Why Gen Z Is Drinking Less: The Economic, Social, and Digital Forces Killing Nightlife

Analysis of over 3,800 comments explores why young adults are abandoning traditional nightlife in favor of fitness clubs, cannabis seltzers, and at-home entertainment.
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Crowd-sourced reasons

The reasons people gave for Gen Z drinking less — and the ones the thread itself argued back at

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What the thread said, and what it argued about

Money is this thread's answer by a wide margin: 516 of the 1,508 records that give a reason are about the price of a drink, the cost of the whole night, or having no money before either question arises. Phones (189), weed and other substitutes (97), the camera in every pocket (96), what people say they were told about alcohol (95) and the closing of places to go (94) account for most of the rest — and 162 records exist to tell another commenter that their explanation is wrong.

What you will find
  • Money, in six different shapes — 516 records, the largest answer by a wide margin
  • The phone got there first — 189 records on what replaced going out
  • Everyone has a camera, and the mistake is permanent — 96 records
  • Weed and the other substitutes — 97 records, with the thread's own caution attached
  • What commenters say they were told about alcohol — 95 records, none of it verified here
  • The 162 records that argue every answer above is wrong
  • Why none of this is a finding about a generation, or advice
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What a night of drinking costs now516 records ¡ 6 sub-topicsThe thread's largest answer by a wide margin, arriving in six different shapes. 516 records.
The price of a drink93 index entriesThe cost of the drink itself, in the figures commenters put on it.
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Reason card naming the reason commenters gave, what they reported, and what the thread disputed about it: The price of a drink

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The price of a drink

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What the pattern means: These records do one thing: they put a number on a single drink. Seven or eight dollars for a beer, ten to twenty for a cocktail, six pounds for a pint outside London, fifteen dollars for a pint of Guinness. The figures come from different countries and different years and no two agree, but the move is consistent — commenters weigh the price of one drink against what else that money buys, several of them against food or rent.

What commenters described: I'm in my 20s currently and this is baffling to me, honestly. Beers for $3? I have a hard time finding beer at a club/bar for less than $7 or $8. Let alone cocktails lol those are easily $10+ these days. Most of all, it's the rent price that is really wild to me. I pay $770 (not counting utilities) for a 4bd 2ba and I actually think I have a good deal compared to a lot of my friends. Anything under $800 *individually* is a good price in my eyes.

Limit: Every figure here is one commenter's report of what they paid in their own city and currency, and other records in the same thread report far cheaper beer in the same period.

What the replies added3

I love craft beer, but damn its fucking expensive. Went to have 2 beers, got two 4-packs to go, totaled almost $70 after tax and tip. Like fucking hell, if my friends didn't work there and gave me free drinks all the time I'd never come back.

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drinks cost money and dating apps turned meeting people into a chore. hard to justify either when you're broke and tired

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In my 20s I lived in Allston, MA. I paid $500/month for rent in a 3 bedroom ($1,500 total). That same apartment now rents for $3,200/month, more than double what I paid. There was also deals all around town all week for food and drinks. Monday you'd get $.25 wings and cheap beer. Tuesday would be burger and a beer. Basically that shit all week. Even on the weekends it was reasonable. I was broke and I could still go out multiple times a week. I think I started at $28k a year. If my 20s were now I would be destitute. I'm with everybody not going out and staying home. It's too expensive to do almost anything.

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I love craft beer, but damn its fucking expensive. Went to have 2 beers, got two 4-packs to go, totaled almost $70 after tax and tip. Like fucking hell, if my friends didn't work there and gave me free drinks all the time I'd never come back.

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I don’t think it’s “social anxiety” as much as people want to believe. My friends and I all want to go out and do stuff. Unfortunately if you live the city a single beer can run you 15 dollars after tax and tip. Everything is too damn expensive. I stopped going out years ago when I suddenly realized I was not having 100-200 dollars worth of fun getting drunk off shitty mixed drinks.

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beers are 7+ dollars in the dive bars! everybody has a camera and you can no longer do stupid shit. the internet is more addictive than meth

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It’ll be like 3 places in the whole city. A fancy rooftop steakhouse or something.

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Cheapest vodka is like 15€ in Finland, beers are +2€ a bottle, but go for more than 5€ regularly.

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What the counts show

The exact phrase “alcohol is expensive” recurs across 10 of the 93 source records in The price of a drink; the complete archive stays available below.

93index entries
93distinct source records
18%of parent category
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65top-level comments
28replies

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0explicitly reports a benefit
3explicitly reports a limit or failure
15asks a question
0says they intend to try it
75other source context

These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings.

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It's money too, I don't want to burn 50 bucks plus tip on drinks and something to eat at a pub anymore these days. There used to be really affordable places to get a cheap tap beer and a bite to eat, but it's like min. 5 dollars now just for a small glass, even for the piss brands.♥ 35source record 33
beers are 7+ dollars in the dive bars! everybody has a camera and you can no longer do stupid shit. the internet is more addictive than meth♥ 1,437source record 146
I remember when we used to take the piss out of *the dreaded five pound pint* that existed over in London. Now it's become at least the standard around the country and now £6.50 is becoming more common in regular non-London pubs! When I started drinking in pubs a bit over ten years ago, pints were about £2.50♥ 238source record 147
Nowadays a $5 pint is a fucking steal.♥ 12source record 149
In Pulp Fiction he's amazed a milkshake costs $5, just saw a restaurant the other day that had one (with booze in it at least) that was $17♥ 17source record 150
Yeh, I now consider £6 about the norm, in Bristol.♥ 4source record 152
I'm in my 20s currently and this is baffling to me, honestly. Beers for $3? I have a hard time finding beer at a club/bar for less than $7 or $8. Let alone cocktails lol those are easily $10+ these days. Most of all, it's the rent price that is really wild to me. I pay $770 (not counting utilities) for a 4bd 2ba and I actually think I have a good deal compared to a lot of my friends. Anything under $800 *individually* is a good price in my eyes.♥ 116source record 183
There's a bowling alley near me that still has $5 lanes and $3 draft beers. I hope they hold on forever and don't go to the bowlero model where you spend $100 just on a lane and shoes.♥ 4source record 195
After college I moved to NYC for work. I still remember seeing happy hour pricing for a Guinness at $11 and cheap beer at $8-10. Forget cocktails. Thats easily $20 or more for what is mostly ice♥ 91source record 196
It takes like 40 dollars to get to get drunk off beer these days and about and about 70 for cocktails. I actually miss college beer bro 5 dollars and I got a red solo cup for the night♥ 26source record 197
Truth. It sucks now. Went to a place posing as a hole in the wall and bought a beer and burger. The beer was $8 for a local “craft” beer, and the burger was $20 without fries. There is no world in which I would’ve been able to go to a place like this in my early twenties and have a decent bite to eat with 2-3 beers. $50-$60 for one stop isn’t in the budget for most people♥ 5source record 200
It’s too expensive to go drink at a bar anymore.♥ 15source record 310
Turning 34 later this month - I banked my college career on being a good data analyst, and now AI is kind of taking over my job, so I haven't been working in 2 years. Things are... rough and the vague dates that I've been on is mostly meeting other people that also admit that things are rough. I'm lucky enough that I've paid off my student debt, but getting a drink that costs around $10 at the very least when I do random surveys for pay so that I can afford to live in my apartment? There's an easy choice there.♥ 12source record 336
Each time I see the price of beer all I can think to myself is how many other things I'd rather spend that money on, like food.♥ 188source record 358
Nightlife costs have gone up. Pub food is priced like fine dining in sydney. $15 for a pint of beer and $24 for a burger with chips.♥ 32source record 389
$18 cocktails and rent eating up 60% of everyone’s paychecks. Staying home with Netflix is free.♥ 9source record 394
Cocktails are ten dollars a piece now. Not that long ago they were $5. Now you have to choose if you want to go out every weekend or have enough money for your overpriced rent.♥ 6source record 417
The cost of it, more normalization of weed use, and the after effects of weed are way less intense than alcohol for a lot of people As for relationships, we're going on a couple of decades now into the digital era and society still needs time to figure out what that looks like, how to adjust to it, etc. But the problem is that the target is moving so quick that you can't pin it down, let alone make sense of it. So in the meantime, Gen Z and Gen Alpha are growing up with no knowledge of anything else but what they're living. Us Millennials at least had a half analog and half digital upbringing. Plus COVID hit right in some important years for the younger generations, and that certainly didn't help.♥ 6source record 420
Alcohol is expensive. Reduced social awareness and overall social skills from being chronically online. Online dating and constantly being online immensely expands and constantly shifts your social group. So it's difficult to form genuine connections.♥ 3source record 451
It costs me like $80 to get drunk at a bar.♥ 4source record 454
Alcohol is expensive, and no one has the time or energy for relationships because they work constantly to survive. Also, the instability of not having your own place means it's harder to have social events and relationships. Small apartments and places with neighbors really make it tough to be social.♥ 18source record 463
Alcohol is expensive Gen Z doesn’t have money They prefer weed♥ 3source record 481
People spent more money on alcohol because it was cheaper in bars, restaurants and clubs.♥ 6source record 675
Spending $100 at the bar in my neck of the woods used to mean an epic night or epic hangover. Now it’s called having a few beers.♥ 2source record 768
Yeah, I know kids around the age where you'd expect them to start going out, and basically none of them do. They say the same thing. A 'cheap' drink costs what an entire meal used to cost. Going out for a single beer is the same amount, even adjusted for inflation, as I spent taking my wife out to a meal. Then, you factor in that it's just much harder to approach people who have headphones on and are buried in a phone. Then, you factor in the negativity between the sexes, and the fact that you'd have to look up from your phone just to notice someone on their phone, to consider a date you cannot afford, that the internet has told you will only lead to disaster and ... yeah ... not good. I was riding in an elevator with a friend, when she pulled her phone out mid conversation and just stared blankly at it. When I asked what she was doing, she said: 'I'm just trying to be polite. I don't want these people (in the elevator) to feel like I'm looking at them'. People feel like they're being rude if they're not on their phones? We're done as a species I guess.♥ 2source record 775
It's now $15 for a pint of Guinness where I live (and it's not a real pint, only 500ml).♥ 1source record 797
> Beers for $3? I have a hard time finding beer at a club/bar for less than $7 or $8. This is also gonna be super regional. There was a brewery close to me that had $2 craft pints happy hour still in 2019. Then the price of barley went absolutely nuts during the pandemic crush + Russian invasion. It's come back down to 2019 levels now, but beer's still expensive. Weird.♥ 1source record 799
There was a bar here that got in trouble for selling 25 cent pitchers on Tuesdays. It was shitty ass beer but they also sold nice ish beer (think Sierra Nevada Pale Ale) for $7 a pitcher on those days too Now it's $7-15 for a pint here. And the $7 is the shit beer.♥ 1source record 814
I paid $18 for a mediocre margarita last weekend and almost needed a second mortgage.♥ 2source record 836
You know what pisses me off? Mocktails prices are nearly the same if not the same as cocktails♥ 2source record 844
> Going out and and being social is jusy too damn expensive these days. Man, I remember going crazy one night at the bar and waking up to a $50 bar tab thinking how the hell can anybody spend $50 on drinks? What's that now? Like 5 drinks?♥ 1source record 901
This was me the other day at the brewery. Didn’t get to $100 but still high as hell for just some beers and food for myself.♥ 1source record 915
It’ll be like 3 places in the whole city. A fancy rooftop steakhouse or something.♥ 1source record 920
This has been beaten to death I believe. Increased cost of booze (there used to be $1 drinks when I was in early university) + easy entertainment in your pocket + social media to magnify any mistakes you make + the cultural shift of making it seem creepy when people approach each other for conversations = loneliness epidemic.♥ 2source record 1142
Alcohol is quite expensive and it gets outcompeted when it comes to people’s attention. As for relationship, I don’t know. I still see young people getting into relationships all the time.♥ 2source record 1143
1. Alcohol at bars is ridiculously expensive $$$$ 2. Most (almost all) of their social interactions are online 3. They are constantly being recorded by fellow GenZ (Would you try and hit on someone if you were being recorded?)♥ 2source record 1150
Cocktails are $15 and a beer is $8. Getting drunk is a luxury we simply can't afford anymore.♥ 2source record 1165
The actual answer is that alcohol is weirdly expensive now, and Gen Z are actually pretty relaxed about what you do or don't do sexually despite broad stereotypes about "prudishness" or some random aversion to sex. I'm saying this as an actual 23-year-old in the thread, not another millennial about to say that it's because Gen Z is full of evil anti-social Puritans who hate alcohol and fun. Among our generation you're going to find one of three types of non-drinkers: those abstaining for health or religious reasons (health reasons are more common than prior generations), those abstaining purely for money reasons, and those abstaining because they just have another vice they enjoy more (weed or nicotine, usually) that eats up their "fun money". I drink pretty frequently for someone my age because I genuinely like craft beer, but I'm almost always the youngest person in a given bar. I also live in a lower cost of living area, which helps a lot. As for relationships, Gen Z on the whole is pretty chill about casual sex. A lot of people I know plan to settle down a lot later, or just don't care about settling down at all. Many are also too busy and tired from the terrible jobs the market stuck them with to really pursue relationships outside of maintaining whatever friendships they already have. I also think there's generally less judgment around NOT being sexually active on the whole--I have friends who are virgins years after the "normal" years in which people lose their virginities, and no one cares. What they do is up to them. And to be fair, there are absolutely people who are antisocial and hobbyless because they're online all day. It's just not as big of a phenomenon as some responses in this thread would imply.♥ 2source record 1173
Drinking is expensive, and third-spaces are all but dead outside of bars. It also feels like people don't have hobbies anymore; instead they just doomscroll and 'try to go viral'♥ 2source record 1176
Booze is expensive. Rent, utilities, food, etc. are too & they have to come first.♥ 2source record 1177
I’m gonna answer my personal reasons and just extrapolate that these are the reasons everyone has because I’m based like that: It’s expensive to get alcohol that doesn’t taste like piss water, and that’s money that could go to other things like necessities or hobbies. Bars don’t really offer *much* to do besides drink, watch sports, and yap, which are mostly all things we don’t need them to do. It’s difficult to get people together with work schedules and there’s less willingness to engage with random people in bars. And drunk driving is more stigmatized, and it’s no fun being the DD. As for relationships, there’s some overlap with the above. People are less willing to just engage with random people, it’s a struggle to find *time* or even energy to go out after working, and there has been a slow erosion of places in physical reality to actually meet.♥ 3source record 1191
Alcohol is expensive. Dating is expensive. Digital substitutions are cheap.♥ 2source record 1234
Kids and alcohol are too expensive, and bad for your health.♥ 2source record 1238
1. Drinking is expensive 2. Drinking is not good for you, even in small amounts, and Gen Z has been told this for their entire lives 3. Drinking is a social lubricant and is not necessary for online interactions 4. Drinking tastes awful and the resultant inebriation is only roughly as fun as a variety of less costly/disgusting drugs, like weed vaping 5. Drinking is less fun than alternative ways of spending your time♥ 2source record 1258
Have you been in a bar in a major city lately? Spending on a single draught feels like an indulgence.♥ 2source record 1288
A bar pint costs 3 or 4 times the price of a tallboy of beer in france nowadays. Don't even get me started on wine...♥ 1source record 1289
drinks cost money and dating apps turned meeting people into a chore. hard to justify either when you're broke and tired♥ 2source record 1292
Drink less because its so expensive now and fewer relationships because they drink less and dont go out to bars where the drink lowers inhibitions and there are also people to meet.♥ 2source record 1318
Alcohol is expensive. It's a luxury that they can't afford. Full stop. For years, conservative press have just said: "Of course you can't buy a house, you're wasting money on coffee and avocado toast!" Well, now we can't afford coffee and avocado toast. As for relationships? That's a consequence of not having cheap places to go on dates, or to meet people. If you're not drinking, you're not going to bars. If you can't afford to eat out or go to the theatre, "dinner and a movie" isn't a thing. For generations, people have met other people in college. But college is getting too expensive and isn't worth the money - the jobs don't pay enough to justify the expense. Even the cost of gasoline to drive to cheaper locations is tough. So people stay at home. Because that's what they can afford. This isn't rocket science.♥ 2source record 1320
Alcohol costs money and going outside is terrible♥ 2source record 1332
I think it starts with prices at bars and it trickles from there, imagine going out paying 20 for a single drink♥ 2source record 1333
Alcohol is expensive, especially at bars, and pay these days just doesn’t give anyone enough disposable income to afford it. A cocktail is $12-15, or $20+ at a hip cocktail lounge. A craft beer or hard seltzer still $8-10 unless it’s on special. Even buying that stuff at a liquor store to party at home, craft is $20+ per 12 pack and so are most vodka-based seltzers. Honestly outside of sporting events/tailgates, I don’t know anyone who drinks domestic anymore even if it is moderately affordable. Add in legal MJ where you can get sufficiently inebriated for far less cost and it’s no wonder they’re not using alcohol.♥ 1source record 1369
Im seeing these questions everywhere and they come off abit daft to me. Drinking is expensive. Relationships are expensive. Gen z is struggling with employement even harder than millenials did. I dont blame them for not doing alot of things past generations took for granted. Also they seem more health concious, so drinking might be a health choice as much as financial.♥ 2source record 1388
The price.♥ 2source record 1394
Have you seen how much a drink is?????♥ 2source record 1395
I’m 22, so I’ll give my reasons. 1) it’s expensive as hell wtf. I just want a low alcohol fruity drink and it’s like 9 dollars. It’s not even a cocktail or something. 2) We live in a surveillance state fr like even pre flock cameras, a fat guy dancing at the club was a regular thing to be made fun of. Or god forbid some glass hole comes up to annoy you 3) A good chunk of us aren’t even that social fr. I hate to say it but yeah those damn phones lol 4) Did I mention it’s expensive♥ 1source record 1433
I am millennial but it always comes down to cost. A six pack of a standard full strength here is about 20-30 bucks depending on brand. A 24 pack for a standard brand is generally about 50-70 bucks. I bought a 24 pack of a craft beer which was 94 dollars iirc. Dating? Forget it. Dinner at a pub for two is like 100-110 bucks and men are expected to pay for everything and do everything.♥ 1source record 1454
El alcohol está demasiado caro y no quieren ningún problema con las relaciones,así que no arriesgan, ni ganan ni pierden♥ 1source record 1456
Drinking less is probably because booze is expensive, fewer relationships is almost certainly because modern relationship standards can be batshit insane.♥ 1source record 1486
Money, simple answer. I’d love to be able to experience my early 20s better than what I currently am and be able to go out drinking with friends! But all the places to get a drink is expensive with a single drink alone being almost $10 and I’m having to live 3 people in a 2 bedroom apartment still scrambling for rent money and not able to find a job in the degree that I was promised would land me a job.♥ 1source record 1490
I'm a millennial who doesn't drink very much. I would ascribe it to a few reasons: * Money is a big one. Not only are things more expensive now but booze specifically is more expensive. There's also been a big shift in alcohol tastes - I was doing my drinking in high school/college 15-20 years ago, and even though it wasn't *that* long ago, the craft beer/microbrewery and wine and cocktail scenes have changed a lot. Maybe it's also just me being older, but it seems like people who DO like to drink are more about having a refined palate now, even if they're just beer drinkers, instead of drinking forties or crushing beers over beer pong. That means more expensive drinks, which means less drinking. * Culture shift around what types of booze are 'fashionable'. I think for women, cocktails especially have become even more of a thing than they were 20 years ago and for men, as I mentioned, microbrews are a bigger thing. I think this shift towards "booze for connoisseurs" has created a booze culture where you are either somebody who deliberately decides to enjoy this stuff and know about it and *get into it* or you don't and then you probably don't drink much. Or you're just an alcoholic. And as such, there's less social pressure to drink. I never really felt pressure to drink when I was in high school/college, but I also didn't have anything against it so I just did and enjoyed it - I still drink now, it's just pretty rare and I pretty much never drink alcohol at home. * Increased demonization of alcohol as a vice. When I was a kid, marijuana was the big bad thing you absolutely MUST not do. Booze was looked at as totally normal and healthy. It was extremely common for high schoolers/young people to smoke cigarettes, ESPECIALLY in Quebec (I knew a lot of French kids though I don't live in Quebec myself) but we also knew it was transgressive and not something we should be doing. I didn't smoke nor did most of my friends, and through high school it became more and more demonized (here in Ontario they instituted the total smoking ban inside restaurants/workplaces while I was in high school so there was a big shift after that). BOOZE was considered the vice that was totally fine. But I think in the 20 years since, booze has become demonized for its addictive qualities and negative health effects, especially since cigarettes have become less of a concern among the youth. And unfortunately booze has just been replaced by vaping as the "harmless" vice, along with shit like nicotine pouches etc. I think the last bit is the big thing. Youth want some thing that they can do that feels transgressive and it feels like they're not supposed to be doing it, but also is not viewed as super harmful. Booze used to be that thing - you know your parents don't want you drinking, but if you get caught it's not a big deal, it's not like you were smoking weed. Now weed is legal (here in Canada) and vaping is extremely popular with Gen Z, because it's just the replacement for *that thing you do that you feel like you're not supposed to be doing*.♥ 1source record 1494
drinking is just expensive and everyone posts everything now. one bad night on camera follows you forever, so people play it safe♥ 1source record 1499
Money. Drinks are hella expensive in London, it was the number one thing I was looking at when I made my Halloween event. Cheap drinks.♥ 1source record 1530
Have you seen the cost of beer lately? $10-12 a 6 pack.♥ 1source record 1590
Alcohol is expensive♥ 1source record 1630
Idk about anybody else but here in NZ the only cheap hobby is going for a walk, and most people are working too much to do that shit. You want a beer? 13 bucks minimum. You want to go see a movie? 24 bucks! Higher than the minimum wage. You want a better job? There aren't any!♥ 1source record 1636
Too expensive to go out and drink♥ 1source record 1714
thats easy, its primarily the sheer cost of it, what used to be an affordable night at the pub is now an expensive trip out that has to be thought carefully about, the days of a swift pint are over for many of us, also government tax greed has gone a long way to killing the trade, that combination is whats to blame, its the same with fuel prices and government taxes (uk), we look at power companies announcing billions in profits then wonder why weak governments not only do nothing about it in fact they actually seem to endorse it, the uk has become a very expensive place to live.♥ 1source record 1721
Drinking is expensive. Girls are even more expensive♥ 1source record 1724
Going out for $18 cocktails to risk ending up in someone's TikTok isn't worth the financial or social hangover.♥ 3source record 1735
$15 six-packs of decent beer.♥ 1source record 1763
Alcohol costs a ton, and you're always on camera these days meaning even minor mistakes will come back to haunt you for God knows how long.♥ 1source record 1814
Alcohol is too expensive and everything costs more. One night hookups with no commitments or obligations are easier for both parties.♥ 1source record 1832
Cheap drinks costing more than $10, sometimes $20. Lack of communities. A more health conscious generation while also learning more about the negative effects of alcohol.♥ 1source record 1834
Alcohol is expensive and they are poor.♥ 1source record 1835
Alcohol ain't cheap, and dating is even more expensive. When I was in my 20s, I could do a 2 person date date, dinner and drinks, and a movie with popcorn for <$75. Cheaper if i thought I could get away with splitting a pizza at a nice Italian joint. Same meal now would cost $100+. Movie and popcorn would be another $50. While wages have gone up since then, they haven't gone up proportionally to prices. Corporations are finding out that ever hiking prices are pricing their customers out of being customers. It'll only get worse.♥ 1source record 1871
Alcohol costs money. Going out costs money. Social media has destroyed a lot of our social relationships, and made it increasingly hard to build new ones. Basically, Gen Z is living with the negative effects of the world the Boomers and Gen X have created. A world that is more paranoid, less connected, and poorer than the ones they're grandparents lived in.♥ 1source record 1873
Why drink less? Because drinking is expensive and a luxury, so everyone besides the addicts drop it when money starts to feel tight. --- Why have fewer relationships? That's more complex, and also requires us to define what we mean by a 'relationship'. If we mean 'dating', it's largely due to the lack of third places - people are at home, at work or school, and... almost nowhere else. Those third places are where you get to see people outside of their obligations, and where most intimate relationships begin. If we mean 'being friends with humans you know in real life', then it's largely due to social media - having a bunch of online semi-stranger interactions is almost equal (from an emotional fulfillment perspective) to having a few real life friends... in the short term. But that big revolving door grab-bag of online "friends" doesn't build deeper relationships, and as people age out of a given social space they slowly get lonelier. Neither of these are helped by the rate at which people are encouraged to cut off their family now, either. That's a source of stability that has been slowly vanishing from our collective lives.♥ 1source record 1875
Drinking is expensive, and so are relationships? They're making minimum wage at their first jobs which can't even pay for a room to rent and food... I dunno how Gen Z is even alive at this point. Living is unaffordable.♥ 1source record 1882
Alcohol is expensive and similar to cigarettes the poor outcomes are known.♥ 1source record 1923
Booze and partnerships are expensive.♥ 1source record 1942
Booze is expensive and going on dates is expensive♥ 1source record 2021
Capitalism. I went out to a bar a couple of months ago. I usually drink 2-3 drinks to get a buzz and then stop and wait so I can drive home. I bought one cocktail for $14, it was probably about a shot and a half of drink, finished it in no time and it didn't even loosen me up. My friend told me to get another and I was not about to pay $50 to get a buzz going. Add addictive social media and you got a recipe for no one doing shit.♥ 1source record 2028
Alcohol is expensive, dating is exhausting, and staying home with snacks is undefeated♥ 1source record 2086
Drinking is expensive with 0 benefits. As for relationships, I feel like the older generations are telling them not to put up with bullshit, whether that's friendships or romantic relationships.♥ 1source record 2112
I don’t think it’s “social anxiety” as much as people want to believe. My friends and I all want to go out and do stuff. Unfortunately if you live the city a single beer can run you 15 dollars after tax and tip. Everything is too damn expensive. I stopped going out years ago when I suddenly realized I was not having 100-200 dollars worth of fun getting drunk off shitty mixed drinks.♥ 1source record 2202
Drinking is too expensive. Even going out for a beer or two is close to $20.♥ 1source record 2205
Good booze can be expensive. Specially in a state where government has a monopoly on it… It’s also cheaper to have no friends or few friends. Personally, I only trust my wife. Fuck everyone else.♥ 1source record 2220
As an older gen z I mostly don't drink due to costs and it tasting like shit. I don't know how anyone can say it tastes good when it tastes like death to me. I mostly stick to weed since that is legal in my state.♥ 1source record 2226
I love craft beer, but damn its fucking expensive. Went to have 2 beers, got two 4-packs to go, totaled almost $70 after tax and tip. Like fucking hell, if my friends didn't work there and gave me free drinks all the time I'd never come back.♥ 1source record 2320
Alcohol is NOT "the cheapest thing to do" lol♥ 20source record 2423
In what world is alcohol cheap on a night out♥ 30source record 2432
Cheapest vodka is like 15€ in Finland, beers are +2€ a bottle, but go for more than 5€ regularly.♥ 0source record 2456

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The whole night adds up38 index entriesCover, food and the ride home — the bill for the evening rather than for the round.
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What the pattern means: Not the round but the receipt. These commenters count entry, food, the ride home and the tip alongside the drinks and describe the total as the thing that stopped them, which is why several say the price of a beer on its own understates it. The recurring move is arithmetic: an amount that used to cover a night now covers part of one.

What commenters described: Going out and and being social is jusy too damn expensive these days. When I was 21, in the 2010s, I could get beers for $2-3, or $4-5 if I wanted craft. Cocktails were $6-8. My share of rent in a sweet 4bd 2ba apartment downtown with roommates was $800 all in. I only made $31k my first year out of college but I was able to party 5 nights a week, and still stash some cash. If I had to do it again today I could NOT replicate my 20s lifestyle if I tried.

Limit: The totals quoted here vary widely and are self-reported; one of them comes from a commenter who says they have been sober for a decade, estimating a night out they no longer take.

What the replies added3

Yup. Millenial here. Having a night out used to be taken for granted. I mean I was a *broke* ass college student and even still I could go out whenever I wanted. I can’t imagine trying to go out with the prices today.

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Going places is expensive. And man, whenever me and my buddies were broke, we'd all just meet up at someone's house/apt/dorm/whatever. My young employees barely even do *that*.

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You weren't broke if you could go out whenever you wanted

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Going out and and being social is jusy too damn expensive these days. When I was 21, in the 2010s, I could get beers for $2-3, or $4-5 if I wanted craft. Cocktails were $6-8. My share of rent in a sweet 4bd 2ba apartment downtown with roommates was $800 all in. I only made $31k my first year out of college but I was able to party 5 nights a week, and still stash some cash. If I had to do it again today I could NOT replicate my 20s lifestyle if I tried.

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Have you seen how expensive and exhausting going out is nowadays?

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but that 30 bucks is their whole night. If they wanted to go out, they've gotta pay to go wherever they're going, pay for the food there, probably pay for drinks, and the effort involved is much higher as well, and the people making less than 60k almost certainly worked their asses off for it because we don't reward hard work under capitalism, we treat it as a punishment for being poor.

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Honestly if stuff (clubs, tickets to gigs and museums, drinks, activities etc etc) were less expensive there would be way less chronically online people. A lot are because it feels like taking a breath outside costs $30 + tax. Makes me sad. I went to so many concerts last minute, cheap tickets, now you have to be in goddamn online waiting lists to have the privilege to pay $400 to stare at giant screens.♥ 12source record 142
Going out and and being social is jusy too damn expensive these days. When I was 21, in the 2010s, I could get beers for $2-3, or $4-5 if I wanted craft. Cocktails were $6-8. My share of rent in a sweet 4bd 2ba apartment downtown with roommates was $800 all in. I only made $31k my first year out of college but I was able to party 5 nights a week, and still stash some cash. If I had to do it again today I could NOT replicate my 20s lifestyle if I tried.♥ 3,769source record 155
Yup. Millenial here. Having a night out used to be taken for granted. I mean I was a *broke* ass college student and even still I could go out whenever I wanted. I can’t imagine trying to go out with the prices today.♥ 256source record 171
Ive been sober for about a decade, and I simply cant imagine a night out cost now. Smokes, drinks, party favors (if that's your jam), Uber, and entry to wherever....that's already an astronomical amount and thats just potential pregame scenario♥ 67source record 177
I’m a grown as man with a well paying job and I define question every time I go out to eat or drink significantly more than when I was a poor college student. Part of it is being a responsible adult, the other part is that now an outing that would have cost $50 costs $100.♥ 3source record 181
Dating got gamified, going out got expensive, and being drunk got a lot less fun once everyone started carrying a camera.♥ 122source record 282
I feel like it’s cheap to be on your phone. Going places is expensive. It all relates back to money again.♥ 520source record 285
As a Zillenial experiencing the worst of both worlds, I would say: A) Drinking is expensive. Hangovers are awful B) Taxi's and Ubers are expensive C) Health risks regarding drinking are common knowledge D) Cannibis is overall a better experience, but can be done alone E) Third spaces are gone. There's no compelling reason to leave your house aside from going to work. You can order everything in. You have to want to go outside. F) internet addiction G) Overall social anxiety and inability to communicate with strangers. The gap between Gen Z and Boomers is almost insurmountable if the Boomers haven't kept up with tech and lingo. The Boomers and Gen X are the ones at local bars.♥ 58source record 401
It costs $20 just to step outside these days.♥ 53source record 405
honestly it's mostly money. i know plenty of young people who would go out more if the price where like when i was younger and i'm only 35, i could get smashed on 40 dollars now its more like 200 .♥ 20source record 440
It's because back in the days people used to buy CDs and merch. Concert tickets were cheap to get more people in to spend money on merch. Nowadays streaming pays artists so little that touring has become their main source of income Clubs used to be cheaper because people spent more money on alcohol....same concept♥ 3source record 674
This is a major issue. I've never been much for gigs, but I'd be far more inclined to go if there was one near me for £30 - £40, instead of £200 - £300.♥ 1source record 716
Yeah the money part is real, one bar night costs a week of groceries, staying home is just math♥ 1source record 786
it's way more the first than the second. millenials were also chronically online and we still made it out. for gen z it's cause drinking and going out is literally becoming unaffordable.♥ 1source record 787
Yep obviously this is the primary cause of both issues. Back even 10 years ago I would occasionally spend $100 for a night out and regret it later and kick myself for spending so much. Went out for a bucks pub crawl last weekend and had spent $100+ by the second bar♥ 1source record 899
doomscrolling and watching shows at home is way cheaper than running. i planned to start running (delayed for now, have developed a bit of an overheating problem recently). a couple decent t shirts, leggings/trousers, active socks, and run shoes... that was an example, but its so expensive to do literally anything. you take the bus to roam around town and it almost feels like money is falling out of your bag with every step you take. going with friends is even worse. especially since most people meet up these days for a nice time and then we eventhally end up at a relatively expensive restaurant/coffee shop. my sister has a friend she sees about once a year and they eat at nandos together each time so thats around £15-20 per meet up, all things aside 😭♥ 1source record 994
IMO, that is a key component. It's about what options you have available to you. Going on a small road trip to visit a friend is cheaper than just going to a restaurant now a days. Edit: We'll be arguing that money doesn't but happiness, but it sure does buy time and opportunities.♥ 1source record 1006
If they were drinking somewhere, national statistics on alcohol purchases would reflect that. I’m 29 (older Gen Z), I used to drink a lot more but I’ve significantly reduced how often I go out due to cost. It’s $17-18 to get a cocktail where I live now, and a 15 min Uber ride is $40 each way, I’d rather not bother. I’m also conscious about my health & what I put in my body, so it’s not worth it. A lot of my younger friends don’t drink at all or rarely do so. It’s the older friends who drink more♥ 17source record 1026
Have you gone out for a drink lately? If you were in your 20s again, in those sort of jobs, could you? As a gen X who knows every generation until recently was able to work hard to play hard, and now there is hardly any play, I apologize profusely to the younger generations for my part in what has played out and understand heavily the happiness inversion that has taken place - ie. for the first time in history, the younger generations do not start out happy, creating a U shaped happiness chart. Today, the younger gens happiness levels is abysmal, while the oldest of us couldn't be happier having yanked up all the societal ladders on our way out. I'm pretty disgusted honestly.♥ 4source record 1136
Going out is expensive (and getting more expensive) and disposable income is low for most people. People are working themselves to death to get by - they don't have the time or money to do anything else.♥ 2source record 1202
Traditional socializing is prohibitively expensive for most people.♥ 2source record 1213
Nowadays it’s too expensive to hang out or have a date. Everything costs so much — meals, drinks, travel, even just meeting up adds up fast. With rent, bills, and daily expenses already so high, many of us just don’t have the budget left for dating or going out. It’s easier and cheaper to stay in, so a lot of people choose to do exactly that.♥ 2source record 1251
Going out is expensive. Staying in on your phone is cheap♥ 1source record 1349
Expense of going out, increased risk/cost of DUI, and legal access to THC.♥ 1source record 1359
Stepping outside has a fee of $100 bucks so then you add that everything else is $20 on top of that for each thing you can imagine why they aren’t going outside.♥ 1source record 1483
1. Drinking, eating, Uber, and Taxi's are too expensive relative to their value and how much money a young adult has access to. 2. Third spaces have been systemically destroyed as companies realize they can just funnel money straight from your living room into their accounts. 3. Rent has skyrocketed (generally). If everyone my age had cash to splurge and places to do it you'd bet a huge portion of Gen Z would be out doing stuff. Older generations can't imagine how bad it will be with Gen A, if you think Gen Z is bad. Gen A might be the first entirely digital generation.♥ 1source record 1491
If you can't afford to go out drinking then you inevitably drink less and have fewer relationships. Apps can't replace or replicate real experiences. Everyone blaming chronic anxiety from being online....yea, that's what booze in a pub or club is for.♥ 1source record 1516
Things might still be theoretically affordable in some places but a lot of people feel the squeeze. What you could afford to do thrice a month you can now do once a month if you're lucky. If you could afford a night out many times it doesn't matter much if something fell through, there's always next weekend. But nowadays it's getting difficult to organise some Friends to have them spend their once-a-month night out, getting annoying before you're even out the door. And once you're having some rather middling experiences because the movie wasn't very good or the Food was middling or whatever and halfway through your night out you imagine yourself sitting on your couch with a nice cup of tea, watching a better movie maybe.♥ 1source record 1538
The cost of going out, and everyone’s anxious and depressed.♥ 1source record 1694
Have you seen how expensive and exhausting going out is nowadays?♥ 1source record 1880
Well, I can’t speak for the first part, but people are just weird. I have the relationships I want. I don’t need a big friend group. It’s just more childish drama and more people wanting you to go out and spend money you don’t have. If more people didn’t continue to act like high schoolers 10+ years after graduating, and didn’t constant want to go out doing expensive stuff, I’d probably be more interested in finding more friends. Want to come over and hang out? Have a fire or something? Cool. Want to go to some overpriced restaurant where a dude with an overly waxed beard wants to sell me a $25-$30 burger? No thanks.♥ 1source record 1946
Money mostly. A night out can get really expensive really fast. So partying, dating, etc just isn’t as accessible I think. Also, with how easy it is to just stay inside all the time (remote work, order groceries, facetime friends, etc etc) people just aren’t connecting the same ways we did before. I say this as someone who’s happily married but struggling with bo friends after a move. Making new friends is almost impossible. It sucks man. Edit for spelling♥ 1source record 2035
Night life is so fucking expensive bro, bought a round of green tea shots for the boys and I was out $60 on my tab, that’s not even including the tip. Next time around I said f that we’re doing straight vodka shots, that was still like $30+. Then you have to close your tab and tip, followed by being responsible and paying for an uber home. After a night of bar hopping with a group I wouldn’t be shocked if I was like $300 in the hole. All that when I could rip the penjamin and play games at home with the boys? The answer is obvious to me♥ 1source record 2043
Well, going to places where I'd drink before isn't affordable anymore. I'm not one to sit at home and drink. Also dating is just gamified now and I opted out of that system because it was making my life worse and my perspective on not just the opposite sex, but all people, worse.♥ 1source record 2096
Concerts are supposed to be good cheap place for a bit of drinking and a lively social scene. Allow a monopoly to take control of that, and people can’t afford to go out every weekend anymore.♥ 1source record 2173
For drinking, beyond not being able to get a meal at Wendy's for less than $15, a night at a bar can cost over $100 with little effort. Compound that whet then seeing their parents and grandparents look like they were 60 in their late 30s, health is hopefully a factor. As far as fewer relationships, we are a selfish society where we are all now the main character, and few people want to be around that. I dont want to be an extra in your reels.♥ 1source record 2200
I think it's the inability to afford things. Even in the past 10 years I've seen a huge difference. It used to be a dinner out for a burger and fried or a simple meal was $10, a pitcher of beer was $6 and other days you could get $5 rail drinks, movies were like $7 a person, doing activities were always under $20 a person. Could have a fun night out under $50. Now you'll be lucky to get a night out under $100 if alcohol is involved at all. It's driven a lot of people (myself included) to the internet to get reasonably priced fun. Gaming with friends costs like $10 if we're getting a new game, or it's free if I've already bought the game. Going out is just too hard and expensive now when we can get those dopamine hits at home. Tack on social media where we see what a "good partner" looks like, so we discount anyone who doesn't match the preconceived image of that imaginary partner.♥ 1source record 2222
but that 30 bucks is their whole night. If they wanted to go out, they've gotta pay to go wherever they're going, pay for the food there, probably pay for drinks, and the effort involved is much higher as well, and the people making less than 60k almost certainly worked their asses off for it because we don't reward hard work under capitalism, we treat it as a punishment for being poor.♥ 0source record 2356

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Cheaper at home, so that is where they drink18 index entriesThe same drink bought at a shop, and the night moved indoors.
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Appears when: Cheaper at home, so that is where they drink

What the pattern means: The answer that says the drinking did not stop, it relocated. Commenters price a case or a bottle from a shop against the same volume in a bar, then describe pre-drinking, house parties, or simply staying in. Against the thread's own objections this group cuts both ways: it supports the cost explanation and undermines the conclusion usually drawn from it, because the spend moved rather than vanished.

What commenters described: A bar is a scam. Yes it’s a good time. It costs me $75 a case of beer in a bar vs $24 at home, not including a tip for the bartender.

Limit: This is a claim about where drinking happens, not about how much of it there is; none of these records attempt to measure the difference.

What the replies added2

You kids live in a different world. Growing up there were always parties or something happening. Word spread through the grapevine and you just showed up and met people. You didn't even have to drink, people were just social. Unless you were really weird, meeting people was absolutely normal for the vast vast majority of us

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You predrink at home, then go out. And there are (at least used to be) house parties and get together and back yard jams and beach bonfires, etc etc.

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It's also generally less expensive to do all that. I'm a millenial and not GenZ, but christ I can't go to a bar and buy one round of cocktails for my wife and I without spending at least $30 not including any tip. Maybe if I went to the cheapest dive bar in the area and just ordered a Jack & Coke I could get by cheaper, but that's not what we're interested in. If you factor in fuel costs, time cost, etc. it just gets too expensive. I can make the cocktails cheaper at home and use the saved money to buy a new board game or coop video game for us.

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It's cheaper to chill at home and drink. Less likely to get robbed or harassed. I'm not giving you 100 dollars to get a 15 dollar buzz on wtf. Tell me how house liqour thats 14 dollars for a bottle should net you 1000 dollars? Fk that.

posted about 5.9 hours after the source♥ 2
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This is for getting piss drunk wasted in your own home. Not out at a bar trying to get laid.

posted about 0.2 hours after the source♥ -5

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The exact phrase “at someones house” recurs across 3 of the 18 source records in Cheaper at home, so that is where they drink; the complete archive stays available below.

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I went out for 3 draft beer last night. 35 before tip. Fuck that. I can buy 12 for that much at the store.♥ 13source record 178
It's also generally less expensive to do all that. I'm a millenial and not GenZ, but christ I can't go to a bar and buy one round of cocktails for my wife and I without spending at least $30 not including any tip. Maybe if I went to the cheapest dive bar in the area and just ordered a Jack & Coke I could get by cheaper, but that's not what we're interested in. If you factor in fuel costs, time cost, etc. it just gets too expensive. I can make the cocktails cheaper at home and use the saved money to buy a new board game or coop video game for us.♥ 159source record 292
>Disappearance of third spaces or them getting expensive. Don't people hang out at each others' houses anymore? Sure, sometimes my friends and I would go out but most of the time was at someone's house/apartment, playing board/video/card games or watching sports/movies while ordering pizza or something...and drinking beer from a grocery store instead of paying a bunch of money to go to a bar.♥ 3source record 312
A bar is a scam. Yes it’s a good time. It costs me $75 a case of beer in a bar vs $24 at home, not including a tip for the bartender.♥ 5source record 457
Booze is fucking expensive. I say this as a Gen X with a good job. Me and the lady pregame before we go out in Manhattan like we're poors in college again.♥ 3source record 473
OK but when I was young we would buy a handle of shifty vodka and some Kool aid and have a great time at home. Why go to bars?♥ 4source record 750
This Like I'll drink when I'm at my friend's house, but going out for drinks is just too expensive when we can make cocktails for cheaper♥ 2source record 841
Even twenty years ago though we'd just go to the park and bring some 40s.♥ 2source record 843
Grab a 40 from the gas station and go to a park♥ 4source record 854
I mean we used to pick up a case of beer and drink in the woods if money was tight. Pre-gaming was a big thing too, or having one friend with an apartment if you were lucky. Just sounds like you were not poor♥ 1source record 885
For the cost of a couple drinks at a bar, I can buy a 12 pack and have a couple drinks over the next 6 weeks. For an introvert like myself, it makes going out a high bar to cross♥ 2source record 957
It's cheaper to chill at home and drink. Less likely to get robbed or harassed. I'm not giving you 100 dollars to get a 15 dollar buzz on wtf. Tell me how house liqour thats 14 dollars for a bottle should net you 1000 dollars? Fk that.♥ 2source record 1175
Buying $17 30 racks of lite beer is my thing these days. It lasts longer and less calories.♥ 1source record 2343
You rarely did the majority of your night’s drinking at the bar when you were young♥ 12source record 2439
Probably depends on your social circle, but we'd usually have parties at someone's house.♥ 10source record 2472
We would pre-drink at someone’s house and then go out. Most times the pre-drinking was the best part of the night♥ 3source record 2473
This is for getting piss drunk wasted in your own home. Not out at a bar trying to get laid.♥ -5source record 2477
You predrink at home, then go out. And there are (at least used to be) house parties and get together and back yard jams and beach bonfires, etc etc.♥ 4source record 2479

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Broke before the bar bill arrives284 index entriesThe single largest answer in the thread: rent, wages and nothing left over before a drink is even priced.
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What the pattern means: The largest group in the corpus, and the one that never reaches the bar. These records name rent, wages, hours, groceries and debt as the constraint and treat the price of a drink as a downstream detail. Many are a single word. They are separated from the drink- price records because their authors are not comparing one beer against another — they are describing having no discretionary money at all.

What commenters described: Money, chronically online resulting in crippling social anxiety.

Limit: Most of these records are very short, several are one word, so the group carries volume rather than detail and any reading of what an individual meant by “money” is inference.

What replies pushed back on5

It's the reason why therapy speak doesn't work too. Going to therapy is wonderful, but once you figure out issues in your reactions and people around you the work unfortunately starts with you. Therapy without putting in the work isn't much better than not going to therapy at all, you're eventually gonna be putting in some effort because trauma, change, and understanding don't just magically come to you because you know the term for why you feel the way you do.

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This is it, gender wars taking on an enormous share of the online world has eroded any trust the opposite sex had left in one another. It’s truly sad.

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All the replies under this basically saying 'We were broke too, you're sad' probably don't help either.

Reported failure♥ 76

Money, Economy has been in the toilet since 2008 and we all grew up with that. It’s not entirely the fault of any generation, the government bought the banks out, and made ALL of us pay for it, and we can’t afford it so that’s why we are always broke. No one can afford this inflation. It’s ridiculous but that won’t stop us we will move on :)

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My brother is fairly self assured for someone in Gen Z but his girlfriend has such high levels of social anxiety it's hard for me to even process. She complained about how a few girls were wasting time on a gym machine for 30 minutes but in that time she didn't once walk over and ask when they would be done. She had her night ruined by a couple talking through a movie right beside her but was never an option to ask them to keep it down. She won't book a table at a restaurant if you have to call them to do it. She will eat terrible food rather than complain. It honestly seems exhausting

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>Money I'd rather not work for a week instead of working for a week so that I can have fun for a day or two...

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Money, chronically online resulting in crippling social anxiety.

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It's quite difficult, honestly. I have a Master's degree and make a decent living but very much entry level for my field. I'm thankful that at least for the next several months I can still have my health insured through my parents.

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They are broke, They don't drive, They don't go out due to social anxiety, without social interaction they don't form relationships, Without those group social interactions they are less likely to consume alcohol.

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Attach it to an existing routine 3Change the sentence 3Create a default 3Swap instead of subtract 3

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Money, chronically online resulting in crippling social anxiety.♥ 13,886source record 62
1200 if you have multiple roommates maybe 😭♥ 22source record 164
Its very rare I can manage to spend less than $30 at the grocery store now, even when I go "just to pick up a few things" it ends up being at least $30, its insanity♥ 3source record 167
This. I make waaaay more money now than I did in my 20s, but I still could not afford to recreate my 20s lifestyle today. Cost of living is the main culprit here I think.♥ 5source record 201
Money, social media, gender war. No more sense of community, nobody trusts each other, everyone has astronomical expectations of their potential partners but extremely low expectations of themselves.♥ 6,695source record 204
Cost of living and the fact that someone is always recording♥ 657source record 315
I’m 23, I go on dating apps and see people post pictures of them vacationing and talking about how much they love traveling and going out, I do NOT have the energy/time/money to do that.♥ 73source record 331
money♥ 556source record 340
Turns out it’s hard to prioritize romance when rent is taking 60% of your paycheck.♥ 69source record 341
Poverty. Leaving the house is expensive now. Staying home and doing everything online is very cheap.♥ 25source record 363
Money is a big driving cause. I've also noticed that younger Gen Z are especially awkward at any social interaction.♥ 167source record 364
We're broke♥ 193source record 378
I don’t know how i would’ve been able to go to college or law school with current prices. I was living on like nothing and still having a good time.♥ 30source record 380
People were not paying 70% of their wages for rent back in the 70’s and 80’s No matter what they try to tell you. Income disparity is a huge problem in America♥ 91source record 382
yeah these replies are all chuds. “lame excuse” sister i can BARELY afford fucking FOOD so shuuuuuuuuuuuuuut the actual fuck up. and i have THREE FUCKING JOBS ETA: i’m in my 20s. i have an established career. if you’re older than 35 i don’t think i want to hear your opinions on the struggles of Gen Z sorry but i mean be serious these are SUCH different times from even just 10 years ago when you were our age.♥ 18source record 383
I'm in my 40s, you guys are fucked. I have no idea how you or my kids are going to manage to even live in the future. In my lifetime, consumer prices have risen 400%, while middle class wages haven't even increased 50%. Even if we pushed minimum wage to $15/hr all across the country, working fulltime isn't enough to afford the cheapest possible rent where I live, which is one of the cheapest places to live in the country.♥ 13source record 387
Lack of money and increasing social isolation.♥ 12source record 388
Am Gen Z. To answer the question, mostly money. For both. But for me personally, I'm pretty antisocial in general. Dating feels like a waste of time. I have trust issues. No one trusts anyone anymore. I don't even want to have sex, seems infinitely easier to just do it myself. No one is really appealing to me.♥ 31source record 390
'Can't afford it' and 'Can't afford it' would be my guess.♥ 104source record 391
Shitty economy+ phone addiction +hyperindividualistic/therapy talk/meritocratic culture+ surveillance/cringe online culture + gender war propaganda/online sensationalism/attention economy♥ 18source record 399
Money.♥ 70source record 416
Money, social media♥ 38source record 423
i literally don’t have money to leave my house. or gas to drive there or to park. or to buy a drink. it’s not worth it 😭♥ 7source record 424
Lack of money and crippling social anxiety♥ 6source record 425
money money money, everything revolves around one thing. MONEY♥ 9source record 428
Almost everything costs money. Traveling costs money, most social spaces or date locations cost money to either simply be in or to partake in activities (eating, drinking, etc), sometimes even the dating apps itself cost money to even be somewhat functional. Everything has become so inshittified that we are constantly bombarded with what are essentially IRL microtransactions all the time every day for every little thing. And it does not help that the price of these things has been steadily (and in some cases rapidly) going up alongside the costs to simply live. You are likely not going to go out to bars to be going out to places to have dates (sometimes even going on dates at all) if you can barely afford food and utilities. 20 dollars feels like it has become the new 1 dollar and that really adds up when you are making less than 27ish an hour at your job. It also doesn't help that we live in a hyper-individualistic (one might argue hyper-narcissistic) culture that prioritizes personal comfort over genuine, healthy social interactions, which was made possible both by social media and the lasting impacts of the pandemic (which if anything just sped up what was already happening before). It is not at all surprising that there's been a boom in online influencer culture of various forms (pseudo 'enlightened' online spiritualism, fad diets and other beauty/health trends, 'tradwives/husbands', personal finance), just as there has been a rise of incel and redpill manosphere ideology and these other bizarre ideologies that have infected the dating world. A lot of what is popular and garnering engagement online rn are functionally just cop-outs for actually developing as a person and taking responsibility for your own life and the role you have in the lives of others. Why put effort into your romantic relationships when you view your partner as a combination parent, servant, and sex toy that exists beneath you and whose personality, interests, and wants don't matter? Why put effort into your personality and becoming more well-rounded and healthy when you blame all your success on your appearance and a straw man of a person who is so vapid and shallow you probably would not like to date them anyway? Why take ownership over the crappy things you do to people and attempt to mend those relationships when you can just explain it away using misappropriated therapy words or random 'social theories' you stole from a tiktok comment section (and sometimes theologically incoherent spiritualism) and blame whoever is upset at you for their reaction? Why inconvenience yourself with helping a friend move, going to their birthday party, taking them to the airport, or hanging out in person when you can exist in your ultra-curated bubble where everything is in your control? Both of these things have caused a lot of arrested development across the board, but especially in young people. Who wants to deal with a person with no personality or interests beyond what they are told to like by a talking head online who views every relationship as a transaction that can be abandoned at the slightest inconvenience? Who wants to deal with sex and power-obsessed weirdos who are simultaneously extremely specific and strict on what they want, but unwilling to even do the bare minimum? And who wants to spend time going through the motions of socializing when doing so is becoming itself a luxury cost-wise? Not many people on all counts since there are a lot of posts across all of social media rightfully complaining about these same 2 things. And I do not think things will truly improve until the economy itself actually does.♥ 10source record 429
Drinking: Money. Relationships: Social media. Gen Z was raised on the current form of social media and we, as a species, weren't ready for it. Talking to people is hard, and it's always been hard, but it's also always been the only way to meet people so it was done out of necessity. With the current state of technology, young people have been raised to be anti-social because it seems easier. I'm interested to see how that plays out as Gen Z gets older.♥ 6source record 431
Money….♥ 4source record 432
No money♥ 6source record 434
If they're anything like me as a millennial, shit is too expensive and I'm working too much to try and afford to do the things that make me happy♥ 4source record 435
Money. They don't even have money to rent a place, let alone socialize in bars. Gen X here.♥ 5source record 436
Money, Economy has been in the toilet since 2008 and we all grew up with that. It’s not entirely the fault of any generation, the government bought the banks out, and made ALL of us pay for it, and we can’t afford it so that’s why we are always broke. No one can afford this inflation. It’s ridiculous but that won’t stop us we will move on :)♥ 31source record 442
cash rules everything around me♥ 5source record 452
A mix of lack of money, mental and economic burnout, and the eradication/commodification of third places that used to be common and affordable dating places. The average cost of a date in 2026 is 186 dollars. Even if you live in a state with a 15$ minimum wage that’s still over 12 hours worth of pay. That’s a week or two worth of groceries for a single person.♥ 3source record 453
"It's the economy, stupid" - James Carville♥ 3source record 458
Money Overwork Cramped living arrangements Entertainment options that can be more fun than "hanging out with other people"♥ 10source record 464
Is anyone here actually gen Z? We're all fucking BROKE, society is collapsing around us, the internet is filling us with insane ideas, the growing gender war that millenials created, we are acutely aware of our dying planet, and we are ALL depressed.♥ 8source record 468
Can't speak to the relationships, but for drinking, I think it's a combination of money, health and the fact there are more things to do compared to what millennials had growing up. I'm a millennial, on the weekend, you HAD to go and drinking was a big thing in our culture. Bars and nightclubs are where it was at. Fast forward today, nightclubbing aint what is used to be, young people can entertain themselves via video games, streaming, and you all have more interactive activities (escape rooms, VR, etc), plus you have access to all these videos and studies about how drinking is really bad for you, plus the cost, I don't think Gen Z has any incentive to get drunk. I have 4 Gen Z's in my family in their 20s now. None of them drink. Edit; Forgot to mention the fear of having your drunk self appear on social media, which wasn't even a thing when millennials were younger.♥ 3source record 470
Money + Pandemic♥ 3source record 471
Money and living in a self-inflicted surveillance state.♥ 3source record 472
WE. ARE. BROKE.♥ 3source record 477
Life in America. Lack of affordability. Capitalism crushing us like a fucking soda can.♥ 3source record 478
It's because hobbies cost money and most people are struggling to pay for the cost of being alive. It's evident because many people work second jobs, or do a gig while also working like Uber or Doordash. Most people are in fight or flight mode at all times in terms of money. People in their 20's, such as myself, can only afford to go out maybe once a month. That's also why most people become addicted to scrolling on social media, or stay in to stream netflix or whatever. It's the cheapest option to entertain.♥ 3source record 526
It’s probably a bunch of factors, but money and changing social habits are definitely big ones.♥ 2source record 659
Lack of money helps keep us online♥ 1source record 697
>Money I'd rather not work for a week instead of working for a week so that I can have fun for a day or two...♥ 1source record 706
Money is by far the driving factor. Shit costs too much and we aren't paid enough. Every day feels like a struggle to survive♥ 1source record 710
I bet the pay hasn't changed much. It's really not that the prices of things went up, that always happens, but the pay did not!♥ 2source record 779
literally. paying kids 15 bucks an hour and expecting them to go out and spend 12 bucks on a cocktail still be able to afford rent/bills. They also dont over drink as much because if they do anything stupid it doesnt become a rumor or a crazy story. Susan can pull up the exact moment you threw up, tripped over the hosts 18 year old cat while you yelled a racial slur before slamming your head on the table and passing out. Its been uploaded to Facebook 200 times and your pretty sure you didn't get that office job because Susan happened to be the cousin of the lady who interviewed you on Tuesday and you think she saw the video. Id just rather stay home.♥ 1source record 798
Lol this is in suburban NC, not the middle of nowhere. $770 per roommate (~$3100 total) and there are four of us total.♥ 1source record 805
I think one of my first apt out of college when I had my first job I was paying $750 for a 1b1ba. I just looked it up and that same apt is $1,250 with no renovations. If you want a renovated apt it’s $1500.. for a 1b1ba lmao and this isn’t in a big city or anything. That’s like almost 30% of my take home NOW and I make decent money 12 years into my career. Shits insane. No idea how anyone fresh out of college is able to do anything.♥ 1source record 816
It's quite difficult, honestly. I have a Master's degree and make a decent living but very much entry level for my field. I'm thankful that at least for the next several months I can still have my health insured through my parents.♥ 1source record 817
Us Millennials definitely had it way worse than boomers and Gen X, but y’all have it even worse than we did. Everyone I knew back in 2010 was broke because of the recession and our student loans, but the cost of living was so much lower so it worked out. Over the past decade things have just gotten ridiculously expensive, especially housing.♥ 1source record 821
What's crazy is that in 2026, I have friends with degrees who are *hoping* to get $18/hour, 17 years later♥ 2source record 838
Shit man, I'm 25 rn & there's no way I could do that lol. If I had to pay rent, I'd just be bankrupt since I don't get paid enough to do so rn.♥ 1source record 889
I go out and see my friends once every 2 or 3 years because of tight things are. Still paycheck to paycheck as an engineer with min maxed bills.♥ 1source record 890
That is one thing I needed to explain why kids are choosing the cheap route with social media vs anything else. Even with min wage I could go out on a road trip and do things. I know a few people borrowing money just to exist. school debt with medical debt and then everything is a subscription. debt debt with more debt. With Min wage I can't even afford my existence. 8/hr * 40 * 4 weeks = 1280. That doesn't even cover rent. It's too small. I have more stuff than room.♥ 1source record 893
rising prices is expected the problem is wages have not risen to match over the years♥ 1source record 895
I misread thinking you said $800 each which to me is a good deal. But collectively $800? wtf? Before I moved back home from uni it was costing me and my 3 other roomies $1100 (utilities not included) per month each.♥ 1source record 897
Lmao I graduated in the past 5 years, made under 20k at my first job out of college, paid over 1000 in rent without utilities, and barely made enough to go out once a month. Times have definitely changed and I feel a bit robbed.♥ 1source record 898
When I moved into my place over ten years ago, I remember thinking "I've never paid this much rent in my life!" Now, I refuse to move because it's insanely cheap compared to everything else. Shout out to Doug Ford for murdering rent control and ushering in the apocalypse for young professionals.♥ 1source record 902
This is bexuase your money is worth half as much and your wages barely changed. Tariffs aren't helping either.♥ 1source record 903
Same as it was with all the industries millennials "killed." No, we didn't kill anything. We just don't have any money. If you want your economy stimulated and your industry to thrive, you need customers with money.♥ 2source record 1044
It’s too expensive and Covid stunted our social skills development♥ 4source record 1118
No money, socially inept♥ 4source record 1124
Money for drinking. Relationships is a much harder and contentious one to answer so I will leave it alone.♥ 3source record 1125
No one has money.♥ 4source record 1127
Money♥ 4source record 1133
More than anything money…♥ 4source record 1134
Who has money to do any of that?♥ 2source record 1141
Shits expensive♥ 2source record 1144
The answer to every question as to why aren't people doing more of "x" is money. Everything is too expensive these days. Once we address that issue, then we're going to be doing less of the things.♥ 2source record 1146
They broke. Every generation since the boomers has been poorer than the generation that proceeded it. (Unless you're a billionaire's kid riding the top of the K economy.)♥ 2source record 1147
Common sense. Haven’t you seen the state of most relationships?! Ain’t nobody happy. Haven’t you seen the prices of everything?! We can’t afford this extra shit. Have you seen the studies about alcohol?! It’s a carcinogen in the same category as tobacco. Haven’t you seen the cameras everywhere?! Everyone gets to see you sloppy drunk now, not just hear about it. It’s literally common sense.♥ 2source record 1153
Money and fear of the opposite sex.♥ 2source record 1194
Money drives less drinking. Less drinking drives less relationships. Solved.♥ 2source record 1195
Poor♥ 2source record 1196
Everything is expensive and everything is a subscription based product designed to manipulate them into feeling insecure and spending money. They were raised with social interaction being online. And now every facet of that interaction is monetized.♥ 2source record 1198
Lack of money and everything becoming more expensive.♥ 2source record 1199
Money. Everybody is broke. Drinking is so bad for you anyway. And as for relationships, politics are more divisive than ever. It’s very hard to be in relationship when your ideals are so different. And I think it’s by design.♥ 2source record 1201
As a gen Z yall it's expensive af out there, you can't do shit unless you're fresh off a paycheck The malls have curfews for people under 18, most of us live with our parents and still have curfews even then, there's like no 3rd spaces. My friends and I have been gaming together instead because it's the only way we can get together without breaking the bank. Even the game Cafe we used to frequent was too much eventually♥ 2source record 1203
They're poor as shit and contrary to what Reddit says, FUCKING ISN'T FREE.♥ 2source record 1208
It's expensive and they don't have money for one. Secondly, everything they do is recorded nowadays, so getting drunk seems like an even worse idea than it was before.♥ 2source record 1218
Same thing that made everyone freak out when my generation (Millenials) were the ones "killing bars" and "failing to have kids fast enough to please our boomer parents": lack of recreation money, increasingly online socialization and constant anxiety about work hours/stability.♥ 2source record 1220
American quality of life for not rich people is terrible and they’re desperately trying to figure out a way to coexist with reality while having access to the fewest resources in recent history♥ 2source record 1221
Everything is obtusely expensive, no 3rd spaces, and probably more of their relationships are online (you can’t hang out with pals at a bar when they live on the opposite coast from you)♥ 2source record 1223
too expensive and i dont like anyone enough to date them♥ 2source record 1224
Nobody has any money♥ 2source record 1230
Everyone's just trying to survive.♥ 2source record 1235
Money and time♥ 2source record 1244
1. Broke. 2. Everything got more expensive. See: roof, food, utilities. 3. Planet on fire. Stressed mammals tend to breed less, even if we are not consciously aware of it. 4. Technology. Cheap dopamine and fried attention spans. Muddling through the mess of getting to know someone, and then working together through relationship challenges is less appealing than gaming, scrolling or Netflix. Standards are also higher as people are comparing with what they see on social media and wondering why their messy life doesn't compare with someone else's curated gallery of highlights. 5. Covid + isolation, combined with chronic onlineness. Many people didn't build crucial social skills at a critical time. 6. Dating has become an industry governed by algorithms and profit, not fulfilling human needs.♥ 2source record 1248
More stress, less money♥ 2source record 1249
Drinking and dates? In this economy??♥ 2source record 1253
Money and its way harder to meet new people♥ 2source record 1256
They're broke and weird.♥ 1source record 1280
Late stage capitalism.♥ 2source record 1294
They broke af♥ 2source record 1299
Money. I honestly think those things are so cost-prohibitive now (dating, alcohol, etc.) they can't really afford it.♥ 2source record 1304
Capitalism. The answer is always capitalism.♥ 2source record 1305
* It's lack of money. Everyone starting with gen X has seen their disposable income dwindle closer and closer to nothing. By the time gen X graduated high school, buying a house already required two incomes. Every generation after them lost purchase power at an accelerated rate. * It's lack of trust. Gen X were raised getting told that men were the culprit behind every social injustice. #MeToo further entrenched that. "We prefer the bear" even more. Now men don't dare approach women. Also statistics show F2F relationships have the highest DV rate. Basically, anywhere you look, relationships have become toxic and even a random date costs too much, let alone actually entering into a relationship, much even less settling down with someone. At best, people have their go-to FWB. In most cases, they just hookup with random people when they travel, and otherwise shun relationships altogether.♥ 2source record 1311
money!! and we’re too busy trying to survive by making money to start relationships. i am 23 & work 6 days a week. i don’t have the time nor the patience to go out dating. i prioritise seeing friends and family over dating.♥ 2source record 1314
Being broke and being online/isolated during covid for a damaging amount of time that the brain regressed in proper socialization skills♥ 2source record 1316
Money.♥ 2source record 1319
Money and the fact that we’re becoming more aware than ever of what we actually eat and put into our bodies.♥ 6source record 1322
Everything is more expensive. Less disposable income, less to spend on drinks.♥ 3source record 1324
Money. Also it’s easier than ever to chat to your mates without leaving you home, people probably feel less need to go out as often♥ 3source record 1325
Money, vaping, and legal access to marijuana♥ 1source record 1336
Thats true sometimes I dont like days off because it means if I have to spend money if I want to go somewhere or do almost anything on my day off♥ 1source record 1341
The cost. You know how fucking expensive addiction is? I can barely afford my Zyn habit♥ 1source record 1343
Money♥ 1source record 1350
Monies.♥ 1source record 1360
Money and people suck♥ 1source record 1361
Money♥ 1source record 1362
Money and the idea of a future that we used to imagine is so far removed from what is possible in circumstances today. Our parents raised us to imagine a now impossible dream (Work hard and be rewarded appropriately). This isn't reality anymore.♥ 1source record 1365
They don’t have good ways to make money or strong reasons to feel secure about their place in the world.♥ 1source record 1372
MONEY...♥ 2source record 1379
Money♥ 2source record 1396
Lack of money and ever present mass surveillance/social media.♥ 1source record 1405
Money♥ 1source record 1408
All of them cost money.♥ 1source record 1412
Money money money♥ 1source record 1416
Money, Covid related insularity.♥ 1source record 1427
Money.♥ 1source record 1439
Mainly money♥ 1source record 1445
Money♥ 1source record 1446
Dating cost money. Drinks cost money. Gen Z has no money. That might be it. Everything is so expensive now, I think people would rather stay home.♥ 1source record 1447
I think most people are just more focused on themselves rather than pursuing that "traditional" lifestyle and are just too broke to get out.♥ 1source record 1448
No friends, no money.♥ 1source record 1453
Nobody can afford that shit, Gen Z or otherwise.♥ 1source record 1461
Money and the fact they’ve realised drinking is really bad for you.♥ 2source record 1464
Money. Both cost a lot nowadays♥ 2source record 1467
Cost really. Also I mean how many people are going serious these days when you’re better off being casual for a little bit. I mean hell going out to eat is expensive as hell. I inevitably end up probably thinking a date is running around the park or the beach.♥ 1source record 1469
expensive♥ 1source record 1470
more awareness of how bad habits end up costing you more, and how costly it is to keep a social life. It all comes down to money♥ 1source record 1472
Every is fucking expensive. You pay your bills, you buy some food and poof, all your money gone.♥ 1source record 1485
I assume this is from the USA. In which case the answers are respectively money and money and time.♥ 1source record 1488
Money is definitely part of it when it comes to drinking, but I think a lot of young people are just more aware of the dangers and conscious of their health. Relationships largely come down to the lack of affordable social spaces and the rise of dating apps, which don't really allow you to know someone before developing interest, and actively give you reasons not to go out and meet people to date♥ 1source record 1501
Less going out and also less making babies. Mostly for the same reason though. Because people can't afford it. In the good ole days you could buy a house on a milk man's salary. The misses had the choice to stay at home or get a job herself, but she didn't have to work. Now you need 2 jobs and a sidehustle just to afford an apartment with roommates. You want an actual house? You better get a 3rd job and start selling your bodily fluids because otherwise it ain't happening.♥ 1source record 1508
They cant afford to go anywhere or do anything♥ 1source record 1521
Lack of money and social skills♥ 1source record 1526
Life is expensive.♥ 1source record 1531
money issues and alternatives like THC probably♥ 1source record 1532
Poor and neglected♥ 1source record 1533
Being broke?♥ 1source record 1536
No one has money, and dating fucking sucks.♥ 1source record 1539
broke.♥ 1source record 1540
We're broke♥ 1source record 1542
No money, living with their parents, less entry level careers available, nonstop social media, etc♥ 1source record 1545
All of this costs money. And that money goes to Roblox♥ 2source record 1553
Rent is astronomical, groceries are expensive, gas is a luxury, and jobs dont pay shit. You expect us to buy alcohol or get laid when we have to work 12 hour shifts to afford the necessities?♥ 3source record 1554
Money. Everything being posted online. Bleak outlook in regard to the future. TikTok Brain rot.♥ 1source record 1564
Late stage capitalism♥ 1source record 1567
lack of money and time♥ 1source record 1569
Being broke and being depressed, would be my theory. Oh, and anxiety. Yep. My theory. Based on observation, and the words that come out of their mouths.♥ 1source record 1570
They are broke.♥ 1source record 1572
Lack of funds and toxic masculinity?♥ 1source record 1579
They're even worse off in terms of income / cost of living than Millennials are. So theyre rejecting the expensive activities like bars and dating.♥ 1source record 1581
\- Cost of living. \- Income in real-terms declining and the expensive cost of drinking. \- Lack of time (more demanding work schedule). \- Lack of job/home security. \- People living at home for much longer. \- Living a less safe world, that puts people off wanting to have children/start a family. \- Everyone having phones when you go out. I know people accidentally make fools of themselves and it isn't helped when it's plastered over social media (or the risk is there that it will) \- Various other outlets outside of drinking (hobbies, hiking, reading, gaming etc) that don't negatively affect your health. \- With dating through apps becoming more popular, women in general have a wider selection pool to choose from. This can in theory make it more difficult for other heterosexual men. \- I do think there is an inherit obsession with getting drunk that isn't healthy in a lot of the west. \- It's less desirable. If I'm working five days a week and only get two off, do I want to spend one day drunk and the next feeling hungover so that I then go back to work not feeling rested?♥ 1source record 1582
poverty and humans suck♥ 1source record 1583
i ain’t gon lie if i was younger and starting out shit too damn expensive lol♥ 1source record 1585
being poor♥ 1source record 1607
money. drinking and relationships cost money. drinking and relationships also have really high financial risks attached to them. no one with a brain can honestly afford to take them.♥ 1source record 1609
Money and digital dating.♥ 1source record 1633
Brokeness mostly♥ 1source record 1638
Both are expensive♥ 1source record 1650
Poor♥ 1source record 1665
Money.♥ 1source record 1677
MONEY♥ 1source record 1678
No money. The dudes are all gambling and all the girls don’t want anything serious anyway. Plus social media has alot to do with it.♥ 1source record 1679
I dont enough money. I have no in real life social webm i will die alone after riding a 2 seater bike solo for decades♥ 1source record 1680
affordability♥ 1source record 1690
Money♥ 1source record 1692
Cost of living, car centric infrastructure, corporations taking over and monetizing third-spaces, work culture (if you can even get a job) demands long hours and poor pay, existential dread about the state of the world. All of this culminates in a generation that is disaffected, burnt out and jaded, so often times they stick to their few safe friends or remain alone.♥ 1source record 1711
Lack of money♥ 1source record 1718
tbh everything costs too much now, hard to date when youre broke and burnt out♥ 1source record 1720
money♥ 1source record 1722
Money, every activity u want to do with ur friends costs more and more these days. So most folks just sit at home bored doom scrolling which leads to even fewer social interactions.♥ 2source record 1736
Lack of money and third places.♥ 1source record 1742
Cost. It’s low grade poison that even if managed properly still leads to crippling damage to your body finances and family. They don’t have extra time and money and aren’t looking to unwind and lose control. Past generations has stable boring jobs and they wanted excitement and thrills to spice up their lives. GenZ came of age during school shooters and was told getting gunned down at random was the new normal. That injects a huge amount of chaos and stress by taking away control of their own safety. So they seal out stability safety and control. Same with the pandemic. The country bungling the response, and being guided by a narcissistic moron who would rather stop counting bodies than do whatever was medically necessary. No faith in institutions, to provide safety, they have no safe space to let lose, so they don’t. Alcohol is the exact opposite of what they’re looking for. It’s dangerous, it’s volatile, it removes control and threatens their financial and physical wellbeing.♥ 1source record 1752
capitalism♥ 1source record 1753
Being the first generation to grow up under a climate of basically nonstop financial strain & instability and social atomization. It ain’t allat deep lil bro.♥ 1source record 1758
Both stem from the same issues; Gen Z is priced out of any kind of relationship and the internet ruined connections for us. We are the most sober generation, but I'm betting that at least half of the reason is because Gen Z can't afford it nor have the social skills to be in a designated drinking environment, because the parties that do happen have a lot of young people drinking.♥ 1source record 1766
Cost is huge factor. Not remotely the only reason, but definitely a major one. I think social media is the other major aspect. And that cuts two ways. One, a lot of people are buried in their phones (he posted from his iPhone). A lot of people”social lives” are done vicariously through an app. Two, everything is public now, and I think a lot of people are scared, rightfully so, of being recorded being not-at-their-best. It’s that clip of the Jesus-looking guy talking about how “no one dances anymore”. How many videos have you seen of someone innocent and well-meaning doing something embarrassing at a bar? Or three seconds of a five minute interaction that looks horrible with no context? No one wants to be the guy that goes viral for a bad reason.♥ 1source record 1775
Money and time. Also, while young people drink less, i wonder if they smoke more weed, do more adderal, etc. IE they aren't necessarily sober, they just have found cheaper, less hangover-producing substances to unwind on. RE relationships, some of that is money and time, and the lack of drinking. When I was 20, a basic job let you drink ten beers every weekend, hang around a house party aimlessly, and maybe meet a woman who you can befirend. People like to punch down on younger folk, but I don't envy the world they were born into. Difficult.♥ 1source record 1785
Hardship and bad economy♥ 1source record 1796
Too expensive.♥ 1source record 1801
#MONEY which also means you’re using all your time trying to get some because the basics are so expensive♥ 1source record 1808
Money♥ 1source record 1817
Costs♥ 1source record 1820
Nobody can afford anything lmao♥ 1source record 1827
its a simple answer really, we are broke. its the same reason birth rates are declining. do you have any idea how badly you need to abuse a mammal to make them not reproduce?♥ 1source record 1842
Money, at least for me. Bottle of cheap vodka is $10, that'll last me a month maybe more especially if I take a couple shots on an empty stomach, depends on how much I want to drink. As for relationships a date is how much these days? I don't know the exact numbers but whatever that is its too much for me. (Its not like I had a chance anyway).♥ 1source record 1845
Cost, accessible HD porn, wanking, fatalistic world view and a sheep mentality. It's cool, all my mates are doing it...♥ 1source record 1851
Probably a mix of high costs, burnout, online life replacing real connections, and realizing hangovers aren’t worth it anymore.♥ 1source record 1852
I think it's a direct result of decades of wage stagnation vs inflation. Nothing is affordable anymore, so there's no spare money. It's cheaper to stay home, be in front of a screen for your need for relationships, and avoid spending money on anything you don't need.♥ 1source record 1856
Money. I know it's been mentioned a few times already, but as a millennial with some Gen Z friends, it's money. They're spending a ton of their time working (which already limits what they can do) and still not making enough to enjoy themselves when they are free.♥ 1source record 1861
Economics.♥ 1source record 1863
The economization of every segment in life.♥ 1source record 1864
Poverty♥ 1source record 1866
I'm a Xennial and if I weren't married already, I probably would never get married. My plan was to partner up with a friend for financial purposes and ride out whatever the fuck was left of my life. I don't own any assets. I have a savings because my husband had one when I married him. But all that's to say that... there's just no fucking reason. I'm not *that* old but I'm old enough to say that things have gotten worse for anyone who isn't already riding some high financial wave. Back in the 90s, I knew tweakers who were able to commit to enough work to afford a studio apartment. Not only that, even if they fucked something up, they were able to scape themselves off the ground and do it again. Now, I know educated people who've kept their chin's clean all their lives, make decent money and can barely afford rent let alone buy a house live one paycheck/hardship away from being on the street. There's just no incentive to play this game and Gen Z was born with their eyes wide open to this shit. All of us who are older (but not in the best of life positions) witnessed it all go from "okay, I can do this til I die" to "okay there's no hope what so ever." People who did everything "right" are getting fucked over by the current iteration of the capitalist system. Who wants to get into a relationship and start a family under those conditions? You fucking kidding me?♥ 1source record 1872
Probably a mix of money, social media, and people just going out less. Hard to date or drink at bars when everything costs a fortune and half your social life is online.♥ 1source record 1878
Money, polarisation and narcissism♥ 1source record 1884
Bumper sticker: It’s the Paychecks, Stupid.♥ 1source record 1886
They're fucking broke.♥ 1source record 1890
Less money.♥ 1source record 1895
A few reasons I say as a genz. As a dude, I barely have the money to afford food and to do things for myself right now. As long as I'm expected to foot the bill for dates (at least in the early stages), there's not much I can do without never or rarely going out with my existing friends. Another thing I've seen with friends more so than myself is that people are scared to define something as a relationship. People will be in a "situation" that 10 years ago would have been defined as dating/together for weeks or months before they finally put a formal label on it. So you end up with all these GenZs who have had plenty of short-term relationships but will say they haven't dated anyone in years because they call it a situationship, regardless of how exclusive or serious it was, or they've been with their partner for a year but will say it's only been 3-6 months because they took so long to give it a label.♥ 1source record 1897
Bunch of broke nerds.♥ 1source record 1900
Money it’s Pretty obvious♥ 1source record 1914
They can't afford to go out and have fun or meet people.♥ 1source record 1915
I say this as an old AF Gen Z person from my perspective (born in 97): Money and no real sense of community except for some online echo chambers. At the end of the day, life is expensive and majority of us don't make a lot. As shallow and harsh as it is to say, it all comes back to money IMHO. I'm really hoping I'm wrong here. Feel free to correct me. Please.♥ 1source record 1919
"it's the economy stupid" as true now as it was then♥ 1source record 1934
Not sure how this is always such a mystery. They're broke.♥ 1source record 1938
My rent is up 1500% versus what I paid in my 20s and drinks are probably 3x as expensive.♥ 1source record 1944
Costs have shaped social lifestyles♥ 1source record 1945
Money♥ 1source record 1947
For the alcohol -- money, and the cheap availability of weed For the dating, largely an unintended after effect of metoo tearing apart the norms and scripts and rituals that handled courtship, and creating a cynicism around gender dynamics that primes people to interpret things the worst way, while also giving people handheld surveillance devices that keeps people from taking social risks. Basically, our brains already jump to self protection mode, which is why we need lots of intervening culture to ease tensions and anxieties to get people to bond and subsequently mate. If you destroy those cultural technologies and replace them with machines that only amplify those defensive tendencies, what you're left with is a culture with disconnected alienation.♥ 1source record 1952
We. Can't. Afford. It.♥ 1source record 1953
Who can afford either these days?♥ 1source record 1959
First and foremost it is money, every thing is a distant second and frankly not worth discussing. The secondary things are all distractions and related to or symptomatic of the primary issue, which is money. If you can't afford to go out because it is too costly and you can't make enough money, you don't go out.♥ 1source record 1965
No spare money♥ 1source record 1967
Money... more accurately the lack there of♥ 1source record 1972
Money and lack of free time, which go hand-in-hand. probably a bit of decreased human interaction too thanks to cell phones and the internet stunting social skills. Also, not to be shallow, but most of the country is fat, and physical attraction is still a big part of dating. It wouldn't surprise me if that played a big role♥ 1source record 1973
Costs being higher and higher every year are partly to blame. A growing sense of foreboding and dread for the future of our planet and civilization probably doesn't help either.♥ 1source record 1974
Have you seen how much stuff costs these days?♥ 1source record 1975
Less money and free time.♥ 1source record 1976
poverty.♥ 1source record 1996
Social issues relating to cash and online interactions♥ 1source record 1997
Life sucks lmao. We’re too busy trying not to be broke♥ 1source record 2000
They either don't have any money to spend or any time to spare. Sometimes both.♥ 1source record 2004
Money (lack of it, that is) and social media.♥ 1source record 2005
Money, weed, dating apps being predatory and unbalanced, social media, and disappearing cheap third spaces for that purpose.♥ 1source record 2007
Money, they’ve seen what it does and grew up around it, and social anxiety because everyone records everything and puts it online.♥ 1source record 2015
Money♥ 1source record 2022
Money. They're more fiscally conservative. They have taken all the advice the boomers gave them and responded to all the criticism they watched the millennials go through. So many gen Z I know have been very focused on getting financial security first, through any mean necessary. The thing is they have harder conditions and less money to.work.with so they've cut back heavily on anything they can. They're preparing hopefully to make their life work after they've gotten the bag. They're planning to have fun in their 30's and I think that's also kind of a biproduct of Millennials building most culture today, and because of their.economic conditions, only built their culture in their 30's too. So they aspire to that being the prime of their lives♥ 1source record 2024
Wage slavery and social isolation probably♥ 1source record 2025
Money. The work to money ratio makes discretionary spending less appealing. They've given up on owning a house because they've been priced out of the market before they decided on a career. It's a bleak future when they are fed luxury through reels but can't possibly attain that level of success.♥ 1source record 2026
Money, systematic destruction of third spaces which leads to meeting people less and going online for their third spaces, which makes the meeting of people in real life that more anxiety inducing, and weed being legalized so drinking seems less fun when they're in their formative years.♥ 1source record 2040
Used to work in the alcohol industry. The three drivers that were regularly identified were financial(we were a mid to upper tier supplier), desire for a more healthy lifestyle, and post covid reduction in social events and parties.♥ 1source record 2041
cost of living♥ 1source record 2042
Cost, duh.♥ 1source record 2049
Money, and LOTS of Gen Z men are into alpha chud bullshit which puts Gen Z women off them♥ 1source record 2051
What’s really doing it is money and the internet. Guys are told to pay and be a gentleman and even women are guilty of posting videos like if your man ain’t doing x then you need a better man yet in this economy it’s extremely difficult to have any extra spending money and they think it would be better to use porn and be alone and save money. Also harder to move out these days leaving a lot of people living with parents making it hard to go for a girl because why wouldn’t she just go with someone who has their own place kinda deal. Mix that with what the internet has done to young minds and unrealistic standards and looks. I also think kids are a lot more health conscious and drinking is purely a negative for your body and it fucking sucks to be hung over. I feel a lot have switched it out for weed which causes even more anxiety in people.♥ 1source record 2053
Less free time and money.♥ 1source record 2054
Can’t afford alcohol or is too young to drink, and fewer relationships because outside of school and work there are very few places to go in person that don’t charge money- and even those that don’t take gas to drive to.♥ 1source record 2055
Money?♥ 1source record 2059
We are all broke and also getting drunk suuuucks and guys can be creepy (not saying all guys)♥ 1source record 2065
Shareholder capitalism♥ 1source record 2067
I work 40 hours a week, live in the cheapest studio apartment I can find, amd have about a hundred bucks left at the end of each month after expenses. Drinking is a rich man's game.♥ 1source record 2092
No money♥ 1source record 2094
Money♥ 1source record 2097
Like the top comment said, money and chronically online. As a Gen Z 20 year old myself, I understand this a ton. Plus the fact more than half of guys or gals my age don’t have their drivers license is insane, I’ve had my license for 2 years now and I couldn’t wait to get it, and as far as the drinking goes, I’d say we know the negative side effects of it and choose to stay away or it can be just money things♥ 1source record 2101
1. Lack of money 2. Grew up hanging out with friends “remotely.” They’re perfectly fine and happy staying home, but FaceTiming or snapping their friends. Hell, teenagers don’t even obtain a drivers license at the same rate we did.♥ 1source record 2108
Money, stress, unpredictable future, bad government, bad healthcare♥ 1source record 2111
Can't afford shit♥ 1source record 2113
they brokies 😂♥ 1source record 2122
Lack of funds!♥ 1source record 2124
Ive been through what 4 recessions now? and now there's no more entry level jobs anywhere? I have in real time seen prices increase to more than triple? Gas hit like 200 cents here in Canada last month like what do people expect.♥ 1source record 2127
~~$$$$~~♥ 1source record 2128
No money. Everything costs too much money and they have none.♥ 1source record 2134
A lack of money and interest/skill in IRL interactions. The former is often not their fault, the latter almost always is.♥ 1source record 2149
They are broke, They don't drive, They don't go out due to social anxiety, without social interaction they don't form relationships, Without those group social interactions they are less likely to consume alcohol.♥ -1source record 2168
Probably a mix of rising costs, mental health awareness, and being more comfortable alone.♥ 1source record 2172
Money, social media, ready entertainment at home.♥ 1source record 2174
Economic uncertainty and video cameras in everyone's pockets. You can't afford to drink and don't want to be on someone's TikTok feed making an ass out of yourself at the bar or shamed online for taking a risky shot asking out someone they think is out of their league.♥ 1source record 2178
The economy is collapsing before us♥ 1source record 2180
Money, working Minwage and having to do 40-50 hours a week just to rent a room in a HMO will put the dampners on relationships and means they can't afford to go out drinking.♥ 1source record 2181
Economy, people not liking people anymore, etc♥ 1source record 2188
Choose: lack of money or lack of affordable and appropriate housing or lack of jobs you can live on or all three.♥ 1source record 2189
no $. no jobs. no free public spaces and time to be bored with strangers♥ 1source record 2203
Money I guess♥ 1source record 2229
Less money, chronic social media use and the standards that come with it, hypergamy, fear of rejection/humiliation, etc.♥ 1source record 2232
Poverty.♥ 1source record 2233
Broke and hopeless isn't a good combo.♥ 1source record 2234
Money.♥ 1source record 2237
money and cannabis♥ 1source record 2239
It costs money to drink, today a shot can be $7+, the general staple of starting a relationship is taking a girl out to eat, meanwhile today a sandwich that was $3 a while ago is now $10+. Social expectations aren't keeping up with the rising costs, I.e you need a car and your own place solo which isnt attainable to young people. social media isn't helping as the people giving dating advice give shitty dating advice that only invites playboys/golddiggers/abusers and then tell you that you either did it wrong or it wasn't your fault but the shitty wo/men and you should buy their course to fix it. Social interactions are largely moved online as well as young people have been increasingly unwelcome in public for the past couple decades(teens weren't allowed to loiter anywhere in my town when I was in high school and getting a job was entirely who you know if you didn't know anyone, no job, so you barely saw teens working) and were getting priced out of public activity as well meanwhile a somewhat free and easier alternative showed up. Covid also came as the best years for young adults to meet people and partner up ended up getting skipped for a lot of people. We also live in a camera society, if you drunk and get fucked up you gonna end up on world star or whatever is popular these days.♥ 1source record 2259
Who's house is anyone going to party at? No one owns houses, everyone lives in apartments or with their parents♥ 45source record 2418
At this point a bunch of us gen Zs are approaching middle age. When my wife and I go out or anything the people we end up sitting next to and talking to are always 45+. I really think that most people my age cant afford a 200-300 bar/restarsunt tab every week and would get evicted by their land lord in the event of a house party.♥ 3source record 2419
Were college graduates broke in the 1960’s 1970’s and 80’s? I think not. They were doing very well. College costing tons a significant amount of their parents ‘s salaries? No college in 1985-1990 cost $8500 a year, now it costs 26,000!!! Were people using 70% of their salaries on rent? No they were using 40% So I Bullshit. Also almost always until about 1980 Only dads worked full time and on one income everything was fairly affordable. Not anymore. Two salaries barely can make it work♥ 6source record 2422
Not in a college town. Cant do that anymore these days. Now college towns all use and have separate leases per kid. They rent per room in apartments now. My 2 college kids each have to pay $860 per Month per room in a 4 BR apartment. They have 2 roommates. All 4 pay $860 a Month for an apartment. It is a joke. All the property owners and renters in the college towns do this. It is the biggest scam going. Forget the days when you could cram 6-8 roommates in a house and pay $900 a month rent.♥ 6source record 2459
My gen z daughter just turned 21. She does the typical things you’d expect of a 21 year old with the exception of still living at home. The college she attends doesn’t have dorms, and she can’t afford anywhere on her own even though she works making $17 an hour. She could probably live with roommates, but there hasn’t been anyone that she’s known whom it would be an option with. Hopefully once she finishes her degree she will be able to move out within a year. She’s becoming a dental hygienist. My 14 year old is different. I’m not sure how that’s going to look in young adulthood. We shall see♥ 0source record 2470
Money, and a lack of emotional intelligence from women. People don't have the funds to go out anymore. This combined with women having unreasonable / unrealistic dating expectations is causing a huge wedge in society.♥ 0source record 2471
I understand what you are saying, and agree on outlook and its effects, making the most out of things, etc. But we aren't discussing that, we are discussing the very specific fact that Gen-Z socializes less due to monetary issues. Leaving your domicile in any capacity and doing anything that isn't virtual costs money, and usually at a premium to boot. And everyone in positions of authority very righteously proclaim that we are broke because we aren't saving enough or living frugally enough. But the reality is that everything has increased exponentially in price, even needs like groceries, rent, and gas. This is countered by, "well in my day, we'd still just go to house parties". Affordable and easy, right? Countered again by the very real fact that no one throws house parties because they don't *have* houses, you know, those things you have house parties at. I'm not saying that socializing doesn't take effort, it certainly does and I certainly put that effort in. I love hanging out with my friends. What I'm saying is that the quick and easy excuses of older generations are no longer applicable, the game has completely changed for better or worse. House parties aren't even on the table anymore, much like many of the "go-to's" of the previous generations. I'd like to think I know a fair amount of people, but I can't think of the last time someone in my city had an actual house party. It's part of a bygone era. You had cool parents? That's rad man, the rest of us don't. Police don't get called on you for noise? Awesome brother, the rest of us have shit neighbors♥ 2source record 2498
This is an ignorant/idiotic take nobody can afford anything these days. 2 jobs isnt enough to provide food and a roof for alot of people.♥ 2source record 2511

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What commenters described: Thiiiss. I remember is 2006 my bachelor was $300/mo. And not a complete shithole. A pack of smokes was like $7 at best, and drinks were cheap. Going out to eat was like $20 max for two people. You could strategically buy $70 worth of groceries and have a plentiful two weeks worth of food. Now going out for breakfast is $50 for two a minimum, one drink is $15 at the bar, I think a pack pf smokes is like $20 here, $70 worth of groceries is like 5 mins of food... rent is at least $1200 for something decent, and never mind extras....

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I was at a music festival last year, held in a university building. One of the nearby student pubs opened for us to get drinks during, and when it was my turn for a round I was sure they'd misheard and only charged me for the one pint! Nope, student union prices for the festival as well.

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In my 20s I lived in Allston, MA. I paid $500/month for rent in a 3 bedroom ($1,500 total). That same apartment now rents for $3,200/month, more than double what I paid. There was also deals all around town all week for food and drinks. Monday you'd get $.25 wings and cheap beer. Tuesday would be burger and a beer. Basically that shit all week. Even on the weekends it was reasonable. I was broke and I could still go out multiple times a week. I think I started at $28k a year. If my 20s were now I would be destitute. I'm with everybody not going out and staying home. It's too expensive to do almost anything.

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Thiiiss. I remember is 2006 my bachelor was $300/mo. And not a complete shithole. A pack of smokes was like $7 at best, and drinks were cheap. Going out to eat was like $20 max for two people. You could strategically buy $70 worth of groceries and have a plentiful two weeks worth of food. Now going out for breakfast is $50 for two a minimum, one drink is $15 at the bar, I think a pack pf smokes is like $20 here, $70 worth of groceries is like 5 mins of food... rent is at least $1200 for something decent, and never mind extras....

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When I studied abroad in Edinburgh in 2005, 2.70 would get you a cider and blackcurrant at the bar above the student dining house

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Back in 2019, my team and I were filming a spot in Mt. Tremblant. One of the PAs said he was looking for a new place, but refused to pay more than $400/mo. Being from Toronto, we almost killed him to sacrifice him to the rental gods.

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At my college back in the early 00s, there was an on campus bar that had nickel nights which was any beer or bottom shelf cocktail for a nickel. You could go buy a round for a table for less than $5 with tip. Good luck finding that now.♥ 7source record 151
Thiiiss. I remember is 2006 my bachelor was $300/mo. And not a complete shithole. A pack of smokes was like $7 at best, and drinks were cheap. Going out to eat was like $20 max for two people. You could strategically buy $70 worth of groceries and have a plentiful two weeks worth of food. Now going out for breakfast is $50 for two a minimum, one drink is $15 at the bar, I think a pack pf smokes is like $20 here, $70 worth of groceries is like 5 mins of food... rent is at least $1200 for something decent, and never mind extras....♥ 1,094source record 156
I remember this time very well, I was in my second year of Uni. I worked on the weekends and was in class during the week, but could make like $250-$350 in a weekend doing roofing with complete degenerates - but that was a *ballin'* amount of cash back then. Today, that would barely get me gasoline for the week.♥ 268source record 157
I was 19 the summer of '06 and on my own, and tbh i never once was afraid of not making it... Edit: im almost 40 now, well established career, and living within our means. But no savings, no safety net, just making it. Its strange.♥ 118source record 158
I just started Uni that year at the age of 22. We lived in a complete crack house in our second year, I had two roommates and we spent $600 a month all-in ($200 each) but man, we made the best of it and had an absolute blast. Fond memories. Edit: That crack house and surrounding neighbourhood is now a row of student-rental towers due to it's proximity to the University.♥ 34source record 159
I worked at Domino’s as a delivery driver through college. Shit job but I walked away each night with $60-70 cash in pocket minimum. Up to $200 on a good night. Go to the nearby dive after and drop $40 for a fun night.♥ 5source record 161
I ran the numbers on my 2010 pad and life and it was like $950/month living alone in a decent area but a small studio. I was pulling around $1300 after taxes for a low skilled full time job. That meant my life cost me only 66% of my income. Gen Z is NOT angry enough IMO, even with the whole setting warehouses on fire live stream stuff they seem to be doing.♥ 3source record 170
Crazy because literally 12 years ago, I was partying really hard and I could have a great night for $30-40 with substances. Now my wife and I go out for a chill breakfast and spend more than that. Crazy♥ 112source record 172
It was wild. We were in the throes of the recession in 2009 but still able to afford booze and feed ourselves lol. Things were significantly cheaper.♥ 3source record 179
Man I remember multiple bars had things like $2-you-call-it deals where $20 could get you a fun night and a slice of pizza afterwards. They would be absolutely packed with 20 somethings.♥ 3source record 182
$1 beer and $2 “you call it” shots used to be a thing. Good old glory days of cheap drinking♥ 74source record 184
Remember 25 cent draft nights? Omg...yikes♥ 33source record 185
And 25¢ wing nights. You could get a full belly and a good buzz for $10. That gets you one beer now.♥ 35source record 186
BWW Tuesday special used to be 20 cents lol I vividly remember 5 for $1 that my group of 4-5 dudes would annihilate on a weekly basis♥ 7source record 187
My 21st birthday, I went to a bar with 25 cent pints and $3 Jagerbombs. I got sloshed and left a generous tip with a single $20 bill.♥ 4source record 188
We had nickel nights at college in the early 00s.♥ 3source record 190
I lived in Austin in my 20s. $1 bottles of beer, 25 cent shots, $5 liquor pitchers -- $20 was plenty to get a buzz on AND leave a tip. I didn't live in fancy places, but my 1BR apartment in 2012 was $795 a month.♥ 32source record 191
The "9 dollar beer night" joke from 40 Year Old Virgin doesn't quite stick the landing these days.♥ 6source record 192
When I was in college 20-25 years ago we had 10c beer night, 10$ all you can drink domestic taps, and 15$ all you can drink taps/rail mixers all on different nights of the week.♥ 4source record 193
My favorite bar in college/freshly graduated had $3 miller high life and $8 pint glasses of long island iced tea. I'm sure they had other drinks, but that's pretty much what I got there - the long island would last from 10-11ish and I was properly drunk until around 12/1, when I would get my high life to finish out the night. So a full night out was like $11, plus the $3 giant slice of pizza I would inevitably get on my way home from our favorite pizza place (RIP Bravo). Yes, it was a dive and yes, I could have easily gone out and gotten much more expensive drinks, but the point is that places like this existed, even in a super expensive drinking city like Boston. The other night I paid $6 for a bud light in a dive bar, and I'm still offended by it.♥ 4source record 194
Hell, I graduated high school in 2015. Immediately got a job paying $20 an hour with a ton of OT available. I had a one bedroom house I rented with off street parking for $875 a month with my girlfriend at the time. I would work 10-12 hours a day. Go out drinking and partying with my coworkers or friend similarly to you. And just like you I also had money left over to spend on myself, my girlfriend and to save as well. Absolutely cannot find a place that nice for that price anymore. Especially with off street parking and not being attached to any neighbors. Luckily I was one of the oldest Gen Z. Born in 1997 but grew up very much millennial and lucked out into a job that paid really well at the time right out of high school. Only a year after being at that job I was up to $23 an hour and working at least 10 hours OT a week.♥ 31source record 199
Yep. I lived in a shithole apartment in East Williamsburg in 2011 (when it was already over hyped and expensive) making less than 40k but you could still get beers for 2 bucks at places and there was always an art opening or event somewhere in the city with an open bar. I wasn't living the high life but I had a great social life. Now everything's cripplingly expensive and you're expected to work 24/7.♥ 3source record 202
$1 rolling rocks, $1 slices of pizza and $2 well shots. $30 and you were set for the night with a good tip♥ 3source record 203
Hey I'm 37 and you're gonna get my opinion. I remember my 20s and how absolutely everything was more expensive now than 37 year olds talked about to me. Why the hell wouldn't I believe it's kept getting worse for the next 20 something?♥ 14source record 384
20 cent wing Tuesdays, 30 cent leg Wednesdays, and $2.75 for a 23oz domestic beer on those days. I got really fat from early 2000s BWWs!♥ 3source record 739
We didn’t know what we had at the time.. should’ve eaten more wings! lol♥ 3source record 740
I was doing my part.♥ 2source record 741
Happy hours were cheap and had free food♥ 3source record 742
In 2005-2010 in New York, hell yeah. We would get free pizza while drinking $2-$4 beers. And my friend knew of a website that listed where liquor brands were doing promos and you could drink for free. We had very little money and made it work in an expensive city. That just might not be possible anymore.♥ 2source record 743
When i was about 21ish, my two bedroom apartment was $825/mo. Parking, balcony, nice quiet area, free laundry on every floor, elevator, clean af,was gorgeous and massive. This was about 2008. I had a roommate, and we each worked basic jobs. Like she worked at subway part-time, and i worked in a kitchen at an athletic center ft. 2008 was an absolute shit show of substance abuse and drinking. But rent was always covered, food in the fridge, and fun a plenty. Id live in that building again in a heartbeat. I think rent is likely around 2k now for that suite♥ 5source record 745
Depends on when he was in his 20s. In the 90s, my 2BR apartment (half of a duplex) was $440 (total, not per bedroom, I lived by myself) plus utilities. $1 domestic bottles was a common special, but $1 draft was certainly normal daily prices at a lot of places. I don't know what a "liquor pitcher" is, you definitely could not buy a pitcher of liquor for $5.♥ 5source record 746
It wasn’t even that long ago, those were typical prices when I was in college at UT in Austin between 2011-2015. I remember going to Shakespeare’s on dirty 6th and getting amazing and lethal giant pints of long island ice teas for $5♥ 3source record 747
Sub-$1k apartments definitely existed, mostly pre-2010 though. Although in 2013 I was renting a 2br apartment in Ann Arbor, MI in a great neighborhood for $800.♥ 2source record 748
Lived in a 3br (bedrooms the size of a large closet where your mattress almost touched both walls) around 2005ish for $750 close to an Oklahoma college.♥ 1source record 749
when I was in college in the 90's there were multiple bars that had bottomless cup nights varying days of the week. you could go in, spend $5 for a cup and drink as much busch light as you wanted. it was pretty great.♥ 2source record 753
I used to go out with a $20 bill in my pocket. Get drunk off that. And come home with a bunch of loose coins in my pockets.♥ 2source record 754
mid 2000's in hawaii, the dive bar near campus had thirsty thursday's, $6 long island iced tea mini pitchers (1L/32oz) and $5 domestic pitchers (64oz/2L)... Can't imagine what it is now♥ 2source record 756
Also millennial. I used to spend around £10 on nights out at university (on drinks, and club entry if we weren't at a pub), and I would usually be drunk on that. Once I woke up the next morning and realised I'd spent £17 the night before and was horrified. I've got a much lower alcohol tolerance now and I still couldn't get drunk on £17 at a pub!♥ 2source record 757
hell even in like 2012 i remember tons of resturants having similar 2 for $20 deals and then each year watched them slowly go up to two for 25, two for 30 and then boom those deals are gone.♥ 2source record 758
Millenial here. Like 2005/2006 I was in college in Savannah and the nights I drank the most were nights I had NO cash. I usually could cover myself 95% of the time and would buy a round here and there for friends. But, nights where I had no cash or just not enough so I wanted to save what I had, friends would cover me for the night. Meanwhile I was open I was low on cash and just out for the hangout. Dude, people would get you hammered.It also helps that PBR tall boys were like $2♥ 2source record 760
When I studied abroad in Edinburgh in 2005, 2.70 would get you a cider and blackcurrant at the bar above the student dining house♥ 2source record 767
40-year old virgin (2005) has the line "Dude, it's $9 beer night" which I thought was ridiculous at the time. Might be the best night to go out now if you do tbh.♥ 2source record 772
Beers were 2 bucks at most clubs I went to, shots were 2-4 depending. Smokes were $7 for large pack premium. I'm in my early 40s now, so this was 20ish years ago.♥ 2source record 778
In my 20s I lived in Allston, MA. I paid $500/month for rent in a 3 bedroom ($1,500 total). That same apartment now rents for $3,200/month, more than double what I paid. There was also deals all around town all week for food and drinks. Monday you'd get $.25 wings and cheap beer. Tuesday would be burger and a beer. Basically that shit all week. Even on the weekends it was reasonable. I was broke and I could still go out multiple times a week. I think I started at $28k a year. If my 20s were now I would be destitute. I'm with everybody not going out and staying home. It's too expensive to do almost anything.♥ 1source record 800
My local MLS team used to do $2 beer night♥ 1source record 801
We only had those at the end of term at the student's union bar to drink them dry♥ 1source record 802
I was at a music festival last year, held in a university building. One of the nearby student pubs opened for us to get drinks during, and when it was my turn for a round I was sure they'd misheard and only charged me for the one pint! Nope, student union prices for the festival as well.♥ 2source record 803
We had 4$ pitchers on Thursdays at the dive bar when I was in college♥ 1source record 806
You fall down if I told there was once a time when you could get 10 cent beers and 5 cent wings on a Friday for happy hour.♥ 1source record 807
It's heartbreaking how much harder it's become to live simply compared to how it was when I was in my early 20s. My favourite club at university (late 90s/early 2000s) had free draft beer from open until midnight and $1 well drinks ($2 for a double, served in a pint glass) all night. Cover was $5 and the hours were from 10PM until dawn/the owner wanted to close up; very inexpensive night out! My incredibly tiny, 1920s-built 1 bedroom house was $250 a month, plus utilities, but I didn't have television and the campus computer lab was walking distance, so I wasn't paying for the then-luxury of internet. Most of my friends lived nearby, so we'd get together at the house of anyone who had cable or internet for parties or casual hangs pretty much every weekend. Wanted to go to a show? The local punk place would have five bands and a $3 cover. The Hare Krishnas gave out free vegetarian food on campus, a friend worked for a local hippie co-op and got to take home any food that was near expiry, and another friend worked at a pizza place and got a deep discount, so between all that we could eat well cheaply. We'd do a big cooking night at a friend's house with a big kitchen; Co-Op friend would bring his free imperfect produce, Pizza friend would bring the tail end of industrial-size bags of herbs, we'd all bring something else and some bottles of wine, put on some music and cook until we had enough for that night and leftovers for everyone for a few days. Genuinely, it was wonderful and it makes me so sad to see how hard it is for young people these days. We weren't living large, but was so much easier to make do with less than it is now.♥ 1source record 810
Cheap beers are fairly recent too. There’s a bar I would regular with friends at Towson (i was not a student tho) and a can of beer was $2 and shots of tequila were $5 and this was in 2019.♥ 1source record 813
Back in 2019, my team and I were filming a spot in Mt. Tremblant. One of the PAs said he was looking for a new place, but refused to pay more than $400/mo. Being from Toronto, we almost killed him to sacrifice him to the rental gods.♥ 1source record 815
College town during the summer used to do $1 you call its (wells only) around 2008. One of the most fun summers of my life. Even up until about 2018, I used to be able to get PBR drafts for $1.25 on Mondays and watch shitty open mics.♥ 1source record 819
I miss the days of a bar in my area doing $10 AYCD beer and well drinks on Thursdays. Even with how packed that place was, we always managed to drink our money's worth and then some, especially since Fri/Sat were my days off work back then.♥ 1source record 820
Right, I turned 21 in 2009 and I don't want to romanticize graduating college during the recession because that job market was hard. But if you had one, everything certainly was a lot more affordable. I absolutely can romanticize that early to mid 20's part of my life once I had a job. Yeah at first I made $18 an hour as a contractor, but even that wasn't terrible. But once I got my full time offer and made 48K...I felt rich!! Okay, I still had $400 a month going to student loans, but it was all doable, right? My first place I split with a friend was like $400 each plus utilities. So maybe $650? I didn't have a car. Got a bus pass. Put 10% in retirement. Like it wasn't extravagant living and the place had "character", but we went to Monday Night Football $2 draft nights (I didn't care about football) and the awesome pasta place was $15-20 a person and BYOB with $5 corkage. I remember when every person my age longed to be young and I'm like fuck that shit. Glad I'm established and not trying to figure that out now. Trying my best to vote and stay involved and change the narrative for younger generations, but it isn't coming easy.♥ 2source record 837
Yeah $18/hr in 2009-2010 was pretty good and about 2-3x the minimum wage depending where you lived♥ 2source record 839
Word In the 90s we had dollar draft and $5 pitchers 60 cent tacos too. 10 cent wings.♥ 2source record 840
We used to goto Chili's after local basketball probably 4 nights a week. 25 cent BIG wings, and a pitcher of soda for each of us (bartenders were super chill with us. Easy table, $10 bucks each with tip. Very affordable. Now, 6 wings alone is like $14.♥ 1source record 882
I rented a townhouse, 2 stories, 2 bedrooms, 1 and 1/2 bath, pool etc. when I was in college with ONE other person. My split was $250. I can't believe that was even real.♥ 1source record 884
I made $50k in 2010 and felt rich!♥ 1source record 892
Same, my share of a 4bed 2ba (and I had the master, that had it's own full bath) was $750. The worst thing about that place was centralized air conditioning that the building refused to turn on until way too late in the season, but even 10 years ago the summers weren't as brutal and we could generally manage with a fan in the window. I don't know what people out of college are supposed to do anymore. I could afford that place first on a $18/hour gig job with a lighting company, then a $36k salary and still have a decent amount leftover to save and for fun. $36k would be gone so fast these days.♥ 1source record 894
I had similar thoughts. My friends & I graduated into a recession in the late 1980s. All but a couple of us were underemployed, and those two were earning entry level salaries. Despite not earning much, we were still able to have a shitload of fun. Prices weren't so high as to prevent us from have a few beers on the weekend. I can't imagine what it's like for people just starting out in this economy.♥ 1source record 900
It's worse for you guys. Absolutely. I think MOST millenials know that. Go up a generation and they do not care. Shitty for us too rn but our college and early working days were pretty cool. 1-3 dollar beers. Soda was a 1.25. A sub was around 5. Everything literally, like 1/3rd the cost.♥ 1source record 1087
in the early 2000's you could go out, in the North of England, for a night of drinks and dancing and general tomfoolery with £30 and get drunk, dance your ass off and meet new people. You could get a decent sized pizza or kebab at the end of the night AND depending on how far you'd come get a taxi home and still have change. That same £30, which would be £40 with todays earnings buy you five drinks max and that's it, you can't afford (or find) a decent club, a pizza is £15 and a taxi that cost a fiver back then is around £20 now. Top that with being more aware of alcohols downsides, social media warping people expectations, women choosing the bear whilst men listened and now leave women alone. On top of all that, going out for a meal is more expensive, but more appealing than getting ratassed and waking up to a mistake that could potentially ruin their careers and or lives.♥ 4source record 1135
In the late 2000s-early 2010s I used to be able to go out with 20 dollars and have 3-4 beers. While social media was a thing, it wasn't nearly as advanced as it is today, so if you wanted to see and meet people, you had to go and put yourself in the social hubs. People are generally less trusting now it seems too. You used to sit at a bar and just talk to random strangers all night. Now the bar seating, at least where I am, is usually empty, and if people are sitting there, they don't even make eye contact with you.♥ 1source record 1740
In 1999 my around minimum wage job could buy me about 5 beers at the local sports club per hour of work. Same job now, you might get 3 if you’re lucky, more likely only 2, and you’ll be recorded and posted online as soon as things start getting fun.♥ 1source record 2218
Yesss. 2010’s in Portland I was paying $225 a month living with 5 dudes, working part time, partying, going to concerts, going to bars whenever I wanted. Now I go out once a month maybe and I have to budget for it!♥ 1source record 2328
$2 beers was sick♥ 6source record 2441
Fridays was $1 imports at my college dive bar.♥ 3source record 2442

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Working too much to go out14 index entriesHours and exhaustion named as the binding constraint rather than the price.
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14 source recordsDiscussed

Appears when: Working too much to go out

What the pattern means: A small group that separates time from money. The people here say they can afford a night out and still cannot take one: shift patterns, second jobs, a hard limit on a work night, the coordination problem of finding an evening several people are free. One record makes the trade explicit — earn enough and the hours go.

What commenters described: Money obviously, but also, those of us with enough money to go out, work so much that we neither have the time or energy to do it. It's ironic because I feel we genuinely do work more than previous generations and still have less money than they did.

Limit: Fourteen records is a thin base, and most state the constraint without saying how often they actually go out.

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They're fucking broke and exhausted from working 2 jobs to try to be less broke.

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That's really all we can do really. Mandatory long hours at work. Can't take days off because we need the money. If the problem isn't money, it's time.

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Ill tell you why im single. I wake up at 430 every morning, go to work, bust my ass in the texas heat, go home arrive at 7 shit, shower, eat and the sit down its 830 im tired there are no locations near me to meet people so I then jerk off then go to bed rinse and repeat

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They're fucking broke and exhausted from working 2 jobs to try to be less broke.

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That's really all we can do really. Mandatory long hours at work. Can't take days off because we need the money. If the problem isn't money, it's time.♥ 136source record 32
Cool. That all sounds like it costs your time. That's not something people in their 20's have a lot of to spare. Most people I know, including myself, work between 50 to 70 hours a week. I'm fortunate enough to have a job that let's me have plenty of downtime during work hours, but most people don't have that kind of luxury.♥ 2source record 528
Did you actually party multiple times a week. I cant go home later than 10 PM on a work day.♥ 1source record 878
people do, the thing with board games (and group events in general) is finding the time where everyone in a group is free at the same time. when it comes to socializing, the bottlenecks are either or both time and money. You can sort of see the trend strictly on video gaming itself. It went from local coop on a single tv, to online gaming with friends, to online gaming with randoms because people don't have the same free time as their friends do, and have less time to go visit them to hang out with them in person.♥ 2source record 964
Money obviously, but also, those of us with enough money to go out, work so much that we neither have the time or energy to do it. It's ironic because I feel we genuinely do work more than previous generations and still have less money than they did.♥ 2source record 1287
lack of time and money, we literally have to work none stop to put a roof over our heads.♥ 2source record 1313
Having less money and the need to work multiple jobs or extended hours to survive.♥ 2source record 1384
I'm assuming it's a lack of funds due to everything being too expensive, and a lack of time due to using all the time they have to work in order to meet basic needs.♥ 2source record 1392
Working all the time♥ 1source record 1489
I think a lot of them really just have different priorities than generations before them. The world is so different than it once was and half the time it’s basically on fire…who has time to drink and date when you HAVE to work at least two jobs just to make rent and have food on the table? It’s also just so much more dangerous to drink in public than it once was because every altercation possible has to happen and escalate so that whoever is recording it can get lots of likes online. People don’t behave the way they once did because we are all desensitized by performance culture. Idk, it’s just a mess out there and I absolutely see the appeal of just keeping your head down, going to work, and going home. No one can afford to do much more than that anyway.♥ 1source record 1562
They're fucking broke and exhausted from working 2 jobs to try to be less broke.♥ 1source record 1869
You need to work 70 hours a week to house and feed yourself.♥ 1source record 2018
Ill tell you why im single. I wake up at 430 every morning, go to work, bust my ass in the texas heat, go home arrive at 7 shit, shower, eat and the sit down its 830 im tired there are no locations near me to meet people so I then jerk off then go to bed rinse and repeat♥ 1source record 2044
Everything is more expensive so you have to work more to just survive which leaves you less time for actually living.♥ 1source record 2242

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The phone got there first189 records ¡ 2 sub-topicsThe second-largest: what commenters say they do instead, and why they say it wins. 189 records.
Socialising moved onto the screen131 index entriesContact that used to need a venue now happening on a phone.
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Socialising moved onto the screen

131 source recordsDiscussed

Appears when: Socialising moved onto the screen

What the pattern means: The thread's second-biggest answer: contact that used to require a venue now happens on a phone, so the venue stopped being necessary. What separates these records from the ones below is that they describe substitution rather than temptation — texting, memes, FaceTime, gaming and Discord doing the job the bar did. Several of the most detailed come from teachers and older observers describing rooms of people who are together and not talking.

What commenters described: I asked some younger kids why they don't go out partying as much anymore and they said "why would we go to a party to socialize when we're talking to people all the time online already?"

Limit: Much of this group is observation of other people rather than self-report, and other records in the thread point out that the observers are posting from the same phones.

What the replies added1

Ah, Social media both the greatest and worst invention of the information age. It ruined a entire generation

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theres so many people just walking and buried deep in their phones, makes me sad , i doomscroll too of course but i only do that when im disassociating at the end of the day at home, not while out and about

source record 63♥ 2,887
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I've been worried since college about what would happen to the first generation of kids that were born where constant permanent access to the internet was the norm. I'm not surprised to see that this is one of the effects that being forever online would have on those kids.

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I think social media has a part in it. When I was younger I would go to bars and drink in order to meet new people and socialize. Now I can stay home and still have access to anyone I want.

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theres so many people just walking and buried deep in their phones, makes me sad , i doomscroll too of course but i only do that when im disassociating at the end of the day at home, not while out and about♥ 2,887source record 63
I’m in my 40s and I stopped going out with friends because it became pointless. We go to a restaurant and as soon as everyone’s seated the phones come out and the heads go down. Then the waiter comes up and they aren’t even paying attention so just putting in orders takes forever. As soon as the waiter leaves it’s back to phones. I found my self just staring into space awkwardly 😂. Eventually I’ll just start piggy backing on someone else’s videos just to engage and laugh with them. Basically fuck all that. I’d rather chill alone♥ 57source record 91
I hate that shit. There have been friends I stopped hanging out with as much because of this sort of thing. Nothing feels lonelier than feeling isolated while being with someone.♥ 21source record 96
The sad part is I used to love getting together with friends because we're the type of group that's always joking and riffing. Not anymore. Several times I came up with something funny, say it, and see everyone just staring at their phones. Not to mention I've noticed a correlation with how much people spend on social media and the stuff they repeat, which is usually political or cultural war non sense. They used to be so smart too. Shits sad.♥ 9source record 97
I work on a university campus and I dread walking to the classrooms, mostly because a) it is depressing to see what used to be a vibrant campus turned into a large group of zombies barely interacting, and b) I have had more than a few students just walk right into me, bounce off, mutter something, and keep walking while staring at their phone. It’s disturbing.♥ 85source record 107
I agree. I've been a university professor for 30 years. Once everyone got internet on their phones it was the start of the end. I know people blame COVID for everything, but really it's internet in your pocket at all times. You never need to be bored, or figure out how to keep conversation going, or deal with the anxiety of reaching out to people. You can just disappear. I'm really sad for my students, they aren't having any fun. When I was at uni, in breaks between class we had so much fun, banter, teasing, nicknames, we developed lore for our groups. All that's mostly gone and they are missing so much♥ 5source record 109
And I would add more broadly - the internet. The illusion of "connectedness" with little to no actual human connection. When Reddit is a large part of one's human interaction, there are bound to be consequences.♥ 47source record 252
I would say most of the things you mention stem from social media, lol.♥ 76source record 273
Well you can close this up. Also l overall a more introverted society with less social interaction. Everyone is looking at a screen all the time.♥ 16source record 275
Social media, dating apps and the total lack of a discernible future.♥ 108source record 366
These damn phones♥ 311source record 367
Social media. Corporate greed. Lack of opportunity. Destruction of local community. Political polarization. All these things.♥ 15source record 415
Chronically online is definitely the main reason, but also I blame a bit of the helicopter parenting. Parents track their kids everywhere, they don’t give them a chance to be wild and free at 10 years old to then become wild and wanting to party at 20.♥ 24source record 421
Social media and failing economy. Can’t afford to date. Sits at home reading rage bait about the opposite sex until they no longer find being in a relationship attractive♥ 19source record 427
They prefer the world in their phone, to the one outside of their phone.♥ 65source record 438
We used to go to the pub to disassociate and meet mates and chat. The good old days. ✌️♥ 1source record 606
Social media amplifies comparison. we have more ways to connect than ever, but less of a shared sense of community♥ 5source record 650
Yep it’s honestly very easy these days to replace a real life support system with strangers online.♥ 1source record 693
This - getting a job nowadays is more difficult, dating fatigue is more prevalent, and my impression is younger people generally don't seem to want "normal" corporate jobs and so they find themselves online more - whether attempting TikToks for a quick buck or attempting more side hustles with the help of AI. It definitely is easier to make an income from being online at this day and age, but that comes with a huge downside on your mental health by being on social media more and not setting healthy boundaries / limits.♥ 1source record 701
Ah, Social media both the greatest and worst invention of the information age. It ruined a entire generation♥ 18source record 924
It hit really hard when I was in college. Was an RA all 4 years and my last year it was like a switch flipped. All of a sudden the thing to do was sit in a room with everyone on their own phone and that was "hanging out". That was around 2017/2018. I think the big difference was growing up with a smart phone and social media vs those things coming out as you were growing up. If your first pH ne was a smart phone, it changed a lot.♥ 9source record 947
I became used to our boisterous family get togethers ot dozens where people are drinking and laughing and telling stories. It's becoming more and more common to have less family show up and when they do, it's a quiet room full of people just staring at their phones and maybe a handful or so of people talking elsewhere. I find myself drinking more at these events when I used to be sober for them because it's like "why am I even coming if everyone is just playing matching games on their phones." I used to look forward to those but now I'm like meh on any invites.♥ 3source record 948
On that note, people are living vicariously through others' highlight reels, for better or for worse. It makes some feel great and imaginative when they can't do those things, and even gives them ideas for later... and for others, it makes them feel terrible and envious, and self-conscious, because it's usually beautiful people doing things and living the lifestyle they want or dream of or envy - things they think they'll never get to do, so it becomes toxic doomscrolling. More people might be the latter and not realize it.♥ 2source record 956
I asked some younger kids why they don't go out partying as much anymore and they said "why would we go to a party to socialize when we're talking to people all the time online already?"♥ 1source record 992
All of this can be encapsulated in one thing: smartphones. And deep deep addiction to living within them.♥ 1source record 993
Which is another way of saying people are isolating themselves more .♥ 1source record 1064
Phone.♥ 7source record 1116
Drinking and dating are usually in person social activities which my generation generally engages in less of. I don't need to go out to the bar to hang out with my friends, we can hang out while playing COD or 2K online together. Then we have costs where a single drink while out will run you $20. While I'm an okay paid 28 year old there are also Gen Zer's that are college aged and can't really afford to buy a few drinks while out at those prices. Also add a lot of the young boys are incels and the young women, femcels, that hate the other gender and think the other is intrinsically evil. This leads to the kids not even trying to form relationships with the other sex.♥ 5source record 1139
The internet♥ 2source record 1155
Tech and money. They are not the same socially as previous generations and drinking is expansive…like everything else these days♥ 2source record 1197
Social media. Incredibly easy answer. Tell me what you would do with no phones or internet, stay in all day doing what?? Nah, you'd be out seeing what your mates are up to.♥ 2source record 1225
They are constantly distracted by posting on their phones about how they can't find a job.♥ 1source record 1269
Technology especially social media.♥ 1source record 1270
The internet has changed everything♥ 2source record 1293
Being chronically online and having a lack of cash money.♥ 2source record 1295
Ich bin 20 und gehöre damit zu der Gen Z Generation, ich glaube es liegt daran das, dass Internet wirklich die Köpfe kaputt macht also auch die Standards die heutzutage gesetzt werden sind wirklich nicht einzuhalten♥ 2source record 1306
I don't even get how this needs asked. It's the fucking internet.♥ 2source record 1312
social media♥ 2source record 1317
Everyone's brain is scrambled by the internet, so you either have an off-the-shelf set of opinions, or you're a weirdo. Can't just meet in a pub and hit it off with someone anymore.♥ 1source record 1337
They’re just socializing less in general. And I think that’s largely due to their usage of social media.♥ 1source record 1339
Cell phones/tablets. Why interact with the physical world when you can exist in whatever world you feel comfortable in?♥ 1source record 1355
Technology♥ 1source record 1358
Phones♥ 1source record 1377
It's a myraid of issues. Chronically online, high social anxiety and ineptitude at a lack of social opportunities because their generations formative partying years were peak covid, and helicopter parents. Lack of employment opportunities. Honestly I think parents can be blamed for the relationship issues more than covid. As I said, helicopter parents, but those poor kids couldn't go anywhere and got exposed to their parents problems a lot more than millennials or Gen A have been during covid.♥ 2source record 1382
They are living their lives on social media♥ 2source record 1383
IRL society has been replaced with online society. People are letting internet memes and social norms dictate their IRL social norms.♥ 2source record 1391
Without an in depth analysis I would guess 100% because of social media and the smart phone. I've seen a dramatic change - at least here in Norway - over the last 6 years. It's possible the pandemic also changed us. It's much more difficult to get in touch with people. I'm a smooth talker - more like an American - and used to get friends left and right. For example at the gym. People would simply talk to each other. After joining my new gym 5 years ago - I haven't got a single new gym friend. And I know I didn't change.♥ 1source record 1400
Algorithm polarization♥ 1source record 1402
Our devices. We're all content to sit alone on our phones.♥ 1source record 1403
Staying in their parents' basements and being internet addicts.♥ 1source record 1407
Social isolation.♥ 1source record 1424
Things have definitely gotten more expensive, which doesn't help. The primary thing though has to be the emergence of smart phones and social media and all the related stuff like dating apps that have come along with them. I will admit I am on my phone too much, but I am a mid-30's married dude with an established friend group. I can only imagine how hard phone/social media use is hitting younger generations.♥ 1source record 1435
Social media and much better drugs.♥ 1source record 1440
Living online, we are discarnate, with no bodies.♥ 1source record 1452
Internet addiction. Young people are growing up online and developing unhealthy dependencies.♥ 1source record 1462
Screens♥ 2source record 1465
Tik Tok ate their brains.♥ 1source record 1474
A lot of sociological phenomena has led gen z to be more depressive, anxious, and more glued to the digital world: delusional sense of protagonism, women and men hating each other in specific communities, more materialism, exagerated focus on performance in general; just to name a few.♥ 1source record 1475
The internet. It's a "comparison is the thief of joy" situations where they're flooded with fake appearances of what things should be by people lying for sponsorship money. Secondly would be money. They have no hope of buying a house without a windfall. They have addiction enablers for politicians (gambling, porn, scam, crypto, nfts). They have no third spaces in most areas. A 6 pack of white claws is $14.99. Under 28's are almost the most unemployed in history. What money are they buying beer with? To drink alone in their parents house a third of them live at?♥ 1source record 1487
internet♥ 1source record 1511
Smart phone addiction.♥ 1source record 1523
Gen Z tends to count social media as socializing instead of going out to do hang out or do an activity. Texting, sending memes and posts, and FaceTiming are extremely common ways to hang out and you don’t even have to leave the comfort of their own home. As a result, people aren’t going to bars as often♥ 1source record 1528
Social media, cant hold a conversation, glued to a phone screen, no real life experiences mentally a wimp generation in my opinion. Its not the money they refuse to chase paper or educate to make more they rather make tik tok vids and crypto.♥ 1source record 1541
Internet addiction and lack of money.♥ 1source record 1566
Mobile phones Not the economy not drugs not wars just what we are doing now the internet and mobile phones♥ 1source record 1576
Social media destroyed our culture♥ 1source record 1594
Social media and phones and the internet♥ 1source record 1611
Smartphones♥ 1source record 1618
The internet. Less reason to go out and meet new people.♥ 1source record 1623
They’re prime time internet babies. Neuroreceptors are singed. Why do you think.♥ 1source record 1624
they are addicted to their phones and social media straight up junkies♥ 1source record 1632
Social Media♥ 1source record 1640
Being raised online and not understanding how to filter out online nonsense due to not living in the world before it.♥ 2source record 1646
Phones.♥ 1source record 1647
Chronically online! No one is social anymore! In my town at 10pm on a Friday it’s a ghost town now. It didnt used to be like this at all! It sad.♥ 1source record 1669
Internet addiction and fear. They grew up with their nervous systems hijacked by social media and images of perfect beauty online.♥ 1source record 1675
The internet.♥ 1source record 1684
Online/social media. Limiting face to face social interactions is bad for growth. Even being a millennial I was severely set back by it in my teens and 20s. But I had the awareness to understand that. They’re basically indoctrinated to it.♥ 1source record 1686
The fact everything is done online♥ 1source record 1707
America is being socially engineered to have a dumber, less socially connected, more financially desperate population. Online addiction is more than just a habit, it's a condition in which your brain has literally offloaded cognitive function to devices, social media, and algorithms. To some extent, we all do this in different settings. If I want to know about a medical issue, I don't go get a medical degree. Instead, I talk to a doctor. I let them do the figuring out in that context. In the last 20 years, though, soooo much of our lives have become algorithmically driven. Algorithms choose: Where we eat What "news" we see, and our vision of the world. Who we are friends with Who we date, and potentially have kids with. Where we work, or live What opinions we have (more on this later). There is practically no cognitive load we haven't found a way to pass on to technology. Now with "AI" it's even easier. Our agency is being slowly transferred to the cloud. The deeper problem is that in doing so, our brains literally lose the ability to do these things. When your entire world is constructed for you by an algorithm that chooses what news stories you see, what media you are presented with, what opinions you see, and ensures that you only associate with people in that same algorithm set, you have lost your agency. You become less an independent person, and more a bot being programmed. This is happening when AI surveillance tools are being rolled out across the country, in red and blue states alike. The feds keep showing up based on private communications. None of this requires a warrant, of course, because, after all, that whole Constitution thing has always been a hindrance anyway. Fortunately, the algorithms drive enough division, especially intracoallitional division (think the current apparent divide between establishment and leftist wings of the Democrat coalition), that people won't effectively fight back even on 90% issues, and in the face of clear corruption. Anyway, to your question: Gen Z is being programmed to experience a fabricated reality in a surveillance state. Their "social" lives will be provided through online experiences, and AI "friends." I can tell you that the speed with which these changes are happening is jarring for someone who remembers the before times (not that long ago). It was just 20 years ago that online dating was something people joked about. Now it's how nearly every relationship starts. The algorithm will find you a partner. Hitting on people in the real world is problematic. Let the algorithm choose for you! Being social is incompatible an algorithmically determined society, so Gen Z and A, and whatever comes next, are being progressively programmed to be anti-social.♥ 1source record 1708
Too much computer. Not enough people.♥ 1source record 1709
Phone♥ 1source record 1712
I think honestly the realest answer for lack of relationships is that people are chronically online and don't have the same interpersonal skills that other generations may have. For drinking, probably a mix of cost, health, and the rising popularity of thc maybe?♥ 2source record 1732
Lack of social contact. Chatting online is great until it fully substitutes the real thing.♥ 1source record 1744
Social media in general. Yeah, money probably plays its part, but there are ways to find cheap drinks and look for partners on the cheap if people are strongly motivated. None of that matters, though, if your "online" community has effectively filled the social niche that previous generations would have filled with real people. Our dumb mammal brains can't easily tell the difference between social media friends and real ones, which makes it really easy to take the path of least resistance and just avoid real-world socializing in general. And once you're on social media, you rapidly get funneled by algorithms into one echo chamber or another that is happy to assure you that you're right and perfect and it's everything else - especially anything irl that stresses you out or makes you doubt yourself - that's the problem. It doesn't help that partying already seems "riskier" than ever before thanks to social media. Get drunk and act stupid twenty years ago, and you only had to worry about the people who saw you (and even then it was just hearsay). Now literally everyone is carrying video cameras all the time, and if you're Gen Z you've grown up on a neverending media loop of weaponized gossip and intense scrutiny of every like and retweet. I'm sure it can feel like you're one drunken social misstep away from a gleeful online dogpile, and if you rely on that online presence for your social life, that's got to be terrifying.♥ 1source record 1755
Isn't it obvious? The siloing of human experience to the narrow channel between your eyeballs and the reels you're scrolling on your phone 18 inches from your face.♥ 1source record 1769
Drinking has for the most part been a social activity. Younger generations tend to not go out as often and spend a lot more time at home, usually staring at screens, than previous generations. This, not getting out as much, also affects their opportunities to meet potential partners in relationships. So, in both cases the increase of technology in our culture is most likely responsible for both.♥ 1source record 1787
I mean, technology use♥ 1source record 1795
I think they grew up heavily online rather than in person… and that’s the primary reason, with other reasons (money, etc) being secondary.♥ 1source record 1800
Social media is reap life to them.♥ 1source record 1806
Any answer that is not phone/social media is wrong. Recognize the irony of the statement being posted on a social site. But you cannot go in public without watching people (of all ages) walking, driving, riding around with their face in a phone. The algorithm is bad for your health. It makes you believe things that are not all true. Money is likely answer #2. In the US for sure, at the moment the hand feels stacked against young people. Corporations have a strangle hold on the government in the form of lobby. They are pushing New World Order ideals of no ownership, and rent/subscriptions for everything. Combined with high cost of starting out on everything from cars to homes. It's a big hole they have to climb out of (unfairly). But, technology. Social media. Living a life through a screen that is not yours, receipt of information that is not true. That is the primary driver in our societal issues. **I have worked in tech for 20 years. Ask anyone who is successful, wealthy and spent years in tech. Their kids don't have phones/tablets. If they do, they may as well be a brick. There is a reason for it.**♥ 1source record 1813
Internet♥ 1source record 1826
Social media. Before you'd date and get to know them, now you can look at their social media and nope out lol also money, who can afford dinner and a movie?♥ 1source record 1837
Social media adiction♥ 1source record 1853
I don't claim to know about all Gen Z, but here is the story of my niece. She grew up with instant access to tablets and the internet. Her mother practically raised her to stay in her room with internet. This supplied all her social & entertainment needs. Now at 19, she is a complete shut in, claims she doesnt need any IRL friends because she has her discord friends and other relationship. Is very political and versed in trends, but is essentially a full time keyboard warrior at best. Is increasingly obese because she sacrifices majority of her time to be avalible on discord. Has no practical skills. Is completely fine with having no money because she was raised always having access to them which means she has yet to experience any critical need of them as a sustenance resource. Can't cook, can't do chores, has no interest in anything practical. Now here is the deal. Now that she's 19 our family suddently started caring about how she spends her time. THEY COMPLETELY NEGLECTED HER UPBRINGING, but now she is suddently expected to be an active adult and have a part time job. She claims to be trying to find one but I know she isnt trying too hard. I can forward her to my old part time job which she can manage while studying just fine and I offered it to her privately without the pressure of telling the other memebers of our family. She started trying to squirm out of saying yes right away. Her self esteem is nonexistent, she has no confidence and no experience to draw it from. Nobody accepts blame for it and they always contested me whenever I brought it up. Basically I ended up being the asshole for trying to inject a semblance of a regime into her life.♥ 1source record 1867
screentime♥ 1source record 1901
Social Media. Period. I came from the late 80s. The change is Social Media. If you are going to deny it then you are wrong. Social media is the reason you're: depressed, have anxiety, feel alone, bored easily, can't even read a book, lack attention span, can't get hard, can't get laid, can't hold a job, and can't easily date.♥ -1source record 1910
Social media, not exactly a well kept secret♥ 1source record 1927
Social isolation♥ 1source record 1931
Being on TikTok constantly♥ 1source record 1932
Social media/internet♥ 1source record 1936
Smart phones♥ -1source record 1993
Social media♥ 1source record 1999
Screens♥ 1source record 2014
The internet♥ 1source record 2017
I think they are more attached to lectronic devices and do not want distractions.♥ 1source record 2038
The internet♥ 1source record 2046
Gen Z spends less time socializing in public than any generation before it. They just stay home glued to their phones. If you're not physically around other people, you're not going to have relationships, go out drinking, etc.♥ 1source record 2048
Gen Z are zombies addicted to their phones♥ 1source record 2057
I've been worried since college about what would happen to the first generation of kids that were born where constant permanent access to the internet was the norm. I'm not surprised to see that this is one of the effects that being forever online would have on those kids.♥ 1source record 2058
I think social media has a part in it. When I was younger I would go to bars and drink in order to meet new people and socialize. Now I can stay home and still have access to anyone I want.♥ -1source record 2073
Gen Z grew up on the internet and grew up on online communities were it was normal for your friends, acquaintance or relationships to disappear or be stunted in growth. This leads to 2 paths: 1. Gen Z are defiant and are signaling that social media and communities are just not good enough, so there is an active pushback to conforming to social norms, especially how social media is marketed and shown as a mainstream and normal way to socialize yourself, leading to the perception that Gen Z are having fewer relationships altogether (Non Gen Z believe Gen Z is defined by computers and social media because social media is attached to Gen Z, and Gen Z say that's not accurate at all.). or 2. Gen Z genuinely find such little cohesion and access to nourishing, long lasting and stable relationships due to social media and stress of life that many of Gen Z are involuntarily lonley and isolated. I think number 2 is more accurate, and the outcome for number 2 can be very good, because if Gen Z can put up with it, it can actually make Gen Z more independent, mature and depthful. TLDR: Social media and stress of modern day makes Gen Z finding communities and similarities extraordinarily challenging, in fact atypically and unequivocally and incompatibly difficult compared to any other generation, even Gen Alpha, therefore making large group cohesion within Gen Z vacant, unaccomodating, and significantly isolating. With little to no perceivable access to nourishing unifying relationships like other generations, Gen Z are pushed into small groups, hyper independence, and are totally misunderstood most of the time on individual levels involuntarily.♥ 1source record 2137
Addiction to social media. They kill each other over this shit♥ 1source record 2148
They’re all addicted , the social media and the virtual world plus a huge majority I’m claimed to have things like anxiety and claim they can’t talk to people♥ 0source record 2158
Being online for most of their day. I think that is the main reason. With that, social awkwardness is pretty much guaranteed... The drinking less part is positive, but the fewer relationships part is really bad.♥ 0source record 2161
Too locked into their phone to do anything.♥ -1source record 2167
Cost of living, sure. But their generation was the first where have social groups/relationships online was normalised. Before that, people would have to meet in person and use alcohol as that social lubricant.♥ 1source record 2183
Living through a phone rather than in person social group exposure.♥ 1source record 2184
They are chronically online instead of going out and meeting people. Then they whine (online) about having no friends and not knowing how to meet people. I have social anxiety (young gen X) and still used to go to concerts, to markets, art shows, etc, and I have always had multiple hobbies and interests. It was actually impossible to do those things without meeting people and making friends. Staring at tiktok or tinder does not help you in any way. The funny thing is, I have been online since before modern browsers, it was just command line, and I still managed to succeed. These kids are targeted by companies like meta and tiktok with purposely addictive garbage.♥ 1source record 2191
They have fewer relationshipsbc they're less social, on their phones instead of actually talking. I suspect the alcohol decline is due to the fact that much drinking is social.♥ 1source record 2204
the damn phones♥ 1source record 2206
Phones phones phones. Either that or you spend your time off the phone, drinking like a motherfucker, being pissed off at this world of phones♥ 1source record 2207
To follow your curiosity about people, you used to have to go outside. And when you went outside to do that, sometimes you needed liquid courage. Now you can just stalk your crush online without taking any of that risk, and decide before even pursuing an interaction that it’s not worth the anxiety. So, less going outside, less need for alcohol, vice versa. Not to mention the cost.♥ 1source record 2215
It's the phones.♥ 1source record 2223
Social media usage and less time spent at dance clubs and bars mainly. Maybe because now everything can be recorded and put online.♥ 1source record 2236
It's multi-factorial. And I actually don't think cost is the driving issue. What's really interesting is that while drinking amongst other things is declining, we are seeing increasing amounts of anxiety and depression. I don't think the two are a completely separate issue. And I think a lot of it comes down to phone culture. That's just my opinion but I do. I think that phone culture has been extremely isolating especially for the generation that grew up with phones and screens. They are more socially isolated than any generation in human history. And when people are spending increased amounts of time at home on a phone alone, they are going to have less relationships. And they are going to engage less in things that are common amongst those who socialize (like alcohol). There are obviously other contributors to this decline - but I think the increased incidence of people just being alone and shelled up all the time is a huge contributor.♥ 1source record 2243
Social media is the biggest factor. There is not the need to go out and meet real people in person, which would include at bars or parties to drink. It also seems to make people shy and afraid they are not good enough since the online pictures are so glamourous.♥ 1source record 2244
As I get older, my thesis is that human brains simply can't function properly with so much connectivity. We can only hold and manage a limited number of actual relationships and process only so many opinions at once that any overloading of it causes of issues.♥ 1source record 2334
Social media addiction♥ -1source record 2480
Devices. De-vices♥ -1source record 2488
Their phones♥ -1source record 2489

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What commenters described: I picked this comment to respond to because it seems like the most indicative of what I'm going to say, but many of the other top comments are also because of this: The dopamine hit people get from staying in and using social media or playing video games is so easy and so immediate that it just can't compete with going out and chasing love, or socializing, or picking up a hobby. You know what's engineered to make me feel happy? An app's social feed. You know what's not? A lover or spouse. You know what's a guaranteed win? Playing video games. You know what's not? Going out to a local bar and socializing. You know what has no marginal cost? Opening an app or game or binge-watching something on a streaming app you have. You know what costs $100? A date. I don't blame the kids. Sure, sex is great, love is great, but the barrier to entry is high and you screw it up a bunch before you figure it out. I think that if I was a teenager today, I'd probably just goon instead.

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I kinda disagree with you. A date doesnt need to cost $100, where I'm from its pretty common to meet at a park for a first date to go on a walk or something. Its also common to meet up at a persons apartment very early on which doesnt create any cost either

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The phones. People get para social relationships online and that minimal social fulfillment through discord and reddit, insta etc. sustains them....sorta. It's little dopamine hits but in a broader view it's really bad for those young people and for society as a whole. People keep on saying money and sure young people have it tough but broke young people always found ways to hang out and date in the past. People would literally just walk around or go to a field or the woods, buy the cheapest booze you can get (which is still dirt cheap btw, you can get a 750 ml of vodka for $6) and have fun. When you're broke your friends are everything and you lean on each other for help, including trading services instead of cash. Sex is free, you don't have to go to an expensive dinner to date. But if you can just stay home, and all your friends are home, maybe you talk a little on discord, watch some porn and go to bed--- now that isn't a very fulfilling or remarkable fun good time, but it's easy and everyone else is doing it. Pretty hard to meet anyone to date if you never go out and do things. Alcohol is a social drug and because young people are so much less social, it stands to reason they also drink so much less. I don't think it's a stat we should necessarily be overjoyed by.

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I don’t get the disappearance of third spaces part, but everything else is spot on. There are plenty of free or cheap third spaces- they’re just not curated or as attractive as other modern entertainment options that often cost something or demand paid curation. The thing people won’t readily admit or accept today (they will eventually) is that the digital world is literally engineered to hijack our brain’s reward systems. Meeting up in real life pales in comparison to people that grew up as digital natives. It’s like telling someone who grew up eating junk food that they should choose, on their own, to switch to healthy food and proper exercise- it’s not like they’re *unaware* they could try that.

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Yeah fully agree. But when your entire life's frame of reference is at that higher dopamine level, it's extremely hard to put that aside

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Phones. Easier to get those little dopamine hits.

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I picked this comment to respond to because it seems like the most indicative of what I'm going to say, but many of the other top comments are also because of this: The dopamine hit people get from staying in and using social media or playing video games is so easy and so immediate that it just can't compete with going out and chasing love, or socializing, or picking up a hobby. You know what's engineered to make me feel happy? An app's social feed. You know what's not? A lover or spouse. You know what's a guaranteed win? Playing video games. You know what's not? Going out to a local bar and socializing. You know what has no marginal cost? Opening an app or game or binge-watching something on a streaming app you have. You know what costs $100? A date. I don't blame the kids. Sure, sex is great, love is great, but the barrier to entry is high and you screw it up a bunch before you figure it out. I think that if I was a teenager today, I'd probably just goon instead.♥ 59source record 25
I hear alcohol helps social anxiety. It's more that being chronically online is replace the dopamine seeking behaviours like actually meeting people so the motivation isn't there.♥ 7source record 134
Being chronically online as an addiction also gives them the dopamine hits that relationships, sex, and alcohol would otherwise♥ 5source record 143
We’ve been so drip fed the quick and easy dopamine we don’t have the capacity for the long, effortful happy.♥ 15source record 276
Yeah in my experience it's your latter point more than the money even. Sure I could go to some hobby activity for the sole purpose of meeting people, but I can guarantee the activity itself will be boring in comparison to gaming or watching shows (to me anyway). Could it end up leading to making friends or even meeting a date which would be more fun than media entertainment? Possibly, but not guaranteed or even likely. So when I get home tired from work I do not have any real urge to actually go out. Whereas before people were more limited in entertainment at home and therefore going and trying new things would seem more appealing. And those 3/4 times where you haven't really connected with anyone wouldn't feel like a waste of time but rather you trying something different♥ 4source record 311
I don’t get the disappearance of third spaces part, but everything else is spot on. There are plenty of free or cheap third spaces- they’re just not curated or as attractive as other modern entertainment options that often cost something or demand paid curation. The thing people won’t readily admit or accept today (they will eventually) is that the digital world is literally engineered to hijack our brain’s reward systems. Meeting up in real life pales in comparison to people that grew up as digital natives. It’s like telling someone who grew up eating junk food that they should choose, on their own, to switch to healthy food and proper exercise- it’s not like they’re *unaware* they could try that.♥ 23source record 313
Our phones and technology. Alot of what drives social interaction is fulfilled (partly and in a cheap shitty way) by phones, social media, streaming, endless entertainment, games, ordering food in instead of meeting people etc. It confuses our lizard brains into thinking were meeting our need for connection and community, but its all empty calories and reckoning comes when you realize despite all of that how alone you feel in moments where you take a moment to breathe and look around. Oh, and also a huge factor-were all tired from working like slaves 24/7♥ 4source record 430
Gen Z isn't doing anything as much as earlier generations did. Shopping, driving, drinking, having sex, doing drugs, they're just... not doing it as much. There is too much competition on screens - gaming, social media, etc has taken the place of social lives, especially post COVID. Everything else requires too much money and effort.♥ 3source record 456
Not just the social anxiety but people now get their dopamine hits from social media.♥ 1source record 705
I wouldn't say it's all social anxiety. But the chronically online part checks out. Everything is there for you. Why fuck around with all the other stuff when you can find most of your needs online with little fuss.♥ 1source record 783
And the ones that don't form social anxiety just aren't bored. They have plenty of stuff keeping them stimulated. I would say the biggest reason I went to bars when I was younger was just out of pure boredom.♥ 1source record 785
> I can guarantee the activity itself will be boring in comparison to gaming or watching shows There it is, addiction to the constant stream of dopamine. We've completely forgotten how to be bored, and how to make our own fun.♥ 2source record 958
I put so much blame on your second paragraph. Im a millennial an we could only spend so much time watching over the air TV or dvds, playing single player games, or reading books. Eventually we got bored and had to go find something to do. This was compounded after about 10 o'clock at night. And at night most activities revolve around alcohol.♥ 1source record 990
I worked with younger Gen Z and it was unbearable. The scrolling on their phones was out of control and so many of them showed up late with Starbucks and boba and constantly called in (then shocked when they get fired.) Of course it wasn't all of them but it was a lot. The worst part was genuinely how badly they scared me for the future. Phone, shopping, and gambling addiction is destroying them as bad as alcohol an drugs, and they don't have to leave the bed to indulge. Even the ones who worked hard and did a good job often lived at home and just blew all of their money.♥ 3source record 1054
Yeah fully agree. But when your entire life's frame of reference is at that higher dopamine level, it's extremely hard to put that aside♥ 1source record 1080
It’s way easier to stay home and game / scroll /binge watch shows and still feel content with life.♥ 2source record 1172
World in phone costs less money♥ 2source record 1178
The internet is more entertaining than tv ever was We went out to bars outta boredom Once there, we had to talk to each other♥ 2source record 1209
Effort. It takes more effort to go out than the alternatives (chatting online) that didn't exist for prior generations. Effort to dress up, effort to organize the group, and it seems to me that theres an increase in younger people having anxiety driving, which means everyone getting their own uber.♥ 2source record 1216
The lack of boredom. I'm Gen X. You know what I had when I was a kid? Boredom. And that's with 1980's tech to keep me occupied. Nintendo, TV, Lego, etc. When I think about what it was like for my mom, all I get is more boredom. She would try to keep herself occupied with crafts and what not, but most of the time she was working, cooking dinner, and watching TV. Of course she's going to drink more and smoke more. What else is there? We were poor. Hobbies cost money. People are going to get their dopamine fix from something, and booze and sex are the easiest ways to do that. Kids today are less bored than I was, and I was less bored than my mom, who I'm sure was less bored than her mom. Modern society takes care of every aspect of our lives. We don't have to hunt or grow food, worry about the integrity of our shelter, or any of the other myriad of tasks our brains were evolved to take care of. Our modern life makes a lot of free time that we don't know what to do with, and before iPhones, streaming, and what not, people would fill the time with drinking and having sex. But Gen Z doesn't have to do that. They don't have to cure boredom with sex and drinking, and they realize the downsides of both activities.♥ 2source record 1236
Drinking is cool. It just goesnt go with gen z. Theyd rather be home watching cartoons, i mean anime♥ 2source record 1257
Well its a complex issue but we need to keep in mind that drinking was hinged to being social for generations but at its core its just escapism. Everyone does escapism differently but gen z favors getting sucked into their phones and it detaches them from their lives and gives them dopamine hits not unlike alcohol. a major difference is drinking can be a social activity where as social media scrolling is largely a single person activity. Both have major negatives associated and without discipline and self control can be life falteringly horrible for you long term. Add in the current economic situation and you get more escapism. Yes there is a large economic issue that will keep people from each other ( dating apps are subscription based, dating cost money, marriage is even more expensive and kids are the most expensive, etc) but id argue that people have been coupling up and reproducing for thousands upon thousands of years.♥ 1source record 1368
You get easier dopamine from going online or gaming.♥ 1source record 1370
The glass rectangle in the pocket of every man woman and child. Those minutes of completely solo entertainment add up.♥ 2source record 1387
Gaming, Anime, Porn, Social Media.♥ 1source record 1419
Too busy scrolling to bother with that nonsense, mate♥ 1source record 1544
Screen addiction. Easier to fall into a doom scroll than meet people♥ 1source record 1578
Being alone is more fun now than it was 15 years ago, and especially 30 years ago. You basically have a personalized entertainment suite wherever you go. People who might have socialized 15 years ago because the alternative was boredom can now just watch streaming services, play video games, scroll Reddit, etc.♥ 1source record 1580
It’s the algorithms obviously. Socializing takes effort and scrolling takes none. Having a friend group is being replaced by social media and listening to podcasts. Active stimulation is losing out to passive stimulation. These algorithms are designed by some of the smartest people on the planet to keep us on our phones instead of going out in the world.♥ 1source record 1587
I honestly think it's because being social has a real competitor now. There's always been things people can do to satiate their need to fill up time without having people in it, but it was always something only a small minority of people did to replace social connection. Most people used to read to some extent, but few would replace social activities with it. Same with watching movies/TV, gaming etc. But there seems to have been a big shift that started around 20 years ago when smartphones went mainstream where people could suddenly access all of it at the same time, and more and more at their leisure. And if you can get a lot of what you usually get from social connection, why wouldn't you replace it? I think it probably speaks to how many don't have the connection to people that they crave deep inside that so many are turning to these "good enough" replacements. If your social life consists of doing the same boring thing and talking about the same things all the time when you meet, and maybe a hug or two a month, with no outlook on that dynamic changing you're not really losing a lot are you? There's so much more to human connection than that, but we're removing so many of the places where they can happen, and the surviving ones only have old people in them because young people can't relate. We're also not teaching people how they can get there in a safe way. Any discourse on human connection seems focused on what you shouldn't do instead. Just something as simple as smiling and looking people in the eye can do so much in that regard, but only some people are out there doing it. And it also results in a skill/experience gap that is hard to overcome, so the people who have persisted with human connection can seem almost scary and make it even more frightening to put yourself out there. And why would you, you have the world at your fingertips...♥ 1source record 1600
Staying home is too easy now. Before the internet, the only things you could do at home were watch tv (limited to whatever was on right then), read a book/magazine you had on hand, watch a movie you had on hand, or do a hobby. We've now made watching tv essentially unlimited, you can read any book you want instantaneously, watch any movie you want, but also can now throw on youtube, scroll social media, or do any number of things. Considering you also generally pay for these things already, its pretty sensible from an economic perspective that people would maximize their already sunk costs. This means there are less reasons to go out. I don't have an answer to solve this other than making going out better, but thats a throw away line that doesnt mean anything.♥ 1source record 1625
it's so obviously technology. I very recently stopped using my phone for basically everything. I put it on a charger when I get home and my watch will tell me if I get an 'important' text or call (no other notifications come to my watch). I was miserable, fighting depression, feeling lost. because I was so easily distracted. Now, rather than looking at my screen I'm looking for something to actually do. I noticed an almost immediate change in the entire family dynamics with this (and I wasn't even the type of person who had my face glued to my phone all the time anyway. so if there is a scale of 1-10, I was probably at around a 4 or 5, compared to some people I see that are closer to the 10 level). The other day I was walking into a building and I saw something that looked like it was out of a stupid movie or sitcom. A man was walking out, looking at his phone. trailing behind him were 3 kids (estimated ages of 9, 6 and 4), all with their eyes glued to tablets. they were all walking into the parking lot, completely oblivious to their surroundings, deeply mesmerized by their screens.♥ 1source record 1662
Video games, medication and addiction to phones♥ 1source record 1682
Social media. That's it. Why go out to drink when you can just browse tiktok? Why go and date when you can endlessly scroll? Why do anything for dopamine when social media there is there?♥ 1source record 1693
When I was young, being home was boring. A rain day was the worst. You wanted fun, go outside. Outside is now boring. Home is entertainment. There is no driver to get out and interact with others.♥ 1source record 1703
Phones It's crazy how much time can disappear on the phone. People don't get bored as easily and find entertainment in being with others and doing things. Pursuing hobbies, relationships, or clubs has gone out the window in comparison to previous generations . So much time gets obliterated without thought due to the phone. I'm guilty of this and it seems like most people are. Don't get me wrong, I think money is a factor, but even among those that have money these activities are down and I honestly believe it's because of this constant content machine in our pockets.♥ 1source record 1726
This is an example of both a positive and a negative of having more entertainment options at your finger tips. If you grew up in a time/area where your only entertainment option was going out to a bar on the weekend guess what you were going to do. Not drinking as much is a health positive. Having fewer relationships is a negative♥ 1source record 1749
More things successfully vying for attention♥ 1source record 1823
Elder Millenial here with a Gen Z kid - they have no idea of the world that existed before the internet fit in your pocket and was essentially conquered by corporations who have mastered behavioral design. My daughter watches Gilmore Girls on repeat and is absolutely enamored with all the third spaces, intelligent conversation, and actual diversity in friend groups... but to her it's just fantasy because she can find very little of it in her reality. As parents we do the best we can, but if her peers are trapped in the Matrix then it can pull her in, too. She told me yesterday she wishes she had grown up when her mother and I did because it seems so much more fun.♥ 1source record 1829
Social media, video games, YouTube, LLM AI. I think they create an easy way to loneliness with their vices.♥ 1source record 1889
Everyone's already mentioned money and lack of 3rd places but I want to point out there is no boredom anymore. There is no opportunity to be bored and to be forced into being creative to entertain yourself and if lucky find something you're passionate about.♥ 1source record 1893
Technology. Exactly what tv did to the boomers, but 100x more. Money isn't a real issue, I grew up in a piss poor post war country and everyone would go outside, have fun, play cards/table games and it was a fuck fest. Basketball courts with kids/teens/men/women playing and having a laugh. People nowadays just prefer netflix, chatting with people on whatsapp and scroll terminally. Also expectations are sky high because our normal is the top 1% we see on socials. Even in my home country things are going there since cheap smartphones were made. Now those basketball courts are empty. Technology is easier and gives you that fast dopamine kick. I suspect that in the future it will be considered like tobacco or alcohol for the effects on the brain, lol (yea, i work in the field)♥ 1source record 1906
Smart phones are OP. Sitting in your house or going somewhere alone used to be boring so you'd get someone to keep you company. Phones fill that void now.♥ 1source record 1926
Going out and having a beer or cocktail with freinds and meeting new people takes effort that most are just unwilling to attempt. Its far easier to order doordash, fund someone's OnlyFans, play video games, and pretend youre above it all.♥ 1source record 1939
no risk in doom scrolling and a wank ...♥ 1source record 1940
Constant short term overstimulation. They need a dopamine detox.♥ -1source record 1991
They already get all the dopamine hits from the tiny screen in their pocket. Before that screen you'd have to do stuff to get dopamine hits.♥ -1source record 2077
Phones. Easier to get those little dopamine hits.♥ -1source record 2079
A millennial here. I'd say the phone addiction is first and that's not just Gen Z but everyone else. Also you can buy whatever you want (even a car) without even talking to a single person which was accelerated during covid times. You lose the social interaction in person. Then it's expensive to go out. I make decent money but man it's expensive even at dive bars.♥ 1source record 2109
I think a part of it is being able to connect online. Why would I go out and spend tons of money when I can play games with my friends from the comfort of my own home?♥ 1source record 2118
Why go outside when your phone gives you all the happy hormones you need. Outside expensive .. scary ...♥ 1source record 2129
dopamine addiction and brainrot♥ 1source record 2177
severe gambling addiction, but the form of gambling is social media use totally abstracted from actual money. creates crippling social dysfuncton, depression, and anomie♥ 1source record 2182
I'm a high school teacher, I'll throw my two cents in based on what I see every day. Cell phone / social media addiction. This is the big one. I do an audit of phone usage in each of my classes and it's not a stretch to say that the *average* across my students is 30-40 hours a *week* on their phones. I've had kids who use their phone 80 hours a week, and in one case, a girl who used hers *100 hours a week* (based on internal phone stats). That is *fucking insane.* I tell them, you're spending a *full time job* worth of time staring at a screen. And when you ask them, "what do you remember from all the TikTok videos you watched yesterday?" They're lucky if they remember 3 to 5. So great, you just spent *hours* staring at a screen with maybe 45 seconds worth of retained info (if you can even call it that). What this does is create a culture where there's *no need to go out and do anything else.* Everything they want, and even *crave* is right there in their hand 24/7. There's no incentive or motivation to *do* anything. Why get your license as soon as you turn 16? All your friends are in the palm of your hand. Why go out and be social/drink? All your friends are in the palm of your hand? Why read a book? Anything you want to know is in the palm of your hand. Why try to talk to girls/boys? All the porn you want is in the palm of your hand. Why put yourself at risk in *any* situation? Everything is safe in your room and the world is in the palm of your hand. And worse than that, it creates a cohort of kids who *don't know how to do anything.* Very few of them have any skills whatsoever. I know that sounds hyperbolic but I see it *every fucking day.* And yes, there are incredible kids who are really outgoing and doing things - but they are not the norm anymore. They are the outliers. Students are getting their licenses later, dating less, socializing less, and are more miserable for it. Some will say money is a factor - it may be in some places but not where I am. There are plenty of jobs that pay well enough for students to have enough cash to go out and do something fun with friends. They just don't *do* anything. They have no hobbies - no, I take that back - they have *ONE* hobby: their phone. It's a big, *big* fucking problem.♥ 1source record 2185
The phones. People get para social relationships online and that minimal social fulfillment through discord and reddit, insta etc. sustains them....sorta. It's little dopamine hits but in a broader view it's really bad for those young people and for society as a whole. People keep on saying money and sure young people have it tough but broke young people always found ways to hang out and date in the past. People would literally just walk around or go to a field or the woods, buy the cheapest booze you can get (which is still dirt cheap btw, you can get a 750 ml of vodka for $6) and have fun. When you're broke your friends are everything and you lean on each other for help, including trading services instead of cash. Sex is free, you don't have to go to an expensive dinner to date. But if you can just stay home, and all your friends are home, maybe you talk a little on discord, watch some porn and go to bed--- now that isn't a very fulfilling or remarkable fun good time, but it's easy and everyone else is doing it. Pretty hard to meet anyone to date if you never go out and do things. Alcohol is a social drug and because young people are so much less social, it stands to reason they also drink so much less. I don't think it's a stat we should necessarily be overjoyed by.♥ 1source record 2190
Motivation? Technology has reduced the need to go out and do many things♥ 1source record 2216
Entertainment in always available with the internet. Movies shows and socializing.♥ 1source record 2219
It’s phones and social media. That’s it. Our minds were not made for quick, endlessly repeatable, cheap dopamine hits and it is breaking us as a society. Why do the potentially uncomfortable things and talk to a girl when you have a shiny box that will make you feel good with no effort. Its classic drug addiction behavior.♥ 1source record 2454

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Losing control in public got riskier96 records ¡ 2 sub-topicsA night out described as something that can be recorded and kept, rather than forgotten. 96 records.
Everyone has a camera91 index entriesA night out treated as a permanent record rather than a private one.
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What the pattern means: The distinct claim here is permanence, not embarrassment. Commenters say the drunken mistake that once produced a story now produces a file, and they name the specific costs they fear: a job, a scholarship, a search result, a video that follows you between cities. Doorbell cameras, phones at the party and the possibility of going viral are all cited as reasons not to be visibly drunk anywhere.

What commenters described: The days of getting drunk and doing stupid things as a teen and tween is seemingly dead due to the risk of being publicly shamed online …… and it’s a shame tbh.

Limit: The thread contains its own rebuttal: several commenters, including one who says they are in the age group being discussed, state flatly that being recorded is not what stops them.

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I've seen so many TikToks about terrible first date stories, then you scroll over to their account and it's just video after video. Like are you trying to date or just make content? My favorite was a story about a dude who found her TikTok and broke it off because he didn't want to just be a TikTok story on her page

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Back in my day, I only had to deal with the people immediately around me if I did something embarrassing like puking in a sink during a part. Today, people are worried about being recorded and having it posted online and having their life ruined just because they were having a bit too much fun.

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Fear. They are terrified of doing or saying something 'wrong' and it being posted online and their life being ruined as a result. They dont know how to interact socially on any way that isnt extremely shallow. They call each other out and 'cancel' people for being 'problematic' and cant listen to or comprehend nuance. Everything is labelled. Everything is black and white. Its like the whole generation forgot how to have fun.

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It's every bit as mortifying as it sounds, I sent out a message trying to flirt a bit as a guy to a lesbian/bi friend (who unfortunately had some SA trauma by a dude a few months before I sent it.) I said nothing overtly crass but I got lambasted by our friend circle anywhere between the next few hours to the next day. I went out of my way to apologize and at times overexplain myself to people that should know me better. And if it wasn't for that I basically would've been cancelled over harmless flirting.

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It really is. And he has like a motion sensor light that comes on. I came home late one night and all of sudden a bright light comes on and Im being filmed against my will. Like I do not need my neighbors knowing my comings and goings. There is no privacy and I hate it. I also dont understand what the need is for these things. We live in a safe neighborhood where nothing happens. What is the appeal of these things? Paranoia?

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The days of getting drunk and doing stupid things as a teen and tween is seemingly dead due to the risk of being publicly shamed online …… and it’s a shame tbh.

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Yeah taking disposable cameras on road trips or to house parties or concerts was always a blast because you had no idea what was on them until you picked the photos up from Eckerd or Walgreens or the *film processing center* at a *grocery store*. When they started handing out discs with them that was the real game changer, because then you could upload the photos to Facebook if you so chose.

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The days of getting drunk and doing stupid things as a teen and tween is seemingly dead due to the risk of being publicly shamed online …… and it’s a shame tbh.♥ 209source record 131
That's most definitely a big factor. And you know, anxious people are always comforted by others with "no one's really looking, that's all in the head," and others to that effect, but social media has proved time and time again that people DO look, and they're RECORDING YOU while doing it, too.♥ 80source record 132
The video is very real. Can't just fuck around without it being posted somewhere. Especially when some careers drinking underage can keep you out. So it's not safe to go anywhere with alcohol until you're 21.♥ 69source record 299
It’s so sad to see like two people making out on a park bench or someone dancing at the club get recorded and go viral and now there’s thousands of people giving takes about how awful this person is and it’s indicative of whatever political party.. like this person was just minding their business and enjoying their life but if the wrong person sees you doing that you’re famous for a day♥ 67source record 300
Yeah it is kind of gross that people feel so ok with recording people without their consent. It sucks.♥ 30source record 301
ever wake up feeling a bit frightened/mortified about texts you may have sent or actions you took the night before? Amplify that by 10.♥ 101source record 316
It's every bit as mortifying as it sounds, I sent out a message trying to flirt a bit as a guy to a lesbian/bi friend (who unfortunately had some SA trauma by a dude a few months before I sent it.) I said nothing overtly crass but I got lambasted by our friend circle anywhere between the next few hours to the next day. I went out of my way to apologize and at times overexplain myself to people that should know me better. And if it wasn't for that I basically would've been cancelled over harmless flirting.♥ 8source record 317
People were talking about Gen Z not understanding millenials and huge houses parties and its very clear that every house and some street corners having cameras make that literally impossible. No hundreds of kids in one place, no picnic table in the pool, no impromptu boxing tournaments. Sad for them.♥ 66source record 318
I’m an older millennial, Facebook and iPhones were getting popular in my early 20s but I think my generation just kind of knew better than film something. I think someone would get their ass kicked filming a house party in high school because the number one goal is don’t get caught.♥ 45source record 319
Yeah but Ring wasn’t around at the time. Now it is, so house parties are near impossible now♥ 30source record 320
>I think someone would get their ass kicked filming a house party in high school because the number one goal is don’t get caught. I'm a bit younger than you I think, Facebook and iPhones were getting popular in like my Junior-Senior year of High School, but you're dead on with that. When they first started showing up, it was understood by everyone involved that you don't record anything and breaking that unspoken rule earned you shunning and eventually someone with a short enough fuse swung at you. It's been kind of nuts seeing the generation after us embrace recording all the time so readily.♥ 7source record 322
The always recording is so fucking scary, I can't even imagine growing up and seeing people get hated online for whatever reason, it would make me not wanna go anywhere public.♥ 42source record 324
I already had social anxiety but the rise of everyone recording people in public has made me downright agoraphobic. I wish they would make it illegal to record strangers in public in the US. I know thats the law in many other countries. Wish i could afford to just move there lol♥ 5source record 325
Imagine paying $18 for a cocktail just to end up as the villain in someone’s viral TikTok story.♥ 43source record 326
I've seen so many TikToks about terrible first date stories, then you scroll over to their account and it's just video after video. Like are you trying to date or just make content? My favorite was a story about a dude who found her TikTok and broke it off because he didn't want to just be a TikTok story on her page♥ 17source record 327
Just yesterday, someone posted a video of a chick flipping out on her ex-boyfriend in Denver airport because he supposedly caught her cheating, so he cancelled her ticket. Half the comments were talking about a woman sitting in view, but uninvolved, because she was picking her nose. Now, I get it, picking your nose in public is gross. But she was minding her own business, just sitting there, and now she's in some viral video being mocked online by thousands of strangers.♥ 6source record 328
> the fact that someone is always recording Not even just recording, the fear of doing or saying something and having the other person go on the internet and share their side of the story, framing you in a negative light, is not unfounded. People are waaaaay too willing to share details of their lives with complete strangers, and this willing and voluntary erosion of privacy makes others not want to interact in genuine ways.♥ 5source record 330
If they get shitfaced and do something stupid they might wake up internet famous♥ 80source record 373
I saw a study recently that it started to skyrocket in the 2010s and rose steadily til covid. Mostly it's social media. When I was young the consequences of a night where I got too drunk and embarrassed myself was I got some shit from my friends and a story to tell. Now the consequences could be much larger, it could be posted on the internet, it being on the internet means potential future employers can see it and anyone else you interact with could see it. If you did enough embarrassing stuff you previously could just move cities and it'd all disappear. Now they follow you everywhere♥ 22source record 377
Money and phones and all the existential dread yes, but I think it’s largely everything is watched and recorded. If you try to go up to a girl, your asshole friends might try to record it in case you fail and post to snapshot “my bro shooting his shot oop!!” If you drink and go dance, someone is recording to post to TT “look at these moves 😂” or something . Literally people are recording everything♥ 7source record 462
As someone smarter than me pointed out that really opened my eyes. Was the fact that everything is filmed now. You can't go out and be silly or dumb or have an embarrasing moment and no one will know about it. The second someone does something "weird" people whip out there phones to film it and plaster it all over social media.♥ 10source record 465
To be fair tho, when we were young, we didn’t have to worry about our worst moments ending up posted for the entire world to ridicule. Like, when I was their age, I had anxiety about doing or saying something stupid and my 6 friends laughing at me. I did NOT have anxiety about doing or saying something stupid and strangers from other continents laughing at me. Yes, I do think that people should get out more, and that social anxiety should be addressed not indulged, like you said. But the stakes are just so much higher now than when we were young, that it’s not really fair to be like “just get over it.” We’re old enough that we no longer care what strangers think of us, and when we were young, things just worked differently. We have no idea what it feels like to be young in the social media age.♥ 3source record 676
That's not the core of it though, the core difference is they would actually be bothered enough by that for it to affect their behavior. Back in the day it would be the person who took the time to do that who would be perceived as the loser.♥ 2source record 691
I mean, I would've be bothered by it if it had the chance to go viral and be seen by potentially millions of people. I remember back in the mid 2000s somebody posted a video of me and some friends on YouTube acting drunk and stupid. It pissed all of us off and there was really no chance of anybody seeing that.♥ 6source record 692
Less YouTube, more sent around your high school, posted on instagram or TikTok, Facebook for your family to see, Google search for jobs to find. We’ve learned that a single video can do irreversible damage. How many times have you seen the picture of that right wing girl, Kaitlyn Bennet, pooping herself at a party while passed out… or video evidence of someone saying something under the influence that’s gotten them canceled. I certainly would not have acted the way I did in my teens and early twenties had this environment existed today. It was bad enough in high school when flip phones with video existed and rumors of a party circulated then teachers and admin were confiscating phones as evidence to suspend players from sports or when someone that didn’t like you got ahold of said videos and showed their parents who then showed your parents. Then Facebook became widely used by non-college kids towards the tail end of my masters degree and our friend group just started a strict no phones when out policy. Even then stuff happened and embarrassing things got posted that curtailed a few friends careers.♥ 7source record 731
With it being so new back then I would assume experiences differ by family/city/state. We had many athletes get suspend from sports due to leaked phone pics/videos of partying. Our school tried to have the athletes sign a “no partying contract” to be eligible for sports that allowed them to search our phones. A lot of us quit instead of signing. Personally, I used to throw parties a my parents cabin a 10-20 miles out of town. Definitely got in trouble my senior year when another parent sent a video from their kids phone and related text messages to my father. College was the same story for athletes. Even had a few friends on academic scholarships lose their scholarships…. but I did go to a dry campus college so it was monitored much more closely. Our campus was three alcohol strikes and you got kicked out of school.♥ 1source record 733
It's not just that they're online it's that they *could* be online – as in go viral for a bad moment or rough day. Being utterly humiliated in perpetuity in front of a world audience is on the roulette wheel now. It's not like dating and socializing was easy when I was a kid in the 90s and 00s or for my folks in the 60s and 70s but it just sucks that everything is "content" now. Remember Star Wars kid? That was 2002. Dude was wrecked by that but it was so weird, so isolated. I think he filmed that himself, in private. Now it seems like everyone everywhere is running around with a camera, champing at the bit to capture anything even vaguely "odd" to chase praise on social media. So we're all on tenterhooks, afraid to do anything that might attract attention. I have no skin in the game. I was never a social butterfly and I'm even more devoted to living under a rock as I get older. But even I feel the joy has been sucked out of real, lived, experience by pervasive observation. I feel so sorry for my kids. My oldest looks at everything now and declairs it "AI slop". She's probably right; I just haven't become accustomed to that degree of cynicism and skepticism. In fact – 20 or 30 years ago I was cynical, suspicious, skeptical. But the world has passed me by. What used to be borderline paranoia is just pragmatism now. Every word and action is guarded. My autistic nephew has never even kissed a girl. He tried to strike up a relationship in college a decade ago and almost got in trouble for sexual harassment. And the biggest problem is that's not even entirely a bad thing or unjustified. The same lack of observation and free wheeling lifestyle that let us live a little also let bad people get away with doing bad things. And now that we have evidence aplenty of that – Epstein files, police brutality videos – not much has changed. The bad guys *still* get away with it. Total affirmation of our worst fears. You'd be foolish if you *weren't* on guard.♥ 1source record 791
This. I feel so uncomfortable knowing that my neighbor get a notification on his phone every time I walk by. I dont consent to that. But apparently its legal and theres no laws against so that somehow makes it ok...♥ 1source record 1013
Yeah I hate ring cameras. It’s so invasive if you don’t want it looking at you.♥ 2source record 1014
seeing people lose their jobs over stupid "keeping it real" moments that go viral today and am so glad i had my worst of those when i was younger and before everyone was recording everything all the time.♥ 2source record 1036
Yeah I have a bunch of 19-24 year olds that work for me and explaining to them that the smartphone wasn't ubiquitous until the end of college for me, and even then the cameras were still shitty and we didn't document *everything* blows their mind. And it's very clear that it's what allowed us Millennials to go hard in the paint without fear of being outed.♥ 2source record 1037
Yeah taking disposable cameras on road trips or to house parties or concerts was always a blast because you had no idea what was on them until you picked the photos up from Eckerd or Walgreens or the *film processing center* at a *grocery store*. When they started handing out discs with them that was the real game changer, because then you could upload the photos to Facebook if you so chose.♥ 2source record 1038
It really is. And he has like a motion sensor light that comes on. I came home late one night and all of sudden a bright light comes on and Im being filmed against my will. Like I do not need my neighbors knowing my comings and goings. There is no privacy and I hate it. I also dont understand what the need is for these things. We live in a safe neighborhood where nothing happens. What is the appeal of these things? Paranoia?♥ 2source record 1046
The phrase "you had to be there" seems a lot more lacking these days♥ 2source record 1047
From what I see - its very much both. When you've been raised with social media, your pretty much aware of every horrible thing that is happening in the world 24/7. Plus with everyone with an HD camera in the palm of their hands at all time, doing literally anything in public can instantly become a special with you at the center. At the same time, there is an overall lower level of resiliency that I feel does come from the kind of internet culture, and a fair share of parental failure. Gentle parenting was a good concept in theory, but has been an over-correction from very harsh and uncaring parenting from past generations - and that combined with the general notion you see in many online circles that all feelings are "valid" and should never be questioned / all behaviors have some root excuse in mental health has lead to many being over coddled and unable to push through anxiety and discomfort, but rather retreat at the small pushbacks or critics. Now - disclaimer - this all is a generalization of a particular group of Gen Z that is big enough to be identified. I've met many gen Z who are very well adjusted and resilient too, sometimes in direct spite and reaction to that general atmosphere they grew up around.♥ 5source record 1056
EVERYTHING IS RECORDED♥ 3source record 1057
I'm an elder millenial as well who avoided early facebook like the plague it was and it changed things but pictures and camcorders were always around but no ring, no echo, nothing monitoring the house.♥ 1source record 1081
Yep, every aspect of the "Go out with people you know or much worse, work with, get drunk, try to - or succeed, in hooking up with one of them" is now a life / career ender For virtually ever, that was the standard thing to do, my whole 20's & half my 30's were that. For 20/30 year olds now that entire set up is a job ender or a social standing cancelling waiting to happen. Stay sober, don't do anything that might be portrayed as bad. Better yet, don't go out, go home where its safe. Go online anonymously & play games.♥ 6source record 1137
Remember that annoying asshole who would bring up some dumb shit you did when you were drunk as a way to feel superior to you? Now he has a phone and will film your dumb, drunken behavior and post it to socials. Fuck that guy.♥ 2source record 1169
Ya I think that last part is HUGE! Any misstep and it's documented and shared with everyone! Bad dancing, pass out somewhere, throw up on yourself, slurring or saying something dumb, making out with an ugly person, all of that documented and shared instantly to everyone you know and don't know. Got them surrounded by paparazzi, except in this case it's paparazzi they hang out with and want to impress.♥ 3source record 1187
Also an elder millennial, and I don't think it is this. They didn't decide to not drink due to seeing us being drunk idiots. They stopped because when we did it, it wasn't recorded and plastered all over the internet. Our embarrassing stories are now just stories told when we gather with friends. For them, the video becomes immortalized forever and is accessible to anyone. Even people you don't want involved in your life. I was bullied in high-school and wouldn't have done half the embarrassing stuff I did if I knew my bullies and every girl in school was going to have the video the next day.♥ 1source record 1190
You're not allowed to make mistakes in public anymore.♥ 2source record 1200
Fear of doing something stupid while drunk and going viral, thus losing your job. Which I think is super valid. I feel so bad when I see some videos online of maybe a couple dancing hot and heavy. Why are we recording people for just having fun and letting loose? We are a miserable society♥ 2source record 1204
Everything being filmed all the time. Being young is about making mistakes but you are afraid to if some dipshit is always recording and posting it all online♥ 2source record 1241
The fact that every risk they ever take will be filmed, catalogued, and used for potential harm in their future, combined with the social isolation of covid during pivotal formative years in their social brains that have led many of them to believe that a drip feed of barely registered dopamine hits under a firehose of anxiety-inducing, addictive content tailored to evoke extreme emotions of love or hate that leave them completely ill-equipped to handle pragmatic, face-to-face interactions. Also, most of them were raised by GenX. We wonder where the Gen Z stare came from? GenX is an entire generation who thought it was cool to never care or do anything, all while still being able to get jobs by walking into a building and showing some "gumption" or shit. Their standard bearer was Daria, and they literally wonder why their kids have no social skills.♥ 2source record 1243
The chance that someone (friend or acquaintance) visually records a Gen Z’er whilst drunk, striking out while asking someone out on a date/dance or any basic social interaction in public - is fraught with peril.♥ 2source record 1296
I have had gen Z tell me they are afraid of being recorded doing something stupid and put on the internet. That's not great for social anxiety which is already through the roof.♥ 2source record 1298
I don’t just think, I KNOW the threat of being in the background of a wannabe influencer’s story keeps people inside.♥ 2source record 1301
It comes down to a shift in **risk management and leverage**. Previous generations used alcohol and social gatherings as cheap ways to build social capital, release stress, and test boundaries. For Gen Z, the ROI on both has completely flipped: **Alcohol is high-risk, zero-control:** In an era where everyone carries a camera and digital footprints last forever, losing control in public carries a massive social and reputation tax. Alcohol no longer feels like a "social lubricant"—it feels like a strategic liability. **Relationships are high-investment, uncertain return:** When economic pressure is high and basic stability feels out of reach, deep relationships are perceived as an energy drain rather than a safety net. Transactional or surface-level interactions require less emotional capital and carry lower downside risk if things go wrong. They aren't anti-social; they are risk-averse. They’ve simply optimized for control and self-preservation in a world where mistakes are permanently recorded.♥ 2source record 1334
I'll add to everything others have said. Everything is recorded now. You make a mistake and it can fuck up your life. As someone who did stupid things or ran their mouth when they were younger, having that held against you for life is terrifying. Thankfully there were no cameras for me.♥ 1source record 1351
Let's see constant online surveilance. All your friends know where you have and haven't been Beeing trapped in social media bubbles. Your neigbor may have a total different mindset than you. Hostility to new contact because they think you are weird and definitely want something. Uncertainty of Gender who is what edc. You can't tell with some Everything is more expensive. Party locations are further apart and events are fewer. Also too much media Edit: Music is way too loud so you can't talk at events really unless you nearly leave them♥ 1source record 1374
If everything is performance art, and drinking and and going out is performance. And you know you're getting recorded and possibly questioned. Why bother?♥ 2source record 1390
Fewer relationships -- women are taught to be scared of everything and men are taught that everything they do is predatory and bad. No wonder nobody wants to take a chance. Less drinking etc -- someone will upload you online and you'll get punished publicly for a thing you did privately.♥ 1source record 1449
Everything can now be recorded. If you make aistake, get drunk - it can go online within minutes for millions to see.♥ 1source record 1459
This phone were holding to respond with. Lol. Drinking parties aren't in and who wants to let loose in the age of big brother.♥ 1source record 1507
The constant surveillance state. Constantly being online. You can’t make a mistake anymore without someone recording. Also weed.♥ 1source record 1517
Social media, specifically self surveillance. Things can get crazy when drinking/partying and there is a high chance of embarrassment and remorse since it can be cast in digital stone.♥ 1source record 1608
Back in my day, I only had to deal with the people immediately around me if I did something embarrassing like puking in a sink during a part. Today, people are worried about being recorded and having it posted online and having their life ruined just because they were having a bit too much fun.♥ 1source record 1631
Alcohol is expensive. Also all the fun things that millennials did wouldn't be possible to do now because of social media. We got drunk/high did dumb shit and felt free to do so. If you knew that at every moment you were being recorded/screenshot how many risks would you have taken? I once spent a half day off school taking a day trip in Connecticut when I lived in NYC, it couldn't happen now with life 360. Young adults/teens now don't have the level of freedom to fail quietly that we did. It's sad.♥ 1source record 1652
Social media. People are afraid they'd get black out drunk and do something that will end up being recorded and posted online. But social media have also a huge impact on self-worth. In the past you've seen those celebrities and their "lives" in newspapers or on tv, byt they were still celebrities. Now we have influencers, who are seemingly normal people like you, stage their persona so that they seem to be closer to celebrities than you. At some point it really devalues you as a person and makes you think you suck compared to other normal people.♥ 1source record 1657
Fear. They are terrified of doing or saying something 'wrong' and it being posted online and their life being ruined as a result. They dont know how to interact socially on any way that isnt extremely shallow. They call each other out and 'cancel' people for being 'problematic' and cant listen to or comprehend nuance. Everything is labelled. Everything is black and white. Its like the whole generation forgot how to have fun.♥ 1source record 1666
why go out and risk getting in trouble, probably filmed for later ridicule, when you can sit at home doom scrolling and wanking for an easy dopamine fix♥ 1source record 1731
Everyone filming each other!!! STOP FILMING PEOPLE IN PUBLIC. Whenever I frequent a well-known spot and see everyone with their phones out, filming strangers, I make a point to flip off or glare at every phone that pans over me. Live your life, no one cares about what you filmed (a drink? A crowded bar? Seriously??) and you’ll never look at it in your phone reel ever again.♥ 1source record 1745
I think beyond things being more expensive social media is a cause as well. It’s the same reason no one wants to dance anymore. EVERYTHING you do will be posted online. They may have the anxiety of making a mistake and having it blasted for everyone to see and judge.♥ 1source record 1757
Being afraid that everyone is going to record everything and post it online. They can’t let loose♥ 1source record 1765
Because performative social media took the joy out of everything♥ 1source record 1792
Depression and anxiety from fear of being cancelled. You cant share your most intimate private thoughts now even with your best friends. Because e verybody’s a snitch now. Accumulating blackmail on their lifelong friends. It’s emotionally draining living like this. Walking on eggshells trying not to offend. What’s perfectly acceptable one day is suddenly taboo with the next and vice versa. One wrong word and boom your life is ruined. And worst of all you’re forced to have a social media profile to function in modern society. This kind of censorship is in offense to the human soul. At first everybody is keeping her heads down and being depressed until the anger builds, and there’s a revolution, and all the enforcers and benefactors of the system, lose their heads. Just like what happened in China every single time a dynasty began to die and crack down hard on its peasants. I forgot which Dynasty it was, but in their dying days. They became very harsh and unforgiving of even the most minute of offenses and prescribed death for almost everything. Until one day, some military general got sick of it and overthrow them. The heads of government officials and eunuch and all protected classes lined the road to Beijing for hundreds of miles. I would not be surprised if one day something similar happens in modern America♥ 1source record 1794
Why would you get drunk in public when anyone could (and will) film you and humiliate you on the internet?♥ 1source record 1798
Phones with cameras everywhere = no privacy + no money. Same as Millenials, though they are using alcohol to cope so thats why they still drink for now.♥ 1source record 1805
Social media and the panopticon♥ 1source record 1816
Social Media while drunk and young is no good♥ 1source record 1854
you know how exposed you are these days if you're in a relationship? people would post their private chats to try to go viral. we out.♥ 1source record 1865
Panopticon. Everything is recorded, mistakes must not be made thus cannot be learned from. In a sea of people where a small number thrives by being visible, one survives by being invisible, and that means staying home, doing less, and avoiding costly mistakes like being too drunk or awkward in front of the wrong person’s camera. Health. Alcohol is actually bad for you and the media glamor is not hooking young impressionable minds like it used to and there has been a consistent trend of decreased drinking rates among youth since the turn of the century. You could say that public health messaging actually has *some* effect on this over time and the cultural attitudes toward drinking eventually reached a tipping point. I read somewhere that 2025 was the all-time high for abstention rates of alcohol in high schoolers. At least some credit belongs to sticking with the messaging for long enough. Money. Discretionary spending is more limited, prices are higher, wages growth has been eaten up by inflation, the last four years have seen the start of 3 wars which have destabilized the global economy and people can’t afford food. Alcohol will always sell because some people cope with it and some people have addictions but many other people will drink less when out at bars and opt to skip it when they are grocery shopping. This will downstream reduce dating interactions and subsequently relationships.♥ 1source record 1885
and the "panopticon"♥ 0source record 1902
It's the fact that not only does everyone have the capability to record every moment of life and the bad decisions or actions, but it also seems like they are absurdly quick to narc on each other as soon as those decisions or actions are taken.♥ 0source record 1908
Everything is documented. Everyone has a video camera and there are AI monitored cameras everywhere now. These kids have never not been in a literal panopticon. They can’t take risks, they need to always preform. Add to that how crap parenting has been in the last few decades couple with additive overstimulating media and you have a really rough situation for a lot of young adults and kids.♥ 1source record 1921
The upsides to taking risks keep getting lower, while the downsides to taking risks keep getting higher. Gutter social/economic safety net, fragmented family and friend safety nets, any mistake you make can be shared on social media and end your career, which means ruin. Meanwhile, the people with power and boomers with resources have continually consolidated it and kept it out of reach, making risks less rewarding when they do work out. Why date when your only hope to have a home together is if your parents die without spending it all on vacations and medical care that passes on debt to you instead. Drinking gets a lot less appealing if you're less interested in dating.♥ 1source record 1943
Maybe being recorded and posted online.♥ 1source record 1969
When I was a kid gender wars was basically a joke we did, but no one actually used it to define themselves. There wasn't cameras everywhere, I could make a sorry ass of myself, that would result in a few jokes for a couple of weeks and then be forgotten. Add it all together and why would I want to socialise today when there's so much social hostility and I could be recorded drunk and have that become a permament post on social media?♥ 1source record 1978
well drinking was a lot easier back in the day when people didn’t have the fear of being recorded all the time. every mistake, blunder, or embarrassing moment genz experiences is, has been, and the way things are going will be documented.♥ 1source record 2006
Weve created an awful little panopticon with social media, so people are terrified to text weird or act weird in public where they could be screenshot-ed or recorded♥ 1source record 2034
If you go out and drink you're going into the panopticon. Someone will record anything you do and post it online.♥ 1source record 2088
Surveillance culture.♥ 1source record 2089
Brain rot and camera always on. Met a Gen z streamer for the very first time and we were breaking bread, he bust out his camera and introduces me as his homie from out of town... I'm like I just met you lol.♥ 1source record 2186
Social media and all wrongs they do being documented and analyzed forever! You go out on a date, made a fool of yourself with a girl or a drink, and is on internet forever! Plus impossible to meet expectations from the other person as everyone else is expecting perfect instagram lives. It is somehow of a meme joke although kind of true due to impossible expectations in dating, when some average looking girl expects a guy to earn 6 figures, be at least 6ft tall and have 10 inch cock! And as for myself, mother nature gave me 6 ft and 1 inch, my brains got me 6 figure salary, but I will rather be alone than cut an inch from my penis for any girl! :)))))♥ 1source record 2198
being afraid of being ashamed♥ 1source record 2213
No, the difference is that it didn’t have the potential to go viral. And we were tighter about people using cameras, which was easier at the time. Nowadays one random TikTok can go across the world and you can’t stop it.♥ 6source record 2364
> So if it had somehow gone viral, would that have stopped you ever drinking again? It certainly would have been embarrassing and if I had seen other people go viral it would have absolutely changed my relationship with partying. You're just missing the point. Things like that didn't go viral in the mid 2000s. It wasn't something we had to worry about. Just being posted online without our consent was a shock to the system. Nowadays kids have seen countless examples of people being dunked on online en masse. Hell, they've probably participated themselves. It's scary, genuinely. The last thing anybody wants is the ire of internet pointed their way. This is not a phenomenon that we had to deal with in the 2000s; we got to just be young and dumb.♥ 2source record 2366
Yes, that's because you're old and don't care. It's a lot different when you're in your early 20s. >but I don't know about it if I am because I'm not on social media And there's the other part. Kids have a completely different relationship with technology than you ever had. The phrase "digital natives" isn't hyperbole. They're whole life has been revolving around their online presence for damn near their whole lives. Big tech put iPads in their elementary schools and parents let them live in the screens at home. Their online persona is major part of who they are. You'll see it if you ever go to concert that caters to Gen Z. They are so painfully awkward it's hard to watch and their phones are out constantly.♥ 1source record 2368
Doesn’t stop me from drinking now but it’s a few drinks and not “let’s get blacked out as quick as possible” that was the trend in high school and college.♥ 1source record 2369
Mistakes are more visible and public than ever .the kinds of shenanigans people used to get away with in the 2000s are likely to stick with you, potentially affecting both social and professional life. Couple that with the known health benefits, we all know what damage alcohol can do to a person. Can't speak to the dating but I'd assume all the lockdowns and such when they were due to be at peak socializing probably didn't help. (I support the lockdowns but they definitely did have unintended negative side effects).♥ 0source record 2469

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What losing control can expose you to5 index entriesA small group naming assault and consent risk rather than embarrassment.
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What the pattern means: Five records take the surveillance argument somewhere else altogether: the risk they name is not humiliation but assault, consent and being unsafe among intoxicated strangers. Two are written from experience. They are kept separate from the camera answers because the harm being avoided is a different one.

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Same shit can be said about females. About how ass they are and how men just wanna avoid them at all costs.

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Boba tea and mexican food in the comfort of your home or getting drunk on cheap beer in a bar where everyone has camera and you're surrounded by intoxicated strangers + the added worries that come from being in that environment as a women, queer or trans person. I do think attitudes are shifting towards alcohol being more of a vice now, and that culturally we've shifted away from bars and churches as the main social venues.

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I was thinking of why I do this and its because its safer. Ive been assaulted too many times. Im too tired of it. Its safer to stay sober and not get into relationships. Not worth the risk.

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Men. They are a deterrent. Women are incredibly likely to be abused by their partner/sexual partner. It's literally not worth it for us women to go out and drink and have a shit root and probably get abused in some way.

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Boba tea and mexican food in the comfort of your home or getting drunk on cheap beer in a bar where everyone has camera and you're surrounded by intoxicated strangers + the added worries that come from being in that environment as a women, queer or trans person. I do think attitudes are shifting towards alcohol being more of a vice now, and that culturally we've shifted away from bars and churches as the main social venues.♥ 4source record 774
I was going to say for alcohol, “they are more aware of the negatives of alcohol”, but the gender war partially fits into that because young people now are more mindful of blacking out or lowering their inhibitions to the point of making mistakes, or being taken advantage of. As I have gotten older it blew me away how many people just shrugged off sleeping with someone they didn’t want to, or situations that technically constituted rape, simply because they were drunk.♥ 2source record 981
I think one reason partial reason that drinking has stopped is that people are worried about crossing a sexual boundary (particularly consent) while drunk.♥ 2source record 1232
Men. They are a deterrent. Women are incredibly likely to be abused by their partner/sexual partner. It's literally not worth it for us women to go out and drink and have a shit root and probably get abused in some way.♥ -6source record 1979
I was thinking of why I do this and its because its safer. Ive been assaulted too many times. Im too tired of it. Its safer to stay sober and not get into relationships. Not worth the risk.♥ 1source record 2136

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What the pattern means: The argument that the drinking fell because the places fell first. Malls that banned teenagers, bowling alleys and music halls that closed, cafes that took out their seating, police called on somebody lying in a park at sunset, and the general observation that every surviving place to be requires a purchase. Several commenters extend it a step: a generation with nowhere to practise being in public does not later become bar-goers.

What commenters described: Disappearance of third spaces or them getting expensive. Also everything is getting monitored nowadays so fooling around with your friends can quickly end up a viral on socialedia. Also digital entertainment is far easier than having to drive somewhere to meet up with someone to do stuff IRL. It is far easier to just play games/watch a movie/scroll social media than that.

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I know this is location dependent, but when I was a kid in the '00s we hung out at each other's houses, in the woods/neighborhood, parks/playgrounds, etc. and we got around on our bikes. These are just the free locations. We also went to local pizza places, the movies, or arcades, which I do understand is more expensive now, but everything I listed first is still available. The third space complaint might be true in some locations, but a lot of it feels like excuses by the current young generation who are more interested in living online than outside. Don't get me wrong, we played PLENTY of video games and dug into the dark recesses of the internet, but we did it together in-person. I think some might argue that there's no difference in playing multi-player games with your friends online versus split-screen together in your buddies basement, but I think they're losing out on some crucial social development just being together. I also think that this can hinder the transition into dating life. A lot of my male friends and my first relationships were developed through girls in our friend group and their friends. I spent a lot of awkward time learning how to be around girls, doing stupid shit to try to impress them, trying to figure out how to hold hands, etc. I don't know how any of these "skills" would have developed without the countless hours we all spent together in-person.

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doomscrolling and watching shows at home is way cheaper than running. i planned to start running (delayed for now, have developed a bit of an overheating problem recently). a couple decent t shirts, leggings/trousers, active socks, and run shoes... that was an example, but its so expensive to do literally anything. you take the bus to roam around town and it almost feels like money is falling out of your bag with every step you take. going with friends is even worse. especially since most people meet up these days for a nice time and then we eventhally end up at a relatively expensive restaurant/coffee shop. my sister has a friend she sees about once a year and they eat at nandos together each time so thats around £15-20 per meet up, all things aside 😭

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Or even worse you make a loud inside joke and suddenly some old person calls the cops on you because youMre disturbing the peace. Or my favourite that I'm sure Gen Alpha is also gettig now: "where are your parents???" Ma'am I'm a tired college student hanging out with friends at the mall. Let me enjoy my whimsy before i have to sit in a car for an hour in traffic because there's no public transport home and then go to my nigtshift job that's paying my tuition. This park is open to me too, and if no one uses it that's why people don't think it's safe. Hell that's half of it-no one can actually get to the park or mall or whatever so it's emptier and no one wants to sit around in an emptu area and of course I won't let my kids if i have them go there alone so it becomes even emptier

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I make much more than my average fellow zoomer and I'm teetering on broke 3rd places for kids/teens died while we were kids and teens, and 3rd places for adults are becoming prohibitively expensive A large chunk of my income goes to paying for my apartment, by God I will get my money's worth out of it. I have my friends I talk to online and occasionally see in person (I moved away from home a while back), I live with my girlfriend and our dog, I work ~48hrs a week, I don't need to, nor do I often have the energy to go to a bar to socialize, I can do that at home. And why would I drink? Weed is legal here lmao

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The death of third spaces and being generally broke. There is not really any place you can go that doesn't cost money these days.

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Disappearance of third spaces or them getting expensive. Also everything is getting monitored nowadays so fooling around with your friends can quickly end up a viral on socialedia. Also digital entertainment is far easier than having to drive somewhere to meet up with someone to do stuff IRL. It is far easier to just play games/watch a movie/scroll social media than that.

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Yeah, we used to just walk around the neighborhood. Granted many new neighborhoods now lack sidewalks, but still...

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And the death of third places. Everywhere you go now expects you to pay $30 just to sit down for an hour.

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There's more sense of community in people that line up for a commemorative popcorn bucket than people's own neighborhoods. In other words, people have replaced community/tribe with consumerism. There's no drive, then, to continue the tribe, reproduce, etc, therefore to form relationships, and thus require the social lubrication of alcohol.♥ 212source record 243
I will say, it is harder to feel that sense of community when your living situations all feel temporary due to renting. It's harder to feel the need to improve your own home when it only benefits the landlord and if you don't care about your own home, why would you spend time engaging with your community? We need affordable housing and give people a sense of ownership.♥ 117source record 244
Bingo. In all my years of apartment living I only got to actually know a couple people, and only one remains a friend after we both moved out. When people may be gone at any moment, I'm not investing much more than polite passing greetings.♥ 26source record 245
Not just due to renting, but people being entirely willing to dump all their friends to move across the country repeatedly in their life. You probably leave the state to go to college, and nobody expects you to keep up with childhood friends. Then you leave for somewhere else to get a job, after more prime friend-making years. Nobody just...lives in the same neighborhood and makes ironclad bonds anymore.♥ 6source record 246
I will say communities are still possible, albeit it requires effort and coming out of your comfort zone. When my kid was born, my wife joined a neighborhood mothers group for kids born the same year, was extremely active in said group, and ended up making a ton of great friends with kids the same age as ours. She then pushed me to befriend the dads of that group, which I did as it turns out a few of the dads have a ton in common. Flash forward a year and I am at the park every night and gaming with mothers and fathers who are all going through the same challenges. Hell, even had a old fashioned LAN party I used to only hear about with beer and PCs. The word *community* has been thrown around a lot now. Not saying it's easy by any means, as you need to find people willing and capable. But it is still possible in 2026 to have a community. Though I will say that having determined wives and a common enemy (the challenges of raising children; not the children themselves, for clarification) to commiserate about sure helps. Also helps that a bunch of our neighbors also have kids the exact same age, so if we're not at the park, we're outside hanging with the parents and neighbors on our block... Maybe children are the real key? Their existence and the common challenges that carry with them truly unify us in an age where every human being can be as unique as a snow flake. Kind of a catch-22 when you think about it given the plight of our generation.♥ 26source record 248
Disappearance of third spaces or them getting expensive. Also everything is getting monitored nowadays so fooling around with your friends can quickly end up a viral on socialedia. Also digital entertainment is far easier than having to drive somewhere to meet up with someone to do stuff IRL. It is far easier to just play games/watch a movie/scroll social media than that.♥ 1,672source record 284
But I think one feeds into the other. Try opening up a third space these days. You’d really struggle to get lots of interested parties. Once upon a time, things like drink minimums and cover charges were normal because people so commonly wanted to hang out in communal spaces they’d try to do so without paying. Nowadays you’d struggle to get people interested in going at all, but as more and more third places close down, it gets harder for anyone to go and that leads to the next generation having even less interest. How’s a 22 year old supposed to be interested in socializing in third places when it’s insanely expensive, hard to fine a place at all, and seemingly none of your peers have ever even been to places like that?♥ 176source record 286
I don't think you would struggle if you could replicate what actually brings people to those experiences, which is fun and comfort with their friends. But it's very very expensive to open a third place and the people with money want their money to make *the most* money, they want the *opposite* of fun and comfort, they want an incessant pressure towards spending money. A good third place needs to make a thin margin providing useful services. It's why mafiosi like to open nice restaurants. The money isn't really in the food, the most significant money comes from doing business over a delicious meal.♥ 12source record 288
Discord became the third place because real-life third spaced got monetized to death.♥ 24source record 302
Weirdly nerds have preserved one of the last ones. Local game stores. There is a reason they are proliferating.♥ 43source record 303
Don’t forget local card shops too - lots of people play trading card games like Yugioh and magic the gathering. Yeah yeah nerds whatever those games can be fun. Tournaments are an experience for sure. It is cool that there is *somewhere* for people to go that isn’t home or work where they can chill out and enjoy themselves for a few hours. Hanging out at the mail isn’t a thing anymore. Kids are kicked out of fast food places and other stores unless they are actively buying something. There’s nowhere to just go walk around talking to your friends, not needing to spend money, but where there is something to at least look at.♥ 16source record 304
Yeah, malls really killed themselves, when they made a habit of forcing everyone with no expenses and disposable income to leave all the time.♥ 5source record 306
The disappearance of third spaces really can't be undersold. The best example of this is malls, in my opinion. I'm a millennial and remember when the mall was where we went to hang out. We'd maybe go in stores or eat at the food court, but it was mainly to just hang out.♥ 49source record 307
The malls are banning teens. Kids just have no where to go, then we make fun of them for only playing video games.♥ 47source record 308
Yeah, and third spaces are almost getting paywalled out of existence.♥ 80source record 342
Yup, nowhere to hang out. I've seen more adults on kids swings this year than any other year in my life.♥ 23source record 343
I think it's less "Gen Z lazy, phone bad" and more that society is actively pushing people to be more isolated in the interest of capital. Doordash so you don't interact with people at a restaurant, Waymo so you don't interact with a driver, Starbucks removing tables from cafes so they can cycle more people through, etc etc etc. They're being set up to fail.♥ 162source record 360
The third spaces issue is very real. When I was a kid, there were all sorts of places we could go, and many of them existed not to make massive profits, but to actually provide that "cool" place for people to hang out. I think much of this issue will find its roots at greed and the need to monetize every single aspect of life.♥ 11source record 402
Lack of 3rd spaces and alcohol being expensive. It's cheaper to stay home and play games online and vape.♥ 7source record 419
Lack of a third space Tech brain rot like AI and only online culture manosphere bullshit driving gender divide lack of funds lack of employment. Like 60% of US discussions are "Hows work been, what are your career ambitions." Do you think "the most underemployed and unemployed generation ever" with no entry level jobs or hope wants to talk about that? Chronic social anxiety and asocialization♥ 16source record 426
Who can blame them, they've had all their 3rd spaces taken away, cant afford to drink or socialise and all their friends live in their phone♥ 29source record 439
Agreed. I was born in 97 so I have a good mix of both pre and post social media living. I miss the “community” feeling of going to a public place and making friends with strangers. I feel like that never happens anymore.♥ 2source record 662
"The death/expense of third places" also comes up a lot during these. Any activity out of the house costs more, and there's less options to choose from.♥ 1source record 702
This is something that I do think gets overlooked. I remember growing up there were alot of things that could be done that didn't cost money. Nowadays it seems like any place you go you have to be prepared to spend money in order to be there. Mix this in with how the cost of living keeps going up but wages are not, people are just not going to go out as much.♥ 1source record 718
> eah, I know kids around the age where you'd expect them to start going out, and basically none of them do. They say the same thing. A 'cheap' drink costs what an entire meal used to cost. Going out for a single beer is the same amount, even adjusted for inflation, as I spent taking my wife out to a meal. I think they assume the previous generations were always spending money at bars and restaurants when the reality is teens & early 20s "back in the day" spent a lot of time in random places where you could just sit around and bullshit like a local park, or the library, or the arcade, or the cemetery, or the steps of that abandoned building, or that school athletic field that's not being used at the moment, or that parking lot. The thing is that included a lot of "all of us are bored and talking about how bored we are" which today's kids refuse to do. If they're going to sit around with nothing to do and not money to spend on something, they'd rather be on their bed alone doom scrolling or watching their tv in their living room by themselves. As a car enthusiast we used to just show up at a parking lot and talk. Occasionally we'd get thrown out and go find another parking lot. Cruising the strip was dodging the police and business employees who only want paying customers around. I got to know the names of most of the cops in a three township radius and only ever got one ticket. And we'd do that for 8 hours fri and sat evening half the year. Today's kids would have an anxiety attack the first time they'd be told to leave, immediately go home, and rock themsleves back and forward sweating profusely in a corner saying they'd never go outside again. They can't handle anything uncomfortable and being told no/leave/etc is uncomfortable.♥ 2source record 776
There's some more to it though. First, they aren't bored. They're NEVER bored. There's always something to watch, or look at, or listen to. That's part of the problem. A lot of our early teen memories were driven by having just literally nothing else to do. I played Battletech and D&D and online text adventures, and stuff you couldn't pay kids today to do, because those things are really boring by today's standards. The second thing is maybe more subtle, but I noticed bringing my kid up that she wasn't welcome anywhere, at all, and just being outside of her house was weird, and made people uncomfortable. She came back from our park when she was 9-10 a few times, because some parent told her it wasn't okay for her to be there alone ... even though I can see the park out my back window. I finally had to walk back with her, and tell the people that it's okay, and to leave her alone. We had a similar thing with her skateboarding on our block. No one else did that, and people would stop their cars and ask if she was okay ... at 13-15yrs old! Kids don't ride bikes anymore, but also, because of that fact, a kid riding a bike down your street is treated as suspicious. Places became much less welcoming when they decided it was weird for kids to be outside of their houses.♥ 1source record 777
I would say that the "chronically online" happens because we removed third spaces from them as kids - there was nowhere to hang out so they do not have the *capability* to hang out as an adult. People that hang out are more likely to drink - I know my first alcohol was with friends in high school. But if there's nowhere to hang out, they lose that social ability. It is very much a consequence of people (mostly baby boomers) not wanting "kids" hanging around places. Couple that with overprotective parents who do not let their kids do *any* extra-curricular activities and you end up with a *generation* that has *no* idea how to be social. Money has nothing to do with it. There is still cheap beer and liquor out there. Case in point - I walked next door to the liquor store (I work at a gas station) and they have some 12 packs of beer for *less* than we sell a 12 pack of Coke/Pepsi/Dr Pepper. And it's a small liquor store - they don't have a huge selection. But it shows that money is *not* the issue. It's simply because they're not social in non-online spaces because society has not *allowed* them to be social in such places.♥ 1source record 793
This is exactly what I was going to post. Doing things in general is too expensive and corporate greed was too greedy to keep allowing free spaces to do things in the race to monetize everything. Its harder than ever to do anything affordably. And yeah maybe we should be regulating social media harder. But who ever actually got the wish used the fucking monkey's paw cause I don't mean how we're trying to do it now "fer the kids".♥ 1source record 795
Also qhwre do we go? Malls are getting a bit betwe at having more then just stores again at least where I live but like what if i just want to sit in a cafe with a friend? No seats for that. Then we have ti drive because there isn't a bus or train or anything in walking distance half the time. It gets worse the younger you are. I had to go abroad to experience sitting in a small shop and running into friends on the street just windowshopping and sightseeing. Still cost money but it was nice having places to just exist.♥ 1source record 887
The park, farmers market, many museums, a friends house, a hiking trail, the school football field, just walking around the neighborhood chatting, etc.♥ 4source record 938
I had the cops called on me for laying on the grass beside my bike, in a park, watching the ducks on the pond as the sun set. Not "a cop saw me and stopped", but someone *actually called the cops because I was enjoying a sunset in the park*. Hiking and whatnot are good "outings" but I'd argue that sort of thing really doesn't fill the same niche as the "third place" that people just can organically congregate at without anyone having to plan or organize♥ 5source record 940
This is it: malls basically banned teens in the 90s and then wondered why their patronage dried up. I have teenage kids: I literally don't know where they could go that's free to just hang out and be with their friends, even the one that can drive himself.♥ 9source record 952
You don't even have to go to each other's houses every time. We used to go to local parks, the woods, trails, even cemeteries.♥ 2source record 961
That's actually a really good point. I'm a big TCG player and I feel like I get so much more socialization than most of the young peers I have, because I actually get to go out and hang out with like minded people outside of the house basically every day or every other day♥ 2source record 962
My town has an amazing art cafe that seems really popular with teens. It's just a normal coffee shop with a huge supply of free to use art supplies and cool old typewriters. You're welcome to leave your artwork up on the wall when you're done. They also have a lot of free classes and events. It's great to go there and see everyone (especially kids and teens) off screens and doing art projects together.♥ 1source record 989
Yes, and malls were themselves (imo) poor 1980s-era substitutes for the more lively downtown spaces destroyed by white flight to the suburbs three decades earlier.♥ 1source record 1011
Interesting to hear Starbucks is removing tables. Starbucks' whole stchick years ago was "the third space". The concept of 3rd spaces, being somewhere you can go hang out and spend time away from home. We (xelliniels) had a ton of these places growing up. Pool halls, skating rink, arcades, parks, events, mom and pop stores/restaurants. Third spaces are full on dying. The intention now is spend your money, do the thing, and get out in a certain time limit. You can't go out anywhere anymore to just hang out with people, meet and make friends, socialize without a timer.♥ 2source record 1033
Sure delivery existed, but you still had to call someone on the phone and then meet the pizza delivery guy at the door. Those little social interactions add up. I'm not saying people are being forced to use these services but the more normal and widespread they become, the worse it is for society as a whole imo.♥ 2source record 1059
The disappearance of third spaces is so big. All the bars, clubs, bowling alleys, little music halls, movie theaters, and malls that used to be around are all gone. Like where do people in high school and 20s go to do anything?♥ 1source record 1067
Yeah I was thinking about parks too, which wouldn't work in the winter if you live some place cold of course, but would work plenty of the time♥ 1source record 1079
I am not talking about curated experiences, I am talking about what my generation did: go get food or snacks and just sit down and hang out in the mall/strip mall/parking lot, many many areas of undeveloped land, or any sort of open-air community space for hours. We used to walk through the neighborhood as the crow flies because most yards weren't even fenced. (I had a whole suggestion-by-suggestion counter-argument but I decided that part wasn't as important as the thesis.) I think you accidentally stumbled into the answer you were curious about. Unless we're talking about public land (of which there is very little and growing smaller), communal areas that used to be open have been closed, heavily monitored (not necessarily by LEO but simply by business owners or nosy citizens), or relegated to fenced off space well outside the reasonable distance of the people that need it. Places that used to be free and public have been commercialized or privatized or locked down. tl;dr: I'm not saying these aren't good suggestions, they're just not accessible in the same way the whole world was when I was a teenager. Those spaces have been almost completely closed off to today's kids.♥ 1source record 1083
Yeah, we used to just walk around the neighborhood. Granted many new neighborhoods now lack sidewalks, but still...♥ 1source record 1085
Maybe making it so they couldnt hang out anywhere in public without money as teenagers without somehow loitering, getting rid of parks, swimming pools, and other third spaces, and making everywhere an unwalkable hellscape whilst also blaming it all on them is not the winning strategy gen x thought it was.♥ 6source record 1122
I think one thing people are ignoring is Covid also closed a lot of places down. Yes prices are insane and wages are low there is no denying that at all. Yet back in the day we had a lot of local places to hang out in. Now? I see Gen Z and younger talk about fucking chilles and it’s triple dipper. Back in the day that wasn’t even an option no one went to chain restaurants unless you went out with older family. There were local breweries, bars, clubs, and etc. All these places shut down with zero replacements. Today if you want to go out for a date or even a hang out you have to wade through families, kids, parents, and eat bland sysco food for triple the price it was from 7 years ago. There is nothing fun about that. We lost a lot of fun places and money is already tight why overpay when you already know the time is going to be mediocre.♥ 2source record 1226
Money and the loss of third spaces. Everywhere people gather costs money by design. Bars are ridiculously expensive and simply not worth it. Parks are full of homeless people trying to survive. Public spaces without homeless people have hostile architecture in places that don't cost money. That leaves consumer spaces such as coffee shops, stores, malls, and of course, bars. I guess churches are cheap, but churches aren't exactly neutral spaces.♥ 2source record 1252
There are almost no 'third places' left where young people can just casually hang out without being expected to spend atleast like 30 dollars. And when it comes to dating, it's less about finding love and more of a HR screening process now 🙂♥ 1source record 1279
People don't go out as much. Loss of the third place which often would've been a place to meet people and get a drink. And of course people are struggling. Also for alcohol, it seems they focus more on the bad side of alcohol more than previous generations did♥ 1source record 1281
The death of third spaces. Everything is expensive and every third space that existed is now commercialized and expensive. Everything is a leech trying to suck as much money out of you as possible. Its hard to meet new people.♥ 2source record 1307
Lack of free 3rd places. (Among other things) Preparing yourself to go out is a little work. Preparing your space for guests is more work. There are fewer and fewer places you van just exist comfortably without the expectation of spending money.♥ 1source record 1340
Loss easily accessible third places, and everything is $$$♥ 1source record 1422
Social media and online shopping made it easier for third spaces to die out. Now, there is no easy way to meet others in person without paying money that not everyone has.♥ 1source record 1667
Lack of third places that don't involve money. Alcohol is just not worth the cost now, in my opinion.♥ 1source record 1696
I make much more than my average fellow zoomer and I'm teetering on broke 3rd places for kids/teens died while we were kids and teens, and 3rd places for adults are becoming prohibitively expensive A large chunk of my income goes to paying for my apartment, by God I will get my money's worth out of it. I have my friends I talk to online and occasionally see in person (I moved away from home a while back), I live with my girlfriend and our dog, I work ~48hrs a week, I don't need to, nor do I often have the energy to go to a bar to socialize, I can do that at home. And why would I drink? Weed is legal here lmao♥ 2source record 1733
Less third spaces, completely unstable future, stepped into the worst economy possible, further legalization of weed, COVID torching mental health and socials skills, I mean I could really go on♥ 1source record 1894
Lack of 3rd spaces, everything expensive, social media skeeing standard and making gender wars, loss of community and just no longer needing each other to survive, endless distractions online♥ 0source record 1907
Obviously, money, but you could pin a lot of it specifically on private equity and monopolies, because all the industries that generally produce third spaces have been particularly susceptible to the god-awful business practices that take place when something gets monopolized or bought out by private equity.♥ 1source record 2019
The death of third spaces and being generally broke. There is not really any place you can go that doesn't cost money these days.♥ 1source record 2104
Less third places targeted towards them♥ 1source record 2176
The third space is gone. You can’t afford a bar tab, and malls are dead. Staying in isn’t a flaw; it’s the only economic survival strategy left when hanging out costs a fortune.♥ 1source record 2214
And the death of third places. Everywhere you go now expects you to pay $30 just to sit down for an hour.♥ 0source record 2304
Lack of “third spaces” too, especially affordable ones.♥ 1source record 2330
Or even worse you make a loud inside joke and suddenly some old person calls the cops on you because youMre disturbing the peace. Or my favourite that I'm sure Gen Alpha is also gettig now: "where are your parents???" Ma'am I'm a tired college student hanging out with friends at the mall. Let me enjoy my whimsy before i have to sit in a car for an hour in traffic because there's no public transport home and then go to my nigtshift job that's paying my tuition. This park is open to me too, and if no one uses it that's why people don't think it's safe. Hell that's half of it-no one can actually get to the park or mall or whatever so it's emptier and no one wants to sit around in an emptu area and of course I won't let my kids if i have them go there alone so it becomes even emptier♥ 1source record 2333
Basically all third places that weren't just a park, disappeared by the 2010s, hell, most of them were gone by the 2000s.a decade+ before COVID.♥ 1source record 2381
True, but that's just it: the scenarios you outlined largely don't exist today. If people want to drink socially it's more than likely going to be at a bar/club/patio etc. So yes there's some cheap liquor, but there's nowhere to drink it, therefore no reason to buy it. Plus the economy is way different, less jobs for teenagers now than before♥ 1source record 2437
Most college age kids parents are not allowing big parties and bashes. I have two college kids and no way am I allowing parties at my house Did not allow it in high school and not allowing it now. No way am i having under age drinkers drinking tons at my house and or acquaintances of theirs who show up sneaking in pot / other drugs No fucking way.♥ 1source record 2476

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The bars themselves stopped being worth it8 index entriesComplaints about what the room is actually like once you are inside it.
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What the pattern means: A small group whose complaint is the room, not the bill. Music too loud to talk over, nobody their own age present, a crowd of strangers, and a premium charged for standing in it. One commenter who wears hearing aids describes the volume as what ends the evening before the drink does.

What commenters described: There's alcoholism and then there's social drinking. Then again the industry is driven by like 70% of people who just consume that much, 30% are the occasional drinkers. And bars suck ass. Paying 10x the premium for being a room with strangers where you can't hear anyone anyway? No thanks. I am social but not this way. Barbecues baby. You end up paying less, get better food than some salted peanuts in-between pints and if you allow +1s you meet people that you actually may have something in common with. And it ends up (per person) costing about the same as getting buzzed in a bar. Winter time? Board games.

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With your inhibitions down as well. If you flub a line or say something awkward, who cares?

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I am one of those people who likes going out for the sake of being out of the house, even if the activity is one that could just as easily be done at home. At least some of the time. But I certainly know people who don’t care about that aspect of it. I would guess that a lot of those people may have still gone out in previous generations, just because it was the thing to do and the only real way to meet people. Now we have other options for meeting people, so if the “experience of going out” isn’t worth it to you, why bother? Especially when it’s more expensive than ever.

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Going to the bar sucks. People at the bar are disappointing, and if you want to hook up with someone that isn’t a bar fly, the internet is way more useful. Alcohol at the bar is way too expensive. Getting home after going to the bar can be challenging if you didn’t get a ride there. And can also turn very expensive. A good gummy costs like $5. Rec Cannabis shops are as popular as gas stations. There are literally three around the corner from my house. Eat a gummy at home with friends or someone you met on the internet and chill on the couch. Play video games that are better than Club Keno and bar trivia. You like karaoke? Break out Rock Band if you must. If you really want, pour a couple drinks from the bottle in your cabinet that cost about the same as two drinks at the bar. Probably won’t need to. Better company, better entertainment, better vibes.

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There's alcoholism and then there's social drinking. Then again the industry is driven by like 70% of people who just consume that much, 30% are the occasional drinkers. And bars suck ass. Paying 10x the premium for being a room with strangers where you can't hear anyone anyway? No thanks. I am social but not this way. Barbecues baby. You end up paying less, get better food than some salted peanuts in-between pints and if you allow +1s you meet people that you actually may have something in common with. And it ends up (per person) costing about the same as getting buzzed in a bar. Winter time? Board games.

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Turns out, bars are just dirty rooms with really expensive drinks and they discovered there's way more to life than drinking it away.

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I'm 30. The only other 30 year-old at the bar is the bartender. Everyone else is pushing 40 at least, and trying to get the small handful of people I'd be willing to drink with to come out is an impossible task, because there's nobody there and nothing to do.♥ 3source record 339
Gen Z here and that is exactly how I would interact with people I might not know. I stopped drinking a long time ago, but when I travel for work I still sit at the hotel bar to eat and occasionally have a chat with randos. But yeah, where else can you go out and just sort of talk to people?♥ 14source record 346
Going to the bar sucks. People at the bar are disappointing, and if you want to hook up with someone that isn’t a bar fly, the internet is way more useful. Alcohol at the bar is way too expensive. Getting home after going to the bar can be challenging if you didn’t get a ride there. And can also turn very expensive. A good gummy costs like $5. Rec Cannabis shops are as popular as gas stations. There are literally three around the corner from my house. Eat a gummy at home with friends or someone you met on the internet and chill on the couch. Play video games that are better than Club Keno and bar trivia. You like karaoke? Break out Rock Band if you must. If you really want, pour a couple drinks from the bottle in your cabinet that cost about the same as two drinks at the bar. Probably won’t need to. Better company, better entertainment, better vibes.♥ 40source record 410
There's alcoholism and then there's social drinking. Then again the industry is driven by like 70% of people who just consume that much, 30% are the occasional drinkers. And bars suck ass. Paying 10x the premium for being a room with strangers where you can't hear anyone anyway? No thanks. I am social but not this way. Barbecues baby. You end up paying less, get better food than some salted peanuts in-between pints and if you allow +1s you meet people that you actually may have something in common with. And it ends up (per person) costing about the same as getting buzzed in a bar. Winter time? Board games.♥ 1source record 1069
So for context I live in the UK. Below are the reasons I don't do much of either Drinking 1) I wear hearing aids, I'm 24, a little bit insecure about it but pubs are so damn loud, it genuinely feels like my head is gonna blow even before I drink. I do not enjoy that even if it might mean I meet a partner or hanging out with a friend 2) I don't like how alcohol makes people. Like I've seen at parties the most normal person get so angry and I honestly don't want that happening to me either because that's not me and I don't want to hurt someone. 3) bit TMI but I think I have an intolerance? Alcohol gives me the shits lol Not leaving the house 1) I live in the countryside. The only few places I can go to are - the pub, the cinema (which isn't bad but you can't realistically do this every other night) cafes? Walks are great but you can only do something so much before it gets a bit boring. 2) genuinely enjoy being on my own more. Had issues with being bullied growing up and family issues in my teens. Prefer being able to go solo holiday twice a year. 3) things are expensive. I'm lucky to live with my family so I don't spend over half my pay check (not even joking) on rent and cost of living. But even then I don't particularly want to spend £60 on 3 records when before covid my dad could get 3 records for like £40. 4) going to London from where I live isn't bad but you're paying £22 train ticket, and then potentially having issues getting back due to cancellations or missing the last train at either 11:30 or 12 and then it's a coin flip if the journey back will be 40 minutes or 1.5hrs depending on if it's the express train.♥ 2source record 1290
1. Every bar went upscale and trendy right before COVID and a massive economic recession. 2. COVID 3. A massive economic recession♥ 2source record 1381
Turns out, bars are just dirty rooms with really expensive drinks and they discovered there's way more to life than drinking it away.♥ 1source record 1963
Everything costs too much. The music is too loud. I’m not an alcoholic.♥ 1source record 2125

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Getting there and getting home7 index entriesCar dependence and fares — the trip on either side of the drink.
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What the pattern means: The trip either side of the drink. Car dependence, absent transit, fuel, parking and rideshare fares that these commenters say match or beat the bar tab — one says the rides became as expensive as the overpriced drinks even after pre-drinking. What they describe is not deciding against a drink but deciding against leaving.

What commenters described: I don’t live walking distance from any of my friends. At the very least I would have to spend money on gas. I feel like it’s pretty hard to visit friends without a car unless you live in a major city. Car loan is a small mortgage these days. Even used cars are increasingly expensive.

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> Personally, I blame the built environment. Suburbanization and car >dependency are the primary drivers. Makes everything far more >expensive by inflating logistics costs and constraining housing supply. That was an issue in the 80s, too. Not sure you can blame current trends on that. I imagine that many of the reasons stated here have an impact. Cost for sure but cost didn’t stop previous generations from just hanging out. I would say a lot of what I did as a kid was just hanging out, in a room, with other kids. (I am 52 and I have never been cool or exceptionally social).

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This entire thread just reads like one big idiot mob blaming phones and social media, while those on the edges recognize that everything's more expensive and folks are just more knowledgeable and moderated with substances. (mid 30s) Personally, I blame the built environment. Suburbanization and car dependency are the primary drivers. Makes everything far more expensive by inflating logistics costs and constraining housing supply.

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We used to do that in an attempt to hang on to some form of outing, but the rides to and from became as expensive as the goddamn overpriced drinks, even after pregaming. We just don’t bother leaving the house anymore.

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I don’t live walking distance from any of my friends. At the very least I would have to spend money on gas. I feel like it’s pretty hard to visit friends without a car unless you live in a major city. Car loan is a small mortgage these days. Even used cars are increasingly expensive.

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This entire thread just reads like one big idiot mob blaming phones and social media, while those on the edges recognize that everything's more expensive and folks are just more knowledgeable and moderated with substances. (mid 30s) Personally, I blame the built environment. Suburbanization and car dependency are the primary drivers. Makes everything far more expensive by inflating logistics costs and constraining housing supply.♥ 19source record 337
And even if you do find one it's out of the way. Why would I go if I have to drive again after my shopping?♥ 1source record 1012
Hold up.. going to the bar does not universally suck and I say that as a 35 year old who is well past his "going out" days. The term "pub" originally comes from "public house" and was a third space for people in the neighborhood to gather together to drink and be merry. What does suck is how expensive the experience has become that turns going out for a few drinks into a major financial decision. And if you live in the USA, the car centric infrastructure means you are paying an arm and a leg for an Uber to take you home. I love myself a gummy at home but Rock Band does not substitute what most people enjoy about Karaoke which isn't just singing but performing in front of an audience. The whole point of going out is just that.. to get out of the house and interact with some people you otherwise wouldn't and alcohol is the universal social lubricant.♥ 2source record 1028
Gotta buy a car, gotta buy gas, gotta eat food somewhere no matter where you are, home or your friend’s house.♥ 1source record 1077
I don’t live walking distance from any of my friends. At the very least I would have to spend money on gas. I feel like it’s pretty hard to visit friends without a car unless you live in a major city. Car loan is a small mortgage these days. Even used cars are increasingly expensive.♥ 1source record 1078
Gen Z here! For me personally it’s that I live in a town with no public transit so I have to drive everywhere, and I live with my parents and feel uncomfortable dating while being in this living situation.♥ 1source record 2032
We used to do that in an attempt to hang on to some form of outing, but the rides to and from became as expensive as the goddamn overpriced drinks, even after pregaming. We just don’t bother leaving the house anymore.♥ 1source record 2389

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What the pattern means: What changed was the rules, not the appetite. This group names drink-driving enforcement, licensing changes that followed alcohol-poisoning deaths, university and landlord policy, neighbours calling the police, and no-loitering signs put up in a public park. The house party recurs as the specific casualty.

What commenters described: For the drink less part - DUI laws have changed and getting a DUI is more painful than years past

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I’m remember the early 90s in East Lansing (MSU off campus bar life) when dollar drafts and acute alcohol poisoning was a nightly occurrence. Two or three people would die yearly from alcohol poisoning or wandering into an icy river. Eventually laws were passed and the bars stopped selling cheap, mass quantity beer. By 2000 the fun was gone. The entire culture of getting hammered on weekends died off and now their kids are in college and everything is expensive and the rules are overbearing and it all sucks for them. Boomers ruined it for GenX and now GenZ is paying for it, or CAN’T pay for it, depending on how you want to look at it.

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I’m remember the early 90s in East Lansing (MSU off campus bar life) when dollar drafts and acute alcohol poisoning was a nightly occurrence. Two or three people would die yearly from alcohol poisoning or wandering into an icy river. Eventually laws were passed and the bars stopped selling cheap, mass quantity beer. By 2000 the fun was gone. The entire culture of getting hammered on weekends died off and now their kids are in college and everything is expensive and the rules are overbearing and it all sucks for them. Boomers ruined it for GenX and now GenZ is paying for it, or CAN’T pay for it, depending on how you want to look at it.

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Yeah I mean that sounds like a difference in schools for sure. For example the college I went to, my freshman year RA walked into my dorm room filled with about 10 very drunk 18 year olds and their response was "uh...hey so I didn't see anything, but the next RA does rounds in 4 hours and they're a hard ass so be sure to keep it down around then if you guys are still at it". My high school had some bigger parties that even got busted by cops, let alone pictures being posted. The overall response was effectively "hey it wasn't on school grounds and no one got arrested so...not our problem". It probably helped that most of the student government and the stars/captains of pretty much every sports team were at those parties.

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A lot of shopping malls shut down and the ones that didn't still don't like anyone just hanging out without spending money. And parks have a lot more restrictions around "loitering" (i.e. sitting down and just enjoying yourself), not to mention cops being real pissy about people drinking any alcohol in them.

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I’m remember the early 90s in East Lansing (MSU off campus bar life) when dollar drafts and acute alcohol poisoning was a nightly occurrence. Two or three people would die yearly from alcohol poisoning or wandering into an icy river. Eventually laws were passed and the bars stopped selling cheap, mass quantity beer. By 2000 the fun was gone. The entire culture of getting hammered on weekends died off and now their kids are in college and everything is expensive and the rules are overbearing and it all sucks for them. Boomers ruined it for GenX and now GenZ is paying for it, or CAN’T pay for it, depending on how you want to look at it.♥ 33source record 404
This already happened with millennials. Lawsuits and laws have made it very strict to do anything "fun" along with cameras and videos making it much more likely to face consequences. so that erodes the openness of such things like parties to people that wont or dont care which leads 80% that do care to be left out or to hope to be in the 20% of in people. Things like "party schools" existed but since no real school wants that reputation then they start making rules against it and such. It was already on the downswing and now has become the norm.♥ 2source record 663
Yeah I mean that sounds like a difference in schools for sure. For example the college I went to, my freshman year RA walked into my dorm room filled with about 10 very drunk 18 year olds and their response was "uh...hey so I didn't see anything, but the next RA does rounds in 4 hours and they're a hard ass so be sure to keep it down around then if you guys are still at it". My high school had some bigger parties that even got busted by cops, let alone pictures being posted. The overall response was effectively "hey it wasn't on school grounds and no one got arrested so...not our problem". It probably helped that most of the student government and the stars/captains of pretty much every sports team were at those parties.♥ 1source record 734
A lot of shopping malls shut down and the ones that didn't still don't like anyone just hanging out without spending money. And parks have a lot more restrictions around "loitering" (i.e. sitting down and just enjoying yourself), not to mention cops being real pissy about people drinking any alcohol in them.♥ 1source record 1040
Even besides fooling around getting put on social media. My father is in his early 70's and I remember years ago be social media became the monster it is he said, "Jesus Christ they don't let kids get away with anything anymore!"♥ 1source record 1065
In my small home town they put up No Loitering signs at the PARK. The fucking city park!!!!! That is the place you are supposed to be able to just hang. There is no public space more specifically designed for just loitering. THAT IS WHAT A FUCKING PARK IS FOR!!!! A park bench is the single most appropriate place to just chill. Enjoy some peace in a serene outdoor setting. What the fuck? What's next. No Reading signs at the library? No Food or Drink at a restaurant? No Alcohol signs at the bar? Keep Off the Grass signs at a football/soccer/baseball field? No Running signs at the track? No Loud Music signs at a concert? No Loitering signs all around a park. Like what the actual fuck?♥ 1source record 1099
For the drink less part - DUI laws have changed and getting a DUI is more painful than years past♥ 2source record 1222
In the US, unless you live in a walking city, a gathering out drinking, now that DUI laws are pretty much to the point where if you have a drink, you're not really supposed to drive, means an uber there and home. Its to the credit of the kids where much more shame is involved if someone is trying to drive home, but I look at all those bars in the middle of nowhere that used to be hopping on friday and saturday nights, and they're no longer as crazy with the kids (plenty of old people still go to those), so a combo of DUI shame and economic hardship. That being said, I live in the city, plenty of younger folk still drinking if they're not burdened with paying for a ride.♥ 1source record 1592
Bro i genuinely don’t understand why the liquor industry is lobbying so hard to close dispensaries (MA but also lowkey look at TX w their criminalization despite it being widely unpopular) but alcohol is hella expensive and they stop selling it early / bars close at 2 MAX♥ 1source record 1949
America's ridiculous open container laws are probably a part of it. Restaurants are expensive, but grabbing a couple beers from a convenience store and walking through the park is literally illegal.♥ 1source record 1956
Alcohol and Government have sort of morphed into this amorphous, incestous Lovercraftian bullshit. A Mistake you made decades ago can be why you never financially recover, and everyone's cool with it because you did bad thing once. Nevermind public transit sucking, and municipal policy literally relying on your incarceration and submission into the Poverty Squeezing Machine - The City will proudly offer vital pieces of it's local economy to intoxicate you, then send you off into a piranha tank with little more than a "Good luck"-pat on the back, and one hand on the phone to the squad car. I'm sure it was once well-intended, but it has become a convenient avenue for fat, greasy ticks to get fatter and greasier. I guess my answer is: who fucking cares? Let these parasites shrivel and starve? They have earned it?♥ 1source record 2210
You’re right, the actual reason is HOAs and older people calling the cops anytime they see a group of young people in public or anytime people are slightly too loud.♥ 3source record 2436
Holy out-of-touch 1. That kind of behavior gets the neighbors calling the cops and you kicked out of your apartment, even if you try to keep things quiet and respectful. You don't just "throw a party" at your apartment, at least any party worth attending, if you intend on staying there. 2. I don't know what kind of parents you have but I don't know many who are allowing their children to throw parties at their place. Unheard of♥ 14source record 2463
That is a huge risk your parents took on. A gathering of more than 8-10 high school or college kids is usually going to get out of hand quickly. And if there was underage drinking going on in their house Your parents were liable you know that right?♥ 1source record 2499

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What the pattern means: Commenters reporting, as settled knowledge, that there is no safe level of alcohol and that it is a carcinogen — and saying that this is what changed. Several draw the parallel with cigarettes explicitly, a few describe stopping themselves, and one dates the shift to being taught it young, where the generations before were told moderate drinking was harmless.

What commenters described: They were simply taught at a young age that alcohol is bad for you Gen X and Millennials were taught that alcohol wasn't harmful in moderation. Now, everybody is being told that alcohol is always harmful, even in moderation. As for the fewer relationships . . . well, internet access may have reduced their in-person social skills

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Awareness that alcohol isn’t good for you coupled with expensive prices. Literally going broke poisoning yourself. As for the second part of your question probably money and suffering from social stunting from the pandemic.

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Because alcohol causes nothing but problems; it's not worth it But that's only my reason, and that probably gives Gen Z to much credit lol. In reality it's because we're too broke for alcohol

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Drinking is an expensive habit that has zero (actually negative) health benefits. These days a lot of people are more aware what substances do to a person's body. As for relationships, well social media has basically destroyed human society as we know it. Before facebook, you'd have to actively participate in society. There are nuances that people don't learn or pickup on unless you are in those social situations. Now everyone can get their dopamine hits and "interactions" on their phones and it's creating shorter attention spans and neutering peoples' desire to go out and make an effort. It's a combination of a lot of shitty factors.

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Alcohol is a killer and this economy is not conducive to relationships.

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they’re far more educated on the negative health implications of getting slaughtered like we did every week. Weed is legalised in many parts of the world. And money.

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I think this is correct. But I do also suspect there is more education than ever regarding the ill effects of alcohol. Nobody wants to be an alcoholic. But growing up in the 90s we thought fuck that its no big deal. Seems like people get it more these days. Also.. everyone is recording you. Kinda dampens the fun of losing your shit.♥ 43source record 133
i’m an older gen z and now sober. started drinking at 14 and stopped three years ago because i was becoming an alcoholic. drinking at parties was pretty normal when i was a teenager, and a lot of media (films and tv) depicted drinking and partying as a must for that age. social pressure was a huge factor back then. i think what’s changed for younger gen z (and gen alpha coming up) goes beyond just drinking less. ever since social media turned into this never-ending surveillance camera, i don’t think people are willing to risk exposure. any mistake, any awkward interaction, any bad decision can now be recorded and posted for everyone to see and will stay out there forever. imo this generation is so hyper-aware of their public image that they’re not willing to put themselves out there the way we used to. and i think that applies to relationships too, not just partying. hooking up, dating, flirting badly, getting rejected. all of that used to happen “in private”, and now there’s always a phone around. one awkward moment and it’s a screenshot, a story, a group chat joke. i guess people just… opt out. why risk the embarrassment of a bad date or a messy situationship going public when you can just not put yourself in that position at all. honestly, i get it. if someone could’ve recorded every mistake i made as a teenager, i wouldn’t have done half the things i did either. it’s not that this generation doesn’t want connection or fun, i just i think they’re just way more scared of being seen failing at it.♥ 104source record 356
Drinking is an expensive habit that has zero (actually negative) health benefits. These days a lot of people are more aware what substances do to a person's body. As for relationships, well social media has basically destroyed human society as we know it. Before facebook, you'd have to actively participate in society. There are nuances that people don't learn or pickup on unless you are in those social situations. Now everyone can get their dopamine hits and "interactions" on their phones and it's creating shorter attention spans and neutering peoples' desire to go out and make an effort. It's a combination of a lot of shitty factors.♥ 88source record 395
Relationships: pandemic, social media driving individualism and short attention and relationship span. Drink less: health awareness and standard (social media) and multicultural influence.♥ 5source record 433
Something something about health and financial, same with smoking btw.♥ 5source record 455
I think your point about drinking is very valid. The more young people see detrimental effects the more they’re going to ease away from it. Same with smoking. And THC use definitely seems to have taken a chunk out of that too. Regarding women, can you elaborate? Are you saying younger men are intimidated because traditional gender roles have been “eliminated”? It seems to me that a lot of the dating issues are driven by the fact that young men are more socially awkward due to reduced face to face communication, naturally intimidated by women and inundated with messaging that it’s the fault of women for being too choosy and unrealistic? Which kills me because it’s such a double standard in that regard.♥ 8source record 651
There’s no amount of alcohol that’s good for you, I think it’s good Gen Z is drinking less♥ 11source record 677
Drinking is just self harm that is socially accepted. We are not stupid enough to damage our physical health that way. Internet addiction is more than enough.♥ 4source record 1130
I say this as a 31 y/o millenial who doesn't drink: alcohol sucks. Not only does it kill people early and horribly (friends in their twenties, my dad in his fifties, friends' dads at a similar age), the high is shite. It muddies the mind, makes you lose control, makes you an obnoxious cunt, makes you sick, costs you horrific amounts of money, isn't relaxing. It's a selfish drug for people lack the courage to face themselves. I despise the fact that society encourages its use so much and think it's wonderful that gen z are rising up the same way. As for relationships, it's because they have lost their social life to the Internet. Doesn't really have to be any deeper than that.♥ 2source record 1159
I think they are drinking less, aside from money, because of how vilified and unhealthy its been portrayed online. They seem to be more health conscious because they can't afford to get sick. Dating apps are also really bad now, so they probably quit after a short time. If they're not going to bars and socializing a lot less, like working from home, no religious or secular community to hang out with, and putting in earbuds at the gym, they won't have many opportunities to meet people not online, and so much of that could be bots.♥ 2source record 1168
For the first half: Self preservation instinct♥ 2source record 1219
Yeah. There's a known genetic component to alcoholism. The decline could easily just be attributed to education and people making choices on that information that previous generations did not have.♥ 6source record 1262
lots of concurrent things happening at the same time. its pretty complex \- better/more common and more successful warnings about the negative effects of drinking/alcoholism \- more access to marijuana/cbd and drastically less negative stereotypes associated with its use \- changing views and restrictions on abortion..and casual sex \- increased beauty standards from social media, with a simultaneous message about accepting your body and the trend of body positivity. the 2nd part is great in theory...but not so much when you're being told you SHOULD feel good about yourself...but when dating, it kills your confidence \-increased use of dating apps, less in-person social involvement. which drastically changes how mate selection works...people are forced to choose a potential partner based on looks alone, which reinforces anxiety about body image \-lack of 3rd spaces adding to the problem of essentially being forced into online dating \- less disposable income/higher rents/higher costs for everything/inflation \- more time spent alone because of social media addiction \- WAY more people live with their parents, so that makes it harder to date...a man can't exactly bring a woman back to his place if he's 27 and his parents are sitting in the living room watching TV, same with a woman...that might be even MORE awkward all of these things, and others creates an environment where people are more anxious than ever. they're less interested in dating because of anxiety about body image, lack of income, anxiety about alcoholism, increased cannabis use leads to more anxiety, complacency, and social withdrawal. lack of 3rd spaces makes meeting people organically harder. online dating makes people more shallow, men feel like they need to be 6 feet plus JUST to get a date, and more and more women literally make that a requirement. today's dating environment is severely fucked up, and the internet isn't helping in any way whatsoever...just look into how dating apps have been monopolized by 1 or 2 companies. it's harder than ever to date these days...and there are about a million different reasons why.♥ 2source record 1303
They were simply taught at a young age that alcohol is bad for you Gen X and Millennials were taught that alcohol wasn't harmful in moderation. Now, everybody is being told that alcohol is always harmful, even in moderation. As for the fewer relationships . . . well, internet access may have reduced their in-person social skills♥ 2source record 1309
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As a Gen z, I think we drink less because since we were kids we have been told how dangerous the alcohol is and that when we grow we have to drink with responsibility. About the less relationships, it is probably cause of the internet although I think it's exaggerated to say we're all chronically online♥ 1source record 1423
For drinking - there's a lot more awareness of the issues with alcohol, both the direct health effects (mostly cancer) and addiction. I think a fair few have grown up seeing relatives with toxic relationships with alcohol, and don't want to end up the same. People are also more conscious of their appearance, and alcohol is expensive♥ 1source record 1429
I think people just realize the toll drinking and smoking take on your body and people are practicing moderation now.♥ 1source record 1432
Drinking probably because of better education. Maybe less in person socialization contributes as well. The relationships decline, I think it's lack of hope. For hope I don't mean optimism, I say it in the same way Byung Chul Han describes it in "The Spirit of Hope", when he quotes Vaclav Havel. It's an orientation of the spirit, that pushes you to work towards what's meaningful, regardless of the expected outcome. So really I think it's a meaning problem.♥ 1source record 1457
Alcohol is horrifyingly bad for you and tbh is the LAST drug that should be legal and socially acceptable. And cuz we all have to work two full-time jobs plus three side hustles just to barely make ends meet and we don't have time to have friends♥ 1source record 1493
alcohol is poison and there’s decades of research to support this.♥ 1source record 1502
Well, drinking your liver to death is stupid. And I assume overpopulation has to do with fewer relationships.♥ 1source record 1512
I'm a young millennial and am going through the same so I'm curious. For me it's because after drinking all through my twenties and having fun with it, I realized I was truly poisoning my body so it wasn't worth it in the long term. And for relationships, I prefer quality over quantity and lately the dating pool seems to be running low on the former so I'm happy to be single and not looking.♥ 1source record 1575
The realization that living your life as a functional alcoholic or perpetual drama diva is not a great way to live.♥ 1source record 1591
I think it may be erroneous to conflate the two. While there may be some correlation, trying to draw a causation between the Three points seems a bit disingenuous. As the father of two millennials, the primary reason they don't drink as much is health. And also is to the point of not trying to draw causation between the three points. They both have relatively healthy social lives.♥ 1source record 1603
Awareness that alcohol isn’t good for you coupled with expensive prices. Literally going broke poisoning yourself. As for the second part of your question probably money and suffering from social stunting from the pandemic.♥ 2source record 1643
I really think awareness of the health implications is a bigger factor than people think♥ 2source record 1644
Awareness in alchohol abuse, no money to go out for drinks, social media and online content, cannabis, and maybe it's just falling out and might be trendy in the future.♥ 1source record 1658
I’m Gen X but also driven to drink less. It’s just too unhealthy.♥ 1source record 1660
With drinking it's just better mental health awareness. Older generations drink to self-medicate. They grew up with mental health issues being a stigma and won't seek actual help.♥ 1source record 1688
drinking is bad for you. more and more research has show that even social drinking is dangerous. but now, there is less pressure to start drinking than ever. social drinking is down because people don't get together as much. being online all the time has killed a lot of physical relationships. it shallowly fills our need to belong. and with the killing of irl relationships, drinking drops.♥ 1source record 1700
Drinking is not only expensive it is also horrible for your health. And people spend too much time online to cultivate fullfilling relationships offline.♥ 1source record 1704
Just created an account so I could personally respond to this. These are two different issues. Regarding the drinking, for years, we (us Millennials and Gen-Z) have been told and taught (hardwired really) that drinking is bad and dangerous, while at the same time trying to make it seem fashionable but what stuck was the "drinking is bad" narrative. Also money. As for relationships, many of us are essentially living paycheck to paycheck, I earn $70k per year but I still live with my parents as rent would eat up half my salary (with the other half going to insurance, bills and debt repayments), and while I personally am dating, I understand many of us don't have the money or time to do so.♥ 1source record 1725
why would we want kidney and liver disease♥ 1source record 1738
Drinking less I can say I ditched it a long time ago. And not for any acute reason. It’s just that drinking is almost entirely cons and no pros \-costs money \-dangerous, can’t drive, can hurt yourself \-can act recklessly socially, can get a bad rep \-tastes bad. I can see beer or wine. But even those. Anyone trying to tell you it tastes good is a snob, an alcoholic, or just acquired the taste like you can for almost anything with enough work \-risk of addiction \-hangover, sickness \-gets you fat, reduces your fitness \-linked to tons of illness \-overall time sink can be big, between the drinking and getting drunk and the recovery you can lose more than a whole day to pure waste \-lose agency, can be preyed upon \-can become a social crutch that inhibits more legitimate social development \-usually, for the social element it’s supposed to be, you’re often not creating genuine human moments and memories. Many are literally forgotten and most are just a bunch of nonsense And the pros are a much smaller list: \-reduce inhibition, have some fun \-maaaaybe you like the taste It was like is that it? Since that day I drank nothing. It just seemed so utterly pointless. Even if you wanna get loose, we have waaaay better drugs now that can give you better outcomes for fewer costs. Intoxicants always have similar problems like above, but alcohol seems like awful. You don’t even feel that good on it.♥ 1source record 1762
Why are people glorifying drinking in this thread? Alcohol is a class 1 carcinogen.♥ 1source record 1789
I can’t tell you about relationships, but I’ll tell you about drinking alcohol. The evidence regarding alcohol is unequivocally clear. There is no safe amount of alcohol for the body. It is categorized as a Level 1 carcinogen, on the same level as smoking cigarettes. Why would someone literate and able to comprehend the scientific literature knowingly consume a product that is proven to damage their body? Yes, Dr. Oz claimed that alcohol is a social lubricant, but we can disregard him because we know that there was a conflict of interest in his statement and the alcohol industry backs it. People who are logical say, “I can still have fun and be surrounded by cool company without being pressured to conform to social norms and drink alcohol.”♥ 1source record 1824
Because Gen Z cares about its health and is better-informed. Old, flawed studies claiming alcohol is good for your health got debunked. [[link removed] Excerpts: *Although it is well established that alcohol can cause cancer, this fact is still not widely known to the public in most countries.* *No level of alcohol consumption is safe for our health* *The risks and harms associated with drinking alcohol have been systematically evaluated over the years and are well documented. The World Health Organization has now published a statement in The Lancet Public Health: when it comes to alcohol consumption, there is no safe amount that does not affect health.* *Risks start from the first drop* *To identify a “safe” level of alcohol consumption, valid scientific evidence would need to demonstrate that at and below a certain level, there is no risk of illness or injury associated with alcohol consumption. The new WHO statement clarifies: currently available evidence cannot indicate the existence of a threshold at which the carcinogenic effects of alcohol “switch on” and start to manifest in the human body.* *Moreover, there are no studies that would demonstrate that the potential beneficial effects of light and moderate drinking on cardiovascular diseases and type 2 diabetes outweigh the cancer risk associated with these same levels of alcohol consumption for individual consumers.* *“We cannot talk about a so-called safe level of alcohol use. It doesn’t matter how much you drink – the risk to the drinker’s health starts from the first drop of any alcoholic beverage. The only thing that we can say for sure is that the more you drink, the more harmful it is – or, in other words, the less you drink, the safer it is,” explains Dr Carina Ferreira-Borges, acting Unit Lead for Noncommunicable Disease Management and Regional Advisor for Alcohol and Illicit Drugs in the WHO Regional Office for Europe.* *Despite this, the question of beneficial effects of alcohol has been a contentious issue in research for years.* *“Potential protective effects of alcohol consumption, suggested by some studies, are tightly connected with the comparison groups chosen and the statistical methods used, and may not consider other relevant factors”, clarifies Dr Jürgen Rehm, member of the WHO Regional Director for Europe’s Advisory Council for Noncommunicable Diseases and Senior Scientist at the Institute for Mental Health Policy Research and the Campbell Family Mental Health Research Institute at the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, Toronto, Canada.*♥ 1source record 1833
There is a lot of new information in recent years about how bad alcohol actually is for human consumption.♥ 1source record 1836
so many people are missing that alcohol is just bad for you and younger generations tend to be healthier than the ones before.♥ 1source record 1888
Alcoholism kills. Gen Z seems to be smarter than my generation, so IMHO they made the right choices. Let's get those alchi numbers down that shits horrible for you D:♥ 1source record 1905
Alcohol is expensive and they were told for years about the dangers of drinking. It’s also why they don’t like talking to strangers, it was drilled into them at a young age not to talk to strangers.♥ 1source record 1957
Because alcohol causes nothing but problems; it's not worth it But that's only my reason, and that probably gives Gen Z to much credit lol. In reality it's because we're too broke for alcohol♥ 1source record 1961
they’re far more educated on the negative health implications of getting slaughtered like we did every week. Weed is legalised in many parts of the world. And money.♥ 0source record 1984
As Gen Z, alcohol it’s not great at all, like damages your brain so bad and honestly older people just have prejudice for other drugs like mushrooms. So yeah it’s not like I’m a puritan it’s mostly that I don’t think it’s worth the damage neither my friends. With relationships, idk I’m married so maybe I’m the exception there♥ 0source record 1985
Gen X gave up drinking for the most part, too. I haven't had a drink since my oldest was a baby, so... about 13 years. It stopped being fun, stayed being expensive. I could guzzle a bottle at my house for cheaper, but where's the fun in that? We all know the health effects now, most of us could get weed if we wanted a safer alternative. Also, the death of second-spaces, places that aren't work/school or home, has contributed. I'm happy for it. I can't count how many times I've had friends drink themselves to death or close to it, how many friends went to rehab with varying degrees of success. I don't have to worry as much about my kids going out to get drunk and drive around like we did, have risky sex, and be hungover and dehydrated throughout college.♥ 1source record 2016
Putting these two things together as if they are similarly good. Drinking is straight up life destructive no questions asked and people have seen others get fucked up because of it so many times that ofc they dont wanna drink. Camouflaging the bad in the good is what every redpill cia payroll influencer does, I strongly despise people that do that shit.♥ 1source record 2031
Alcohol is a poison (and it's expensive). Fewer relationships? It's not linked to gen z, but to social media.♥ 1source record 2047
I think the fewer relationship think is happening across the board. As far as alcohol, it sucks. It ruins lives, leads to sexual assault, causes hangovers, and leads to people being obnoxious. Also, alcohol withdrawal, for someone who is heavily addicted- say, putting a handle away a day, can lead to death. Look it up. Not even exaggerating. Also alcoholics can get varicose veins in their esophagus which burst and they bleed out. Apparently when the liver gets messed up, something happens where the vein degradation makes its way up to the esophagus. Not to mention liver failure, and increased cancer risk, and zillions of extra calories. The list goes on.♥ 0source record 2069
I'm getting married this year, so I can only really comment on the alcohol/substances. I have never, in my life, been in a situation and thought, "Wow, I sure do wish I had less control of myself." I posit that if you need to inebriate yourself to have fun, then you aren't really capable of having fun. Moreover, I've seen what alcoholism does to people, up close. I'm not going to risk what I have for the ability to not remember what I did on a Friday night.♥ 1source record 2105
Drinking is expensive and doesn’t add much to my life. I also have several friends and family members who have struggled with alcoholism. I got a bit too drunk one night and realized the next day I had risky sex that I could only hazily remember. I immediately reconsidered my relationship to alcohol and started drinking less. It’s nice every once in a while, but it’s definitely not something I missed or found hard to avoid while I was pregnant. I don’t have a desire to have more than one glass of wine a week now that I’m postpartum and able to drink again. Abstaining for a while makes you realize how lame it is to be intoxicated outside of maybe a fun birthday night out.♥ 1source record 2120
Gen Z female here. And I don’t drink. But what I can say is I have LONGER relationships. So that’s why I don’t have multiple on going dating. & honestly for me. I don’t drink because life is stressful enough. The last thing I need to do is become an alcoholic and truly crash in life. I feel like times or more hard than ever now. So any distraction isn’t good for me.♥ 1source record 2133
Awareness, people are more aware of the consequences on health♥ 1source record 2141
honestly? the fact the future is moving forward I feel like every generation has this come-to-terms moment that the younger generation is doing (slightly) better than them, and one half celebrates it and the other is questioning why they are changing people can be in fewer relationships for a multitude of reasons, as some said higher increase in anxiety, etc etc. another reason is… because they can, without (as) intense scrutiny. because we are one of the first generations where following the crowd isn’t deadly mandatory (in the west) and people can choose there own happiness. same goes with drinking. hello, are we forgetting all the primary school lessons about drinking? all those warnings? no wonder people don’t drink as much, drinking isnt necessarily a sign of happiness anyway. again, not saying there isn’t any issues with the current generation that shouldn’t be observed. but i always get downvoted to hell whenever I say, there isn’t some special secret formula. times are moving forward, and ***some of it*** for the better ! but people hate that answer lol♥ 1source record 2147
I think people are starting to realize how bad alcohol really is for you.♥ 0source record 2160
Alcohol is poison and the easiest thing to say No to. My number of matches/convos on dating apps after several years is the freezing point of water in Celsius and short of becoming a brand-new person, will never increase.♥ 1source record 2225
Alcohol is a killer and this economy is not conducive to relationships.♥ 1source record 2235
A whole host of reasons but one is that the data is evident that alcohol is universally bad for your health. Kids know this now.♥ 1source record 2241
I’m not saying people want to be more healthy. But everyone knows alcohol is bad for you and it’s easy to avoid. When I was young they tried to tell us a glass of wine a day was GOOD for you. That a shot of whisky will cure a sore throat.♥ 1source record 2303
Yeah get z's social skills are suffering but I feel like that is true for everybody. Im a millennial and I didnt own a smart phone until after college. Its very easy to just bury yourself in your phone instead of interacting so social skills suffer because of that. As for the drinking, good its poison. Its a good thing that the younger generations are not normalizing alcohol use, its really really bad for us.♥ 1source record 2332
I guess it depends what sort of a high you’re looking for. Not many drugs you can start using that day and die from using it that same day, which is not worth it in my opinion. It does not take a lot of alcohol to put someone in a near fatal condition at all.♥ 1source record 2448

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The next day costs too much8 index entriesThe hangover priced against the night that caused it.
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The next day costs too much

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What the pattern means: The hangover as an accounting problem. These commenters describe the recovery rather than the night as the thing that stopped being worth it: a whole day gone, a stomach that objects, sleep that does not come back. One frames it as borrowing happiness from tomorrow at interest.

What commenters described: drinking is expensive and hangovers eat a whole day. once you do the math it stops being worth it

Limit: Personal accounts from eight commenters of different ages; how alcohol affects any particular person is not something a comment thread can establish.

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Once I realized that substances that make you feel better are just borrowing happiness from the next day with varying interest rates, that's when I stopped drinking. Alcohol is just taking out a title loan on next day's happiness.

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Having Gen Z people in my life and their friends. Some of it is certainly online and all that. I am Gen X and they just don't want to drink like we did at all. They can't imagine spending weekends hungover. Or bars being a huge part of their social life. Sure the ones over 21 go out to bars on occasion. Granted this is just the people I know. Dating, they also just don't see the hurry or any reason to get married, have kids and get a mortgage like us Gen Xers did. I for one applaud it. Spent too much time and money on alcohol and certainly should never have gotten married in my 20's. While many people I knew in my 20s were borderline alcoholics and saddled with marriage and 2-3 kids. They are planning travel adventures and enjoying themselves.

posted about 6.1 hours after the source♥ 1
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Hangovers are not worth it, alcohol is expensive to drink if out, and nobody wants to drive to a liquor store.

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Across 8 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

8index entries
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6top-level comments
2replies

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0explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
0asks a question
0says they intend to try it
8other source context

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Change the sentence 2

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Browse the original comments8 preserved records ¡ 8 of 8 source records accounted for
Once I realized that substances that make you feel better are just borrowing happiness from the next day with varying interest rates, that's when I stopped drinking. Alcohol is just taking out a title loan on next day's happiness.♥ 5source record 403
personally i stopped drinking because it makes my stomach hurt and it's literally poison. i never had a problem with alcohol or anything but i started noticing it just made me feel awful. and i'm celibate because i haven't met anyone worth my while in a long time and i am simply not interested in dating culture at this time in my life. i'm technically at the cusp of millennial/gen z- been called a "zillennial".♥ 3source record 446
Yeah everyone is thinking way too hard about this or making it some big psychological analysis. Theres simply better stuff to do than get drunk and poison ourselves, when we have the internet at our disposal. If I lived centuries ago, I’d be drunk all the time because it’d be so boring. But I have the internet. Once I was out of my college party years, drinking just meant spending money to poison myself and have a horrible next day. I’d just rather do basically anything else lol if alcohol had zero negative health effects, I could see that being different. But honestly most of us know an alcoholic or someone that died from it, it’s the same as why we don’t smoke cigarettes as much either. I’d maybe say this applies to the relationship question as well. There’s just stuff people would rather do to make themselves happy enough, without needing to chase after the joys of being in a relationship. I can imagine even just 20-30 years ago, life would be a lot more boring if you weren’t in a relationship vs being in one; just like if you didn’t drink. But now, someone’s life can be pretty darn fulfilling without a relationship♥ 2source record 1061
It tastes like shit, makes me feel like shit, and it makes my shit weird.♥ 2source record 1152
Having Gen Z people in my life and their friends. Some of it is certainly online and all that. I am Gen X and they just don't want to drink like we did at all. They can't imagine spending weekends hungover. Or bars being a huge part of their social life. Sure the ones over 21 go out to bars on occasion. Granted this is just the people I know. Dating, they also just don't see the hurry or any reason to get married, have kids and get a mortgage like us Gen Xers did. I for one applaud it. Spent too much time and money on alcohol and certainly should never have gotten married in my 20's. While many people I knew in my 20s were borderline alcoholics and saddled with marriage and 2-3 kids. They are planning travel adventures and enjoying themselves.♥ 1source record 1460
My health deteriorated. I can still drink, but not often. As for the relationships, I gave it a try and had really bad streaks of luck. I’m not trying online again and I’d rather keep on working to get actual results♥ 1source record 1577
drinking is expensive and hangovers eat a whole day. once you do the math it stops being worth it♥ 1source record 1673
Hangovers are not worth it, alcohol is expensive to drink if out, and nobody wants to drive to a liquor store.♥ 1source record 1748

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Gym, sleep and calories19 index entriesDrinking measured against a fitness, sleep or weight routine.
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Gym, sleep and calories

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Appears when: Gym, sleep and calories

What the pattern means: Drinking measured against a routine rather than against a price or a warning. Sleep quality, training, calories and appearance are the units here, and one commenter notes that several of the third places that did survive — gyms and run clubs — implicitly reward sobriety. One record is a Gen Z commenter making the health case and recording that it gets them thought immature and boring.

What commenters described: Health awareness. Drinking just does not have the same cool factor it once did. Younger people seem much more conscious about sleep, fitness and mental clarity.

Limit: This group generalises about a generation from very small samples — siblings, colleagues, students — and elsewhere in the thread a commenter asks how a health-focused generation also has rising obesity.

What the replies added1

Health conscious and broke to spend on alcohol or eat outside

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Thanks for saying it. I'm a gen Z who doesn't drink, and I don't like how drinking less is suddenly framed as part of some kind of larger social downfall. It's always been a personal choice for me and it has nothing to do with my phone. I just don't like the taste of alcohol, I don't particularly want the calories and the associated health risks are pretty substantial. Gen Z is in general pretty health focused so I'm not surprised we also drink less. Why would that be a bad thing? Tbh I'm already used to having people think I'm immature and boring because I don't drink, and this just feels like an extension of that.

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A lot of Gen Z is more health conscious than previous generations, though money is definitely the biggest contributor. I feel that college kids are still drinking and partying a good amount, but everyone having phones and the internet makes everyone scared of embarrassing themselves. Weed is also a partial contributor but most people I know who smoke also drink.

posted about 5.9 hours after the source♥ 1
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Generally smarter and wiser. More care for personal health. Take things more seriously. Lack of third spaces seeing as millenials and above have decided to make everything horrifically expensive and low quality out of greed.

posted about 1.4 hours after the source♥ -2

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Within 19 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.

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3replies

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
0explicitly reports a limit or failure
1asks a question
0says they intend to try it
18other source context

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Browse the original comments19 preserved records ¡ 19 of 19 source records accounted for
Money isn’t about the relationships but for drinking absolutely. Not to mention, Gen Z does tend to favor health and wellness over parties and drinking♥ 1source record 673
Thanks for saying it. I'm a gen Z who doesn't drink, and I don't like how drinking less is suddenly framed as part of some kind of larger social downfall. It's always been a personal choice for me and it has nothing to do with my phone. I just don't like the taste of alcohol, I don't particularly want the calories and the associated health risks are pretty substantial. Gen Z is in general pretty health focused so I'm not surprised we also drink less. Why would that be a bad thing? Tbh I'm already used to having people think I'm immature and boring because I don't drink, and this just feels like an extension of that.♥ 8source record 1022
And a decent amount of the remaining third spaces are fitness focused, such as gyms and run clubs. Either explicitly or implicitly they encourage sobriety♥ 1source record 1066
Health awareness. Drinking just does not have the same cool factor it once did. Younger people seem much more conscious about sleep, fitness and mental clarity.♥ 2source record 1228
Probably an amalgamation of wellness culture, public and widespread conversations about date rape since Steubenville and Brock Turner (and countless other cases), the availability of other substances (weed, molly, acid, shrooms) and places to do them (music festivals), the rise of religious conservatism, the threat of going viral online, and honestly there are more distractions than ever to numb the pain.♥ 1source record 1272
Based on my siblings... they care a lot about health, like they go to the gym every day, don't drink or eat sweets or unhealthy food. Constantly put on sunscreen every 5 minutes. I find them all quite uptight about all their rules for being healthy.♥ 1source record 1406
They grew up knowing it’s ok to take care of yourself and those two things can be very bad for your health.♥ 1source record 1496
They are looking for a good and healthy life.♥ 1source record 1563
Money. A gym membership is worth the price of the pint and main chains are 24 hours now so I can see why they hang out there now vs a pub.♥ 1source record 1589
A lot of Gen Z is more health conscious than previous generations, though money is definitely the biggest contributor. I feel that college kids are still drinking and partying a good amount, but everyone having phones and the internet makes everyone scared of embarrassing themselves. Weed is also a partial contributor but most people I know who smoke also drink.♥ 1source record 1799
Well, drinking helped turn a great physique to shit, something that I’ve (48M) now corrected after two years not drinking. Also, a lot of those relationships that were only people you drank with were also shit. Alcohol sucks and that it’s okay is a lie we’re told from birth. Fuck alcohol.♥ 1source record 1821
These kids don't romanticize addiction and waste like we were taught to. They see ridiculous situations for what they are, and they want to have a comfortable life. They're focused on their goals and their friends. Substance abuse never made it into the picture (outside of obviously at risk youth) because they are genuinely doing other fun things with their lives.♥ 1source record 1825
GenZ is (on average) fitter and healthier in general than other generations, and today’s web means they don’t depend on bro science. When I started lifting, my mentor told me to eat empty carbs and drink a lot of beer. My college biochem professors told me explicitly that alcohol consumption was proven to be good for you. Fast forward thirty years, and GenZ has pro level tutelage for any lift you can find on YouTube, twenty years of advances in nutrition science helps too, and culturally they just take fitness much more seriously than we did. Oh, and alcohol costs are through the fucking roof. I stopped drinking too, and it has saved me a ton of money. And drunken hookups started a lot of relationships back in the day too.♥ 1source record 1848
Health conscious and broke to spend on alcohol or eat outside♥ 1source record 1955
Vanity, they know alcohol ages you. Plus being “cringe” they are too afraid to get drunk and have it posted online♥ -1source record 1982
they rather go gym, make tik tok videos or invest♥ -1source record 2075
no fewer Genz's are mostly focusing on the money,physique, but some are still tends to do the doomscrolling♥ 1source record 2194
Ill give a different opinion. At least what made me stop drinking. Health wearables. I got a Garmin watch and started seeing what alcohol did to my body, how it messed up sleep, losing weight and being healthy was harder. First I just cut back on drinking, but being sober in a bar with plastered friends made me realize I didnt actually want to live that way anymore. So I quit completely.♥ 1source record 2240
Generally smarter and wiser. More care for personal health. Take things more seriously. Lack of third spaces seeing as millenials and above have decided to make everything horrifically expensive and low quality out of greed.♥ -2source record 2500

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Medication that does not mix7 index entriesPrescriptions named as the practical reason a drink is off the table.
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Medication that does not mix

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Appears when: Medication that does not mix

What the pattern means: The most concrete reason in the corpus and one of the smallest groups: people who cannot drink because of what they already take. Anti-anxiety medication, ADHD prescriptions and GLP-1 drugs are all named. One commenter suggests some of the “I don't like the taste” answers elsewhere on this page are really this answer, given politely.

What commenters described: Many of the gen z I've met thst didnt drink cause they "didnt like the taste" were in fact avoiding it because they were on some type of psychiatric medication. Thst combined with civil invoked antisocial norms, social skills built online, and oh yeah the economy not giving them a ton of extra cash for $20 cocktails. They'd rather smoke weed, vape, and down energy drinks

Limit: Seven records, mostly observations about other people rather than the writer's own prescription, and nothing here states how any medication actually interacts with alcohol. Only a prescriber can answer that.

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They are drinking less because they have other drugs to do, namely weed or prescription drugs that don't play nicely with alcohol. As for the relationships, they always sound like they internalized Me Too too much to mean that any romantic initiative anywhere is always bad and unwanted, even some of the women

source record 1883♥ 1
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Higher levels of GLP-1's

posted about 6.9 hours after the source♥ 1
Low-like source

Idk, all I can tell you is I'm an introvert, I haven't really put any effort into getting into a relationship yet, and drinking sounds like an expensive bad habit. Also I have adhd, if I wanna spend a day high and super happy I can just not take my meds that day. I guess AMA if anyone has a question, I'm open

posted about 3.7 hours after the source♥ 1

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Browse the original comments7 preserved records ¡ 7 of 7 source records accounted for
They take anti-anxiety medication, which mixes poorly with alcohol. They have fewer relationships because of the aforementioned anxiety, and they're substituting porn and masturbation for having sex.♥ 1source record 1604
Idk, all I can tell you is I'm an introvert, I haven't really put any effort into getting into a relationship yet, and drinking sounds like an expensive bad habit. Also I have adhd, if I wanna spend a day high and super happy I can just not take my meds that day. I guess AMA if anyone has a question, I'm open♥ 1source record 1784
Every Gen Z I know is on Adderall and wired to the fucking gills. Gen X really fucked up that generation.♥ 1source record 1855
Many of the gen z I've met thst didnt drink cause they "didnt like the taste" were in fact avoiding it because they were on some type of psychiatric medication. Thst combined with civil invoked antisocial norms, social skills built online, and oh yeah the economy not giving them a ton of extra cash for $20 cocktails. They'd rather smoke weed, vape, and down energy drinks♥ 1source record 1857
They are drinking less because they have other drugs to do, namely weed or prescription drugs that don't play nicely with alcohol. As for the relationships, they always sound like they internalized Me Too too much to mean that any romantic initiative anywhere is always bad and unwanted, even some of the women♥ 1source record 1883
Money and already on a handful of prescriptions for every sort of ailment.♥ 1source record 2106
Higher levels of GLP-1's♥ 1source record 2121

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They watched somebody else drink62 records ¡ 2 sub-topicsAnswers that point at one specific person rather than at a trend. 62 records.
The relative who drank53 index entriesThe specific person whose drinking commenters say they watched.
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The relative who drank

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Appears when: The relative who drank

What the pattern means: The answers that point at one person. A father, an uncle, a grandparent, a friend's parent — commenters describe watching someone specific and deciding early. A number are written by the older relatives themselves. It is the only theme on this page where the reason offered is a memory rather than a price, a phone or a policy.

What commenters described: Learning from their parents? My daughter is 19 and has no interest in alcohol. She’s drank once and has been to the bar one time and that was it. Her dad is an alcoholic and she and her brother have no interest in going down that road.

Limit: The thread argues with this one: a reply inside the same group notes that there are fewer alcoholics with each generation, so fewer Gen Z commenters would have watched it than the generations before them did.

What the replies added2

Rates of alcoholism have decreased each generation since baby boomers, simply untrue

From the replies♥ 43

Alcoholism and divorce has always been a thing. It's just weird that being in a relationship and getting to drink is suddenly not the right of passage it has been for generations.

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Explicit limit or counterpoint

A lot of it has to do with social media and the perception of alcohol amongst the younger generations. A lot of these kids, unfortunately, have seen family members or someone else close to them experience what excessive drinking can do to a person. The cost of almost everything doesn't help either, and relationships in general are not easy, especially now, with social media creating a false narrative that something better is always out there. People will see relationships unfold on social media platforms, and people typically aren't sharing the arguments and issues between the vacations, date nights, and general good times with family and friends. People see that and want the same things naturally. COVID lockdown also did a lot of social harm to Gen Z, as others have mentioned.

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Alcoholism and the high rate of divorce among their parents generation

source record 1259♥ 17
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Alcoholic parents, lack of need to connect with people in real life, and crippling debt to prevent people from going out to drink.

posted about 8.0 hours after the source♥ 1
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Their drunk, dysfunctional \[millennial\] parents. and the fact that they can get their social needs "met' on the hellscape of the new web.

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Across 53 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Swap instead of subtract” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

53index entries
53distinct source records
85.5%of parent category
3.5%of the complete index
51top-level comments
2replies

What commenters explicitly report

0explicitly reports a benefit
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3asks a question
0says they intend to try it
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Swap instead of subtract 2

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Browse the original comments53 preserved records ¡ 53 of 53 source records accounted for
From an elder millennial I always figured it has something to do with the grew up watching us be drunk idiots and didn't want to follow in suit. Nothing really to back this up, just a gut feeling♥ 3source record 469
The fact that they have Gen-x and millennials to look up to and said “ya know what, I’m good….”♥ 6source record 1120
Because they are wise enough to notice how Gen x'ers like myself ruin themselves with alcohol and relationships.♥ 4source record 1138
I would guess with drinking is watching the harm of alcohol in their families like the reduction in the 90s in smoking from the publicity of lung cancer. When you see the effects in your family and you know the cause it makes you less likely to be even tempted to try it. Cost would also be another huge cause as they make the least amount of wealth compared to prior generations. For socialization if I look at my own anxieties (I am a millennial) I would attribute it to the mainstreaming acceptance and promotion of dark personality traits by society. Ruthless ambition is a virtue these days, as is greed and other traits we previously called sins/taboo. I also feel most media platforms cultivate narcissistic traits in our culture, and the rise of saving face. The HIV epidemic and too an extent the must believe part of "me too" has had a very chilling effect on my desire to ever date again, as I am a victim of a false accusation. On dating apps so many woman's profiles read like my life where they seemingly looking for social connection because there doesn't seem to be great spaces anymore at our age to find each other. Add to that and the increase in freedom of movement our generations experienced post graduation it has the effect of cutting down your social connections we have. I have found it very hard to build a social community as a parent both in the location I moved too and now having moved back to where I grew up. Finally I think Gen Z was the first generation to grow up in the stranger danger nanny state we have today. My kids are teenagers atm and my mother in law essentially threatened to call CPS because we were letting our son age 7 ride his bike down the street unsupervised with his friends. This was the same mother who let my sister in law play in ditches and swamps in Colorado at a similar age all summer long without oversight just a decade before.♥ 2source record 1156
watching their parents. yall set this up♥ 2source record 1207
Observing the other generations. Millennials didn’t buy in to marriages as we saw peaks of divorce rates and growing up in the wake. The drinking I do not fully understand but it might be the pendulum.♥ 2source record 1217
I have a multiple acquaintances that are violent alcoholics with gen-z kids, so I can't see there being many 'good' examples of drinking left out there. Especially with how insanely expensive any paid social experience can be and the destruction of almost every low cost or free alternative third space. If the kids don't hook up in highschool or as coworkers, there's nothing left they can network into an organic relationship through.♥ 2source record 1231
Alcoholism and the high rate of divorce among their parents generation♥ 17source record 1259
Alcoholism rates decreasing is not incompatible with this affirmation. There are less alcoholics, but it does not mean that there aren't enough to cause some issues/trauma. It's just than over the decades, instead of half of the familly being an alcoholic (and potentially stuff like being violent when drinking), it's now just a random uncle or some shit like that♥ 5source record 1261
Well mostly because of traumatic events in early childhood I guess. For me it is mostly because I grew up with all-time drinking parents. And I don't want that for myself.♥ 1source record 1271
I know for my husband and I, we don't drink alcohol because it's literally poison. And we both have former addict parents, so addiction runs in our families. We avoid any drugs or alcohol. As far as relationships go, my husband has a few great friends that he's met though his jobs over the years, and keeps in reguakr contact with them, hangs out. I usually go with him. I don't personally have any friends, but my husband is my best friend, and my siblings are my friends I guess. I hang with with them, play video games, etc. I know I don't have to mask around them or watch what I say♥ 2source record 1302
Likely lessons learned from the previous generations.♥ 1source record 1367
I don't drink because of the trauma from the very early deaths caused by alcohol in my family. I know a lot of others with gen X parents that drank themselves to an early grave too. As for relationships, everyone has fewer because there are less people out and about to talk to and more inside addicted to their phone.♥ 1source record 1411
I'd like to think part of the drinking thing is maybe an awareness of addiction. I know a lot of people who had alcoholics in their family which made them conscious of how much drinking they do♥ 1source record 1438
Il regarde les vieux c… en couple et alcoolique 😂 j’en fais parti de ces vieux♥ 1source record 1442
I don’t know about other people, but I’ve seen what alcohol did to older people after years of heavy drinking and I want no part in it.♥ 1source record 1458
they learned by example♥ 1source record 1515
Nobody wants to lose their ass in divorce court, and we can look around us and see what excessive alcohol consumption does to our peers.♥ 1source record 1535
Alcoholic parents, lack of need to connect with people in real life, and crippling debt to prevent people from going out to drink.♥ 1source record 1547
Learning from their parents? My daughter is 19 and has no interest in alcohol. She’s drank once and has been to the bar one time and that was it. Her dad is an alcoholic and she and her brother have no interest in going down that road.♥ 1source record 1561
The bad examples set by their elders♥ 1source record 1571
Watching us Gen-Xers fuck everything up 🤷🏼‍♀️♥ 1source record 1601
A lot of it has to do with social media and the perception of alcohol amongst the younger generations. A lot of these kids, unfortunately, have seen family members or someone else close to them experience what excessive drinking can do to a person. The cost of almost everything doesn't help either, and relationships in general are not easy, especially now, with social media creating a false narrative that something better is always out there. People will see relationships unfold on social media platforms, and people typically aren't sharing the arguments and issues between the vacations, date nights, and general good times with family and friends. People see that and want the same things naturally. COVID lockdown also did a lot of social harm to Gen Z, as others have mentioned.♥ 1source record 1602
Because they were raised by GenX (me) and they do the opposite they saw ?♥ 1source record 1672
Alcoholic parent(s) in my experience♥ 1source record 1695
They have watched alcohol destroy families and the repercussions from divorce. Now they want neither. That and money.♥ 1source record 1697
Probably cause they watched there parents drink away their problems♥ 1source record 1702
Witnessing the negative effects of drinking and toxic relationships in their parents and older generations and wanting to find a different/better way.♥ 1source record 1750
Learning from previous gens. Alc is probably the worst drug out there, especially on the day after. And so mqny ppl have terrible relationships left and right that ppl nowadays are more aware of all the red flags.♥ 1source record 1770
Seeing generations in their family fall into the clutches of alcoholism. Seriously, my grandfather was, to put it plainly, the town drunk. And while I've enjoyed a drink and even occasionally been drunk, that's been the best insurance against it becoming a habit for me.♥ 1source record 1779
a lifetime of watching their parents...♥ 1source record 1807
Probably has to do with watching the older generations drink themselves to death and be miserable in relationships.♥ 1source record 1831
Watching previous generations suck at both.♥ 1source record 1849
Honestly, I think a lot of Gen Z just grew up seeing the downsides of drinking and unhealthy relationships, so they're more cautious about both.♥ 1source record 1860
Watching their older cohorts/family have all sorts of health and relationship issues that stem from drinking too much.♥ 1source record 1874
Wisdom of learning from past generations mistakes and finances / cost of living increases♥ 1source record 1916
Watching the millennials drink and do drugs excessively. Now all the millennials are sober too. What a fun little cohort to be in.♥ 1source record 1933
Money and many of them grew up with alcoholic family members.♥ 1source record 1977
I think they watched their parents to be honest. That’s what my daughter says. She said pubs are expensive and no fun. She doesn’t like the look of being drunk she said I’m loud and it’s embarrassing for her so I cut down so much for her. My eldest forever 26 and middle 22 never saw an issue but the littlest my Gen Z does♥ 1source record 2002
Money, and watching their parents waste their lives boozing while destroying marriages.♥ 1source record 2066
Having to drag their drunk, fighting parents apart all the time could do it.♥ -1source record 2076
Lots of good answers, but one thing I’ve not seen mentioned yet is that these things tend to go in cycles. If your parents drank, then it makes it less cool for you to drink. Because few teenagers want to be like their parents?♥ 1source record 2093
Zlennial here, I don’t drink because my dad is an alcoholic and I decided from a young age I didn’t want any part of that and I don’t date because my town has a small gay scene where everyone’s way older than me 😔♥ 1source record 2098
Personally, I hate alcohol. I see how its affected older generations of my family and don't want to touch that poison. I don't see any positives to drinking alcohol. I'm also religious, so that's another reason. As for fewer relationships, people are more isolated and spend more time on social media than going out and meeting people in person. Its also hard to meet people when there's not really any places to do so. Also people have unrealistic standards that they want to put on others but not themselves, which leads to a bit of imbalance.♥ 1source record 2119
The drinking part is easy: They've seen how older members of their families got destroyed by alcohol. It's not an easy drug on the body, no matter how much people or companies try to convince us otherwise.♥ 1source record 2145
They all grew up with alcoholic parents who were divorced and always seen multiple other people come and go... may be one possibility♥ 1source record 2146
Observing in real time their grandparents (boomers) and parents (Gen-Xers) and their unresolved intergenerational trauma that gets "treated" with alcoholism instead of counseling, real work, and repair.♥ 1source record 2193
Learning from our mistakes.♥ 1source record 2199
Watching there parents♥ 1source record 2212
Them watching their older siblings go through toxic hell that lead to alcoholism. I stand by that. Was actually talking about it the other day too♥ 0source record 2258
and some of gen z’s parents are boomers like mine who had a nasty divorce so don’t just write his statement off♥ 1source record 2401
Growing up seeing their parents constantly fighting and watching their parents’ spiraling alcohol addictions. Oh, and money.♥ -1source record 2481
Their drunk, dysfunctional \[millennial\] parents. and the fact that they can get their social needs "met' on the hellscape of the new web.♥ -1source record 2484

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How they were raised9 index entriesParenting and supervision offered as the cause, rather than anything about the drink.
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What commenters described: It's not. Many Gen Z are being raised by the first generation that decided to go to therapy and get help for their issues instead of passing down a ton of generational trauma. So they're raising kids that see somewhat balanced adults and these kids are also aware of therapy and mental health issues and healthy relationships.

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It's not. Many Gen Z are being raised by the first generation that decided to go to therapy and get help for their issues instead of passing down a ton of generational trauma. So they're raising kids that see somewhat balanced adults and these kids are also aware of therapy and mental health issues and healthy relationships.

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there parents are rediculous

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More attentive parents

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They lack individualism, independence, confidence, and meliorism. I don't blame them though. They were raised by idiots recovering from their own abusive parents, and into a world with a poor immediate outlook.♥ 3source record 483
Because millennial parents are allowing our children to grow up at their own pace. They're allowed to be children. Many of us grew up too fast because our parents weren't going to let us slow them down.♥ 2source record 1170
It's not. Many Gen Z are being raised by the first generation that decided to go to therapy and get help for their issues instead of passing down a ton of generational trauma. So they're raising kids that see somewhat balanced adults and these kids are also aware of therapy and mental health issues and healthy relationships.♥ 13source record 1266
Gen X taught them people, jobs and relationships are all temporary, disposable and devoid of any value.♥ 1source record 1430
Ease of getting things and wishes fulfilled bcoz of millennial parents♥ 1source record 1674
there parents are rediculous♥ 1source record 1727
Its honestly a parenting problem more than anything too. They had the worst parents hands down. They had the tail end of the boomers and Gen X as parents. The very few of them that had millennial parents you can already see a night and day difference between those younger Gen Z kids and the older ones with older millennial parents. Millennial's already know how awful boomers were as parents, and older Gen Z probably got some of the worst of the boomers as parents. GenX's are just ambivalent to everything. They just don't care. When you see a parent just hand a young kid a tablet totally unrestricted or just let their kid not go to school.....Gen X♥ 1source record 1937
More attentive parents♥ 1source record 2010
My kid is only 3 so I haven't gone through that stage yet, but I'm pretty sure that if I let him go and be wild at 10, I will have the police knocking on my door to return him, should things continue as they are.♥ 1source record 2405

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Something else instead97 records ¡ 2 sub-topicsSubstitution rather than abstinence. 97 records.
Weed took the slot alcohol had74 index entriesLegal cannabis described as a straight substitution.
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What the pattern means: The straight substitution answer, and one of the largest single sub-patterns. Legalisation is named repeatedly as the mechanism, and the comparisons commenters draw are practical rather than moral: no hangover, cheaper per session, done at home. The group carries its own dissent — several say the two are not interchangeable at all, and one says cannabis is a poor replacement precisely for the social anxiety alcohol was being used on.

What commenters described: Two drinks at a bar costs $20 and lasts 2-3 hours. A single thc vape cartridge costs $20 and lasts 2-3 weeks if used daily or 2-3 months if used less frequently. And the vape doesn’t give you a hangover. I think it’s really that simple. (Disclaimer, thc/weed is not as harmless as many on reddit would have you believe. Long term chronic use will probably negatively impact your life. When compared to alcohol it is generally less bad, but alcohol is pretty bad so it’s a low bar.)

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Even worse, AI chat bots are replacing relationships...

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They smoke weed instead, it's way more accessible now and has less stigma. Everything else is because they're too broke.

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Which, while awesome for chill nights alone, unfortunately does nothing for the anxiety and social avoidance. It can catch up to ya when you get 10-15 years deep (depending on frequency of use)

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Weed is replacing alcohol, and social media is replacing relationships

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Screentime and the availability of edibles.

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Much easier access to legal THC is my guess.

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And weed♥ 25source record 138
Yep, for all the negative health and safety effects of alcohol, at least it lowers social inhibitions and gets people talking to someone they don’t know. Weed is probably better for overall health (although not nearly as much as advocates seem to want to believe) but it’s not exactly a party starter for the vast majority of users.♥ 18source record 139
When we're talking about crippling anxiety, weed is definitely *not* a good replacement for alcohol.♥ 7source record 140
I think it’s deeper than that. Not saying those things aren’t valid, but there’s an undeniable societal shift happening with women, which is impacting men obviously. We’re more educated and empowered than ever (though bodily autonomy is moving in the wrong direction, sadly) and are finding meaning and fulfillment in lives that don’t revolve around being a wife/mother. In-person socializing through recreational sport groups and hobbies is growing, dating app use is dwindling as single people looking for partners are preferring to meet potential dates in everyday life, and as for the drinking, I’d be curious to see data on the shift from drinking alcohol to drinking THC-infused drinks. Those are everywhere now. I’d also argue, as an elder millennial who has stopped drinking bc the hangover after even ONE drink isn’t worth it, we’ve seen (and I’m sure Gen Z too) the effects of excessive alcohol use on our parents and grandparents - often leading to abuse, divorce, alcoholism, etc. Our growing understanding of how alcohol is literally poison for our bodies is also playing a part I’m sure.♥ 49source record 141
Weed is replacing alcohol, and social media is replacing relationships♥ 95source record 392
People smoke more weed, especially where it’s legal.♥ 31source record 441
Weed and internet tbh♥ 3source record 475
Weed legalization probably helped gen z kick the alcoholic habit. Our parents and their parents had the money saved by 22 that we'd likely have by 30.♥ 3source record 480
Bingo. I don’t really smoke anymore but on any occasion I do, there’s no fuckin way I’m leaving the house or even answering the door or phone.♥ 3source record 649
Weed is legal in more places so they do that instead (also vapes. At my old job, almost all the young employees vaped). Phones have caused more anti social behaviors and tendencies, whether on purpose or subconscious.♥ 8source record 1117
Yep, came here looking for this one. I have always 100% been a weed person, but I also didn't mind breaking the law. Now, it's a genuine choice for young people, and I suspect a lot more of them will choose the one without the hangovers.♥ 6source record 1123
GenZ here. Alcool was replaced by others, mostly weed. Less harmfull, better vibe less costy. Relationships ? We do have those, not the same way you consider it tho.♥ 5source record 1128
I think they gravitate more toward weed than alcohol. As for relationships, societal values right now are like a stuck turd that won't go back in or come out. You've got people demanding a new way forward and then you've got ultra regressive people, some of whom are literal fascists. It's harder to find common ground.♥ 2source record 1158
Absolutely, an evening high is 1000 times better than drunk; I quit drinking 2 years ago never felt better♥ 5source record 1182
Put five drunks in a room and you’ll have a brawl. Put five stoners in a room and you’ll have a band. Weed > booze Although shrooms are better than either of those. 😎♥ 2source record 1183
I feel like they’re completely different drugs that don’t replace each other. You can definitely smoke socially, but it’s much more introspective. Alcohol loosens people up and makes them more social.♥ 2source record 1186
Drinking less = More THC consumption which is something you usually do not in public. Fewer relationships - a lot of important development for Gen Z happened during and after COVID. The world changed to be more online post COVID. Also, it feels like everyone is being squeezed. Things are more expensive, and it's just cheaper to stay inside. I feel like, niche communities online are blooming, especially surrounding online content creators. Maybe relationships are forming but it just looks different than before♥ 2source record 1210
I was just talking with a coworker. I felt it’s three things: 1. Legalization and normalcy of cannabis use. Some people just prefer the way cannabis feels, 1. especially lower levels of thc that legalization provide s. 1. Inflation increasing the cost of living and drinking with coupled with wage stagnation makes an evening out drinking sometimes nearly $100. I used to go out drinking on $20-40 bucks and have a fine evening. 2. Phone addiction. The attention economy includes socializing in person with other human beings. Sometimes people are interested in going out and being with other people but they sit on the couch and scroll their phone and two hours have gone by. Boom, they are tired and figure they’ll skip tonight. Rinse and repeat.♥ 2source record 1211
Marijuana i drank every single day since i was 16 haven't had a drink in 994 days. all thanks to marijuana♥ 2source record 1212
Legal weed probably had a lot to do with it.♥ 2source record 1215
Legal weed and porn consumption♥ 2source record 1250
No game, not as social, weed is legal in tons of places now.♥ 1source record 1274
They just smoke weed in the dark while scrolling short form video brain rot?♥ 1source record 1277
Edibles and social media?♥ 1source record 1338
I would bet weed has largely replaced alcohol now that’s it’s been legalized in so many states♥ 1source record 1344
Cause they have no $ cause its spent on their daily weed habit?♥ 1source record 1353
I think people in the US are drinking less thanks to the legalization of marijuana in many parts of the country.♥ 1source record 1376
The legalization of marijuana and general dislike of hangovers drives the less drinking aspect. Why spend $50 on drinks when you can nibble on a gummy and be buzzing all night long?♥ 2source record 1380
Weed & depression♥ 2source record 1466
Legal Marijuana♥ 1source record 1471
Cannabis instead of alcohol♥ 1source record 1476
Marijuana and insecurity.♥ 1source record 1495
You're getting a lot of good answers, but I'll just add that they smoke so so so much more than any other generation.♥ 1source record 1513
Recreational weed and hookup culture.♥ 1source record 1525
Cuz alcohol tastes like shit, is expensive, and weed is in every way better.♥ 2source record 1557
Marijuana legalization, social media, covid, lack of money, parents ability to track their children at all times leading to the death of the quintessential highschool house party right of passage. Those are just the first few that come to mind. I’m all here for it. Love to see Gen Z drinking less, but I am curious what the usage of other drugs looks like. There is no such thing as an old opioid addict, and last I checked fentanyl/other synthetic opioids were still being used heavily in the states♥ 1source record 1573
Drinking is expensive and weed is more fun and cheaper.♥ 1source record 1606
Weed.♥ 1source record 1628
I like weed, and it's cheaper♥ 1source record 1637
Pot is now legal and safer/healthier than booze. Also, drinking and driving sucks and taxis/rideshares are expensive. I think the nature of relationships have/are changing. Just because a relationship is primarily online through social media or video game playing doesn't automatically make it less fulfilling. In person relationships are difficult and in many cases a total let down In the end. Perhaps Gen z is developing a better way.♥ 1source record 1654
Weed♥ 1source record 1668
legal thc has taken much of the drinking away. no hangover is a good reason.♥ 1source record 1683
Marijuana decriminalization. The alcohol industry has reported massive losses every year due to the legalization of Marijuana, so much so companies are creating THC alcohol to win back drinkers. Fewer relationships because it's not worth it to build long term relationships and families when home ownership is a fantasy for most people.♥ 1source record 1699
Weed, common sense♥ 1source record 1716
Legal weed Cost of living♥ 1source record 1768
As a concerned parent of two Gen Z'ers...drinking less is because of access to weed and lack of money. But lack of money was always a problem for young adults, we just dealt with it by having keg parties with the 'Beast' (iykyk) back in the day....but that ties to the fewer relationships are due to lack of exposure to the potential suitors. They don't have parties or socialize in person, it's all through gaming or online. Very hard to have a relationship with people you never meet.♥ 1source record 1774
Drinking less is caused by a general switch to weed/THC products, which is much healthier than drinking. Also, drinking is very much a social activity and as you point out, Gen Z is doing less socializing. There's also the money factor, decent booze is expensive and cheap stuff isn't worth the calories. As for fewer relationships, I hate to sound like a boomer but I genuinely think social media has killed people's ability to socialize in person. In terms of dating specifically, dating apps/sites are a hellhole and it's not hard to see how they turn people off dating altogether.♥ 1source record 1781
They smoke weed instead, it's way more accessible now and has less stigma. Everything else is because they're too broke.♥ 1source record 1822
Weed and money♥ 1source record 1877
They're smoking weed and vaping more than drinking, and the former leads to the latter? It's not like GenZ solved the social anxiety that plagues everyone else...♥ 0source record 1909
The Mary Jane♥ 1source record 1928
They stay home and smoke weed or consume edibles nonstop. Not all of them, but the majority of Gen Z I know opt for edibles and bake all day.♥ 1source record 1962
Drink less is because they can get their high with weed, gummies, vapes, etc... I work in the IT field and almost everyone I come across who is 35 or younger openly talks about hitting the weed shop like going to the grocery store. As for fewer relationships there are just more things in our lives that replace that need. People are staying home streaming entertainment endlessly, playing computer games, getting lost in social media, etc... Not to mention that a lot of the people that ARE trying to date have unrealistic expectations of what to expect because of the aforementioned social media.♥ 1source record 1970
Marijuana as opposed to alcohol (and it's not just Gen Z), growing up "with a mouse in their hand" (eg: relationships are maintained via digital means) and aging into "the system". EDIT: I meant that it seems like more and more people (eg: younger generations) are choosing THC/Marijuana items as opposed to alcohol for relaxation and social lubricant.♥ 0source record 1987
Pot.♥ 0source record 1989
Cannibas use. My experience is the 2 dont mix well♥ 2source record 1995
Along with everything else mentioned in this thread, I think the availability and quality of weed has gotten better and it’s driving drinking down. Of the students I work with, very few drink but more than half smoke weed.♥ 1source record 2012
Caveat: I'm either a millennial or Z depending on who you ask. I consider myself the last of the millennial, but still young enough to relate to gen z on some things. 1: If I had to choose between never drinking again or never consuming cannabis again, it's an easy choice to drop the alcohol. Alcohol is much less forgiving on your body, and weed is cheaper. 2: I'm engaged, but the dating scene is a fucking nightmare and I would rather be single than deal with the bullshit I see some of these guys dealing with. There's a lot of man-hating (a lot of it is deserved), a lot of entitlement ("I'm not paying for anything, and and you must put in all the effort to keep me entertained"), a lot of delusion ("I can sell nudes online and if you're not okay with it, you're insecure") My love life would be strictly casual, and even then that might not be worth the headache.♥ 1source record 2013
Two drinks at a bar costs $20 and lasts 2-3 hours. A single thc vape cartridge costs $20 and lasts 2-3 weeks if used daily or 2-3 months if used less frequently. And the vape doesn’t give you a hangover. I think it’s really that simple. (Disclaimer, thc/weed is not as harmless as many on reddit would have you believe. Long term chronic use will probably negatively impact your life. When compared to alcohol it is generally less bad, but alcohol is pretty bad so it’s a low bar.)♥ 1source record 2027
Btw us kids dgaf abt if we’re getting recorded it’s not on our mind of why we don’t drink. We don’t drink cuz it’s too expensive and not worth the money over weed. Weed is jus better jus like how young teens don’t smoke cigs anymore. Vaping is the new option no need for it. Alcohol has too much risk with not a big enough reward. Nausea,dui, expensive, embarrassment. Weed you’ll just cough your lungs out and laugh or vibe to music.♥ 4source record 2082
The reason for Drinking less is easy. Delta drinks are fun, cheaper,, have less calories and doesn't leave you with a hangover. As for relationships, probably a number of reasons. Money, the lack of a third location to meet people, plenty of others.♥ 1source record 2099
Screentime and the availability of edibles.♥ 1source record 2135
Legal marijuana.♥ 0source record 2157
Much easier access to legal THC is my guess.♥ 0source record 2159
Drinking less: Weed Less relationships: We're all angry at eachother and we're being manipulated into gender wars♥ 0source record 2163
Weeds a cheaper alternative to booze, they’re too emotionally fragile to handle real relationships.♥ 1source record 2169
The more weed I smoke the less alcohol I drink. Online dating and social networking has made dating standards unrealistic today.♥ 1source record 2179
Weed being more available cuts into the space that was pretty much entirely dominated by alcohol. Probably doesnt help that most pot consumption is done in your home instead of at a more public space like a bar.♥ 1source record 2195
Weed is a lot cheaper per session then alcohol. Also everyone is poor, so less going out in general.♥ 1source record 2211
Widespread access to legal cannabis and social media.♥ 1source record 2217
Money and the realization that weed is better. The legalization of weed in many places also helped♥ 1source record 2221
Less alcohol because of legal marijuana and fewer relationships because they grew up on technology and dont talk LIVE, in person to the opposite sex.♥ 1source record 2230
Weed♥ 1source record 2231
Which, while awesome for chill nights alone, unfortunately does nothing for the anxiety and social avoidance. It can catch up to ya when you get 10-15 years deep (depending on frequency of use)♥ 1source record 2388

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Vapes, pouches, prescriptions and everything else23 index entriesThe other substances commenters say moved into the same slot.
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What the pattern means: Everything else commenters say moved into the slot: vapes and nicotine pouches most often, then prescribed stimulants, psychedelics, caffeine and boba. The argument running through the group is not that this generation is sober but that it is inebriated differently, and several records treat that as no improvement at all.

What commenters described: Less in-person socializing due to the digital age where socializing and entertainment and any stimulation is easily accessible remotely and from the palm of your hand. Easier access to weed, vaping (becoming kind of a norm) and all kinds of other rec drugs like psychedelics and hallucinogens like shrooms, ketamine, mdmas and prescription drugs like adderall. Doctors are prescribing them much quicker than in the past due to more mental health awareness and acceptance to medicate. Much more appealing to get inebriated with these than alcohol which tastes bad. Gen-Z culturally also seem to have a shifting pallette of tastes for sweeter and fruitier flavors. So alcohol in general are becoming a turn off other than to party and binge to get f up. Rather than having a pint or two or kick [account] and relax like in generations past. This also applies to millennials as well to a lesser extent. I just remember when I go to bars back in my 20s, it's normal to see many other in the same age group as me there. Now being older when I go, it not uncommon to see anyone that doesn't look at least they're well into their 30s there.

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Better coping mechanisms (better drugs than booze) and economic instability (no one wants to date equally broke people).

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yeah but I hear they're into vaping as a replacement.

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Access to drugs that were deemed amoral and illegal for generations instead of alcohol and the ability to find and fuck someone nearby with just a flick of their finger.

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The conversation starts with porn, gambling and weed

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Swap instead of subtract 3

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yeah but I hear they're into vaping as a replacement.♥ 6source record 681
But acid is still $5/ dose. Maybe the hippies got it right the first time♥ 1source record 792
Better coping mechanisms (better drugs than booze) and economic instability (no one wants to date equally broke people).♥ 2source record 1247
Well, they also vape like there is no tomorrow...♥ 2source record 1323
They smoke/vape more. Everyone is looking for the best next thing and cant commit.♥ 3source record 1326
Access to better drugs. Alcohol is one of the dirtiest ways to get high. Literal poison.♥ 2source record 1389
Less alcohol, but more drugs.♥ 1source record 1518
Boba bars taking over so instead of beer everyone drink caffeine because we have to work for pennies or we're in school because that's one of the ways to peolong paying expensive student debt in hopes of getting s better job. Gen Z is plenty social in my opinion but half the conversation is now online and instead of just the bar half the people who went there only to socialize and hated the drinks now go to a coffeeshop or teabar. That being said....some people could afford to get a life.♥ 1source record 1617
Access to drugs that were deemed amoral and illegal for generations instead of alcohol and the ability to find and fuck someone nearby with just a flick of their finger.♥ 1source record 1639
They’re already spending drinking money on apps and vapes.♥ 1source record 1701
They're all vaping at younger and younger ages now, basically everything that was done to keep millenials from smoking have reversed and you'll have 12 year olds hiding vapes.♥ 1source record 1710
Easier access to hard drugs.♥ 1source record 1719
Don’t drink but love drugs♥ 1source record 1776
Access to cleaner/safer substances with which to get inebriated. Financial pressure. Social Isolation.♥ 1source record 1809
I agree, it’s why a lot of the younger generations don’t smoke cigarettes cause they know that’s bad but are more likely to vape cause there wasn’t a whole campaign against vaping when they were growing up. I still remember the “don’t do drugs” and smoker ads to this day.♥ 1source record 1819
drugs♥ -2source record 1983
I don't know about the fewer relationship part, but some are drinking less 'cause they are doing drugs instead.♥ 1source record 2030
Less in-person socializing due to the digital age where socializing and entertainment and any stimulation is easily accessible remotely and from the palm of your hand. Easier access to weed, vaping (becoming kind of a norm) and all kinds of other rec drugs like psychedelics and hallucinogens like shrooms, ketamine, mdmas and prescription drugs like adderall. Doctors are prescribing them much quicker than in the past due to more mental health awareness and acceptance to medicate. Much more appealing to get inebriated with these than alcohol which tastes bad. Gen-Z culturally also seem to have a shifting pallette of tastes for sweeter and fruitier flavors. So alcohol in general are becoming a turn off other than to party and binge to get f up. Rather than having a pint or two or kick [account] and relax like in generations past. This also applies to millennials as well to a lesser extent. I just remember when I go to bars back in my 20s, it's normal to see many other in the same age group as me there. Now being older when I go, it not uncommon to see anyone that doesn't look at least they're well into their 30s there.♥ 1source record 2052
The conversation starts with porn, gambling and weed♥ -1source record 2078
Getting hooked on vaping and phone/doom scrolling early♥ 1source record 2084
I think gen Z replaced smoking and drinking with vaping and scrolling. All four activities are shit if you ask me (a millenial)♥ 1source record 2103
They have other vices.♥ 1source record 2117
They are vaping and the body image issues made everyone think they are not good enough.♥ 1source record 2170

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Anxious, out of practice, out of hope118 records ¡ 4 sub-topicsAnswers about capacity and mood rather than price or venue. 118 records.
Never learned to do it in person45 index entriesSocialising described as a skill that was never built rather than one that was lost.
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Never learned to do it in person

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Appears when: Never learned to do it in person

What the pattern means: A capability argument rather than a preference one. These commenters describe small talk, approaching strangers and tolerating awkwardness as skills that need repetition, and say the repetitions never happened. Teachers, managers and older colleagues supply most of the specific observations, and the self- reinforcing loop — avoid because awkward, awkward because avoided — is named more than once.

What commenters described: The second part is because they don't practice them, and because they are awkward, they avoid them thus not practicing them and…it’s a self reinforcing cycle. But the main cause is phones. In the past, you were basically forced to make small talk with people. Therefore you learned how to make small talk because the silence was painfully awkward. Now, we just stick our faces into our screens (i do it too) and anyone trying to make small talk is the awkward one.

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My brother is fairly self assured for someone in Gen Z but his girlfriend has such high levels of social anxiety it's hard for me to even process. She complained about how a few girls were wasting time on a gym machine for 30 minutes but in that time she didn't once walk over and ask when they would be done. She had her night ruined by a couple talking through a movie right beside her but was never an option to ask them to keep it down. She won't book a table at a restaurant if you have to call them to do it. She will eat terrible food rather than complain. It honestly seems exhausting

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They are awkward and broke and shit is expensive

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Unfortunately, younger generations never learned how to be social. Rather than being free to roam the world and interact with friends in unsupervised social settings, they were sheltered and force-fed digital interaction alone, which is not the same. Most kids back in the day already learned about personal relationships by actually making and building personal relationships physically, rather than only being allowed to do so online. And, even in the little bit of real-world socializing that occurs, it is supervised to the point of being awkward and unnatural. This results in some good things, like less drinking, because alcohol consumption is primarily a social thing. But the negatives are the lack of relationships because they never learned how to build them.

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They have more anxiety than previous generations in my teaching experience.

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They are socially stunted and afraid of the World

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They are stuck to screens and have zero social skills.

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Browse the original comments45 preserved records ¡ 45 of 45 source records accounted for
My brother is fairly self assured for someone in Gen Z but his girlfriend has such high levels of social anxiety it's hard for me to even process. She complained about how a few girls were wasting time on a gym machine for 30 minutes but in that time she didn't once walk over and ask when they would be done. She had her night ruined by a couple talking through a movie right beside her but was never an option to ask them to keep it down. She won't book a table at a restaurant if you have to call them to do it. She will eat terrible food rather than complain. It honestly seems exhausting♥ 10source record 144
The second part is because they don't practice them, and because they are awkward, they avoid them thus not practicing them and…it’s a self reinforcing cycle. But the main cause is phones. In the past, you were basically forced to make small talk with people. Therefore you learned how to make small talk because the silence was painfully awkward. Now, we just stick our faces into our screens (i do it too) and anyone trying to make small talk is the awkward one.♥ 88source record 365
They have more anxiety than previous generations in my teaching experience.♥ 114source record 374
Social awkwardness due to the influence of social media. Gen Z would rather be on their phones than go through the struggle of learning how to successfully socialize with other human beings through trial and error. That and I think a lot of them have been made aware of the fact that alcohol is basically poison.♥ 5source record 461
Mainly social networks, they did create anxiety and high standards expectations, amplifying the sensations of inadequacy of everyone♥ 3source record 474
It’s weird to think that the concept of a house party or rager with total strangers is dying off. Back in my day, you got a text saying there was a party across town and you just went. The next day you woke up, checked 2009 version of Facebook, and saw yourself tagged in photos with complete strangers lol. No plans on how to get home. No idea who would be there. If it was a small rager, you might BYOB just in case. If it was a frat party, you brought cash to purchase a cup. Rugby party? Down. Bender with the theatre kids? Hell yeah. I’m not saying kids need to become alcoholics, but it’s like these kids are too anxious to mix and mingle with complete strangers.♥ 8source record 655
The loss of comfort in being around other people leads to not knowing how to handle/talk through situations, which leads to either never starting to engage with a new relationship, or handling it really poorly because you have forgotten how to interact.♥ 2source record 661
I'm 33 going back to college. I spent the summer working a grocery store with 20 year olds. This younger group of people straight up does not have conversations with strangers. It just doesn't happen.♥ 2source record 665
What this guy says. Kids are like freshly poured cement, if you pour a good foundation it will support things built on top of it very well. If being glued to a phone with their mind somewhere on the internet and being enabled to avoid social contact is the max being poured, the cement will harden just like that, and being able to speak to people looking them in the eye will be unbearable. Further to that however, if all the kids of a generation are brought up like that, then that becomes the norm. Future kids will be taught this, and only goes on from there.♥ 1source record 698
Because you never learn how to interact with people in real life and the nuances that come with it. Like everything that also requires practice and can be daunting if you have no practice with putting yourself out there♥ 2source record 700
Loneliness and avoidance of loneliness look identical from the outside. A lot of Gen Z isn’t choosing solitude they’re stuck in it and building an identity around it because that’s easier than admitting how isolated they feel. The less drinking and fewer relationships might not be conscious rejection of those things. It might be the downstream consequence of a generation that never fully learned how to be uncomfortable in social situations because the phone was always there to make discomfort optional.♥ 1source record 704
I've been so lucky and proud watching my daughter grow up, especially in recent years as she gets older and more independent. Her boyfriend is very Gen Z, not street smart, avoids social challenges/adventures, but she goes all in. Yeah, she'll ask us for basic info ahead of time, but is ready to go. Like recently they wanted to go into the city to check out some museums - navigating the metro, finding where they're going, feeding themselves. All basic stuff that an adult wouldn't think twice about (and probably most Europeans of any age), but not things her bf would otherwise be comfortable with. Totally book smart, but very Gen Z as it relates to this thread. She basically grabbed him and said "we're going". So yeah, lucky and proud.♥ 1source record 736
Missing childhood socialisation♥ 2source record 1145
I think social anxiety due to being online (i.e. social media) all the time. 1) When you see people posting exotic pictures on insta and whatnot, and see them get thousands of likes and comments validating their lifestyle, it can be difficult not to compare yourself to them and then conclude that your life isn't as good as theirs. 2) social media is addictive and rewards instant gratification. This leads to brain developmental issues where people want things done asap and don't have patience. Organic friendships and relationships take a long time to develop. 3) websites/apps like tinder etc makes things worse for obvious reasons♥ 2source record 1154
They are awkward and broke and shit is expensive♥ 2source record 1161
Its frigging scary how many people under 30 are socially awkward with basic conversations. Their parents are the internet.♥ 2source record 1163
Están bebiendo menos porque tienen menos amigos o grupos de amigos, tienen menos relaciones afectivas porque les faltan capacidades sociales debido a que no tienen muchos amigos♥ 2source record 1167
Social anxiety.♥ 2source record 1229
Socially inept, prefer "living their best lives" over sacrifices.♥ 2source record 1245
I personally grew up in a conservative falmily (lifestyle wise) and didn't have much social interaction, so its harder for me in while older, and no real passion for anything really.♥ 1source record 1378
They’re too afraid to leave their homes♥ 1source record 1418
Cause they’re pussies afraid of in real life interactions.♥ 1source record 1444
I concur its partially money but also the fact many in Gen Z have diminished social skills due to consistent social media exposure on their phones and/or gaming. The social skills required to interact with others in a bar or restaurant puts a lid on consumption levels.♥ 1source record 1468
Comfort zone of screens at home generating needless anxiety about the world♥ 1source record 1481
They're afraid. It's shocking the amount of these kids I run into who can't/won't make eye contact and speak in whispers♥ 1source record 1500
I've had a few thoughts on the over-construction of socialization of children ( schools organized play date constant meetups) having a partner in leading to antisocialization and inability to understand how to construct social situations for them selfs/make friends /include them selfs in a community and adulthood♥ 1source record 1506
i can only speak for myself (i'm recently 26, male in la) - there are a few reasons. \- people do not know how to stimulate conversations anymore. whether it's due to increased social "anxiety" from internet exposure over time (i use quotations because i feel like it's been embedded into society) or the fact that there are fewer and fewer third spaces nowadays, i genuinely don't feel like anyone talks to each other (kindly, but that's a bit separate). i'm not saying i am significantly better, but i do work around older people for my job and it's evident that things have shifted. \- we cannot afford shit. plain and simple. dates are expensive, i mean dinners are like $20+ for one entree. i know some people argue that you could do plenty of other things for dates, but the only cheap option nowadays is to go on a walk or something. coffee is even expensive over. don't even think about fun activities - i saw a video about someone spending $100 for one bowling alley for two hours. \- no one has optimism for anything anymore, and it materializes in people not doing anything fun with their time. hobbies are at an all-time low, i'm sure. everyone is miserable and we're all being forced into hating our neighbors. absolutely asinine. that's my general summation. i don't date because i also enjoy being single and being in control of my own finances, hobbies, friendships, and schedule. it's less hassle and it's a lot less emotional turmoil - people are mean today and they don't know how to be normal.♥ 2source record 1552
On their phone scrolling. I work with lots of gen z who are afraid to make phone calls so there goes that. I think ordering a drink at a bar would be quite challenging for them as well♥ 1source record 1605
They didn't learn how to socialize growing up.♥ 1source record 1648
Unfortunately, younger generations never learned how to be social. Rather than being free to roam the world and interact with friends in unsupervised social settings, they were sheltered and force-fed digital interaction alone, which is not the same. Most kids back in the day already learned about personal relationships by actually making and building personal relationships physically, rather than only being allowed to do so online. And, even in the little bit of real-world socializing that occurs, it is supervised to the point of being awkward and unnatural. This results in some good things, like less drinking, because alcohol consumption is primarily a social thing. But the negatives are the lack of relationships because they never learned how to build them.♥ 1source record 1706
A lot of them were raised like caged veal and missed the developmental windows in which social skills can be acquired without studying them as though they’re a foreign language. Or maybe it’s like trying to teach pandas to mate in captivity. I’m mixing a few similes.♥ 1source record 1754
I think that they've been raised to be afraid of anything not deemed to be "perfect."♥ 1source record 1841
Anxiety, primarily social anxiety. Money too, which probably adds to the anxiety. You couple that with Covid where everyone had no choice but to be shut in, which can exacerbate diminishing or non development of social skills. I think there is a greater sense of nihilistic views as well. There was still a palpable hope when it came to technology and social progress and other areas I think through the 2000’s. Since then, I think more people are aware that those in power increasingly view citizens inhumanely, and more like as cogs to a capitalistic machine. Social and scientific progress has become intertwined so heavily with capitalism that everyone has cynical view of progress now too.♥ 1source record 1850
I think an unfortunate problem today is that people don't interact much and thus develop social anxiety issues and think it's just "being an introvert."♥ 1source record 1870
They are socially stunted and afraid of the World♥ 1source record 1892
Inability to interact in public, excessive reliance on being on the phone/social media♥ 1source record 1920
I've never met a group of young people more afraid to fail than Gen Z.♥ 1source record 1950
They are stuck to screens and have zero social skills.♥ -1source record 1994
The Gen Z young adults in my family were big time iPad kids and now their social skills are pretty much non existent. They have a lot of growing up to do still and their parents are having a hard time motivating them. I can tell the parents have realized their kids are behind in life. These kids don’t have the confidence to get their drivers license or get a job.♥ 1source record 1998
They don't want to be seen as awkward, it's their biggest fear, so they just don't do anything. Can't fuck up if you don't even try.♥ 1source record 2011
the internet caused so many gen z'ers to have severe social anxiety. also the economy and the job market is horrible rn♥ 1source record 2087
Cell phone addiction plus a parenting culture that made them all terrified of failure and trying new things leading to more significantly more time spent at home and alone. Phones make everything (or so many things) you needed to go outside and have human interaction for in the past now quickly accessible in the palm of your hand. It’s so easy to just stay home and scroll and swipe. It’s hard and intimidating to go have build human connections and put yourself out there. Especially when the phones and their content are making everyone so anxious about being perfect and doing things correctly and parents/the school systems never let them fail. To them rejection and perceived failure is worse than never trying at all.♥ 1source record 2140
They are socially awkward and chronically online. Pretty simple.♥ 0source record 2162
This so much. I noticed a lot for socially anxious people from Gen Z which is sad.♥ 1source record 2276
drinking is primarily a social thing. Gen-Z doesn't even bathe on a regular schedule, let alone hang out with folks. They fear conversations.♥ -1source record 2490

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Anxiety treated as a reason to stay in15 index entriesThe thread's argument about indulging anxiety rather than facing it.
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Reason card naming the reason commenters gave, what they reported, and what the thread disputed about it: Anxiety treated as a reason to stay in

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Anxiety treated as a reason to stay in

15 source recordsDiscussed

Appears when: Anxiety treated as a reason to stay in

What the pattern means: The thread's sharpest internal argument, and the one that drew its most-liked replies. The claim is that avoidance is being validated rather than challenged. What answers it is not a defence of staying in but a set of accounts of doing the opposite — a self- identified psychologist agreeing, measured exposure work with a therapist, forcing yourself out at university, a first open mic — alongside a separate argument about whether the anxiety is new at all or simply newly expressed.

What commenters described: The refusal to challenge those anxieties as well. Not leaving your house for years is not because you're an introvert (and I say this as one), its a legitimate problem you have to address, not indulge.

Limit: This group discusses mental health without being qualified to, and its one professional voice is self-identified and unverified. It is a record of an argument, not guidance.

What the replies added1

It's kind of even worse. If you're anxious and avoid something, you feel relief and your body rewards you and it will actually make you more anxious next time. You also get relief if you challenge an anxiety and it doesn't hurt you and goes okay and you'll feel less anxious the next time but that toath is the harder one

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The refusal to challenge those anxieties as well. Not leaving your house for years is not because you're an introvert (and I say this as one), its a legitimate problem you have to address, not indulge.

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>Not leaving your house for years is not because you're an introvert (and I say this as one), its a legitimate problem you have to address Exactly this, being a introvert is fine but when it is negatively affecting your life then it becomes a problem. My eldest has this issue and my first reaction is to actually get her linked into mental health supports...

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Yeah, mental health issues as an identity instead of something to work on.

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Change the sentence 2

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Browse the original comments15 preserved records ¡ 15 of 15 source records accounted for
The refusal to challenge those anxieties as well. Not leaving your house for years is not because you're an introvert (and I say this as one), its a legitimate problem you have to address, not indulge.♥ 719source record 112
This one kills me. I constantly see people posting AITAs about “protecting their mental health” or “setting boundaries” by avoiding things that make them anxious and then the comments are full of people affirming that choice. It’s literally the absolute last thing you should do with anxiety. If something makes you worry, DO IT! Any therapist worth their salt will tell you that. Further, it goes to show how dangerous therapy speak can be. People mask their assumptions behind concepts they do not actually understand. And no one challenges them.♥ 479source record 113
Licensed Psychologist chiming in who 100% agrees with you. Every emotion has an action urge, a natural behavioral response to help guide us. Anxiety’s action urge is avoidance. Anxiety has the specific role to protect us from danger. Ex. You're feeling anxious when standing close to a cliff, you back away. Congratulations anxiety has done its job. Where this goes haywire is when we overly engage in avoidance. The more you avoid situations the more anxious they make us. Anxiety is normal and natural and the more we try to make ourselves constantly comfortable the more anxious we feel. A true irony. Life is uncomfortable at times, folks. The more we accept that as a fact, the more we can live and enjoy our lives.♥ 121source record 121
My therapist explained that if I don't leave my house, I can't unlearn the anxiety I have. I go out in very measured ways to make sure that I don't throw up from anxiety, but I keep expanding what I'm able to do. I have a weird fear of horses and relationships, but I go forth once a month and try to hang out with people (not horses, we haven't worked our way up there yet.)♥ 41source record 122
It's kind of even worse. If you're anxious and avoid something, you feel relief and your body rewards you and it will actually make you more anxious next time. You also get relief if you challenge an anxiety and it doesn't hurt you and goes okay and you'll feel less anxious the next time but that toath is the harder one♥ 14source record 123
Ditto. When I went to uni as an introverted 18 year old I forced myself to leave my room and do social things. It can be exhausting, scary etc but you have to do it if you want to actually make friends♥ 28source record 128
All introvert means is being out drains energy. Most people are introverts. It doesn't mean you don't go out and do things though. You just relax alone occasionally to recharge. Now days people use it as an excuse to be a shut in.♥ 58source record 129
Yeah, mental health issues as an identity instead of something to work on.♥ 1source record 717
Basic everyday normal people anxieties are treated like a crippling anxiety disorder.♥ 1source record 719
>Not leaving your house for years is not because you're an introvert (and I say this as one), its a legitimate problem you have to address Exactly this, being a introvert is fine but when it is negatively affecting your life then it becomes a problem. My eldest has this issue and my first reaction is to actually get her linked into mental health supports...♥ 1source record 720
Yep. The ultimate goal of any mental health issue is to overcome it, not coddle it or indulge it. You shouldn’t proudly proclaim you have clinical anxiety and then use it as a shield to deflect all instances of potential self-improvement; it is a foundation to build your journey to a healthy mind from.♥ 1source record 721
My worst fear as a kid and up until my early 20s was speaking in public. I used to panic before presentations in school. Then I got a job that required me to talk in front of large groups at big banks, to travel and deal with clients and even to give training sessions to big classes. And although it rattled me pretty hard at first I eventually realised that the world wasn't ending when I tripped up and became a lot more comfortable with it. Now it doesn't bother me at all. I actually volunteered to help do the training sessions for our new graduates. But if I hadn't had that push and forced myself to just confront my anxiety head on then I would never have overcome that fear. I would never have gotten the career I ended up with. And most importantly I would never have met my wife while out on my travels with work, even if I did somehow meet her the anxiety riddled version of me wouldn't have had a chance.♥ 1source record 735
Yea I’ve been victim of this for a while now. Just now trying to change it. I got drunk and went and did my first comedy open mic last week. Bombed hard but I’m just glad I got up on stage. Felt a rush I hadn’t in a long time. Going to try and keep the momentum going lol.♥ 1source record 737
Indulgent might not be the word I wanted. But when I was a kid, if I told my parents I was anxious, they would have been mean as fuck about it. My feelings were not allowed to inconvenience anyone older than me. Now, expressing anxiety gets you attention and sympathy, both from peers and adults. So there are reasons to focus on those feelings, or anything adjacent to them, when they occur. In short, there was no reason to use anxiety as an attention-seeking behavior when I was a kid, but there are plenty of reasons to do it now. So I wonder how much of this anxiety is new versus newly surfaced (or magnified) by a changing culture.♥ 4source record 1050
When I was a kid, I'd fake sick if I wanted to stay home from school or at least play it up worse than it was. If I didn't want to go to practice, I'd exaggerate or fabricate an injury. There are definitely kids exaggerating their mental health symptoms to manipulate and get what they want. I think the current environment for childhood does lead to more anxiety, but I think self reporting has outgrown the actual scope of it.♥ 2source record 1053

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The years the pandemic took29 index entriesLockdown placed at the exact age drinking habits usually start.
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The years the pandemic took

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Appears when: The years the pandemic took

What the pattern means: The timing argument: lockdown landed on the exact years — late teens and early twenties — in which going out normally becomes a habit, and the habit was never formed. Several commenters give their own version of it, one from inside a job started six months before the shutdown.

What commenters described: Shocking that no one at the top is mentioning "COVID at peak college age". Gen Z was avoiding group settings at the peak years you develop a habit of going out at partying. If you didnt go out from ages 18-22, you wouldn't probably go out when you're in your late 20s either. The "oldest" Gen Z was 23 in 2020. I am "younger" millennial, and went out regularly until covid killed the habit.

Limit: A reply inside this group notes how differently the same lost year landed depending on age and place, and elsewhere the thread asks whether one year can explain this much at all.

What the replies added2

After money I'd guess that COVID played a role. We Rightfully implemented quarantine, mostly for the benefit of older generations but did nothing to help with the socialisation they missed (and education... They got fucked)

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Government response to coronachan broke long held habits. Government lockdowns drove Gen z rather socialize via tiktok and Facebook than going to bars and pubs. Post-lockdown: inflation (due to endless money printing) and cost of living crisis made going to pubs and bars too expensive. Same thing for dating, replace pubs and bars with dating market and tiktok and Facebook with dating apps.

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After money I'd guess that COVID played a role. We Rightfully implemented quarantine, mostly for the benefit of older generations but did nothing to help with the socialisation they missed (and education... They got fucked)

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i mean yeah no shit. my generation spent 2 years (formative years btw) without the ability to physically interact and hang out with people. during those years, i made friends from all over the US, and i still talk to them daily even now. also, our current world doesnt give many people a reason to even look up from their phones. the job market is absolutely terrible so many of us struggle to find work, which means we cant afford to go out and socialize. most of my country is on fire and there is smog filling up the air constantly. if you dont have a car (which again, we cant afford), you have no ability to travel because north america prioritized highways over public transportation. why on earth is a 3km walk take 2 hours? i hate it here

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Covid fucked them up

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Covid. A whole generation that learned it was lower risk to moderate all interactions through the internet. As a parent of gen-z and gen-alpha kids, I own that this is my fault.

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All of these issues were absolutely brought on by COVID. I believe COVID single handedly changed the entire trajectory of human civilisation in more ways than most people realise. Edit: accelerated by COVID. It was already trending down.

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Covid fucked them up♥ 7source record 1017
if you started high school in 2020 your entire life is absolutely fucked from it. It teaches you so much about social interaction and you meet so many people that usually end up being your friends for life.♥ 6source record 1018
You're right maybe I was a little too extreme with my words but I'm sure it varies wildly based on location and exact age/grade. My kids were out for a year then did school from home from a year, everything was a clusterfuck nobody knew what was going on. I personally didn't feel like covid was 'over' until I was back to working in person in office in 2025.♥ 3source record 1020
Covid prevented in-person interaction during the formative years of a lot of them. I think it played a role.♥ 2source record 1148
No one is mentioning Covid here. That was an extremely impactful socio-economic shift for the world that imbedded isolationism as societally normal and many people struggled/struggle to break out of that.♥ 2source record 1151
well for me it was the fact i left school, went straight into the workforce, and then after 6 months the pandemic started. I was WFH for 2 years while all my high school friends were at university - drifted apart from them and couldn’t make any new friends due to covid restrictions. When we returned to office, everyone was years older than me so couldn’t meet people that way. Adult life caught up and despite trying hobbies, I just don’t seem to come across people my age to become friends with. I refuse to use dating apps because i want to meet someone organically. Would genuinely rather be single with a “whatever happens happens” attitude than put myself up for sale on a dating app where your neighbours, old teachers, god knows who else might see you on there. (Also from the UK where people seem to be much more reserved so most random people aren’t up to just start chatting like you might get in the US) Never been a massive drinker either as I value my health.♥ 2source record 1308
Shocking that no one at the top is mentioning "COVID at peak college age". Gen Z was avoiding group settings at the peak years you develop a habit of going out at partying. If you didnt go out from ages 18-22, you wouldn't probably go out when you're in your late 20s either. The "oldest" Gen Z was 23 in 2020. I am "younger" millennial, and went out regularly until covid killed the habit.♥ 2source record 1310
After money I'd guess that COVID played a role. We Rightfully implemented quarantine, mostly for the benefit of older generations but did nothing to help with the socialisation they missed (and education... They got fucked)♥ 1source record 1335
A rapidly deteriorating education system coupled with COVID and social media influence has created a socially stunted and more poorly educated generation. Also the worst economic opportunities per cápita I'm is history. On top of that the level of compartmentalization in society has created bubbles that allow harmful anti social philosophies to proliferate. Ex would be the Tates and the Manosphere. They prey on the people that have been left behind by society. Also many government systemic factors♥ 1source record 1363
Money and social anxiety as others have said, but il throw in another one: covid lockdown and it’s after effects I was in my late 20’s when Covid hit I cannot imagine Covid happening in any of my crucial middle school or high school developmental years; that’s the type of shit that influences you and an entire generations ability to relate in person for many many years When I was 16-17, I was going to prom, starting my first relationship, etc. For a lot of those kids that entire year was disassociating on zoom in your childhood bedroom Then the social re-integration after never fixed these types of things You can see this shit at concerts and music festivals if you go, the crowds and how they act are wildly different by age group relative to the past♥ 1source record 1397
Drink less? COVID. Not just Gen Z though. I used to have men bring bottles of wine to work. Now most of them can't drink it, or feel DRUNK after a single glass. Many have gone the Penjamin route.♥ 1source record 1401
A lot of Gen Z’ers came to age during the pandemic when there were little/no social gatherings or house parties. That’s when I picked up drinking socially. I think when you miss that stage in your life there isn’t a real impetus to start drinking alcohol. For a big cohort of young people those lockdowns took place during the last year of their high school or freshman year of college. You can also couple that with a poor economy where people have less disposable income to go out, and a social media generation that is highly connected but not very social. My own theory anyways.♥ 1source record 1417
COVID, cost of alcohol, lack of third spaces, better zero alcohol alternatives, cost of rent, reduced pressure to get married at an early age, the legalisation of marijuana in many places in recent years♥ 1source record 1428
Covid and screens, especially algorithmic screens. A generation forced to stay inside alone for a long time, and given addictive superficially rewarding screen-based entertainment to make it easy. Gen Z is only socializing in person about 30% as much as prior generations did. That is a ridiculous drop, the generation is by far the most shit in and isolated likely ever in human history, and having being alone staring at a screen doing nothing being a default behaviour is the biggest cause. Alcohol is impacted by education and demographics also - Gen Z has been told often that alcohol is poison so drink less, but alcohol is also a social drug often introduced in people’s teens or early 20s and Gen Z doesn’t socialize. As for money, research shows that discretionary income for young adults isn’t that much worse on average now than it was a generation back but is being spent differently than before. Instead of being spent on social activities, it is being spent on convenience (food delivery being one big example). We need to get rid of screens. Outright ban social media for kids under 18, and market it as what it is - an addictive and damaging drug-like activity like gambling. Bored kids (and being bored is good, it says ‘go do something’) will venture out of the house and start socializing and dating and so on a lot more. As for the alcohol, good riddance, though the catalyst (lack of in person interactions) is bad.♥ 1source record 1484
I used to have awesome social skills before covid, after staying home and not seeing people I started being more shy/introverted. I would not be surprised if this is the case with others♥ 1source record 1504
I really think we are totally underestimating the effect what the pandemic did to our social mental health. Meaning we are getting over at least some of the effects. Some of course can also be real changes. I would say less drinking is always good as long as it does not mean more prescripton drugs and illegal drugs.♥ 1source record 1529
Government response to coronachan broke long held habits. Government lockdowns drove Gen z rather socialize via tiktok and Facebook than going to bars and pubs. Post-lockdown: inflation (due to endless money printing) and cost of living crisis made going to pubs and bars too expensive. Same thing for dating, replace pubs and bars with dating market and tiktok and Facebook with dating apps.♥ 1source record 1614
It's not entirely money. The bar scene has always been expensive - the drinks didn't just get more expensive, it's always been the case. The way people would resolve this issue would be to "pregame".. No one would start by buying drinks at the venue, always start before hand. It was covid - people keep dancing around this gigantic moment but *that* had some crazy effects on people. Gen Z lost out in crucial social years during covid. It stunted their social skills and now we have a giant population of shy kids, and people waaaaay too worried about being recorded. Gen Z needs to find a way to interact and have fun, because those lost years *were genuinely stolen from them*♥ 1source record 1685
Entering adulthood for most during a pandemic was pretty brutal I'd say.♥ 1source record 1705
The pandemic. It socially crippled half of a generation♥ 2source record 1734
Covid messed up a lot of us developmentally/socially. We're all forced to focus on ourselves in this fucked up society, so it's hard to have the energy for relationships or drinking.♥ 1source record 1761
I don't know, maybe it has something to do with COVID? Kids were stuck at home, couldn't meet up with friends, and got used to it. Millennials are mostly the same, except we drank a lot of alcohol during COVID.♥ 1source record 1843
Surely COVID occurring at an integral part of their social development is partly responsible for♥ 1source record 1846
Covid.♥ 1source record 1930
Covid. A whole generation that learned it was lower risk to moderate all interactions through the internet. As a parent of gen-z and gen-alpha kids, I own that this is my fault.♥ 1source record 2023
Their social skills got stunted during the pandemic and our modern online-first lifestyles prevented them from re-developing what they lost or failed to learn. They simply don’t know how to get what they want.♥ 1source record 2095
Younger millennials set the trend opting for seltzers. So alcohol consumption was already declining. Covid killed social outings followed by hyper inflation.♥ 1source record 2107
All of these issues were absolutely brought on by COVID. I believe COVID single handedly changed the entire trajectory of human civilisation in more ways than most people realise. Edit: accelerated by COVID. It was already trending down.♥ -8source record 2375
i mean yeah no shit. my generation spent 2 years (formative years btw) without the ability to physically interact and hang out with people. during those years, i made friends from all over the US, and i still talk to them daily even now. also, our current world doesnt give many people a reason to even look up from their phones. the job market is absolutely terrible so many of us struggle to find work, which means we cant afford to go out and socialize. most of my country is on fire and there is smog filling up the air constantly. if you dont have a car (which again, we cant afford), you have no ability to travel because north america prioritized highways over public transportation. why on earth is a 3km walk take 2 hours? i hate it here♥ 1source record 2383

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Nothing much to celebrate29 index entriesDread and depression offered as the mood underneath the number.
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29 source recordsDiscussed

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What the pattern means: Answers about mood rather than mechanism. Dread about the future, the climate, the job market and the political situation are offered as the reason there is nothing to go out for. This sits apart from the money answers because its authors are not describing an affordability problem — they are describing not seeing the point.

What commenters described: Don't forget: lack of hope for a future. Who plans for and invests in the future when they don't think anything will be different socially, politically, economically, spiritually, etc.?

Limit: Nearly all of these records are a single line, so the link between the stated mood and any actual drinking behaviour is asserted rather than described.

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**Saturday Morning Sold Us Everything** Saturday morning used to mean something. You woke up at six in the goddamn morning without an alarm clock. Think about that. Monday through Friday, your mother needed three attempts, a threat, and possibly the National Guard to get you out of bed. Saturday? 6:03 A.M. Wide fucking awake. Because cartoons were on. No streaming. No pause. No rewind. No “I’ll catch it later.” You missed Scooby-Doo? Too bad. Scooby-Doo happened without you. The universe did not care. So there we sat. Six inches from a wood-paneled television in pajamas eating cereal that looked like it was designed by a committee of chemical engineers on cocaine. And we loved it. Saturday morning was a hallucination we all agreed to share. Talking dogs. Blue people. Giant robots. Mutant turtles. A barbarian in furry underwear screaming: **I HAVE THE POWER!** And somehow every adult in America looked at that and said, “Yeah. This is fine. This is educational adjacent. Probably better than reading.” Then came the commercials. Jesus Christ, the commercials. They didn’t advertise to children. They performed experiments on them. **THEY’RE GR-R-REAT!** **I’M CUCKOO FOR COCOA PUFFS!** **THEY’RE MAGICALLY DELICIOUS!** Magically delicious. Right. It’s sugar. It’s all sugar. You could pour it into a drywall patch and a seven-year-old would try to eat the wall. Then the toy commercials hit. Hot Wheels. G.I. Joe. Transformers. Lite-Brite. Hungry Hungry Hippos. Teddy Ruxpin. My Little Pony. Care Bears. Crossfire. And that one guy selling Micro Machines talking so fast it sounded like he was being chased by his own nervous system. We didn’t watch commercials. We memorized them. We internalized them. We became little consumer monks chanting product names in our sleep. By December, the Christmas catalog wasn’t a catalog. It was a crime scene. Circles everywhere. **THIS.** **THIS.** **THIS.** **I NEED THIS.** You didn’t need anything. You didn’t even know it existed thirty seconds ago. That’s not desire. That’s programming. We were eight years old and already in the system. And the system was brilliant. It sold us cereal during cartoons that existed to sell us toys that came with commercials for other cartoons that sold more cereal. It was capitalism wearing footie pajamas and laughing at us the whole time. And we loved it. Then Toys “R” Us started singing: **I don’t wanna grow up.** And every kid in America said, “Yeah. Obviously. Why would I?” Turns out that wasn’t a slogan. It was a warning label nobody read. Because nobody told us Saturday morning would end. No announcement. No final episode. No credits rolling saying: “Thanks for your childhood. Please exit quietly.” It just… stopped. One Saturday you didn’t wake up. Then another. Then suddenly the cartoons are gone and the cereal is still there and the toys are in boxes and you’re standing in a store at 9:47 p.m. trying to remember a password you created as a joke to access money you don’t feel like you own. Nobody prepared us for that episode. He-Man never covered property taxes. G.I. Joe never said: “Knowing is half the battle. The other half is dental insurance.” Then one day you’re walking through a store and you hear it. A song. A jingle. Something stupid. **My Buddy… My Buddy…** And your brain does a thing it has no right to do. For three seconds you’re eight. You’re on the carpet. The cereal is soggy. The TV is too loud. The whole weekend is still ahead of you. Your parents are alive. Your friends are nearby. Nobody has left yet. Nobody has died yet. Nobody has a mortgage. Nobody has a password. And then it hits you. You weren’t missing the cartoons. Or the toys. Or the cereal. You were missing the fact that nothing had been taken from you yet. Time hadn’t started stealing things in the background. We thought Saturday morning was a place. It wasn’t. It was a temporary suspension of loss. And now? Now it’s just a sound in your head that shows up uninvited at 2:13 a.m. when the house is quiet and your brain decides to replay everything you didn’t know you were losing. And for a second just a stupid, impossible second you’re back on the carpet again. Six inches from the television. Waiting for the world to start. And you don’t wanna grow up. You still don’t.

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The world will be relatively fine once humans are gone.

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The future isn’t bright.

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Most people are depressed, everything costs too much, and people aren't grateful for life.

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loneliness and uminsurmountable political oppression

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Don't forget: lack of hope for a future. Who plans for and invests in the future when they don't think anything will be different socially, politically, economically, spiritually, etc.?♥ 3source record 280
The future isn’t bright.♥ 6source record 466
The state of the world.♥ 4source record 1119
Nihilism, largely driven by lack of financial resources and doomscrolling♥ 4source record 1126
Coming from a 29 yo Gen Z: Depression Money Politics♥ 4source record 1140
The end of the world. The lack of disposable income. Constant depression.♥ 2source record 1254
lack on an actual future♥ 2source record 1255
World is coming to an end, at least for humans♥ 1source record 1328
Social collapse♥ 1source record 1410
My hypothesis: end stage capitalism along with inconsistent and capricious world leaders breeds hopelessness, and that’s what you see in younger generations across the world, and we’re all so connected now that it spills across borders and cultures. “Why bother? The system is rigged, I’ll get rug pulled, dating sucks, no kids because look what my parents did to me and their parents to them …” And so on.♥ 1source record 1477
Have you not seen what a fucking shitshow of a timeline we're living in? What about this world would encourage you to form relationships or drink?♥ 1source record 1537
Yeah. Stressed people generally don't feel like breeding or partying unless its to numb themselves♥ 1source record 1549
Downfall of civilization and the planet, probably.♥ 1source record 1595
Apathy caused by end-stage capitalism.♥ 1source record 1598
Hope the job,economy, relationship are so horrible and most are miserable for future♥ 1source record 1626
Despair and apathy.♥ 1source record 1689
Inevitable doom♥ 1source record 1717
We’re being crushed. Recently read a study that 43% of young men think of themselves as failures.♥ 1source record 1780
Economic and social collapse♥ 1source record 1830
Crumbling economy with no hope for a real future.♥ 1source record 1948
They have nothing to hope for, at least here in America. Millennials are the last generation who could claim some broad ignorance about the realities of the world and we could still cash in on the old "go to college, get a job, and live your dream life" promise to some extent. Every generation since has had to deal with some brutal realities: social media both trapping them in the dopamine loop *and* bombarding them with some truly brutal information; a worldwide pandemic that was used as cover to accelerate the greatest theft of wealth by the economic parasites at the top of the chain; a collapsing education system, infrastructure, and public services; the rise of a fascist regime oppressing us; and the indisputable climate crisis that is rapidly unfolding. In the last month or so, kids in my area haven't been able to play outside (if they even wanted to) because of a combination of extreme heat, severe storm systems, and air quality issues. The only thing a lot of them can do in the face of all this is go numb and keep scrolling.♥ 1source record 1951
As a Gen Z: jobs disappearing, money doesn’t stretch, people getting snatched off the street, no faith in government, no trust in each other. Kinda hard to get a vibe going, no? And I say this as someone who loves to party and goes out at least couple times a month. It’s REALLY hard to be in the mood when your neighbors down the street are afraid to leave their own homes.♥ 1source record 2001
Lack of purpose in life.♥ 1source record 2029
The breakdown of the social fabric and society in general. The secret police abducting people off the streets and the people who scream and pull out guns when confronted with opposing viewpoints because they cannot handle mature conversations.♥ 1source record 2050
Most people are depressed, everything costs too much, and people aren't grateful for life.♥ 1source record 2060
-gestures broadly to the outside world- Their third space in Instagram, they are surveiled constantly, many of them primarily interact with the world through a screen, climate change is causing catastrophic ruin RIGHT NOW, many may have long CoVID because they also spent several of their formative years surviving a plague, ads appearing in supposed safe spaces that are anything but (porn ads on YouTube and such), endless adult supervision makes kids struggle to have a personality of their own, intensely structured life of the modern day (algorithm duration, immediate service at the press of a button) have eroded their patience and wit, illiteracy is rising meaning flirting quality is dying, Nazis are taking power so we either have sad kids living in fascism or fascists who cant get any ass... Lots of reasons.♥ 1source record 2091
I think there is a disillusionment towards the "American Dream", most kids nowadays are plugged in 24/7 and have direct access to what is going on in the country, and regardless of who they want to win its looking bleak.♥ 1source record 2114
dying world♥ -3source record 2156
loneliness and uminsurmountable political oppression♥ 1source record 2209

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Drinking stopped being the point79 records ¡ 3 sub-topicsThe occasion drinking used to attach to, and whether commenters think it still exists. 79 records.
The social contract around drinking changed55 index entriesAlcohol described as a social tool whose occasion has gone.
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Appears when: The social contract around drinking changed

What the pattern means: The occasion, not the drink. These commenters describe alcohol as a tool that did a specific job — lowering inhibitions between people who did not yet know each other — and argue that when the gatherings went, the job went with them. Several older commenters admit they had conflated “drinking” with “socialising” entirely; others say the pressure to drink in order to belong has genuinely dropped.

What commenters described: I think a lot of my fellow millennials conflate drinking with social interaction because... that's how we used to interact in person.

Limit: This is the most sympathetic account of drinking on the page and it is written mostly by people who drink; the same records concede that alcohol has no health benefit.

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Dude, respectfully, wtf are you talking about? We’re talking about 20 something’s who aren’t being social. I’m a millennial. We didn’t go out to eat or drink to be social all the time. We had actual gatherings at home to hang and drink. Had house parties and ate cheap food. When I was a broke college kid, I just made spaghetti that would last me a couple days, ramen noodles, canned tuna etc. I ate to live but preferred to have my fun with my friends having experiences. If we went out, we drank beforehand because it was cheaper and then had a blast going out and order like one or two drinks max. People aren’t drinking because it’s healthy or it’s too expensive to go out, they’re not drinking because they’re just plain anti social and prefer to be on their phones while they’re ordering a overpriced Uber Eats or door dash meal. It’s a problem that should be recognized and just saying “things are expensive” is just masking the real problem.

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I think a lot of my fellow millennials conflate drinking with social interaction because... that's how we used to interact in person.

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Less socialising in public possibly

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Maybe they should have a few drinks to loosen up…I’m serious.

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I think a lot of my fellow millennials conflate drinking with social interaction because... that's how we used to interact in person.♥ 81source record 345
With your inhibitions down as well. If you flub a line or say something awkward, who cares?♥ 14source record 347
It’s definitely one of the best ways to get to know people and get comfortable quickly. For example new roommates or whatever. I still remember first day of college how many awkward conversations feeling each other out there were. Then one night of parties and beer pong and suddenly it feels like you’ve all been friends forever. Edit: To be fair though one of the better points I’ve seen on this thread is the danger of this with camera phones and social media. Part of the point when I was in college was to have crazy stories about how funny it was that X person did Y. But it was just a story, not something you could rewatch and spread the next day amongst a bunch of sober people.♥ 5source record 348
Generously, I think it's shorthand used by older generations for socialization in general (restaurants, sporting events, karaoke, obviously bars all offer alcohol), but people also get weirdly defensive when you suggest that alcohol isn't necessary to have a good time.♥ 15source record 349
Which, as a lifelong Gen X non-drinker, I always find so unusual. I can socialize *more* as a result of not drinking. I'm not spending money on alcohol, I'm not getting wasted and needing to go home, I'm not getting myself into dangerous situations, negatively affecting my health, creating all manner of regrets, or worrying about waking up with a hangover. Instead social events are fun, casual things that I can do any night of the week.♥ 7source record 350
Alcohol has, since the dawn of agriculture, been a social lubricant. It's a reason for people to gather together. It lowers inhibitions which leads to shared experiences and bonding. It makes most people more willing to interact with others. If course, it also has a host of medical issues to go with it, and as you said alcoholism is a problem. Binge drinking is a major issue as well.♥ 13source record 354
I think they are a bit more connected. While alcohol might not have health benefits, it has a ton of social ones. Taking the edge off and letting loose with people forms tight knit bonds with people. You also get into lots of situations for romantic relationships to develop.♥ 4source record 398
I'm boring and straight edge. Drinking literally leads to more relationships.♥ 5source record 447
Drinking, parties, and bars were places to gather and meet people. Now it's social media and online dating. Usually when you set to meet in those situations you don't plan to spend the whole night for hours unlike going to the bar. The breaking the ice part is over and no one has to approach or be approached, so alcohol isn't as needed to loosen people up. Throw in how expensive it is to eat and have a night out with most people not having extra money, makes sense how they are doing it less often.♥ 3source record 450
People use it as social lubricant. It's never a health benefit, but neither is being sedentary and isolated. I'd be curious to see how alcohol compares to beta blockers or other short term anti anxiety medications.♥ 18source record 678
Alcohol negates social anxiety♥ 1source record 703
Also true. Not sure how to solve people generally just not wanting to leave their bed/couch. But even for those that want to leave those spots. It’s still very expensive to do sometimes. Especially when you are looking to socialize. Sure you could go for a walk in a park, but I wouldn’t consider that a super social area. Honestly the death of bars and social drinking is kinda hurting it too. I know alcohol is unhealthy and alcoholism is a horrible disease, but it does encourage a lot of socializing and casual conversation and interaction with people you may never have bumped into.♥ 7source record 970
Millennial who doesn't drink here. To a certain extent, it was expected that you would drink regardless of whether you enjoyed it or not. You were *supposed* to enjoy it, but if you didn't, you were incentivized to keep your mouth shut, because you were considered a party pooper otherwise. IDK how many times someone told me, "Nobody *really* likes the taste of alcohol, [but everyone drinks it anyway]." I always found a group who'd respect my choice not to partake, but it was considered essential for socializing by a large portion of people.♥ 2source record 1023
Pre-internet / social media, drinking used to be a communal socialization thing. Going down to the pub to have a few pints with the boys after work kept people connected. Young people meeting at bars and coffee shops wasn't just a trope on TV. But around the same time as Social Media was taking off, bing drinking among young people also became a massive issue, because there is a big difference between "Hey lets get a drink or two and catch up a few times a week" and "Lets go out and get shitfaced every night.". Also, along with everything else you can think of, it used to be affordable to grab a few.♥ 2source record 1132
There’s not the societal pressure. Teen movies in the 90s made it seem like everyone was drinking. That was then mimicked by teens at college. Nowadays the culture isn’t as shaped by movies vs social media, and there’s a much stronger wellness culture. Honestly, that aspect is a lot healthier♥ 1source record 1273
I think they are linked to eachother. Fewer relationships because they drink less. They drink less because they're not in relationships. They probably also have smaller friendship groups and less money, I also don't think they're all of drinking age yet♥ 2source record 1300
Social hubs have moved into online spaces where you're not interacting with people in person. Getting clubbing drink is no longer a cool thing to do. Also all of that abstinence ed is coming to fruition. It might not feel like a direct line of impact, but smoking fell out of favor the same way.♥ 1source record 1345
i'm a teetotaler and a celibate it's religious thank you♥ 1source record 1404
Lack of dating in the real outside world. Usually at a bar buying ladies drinks, flirting and then more. Old secret is that a drink gives a man confidence. Enough to approach the lady and are okay with getting shot down Met one guy who goes in expecting a No so he’s never let down and doesn’t care♥ 1source record 1421
I think it's because they didn't grow up obsessed with adulthood and alcohol like us and gen x did, most gen z seemed to be happy being teens and kids, reading and watching teen and kid rated things, they weren't in a hurry to grow up. A lot of us drank underage, too, and I haven't really seen or heard much of gen z doing that themselves. Which is good, honestly. I also think the fact that weed is legal now is probably also a big factor.♥ 1source record 1426
Gen Z very often initiates and conducts social life online. So, No need or desire to meet people in person. Historically, in Europe, etc alcohol was always a social lubricant to meet people or enjoy time together - pubs, festivals, holidays, bars etc. especially with men. Now it serves less of this function. I’m sure in prior generations a lot of people drank in social settings but didn’t really enjoy alcohol per se. Take away social reason and less drinking. Alcohol can make a person act stupid or look bad. With cameras and internet in our pockets, young people are more afraid of letting totally loose. Gender dynamics - of more distrust common among younger men and women - probably contribute on campuses and in cities. Women and men afraid to drink together. Other substances available like regulated MJ. Finally, probably health concerns. Gen Z raised on internet health content, may realize alcohol is bad for diet, sleep, etc. without compelling social reason, they might just think it’s gross and unhealthy.♥ 1source record 1455
Social isolation. For younger folks, the primary purpose of drinking is to socialize. In fact, I’d say when I was young the only times we drank were socially. With COVID, and social media, kids socialize virtually or not at all. The same lack of socialization leads to fewer relationships.♥ 1source record 1480
The realization that you simply don’t have to do any of that shit. Drinking is expensive and unnecessary, but it can be fun sometimes. You don’t need to do it to hang out. And you don’t need to date. You don’t need to stay with someone who makes you uncomfortable, and so many of us don’t. We’ve seen what happens when you stick around. I’m not doing that.♥ 1source record 1505
I made a lot of friends while drunk, and a lot of my friends made me want to drink♥ 1source record 1543
I don’t think it’s just money, especially for alcohol. You see that brought up every time and there’s obviously some truth to it. But I think alcohol is way more due to cultural shifts. People act like Millenials when they were in highschool/college were blowing money on fancy beers and cocktails. Millenials were throwing house parties and buying whatever the cheapest alcohol they could find was that would get them drunk. Despite all the negative monetary changes in the world, I think this is still pretty doable if anyone wanted to. I think two things are much bigger reasons this doesn’t happen (as much) in Gen Z: 1) Other drug use has grown. Weed was always prevalent but now it’s legal in most places. All sorts of other drugs that used to be more niche have become just a little more mainstream. Maybe coke is the only one that had a bigger heyday in the past (though I’m sure is still big). 2) It’s just kind of a hard truth that Gen Z and newer generations socialize less in person in general. I think this is largely driven by the internet, but even things like just having conversations over texting didn’t really happen when most Millenials were growing up. If you get social interaction (or pseudo-social interaction) online, there’s less reason to seek it out in person. These two things are probably statistically not as different as we think. But I think even minor differences like this can compound over time. For example a few people interacted enough online that they don’t feel like going to a party, the party has less people, the people have less fun, next time more people don’t want to go, etc. This is an oversimplification but I think an analogy for the wider truth. Also just to note, I don’t think the drinking less part is a bad thing. Only the less socialization part seems bad to me, which drinking may help with or be a reflection of statistically I suppose.♥ 1source record 1546
Genuinely Z are currently in their late 20s and early 30s. I'm a younger millennial, who parties a lot, mostly with older gen z, and i have not even seen alcohol in 5 years. It's just not part of the equation anymore.♥ 1source record 1548
I think for a long time going to do anything involved drinking Going out with friends, going to a party, whatever the get togther, it always involved alcohol and that's steadily no longer the case. And so no drinking at social events, means less drinking overall.♥ 1source record 1568
Fewer offline friends leads to going out to bars less which means you make fewer friends♥ 1source record 1584
I never connected the two together like that until you listed them, but I do need a nice drink to unwind when meeting new people. I don't "need" it, but it makes my awkward ass feel a lot comfier.♥ 1source record 1612
it is the social lubricant that has kept much of humankind going for millennia♥ 2source record 1613
They have fewer relationships because they drink less. And they drink less because they have fewer relationships.♥ 2source record 1641
Well, a lot of people drink socially. GenZ don’t typically have social gatherings.♥ 1source record 1655
Less friends because they drink less. A couple of beers and everyone’s your friend.♥ 1source record 1659
Personally, I’ve gotten tired of drinking and making superficial friends. My relationships now are fewer, but more impacting, fulfilling, and rewarding. This, with the heavy emphasis on social media and a presence online has made my in-person relationships my main source of companionship.♥ 1source record 1676
Less socialising in public possibly♥ 1source record 1729
drinking less is causing fewer relationships, so I figured out half of your question♥ 1source record 1767
I'm a millennial and I don't drink any alcohol at all. It's against my personal beliefs.♥ 1source record 1783
For relationshios, I think social media and dating apps have made people less willing to settle, which can be a good thing, bit also a lot of people need to lower their standards. For drinking I think maybe it's not considered "cool" anymore? Less teenage comedies and sitcoms portraying drinking as this rebellion against parents and society, so teenagers don't look forward to when they can finally have their first beer. Kinda like how smoking is portrayed as gross in a lot of media, so you don't see quite as many teenagers smoking cigarettes anymore, at least in America.♥ 1source record 1912
I think the root cause is that they're not drinking. We've used alcohol and other stimulants as social lubricant for thousands of years. Meeting new people when everyone is drunk is like meeting new people on the playground as a child. It's very easy to form new connections. Sober adults though? Much harder. We need to get the kids to drink more to solve this.♥ 1source record 1918
I wonder the same thing. I told myself I was never gonna drink but my friends kept begging me then I gave in at 24. Now they rarely drink and I have to convince them to drink with me. Usually if they come with me to a bar, they only order 1 or only order mocktails. Honestly disappointing.♥ 1source record 1964
Not having community reduces drinking, and not drinking reduces community. It’s interesting that there’s a whole faction of anthropologists who support the “beer before bread” model of our transition from hunter gatherers to agrarians. The formation of alliances between rival tribes very well have been driven by drinking alcohol together. Settling down near grain crops may very well have been for the purpose of making beer, and the bread as food staple resulted as an afterthought. Get offline and go make friends at the bar like people have always done.♥ 1source record 1971
Maturity. Drinking and relationships were never as good as big liquor made us believe.♥ 0source record 1986
Alcohol is a social/party drug. Drinking alone has always been looked down upon. So, my guess is popularity of alcohol is tied to popularity of party/clubbing culture. And that's where it is consumed in greatest quantity. Less people go to clubs, less people throw home parties -> less alcohol consumed. Why clubbing/partying is less popular? Traditionally introverted hobbies like watching movies/shows/anime have become more mainstream. The spaces to party (home, clubs, etc.) have become more expensive. Maybe there's also some sort of social transition with smaller friend groups, but that one is pure speculation.♥ 1source record 2003
As a Millennial I personally have never drank or smoked and I don’t have any interest in doing so.♥ 1source record 2068
Social media and spending most of their time online. Most people start drinking because their friends essentially get them to, it’s usually thing. They’re missing that first part so alcohol does not become a regular part of their lives.♥ 1source record 2083
Drinking alcohol isn't cool and rebellious anymore. It's something our pathetic and dangerous Republican administration is now famous for. Who wants to be anything like Hegseth and Patel? Gross.♥ 1source record 2085
They have fewer relationships because they drink less and they drink less because they have fewer relationships that causes them to start drinking.♥ 1source record 2123
Gen Z puts a lot of moralist pressure on themselves which makes them more judgmental of their own and others behaviour and leads to to stressed out repressive energy. They are acting like the parents at the school board meeting not the kids having house party simultaneously. They are extremely collectivist but the more people are interested in the Big Group the less they seek out the small group or connections. So they end up on twitter geeking out about how a thousand strangers are is excited about the new movie or album, and not doing that with 2 people in real life. The previous generation may have gone slightly too far with sex and drinking. When I grew up drinking was conformity not rebellion. I think expecting people to be into widespread casual hook up culture goes against more people's nature and doesn't fit many females psychologically especially. So some correction may have been due. In general, the internet is currently toxic, demoralizing and manipulative. So if you spend 5 hours on a day having your confidence beaten to a pulp on it some of it translates to real life.♥ 1source record 2130
I’m not Gen Z and I don’t have data, so I’m guessing. 1. Drinking is usually social if one isn’t addicted to alcohol. If you’re not gathering with other people, alcohol isn’t too appealing. 2. For those with an health focus (whether a genuine focus or one organized and orchestrated by current advertising and media), alcohol isn’t going to be desirable. Smoking at least has some relation to maintaining a lower body weight, which will bring me to the next point. 3. The tobacco industry came back with a vengeance using vapes. Many state laws have also legalized weed for recreational use, which is not as tied to social interaction as alcohol. For relationships, I have no idea. My guess is that young men have just gotten shittier and are generally less likely to be open to have a relationship with women unless the women meet stringent standards. Conversely, I can’t imagine young women wanting controlling jerks and scrubs have never been desirable.♥ 1source record 2132
Not sure why they are drinking less, but less relationships could be due in part to less drinking. They don’t call it the social lubricant for nothing.♥ 0source record 2164
Allow me to rephrase the question: What do you think was driving previous generations to drink so much and have so many relationships? We've heard zoomers explain their reasoning, so we have some understanding of the psychology of the situation, but I think we can paint a better picture by also analyzing the sociology and history as well. I asked my father what partying was like back in the 70s, and he basically described the plot of Dazed and Confused... They would buy their own alcohol since distributors didn't care enough to ID and the police didn't care enough to punish the distributors for selling to minors. Then they would post up in a public parking lot, pop the tailgate, set up some lawn chairs and proceed to get drunk. After a while several more pick up trucks would show up to do the same. Some people might get bored and decide to drive around drinking and looking for other teenagers in different parking lots. Eventually, someone would drive up and tell the group where the house party/ bush party is going down, so everyone would proceed to drive drunk to the new location. They would drink until 4am, then everyone would drive home drunk for some unprotected sex. Compare that to my generation which was a lot more like Superbad. We spent half our time just trying to get the alcohol and weed, and the rest of our time was getting drunk and walking around town hiding from cops and strangers that would call the cops on us just for existing in public. Eventually, we would find a house party to crash, but they were mostly just filled with coke heads trying to fist fight each other for an ego boost (if you could get in, the bars and the clubs weren't much better). So we ended up just going home and getting drunk in the back yard. Overtime the alcohol felt less necessary so we switched to just smoking weed instead. Back in the 70s, alcohol was dirt cheap, it was extremely easy to access, breathalysers and zero tolerance laws weren't widespread yet, and loitering was substantially more tolerated. Society traded freedom for safety, so I think it's no surprise that the younger generations are less bold than their predecessors. Of course I'm not saying that these changes are the sole reason why consumption and intercourse is on the decline, but I do think that it is a contributing factor worth considering.♥ 1source record 2238
Maybe they should have a few drinks to loosen up…I’m serious.♥ 0source record 2300
There aren't nearly as many social gatherings today as there was 10-15-20 years ago. I don't think bonfire, beach, or house parties are really a thing these days♥ 3source record 2434
Dude, respectfully, wtf are you talking about? We’re talking about 20 something’s who aren’t being social. I’m a millennial. We didn’t go out to eat or drink to be social all the time. We had actual gatherings at home to hang and drink. Had house parties and ate cheap food. When I was a broke college kid, I just made spaghetti that would last me a couple days, ramen noodles, canned tuna etc. I ate to live but preferred to have my fun with my friends having experiences. If we went out, we drank beforehand because it was cheaper and then had a blast going out and order like one or two drinks max. People aren’t drinking because it’s healthy or it’s too expensive to go out, they’re not drinking because they’re just plain anti social and prefer to be on their phones while they’re ordering a overpriced Uber Eats or door dash meal. It’s a problem that should be recognized and just saying “things are expensive” is just masking the real problem.♥ 1source record 2468
You kids live in a different world. Growing up there were always parties or something happening. Word spread through the grapevine and you just showed up and met people. You didn't even have to drink, people were just social. Unless you were really weird, meeting people was absolutely normal for the vast vast majority of us♥ 9source record 2478

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It simply is not fun16 index entriesThe plain verdict that the activity does not deliver.
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What the pattern means: The plainest verdict in the corpus: the activity does not deliver what it costs. These records are not about price or health but about return — what a night of drinking actually produces, and whether it was ever enjoyable or merely conventional. A few extend the verdict to the company as well as the drink.

What commenters described: They finally realized that drinking is socially conditioned and not actually fun.

Limit: Sixteen short opinions with little supporting detail, and they do not share a starting point: one is written by somebody who says they have never tried alcohol once, and others are about the people rather than the drink.

What the replies added1

Drinking is a largely pointless activity that society has somehow gaslit itself into thinking is somehow essential to life. Dating has been ruined by the Tinderisation of dating apps; I imagine Gen Z coming of age in the pandemic didn't help with that.

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Sense. Relationships (romantic) are overrated as is excessive alcohol consumption.

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It ain't fun and costs a lot of money

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This absolutely, but also being honest the quality of people and hangouts has dropped sharply too. Most people are just zero fun to be around these days. They expect *you* to entertain *them* by default, while they sit there like a lump. They've become so entitled, easy to offend, and just plain boring that yeah... i'd probably choose to scroll youtube instead too. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Contrast this to the old days, when you could get 4 friends together in a empty fucking field, and just make up fun stuff to do all day. People were *actively invested in making it a good time*, instead of just sitting there like a stoned Jabba the Hutt going "entertain me!".

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I enjoy sitting at home doing absolutely nothing. I pay for my house I’m going to enjoy it every second I can. I’m not a foodie and not into going out to do stuff like movies or events. I don’t mind people I just don’t want to leave my house. I have good social skills but I’m not interested in chitchat. I have plenty of hobbies. A full cnc wood/metal workshop, various 3d printers, couple cars, atv, guns, play/write/read music on several instruments, cinema camera and nice dslr camera, various pets, lots of stuff for me to do.

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Browse the original comments16 preserved records ¡ 16 of 16 source records accounted for
I am one of those people who likes going out for the sake of being out of the house, even if the activity is one that could just as easily be done at home. At least some of the time. But I certainly know people who don’t care about that aspect of it. I would guess that a lot of those people may have still gone out in previous generations, just because it was the thing to do and the only real way to meet people. Now we have other options for meeting people, so if the “experience of going out” isn’t worth it to you, why bother? Especially when it’s more expensive than ever.♥ 3source record 412
It ain't fun and costs a lot of money♥ 6source record 467
This absolutely, but also being honest the quality of people and hangouts has dropped sharply too. Most people are just zero fun to be around these days. They expect *you* to entertain *them* by default, while they sit there like a lump. They've become so entitled, easy to offend, and just plain boring that yeah... i'd probably choose to scroll youtube instead too. The juice isn't worth the squeeze. Contrast this to the old days, when you could get 4 friends together in a empty fucking field, and just make up fun stuff to do all day. People were *actively invested in making it a good time*, instead of just sitting there like a stoned Jabba the Hutt going "entertain me!".♥ 1source record 712
This is the same thing. Leverage dynamics. What is the point of going out drinking? The outcomes will be the same, jack s\*, so staying home is a better investment.♥ 4source record 1131
Drinking sucks and people suck.♥ 1source record 1278
Shitty beer and crazier people.♥ 1source record 1364
They finally realized that drinking is socially conditioned and not actually fun.♥ 1source record 1366
Drinking does one thing for you (gets you drunk) and costs a bunch of money. It only has one application and while it might be worth it sometimes, the overall cost is not really worth the experience--the same goes for majority of relationships.♥ 2source record 1556
Drinking alone isn’t fun and they’re have too many mental health problems to maintain a normal relationship.♥ 1source record 1737
People are not as interesting.♥ 1source record 1773
Alcohol is stupid, they just finally realized it. That getting sloshed wasn't actually that fun and certainly not necessary. Good for them.♥ 1source record 1868
Drinking is a largely pointless activity that society has somehow gaslit itself into thinking is somehow essential to life. Dating has been ruined by the Tinderisation of dating apps; I imagine Gen Z coming of age in the pandemic didn't help with that.♥ 1source record 1925
I mean personally, I just find drunk people and “drinking culture” or whatever really uncomfortable🤷‍♀️ I’m 23 and I’ve still never tried alcohol once👍 Idk what to say about the relationship thing though😅♥ 1source record 2037
Sense. Relationships (romantic) are overrated as is excessive alcohol consumption.♥ 1source record 2064
Drinking culture has always been dumb. The fewer relationships is just a money issue.♥ 1source record 2126
I enjoy sitting at home doing absolutely nothing. I pay for my house I’m going to enjoy it every second I can. I’m not a foodie and not into going out to do stuff like movies or events. I don’t mind people I just don’t want to leave my house. I have good social skills but I’m not interested in chitchat. I have plenty of hobbies. A full cnc wood/metal workshop, various 3d printers, couple cars, atv, guns, play/write/read music on several instruments, cinema camera and nice dslr camera, various pets, lots of stuff for me to do.♥ 1source record 2131

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They do not like the stuff8 index entriesTaste and effect, with no larger explanation attached.
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What the pattern means: Eight commenters who never get as far as an explanation: they dislike the taste, the feeling, or both, and treat that as sufficient. One of them tried it properly first, describing four years of heavy drinking from seventeen before deciding it was not enjoyable. One record is an outsider's version of the same answer, filing it under “picky”.

What commenters described: I'm Gen Z; I can't speak for other Gen Z's but I just do not care about drinking. I dislike the taste, don't care for its effects, and I don't want empty calories in my body when I could have like... a fun pastry instead LOL. I don't know what "fewer relationships" is being measured against and I don't know what kind of relationships this is referring to. Romantic? I was single by choice before meeting my now partner, we met organically as friends first.

Limit: A small group, and the one record in it that is not first-person is a commenter characterising other people's dislike rather than reporting their own.

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It’s literally poison and tastes gross. I don’t get it.

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They didn’t understand that the drug is about lowering inhibitions and having a good time and immediately judged it as ew that doesn’t taste like my sweet soda energy drinks and it’s icky. Because they’re picky they never try it again after they sipped a gross beer and said nope not for me. They’re better off for it but that’s pretty much the explanation.

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Growing up and realizing alcohol is actually just ass, also the continuous enshitification of the economy

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They didn’t understand that the drug is about lowering inhibitions and having a good time and immediately judged it as ew that doesn’t taste like my sweet soda energy drinks and it’s icky. Because they’re picky they never try it again after they sipped a gross beer and said nope not for me. They’re better off for it but that’s pretty much the explanation.

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Maybe the fact that alcohol costs money, tastes like urine, causes hangovers, has negative impact on health and no benefits whatsoever to it's consumption might have something to do with it's declining appeal

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Browse the original comments8 preserved records ¡ 8 of 8 source records accounted for
Bro, alcohol is nasty af♥ 4source record 1192
It’s literally poison and tastes gross. I don’t get it.♥ 1source record 1193
I'm Gen Z; I can't speak for other Gen Z's but I just do not care about drinking. I dislike the taste, don't care for its effects, and I don't want empty calories in my body when I could have like... a fun pastry instead LOL. I don't know what "fewer relationships" is being measured against and I don't know what kind of relationships this is referring to. Romantic? I was single by choice before meeting my now partner, we met organically as friends first.♥ 1source record 1522
Growing up and realizing alcohol is actually just ass, also the continuous enshitification of the economy♥ 4source record 1555
Maybe the fact that alcohol costs money, tastes like urine, causes hangovers, has negative impact on health and no benefits whatsoever to it's consumption might have something to do with it's declining appeal♥ 1source record 1627
A 24 year old zoomer who doesn't drink much and have never been in any longer serious relationship: I drank a lot for around 4 years 17-20, then I just didn't find getting drunk that enjoyable, I don't find alcoholic drinks to taste good usually either, and going out drinking is insanely expensive, and with that the health consequences. I'm not spending that much money on drinking shit that I think tastes bad, gets me drunk when I dont like being drunk, and that rots my organs. When it comes to dating and forming relationships: Going out is expensive and I dont like drinking, dating apps suck. My interests is basically gaming, reading books, and training. I regularly work overtime because that's the only way to have disposable income because rent is so high and housing prices have risen many times higher than inflation and wages. I don't have the time nor energy to find someone and then go through the charade that is online dating. I fuck through grindr hookups (bi) and I get companionship from my overly clingy cat.♥ 1source record 1698
I can only speak from personal experience, but I just don’t like the feeling that I get when I drink more than one or two drinks. I like feeling present in the moment, and when I drink I relax to the point of just sitting there quietly. Relationships wise? I’m picky. I like my life, I like who I am. I want to find someone to share that with, and learn about their passions and who they are. I know people who are dating/married and are unhappy because they chose being in a relationship over finding someone who was the right fit, simply because of the implications of what being single in your 20s means. TL:DR: I like not making a fool of myself when I’ve been drinking, and I want to be in a relationship that’s the right fit, not a relationship for the sake of having one.♥ 1source record 1797
They didn’t understand that the drug is about lowering inhibitions and having a good time and immediately judged it as ew that doesn’t taste like my sweet soda energy drinks and it’s icky. Because they’re picky they never try it again after they sipped a gross beer and said nope not for me. They’re better off for it but that’s pretty much the explanation.♥ 1source record 1966

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The thread argued with the question162 records ¡ 4 sub-topicsThe thread's own objections, kept beside the answers they dispute rather than under them. 162 records.
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What the pattern means: The largest objection group: records that accept the decline and reject somebody else's explanation of it. The money answers draw the most fire — a bar worker reporting cheap drafts and no young customers, commenters pointing at delivery-app spending, others noting that previous broke generations still went out. The camera argument, the third-places argument and the parenting argument all get the same treatment. They are kept as their own theme so the objections sit beside the answers rather than underneath them.

What commenters described: I work in a dive bar. Domestic drafts are $2.75 after 9pm. No young people at all. But they shell out plenty of money for boba teas from the Korean place in the plaza. Or even more on uber eats from the Mexican place next door.

Limit: These are counter-arguments, not corrections. They are as unverified as the answers they dispute, and several rest on one bar or one city.

What the replies added3

I know this is location dependent, but when I was a kid in the '00s we hung out at each other's houses, in the woods/neighborhood, parks/playgrounds, etc. and we got around on our bikes. These are just the free locations. We also went to local pizza places, the movies, or arcades, which I do understand is more expensive now, but everything I listed first is still available. The third space complaint might be true in some locations, but a lot of it feels like excuses by the current young generation who are more interested in living online than outside. Don't get me wrong, we played PLENTY of video games and dug into the dark recesses of the internet, but we did it together in-person. I think some might argue that there's no difference in playing multi-player games with your friends online versus split-screen together in your buddies basement, but I think they're losing out on some crucial social development just being together. I also think that this can hinder the transition into dating life. A lot of my male friends and my first relationships were developed through girls in our friend group and their friends. I spent a lot of awkward time learning how to be around girls, doing stupid shit to try to impress them, trying to figure out how to hold hands, etc. I don't know how any of these "skills" would have developed without the countless hours we all spent together in-person.

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Were college graduates broke in the 1960’s 1970’s and 80’s? I think not. They were doing very well. College costing tons a significant amount of their parents ‘s salaries? No college in 1985-1990 cost $8500 a year, now it costs 26,000!!! Were people using 70% of their salaries on rent? No they were using 40% So I Bullshit. Also almost always until about 1980 Only dads worked full time and on one income everything was fairly affordable. Not anymore. Two salaries barely can make it work

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Going places is expensive. And man, whenever me and my buddies were broke, we'd all just meet up at someone's house/apt/dorm/whatever. My young employees barely even do *that*.

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I work in a dive bar. Domestic drafts are $2.75 after 9pm. No young people at all. But they shell out plenty of money for boba teas from the Korean place in the plaza. Or even more on uber eats from the Mexican place next door.

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> I gotta ask, are you in a wealthy suburban area? yeah ... that's the only fair way to describe my neighborhood. I'm sure different areas are different, but that's what I'm experiencing.

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There always have been broke people, but they just made the best of it and had very social life because having fun with friends and family is the cheapest thing to do. Lame excuse.

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I work in a dive bar. Domestic drafts are $2.75 after 9pm. No young people at all. But they shell out plenty of money for boba teas from the Korean place in the plaza. Or even more on uber eats from the Mexican place next door.♥ 70source record 153
Yeah a lot of ‘cocktails are 30 dollars now!’ In here and in think it’s the Instagramification of life. Gen Z wants to drink an espresso martini at a fancy rooftop patio. I’m getting up there to 30 but me and my buds were at a parking garage or soccer field doing dumb stuff with a bottle of the cheapest vodka available. Got our licenses the day we were eligible so we could hang out in person more at whatever someone suggested♥ 16source record 154
Oddly enough people stay in will spend $30 on an Uber Eats burrito. Lol. The highest spenders on food delivery services are people in the sub $60k earner category.♥ 22source record 289
I know this is location dependent, but when I was a kid in the '00s we hung out at each other's houses, in the woods/neighborhood, parks/playgrounds, etc. and we got around on our bikes. These are just the free locations. We also went to local pizza places, the movies, or arcades, which I do understand is more expensive now, but everything I listed first is still available. The third space complaint might be true in some locations, but a lot of it feels like excuses by the current young generation who are more interested in living online than outside. Don't get me wrong, we played PLENTY of video games and dug into the dark recesses of the internet, but we did it together in-person. I think some might argue that there's no difference in playing multi-player games with your friends online versus split-screen together in your buddies basement, but I think they're losing out on some crucial social development just being together. I also think that this can hinder the transition into dating life. A lot of my male friends and my first relationships were developed through girls in our friend group and their friends. I spent a lot of awkward time learning how to be around girls, doing stupid shit to try to impress them, trying to figure out how to hold hands, etc. I don't know how any of these "skills" would have developed without the countless hours we all spent together in-person.♥ 7source record 309
People keep saying this being afraid of fooling around cause someone will film. But I feel like a big part of it is US culture and how people have become way more anti social. I moved to China and have a bunch of young fronds. People make fools of themselves all the time. Drinking culture is HUGE. To the extent that most socializing revolves around eating and drinking.♥ 3source record 314
> Personally, I blame the built environment. Suburbanization and car >dependency are the primary drivers. Makes everything far more >expensive by inflating logistics costs and constraining housing supply. That was an issue in the 80s, too. Not sure you can blame current trends on that. I imagine that many of the reasons stated here have an impact. Cost for sure but cost didn’t stop previous generations from just hanging out. I would say a lot of what I did as a kid was just hanging out, in a room, with other kids. (I am 52 and I have never been cool or exceptionally social).♥ 6source record 338
I mean, I’m 22 and my mentality is that there’s so much noise on social media that even if you get recorded, it has to go viral. Shit, even if that happens, people will move on in two weeks I’m not really scared of the opinions of strangers anyway♥ 11source record 357
All of that is reactionary to consumers though. Its not like delivery didnt exist already; doordash just expanded the menu and people themselves CHOSE to use it despite ridiculous fees. people are using these purely by choice♥ 21source record 361
I like this point because it’s a counter-example to all the comments claiming it’s just money. Because DoorDash is so much more expensive than just going out to get the food. Yet *that* business is somehow still doing fine with Gen Z.♥ 3source record 362
When I was a youth the logic was opposite that. The ultra conservative helicopter parents ultimately tended to have the kids who partied hardest the minute they had their freedom in college. Probably helps that “partying hard” is now an extremely expensive hobby though. We were also blessed that our stupid drunk mistakes would not end up on social media.♥ 18source record 422
TBH, I think money isn't the problem. Poor countries seem to have no problem forming relationships.♥ 4source record 672
No teenagers or college kids were ever drinking because they thought it was good for them. Not sure why reddit has to parrot this all the time.♥ 22source record 679
Same for the vices genz has too, with a small carveout of medical marijuana. A lot of them are fine in moderation too, including non medical marijuana. The "no amount" is a junk argument.♥ 3source record 680
More chronically online. Money has never been a huge obstacle for getting drunk and fucking. That's all we do in Eastern Bloc countries lol.♥ 1source record 695
I don't think money is the problem. plenty of poor people drink. bars may be expensive, but alcohol isn't. and i know plenty of old people who will pend their last penny in a bar. i think chronically being online is the right answer.♥ 1source record 707
No one has ever had money at that age anyway. I think the obsession with wellness started at the tail end of millennials and was picked up by gen z too♥ 1source record 709
I think people have this fear, but it’s more a thing people tell themselves so they don’t have to do things that make them uncomfortable. There more than a month of video uploaded to YouTube each day. You think, “Guy dances kind of badly” or “girl acts kind of silly when drunk” is going to get clicks? No one cares unless you’re a celebrity. I get social anxiety too, and I think, “what if I go viral” is just letting your anxiety win with a 1 in a million “what if.”♥ 1source record 730
> Then Facebook became widely used by non-college kids towards the tail end of my masters degree and our friend group just started a strict no phones when out policy. Even then stuff happened and embarrassing things got posted that curtailed a few friends careers. This seems so odd to me because I was in high school from 05-09 and college 2009-2013. That era we would post party pictures to Facebook or Myspace the day after a party. There were tons of pictures of us out there as dumb 18 year olds drinking and partying. Never impacted anything.♥ 1source record 732
No, they're not. Dive bars still have $2 and $3 for PBR and other cheap beers and I live an a high CoL area.♥ 2source record 751
You're going to the wrong dive bars♥ 2source record 752
I’ve been to Boston, NYC, Miami and live in Fort Lauderdale and I don’t think I’ve ever paid more than $20 for an espresso martini lol. Where are you guys going for these drinks?!♥ 2source record 771
I went out with some friends last night and we were drinking $3 domestic 20oz beers and it wasn't even that much of a dive bar. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with Gen Z drinking less (though they should replace it with some other social activity), but I don't think cost is the main reason.♥ 2source record 781
Just gotta find that secret hole in the wall dive that charges <$2 for domestics. No I won't tell you where lol♥ 1source record 789
Gen-x was broke as a joke from 1992-2002... we still went out socialized and drank. **BECAUSE IF WE WANTED TO EVER MEET SOMONE AND HAVE THE POSSIBLITY OF GETTING LAID, WE HAD TO!!** And everyone wants to get laid.♥ 1source record 790
Our parents or grandparents did not have the same options or income so I do not think that is the factor. I suspected that i what people would say but I know they said the same thing they said at that age. The last generation had it better. They didn't.♥ 1source record 796
Find you a dive. You can still get beers for $5 or so if you go to the right spots (depending on your city).♥ 1source record 809
this is definitely regional. $2 beers in Milwaukee is easy to find, and you’ll be able to get a beer pretty much anywhere in chicago for 4♥ 1source record 812
I literally just went to a bar on UVA's campus this week that had $5 margs. Nobody was there. People would rather watch Netflix and bitch online about not having a personal life instead of taking the time to build a personal life.♥ 3source record 871
Dives with cheap drinks still exist. So does drinking at your friend's house. Also keep in mind entry level / no skill jobs paid like $7 an hour in 2010 and today they pay more than double that. Sometimes approaching $20/hr depending on location.♥ 2source record 872
Don't live in NYC/SF/Miami then. Everything you just described is completely viable in the Midwest and south, I would even say that 800 for a bedroom would be expensive here in the Midwest.♥ 1source record 880
Everyone saying money is ignoring the fact that we’ve had MUCH higher inflation in the past and socializing was always one of the last activities to suffer. The difference now is screens. Money matters, but not anywhere near as much as screens.♥ 1source record 881
My favorite place finally raised prices for beer from $3 to $4 earlier this year. It's still possible to find $4 draft where I live (south FL), but it's getting tough.♥ 1source record 891
It's still doable, gen z just doesn't want to. In your 20s is when it is completely acceptable and also almost mandatory to rent a 3br apartment/house with 2 other friends, potentially with their SO's and split rent and bills 3-6 ways. Fast food and warehouse jobs are a dime a dozen and pay incredibly well for what they are. When i was 21 I was making 11.50/hour as an assistant general manager of a sandwich shop. The taco bell around the corner from me is hiring at $23/hr currently. 3br apartments are around 2-2.2k/month. Even splitting 2k 3 ways is incredibly affordable. If $700/mo rent is too much money then their priorities are in the gutter. It's not that the opportunity to afford a fun life in their 20s isn't there, it's that they don't want to. The gen z I work with are adamant they won't have roommates (like won't even consider it,) don't want to live in apartments that aren't incredibly specific on amenities such as attached garage, laundry inside, etc, and then do nothing but complain that they can't afford anything. Well yea, they refuse to take any cost saving measures in the time in your life when you should be doing so. Your 20's are when you're supposed to be taking risks, intentionally stepping out of your comfort zone, and trying things you never thought you'd try. Instead they just chase comfort and avoid any sort of stress and anxiety they come across.♥ 1source record 896
I gotta ask, are you in a wealthy suburban area? I live in a dense urban residential environment, but its a small town (mid 4 digits population), below the poverty line, surrounded by undeveloped woods for easily 30min in every direction. The kids outside of school hours are always in groups all over the place trying to find something to do unsupervised. The library, the 3 parks, the alleys and sidewalks etc. I don't think I've ever gone outside and not seen some out & about unless its the middle of the night or when school is going on.♥ 1source record 919
A park? Or if you have a canned response for parks…people can literally choose to hangout anywhere. Post up on the sidewalk. Put a sheet down on some grass. Go hiking. It’s never been easier to coordinate plans…it just isn’t the default preference, because we can be easily entertained by ourselves + stay connected regardless of face-to-face contact. Kids (and adults) didn’t need something curated for them prior to these devices- the curated things were most often considered luxuries/amenities.♥ 10source record 939
Sorry someone called the cops on you for laying in the grass, but I’m not sure that’s commonplace. Seems more like a “them” problem. Most towns still have town squares, benches, parks, fields for sports, places of worship, districts with amenities, etc…these things haven’t gone away. There’s always some kind of planning required, whether or not you decide to make it a recurring schedule or not. For example, when I was in high school, kids a town over from us organized dodgeball games as an open Facebook event. It was every Thursday night at 7pm. Literally hundreds of kids showed up every week- plenty who didn’t know each other, and didn’t even want to play the game. We didn’t have cell phones, not everyone had a ride/a car…but we all somehow showed up at the same time. The point is we made our own hangs and designed our own fun- mostly for free. We simply had a stronger incentive to do so, because the only other option to be social was instant messaging on a shared desktop computer, or calling someone on their home phone.♥ 2source record 941
Again, this must be a generational thing. I’m in my late 30s, we all have phones but don’t film anything when we are out drinking because we just kind of know better.♥ 3source record 946
Going places is expensive. And man, whenever me and my buddies were broke, we'd all just meet up at someone's house/apt/dorm/whatever. My young employees barely even do *that*.♥ 2source record 959
> The third space complaint might be true in some locations, but a lot of it feels like excuses by the current young generation who are more interested in living online than outside. You just hit the nail on the head. A lot of the places that are disappearing are disappearing because they literally can't get people to show up. Libraries and museums and historical societies love to have people drop in, talk to them, ask a few questions, participate. But it just doesn't happen. And by museums I mean your small local niche subject ones not the big tourist traps that charge admission like big city science museums do. The money based 3rd spaces like malls or neighborhood bars are closing because no one goes anymore. You can't pay the rent, electricity and taxes if there's no customers and there are no customers. This isn't like the 1980s depicted like the Simpsons where the same 10 guys sit in Moe's Tavern every afternoon on their way home from work. People go straight home, Moe's Tavern closes, and then they bitch online "there's no places to hang out!"♥ 2source record 960
It is cheap to be on your phone, unless you're one of the massive number of people who use their phone to eat instead of cooking or even going out. It's cheaper to go out to eat than it is to use Uber eats, which is what lots of people do. These people are often also chronically browsing Amazon and other services♥ 4source record 969
>I feel like it’s cheap to be on your phone. Tell that to the millions of people who shill garbage like Kalshi and get addicted to food delivery apps.♥ 1source record 1008
am I crazy for thinking this is just an excuse? Even the most restricted places only had lockdowns/remote learning for one year. Yes missing your freshman year of high school would be detrimental, but these kids still had 3 solid years of in person learning and social interactions, I think missing one single year of school isn't enough to fuck someone's entire life but maybe I'm wrong♥ 3source record 1019
That's valid, and I didn't just mean from you, I see this sentiment a lot from people and while I do feel like remote learning for a year (or two) would have some impact, it's not like they didn't experience "regular" school at all♥ 1source record 1021
If gen z is so health focused why is their rate of obesity steadily increasing♥ 3source record 1024
I don’t mean to neg you or anything but I feel like we as a society romanticize the cafe from friends or the teen club from buffy but I don’t remember those places ever really existing. I remember we had a teen night club but it definitely cost money and the vibes were off. The third spaces we actually used were parks, skate parks, and shopping malls, all of which still exist but no one uses them anymore. I actually know 2 people in separate cities who opened a dedicated third space but neither sustained themselves. Which sucks because I theoretically believe in the idea. I’m just not really sure the demand actually exists.♥ 2source record 1039
I mean, there are plenty of parks, etc. No reason you can't go for a walk, sit on a bench and talk, that sorta thing.♥ 2source record 1041
I've been hearing stuff like this my entire life, and it doesn't make sense. The anxieties still exist, you are just using a different word for them. Americans in the 20th century were a deeply neurotic and anxious people. That's why we had Japanese internment camps, sodomy laws, and how Freud became a household name. The only difference is that 20th century Americans weren't as conversant about anxiety as we are.♥ 4source record 1051
I've seen this response on quite a few threads and as a a aging boomer who obviously had no social cataloging of my life, I'm confused. While, there are a few things that we did that we would definitely not want to be recorded, if for no other reasons than legal, the vast majority of the time out drinking we'd have no problem with our interactions being recorded.♥ 1source record 1073
Well I wouldn’t expect everyone’s experience today to be as homogenous, but anecdotally my childhood was mostly bike riding and figuring out what to do with other kids. Calling their parents and seeing if they can “play” or “hang” depending on the age, or just stopping by and knocking on their front door. We rarely spent money anywhere- and if we did, it was for a movie or a video game we could play coop on that parents wouldn’t buy for us. The place I live today is mostly public land outside of the commercial district…there is plenty of outdoor gathering spaces, etc. but it’s rarely used by kids or teenagers. It’s most larger families that hang out there.♥ 1source record 1084
At least in my case here in MO alcohol is a fraction of the cost of weed♥ 2source record 1129
If you are attributing the problems with this generation to previous generations alcohol use, then you must accept the correlation that a change in alcohol use of the prior gen would see a positive similar change in the young generation. Alcohol use has been falling for generations, and these problems with the youngest generations are not getting better, they're getting worse. By that logic maybe us millennials should be drinking even more??♥ 2source record 1263
Alcoholism and divorce has always been a thing. It's just weird that being in a relationship and getting to drink is suddenly not the right of passage it has been for generations.♥ 21source record 1265
Yeah I keep hearing that excuse and I can look around and see a bunch of divorced Gen X but I really doubt most zoomers’ parents are alcoholics.♥ 2source record 1267
Create the fear , sell the anecdote . The world is no more poor, horrible or at the end of times than it ever was. Social media creates fear and visceral responses then sells you the cure , the democrats will save me , the republicans will protect me from the hoards , I don’t have money kill the rich , I’m rich the poor are coming for my money . It’s creating existential dread on a massive scale . There are more opportunities for young people than anytime in the history of the world. If money keeps you from love or dating it’s not money you are missing , you are missing creativity♥ 1source record 1414
People are saying Money, but I had no money when I was 16. I think social media and cell phones in general make it so they can keep in touch with friends so much easier, but on a more superficial level. That leads to staying in and having smaller friend groups and meeting fewer people to make real connections with. I used to think it was just my step-daughter that kept a very small friend group, but other Gen-Z’s I’ve talked to just have small friend groups. Parties or just going to a park or a coffee shop to hang out just aren’t much a thing today as they were before cell phones and social media♥ 1source record 1450
This is just millennials 2.0 really. The exact same topics were rife on forums 15 years ago.. it's money and the cost of living mostly. (Same as it ever was)♥ 1source record 1510
lol everyone was poor at GenZ ages. A beer in the mid 90s was $1.75 at the local bars. Yes it was Bud Light or something. That beer is about $4.50 now Yes drinking gets expensive when you step up to microbrews and IPAs. But that’s the price you pay when you want to be a beer snob at 25 GenZ has warped expectations of what they should have at that age. Very very few of us (GenX) were buying houses in our 20s. Or new cars.♥ 1source record 1534
> Alcohol can make a person act stupid or look bad. With cameras and internet in our pockets, young people are more afraid of letting totally loose. There are a lot of drugs that do that not just alcohol. It's the entire point of using a drug it's to alter your central nervous system. When you do that it tends to alter your behaviour. Weed is very popular and if people are worried alcohol makes them act too loose I can't see how weed is any better.♥ 1source record 1550
People blame the drinking thing on them being more health conscious but I find that hard to believe with how much I see them vaping.♥ 1source record 1620
Digital spaces offers an easier facsimile of social interaction. It's not cost.♥ 1source record 1629
I absolutely do not agree with the “can’t afford it” answers. Gen Z at my work waste a dumb amount of money on online orders, and will DoorDash/UberEats from McDonalds and Starbucks ALL THE TIME. Yes, they complain about money, but have no issue getting chicken nuggets delivered to them for a $4 extra service charge plus a tip. But, to answer the question, many of them seem really uncomfortable with social interaction when it’s outside their little security bubble. They also don’t seem to put much effort into anything. If it’s the slightest bit uncomfortable or difficult… immediately back to their phone. It’s hard to form human connections when your face is constantly looking at a screen. I don’t think the movement away from alcohol and bar culture is a bad thing. It was really unhealthy in retrospect. But we have also really lost any sense of community in general. Third spaces are essentially nonexistent, especially ones that don’t cost as much as a theme park to enter.♥ 2source record 1645
The propaganda is working. Is that bad/ good? You decide, but messages are being broadcast from all directions leading many to the same choices.♥ 1source record 1653
That would differ from location to location where I live, with the included 25% VAT we have A 6-pack of heinekin is what would be 9.36US$♥ 1source record 1764
Doomscrolling is a lot healthier than alcohol use my friend. USA as a country has a big alcohol lobby that doesnt want the truth to get out.♥ 1source record 1802
"it's the iPads". Is kind of ironic coming from the generation raised by tv.. I get technology plays a role in sociological issues but sometimes it's just straight up simpler than that. Everything is expensive. Younger people don't get hired for professional level jobs. I mean y'all we can't even eat lettuce right now. I dunno if an iPad is causing any of that♥ 1source record 1812
Everyone is saying "money", but I don't think that's actually it. Yes, it certainly *is* more expensive to go out these days. But if people actually *want* to drink, they will find a way. People will give up other things in order to buy alcohol to drink at home, if they *really* wanted to drink. Even 10-15 years ago, I thought buying drinks at a bar or restaurant was too expensive. I drank at home all the time. I don't think money is the primary factor in why young people aren't drinking as much. I think it's because people have so many options to occupy their time. So many distractions. So many things to do. A person doesn't need alcohol to fill the boredom and pass the time. Also, legal cannabis is an option for a lot more people now.♥ 1source record 1847
Idk. I guess they can't figure out how to find good deals.♥ 1source record 1879
Probably because of tech advancement? Like what ate Genz mostly buying? Expensive gadgets, coffee, leisure like traveling. Every generation have different tech advancement. And this time is one of the worst. If you're not taking advantage of it, they will.♥ 1source record 2102
People always say this, but when I think about growing up in the 90s/2000s, the majority of time was spent on a curb, or playing in the street, woods, etc. We had the YMCA, a skate park, and the mall, which were good 3rd spaces, but nearly all of our time was spent outside riding/skating around, or at each other's houses. And none of us were ever really spending money at the mall until we had jobs.♥ 2source record 2305
> I gotta ask, are you in a wealthy suburban area? yeah ... that's the only fair way to describe my neighborhood. I'm sure different areas are different, but that's what I'm experiencing.♥ 1source record 2316
Money will always be an issue for young adults...in the past, people would have parties in their 550 sq ft apartment that they shared with a roommate. People would byob or contribute $5-$10 to get a keg for the night....or a few nights. Or people would host a game night or card games...again byob, whatever you could afford from the store...The problem isn't that being social is too expensive because going out has always been too expensive (though it's too expensive for people with a little money nowadays too)...it's that people don't need to be social in person because they have gaming and online and social media to fulfill that need. Necessity is the mother of invention....they have no need to invent social situations because it's not necessary.♥ 1source record 2331
You know what’s cheaper than a $30 Uber Eats burrito? Going to the grocery store and making 3-4 burritos for $30. My point wasn’t to say it’s cheap to go out. My point was the person who stays on their phone at home and complains it’s expensive to go out yet ordering a $30 burrito which costs $8 is a bit ironic. Also there’s plenty of places that have $3-5 dollar draft beers and food specials. They can also choose to not eat when they go out and socialize. They just don’t want to because it’s easier to be anti social.♥ 2source record 2357
I mean you can still get $3 beers in like rural states. Of course not too many young folks there.♥ 0source record 2359
Okay, but did it stop you going out and drinking ever again? That's the difference.♥ 0source record 2363
So if it had somehow gone viral, would that have stopped you ever drinking again? Sorry, I'm not meaning to harp on it, I just genuinely think that is the difference now. When I was going out it was already common to have pictures and videos taken of you acting the fool and we just laughed it off and everyone forgot about it by the next weekend. Even if it *had* 'gone viral' the internet is such a big place it would have been unlikely anyone I knew would have seen it and even more unlikely that somebody would seriously mock you for it because it was such an established social norm that everybody would be doing similar things every weekend.♥ 1source record 2365
I'm not missing the point, I'm challenging that the core of it is the technology or is it a shift in social attitude. Since we didn't have the technology I can only use hypotheticals. I still go out to the club now even though I'm older and I do get drunk and dance like a crazy person, and maybe somewhere out there I myself am going viral, but I don't know about it if I am because I'm not on social media and as such I don't have any of my friends or colleagues on any network where they might see me going viral. To me that is the more crucial difference between generations because nowadays those kinds of connections and having 500 or 600 'friends' from all aspects of your life watching your every move is normalized.♥ 1source record 2367
Social media was already pretty big before COVID and social interaction was on the way down. I think it just sped up the process but it's not the root cause. Social media is the turning point. We are not biologically ready for the continuous dopamine shots on demand.♥ 13source record 2376
I think that specifically Facebook was the turning point. Before that we had myspace and other random sites that did not try as hard as they could to keep you on the site through feeding you bait from strangers.♥ 2source record 2377
COVID didn't bring them on, but accelerated the trend.♥ 4source record 2378
was happening prior, at least in Australia that conducts a semi frequent survey of youth. in 2016 drinking was already down to around 44% compared to 69% in 2001.♥ 1source record 2379
Except all of this started much sooner, teens driving, going out on dates, drinking, etc all started to drop faster around 2010 which coincided with smartphones hitting the scene and in the coming few years a huge uptick in teen ownership. By the time Covid hit rates were already incredibly low, Covid absolutely exacerbated the issue and ensured recovery was less likely, but it was already well on it's way by then.♥ 1source record 2380
That was never an excuse. People would just have house parties and socialise that way. I'm middle aged and my social life is better than quite a few of the Gen Zs I know and that for me is incredibly depressing.♥ -23source record 2417
There always have been broke people, but they just made the best of it and had very social life because having fun with friends and family is the cheapest thing to do. Lame excuse.♥ -27source record 2421
Alcohol is cheap. Smashing pissers is free. Edit: since all the replies are the same, Gen Z is consuming less alcohol outside of the bar scene as well. When milenials or generation X were adolescents and young adults we'd buy cheap bottles of booze and beer and go to bonfires, or beaches, or people's houses. You all act like drinking at a bar to meet people is the only option.♥ -22source record 2431
Buy cheap booze. Go to dive bars. They still exist. Find your local dive. Get a cheap macro brew and a shot of well whisky. In my town you can get this for $5 or less. Bump and a wash.♥ 3source record 2433
I think you're right, but the reason for that is not money.♥ 1source record 2435
Alcohol is one of the cheapest beverages out there. Bottle of vodka, bottle of mix, you’re set for the night for like $20♥ 7source record 2443
A 750 bottle of Smirnoff is $12.83 after taxes where I am in South Florida.♥ 1source record 2450
What, you never met anyone who’s pooled money to rent a house with like four or five roommates? seems like the norm once you hit your late 20s, but I’ve been seeing it since sophomore year of college. I feel like that’s normal enough in most cities, maybe not super dense ones like NYC but it’s definitely attainable in most midsize cities and could be even cheaper if it was a small city or a large town♥ -9source record 2458
You can throw a party in an apartment. Also you can throw a party at your parent’s house.♥ -16source record 2462
Yeah you could save money by cooking at home and then just use those savings to treat yourselves with an evening and night out. I've subscribed to the frugal/poor subreddits for so many years but finally gave up on them. Too many arguments were people were too convinced it was cheaper for them to door dash their meals instead of cooking for themselves. I loved the "I could make more money per hour while ordering a delivery than the time and effort it would take to buy the groceries and cook it". But it's like... You're not making money on those hours though. You're just gooning or binge watching shows. I can value my time away from work at $1000/hour all I want but if I'm not actually making any money with that downtime it's kinda stupid and pointless. Or the "my monthly budget is $100 for the month, check out my haul for the week!". And it's like 80% bullshit that won't even last them for the week and took up half their monthly budget. But you can't criticize or give advice otherwise that makes the OP feel bad.♥ -1source record 2467
> parents constantly fighting and watching their parents’ spiraling alcohol addictions while this is a deterrent when it happens, the Gen Z kids see this happen a mere fraction of the amount that Millennials did, and Millennials saw it much less than Gen X did. So this has been a steadily decreasing force for a couple generations now. Yet, GenX didn't respond by withdrawing from society and relationships? So this is only the answer in very isolated individual cases, not as a societal crux of an issue.♥ 1source record 2482
1. I’ve lived in plenty of apartments and thrown plenty of parties in them. Never gotten kicked out or the cops called. Also, you can have a party with like 10 people, you don’t need to have an 100 person rager. 2. I guess I just have cool parents. We had a basement that I’d have people over to all the time. Maybe they just wanted to support their kids being social?♥ -6source record 2493
Everyone saying money, absolutely not. That generation spends more money on fast food and Starbucks and going out to eat than anything I’ve seen before. They also buy more name brand stuff like clothing, skin care, shoes, etc.♥ -6source record 2510
Which doen not change the fact that every generation wether it be 1600, 1800, 1980 or 2026 knew a lot of people who were poor. It's however only the last generation that complains that they can't date because they don't have the money for it. It's also the last group that started thinking that dating can only happen on money costing activities. My mum and dad went fishing on their first date. He picked her up with two rods along, they walked to water and he did teach her how to fish while they chatted for hours and got to know each other. Expenses: A bottle of soda and a cake he made himself at home. But no, people nowadays think dating can only happen if you go to a restaurant, then a bar and ending in a club and spend 250,- at minimum. Bull-shit is what it is.♥ -5source record 2515
Not every single gen z person thinks you need to have expensive dates. Many are budget conscious In fact most I know my kids included in college and they are thrifty and go thrifting at Good Will and go to other thrift stores to buy all their clothes and shoes and go to free concerts in the park or free street or music fests or free on campus events or go get free food at whatever place is having a free taco day or free fries day etc And many like my kids are not eating nearly as much as past generations i e mcdonalds and tons of soda and tons of fast good crap and many dont even drink coffee and all that starbucks crap They drink water That is mostly boomers and gen xers buying all of that crappy food and sugared up coffees So gen x they save money on food that way too. Just not eating like pigs like boomers and gen xers do. And they take advantage of and have free gym memberships And most dont spend nearly as much on alcohol. They drink a lot less and far less are doing any drugs Btw Did your dad take your mom fishing on all their dates ? Or did he ever spend money taking her out? Like to the movies or a restaurant ? I am sure he did♥ 3source record 2517

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What the pattern means: Records that dispute the premise itself, and they are specific about how: that the drinking moved from bars to homes where it stops being counted, that aggregate sales mostly track heavy drinkers, that the effect looks American rather than universal, and that newer figures show the gap closing as the cohort ages into its twenties.

What commenters described: There's also been multiple studies conducted by various research firms that indicate the whole "Gen Z doesn't drink alcohol" narrative is no longer as accurate as it was 7 or 8 years ago (when the eldest of us turned 21). Pundits tried to ascribe dropping alcohol sales to Gen Z puritanism, Gen Z health consciousness, Gen Z religiosity, Gen Z sobermaxxing, et cetera et cetera. Turns out it was more likely just Gen Z poverty, and that when incomes start increasing, so does alcohol consumption.

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If they were drinking somewhere, national statistics on alcohol purchases would reflect that. I’m 29 (older Gen Z), I used to drink a lot more but I’ve significantly reduced how often I go out due to cost. It’s $17-18 to get a cocktail where I live now, and a 15 min Uber ride is $40 each way, I’d rather not bother. I’m also conscious about my health & what I put in my body, so it’s not worth it. A lot of my younger friends don’t drink at all or rarely do so. It’s the older friends who drink more

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We drink, but its usually alone at home with close friend groups online. The relationship issue is more complicated. From insecurities, crazy expectations, and alot of older males have ruined Gen-z womens want to be in something serious or long term. We also are the age of social media and dont really crave relationships in person because having the ability to turn off your screen and they magically go away / give you space has become a solution for alot of us. Also if you look at the times we were raised in, mens social standards have been replaced with lower ones and women in our generation had the famous quote "you dont need a man" fed to us.

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It's the 40yr olds who fall for headlines like this. Actually college aged kids are drinking HARD more than ever and spending hundreds on drinks every weekend. They are drinking in dorms, hostels, bars, and their own rentals....places older people don't have access to or don't frequent. Older generations always think they are experts in younger generations and that they were so different when they were that age.

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Alcohol companies are pushing this narrative.

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Drinking does not = going out. Gen z spends hundred at liquor stores and drink cheap beer and wine all night

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I'm a cusper (1997) and definitely remember plenty of huge house parties between high school and grad school, and I know for a fact that plenty of kids younger than me were partying during the same time period. Like maybe this is something that solely afflicts middle-to-late Gen Z (with the exact midpoint of Gen Z equating to turning 21 this year) but those of us who started college before COVID are bewildered by the insinuation that we didn't party as students.♥ 5source record 323
That depends on the country in question. In (Western) Europe, a sharp decline is still being recorded.♥ 4source record 352
The Gen Z doesn’t drink thing always made me laugh as a Gen Z person. Like the only sober people were the ultra religious like every other generation. Gen Z just doesn’t buy drinks at the bar because no one can afford. It’s the pregame generation♥ 5source record 353
There's also been multiple studies conducted by various research firms that indicate the whole "Gen Z doesn't drink alcohol" narrative is no longer as accurate as it was 7 or 8 years ago (when the eldest of us turned 21). Pundits tried to ascribe dropping alcohol sales to Gen Z puritanism, Gen Z health consciousness, Gen Z religiosity, Gen Z sobermaxxing, et cetera et cetera. Turns out it was more likely just Gen Z poverty, and that when incomes start increasing, so does alcohol consumption.♥ 6source record 393
They aren’t drinking less, they’re just drinking less at bars.♥ 7source record 418
I feel like we need more demographic information than just “gen z” because the Gen Z people I know drink and date as much as any generation.♥ 3source record 448
This is an overly simplistic explation. This trend with Gen Z seems to be a uniquely American phenomenon. Even here in Canada Gen Z is pretty typical and honestly I don't see *that* much difference from my generation (Millenials). All the Gen Z folks in my life are doing fine, have relationships, etc. We just had a international student for 9 months from Europe and they seemed fine and apparently the young people there are just living life. I think Americans don't appreciate just how toxic their culture is and how it's affecting young people. It's easy to blame something amorphous like social media, but the reality is that there's something way more concerning and complex happening under the surface.♥ 1source record 997
It's the 40yr olds who fall for headlines like this. Actually college aged kids are drinking HARD more than ever and spending hundreds on drinks every weekend. They are drinking in dorms, hostels, bars, and their own rentals....places older people don't have access to or don't frequent. Older generations always think they are experts in younger generations and that they were so different when they were that age.♥ 14source record 1025
As a zillennial who consumes significantly larger quantities of cannabis than alcohol, those are in NO way interchangeable experiences lol Also I'm not sure what city you're in, but in NYC and Boston all the bars I've hit are largely populated by Gen Z, by millennials, or by a mixture of the two. Don't think I've been to any bars where a majority of the people inside were 40+ (I'm excluding concerts and raves here for fairly obvious reasons) Everything else you said checks out♥ 2source record 1031
Alcohol companies are pushing this narrative.♥ 1source record 1070
I guess you haven't heard that [recent reports]([link removed] have put Gen Z's alcohol consumption at closer to the average for other gens.♥ 1source record 1189
The data is *extremely* misleading as it ignores population size, age (half of Gen Z can’t even drink), and disposable income. There likely is some truth that Gen Z’s in their twenties are buying less alcohol than other generations in their twenties…but this data sure af doesn’t show that. Also, gen z spends a stupid amount of money on drugs.♥ 2source record 1242
I don't think the Gen z is drinking less. I think that the Internet is just too stupid to realize that a large portion of gen z is not old enough to drink. And that people who drink my college students typically don't fill out surveys saying that they drink. So the people that you find on these surveys are most likely the type of person you're going to find on this post. And it's a cultural thing, as a self-proclaimed "snowbunny" I can assure you that young black men drink alcohol 🤣. The guys I meet who don't drink are usually very liberal white men.♥ 1source record 1342
I know the focus is trends in entire demographics. But around NYC, the young kids are still out there, dating, and being together in public. They look like their having fun. I assume these are the kids are not preoccupied with what the Internet thinks of them.♥ 1source record 1346
Actually haven’t recent articles have come that Gen Z is starting to drink more. Lol♥ 1source record 1352
They're not entirely drinking less. It has spiked rather violently this year.♥ 1source record 1371
i thought there was a recent study that shows now that GenZ are turning 21+ they actually ARE drinking more, on par with millennials and GenY, but are prone to cocktails and not beer?♥ 2source record 1385
We drink, but its usually alone at home with close friend groups online. The relationship issue is more complicated. From insecurities, crazy expectations, and alot of older males have ruined Gen-z womens want to be in something serious or long term. We also are the age of social media and dont really crave relationships in person because having the ability to turn off your screen and they magically go away / give you space has become a solution for alot of us. Also if you look at the times we were raised in, mens social standards have been replaced with lower ones and women in our generation had the famous quote "you dont need a man" fed to us.♥ 1source record 1527
It's probably not even true that they "drink less" in any meaningful sense. Any stats based on average alcohol consumption per person are basically just measuring "how many alcoholics are there?" You would *not believe* how much alcohol alcoholics can drink. It's so much that, when viewed as aggregate alcohol sales, it drowns out any statistical signal about how other people are behaving. Stats that are more like "what percentage of people in this generation drink this often" tell us a lot more. But also keep in mind that Gen Z aren't even all old enough to buy alcohol yet. Also, stats on stuff like "how many people drink *beer*" can be misleading, because there's been a shift from beer to hard seltzer as the default. Also, now that marijuana is a lot easier to get, a lot of people are substituting that for at least some of their drinking, which ought to be great for public health, especially if they are using edibles or something rather than smoking it.♥ 1source record 1560
New numbers are out and now that more/most of Gen Z is above drinking age - there's not much difference between them and others of drinking age: [[link removed]♥ 1source record 1610
i might have a very different social circle from most of gen Z but i'd say most of the people i know are either in relationships or in the dating scene. going out and drinking is a popular activity. people don't have their phones out when spending time with friends. nobody is recording. people have hobbies and interests and also engage in those with each other. obviously similar people are drawn to each other so that's probably why i don't really speak with anybody who is of the more reclusive type. i have had experiences where i go out for dinner with family friends and their kids who are around my age are just on their phones and barely respond when i attempt to make conversation with them. i was born in 02 for context so i'm pretty close to middle of the pack i think.♥ 1source record 1615
[Gen Z isn’t drinking less after all]([link removed]♥ 1source record 1616
They are drinking more actually. Go visit any college or hostel.♥ 1source record 1663
I've been drinking like fuck but I'm 25.♥ 1source record 1670
Theyre not drinking less anymore.♥ 1source record 1741
Not in my case I drink a lot♥ 1source record 1760
I think the question is inherently flawed looking at the most recent data which has reminded us trend lines arent as predictable the closer you zoom in but that genZ is making up loat time already♥ 1source record 1804
I live in a college town there is PLENTY of drinking and...relating....going on.♥ 1source record 1811
[Turns out they aren't drinking less]([link removed]♥ 1source record 1839
I feel like drink less has to be an illusion, I'm on the younger end of GenZ but I'd say "buying drinks in bars and clubs" would be more accurate. People are still having 70cls from the mid to late teens. We'll often predrink HEAVY before the club, enough to last you the night. And then just get water or maybe at most a single shot while in there.♥ 1source record 1922
Lots of valid points here but a recent study has shown that Gen Z is catching up back to expected drinking levels in line with the other generations [[link removed]♥ 1source record 2009
It has nothing to do with Gen Z. Drinking is down across the board in all age groups.♥ 1source record 2045
Funny, just about every Gen Z I know is spending their paychecks getting absolutely hammered on a weekly basis, to the point that I'm worried they're all becoming functioning alcoholics. Meanwhile, it's all the Millennials in my life who aren't drinking a ton because of the price.♥ 1source record 2100
Fake news. Gen Z is drinking just as much as the rest of society. [link removed]♥ 1source record 2115
Drinking does not = going out. Gen z spends hundred at liquor stores and drink cheap beer and wine all night♥ 0source record 2360

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Half of Gen Z cannot legally drink yet13 index entriesThe age composition of the cohort raised as a measurement problem.
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What the pattern means: A measurement objection rather than an explanation. The cohort runs from schoolchildren to people approaching thirty, so a large share of it is below the drinking age in its own country — one commenter answering here says they are fourteen. The argument is that per-generation drinking figures compare groups of different ages and should not be read as a change in behaviour.

What commenters described: I had to scroll WAY too far to find someone who brought this up. The youngest Gen Z are 13 years old, people who blame Gen Z for not drinking and ruining the alcohol industry don't bring up the fact that half of them can't legally buy it yet...

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I had to scroll WAY too far to find someone who brought this up. The youngest Gen Z are 13 years old, people who blame Gen Z for not drinking and ruining the alcohol industry don't bring up the fact that half of them can't legally buy it yet...

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Older Gen Z are in their mid to late 20s. Millennials are 30-45.

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Gen z turns 30 next year! A lot of people think theyre all just getting out of highschool yet.

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Yeah. I’m 14 at the moment and the drinking age where I live is 19. Still have 5 years to go

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I'm not defending them, but half of them arent even legally allowed to drink yet.

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Half of gen Z cant drink yet♥ 8source record 413
I had to scroll WAY too far to find someone who brought this up. The youngest Gen Z are 13 years old, people who blame Gen Z for not drinking and ruining the alcohol industry don't bring up the fact that half of them can't legally buy it yet...♥ 5source record 414
Some are still too young to be into those things. **People in Gen Z are generally 14-29** (more or less) so that means **1/2 of them are still under age.** And while yes people definitely date and drink in highschool not everyone that age is doing it. When I was in highschool my friend group was not really interested in drinking or dating much yet. I think you have to wait like 10 years to get good data on that age group.♥ 3source record 449
theres still a lot of Gen Z that isn't even drinking age yet. once they reach real adulthood (30+) theyre probably going to want to drink more.♥ 2source record 1164
Yeah. I’m 14 at the moment and the drinking age where I live is 19. Still have 5 years to go♥ 2source record 1181
Aren't they like teenagers? Thats kind of self explanatory♥ 1source record 1347
the fact half of them are still underage for one♥ 4source record 1642
A lot of them are literally children still... Guys, Gen Z includes people born as late as 2012.♥ 1source record 1651
The "drinking less" is a misleading stat because of course the younger generation with less money is not drinking as much as the older generations. Half of Gen Z are still in high school. They said the same exact thing about Millenials when they were younger.♥ 1source record 1791
One more factor that probably has an impact is that the generational cohort is not yet of drinking age. Two of my Gen Z kids are still in high school.♥ 1source record 1881
I think they are of age but maturing slower. It’s neither a judgement on them, nor something to celebrate. It just is. And that’s ok.♥ 1source record 1917
I'm not defending them, but half of them arent even legally allowed to drink yet.♥ 1source record 2036
Gen z turns 30 next year! A lot of people think theyre all just getting out of highschool yet.♥ 17source record 2420

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“Why is this being treated as a problem?”18 index entriesRecords that accept the fall and question the concern about it.
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What the pattern means: Records that accept the decline and question the concern. Lower rates of alcoholism, they argue, is the outcome public health has been asking for, and the worry in the framing says more about the generations doing the asking. The group is not uniformly celebratory: several separate the drinking from the socialising and call the first progress and the second a loss.

What commenters described: I’m Gen Z and I do drink, but it’s always odd to me that older generations are concerned that younger people are drinking less. Lower rates of alcoholism is a good thing, no?

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I think a lot of my fellow millennials conflate drinking with social interaction because... that's how we used to interact in person.

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Generously, I think it's shorthand used by older generations for socialization in general (restaurants, sporting events, karaoke, obviously bars all offer alcohol), but people also get weirdly defensive when you suggest that alcohol isn't necessary to have a good time.

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I’m Gen Z and I do drink, but it’s always odd to me that older generations are concerned that younger people are drinking less. Lower rates of alcoholism is a good thing, no?

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Drinking less is a positive to be honest. It's time we stop acting like drinking poison is a good thing anyway.

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Is it just me who thinks it's weird to group drinking together with relationships like this? One is good for you, one is not.

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I’m Gen Z and I do drink, but it’s always odd to me that older generations are concerned that younger people are drinking less. Lower rates of alcoholism is a good thing, no?♥ 172source record 344
Wait how are we more alcoholic than the generation who would drink at work?♥ 13source record 351
I mean the concerns that i heard (Prof G for example) are that they dont socialise as a result of not drinking. Young people date less, have less sex than previous generations at their age. I dont agree with him that it’s because they dont drink though. We used to go to these dark loud clubs and get blackout drunk in the 90s. That wasnt about socialising. The fact that there seems to be a big and growing gap between men and women is concerning though. Both sides lose as a result in my opinion. I hope for everyone’s benefit that there will be a change in this trend.♥ 12source record 355
Yeah drinking less is only a good thing♥ 1source record 1068
they are afraid you won't drink enough to procreate and ergo there will be nobody to pay their retirement/grow crops/change bedpans, etc.♥ 1source record 1095
It would be if y’all replaced it with a different social activity, but you haven’t.♥ 1source record 1098
If I had to compare a typical 22-year-old's social world today with one around 2000: Physical health/safety: better Freedom and choice: better Entertainment/access to information: vastly better Social connectedness: worse Romantic opportunity/intimacy: probably worse Community/belonging: worse Overall subjective well-being: probably modestly worse The unfortunate part is that we seem to have bundled together two very different developments: less alcohol and dangerous behavior—which is progress—and less friendship, courtship, spontaneous social interaction and human intimacy—which probably isn't.♥ 2source record 1162
Drinking less is good, fewer relationships is not♥ 1source record 1275
The fewer relationships is a negative but them not drinking is a good thing. As someone who struggled with alcoholism (I know the majority of people can drink sensibly) I've experienced first hand how much it wrecks your body. So fair play to them for not drinking, whatever their reasons are♥ 2source record 1315
Not sure but it's good there drinking less♥ 1source record 1409
Drinking less is a good thing. The world has a terrible relationship with alcohol.♥ 1source record 1519
Neither of those are bad. A better question is what drove millenials to substance use & early promiscuity What cultural factors were at play♥ 1source record 1671
Drinking less is a positive to be honest. It's time we stop acting like drinking poison is a good thing anyway.♥ 1source record 1723
I'm actually glad GenZ is drinking less. The rest I am unsure of. It seems GenAlpha is pushing against big tech etc & wanting privacy more so than GenZ, which I am happy for as well.♥ 1source record 1759
I hope we can help future generations be more social again, but I also hope the trend of less alcohol usage and delaying sex a little is retained moving forward. Fewer people under 21 having kids is a good thing, and I'll never be convinced that drinking before 21 is a positive. At most, it's a neutral. At worst, it's a disaster.♥ 1source record 1788
I don't think that one is directly causing the other. Yes alcohol can be used as a social lubricant, but I suspect this has little to do with the current "loneliness epidemic." I think it's great that Gen-Z isn't drinking much. I say this as an elder Millennial who somehow manged to survive years of heavy drinking without becoming life-long alcoholic (I have a drink once or twice year at this point without any issues). Many of my friends did not emerge from this.♥ 1source record 1793
Discovering that I relate more to Gen Z. I haven't dated in over a year and I quit drinking. It's better. Life's just better, happier. Also dating apps are atrocious.♥ 1source record 1844
Is it just me who thinks it's weird to group drinking together with relationships like this? One is good for you, one is not.♥ 1source record 1858

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This export carries real like counts and timestamps. The first 18 are the most resonant on-topic top-level comment from each stage of the discussion, ranked by resonance within their arrival-time cohort so later arrivals are not penalised for having had less time to accumulate likes. The last 6 received no likes at all and were chosen for the specificity of what they describe.

Money, chronically online resulting in crippling social anxiety.
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beers are 7+ dollars in the dive bars! everybody has a camera and you can no longer do stupid shit. the internet is more addictive than meth
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Money is a big driving cause. I've also noticed that younger Gen Z are especially awkward at any social interaction.
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Drinking is an expensive habit that has zero (actually negative) health benefits. These days a lot of people are more aware what substances do to a person's body. As for relationships, well social media has basically destroyed human society as we know it. Before facebook, you'd have to actively participate in society. There are nuances that people don't learn or pickup on unless you are in those social situations. Now everyone can get their dopamine hits and "interactions" on their phones and it's creating shorter attention spans and neutering peoples' desire to go out and make an effort. It's a combination of a lot of shitty factors.
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i’m an older gen z and now sober. started drinking at 14 and stopped three years ago because i was becoming an alcoholic. drinking at parties was pretty normal when i was a teenager, and a lot of media (films and tv) depicted drinking and partying as a must for that age. social pressure was a huge factor back then. i think what’s changed for younger gen z (and gen alpha coming up) goes beyond just drinking less. ever since social media turned into this never-ending surveillance camera, i don’t think people are willing to risk exposure. any mistake, any awkward interaction, any bad decision can now be recorded and posted for everyone to see and will stay out there forever. imo this generation is so hyper-aware of their public image that they’re not willing to put themselves out there the way we used to. and i think that applies to relationships too, not just partying. hooking up, dating, flirting badly, getting rejected. all of that used to happen “in private”, and now there’s always a phone around. one awkward moment and it’s a screenshot, a story, a group chat joke. i guess people just… opt out. why risk the embarrassment of a bad date or a messy situationship going public when you can just not put yourself in that position at all. honestly, i get it. if someone could’ve recorded every mistake i made as a teenager, i wouldn’t have done half the things i did either. it’s not that this generation doesn’t want connection or fun, i just i think they’re just way more scared of being seen failing at it.
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Dating got gamified, going out got expensive, and being drunk got a lot less fun once everyone started carrying a camera.
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I’m Gen Z and I do drink, but it’s always odd to me that older generations are concerned that younger people are drinking less. Lower rates of alcoholism is a good thing, no?
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 172
It costs me like $80 to get drunk at a bar.
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 4
Lack of a third space Tech brain rot like AI and only online culture manosphere bullshit driving gender divide lack of funds lack of employment. Like 60% of US discussions are "Hows work been, what are your career ambitions." Do you think "the most underemployed and unemployed generation ever" with no entry level jobs or hope wants to talk about that? Chronic social anxiety and asocialization
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 16
Poverty. Leaving the house is expensive now. Staying home and doing everything online is very cheap.
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 25
Am Gen Z. To answer the question, mostly money. For both. But for me personally, I'm pretty antisocial in general. Dating feels like a waste of time. I have trust issues. No one trusts anyone anymore. I don't even want to have sex, seems infinitely easier to just do it myself. No one is really appealing to me.
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 31
Half of gen Z cant drink yet
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 8
Social awkwardness due to the influence of social media. Gen Z would rather be on their phones than go through the struggle of learning how to successfully socialize with other human beings through trial and error. That and I think a lot of them have been made aware of the fact that alcohol is basically poison.
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 5
Life in America. Lack of affordability. Capitalism crushing us like a fucking soda can.
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3
Weed legalization probably helped gen z kick the alcoholic habit. Our parents and their parents had the money saved by 22 that we'd likely have by 30.
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3
Being broke and being online/isolated during covid for a damaging amount of time that the brain regressed in proper socialization skills
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 2
They lack individualism, independence, confidence, and meliorism. I don't blame them though. They were raised by idiots recovering from their own abusive parents, and into a world with a poor immediate outlook.
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3
Drinking is cool. It just goesnt go with gen z. Theyd rather be home watching cartoons, i mean anime
most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 2
I think the fewer relationship think is happening across the board. As far as alcohol, it sucks. It ruins lives, leads to sexual assault, causes hangovers, and leads to people being obnoxious. Also, alcohol withdrawal, for someone who is heavily addicted- say, putting a handle away a day, can lead to death. Look it up. Not even exaggerating. Also alcoholics can get varicose veins in their esophagus which burst and they bleed out. Apparently when the liver gets messed up, something happens where the vein degradation makes its way up to the esophagus. Not to mention liver failure, and increased cancer risk, and zillions of extra calories. The list goes on.
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My gen z daughter just turned 21. She does the typical things you’d expect of a 21 year old with the exception of still living at home. The college she attends doesn’t have dorms, and she can’t afford anywhere on her own even though she works making $17 an hour. She could probably live with roommates, but there hasn’t been anyone that she’s known whom it would be an option with. Hopefully once she finishes her degree she will be able to move out within a year. She’s becoming a dental hygienist. My 14 year old is different. I’m not sure how that’s going to look in young adulthood. We shall see
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Mistakes are more visible and public than ever .the kinds of shenanigans people used to get away with in the 2000s are likely to stick with you, potentially affecting both social and professional life. Couple that with the known health benefits, we all know what damage alcohol can do to a person. Can't speak to the dating but I'd assume all the lockdowns and such when they were due to be at peak socializing probably didn't help. (I support the lockdowns but they definitely did have unintended negative side effects).
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Marijuana as opposed to alcohol (and it's not just Gen Z), growing up "with a mouse in their hand" (eg: relationships are maintained via digital means) and aging into "the system". EDIT: I meant that it seems like more and more people (eg: younger generations) are choosing THC/Marijuana items as opposed to alcohol for relaxation and social lubricant.
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As Gen Z, alcohol it’s not great at all, like damages your brain so bad and honestly older people just have prejudice for other drugs like mushrooms. So yeah it’s not like I’m a puritan it’s mostly that I don’t think it’s worth the damage neither my friends. With relationships, idk I’m married so maybe I’m the exception there
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It's the fact that not only does everyone have the capability to record every moment of life and the bad decisions or actions, but it also seems like they are absurdly quick to narc on each other as soon as those decisions or actions are taken.
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How the discussion breaks down

Relative volume of distinct source-backed records across every reviewed category in this corpus.

What a night of drinking costs now

516 distinct coded comment records

6 normalized answers

The phone got there first

189 distinct coded comment records

2 normalized answers

The thread argued with the question

162 distinct coded comment records

4 normalized answers

Anxious, out of practice, out of hope

118 distinct coded comment records

4 normalized answers

Something else instead

97 distinct coded comment records

2 normalized answers

Losing control in public got riskier

96 distinct coded comment records

2 normalized answers

What they were told about alcohol

95 distinct coded comment records

4 normalized answers

Nowhere left to go

94 distinct coded comment records

4 normalized answers

Drinking stopped being the point

79 distinct coded comment records

3 normalized answers

They watched somebody else drink

62 distinct coded comment records

2 normalized answers

Money or phones: the argument the thread never settles

The single most striking thing about this thread is that it spends a large part of its length disagreeing with itself. 162 of the 1508 classified records exist to argue with an answer somebody else gave, and the argument is nearly always the same one: is this about money, or is it about phones?

The thread's most-liked answer names both. “Money, chronically online resulting in crippling social anxiety.” Underneath it, one commenter puts the money case plainly: “it's way more the first than the second. millenials were also chronically online and we still made it out. for gen z it's cause drinking and going out is literally becoming unaffordable.”

And underneath that, the objection. A commenter who works in a bar reports the opposite of what the cost answers predict: “I work in a dive bar. Domestic drafts are $2.75 after 9pm. No young people at all. But they shell out plenty of money for boba teas from the Korean place in the plaza. Or even more on uber eats from the Mexican place next door.” Another prices a recent night out and reaches the same conclusion: “I went out with some friends last night and we were drinking $3 domestic 20oz beers and it wasn't even that much of a dive bar. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with Gen Z drinking less (though they should replace it with some other social activity), but I don't think cost is the main reason.”

A third position rejects both. One commenter who identifies as being in the group under discussion answers the surveillance explanation directly: “Btw us kids dgaf abt if we’re getting recorded it’s not on our mind of why we don’t drink. We don’t drink cuz it’s too expensive and not worth the money over weed. Weed is jus better jus like how young teens don’t smoke cigs anymore. Vaping is the new option no need for it. Alcohol has too much risk with not a big enough reward. Nausea,dui, expensive, embarrassment. Weed you’ll just cough your lungs out and laugh or vibe to music.”

And 35 records dispute the premise itself — that the fall is real, or that it is being measured properly. One states the test: “If they were drinking somewhere, national statistics on alcohol purchases would reflect that. I’m 29 (older Gen Z), I used to drink a lot more but I’ve significantly reduced how often I go out due to cost. It’s $17-18 to get a cocktail where I live now, and a 15 min Uber ride is $40 each way, I’d rather not bother. I’m also conscious about my health & what I put in my body, so it’s not worth it. A lot of my younger friends don’t drink at all or rarely do so. It’s the older friends who drink more” Another argues the cohort is the problem: “The data is *extremely* misleading as it ignores population size, age (half of Gen Z can’t even drink), and disposable income. There likely is some truth that Gen Z’s in their twenties are buying less alcohol than other generations in their twenties…but this data sure af doesn’t show that. Also, gen z spends a stupid amount of money on drugs.”

None of that is settled here, and this page does not settle it. The sub-patterns below keep the objections beside the answers they dispute, in their own theme, so a reader can see which explanations the thread itself would not let stand.

Browse the original comments2,518 audited comments and replies
Dataset, coverage, and methodology
2,518
comments read and classified
1,508
records giving a reason
516
of them are about money
162
argue with another commenter's answer

How this was counted

The working unit is a comment record, not a person and not a distinct reason. All 2,518 canonical comments from this one thread (1,185 top-level, 1,333 replies) were read in twelve passes in thread order, so every reply was read beneath its parent, and each was assigned to exactly one sub-pattern or one exclusion bucket.

1,508 records give a reason young people drink less or go out drinking less, and all 1,508 appear in the complete index below. The other 1,010 break down as answers to the question's other half, about dating and relationships (272), agreements, jokes and one-line reactions (185), off-topic tangents (157), the long tangent about hobbies and shared culture (132), the tangent about phone etiquette and children's screen time (128), arguments about somebody else's figure or anecdote that name no reason of their own (55), questions put to another commenter (33), commentary about the thread itself (17), political and macroeconomic tangents that never reach the drink (16), advice offered to another commenter (8), and fragments and bare links (7).

The thread asked about drinking and about relationships in the same breath, and a large share of it answers only the relationships half. Those records are excluded from the reason count and kept in the complete source archive; this page is about the drinking half only.

Many comments name several reasons at once. Each such record is filed under the first drinking-related reason it states, and its full text is preserved on that card, so a record counted under money may also mention phones or cameras.

1,508 counts classified comment records, not distinct reasons. Repeats were deliberately kept: 284 records say some version of “no money” and each stays its own row rather than being merged into one.

Heart counts are the raw numbers as captured. The first hour of this thread holds 84.8% of all its hearts, so a ranking by raw hearts would mostly rank arrival time; the themes below are ordered by how many records they hold, not by popularity.

Nothing here is verified beyond what people typed. Cost figures are what individual commenters said they paid, in whatever currency and country they were writing from. Claims about alcohol, cannabis, medication and health are the commenters' own and are reported as attributed statements, not as findings. Read this as a record of the reasons a crowd offered — including the ones the crowd rejected.

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