Crowd-sourced icks
The “Ick” List: Harmless Quirks, Incompatibilities, and Real Red Flags
Separate awkward quirks from behavior that should concern you
The behavior catalog includes manufactured victimhood, casual cruelty, dismissing grief, body-shaming, misogyny, property damage, controlling family enmeshment, and hygiene problems alongside harmless baby-talk, fashion, and mannerism turnoffs. Every behavior needs a severity and context label so abuse or danger is not flattened into the same “ick” bucket as a pet peeve.
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The top 10 from the comments
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Faked medical emergencies, texted from ‘family’
What the pattern means: A recurring script: he staged an accident, illness, or suicide attempt, and someone else's phone delivered the news.
he faked jumping out his window. his “mom” texted me from his phone saying he was being rushed to the er and was going into surgery. he kept this act on for so long. he lives in a ONE STORY HOUSE
What the replies added3
When I broke up with my ex he told me that he got into a car accident right after. I texted his mom and asked if it was true and she said no & he was sitting right next to her💀
When I broke up with my ex he told me that he got into a car accident right after. I texted his mom and asked if it was true and she said no & he was sitting right next to her💀
Bro Eli faked him having a fractured leg but I had a fractured finger and that was broken
Refused basic courtesy and casual disrespect
What the pattern means: Small rudenesses — a door not held, a birthday forgotten, a stranger treated badly — that added up.
He was mean to a chipotle worker☹️
What the replies added1
mine too went out on a date with this dude didn't realised he was cooked. went to Macca's and went up to the Macca's boys n asked for a ciggy and I'll give you puff! 😭 I'm like nope I'm out
Sowwy, otay, and baby-voice apologies
What the pattern means: Typed and spoken apologies rendered in deliberate toddler pronunciation, like ‘sowwy’ and ‘otay.’
"otay, sowwyyyy" TYPED OUT IN A TEXT... he was 18 at the time.
What the replies added1
that's just cringe. girl did that to me and I was like nope.
Eepy, din-din, and other toddler vocabulary
What the pattern means: Baby-register words swapped in for ordinary things — dinner, tummy aches, being tired.
I told him I was nauseous and he goes "do you have the poopies? 🥺"
What the replies added1
my ex’s laugh. everytime he laughed the joke wasn’t funny anymore. he ruined it. lol
Fishing for reassurance about his looks
What the pattern means: Unprompted declarations of his own ugliness, engineered to pull a compliment out of her.
He would always say “ I’m so ugly 🥺🥺“
What the replies added2
my ex used to do this and I would go "yeah you are"
A guy started doing this and after awhile… I started agreeing with him? Sooo mission accomplished I guesss
Mommy, daddy, and stuffie regression
What the pattern means: Pet names and behavior that cast him as someone's baby, with his mother often literally involved.
“Can you call me 😢😢daddy” hes 5’3. 🚶🏼♀️
What replies pushed back on2
immediately no at the mommy daddy issue people. lol hard pass
nope youre not the one 💔💔💔 dominant women for the win
Sweat, saliva, and unwashed everything
What the pattern means: General bodily upkeep — or the lack of it — from unwashed sheets to visible spit while talking.
chewing while talking has to be the worst
What the replies added2
one time i had an experience with a guy i was very drunk and he was doing way too much coke. He wouldn‘t stop kissing me when i turned away. he had the saliva spots and horrible dry mouth and smell😭
Yesssss… my mind just can’t cooperate. We met 5 minutes ago, why are you like this?????
Period 'facts' and disgust
What the pattern means: Confident misinformation and open disgust about a normal bodily function.
he told me being on my period was gross and would ignore me or say "don't talk to me until you're done bleeding"
What the replies added2
Unfortunately, no. Was 19 at the time. Now that I'm 31, I just have to laugh about it. 😂💀
You’re like the 8th person in this thread to say this word for word so I’m not believing this no more 😭
Extreme opinions about women's bodies and rights
What the pattern means: Positions on childbirth, abortion, and a partner's role that go well past an off-color joke.
“I want you to act, submit, and dress like my mom. I feel like we wouldn’t be fighting as much.” Like WHAT.
What the replies added1
Schmwhatttt! Nope NO nopity no no nope!!
Premature, over-the-top romantic gestures
What the pattern means: Grand romantic moves — edits, screen locks, wallpaper, movie quotes — way too early or way too much.
He quoted the notebook to me. CONSTANTLY. Even after I blocked him on everything.
What the replies added2
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Girl they love the control, when it happened too me I laughed at first and he was like ”-you think I’m joking”. That man almost drove of the driveway
Making himself the victim47 classified records
Faked medical emergencies, texted from ‘family’A recurring script: he staged an accident, illness, or suicide attempt, and someone else's phone delivered the news.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Faked medical emergencies, texted from ‘family’
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Faked medical emergencies, texted from ‘family’
Appears when: Faked medical emergencies, texted from ‘family’
What the pattern means: A recurring script: he staged an accident, illness, or suicide attempt, and someone else's phone delivered the news.
What commenters described: he faked jumping out his window. his “mom” texted me from his phone saying he was being rushed to the er and was going into surgery. he kept this act on for so long. he lives in a ONE STORY HOUSE
What the replies added3
When I broke up with my ex he told me that he got into a car accident right after. I texted his mom and asked if it was true and she said no & he was sitting right next to her💀
When I broke up with my ex he told me that he got into a car accident right after. I texted his mom and asked if it was true and she said no & he was sitting right next to her💀
Bro Eli faked him having a fractured leg but I had a fractured finger and that was broken
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he faked jumping out his window. his “mom” texted me from his phone saying he was being rushed to the er and was going into surgery. he kept this act on for so long. he lives in a ONE STORY HOUSE
why do ppl do that?! mine faced “c’tt’ng’ and being rushed to the er (messaging pretending to be a friend) so he would get out of an argument. GROW UPPP 😭
I HAD SIMMILAR EXPERIENCE BUT HE FAKED A CAR ACCIDENT
What the counts show
The exact phrase “texted me from his phone” recurs across 3 of the 19 source records in Faked medical emergencies, texted from ‘family’; the complete archive stays available below.
What commenters explicitly report
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Crying as a performanceTears deployed on cue — over breakups, minor slights, or nothing at all — timed for sympathy.
Source-record spotlights
he started crying because i didn’t let him go through my phone ON THE FIRST DATE 😭
No cuz why was he crying into the 3 hairs on my head ????
Yes, when they therapise themselves constantly. "I was pointed at so much as a child and now I cry when i see the colour blue".
What the counts show
Within 9 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
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Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for
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Fishing for reassurance about his looksUnprompted declarations of his own ugliness, engineered to pull a compliment out of her.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Fishing for reassurance about his looks
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Fishing for reassurance about his looks
Appears when: Fishing for reassurance about his looks
What the pattern means: Unprompted declarations of his own ugliness, engineered to pull a compliment out of her.
What commenters described: He would always say “ I’m so ugly 🥺🥺“
What the replies added2
my ex used to do this and I would go "yeah you are"
A guy started doing this and after awhile… I started agreeing with him? Sooo mission accomplished I guesss
Source-record spotlights
He would always say “ I’m so ugly 🥺🥺“
He said I might not be attractive then when I said you’re not bad looking he goes I dont see it tho
Ugh yes, he was away on a trip and said I would send you a selfie but Im ugly and don’t like how I look… 😩
What the counts show
This report keeps all 8 source records for Fishing for reassurance about his looks together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof.
What commenters explicitly report
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Never his faultEvery failure — fired, ticketed, arrested — gets pinned on someone else.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Never his fault
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Never his fault
Appears when: Never his fault
What the pattern means: Every failure — fired, ticketed, arrested — gets pinned on someone else.
What commenters described: He NEVER admitted anything was his fault. Failed a class? The professors fault. License suspended? The cops fault. Fired from his job? The managers fault. 🙂 Never him.
What the replies added2
omg my sister does this those ppl r soooo gd annoying
you don’t realize all the people he’s blaming and then it makes sense when he starts blaming you for everything
Source-record spotlights
He NEVER admitted anything was his fault. Failed a class? The professors fault. License suspended? The cops fault. Fired from his job? The managers fault. 🙂 Never him.
I have an ex like this it was exhausting 🙃 wanted the perfect life to just fall into his lap without any of the work 🤦🏻♀️
My ex got fired and blamed the boss. Not the fact that he just wouldn't go when he didn't feel like it but still wanted to get paid. Found out afterwards that he missed so much working hours they wanted him to pay them back.
What the counts show
Within 7 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
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Outright lies and manipulative one-linersSmaller fabrications and guilt-trip lines, from a fake cancer diagnosis to bragging about being ‘a great manipulator.’
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Outright lies and manipulative one-liners
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Outright lies and manipulative one-liners
Appears when: Outright lies and manipulative one-liners
What the pattern means: Smaller fabrications and guilt-trip lines, from a fake cancer diagnosis to bragging about being ‘a great manipulator.’
What commenters described: He calls himself “a great manipulator” and he is proud of it!
What the replies added2
My dad does this lmao. “I’m actually a really good liar 😎.” Oh ok. So that’s why you’re alone lmaoooo
Oh NAH not the poly sci guy 😭. Also it’s fine lmao we’ve been no contact for like a month and my life has only improved
Source-record spotlights
He calls himself “a great manipulator” and he is proud of it!
My boyfriend does this now EVERYDAY and I told him it was getting a bit much and now he sends sad face and if I ask why he said he’s banned from being ‘emo’💔
he told me he had to go bald cuz he "had cancer" (he didnt) called me bubba and nuggie. and one time he bit my nose and said "did you like that bubba?"
What the counts show
Within 4 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
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Cruelty, rudeness and dismissal42 classified records
Refused basic courtesy and casual disrespectSmall rudenesses — a door not held, a birthday forgotten, a stranger treated badly — that added up.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Refused basic courtesy and casual disrespect
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Refused basic courtesy and casual disrespect
Appears when: Refused basic courtesy and casual disrespect
What the pattern means: Small rudenesses — a door not held, a birthday forgotten, a stranger treated badly — that added up.
What commenters described: He was mean to a chipotle worker☹️
What the replies added1
mine too went out on a date with this dude didn't realised he was cooked. went to Macca's and went up to the Macca's boys n asked for a ciggy and I'll give you puff! 😭 I'm like nope I'm out
Source-record spotlights
He was mean to a chipotle worker☹️
Tried to give me a duke dennis (I’m twice his age and height, and we aren’t even dating)
I had a hideous 'where my hug at' male acquaintance in high school that gave these hugs. this was 20+ years ago and the trauma is real lol
What the counts show
The exact phrase “open the door for” recurs across 3 of the 9 source records in Refused basic courtesy and casual disrespect; the complete archive stays available below.
What commenters explicitly report
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Dismissing her griefMinimizing, one-upping, or getting impatient with her mourning a parent's death.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Dismissing her grief
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Dismissing her grief
Appears when: Dismissing her grief
What the pattern means: Minimizing, one-upping, or getting impatient with her mourning a parent's death.
What commenters described: He cried over his mom selling her house boat..but told me when I was crying about my parents dying that it was part of growing up #boybye
What the replies added2
Oh I was! I left after I had enough of all his nonsense! Now I’m engaged to the kindest man on earth. ❤️
My sisters ex said “I don’t get why you’re upset. you don’t even like your parents” when our parents died 😑 that’s when she left him
Source-record spotlights
He cried over his mom selling her house boat..but told me when I was crying about my parents dying that it was part of growing up #boybye
My ex told me, after my dad died, that he could "relate" cause he had a dog die before.
I can relate to this one!!!! I dumped him immediately after he told me to get over my moms death- HIS MOM DIED 10 DAYS LATERand he calls 4 sympathy!!!!!
What the counts show
The exact phrase “after my dad died” recurs across 3 of the 7 source records in Dismissing her grief; the complete archive stays available below.
What commenters explicitly report
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Dismissive when she criedTreating her tears as an inconvenience, an accusation, or — worse — a turn-on.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Dismissive when she cried
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Dismissive when she cried
Appears when: Dismissive when she cried
What the pattern means: Treating her tears as an inconvenience, an accusation, or — worse — a turn-on.
What commenters described: He said it made him uncomfortable when I would cry (I WAS CRYING BC OF HIM)
What the replies added1
true but i believe he slipped up, because he did manipulate me the entire relationship up until that point. a few days after that i broke things off. dodged a huuuge bullet
Source-record spotlights
He said it made him uncomfortable when I would cry (I WAS CRYING BC OF HIM)
Hey my ex did that. He'd make me upset and then leave the room. "I can't be around your energy."
Mine said it turned him watching girls cry for him 😐
What the counts show
Within 7 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
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Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for
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Bodyshaming and insecurity attacksComments engineered to make her feel bad about her body, timed for maximum damage.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Bodyshaming and insecurity attacks
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Bodyshaming and insecurity attacks
Appears when: Bodyshaming and insecurity attacks
What the pattern means: Comments engineered to make her feel bad about her body, timed for maximum damage.
What commenters described: He started pointing out my insecurity and said "I'm just jokinggg" 😒
What the replies added2
Oop girl me too, he graped me as well😭 that story is posted on my page
tell him if he ever does it again " imma beat you up like yo daddy do"
Source-record spotlights
He started pointing out my insecurity and said "I'm just jokinggg" 😒
THIS! Literally this guy would send me memes of drastically overwight animals (claimed that his memes were random) and then everytime a TikTok of someone overweight was sent I got the “is this you?”
If I ever tell my boyfriend I’m insecure of something he gives me weight loss tips or says ‘maybe save up for plastic surgery?’ And if I do ANYTHING but comfort him if he’s venting he gets mad🥀🥀🥀
What the counts show
Within 7 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for
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Physical abuse and victim-blamingHitting, choking, or endangering her, then insisting it was somehow her doing.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Physical abuse and victim-blaming
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Physical abuse and victim-blaming
Appears when: Physical abuse and victim-blaming
What the pattern means: Hitting, choking, or endangering her, then insisting it was somehow her doing.
What commenters described: He told me on our first date that I must have done something to give my stalker the impression I was interested. “Men don’t just stalk people for no reason”
What the replies added2
Follow up- he asked why I hadn’t dated in awhile, I tried to avoid it. He pushed so I told him that the stalker experience made me uncomfortable with dating in general.
bro probably stalks you to this day (I'm sorry but it's probably true)
Source-record spotlights
He told me on our first date that I must have done something to give my stalker the impression I was interested. “Men don’t just stalk people for no reason”
he said he had demons inside and couldn't control them then beat up a kid...
when he told me he drinks and drive
What the counts show
Within 6 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for
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Selfishness at her worst momentsCentering himself, or abandoning her outright, exactly when she needed support.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Selfishness at her worst moments
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Selfishness at her worst moments
Appears when: Selfishness at her worst moments
What the pattern means: Centering himself, or abandoning her outright, exactly when she needed support.
What commenters described: SOBBED in my lap after I found out he got another girl pregnant (with twins) saying “this is what I’ve been dealing with all summer”.. meanwhile.. I was going through chemotherapy lol 🥲👩🏼🦲
What the replies added2
omg girl i'm so sorry, are u ok? cus i think u won this and that's not good 😭
LOL yes bb I’m okay now 🥲 shout out to my therapist!!
Source-record spotlights
SOBBED in my lap after I found out he got another girl pregnant (with twins) saying “this is what I’ve been dealing with all summer”.. meanwhile.. I was going through chemotherapy lol 🥲👩🏼🦲
not that it would've mattered cause we didn't do anything unless he forced me too 😅 it wasn't even just asking me he would fully ignore me no matter how hard I tried to talk and would push me away
Oh he claims he’s currently in therapy, he’s lying but I was the narcissist, and his “therapist” says his mental and physical abuse was justified due to my narcissism. Spot on “Doc”🙄
What the counts show
This report keeps all 6 source records for Selfishness at her worst moments together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for
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Baby talk and the 'eepy' voice41 classified records
Sowwy, otay, and baby-voice apologiesTyped and spoken apologies rendered in deliberate toddler pronunciation, like ‘sowwy’ and ‘otay.’
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Sowwy, otay, and baby-voice apologies
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Sowwy, otay, and baby-voice apologies
Appears when: Sowwy, otay, and baby-voice apologies
What the pattern means: Typed and spoken apologies rendered in deliberate toddler pronunciation, like ‘sowwy’ and ‘otay.’
What commenters described: "otay, sowwyyyy" TYPED OUT IN A TEXT... he was 18 at the time.
What the replies added1
that's just cringe. girl did that to me and I was like nope.
Source-record spotlights
"otay, sowwyyyy" TYPED OUT IN A TEXT... he was 18 at the time.
I got the ick from a man saying otay as well 😑 stand up alfalfa
“oh sowwyyy” typed out in a text… HE WAS 26 AT THE TIME.
What the counts show
The exact phrase “typed out in a text he” recurs across 2 of the 9 source records in Sowwy, otay, and baby-voice apologies; the complete archive stays available below.
What commenters explicitly report
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Eepy, din-din, and other toddler vocabularyBaby-register words swapped in for ordinary things — dinner, tummy aches, being tired.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Eepy, din-din, and other toddler vocabulary
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Eepy, din-din, and other toddler vocabulary
Appears when: Eepy, din-din, and other toddler vocabulary
What the pattern means: Baby-register words swapped in for ordinary things — dinner, tummy aches, being tired.
What commenters described: I told him I was nauseous and he goes "do you have the poopies? 🥺"
What the replies added1
my ex’s laugh. everytime he laughed the joke wasn’t funny anymore. he ruined it. lol
Source-record spotlights
I told him I was nauseous and he goes "do you have the poopies? 🥺"
My bsf bf is always saying “omg bby ur gonna be the death of me stawpppp”
Mine told me it gave him a sore tummy when I cried… well then stop saying hurtful things and start using the word stomach
What the counts show
Within 9 source records, 4 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
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Baby emojis and asterisk-action textsText messages padded with asterisk stage directions like *hugs* and an overload of pleading baby emoji.
Source-record spotlights
In a snap he unironically typed out and sent *sighs cutely*.
gurl same, his was *air hugs* 😭😭
my ex used 🥺 👉👈 LIKE GIRL BYE
What the counts show
This report keeps all 9 source records for Baby emojis and asterisk-action texts together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
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Mommy, daddy, and stuffie regressionPet names and behavior that cast him as someone's baby, with his mother often literally involved.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Mommy, daddy, and stuffie regression
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Mommy, daddy, and stuffie regression
Appears when: Mommy, daddy, and stuffie regression
What the pattern means: Pet names and behavior that cast him as someone's baby, with his mother often literally involved.
What commenters described: “Can you call me 😢😢daddy” hes 5’3. 🚶🏼♀️
What replies pushed back on2
immediately no at the mommy daddy issue people. lol hard pass
nope youre not the one 💔💔💔 dominant women for the win
Source-record spotlights
“Can you call me 😢😢daddy” hes 5’3. 🚶🏼♀️
“Would you still want ur stuffie back after I snuggled with it and sleep with it on the bus (MIND YOU WE WERE ON A TRIP TO WASHINGTON DC ) EUHHH 😭
My husband said that ONCE to me and I replied “does she also suck your “” better? Maybe you should go home to mommy.” It never came up again
What the counts show
Within 8 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for
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Childish mannerisms in personIn-person baby-toned behavior — pouting, meowing, biting, baby talk in public.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Childish mannerisms in person
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Childish mannerisms in person
Appears when: Childish mannerisms in person
What the pattern means: In-person baby-toned behavior — pouting, meowing, biting, baby talk in public.
What commenters described: first night i met him he would pinch my cheeks and give me eskimo kisses..
What the replies added2
okay but that’s actually cute maybe not for the first date but that would be cute later on 😂
because it was my first time ever meeting him 😭..? and idk ab yall but i personally find that stuff cringe if its in public (which it was)
Source-record spotlights
first night i met him he would pinch my cheeks and give me eskimo kisses..
he had imaginary friends and was very bitey 😃
for me it was when i was at tips & this guy started baby talking to me🤨
What the counts show
Within 6 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
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Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for
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Hygiene, boogers and body horror36 classified records
Sweat, saliva, and unwashed everythingGeneral bodily upkeep — or the lack of it — from unwashed sheets to visible spit while talking.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Sweat, saliva, and unwashed everything
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Sweat, saliva, and unwashed everything
Appears when: Sweat, saliva, and unwashed everything
What the pattern means: General bodily upkeep — or the lack of it — from unwashed sheets to visible spit while talking.
What commenters described: chewing while talking has to be the worst
What the replies added2
one time i had an experience with a guy i was very drunk and he was doing way too much coke. He wouldn‘t stop kissing me when i turned away. he had the saliva spots and horrible dry mouth and smell😭
Yesssss… my mind just can’t cooperate. We met 5 minutes ago, why are you like this?????
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chewing while talking has to be the worst
His nose was sweaty 24/7
havent washed his sheets in monthsssss
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Teeth and bad breathDental neglect and the breath that comes with it.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Teeth and bad breath
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Teeth and bad breath
Appears when: Teeth and bad breath
What the pattern means: Dental neglect and the breath that comes with it.
What commenters described: I told that dog to brush his teeth before bed and said “tmr, they’re just gonna get dirty again” ????????
What the replies added2
At least he brushed some😭. I was with my ex a year and a half and never once saw him brush his teeth or saw a toothbrush in sight💀
why is it such a common experience for ppls boyfriends to just not brush their teeth omg😭
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I told that dog to brush his teeth before bed and said “tmr, they’re just gonna get dirty again” ????????
can't belive I dated a man who had cavities and I didn't even know it
That reminds me my ex didn't always brush his teeth either and felt bad having to ask like, did you brush your teeth?/when did u shower?/did you wash your hands??
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Nails, feet, and body odorOvergrown nails and smelly feet, socks included.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Nails, feet, and body odor
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Nails, feet, and body odor
Appears when: Nails, feet, and body odor
What the pattern means: Overgrown nails and smelly feet, socks included.
What commenters described: His finger nails were hella long and had blue talki dust under them 🤦♀️
What the replies added1
Nope. I draw the line at unkept nails 🤢
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His finger nails were hella long and had blue talki dust under them 🤦♀️
wore same socks wil holes in all week
When they drag their crusty ass flip flops while wearing diabolically tore up smelly ass socks
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Vomit and worseThrowing up mid-makeout, plus a couple of incidents that go beyond ordinary hygiene complaints.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Vomit and worse
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Vomit and worse
Appears when: Vomit and worse
What the pattern means: Throwing up mid-makeout, plus a couple of incidents that go beyond ordinary hygiene complaints.
What commenters described: When he threw up and tried to kiss me
What the replies added2
hell no I would disappear out of sight right after that and change my country 😂😂😂😂😂 don't ever find me again
He was completely sober, shotgunned a truly, instantly projectile vomited and try to play it off with a kiss, I said uhhh no
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When he threw up and tried to kiss me
This will traumatise you guys like it did with me. My ex told me his stuffed cig filters in his skin…the one around his sword between his legs. He stretched it and put in there not 1, not 2 but 21 of those. 21. I was traumatised. He’s an ex for a reason
My ex would put a towel on the floor and throw up on it instead of going to the bathroom or a trash can so other people could witness it
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Spitting, burping, and gas — usually on purposeBodily noises deployed deliberately, apparently for comedic effect.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Spitting, burping, and gas — usually on purpose
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Spitting, burping, and gas — usually on purpose
Appears when: Spitting, burping, and gas — usually on purpose
What the pattern means: Bodily noises deployed deliberately, apparently for comedic effect.
What commenters described: He “excused” himself by legit walking 2 metres away so I could still hear it
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He “excused” himself by legit walking 2 metres away so I could still hear it
He tried to look cool by spitting on the ground..he spat on my shoe
when he burped on call and said ooh yummy
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Nose, boogers, and snotVisible nose-picking and mucus, sometimes aimed directly at the narrator.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Nose, boogers, and snot
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Nose, boogers, and snot
Appears when: Nose, boogers, and snot
What the pattern means: Visible nose-picking and mucus, sometimes aimed directly at the narrator.
What commenters described: we were on facetime and he started picking his nose and playing with the boogers
What the replies added2
He thought it was hilarious to watch me gag over it😭💔
oh similar here. then tried to gaslit me that I didnt just witness that nor did we make eye contact when he did it & proceeded to throw a tantrum because "Im lying & saw wrong" WHOSE LYING TO WHO?!🤮
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we were on facetime and he started picking his nose and playing with the boogers
I use to be able to look up and see snot in his nose
Dude I went on a second date with this dude, we were chilling in his car talking and out of nowhere he tried going in for a kiss and shot a snot rocket at MEEEE. Blocked after that night 😭😭😭
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Misogyny, alpha talk and period 'facts'34 classified records
Period 'facts' and disgustConfident misinformation and open disgust about a normal bodily function.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Period 'facts' and disgust
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Period 'facts' and disgust
Appears when: Period 'facts' and disgust
What the pattern means: Confident misinformation and open disgust about a normal bodily function.
What commenters described: he told me being on my period was gross and would ignore me or say "don't talk to me until you're done bleeding"
What the replies added2
Unfortunately, no. Was 19 at the time. Now that I'm 31, I just have to laugh about it. 😂💀
You’re like the 8th person in this thread to say this word for word so I’m not believing this no more 😭
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he told me being on my period was gross and would ignore me or say "don't talk to me until you're done bleeding"
mine asked if i still need to wipe on my period 😐 like yes…
My ex told me that getting kicked in the balls hurt more than giving birth
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Extreme opinions about women's bodies and rightsPositions on childbirth, abortion, and a partner's role that go well past an off-color joke.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Extreme opinions about women's bodies and rights
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Extreme opinions about women's bodies and rights
Appears when: Extreme opinions about women's bodies and rights
What the pattern means: Positions on childbirth, abortion, and a partner's role that go well past an off-color joke.
What commenters described: “I want you to act, submit, and dress like my mom. I feel like we wouldn’t be fighting as much.” Like WHAT.
What the replies added1
Schmwhatttt! Nope NO nopity no no nope!!
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“I want you to act, submit, and dress like my mom. I feel like we wouldn’t be fighting as much.” Like WHAT.
I found out a guy I was talking to said on FB that women should die in childbirth before being allowed to abort. When I got mad he called me a FAT BITCH (I’m 130 pounds)
I had sex with this guy then afterwards he confessed to me he has a sex addiction bc he thinks he heals women with his sex (it was not exceptionally good sex)
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Alpha-male and red-pill talkAndrew Tate references, ‘serve me forever’ lines, and bragging about being called alpha.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Alpha-male and red-pill talk
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Alpha-male and red-pill talk
Appears when: Alpha-male and red-pill talk
What the pattern means: Andrew Tate references, ‘serve me forever’ lines, and bragging about being called alpha.
What commenters described: "Will you serve me forever?" after 3 days of talking.
What the replies added2
Cried on the floor when I got my first apartment because he couldn’t believe a “high school drop out” could ever be ahead of him in life.
Asked if I could do anything to make my b00bs better. Got mad bc I already knew how to drive manual
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"Will you serve me forever?" after 3 days of talking.
My ex would brag about the girl he was with before me calling him an alpha male “but he doesn’t really even know what that’s supposed to mean” he brought it up like 5 times
one being ALL women love and feen for male attention and validation, then proceeded to accuse me of loving male attention with ZERO ground. i was so caught off guard bc it came from nowhere.
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Within 6 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
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'Good girl' and other degrading pet namesA pet name used to reward compliance rather than affection.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: 'Good girl' and other degrading pet names
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'Good girl' and other degrading pet names
Appears when: 'Good girl' and other degrading pet names
What the pattern means: A pet name used to reward compliance rather than affection.
What commenters described: “Good girl.” After doing simple things
What the replies added1
Imagine scraping your plate into the garbage after dinner just to suddenly hear from behind you, “good girl”. No. bye immediately get out of my house
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“Good girl.” After doing simple things
“whos daddy’s good little girl” while making out..
He says „Good Girl” when I’m doing something for him 💀💀
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Try-hard performances28 classified records
Premature, over-the-top romantic gesturesGrand romantic moves — edits, screen locks, wallpaper, movie quotes — way too early or way too much.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Premature, over-the-top romantic gestures
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Premature, over-the-top romantic gestures
Appears when: Premature, over-the-top romantic gestures
What the pattern means: Grand romantic moves — edits, screen locks, wallpaper, movie quotes — way too early or way too much.
What commenters described: He quoted the notebook to me. CONSTANTLY. Even after I blocked him on everything.
What the replies added2
[account] [account] [account] trauma bezwingen durch tiktok
Girl they love the control, when it happened too me I laughed at first and he was like ”-you think I’m joking”. That man almost drove of the driveway
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He quoted the notebook to me. CONSTANTLY. Even after I blocked him on everything.
screenshotted my old instagram post and put it on his wallpaper after the first date
we about went off the road because he wanted to give me a kiss while he was driving 💀
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Serenades, songs, and other music flexesMusical bids for romance that landed somewhere between secondhand embarrassment and off-key.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Serenades, songs, and other music flexes
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Serenades, songs, and other music flexes
Appears when: Serenades, songs, and other music flexes
What the pattern means: Musical bids for romance that landed somewhere between secondhand embarrassment and off-key.
What commenters described: he said he dedicated a bruno mars song to me and started singing it. i started laughing and he thought i was giggling out of nervousness. and he said “damn i got u giggling”
What the replies added2
No I can’t. When they try to sing a song to you and are like so dead serious. Please stop 😩✋
he was sweet, until i found out him and his family were drug dealers.. 💀
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he said he dedicated a bruno mars song to me and started singing it. i started laughing and he thought i was giggling out of nervousness. and he said “damn i got u giggling”
He told me he wrote a song. he made me excited about it for weeks acting like it was a song about me. It ended up being a song about BEING IN LOVE WITH UR EX WHILE BEING IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP. Trauma
Singing perfect by ed Sheeran to me…… I can’t listen to that song with out getting severely nauseous
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Got her eye color wrong — repeatedlyGrand declarations about her eyes that named the wrong color, sometimes years after the breakup.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Got her eye color wrong — repeatedly
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Got her eye color wrong — repeatedly
Appears when: Got her eye color wrong — repeatedly
What the pattern means: Grand declarations about her eyes that named the wrong color, sometimes years after the breakup.
What commenters described: he told me he loved my blue eyes.. my eyes are green
What the replies added2
same bro. but he made a tiktok about how he missed them.. after we had broken up. MY EYES ARE BLUE
same bro. but he made a tiktok about how he missed them.. after we had broken up. MY EYES ARE BLUE
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he told me he loved my blue eyes.. my eyes are green
I had a guy look me dead in the face and told me my green eyes were brown. Turned straight to his 3 year old and asked her what color my eyes were. She said GREEN
mine made a tiktok saying how he missed my “ green eyes. “ bruuuu my eyes are blue.
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Showed off skills nobody asked to seeUnsolicited displays of toughness or expertise, from bowling trophies to a shootout story.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Showed off skills nobody asked to see
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Showed off skills nobody asked to see
Appears when: Showed off skills nobody asked to see
What the pattern means: Unsolicited displays of toughness or expertise, from bowling trophies to a shootout story.
What commenters described: He brought his own bowling ball and shoes to bowling on the first date. I beat him with a score of 85 🙃
What the replies added2
tbh if a girl beat me in bowling.. I'd have to fire myself out of that relationship
like a whole app dedicated to them.. and would scroll on them more than tiktok or even talking to me
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He brought his own bowling ball and shoes to bowling on the first date. I beat him with a score of 85 🙃
Wonder if was the same one who brought along his bowling champion trophies and medals to show me and then I dusted him at the local bowling alley having never played before 😂 he was 13 years older…..
He had a beer pong table in his one room apartment 💀 he wanted to play (I was alone with him, isn’t that supposed to be a party game?!) I’ve played it like once before and still won 😭😭😭
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Vanity, selfies, and unsolicited contentSelf-focused image management, sent her way whether she asked or not.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Vanity, selfies, and unsolicited content
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Vanity, selfies, and unsolicited content
Appears when: Vanity, selfies, and unsolicited content
What the pattern means: Self-focused image management, sent her way whether she asked or not.
What commenters described: he posts capcut edits of himself
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he posts capcut edits of himself
Told he I was “beautiful” because he didn’t want to be like creeps who say pretty because he’s a “nice guy”
He sent me a kiss face selfie with the caption: look at that jaw line! All I saw was Matthew McConaughey from Dallas buyers club! I’m haunted bye it!!
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Tantrums, punching and storming off25 classified records
Punching, ripping, and property damageFists through car bumpers, ripped clothing, thrown phones — anger aimed at objects, not words.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Punching, ripping, and property damage
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Punching, ripping, and property damage
Appears when: Punching, ripping, and property damage
What the pattern means: Fists through car bumpers, ripped clothing, thrown phones — anger aimed at objects, not words.
What commenters described: He got mad and tried to lift a small couch in his temper tantrum…. He couldn’t pick it up
What the replies added2
IM WHEEZINGG WHERE DID U FIND THAT THING ( I AINT EVEN JOKING IM SICK AND I CANT BREATH) 😭
HELP IM WEAK HOW DOES HE HAVE A TEMPER TANTRUM WHEN HE HAS A GF IS HE NOT EMBARRASSED?
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He got mad and tried to lift a small couch in his temper tantrum…. He couldn’t pick it up
Mine threw a ball at his phone when we were on FaceTime🙏
Did we date the same guy😂 he had a panic attack & punched the steering wheel when I wanted to take a half hour nap in his car after doing a night shift& travelling 3hours to his city
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The exact phrase “he ripped his” recurs across 3 of the 8 source records in Punching, ripping, and property damage; the complete archive stays available below.
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Meltdowns when caught, crossed, or told noSulking, crying, and silent treatment whenever he was denied something or caught out.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Meltdowns when caught, crossed, or told no
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Meltdowns when caught, crossed, or told no
Appears when: Meltdowns when caught, crossed, or told no
What the pattern means: Sulking, crying, and silent treatment whenever he was denied something or caught out.
What commenters described: Got mad when HE SPILLED SODA ON HIMSELF and didn't speak to ME after that
What the replies added2
some of these are just funny, like laugh at him. not with him funny
I was speechless very unexpected that summer I met my husband now I’m happily married and have a 4 month old
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Got mad when HE SPILLED SODA ON HIMSELF and didn't speak to ME after that
He asked me to give him a bj in the movie theatre and when I said no started sulking. “He’s a good guy” you sure? Don’t be some quick to assume
I love my bf, but the way he rages on games and the things he says gives me the Ick 💔
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Storming off in costumeDramatic exits undercut by whatever absurd outfit he happened to be wearing.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Storming off in costume
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Storming off in costume
Appears when: Storming off in costume
What the pattern means: Dramatic exits undercut by whatever absurd outfit he happened to be wearing.
What commenters described: stomping away in a pair of flip flops
What the replies added2
I think i would have just rolled over and died laughing.
Omg same, mine stormed off in a banana suit, pointy yellow head bobbing off into the distance😂
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stomping away in a pair of flip flops
Omg same, mine stormed off in a banana suit, pointy yellow head bobbing off into the distance😂
I genuinely saw a guy storming up a hill in a rage while wearing a Sully onsie, once!!
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Road rage and reckless drivingAnger that showed up behind the wheel, from blown horns to a 110-mph tantrum.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Road rage and reckless driving
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Road rage and reckless driving
Appears when: Road rage and reckless driving
What the pattern means: Anger that showed up behind the wheel, from blown horns to a 110-mph tantrum.
What commenters described: road rage. and i don’t mean like the regular frustration. full on scream fighting with pedestrians he wouldn’t let cross the street
What the replies added2
Same went on a date and he got mad bc he left his wallet at home when I had already told him I was broke and couldn’t go on a date… right before he get there he throws a tantrum and drives 110 mph
Same went on a date and he got mad bc he left his wallet at home when I had already told him I was broke and couldn’t go on a date… right before he get there he throws a tantrum and drives 110 mph
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road rage. and i don’t mean like the regular frustration. full on scream fighting with pedestrians he wouldn’t let cross the street
Same went on a date and he got mad bc he left his wallet at home when I had already told him I was broke and couldn’t go on a date… right before he get there he throws a tantrum and drives 110 mph
Guns it with his head down and nearly wrecks leaving a parking spot!!! The other driver slammed on their brakes and blew their horn. He said the other driver was speeding. We’re now divorced💃
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Mama's boy behaviour22 classified records
Mom still does everything for himHe outsources basic adult tasks, from cooking to nighttime rituals, straight to his mother.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Mom still does everything for him
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Mom still does everything for him
Appears when: Mom still does everything for him
What the pattern means: He outsources basic adult tasks, from cooking to nighttime rituals, straight to his mother.
What commenters described: He said “that’s not how my mom does it”, when I was simply cutting up a bell pepper. GO GET YOUR MOMMY TO CUT IT UP THEN 🤯
What the replies added1
My ex did this about everything that’s why I broke up with him
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He said “that’s not how my mom does it”, when I was simply cutting up a bell pepper. GO GET YOUR MOMMY TO CUT IT UP THEN 🤯
My ex would do this too… never kept a job always asked his mom to do everything. He’s 25. He’s an ex now for a reason 😭
Lmao my old ROOMMATE used to say this shit to me 💀 like he’d have to have “meetings” when I got home from work and it’d be like discussing how the way I load the dishwasher isn’t the way his mom did
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Every comparison led back to momMom becomes the unspoken standard he measures cooking, comfort, and even feet against.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Every comparison led back to mom
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Every comparison led back to mom
Appears when: Every comparison led back to mom
What the pattern means: Mom becomes the unspoken standard he measures cooking, comfort, and even feet against.
What commenters described: he told me he thought his anger issues stem from being the only child his mom didnt breastfeed. (im not kidding)
What the replies added2
in a way i guess but by a certain age i think you should be able to regulate your emotions regardless of not being breastfeed as a child 💀💀
I feel like there might be the slightestttt bit of sense to that. Because it could indicate lesser of a bond with his mom during early years, which then impacts emotional regulation.
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he told me he thought his anger issues stem from being the only child his mom didnt breastfeed. (im not kidding)
my ex said this to MY MOM when she was cooking us dinner 😭😭😭
Mine said "my mom always (insert whatever)" when I cooked so by the 2nd time I asked him "does your mom f*ck better too?". He never said anything like that again 🤣
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Enmeshed in ways that crossed a linePhysical closeness, mid-date money calls, and family obsession that blur son and partner.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Enmeshed in ways that crossed a line
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Enmeshed in ways that crossed a line
Appears when: Enmeshed in ways that crossed a line
What the pattern means: Physical closeness, mid-date money calls, and family obsession that blur son and partner.
What commenters described: Called his mum mid date to ask for money
What replies pushed back on5
He was 16😭 but he lied about having a job and a car and then made it worse by me hearing him say “mum pleaseee pleaseee” on the phone like I get we were kids but cmon man
A little peck on the lips can be very normal in families but only doing it with the parent of the opposite sex saying it would be weird to do with the other is weirding me out bc what???
He sounds like a hustler, act broke stay rich
then maybe you pay for it once or twice. doesn’t mean he’s completely broke just means he might be running low on money and need a few bucks to pay for food you never know what bro was going through
that'd coud be me bc im broke😃😔
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Called his mum mid date to ask for money
On a dating app I talked to a guy who admitted he had the hots for his sister. He wanted a woman to look, dress, and act like her. 🤮🤮🤮
My ex husband said those things too & then had to deal w/ her being miffed at me “b/c I took her baby away.” I was like you can have him!!!he’s on his 3rd wife now…
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One line and it was over22 classified records
Just existing was the problemNo specific offense, just his presence, his ego, or the sheer fact of him.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Just existing was the problem
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Just existing was the problem
Appears when: Just existing was the problem
What the pattern means: No specific offense, just his presence, his ego, or the sheer fact of him.
What commenters described: He like…was born. Idek man
What the replies added2
if i haven’t said it alr (i always forget who i respomd too) THANK YOU ILY
girl u so beautiful i can’t, pls be a model or something
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He like…was born. Idek man
he has one pair of shoes
They are the ICK itself
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Arrogant one-linersA single sentence of overconfidence was all it took.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Arrogant one-liners
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Arrogant one-liners
Appears when: Arrogant one-liners
What the pattern means: A single sentence of overconfidence was all it took.
What commenters described: When he said he wanted to save me
What the replies added2
I had sex with this guy then afterwards he confessed to me he has a sex addiction bc he thinks he heals women with his sex (it was not exceptionally good sex)
This one guy made me answer if he was hot or not so I said yeah I mean you’re attractive trying to be nice then he kept saying well I know you think I’m hot at least all night
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When he said he wanted to save me
he said 'would you like to start a talking stage' 😭
asked me to change his car tires 😅
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Within 7 source records, 3 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
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Political statements that ended itOne political comment, and the conversation was over.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Political statements that ended it
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Political statements that ended it
Appears when: Political statements that ended it
What the pattern means: One political comment, and the conversation was over.
What commenters described: he told me he wanted elon musks face tattooed on his arm
What the replies added1
literally craziest thing ever was him “coming out to me” as a trump supporter recently and i’m like nope no no can do
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he told me he wanted elon musks face tattooed on his arm
he supports Trump.
literally craziest thing ever was him “coming out to me” as a trump supporter recently and i’m like nope no no can do
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Trivial preferences that were dealbreakersA condiment opinion or an odd question, and that was that.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Trivial preferences that were dealbreakers
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Trivial preferences that were dealbreakers
Appears when: Trivial preferences that were dealbreakers
What the pattern means: A condiment opinion or an odd question, and that was that.
What commenters described: We’re looking at a dinosaur statue and he goes “do you think they actually existed”
What the replies added1
I’m so curious what a brand’s FYP looks like… but honestly, valid.
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We’re looking at a dinosaur statue and he goes “do you think they actually existed”
omg one guy sent me "oh snaps😄"... nvr txted him back
said 'grrrr' over message when I disagreed with him.
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The walk, the voice, the mannerisms22 classified records
Kissing and 'the face'The mechanics of kissing itself — technique, sound effects, and the expressions that came with it.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Kissing and 'the face'
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Kissing and 'the face'
Appears when: Kissing and 'the face'
What the pattern means: The mechanics of kissing itself — technique, sound effects, and the expressions that came with it.
What commenters described: The face he made before going into kiss me still haunts me to this day
What the replies added2
girl same. the same guy was proud he was an “aggressive” kisser. he literally missed my mouth and was licked my chin?? it makes me sick to remember it 😭
Girl yes I stopped talking to a guy after he practically ate my face while kissing him.
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The face he made before going into kiss me still haunts me to this day
The o face of my ex will haunts me. His mouth was so round and RED. 😭
The face he made as he was on top and he said “don’t say anything bc I had an ex who would say I make creepy faces during sex”
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The exact phrase “the face he made” recurs across 2 of the 7 source records in Kissing and 'the face'; the complete archive stays available below.
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Odd little physical habitsSmall recurring tics — talking in third person, sitting like a toddler, dragging a headphone pouch everywhere.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Odd little physical habits
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Odd little physical habits
Appears when: Odd little physical habits
What the pattern means: Small recurring tics — talking in third person, sitting like a toddler, dragging a headphone pouch everywhere.
What commenters described: He spoke in the third person and said “*his name* OUT” to end an argument
What the replies added1
my ex’s laugh. everytime he laughed the joke wasn’t funny anymore. he ruined it. lol
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He spoke in the third person and said “*his name* OUT” to end an argument
him dragging that little headphone pouch everywhere… immediate ick I’m sorry 😭😭
I had a guy do this once 😂 I was shocked haha my kids have never referred to themselves in third person so there's no way I'll tolerate that from a grown man
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Across 7 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.
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The walk and the voiceHow he moved and sounded, from an inward-toed strut to a voice he'd drop only for certain people.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: The walk and the voice
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The walk and the voice
Appears when: The walk and the voice
What the pattern means: How he moved and sounded, from an inward-toed strut to a voice he'd drop only for certain people.
What commenters described: when they speed walk, when they are a mommies boy
What the replies added2
I crawl upstairs sometimes! It’s more efficient! It looks weird but it’s awesome 😎
For me it is! Gets me places faster! Though I only do it when I’m alone cause it is embarrassing haha 😂
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when they speed walk, when they are a mommies boy
He said i love you on the first date & walks with his toes inward wiggling his booty, he was a rebound after a long relationship & there were so many icks I ignored as I was in a bad place😭
walked on tippy toes and had a very high pitch voice and he lowered it when speaking to certain people to make him seem cooler 😭
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Within 4 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
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Footwear and food opinions that made no senseStrong reactions — to grandpa sandals, to open-toed shoes, to mild vinegar — that didn't track.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Footwear and food opinions that made no sense
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Footwear and food opinions that made no sense
Appears when: Footwear and food opinions that made no sense
What the pattern means: Strong reactions — to grandpa sandals, to open-toed shoes, to mild vinegar — that didn't track.
What commenters described: we were eating regular doritos and he said they were spicy 🫥
What the replies added2
NO ABSOLUTELY NOT💔 THOSE ARE LIKE THE LEAST SPICY FLAVORED CHIPS EVER💔
I’m going to bawl my eyes out at this comment WHAT/j
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we were eating regular doritos and he said they were spicy 🫥
Mine was physically reacting to balsamic vinegar saying how spicy it was….
Noooo wait so my ex and I went to the lake and he wore those damn grandpa water shoes!! Ick ick ick 😩
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Control, jealousy and surveillance16 classified records
Jealous of her friends and familyPossessiveness aimed at the people already in her life, from a best friend to a house cat.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Jealous of her friends and family
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Jealous of her friends and family
Appears when: Jealous of her friends and family
What the pattern means: Possessiveness aimed at the people already in her life, from a best friend to a house cat.
What commenters described: he got mad i was closer to my bsf of 9 years than him (we dated for 3 months) and said it seemed like i wanted to date her more than him
What the replies added2
I had the same thing happen to me. My best friend ended up getting divorced and he said “so you’re going to date him now” 🙃
I’d rather the best friend. Imo, I’d rather date the best friend atp.
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he got mad i was closer to my bsf of 9 years than him (we dated for 3 months) and said it seemed like i wanted to date her more than him
My bf at the time didn’t like that I was hanging out with my friends WHILE HE WAS HANGING OUT WITH HIS and would say “I’m so jelly” like in a baby voice.
Got mad at me for holding hands with my friend ( who is a girl ) cus he didn’t like seeing me holding hands with other people and then asked me if I loved him ( we’re in middle school )
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Within 5 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
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Accusing her of flirting or cheatingSuspicion and jealousy projected onto her, usually with zero evidence.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Accusing her of flirting or cheating
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Accusing her of flirting or cheating
Appears when: Accusing her of flirting or cheating
What the pattern means: Suspicion and jealousy projected onto her, usually with zero evidence.
What commenters described: he made me choose between him or being harry styles fan
What the replies added2
of COURSE and now i have a bf who listens to harry with me 😊
Exactly. Ignore these immature comments. Being bisexual does not make you any less honest or loyal.
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he made me choose between him or being harry styles fan
I hung out with this guy ONCE and he started saying it’s unfortunate that I was hanging out with other guys and began asking how many guys I was texting on my phone. He blocked me before I could?🤔
he swore up and down i was meeting other guys bc i refused to kiss him 😭
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Within 5 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
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Controlling her choices and appearanceTrying to dictate how she looked, acted, or spent her time.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Controlling her choices and appearance
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Controlling her choices and appearance
Appears when: Controlling her choices and appearance
What the pattern means: Trying to dictate how she looked, acted, or spent her time.
What commenters described: 1st date with a guy who had his own makeup removers and proceeded to wipe off my makeup without consent at a public restaurant.. he liked his girls “natural”
What the replies added1
Nope, suing for emotional distress
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1st date with a guy who had his own makeup removers and proceeded to wipe off my makeup without consent at a public restaurant.. he liked his girls “natural”
shamed me for getting a matching tattoo with my mom and tried talking me out of it even though i had never bought up how i think some of his things made me uncomfortable (Nic addiction, didn’t care about being safe while driving, and a whole lot more) the picture is the tattoo i ended up getting
Wanted me to watch this anime so I could pick up the personality of a character who was his “perfect girl”. Gag
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Surveillance, ultimatums, and guilt-trip controlChaperones, loaded questions, and ‘you'd do it if you loved me’ lines.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Surveillance, ultimatums, and guilt-trip control
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Surveillance, ultimatums, and guilt-trip control
Appears when: Surveillance, ultimatums, and guilt-trip control
What the pattern means: Chaperones, loaded questions, and ‘you'd do it if you loved me’ lines.
What commenters described: Two hours before our first date he told me that his family needed to have a chaperone with us at all times to make sure ‘nothing happens’. He’s 19 😐
What the replies added2
Uhm i feel bad for my ex bc that was me my whole relationship with him…. He was younger then me 🤣🤣💔 (my family needed to have a chaperone with us) damnnn I know he had an ick 😔
Yea and thank you so much!! I’ll send you a request. You are so kind💞
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Two hours before our first date he told me that his family needed to have a chaperone with us at all times to make sure ‘nothing happens’. He’s 19 😐
“I guess you don’t love me then” or “you’d do it if you loved me”
Girl they love the control, when it happened too me I laughed at first and he was like ”-you think I’m joking”. That man almost drove of the driveway
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Cheating and the theatrical apology14 classified records
Musical and theatrical apology stuntsFull apology performances complete with a serenade, a dance, or a half-dressed chase down the street.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Musical and theatrical apology stunts
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Musical and theatrical apology stunts
Appears when: Musical and theatrical apology stunts
What the pattern means: Full apology performances complete with a serenade, a dance, or a half-dressed chase down the street.
What commenters described: sing “sorry”by justin bieber to apologize after cheating on me
What replies pushed back on5
nope i broke up with him 🤦♀️
nope that's just weird 😒, hope your ok x
Please tell me you let him sing the entire song and then broke up with him directly after.
😅😅😅 Brilliant, I had ‘it’s all about you’ Mcfly when I broke up with him for cheating 😅
😅😅😅 Brilliant, I had ‘it’s all about you’ Mcfly when I broke up with him for cheating 😅
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sing “sorry”by justin bieber to apologize after cheating on me
My cheater run after me in only wearing boxer shorts 😂😭
😅😅😅 Brilliant, I had ‘it’s all about you’ Mcfly when I broke up with him for cheating 😅
What the counts show
Across 5 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.
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Who — and how — he cheatedThe bare facts of the affair itself.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Who — and how — he cheated
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Who — and how — he cheated
Appears when: Who — and how — he cheated
What the pattern means: The bare facts of the affair itself.
What commenters described: He cheated on me with a guy
What the replies added2
please tell me he has to register where he lives now
I’m not sure SA-ing a child can be referred to as cheating on you WITH a child. He committed a crime against a child
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He cheated on me with a guy
My ex talking to my best friend in are relationship
my ex cheated on me with a transgender and tried to get with all my friends 🙏
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Denial and blame-shifting instead of sorryNo apology at all — just excuses, denials, or a claim the affair was somehow her fault.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Denial and blame-shifting instead of sorry
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Denial and blame-shifting instead of sorry
Appears when: Denial and blame-shifting instead of sorry
What the pattern means: No apology at all — just excuses, denials, or a claim the affair was somehow her fault.
What commenters described: “Im no better than my dad 😓” (he cheated on me)
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“Im no better than my dad 😓” (he cheated on me)
Narcissism.My current bf (of 9 years on and off) does this.His most recent “Apology” was “I’m so sorry u think I’m so selfish. I find myself very selfless. (He left me at 🏥 and took MY car) 🥲
he told me it was kinda my fault that our relationship ended over him cheating bc I looked at his phone and saw the messages 💔
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Cheapness and money games10 classified records
Cheap in creative — and shocking — waysFrom dollar-store hustling to haggling down a Rolex, cheapness got inventive.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Cheap in creative — and shocking — ways
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Cheap in creative — and shocking — ways
Appears when: Cheap in creative — and shocking — ways
What the pattern means: From dollar-store hustling to haggling down a Rolex, cheapness got inventive.
What commenters described: i have a fish allergy. he proceeded to tell me how great it is that i have one so he doesn’t have to buy expensive lobster???
What the replies added2
Saying ahhh ok ok 11k. She looked at me and I wanted to kms. This went on for like 5 mins until she walked away from him and he called her a bitch💀
theres a place and a time and he could not comprehend that
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i have a fish allergy. he proceeded to tell me how great it is that i have one so he doesn’t have to buy expensive lobster???
mine too went out on a date with this dude didn't realised he was cooked. went to Macca's and went up to the Macca's boys n asked for a ciggy and I'll give you puff! 😭 I'm like nope I'm out
he used to prioritize getting mcdonalds over FUELING HIS CAR, would CONSTANTLY beg for money for mcdonalds
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Made her pay, then complained about itHe wouldn't cover the bill but still found a way to make her feel bad about money.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Made her pay, then complained about it
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Made her pay, then complained about it
Appears when: Made her pay, then complained about it
What the pattern means: He wouldn't cover the bill but still found a way to make her feel bad about money.
What commenters described: He didn’t want to pay for my food so he said “I’m just a baby… I can pay you in blocks🥺”
What the replies added2
This is from an SNL skit…. Was he serious??? Like unironically?
It's from Broad City. The episode with Fred Armisen when Illana wants to go to the Lil Wayne concert.
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He didn’t want to pay for my food so he said “I’m just a baby… I can pay you in blocks🥺”
He declined when I offered to pay my half for dinner, only to drop me home and send me a lost of how much I owed him, saying he didn't wanna 'look bad' in front of the waiter😊
First date, we both only have one drink (a beer) he asks for separate checks. Then texts me to tell me he made it home safe and how turned on he was the whole date… blocked.
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This report keeps all 3 source records for Made her pay, then complained about it together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments3 preserved records · 3 of 3 source records accounted for
Archive: 3 index entries preserve 3 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs
Spent her gift money on himselfBirthday cash and gifts that boomeranged back to benefit him.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Spent her gift money on himself
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Spent her gift money on himself
Appears when: Spent her gift money on himself
What the pattern means: Birthday cash and gifts that boomeranged back to benefit him.
What commenters described: Instead of buying me a gift, he bought himself one during my birthday with the money I gave him to buy my gift because he was broke.
What the replies added2
Instead of buying me a gift, he bought himself one during my birthday with the money I gave him to buy my gift because he was broke.
AND THIS IS WHY I DON'T DATE BROKE GUYS
Source-record spotlights
Instead of buying me a gift, he bought himself one during my birthday with the money I gave him to buy my gift because he was broke.
My ex did this but went to the pub with the money and got me $2 perfumes and then said I was ungrateful.. bitch I gave yoi my money to get me a birthday present and you used it at the pub!!!
Idk he bought a Trasher magazine and said it was more important that my birthday gift (it was a dress for only 14$…)😭
What the counts show
This report keeps all 3 source records for Spent her gift money on himself together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments3 preserved records · 3 of 3 source records accounted for
Archive: 3 index entries preserve 3 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs
Racism and open bigotry9 classified records
Racial prejudice in dating and daily lifePreferences, questions, and asides that reduced people to their race.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Racial prejudice in dating and daily life
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Racial prejudice in dating and daily life
Appears when: Racial prejudice in dating and daily life
What the pattern means: Preferences, questions, and asides that reduced people to their race.
What commenters described: saying he didn’t like black people
What replies pushed back on3
never had a boyfriend, and i agree to disagree
As much as i like to agree with you its simply not true
all that based on stereotypes, someones skin colour doesn't determine their character that that just doesn't work biologically
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saying he didn’t like black people
Omg, one said to me that he rejected a woman cause she's Black and that's not his preference. Mind you I'm Black, too, just mixed and therefore more lightskin. He said that was OK for him. 😬
racism. that is all there is to it.
What the counts show
Within 4 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments4 preserved records · 4 of 4 source records accounted for
Archive: 4 index entries preserve 4 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs
Slurs and explicit racial hatredComments where the racism wasn't implied — it was stated outright, slur included.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Slurs and explicit racial hatred
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Slurs and explicit racial hatred
Appears when: Slurs and explicit racial hatred
What the pattern means: Comments where the racism wasn't implied — it was stated outright, slur included.
What commenters described: When he called me the N-word when he is white as paper
Source-record spotlights
When he called me the N-word when he is white as paper
He once had a crying laughing fit because he said “I hate *the n word*” I have never heard anyone laugh harder at anything ever before than he did at that
My ex said he HATED Asian people and that they’re all violent etc etc. He also said the n word with the hard r. He would also spew Donald Trump propaganda 💀
What the counts show
Within 3 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments3 preserved records · 3 of 3 source records accounted for
Archive: 3 index entries preserve 3 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs
Bigotry beyond racePrejudice that showed up as anti-LGBTQ gestures and jokes about weight and women.
Specific behavior + context + severity + why it mattered + response or safety consideration: Bigotry beyond race
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Bigotry beyond race
Appears when: Bigotry beyond race
What the pattern means: Prejudice that showed up as anti-LGBTQ gestures and jokes about weight and women.
What commenters described: He refused to walk on a rainbow crosswalk
What the replies added2
WDYM were they funny? they're not gonna be funny AT ALL if it's about race and women
Ahahah oh ja zal m’n vriend niet vertellen (niet de gast van die comment😬)
Source-record spotlights
He refused to walk on a rainbow crosswalk
Making racist jokes or weird jokes about weight and women 🥀
What the counts show
This report keeps all 2 source records for Bigotry beyond race together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof.
What commenters explicitly report
These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.
Browse the original comments2 preserved records · 2 of 2 source records accounted for
Archive: 2 index entries preserve 2 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs
How this catalog was built
Source: TikTok comments — 1 video, 8,002 comments (207 top-level, 7,795 replies)
Selected comments from the discussion
This export carries real like counts and timestamps. The first 18 are the most resonant on-topic top-level comment from each stage of the discussion, ranked by resonance within their arrival-time cohort so later arrivals are not penalised for having had less time to accumulate likes. The last 6 received no likes at all and were chosen for the specificity of what they describe.
How the discussion breaks down
Relative volume of distinct source-backed records across every reviewed category in this corpus.
Cruelty, rudeness and dismissal
42 distinct coded comment records6 normalized answers
Making himself the victim
38 distinct coded comment records4 normalized answers
Hygiene, boogers and body horror
36 distinct coded comment records6 normalized answers
Misogyny, alpha talk and period 'facts'
34 distinct coded comment records5 normalized answers
Baby talk and the 'eepy' voice
32 distinct coded comment records4 normalized answers
Try-hard performances
28 distinct coded comment records5 normalized answers
Tantrums, punching and storming off
25 distinct coded comment records4 normalized answers
Mama's boy behaviour
22 distinct coded comment records3 normalized answers
One line and it was over
22 distinct coded comment records4 normalized answers
The walk, the voice, the mannerisms
22 distinct coded comment records4 normalized answers
Control, jealousy and surveillance
16 distinct coded comment records4 normalized answers
Cheating and the theatrical apology
14 distinct coded comment records3 normalized answers
Cheapness and money games
10 distinct coded comment records3 normalized answers
Racism and open bigotry
9 distinct coded comment records3 normalized answers
The thread asked for icks. A third of it answered with red flags.
An ick is supposed to be trivial — a squeaky shoe, flip-flops, the face he makes before a kiss. But 115 of the 368 classified records do not describe a turn-off at all. They describe cheating, racism, mansplained periods, someone going through her phone on a first date, an insult landed at a funeral. The thread's own commenters kept noticing it: the running joke about the bar being in hell is doing real work.
The split is visible in the numbers. The single largest pattern is making himself the victim — crying on cue, faked hospital trips, texts sent from a mother's phone claiming surgery, and the man who never once admitted a fault was his. It is the one behaviour that shows up in every register at once, funny and frightening in the same breath.
The thread also punishes latecomers hard. The 1,057 comments posted in the first 24 hours hold 70.8% of all 3,012,839 hearts; the 4,459 posted from day four onward hold 1.1%. That is why nothing here is ranked by hearts. Of the 368 classified records, 114 arrived on day four or later and 76 carry no hearts at all — and 176 of them are replies buried under someone else's story.
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