTop-level commentCited in: We can’t block emoji reactions on texts, especially in group chats
I overheard a coworker(25f) say she used chatgpt to figure out to respond to a text from her realtor.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
All of the gambling sites and how they’re being marketed during a game. We shouldn’t normalize thisTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
I personally find our entire societal structure and way of life to be deeply disturbing.Top-level commentCited in: I personally find our entire societal structure and way of life to
Your kidsTop-level commentCited in: Your kids
Cars and the amount of death and injury it causes compared to other modes of transportation. Driving is easily the most dangerous thing most people do on a daily basis but because it's done so often its become so normalized which makes some people far more careless. I've seen _far_ too many people run red lights and be on their phone while driving all the time where I live on a daily basis and nobody seems to bat an eye. And dont even get me started on US pickups and their [**massive,** massive blind spots]([link removed] among their many other problems. I was nearly killed the other day by some pos who was speeding down the wrong lane and nearly made a head on collision with me and ran a red light just to get pass the four cars ahead of them. It was a lane for both cars and bikes and I cycle to get to places since it's far cheaper than a car (and also I'm poor) so the driver would've been fine but I would’ve paid the price for his mistake had I not dodged out of the way at the last second. I've also had two separate occasions where I was crossing a crosswalk with the signal giving me the go ahead and had a pickup blast right on through the red light and nearly running me over. It’s truly insane what some people will do just save a few seconds including risking the safety and even lives of others in some cases. And sometimes it's not even about saving a few seconds. Some people simply do not care which is why some of them drink and drive. It dosen’t help that those kinds of drivers often get a slap on the wrist for that kind of thing. Anyways sorry for the long comment. I was expecting to only type a comment but guess I had more to say. It pisses me off how careless people can be.Top-level commentCited in: Car dependence, road danger, and normalized traffic deaths
That everyone needs to drink to have fun.Top-level commentCited in: Everyone needs to drink to have fun
GenocideTop-level commentCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Disordered eating is everywhere, I know that it's pushed on women and girls more prominently but I've been in recovery programs and I'd say it's evenly split among genders. A lot more men have eating disorders than I think even they themselves realize because people think of thin teenage girls and not gym bros with body dysmorphia.Top-level commentCited in: Disordered eating is everywhere, I know that it's pushed on women and
Allowing children to have social media.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The fact that people only care about how they feel about things. Personal feelings seem to be the only thing that matters. No more putting those aside to do the polite thing. Just me, me, me.Top-level commentCited in: People only care about how they feel about things
White-Knighting online, alternatively making up random excuses for strangers to absolve them of *potential* shame.Top-level commentCited in: White-Knighting online, alternatively making up random excuses for strangers to absolve them
People agree to binding license agreements without ever reading and ensuring they fully understand them because they cannot be bothered to read it or pass up using that product. Not just the sheer amount of waiving rights to ownership or to ever pursue legal action, but things like permitting a vendor to puppet a payment account without alerting the user (granted, I've only seen that once), permitting a company to run software in the background constantly from boot even you if you have not launched their product program, and the fairly common granting of access to a phones photo bank &/or location tracking without any app functionality for the user that relies on it.Top-level commentCited in: People agree to binding license agreements without ever reading and ensuring they
the slow but inexorable decline in public vocabulary, people (in general) are using less words and sometimes its making being understood harder. I am known to be pretty verbose and use a lot of lesser used words - its what adds spice and layers of nuance to conversation .. my fear is eventually we will be reduced to caveman like grunts and or other noises (fortunately not within my life time)Top-level commentCited in: The slow but inexorable decline in public vocabulary, people (in general) are
Have you noticed that people now say "promise" when they mean "swear" ?ReplyCited in: Have you noticed that people now say "promise" when they mean "swear
Honestly, I know it's incredibly rude to say and I'm not against them, but goddamn are organ transfers absolutely disturbing. Walking around with pieces of potentially-dead people on and in you. Especially skin grafts. An irrational fear of mine is one day getting into one of those accidents that severely disfigures or burns the face, and needing skin grafts to reconstruct things. "My face is made from dead people." Makes me shudder.Top-level commentCited in: Honestly, I know it's incredibly rude to say and I'm not against
victoria secret pink …. wtfTop-level commentCited in: Victoria secret pink …
The “they are eating the dogs, they are eating the cats” meme. People on the “left” were joking about it, making songs out of it, making memes and sharing them. I know that they were laughing at the statement, but nonetheless few if any directly addressed the blatant display of racism that was on display by the head of state. If one takes history into account, both that of Haïti and the USA, the statement was so incredibly backwards it is completely unfathomable. The man has always been a racist POS, but in that instance he showed that his view of black people comes straight out of the 18th century, beat for beat. The dehumanization of a people that were essentially the brothers of the USA in experience. Both nations were the only ones to liberate themselves from their colonizers in their century. Patrick Henry said “Give me liberty or give me death” while Toussaint L’Overture said “Liberté ou la mort”. But at any turning point where the USA were lucky, Haïti got the short end by means of racism. On that same note, how is it accepted by US Americans that they still claim Navassa Island as theirs? The USA annexed that island from a suffering Haïti in 1857 for its abundant Guano deposits (bird shit) and never gave it back.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
Some people take what they've watched or known to despise the other.Top-level commentCited in: Some people take what they've watched or known to despise the other
I hate to break it to you, but that eagerness has been around LONG before social media.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Blew chew gold. Is there a natural ebb and flow of your sex drive? Your wife probably doesnt appreciate that. Let us alter your brain chemistry about it. I think its a psyop to increase birth rates since these rich weirdos are so obsessed with birth rates.Top-level commentCited in: Blew chew gold
Wtf is a blew chew goldReplyCited in: Wtf is a blew chew gold
Erectile dysfunction medication. It includes traditional ED drugs to increase blood flow and cause an erection. It also has a hormone called apomorphine that is supposed to "stimulate desire" and another called oxytocin that, among other things, fosters emotional closeness based on physical touch. Oxytocin is produced naturally in your body during a whole range of activities like holding your child or being intimate with a partner, its also responsible for contractions during labor. I think its super creepy that its being put in viagra.ReplyCited in: Erectile dysfunction medication
Religious indoctrination of children. Forcing them to believe stupid shit before they've developed the ability to think critically. I think it's child abuse. Don't do that little Timmy, you don't want to burn forever in a lake of fire do you?Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Wildfire smokeTop-level commentCited in: Wildfire smoke
The obsession that society has with sex. Seriously, it's everywhere. Even in places it shouldn't be. Someone always finds a way to sexualize anything and everything. It's uncomfortable. I've noticed this a lot recently and I've been really sensitive to it. I'm asexual, so anyone who knows what the responses from people are like, will understand what I'm talking about.Top-level commentCited in: The obsession that society has with sex
“breeding” animals and selling the babies , and also neutering lol you can’t convince me neutering isn’t cruelTop-level commentCited in: “breeding” animals and selling the babies , and also neutering lol you
The decline of musicians coming from nothing. It seems the vast majority of musicians making it big come from money and connections.Top-level commentCited in: The decline of musicians coming from nothing
The constant fascination with…yourself. Ie/ constant selfies, look at my close up face again! (No context), low critical thinking skills (ie/ believing things at face value, easily persuaded, believe pseudoscience, all the people who easily believe…BS…, and the lack of empathy and respect towards other people online or in real life…things are becoming more and more cut throat, nasty…Top-level commentCited in: The constant fascination with…yourself
Diaper commercials...why these toddlers shaking their ass like they in a strip club for diapers....the whole campaign needs a rework.Top-level commentCited in: Diaper commercials
TrumpTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Oil. Without it, our way of life simply ceases to exist. And in order to get oil we must subject other countries to violence.Top-level commentCited in: Oil
\> And in order to get oil we must subject other countries to violence. What are you talking aboutReplyCited in: \> And in order to get oil we must subject other countries
Reform UKTop-level commentCited in: Reform UK
there cant be number two. it can be 1, 999999999... because these nines go to infinityTop-level commentCited in: There cant be number two
American life being an endless push to be Top Rodent in the Rat Race™️ starting at younger and younger ages. I thought it was fucked up and exhausting back in high school, and I sure as shit think it’s horrific that it starts in fucking preschool now.Top-level commentCited in: American life being an endless push to be Top Rodent in the
The concept of pregnancy. What do you mean everyone’s chill with animals growing inside of other animals??Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Adoption of children. It’s basically child trafficking to attempt to fulfil the needs of childless, wealthier people.Top-level commentCited in: Adoption of children
I can somewhat understand it, but look what kind of a horrible life are these children living, who don't get adopted.ReplyCited in: I can somewhat understand it, but look what kind of a horrible
People who worship singular ppl in a group of friends to the point where it can be deemed par-asocial and the recipient ego farming off of it. In the same breath aswell friends who get too invested in others people’s lives and form opinions on them when it doesn’t impact the friend they are to themTop-level commentCited in: People who worship singular ppl in a group of friends to the
Giving minors access to cross sex hormones.Top-level commentCited in: Giving minors access to cross sex hormones
The most common gender affirming surgery done on minors is breast reductions for cis boys You’re complaining about something that is incredibly rare, even among trans youthReplyCited in: The most common gender affirming surgery done on minors is breast reductions
Since when does the size of a group determine whether their issues deserve attention? At the end of the day these are still minors who deserve protection. Also, I said cross sex hormones.ReplyCited in: Since when does the size of a group determine whether their issues
I’m pointing out how misleading and uncommon all of these “concerns” are. Most trans youth are not able to medically transition. If they receive any sort of medication, it’s usually just hormone blockers, which delay puberty while they socially explore transition. This allows them to figure themselves out without any permanent changes to their body, which is inarguably a good thing, no? The data shows that trans people, especially trans youth, that are unable to access gender affirming care are more likely to attempt suicide. If providing puberty blockers to the small minority of kids that are trans reduces the rate of suicide attempts, why would we not want that?ReplyCited in: I’m pointing out how misleading and uncommon all of these “concerns” are
Hormone blockers absolutely do cause permanent changes! What a crazy statement. And data also shows that suicide rates are high af for kids who transition: [[link removed]ReplyCited in: Hormone blockers absolutely do cause permanent changes
Your linked study only looked at 18-60 year olds. And all it says is trans people are at a higher risk of suicide attempts than the general population. This isn't news.ReplyCited in: Your linked study only looked at 18-60 year olds
Your link study compares trans adults to cis adults. All that shows is that trans people are at a higher risk of suicide.ReplyCited in: Your link study compares trans adults to cis adults
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Made up history in pop culture. Seeing how much pop culture has affected the world in the past 25 years, spreading false information in any capacity seems anti-social.Top-level commentCited in: Made up history in pop culture
How bad mental health is in the US, and how people are grossly misinformed about them, often blatantly disregarding symptoms and signs. They shouldn't be seen as pariahs, they are still humans who deserve respect. Knowing how to de-escalate a meltdown should be public knowledge.Top-level commentCited in: Bad mental health is in the US, and how people are grossly
The fact that our sitting PRESIDENT IS A PEDOPHILETop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Iguanas. Their ear things give me the ick.Top-level commentCited in: Iguanas
i mean... the meat industryTop-level commentCited in: I mean
ReligionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
TrumpTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Very pregnant women in crop topsTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Maybe not on paper but they're very closely relatedReplyCited in: Maybe not on paper but they're very closely related
So calling out Israeli settler pogroms against Palestinians is antisemitism?.ReplyCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
Zoos. We have animals caged and fenced for our enjoyment to just look at. It’s especially weird when you know they are in a habitat that’s not even close to their real one. Seeing a winter owl in the 90 degree heat panting under a tree with water being misted on it is so sad.Top-level commentCited in: Zoos
I will never understand the whole foot fetish thing. Nothing about it is alluring to meTop-level commentCited in: I will never understand the whole foot fetish thing
The amount of ai being used by businesses. All 3 of the restaurants in my town do it and I hate it. I used to work for two of them so I know they see my anti ai Facebook postsTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The Epstein filesTop-level commentCited in: The Epstein files
YouTubers advertising apps like BetterHealth and ZocDoc. Healthcare is so bad in the US (Canada's getting there too) that we are now being advertised third party alternatives. It's very Black Mirror, and we're all acting like it's normal and fine, but it's anything but.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
how its normal to stay in jobs that drain you completely just cause the money covers rent. did that for two years straight and everyone around me acted like it was just part of being an adultTop-level commentCited in: Its normal to stay in jobs that drain you completely just cause
Eating animalsTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Circumcision. It’s barbaric.Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Sending nude pics of yourself.Top-level commentCited in: Sending nude pics of yourself
Everyone seems ok with burning the planet, accusing your neighbour of all problems (extreme right), and voting for clearly criminal people.Top-level commentCited in: Everyone seems ok with burning the planet, accusing your neighbour of all
Meta glasses or anything similar. They are cool but as someone who’s been on the receiving end in a retail setting while I was working was quite uncomfortable to not know if they were recording or notTop-level commentCited in: Meta glasses or anything similar
Older people dating teenagers and young adults in their early 20sTop-level commentCited in: Older people dating teenagers and young adults in their early 20s
Using AI.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Meat eating.Top-level commentCited in: Meat eating
Religious belief beyond the philosophical level. Actual belief in the supernatural, divine, spirits etc in the modern age when we know they were just ways of explaining the unknown mixed with philosophy, and basic theories of governance. We admit it about past mythologies but are unwilling to admit it about modern mythology.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
That right wing and often just full on fascist think tanks are basically using mind control tactics over all media channels and are running us direct into our doom.Top-level commentCited in: Right wing and often just full on fascist think tanks are basically
People walking up or down stairs while watching a video on their phone. So dangerous.Top-level commentCited in: People walking up or down stairs while watching a video on their
Having cameras all over the _inside_ of your home while also buying up an arsenal of guns for "home defence". Seems like everyone in the United States has this. I'm quite happy to be currently living in an environment far, far away where nobody has this because it's completely unnecessary.Top-level commentCited in: Having cameras all over the _inside_ of your home while also buying
Teen/barely legal porn Fucking grossTop-level commentCited in: Teen/barely legal porn Fucking gross
Violence against women.Top-level commentCited in: Violence against women
Factory farming.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
ddlg / calling your boyfriend daddyTop-level commentCited in: Ddlg / calling your boyfriend daddy
Eating pigs. They are as smart if not smarter than most dogs.Top-level commentCited in: Eating pigs
Combat sports. Someone getting brain damage for the entertainment of others just doesn't sit right with me.Top-level commentCited in: Combat sports
People who create cooking content while wearing rings. That was one of the first things we learned in home-ec. I will not support content creators who dont follow food safety.Top-level commentCited in: People who create cooking content while wearing rings
FacebookTop-level commentCited in: Facebook
Long ass car commutes. How to suck out your soul for wages. Biking or mass transit at least allow decompressing.Top-level commentCited in: Long ass car commutes
Not owning your car. You can buy a 3 year old low mileage ex lease and pay it off over 3 years then keep the car till it's uneconomical to run any more. Cheaper than leasing a car then leasing another after 3 years rinse and repeat forever. Leasing a car seems like wasting so much money to me. I buy half price or less cars 3 years old and run them into the ground over the next 6 to 10 years. Bonus points for buying electric because the batteries and motors should outlast most combustion engines with minimal to no servicing of those parts.Top-level commentCited in: Not owning your car
Slaving away for 40+ hrs a week at work. Our lives revolve around it, and so much of our time on this planet is consumed by it.Top-level commentCited in: Slaving away for 40+ hrs a week at work
Bodies: The Exhibition. I am fine with the dead, but I find this whole thing to be exploitative. And they had a pregnant woman with the baby inside? Yeah, no.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Politicians.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
The reptile industry can be really dark. Many breeders keep their animals in shitty conditions. People don’t care because reptiles can’t emote …Top-level commentCited in: The reptile industry can be really dark
JokerTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The realization that America has been a lot closer to being a fascist state for my whole life than I ever couldve imagined.Top-level commentCited in: The realization that America has been a lot closer to being a
Food courts. Everyone shovelling in food, en masse. HorrifyingTop-level commentCited in: Food courts
Children in bikinis. That’s a lot of sun damage for new skin.Top-level commentCited in: Children in bikinis
Celebrity culture. They're just people, sheesh.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Family vlogging and "sharenting" in general is genuinely ghoulish. People act like it is just cute home movies, but it is effectively child labor with zero legal protections or financial safeguards for the kids in most places. It is wild that a kid can be the sole breadwinner for a household before they even hit kindergarten, yet they have no Coogan law protection to keep their parents from blowing all the cash. Imagine having a camera in your face during your worst meltdown just so it can be posted for content. We treat it as a normal hobby but it is a massive privacy violation.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Meeting someone irl, then finding them on ig and following them when they didn’t give you their contact info (with romantic intentions). I find it so creepy, if they wanted to share their contact info they would have.Top-level commentCited in: Meeting someone irl, then finding them on ig and following them when
Kissing your family members/children on the lipsTop-level commentCited in: Kissing your family members/children on the lips
Politicians lying about what they’ll do when they get elected. It’s fraud. About the single most important thing relevant to your vote. We put people in prison for this in the private sector.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Maybe it's just people I ride with, but texting and driving, and to a lesser extent, how casually driving is treated in general. You know how many people I've talked to who casually admitted to driving while so woozy from medication that they had trouble getting in and out of the car to start driving? Or while practically blind from no glasses? And just *staring* at the phone/console while driving. Not looking up for several car lengths of time. Not to mention how normalized it is to speed regularly.Top-level commentCited in: Maybe it's just people I ride with, but texting and driving, and
The fact that every year, at least 8.4 to 10 billion land animals—including pigs, cattle, poultry, sheep, goats, horses, and rabbits—are slaughtered in the European Union only. Unbelievable sick numbersTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
After being widowed twice and married for 47 years of life and seeing what has evolved sexually.Top-level commentCited in: After being widowed twice and married for 47 years of life and
People killing animals and eating them and then telling they love their chicken/cat/dog!Top-level commentCited in: People killing animals and eating them and then telling they love their
I find it so disgusting how people think it's ok to humiliate or disrespect your friends and love ones, or even strangers, and post the video online to get views and likes from online strangers. People record and post all kinds of things that if you just randomly did them, would be so hurtful. But if you're posting it, it's ok. It's especially disgusting when people do this to their kids.Top-level commentCited in: I find it so disgusting how people think it's ok to humiliate
The amount of deaths from direct actions that car drivers make. Many of these are not accidents - they just aren't. Willfully separating the end result from very aggressive and stupid driving serves none of us well except those who would be going to prison.Top-level commentCited in: The amount of deaths from direct actions that car drivers make
With today's technology how almost everyone is locatable, how there are algorithms that work out what products you've been looking at or what topics you're following and send associated content to your devices. How so many people and organisations know so much about you. Nothing is private any more. We just live with this. Having nothing to hide isn't the point. You have no reason to want all your personal information out there either.Top-level commentCited in: With today's technology how almost everyone is locatable, how there are algorithms
Money in of itself as a current concept. Not so much the idea of coinage or paper vouchers being representative for bartering, but how money is 1. The be all end all signifier and if you do not pursue this thing you will be dead sooner than others that do. 2. The entirety of current finances/stocks/bonds. The idea of stock being a sort of investment "stake" in something you believe in made sense when communities were more insular. You put money towards a friends business idea because you believed in the idea, and maybe you also invested time and effort into it to see your money grow potentially. That makes sense. The entirety of what it is now is complete money-magic nonsense. It is a true unknowable cosmic sort of incomprehensible horror.Top-level commentCited in: Money in of itself as a current concept
Social media use and AI use are both starting to resemble drug use. Not just in the way it functions, or the addictive nature, but the way people on the hook talk about it or treat it. There are some disturbing parallels. In short, the human brain is very good ad reasoning after the fact and manifesting justification. Ask a social media addict or promptstitute about why their vice is good actually to see it in full effect.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
It’s wild how recording strangers without consent has been normalized just for a few seconds of clout on social media. People have completely lost respect for boundaries.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
PicklesTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People who primarily self-orient their emotions/empathy (i.e. my partner is crying in public, seeing this makes ME very uncomfortable) They terrify the fuck out of me, and I work with one.Top-level commentCited in: People who primarily self-orient their emotions/empathy (i
If you’d asked me as a kid how much money 40 hours of my week were worth, I’d say a lot more than I’m selling my time for now.Top-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
Internal estimates at AI companies are as high as 70% that their products cause human extinction. We're allowing them to come into each and every one of our houses with 7 chambers of a 10 chamber revolver loaded, held up to our heads and the heads of our children, and letting them pull the trigger. How there hasn't been mass revolt against this I'll never understand.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Eating animals and raising them only to be slaughteredTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Santa Claus.Top-level commentCited in: Santa Claus
Religion. Oh wait, I publicly find that deeply disturbing. Nevermind.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Touching someone's private things without askingTop-level commentCited in: Touching someone's private things without asking
GossipTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
we just hand over our faces for a quick coffee, and call it normal convenience without really thinking about it.Top-level commentCited in: We just hand over our faces for a quick coffee, and call
Commercial/industrial animal agricultureTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Trunk -or- treat. Don’t take candy from strangers. If someone says they have something in their car for you, run away. Don’t play around parked cars. October rolls around…. Do all of the above.Top-level commentCited in: Trunk -or- treat
People who worship singular ppl in a group of friends to the point where it can be deemed par-asocial and the recipient ego farming off of it.Top-level commentCited in: People who worship singular ppl in a group of friends to the
The statist believe that you have the right to use threats of violence to coerce people.Top-level commentCited in: The statist believe that you have the right to use threats of
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Flip flopsTop-level commentCited in: Flip flops
Self testing for cervical cancer (so much could go wrong)Top-level commentCited in: Self testing for cervical cancer (so much could go wrong)
The erosion of the middle class, and removal of taxes on the wealthy over the last 50 years or so.Top-level commentCited in: The erosion of the middle class, and removal of taxes on the
Dick picsTop-level commentCited in: Dick pics
People leaving their children/pets with complete strangers at daycare and just trusting that everything will be fine.Top-level commentCited in: People leaving their children/pets with complete strangers at daycare and just trusting
Using Toilet paper to clean yourself.Top-level commentCited in: Using Toilet paper to clean yourself
taxes.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The bodily reality of pregnancy and birth.Top-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Sitting on a public toilet seat without anything covering it. I don’t want my bare thighs/bottom touching a surface hundreds of other people’s have, let alone where they’re poop/pee that splashes everywhere.Top-level commentCited in: Sitting on a public toilet seat without anything covering it
Men standing next to each other holding their penises to pee, just out in the open Stalls too, we are just sitting arms distance apart peeing and pooping in a room of other people peeing and pooping. And our walls and doors barely hide anything (America).Top-level commentCited in: Men standing next to each other holding their penises to pee, just
People binging anything related to crime. Killers. Missing persons. All of it these shows and podcasts is WEIRD to me!Top-level commentCited in: People binging anything related to crime
Collecting baby teeth. My grandma collected my teeth and even had one integrated in a necklace. It is very creepy.Top-level commentCited in: Collecting baby teeth
Porn addiction.Top-level commentCited in: Porn addiction
No that’s not what I’m saying; I understand that there is a hygiene aspect to it and also personal preference which is fine to each their own but certain things like being clean shaven as an adult do have connotations of trying to mimic the pre pubescent body which I find disturbing. You can also look to the fact that women are scrutinised for having any type of wrinkles, any sign of adulting such as stretch marks etc and are portrayed as helpless in movies, just like children/ pre pubescent girlsReplyCited in: No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make
1- You seem to be under the impression that aging is only frowned upon in women 2- Why do you accept that it's personal preference yet maintain that it's pedophilic to like a clean shaved body?ReplyCited in: No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make
1) aging is heavily scrutinised when it comes to do with women yet with a man, it’s just seen as a part of life; think to cosmetic procedures, makeup, many beautification systems in place (like bras that’s uplift < supporting the chest is different > to minimise the look of sagging since it reflect ageing) also a sign of maturity and ‘macho-ness’ is when a man grows out his beard yet it makes them look older. 2) I don’t have a problem with anyone preferring a clean shaved body however things like waist to hip ratio, breasts etc are all linked to a biological attraction as they are ready to mate essentially but then being clean shaven contradicts this since it’s being attracted to a pre pubescent characteristicReplyCited in: No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make
Funny question, are you a woman? \> I don’t have a problem with anyone preferring a clean shaved body however things like waist to hip ratio, breasts etc are all linked to a biological attraction as they are ready to mate essentially but then being clean shaven contradicts this since it’s being attracted to a pre pubescent characteristic What if someone likes women with small breasts?ReplyCited in: No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make
Yes I am. If someone likes a woman with small breasts that’s fine; the biological attraction argument is one of numerous arguments for this topic - I’m not saying that attraction is solely biological. What do you think? I’m open to other perspectivesReplyCited in: No, that's an adult's body that's shaven Unless you want to make
I thought everyone showered at night until recently. I do not understand getting in bed with your stink of the day and postponing bathing until the morning but apparently some people do this.Top-level commentCited in: I thought everyone showered at night until recently
Pedos and racismTop-level commentCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
Consuming the body parts of corpses and the secretions of enslaved animals.Top-level commentCited in: Consuming the body parts of corpses and the secretions of enslaved animals
Most social media platforms.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
the government in its entirety, the lack of awareness of the common man, the stupidity of falling into divisive tacticsTop-level commentCited in: The government in its entirety, the lack of awareness of the common
Genital mutilation.Top-level commentCited in: Genital mutilation
certain countries popping out insane amounts of kids while theres already major overpopulationTop-level commentCited in: Certain countries popping out insane amounts of kids while theres already major
Leaving children in the car "just for a minute." I found out a married couple in my family do this while they run into the gas station or such, saying they can usually see her the whole time. I just saw a woman leave two children in her car and run into McDonald's for something. No matter how quick you think you'll be, it's a risk!Top-level commentCited in: Leaving children in the car "just for a minute
I would argue that removing your children from the car and having them cross a carpark to retrieve a McDonalds is statistically riskier to their safety than leaving them secured in a locked car that you have eyes on for a minute or twoReplyCited in: I would argue that removing your children from the car and having
Children or pets, I am used to never leaving them alone in the car. If I can’t literally reach the vehicle (pumping gas, okay, paying for it inside, not so much), it’s not happeningReplyCited in: Children or pets, I am used to never leaving them alone in
I think it depends on the age of the kid. My kid is 8 and we don't leave him in the car alone. If he was not super ADHD and could be trusted not to see something cool and wander off, it would potentially be a different story, but right now? Nope!ReplyCited in: I think it depends on the age of the kid
Medical professionals working 24hr shifts.Top-level commentCited in: Medical professionals working 24hr shifts
Religion.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Family vloggers. Posting your kids having meltdowns to thousands of strangers is grossTop-level commentCited in: Family vloggers
To eat human flesh and drink human blood. Even if it is just pretend and symbolic. Most Christians seems perfectly fine with it, as long as the guy died 2000 years ago. They just "don't think about it that way". It puts a chill down my spine every time I meet a practicing Christian.Top-level commentCited in: To eat human flesh and drink human blood
dairy. Just pause and do a deep think about it. nastyTop-level commentCited in: Dairy
I honestly feel like toxic behaviour in relationships has become so normalised. People struggle to admit when they’re wrong, take accountability, or just treat each other with basic respect. It’s not even just online anymore, I see it with friends, family, and from dating myself. Somehow wanting someone who’s kind, honest, respectful, and emotionally mature feels like asking for too much, when it should just be the bare minimum. Honestly, it scares me how bad dating has gotten.Top-level commentCited in: I honestly feel like toxic behaviour in relationships has become so normalised
how the world/society circles the drain faster and closer each year and nobody does anything about it. We just accept it as normal that things are getting shittier.Top-level commentCited in: The world/society circles the drain faster and closer each year and nobody
JealousyTop-level commentCited in: Jealousy
Beauty pageants for children.Top-level commentCited in: Beauty pageants for children
Not using a Bidet and thinking your ass is cleanTop-level commentCited in: Not using a Bidet and thinking your ass is clean
the animal agriculture industry.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Israel committing war crimes with impunity and the level of influence it has in the UK and US political and justice systems. Our rights are being dismantled as we speak in order to protect a foreign entity, whilst we watch children starved and bombed and people get on with their daily lives as if nothing is happening.Top-level commentCited in: Israel committing war crimes with impunity and the level of influence it
Death. How people aren't already panicking to find a way to achieve immortality frightens me.Top-level commentCited in: Death
religionTop-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Obesity.Top-level commentCited in: Obesity
The dissolution of the family unit.Top-level commentCited in: The dissolution of the family unit
Guys with shaved pubes. It's so.... little pre-pubescent boy. Major ick factor. But everyone just goes with it.Top-level commentCited in: Guys with shaved pubes
. . . . how often do you ask guys about if their pubes are shaved or not? Do you actually see that many guy’s pubes? This is legitimately a very odd answer.ReplyCited in: A source-reported concern
I would assume this person has sex with men.ReplyCited in: I would assume this person has sex with men
If the only thing distinguishing a man's nether-regions from that of a pre-pubescent boy is pubes then he has a very different problem.ReplyCited in: If the only thing distinguishing a man's nether-regions from that of a
I feel the same way about women with completely shaved privates. I don’t see how people find that sexy. I was a teenager in the 2000s/2010s and being completely clean shaven everywhere was the norm. It’s just… it seems so weird to me now. Like… I want my partners parts to look like an adults, not like a childs.ReplyCited in: I feel the same way about women with completely shaved privates
On most people, adult genitalia look nothing like a child's anyway.ReplyCited in: On most people, adult genitalia look nothing like a child's anyway
If you see a clean shaven woman and think of a child ....that may a red flag about you.ReplyCited in: If you see a clean shaven woman and think of a child
I'm just answering the question posed by OP. Everyone has different tastes. I find bald genitals disturbing and a big turn off. Some of ya'll are getting way too defensive about it.ReplyCited in: I'm just answering the question posed by OP
posting on social mediaTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
how much we have surrendered our rights, freedoms, dreams, and futures to corporations and profiteering and the power hungry. they have even taken away our ability to think and organize and just enjoy each other's company by dangling increasingly fiendish technological delights that our slow evolving brains just can't resist or compete with.Top-level commentCited in: Much we have surrendered our rights, freedoms, dreams, and futures to corporations
People sneezing into their hands then just wiping on their clothesTop-level commentCited in: People sneezing into their hands then just wiping on their clothes
long fake nails on girls...the disturbance has only grown as I got older.Top-level commentCited in: Long fake nails on girls
How those little water mushroom tree things get up and sway away that disturbs me a weird amount and no one else seems to careTop-level commentCited in: Those little water mushroom tree things get up and sway away that
People from both sides seem wildly comfortable with censorship these days. So long as what's being censored is something your in group disagrees with, it's all ok with them. Disagreement = censor/ban/make that illegal. Used to just be the religious fundies that wanted that, but now I see it from every direction and every age group.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Apartment managers thinking they can bust in residents private sanctuaries to open up all their closets, cupboards and private areas to photograph everything they own, as they stand in their bedrooms, begging them not to. I think there might be other terms for illegal search warrants than “inspections”.Top-level commentCited in: Apartment managers thinking they can bust in residents private sanctuaries to open
Children on phones in the supermarket or out at dinner. Tweens/teens with their own phones and being allowed unfettered access to the internet.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Eating animals.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Someone sent me a digital $20 giftcard. The subject line was literally, "[ABC] sent you a $20 giftcard!" The body of the email was no more than, >[ABC] sent you a $20 giftcard! Click this link to add it to your app! That was it. GMail wanted to give me an AI summary. Like, fuck off. --- I was also marking some students' math tests. They were submitted online as PDFs and I was marking them digitally. Adobe was insistent they offer me an AI summary of the document. No, you dummy! I need the original document.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The reality of how poorly hospitals are run in America these days, and how NPs and PAs are taking OVER Doctor jobs slowly but surely…..to save hospital $$$ and patients DONT KNOW this bcs they call their nurse practitioner a Dr falselyTop-level commentCited in: Healthcare disrespect and access failures
SocietyTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
fireworks. i can't think of a single occasion in which explosions are necessary to celebrate. they're harmful to people, animals, and pollute the environment all while being incredibly dangerous to use.Top-level commentCited in: Fireworks
As a man with tiny bottle rockets in the center console of my pickup, I agree. Who needs an occasion for fireworks?ReplyCited in: As a man with tiny bottle rockets in the center console of
The increasing rate of people wearing glasses.Top-level commentCited in: The increasing rate of people wearing glasses
workplace politicsTop-level commentCited in: Workplace politics
The fact that we just let random strangers drive 2 ton metal boxes at 60mph past us while staring at their phones and we just trust them not to kill us lolTop-level commentCited in: We just let random strangers drive 2 ton metal boxes at 60mph
life in generalTop-level commentCited in: Life in general
eating animals that have endured tremendous suffering then a violent deathTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Leading your child as a retirement plan.Top-level commentCited in: Leading your child as a retirement plan
People that lack general community empathy and awareness and act very self centeredly common shit like standing around on public walkways being a nuisance making it hard for people to move from A to BTop-level commentCited in: People that lack general community empathy and awareness and act very self
The fact that nobody knows what to do with their hands while people sing "Happy Birthday" to them. It's 20 seconds of pure psychological warfare. 😂Top-level commentCited in: Nobody knows what to do with their hands while people sing "Happy
security camera's in peoples bedrooms that alarm companies have direct access too. There have already been cases where employees access and share footage from it, it will continue to happen and will get leaked too.Top-level commentCited in: Security camera's in peoples bedrooms that alarm companies have direct access too
referring to your partner as 'daddy' during freaky time...idk yalllTop-level commentCited in: Referring to your partner as 'daddy' during freaky time
Meta glassesTop-level commentCited in: Meta glasses
Video cameras inside of a house.Top-level commentCited in: Video cameras inside of a house
Advertising in generalTop-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Parents posting every detail of their kids' lives online before they're old enough to have a say.Top-level commentCited in: Parents posting every detail of their kids' lives online before they're old
Religion. Especially how its viewed as "good" to force it onto kids.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Living in a world where everyone acts like a full-time paparazzi is exhausting. Public spaces used to allow you to just exist—now every mistake or private moment is one clip away from permanent internet ridiculeTop-level commentCited in: Living in a world where everyone acts like a full-time paparazzi is
Not that its ACCEPTED as totally normal... just the lack of anyone being able to do anything about it vs how rampant it is.. but crimes going unpunished when you have X amount of wealth or are in X position. It's just normalized now. When a politician does or says something that would have been unfathomable to imagine someone doing/saying 10+ years ago, people are pretty much like "Wow what a fucking piece of shit.. now watch as nothing happens to them." This normalization is sickeningly disturbing and things will only continue to grow more egregious as long as people say "Damn that sucks, too bad nothings gonna happen" and then scroll to the next post.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Every time someone talks about men two-timing for years, there are some people who say it's "just cheating" and not a life altering traumatic event.Top-level commentCited in: Every time someone talks about men two-timing for years, there are some
Kissing grandparents on the lips.Top-level commentCited in: Kissing grandparents on the lips
Terem aprovado as bets no Brasil e agora aparece uma penca de propagandas de bets como se fosse normal… é assustador.Top-level commentCited in: Terem aprovado as bets no Brasil e agora aparece uma penca de
Me I’mTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
A lot if women having anger issuesTop-level commentCited in: A lot if women having anger issues
Globalism, social media, and AI.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Honestly...almost the entire range of 'normality' that composes our modern societyTop-level commentCited in: Honestly
People who worship singular ppl in a group of friends to the point where it can be deemed par-asocial and the recipient ego farming off of it. In the same breath aswell friends who get too invested in others people’s lives and form opinions on them when it doesn’t impact the friend they are to themTop-level commentCited in: People who worship singular ppl in a group of friends to the
Adults dating teenagers, when I was 21 I could not fathom getting with an 18 year old… totally different stages in life imoTop-level commentCited in: Adults dating teenagers, when I was 21 I could not fathom getting
Human birthTop-level commentCited in: Human birth
The display of military hardware at sporting events.Top-level commentCited in: The display of military hardware at sporting events
Breeding, torturing, and killing animals to eatTop-level commentCited in: Breeding, torturing, and killing animals to eat
Christmas. I mean, tradition in general gives me the heebie jeebies...ritualistic behaviors. Doing the same things at the same time every year because we've always done it. There is an underlying irrationality there which would be fine on it's own, but there is also a tremendous amount of social pressure with tradition, and failing to conform risks ridicule, outgroup placement, and exile..or worse. And some people REALLY lose their minds if you mess with tradition. We all have that person in the family who loses their shit if you do something slightly out of tradition or not in a certain, just-so, way. Society as a whole can be like that too. Pascal called tradition "The Illusion of Permanence". I have also heard it described as "nagging from the dead". There is a kind of collective OCD about it that just freaks me. But Christmas in particular is the worst one. There is the religious undertone, which is a whole kettle of irrational worms in and of itself and I won't get into that here. There is this sudden rise of all the iconography sometime around the end of October that persists until January, well after Christmas itself. Suddenly the decorations come out, retailers start, the commercials start with the ultimate semiotic: the sound of sleigh bells to signify it's a christmas ad, things not even Christmas related get christmas packaging, like pizzas and canned beets. Then the office starts up with decorations and idiotic events that you HAVE to take part in like gift exchanges etc. Mind you, I am talking about the US and Canada. In someplaces in Europe they are more civilized about it, sticking with the 12 days..so that shit doesn't start before halloween like it does in North America. It's also..schmaltzy. Gooey sentimental. Stories of "the true meaning" on every show and movie, redemption stories which is very very christian, sappy songs, idealized bullshit about being with family, and of course, it is child oriented as well. It's inescapable nature freaks me out too. I suppose I could head for Saudi Arabia each winter but really, there is no getting away and that spooks me. I can't go into a store without hearing the music. I can't go to work without having it. I can't watch television or listen to the radio without hearing about it. People call me Scrooge, but I won't own that because that would be taking part in the narrative.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Rituals and traditions have been the backbone of society since pre-historic times. We don't do them because "they make sense" or because they serve a useful purpose. The point of them is that everyone does the same thing and it strengthens the bond between us.ReplyCited in: Rituals and traditions have been the backbone of society since pre-historic times
>Rituals and traditions have been the backbone of society since pre-historic times. Right, we do it because we've always done it. Were they the "backbone"? Hardly. That honor goes to law, education, language and economy. >The point of them is that everyone does the same thing and it strengthens the bond between us. And what of the person who doesn't want to? Personal freedom of thought is more important than tradition.ReplyCited in: >Rituals and traditions have been the backbone of society since pre-historic times
>law, education, ~~language~~ and economy Rituals precede (almost) all of these >Personal freedom of thought is more important than tradition That's a very modern idea which didn't really exist for most of the history of humanity. >And what of the person who doesn't want to? That's your choice. Personal freedom 😏ReplyCited in: >law, education, ~~language~~ and economy Rituals precede (almost) all of these >Personal
> Rituals precede (almost) all of these Obviously, because we were ignorant and primitive, and thought we could control the world by those rituals. >That's a very modern idea which didn't really exist for most of the history of humanity. Well it does now. >That's your choice. Personal freedom Tell that to my mother in lawReplyCited in: > Rituals precede (almost) all of these Obviously, because we were ignorant
People having terrible sleep schedules. I think it affects you way more then you realize!Top-level commentCited in: People having terrible sleep schedules
Buffets. We are all touching the fucking utensils, they fall in the food then we pick them up. People are breathing, sneezing and coughing in the food. Children are touching the food. It gives me anxious just thinking about it.Top-level commentCited in: Buffets
Small talkTop-level commentCited in: Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
How people treated Amber Heard after her trial with Johnny Depp in the states, especially after reading what all was submitted in the UK case. Both were awful, absolutely, but as a fellow abuse survivor, I know where her mind was when *some* of what she had said was trying to be used against her. So much of social media’s response and the accusations insinuated by Depp and his legal team felt like a massive DARVO campaign. *Years* of abuse and manipulation can come out as anger and verbally lashing out and while it’s not an excuse I don’t think the world cared enough to think harder into the story than what they were hearing and being told by legal teams and social media. It also disturbs me because it seems to override so many stories of DV against men who would never act the way Depp did and/or say the horrible things Depp did, but instead of hearing men’s stories and supporting men through their healing process people turned it into this story of “men being abused too” that they could use to dunk on Amber and call her a liar instead of looking at it critically. It developed into a massive hate train against someone who is an incredibly imperfect abuse victimTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Our president being a Pedo.Top-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Reckless Ben asking the CEO guys to do the chicken dance… just sort of black mirror vibesTop-level commentCited in: Reckless Ben asking the CEO guys to do the chicken dance… just
Animal agricultureTop-level commentCited in: Factory farming
People having kids without thinking about the world they will grow up inTop-level commentCited in: People having kids without thinking about the world they will grow up
The cost of living in America.Top-level commentCited in: The cost of living in America
This one may be very specific but might as well. The fact that my grandmother lived 95 years, had 5 children while getting a college education and working, helped the poor, etc. and the only thing that was talked about at her funeral was how “Godly” she was. Nothing about herself or her achievements. And I know she’s not the only one who will never truly be recognized for how amazing of a person they were. It’s heartbreaking.Top-level commentCited in: This one may be very specific but might as well
The job market and how thousands of new grads are fucked. We’re in hellTop-level commentCited in: The job market and how thousands of new grads are fucked
Violence in tv shows and moviesTop-level commentCited in: Violence in tv shows and movies
The fact that I understand just how much we are surveilled thru our digital footprint and our devices. No one cares, so it doesn’t make it easy to avoid itTop-level commentCited in: I understand just how much we are surveilled thru our digital footprint
The number of people who would rather drive 1/2 mile than take a short walk. Hell, two miles would be considered practically next door throughout human history. Now everyone is trying to get their 10,000 steps because their walking patterns have become bed to car to desk to car to couch to bed. Like we evolved specifically to walk and run long distances. It’s what we do.Top-level commentCited in: The number of people who would rather drive 1/2 mile than take
Adults, mainly from southern states in America that still call their fathers "daddy".Top-level commentCited in: Adults, mainly from southern states in America that still call their fathers
What is wrong with thatReplyCited in: What is wrong with that
How lazy we’ve gotten. Self driving cars, relying on AI for research and other uses, etcTop-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Influencer culture.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Pickleball.Top-level commentCited in: Pickleball
Anyone watching sports or gamblingTop-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Parents posting their child’s entire life online before the kid can even spell “consent.”Top-level commentCited in: Parents posting their child’s entire life online before the kid can even
Those fucking Nazi haircuts! [[link removed]Top-level commentCited in: Those fucking Nazi haircuts
Christianity.Top-level commentCited in: Christianity
What? Just all of it?ReplyCited in: What
Did I stutter?ReplyCited in: Did I stutter
No but what do you mean? Like everything about it? Specifically organized christianity and churches? Why is it on it's own currently something you find disturbing?ReplyCited in: No but what do you mean
[[link removed]ReplyCited in: [[link removed]
Speak for yourself man I’m not going to the Wikipedia page for thisReplyCited in: Speak for yourself man I’m not going to the Wikipedia page for
that half of the world is basically addicted to coffee/caffeine, and "can't function without it"Top-level commentCited in: Half of the world is basically addicted to coffee/caffeine, and "can't function
nicotine, too, other than the brief window (at least in the US) when cigarettes went out of style and vapes hadn't caught on yet. And they never went out of style in most of the world.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Less than half the world I’d say, unless you only count the west as the world, but yeah that’s a problem not talked about enough. If you’re addicted you don’t even get the wakefulness benefit anymore, you just need the caffeine to reach normal performance.ReplyCited in: Less than half the world I’d say, unless you only count the
"Daddy-Daughter" dancesTop-level commentCited in: Daddy-Daughter" dances
what's wrong with them?ReplyCited in: What's wrong with them
Consuming animal productsTop-level commentCited in: Consuming animal products
The Epstein files?Top-level commentCited in: The Epstein files
Circumcision.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People just completely ignoring the point of this question and using it as an excuse to vent about the common things everyone hates.Top-level commentCited in: People just completely ignoring the point of this question and using it
abortionTop-level commentCited in: Abortion
I’m British so it doesn’t happen too often over here, but circumcision at birth for non medical reasons - to me it’s mutilating a child’s body for no reason (I know that people say it’s cleaner - just clean under your foreskin!)Top-level commentCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
That at least three times a day you decide that it's okay to kill or hurt a living being for your own pleasure and/or convenience.Top-level commentCited in: At least three times a day you decide that it's okay to
Most people are not hunting their own food anymore. They just eat it.ReplyCited in: Most people are not hunting their own food anymore
Don’t really make it much better aside from optics and having plausible deniability on one’s contributions.ReplyCited in: Don’t really make it much better aside from optics and having plausible
Well it's psychologically very different. The OP is implying people are terrible and disturbing for killing animals for pleasure multiple times a day, when that is simply not what is happening. Killing a cow with your bare hands and eating a burger at a restaurant are not even close to the same for what that means to you as a person or what kind of person that makes you, regardless of whether you think the ethical ramifications of both are the same.ReplyCited in: Well it's psychologically very different
Not sure what you think people are killing or hunting but like most animals are good for a few meals.ReplyCited in: Not sure what you think people are killing or hunting but like
I know what you're trying to do, but the meat that ends up in grocery stores is very much not alive. Unless you think the average person boils lobster for every single meal??ReplyCited in: I know what you're trying to do, but the meat that ends
Correction then. They pay for it.ReplyCited in: Correction then
Yeah he worded it slightly exaggeratively but people are definitely *contributing* to animals being hurt or killed for personal pleasure.ReplyCited in: Yeah he worded it slightly exaggeratively but people are definitely *contributing* to
What am I trying to do? If the meat is "very much not alive" someone must have killed it? For your pleasure, for your convenience to disassociate the meat on your plate from a living being. Unless you think the meat in the grocery store is all roadkill??ReplyCited in: What am I trying to do
You're not too smart ehReplyCited in: You're not too smart eh
The demonization of men and justification coming from “others have been demonized”. Martha Nussbaum writes about anger keeping us in thrall to the past and I think she’s write. It’s weird to think that “oh white men have been angry. We should just all be as angry as them”. I’d rather we a republic that tries to like find ways around that but I don’t think we will. Nietzsche is right. Values and God are dead.Top-level commentCited in: The demonization of men and justification coming from “others have been demonized”
Going to Chik Fil A. Yuck.Top-level commentCited in: Going to Chik Fil A
Eating dead animalsTop-level commentCited in: Eating dead animals
Is it any better to eat the live animals?ReplyCited in: Is it any better to eat the live animals
having kids. pregnancy is body horror at its worstTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
People in a rush to do everything It's really not necessary.Top-level commentCited in: People in a rush to do everything It's really not necessary
Organized religion.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Meta Glasses and the era of TT creators abusing people on the street. You can't even walk down the street in a city centre without being stopped multiple times by these so called "creators"Top-level commentCited in: Meta Glasses and the era of TT creators abusing people on the
Talking on the phone in a public restroom. Just because you feel comfortable talking to your friend while using the restroom, doesn't mean I feel comfortable. What is wrong with people?Top-level commentCited in: Talking on the phone in a public restroom
People that advertise their family size, composition, and sometimes names on the back of their vehicles. This is represented many different ways, but an example would be a dad Mickey Mouse, mom Minnie Mouse, and some other Disney characters to represent the kids. For one, it is deeply disturbing (1) that people think they’re important enough to advertise to every member of the public on the back of their vehicles, and (2) that people don’t understand how that info can be used against your vulnerable children. It gives creepers all the info they need to establish credibility with your kids.Top-level commentCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
How normalized constant gambling is now.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
People being totally fine with their kids being hooked on caffeine.Top-level commentCited in: People being totally fine with their kids being hooked on caffeine
"Influencers" targeting people online so that they lose their jobs. I don't know, it's just weird. Like, an influencer on Instagram tagged the wrong company (someone said they worked where they didn't, apparently) in such a post, and people dogpiled on the company. *That's weird.*Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Greed treated as a positive.Top-level commentCited in: Greed treated as a positive
Revealing clothes for young girls like bikinis, crop tops, etc. I have to buy my daughters swimmers in the boys section most of the time because the girls section is full of bikinis that aren't sun safe. I don't think its necessary to put 4 year olds in bikinis, especially with all the horror stories of creepy old guys filming little girls.Top-level commentCited in: Revealing clothes for young girls like bikinis, crop tops, etc
Location sharing all the time.Top-level commentCited in: Location sharing all the time
People’s obsession with their career and their salary. Boiled down, all the members of the church of moneyTop-level commentCited in: People’s obsession with their career and their salary
Maybe I’m just bad at replying to DMs on social media? I know it sounds mean, but I honestly just dislike texting. I would prefer chatting face to face🥹Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The way the internet can be used as a weapon now. People get doxxed, get death threats, lose their jobs, their family gets doxxed, threatened, lose their jobs.Top-level commentCited in: Online harassment, doxxing, and hate communities
I'm not an eco warrior or anything like that. I just do my part to recycle, not drive when not necessary, pick up litter etc... But i'm aghast at how disturbing data centers/farms are and how nobody seems to really care as long as they can generate email responses, make memes of cats etc... Data Farms destroy the ecology of an area, and utilize so much energy. For reference at the start of the year steel production uses roughly 1.5% of US energy. Today data centers currently take 5% of U.S. electricity, and it has been projected to hit 12% by 2030. It will get worse but nobody grasps it. We're all programmed to not question anything these days, and people are more annoyed that AI is shoved in their faces instead of their nearest data farm destroying everything around them.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
I always get a chill down my spine when I watch people peel a banana. The way they grip the stem, twist, and yank until the peel splits cleanly in half with a little upward flick of the wrist. It's so unnatural that it looks like a magic trick that shouldn't be possible but everyone treats it like basic kitchen wisdom.Top-level commentCited in: I always get a chill down my spine when I watch people
Thinking that taking care of yourself first means not taking care of others, like your friends, family, neighbors, and community.Top-level commentCited in: Thinking that taking care of yourself first means not taking care of
Life on EarthTop-level commentCited in: Life on Earth
That despite knowing a root of a problem, we as a species would rather invent a thousand ways to treat simptoms than just do that one right thing.Top-level commentCited in: Despite knowing a root of a problem, we as a species would
Talking shit about your spouse behind their back. Telling people things your SO explicitly asked you not to. It's become this weird power trip flex of empowerment when IMO it is cowardly.Top-level commentCited in: Talking shit about your spouse behind their back
Being expected to be reachable at all times. A phone used to be a convenience; now silence is treated like a personal offense.Top-level commentCited in: Being expected to be reachable at all times
How it’s just expected that women get pregnant and give birth like it’s nothing. If you have one single critical thought about it, you get treated like a monsterTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
human growth has become more important then human experience .😕Top-level commentCited in: Human growth has become more important then human experience
Mass hoarding of wealth. But like as long as its not to massive.Top-level commentCited in: Mass hoarding of wealth
I have a feeling searching by most controversial will give me the real answersTop-level commentCited in: I have a feeling searching by most controversial will give me the
Being 'nice' to everyone. my /r/nvc bros know this one. [being nice]([link removed] is to take responsibility for others feelings, which is not doableTop-level commentCited in: Being 'nice' to everyone
ChildbirthTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
Spanking your kids.Top-level commentCited in: Spanking your kids
Honestly, for me it's the general lack of existential curiosity. I'm perpetually fascinated by the fact that I am here and that anything exists at all.Top-level commentCited in: Honestly, for me it's the general lack of existential curiosity
Keurig'sTop-level commentCited in: Keurig's
The fact that if a couple tries for a child, the woman has to eat healthy, she can't drink or smoke or she'll looked down at. While men somehow think they can do whatever, treat their bodies like trashcans. If I bake a cake and use a rotten egg, the cake will be rotten as well. Same with trying for a baby, BOTH parts matter, not just the egg!Top-level commentCited in: If a couple tries for a child, the woman has to eat
The reason, I presume, why it is so, is that men maintain good fertility much longer than women doReplyCited in: The reason, I presume, why it is so, is that men maintain
That is total bollocks. It's actually the other way round, scientists believe till recently that womens biological clocks were the culprit for complications after 35, but the found out that actually the men are at fault.ReplyCited in: Is total bollocks
Letting just anyone who goes to church volunteer around children.Top-level commentCited in: Letting just anyone who goes to church volunteer around children
Working 40 hours a week and still not being able to afford to live.Top-level commentCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
As a man, the shitastic reactions to a girl getting her first period. I had no idea.Top-level commentCited in: As a man, the shitastic reactions to a girl getting her first
The wellness craze.Top-level commentCited in: The wellness craze
How much crap people buy. Scary to think what will happen if this rate of consumerism continues.Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
huntingTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People hating on children. It‘s so normalized nowadays and the world is becoming a more and more hostile place for children. I‘m not particularly fond of kids and also find them somewhat annoying. But it‘s deeply disturbing to see how normalized it is say things like „I hate kids“ or seeing how people have no tolerance for children in public spaces. As a society we are all part of the generational timeline, we all grow from children to seniors (if we are lucky), and part of the responsibility of us adults is to „take care“ (in a broader sense) of those who are more vulnerable (children and elderly people). We were children once and we will be old one day, and I find it deeply disappointing to see how these groups of people are getting pushed out of public spaces. And I say that as a happily child-free 34y old woman.Top-level commentCited in: People hating on children
>I'm not particularly fond of kids. Username doesn't check out -- I hope.ReplyCited in: >I'm not particularly fond of kids
*The fact that we just willingly let giant pieces of metal (cars) hurtle past us at 60mph separated only by a painted yellow line on the road.*Top-level commentCited in: Car dependence, road danger, and normalized traffic deaths
People showing special treatment for people who look better or have a beautiful bodyTop-level commentCited in: People showing special treatment for people who look better or have a
> #Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
När man säger att man börjat gilla en artist och den andra personen börjar genast ställa massa frågor för att bevisa att du inte kan något om artisten.Top-level commentCited in: När man säger att man börjat gilla en artist och den andra
casual and white lies i find it continually horrific and i will never get over itTop-level commentCited in: Casual and white lies i find it continually horrific and i will
Buying dogs, not training them, and treating them like babiesTop-level commentCited in: Buying dogs, not training them, and treating them like babies
$800/mth car loans for six, seven or more yearsTop-level commentCited in: $800/mth car loans for six, seven or more years
People and their smart phone consumptionTop-level commentCited in: People and their smart phone consumption
How easy it is to trigger someone via social mediaTop-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Posting your children online under any circumstances.Top-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Spending burning billions of dollars on fireworks from china to celebrate USA independenceTop-level commentCited in: Spending burning billions of dollars on fireworks from china to celebrate USA
Alcohol. So bad for you.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Sugar and cream filled coffee beverages as Starbucks and the like. It should be looked at the same as fast food or chips or ice cream. An occasional treat.Top-level commentCited in: Sugar and cream filled coffee beverages as Starbucks and the like
Your wireless router can spy on your room. Any room its in, they can use a sort of like a "sonar" camera.Top-level commentCited in: Your wireless router can spy on your room
Because I couldn't have said it better myself... what I find deeply disturbing is: "These millions of abnormally normal people, living without fuss in a society to which, if they were fully human beings, they ought not to be adjusted." >“The real hopeless victims of mental illness are to be found among those who appear to be most normal. "Many of them are normal because they are so well adjusted to our mode of existence, because their human voice has been silenced so early in their lives, that they do not even struggle or suffer or develop symptoms as the neurotic does." They are normal not in what may be called the absolute sense of the word; they are normal only in relation to a profoundly abnormal society. Their perfect adjustment to that abnormal society is a measure of their mental sickness. These millions of abnormally normal people, living without fuss in a society to which, if they were fully human beings, they ought not to be adjusted.” ― Aldous HuxleyTop-level commentCited in: Because I couldn't have said it better myself
The way people think extrajudicial punishment is a good thing. Ive heard people say that someone should be tortured to death. And they think prison rape is funny. Its like... Even if that wasn't horrible, which it is, the fact that we convict innocent people should be enough to convince folks how bad the way we do things is. Because those things will, sooner or later, result in an innocent person being subject to them. But nope. People don't argue with me. Or call me names. Or engage at all. they just ignore it like I never said it. And that disturbs the hell out of me.Top-level commentCited in: People think extrajudicial punishment is a good thing
Posting pictures and videos online of everything that happens in one's life. It feels so dystopian. I maybe make 2 or 3 posts a year, but I know people that post every few hours.Top-level commentCited in: Posting pictures and videos online of everything that happens in one's life
Sex with womenTop-level commentCited in: Sex with women
The ease at which people are discussing war with Russia. Any war with Russia, goes nuclear. And nuclear war, is the end of everything. The absolutely stupidity of people talking about war with Russia and using phrases like boots on the ground, boggles my mind.Top-level commentCited in: The ease at which people are discussing war with Russia
AntisemitismTop-level commentCited in: Antisemitism
Lawns and turf grassTop-level commentCited in: Lawns and turf grass
HeightismTop-level commentCited in: Heightism
That we live on ‘mother Earth’ with ‘mother nature’ and religions invariably end up worshipping a ‘sky father’ who is always ultimately a storm ⛈️ god/ war god.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Life in general...Top-level commentCited in: Life in general
How many businesses operate with massive amounts of debt. I was well into my twenties before I learned that it was commonplace for businesses (at least in the United States) to be up to their eyeballs in debt just to make payroll.Top-level commentCited in: Many businesses operate with massive amounts of debt
orthodonticsTop-level commentCited in: Orthodontics
Produce stickersTop-level commentCited in: Produce stickers
I love animals, but stare into their eyes, realizing they have a brain and make their own choices. They might as well be aliens, only aliens im interested in finding have to be able to communicate with us otherwise to me we already got them right here. ​Top-level commentCited in: I love animals, but stare into their eyes, realizing they have a
You're constantly under surveillance the minute you leave your home.ReplyCited in: You're constantly under surveillance the minute you leave your home
Can't believe this is at the bottom. Then again you're under constant surveillance for practically everything at home now too. Your TV spies on you, your phone spies on you, your fridge spies on you, your game console spies on you, your operating system spies on you, your ISP spies on you at the packet level, the second you do anything on the internet theres literally fist fulls of companies tracking you on any page you land on.ReplyCited in: Can't believe this is at the bottom
That’s unfortunate :(ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
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I saw a weird reddit ad a while ago I decided to click on. The site needed a un/pw so I used a throwaway. The amount of experimental things they had for sale, in addition to some that are known and questionable, was astounding. This stuff is way too availableReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
I didn’t say it wasReplyCited in: Recording workers for content
Okay idk, I’m just telling you what I seeReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
Exactly this!ReplyCited in: Recording workers for content
Yes I was going to add unless the server or other patrons want to be part of the video!ReplyCited in: Consent uncertainty around public recording
and every guy in Hollywood. It's just an open secret, they are all on steroids. Not just the Arnold wannabes in action movies, ALL of them. Unless you're the token fat guy they are all on something.ReplyCited in: Fitness-influencer enhancement opacity
What?ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
However shall I live with that on my conscience?ReplyCited in: However shall I live with that on my conscience
What? Idk I’m just saying it makes you look kind of silly. Instead of giving any of your own thoughts or reasoning you just post a link to a vague Wikipedia page.ReplyCited in: What
And I care because...? You don't have to read the link if you don't want to, but I'm not going to summarize it for you.ReplyCited in: And I care because
I never said you cared bro. I just thought it was funny to post a Wikipedia page rather than just share your own thoughts on it.ReplyCited in: I never said you cared bro
Well, if you take it "responsibly" and regularly cycle off them combined with something like Clomiphene to kickstart endogenous production you will most likely be fine. Plenty of pro bodybuilders that take crazy amounts of gear and then go on to have kids etc.ReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk
\> This is one reason why we don't have a "male pill." That's one reason a future male pill will be non-hormonal (YCT-529, NLS-133) Or will not even be a Pill (andro-switch, ADAM, PlanA) But there is still one hormonal candidate in Study: NES/TReplyCited in: Non-prescribed testosterone risk
How racist/sexism/ableist people actually are.Top-level commentCited in: Racist/sexism/ableist people actually are
Meat tastes good, get over it. Animals do the sameReplyCited in: Meat tastes good, get over it
Yeah. My husband has the opposite view. He prefers us fat. He grew up with food insecurity so he’s not comfortable eating if I’m not eating. He thinks our toddler is too thin.ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
That honestly sounds kind of unhealthy too. People should go by objective measures of healthy weight, associated with cardiovascular health and longevity. Anybody going off of how somebody looks or the vibe they get is going to cause more harm than good. IMO BMI is the best way to "ballpark" your healthy weight. It shouldn't be trusted if you're very active (like a construction worker or an athlete), but if it says you're obese and you aren't *jacked*, then you should lose weight.ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
Yeah it’s definitely a trauma response. He sends money to his mom so she can buy food for herself. Some other relatives are visiting and she sent along a care package it was mostly candy and chips she bought with the money that was meant to go towards her groceries. She has some liver issues and needs to eat a good diet. My husband has a doctors appointment tomorrow, the first in a long time so we will see how it goes. He’s not overweight and his work is very active. I, on the other hand, keep receiving candies and I have a sweet toothReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
It’s wrong but wildly heartwarming at the same time.ReplyCited in: Disordered eating behavior normalized when thinness is valued
I don't even get the concept of influencers. Why do so many people want to watch over people's pretend lives. I don't get it at all... I don't even use social media though, I'm just different, I guess .ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Damn. Anything an internet stranger can do to help? Because I've lost that 40lbs, different cause in my home, but yeah, stress. And it's a soul crushing time to endure.ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress; Appearance mistaken for health
Thank you for your kindness. There’s not much anyone can do, but I appreciate the offer. There’s situation will resolve eventually, it will just take time. Once the divorce goes through I will hopefully have a little money of my own and be able to rent somewhere. I’m looking forward to being free.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Pleaser behavior. Always happy, fawning, apologizing, and you will never know who they really are underneath that false mask.Top-level commentCited in: Pleaser behavior
Eating meat. It's bad for our health, the environment, aaand animals. Give peas a chance.Top-level commentCited in: Eating meat
Are you allowed to kick people out who do that? Certainly the owner is.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
...and why would the owner want to kick them out? "Stop giving me money and free advertising!"ReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
The owner is actually pretty tough and when it comes to certain people she says "who cares, I dont need their money". She does not put up with BS but as shes not often serving shes not often the one being filmed.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Nobody ever even watches those hours of footage! It's like the old huge slide shows. Nobody wants a presentation. They want a highlights reelReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Ask your manager if you can tell them they're not allowed to record on the property.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Depression is the best diet. -- Someone from the 50sReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress; Appearance mistaken for health
When I started prozac I dropped weight like it was hot. "Oh you look so good!" Thanks, I can barely keep my eyes open and food gives me the shits. (I adjusted after a few weeks and it's fine now.)ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress; Appearance mistaken for health
I say “that pesky blood disease has really helped my physique” the look of horror on their faces is priceless 🤣ReplyCited in: Weight-loss compliments during coercion and distress; Appearance mistaken for health
I know you're trying to proselytize me into veganism, I tried. It did not work.ReplyCited in: I know you're trying to proselytize me into veganism, I tried
AgreeReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
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What was tech created by?ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; CCTV and surveillance normalization
Children and GynaecologistsTop-level commentCited in: Children and Gynaecologists
I am fighting the evil by eating the animals that eat other animals. The way I see it a normal animal will eat lots of other animals in their life, so if I eat them first then the greater good in achieved.ReplyCited in: I am fighting the evil by eating the animals that eat other
I have a pair, a light indicator stays on while recording. I'm aware that people find ways hide the light which sucks. Edit: Everyone is fully justified to down vote me for buying the glasses, but I'm not going to let people imply that I use them to creep. I only wear them when I travel to tourist areas as an alternative to relying looking at my phone for GPS and taking pictures when I don't feel safe taking my phone out. It reduces the risk of getting my stuff snatched. Otherwise I put them away. Not that it matters to anyone else, I'm sure. Its infuriating that people buy tech for perverted reasons. Not everyone is doing so.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Anyone wearing Meta glasses should be laughed at and ostracized for buying a horrible privacy-invading product from one of the worst companies that ever existed.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
It's not just creep stuff, it's data safety. We have no regulations.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
>I'm aware that people find ways hide the light which sucks. Which makes it absolutely meaningless for anyone who uses the glasses whether they allow the light or not. So it doesn’t matter one bit that you use the indicator light. It just means you’re someone who uses the creepy pervert spy glasses made by the creepy robot lizard boy.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
i fear the day they will become accepted by societyReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I mean, I feel like outside of online spaces, I don't hear strong opinions from many people about it.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
> I have a pair, Why? Are you a pervert? I don’t see any other reason to buy glasses that covertly record people.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I use it for music in a place that doesn't allow in ear earplugsReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
"taking pictures when I don't feel safe taking my phone out" 1) stop going to such ares as a tourist 2) so it's to take pictures without folks realizing it. The exact behavior we are against. Thanks!ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Why would I not visit the colosseum, la sagrada familia, chichenitza, etc? I'm not recording anyone when navigating I'm not going to stop my family from visiting landmarks.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Two of the three I still have my phone. Third never heard of it s having such concerns. Remember your sole reason before challenge was where you don't feel safe cause phone would be stolen.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Lame.ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I guess the spy camera is just a bonus.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this has always been the case. Remember game manuals? They came with EULAs in them. It's just a lot easier to enforce now that everything is digital. Also there's a question of what even is ownership when it comes to intellectual property. If I own a car, nothing prevents me taking the axel from the car and using it another car; if I "own" a game, can I take source code from one game and use it in another game?ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
I remember buying Portal 2 on steam and after I had my fun with it and uninstalled it inevitably it just disappeared from my libraryReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
People really need to refuse to buy digitally , or this will become the norm , if it isn't already. Then it will be the only available option. Like you said, it can be deleted on all acounts at any time in an instant.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
It's a fine line but too much landfill, not great for the environment.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Except GoG (Good ol games) and non DRM Steam games. Also [site removed] games again because no DRM.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
I didn’t realize they were filming until they posted the video after they left.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
You're proving my point here, it's deeply disturbing to me, and people seem to accept it as normal.ReplyCited in: Short memory photos versus continuous recording; Performers expecting audience recordings
I agree 100000%!ReplyCited in: A reasonable expectation of privacy in public
I tend to stay on the call, however I tell the person I’m on call with to wait while I check out so I can, you know, be rung out and able to pay before I leave, and THEN I’ll let the person I’m on call with know I’m free and can talk now. It’s just basic decency to tend to the cashier while the phone call waits.ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces
I will purchase a high-end collector's copy of a book that has special meaning to me, while also keeping a digital or low-end (ratty paperback) version for reading. This is one of my hobbies. The beautiful leather collector's books make me happy.ReplyCited in: Buying physical copies after digital reading
I don't think iTunes let you do that at the time.ReplyCited in: Ripping owned CDs for portable personal use
You're probably right. I never used iTunes - forgot it was a kind of walled garden.ReplyCited in: Ripping owned CDs for portable personal use
I've literally been on 4chan threads where they post links to unsecured live feeds. You can literally just enter a url and watch a lot of them.ReplyCited in: Indoor security cameras in living rooms
Heard he shot someone in the chest with a shotgun because they wouldn't pay up the ~$500 they owed him on time. That landed him in jail for a few years. He tried to reconnect with me once he got out by paying me a visit. Same shit-eating grin while recounting the glory days of every single humiliation I had endured because of him. The most ridiculous part of that visit was his suggestion that we smoke weed and then ride around in his car over the speed limit, because that was his idea of fun. Fuck that guy. He never heard from me again. Is he a serial killer now? Probably not. A few screws loose though, that's for sure. Maybe somewhat sociopathic.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Oof. Hope he’s living a miserable life that his miserable self deserves. And hope you are living well and am glad you cut him off! He sounds like a total L7 weenieReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording
Thanks for your kind words! I am doing better these days, but CPTSD is a bitch and recovery is a long road. Last I heard about him was from my mother, surprisingly, who has spoken to his mother on FB or some other social media. Apparently, both he and his older brother have kids now, but neither are allowed to see them. Their only contact with their children is through their own mother. I'd say that's quite miserable, indeed!ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
It sure does! And that trajectory completely tracksReplyCited in: Youth life under constant recording
Ah yeah, I thought I had seen that Asha stated that project helix would have a disc drive. I'm pretty sure I just saw a fake post lol. Regardless, these companies are just trying to bleed every little penny out of us that they can. Until they can't, because that's where this world is going. At some point, there won't be any more money from the people to bleed out.ReplyCited in: Speculation about the next Xbox disc drive
What places don’t allow in-ear plugs..?ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
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Of course they didn't..ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces; Recording private karaoke without consent
Did you not read the second sentence of what I just said?ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
I'm not just talking about just valve, I'm talking about everything from every "smart" TV you buy that is basically a brick until you can get it to court, unless you agree to its terms on its conditions.ReplyCited in: Forced arbitration as an access condition
I hate when guys speak Spanish at work and fill the room with what is jibberish to me. I never say anything but is it really racist or ignorant to feel this way? I just want to have silence or be apart of the conversation.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
Yes. These are private conversations. If it wouldn’t bother you if they were in English dig deeper as to why. Mind your own business.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
It’s extremely rude to deliberately exclude people within normal earshot by speaking a language they do not understand. It’s not racism, it’s manners. Strangers at a separate table is a different issue from coworkers doing their jobs.ReplyCited in: Normalized racism, xenophobia, and collective blame
Not every conversation has to include you, no matter what language it's in. Get over it.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
😆 Rude. You’ll actually be happier yourself if you learn some manners. Or don’t; just keep being miserable . I actually do not care. 🤷‍♀️ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
Only rude person is you for trying to eavesdrop on other peoples conversations. You're not in there conversation and its not your business.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
went to go see a movie with my partner last night and while i was in the bathroom, some teenagers took a picture of her just sitting there. i dont understand why anyone feels the need to record or take pictures of strangers, whether intentionally or unintentionallyReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
And the death of secondhand media. Like, I understand the issues behind restricting it, but it's also fucked up that I can spend $50 on a game or $10 on a book, and not be allowed to pass it on to someone else for a few bucks once I'm done.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
I think it was in the piracy panic of the 2000s that they got this insane mindset that downloading equated to theft both legally and morally. But that never made sense. When you steal a car, we consider the victim to be… the car owner who has been robbed of a tangible good. They are out of pocket. They get that feeling of violation. They get that feeling of lack of security. *Nobody sane* would think that the victim of a car theft was… the car manufacturer for losing out on a potential sale had the car thief bought the car directly from them! That’s *not* theft. I’m not saying piracy is not *something*, and that protection of IP didn’t have some positive impacts on the economy and innovation when it was first introduced, but violation was never equivalent to *theft*. Once you have that mindset though, that anything which “robs” the manufacturer of a potential sale is theft, it follows that reselling/passing on second hand goods and bequeathing items to loved ones on deaths is also “theft” of a potential sale and therefore *must* be ultimately eliminated.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
That's because you're thinking it terms of physical items, and not in terms of data. All games are is data. If Disney steals a character design from an indie artist, even though the artist didn't physically lose anything, they're still the victim of theft are they not? What they're actually stealing is the time and effort it went into creating that item. That's what all intellectual theft is.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
> If Disney steals a character design from an indie artist, even though the artist didn't physically lose anything, they're still the victim of theft are they not? They are not. I was already quite clear the IP violation was *something* but that theft is not the correct term, no, neither is it technically theft, nor morally, nor legally. Repeatedly using the wrong term because you want to have its emotional and rhetorical power will not suddenly make it the right term! And we’re not talking about commercial IP violation, we’re talking at the individual level, so it’s more at the level of a person drawing their own Mickey Mouse for their own child instead of buying Disney merchandise. One is a potential criminal matter and the other a civil matter. Neither of which is theft - neither morally, legally or intellectually. I’ve explained where that entirely false mindset has led us. > What they're actually stealing is the time They are not “stealing time”. This is a metaphysical minefield. Theft is defined in law. Time cannot be stolen. You are using legal terms incorrectly to make flawed emotional arguments incorrectly. You also haven’t explained why stealing the car doesn’t make the car manufacturer the victim in exactly the same way as IP violations at the individual scale. Taking the physical object out of the picture makes the two situations exactly the same - that was exactly the point I was making.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
shoutout to when i bought an etextbook that was around $60-70 on Kindle and now a few years later i can’t access it because…? no clue why. it hasn’t even been removed from the store, it’s still available but the book cover is different. absolutely ridiculousReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
If you pirate them you do. So I pirate now. Just not gamesReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Just today I sang a new hit song I just wrote to my partner called "How Many Videos Do We Need to be in to Get to the Car?"ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
when i record myself in public its often to send to friends never posting publicly also i make sure there no one who show up on it beside me or friends and if it happen that someone shows up on it i ask if they are ok with itReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Actually phoning someone rather than texting them in 2026 is simply just rude. Actual phonecalls are for emergencies only imo. One of the best features apple ever added was the baked in call screening for unknown numbers.ReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability
Yes about the privacy thing. Women reading "spicy" books in public creeps me out. Go do that in your room or something. And yes they share this online too.ReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content; Recording strangers and private spaces
Oh, in that aspect sure.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
I give a damn. If I buy something, I should own it. Companies shouldn’t be allowed to sell “licenses” just because what you’re buying isn’t physical. Especially now when there is increasingly no physical alternative. $80 for a new game and no legal option to sell it on or to buy it second hand. It’s a disgrace we’ve allowed it to happen and we should be fighting to change the legislation. It’s just that we’re already fighting so many damned battles that this one is too small. Edit: Ugh. Why do people reply and then block? What’s the point in being on Reddit if you can’t manage a civil conversation with someone you disagree with? Here’s my reply to the child comment below (assuming it hasn’t been edited to say something completely different). > You can still back up the damn game when you buy it digitally, there is literally nothing stopping you I never said there was. I said you don’t legally own it. You can’t legally sell, give or bequeath it, or your backup that nothing is stopping you making. If that doesn’t bother you then fine, but that’s what I’m talking about.ReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
You can still back up the damn game when you buy it digitally, there is literally nothing stopping youReplyCited in: Digital purchases without durable ownership
Your neighbor trying to tell you that your car is on fire but you don’t feel like accepting the invitation to talk right nowReplyCited in: Phone calls as invitations, not obligations
Everyone is fully justified to down vote me for buying the glasses, but I'm not going to let people imply that I use them to creep. I only wear them when I travel to tourist areas as an alternative to relying looking at my phone for GPS and taking pictures when I don't feel safe taking my phone out. It reduces the risk of getting my stuff snatched. Otherwise I put them away. Not that it matters to anyone else, I'm sure.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Uh, yeah. I know how PS+ works 😅 I said that we had also purchased a ton of games under his account too, and they disappeared once his PS+ account was deactivated. It was an issue on their end but, without him being able to defend himself, all the games were lost. My whole point was that we bought a bunch of downloaded games on the system, not physical copies. This isn't about how to use the account.ReplyCited in: Uh, yeah
They might be calling another person. They might have entered a bank. They might have gone pinching a loaf, they might be seeing why their baby is crying, they might not be able to ask for your help anymore because they have already been kidnapped, dunno, things happen.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Why do people feel the need to try and defend imaginary people in these scenarios? Just let them vent.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
I was just trying to imagine why in that scenario someone wouldn't take that call back. I know I would unless some urgency just arose.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
It's essentially never those things. It's pretty much always that they have their ringer and vibration off, because they don't want to be bothered by their phone ringing. I know plenty of people who won't pick up even 1 second after they hang up, because they are oblivious to the fact that they are getting a call. My own partner is one of those people. I've stood there and watched it happen, if she wasn't already actively scrolling through whatever social media, the phone gets hung up and put in a pocket/purse, and that shit is not going to get picked up until she's ready to pick it up.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Stranger thing. I know that if I called someone who wasn't taking the call and they immediately called back I'll answer, unless I'm *really* unable to do so.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Did you even bother reading the comment you replied to? They’re not talking about CHOOSING not to pick up🙄ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Yeah, but how many people are really *that* oblivious?ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
> They might have entered a bank. "Hey, I was just calling you to tell you I'm about to go into the bank"ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
Actual LPT: set healthy boundaries in your life and stop blaming technology. If you have normal healthy relationships, people call you when they need to talk to you. Answer. If someone is doing that non stop you sit down and explain to them that's not OK and they need to chill... if they don't you ignore *that person*. 95% of my communication with friends/family is via text. Because it can wait. If I need to speak to someone quickly I call, if you ignore me because you suck at using technology responsibly that's a fast way for me to stop bothering to include you in my life at all.ReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability
> You don’t need to see the person to ask what kind of dog treats to buy! No, I need to show them the dog treats otherwise I'll come home with the wrong one and have to go back to costco. I generally agree with your premise, but a grocery store is an exception. Overly controlling wives everywhere agree.ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording strangers and private spaces
Dude... It's not "controlling" as a grown ass adult you should know what type of treats the dog that depends on you likes. It's nuts you don't and makes you seem like you're incapable of a very basic task.ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording strangers and private spaces
Honestly, I’m in my early 40s and I share my location with quite a few people. It just makes so much logistics a lot easier, and I trust the people I’m sharing with not to be idiots.ReplyCited in: Turning every experience into shareable content
Neither is "The Purge"ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Wait so I'm a bit confused what's allowed then. One time, I did record someone dancing at someone's birthday party but it was just for memories. I didn't post it and I was right in front of them so they know they were being recorded. I did take a picture of birthday decorations on the wall. I didn't know that could be seen as an invasion of privacy. Sometimes, when I go somewhere, I take pictures like there was a really long set of stairs (public area) and I took a picture and people were walking down it. There was this other time there was a performer and I recorded them singing for maybe 10-15 seconds. I didn't speak the language there and besides I didn't want to interrupt when they're singing. Sometimes too, when my mom visits a very fancy restaurant, she takes a video because the restaurant has a lot of decorations. I never post any videos online. I don't even have social media.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The fact that you aren’t posting things online is a huge difference to what the person who came over my house did.ReplyCited in: Recording private karaoke without consent
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'Fecal Opera' just feels good. I'm gonna save that one.ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
Where do you live? Because it's pretty illegal in a lot of places.ReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details; Magnetic call-recording device and consent risk
Not going to say, but here it's legal as long as one of you knows it's being recorded. Nothing nefarious, I'm just a dude with a bad memory.ReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details; Magnetic call-recording device and consent risk
Well that sounds like a massive fucking liability!! Bloody hellReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect; AI summarizing and recording patient encounters
They’ve ruined that kind of saying forever for me. There are times before AI where a talented writer has used that and it’s really flipped my perspective on how I was looking at something but AI uses it so much I discredit anything that uses “it’s not x, it’s y” nowReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Unfortunately, you're probably very correct.ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
Yeah I got tired of it about 5 years ago and bought myself a truck. I'm actually making better money as a truck driver, but I am considering coming back because the being away from home crap is starting to get to me.ReplyCited in: AI widening student skill gaps; Future demand for skilled developers after AI skill erosion
Thanks, I'll give that a go. Really want something that just does it automatically though.ReplyCited in: Phone-call recording for retrieving details
Agree completely.ReplyCited in: Children learning boredom, self-soothing, and attention
> Cat I farted Funny you should say that. If you translate "cat, I farted" into French, it'll sound like you are saying "Chat GPT"ReplyCited in: Political-conspiracy framing of AI and education
> "Alexa, mark an appointment with Cat I farted for me." Sounds about right. *sigh*ReplyCited in: Political-conspiracy framing of AI and education
> You'll have AI doctors, don't worry. They can diagnose anything. Sure. But what happens when the computers break? What happens when software needs to be updated? Who will write the updates?ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
> There are still plenty of students who are quite brilliant and understand, probably due to good parenting, that they need to develop their own skills to use in addition to AI. Like the kids back in the day who used the Cliff Notes as they were *intended* to be used, rather than as a substitute for actually reading the book. > However, AI is widening that gap, the students who used to copy their book report off of Wikipedia, and who would copy the blurb on the back of the book before that, are now using AI to do all their thinking for them. Yeah, I can see that. > Their goal is a mix of Idiocracy and Gattaca. They want a world where they and their line are the only intelligent people left, ruling over the ignorant masses by controlling the AI's that do all the thinking for them. So the elite will be the only ones with any intelligence, and the rest of us will be dumb, laboring masses.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
> Right like that’s what I don’t get…. These idiots pushing for this future have to live in it too….. what part of idiocracy looked fun FOR ANYONE I guess they think they'll live in a separate society or something. And given that many of the people who are pushing for this are billionaires and millionaires, they could be right.ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
> Humanity has always been hard carried by a few people who know their shit. People who want to get ahead WILL learn the shit they need to know to get ahead. I hope so. > No amount of AI will replace nurses being able to treat wounds, administer IVs, etc. Eh, they've got robots doing surgery now. Who knows what brave new world awaits us? > I suspect trade schools will be a bigger thing. I suspect you're right.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
> They really didn't think about that either. Because once you make everyone into a child unable to do things themselves you need to regulate and take care of those children OR deal with all the damage an unsupervised toddler can manage on a grand scale. Oh dear. > In the blueprints of every oppressive regime is the key to their downfall. That's a very good point. But when everyone is too stupid to function, how do you rebuild?ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
There were times where most people couldn't read or write; rebellions still happened and nations formed. It isn't ideal, but it also isn't new. The human spirit as a concept cannot be broken. Empires fall and rise with the certianty of the tides.ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
That's a very good point.ReplyCited in: An elite-escape and Western-collapse prediction
Hehe your username is perfect. Thank you for supporting and teaching critical thinking. I actually think this is a huge part of the problem and what is missing for a lot of people across ALL generations. Mostly because we're so tucked into social media.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
I was supposed to write sucked but tucked works here too lol.ReplyCited in: Teaching critical thinking through tech troubleshooting
Your lived experience is not everyone's which I know is a shock. That being said, if all you had was a MAIN PHONE NUMBER that was on caller ID and that you hit recall to, then you wouldn't have a name to give to someone's assistant. My lived experience is every place I worked had a main phone number that showed up on caller id regardless of whose desk the call originated from and that was the number people would call back. So, without a name, only a number. I bet both of us had genuine lived experiences!ReplyCited in: A callback number different from the voicemail number
Parents taking away any semblance of privacy from their kids by recording them constantly for social media, without their consent and often in moments where the kids just need some comfort. ESPECIALLY when they coach them to act a certain way or manufacture situations for them to react to on camera.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
A large language model is just a tool. It can be used for good things or bad things. Sadly, the bad things are more profitable so that's what is being focused onReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; Mandatory AI literacy in writing class
I've been getting pushes to buy the AI telegram crap to have AI "send a message for me". Like why even bother then?ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
I can't remember specifically which phone it is, but there's a smartphone ad that talks about the phone's AI messaging feature, where the voiceover says something like, "if someone asks you a question and the answer's in your phone, shouldn't your phone just answer?" No the fuck it should not!! Even if it's extracting the correct information (and that's a big 'if'), I want final say over messages being sent in my name, thank you very muchReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Exactly. It completely defeats the purpose of messaging - aka, having human to human conversations. If i wanted to talk to AI, i'd just converse with ChatGpt, not my partner or my family, etc.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Don’t fucking contact me off the clock. PeriodReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability
I can completely understand feeling that way with technology and it is a shame it has gotten like that. At the same time, it is on you to feel no obligation to respond immediately. For my friends and family, there is no expectation that we reply straight away; it usually takes hours, and sometimes days, before they reply, and we are all fine with it.ReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability
Oh I never feel a need to provide an explanation. If I do offer one, it's only because I wanted to let them know I wasn't ignoring them. Otherwise I don't say shit. If they ask where I was or why I didn't answer, I'll just say "I was busy doing other things".ReplyCited in: Expectation of constant reachability
Every other YouTube ad is either for an AI company or is AI-generated. To the point where it's refreshing to see an actual ad for a product or media.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
YES!!! THIS!!!! I absolutely HATE seeing that AI overview shit forced against my will when I am searching something.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
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I think AI as a review tool is FANTASTIC so I hope it focused on that.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
This would be highly dangerous because the dark patterns people make the rules.ReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
You can turn that offReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
Everyone doesn't accept it as normal though. Silly low effort answer.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
Okay I do hate this. But I did end up with a fantastic ai summary once of a family chat. A distant relative of mine died, and I got thrown into a group chat of my adult family discussing the funeral etc. and what I believe happened was one of them was looking for her funeral plot or something to that effect. And my AI summary said something like “discussion surrounding -deceased relatives name- location” So when I opened phone and saw that I was like…. Isn’t….she ….dead? Are they discussing if they thought she went to heaven or hell?!😂 It was quite funny to actually get the real context. And unfortunately I can understand how that summary made sense but it’s also proof of why it’s not good? Because it was technically correct but it’s a bad summary of the conversation in totalReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Frankly, I'm sorry you have to deal with that, but I have brain damage that leaves me with similar cognitive issues. Responding to people when the messages build up is extremely overwhelming but that doesn't mean I'm going to turn to AI to do it for me. Surround yourself with people who can accomodate you and your needs and give you *time* instead of doing the equivalent of telling them you don't care enough to listen to everything they have to say. There are many ways I've found in my own personal life to get around this that work great, and there's really no excuse in my eyes for using AI for something so easily helped by making an effort to help yourself. Regardless, my comment was a joke, and I do not have the energy to argue about it. BlockingReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
To be fair I'm not sure we're all accepting it as normal. I'm a huge AI fan and even I'm exhausted by the "sprinkle some AI on it so investors with FOMO will give us money" trend.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Lmao, my brother hooked up a local llm ai to respond to all my messages to him. That was funny but annoyingReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
It's insane that Mark Zuckerberg poured millions of dollars into Instagram's useless AI feature, and yet can't figure out how to stop a reel (on an app that's been uber-popular for 16 years) from playing after you scroll away from it, overlapping the audios to the point where I have to close the app to fix it... like... how is this even a thing?ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
mag 7: "you need ai in everything" *waves hand in front of your face* you: "i need ai in everything"ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
AI wanted to summarise a contract I was signing. I thought 'why not?' so let it do it. It basically just wrote out the whole contract. I didn't bother with AI again.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
The simple answer is that Meta (and all the major tech orgs) are heavily invested in genAI and that this is a use-case that easily increases daily active use when introduced as the default. They need it to justify their massive data center investments.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
WhatsApp is meta. stop using it. use signalReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
im out here answering business emails and outlooks ai wants to write them for me... no thanks..ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
They're harvesting your data to train their models.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need
Guys, like, ai systems are going to use WHATEVER DATA YOU GIVE IT TO TRAIN ITS MODELS TO AERVE OTBER PEOPLE FOR THE BENEFIT OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE MONEY. PLEASE, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, START GIVING A SHIT ABOUT WHAT YOU SHARE AMD WHAT YOU GIVE TO COMPANIES TO PROFIT FROMReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Because AI is an important tool that speeds up many processes and makes its so much faster. It's like complaining about having to use a car when you can walk and that works fine in some cases but in other situations it's just stupid.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
>It's not just a movie, it's a blueprint for the future. >Project 2025 is Idiocracy in written form. Sounds like AI wrote your post.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Nope. 100% all organic, human brain grown. Some of us never lost the ability to be creative wordsmiths when this AI crap started, nor need to rely on an effin' robot to form our big boy words for us. Copyleaks report below. [[link removed]ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
50+ here and an early adopter of AI. Trust me, I don't see it as an authority on anything and it's actually getting dumber as it feeds back in on itself, AI content taking in earlier AI content. What worries me about people most of all is just how many don't recognize AI when they see it. Both in text and images.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
I use it sometimes when talking to my wife, for example i wrote [account] where can we go for lunch tomorrow in XReplyCited in: AI summaries as relational disrespect
> It's not "controlling" as a grown ass adult you should know what type of treats the dog that depends on you likes. I am well aware of what kind of treats the dog likes. I'm much less aware of what treat based experiment she's currently running, as the dog will pretty much eat anything. If I return with the favored treats from 3 weeks ago, she'll send me back to the store for the ones she wanted, and even though I joke about the controlling thing, the truth is I like when she's happy so don't mind taking the extra step to get the ones she actually wants. I really just don't want to make 2 trips in order to make her happy. Like I said, the dog is happy either way. I'm not a helpless person. Thank you. The dog, who depends on me, is indifferent to what kind of treats he gets. He's more in it for the food and would more than gladly eat literal trash. But she's the one who's taken on the responsibility of managing the dogs diet so I just ask what kind we are getting right now incase it's changed, since it often does.ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording strangers and private spaces
So you think boomer jokes about controlling women are funny and that this comment makes you sound better?ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording strangers and private spaces
I just made a joke on an intent comment about video calling in the grocery store. Something I've done, and have seen lots of other people do, both men and women. You thought that the appropriate response was to attack my capability as a human? And you think it's me that comes out of this looking bad?ReplyCited in: Video calls in shared public spaces; Recording strangers and private spaces
My phone hasn’t even been on vibrate since 2017 (as in fully silent). I’ve worked in offices (and also uni) where it just couldn’t be buzzing all the time let alone beeping. I’m your classic 90s baby phone addict (OG ipad babies lol) and I’ve also become so chronically ill 90% of my socializing is via phone now, so hearing such frequent notifications as I recieve on a daily/hourly basis would drive me insane. I also get multiple scam calls and texts a day now, happily ignored. I’ve 100% tried calling someone - say, my partner or dad - and then put my phone down on the countertop to continue whatever I was doing when I wanted to ask them a question, pick up the phone 5 mins later to try them again and see a missed call, and call them back like whoops sorry I put my phone back down! It’s pretty normal and fine. Most people I’m around (millennials and zoomers anyway) have their phones set to silent, and like the other commenter said, I’m almost always looking my phone anyway to see notifications for calls/texts. Or if not, I check it regularly enough for it not to be an issue. So it’s just very normal in my world that you might not see someone’s called until you check your phone again. It’s just the occasional briefly-inconvenient coincidental callback whoopsies🤷‍♀️ ETA: I also always end up silencing notifications on any smart watch I have, because modern phone bloat is just too interruptive to daily life - and I say that with an addiction to my phone, so you know it’s bad!! LolReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Yep, good answers and logic. It all goes down to different strikes, I think. If I call someone and they don't answer, I'll put my sound on (or buzz on) for some time just in case they return my call. Of course that doesn't happen much these days since baking someone from scratch is seen as an invasion or something, quite different from the regular thing when I was growing up. People I know already know that I'm ok with them calling me without asking permission first. If I can answer the call, I will. If i can't, I won't. If I can but only for a few seconds because whatever, I'll pick up and tell them. Have a good day.ReplyCited in: Repeated calling and instant-answer pressure
My jobReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
How are these glasses providing audio without bothering other people and when the device is not going directly into your ear?ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
added to that the culture around finding cheaper knock off versions of popular items that are clearly never going to be up to snuff and almost certainly in some way dangerousReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
my wife also feels it...ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
When I was a child I understood they were paid, but I thought in the product itself, so their reviews could be legitimate. A weird semi-there position like most kid things. I legit thought modeling advancement was moving from burger pay to car pay - in kind.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
Kept reading to see if it was Aperol spritz. Was at a party recently and everyone was very excited about it. It wasn't good.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
I feel like it's a much larger problem in the US. For some reason US influencers never mark their shit as advertisment. In Germany for example there is an entrenched culture in YouTube that anything that can be considered an ad needs to be marked with a very specific watermark. And if a YouTuber gets caught not doing that it actually leads to huge drama.ReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Ngl, in these scenarios ill put my phone to my ear to pretend to be on my own conversation and get close to the person on speaker and start talking loudly about some off the wall shit. Usually after a few minutes they stop talking and walk away w the phone normal again.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
It’s still not ok. I don’t accept it as normal even if the ones doing seem to.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone behavior not actually socially accepted; Headphone-jack removal and changing speakerphone norms
I mean, growing up plastic surgery was already normalised as a concept, despite it being unaffordable. i still had classmates take out loans to get nosejobs. And shirley temple was monetised as early as ww1ReplyCited in: Cosmetic-surgery normalization; Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations; Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption; Influencer harms to youth, consumption, and children; Family channels exploiting children's privacy
You mean, when there were boomboxes and other ways of loudly distributing media it was just more curated ig,ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
It's not higher because the vast majority of people hate it already. It doesn't fit OP's question.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
You know what, that's a valid point and I was mad stoned when I commented, I'll give ya that oneReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Woah, I would have never guessed! You're very eloquent when you're high bro, nice oneReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Except the majority are just going along with it and not saying anything to the person being disruptive. So it's kind of like accepting it, even though we all hate it. It's because of stores, restaurants and doctor's offices not doing anything to stop it that it continues. I have started speaking up in places where it's really egregious and I feel like I'm going against a tide of them acting like I'm being disrespectful for asking them to stop being disrespectful toward us.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Good on you man but that wasn't my point. It doesn't matter if people intervene or not. We're all quietly seething whenever someone's blasting music in public places which makes this a very popular opinion.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Well I wish more people would do something about it then. Or at least back us up who have the courage to politely call it out. The problem is the assholes who are doing it think it's normal. Let them know that it's not.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
I used to agree with you. Years ago on a train, I politely asked a woman to pick up her cup of coffee off the floor as she was exiting the carrier. She threw it on me drenching me and 2 other people with coffee before getting off the train while screaming profanities. I no longer get involved.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Public transit is more of the wild west so I understand, trust me, I'm a New Yorker. I've gotten cursed out and threatened in an Uber share by the other passenger. It was fucking scary, but I still do it in places where I'm captive like that and can't just move away.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Fair play to you!ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces; Speakerphone broadcasting private life
Just look at all the people that give steam free advertisement. I just got this game on sale! Steam sales are coming up folks NO GABE...NOT MY WALLET! There's memes of steam sales and have been and will be for years.ReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
I 100% agree. It's shocking how insensitive some people can be. Public space is public space! Transit, restaurants and shopping centers now feel like battlefields with the assualt of high pitched phone speakers from shitty people.ReplyCited in: Full-volume public media overwhelming autistic and ADHD people; Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
Ok well they sure aren't acting like it's abnormal because most people do nothing about it. If more people would ask them to stop, it wouldn't run so rampant. I try to address it every time it's really egregious in a place I can't get away from (restaurants, doctor's offices, etc.)ReplyCited in: Speakerphone in crowded public spaces
I love spritzes. I married an Italian woman who got super-into cocktails during COVID lockdowns. I promise you, I was not disparaging spritzes.ReplyCited in: Influencer ads feeling like friend recommendations
This is the first version of this reply I'm going to upvote. I would argue it *is* different in its scale and ubiquity and effectiveness, but I cannot argue with your excellent point that people are less impressed with famous people as role models than they were in the past. Meanwhile, I confess I have missed what makes a normal person who decides to make money on social media a trustworthy source of recommendations. That's the bit that's new and I think I've just missed the boat why it works *so* well.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
You're right. I hadn't been applying para-social relationship concepts enough to how I'm looking at what influencers can do. I will still maintain everyone seems cool with it, while I find it deeply disturbing, which was the prompt of this thread.ReplyCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
There's a podcast I follow, and in the beginning they were plugging bidets with way too much enthusiasm to the point where those bidet commercials became a comedic bit that I looked forward to. Then they moved onto pet food, and one of them had a dog, and I was getting a dog, and I thought, "Huh. Do I get this pet food?" Years later they did an episode reminiscing about those early ads (they're now set up with a company that does ads for them, so a retrospective was a fun topic), and the guy said, "For the record, now that we're not beholden to them, my dog hated that dog food," and I just thought, "Well, shit. Glad the one time I considered doing what someone I was following on social media said to do, I didn't end up doing it. He was just reading a commercial, and I know he was doing that, but I was still taking it as a recommendation."ReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
yeah I'm glad my dad died when he did because he was on the road to becoming abusive. Scare the crap out of me.ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
The Australian girl with the parrot?ReplyCited in: Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
No, she lives in the US, no parrot in sight either.ReplyCited in: Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
That's regular alcoholism. Functional is that it doesn't effect your work, but it's still thereReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
That's what I was trying to get at. Functional alcoholics can hold down steady jobs, pay bills, etc., but they hide how much they drink, rarely appear actually drunk and rationalize its use (i.e. "it helps me focus," "I think better after I have a drink"). Regular alcoholics struggle or fail to keep their jobs or maintain housing, are often visibly intoxicated or blackout drunk, have legal problems like DUIs, and are completely out of control. The "vodka out of a water bottle" wasn't the best example, you're right that it's probably more for non-functioning, I guess the functional ones would maybe prioritize drinking and get annoyed when something gets in the way, or drinking alone at home often, and depend on alcohol to avoid performance issues.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Just join in. Usually it skeeves them out.ReplyCited in: Speakerphone broadcasting private life
how bad is it if the person wake up hungover and vomits? i have a friend (not me!!!) that likes to drink too much, we've all heard that he doesn't ever work weekends because he is still drunk or hungover and vomiting takes sick days to extend drinking nights tooReplyCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
In every way. In all seriousness, a few years ago I had a Gen Z marketer with a straight face tell me our company needed a TikTok channel with daily content. Our company made a product for people in their 50s and up. At one point years earlier I had done a marketing role for the company, and I knew it was pulling teeth to get that crowd to even engage on Twitter back before Twitter became what it is now. I asked her, "How much time a week will this take, and what percentage of our current client base do you expect to engage with TikTok content in the first year?" She got very quiet as she realized the lessons she'd learned in her marketing program would not work for people three times older than her. Social media sells to young people much, much more effectively than to older generations.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Eh there are a shitload of 50+ people on TikTok. I know plenty of middle aged people who buy temu bs because they saw in on Reels or TikTokReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Sure - but there is a difference here. Wildly generalizing (there are exceptions and cross overs, obviously): Boomers and elder X, trust transferred from legacy to the medium. Printed/broadcast = vetted = trusted. This spectacularly fails with social media and they fall for everything. Younger X and Millennials, trust the process. Perceived editorial or methodological rigor. Reviews, comparison sites, subject magazines, stuff that looks like proper independent research (even if it actually isn't). Gen Z: trusts influencers they have this weird one-sided connection with, on the implicit assumption that the social capital of said influencer would collapse if they sold crap, even though that accountability is only selectively enforced. Trust of medium, trust of process, trust of person; and proper marketing catches all three, and exploits everybody :) EDIT: one should also not forget that nobody gets the same feed. For example, I get exclusively scams advertised to me through real ads and influencers. I mean, I'm sure ads for Netflix and Samsung and such exist, but I never get them. That's the fourth type, common among tech literates (apparently), the negative trust. The networks know who we are, that we never click or convert, and serve only scams because proper advertisers won't pay for us. Astroturfing, veiled advertising, fake word-of-mouth, that exists for us.ReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
I thought this was an insult at first lol. I still have it and wear it actually 14 years later. My oldest kid's saw a girl wearing it on Victorious and ran in my room screaming excited once 😂 it was like I had celebrity status to her. We just wanted to get married and gave no fucks about the pageantry. I spent more on my kids back to school shopping today and still happy with my wedding and marriage (rip my wallet and curse preteen picky trends though!). I'm not always as practical don't worry.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Not an insult at all! I was impressed! I saw an episode of "Say Yes To The Dress" (I know, I know ) and the bride got sooooo excited of a dress with pockets. It is super smart. It sounds like you are practical when it suits you...ReplyCited in: A $400 beach wedding after family pressure
I realized it wasn't! It took me a second after the preteen snark today😂 I genuinely love say yes to the dress! I've seen more than one episode where they're like BUT POCKETS???? My sister has a most gorgeous gown all poofy and fluffy and she still did the goblin voice with her fists in the pockets pulling them out and moving them around to show BUT POCKETS. I still had to help her lift the hotel to pee but she had her flask in her pocket to share while I sat on the tub next to her during the 'we can't do this often so I'm peeing and waiting for more to happen cause it will again in five minutes otherwise'.ReplyCited in: A $400 beach wedding after family pressure
Love it!ReplyCited in: A $400 beach wedding after family pressure
Oh my god is that what it is? I was always so confused during the WDs after a bender where you are just shitting pure liquid but for some reason it feels like broken freaking glassReplyCited in: Oh my god is that what it is
Sometimes I look back fondly on drinking but oh boy shaking and sweating while you shit liquid broken glass…ReplyCited in: Sometimes I look back fondly on drinking but oh boy shaking and
I have the fond memories but I use the harsh memories of the last 2 years of it to keep me soberReplyCited in: I have the fond memories but I use the harsh memories of
Thank you, it's on my list! Kind of dreading watching it though! :)ReplyCited in: Thank you, it's on my list
I’m not talking about other alcoholics I’m talking about loved onesReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Amy Winehouse was only 27. IIRC, no illicit toxicology results except alcohol. I was hoping she’d make it. She could have had a long and productive career if only the alcohol hadn’t gotten her.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
>I'm talking about private rescues rather than municipal shelters in regard to the jumping through hoops part. The rescues make people jump through hoops so the dog doesn't end up back at the shelter or the rescue. The reality is there are many people who have dogs who should not have dogs. They don't view them as a companion, they view it as a one sided relationship where they can cuddle the dog and play with the dog when they feel like it, and ignore it the rest of the time. They won't meet the dogs needs or train the dog. They want a dog for aesthetics instead of an actual lifestyle fit, hence shelters overflowing with shepherds/huskies. >That's certainly part of it. Also lying about behavior, lying about medical issues, lying about history, etc. Or simply not sharing information they know. And don't tell me it doesn't happen. I've experienced it personally and know several other people it's happened to as well. Behavior can be unknown, especially at shelters where they're overflowing and/or don't allow volunteers or don't have sufficient volunteers. When you adopt a dog from my shelter you get the full medical history of the dog during the stay at the shelter. History is almost always unknown as the vast majority of dogs at my shelter were found abandoned or stray. The few that are owner surrender will have a history that you can ask for. Anything discovered at the shelter will be shared as the goal is to ultimately prevent the dog from coming back and someone who knows what they're signing themselves up for is less likely to return after adopting. Ultimately do whatever you need to do to justify buying a puppy, that's even more of a dice roll than an adult shelter or rescue dog though when it comes to temperament and behavior. There are very few ethical breeders who are genuinely attempting to make the breed better and selectively breeding appropriate dogs, and the price tag will be enormous. The vast, vast majority of breeders are running puppy mills or close to it.ReplyCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
Treatment as in treatment for acute alcohol withdrawals in a clinical settingReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Sober alcoholic here, with years of experience working in addiction treatment. I can speak from experience both lived and witnessed that continuing to drink *will* cost you more than whatever consequences you’re afraid of from going to rehab. It’s always difficult, and it’s always inconvenient, there are always going to be reasons that now doesn’t feel like the right time. But everything in life is better on the other side. I hope you find help and peace.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Definitely. I’ve had some health issues that I know are caused by alcohol, a lost month of wages — or even having to find a new job — is a small price to pay if I can avoid losing the use of my legs, liver failure, pancreatic cancer, or any of the other host of awful ways to live and die caused by alcohol.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Thats ridiculous!! So many industries lose out on high end talent because of fucking weed. If upper management lived like the rest of us they would smoke too. And its so much better than alcohol or anything else. Sorry you had to deal with that!ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
The only one I ever cared about was Steve Irwin. He was real though. We didn’t deserve that guy.ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
If you purposely film your good deed to post about it, it's not a good deed. So weird how people do not understand this.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
This one drives me bonks. Just give if you can, don’t showcase.ReplyCited in: Filming good deeds for profit and views
No, functional stoner is definitely less accepted than functional alcoholic outside of weed culture.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Depends where you live I guess, in my country it's legal and everyone and their grandma does it now.ReplyCited in: Functional cannabis dependence normalized; Functional alcohol dependence
Just a PSA that anyone who is struggling or feeling their alcohol intake is unhealthy, please join us in r/stopdrinkingReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
The creation and branding of celebrities.ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
Influencers honestly just bore me. I don't GAS about what they feel or what they want us to do. Their music is also just garbage most of the time.ReplyCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
As infuriating as that is, I dont think thats a new phenomen. "Woke" culture is about listening to all voices and is being actively combated.ReplyCited in: Holding victims to higher moral standards than perpetrators
Yeah I agree. If faceintheblue thinks people in the 60s/70s/80s weren't also obsessed with the what was "in season" or what was "in vogue" or just basically popular for a bit, and that those things weren't determined (or ahem influenced) by it-girls, celebrities, and the like, they are greatly mistaken.ReplyCited in: Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
No one is saying fashion wasn't a thing. If you don't think something pretty incredible and fundamental has shifted in the last decade and a half, you are greatly mistaken.ReplyCited in: Influencer-driven clothing overconsumption
Costco should only be $3.49 for a slice of pizza and hotdog, unless they do regional price changes which I don't think they do. A Costco membership is actually a pretty decent way to have somewhere to go for a cost-effective lunch. You can also just get a 10 dollar pizza and have 6 meals pretty easily.ReplyCited in: US fast-food price and value decline
Because there’s no drive through. No seriously because people are stressed out and dopamine addicted enough in modern life that convenience will always win.ReplyCited in: US fast-food price and value decline
Yes anal-buttsex the person who does it thinks it's normal but everyone else does notReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence; Perceived work benefits masking alcohol-related harm
Are you able to go into detail on this? Or have you already and can link me to the comments? I'm curious as to what that looks like in comparison to an alcoholics world falling apart.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Oh it seeps in to your responsibilities and relationships for sure. But as long as work didn't know you had a problem, meh?ReplyCited in: Functional alcohol dependence
Why did you type chef twice?ReplyCited in: Why did you type chef twice
Great idea to bar ethical, responsible breed lovers who screen for health and temperament and just let people who don’t gaf about laws do the breeding. 🙄ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
Responsible, ethical breeders will continue to breed the dogs they love, and continue to place competition. and working and pet dogs where they each belong because they don’t make money or even cover expenses. Puppy mills and pet shops would fold, though.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
Ooh I just heard the ad for Amazon ai health for the first time. Terrifying. It’s basically like -hey customer stop doing goggle searches for your health woes. Now Amazon ai health is here. YikesReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Are you sure that it actually does?ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
That's deep, man.ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
I knew it was could be bad but not SO badReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
I feel very weirded out by the placebo effect.ReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
I have to wear safety shoes for work and getting to wear pretty heels the rest of the time is a relief. If I wore flats all the time, the bottom of my heels would be killing me. At 160 cm, 5-7 cm extra makes the world more accessible as well. A wedge with a platform that is shaped to curve at the front can be really confortable and easy to walk in but I also love my louis heeled oxfords for everyday wear. It's a shame heels seem to have almost disappeared from stores but I understand that with the overall quality of shoes going down so much, what would be on offer today, would often be uncomfortable.ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
I understand your point of view. However, they're known to accentuate a nice butt, so the hate is slightly ironic considering your username.ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
The butt love is independent of fripperies and frivolous forced fashion! Just like I'm sure you don't need fancy beef jerky. Love is freely given to the butt and jerky;)ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
A lot of it just seems like a bit of pre-crash/financial-instability price mark-up, but some of it also just seems like greed of companies. That being said, to some degree some price increases could reasonable, such as if it's due to fossil fuel emission taxes. Virtually any product or service uses a significant amount of energy and the energy is still mostly obtained from fossil fuels in most cases, so this can affect the price of almost anything. Of course when it comes to the USA I'm not aware of much or any sort of tax like this so it's not like it's much of a thing currently. Although when it comes to utilities, they're likely just charging more because of the higher demand. Higher population, higher temperatures, more people buying air conditioner units.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
I believe it's part of the helicopter parenting that people seem to be enforcing. When I was thirteen, I wasn't allowed to have any communication devices nor was I allowed to meet up with friends(whether at their houses or in general.) my mother didn't know without her(who was either tired or busy 24/7) so I stayed inside constantly and had absolutely no social life outside of school and my mother's friends children. It was kind of isolating on hindsight. I did have exceptional literature grades, though.ReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
Given how people online treat each other, I'm not shocked to find out people want someone to be *nice* to them for a change.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
Thankfully I was a tallish woman at 5’9” and never had any desire to appear taller so I absolutely refused to wear high heels even at my own wedding lol my feet definitely thank me now in my 50’s!ReplyCited in: High heels as a health and dress expectation
Doesn’t it give you the sources it used though? I believe you can also take a source and have AI examine it, compare it to what you’ve written, and it will tighten up your work, or you get a paper written based on the source or sources you provideReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
It will occasionally fabricate sources or misinterpret them. That's why you have to double check everything it does. You can't rely on AI to check AI because it doesn't actually know anything. It's all just glorified guessing. That becomes extremely apparent if you ask it about things you already know a good deal about.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Best ending to a song everReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
MultiverseReplyCited in: The existential fact that anything exists
Someone put it as AI relationships are like Tom Hanks and Wilson in Castaway.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Same. Except he does it anyways.ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
I can't afford a psychologist or a psychiatrist but I still have anxiety, depression, and constant passive SI. So I talk to the chatbot as a journal and sounding board and I hate it so, so much.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
People have offloaded their own thinking to whatever source is available for centuries. This is just the form it takes. Used to be whatever religious congregation was nearby.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Have you never heard of packing your lunch? Try it! They make little insulated bags to keep it fresh, and you can add an ice pack to keep it chilled.ReplyCited in: Fast-food prices shifting spend to local restaurants; Fast-food convenience during mobile workdays
I've been calling AI a smart rubber ducky (if you're familiar with rubber ducky programming methodology), it can't originate new thoughts but it might be able to filter your ideas back at you.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
I hadn’t heard of this before, but yes! That’s exactly what I’m getting at and what I use it for. The rubber ducky that talks back to you.ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
Thanks, I came up with that the other day when a programmer was using Claude to find a solution to an issue we've been seeing lately. Unsurprisingly, he still hasn't solved it after 4 iterations.ReplyCited in: AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist; AI as a thought-sorting tool, not a human replacement
The most shocking thing I saw was American state fair, which had 10$ lemonades. Like at least deep fried oil products require a lot of expensive gear/machinery and oils and stuff, but water and sugar are cheap and require no tools to mix. The prices you mentioned are still shocking/crazy though certainly. And while these sort of prices we're talking about have always been expensive, these prices are increasing above inflation rates. Same thing is happening with groceries and real estate and it's a bad economic sign.ReplyCited in: Event pricing and stranded ride credit; Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
I get what you're saying, but most people who are capable of using AI are capable of using Google too. Dr. Google is far more reliable than Dr. GPT, so I don't think using an AI as a doctor is justified unless you have some kind of disability that makes researching more deeply through Google impossible (and that can actually happen with certain disabilities, although it isn't most people).ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
I've personally just used AI to compliment me on my writing so i could motivate myself to keep going, but i don't view it as a "be all-end all" since my friends aren't the most literate and/or available and I'm too shy to talk to people online about what I write as well 🤷‍♀️ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
But do that before you upload it in the app...ReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
of courseReplyCited in: Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
I'm sorry 😞 that's been my experience, too. I'm very low contact with my parents for lots of reasons, this issue is just one of them.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
Ok instant cardiac arrestReplyCited in: Zip-line safety incidents
Luckily I was 12 so my heart could take it! But it was terrifying, he started coming towards me and the guide had to come and gab me with his legs, and pull me back up the way I came, while I kicked and screamed to scare the monkey away. Luckily the monkey seemed to get bored and he left. 🤣ReplyCited in: Zip-line safety incidents
Thats an amazing event! 12 year olds are pretty durable! 😅ReplyCited in: Zip-line safety incidents
I'm so glad you got out!ReplyCited in: An AI sounding board during an abusive relationship
Thank you for your answer. Just one point, our government is not in debt due to edf or whatever, but because we are giving money to companies that are beating their record every semester, and this money never goes back to the government Also we have more than 100 billion euros in tax fraudReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates
Not Facebook unc 😭ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
Demand spikes as everyone turns on AC but supply stays the same… you’re well within your rights to be annoyed but it’s not reasonable to be surprised.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
Blame the education system. I used to love books. Then book reports, textbooks, and Shakespeare sapped the joy from it. I probably read more novels in the summer of 06 than I've read since. It'd be nice if they mandate THAT we read rather than WHAT we read.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books
Not saying this is your case, but the forced reading is exactly what I blamed my "hate" of reading on until I was in my mid-20s. Even though my friends still found time to read things they liked alongside the assigned reading. Turns out, I had undiagnosed ADHD, so reading 30 pages just to go "wtf did I just read?" and having to reread multiple times just to get through a book isn't normal. I'm medicated now, and it turns out I do like reading. I read at least 5 days a week.ReplyCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
Any tips on how to get over it without medication? I don't do well on prescriptions :/ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books
Yeah, I don't recommend going there. It's incredibly sad.ReplyCited in: A large AI-boyfriend community claim
I think everyone finds this disturbing.ReplyCited in: AI in everyday products without a clear need; AI used as friend, partner, doctor, or therapist
especially housing. without that you are exposed to the elements and random sociopaths who would hurt you. recently a homeless man was arrested and charged with a felony. For being homeless.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
But why not use TAXES to pay for SERVICES THAT HELP PEOPLE? You're also making spurious connections between the power system and France's economic situation. Your 'natural solution' is not natural at all and in fact a bias towards unregulated capitalism which is not the answer (as we seen by the precarity of the financial situation of millions of Americans).ReplyCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Also the debt borrowing costs aren't just affecting countries with more socialist policies... America's debt has ballooned under this administration, the servicing cost is over a trillion dollars a year... it's a matter of priorities and policy choices on who matters.ReplyCited in: Regulated or publicly owned utilities for stable rates
AgreedReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Modern cars come fitted with a sensor that allows you to open the boot without touching it, just by waggling your foot appropriately - yet somehow nobody has figured this out for bathrooms...ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
Plenty of restrooms have door openers but they're for accessibility, not germ free handling, though you can certainly use your knee to activate them.ReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
Not that I bungee jump and nor would I, but... You use road vehicles in some way, I assume: What if the hydraulics fail and the brakes stop working? You probably use a gas stove, or maybe a gas boiler: What if the igniter doesn't take, and it fills your home with flammable gas? I'm sure you're reading this and thinking *"These are things I *have* to do, whilst bungee jumping is purely recreational"* and you'd be right, but do you only ever cook when it's absolutely essential? Do you only ever drive somewhere when your life depends on it, or do you also drive to participate in recreational activities? Spend too long thinking about it and *everything* will give you the heebeejeebies; Maybe there's an argument for letting go, and taking that leap - metaphorically and in the case of bungee jumping, literally!ReplyCited in: Bungee-jumping equipment-failure fear
that's everywhere, not just the States prices are insaneReplyCited in: US fast-food price and value decline
I blame school for that. At least for me, I loved to read as a kid. I chewed through goosebumps books like no tomorrow. Then school forced me to read shit I had zero interest in and write essays on. It took the joy completely out of something I loved because it turned it into work. I do not like to be forced to two or three chapters a night and log the number of pages I read and then write a summery analyzing why I think the characters did what they did. It turned a love into work and it put me off reading for years. I only just got back into it the last couple of years.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books
Which ones?ReplyCited in: Celebrity obsession
Linking to other posts in other subs used to be encouraged, but at some point it started getting used as a harassment/manipulation tool, and some subs ban most reddit links to stop brigading. Before the Internet, everyone had a brother, uncle or friend who would just make up shit, and unless you had an encyclopedia or Guinness book of world records handy, the bullshit would often stand unchallenged, because nobody knew enough to provide correct information. Even if you knew they were a bullshitter, that might be your only exposure to something. Being able to look up information in real time is still basically a brand new thing.ReplyCited in: Online harassment, doxxing, and hate communities
This- and it leads to such severe black and white thinking. If you think a group of people is irredeemably evil, you have no incentive to think critically about your own views or ever consider a different perspective or opportunity to compromise because you’re automatically in the right.ReplyCited in: Online echo chambers and bespoke realities
Omg, perfect gfReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
I'm in a book club and they told me how much they read fantasy. I was all excited and picked a very simplistic teen fantasy called Mistborn. They all hated it and couldn't finish it; they said it was too difficult. Come to find out, every book since has been romantasy and/or smut. I keep real fantasy to myself. I just finished the Malazan series. I do love the old DnD novels, tooReplyCited in: Adults not reading books; Adult romantasy content shelved for teens
so is redditReplyCited in: Facebook hate content
Well then I'm going to spend the rest of the day making sure I don't touch that spot of my shirt. That's really not much better than the hand to meReplyCited in: Touchless restroom with a touch-required exit
If you buy a dog from a shelter you are supporting irresponsible breeding. You are so confidently wrong it’s astonishing. Of course there are ethical, responsible breeders.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
How exactly do shelters “support” irresponsible breeding? It’s not like shelters are buying from crappy breeders then re-selling them to the publicReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
Best suggestion.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
AI is a whole lot smarter than my doctor.ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
ThisssssReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk
Well I have a cousin who works in a federal law enforcement, specifically in the online child exploration unit soooooooo, they are a pretty good source of information on how these two things connect 🤷ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
I like how you didn't actually go so far as to say your cousin told you this or provode any proof. Interesting. By your logic you shouldn't take kids outside at all, because somebody might see them and kidnap them.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
Ok, well the usual process is that someone with disturbing tastes will seek out group photos. From there they see one who is to their tastes and they look for that kid specifically. Photos or information about said kid helps them build a profile of interests, locations (the school, the pool they take swim lessons at, the playground down the street). If the kid is older, the information can be used to convincingly create a fake profile of a similar aged "child" who "lives nearby" in efforts to connect with the kid on social media, convincing them it's a friend of a friend. From there is a request to need IRL.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
My mom used to post pictures of my brother and me on Facebook all the time. Even though we’re both adults now, it bothers me knowing how much of my life is out there.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
Happens none of the time.ReplyCited in: First-day-of-school posts exposing child identifiers
i find it liberating. stores and clubs are a scam. clubs are a total scam. "hey let me open a dirty room at night and put some neon lights in there and charge $300 for a bottle of vodka that costs $50 at the supermarket" it doesn't mean young people don't have a social life anymore, the new "club" "social club" is the speakeasies and pop up events that are mostly free and don't charge for alcohol like those scam clubs and bars do. there's a rave social club in my city that has raves in all sorts of places that they text people the location for when it happens. it's a lot easier to meet people on tinder and plan dates than it is to go to a club, and do the eye contact and then spit game thing over the loud music that's playing. it's easier to speak your mind online than to get ooga booga'd in person without even getting your point across. sorry the douchebag jocks can't find friends anymore now that there are alternativesReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
My question is why do you view reading as something that should be expected? Some people have other hobbies, and that's ok. Some people have lives and obligations that are too busy for ANY hobbies, which is sad, but they shouldn't be shamed for it.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books
Reading is an extremely important skill. I’d argue that if you have time for any form of media, that time should be dedicated to reading. Reading, especially reading fiction, builds cognitive skills, patience, empathy, a stronger vocabulary, and more. Sure, have other hobbies. But reading should be one of them, even if it’s just a couple books a year.ReplyCited in: Adults not reading books
Higher prices are annoying to deal with, but if you look at how prices actually work, I think you'll find that the current model actually handles huge surges in demand quite well. In summer, demand rises beyond what companies can supply -> companies raise prices to bring down demand so that they can actually provide electricity to everyone paying for it. If you take away that safety valve, then the artificially low prices resulting in more demand for electricity than there is actual supply. That's where you get load shedding and blackouts, which results in even more chaos and suffering. There's also the issue that raising supply to meet this increased demand requires turning on peaker plants, usually kept off in low-demand seasons, that cost more than usual electricity production. It's not about greed -- they'd be losing money if they didn't increase retail prices to match higher production costs. So either you force companies to hemorrhage cash every summer (aside from moral implications, that has its own problem of leading to reduced investment in expanding production and maintaining existing capacity -> more blackouts), or you accept that prices will rise.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
I think a lot of young pseudo-socialist types really just don't like or appreciate price signals in general. The cost of rent, energy, and food are the product of huge, diversified and competitive markets. Their argument against higher prices essentially boils down to, "I want people to do more for me, for less, or for free." Complaining about 35% higher prices during peak demand is so indicative of a total ignorance of the complexity of generating stable electricity for a massive population. Buy a solar panel and generate your own electricity if you're getting such a bad deal!ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
My landlord won't let me install solar for my apartment.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
It's not society's problem that you have a shitty landlord, or that you live in an old apartment because you play more hours of video games than you work and study. These are things that are in your control. The cost of generating the electricity that powers all of your electronics is an unrelated problem.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
I'm just saying your simple solution is not realistic or feasible for most people who don't already have your solution.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
You're missing the forest for the trees. I'm not saying everyone should install solar panels, or that that's a viable alternative to the cheap, plentiful, reliable power we get from utilities. In many cases, like in many apartments, it would not be economically rational. That's my entire point. Even if you own land, installing panels on bare ground and buying enough battery storage will take many years, decades, to pay for itself. If at all. Yet, despite electricity generation being very difficult to do yourself, even if technically possible, people are upset that they have to pay 35% extra at peak demand for something they could not do themselves except with way more effort and money. >Buy a solar panel and generate your own electricity if you're getting such a bad deal! This directive is like saying, "if you don't like rent, build your own house"! While technically possible for you to find land and build a house, it would be expensive, and you'd be isolated, etc. We all take the deal we get on rent because we don't want to buy land and build our own house. We all take the deal we get on electricity because it would be technically and financially challenging to produce our own electricity. In many places there is a private electricity market with public delivery, meaning you can buy electricity from one of many companies, all of whom compete to generate power for you. I don't know if there's a public monopoly where you live but feel free to get involved with politics if you don't like the deal you're getting. I bet you'll get an education on peak power prices pretty quickly.ReplyCited in: Normalizing sharp utility-price increases
I get what you are saying. Facebook is 20+ years old though. Can you point to a 20 year old that has been hurt by their parents putting their baby photos online? I think it probably happens, but I also think it's a very small number and probably edge case situations.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
Hey so *hundreds of thousands* of images of csam are generated using random innocuous children’s photos of *all ages*. It’s not so much “my mom posted about me taking a poop on a table when I was 1 and my friends saw it” (though that aspect of privacy is to be taken into consideration), but more that there are sick perverts using people’s family vacation photos and general “look how cute my kid is” photos to make csam. There’s a Netflix documentary about the exploitation of Piper Rockell that goes into it.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
Something like that can happen from a person covertly taking pictures of your kid when they're outside. Does that mean we can't bring our kids outside anymore? Why should I let the fear of something I will never see and something that will never affect me or my child stop me from doing what I want? Content like that is extremely illegal and can never be shown in public, so how exactly does it affect me or my kids? If 99% of the people I share my kids photos with are family and friends and people who enjoy it for what it is, I'm not going to let the less than 1% ruin it for me.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
That’s a fair point, but the difference is one is largely unavoidable and the other is a choice. We can’t realistically keep our kids out of public forever, but we can choose how much of their digital footprint we create. Everyone just has a different comfort level with that risk.ReplyCited in: Posting child images and AI sexual-abuse risk; Parents posting children and filming vulnerable people
No they arent, it doesnt replace actual face to face interaction and relationships.ReplyCited in: No they arent, it doesnt replace actual face to face interaction and
Meaningless? No. Could she have been lying to you about literally everything and you wouldn't have known? Yea. I'm glad yours worked out but the stakes are different between online friendships and in person one's.ReplyCited in: Lying, gossip, and rumor as routine behavior
Social life and online are contradictions in terms.ReplyCited in: Social life and online are contradictions in terms
It's great that it worked for you, but especially for young people who might not have yet developed strong social skills IRL, staying online for nearly ALL their socializing has a relatively high potential for being problematic. Excessive unstructured social media use has been tied to increases in anxiety, depression, and loneliness. It puts kids at increased risk of abuse by unfamiliar adults (emotional or sexual), and allows cyber-bullying to have a more significant impact. One of the biggest issues for teens and young adults right now is that online prediction markets set kids up to become addicted to gambling. These risks are mediated when parents have good communication with their kids, and kids interact exclusively with people they know IRL. Unfortunately, modern social media is designed to be 'addictive' and tends to encourage negative feedback loops. A kid who has friends through a message board for their local hobby group will likely benefit from online socializing. A kid who has trouble making connections IRL may turn to Tik Tok for their 'social connection' and end up feeling more disconnected.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The problem is that people keep buying these things they "don't own" and so the companies keep doing it. You don't need to buy that new CD, movie, video game, etc. You can buy something else that comes in a physical form and enjoy that instead. If you're not going to own it in the first place, just pirate it. If people just outright refused to buy the digital-only games on switch 2, for example, they would quit doing that shit real fastReplyCited in: It's getting harder and harder to actually own something
I remember there used to be a facebook group called "This filled me with a rage I didn't anticipate" and it was 90% posts of people being angry about someone they clearly were not realizing were disabled. I now see that on reddit just about daily too.ReplyCited in: Casual ableism, especially in teenagers and towards hidden disabilities
There is a guy who does this quite intentionally, just to piss people off when they're being recorded. He's quite the douche, legal or not.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
Something that bothers me is when YouTubers, TikTokkers, etc. make videos like "English guy tries IHOP for the FIRST TIME!" and you see the moment the poor waitress realizes she's being filmed without her consent and she just stare dead-eyed into the camera with this look of tired resignation. Like she knows if she shows any frustration or asks to turn the camera off, the YouTuber could still post the video anyway and her behavior could reflect poorly on the company and get her fired. Or tourists will go into a store and ask random customers "What should I buy here? What do you recommend?" and it's obvious the customer is visibly uncomfortable and they're like, "bro I don't know, this is just a Walmart?" I actually don't have any problem with videos like this where people visit a restaurant, store, etc. but I just wish they'd ask for people's consent before filming them. Like "Hey is it ok if we film our first time eating here for a YouTube video?" Or "Hey do you mind if I ask you a quick question for a video I'm making?" Give them the option and then respect their wishes if they say no.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Money dumped into the military at least mostly ends up in our domestic economy. That said, there's an extra level or two of bureaucracy that skims off the top of all military spending and ends up ballooning costs by a good 20-30%. Comparing that to health insurance where that money doesn't go anywhere besides the coffers of the company and/or the ultrarich. The fact that health insurance companies can purchase sponsorships of sports stadiums is ridiculous.ReplyCited in: Military spending while poverty is blamed
I'm going to push back and say the whole concept of reading "at grade level" is effed up. Grade level according to who? Standardized testing companies, that's who. Children are pressured to read "on level" and spend the bulk of their school day being pushed to meet a certain arbitrary number of English/Language Arts "minutes"...and we wonder why they hate reading? I would hate reading too if it was forced on me out of context instead of being made meaningful and relevant at my own pace. Signed, a teacher/former elementary reading interventionistReplyCited in: Children can’t read at their grade level, if they can read at
Many bullies genuinely don't know better. But that doesn't make it okay, it means they should be taught better (that can include punishment, but punishment shouldn't be the sole thing done). I think bullying is largely allowed simply because the adults around the bullies don't want to deal with them. Often it's those same adults who instilled the mentality that bullying is okay, so it makes sense, but it's a big problem.ReplyCited in: Bullying across ages; Youth used to excuse bullying
Hell, 2nd graders know when they are bullying.ReplyCited in: Bullying across ages; Youth used to excuse bullying
They need to be psychologically evaluatedReplyCited in: Hunting animals for sport
Not every theist believes in the Abrahamic god or subscribes to a particular religion.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Ok...? And? Does that make their god any more real? I'm finding out more and more that some people don't care about what's real and what isn't as much as I do. So you go and enjoy your Wolverine, and by all means feel sorry for me that I only want to exist in reality. I'm actually quite a depressed person, so I'm probably doing it wrong and we're all actually supposed to believe in the unbelievable a little bit.ReplyCited in: Religious scripture versus scientific knowledge; Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
I mean if you're going to just take for granted that you're right and no theist could ever *possibly* have a reasonable and realistic belief, I'm not going to sit here and debate with you. I grew up a staunch New Atheist but eventually came to a rational, moderate form of theistic belief by studying philosophy and drawing my own conclusions. Whether you'd rather have an open mind or just keep being depressed (as I also was) is solely up to you. But I will say, clinging to a belief that's killing you without even being willing to examine alternatives is as about irrational as blind faith in some holy book.ReplyCited in: Religious scripture versus scientific knowledge; Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
LmfaoReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I don't think it's a matter of place but age.ReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
But I am telling you that this isn't an issue where I live, so it does seem like a matter of place to me.ReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
So many options these days 🥳ReplyCited in: Embalming and burial of bodies
Great, with lobbying outlawed now you can't have a meeting with your representative to explain your kid's school needs more funding.ReplyCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Oh, okay. Lots of people do that - just bury them without all the chemicals.ReplyCited in: Embalming and burial of bodies
that's not the point because im getting the info from AI, and then i ask "how do i work around that" and AI tells me, and then i reply to the commenter. all of this happens within 10 secondsReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
> I'm an atheist, raised Catholic. My brother just married a woman from a Hindu family and I couldn't be in their wedding ceremony because I was on my period that day. ... How do they even know?ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
\>archaic I'm just saying you'd think the world would be in a much better place by now if some bronze age asshats had actually managed to discover the truth of existence.ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
>I didn't say these are good, please read it again. I know. I was making a case as to why they actually are good.ReplyCited in: Youth social life moving entirely online
Yeah, I already said that this less alcohol and less risky behavior isn't bad. Yet, the reason for this change is alarming.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
I once went off with a lad i had made friends with on holiday, and his dad to the beach, i was about 8 years old and a fantastic swimmer. We got to the beach and all swam over a mile out to a small island, chilled for a bit and swam back, i had no idea why my dad and grandad gripped his dad by the throat and threatened to punch his head in when we come back to shore at that age, it was just a really fun swim in the sea to me and nothing had gone wrong. Obviously i understand why this was such a irresponsible thing to do now. A few years ago at around 30 years old whilst on holiday, i went snorkeling with a friend, our partners stayed on the beach and my friend didn't follow me into the deep waters. I was having a really good time, following schools of fish and diving down to the corals to see the wildlife, not realising i was being swept further out to sea. When i realised i was stuck in a riptide i slightly panicked, shouted for help but i was too far out for anyone to hear. Because of the struggle/panic i used all my energy swimming back and still going backwards. I was breathing so heavy i needed my inhaler that i obviously didn't have on me and had to relax and float on my back to regain composure. The waves crashed over my face and i started to breathe in water, nightmare. I eventually started to dive under the waves, kick off the sea bed and give it everything i had to get back to shore, honestly thought my time was up. Wish i knew then, you should swim parallel to the shore and not panic. Anyway, fuck the ocean and I'll never be swimming out past head height again lol.ReplyCited in: Deep-ocean risk and thalassophobia
I guess they earned the right because they are a cooperation 🤷‍♀️ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Reread my commentReplyCited in: Reread my comment
Well, that's just not true at all. It's literally what public parks and libraries are for.ReplyCited in: Loitering laws and policing young people in public
You say this, but my group of friends (all late teen girl) has had the police called on us just for going on the kids play area at around 10 o’clock at night. Lots of people my age have similar stories. When the police turn up they are understanding and take out side, but it’s the reporting that deters young people from going out. This of course, does depend on area.ReplyCited in: Loitering laws and policing young people in public
Well if you go to a park that closes after dark, which most do, then yeah, you can't be there. We dealt with the exact same stuff 25 years ago. It is literally no different.ReplyCited in: Loitering laws and policing young people in public
Yes! I'm not sure why they think adding more kids will make things better when they will have even less time to themselves and each other.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
I would look at coffee shops or local book shops - a lot of times they’ll have community boards with things posted. I don’t wanna refer you back online to get off-line, but you could also use meetup or look around on Instagram and Facebook to see what kind of community events are going on. That’s where I saw the audition for the theater thing :)ReplyCited in: Cost, surveillance, and lack of third places for youth
Well I don't think that the smelling the flowers are harvesting the fruit healed me. Do you ever play a video game where there's little pellets or some kind of thing around and if you collect them you'll get maybe like one health point back? It's kind of like that where I just try to do it as much as I can every second I can and it keeps me in a better Spirit to do the real work that healing takes. The self-confrontation. The cracking open your skull and having a root around. The weighing and measuring are things that matter to you and determining how or why they matter to you and seeing if you measure up to your own standards of morality or whatever it is that you think is valuable in a human. It's a lot of prep work and tiny re-ups all the time so that I'm a lot more likely to sustain through the doozies. So yeah anytime I can give my brain an excuse to give me the happy juice or the pride juice or the satisfaction juice I go for it because people pay good money for chemicals to do that for them and you can hack your brain If you figure out how to get yourself going with a sort of mental boner about any old thing. And then when something horrible happens or something scary is incoming it's this thing among all these little good things and it really does cushion the blow.ReplyCited in: Suicidal history and finding small sources of enjoyment
> Great deal of men want to fuck kids Just a very very vocal minority.ReplyCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
There is no park in America where you will get fined for loitering. In fact parks are literally made for loitering. Unless you're like 5 years old, you don't need your parents to hang out at a playground. Many people live not that far from nature. I grew up in the suburbs and we could walk to the woods. This is a pretty common thing in the United States. And bikes are dangerous? What does that even mean. Basically, you just threw up a bunch of excuses, none of which are remotely true. We did all of those things when we were kids and you can do all of those things today. The difference is, we didn't have the Internet and lame excuses.ReplyCited in: There is no park in America where you will get fined for
I'm sorry you're American. That's so sad.ReplyCited in: I'm sorry you're American
The really messed up thing is how it skyrocketed in popularity during Covid, when everybody was staying home all day with their moms and their sistersReplyCited in: Stepfamily-themed pornography
It's such a fascinating topic to me that I will never understand, but I'm constantly happy I was raised in a non religious house. But I know people who I consider intelligent people that I might go to for advice on things here and there, and yet they're extremely religious. It doesn't negatively impact anything in our interactions but I'm always thinking, how can somebody this smart believe to equivalent to David Blaine actually levitating but 2000 years ago?ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Did you read all the way to the part where I said I think greed is the issue? Look I am not talking really about the ethics of the thing anyway, I am talking about the biological imperative that compels us to have to do some level of “work” to survive.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
That's nostalgia marketing. The original claim for the "3rd place" was also nostalgia marketing. Starbucks needed to be it because, 25 years ago, people had no 3rd places like they had in the "olden days". But they did, just like they do now. The coffee shops and other "pay to hang out" places just want you to think something has changed. And it feels like something has changed because, as you get older, you just don't do that as much. Doesn't matter if its the 1920s and you're talking about a soda bar in a drug store, or a diner in the 50's, or a library, or a new-fangled indoor mall, or anything else. You're just as capable in 2026 of being in a "3rd place" that isn't costing you money as you could in 1986. You're just choosing not to. Don't fall for the marketing.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
Nah, you get kicked out of 3rd places now for not buying something and loitering.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
No mall, park, friends house, random forest or library is going to kick you out for not buying something. Only the places that are a) stores and b) were never "3rd place" hangouts are. Like I said, that's a fabrication made up by the places that want you to come spend money. Things are no different now than they've ever been. People trying to sell you stuff just want you to think it is.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
The malls will not let kids loiter. The forest gets the cops called on you. Don't focus so much on "buying something", it's the no loitering that is the real crime. Kids just want to hang out but adults won't let them.ReplyCited in: Loss of third places
true, but not as cheaply as it was 15 years ago. Capatilism in the 80's might have popularised the idea of the third place, but it was originally coined by a socialogist in the late 50's. My point is, the constant drive for *more* profit, is the proverbial ouroboros of the third place. Capilalism is eating itself, making it too expensive to keep that particular third place alive. WRT other third places... again capitalism is all but doing it's absolute best to ruin those places as well. subscriptions, development, fear-mongering, technology, social media; all of it profit driven, all of it helping to erode the third place.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
depends on the person honestly I have accepted food from strangers in the past but using discernment is extremely important in those kinds of situations. I also give out hand warms, blankets, coats, soap, lotion, narcan, first aid, socks, etc. before I give cash mostly because I have a lot of people I’m close to who’ve had family or friends die from heroin and other drugs laced with fentanyl or overdoses and for me personally I don’t like knowing the money I’m giving them could very easily kill them shortly after. I understand they don’t always use the money for drugs I just know it is a possibility and that doesn’t sit right with me so I prefer to help in other ways instead.ReplyCited in: Depends on the person honestly I have accepted food from strangers in
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it’s also crazy if you look into it tobacco/nicotine used to basically be considered a form of plant medicine passing down generations of wisdom. then certain deranged people realized they could add chemicals and a bunch of BS so people would associate tobacco with poison instead of wisdom and so the cancer industry would make bank 😀ReplyCited in: It’s also crazy if you look into it tobacco/nicotine used to basically
Too bad the news, at least in the US, largely is absolute garbageReplyCited in: Not reading books or news
It's still better to read the garbage(a *variety* of garbage, don't just read one single source) than to read nothing, or rely on getting news via social media. I can't tell you the number of times I've seen people on reddit or wherever be surprised about something and claim that it wasn't reported on, when I saw it in headlines for a day or more. I'll give them grace if they're a minor(though really, by 16+ you should be doing better, those years are preparation for participating as an adult once you turn 18), but adults have no excuse for being ignorant. You can get a pretty good idea of the shape of things by consuming multiple news sources with your critical thinking hat on, even if they're individually dogshit.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
I used to read 5 different newspapers basically every day plus a few magazines every month. I’ve been consistently reading the news basically daily for over twenty years now. The quality of journalism at certain outlets is still extremely high. Let me guess, you’ve never had a newspaper subscription that you paid for, you get all your news online, and the only television news you’re familiar with are cable channels?ReplyCited in: Not reading books or news
While sitting in a shit filled diaperReplyCited in: Unverified allegations about a current political leader
2: It's not wanting to and having an excuseReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
It gives me the ick when people say they’ll pray for me, particularly when I don’t know what beliefs they hold :/ like, if you think God sent Trump to bring about “world peace as we’ve never known”, I don’t want your version of god looking out for me…ReplyCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
You can be induced. I had to be for all 3 of my kids because they didn't want to leave my uterus. However, that's assuming everything goes according to plan and the baby doesn't decide to arrive any earlier.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized; High-risk pregnancy anticoagulation anxiety
Sure, but when most people talk about "destroyed bodies" they don't mean the abysmal state of postpartum care..... they mean saggy tits and stretch marks. I've had two babies, first one I had a second degree tear *and* an episiotomy. Second one I had a more minor tear. And it's not that big of a deal. First time round I was uncomfortable walking and standing for maybe 10 weeks, and didn't feel fully back to normal for about 5 months. But it did get better. I'm maybe not the same down there, but the only problem I see is people who assume I'm "ruined" for being a little bit different than before. Pregnancy is a major medical event, and is the closest most women will ever knowingly get to death. But the language of "ruined" and "destroyed" heavily lean towards policing looks, and are not about long-term side effects.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
I think mom forgot how babies are made. That sucks though :(ReplyCited in: Menstrual exclusion from a family wedding ceremony
I have to argue, I think that IS harmful. They had no right to deny you being there for your brother at his wedding. Screw them. I’d lie about my cycle or show up anyway.ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
I still went to the wedding. I just had to sit in the audience instead of being up on the stage with my family. I was initially supposed to be the Maid of Honour.ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
I think it’s admirable you didn’t want to cause drama but F them. It’s gross to think religion gives anyone the right to discuss another person’s private information, and I consider a period very personal and private.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
I totally get where you're coming from. I think 20 year old me would've been outraged and made a fuss. 36 year old, mom of 2 me knows how to pick my battles. I just did my best to get through the day and support my brother. It sucks, but it is what it is.ReplyCited in: Religion used to harm, harass, or control others
You don't have to be an antinatalist to be honest about the effects, and the possible dangers to be on the lookout for, of pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum on the body, the possible medical procedures you might have to undergo, or what caring for a newborn entails, or the myriad ways everyday life changes, and let people decide if they want all that or not.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
They literally believe in magic and that they have a personal relationship with the creator of the universe and he prefers them over everyone else. They make life decision around magical thinking and think god will take care of things. They're so narcissistic they think the creator of the universe prefers them over others. Many people die or are targeted every year because of religious fanatics. I repeat, they literally believe in magic. If religious people werent in control of every thing, it would absolutely be listed as a mental disorder. Know what one of the classic symptoms of manic psychosis and schizo disorders is? Sudden or hyper religiosity. No one talks about it because people are offended at the idea that religiosity is a sign of mental conditions.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
The First Amendment protects the right to photograph and film in public spaces, including capturing images of law enforcement officers and government officials performing their duties. You have no reasonable expectation of privacy in public.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
That's fine. Law is law. However it's becoming a joke! People are going out of their way to exploit or embarrass people for content!ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
What you've done is *state the law*. [account] is arguing what they believe the law *should be*.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
I'm not American 😆ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
People generally don’t understand the reasonable expectation of privacy part. The only place I usually take pictures or video in public tho is Disney parks where it’s a given there’s cameras everywhere or with my phone to take snapshots of products that I’m interested in at stores, I rarely buy anything on impulse so will take a picture if it looks interesting and then review a day or two later before purchase.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
It's legal to be an asshole to people too, but that doesn't mean it should be socially acceptable. Same principle applies to filming people in public without their consent: there are exceptions, but generally it should be looked down upon, not treated as okay just because it's legal.ReplyCited in: Recording strangers and private spaces
The homeless thing is tough. You can empathize with their lot in life but, as mentioned below, few are there due to misfortune. I always go back to the point that we have a very generous welfare system if you are willing to use it. My tax dollars pay for that and that is enough. Try being homeless in Thailand for the real experience. If people here have perspective on how to look at this I'd like to hear it. There must be places where this has been handled more effectively than the US.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
I've volunteered with multiple homeless services, and I think (especially varying by locality/state) there are often not enough of the right resources available. Like, maybe there's shelter beds available at a church that will only feed you or provide a case worker if you go to their religious services multiple times per week. :/ A lot of shelters don't have the ability to accommodate people with jobs that would prevent them from lining up for a bed or food at Time X, they can't accommodate a single father with a daughter, or a mom with a boy in his teens, or someone whose pet is their only family... You get the picture. It doesn't have to be that they refuse to stop doing drugs and/or are violent. That said, I do distinguish between homeless folks who want to participate in society and basically just need a leg up, people with severe mental illness who honestly should be in a (not abusive) institution of some kind, and people who -- at this point in time, anyway -- have no interest in being a member of society. The first group, we should be aggressively throwing resources at, because the return on investment is stupid high. The guy who lost his job three months ago and is currently living out of his car but has a new job lined up is a home-run waiting to happen. Keep him fed and showered so that he can be successful in his new job, and he'll pay back the assistance with his taxes in no time. The second group needs more resources, but if they want to follow rules and participate in positive interactions, I feel like we as a reasonably wealthy society have a moral obligation to provide them with a reasonable quality of life. I met a lady who did not have the capacity to live by herself, but with a carer to remind her of what needed done and take control of the more complex tasks, she was happy and crocheted baby cloths to donate to a hospital. The final group, who don't want to sign the social contract, are the most difficult, and the group I feel most ambivalent about. I've seen some of them turn around with 7+ months of relationship building and carefully chosen routines+rewards for effort, but some can spend years taking all the resources on offer and being abusive to anyone around them. I understand that some to much of that is due to conditioning from circumstances, but it takes a very special soul to keep wanting to help them while enduring constant verbal or physical problems or abuse.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Thanks for this detailed reply. I agree with all of it and will keep a record of this for context in the future. The obvious issue is figuring out a way to classify people and apportion resources proportionally. A few years ago I met a guy who would be in the third group. He was on a route I frequented so after a few months of seeing him off and on, I talked with him. He always has a smile and seemed nice. After that short conversation I saw him again a week later and he gave me a letter detailing a request for help. It wasn't much; just asked for a way to contact someone a couple miles away and some food. My wife and I did all we could to get him a backpack with a prepaid phone, solar charger, money, and other supplies. When I saw him next it came out that he thought phones are spy devices and he wouldn't go near it, and his behavior changed to irritated and clearly he wanted me gone. There is a lot more to the story. The result was that he never got any of the help we wanted to give and I eventually moved away and stopped seeing him. He turned out to be a veteran and the last I heard the VA branch in the area was trying to find him but it was unlikely since he lived in a hidden area in undeveloped land.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Ooft yeah, it sounds like there are possibly mental health issues contributing, but when people are unwilling to be helped, it's deeply frustrating. Kudos to you and your wife for trying; I'm sorry it didn't turn out better.ReplyCited in: Basic needs treated as something to earn
Those people put the chill religious people in a bad light, and it sucks, because most christians, muslims, jews, hindus, etc are chill and wouldn't mind you being athieist.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Sure, but when most people are talking about "destroyed bodies" they don't mean the risks and side effects of a major medical event..... they mean saggy tits and stretch marks.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
And that sounds cosmetic to somebody who’s never had to try dressing around an apron belly or finding a bra that fits boobs made of nothing but skin. People minimize the side effects and then they take the major surgery it takes to repair and hide it behind a cutesy name like “mommy make over.”ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
Have you read the thoughts of all these people?ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
I'm sorry that happened to you. I have a lot of problems, too, so I empathize with you. I have diastasis, a hernia, and other problems. Just please don't generalize and sling that kind of negative language around. It hurts others and it probably hurts you, too.ReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
400 years ago, there were plenty of people who didn't speak at all due to injury or choice.ReplyCited in: Not reading books or news
Sure but I suppose the question is about current day not 400 years ago?ReplyCited in: Not reading books or news
The constant push to criminalize fiction that depicts relationships that are abusive, illegal, incestuous, etc. Like yes, it would be bad if it was real. It is not. That means if you don't like it, you should move on.Top-level commentCited in: The constant push to criminalize fiction that depicts relationships that are abusive,
It's called wokism and it means the opposite of how it is written (for me being awake is good, but now it is an insult) Both left and right are woke if you touch their cake and every thing is touching their cakeReplyCited in: It's called wokism and it means the opposite of how it is
The suffering people cause to others in the name of profit, not only to animals but to other humans too. Greed is so awful, and may be the downfall of usTop-level commentCited in: The suffering people cause to others in the name of profit, not
Celebrating your birthday with public(ish) posts on Facebook.Top-level commentCited in: Celebrating your birthday with public(ish) posts on Facebook
People going out in public underdressed, including people wearing pajamas in public and older people going dressing like little kidsTop-level commentCited in: People going out in public underdressed, including people wearing pajamas in public
ITT: Just moan about things you don't like.Top-level commentCited in: ITT
The amount of people walking by homeless people like they don't exist. Going from a small town to a city, every single one use to shock me and I felt like I needed to give something. The sheer amount eventually normalized it for me.... But this is completely unacceptable guys. And no the Fenty bend is not funny.Top-level commentCited in: The amount of people walking by homeless people like they don't exist
The bio industry. This isn't natural folks, it isn't normal to stuff 200000 animals in one barn or pond, where they have barely any space to move. The suffering is immense but most people choose to ignore it because thinking about it sucks. We're treating so many living creatures on this planet terribly.Top-level commentCited in: The bio industry
That there’s no revolution right nowTop-level commentCited in: There’s no revolution right now
What revolution do you want?ReplyCited in: What revolution do you want
I don’t think I can say that on Reddit. It’s be directed against billionaires, tech megacorps and polluters and their enablers.ReplyCited in: I don’t think I can say that on Reddit
Uh huh, and the outcome of the revolution in Russia and China fills you with optimism because of what exactly?ReplyCited in: Uh huh, and the outcome of the revolution in Russia and China
That adults like movies about comic book characters.Top-level commentCited in: Adults like movies about comic book characters
Funk Town Valley, I watched the biography of them. It went on TikTok again. And I don’t feel looking images of it because I feel uncomfortable.Top-level commentCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
The way chronic exhaustion has become a status symbol. People casually accept being sleep-deprived, constantly reachable, skipping meals, and having no mental space—as if burnout proves ambition. What disturbs me most is that rest often has to be “earned,” while relentless productivity is treated as a virtue. A life can look successful from the outside while the person living it barely has time to experience it.Top-level commentCited in: Chronic exhaustion has become a status symbol
Idk if anyone has already said it but people sharing their ages online or their full, REAL, information online. Especially kids. I'm actually scared for such people. I remember talking to this one girl online, and she shared her image, I gently advised her never, EVER to share such info to anyone online. In such a dark world, especially with AI, you can never know what intentions the opposite person might have.Top-level commentCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
No reason you can't do both (many people do!). There's no fundamental Law of Physics that says "100% of all jobs suck". Find something you enjoy doing,. and I guarantee you there's likely either people already doing it as a job,. or could be easily turned into a job. People post Youtube videos of themselves .. just eating. Or reviewing things like "water jugs". I mean cmon. If people can make money at that,. you can make money at anything.ReplyCited in: The five-day workweek and life lost to labor
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What kind of people do you hang out with that think this is normal? Don’t let me find your FB friend list…ReplyCited in: Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
I don’t hang out with anyone like that. I’m saying it’s normalized out there in society. That’s why millions of men travel to Thailand and Philippines each year. We all know why.ReplyCited in: Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
I’m here to tell you, it appears to be normalized in your community. Society rejects this by definitionReplyCited in: Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
Yea, I guess. I live in the US with a pedo as president, which has sadly become our “normal”. By the way I’m not arguing with you, so I’m not sure why you’re being pedantic towards me. I’m just answering the question.ReplyCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
You keep saying our normal. I’m explaining it is not OUR normal. Normal implies I can have a casual conversation about this in a Starbucks line and not get ugly looks. If you insist this is normal acceptable behavior, perhaps you have not looked far enough from your circles. You can be mad about what you assume men are doing in other countries, but this sub specifically is about acceptable/normal topics.ReplyCited in: Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
That’s my point. No man is ever going to say their intentions from doing what they do. But most people know what it means when a man travels to a country like that. Literally millions of men travel to these countries, implying it’s completely normal (commonplace). It IS frowned upon by normal people, but it is also very very common. I never said it was acceptable behavior, just common and normalized. I am a woman of color who gets fetishized for specific “traits” men think women like me have. Thus why they travel to these countries to find women with these traits they deem as more desirable. So I definitely have an issue with it. I understand that you’re saying that it is abnormal mentally to think that way, but unfortunately in our SOCIETY as a whole it is not only common, but usually seen as a “joke” (passport bros going to ladyboys, Latinas, etc) and therefore accepted in today’s society. So maybe you’re just not understanding my point, but alright. I’m glad you’re not one of those people, keep doing thatReplyCited in: Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
Wait now every man that travels to “countries like that” has a perverse agenda. Ma’am take a step back and read what you are writing.ReplyCited in: Men traveling to poor countries to take advantage of women (sometimes little
I do this. But just because I'm proud of some of the stuff I make. Though I only do it before serving, usually when it's still on the cooking dishReplyCited in: I don’t understand the fascination with taking photos of your food whether
In the US at least they are required to accept cash. idk where you live tho.ReplyCited in: Places of business not accepting cash
Companies is nothing, have you seen the my boyfriwnd is AI sub?ReplyCited in: AI dependence eroding human thinking
Nope, believe it or not, I have less of a problem with that than I do the other twoReplyCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Yes thats hard to believeReplyCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
Did you know that zoos are very important for animal preservation?ReplyCited in: Did you know that zoos are very important for animal preservation
Replace all zoos with sanctuariesReplyCited in: Replace all zoos with sanctuaries
Completely different entities, and, again zoos are very important for animal preservationReplyCited in: Completely different entities, and, again zoos are very important for animal preservation
Funny question but what do you think about gay peopleReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
In the context of discussing anal sex, I still think anal sex is strange regardless of the gender of the participants. At the same time, people have freedom and can do whatever they want.ReplyCited in: Gender norms, heteronormativity, and compulsory couplehood
I mean, yeah If I had a pet cow I wouldn't eat itReplyCited in: Factory farming
No it’s not just about not eating your pet. It’s about understanding that the reason you wouldn’t want to hurt your pet- they feel pain- is the exact reason you also shouldn’t hurt another animal who isn’t your pet.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
Actually, the reason I wouldn't want to hurt my pet is that it's my pet If it weren't my pet, like a cow, I don't mind that it's killed for meat as I have no attachment to itReplyCited in: Factory farming
If you had to name a specific trait about it being your pet that makes you not want to hurt it, what would it be? (I know it sounds obvious that you wouldn't want to hurt your pet, but requesting you to humor me)ReplyCited in: Factory farming
There's no trait It's mine, I like it, it being alive is beneficial to meReplyCited in: Factory farming
You can have foreskin restoration these daysReplyCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Lot of places do it. People suck everywhere.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
This and this again! So fucking rong.ReplyCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
Yeah at least get there first name then you are good to go!ReplyCited in: Sex / Intimacy without knowing the person you're with
What exactly would you prefer? What you speak of is a fairly new invention, and vastly preferable to the old way of livingReplyCited in: We happily give up the vast majority of our precious time on
Many countries around the world have a better work/life balance and still have a high standard of living. So at minimum, a more European lifestyle with firmer boundaries around working, more vacation time, and priority given to non-career goals.ReplyCited in: We happily give up the vast majority of our precious time on
Oh yeah the US has a problem with their system where the country and the people are richer than basically anyone yet they lack a social safety net, fair enoughReplyCited in: We happily give up the vast majority of our precious time on
\> Now, imagine a human arm on the plate But it's not? Cannibalism is illegal, and farm animals are not humansReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Yeah, yeah, I know, but it would be quite disturbing if you were the livestock instead of the other way around, wouldn't it? Again, not preaching, but entertaining the thought makes me feel uneasy.ReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
I mean, yes, but... That would be a completely different situationReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
how’s your mental healthcare? sincere questionReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
We actually kinda have a surplus of therapists, funny you should ask.ReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
that’s so interesting, the opposite of the US…! and duly notedReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
Yeah it’s a whole thing. We actually have vocational guides warning people that we have the highest number of psychologists per capita in the world, so like, be ready for a hard job market, or like use that degree to do something other than being a therapistReplyCited in: Partner contempt and unhealthy marriage norms
right? I mean there's so many niches you can copy on social media not only family vlog. Don't put your family's safety just for the money.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
Hate cop shows Acatually quite enjoy detective mysteries/thrillers etc. but cop procedurals are such propaganda. Especially ones like The Rookie because everyone knows how corrupt LAPD is 🙄ReplyCited in: Infant circumcision without the child's consent
I think this is cultural. In mainstream USA, absolutely not. You'd be tagged as an incestuous pedophile; lip-on-lip kisses are considered purely romantic.ReplyCited in: Not even your own kids
And yes that person you replied to finds that perfectly normal thing disturbing Exactly like OP asked....ReplyCited in: It is totally normal though, we live and then we die, it's
It's about [this.]([link removed] I was a young adult when this happened. I'm glad that Lindy and her husband have finally been exonerated.ReplyCited in: Ok, I have no idea what it's about care to elaborate
Sorry, why did people joke about this? That's horrifyingReplyCited in: Ok, I have no idea what it's about care to elaborate
Thank you for proving my point.ReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
It's difficult to have any sort of relationship when touching is so off-putting.ReplyCited in: Don't worry, half the people commenting here seem to be
Thank you for stepping in. Children should be taken seriously when they assert boundaries like thatReplyCited in: This is my experience with tickling, too
I prefer mustard - harharharReplyCited in: People can still learn and grow, through various routes
The dog loves whoever gives it attention and doesn’t hurt it. That’s why they can be friends with other dogs and why they can get along with humans aside from the specific one that feeds them. They aren’t humans but they aren’t reptiles either.ReplyCited in: Yes, the dog loves whoever gives it food
True. Lots of cows we force rape upon so we can steal their babies in the making of dairyReplyCited in: True
Ni hablemos de los países en donde necesitas tener migración calificada. Países que, los de EEUU siempre están derritiéndose en elogios. Pero bueno, que sigan comiendo mierda los americanos.ReplyCited in: I know, right
You may have just broken the hivemind agreeing with me in your primary language. Have a wonderful day wherever you are, friend!ReplyCited in: I know, right
Giving birth to a childTop-level commentCited in: Giving birth to a child
How Sex and nudity became something "normal" (which it is) in every place and time of the day, and in every situation. In Germany it is so insane that they think it is normal for a 12 yo old girl to take bath with their 14 years old brother, naked. Or how it is normal for a teenager daughter to walk just in underwear in front of their father. Like just with thong and bra. They force it in to you everywhere, even on the TV after a children show, in the middle of the day. Nowadays you are considered "not normal" or a "Karen", if you are more... I don't want to say conservative because it is too extreme, but more "private"?Top-level commentCited in: Sex and nudity became something "normal" (which it is) in every place
The elitesTop-level commentCited in: The elites
Just encourages people to kill their victims to avoid leaving a witness.ReplyCited in: Murder, assaults, and sex crimes
What do you want me to do? There's a war right east of me and I don't even think about it that often anymoreReplyCited in: War and mass civilian suffering normalized
They are not "programmed" , they understand perfectly well the US electoral systemReplyCited in: Such a huge portion of American voters are programmed to ignore every
Then people are caught and get a OWI. These people all act holy and shun the person. The same could happen to any of them! Any opportunity to stand on their pedestal they take though.ReplyCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Thank you! And I fully agree with you. Unfortunately there’s about five of us worldwide 😉ReplyCited in: Death is the most insulting thing in existence and I resent the
I imagine it’s easier to digest or understand the concept of pain or death in relation to being human, meanwhile we have no idea how animals feel and we may project what we think they feel onto them. I also doubt most people feel this way considering they turn a blind eye on where their food comes fromReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
Man, thats even worseReplyCited in: I respect your care for animals, but I think you’ll find most
I’m not defending it, just acknowledging the reality of itReplyCited in: I respect your care for animals, but I think you’ll find most
I don't find it disturbing. We are omnivores, eating animals is normal and *necessary* for us. It would be better if we didn't though, that's quite cruel, but the technology isn't there yet.ReplyCited in: Factory farming
Necessary is interesting word to use for something that is 100% optionalReplyCited in: Factory farming
This 100%, and they’re always proud of saying it too like they think that is the moral standpoint to have. There’s also the constant trend of “humans are the real monsters” types of movies being produced now, purposefully devaluing human life while also projecting positive human emotional traits on to animalsReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
Yes! Absolutely! I mean, I find animal abuse to be very wrong and get stressed out by seeing animals hurt, but I feel a stronger solidarity with my own species.ReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
“Biological” isn’t quite the right word because that just means a living organism and people will misunderstand what you’re trying to say. I think “cisgender” would be more accurate, in which case, as controversial as it might seem, I think the majority of people actually DON’T want cis men in women’s restrooms and locker roomsReplyCited in: “Biological” isn’t quite the right word because that just means a living
I agree trans men might be better in mens restrooms. But really their transness is none of your business. (imagine a world where we police your genitalia- that is the world you are creating unless you find another way.) I am for privacy in all locker rooms also, everyone deserves privacy. basically trans ppl exist, intersex ppl exist, they are born that way, have always existed. either we find a way for everyone to be comfortable now that everyone noticed and started caring -(because politicians wanted to play you into voting for them)-, or we do human rights abuses, which is what is happening in a ton of places.ReplyCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
It isn't my business until I see a 6 ft guy with lipstick enter a bathroom with my daughter in it?ReplyCited in: It isn't my business until I see a 6 ft guy with
>It isn't my business until I see a 6 ft guy with lipstick enter a bathroom with my daughter in it? Or anyone you personally feel is not feminine enough right? Like I'ma be honest here my dude, the fact you would just make these assumptions about a total stranger says an awful lot more about you then them.ReplyCited in: >It isn't my business until I see a 6 ft guy with
Arguing hypotheticals that don't happen serve no purpose. A man could attack me in an elevator, should men not be allowed to use elevators?ReplyCited in: Arguing hypotheticals that don't happen serve no purpose
How so? Bathrooms have stalls, no one is walking around naked, and bathrooms are usually the biggest issue on the matter. Trans people also generally don't get naked in locker rooms where families are expected to be due to the higher chance of them being harassed by people trying to figure out what genitals someone has, and are more likely to use locker rooms of places that are explicitly LGBTQ+ friendly. This is all a non issue. These things don't happen at any rate that requires laws be made about it. Cis men are what we women are afraid of attacking us, not trans women.ReplyCited in: So
That's part of it. Right now, if you are in a bathroom (one way in and out) and a man walks in, you know right away something is wrong. Under your vision, it won't just be trans women coming in. Women and girls lives matter. You are saying there should no longer be single sex spaces.ReplyCited in: That's part of it
I agree, women and girls matter and should be protected, that's why both trans and cis women and girls should be allowed to use bathrooms safely away from cis men. Glad we can agree on that! I've been in bathrooms with both cis and trans women at the same time. No one cared because everyone was only in there to pee behind a closed stall, wash our hands, and fix our hair and makeup. No one was doing genetic testing to figure out what someone was born with. Once again, you are fighting hypotheticalsReplyCited in: I agree, women and girls matter and should be protected, that's why
Under your vision, manly trans men will be walking into your bathroom as per your request and you can't do anything about it. You and those girls gonna feel safe then?ReplyCited in: Under your vision, manly trans men will be walking into your bathroom
You've had so many trans women in your bathrooms and you never even noticed.ReplyCited in: You've had so many trans women in your bathrooms and you never
That's an absurd comparison.ReplyCited in: That's an absurd comparison
Trans women are women, stop calling them men. And the real issue with your idea is that demanding women to strip in front of men in men’s locker rooms, or the reverse, is unacceptable.ReplyCited in: Trans women are women, stop calling them men
I've noticed that most transphobs are deeply concerned about trans women but don't really think about tran men. It's kinda like their entire view hinges on sexism and Astro turffed moral outrage.ReplyCited in: I've noticed that most transphobs are deeply concerned about trans women but
The problem is that you're treating gender and sex as synonymous when the fact that they are two entirely different words ought to suggest that there is a distinction. To your point, yes, sex is biology. Biology is also messy as hell. A person can be genetically a dude and yet by all but the most invasive testing appear to be female, right down to being born with what appears to be entirely normal female reproductive organs. And people are sometimes born with both. Or neither. Gender, by contrast, is explicitly *not* about biology. Gender is what differentiates groups based on cultural and social norms rather than biology. There is nothing about biology that defines who wears dresses, who you are most likely to want to be friends with, what hobbies you enjoy or whatever. And indeed biology has surprisingly little to say about how you talk, behave, or find to be important enough to pay attention to. The overwhelming majority of people will find that their sex and gender align. And when I say that they align, all I mean is that they are willing and comfortable conforming well enough to fall within an acceptable range. (That range itself being a part of gender. Like, wearing trousers is no big deal for women these days but a hundred years ago, that would have been remarkably strange behavior and as attention grabbing as a gargantuan person with a heavy beard and a lumberjack build wearing a pinafore might be today.) For some people - about 1% of them - it doesn't. And that's where the latin prefixes of cis and trans come into play. Cis simply means "on this side" and trans is "on the other side". Now to address your point most directly, I understand precisely what you mean and even where you come from and can guess that you are almost certainly coming at this from the perspective of wanting to reduce harm. That's a noble goal. The problem is that the conclusion that you've drawn isn't doing that. In about an hour I'm going to go to the gym. And when I get there, if I walk into the men's locker room, my presence *will be a problem* if there is literally anyone else in there. I don't look as if I belong. Same with a bathroom. Or really any men's specific space you might want. And so here in an hour or so when I go to the gym, I'm not going to use the men's locker room, I am going to use the women's. Because in that space, no one is going to bat an eye. I can drop off my stuff, grab a towel, and when I'm done collect everything and head out. There was time, however, when this would not have been true. And an intervening period where maybe it'd be quite confusing regardless. *My* choice of which private space to use was guided by the very instinct you yourself are using, because if there is one thing I don't want when going to the bathroom or changing for the gym, it's for my presence to become a whole *thing*. I know, I know: there are still threats out there and all of that. And there are. But not only are people like me among the least likely to be the ones to try and inflict harm, *we're among the most likely to be on the receiving end*. What's more, someone going into those spaces with the intent to do harm are already breaching vastly more rigorous barriers than a simple threshold. Which is to say that when I go to the gym, I'm going to use the women's locker room and not a single woman in there will have a problem with it because I look like the sort of person who should be in a women's locker room. And I'm not going to use the men's because I don't look like I belong there and because *that's where the risk to me would be unacceptably high*.ReplyCited in: The problem is that you're treating gender and sex as synonymous when
>because it is what he wants? Because it's who she is. >What about young girls? What about them? >Do they have a right to a private space for females or not? A right? No. Many places have genderless bathrooms. But there are few things with noting here. 1) you don't seem to give a shit about a trans man entering a man's space with little boys? Wonder why? 2) I'm not sure you've thought through your bigotry here. If we force people to use bathrooms by sex assigned at birth then you will have trans males going into women's bathrooms and trans women going into male bathrooms. 3) just how in the fuck do you think you'll enforce such a stupid law. Just decide a women is not sufficiently feminine? >You do not believe in single SEX spaces? No - single gender spaces sure. That way we don't have big brother doing genital checks or bigots yelling women because they have short hair and wide chest.ReplyCited in: >because it is what he wants
Homie wrote a bookReplyCited in: Homie wrote a book
“Cisgender” is a slur.ReplyCited in: “Cisgender” is a slur
So you’re saying transgender is a slur lmaoReplyCited in: So you’re saying transgender is a slur lmao
Cars, especially for commuting. If they were considered a disease there would be a war on cars just like the war on cancer. No form of transit kills more, maims more or costs more.Top-level commentCited in: Cars, especially for commuting
The rigidity and conformism of younger Gen Z. Things are RIGHT or **WRONG** in every situation.Top-level commentCited in: The rigidity and conformism of younger Gen Z
The entire healthcare system in the USA.Top-level commentCited in: The entire healthcare system in the USA
What’s interesting is that no one wants to talk about gender neutral bathrooms as an extremely obvious solution.ReplyCited in: Whats interesting about this take and the current decision in England, is
> The open normalization of misanthropy in general is disturbing you wouldn't say that if you'd spent any time around humansReplyCited in: The idolization of pets (particularly dogs) over human life, especially over children
Why do you seem to automatically think that? What if they did spend time around humans and still think it's disturbing?ReplyCited in: The idolization of pets (particularly dogs) over human life, especially over children
Why should they do that if they still think the normalization of misanthropy is disturbing?ReplyCited in: Why should they do that if they still think the normalization of
My comment wasn't defending misanthropy. I was asking them why they think someone wouldn't think the normalization of misanthropy is disturbing anymore if they spent time around humans, and what they think about someone who did spend time around humans and still think the normalization of misanthropy is disturbing.ReplyCited in: My comment wasn't defending misanthropy
As a Human yourself you should know better than to think you serve as an ambassador for all of us but then again misanthropes are typically cowards who get in their own way then try and bring others down with them.ReplyCited in: The idolization of pets (particularly dogs) over human life, especially over children
Do you hate yourself because you are human too? “You wouldn’t say that if-“ yeah no speak for yourself, i’m not gonna wallow in this self loathing mindrot that people like you choose to subject yourselves to. We are literally hardwired to socialize. I will always love humanity because of what we are capable of, because what humans have achieved, because we are still a marvel of nature despite what hateful individuals like yourself want to believeReplyCited in: The idolization of pets (particularly dogs) over human life, especially over children
"Biological sex" is not a black and white, yes or no thing. There are multiple indicators that comprise sex, which are primarily reproductive organs, genitals, hormones, chromosomes, and secondary sex characteristics. Cisgender is a medical term, btw. So earlier you said you don't like using a medical term. Gender is not related to sex. Intersex conditions also are more common than trans folks. For example, someone can visually appear to be male but have chromosomes that would indicate female. Because sex is more complicated than an X or Y, reducing it to such is anti-science and harmful.ReplyCited in: Biological sex" is not a black and white, yes or no thing
You keep arguing that gender is completely different from sex, which is supposed to be obvious because English has two different words for them. Do you also use this logic to argue that trans/non-binary people don’t exist in countries whose languages have only one word for sex/gender? If not, then your argument is disingenuous.ReplyCited in: You keep arguing that gender is completely different from sex, which is
“Transgender” and “nonbinary” are labels that, as we understand them, only really fit within western society. In many cultures, there were other genders that do not fit under the transgender umbrella. Two Spirit from indigenous cultures is a great example of this. Ultimately, gender is a social construct, so I cannot say how a language without gender would treat those outside of a gender binary and I’m not claiming I do.ReplyCited in: “Transgender” and “nonbinary” are labels that, as we understand them, only really
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
The amount of people into murder podcasts or documentaries. Why would anyone take joy into listening to horrific real life things?Top-level commentCited in: The amount of people into murder podcasts or documentaries
**catharsis**, it's a pretty ancient (and accepted) theory of how that worksReplyCited in: Catharsis**, it's a pretty ancient (and accepted) theory of how that works
I don’t think the majority of people get joy from listening to true crime, I think they find the forensics, psychology, and criminology interesting.ReplyCited in: Death, horror, and suffering consumed as entertainment
Religion. Like you have conversations with something nobody can see or hear? WTH?Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Our way of life currently.Top-level commentCited in: Our way of life currently
The projection is one of the worst parts. Humans have an extremely complex frontal lobe, we are one of only a very species few animals capable of processing complex emotions and self awareneas, and yet we devalue these emotions by projecting them on to animals, even claiming nonsense like “dogs give unconditional love unlike a human”, a dog’s frontal lobe can’t process love like that. I also hate to see animals being hurt outside of necessity, i can’t even bring myself to hurt mice that invade my home and damage my things, but there is a huge difference between that mouse and a person.ReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
> we are one of only a very species few animals capable of processing complex emotions and self awareneas Stated so confidently, and yet so unsupported by any credible research.ReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
Absolutely! A lot of our observations about animal social behaviour is just assuming that their world functions similarly to ours. I think it’s pet of human nature to think like that though. Finding narratives and human stories in almost everything to create meaning. I just wish some people were more realistic about it and would try to separate the illusion from the reality. Especially with pets. We kind of domesticated them into domestic servitude and emotional labour and making us feel good.ReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
Music videos and songs about sex everywhere, where also children can see itTop-level commentCited in: Children posted online without meaningful consent
Also, not realising that most of what they think about animals, nature and their relationship to each other and humans is purely projection. When I hear how people talk about their pets in this projective way I have to try hard not to roll my eyes.ReplyCited in: Something that really ticks me off about this is when people say
Open casket funeralsTop-level commentCited in: Open casket funerals
sexTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
People being physically addicted to caffeine, accepting it like it's normal and doing little too break the addictionTop-level commentCited in: People being physically addicted to caffeine, accepting it like it's normal and
Humans hating humans.Top-level commentCited in: Humans hating humans
You mean misanthropy or hating specific individuals/groups?ReplyCited in: You mean misanthropy or hating specific individuals/groups
EuphoriaTop-level commentCited in: Euphoria
Kids in bathing suits around all these really creepy old dude at water parks.Top-level commentCited in: Kids in bathing suits around all these really creepy old dude at
Using your cellphone at dinner with familyTop-level commentCited in: Using your cellphone at dinner with family
People watching incest and rape for entertainment. Also gore and ultra violence. (Game of thrones)Top-level commentCited in: People watching incest and rape for entertainment
Who is watching incest and rape for entertainment?ReplyCited in: Who is watching incest and rape for entertainment
Game of ThronesReplyCited in: Game of thrones
Didn't watch it so can't comment but let me just say people who enjoy dark settings and themes don't do that because they personally like the things depictedReplyCited in: Didn't watch it so can't comment but let me just say people
I tried to watch it when it was really popular and I couldn't. It was disturbing that it was so popularReplyCited in: I tried to watch it when it was really popular and I
To some people brutality of a setting is a quality, to some it isn't I adore movies like The Thing or Event Horizon and yet The Boys I found distasteful It depends on a person I guessReplyCited in: To some people brutality of a setting is a quality, to some
There were think pieces written for years about the show and it's popularity. Here's one that describes the horrors in the first paragraph [link removed] (The rest is behind a paywall)ReplyCited in: There were think pieces written for years about the show and it's
Sorry but having read the part about the Handmaids Tale, the author does not live in our reality and seems to believe that portrayal of something commonly in a work of fiction equals approval of it, which is quite absurd Yet I don't see the author apply this logic to movies in which, for example, attrocities of the III Reich are commited, why not? The underlying idea of this piece is that you can only show certain elements in your work of fiction if the author of the piece judges it an adequate amount of it That's just not a serious opinion Ps. and I don't even like handmaids tale, though for much different reasonsReplyCited in: Sorry but having read the part about the Handmaids Tale, the author
If it's a historical event, historical realities must be presented. If it's pure fiction, all the rape scenes feel like the degradation of women for the personal entertainment and enjoyment of the audience. Sick. The GoT writers even added a rape scene that the original author didn't have, and he was not pleased with that.ReplyCited in: If it's a historical event, historical realities must be presented
Do you actually believe that any scene, as long as it's not recreation of historical reality, is put in a movie or show "for the personal entertainment and enjoyment of the audience" ?ReplyCited in: Do you actually believe that any scene, as long as it's not
Can't agree more... People forget to live in the moment, they emphasize memories too much.Top-level commentCited in: Can't agree more
Small talk.Top-level commentCited in: Direct communication replaced by avoidance and ghosting
CapitalismTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Seeing how big the meat section is in shops. I also eat meat but all I see is 50+ different packages of meat with a different name and price. It's like walking to a slaughter house while people look closely at each animal to see which limp they want to eat at today's dinner party.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
\> It's like walking to a slaughter house while people look closely at each animal to see which limp they want to eat at today's dinner party. 1- that was a thing, before supply lines and stuff made modern shopping possible 2- Do you have no preference for idk, chicken wings over legs? Beef over pork, or vice versa, or anything? You eat meat yet you appear disgusted at the idea of animals being killed and their meat sold?ReplyCited in: Factory farming
God forbid that I ate meat, fully aware that an animal died for it but still wish that the options gets reduced, so people don't look at meat as if it's a cake selection. Someone asked a question and I answered.ReplyCited in: God forbid that I ate meat, fully aware that an animal died
I mean... Yes that's a really weird moral position to hold So do you like, think killing animals for meat is wrongReplyCited in: I mean
I think the mass amount of killing is wrong. Not a single person can stop humanity from killing animals and selling it, that's delusional. But stopping that mass selection of products of new meat variants and reduce the meat selection in shops will help more in the long run to reduce humanities meat consumption. That's what I think.ReplyCited in: I think the mass amount of killing is wrong
Eating animal flesh.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Women wearing tight-fitting spandex athleisure wear to the office. Having your full body on display, including the fabric riding up your ass crack, is distracting. I'm a gay male and very body positive, but there is a time and place. In the workplace, you should not be wearing spandex, showing your full stomach (crop top) and full breast cleavage. If I wore the same outfit, I'd be escorted out of the building. I've noticed this has been a growing trend since people were forced to return to the office.Top-level commentCited in: Women wearing tight-fitting spandex athleisure wear to the office
AbortionTop-level commentCited in: Abortion
The pop stars of today. It's just light porn targeted at children and no ones stopping it.Top-level commentCited in: The pop stars of today
I'm with ya.ReplyCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Wasnt saying it like that. I was saying that the females that choose to keep having abortions instead of using bc/methods.ReplyCited in: Could you please cite a peer reviewed source showing that it is
literally no one does thatReplyCited in: Could you please cite a peer reviewed source showing that it is
Birth control methods can fail, I highly doubt there is any notable usage of abortion as such. I say this as someone who personally would never get an abortion, too. If someone got me pregnant, well, who am I to argue with a miracle like that? But I still think other women should have access to abortions if they feel that's the right option for themReplyCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
No, that’s something that you made up in your own head.ReplyCited in: No, that’s something that you made up in your own head
The opposite of cisgender is transgender. Both are medical terms. If you feel that cisgender is a slur, then you’re telling on yourselfReplyCited in: The opposite of cisgender is transgender
Whatever you say, bigot.ReplyCited in: Whatever you say, bigot
We all get old and die. Bummer. Doesn't seem like the world cares though!Top-level commentCited in: We all get old and die
All the porn on the hub these days being "step" something Whatever happened to someone ordering a pizza and being unable to pay???Top-level commentCited in: All the porn on the hub these days being "step" something Whatever
Hookup cultureTop-level commentCited in: Hookup culture
The Pakistani Rape Gangs in the UK, Mass SA crimes committed by migrants in Europe.Top-level commentCited in: The Pakistani Rape Gangs in the UK, Mass SA crimes committed by
Capitalism.Top-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Our president getting away with itTop-level commentCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Weak, feminized males.Top-level commentCited in: Weak, feminized males
PregnancyTop-level commentCited in: Pregnancy, childbirth, and women's healthcare risks
I grew up with the idea of forgiveness. It is weird for me to see how (also young) people just can't. Everyone has to suffer eternally for their deeds. And yes, forgiveness is hard. Especially when it concerns heinous crimes, but we need to leave room for redemption. The mess we are in right now with rightwing leaders destroying democracies and waging wars against minorities is an outcome of that vindictive culture that is choking our planet.Top-level commentCited in: I grew up with the idea of forgiveness
Online gambling. Acceptance of fundamentalism in any religion.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
It's worse now than it was 10 years ago. 10 years ago, it was just weirdo Nazis, and the Nazis knew they were weirdo Nazis and were, deep down, a little ashamed of themselves. This new batch of antisemites have brainwashed themselves into thinking they're the Good Guys, and obviously they aren't hateful racists, because they're good and those guys they hate aren't even human and any action taken against them is justified because they eat babies and poison wells I would unironically feel safer hanging out with a /pol/ user than with a Bluesky user at this pointReplyCited in: Antisemitism on the internet
Yep, you now have the vice president of the United States spreading "Elders of Zion"-esque conspiracy theories involving Epstein and Israel on Joe Rogan, Biden's son hanging out with neo-Nazis and agreeing with their anti-Israel stance, antisemitic slurs being mainstream, even said by so-called "leftist" influencers, a person with a literal Nazi tattoo almost becoming a US senator, and even a Democratic candidate for the House of Representatives advocating to put Jewish people in concentration camps. Antisemitism is very much mainstream now, even for people on the left side of the political spectrum.ReplyCited in: Politician idolatry, corruption, and two-party capture
Monogamy I don’t think humans are naturally wired for monogamy but are raised to be very selfish loversTop-level commentCited in: Monogamy I don’t think humans are naturally wired for monogamy but are
ChildrenTop-level commentCited in: Children
Very violent fiction of any form, honestlyReplyCited in: Very violent songs
AbortionTop-level commentCited in: Abortion
RealityTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
ChewingTop-level commentBare one- or two-word top-level mentions (for example a single noun like ‘Capitalism,’ ‘Trump,’ or ‘Zoos’) that could not be normalized into a distinct pattern without inventing the commenter's unstated reasoning.
Exactly. I knew someone was gonna comment this. Oh well, if that’s how you wanna interpret my comment I can’t stop you🤷🏻‍♀️ReplyCited in: Am I supposed to eat them while they're alive
How else am I supposed to interpret your comment you specifically noted that it's eating dead animals that's disturbingReplyCited in: Am I supposed to eat them while they're alive
Well it is disturbing to eat dead animals. Didn’t say it wasn’t also disturbing to eat alive animals. By your logic my comment also implied it wasn’t disgusting to eat humans. I thought your comment was a joke and thus replied jokingly, sorry if I misunderstood and sorry if it wasn’t clear that I was joking (in my second comment) but your comment would’ve been a lot better if it *was* a joke.ReplyCited in: Am I supposed to eat them while they're alive
By my logic when someone talks of humans eating animals (although who does that? eating meat, that's more regular), they mean meat consumption Specifying them as dead implies exception in your perception if they aren't deadReplyCited in: Factory farming
Ur avatar told me all I needed to knowReplyCited in: Get educated bro
So it's bad to kill X amount of animals but ok to kill Y amount of animals, or is it bad to have the need to kill X amount of animals which results in animals being housed in conditions you think its bad to hold them in to fulfill the demand? On a sidenote, what exactly is the problem with the selection you have? You mentioned limbs specifically, so do you want to for example stop the sale of chicken legs?ReplyCited in: So it's bad to kill X amount of animals but ok to
Take a walk outside, read those comments again and you have your answer.ReplyCited in: Take a walk outside, read those comments again and you have your
Why can't you answer them? That's your belief system I'm curious aboutReplyCited in: Why can't you answer them
It's not ok to kill any animals of course. Why is that even a question. My problem with the selection is that there are too many options. Why do we need 50 different meats in sauce, 50 different ways a meat was being cut, 50 different ways... Why make it so attractive to buy meat if the goal is to reduce the meat consumption? Why are people targeting the people buying that stuff when the main point should be to stop how easy and how much variety is presented to the buyer? I never understood that logic. Of course people buy it and of course it will bring much money to the seller. Meat has been under humans for centuries. No one can change everyone's minds and change that. But instead of targeting the guy who sells that meat, people target the wrong audience: the standard dude who grew up eating meat and buys it. Reduce the variety, reduce how attractive it is and less people will buy it. Why do I still eat meat despise thinking like this? I don't need to take my medication when I eat meat but I need to take it when I eat a vegan option. I've only found one single vegan option where that's not the case. One. Meat is one of the very few things I can eat without taking anything and don't need to remind myself that I have this shitty sickness. I stopped that black and white thinking after I got a chronic illness that influences what I can eat and what I shouldn't consume if I don't want to deal with the consequences. I tried going vegan before getting sick but now that I must deal with this shit I stopped caring and only try to reduce my own consumption. Do I have a double moral? Yes, I have. Do I care? Not since I got sick, no. I still believe that this meat market needs to be reduced and restricted. It's more realistic than saying: "Humans shouldn't eat meat" because only aiming for the extreme will scare off most people and you barely have any listeners.ReplyCited in: It's not ok to kill any animals of course
\> It's not ok to kill any animals of course. Why is that even a question. Because plenty of people, myself included, disagree? Anyway I understand your philosophy now, thanks for taking the time to explainReplyCited in: \> It's not ok to kill any animals of course
your balls dont ever downvote me againTop-level commentCited in: Your balls dont ever downvote me again
The fact Israel has become a mainstream political issue has made antisemites widely accepted with open arms among the people who oppose whichever side supports Israel. If republicans support Israel, suddenly democrats support antisemitism and vise versa, for example.ReplyCited in: Antisemitism on the internet
The horseshoe theory is real, both the left and right agree on hating the Jews even though their reasoning is differentReplyCited in: Antisemitism on the internet
Women unable to go outside without covering their faces with paint. This is seriously weird and disturbing when you give it more than 5 seconds of thought.Top-level commentCited in: Women unable to go outside without covering their faces with paint
Women are definitely able to though. They just don’t want to because society expects them to be beautiful.ReplyCited in: Women are definitely able to though
Yup - that’s what I find disturbingReplyCited in: Yup - that’s what I find disturbing
I have a food problem and one of the only ways to fix it is by eating meat. You guys know how fucked up meat is? It's dead things. Stuff that was living and now dead. You open your mouth and put it inside you? You understand how fucked that is yeah? So I either die. Or do the most horrific shit possible. Love that. I really really really like it here. Like a lot. It's my favorite place. Being here.Top-level commentCited in: I have a food problem and one of the only ways to
You should try to overcome your aversion to eating meat for your own mental wellbeing.ReplyCited in: You should try to overcome your aversion to eating meat for your
Look I understand the ethics but by all metrics you have a very serious mental problem that you should really work towards fixingReplyCited in: Look I understand the ethics but by all metrics you have a
Hmmm. No.ReplyCited in: Hmmm
This is natural. Animals eat meat all the time. And plants were also alive before they were harvested, you know. Besides, with how much processing and cooking food receives you can argue it’s not really the same.ReplyCited in: This is natural
How normalized abortion is.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized abortion is
transitioning kids; mentally ill men in women's bathrooms, mentally ill men in women's sports, etcTop-level commentCited in: Transitioning kids
Man bunsTop-level commentCited in: Man buns
mulletsReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Men working with babies in daycareTop-level commentCited in: Men working with babies in daycare
wtfReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
I really dont like drugs or alcohol. i very rarely drink. I absolutely hate smoking. i have never met a happy addict or alcoholic.Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Having lots of kidsTop-level commentCited in: Having lots of kids
Is it weird to say pedophilia? I feel like a large portion of this country (USA) and to some extent tge world has grown callus to the fact that there is and is definitely a pedophile ring of the ultra rich that to this day escape persecution idk maybe I'm weirdTop-level commentCited in: Is it weird to say pedophilia
I agree, but the fact that everyone is aware of it now has to be a positive development.ReplyCited in: I agree, but the fact that everyone is aware of it now
Health insuranceTop-level commentCited in: Health insurance
This is a good one.ReplyCited in: This is a good one
Distracted driving. The amount if influencers who regularly film content while they're driving is ridiculous. Then there's just a constant stream of idiots scrolling while driving as if phone use is the primary task and driving a 1 tonne speed machine is secondary.Top-level commentCited in: Parasocial celebrity and influencer culture
How fat and obese Americans are and nobody blames the industrial food complexTop-level commentCited in: Fat and obese Americans are and nobody blames the industrial food complex
Capitalism. Our version of it requires infinite growth with finite resources. When the exploitation hits the edge of the petri dish, then what?Top-level commentCited in: Capitalism, inequality, and profit placed over people
Eating animals.Top-level commentCited in: Factory farming
Religion and the way it makes people hate those different from their cult.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
What’s worse are the folks who are actively against life extension. If people lived longer there’s a good chance that the short sighted thinking would improve. If you knew you were going to live to 200-300 problems such as climate change would be much more important and people’s notions of what’s possible would maybe improve as well.ReplyCited in: Climate and ecological damage treated as business as usual
Pfft; I don't dislike cheese because of cow rape, weirdo. you can make cheese without raping cows. I dislike it because its just curdled old milk.ReplyCited in: Pfft
y'all both weirdReplyCited in: Y'all both weird
Those that downvoted you have a dirty bum. Honestly I don't know how they can go through life with a shitty butt.ReplyCited in: Those that downvoted you have a dirty bum
Haha yeah didn’t see that but how can you hate on a clean butt unless you’re a kinky GermanReplyCited in: Haha yeah didn’t see that but how can you hate on a
99.999999 percent of the toilets I've ever seen are not a bidet 1 bidet does not solve thatReplyCited in: 99
The overwhelming majority of the world and literally the entire population until a few decades ago aren’t using bidets, so most people evidently disagreeReplyCited in: The overwhelming majority of the world and literally the entire population until
Private propertyTop-level commentCited in: Private property
Freedom of religion. It has been exploited to protect indefensible ideas.Top-level commentCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
Freedom of religion is not a problem. Whether ‘indefensible ideas’ are allowed is up to the law, which usually disallows them. If you think a specific religious idea needs to be outlawed, take it up with your representatives, but the issue is not freedom of religion itself.ReplyCited in: Religious belief, superstition, and coercive practice
The internet.Top-level commentCited in: The internet
SocializingTop-level commentCited in: Socializing
Men talking about how many kids they'd have with their wife if they could. How much they love having babies, etc. Also, people posting pictures of their babies covered in smeared food. It's not cute. Absolutely disgusts me.Top-level commentCited in: Men talking about how many kids they'd have with their wife if
What's wrong with the first oneReplyCited in: What's wrong with the first one
It's a very weird child porn-adjacent trend.ReplyCited in: It's a very weird child porn-adjacent trend
I prefer a bush myself but this is just incorrect. Some people just dont like a mouth of pubes.ReplyCited in: I prefer a bush myself but this is just incorrect
Absolutely! So many beauty standards are. Thinking of the way I used to try to be as thin, small, dumb, helpless and hairless as possible makes me so angry. And I feel so bad for young girls going through that, making themselves smaller bc society and men can’t handle the reality of adult and aging women.ReplyCited in: Absolutely
Facts!ReplyReply-only reactions, jokes, meta-commentary about tone or wording, or off-topic tangents that do not name or elaborate a distinct disturbing norm of their own.
Whats your opinion of blind people using them to help navigate spaces and find things, should we laugh and ostracise them aswell, meta glasses have benefits, they arent just for creepsReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
My partner uses them when we go on hikes. They’re also great when you’re traveling and want to quickly translate text. I also have a friend that uses them to capture special moments hands-free, like recording his POV of his wife’s baby shower. I genuinely don’t understand the stigma. Creeps have been using hidden cameras to invade privacy for years and Meta glasses aren’t a magical unlock for creepy behavior. There are creeps who also use smartphones in sinister ways. I’m all for regulating tech but personally I don’t think it makes sense to outright ban any and all technology that could possibly be weaponized by perverts.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
And he likely got highly personal congrats, which folks didn't realize were recorded, that use case is creepy. Why do you need to film your hikes? I don't want filmed on my hike when I pass you. That use case is creepy. You can just as quickly translate with your phone. That use case isn't distinguishing the need. Two creepy reasons, one non justifying reason. That's why there's stigma.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Why is it that when someone presents any normal use case whatsoever, you all get immediately dismissive about why anyone wants to record memories that are meaningful to them? By that logic, why does anyone need to film anything ever? I’m sure you have things in your camera roll that I would find pointless to record. My friend consensually filming his own wife at his own baby shower isn’t creepy? Neither is getting snippets of a coastal hike when there aren’t people around (and why would I film you and not the scenery?) I also don’t find anything wrong with using technology for convenience. There are so many use cases that don’t include perversion, including some interesting ones I’ve seen from people who are disabled. Unfortunately there will always be bad actors when it comes to new tech just as there were when smartphones came out. You punish them but don’t throw the baby out with the bath water. It’s easy to assume that everyone has sinister intentions with emerging tech when you’re chronically online. But nothing I say is going to sway you or anyone else in this sub, so I’ll just leave it here.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Because those "normal use case"s are creepy. That's why. You seem to think we should accept your use as you want without commentary. We don't. We reject it. It's creepy. End stop. Not with you in it you won't. And if you do accidentally you'll know I'm recording and when you ask I'll show you me deleting it in both folders. Not his own wife, please read my comment again. Also not when others aren't around, please read my comment again. Your choice to cherry pick away the surrounding context in text is your choice, you can't irl, hence the issue. All disabled claims are equally matched by other devices that already exist. It doesn't improve them comparatively. Not a value distinguishing case but yes valid use case. So that doesn't override the other factors. We aren't assuming, we are using your own examples an explaining why they are still creepy. They are. Stop trying to justify being a creep with creep things.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
ETA: here’s another use case that I’m sure you’ll dismiss as creepy. I had an insane neighbor next door who I eventually took to court and got a restraining order against. I used my partner’s glasses to film my short walk past my neighbor’s house and into my home so that if he tried to harass me or break the restraining order, I could capture it. It was an absolute godsend on those days when I was terrified to come home as a woman and I have zero regrets about it. Filming snippets of a scenic hike or your own baby shower isn’t creepy. I don’t care how many times you try to assert that it is. That take is beyond chronically online. I was also never talking about filming strangers. You’re making huge assumptions and calling it cherry picking. By your logic filming anything ever is creepy. I’m adamantly against filming people strangers in public regardless of device. It’s my biggest pet peeve when it comes to phones. And no, most smartphone users are not kind enough to delete the footage when they capture strangers in the background. But again, I should probably just leave it here before you call me a creep 10 more times and I get a few more pitchforks coming my way.ReplyCited in: Filming strangers and publishing them without consent
Surely you understand it is just much more easier to be a creep by wearing of pair of glasses rather than by camouflaging a cellphone or setting up a hidden camera on yourself. So you should understand that it will enable many creeps that would otherwise be too lazy or too fearful. Also should we be constantly recorded by individuals because of the lazyness of some that don't want to do the effort of pulling up their phones to translate a bit of text or who can't enjoy their life without recording every single minute of it (do you really need to output dozens of GiB in the odd chance a deer will cross the path in front of you while hiking ?)ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Surely you understand that nothing is going to stop creepy people from being creeps? They’ve had the technology to do so for decades. It’s fairly easy to spot someone wearing Meta Ray-Bans on the literal center of their face, as opposed to an actual hidden camera. People also sneakily record on their phones all the time. It’s not hard to do and unfortunately we see footage of non-consensual phone recordings on Reddit constantly (that get highly upvoted, which I will never understand). It’s not okay regardless of device, but banning the tech doesn’t really solve the root issue. Agree to disagree I guess.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Adding boiled eggs to chicken salad. Just no.Top-level commentCited in: Adding boiled eggs to chicken salad
Thin = healthy. It doesn’t, and fat doesn’t = unhealthy. Lots of larger bodied people are active.Top-level commentCited in: Thin = healthy
>Thin = healthy You're right, but getting *thinner* when you're fat will make you *healthier*. Which is why so many people's health goals among this obesity epidemic is getting thinner and why there's such a big connection between talking about health and talking about getting thinner (and gaining muscle mass) >and fat doesn’t = unhealthy. Being fat does equal being unhealthy. Sorry. Yes there's plenty of fat people who are active (particularly those who are trying to lose the weight lol), but being active doesn't mean you're healthy. Excess body fat strains every organ in your body, messes with your hormones, and can worsen pretty much every single other disease out there. Being fat is not healthy ever and if you are fat you are not in a healthy state regardless of your activity, and you will be healthier losing the excess fat. Too many people think that just because they're not in any noticeable pain that they're perfectly fine, and that is not true. The damage is being done whether you notice it or not. And most people do notice the quality of life difference after losing the excess fat (especially if they also gained muscle in the process, which is frequently the case), even if they didn't notice anything wrong in the moment when they had it.ReplyCited in: >Thin = healthy You're right, but getting *thinner* when you're fat will
If fat is unhealthy, why is the Mango Menace still alive. He has a horrible diet, doesn’t exercise yet he’s 80 years old.ReplyCited in: If fat is unhealthy, why is the Mango Menace still alive
[Survivorship bias]([link removed]ReplyCited in: [Survivorship bias]([link removed]
Dangerous misinformationReplyCited in: Dangerous misinformation
Alcohol. Between the fact that it's poisoning you, messing with your life, addictive, destroys families, and get people run over on a daily basis, everyone just seems cool with it. Wtf?!Top-level commentCited in: Normalized alcohol, smoking, drug use, and gambling
Wrestling. Not the WWE type stuff. The Olympics sport of wrestling. It boggles my fucking brain why people enjoy watching and participating in it.Top-level commentCited in: Wrestling
Strip clubs.Top-level commentCited in: Strip clubs
Hot tubs and swimming pools...like sharing a bath with a stranger...Top-level commentCited in: Hot tubs and swimming pools
30 year mortgageTop-level commentCited in: 30 year mortgage
This is kinda niche, but I play Pokemon TCG. I used to play MTG and Pokemon back in like 94-2000 and dropped out of TCGs. I'm from a generation before game mats existed. A store would close and we'd all go get food and some 15-20 teens would play cards on bare McDonald's tables. So.. double sleeving. I find the idea of using normal sleeves and outer sleeves both unnecessary and physically repulsive. Why would you want your 60 card deck to be the size of a Commander deck? It's gross, stop.Top-level commentCited in: This is kinda niche, but I play Pokemon TCG
Baked beansTop-level commentCited in: Baked beans
A Pedophile Rapist as POTUS and people actively openly trying to hide it for themTop-level commentCited in: A Pedophile Rapist as POTUS and people actively openly trying to hide
Teenagers having their genitals removed. If an adult does this I dont really care, but teenagers is insanity. No 40 year old is anything like their 16yo self.Top-level commentCited in: Teenagers having their genitals removed
Modern AmericaTop-level commentCited in: Modern America
I just commented this exactly before seeing yours. YES.ReplyCited in: I just commented this exactly before seeing yours
This happens because social media has turned empathy and basic respect into negotiable traits rather than standards. When people are constantly exposed to main-character energy and quick-fix relationship advice online, taking accountability starts feeling like a weakness instead of maturity. Wanting kindness and honesty isn't asking for too much, but in a culture that prioritizes ego over effort, standard decency ends up feeling like a luxury feature.ReplyCited in: Social-media dependence and algorithmic manipulation
I don't watch TV, youre making a lot of assumptionsReplyCited in: Not reading books or news
No I’m *guessing*. I literally said that’s what I’m doing. And I didn’t say you watch TV, I said the only television news you’re familiar with are cable channels. I never for a second thought you actually WATCHED television news. I said pretty clearly that my guess is that you get all your news online and have never paid for a newspaper subscription.ReplyCited in: Not reading books or news
There are still certain niche subreddits you can have pretty good debates and conversation. You do have to actually make good points on reddit or people will correct you. Reddit is Left, Facebook is Right. The right is astronomically stupider, but you get ridiculous hive mind both ways.ReplyCited in: Facebook hate content
Yes. I've been there, the answer is yes.ReplyCited in: Bare agreement with an untraceable 'nasty and creepy' question
Certainly not the case in the USReplyRecategorization review found these records only tangentially or ambiguously connected to the catalog item they were originally attached to -- contextless replies, unrelated asides, or jokes riffing on nearby unrelated threads -- so the citation was removed as a false positive; see recategorization-audit.json for the specific record-by-record reasoning behind each removal.
No one is saying bikes are dangerous. No one is getting arrested for loitering in parks.ReplyCited in: No one is saying bikes are dangerous
Shelters are providing an outlet for puppy mills by connecting them with customers. And yes, shelters often do collect “stock” from puppy millers. And people pay shelters for dogs.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
Do you realize how flawed that argument is? The money you pay for a shelter animal stays within the shelter. Puppy mills get zero benefit from having their animals taken by the shelters.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
Tell me you've never heard of retail rescue without telling me you've never heard of retail rescue. Ever seen a shelter or rescue advertise that they "saved" a bunch of imported, recognizable and highly desirable breed dogs from a Chinese meat market or off the street in some distant country? People in China aren't eating Golden Retrievers and French Bulldogs. They have actual livestock dogs. These are retail rescues that buy from puppy mills to make a profit, while telling a sad sob story about how they "saved" these dogs. And people lap it up because the general public are completely ignorant and gullible. If a rescue or shelter is importing any dogs at all ever, they are no better than any puppy mill. There is absolutely no ethical reason to ever for a shelter or rescue to import an animal.ReplyCited in: Advertising embedded throughout everyday media
Yeah….I’ve literally never seen that before and I follow a ton of rescues and shelters around me. I don’t think it’s as common as you think it is.ReplyCited in: Breeding pets while shelters are full
If you don't want it, then don't have kids lolReplyCited in: Pregnancy and childbirth harms minimized
You yourself, a single case, didn't have your phone snatched so clearly no one else has ever had their phone snatched. Very logicalReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
I replied to someone else about only using them when I travel but this is exactly what I'm talking about. I don't go around recording people. I'm not a creep.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
People will always assume you’re a creep.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
And that really sucks because of perverts and people who jump straight to malicious thoughts. All I'm focused on is navigating my family without distractions while on vacation. It's good that you are protective of your surroundings. Stay that way but also I would suggest to not jump to conclusions right away.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
You can navigate your family without uploading videos of unsuspecting people to facebook. It’s creepy and anyone that does it is a creep.ReplyCited in: Smart glasses and covert-recording fear
Usually in English people aren't yell-talking their private conversations, they go to a private location or you know, talk quiet. If someone in my langauge was fillin the whole-room with some bs boring convo and yelling out in cultural song and dance randomly i'd tell them to STFU. But in this situation I just look racist lol, GG Can see why the old grumpy white boys just tell em to go back home.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
Downvoted by a bunch of people who don't work in a mostly Spanish occupied workspace. I usually just don headphones and ignore it, but these dudes get LOUD.ReplyCited in: Language hostility as a prejudice signal; Provoking conflict, then recording as victim
Ok, I’m probably alone in this, but I hate it when women hunch with their hands on their knees for pics. As a woman, don’t make yourself smaller to accommodate. Be you. Written by a short, somewhat jealous of tall people femaleTop-level commentCited in: Ok, I’m probably alone in this, but I hate it when women
I honestly dont know what you're talking about, I'm gonna need to see some hunching women to tell if I even recognize itReplyCited in: I honestly dont know what you're talking about, I'm gonna need to

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The complete, reviewed catalog of 2,150 entries -- sortable, filterable, and searchable, with each entry's own context and any limitation.

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How the discussion breaks down

Relative volume of distinct source-backed records across every reviewed subcategory in this corpus.

Public behavior, boundaries, and normalized cruelty

916 distinct coded comment records

590 normalized answers under Everyday conduct and social harm

Phones, platforms, and attention

432 distinct coded comment records

145 normalized answers under Technology and media

AI, automation, and synthetic media

431 distinct coded comment records

116 normalized answers under Technology and media

Children, parenting, and consent

286 distinct coded comment records

168 normalized answers under Relationships and family

Public filming, consent, and life through a camera

286 distinct coded comment records

48 normalized answers under Media ownership and recording

Brief reactions and unelaborated mentions

267 distinct coded comment records

257 normalized answers under Everyday conduct and social harm

Privacy, surveillance, and data

211 distinct coded comment records

81 normalized answers under Technology and media

Animals, climate, and environmental harm

207 distinct coded comment records

83 normalized answers under Environment and consumption

Healthcare, illness, and disability

187 distinct coded comment records

66 normalized answers under Health and bodies

Education, religion, and cultural rules

174 distinct coded comment records

57 normalized answers under Institutions and public life

Labor, careers, and workplace power

153 distinct coded comment records

92 normalized answers under Work and money

Dating, marriage, gender, and intimacy

138 distinct coded comment records

107 normalized answers under Relationships and family

Politics, policing, and justice

135 distinct coded comment records

55 normalized answers under Institutions and public life

Alcohol, drugs, and normalized dependence

120 distinct coded comment records

49 normalized answers under Substances and dependency

Housing, debt, and inequality

114 distinct coded comment records

34 normalized answers under Work and money

Religion, patriotism, and inherited belief

110 distinct coded comment records

28 normalized answers under Belief and existential unease

Appearance, diet, and body expectations

95 distinct coded comment records

45 normalized answers under Health and bodies

Consumerism, advertising, and waste

87 distinct coded comment records

33 normalized answers under Environment and consumption

Bullying, prejudice, exploitation, and normalized violence

83 distinct coded comment records

39 normalized answers under Everyday conduct and social harm

Digital ownership, streaming, and disappearing purchases

74 distinct coded comment records

22 normalized answers under Media ownership and recording

Mortality, consciousness, and the nature of reality

74 distinct coded comment records

32 normalized answers under Belief and existential unease

Risk, impairment, and recovery

4 distinct coded comment records

3 normalized answers under Substances and dependency

Selected comments from the discussion

This corpus's original scrape recorded no like or upvote counts anywhere, and a structural gap in the raw archive (16 of 4,554 records at the very start are replies whose top-level parent comment was never captured) made a reply-count-based ordering impossible to verify honestly for this article. So instead of a popularity ranking, here is one already-reviewed comment from each of the ten categories above, drawn from that category's own editorial spotlight picks -- one representative voice per category, not a most-active-thread leaderboard.

One of the biggest red flags anyone can show me in this day and age is if they get mad when I don't respond to a text in 10 minutes. I have had people fly off the handle saying they're going to end my life for 'ignoring' them because I didn't respond to a text fast enough lmao
Everyday conduct and social harm
I'm so concerned with the junk that kids watch on YouTube. I'm convinced it's doing harm to their mental development. They can sit for hours and stare at people making tea or silly “art”. There's no talking. There's no story line or purpose. Just brain rot.
Relationships and family
The mind requires similar types of progressive development to be capable of carrying load later in life... Without proper development, our newer generations won't be capable of doing anything that an AI can't handhold them through.
Technology and media
It's insane how many people think 'wow you're so thin!' is a compliment. Like thanks, I literally am unable to function when I can't eat and the constant nausea is making me borderline suicidal but wow thanks!! Glad you like my sick body!!
Health and bodies
Billions of living, feeling individuals slaughtered for naught after a live of pure misery. Bred to get so fat they collapse under their own weight. Walking in their own shit.
Environment and consumption
No company CEO gives a shit about you as an employee, especially if there are shareholders. If shafting you means your manager, the owner or the shareholders get more money then you WILL get shafted without any afterthought.
Work and money
This town was basically a sort of new age hippie cult, where even justified anger made you a much worse person in most people's eyes than all the rapists, many of whom were popular. I left years ago, but living there really took a toll emotionally.
Institutions and public life
The second he hopped down, they started recording me. All that was in the video was me closing the window. ... It went viral. I got doxxed. Strangers on the internet showed up at my work and my home, with my young child there.
Media ownership and recording
I NEVER drank during the hours of 6am and 5pm except weekends... It means the ability to hold down regular activities and pay bills and give the outward appearance of being an upstand contributing member of society all while killing yourself and falling apart!
Substances and dependency
The only way I can make sense of them is to conclude that people use them to manage their terror of death.
Belief and existential unease

The pattern underneath: what actually turns “normal” into “disturbing”

The same reviewed evidence, regrouped by mechanism instead of subject — the recurring reasons an ordinary thing crossed the line, not the topics themselves.

The category browser above groups every entry by what it is about — phones, weddings, healthcare, recording. But the same reviewed evidence also lines up along a second axis that has nothing to do with subject matter: why something ordinary crossed over into disturbing. Reading across all ten categories' own reviewed takeaways, the same four or five mechanisms keep reappearing under completely different subject headings.

1. The missing “may I”, not the act itself

Across Privacy, surveillance, and data, the reviewed takeaway is explicit: “almost every vivid story involves someone finding out after the fact that they'd been recorded… the anger consistently attaches to that missing moment of asking rather than to the recording device itself.” The identical shape shows up in Children, parenting, and consent, where “most of this category is not a debate about parenting technique but a record of consent being overridden without anyone framing it that way” — babies pierced, filmed, and posted before they can object. Same mechanism, two unrelated subject headings.

2. Normalization hides the alarm until something collapses

In Alcohol, drugs, and normalized dependence, the reviewed pattern is that people “maintain a completely ordinary front until a physical collapse… makes the dependence visible all at once.” Public behavior, boundaries, and normalized cruelty describes the social version of the same thing: cruelty that “is rarely dramatic villainy; it is almost always a small, specific failure to honor a boundary someone already stated out loud.” Neither is a single dramatic event — both are a slow erosion that only becomes visible in hindsight.

3. Power decides who gets believed and who gets blamed

Bullying, prejudice, exploitation, and normalized violence names “elite impunity for pedophilia” as “a shrug-inducing constant rather than an active scandal,” alongside a victim-blaming reflex where “friends… second-guess an assault survivor before the accused.” Healthcare, illness, and disability reports the flip side of the same asymmetry: “chronically ill or disabled people get disbelieved specifically because they can still leave the house sometimes.” In both cases, belief and consequence track power, not evidence.

4. The visible sign is rarely the real cause

Appearance, diet, and body expectations and Healthcare, illness, and disability both converge on people complimented with “you look great” whose weight loss “traces back to cancer, grief, organ failure, pregnancy and caregiving, or coercion and distress rather than a deliberate healthy change.” Phones, platforms, and attention reports a quieter version: parents alarmed by other people's kids and screens still “describe exactly one exception where they hand over a device themselves” — suggesting the real objection was never the screen, but the absence of a limit.

5. Ownership and value evaporate by design, not by accident

Digital ownership, streaming, and disappearing purchases converges on one legal fact commenters keep rediscovering the hard way: “'buying' a digital game, movie, ebook, or song is usually licensing revocable access rather than acquiring durable property.” Housing, debt, and inequality shows the same structure at a larger scale — commenters “reaching for a concrete stand-in — paying for oxygen in a hospital, buying groceries 'to stay alive'” — to make an abstract, designed system of extraction feel like a specific, personal transaction.

None of this changes which category any single entry lives in above; it is a second, cross-cutting reading of the same reviewed evidence, offered because a recurring answer to “why does this keep feeling disturbing?” turned out to be more interesting than any one category on its own.

Dataset, coverage, and methodology
2,150
normalized disturbing patterns
10
categories
4,554
source comments and replies reviewed

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