> ## Content Index > Fetch the complete content index at: https://smartjots.com/llms.txt > Use this file to discover other available public pages before exploring further. # Toxic Normalcy: 1,000+ Voices on Common Everyday Behaviors That Are Secretly Destructive - URL: https://smartjots.com/normalized-behaviors-to-be-cautious-of/ - Published: 2026-09-05T04:29:09.000Z - Updated: 2026-09-05T04:29:09.000Z - Description: Public surveillance without consent, binge drinking culture, extreme digital isolation, casual ghosting, and algorithmic self-diagnosis—an exhaustive audit of cultural habits quietly eroding human well-being. - Author: Smart Jots - Tags: Life Wisdom > [View the original Reddit thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/answers/comments/1vup958/whats%5Fa%5Fbehavior%5Fweve%5Fnormalized%5Fthat%5Fyou%5Fthink/?ref=smartjots.com) One thread, every answer read # The things a crowd said we have quietly normalised — and the answers the same thread refused to let stand Start here ## What this thread actually said we have normalised Across all 1073 captured comments the answers cluster hard: infant circumcision is the top answer by a wide margin, then cameras pointed at strangers, heavy drinking, self-diagnosis, flaking on plans, being alone and driving. Almost every one of those answers was argued with by the people replying to it, so this guide keeps each objection beside the answer it disputes and treats every medical, legal and parenting claim in the thread as one commenter's reported opinion rather than as advice. What you will find - Infant circumcision — the top answer, and the argument it never won - Cameras pointed at strangers, and the ones aimed at people who cannot object - Drinking, gambling and smoking — with the pushback each one drew - Self-diagnosis, and the people who have the diagnosis answering back - Flaking, ghosting and “protecting my peace” - Where the thread argued with its own answers, including its medical claims - None of this is verified and none of it is advice 74 answer cards Browse categories and subcategories - [Cameras pointed at other people](#cv-category-cameras-pointed-at-other-people) - [Filming strangers and putting it online](#rich-node-0-group-0-subgroup-0-filming-strangers-and-putting-it-online) - [Provoking the reaction, then filming it](#rich-node-0-group-0-subgroup-1-provoking-the-reaction-then-filming-it) - [“It’s legal in public” — the argument that answer drew](#rich-node-0-group-0-subgroup-2-it-s-legal-in-public-the-argument-that-answer-drew) - [Filming people who cannot push back](#rich-node-0-group-0-subgroup-3-filming-people-who-cannot-push-back) - [Cameras that are simply always on](#rich-node-0-group-0-subgroup-4-cameras-that-are-simply-always-on) - [What people publish about themselves](#cv-category-what-people-publish-about-themselves) - [Sharing every detail of a life](#rich-node-0-group-1-subgroup-0-sharing-every-detail-of-a-life) - [Location, data and the identity you hand over](#rich-node-0-group-1-subgroup-1-location-data-and-the-identity-you-hand-over) - [The phone that is never put down](#rich-node-0-group-1-subgroup-2-the-phone-that-is-never-put-down) - [Saying it online as though nobody is listening](#rich-node-0-group-1-subgroup-3-saying-it-online-as-though-nobody-is-listening) - [Drink, smoke and bet](#cv-category-drink-smoke-and-bet) - [Heavy drinking, and drinking at all](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-0-heavy-drinking-and-drinking-at-all) - [“It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the thread](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-1-it-s-a-social-lubricant-the-pushback-inside-the-thread) - [Alcohol measured against every other drug](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-2-alcohol-measured-against-every-other-drug) - [Whether cannabis causes psychosis — the sharpest medical dispute here](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-3-whether-cannabis-causes-psychosis-the-sharpest-medical-dispute-h) - [Gambling built into everything](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-4-gambling-built-into-everything) - [Smoking, and the smoke other people breathe](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-5-smoking-and-the-smoke-other-people-breathe) - [Infant circumcision — the thread’s top answer and its longest argument](#cv-category-infant-circumcision-the-thread-s-top-answer-and-its-longest-argument) - [Surgery on someone who cannot consent](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-0-surgery-on-someone-who-cannot-consent) - [Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argument](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-1-hygiene-nursing-homes-and-the-caregiving-argument) - [What the health claims were said to rest on](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-2-what-the-health-claims-were-said-to-rest-on) - [Religion, culture and “it is just what you do”](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-3-religion-culture-and-it-is-just-what-you-do) - [The men it was done to, answering back](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-4-the-men-it-was-done-to-answering-back) - [Parents who declined, and what they were told](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-5-parents-who-declined-and-what-they-were-told) - [Where the argument stopped being about the question](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-6-where-the-argument-stopped-being-about-the-question) - [Naming your own mind](#cv-category-naming-your-own-mind) - [Self-diagnosing a disorder](#rich-node-0-group-4-subgroup-0-self-diagnosing-a-disorder) - [Why people said they do it: cost, waiting lists and being missed](#rich-node-0-group-4-subgroup-1-why-people-said-they-do-it-cost-waiting-lists-and-being-missed) - [Diagnosing everybody else](#rich-node-0-group-4-subgroup-2-diagnosing-everybody-else) - [Therapy words used loosely](#rich-node-0-group-4-subgroup-3-therapy-words-used-loosely) - [The people who have the diagnosis, answering](#rich-node-0-group-4-subgroup-4-the-people-who-have-the-diagnosis-answering) - [Plans, promises and disappearing](#cv-category-plans-promises-and-disappearing) - [Flaking, no-shows and the party nobody came to](#rich-node-0-group-5-subgroup-0-flaking-no-shows-and-the-party-nobody-came-to) - [Ghosting, cutting contact, and lies that cost nothing](#rich-node-0-group-5-subgroup-1-ghosting-cutting-contact-and-lies-that-cost-nothing) - [“Protecting my peace” as the reason given](#rich-node-0-group-5-subgroup-2-protecting-my-peace-as-the-reason-given) - [What it costs the person left waiting](#rich-node-0-group-5-subgroup-3-what-it-costs-the-person-left-waiting) - [Being alone](#cv-category-being-alone) - [Time alone as the default setting](#rich-node-0-group-6-subgroup-0-time-alone-as-the-default-setting) - [Where community used to happen](#rich-node-0-group-6-subgroup-1-where-community-used-to-happen) - [The objection: solitude is not loneliness](#rich-node-0-group-6-subgroup-2-the-objection-solitude-is-not-loneliness) - [Cars, roads and driving](#cv-category-cars-roads-and-driving) - [Driving itself, treated as unremarkable](#rich-node-0-group-7-subgroup-0-driving-itself-treated-as-unremarkable) - [What people do while they are driving](#rich-node-0-group-7-subgroup-1-what-people-do-while-they-are-driving) - [Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitable](#rich-node-0-group-7-subgroup-2-car-dependence-and-whether-it-is-really-inevitable) - [How strangers get treated](#cv-category-how-strangers-get-treated) - [Rudeness taken as normal](#rich-node-0-group-8-subgroup-0-rudeness-taken-as-normal) - [What other people are made to sit through](#rich-node-0-group-8-subgroup-1-what-other-people-are-made-to-sit-through) - [Jokes with a target](#rich-node-0-group-8-subgroup-2-jokes-with-a-target) - [Swearing, yelling and the volume of ordinary speech](#rich-node-0-group-8-subgroup-3-swearing-yelling-and-the-volume-of-ordinary-speech) - [Shaming, cancelling and who actually gets held to it](#rich-node-0-group-8-subgroup-4-shaming-cancelling-and-who-actually-gets-held-to-it) - [The animals caught in it](#rich-node-0-group-8-subgroup-5-the-animals-caught-in-it) - [Politics, power and what a country gets used to](#cv-category-politics-power-and-what-a-country-gets-used-to) - [Accepting things that used to be unacceptable](#rich-node-0-group-9-subgroup-0-accepting-things-that-used-to-be-unacceptable) - [Police, force and violence](#rich-node-0-group-9-subgroup-1-police-force-and-violence) - [Bigotry moving into ordinary speech](#rich-node-0-group-9-subgroup-2-bigotry-moving-into-ordinary-speech) - [Cutting off family over politics — and the argument about that](#rich-node-0-group-9-subgroup-3-cutting-off-family-over-politics-and-the-argument-about-that) - [Men and women](#cv-category-men-and-women) - [Violence and contempt toward men, on screen and off](#rich-node-0-group-10-subgroup-0-violence-and-contempt-toward-men-on-screen-and-off) - [“Tearing down men”, and the reply thread that became the argument](#rich-node-0-group-10-subgroup-1-tearing-down-men-and-the-reply-thread-that-became-the-argument) - [Misogyny, and what women said they take for it](#rich-node-0-group-10-subgroup-2-misogyny-and-what-women-said-they-take-for-it) - [Where the gender argument became about the arguers](#rich-node-0-group-10-subgroup-3-where-the-gender-argument-became-about-the-arguers) - [Children and the adults around them](#cv-category-children-and-the-adults-around-them) - [Children as content](#rich-node-0-group-11-subgroup-0-children-as-content) - [Screens and apps in a child’s hands](#rich-node-0-group-11-subgroup-1-screens-and-apps-in-a-child-s-hands) - [How children are raised](#rich-node-0-group-11-subgroup-2-how-children-are-raised) - [Pressure, protection and the questions people ask](#rich-node-0-group-11-subgroup-3-pressure-protection-and-the-questions-people-ask) - [Bodies, food and medicine](#cv-category-bodies-food-and-medicine) - [Weight, eating and the denial around it](#rich-node-0-group-12-subgroup-0-weight-eating-and-the-denial-around-it) - [Appearance as a permanent project](#rich-node-0-group-12-subgroup-1-appearance-as-a-permanent-project) - [Risks people said we quietly stopped mitigating](#rich-node-0-group-12-subgroup-2-risks-people-said-we-quietly-stopped-mitigating) - [Sex and relationships](#cv-category-sex-and-relationships) - [Meeting, sleeping with and marrying strangers](#rich-node-0-group-13-subgroup-0-meeting-sleeping-with-and-marrying-strangers) - [Porn, fetish and what gets sexualised](#rich-node-0-group-13-subgroup-1-porn-fetish-and-what-gets-sexualised) - [Cheating, consent and honesty between partners](#rich-node-0-group-13-subgroup-2-cheating-consent-and-honesty-between-partners) - [Relationship structures people said to think twice about](#rich-node-0-group-13-subgroup-3-relationship-structures-people-said-to-think-twice-about) - [Money, work and status](#cv-category-money-work-and-status) - [Debt, and buying what you cannot afford](#rich-node-0-group-14-subgroup-0-debt-and-buying-what-you-cannot-afford) - [Housing prices, treated as a fact of life](#rich-node-0-group-14-subgroup-1-housing-prices-treated-as-a-fact-of-life) - [Overwork worn as a badge](#rich-node-0-group-14-subgroup-2-overwork-worn-as-a-badge) - [Status, clout and who gets admired](#rich-node-0-group-14-subgroup-3-status-clout-and-who-gets-admired) - [Belief, information and how people decide things](#cv-category-belief-information-and-how-people-decide-things) - [“Doing your own research” on a social feed](#rich-node-0-group-15-subgroup-0-doing-your-own-research-on-a-social-feed) - [Handing the thinking to AI](#rich-node-0-group-15-subgroup-1-handing-the-thinking-to-ai) - [Not knowing, and being comfortable with it](#rich-node-0-group-15-subgroup-2-not-knowing-and-being-comfortable-with-it) - [Telling other people how to live](#rich-node-0-group-15-subgroup-3-telling-other-people-how-to-live) - [Religion treated as the default, and the objections to that](#rich-node-0-group-15-subgroup-4-religion-treated-as-the-default-and-the-objections-to-that) - [Turning inward](#cv-category-turning-inward) - [Self-care that turned into self-focus](#rich-node-0-group-16-subgroup-0-self-care-that-turned-into-self-focus) - [Main-character energy and entitlement](#rich-node-0-group-16-subgroup-1-main-character-energy-and-entitlement) - [Avoiding anything that feels hard](#rich-node-0-group-16-subgroup-2-avoiding-anything-that-feels-hard) **Evidence status:** Cameras pointed at other people40 records · 5 sub-topicsThe most repeated complaint outside the top answer: being recorded by a stranger who never asked. 40 records. Filming strangers and putting it online13 index entriesA camera pointed at somebody who never agreed to be in the shot. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Filming strangers and putting it online Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Filming strangers and putting it online 13 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 411 **Appears when:** Filming strangers and putting it online **What the pattern means:** The complaint splits in two and the records make the split explicit: the filming, and then the posting. Several commenters say the second half is the part that should never have become routine, and the examples they reach for are ordinary rather than extreme — a proposal in a restaurant, a street interview with a microphone, a stranger's bad afternoon uploaded to an audience that will never meet them. **What commenters described:** This weird asking strangers questions on the street with a mic and a cameraman. Have we lost the plot? **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 This one really gets me, especially with people who are clearly mentally unwell and children. From the replies♥ 67 And being a general menace to provoke it in the first place. From the replies♥ 60 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Filming without consent source record 101♥ 474 Later-arriving source I fear that someone is gonna film me while I am in public looking like a ogre and then they post that on internet and everyone makes fun of me 😭😭 posted about 23.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source I have never seen that happen in real life. posted about 21.6 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “actually fully legal to film anything” recurs across 2 of the 13 source records in Filming strangers and putting it online; the complete archive stays available below. 13index entries 13distinct source records 32.5%of parent category 1.4%of the complete index 4top-level comments 9replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 12other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments13 preserved records · 13 of 13 source records accounted for **Filming without consent**♥ 474source record 101 **And posting it to the Internet without consent**♥ 237source record 102 **The posting it part in particular is where it really shouldn’t be normalized**♥ 9source record 124 **I hate how in TV series when someone is going to propose in a restaurant every stranger starts to record it with their phones.**♥ 2source record 128 **It's actually fully legal to film anything you can see in a public space. Many don't realize you do not have a reasonable expectation of privacy in public, and anyone can film you for any reason and you have no legal recourse at all. Now if they follow you onto your property...**♥ 2source record 130 **\> It's actually fully legal to film anything you can see in a public space. Well that depends on which country you are in. Even if it's not illegal to do it, doesn't mean it should be normalized.**♥ 2source record 131 **This weird asking strangers questions on the street with a mic and a cameraman. Have we lost the plot?**♥ 4source record 411 **Filming strangers in public - pretty much no matter what they’re doing short of hate speech and crimes - and posting it online.**♥ 2source record 474 **Looking at you "auditors"**♥ 1source record 592 **I fear that someone is gonna film me while I am in public looking like a ogre and then they post that on internet and everyone makes fun of me 😭😭**♥ 1source record 620 **Put a camera and access to the internet in virtually anyone’s hands and this is what happens**♥ 1source record 632 **I have never seen that happen in real life.**♥ 1source record 718 **Fucking recording every single thing they do and recording people around them without their permission**♥ 1source record 847 Archive: 13 index entries preserve 13 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Provoking the reaction, then filming it2 index entriesRecords describing the confrontation being manufactured so that there is something worth posting. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Provoking the reaction, then filming it Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Provoking the reaction, then filming it 2 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 104 **Appears when:** Provoking the reaction, then filming it **What the pattern means:** Two records, and they describe a mechanism rather than a mood: behave badly enough to produce a reaction, then film the reaction. A hotel worker reports being filmed for enforcing a pool rule and describes the threat of a public video being used as leverage in an otherwise trivial dispute. **What commenters described:** I work at a condo hotel and people have filmed me just because I told them their toddlers are not permitted in the hot tub. People have learned they can bully others by threatening them with a public video **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I work at a condo hotel and people have filmed me just because I told them their toddlers are not permitted in the hot tub. People have learned they can bully others by threatening them with a public video From the replies♥ 10 Good on you tho, don’t put their babies in in there From the replies♥ 4 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source And being a general menace to provoke it in the first place. source record 103♥ 60 Later-arriving source I work at a condo hotel and people have filmed me just because I told them their toddlers are not permitted in the hot tub. People have learned they can bully others by threatening them with a public video posted about 17.3 hours after the source♥ 10 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 2 source records for Provoking the reaction, then filming it together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 2index entries 2distinct source records 5%of parent category 0.2%of the complete index 0top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 2other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments2 preserved records · 2 of 2 source records accounted for **And being a general menace to provoke it in the first place.**♥ 60source record 103 **I work at a condo hotel and people have filmed me just because I told them their toddlers are not permitted in the hot tub. People have learned they can bully others by threatening them with a public video**♥ 10source record 104 Archive: 2 index entries preserve 2 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs “It’s legal in public” — the argument that answer drew9 index entriesA reply branch that turned into a legal argument about what public space actually permits. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: “It’s legal in public” — the argument that answer drew Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### “It’s legal in public” — the argument that answer drew 9 source recordsDisputed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 113 **Appears when:** “It’s legal in public” — the argument that answer drew **What the pattern means:** An impromptu legal argument broke out under the filming answer, and it is the most specific thing in this theme. The point of agreement is that recording in public is generally lawful. The point commenters kept pressing is that lawfulness settles nothing about whether it is decent — and one reply argues the conduct people actually object to, getting in someone's face and threatening them, is already a separate offence. **What commenters described:** Hey cool, but… More important than informing people of the right to record in public is informing people what the legal definition of assault is (in most parts of the US anyway). Because as soon as that person starts to get up in someone’s face and make threats, it no longer matters that they are allowed to film, the real issue is that assault is occurring and is illegal (in the states anyway). Most people do not mind someone minding their own business and calmly filming in public. That is not what most people are objecting to, they are objecting to the assault part of it that often occurs when the person filming is trying to generate internet content. If more people understood they were experiencing assault and that assault is illegal, we might actually start to see the worst types of public filming vanish naturally because of laws already in place. So anyway, if someone is in your face yelling at you (and you did nothing wrong, so not self defense on their part) especially if they are literally threatening you, that’s assault and is illegal. **Limit:** Legal claims made by anonymous commenters about one jurisdiction. Recording and assault law differ by country and by state; nothing here is a statement of the law where you are. What replies pushed back on2 Hey cool, but… More important than informing people of the right to record in public is informing people what the legal definition of assault is (in most parts of the US anyway). Because as soon as that person starts to get up in someone’s face and make threats, it no longer matters that they are allowed to film, the real issue is that assault is occurring and is illegal (in the states anyway). Most people do not mind someone minding their own business and calmly filming in public. That is not what most people are objecting to, they are objecting to the assault part of it that often occurs when the person filming is trying to generate internet content. If more people understood they were experiencing assault and that assault is illegal, we might actually start to see the worst types of public filming vanish naturally because of laws already in place. So anyway, if someone is in your face yelling at you (and you did nothing wrong, so not self defense on their part) especially if they are literally threatening you, that’s assault and is illegal. Pushback♥ 5 Just need to clarify, you absolutely have no reasonable expectation of privacy in public. "Reasonableness" is the standard by which the US Supreme Court determines whether one's right to privacy has been violated. Since it appears that you disagree with those stating there is no right to privacy while in public, I thought I'd explain that this, indeed, is the law of the land in the US. Pushback♥ 2 #### Where commenters report limits Explicit limit or counterpoint Hey cool, but… More important than informing people of the right to record in public is informing people what the legal definition of assault is (in most parts of the US anyway). Because as soon as that person starts to get up in someone’s face and make threats, it no longer matters that they are allowed to film, the real issue is that assault is occurring and is illegal (in the states anyway). Most people do not mind someone minding their own business and calmly filming in public. That is not what most people are objecting to, they are objecting to the assault part of it that often occurs when the person filming is trying to generate internet content. If more people understood they were experiencing assault and that assault is illegal, we might actually start to see the worst types of public filming vanish naturally because of laws already in place. So anyway, if someone is in your face yelling at you (and you did nothing wrong, so not self defense on their part) especially if they are literally threatening you, that’s assault and is illegal. source record 113♥ 5 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source And the people claiming you have no right to privacy in public. Wtf Edit: no\\\* privacy source record 107♥ 31 Later-arriving source And I agree and did the same. Thanks for bringing that to everyone's attention. posted about 10.1 hours after the source♥ 2 Low-like source I'm thankfully not in the US. posted about 7.6 hours after the source♥ 2 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “right to privacy” recurs across 3 of the 9 source records in “It’s legal in public” — the argument that answer drew; the complete archive stays available below. 9index entries 9distinct source records 22.5%of parent category 0.9%of the complete index 0top-level comments 9replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 1explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for **And the people claiming you have no right to privacy in public. Wtf Edit: no\\\* privacy**♥ 31source record 107 **Just need to clarify, you absolutely have no reasonable expectation of privacy in public. "Reasonableness" is the standard by which the US Supreme Court determines whether one's right to privacy has been violated. Since it appears that you disagree with those stating there is no right to privacy while in public, I thought I'd explain that this, indeed, is the law of the land in the US.**♥ 2source record 108 **Yes, but just because it’s legal doesn’t make it okay.**♥ 6source record 109 **I definitely wasn't expressing an opinion about whether it's "ok," just clarifying what the law was in case that information would be helpful to anyone. I certainly agree that oftentimes what the law is and what we might think it should be are often far apart!**♥ 3source record 110 **Laws about assault exist and belong in this conversation. I made a longer reply above.**♥ 2source record 111 **And I agree and did the same. Thanks for bringing that to everyone's attention.**♥ 2source record 112 **Hey cool, but… More important than informing people of the right to record in public is informing people what the legal definition of assault is (in most parts of the US anyway). Because as soon as that person starts to get up in someone’s face and make threats, it no longer matters that they are allowed to film, the real issue is that assault is occurring and is illegal (in the states anyway). Most people do not mind someone minding their own business and calmly filming in public. That is not what most people are objecting to, they are objecting to the assault part of it that often occurs when the person filming is trying to generate internet content. If more people understood they were experiencing assault and that assault is illegal, we might actually start to see the worst types of public filming vanish naturally because of laws already in place. So anyway, if someone is in your face yelling at you (and you did nothing wrong, so not self defense on their part) especially if they are literally threatening you, that’s assault and is illegal.**♥ 5source record 113 **Absolutely. I didn't speak specifically about the filming aspect, but was only addressing the issue of a right to privacy in public. But, yours is a good point. In my jurisdiction, assault and battery is a valid criminal charge, but so is assault itself - like you said, a battery need not take place to have a valid criminal charge against someone. The assault is the threat of violence while the battery is the violence itself. The only other necessary element for assault (in addition to the threat and keep in mind, I'm speaking about the only jurisdiction in which I am licensed to practice) is the "apparent ability" to carry out that threat. Meaning, if someone says something over the telephone, that's not going to meet that element. But someone up in your face threatening to punch you would certainly - due to proximity - have the apparent ability to carry out their threat and could certainly be charged with assault. Thank you for pointing that out, as I'm sure that will be very helpful to anyone exposed to this type of behavior.**♥ 2source record 114 **I'm thankfully not in the US.**♥ 2source record 115 Archive: 9 index entries preserve 9 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Filming people who cannot push back10 index entriesCameras aimed at children, at people in crisis, and at people whose safety depends on not being seen. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Filming people who cannot push back Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Filming people who cannot push back 10 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 283 **Appears when:** Filming people who cannot push back **What the pattern means:** These records single out subjects who cannot meaningfully object: people who are homeless or in psychiatric crisis, and children. Two parents describe the anxiety as newly specific since having a daughter. One commenter widens it to friends, arguing that being filmed in order to be laughed at is the same act whatever the relationship. **What commenters described:** Recording people. Especially when you know they are homeless and/or addicted doing strange things. It’s usually a mental illness that put them in that position. People like to mock them and that’s just cruel AF. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 And the people claiming you have no right to privacy in public. Wtf Edit: no\\\* privacy From the replies♥ 31 Recording ANYBODY to make fun of them, even your friends. I sort of understand younger folks' relevance to go to gatherings & have fun; they're terrified they'll become a "viral video" From the replies♥ 18 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source This one really gets me, especially with people who are clearly mentally unwell and children. source record 106♥ 67 Later-arriving source But they're not doing it out of kindness, they're doing it for clicks, and forcing the person to feature in a video that will be broadcast across the world without their knowledge or consent. I'm mortified when people film near me in public, I can't imagine being vulnerable and desperate and having my image broadcast on the internet because some dickhead wanted some 'likes'. posted about 22.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source I mean it's cringe to do that, but they're still giving someone who is probably hungry some food. posted about 17.9 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 10 source records for Filming people who cannot push back together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 10index entries 10distinct source records 25%of parent category 1.1%of the complete index 2top-level comments 8replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments10 preserved records · 10 of 10 source records accounted for **This one really gets me, especially with people who are clearly mentally unwell and children.**♥ 67source record 106 **Or just like when people are vulnerable and at a low point in their lives …it’s so bizarre to me that it’s even legal**♥ 3source record 116 **Yep especially now that I have a daughter I HATE this.**♥ 18source record 121 **Same here!! I have so much anxiety about people taking/having photos of her!**♥ 9source record 122 **Agreed. I have a friend who can’t be on camera. It could put them in serious danger.**♥ 3source record 126 **Recording people. Especially when you know they are homeless and/or addicted doing strange things. It’s usually a mental illness that put them in that position. People like to mock them and that’s just cruel AF.**♥ 43source record 283 **Recording ANYBODY to make fun of them, even your friends. I sort of understand younger folks' relevance to go to gatherings & have fun; they're terrified they'll become a "viral video"**♥ 18source record 284 **Filming yourself giving food to poor people, or otherwise doing 'nice' things in public, just to post the footage online for clicks/ likes without the person's consent (or knowledge). There's a special place in hell for those self- absorbed chumps.**♥ 1source record 819 **I mean it's cringe to do that, but they're still giving someone who is probably hungry some food.**♥ 1source record 820 **But they're not doing it out of kindness, they're doing it for clicks, and forcing the person to feature in a video that will be broadcast across the world without their knowledge or consent. I'm mortified when people film near me in public, I can't imagine being vulnerable and desperate and having my image broadcast on the internet because some dickhead wanted some 'likes'.**♥ 1source record 821 Archive: 10 index entries preserve 10 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Cameras that are simply always on6 index entriesWearables, number-plate readers and street cameras, named as recording that nobody opted into. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Cameras that are simply always on Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Cameras that are simply always on 6 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 117 **Appears when:** Cameras that are simply always on **What the pattern means:** Rather than a person holding a phone, these name infrastructure: smart glasses, street cameras, plate-reader networks. What commenters report is the speed of the change more than the technology itself — the sense that it arrived without there ever being a moment where anyone was asked. **What commenters described:** So scary how quickly this has been normalised and the pervert glasses are just awful. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 "Hey Meta, stop recording" Allegedly. If they get upset, they're just telling on themselves. From the replies♥ 6 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source So scary how quickly this has been normalised and the pervert glasses are just awful. source record 117♥ 25 Later-arriving source Get ready for FLOCK posted about 14.9 hours after the source♥ 5 Low-like source Cameras everywhere posted about 10.3 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 6 source records for Cameras that are simply always on together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 6index entries 6distinct source records 15%of parent category 0.6%of the complete index 2top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 6other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for **So scary how quickly this has been normalised and the pervert glasses are just awful.**♥ 25source record 117 **"Hey Meta, stop recording" Allegedly. If they get upset, they're just telling on themselves.**♥ 6source record 118 **Meta glasses**♥ 5source record 120 **Get ready for FLOCK**♥ 5source record 123 **Surveillance cameras everywhere.**♥ 8source record 359 **Cameras everywhere**♥ 1source record 795 Archive: 6 index entries preserve 6 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs What people publish about themselves44 records · 4 sub-topicsThe other half of the camera problem — what people hand over without being asked at all. 44 records. Sharing every detail of a life11 index entriesHow much of an ordinary life now goes online as the default setting. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Sharing every detail of a life Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Sharing every detail of a life 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 468 **Appears when:** Sharing every detail of a life **What the pattern means:** The common version of oversharing here is not one disclosure but a default: a life documented unless some reason not to comes up. The records that add detail point at what travels along with it — family conflict, children, an address — and one reframes the whole habit as living on the internet rather than posting to it. **What commenters described:** Living your entire life on the internet. Exploiting children for clicks, airing family drama, giving personal details, announcing your location. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I would add, posting Photos of your children to this as well. It's too much. From the replies♥ 2 I just upvoted this. And then wrote a message to you. From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Sharing every detail of your life with the internet source record 263♥ 64 Later-arriving source Using social media. posted about 22.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Oversharing on social media. posted about 3.1 hours after the source #### What the counts show The exact phrase “posting everything online” recurs across 2 of the 11 source records in Sharing every detail of a life; the complete archive stays available below. 11index entries 11distinct source records 25%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 10top-level comments 1replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 11other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **Sharing every detail of your life with the internet**♥ 64source record 263 **Oversharing in general.**♥ 4source record 264 **Posting personal information online**♥ 8source record 360 **Living your entire life on the internet. Exploiting children for clicks, airing family drama, giving personal details, announcing your location.**♥ 2source record 468 **Social media**♥ 1source record 775 **Caring more about the opinions of strangers on the internet than people in your personal life**♥ 1source record 792 **Sharing everything about oneself online**♥ 1source record 800 **Posting everything online. !\[gif\](giphy|PgKc6XWRjJ4GgkAevA)**♥ 1source record 806 **Posting everything online**♥ 1source record 814 **Using social media.**♥ 1source record 851 **Oversharing on social media.**♥ 0source record 997 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Location, data and the identity you hand over13 index entriesThe specific details commenters said give away more than people realise. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Location, data and the identity you hand over Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Location, data and the identity you hand over 13 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 355 **Appears when:** Location, data and the identity you hand over **What the pattern means:** The one privacy node the thread argued with itself about. The answer calls permanent location sharing strange; replies separate passive tracking for a lost phone from somebody checking where you are, and one commenter pushes back hard that between consenting adults it is convenience and safety rather than surveillance. Around that sit smaller records about details that identify a person without anyone noticing — a name, a group invite, a sign in a front yard. **What commenters described:** Location tracking. It’s weird. People can try and justify it all they want, but it’s weird to normalize tracking somebody on a tracking device 24/7\. The only time it’s acceptable is when it’s a parent doing it to their young child. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I get why some people have passive location tracking for if the device is stolen or the person goes missing, but the ones where people are constantly checking it is ridiculous. You don’t need to know where your (non-toddler) children, friends, or spouse is at all times. From the replies♥ 2 You get to decide what is and isn’t acceptable for consenting adults?? My husband and I both find it preferable, more convenient, and SAFER than the alternative of texting or calling someone who may be in transit (e.g., if I can see that he’s already left the store where I remembered something we need, it saves him from looking at his phone while he should be paying attention to his surroundings instead of reading a text). If either of us wants to turn off our own location, of course we are free to do so. Who are YOU to say it’s unacceptable for us to use that feature? From the replies♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Location tracking. It’s weird. People can try and justify it all they want, but it’s weird to normalize tracking somebody on a tracking device 24/7\. The only time it’s acceptable is when it’s a parent doing it to their young child. source record 355♥ 10 Later-arriving source Yeah, that doesn't actually happen. posted about 21.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Sorry, what? Like you think nobody's email should have their real name attached to it? Why? posted about 21.7 hours after the source♥ 1 #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Children as content“on social media” · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-11-subgroup-0-children-as-content) #### What the counts show The exact phrase “on social media” recurs across 2 of the 13 source records in Location, data and the identity you hand over; the complete archive stays available below. 13index entries 13distinct source records 29.5%of parent category 1.4%of the complete index 8top-level comments 5replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 3asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments13 preserved records · 13 of 13 source records accounted for **Location tracking. It’s weird. People can try and justify it all they want, but it’s weird to normalize tracking somebody on a tracking device 24/7\. The only time it’s acceptable is when it’s a parent doing it to their young child.**♥ 10source record 355 **I get why some people have passive location tracking for if the device is stolen or the person goes missing, but the ones where people are constantly checking it is ridiculous. You don’t need to know where your (non-toddler) children, friends, or spouse is at all times.**♥ 2source record 356 **You get to decide what is and isn’t acceptable for consenting adults?? My husband and I both find it preferable, more convenient, and SAFER than the alternative of texting or calling someone who may be in transit (e.g., if I can see that he’s already left the store where I remembered something we need, it saves him from looking at his phone while he should be paying attention to his surroundings instead of reading a text). If either of us wants to turn off our own location, of course we are free to do so. Who are YOU to say it’s unacceptable for us to use that feature?**♥ 2source record 357 **Having your name in your email**♥ 2source record 456 **Adding people without permission to WhatsApp groups.**♥ 2source record 475 **Sharing everything. On social media, exposing everything means scammers have access to many things businesses (like finance) may use to authenticate you, making it easier to impersonate you, get into your banking/ health care online profiles, steal your identity. With people you meet in person: not everyone you meet is going to be your friend. You don't want to find out that Susan from the corner shop doesn't like you by hearing from someone else that you did something awful/ embarrassing/ possibly illegal/ reputation-damning.**♥ 1source record 680 **Eh. It’s all in the intentions. If you’re doing this to track people out of paranoia over what they’re doing, then yeah it’s weird. But for most people, it’s not for that reason. It’s just for a general safety measure. So long as each person is consenting, idk why it’s such a problem. Why would it weird you out if someone was checking that their loved one made it home okay if they all agreed to share locations to take extra steps to ensure they’re looking out for each other? 🫪**♥ 1source record 701 **Sorry, what? Like you think nobody's email should have their real name attached to it? Why?**♥ 1source record 720 **Putting your name in your front yard. Anyone could call your house and rob you if you're not there.**♥ 1source record 767 **Yeah, that doesn't actually happen.**♥ 1source record 769 **Giving up your privacy for a little bit of convenience or a few dopamine hits...**♥ 1source record 798 **Connecting personal information to our phones, such as banking, pictures, gps location, etc**♥ 1source record 825 **Sharing your location with everyone who follows you on social media**♥ 1source record 856 Archive: 13 index entries preserve 13 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs The phone that is never put down16 index entriesChecking and scrolling, including from commenters describing the reflex in themselves. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: The phone that is never put down Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### The phone that is never put down 16 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 259 **Appears when:** The phone that is never put down **What the pattern means:** The answer is short and popular; what makes the node useful is that several replies describe the habit in the writer rather than in other people. One records losing a phone for a week and being angry at how much of an ordinary life turned out to run through it. Another argues the reflex is not vanity but simply where everything now arrives. **What commenters described:** 100%, the older I get though the worse I am. I'll be an ipad granny at this rate, won't take my tablets without my tablet. If it wasn't so normalised then we'd be less likely to give in and we'd all be better off for it. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 1) there has \*always\* been people who made a career out of reviewing things. There’s a reason Michelin star restaurants are a thing. 2) there’s literally no difference between streaming and live tv. Pushback♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Constant phone checking source record 258♥ 81 Later-arriving source Normalizing phone usage at dinner table. posted about 19.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Streaming. Watching someone watch something is weird. Or you can frame it as: you consuming someone else consuming something without any of the tangible benefits. It’s an odd interest and I do silently judge people for it. posted about 2.9 hours after the source #### What the counts show The exact phrase “on our phones” recurs across 2 of the 16 source records in The phone that is never put down; the complete archive stays available below. 16index entries 16distinct source records 36.4%of parent category 1.7%of the complete index 10top-level comments 6replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 14other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments16 preserved records · 16 of 16 source records accounted for **Constant phone checking**♥ 81source record 258 **100%, the older I get though the worse I am. I'll be an ipad granny at this rate, won't take my tablets without my tablet. If it wasn't so normalised then we'd be less likely to give in and we'd all be better off for it.**♥ 18source record 259 **Yeah bc most of our lives are on our phones. That’s how people reach out to us, how we receive updates on things, get emails and contacts from important people, etc. It becomes a habit to check our phones because that’s what connects us together. There needs to be a way to find balance because this can create a sense of anxiety and stress that doesn’t ever stop.**♥ 3source record 260 **I left my phone on the roof of my car after pumping gas and drove away. By the time I got back to it, it had been run over repeatedly and was pulverized. It took a week to go through insurance to get a new one and I was completely lost without it! I was so disgusted and angry at how much of our lives we are forced to live through our phones. It was ridiculous.**♥ 2source record 261 **Yes! I have had people get upset when I don't reply quickly Some situations that prevented me include: Being in the ocean surfing Taking a shower Eating dinner At a Dr's appt**♥ 2source record 415 **Someome texting you asking hey what's up? And you reply nothing and then they call you.**♥ 2source record 448 **Being chronically on our phones**♥ 2source record 458 **scrolling**♥ 1source record 679 **And then they wanna talk which is fine but if you need an 8 hour conversation to avoid rejection dysphoria, don't expect me to pick up the phone. I try to be nice whenever I can but I cannot be your whole world. Get therapy.**♥ 1source record 691 **Constant scrolling**♥ 1source record 773 **Constant use of smart phones and the lack of laws to hold tech companies accountable for the effect their products have on individuals, families, communities, societies and humanity in general just to protect “innovation”.**♥ 1source record 824 **Can we all put our godforsaken phones down for 20 minutes??? At least while driving?? And when you have to speak to present human beings? It's become so normalized. People think nothing of it. Wtf is happening**♥ 1source record 833 **Normalizing phone usage at dinner table.**♥ 1source record 843 **Smart phones have made people fucking stupid.**♥ 1source record 865 **Streaming. Watching someone watch something is weird. Or you can frame it as: you consuming someone else consuming something without any of the tangible benefits. It’s an odd interest and I do silently judge people for it.**♥ 0source record 940 **1) there has \*always\* been people who made a career out of reviewing things. There’s a reason Michelin star restaurants are a thing. 2) there’s literally no difference between streaming and live tv.**♥ 3source record 941 Archive: 16 index entries preserve 16 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Saying it online as though nobody is listening4 index entriesPosting on the assumption that it is anonymous, or that it does not follow you. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Saying it online as though nobody is listening Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Saying it online as though nobody is listening 4 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 395 **Appears when:** Saying it online as though nobody is listening **What the pattern means:** Four short records about the same miscalculation: writing as though the account is anonymous and the words will stay where they were typed. What they name is not the cruelty itself but the belief that it is free. **What commenters described:** Talking shit on the internet thinking there will be no real life consequences **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Talking shit on the internet thinking there will be no real life consequences source record 395♥ 3 Later-arriving source Talking shit on the internet and thinking they are anonymous. posted about 19.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Being rude and hateful to people on social media. posted about 13.1 hours after the source♥ 2 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “talking shit on the internet” recurs across 2 of the 4 source records in Saying it online as though nobody is listening; the complete archive stays available below. 4index entries 4distinct source records 9.1%of parent category 0.4%of the complete index 4top-level comments 0replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 4other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments4 preserved records · 4 of 4 source records accounted for **Talking shit on the internet thinking there will be no real life consequences**♥ 3source record 395 **Being rude and hateful to people on social media.**♥ 2source record 472 **Trolling**♥ 1source record 789 **Talking shit on the internet and thinking they are anonymous.**♥ 1source record 837 Archive: 4 index entries preserve 4 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Drink, smoke and bet115 records · 6 sub-topicsLegal, advertised, and named by more commenters than any other group of substances. 115 records. Heavy drinking, and drinking at all26 index entriesThe thread's second-largest answer, and the commenters who widened it from heavy drinking to drinking. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Heavy drinking, and drinking at all Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Heavy drinking, and drinking at all 26 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 133 **Appears when:** Heavy drinking, and drinking at all **What the pattern means:** The thread's second-biggest answer arrived as heavy drinking and the first reply immediately widened it to drinking as such. What the records report is ordinariness rather than extremes — nearly every adult activity organised around it — and the commenters who stopped describe noticing the scale of it only afterwards. **What commenters described:** Honestly, kind of drinking in general. We have just socially accepted drinking poison that is genuinely bad for you in multiple ways and can cause you to be a danger to yourself and others. I’m not a teetotaler or anything like that, it just surprises me sometimes when I really think about it. **Limit:** Personal accounts of drinking and of quitting, not clinical evidence. Where a commenter cites a health body, the citation is theirs and is not checked here. What the replies added2 Honestly, kind of drinking in general. We have just socially accepted drinking poison that is genuinely bad for you in multiple ways and can cause you to be a danger to yourself and others. I’m not a teetotaler or anything like that, it just surprises me sometimes when I really think about it. From the replies♥ 140 It fucks me up that weed in many places is illegal, with concentrated forms being a felony (Texas), but alcohol is advertised and available everywhere and easily one of the worst intoxicants From the replies♥ 93 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Honestly, kind of drinking in general. We have just socially accepted drinking poison that is genuinely bad for you in multiple ways and can cause you to be a danger to yourself and others. I’m not a teetotaler or anything like that, it just surprises me sometimes when I really think about it. source record 133♥ 140 Later-arriving source I'd actually say casual drinking even... posted about 22.7 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Everything is drugs today posted about 6.7 hours after the source #### What the counts show The exact phrase “the prospective of just plain observation” recurs across 2 of the 26 source records in Heavy drinking, and drinking at all; the complete archive stays available below. 26index entries 26distinct source records 22.6%of parent category 2.7%of the complete index 7top-level comments 19replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 3asks a question 0says they intend to try it 23other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments26 preserved records · 26 of 26 source records accounted for **Heavy drinking**♥ 284source record 132 **Honestly, kind of drinking in general. We have just socially accepted drinking poison that is genuinely bad for you in multiple ways and can cause you to be a danger to yourself and others. I’m not a teetotaler or anything like that, it just surprises me sometimes when I really think about it.**♥ 140source record 133 **Agreed. I’m tired of nearly ever activity for adults involving drinking.**♥ 21source record 140 **Even animals love to get drunk on fermented fruit. Is it really that surprising?**♥ 15source record 141 **Very heavy drinking drastically negatively impacted my life and now that I'm sober I really try not to think about all the missed opportunities. I get super bummed that my 40 yr old friends are still cancelling plans due to hangovers and wheezing on walks because they spend most of their free time sitting at the bar. Untold amounts of money spent to poison and hobble yourself is NOT a good time, it's just the effect of good marketing.**♥ 9source record 142 **That kind of goes for anything unhealthy we put into our bodies. Processed sugar, glucose corn syrup, caffeine ... none of that is particularly good for you. Why single out drinking. We all do realize that sugar is toxic, right? The notably difference is that sugar is not metabolized by the brain.**♥ 2source record 162 **Do any of those cause you to become a serious danger to yourself or others when a lot is consumed at once? I’m sure there’s outliers that could be argued here, but there is a very clear difference between alcohol and sugar, corn syrup, or caffeine. Not one of those three is even comparable with how many deaths alcohol causes a year. I really didn’t mean to or know this would cause such strong opinions. I was coming at it from the prospective of just plain observation, like the concept of aliens seeing our behavior and being confused kind of thing. I am not passing judgement on every single person who drinks, but I am a little confused how any of your three examples even come close to the dangers of alcohol in anyway, especially deaths caused by it as a poison and as an inebriant that causes you to do dangerous behavior that risks other people being killed by your actions. They’re just not even in the same category in those aspects.**♥ 3source record 163 **Completely agree. It’s really gotten to the point where we almost expect it and it’s seen as abnormal to \*not\* drink.**♥ 2source record 164 **Drinking alcohol.**♥ 8source record 338 **Alcohol and drugs**♥ 4source record 397 **Alcohol is a drug. So drugs. No offense.**♥ 3source record 398 **Drinking and gambling**♥ 1source record 489 **I'd actually say casual drinking even...**♥ 1source record 603 **It's quite possible without alcohol we may have never survived civilization.**♥ 1source record 605 **Well, it's been around practically since the beginning of human civilization.**♥ 1source record 606 **Mean, a \*lot\* of animals do things that will get them either drunk or high, so it’s not really that surprising. Deer will intentionally eat rotten fruit to get drunk, they’ll also royally fuck up a cannabis farm. Dolphins chew on pufferfish to get high off the neurotoxin they produce Koala’s literally live off of eucalyptus that 1) they can’t naturally tolerate on their own. Babies eat their moms excrement to build a tolerance for the real thing 2) gives them barely any nutritional value 3) keeps them high out of their minds 24/7 And those are just the ones I can remember off the top of my head**♥ 1source record 607 **Check out a few posts on r/stopdrinking and see if it shifts your perspective a little. :-/**♥ 1source record 609 **Alcohol is also one of like the only two substances that we are almost certain give you cancer. As much as we can know what causes cancer, alcohol is at the top of the list.**♥ 1source record 610 **Correct! Don't you dare smoke cannabis though because reasons etc.**♥ 1source record 616 **\>I really didn’t mean to or know this would cause such strong opinions. I was coming at it from the prospective of just plain observation As was I, and I didn't see anything seriously \*wrong\* with what you were saying. I was merely adding to it, while adding my own adjustment. I will note that, while deaths as a result of alcohol per year in the United States can be quite high, deaths from heart disease and diabetes (both frequently result from lifelong sugar consumption) are among leading causes of death. But your comment is fine. We're nothing like in an argument or anything. Cheer! :)**♥ 1source record 639 **These youngsters going to this crazy parties and they all butt chug. It’s super dangerous.**♥ 1source record 772 **Alcoholism**♥ 1source record 805 **Alcohol. Period. If you stop drinking and look back even at yourself it makes no sense. Zero benefit unless you really like drinkers**♥ 1source record 840 **Everything is drugs today**♥ 0source record 1027 **That’s an exaggeration. But alcohol specifically is a psychoactive depressant, which can cause intoxication, dependence, and withdrawal. The distinction is about it’s pharmacoLOGICAL effects. Not whether something is legal or socially accepted. Your statement is an overstatement.**♥ 1source record 1028 **No. You probably should start using google though. Welcome to Reddit, where sharing facts can be taken as an insult. I guess intelligence is sooooo offensive lmao.**♥ 1source record 1030 Archive: 26 index entries preserve 26 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs “It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the thread38 index entriesThe longest disagreement in this theme, between people who lost years to alcohol and people who think the reaction has overshot. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: “It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the thread Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### “It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the thread 38 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 143 **Appears when:** “It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the thread **What the pattern means:** The longest single disagreement in this theme, and neither side is a straw man. One group argues bars and drinks are load-bearing social infrastructure, particularly for young or socially anxious people. The other answers from inside the outcome: several commenters describe becoming alcoholics by way of exactly that reasoning. A third position surfaces late, that both are true and the black-and-white register is the real problem. **What commenters described:** I think we've gone too far in the anti-alcohol territory. People, especially young people, need those social events. Alcohol is social lube whether people want to admit it or not. It's not healthy for everyone to be so introverted and isolated. **Limit:** Two groups of people generalising from their own experience of alcohol. Neither side's account tells any particular reader what their own risk is. What the replies added1 I feel you on the social anxiety. I have severe social anxiety as well. Used alcohol and it ended up horrible. Alcohol quickly becomes a crutch and will make your day to day anxiety worse. The juice ain't worth the squeeze. Everyone starts off with just a little bit. No one sets out to be an alcoholic. IMO any perceived "value" is outweighed by the massive consequences. I'd be willing to bet that the families that haven't been negatively affected by alcohol are few and far between. You keep saying social benefits when it is the most harmful drug out there. Tops heroin and fentanyl. There is no "safe" level of alcohol. \[link removed\] If you must have a drug for social anxiety, go to the Dr and get a pill. Not benzos obviously. Buspar, SSRI, hydroxyzine, proponolol, maybe a mood stabilizer or an atypical antipsychotic. You're medically supervised and aren't going to swerve into a tree. The money you spend on booze could be going to therapy for your social anxiety. You could actually be developing some people skills. Well have to agree to disagree. I can understand why you say I'm speaking about alcohol abuse. What you consider a strength (disinhibition) is what I consider negative. A potent drug that predisposes you to making bad decisions, especially in brains that haven't fully developed yet and are likely to be making bad decisions, is a recipe for disaster. If it were possible to just run a lamp and have a genie remove all alcohol from the world it'd be a better place. Pushback♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source If you "need" alcohol in order to not be isolated, then you have a problem. (Source: This is exactly how I became an alcoholic. I told myself that I couldn't socialize without drinking.) source record 144♥ 32 Later-arriving source I'll feel ya on that. Non addictive anxiety meds are kinda asssss. Alcohol is Euphoric so it does make it seem awesome in the moment. Alcohol really fucked up my life,family, etc etc so I was a bit riled up lol my bad. If only we could all be responsible :s posted about 24.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source That wasn't what was said. I said that if a person NEEDS to drink in order to socialize they have an addiction issue. I thought I was very clear but apparently not. Edit: yeah username checks out. You are too drunk to read apparently. posted about 1.8 hours after the source #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argumentSwap instead of subtract · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-1-hygiene-nursing-homes-and-the-caregiving-argument)[Religion, culture and “it is just what you do”Attach it to an existing routine · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-3-religion-culture-and-it-is-just-what-you-do)[The people who have the diagnosis, answeringAttach it to an existing routine · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-4-subgroup-4-the-people-who-have-the-diagnosis-answering) #### What the counts show Across 38 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 38index entries 38distinct source records 33%of parent category 4%of the complete index 0top-level comments 38replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 7asks a question 1says they intend to try it 30other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Attach it to an existing routine **3**Swap instead of subtract **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments38 preserved records · 38 of 38 source records accounted for **I think we've gone too far in the anti-alcohol territory. People, especially young people, need those social events. Alcohol is social lube whether people want to admit it or not. It's not healthy for everyone to be so introverted and isolated.**♥ 12source record 143 **If you "need" alcohol in order to not be isolated, then you have a problem. (Source: This is exactly how I became an alcoholic. I told myself that I couldn't socialize without drinking.)**♥ 32source record 144 **Exactly. This kind of mindset creates alcoholics. No one \*thinks\* they’re going to become an alcoholic. It’s just kind of… happens when you heavily rely on alcohol to be social. Been there, done that. Edit: lot of y’all giving us shit for this sentiment are probably alcoholics in denial. I was too.**♥ 14source record 145 **Think on a macro scale, not a micro scale. I'm speaking generally. Parties, bars, etc are all social events. I don't know why you're seeing this in such a black and white way, but I guess it's because of your own experience.**♥ 4source record 146 **Alcohol has been the world's most socially acceptable drug since the dawn of humanity. We don't need more pro-drinking campaigns because it's already accepted that drinking "isn't as bad" as other drugs, even though it very much is. Alcoholism flies under the radar for so many people because it's so incredibly normalized. This is what happened to me, and what I've observed in people I know who don't think they have a problem because binge drinking is "normal."**♥ 14source record 147 **Because some of us used alcohol the “correct” “social” way and still became alcoholics. We literally know how dangerous alcohol can be because we’ve lived the ruinous results. The body is unforgiving and alcohol is uniquely sinister in how it rewires your brain’s reward pathways. No one chooses to become an alcoholic, it just happens sometimes. I’m not telling you to never drink, I still do occasionally even though I really shouldn’t anymore. But \*encouraging\* it as a social lubricant is reckless.**♥ 11source record 148 **Everything is black and white on the internet and the most important source is themselves.**♥ 2source record 149 **Crazy take lol.**♥ 4source record 150 **I don’t really think it is a crazy take at all! Nobody is saying people should go out binge drinking every day but it’s also ridiculous to deny that bars or clubs are integral social gathering spaces in our society, especially to young people.**♥ 14source record 151 **Orrrr how about we bring back low cost third spaces that don’t revolve around substances and are also not overstimulating? Bars are super busy & overstimulating, not a welcoming environment for all young people**♥ 4source record 153 **This tbh. I really enjoy a drink occasionally, do not care for going to bars**♥ 2source record 154 **You can't really go to far into anti alcohol territory. It is literally THE drug that causes the most harm to society. This might surprise you but introverted doesn't mean you don't know how to socialize. You can absolutely socialize in different ways that don't involve bars. I don't see how you can reccomend literally poison as use "not healthy" as an argument. Today someone will try it for the first time and battle alcoholism until they die. Someone is going to crash and die. Someone is going have lifelong sexual trauma because they went to the bar and went home with the wrong person. Some dude is going to come home drunk and beat his wife and kids. WHO says 2.6 MILLION people are going to die this year due to alcohol.\[link removed\] But yes, we need it because we don't want to challenge young people to develop their social skills.**♥ 2source record 155 **"You can socialize without bars” is a non sequitur. Of course you can. The argument is it's a social lubricant, not that its a requirement. You're arguing against alcohol abuse, while I'm talking about the social value alcohol can have. Those aren't the same argument. I mean obviously people can socialize without alcohol. I'm saying alcohol has a real social benefit for a lot of people like me who havesocial anxiety. It can make social situations feel less intimidating, and be part of shared experiences. You can think those benefits aren't worth the risks, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. And the WHO statistic doesn't really prove what you're using it to prove. Yes, alcohol causes an enormous amount of harm. Im not disputing that. But saying millions of deaths are attributable to alcohol doesn't somehow mean every individual use of alcohol is equally harmful or that alcohol has no social benefits whatsoever. That's like saying something can't have any value because it carries significant risk. The examples you're giving are also the extremes: alcoholism, drunk driving, Those are very real problems, and they're exactly why responsible drinking and reasonable regulation matter. Like anything else, drinking requires responsibility.**♥ 3source record 156 **I feel you on the social anxiety. I have severe social anxiety as well. Used alcohol and it ended up horrible. Alcohol quickly becomes a crutch and will make your day to day anxiety worse. The juice ain't worth the squeeze. Everyone starts off with just a little bit. No one sets out to be an alcoholic. IMO any perceived "value" is outweighed by the massive consequences. I'd be willing to bet that the families that haven't been negatively affected by alcohol are few and far between. You keep saying social benefits when it is the most harmful drug out there. Tops heroin and fentanyl. There is no "safe" level of alcohol. \[link removed\] If you must have a drug for social anxiety, go to the Dr and get a pill. Not benzos obviously. Buspar, SSRI, hydroxyzine, proponolol, maybe a mood stabilizer or an atypical antipsychotic. You're medically supervised and aren't going to swerve into a tree. The money you spend on booze could be going to therapy for your social anxiety. You could actually be developing some people skills. Well have to agree to disagree. I can understand why you say I'm speaking about alcohol abuse. What you consider a strength (disinhibition) is what I consider negative. A potent drug that predisposes you to making bad decisions, especially in brains that haven't fully developed yet and are likely to be making bad decisions, is a recipe for disaster. If it were possible to just run a lamp and have a genie remove all alcohol from the world it'd be a better place.**♥ 2source record 157 **See my experience with alcohol was different. I have a lot of amazing memories and experiences that were helped by social drinking. Its worth the squeeze for me. But luckily im also one that is able to control my intake. And I'm on anti-anxiety medication which helps day to day but isn't nearly the same thing when it comes to social anxiety. Its just not comparable. Everyone has to make a choice for themselves, I'm just sayinh blanket "its bad" statments about alcohol aren't really applicable to everyone and every situation/use.**♥ 1source record 158 **I promise you, we have not “gone too far” in that sense whatsoever. Source: I’m a licensed addiction therapist**♥ 2source record 159 **I'm just glad I grew up when I did. I feel like Gen-Z are making their lives more difficult than they need to be, and then pining over some lost time that was before them. Everyone is trying to optimise themselves instead of just living. Even if you're not drinking, that sort of environment just allows people to drop their guard and just be silly. I feel like I know who somebody is after I've had a few beers with them, for better or for worse.**♥ 2source record 160 **What isnt heslthy is depending on a drug in order to socialize**♥ 2source record 161 **I understand that's gone way down w GenZ**♥ 2source record 169 **Yup and if there is no drinking involved most won’t show up 😅**♥ 1source record 589 **and stuff advertised as sober, let’s be real here, are so BORING. it’s like there’s a group of people who drink socially, and health conscious sober straight edge gym rats. i can’t fit into either of those, i don’t want to go hiking 😭😭😭**♥ 1source record 590 **It’s so fun though**♥ 1source record 591 **Not just the internet, people in general just live in a black and white world which is funny cause many wear rose coloured glasses And along with that so many have a closed mind and dont know how to accept they can be wrong**♥ 1source record 642 **Not just the internet, people in general just live in a black and white world which is funny cause many wear rose coloured glasses And along with that so many have a closed mind and dont know how to accept they can be wrong**♥ 1source record 643 **\*Because some of us used alcohol the “correct” “social” way and still became alcoholics\* And a lot more of us didn't. But you guys who have problems with alcohol like to go on and lecture everyone about alcohol being a problem. No, the problem is people being unable to drink responsibly and now you want to ruin it for everyone else.**♥ 1source record 644 **I'll feel ya on that. Non addictive anxiety meds are kinda asssss. Alcohol is Euphoric so it does make it seem awesome in the moment. Alcohol really fucked up my life,family, etc etc so I was a bit riled up lol my bad. If only we could all be responsible :s**♥ 1source record 646 **Yeah, anyone who can't interact without alcohol needs treatment for their alcoholism.**♥ 1source record 648 **Did you know that you can enjoy a few drinks socially without being an alcoholic? Wild, I know! This whole thread has been extremely illuminating on how many holier-than-thou people have utterly black and white thinking.**♥ 3source record 649 **It's possible to drink without being an alcoholic. Just because you want to get just a bit more loose in a social setting does not mean you have a serious problem with drinking.**♥ 3source record 650 **That wasn't what was said. I said that if a person NEEDS to drink in order to socialize they have an addiction issue. I thought I was very clear but apparently not. Edit: yeah username checks out. You are too drunk to read apparently.**♥ 0source record 651 **And you said that in response to someone who never claimed that anybody in particular needs alcohol to socialize. What they said was that people need social events and alcohol is a lubricant in social settings. I don't need alcohol to socialize, but especially when I was younger, I tended to be more social and have more fun when there were drinks at a gathering. I'm glad that there is less drinking in younger generations, but there something has been lost and not yet replaced.**♥ 2source record 652 **Girl, why are you being so obtuse about this? It's social lubricant. That doesn't mean people \*can't\* socialize without alcohol, just that some people find it helpful in socially anxious settings. Are you okay?**♥ 2source record 653 **Homie you are ignoring what theyre actually saying and for what reason I truly couldnt say. If\*\*\* if. If. If... you neeeeeeed alcohol to socialize... you may have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, in fact you probably do. The idea that there should be \*less\* sober campaigning is absolutely a crazy take because there are very real people, young and old suffering from alcoholism and a society that screams "no! Its great! Its a season(?)".. love the use of the word obtuse, very ironic here.**♥ 1source record 654 **Its just weird behavior to be an extremist that extrapolates the absolute worst-case scenarios as what always happens. 💀 like yes, obviously alcoholism is bad. We're all in agreement there, no need to be weird about it.**♥ 1source record 655 **Maturity is realizing that there are different seasons of life. Notice how Gen Z is so miserable?**♥ 1source record 666 **There are plenty of other social things that young people can do besides hang out in bars or clubs, but it is necessary to have some kind of friend network to do it. Even back in my wild binge drinking doing drugs teen/ early 20 days ( 80s) we ( my social group) didn’t spend a lot of time in bars. We did occasionally but we mainly all hung out at someone’s house and had our own parties.**♥ 1source record 667 **\[link removed\]**♥ 1source record 668 **Reddit has a really weird hate boner for alcohol**♥ 1source record 669 Archive: 38 index entries preserve 38 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Alcohol measured against every other drug15 index entriesAnswers that set alcohol beside cannabis and tobacco and ask why the legal one is the accepted one. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Alcohol measured against every other drug Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Alcohol measured against every other drug 15 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 134 **Appears when:** Alcohol measured against every other drug **What the pattern means:** The comparison the thread kept returning to: a legal, advertised drug set beside ones that carry criminal penalties. Commenters name lobbying as the explanation and point at the etiquette gap — a conference where brandy is poured and then driven home from. A counterweight comes from inside the same branch, arguing that cannabis advocates overstate their case just as badly. **What commenters described:** It fucks me up that weed in many places is illegal, with concentrated forms being a felony (Texas), but alcohol is advertised and available everywhere and easily one of the worst intoxicants **Limit:** Comparative harm claims made by commenters, in both directions, and not verified on this page. What the replies added2 I just got back from a business conference. I was offered drinking and cigars. Can't we normalize pizza and bongs? The worst part these guys were chugging brandy then getting in a car. From the replies♥ 43 I'm tired of stoners acting like they're superior to alcoholics tbh From the replies♥ 14 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source It fucks me up that weed in many places is illegal, with concentrated forms being a felony (Texas), but alcohol is advertised and available everywhere and easily one of the worst intoxicants source record 134♥ 93 Later-arriving source The stigma around weed is one of the most ridiculous things ever lol, weed is genuinely one of the most harmless drugs. posted about 21.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Nah it’s that weed is superior to alcohol rather than stoners being superior to alcoholics posted about 5.1 hours after the source♥ -2 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “superior to alcoholics” recurs across 2 of the 15 source records in Alcohol measured against every other drug; the complete archive stays available below. 15index entries 15distinct source records 13%of parent category 1.6%of the complete index 0top-level comments 15replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 14other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments15 preserved records · 15 of 15 source records accounted for **It fucks me up that weed in many places is illegal, with concentrated forms being a felony (Texas), but alcohol is advertised and available everywhere and easily one of the worst intoxicants**♥ 93source record 134 **I just got back from a business conference. I was offered drinking and cigars. Can't we normalize pizza and bongs? The worst part these guys were chugging brandy then getting in a car.**♥ 43source record 135 **\>chugging brandy That makes me want to blow chunks.**♥ 13source record 136 **Lobbying.**♥ 16source record 137 **And free slave labor in the prison system**♥ 11source record 138 **I agree. Cannabis is so much better for us. I’m prescribed it, for fucks sake. But I have to be covert about my gummies or soft caps at a restaurant while people get pissed drunk on poison. 🙄**♥ 3source record 139 **Really any substance. Marijuana, tobacco and vapes. If someone wants to partake, not my problem nor do I care. But people will act like addicts if they cant smoke. Smoking a joint on your lunch break to cope with the day is as unhealthy of an addiction as daily drinking, but it often seems like drinking is more frown upon than persistent smoking**♥ 14source record 165 **I'm tired of stoners acting like they're superior to alcoholics tbh**♥ 14source record 166 **You can smoke daily and still be a decent person good life etc. you can’t do that with alcohol long term. It eventually takes over and the health effects come quickly at higher doses**♥ 2source record 167 **Absolutely and fully agreed. We should all get as many breaks as cig smokers do, even if you don't smoke.**♥ 2source record 168 **I would rather get high than drunk. The room spins for the right reasons and I don't feel like death the next day.**♥ 1source record 621 **\> one of the worst intoxicants Far from worst. Also weed isn't a miracle drug either. It is being legalised slowly in more and more countries, but it doesn't mean that it's good for you or that you should start using it. Prolonged continuous use makes your brain mushy.**♥ 1source record 629 **The stigma around weed is one of the most ridiculous things ever lol, weed is genuinely one of the most harmless drugs.**♥ 1source record 633 **Nah it’s that weed is superior to alcohol rather than stoners being superior to alcoholics**♥ -2source record 964 **I know much more achieved functional alcoholics than functional potheads. The ones who smoke like an 1/8 a day become unbearably comfortable with their situations.**♥ 0source record 1042 Archive: 15 index entries preserve 15 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Whether cannabis causes psychosis — the sharpest medical dispute here13 index entriesA short, sharp exchange in which several commenters corrected the claim as it was stated. Nothing in it is verified on this page. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Whether cannabis causes psychosis — the sharpest medical dispute here Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Whether cannabis causes psychosis — the sharpest medical dispute here 13 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 1059 **Appears when:** Whether cannabis causes psychosis — the sharpest medical dispute here **What the pattern means:** One commenter asserted that too much cannabis causes schizophrenia and was corrected inside the same branch by several others, in two languages. The distinction they draw is between triggering psychosis in someone already predisposed and causing the illness. A further reply keeps two separate arguments apart: that smoking anything harms you is not the same claim at all. This page settles none of it — what it records is that the thread's own participants did not let the original assertion stand. **What commenters described:** It can trigger it in individuals that are predisposed, but does not cause it. If that were true we'd have a LOT more schizophrenics. **Limit:** An unresolved medical argument between anonymous commenters. The correction offered here — that cannabis may trigger psychosis in someone predisposed rather than cause schizophrenia — is the thread's own claim, not this page's finding. What the replies added2 Le cannabis peut déclencher une psychose déjà présente, il ne provoque en aucun cas la schizophrénie. From the replies♥ 19 It doesnt cause it, stop spreading disinformation. From the replies♥ 13 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Le cannabis peut déclencher une psychose déjà présente, il ne provoque en aucun cas la schizophrénie. source record 973♥ 19 Later-arriving source Talk to ER staff. They are increasingly treating people with mental psychotic breaks. They believe it is from the ultra potency of marijuana. Psychotic breaks are not schizophrenia. I do understand your point though. posted about 21.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source I've seen it first hand posted about 0.9 hours after the source♥ -20 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “it doesnt cause” recurs across 2 of the 13 source records in Whether cannabis causes psychosis — the sharpest medical dispute here; the complete archive stays available below. 13index entries 13distinct source records 11.3%of parent category 1.4%of the complete index 0top-level comments 13replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 11other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments13 preserved records · 13 of 13 source records accounted for **Weed is also bad. Too much causes schizophrenia**♥ -18source record 972 **Le cannabis peut déclencher une psychose déjà présente, il ne provoque en aucun cas la schizophrénie.**♥ 19source record 973 **It doesnt cause it, stop spreading disinformation.**♥ 13source record 974 **no it doesnt cause schizophrenia, it can trigger it in people who are prone to it. if you were never gonna get schizophrenia then weed wouldnt just "cause it" if you have too much, it brings it out earlier in people who are prone to it and were gonna get it later in life anyway**♥ 5source record 975 **Talk to ER staff. They are increasingly treating people with mental psychotic breaks. They believe it is from the ultra potency of marijuana. Psychotic breaks are not schizophrenia.**♥ 1source record 976 **Talk to ER staff. They are increasingly treating people with mental psychotic breaks. They believe it is from the ultra potency of marijuana. Psychotic breaks are not schizophrenia. I do understand your point though.**♥ 1source record 977 **That’s a total lie**♥ 1source record 978 **I've seen it first hand**♥ -20source record 1057 **Are you qualified to diagnose schizophrenia? What area of medicine are you credentialed in?**♥ 6source record 1058 **It can trigger it in individuals that are predisposed, but does not cause it. If that were true we'd have a LOT more schizophrenics.**♥ 12source record 1059 **Ppl who are addicted to pot rationalize it by saying it's natural-so is arsenic. They smoke it all day, including while they're driving but say, it's better than drinking and driving. No it's not. They also judge alcoholics. Abusing weed creates a slew of health problems. I'm so over the rationalizations by pot heads.**♥ 1source record 1060 **These are two separate arguments. Weed will not \*cause\* schizophrenia. Smoking marijuana has negative effects on your health, just like smoking anything does. Consuming in other forms THC may increase anxiety but doesn't have any major, unhealthy side effects (that we know of). I'm going to guess that you used AI because of the m-dash, because that's just a weird way to use it here, but your rant is so weird and feels judgy. It's sounds like you just hang out with shitty people and whether they smoke weed or not doesn't really matter.**♥ 9source record 1061 **I'm not sure what your stance on weed is here, but I'm addicted to it and I agree that its hard-core defendants go way overboard with it. "Natural" is a made-up religious concept. Chemicals are natural, what the hell do people think we're made of? However, weed detractors also demonize it. Everything in excess is bad. This includes substances that can be otherwise helpful, or even just fun, to people in the right conditions So no, weed is not a miracle, but it's not the devil's plant either. And it definitely doesn't cause schizophrenia. Saying as a nursing assistant and weed addict with a schizophrenic ex-partner.**♥ 3source record 1062 Archive: 13 index entries preserve 13 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Gambling built into everything13 index entriesBetting arriving through sports coverage, phone apps, prediction markets and game mechanics. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Gambling built into everything Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Gambling built into everything 13 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 251 **Appears when:** Gambling built into everything **What the pattern means:** The answer names a delivery mechanism rather than a vice: betting arriving through sports broadcasts, phone apps, prediction markets and loot mechanics in games sold to children. One record describes a friend who could not afford medication for a sick cat while maxing credit cards on bets, and several ask why these advertisements are permitted when cigarette ones are not. **What commenters described:** Gambling. Can't watch a sports game without sports betting advertising. Then there's all the other online casinos and things like Ploymarket etc. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 A previous friend of mine would complain about always being broke & would vent to me often. I was supportive until I found out he figured he couldn't afford medication for his ill cat, but still felt he could smoke (over a pack a day), drink beer to the point of intoxication daily & gamble enough to max out his credit cards monthly Yes, addiction is a bitch but if you choose to let you ill cat get worse because your "needs" come first, when they are basically luxuries, then we are going to have a problem Reported failure♥ 28 #### Where commenters report limits Explicit limit or counterpoint Unfortunately society is making it easier and easier for alcoholics and gamblers. You can have alcohol delivered as you bet online. source record 253♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Gambling. Can't watch a sports game without sports betting advertising. Then there's all the other online casinos and things like Ploymarket etc. source record 251♥ 120 Later-arriving source I’ve noticed an uptick in advertising online gambling to women. Are the boys running out of money or are the gambling sites trying to double their take? Tough to say but I’m hoping the ladies don’t fall for it posted about 21.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source My state is very prone to wildfires and people were using kalshi to bet on them. Which could lead to arson. It's too much with sports and way too much with other options. posted about 11.2 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show Within 13 source records, 0 explicitly report a benefit and 1 explicitly report a limit or failure. These are attributed experiences, not effectiveness data. 13index entries 13distinct source records 11.3%of parent category 1.4%of the complete index 3top-level comments 10replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 1explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments13 preserved records · 13 of 13 source records accounted for **Gambling. Can't watch a sports game without sports betting advertising. Then there's all the other online casinos and things like Ploymarket etc.**♥ 120source record 251 **A previous friend of mine would complain about always being broke & would vent to me often. I was supportive until I found out he figured he couldn't afford medication for his ill cat, but still felt he could smoke (over a pack a day), drink beer to the point of intoxication daily & gamble enough to max out his credit cards monthly Yes, addiction is a bitch but if you choose to let you ill cat get worse because your "needs" come first, when they are basically luxuries, then we are going to have a problem**♥ 28source record 252 **Unfortunately society is making it easier and easier for alcoholics and gamblers. You can have alcohol delivered as you bet online.**♥ 2source record 253 **I’ve been getting really concerned about all the online “social casinos”—seems like a good way to get into more serious trouble and they don’t seem to be subject to the same regulation because the monetary amounts are “trivial”**♥ 3source record 254 **The whole online casino world bothers me, including social. I don't care if someone buys a scratch off or Powerball here and there but the online world is dark, right on your phone and sanctioned. People get into enough debt shopping online.**♥ 3source record 255 **Gambling**♥ 5source record 386 **gambling addictions, height shaming and racism**♥ 7source record 388 **Betting on things like politics and wars is so fucked up**♥ 1source record 695 **Kalshia, prizepicks etc... so many adult men i know are addicted to it. My ex boyfriend used to borrow money from me for bets because I was a dumbass Cutting off a piece of skin for no reason. \*Mutilating the genitalia of infants for no reason**♥ 41source record 18 **Oh please. It’s barbaric and should be illegal until you can decide for yourself.**♥ 3source record 34 **in adulthood is the thing. they CHOSE to have it happen. mutilating infants genitals before they even have the ability to speak is disgusting. infant genital mutilation is wrong period.**♥ 3source record 35 **Cool. And they were consenting adults. There’s a big difference.**♥ 3source record 36 **It is that dramatic. Is an elective surgery on an infant, cosmetic surgery… on an infant? I really hope you aren’t against children changing genders then 🤷🏼‍♀️**♥ 3source record 37 **I used to see nothing wrong with it just because it’s so normal with the people I grew up. But now I obviously understand why it’s fucked up and most of the time unnecessary**♥ 31source record 69 **This has been wild to me. And I never really understood it until I was 20 or so and I made a friend from the islands and he wasn’t circumcised. It really mad me think, because the general consensus was “ew gross” and this was in the 90s. I hope we can pull out of it.**♥ 6source record 86 **Who NEEDS it? Honestly parents who do this should be forced to watch the procedure.**♥ 3source record 90 **Lol growing up surrounded by American media (I’m not from there) had me convinced this was going to be a huge deal when I start having sex and that foreskin is weird. Turns out that’s mostly an American thing because I’ve still never seen a circumcised peen IRL. I get there’s rare conditions where it’s medically necessary, but everything else is rationalization…**♥ 3source record 91 **it’s genital mutilation and is absolutely obscene and disgusting. utterly immoral**♥ 3source record 92 **When I was young and dumb, a urologist convinced me that I needed to have my 4 year old circumcised because his foreskin wasn't retracting. I later found out that the foreskin doesn't retract until they are older. This was in the early 90s, so I didn't have a computer in my pocket. It was pretty traumatic for my son. His penis looked pretty scary for awhile, so he peed with his eyes closed for a long time so he didn't have to see it. Yes, I do feel guilty.**♥ 2source record 97 **Ommmg the HATE I got in another sub for saying I didn’t circumcise my sons lolol. Someone told me my children would curse my name for ever while itching their burning penises 😅 god I’m such a terrible mother**♥ 2source record 98 **lol, they could always opt for surgery if it’s something they want done. I think the argument really should be “who gets to make that choice”**♥ 2source record 99 **I agree with this. There is no need to circumcise little boys, and it is such a bizarre practice, even psychologically speaking. Leave the sex organs of children alone.**♥ 2source record 100 **I was so conflicted in 2000\. Logically I knew it was wrong. But being from small town Pa I knew most were around me and I personally heard women talk about men badly if they weren’t. I assumed as time went on people would become more educated and stigma of not having it done would fade. But I couldn’t bank on it. Turns out I moved to another smallish town that is still behind and I made right decision. It sucked and I wish even the option would go away unless someone has a reason for it**♥ 1source record 504 **Right! That’s what I’ve said they can make that decision themselves if they chose**♥ 1source record 517 **I’m mad that my mom pierced my ears before I was old enough to consent. I can’t imagine how pissed I’d be if she had my genitals mutilated.**♥ 1source record 560 **Actual psychological horror for me personally. Its just so... what the fuck**♥ -1source record 929 Archive: 20 index entries preserve 20 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argument63 index entriesThe largest branch in the corpus: care and hospital workers describing what they saw, and the replies disputing what it justifies. First-hand accounts, not evidence. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argument Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argument 63 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 38 **Appears when:** Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argument **What the pattern means:** The largest branch in the entire corpus, and it is a specific argument rather than a general one. Commenters who say they work in hospitals and long-term care describe elderly patients who could not be kept clean, and parents say that is why they chose the procedure. The replies do not dispute what those workers say they saw; they dispute what follows from it — that a care system's failure is being addressed on an infant's body, and that most of the world manages the same anatomy without surgery. **What commenters described:** I’ve learned in American medicine, where our elders end up alone or in the care of caregivers, depending on the patients ailments, it can make it extremely difficult to keep uncircumcised men clean properly. Yeast infections, bacterial infections, even sepsis or UTI. **Limit:** First-hand accounts from anonymous commenters who say they worked in hospitals and long-term care, plus the replies disputing what those accounts justify. None of it is verified, and none of it should inform a decision about a real procedure. What the replies added1 I was very torn on having my son circumcised, but I have a friend who is an RN. She works in labor and delivery predominately, but she has also worked in the senior care, hospice, obesity, and trauma centers. Across the board she says them men who are uncircumcised are at significantly higher risk of infection and it’s very obvious the amount of pain they are in. I understand your perspective, but the truth of the matter is the US healthcare system is so thoroughly flawed it has made this a necessary precaution for most of us parents here who just want to set our kids up for the most successful and safe lives possible. I did ask her if she thought my son would be ok to make that decision on his own as an adult, but she assured me in her experience most babies don’t even cry, and there are less complications. Ultimately we decided to have it done when he was born for those reasons, but please understand that it is a decision a lot of parents here don’t take lightly; we are trapped by a significantly broken system. Reported failure♥ 5 #### Where commenters report limits Explicit limit or counterpoint It is not a minority of people who end up in nursing homes unfortunately. source record 43♥ 5 Explicit limit or counterpoint That’s an opinion. It’s very much a real issue & is worth as many words as possible to get the point across that our country is not like yours unfortunately. Be grateful. Do better. source record 919♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source The other 98% of the world doesn't mutilate our babies and we still manage to keep our penises clean, though. source record 571♥ 36 Later-arriving source You would think, wouldn't you. Again, I have no control over idiots or what they teach thier kids. I only know what i saw. posted about 24.0 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source My son was not circumcised in the hospital when I had him and my mother in law absolutely freaked out and insisted we have it done because of hygiene purposes, that apparently little boys have a hard time cleaning themselves and it could be a huge problem if it’s not done. I’m a woman so I really don’t know. 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Browse the original comments63 preserved records · 63 of 63 source records accounted for **I’ve learned in American medicine, where our elders end up alone or in the care of caregivers, depending on the patients ailments, it can make it extremely difficult to keep uncircumcised men clean properly. Yeast infections, bacterial infections, even sepsis or UTI.**♥ 22source record 38 **This is why I chose it for my son. I worked in long term care (nursing home). The caregivers aren't even properly taught how to clean an uncircumcised man. And these people can no longer do it themselves. Even if some do know how to, a lot of the caregivers don't give a shit or cut corners and they don't get clean anyway. I was helping a man to get washed up. It was absolutely disgusting what was in there. And then he was so swollen, I couldn't get the foreskin back in place. I had to ask a nurse for help who finally got it after some tricks she had. Im not leaving that upto chance for my son.**♥ 7source record 39 **This. Working in healthcare as well, I’ve seen many uncircumcised elderly men have issues. Sometimes they would need catheters for UTIs and the foreskin was almost impossible to move. One day, my son could be an old man and I won’t be there to take care of him. And I know other people wouldn’t care enough to do it properly for him (or he just wouldn’t let them).**♥ 10source record 40 **Not only that, a lot of long term care/rehabs don’t have enough employees to give a shit or the patient is inappropriate or extremely confused or aggressive. We won’t be here to care for our children when we’re gone. I think it’s best to set them up for success at end of life. That’s been one of few reasons I could think to excuse it but that’s good enough for me. I’ve spoken to nurses who have experience in ICU or do traveling emergency care & this is seen much more often than people know.**♥ 4source record 41 **"I'm going to cut nerve-rich tissue off my baby in case, \*70-80 years from now\* under societal conditions I cannot begin to predict, he becomes one of the minority of Americans who end up in a nursing home, and no one cleans him"? Is this for real?**♥ 6source record 42 **It is not a minority of people who end up in nursing homes unfortunately.**♥ 5source record 43 **Exactly. It’s a majority. Not a minority. A lot of people don’t realize that families aren’t as close in the US as other countries or those in the US who are fortunate to have a village don’t know what it’s like to not have one.**♥ 8source record 44 **Even if they stayed home, their family member is more likely to keep it clean? That's a very intimate thing for a non-spouse**♥ 2source record 45 **I was very torn on having my son circumcised, but I have a friend who is an RN. She works in labor and delivery predominately, but she has also worked in the senior care, hospice, obesity, and trauma centers. Across the board she says them men who are uncircumcised are at significantly higher risk of infection and it’s very obvious the amount of pain they are in. I understand your perspective, but the truth of the matter is the US healthcare system is so thoroughly flawed it has made this a necessary precaution for most of us parents here who just want to set our kids up for the most successful and safe lives possible. I did ask her if she thought my son would be ok to make that decision on his own as an adult, but she assured me in her experience most babies don’t even cry, and there are less complications. Ultimately we decided to have it done when he was born for those reasons, but please understand that it is a decision a lot of parents here don’t take lightly; we are trapped by a significantly broken system.**♥ 5source record 47 **Yes. Because it’s not a minority. It’s a majority of uncircumcised senior citizens in the US that faces these kinds of things. It’s extremely uncomfortable for them & can cause life threatening complications. You must’ve missed that part, respectfully!**♥ 3source record 48 **You'd have to be a moron to be unable to predict societal conditions in America in the future.**♥ 2source record 49 **Anecdote is not data. Maybe we should start removing the bum as of women as well. You know, for cleanliness… what a joke. Do you even hear yourself? Not likely. Quantitative analysis and logic should be mandatory lesson for the dimwits of the world. I fear it still wouldn’t make a difference with these low iq dolts. Work those syllogistic thought experiments. Good grief…**♥ 2source record 50 **Questioning my intelligence over a highly controversial topic & name calling when I have yet to do so to you or anyone else in this thread is not a good way to have a healthy conversation. Are you in the US? Are you a healthcare professional? Are you a surgeon or have any hands on knowledge of how healthcare & rehab looks in the states from firsthand perspectives or relations?**♥ 2source record 51 **No one has this issue in Europe because of ✨ education ✨**♥ 2source record 53 **If I’m not mistaken, your healthcare system might not be the greatest but if what you say is true, how are your bedridden elders cared for? I’m sure much better if this is up for debate. You do understand the US is closing all major hospitals & healthcare centers left & right, there’s no beds, there’s not enough staff or proper education. A lot of rehabbers are given certifications, not degrees from only a few week to few month training courses. They are not taught how to properly care for uncircumcised men NOR are there enough nurses or caregivers to care. Think of it like this. ONE person can have up to 40+ patients a night all on their own. They’re passing out food trays, bathing as many as they can get their hands on, giving medicine & fluids to every single one on their own, helping with laundry, cleaning of the facility, & so on. A lot of these patients are in pain, confused, inappropriate or just downright aggressive or refuse. Not that that’s always the case but you wouldn’t believe the amount of men or women, circumcised or not, that sit in their piss & shit around the clock. If they even give a shit to because no one’s checking & the US healthcare system is a FUCKING JOKE. Look up malpractice. It happens all the time but the courts won’t touch it. Our big pharma owns all our asses. They don’t care about us & are not equipping us with healthcare professionals that care about us OR enough of them to care for our patients in the ways they need! Please. If you live in another country, educate yourself & PLEASE be respectful, my God.**♥ 2source record 54 **I worked in a hospital and the amt of uncircumcised men who came in with infections and the skin grown over and stuck was crazy. I dont think circumcision is so terrible because of that.**♥ 18source record 55 **We’ve been saying this but everybody is so mad about it & name calling. They want statistics & links like the US has a proper reporting system if it’s even reported. It’s a huge liability, nobody talks enough about it & our healthcare workers are OVERLOADED.**♥ 3source record 56 **This has to be America, why dont yall just teach people with a penis how to keep it clean from when they are young? like every other country that doesnt snip off foreskin does?**♥ 3source record 57 **Instead of chopping off part of the body we could just...you know, educate kids on hygiene?**♥ 2source record 58 **My grand father spent the last few years of his life in tremendous pain due to phimosis. I’m in team cut for that reason.**♥ 2source record 59 **Imagine recommending we cut off bits of babies’ penises, rather than including education on hygiene and what to teach your son about cleaning in prenatal classes/leaflets/info.**♥ 2source record 74 **My wife is an ER nurse. Our son got snipped. She said she has seen way too many old men with way to many infections**♥ 2source record 87 **What a terrible reason to do that. She's seen just as many if not more old women with too many infections, also.**♥ 6source record 88 **So what surgery does she recommend for all the older women that also get uti's? P.S. fyi that's not why seniors get uti's more frequently than any other age bracket. Senior men don't get uti's because they didn't have a surgery 85 years ago lmao.**♥ 4source record 89 **They're taught, they just don't.**♥ 1source record 521 **Uncircumcised man here: so you are going to modify a man’s 50-60 years of sexuality for the last 10?**♥ 1source record 522 **I’m a 40’s male. I had a 20s mother. I’m uncut. I don’t think I was trained well to clean when I was a kid, at about 6 I got a yeast infection. Guess what folks: I learned how to clean my own dick. Now I get to show my nice clean dick adorned with its lovely hat to as many people as I want. If you have an uncut penis (yes, I intend to use the sexual word, because everyone is making this a healthcare topic but neglect to mention that this is also a sexual topic), show people how to clean it!**♥ 1source record 525 **You would think, wouldn't you. I have no control over the idiots having kids or what they teach them. I just know what i saw lol.**♥ 1source record 528 **You would think, wouldn't you. Again, I have no control over idiots or what they teach thier kids. I only know what i saw.**♥ 1source record 529 **You have already made your decision for your son, it was deeply personal, and I’d rather not discuss your personal decision as opposed to abstract reasoning. So I’ll leave this here.**♥ 1source record 535 **It’s a a vast majority of men that will use their dick for pleasure. One might even call it 99.99%. No thanks, I’ll take 60-70 years of pleasure please. \*If\* I get old and end up with dick infections, you can have my foreskin then.**♥ 1source record 537 **Not always. Ask me how I know. Intimate or not, spouse, family or not, it needs to be done.**♥ 1source record 539 **Yes being concerned for somebody's overall well-being and health is a terrible reason**♥ 3source record 540 **Cutting a healthy chunk of flesh off an infant because it can sometimes get infected when they're elderly is deranged.**♥ 4source record 541 **Completely deranged.**♥ 2source record 542 **My son was not circumcised in the hospital when I had him and my mother in law absolutely freaked out and insisted we have it done because of hygiene purposes, that apparently little boys have a hard time cleaning themselves and it could be a huge problem if it’s not done. I’m a woman so I really don’t know. But I found out that way that it’s a hygiene thing.**♥ -9source record 568 **It’s not that difficult, just pull back to foreskin and wash the area underneath and then pull the foreskin back.**♥ 10source record 569 **Except you don't do that on newborns or young boys, because it can cause damage.**♥ 6source record 570 **The other 98% of the world doesn't mutilate our babies and we still manage to keep our penises clean, though.**♥ 36source record 571 **Well I figured they must since such a huge percentage of the world are fine that way and it is how we were made. I just never even understood the reasoning until that happened since I never had a reason to think about it.**♥ 8source record 572 **Yeah that's just a lie... It's not a hygiene thing. Imagine justifying cutting off flesh over simply pulling back foreskin to clean. I really can't be fucked washing my hands after using the toilet better amputate them.**♥ 24source record 573 **Didn’t say it was good reasons just that’s what they think apparently**♥ 5source record 574 **Its not a lie. I worked in a hospital and the amt of men who came in with infection and the skin stuck on there due to things I dont care to talk about is crazy.**♥ 13source record 575 **You mean because they were too lazy to clean themselves properly. That's what caused it. Nothing else. Dentists don't pull out all your teeth as a child because they "could" get a cavity or a major infection if they don't brush their teeth. You don't remove parts just in case someone is too lazy to have proper hygiene. Teach them hygiene. Duh...**♥ 8source record 576 **The impacted smegma. The prolific UTIs and urinary issues. The cellulitis of the glans and surrounding skin. Then the way the skin starts to strangulate the glans because of the swelling. And a lot of the time it’s not people being lazy. It’s people with dementia. It’s people who aged and developed physical deficits that impairs their ability to care for themselves. I mean, shit, get bad enough arthritis and that fine motor skill is gone. And then they’re too ashamed and embarrassed to say anything. Because it’s the penis and anyone can get uncomfortable talking about their genitals. And for the younger guys (or kids), it may well be the cultural ignorance about these issues because we’ve circumcised for so long and prolifically. It’s plenty believable that people who only think of it as the \*natural way\* don’t bother to follow through on how uncircumcised genitalia need to be cared for. God knows they do it with everything else. There’s definitely a point to the arguments against. And they’re pretty much \*all\* on point. But the discussion isn’t complete without at least acknowledging the complications that also come with not doing it. We can’t fix something we refuse to acknowledge exists. No subject is without nuance. Very few things are ever just one thing or the other.**♥ 3source record 577 **Did you tell your MIL that you and your spouse will obviously teach your son how to wash properly? I just hate the hygiene excuse.**♥ 11source record 578 **It's really not that hard to keep clean 40 year old uncut. It's easier then wiping your butt!**♥ 5source record 579 **And how many men don't wipe their butts? I thought this was an internet myth until I kept seeing more and more people who had experienced it. Some people just don't care about hygiene.**♥ 2source record 580 **So would we do unnecessary surgery to correct people not being hygienic? Like not wearing deodorant remover sweat glands, to hard to blow your nose sew it shut, etc.**♥ 2source record 581 **You would think that would not be an issue, but it is, duh. These were not kids, they were grown men. You say "you dont" but the fact is, they do. You just dont agree with it.**♥ 7source record 582 **Lots of men go through phases of uncleanliness, I am not surprised it happens at all. I can imagine, you could be throwing your life away as an alcoholic and living on the streets, bathing is harder to do. Not only is your life in shambles, your dick is also infected!**♥ 3source record 583 **It can be a hygeine thing, a religious thing, or a tradition thing. Now, it's also a reason to judge people thing.**♥ 5source record 585 **It's a lie... I never claimed it's impossible for foreskin to get infected. The claim circumcision is a pro health decision, is a lie. It's the equivalent of killing yourself to avoid getting the flu. Wildly unnecessary risk mitigation.**♥ 3source record 586 **That argument is more relevant to girls than boys, but is not compelling enough to do that to girls.**♥ 2source record 587 **It is absolutely not a "hygiene thing" any more than us girls having a clitoral good and labia are. Once the foreskin naturally separates from the glans on its own, they pull back, rinse, and replace. Takes 10 seconds a day, and surely they'd be washing their penis anyway?**♥ 2source record 588 **Utis and yeast infections didnt end in surgery the way most of the issues I talked about before did. And comparing FGM to circumcision is ridiculous. Cutting a girl or sewing her shut for the reasons they do is absolutely not comparable to a circumcision for hygienic reasons.**♥ 11source record 672 **You clearly have no idea what you are talking about 🤣 People usually don't circumcise here, so everyone knows how to take care of normal male anatomy. As simple as that. That's not brain surgery. I worked in an elderly home carer during my medical studies. Lots of patients. It was pretty obvious.**♥ 1source record 916 **What must be brain surgery was you taking the time to read the entirety of what I said about the US healthcare system. 😚 You must be very fortunate in Europe to have the education & healthcare providers that care for men in that way!**♥ 1source record 917 **I read everything, it wasn't really worth that many words but still. We just teach BY DEFAULT how to take care of normal male anatomy because we don't unnecessarily circumcise men, it's only done for religious reasons in the Muslim and Jewish communities. So every caregiver knows that men have foreskins and must be cleaned there. Mothers do, nurses do, everyone.**♥ 1source record 918 **That’s an opinion. It’s very much a real issue & is worth as many words as possible to get the point across that our country is not like yours unfortunately. Be grateful. Do better.**♥ 3source record 919 **I’m not knocking religion here. Everyone is entitled to their belief & each parent has a right to a choice regardless of religion btw. I’m stating facts about previous points I made before you added yourself to the conversation. A lot of our healthcare providers don’t care, aren’t checked or don’t have the knowledge. It’s scary that our uncircumcised elders are sitting in their own waste & not cared for properly majority of the time. That’s what I’m talking about. Not how Europe does it. How it’s done in the US. It’s disgusting & inhumane.**♥ 2source record 920 **Why you always gotta make the most extreme analogy? What about saying it’s like getting lasik so you don’t need glasses? Saves you money in the long run. Health wise, it’s like shaving your head so you don’t get lice ever.**♥ 0source record 962 **cope. it's mutilation, and the purpose is for puritanical anti-pleasure reasons, against the child's consent. it's abuse.**♥ 0source record 963 Archive: 63 index entries preserve 63 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs What the health claims were said to rest on39 index entriesRecords trading claims about infection, transmission and what the evidence shows. Reported claims only; none is checked here. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: What the health claims were said to rest on Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### What the health claims were said to rest on 39 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 550 **Appears when:** What the health claims were said to rest on **What the pattern means:** Where the branch above trades experience, this one trades claims: infection rates, transmission, phimosis, how insurers classify the procedure, and repeated instructions to go and look it up. The most useful records are the ones asking for the evidence rather than asserting it, and one commenter answers their own question by explaining why an honest comparison of sensation is close to impossible to construct. **What commenters described:** Please elaborate on these "health related ways" it's beneficial. Insurance companies have decided it's an elective cosmetic procedure & we're not seeing mass health issues in developed countries where circumcision is rare. If a man washes himself properly it's not an issue. **Limit:** Every claim in this node — about infection, transmission, prevalence or evidence — is a commenter's claim. None is checked here, several are contested inside the node itself, and a clinician is the place to settle any of them. What the replies added2 I've 44 years experience and from all the people I know nobody is getting diseases or skin ailments and nobody gets circumcised. Again 67% of the males are not circumcised in the world and I guarantee there's no difference in the statistics with these diseases and skin ailments for this majority of people. It's nonsense. Pushback♥ 1 There can be genuine reasons - just one example is phimosis, which is where the foreskin of the penis is very tight and can either be only partially able to be or completely unable to be retracted, which can make cleaning the penis properly very difficult and there is a risk of infections, difficulty peeing, to name a few. Sometimes it can be treated with steroids cream to basically thin the skin so it can eventually be stretched like a regular foreskin can be, or stretched otherwise somehow, but if that doesn't work then surgery is the only.other "fix" for it. Reported failure♥ 2 #### Where commenters report limits Explicit limit or counterpoint There can be genuine reasons - just one example is phimosis, which is where the foreskin of the penis is very tight and can either be only partially able to be or completely unable to be retracted, which can make cleaning the penis properly very difficult and there is a risk of infections, difficulty peeing, to name a few. Sometimes it can be treated with steroids cream to basically thin the skin so it can eventually be stretched like a regular foreskin can be, or stretched otherwise somehow, but if that doesn't work then surgery is the only.other "fix" for it. source record 82♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Sometimes it's medically suggested to avoid recurring infections. source record 78♥ 24 Later-arriving source What IS the medical science you’re referring to? You’re so confident you’re correct, why would you need google to look it up when you could just say what you’re talking about? posted about 23.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Except that male circumcision has been proven to beneficial in many health related ways. Its benefits far outweigh the \*extremely\* rare downsides. posted about 0.4 hours after the source♥ -9 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “people who have had” recurs across 2 of the 39 source records in What the health claims were said to rest on; the complete archive stays available below. 39index entries 39distinct source records 16.7%of parent category 4.1%of the complete index 0top-level comments 39replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 1explicitly reports a limit or failure 10asks a question 0says they intend to try it 28other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments39 preserved records · 39 of 39 source records accounted for **Usually medical reasons.**♥ 18source record 29 **You're getting a lot of flak for saying you're surprised American men can ejaculate. Meanwhile the two countries that use 98% of the world's supply of Viagra are the US and Israel. And I'd guess the US has a higher than average rate of Peyronie's. Most people accept erectule dysfunction in middle age as "normal" when in fact it's just a normal side effect of something that should not be normalized at all.**♥ 1source record 63 **Personally I have never had any infections. The vast majority don’t. That does happen in some cases. Sadly the pro circ crazies push that small sample size as justification to slice off parts of a baby’s penis. Totally deranged.**♥ 2source record 75 **Sometimes it's medically suggested to avoid recurring infections.**♥ 24source record 78 **Balanitis and balanoposthitis are a thing, but usually not a chronic issue. There are also peer reviewed studies that show a reduction in HIV transmission with circumcision in Africa (if I remember the details correctly), probably due to less bleeding and skin abrasion for all parties. That said, despite living in the US and my husband being circumcised, we chose \*\*\*not\*\*\* to circumcise our son. It was an easy decision. It’s not our body, not our call. Unlike vaccines and vitamin K given at birth, without good enough evidence that the benefits outweigh the risks, this was something we were not comfortable doing to him, and I hate that it’s still so normalized here. People honestly don’t even think about. “There’s an option? I thought you were just supposed to do that?” Um, no. He had very minor balanitis a couple times, but nothing that didn’t resolve on its own. And it hasn’t returned once since being out of diapers. I have a friend whose son was circumcised at birth and had to have a revision when he was 4, which was more common than I had realized. In the US, our US born pediatricians aren’t used to seeing uncircumcised penises, and usually give the wrong advice.**♥ 5source record 80 **There can be genuine reasons - just one example is phimosis, which is where the foreskin of the penis is very tight and can either be only partially able to be or completely unable to be retracted, which can make cleaning the penis properly very difficult and there is a risk of infections, difficulty peeing, to name a few. Sometimes it can be treated with steroids cream to basically thin the skin so it can eventually be stretched like a regular foreskin can be, or stretched otherwise somehow, but if that doesn't work then surgery is the only.other "fix" for it.**♥ 2source record 82 **Most babies don't need it. Even if they have phimosis, it can be treated. Dr. Harvey Kellogg was instrumental in getting this a normal thing in the United States, because of his sick, twisted beliefs. Too much to explain here - there's lots of info online.**♥ 2source record 94 **My father in law is a pediatrician and said that boys that are not circumcised tend to have more infections and increased risk of penile cancer, however, In the modern world I personally think it can be avoided with persistent and appropriate cleaning and teaching the child how to clean themselves. Uncircumcised men tend to have more sensitivity. I speak from personal experience and have had sex with men that were circumcised, not circumcised and half circumcised. A lot of circumcisions are due to cultural and religious purposes. My father in law is Muslim by the way and the history is that men kept masturbating continuously without circumscion and therefore they needed to circumsize to shut down that behavior. Wieghing the pros and cons I'm on team no circumscion.**♥ 1source record 500 **Exactly what my husband said. I asked his thoughts on circumcision and he said, just teach the kid how to wash it properly, problem solved. It really is such a major decision to make based on fear of a future infection at 85.**♥ 2source record 501 **phimosis is treated by circumcision tho**♥ 1source record 507 **I heard that it could be treated other ways.**♥ 1source record 508 **Apparently it's present in most male babies when they're born and goes away as they get older but yes, persisting into adulthood it only remains in about 0.5-1% of adult uncircumcised men.**♥ 1source record 519 **Except that male circumcision has been proven to beneficial in many health related ways. Its benefits far outweigh the \*extremely\* rare downsides.**♥ -9source record 548 **\> \*extremely\* rare downsides You mean, decreased sensation by cutting off a bunch of nerve endings, that would be the result of \*every\* circumcision?**♥ 12source record 549 **Please elaborate on these "health related ways" it's beneficial. Insurance companies have decided it's an elective cosmetic procedure & we're not seeing mass health issues in developed countries where circumcision is rare. If a man washes himself properly it's not an issue.**♥ 19source record 550 **Google says nothing that can't be fixed with antibiotics, definitely not enough to justify genital mutilation. Idk anyone that's ever actually had dick problems outside of STDs/STIs which you can get foreskin or not.**♥ 16source record 551 **Exactly. I wasn't going to put my son through the risk of an elective surgery no matter how low that risk may be & the amount of people who had an opinion about how my baby's penis should look was disturbing. He's a teenager now & has never had an issue because he washes himself.**♥ 12source record 552 **Oh that's so weird!! I'm in the UK so it's not normal here at all, hospitals don't even do it. I always thought it was weird watching American reality tv where women wouldn't go out with uncircumcised men, like that's all we've got 😂 your son will be fine!**♥ 14source record 553 **I mean I knew someone with phimosis once but you can stretch your foreskin gradually to cure that. Apparently it's quite effective and works quickly. You just can't crank it.**♥ 4source record 554 **Yeah but that's a medical issue you'd become aware of at birth and isn't common. Like there are so many issues babies can be born with and obviously drs then do whatever is necessary to help. Surgery on a baby who doesn't need it though cos you have a preference for how your son's dick looks is sad.**♥ 6source record 555 **I knew someone who had a rash on his door before. So they cut his foot off. Rash hasn’t come back. So must be the right thing to do.**♥ 5source record 556 **More sudoscience bullshit to for a religious narrative.**♥ 4source record 557 **If it wasn't needed it wouldn't be there.**♥ 6source record 558 **Do some googling. Potential infections and diseases are refused profoundly.**♥ 1source record 561 **It’s harder to spread STIs when you’re circumcised according to research.**♥ 1source record 562 **you can also just….use protection and get tested…**♥ 5source record 563 **How confidently incorrect you are. Do you know the diseases and skin ailments you’re prone to having foreskin?**♥ 1source record 891 **I've 44 years experience and from all the people I know nobody is getting diseases or skin ailments and nobody gets circumcised. Again 67% of the males are not circumcised in the world and I guarantee there's no difference in the statistics with these diseases and skin ailments for this majority of people. It's nonsense.**♥ 1source record 892 **Where’s the data? You’re saying a majority of the world is just suffering from diseases and continuing to not circumcise? It doesn’t make any sense.**♥ 1source record 895 **You’re literally ignoring proven medical science. Do you believe in magic too? 😂 (I’m not googling for you)**♥ 1source record 898 **What IS the medical science you’re referring to? You’re so confident you’re correct, why would you need google to look it up when you could just say what you’re talking about?**♥ 1source record 899 **I don't know exactly, but i know it's suggested. Google says it's from anomia, diapers and it's called Chronic Balanitis. If you want to read more about it :).**♥ 1source record 913 **To cut off cancer, Gangrene. That's about it. Other problems can totally be fixed and/or prevented without cutting anything off.**♥ 8source record 926 **Yeah like if your foreskin won't retract there are some stretches you can do that will change that, for anyone reading who doesn't want to cop to it**♥ 9source record 927 **There are also minor (outpatient!) surgeries that can leave it intact but help it function correctly.**♥ 3source record 928 **How can anyone do a comparison about the different feelings? Or is it "I have a foreskin it's awesome and people without them don't feel the same things." Which proves....what? That people with foreskins are more prone to being stupid?**♥ 0source record 948 **You're genuinely unaware that some people have it done after they're old enough to notice the difference?**♥ 3source record 949 **It is indeed very hard to compare what it feels like to have foreskin vs not have foreskin. The best source would be people who have had their foreskin removed as an adult. However, I assume the vast majority of those people needed to have their foreskin removed for some medical reason. In which case, it's likely the foreskin caused pain or hindered pleasure in some way, and so those aren't the best people to get feedback of "is with or without foreskin more pleasurable?" We know that, for most people, penile stimulation is pleasurable. And we know that the foreskin has lots of nerves. And so, we can reasonably assume that having foreskin is more pleasurable. Regardless, I'm very opposed to doing a permanent medical procedure of questionable benefit on someone (an infant) who cannot consent to it.**♥ 1source record 950 **Of course. And how about people who have had it since they were babies. Think about what you're saying "oh it's terrible it's not the same." I don't see any circumcision support groups anywhere. Don't think there are any problems. You clearly do.**♥ -1source record 1049 Archive: 39 index entries preserve 39 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Religion, culture and “it is just what you do”44 index entriesWhere commenters said the practice came from, and how they said it stopped being a decision at all. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Religion, culture and “it is just what you do” Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Religion, culture and “it is just what you do” 44 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 70 **Appears when:** Religion, culture and “it is just what you do” **What the pattern means:** These records treat the practice as a cultural fact rather than a medical one and try to account for how it became automatic: religious obligation, an American origin story involving Kellogg that several commenters backed with links they posted themselves, and the plain observation that most of the world does not do it. A second strand reports the pressure running the other way, with partners and relatives treating the uncircumcised body as the deviation. **What commenters described:** I find it difficult to reply to this one. I was circumcised as a baby, and I asked my parents why. They were told by their doctor at the time that it was to prevent future infections. Apparently there had been if you pardon the expression, a rash of these, and they were recommending circumcision as a result. I’ve since noticed that such recommendations, wax and wane over time. The question of it being medically necessary seems to go through cycles. As I say, I have difficulty replying to this one. **Limit:** Historical and cultural accounts as commenters gave them, including sourced links they posted themselves. The sources are theirs and have not been evaluated here. What the replies added1 How confidently incorrect you are. Do you know the diseases and skin ailments you’re prone to having foreskin? Pushback♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Yeah that's one of the weirdest cultural practices I've ever seen. Common in the states. Not a done thing in Ireland that's for sure and id be very sad if it was done to me. The amount of nerve endings you guys are missing is criminal! I'm surprised you can even ejaculate! source record 2♥ 101 Later-arriving source You are correct but I was referring to the origins of circumcision in America. Kellogg is the sole reason its such a widespread practice there posted about 23.8 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source The amount of American women who wouldn't sleep with someone who is uncircumcised makes it worth being circumcised. posted about 2.8 hours after the source #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [The people who have the diagnosis, answeringAttach it to an existing routine · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-4-subgroup-4-the-people-who-have-the-diagnosis-answering)[“It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the threadAttach it to an existing routine · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-1-it-s-a-social-lubricant-the-pushback-inside-the-thread) #### What the counts show Across 44 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 44index entries 44distinct source records 18.8%of parent category 4.6%of the complete index 1top-level comments 43replies #### What commenters explicitly report 1explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 8asks a question 0says they intend to try it 35other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Attach it to an existing routine **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments44 preserved records · 44 of 44 source records accounted for **Yeah that's one of the weirdest cultural practices I've ever seen. Common in the states. Not a done thing in Ireland that's for sure and id be very sad if it was done to me. The amount of nerve endings you guys are missing is criminal! I'm surprised you can even ejaculate!**♥ 101source record 2 **Snipping away thousands of nerve endings for non medically necessary reasons is pretty dramatic It all started with a guy who didnt want kids jerking off lmao. Insane how people just go with it**♥ 28source record 22 **Circumcision has been around for 4,000 years and was not related to trying to stop masturbation until very recently.**♥ 11source record 23 **Religious reasons are dumb too.**♥ 8source record 24 **Yes they are.**♥ 2source record 25 **That is what normalized it in parts of the modern industrial world. Stoning people to death has existed for thousands of years too. I don’t think we should really be relying on barbaric parts of our history as a guideline in our modern world. Do people even bother to ponder their claims before spewing out their nonsense? I highly recommend all people read a book on logic. Work those syllogistic thought experiments. Good grief!**♥ 4source record 26 **Americans only do it for that reason, otherwise it’s just religious bs**♥ 3source record 27 **They have no idea. I'm one of the few Americans not cut and you cannot explain it to them. Why would you cut the hood off a sweater is the closest I can think. Edit older Americans not cut**♥ 8source record 60 **Few? 50% of newborn American boys are currently left uncircumcised, and the number hasn’t been much more than that in a long time**♥ 3source record 61 **When I was born it was almost 79 to 84 percent. In my area even higher**♥ 5source record 62 **Depends on the state. In California, Oregon and Washington infant male circumcision rates hover around 12-25% nowadays. Virtually none of the people I know get it done to their baby boys.**♥ 2source record 64 **I find it difficult to reply to this one. I was circumcised as a baby, and I asked my parents why. They were told by their doctor at the time that it was to prevent future infections. Apparently there had been if you pardon the expression, a rash of these, and they were recommending circumcision as a result. I’ve since noticed that such recommendations, wax and wane over time. The question of it being medically necessary seems to go through cycles. As I say, I have difficulty replying to this one.**♥ 16source record 70 **It's because the Kellogg of cereal fame HATED pleasure and thought dick mutilation prevented masturbation.**♥ 9source record 71 **it’s like you’re meeting a unicorn when you meet a man who’s not circumcised**♥ 2source record 96 **The amount of American women who wouldn't sleep with someone who is uncircumcised makes it worth being circumcised.**♥ 0source record 490 **Ye I lived jn America as a Brit and they were freaked out by foreskin lol I didn’t even know it was a thing until I moved there.**♥ 7source record 491 **It did freak me out until he pulled it back.**♥ 1source record 492 **If they're that hung up on something like that, then they're not worth sleeping with.**♥ 11source record 493 **maybe not, but not sure who misses out in this case.**♥ 2source record 494 **when a decent amount of men can barely maintain basic hygiene, I think it's completely reasonable for women to assume that these men aren't maintaining their foreskin either**♥ 3source record 495 **You need to exercise higher standards then.**♥ 1source record 496 **that's exactly the topic of discussion? thanks for your insight though i guess**♥ 1source record 497 **As a man in the US with an intact penis I think I've been with a decent amount of women and none of them cared. If a worthwhile woman wanna sleep with you, a bit of extra skin is unlikely to be a deal breaker.**♥ 5source record 498 **Uncircumcised man here who grew up with male family also uncircumcised. We're mexican. What we've learned is that Americans are gross who don't know how to clean their penises probably because their dads were circumcised and didn't learn to properly clean their penises. The number of American men I have met who find it a waste of time and money to scrub your body, especially their lower half, because when they rinse the shampoo from their head all the soap goes down the body and thus cleaning it is astounding. Circumcision to lower infection possibility is like slicing a little girls breasts off to lower the risk of breast cancer.**♥ 1source record 511 **Why justify a stupid cultural practice?**♥ 1source record 513 **Having it done in adulthood is the biblically accurate way to do it. This far in the thread im surprised no one mentioned its religious roots.**♥ 1source record 516 **It’s not always about religion but more about hygiene**♥ 1source record 526 **John Harvey Kellogg reference in the wild**♥ 1source record 527 **I was responding to, "It all started ..." which it clearly didn't. As you said, consider your claim before making it. I don't support circumcision and didn't circumcise my two sons. I also don't support stoning people to death.**♥ 1source record 531 **You are correct but I was referring to the origins of circumcision in America. Kellogg is the sole reason its such a widespread practice there**♥ 1source record 532 **Let people practice their religion and leave them alone. It doesn’t harm you.**♥ 1source record 545 **It harms their kids.**♥ 3source record 546 **literally like why do you care what other people do? it's their life their beliefs just like how you have your beliefs people have their own.**♥ 1source record 547 **It’s done in every country. If you’re Jewish, you get circumcised. Ireland has Jews living there…**♥ 1source record 564 **It’s not done in most countries. Jews do it for religion. I know Israel owns us but we aren’t a Jewish country**♥ 2source record 565 **No, it’s done in most countries. If there are Jews living there, it’s done there. Just because the majority of the country doesn’t do it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen…**♥ 2source record 566 **It does happen. It doesn’t NEED to happen. Religious reasons aspect, do you believe in woman circumcision? Because they do it for religion in a lot of places. And I equally agree that their religion sucks because of it. Any religion that alters a babies genitalia is a pedophile religion.**♥ 2source record 567 **Here’s an FYI because most people in this thread seem completely unaware of the statistic: 50% of newborn American boys are left uncircumcised. That number was around 45% in the 90s, hit a low of about 40% in 2000-ish, and then rose steadily to about 50% nowadays. It’s not at all unusual to be uncut in America. I’m not taking a stance, but people who are need to educate themselves Lots of sources, just search, here’s one: \[link removed\]**♥ 1source record 776 **Source? Or are you making that up Like anti vax ppl do?**♥ 1source record 901 **Oh no, they're right, it was most definitely John Harvey Kellogg that popularized circumcision in the US. And for that reason. \[link removed\] \[link removed\] And if you have some time, Behind the Bastards did an episode on him: \[link removed\]**♥ 2source record 902 **Thank you for that. I started to assemble a few links before I realized that you had already done the same.**♥ 1source record 903 **I actually just pulled them from the sources in that BtB episode's show notes lmao**♥ 2source record 904 **Oh, and just for fun, here's a cute quote from Kellogg posted at \[\[link removed\] "A remedy which is almost always successful in small boys is circumcision. The operation should be performed by a surgeon without administering an anesthetic, as the brief pain attending the operation will have a salutary effect upon the mind, especially if it be connected with the idea of punishment." It's my understanding that it's only relatively recently that they started administering an anesthetic, though I'm basing that on a 1980s conversation with a co-worker who had to search to find a doctor who would. (Or maybe it was a friend of hers who had to search...it's been 40 years!)**♥ 1source record 905 **While I can’t say I know what I am missing by not having foreskin, sex still feels absolutely amazing.**♥ 0source record 930 Archive: 44 index entries preserve 44 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs The men it was done to, answering back29 index entriesAnswers from people the procedure was performed on — reporting opposite experiences of it. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: The men it was done to, answering back Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### The men it was done to, answering back 29 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 84 **Appears when:** The men it was done to, answering back **What the pattern means:** The people the thread is talking about answer, in both directions, and the disagreement is not resolvable from outside. Some report no sense of loss and mild irritation at being told they were harmed. Others report specific damage, a corrective procedure, or simply that they would have liked the choice. One commenter's objection is to the conversation itself — that discussions like this one leave him self-conscious about a body he was otherwise fine with. **What commenters described:** Child circumcision survivor here. My penis is fine and sex is lovely, thank you for the concern. I've literally never met someone circumcised including myself who ever gave a flying fuck. Obviously i dont speak for everyone but I'm not out here mourning a foreskin I never knew. I miss it about as much as I miss my umbilical cord. Im not saying I'm going to have that done to my children when they are born, I understand why people are against it, it's just ridiculous how much discourse there is about it especially when its people that aren't. Dont circumcise your kids, fantastic, move on. I've never felt more affected by it than when conversations like this leave me feeling self conscious. **Limit:** Individual accounts that directly contradict one another. Nothing in them generalises to anyone else's experience. What the replies added1 My friend got circumcised in high school after his girlfriend laughed at his aardvark penis. He said he regretted not getting it done when he was younger. Reported failure♥ 4 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source It's not that dramatic. My ex and his brother got circumcised in adulthood. No complaints. source record 3♥ 48 Later-arriving source True, but these things aren’t mutually exclusive. I deeply value being kind and respectful and supportive and many other traits that I think are positive. I’m just also grateful women like my body. posted about 24.0 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source You’ll never experience a handjob with foreskin. You have no idea what you’re missing out on. You’ll never experience your foreskin slowly peeling back as well. And girls say anything when a dicks in their face. posted about 6.2 hours after the source♥ -2 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “only seen one” recurs across 3 of the 29 source records in The men it was done to, answering back; the complete archive stays available below. 29index entries 29distinct source records 12.4%of parent category 3%of the complete index 0top-level comments 29replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 7asks a question 0says they intend to try it 22other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments29 preserved records · 29 of 29 source records accounted for **It's not that dramatic. My ex and his brother got circumcised in adulthood. No complaints.**♥ 48source record 3 **My friend got circumcised in high school after his girlfriend laughed at his aardvark penis. He said he regretted not getting it done when he was younger.**♥ 4source record 31 **How do you feel about it? Are you mad they did it? Do you feel “mutilated” or “abused”? I ask because I hear people throw around those words all the time, but I know many men who’ve been circumcised and, from the ones I’ve asked, they haven’t felt negatively about their own experience. So I feel like we should actually listen to and maybe defer to people who’ve experienced it before we judge either way.**♥ 4source record 72 **My friend is a nurse and told me she’s seen so many really horrific and painful infections in men she’s been assigned to care for, so she strongly recommended we get our son circumcised when I was pregnant and asked her opinion from a medical perspective. I also asked if it being something we left up to him as an adult would be reasonable, and she assured me that most babies don’t even cry when it happens, and it reduces risk of bad infections during the diaper stage as well. With that information, I asked my (circumcised at birth) husband to take the information I had and be the one to make the decision. He told me he has never once felt like he’s missing out, does not have any traumatic memories, and was strongly in favor of it, so that’s how we made our decision. His family works in senior care, so he had also heard the horror stories in regard to infection. All this to say, anytime I’ve asked anyone who was circumcised if they are bothered about it, the answer has unilaterally been absolutely not.**♥ 5source record 73 **I asked my mother why and she claimed that they never asked, just brought me in to her room after it was done. There are multiple reasons why I find that hard to believe, but I guess I'll never know.**♥ 2source record 76 **A lot of girls have complimented me and said they’re glad I was circumcised. I don’t need any more reason than that to be glad I was too**♥ 13source record 81 **Child circumcision survivor here. My penis is fine and sex is lovely, thank you for the concern. I've literally never met someone circumcised including myself who ever gave a flying fuck. Obviously i dont speak for everyone but I'm not out here mourning a foreskin I never knew. I miss it about as much as I miss my umbilical cord. Im not saying I'm going to have that done to my children when they are born, I understand why people are against it, it's just ridiculous how much discourse there is about it especially when its people that aren't. Dont circumcise your kids, fantastic, move on. I've never felt more affected by it than when conversations like this leave me feeling self conscious.**♥ 5source record 84 **We’re perfectly fine, I promise you 😂. That is a weird belief to have though. Sex feels great, I promise.**♥ 1source record 505 **I couldn’t handle additional nerve endings there.**♥ 1source record 506 **It's less about missing nerve endings, and more about the now exposed glans becoming desensitized over time.**♥ 1source record 510 **I have a "suture tunnel" (you should be able to look it up by that term). I'd rather have a foreskin. And yes, fixing the tunnel is said to be a "simple" procedure, but I forgive myself for thinking "Ya know, the last time they took a knife to my dick it didn't go so well."**♥ 1source record 514 **I am circumcised and prefer it. I've never had this complex over it, but I probably would have if I wasn't cut, frankly.**♥ 1source record 518 **They can have no context by which to judge. On top of that they are fed a narrative by the medical industry that is predicated on half truths and outright lies. Just because you had it done does not make you some great expert on a controversial elective medical procedure for humans who can’t yet consent to a permanent body modification. What gives anyone or any society the right to make those kinds of choices for humans before they have agency over their bodies? It’s not the same as vaccination or treatment for real diseases not imagined ones that likely won’t happen.**♥ 1source record 910 **I’ve been with both, circumcised and not. End of the day, the way your penis looks can’t change whether you have shitty parts to your personality and whether or not the guy was circumcised what not on my list of things to look for in a partner lol. “He better have green eyes, he respectful, honest, be tall and circumcised” said no girl ever 🤣**♥ 1source record 911 **True, but these things aren’t mutually exclusive. I deeply value being kind and respectful and supportive and many other traits that I think are positive. I’m just also grateful women like my body.**♥ 1source record 912 **Sounds like she dealt with a lot of unhygienic parents. But I repeat myself.**♥ 1source record 914 **So you’ve not been circumcised yourself? How can you speak for others?**♥ 0source record 932 **Because he said "I'm surprised you guys can even ejaculate!" Like be fucking for real 💀**♥ 1source record 933 **You’ll never experience a handjob with foreskin. You have no idea what you’re missing out on. You’ll never experience your foreskin slowly peeling back as well. And girls say anything when a dicks in their face.**♥ -2source record 937 **I’ve been with one uncircumcised man. The handjobs were so delightful and easy! And you’re right about the erection too. Watching it is a hell of a turn on. American women need to get over themselves.**♥ 6source record 938 **Cut foreskins and straight teeth just look better, sorry buddy**♥ 3source record 939 **How do you know what it's like to ejaculate without a foreskin?**♥ 0source record 945 **I don't thank god but I know when I spray the shower on the back of my dick the top bit feels fricken awesome 😎**♥ 1source record 947 **You might have only seen one because maybe most of your Drs in America (assuming you’re American) are Jewish and they might push it for hygiene or it could be because of porn. Are American women grossed out with foreskin?**♥ -1source record 987 **I'm sorry, are you saying Jewish doctors push circumcision because of porn and/or hygiene? This is such a casually antisemitic comment to make, mainly because it's riddled with falsehoods.**♥ 2source record 988 **I am American but most doctors in America are not Jewish. I’ve only seen one (he was born in England) because it’s a cultural standard here and most people think it needs to be done and few people think twice. It’s just what you do and then the myth about cleanliness or hygiene. If you read a lot of the comments here you will see yes, it seems American women in general are grossed out by foreskin. Because it’s different. And Americans don’t like different.**♥ 1source record 989 **It didn’t bother me. Didn’t bother my son either, he didn’t even cry. Pain medicine isn’t even needed. They dipped a pacifier in sugar before they did it and he didn’t even react when it was done. I know several people who had to get it done when they were a little older and it seems like it might hurt more when you’re older**♥ 0source record 1022 **\>You might have only seen one because maybe \*most of your Drs in America\[...\]are Jewish\* and \*they\* might push it for \*hygiene\* or it could be because of \*porn\*. Homie that is exactly what you said. - most doctors in America are Jewish (false) - \*they\* push it for hygiene reasons or - \*they\* push it because of porn**♥ 2source record 1044 **1\. There’s mainly circumcised dicks in porn and most porn is American. That’s why I mentioned porn. 2\. MAYBE (I don’t know), if most of America is circumcised, why? Are most of your drs Jewish, question. Hygiene is what people have been told being circumcised is for.**♥ 0source record 1045 Archive: 29 index entries preserve 29 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Parents who declined, and what they were told5 index entriesThe small group describing the reaction they got for saying no. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Parents who declined, and what they were told Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Parents who declined, and what they were told 5 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 66 **Appears when:** Parents who declined, and what they were told **What the pattern means:** Five records, all describing the same surprise: that declining a non-essential procedure produced a fight. Pressure from both sides of a family, a relative threatening to arrange it herself, disapproval from strangers. One commenter reports the decision being confirmed for them afterwards, when local parents began organising over procedures that had gone wrong. **What commenters described:** We decided against it for our son and both sides of the family gave us so much shit. It was insane. Come to find out, the local mom's group has someone organizing a lawsuit because so many kiddos in my area had botched circumcisms. It only served to confirm our choice. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 Can I ask what background you are both from. Because here it is not a thing at all. And our dicks have not fallen off and our women are pleased greatly. Well the last bit. I hope. From the replies♥ 13 Crazy your family is THAT concerned over your son’s penis. 🤦‍♂️ From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source We decided against it for our son and both sides of the family gave us so much shit. It was insane. Come to find out, the local mom's group has someone organizing a lawsuit because so many kiddos in my area had botched circumcisms. It only served to confirm our choice. source record 66♥ 53 Later-arriving source Same. My sister told me she was going to take him and get it done herself. It’s insane how people get so worked up when someone thinks for themselves and opts out of unnecessarily chopping off a newborn’s fully functioning body part. posted about 19.8 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Crazy your family is THAT concerned over your son’s penis. 🤦‍♂️ posted about 16.1 hours after the source♥ 3 #### What the counts show Within 5 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 5index entries 5distinct source records 2.1%of parent category 0.5%of the complete index 0top-level comments 5replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 4other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments5 preserved records · 5 of 5 source records accounted for **We decided against it for our son and both sides of the family gave us so much shit. It was insane. Come to find out, the local mom's group has someone organizing a lawsuit because so many kiddos in my area had botched circumcisms. It only served to confirm our choice.**♥ 53source record 66 **Can I ask what background you are both from. Because here it is not a thing at all. And our dicks have not fallen off and our women are pleased greatly. Well the last bit. I hope.**♥ 13source record 67 **Crazy your family is THAT concerned over your son’s penis. 🤦‍♂️**♥ 3source record 68 **I just had a baby boy and live in the states. The amount of comments I’ve received disapproving of our choice to not circumcise are wild. I couldn’t imagine putting my baby through that trauma.**♥ 6source record 85 **Same. My sister told me she was going to take him and get it done herself. It’s insane how people get so worked up when someone thinks for themselves and opts out of unnecessarily chopping off a newborn’s fully functioning body part.**♥ 1source record 509 Archive: 5 index entries preserve 5 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Where the argument stopped being about the question34 index entriesComparisons, counter-comparisons and derailments that pulled the branch away from the answer it started from. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Where the argument stopped being about the question Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Where the argument stopped being about the question 34 source recordsDisputed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 5 **Appears when:** Where the argument stopped being about the question **What the pattern means:** A seventh of this theme is not about the behaviour at all. The branch turned first on a rhetorical jab about sensation, then on whether female genital cutting makes the comparison invalid, then on abortion and transition care. The records are kept because they are the honest shape of the thread — its top answer never got a clean hearing — rather than because they advance it. **What commenters described:** Sorry but "I'm surprised you can even ejaculate" is dramatic **Limit:** Derailments and comparisons, kept so the shape of the thread is visible. They are not answers to the question. What replies pushed back on2 And, people defending this are even worse. To me, this is almost no different than abortions and transitioning kids. Why shouldn't abortion and transjtioning kids be allowed and this is? Look, I get that what stays between the doctors and the pataionts/pataions company. However, just like abortion and transitioning kids. It's never about the actual reasoning for the action. Stuff like this is almost always an agenda. And, people like you who defend this type of stuff and say that "it should be allowed" are almost the most concerning ones in the end. Because, you're denfending something that shouldn't be legalized to begin with. Do you people also allow and defends rapes as well? Pushback Erm, disagree. If people are slowly starting to call "making kids transisitioming at a young age" pedephilia. Then, this should fit that definition as well. Pushback♥ -9 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Sorry but "I'm surprised you can even ejaculate" is dramatic source record 5♥ 127 Later-arriving source Dude, what are you even doing, like what do you expect someone to say to that? Do you think that's actually compassion or backhanded and an excuse just to dig at them posted about 24.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Erm, disagree. If people are slowly starting to call "making kids transisitioming at a young age" pedephilia. Then, this should fit that definition as well. posted about 1.2 hours after the source♥ -9 #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argumentChange the sentence · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-1-hygiene-nursing-homes-and-the-caregiving-argument)[Bigotry moving into ordinary speechTurn it into a game · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-9-subgroup-2-bigotry-moving-into-ordinary-speech)[Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitableTurn it into a game · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-7-subgroup-2-car-dependence-and-whether-it-is-really-inevitable) #### What the counts show Across 34 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 34index entries 34distinct source records 14.5%of parent category 3.6%of the complete index 0top-level comments 34replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 13asks a question 0says they intend to try it 21other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Change the sentence **3**Turn it into a game **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments34 preserved records · 34 of 34 source records accounted for **Sorry but "I'm surprised you can even ejaculate" is dramatic**♥ 127source record 5 **Right.. with all that feeling that uncircumcised men feel, im surprised they dont ejaculate when they put on their underwear!!!!**♥ 60source record 6 **And think of the \*children\*!! Girls get mutilated against their will, too**♥ 5source record 7 **Sometimes we do**♥ 2source record 8 **I don't think y'all understand how sensitive the penis of uncut men are. Having my head rub against my underwear all day would be agony. Its not just the absurd amount of nerve endings being removed, its the desensitization. Being so mad at some slight hyperbole, a normal thing to get a point across, seems odd, their point is perfectly easy to understand.**♥ 3source record 9 **It's not just dramatic it's rude**♥ 2source record 10 **What they do to girls (in context of genital mutilation) is magnitudes worse...**♥ 55source record 11 **Yeah. Frankly I find the use of that argument to be so wildly off base it really speaks to their weak argument…**♥ 18source record 12 **If you are referring to women getting their clits cut off and being mutilated to the point that they can’t have an orgasm? Circumcision is the weak point.**♥ 2source record 13 **Drunk driving and killing a family of 4 is magnitudes worse than drunk driving and killing only a single pedestrian. How much better does that make it?**♥ 9source record 14 **Bro, the commenter I replied to talked about 'imagine if they did this to girls'. Which they already do. Learn to read.**♥ 3source record 15 **I don’t know why you are getting defensive. I am merely elaborating on the comment you made. I think many people use the argument that because female genital mutilation is so much worse that it somehow lessens how bad it is to do to boys. I don’t know if you think that way or not. However you comment was I thought well appointed for me to make the follow up clarification.**♥ 2source record 16 **But what if you run over four Hitlers when drunk driving?**♥ 2source record 17 **Oh wait you think you should have control over your own body? Hmm, ask some women in the states abortion is illegal in how they feel.**♥ 13source record 19 **Male circumcision, while unnecessary in infants, does not compare to FGM - you are the freak for suggesting that**♥ 2source record 20 **You guys are definitely overreacting. Worry about your own genitals. I don’t know why some guys are so insecure about this. It’s obviously projection.**♥ 2source record 21 **How about female genitalia multination that’s still going on in a lot of countries!**♥ 1source record 502 **I didn't specify sex. If you're split, only for or only against it for one sex, that would be sexist.**♥ 1source record 503 **Dude, what are you even doing, like what do you expect someone to say to that? Do you think that's actually compassion or backhanded and an excuse just to dig at them**♥ 1source record 512 **What if indeed…**♥ 1source record 536 **Why make it a competition?**♥ 0source record 543 **You mean the natural amount…**♥ 1source record 544 **It’s started to offend me how often FGM gets brought up like it’s even comparable…**♥ 2source record 673 **Incorrect**♥ 1source record 900 **as well as ignorant.**♥ 1source record 915 **This should just be considered pedephilia.**♥ -6source record 934 **? It doesn't fit the definition. It does qualify solidly as genital mutilation, however.**♥ 12source record 935 **What? Do you know what pedophilia is? It has nothing to do with circumcism. I wish people would stop tossing that word around and lessening its meaning.**♥ 2source record 936 **Said the Aardvark.**♥ 0source record 951 **People and anti groups that throw a fit over a surgical procedure that is indeed needed for thousands of years should be the ones considered pedos…it’s extremely sickening and weird that you all involve yourselves into such private matters that are doctor/patient/parent business!**♥ -6source record 1053 **And, people defending this are even worse. To me, this is almost no different than abortions and transitioning kids. Why shouldn't abortion and transjtioning kids be allowed and this is? Look, I get that what stays between the doctors and the pataionts/pataions company. However, just like abortion and transitioning kids. It's never about the actual reasoning for the action. Stuff like this is almost always an agenda. And, people like you who defend this type of stuff and say that "it should be allowed" are almost the most concerning ones in the end. Because, you're denfending something that shouldn't be legalized to begin with. Do you people also allow and defends rapes as well?**♥ 0source record 1054 **You’re more warped than I thought…one is murder and one is cutting off a useless piece of skin…HUGE difference between the two there**♥ -1source record 1055 **And, so are you. Is it still murder if the offspring couldn't last much longer out of the romb due to severe health issues and or both the mother dies while giving birth ? You can also consider that removing genetalia (on a teen) the samething. Since, the teen will never have a chance to have kids in their adult life and not knowing why.**♥ 1source record 1056 **Erm, disagree. If people are slowly starting to call "making kids transisitioming at a young age" pedephilia. Then, this should fit that definition as well.**♥ -9source record 1064 Archive: 34 index entries preserve 34 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Naming your own mind46 records · 5 sub-topicsDiagnosis as identity — and the commenters who have the diagnosis answering back. 46 records. Self-diagnosing a disorder16 index entriesA diagnosis arrived at from a feed rather than an assessment. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Self-diagnosing a disorder Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Self-diagnosing a disorder 16 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 215 **Appears when:** Self-diagnosing a disorder **What the pattern means:** The complaint is narrower than it first looks. Almost nobody here objects to a person recognising themselves in a description; what the records object to is the diagnosis used as a standing excuse, or worn as an identity. Several commenters who are themselves diagnosed draw exactly that line, and one argues the actual tell is not self-diagnosis but building a personality around a label. **What commenters described:** As someone that’s on the spectrum, I am so tired of the self diagnosed crowd that uses it as an excuse for everything. **Limit:** Opinions about other people's diagnoses, from commenters who are not clinicians. Several records in the neighbouring nodes reject the premise outright. What the replies added2 It'd probably help if getting a diagnosis didn't cost thousands, while also being undiagnosed often leads to poverty. From the replies♥ 37 As someone that’s on the spectrum, I am so tired of the self diagnosed crowd that uses it as an excuse for everything. From the replies♥ 25 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Self diagnosing mental disorders source record 207♥ 176 Later-arriving source It was really easy to get diagnosed with ADHD. Basically you fill out a survey that describes many many normal human experiences and if you check a bunch of them, you have ADHD. Not to discount people who really struggle, but anyone and their dog can get a diagnosis if they want one. posted about 18.7 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Physical diagnoses too bro. posted about 5.2 hours after the source #### What the counts show The exact phrase “doesnt hurt anyone” recurs across 2 of the 16 source records in Self-diagnosing a disorder; the complete archive stays available below. 16index entries 16distinct source records 34.8%of parent category 1.7%of the complete index 1top-level comments 15replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 3asks a question 0says they intend to try it 13other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments16 preserved records · 16 of 16 source records accounted for **Self diagnosing mental disorders**♥ 176source record 207 **If it’s kids who live at home posting online I figure it’s more likely a phase that doesn’t hurt anyone besides being annoying . In the real world self diagnosing is rarer since it actually affects your life.**♥ 2source record 212 **You don’t think a childhood ‘phase’ that is more than likely based on a lie doesn’t hurt anyone? Why is that?**♥ 2source record 213 **It doesn’t really worry me they’ll grow out of it. Maybe I’m just too old to care what 13 year olds do. If I met an adult who made it their whole personality then I’d be annoyed.**♥ 2source record 214 **As someone that’s on the spectrum, I am so tired of the self diagnosed crowd that uses it as an excuse for everything.**♥ 25source record 215 **Everyone has autism, suddenly**♥ 2source record 216 **Underrated comment Commonly referred to as “armchair diagnosis”, and in some cases “pop psychology”.**♥ 22source record 217 **Ugh the fact that everyone on the planet and their child have ADHD autism and or OCD is insane to me and no one seems to get it bc they all have diagnosed themselves with something. You don’t have ADHD you have a cell phone addiction. You don’t have OCD you are using cleaning as a poor coping mechanism for loss of control. You don’t have autism you’re just being an ass and have poor social skills because you’ve isolated yourself.**♥ 13source record 220 **I get the point but in reality it is even deeper. Depending on the country you live in you can find countless quacks who diagnose you with whatever mental disorder you like to brag about. So just because it's not self diagnosed doesn't mean it is real either. The other way around if you live in a country were mental health is really just not spoken about much and there are no professionals available to diagnose a problem you do have to do your own research and self diagnose and see what you can do to improve yourself. So I think the red flag is not "self diagnose" but constant bragging about their mental disorder and basing their whole identity around it.**♥ 2source record 227 **Lots of people are denying themselves proper healthcare by self-diagnosing. There are a vast array of mental health disorders out there, some i'd never heard of before and can present with similar symptoms. I understand its hard for many people to get mental health care but I really can't take a self diagnosis seriously.**♥ 1source record 597 **I understand that they might just be innately lazy entitled selfish etc. For other reasons if they're not on the spectrum it could be unknown trauma cptsd, dysfunctional family parents household dynamics. I feel people who make excuses might have also not have healthy parenting that would have raised them into functional emotionally aware adults. I make excuses and just accept maybe I was just born a shtty person, hate myself and suffer from neglecting my health. While also trying to process my emotions.**♥ 1source record 611 **I have a sincere question. I've noticed a HUGE uptick in comments that say, "I am on the spectrum." It's hard to explain, but it almost seems like it's considered a "flex" or a "fashionable/quirky/popular" thing to say. Literally, I'll open a post and the first 6-8 comments are people claiming they're autistic when it's generally immaterial for the purpose of responding. What's going on? (And don't get me started with the fact that suddenly, everyone is a narcissist and that people are absolutely unaware of what gaslighting means or how it's executed, but I digress...) Is this a natural progression from the phenomenon of everyone wanting to be a victim or needing to find a reason for not taking responsibility for their own lives or from being the center of attention? If anyone has any insight due to their education or experience, I'd love to hear your thoughts. But, it's almost laughable that within the past three weeks, everyone who posts on reddit has suddenly been "stricken" by autism of some degree.**♥ 1source record 659 **Physical diagnoses too bro.**♥ 0source record 1019 **I think its probably multiple things, but social media is pushing it hard as are schools that often use it to try to get kids more help (that years ago they had funding for but now dont). Schools are also pushing for academics earlier which is particularly hard on boys who mature later than girls and often arent yet ready. Its easier for teachers to encourage parents to get a diagnosis for a kid than to change the curriculum or funding and I think its all usually good intentions. The autism traits criteria to have a disorder diagnosis also broadened to be more inclusive so people dont fall through the cracks, but I feel its opened it up for abuse and over pathologizing somewhat given how much money it comes with in some countries. If I wanted I could probably get myself diagnosed but I resent the pathologizing for someone such as myself. It does explain a lot though, which I think is probably part of the appeal. I hope I dont offend any internet people, but I see autism as a spectrum that includes people who arent disordered by it. Not every kindergartner who has tantrums or like chews their shirt has a disorder and they should be able to get support without a label IMO. Perhaps we need more words for different parts of the spectrum so we can not steam role the people who severely struggle.**♥ 0source record 1032 **Thank you for that. It explains alot. I'm also interested (and specifically interested) in all of the adults claiming to be autistic now. So many reddit comments begin with, "I recently discovered I'm autistic." How? Were you diagnosed by a medical professional? Has this been a question for many years and all of a sudden, a professional has gotten to the bottom of it? Or did you do a test on the internet and diagnose yourself with this disorder? The amount of times I've seen this (along with adults saying they now know they have ADHD) is uncanny and almost seems to be a "trendy" thing to say nowadays.**♥ 1source record 1033 **It was really easy to get diagnosed with ADHD. Basically you fill out a survey that describes many many normal human experiences and if you check a bunch of them, you have ADHD. Not to discount people who really struggle, but anyone and their dog can get a diagnosis if they want one.**♥ 1source record 1034 Archive: 16 index entries preserve 16 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Why people said they do it: cost, waiting lists and being missed5 index entriesThe first reply that answer drew: what an assessment costs, and who never gets offered one. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Why people said they do it: cost, waiting lists and being missed Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Why people said they do it: cost, waiting lists and being missed 5 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 208 **Appears when:** Why people said they do it: cost, waiting lists and being missed **What the pattern means:** The first reply that answer drew, and it reframes it. Assessment costs thousands; going undiagnosed has costs of its own; and several commenters describe having to name the condition themselves before any professional would test for it. One reports a decade of wrong labels first. Read together they argue that self-diagnosis is often the only route left rather than a pose. **What commenters described:** It'd probably help if getting a diagnosis didn't cost thousands, while also being undiagnosed often leads to poverty. **Limit:** Personal accounts of one health system's access problems, not a description of how assessment works generally. What the replies added2 Agreed on this. It’s one thing to say you have XYZ because it’s ’popular’ or ‘in’ or gets you followers or you and others think it’s quirky. It’s another to know damn well you have a thing but are unable to afford to get it diagnosed and treated by a professional. Not everyone out there who is not professionally diagnosed with something just simply does not have it because a doctor never said you did. Also, people are a lot more aware about these things these days. There’s more studies and talks about things like adhd and ocd and autism (being such a broad spectrum as it is) and that’s great! People who have struggled their whole lives can put a finger on the cause and go from there. Some have the means to get it official and deal via therapy, meds, whatever. A lot of people do not have that option, and should not be invalidated because of it From the replies♥ 23 I had to fight and seek out every diagnosis I have. It sounds like I was asking for it when I put it like that, but I’ve been diagnosed again and again with exactly the same thing when every doctor questions it and wants their own take on it. Always the same conclusion. In college it was first bipolar 2\. I was skeptical but pretty sure. I went in, got tested, got medicated. It took about 8 years to get stable with the billion med changes that happened between different doctors and simply failing so many and being labeled treatment resistant. Then about a decade later after others mentioned it and my therapist agreed, it was seeking Autism and questioning ADHD but I wasn’t very convinced on that one at all. Whole neurodivergent spectrum there they saw clearly in the intake before the testing even began. There’s also the Irlen Syndrome I questioned and sought testing for and was amazed at the results and what I learned. Oh about halfway between BP2 and AuDHD was PMDD. That took TONS of research and years of mood tracking. Most recently it’s the hEDS I suspect with confirmed hypermobility and dysautonomia with doctors recording the changes in my blood pressure after electrolytes and changes in so many things, and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome, all three of which were unofficially confirmed by one doctor but not being the official specialists who diagnose them, even with multiple doctors agreeing, it’s still unofficial. I started H1 and H2 antihistamines and mast cell stabilizers and I’m doing better in many ways! All doctor recommended, and in some cases prescribed, treatments. It takes someone advocating for themselves to make things happen. I was like 31 when I got my AuDHD diagnosis. I had already experienced severe depression for a decade by the time I got my bipolar diagnosis. Thanks, mom, for calling the doctor that hinted I was depressed a “quack” and saying we’d never listen to him again. Then thanks, mom, for threatening to disown me when I came out about my bipolar diagnosis to her. Now we’re totally good and close and I love my mom so much and I’m sad we don’t have much time left due to her (genetic) ALS. I need to get tested. From the replies♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source It'd probably help if getting a diagnosis didn't cost thousands, while also being undiagnosed often leads to poverty. source record 208♥ 37 Later-arriving source Or if they told you what diagnosis you have when u get an assessment for mental health posted about 17.3 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source How else is someone supposed to get diagnosed? I had several therapists and a psychiatrist, the only diagnosis I ever got from them was depression. It took me recognizing my symptoms in other peoples descriptions and specifically asking for a diagnosis to actually get diagnosed. posted about 8.4 hours after the source♥ 3 #### What the counts show Within 5 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 5index entries 5distinct source records 10.9%of parent category 0.5%of the complete index 0top-level comments 5replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 4other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments5 preserved records · 5 of 5 source records accounted for **It'd probably help if getting a diagnosis didn't cost thousands, while also being undiagnosed often leads to poverty.**♥ 37source record 208 **Agreed on this. It’s one thing to say you have XYZ because it’s ’popular’ or ‘in’ or gets you followers or you and others think it’s quirky. It’s another to know damn well you have a thing but are unable to afford to get it diagnosed and treated by a professional. Not everyone out there who is not professionally diagnosed with something just simply does not have it because a doctor never said you did. Also, people are a lot more aware about these things these days. There’s more studies and talks about things like adhd and ocd and autism (being such a broad spectrum as it is) and that’s great! People who have struggled their whole lives can put a finger on the cause and go from there. Some have the means to get it official and deal via therapy, meds, whatever. A lot of people do not have that option, and should not be invalidated because of it**♥ 23source record 209 **I had to fight and seek out every diagnosis I have. It sounds like I was asking for it when I put it like that, but I’ve been diagnosed again and again with exactly the same thing when every doctor questions it and wants their own take on it. Always the same conclusion. In college it was first bipolar 2\. I was skeptical but pretty sure. I went in, got tested, got medicated. It took about 8 years to get stable with the billion med changes that happened between different doctors and simply failing so many and being labeled treatment resistant. Then about a decade later after others mentioned it and my therapist agreed, it was seeking Autism and questioning ADHD but I wasn’t very convinced on that one at all. Whole neurodivergent spectrum there they saw clearly in the intake before the testing even began. There’s also the Irlen Syndrome I questioned and sought testing for and was amazed at the results and what I learned. Oh about halfway between BP2 and AuDHD was PMDD. That took TONS of research and years of mood tracking. Most recently it’s the hEDS I suspect with confirmed hypermobility and dysautonomia with doctors recording the changes in my blood pressure after electrolytes and changes in so many things, and Mast Cell Activation Syndrome, all three of which were unofficially confirmed by one doctor but not being the official specialists who diagnose them, even with multiple doctors agreeing, it’s still unofficial. I started H1 and H2 antihistamines and mast cell stabilizers and I’m doing better in many ways! All doctor recommended, and in some cases prescribed, treatments. It takes someone advocating for themselves to make things happen. I was like 31 when I got my AuDHD diagnosis. I had already experienced severe depression for a decade by the time I got my bipolar diagnosis. Thanks, mom, for calling the doctor that hinted I was depressed a “quack” and saying we’d never listen to him again. Then thanks, mom, for threatening to disown me when I came out about my bipolar diagnosis to her. Now we’re totally good and close and I love my mom so much and I’m sad we don’t have much time left due to her (genetic) ALS. I need to get tested.**♥ 2source record 211 **How else is someone supposed to get diagnosed? I had several therapists and a psychiatrist, the only diagnosis I ever got from them was depression. It took me recognizing my symptoms in other peoples descriptions and specifically asking for a diagnosis to actually get diagnosed.**♥ 3source record 225 **Or if they told you what diagnosis you have when u get an assessment for mental health**♥ 1source record 617 Archive: 5 index entries preserve 5 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Diagnosing everybody else6 index entriesRecords that turn the complaint around onto people who diagnose others. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Diagnosing everybody else Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Diagnosing everybody else 6 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 219 **Appears when:** Diagnosing everybody else **What the pattern means:** The mirror image of the complaint above, and a few commenters think it is the larger problem: labelling other people, with 'narcissist' the word they name over and over. One record points at the recommendation algorithms pushing that vocabulary; another at clinicians over-applying categories from the manual. **What commenters described:** Diagnosing other people is a much bigger social problem than self-diagnosis. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 Diagnosing other people is a much bigger social problem than self-diagnosis. From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Applying the “narcissistic” title to literally everyone source record 218♥ 19 Later-arriving source Or diagnosing others. If I see one more person call everyone in their lives narcissist I’ll probably lose it. posted about 23.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source File this next to "Everyone is a narc" posts. posted about 15.0 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 6 source records for Diagnosing everybody else together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 6index entries 6distinct source records 13%of parent category 0.6%of the complete index 0top-level comments 6replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 6other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for **Applying the “narcissistic” title to literally everyone**♥ 19source record 218 **Diagnosing other people is a much bigger social problem than self-diagnosis.**♥ 3source record 219 **File this next to "Everyone is a narc" posts.**♥ 1source record 595 **Or diagnosing others. If I see one more person call everyone in their lives narcissist I’ll probably lose it.**♥ 1source record 604 **The social media algorithms are heavy into pushing disorders or like suggesting that people in your life are for-real narcissists.**♥ 1source record 660 **Also, mental health professionals being hyper focused on DSM categories and over/misdiagnosing. And personality disorders being a trend.**♥ 1source record 661 Archive: 6 index entries preserve 6 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Therapy words used loosely4 index entriesSpecific words commenters said have lost their meaning in everyday use. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Therapy words used loosely Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Therapy words used loosely 4 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 329 **Appears when:** Therapy words used loosely **What the pattern means:** Specific words rather than a general mood: gaslighting used to mean lying, trauma used to mean an unpleasant time. The most useful record works through what gaslighting actually describes with an example. Another reports the loss running the other way — having been through it, the commenter now avoids the word because nobody hears any weight in it. **What commenters described:** People using therapy speak in everyday language when they have no idea what it means. Thinking mainly of "gaslight," which is NOT a synonym for "lying" or "trying to convince yourself to do something." **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 For gaslighting, I like to use the example of catching a partner cheating. Are you accusing them based on suspicious behaviors and they say no? If they’re lying, they’re lying. That’s not gaslighting. Gaslighting is when you see the messages and catch them doing things, and they try to convince you that you didn’t see what you saw. They try to break you mentally. You know what you saw but now you’re questioning it because they are tripping you out. From the replies♥ 3 Or the overuse of the word 'trauma'. Once you've been through it, you can spot pretty easily what's actual trauma and what was just an unpleasant time for someone?? And it makes you less likely to use the word to describe your experiences because people don't seem to grasp the gravity of it anymore. From the replies♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source People using therapy speak in everyday language when they have no idea what it means. Thinking mainly of "gaslight," which is NOT a synonym for "lying" or "trying to convince yourself to do something." source record 329♥ 15 Later-arriving source Or the overuse of the word 'trauma'. Once you've been through it, you can spot pretty easily what's actual trauma and what was just an unpleasant time for someone?? And it makes you less likely to use the word to describe your experiences because people don't seem to grasp the gravity of it anymore. posted about 19.5 hours after the source♥ 2 Low-like source Therapy speak in the everyday. Using speaker phone in public. Not using headphones in public. posted about 13.5 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “therapy speak in” recurs across 2 of the 4 source records in Therapy words used loosely; the complete archive stays available below. 4index entries 4distinct source records 8.7%of parent category 0.4%of the complete index 2top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 2other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments4 preserved records · 4 of 4 source records accounted for **People using therapy speak in everyday language when they have no idea what it means. Thinking mainly of "gaslight," which is NOT a synonym for "lying" or "trying to convince yourself to do something."**♥ 15source record 329 **For gaslighting, I like to use the example of catching a partner cheating. Are you accusing them based on suspicious behaviors and they say no? If they’re lying, they’re lying. That’s not gaslighting. Gaslighting is when you see the messages and catch them doing things, and they try to convince you that you didn’t see what you saw. They try to break you mentally. You know what you saw but now you’re questioning it because they are tripping you out.**♥ 3source record 330 **Or the overuse of the word 'trauma'. Once you've been through it, you can spot pretty easily what's actual trauma and what was just an unpleasant time for someone?? And it makes you less likely to use the word to describe your experiences because people don't seem to grasp the gravity of it anymore.**♥ 2source record 331 **Therapy speak in the everyday. Using speaker phone in public. Not using headphones in public.**♥ 1source record 808 Archive: 4 index entries preserve 4 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs The people who have the diagnosis, answering15 index entriesCommenters living with the conditions being discussed, describing what the loose talk costs — and disagreeing with each other about how to respond to it. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: The people who have the diagnosis, answering Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### The people who have the diagnosis, answering 15 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 223 **Appears when:** The people who have the diagnosis, answering **What the pattern means:** The branch's own subjects reply, and they do not agree with each other. Some describe what the casual version costs them — OCD treated as a quirk while they are at risk of losing a job. Others push back on the complaint itself, arguing that assuming somebody is lying about an illness is worse than being wrong about them, and that people joke about serious diagnoses precisely to test whether it is safe to mention them at all. **What commenters described:** Omg yes! I have OCD, and it's gotten so bad I'm struggling to sleep, can barely function and am at risk of losing my job. I had to talk to my doctor earlier today because of how bad it's gotten. I'm so sick of people saying stupid bullshit 'triggers their OCD', and then acting like it's some funny quirk. **Limit:** First-person accounts of living with a condition, including descriptions of acute distress. They are experiences, not clinical descriptions, and the commenters disagree with each other. What the replies added1 Tbh it's not easy to tell if someone is or is not telling the truth when they're lightheartedly talking about having a serious mental illness. I am diagnosed bipolar, and it's pretty much ruined my life multiple times before I got diagnosed and treated. But the way I usually talk about it would make you assume that I'm "lying for attention". I joke about it. I joke about wanting to be in hypomania because it's fun and energy drinks aren't cutting it. Someone overhearing me definitely would assume I'm not bipolar and am just trivializing the illness. I also have OCD (diagnosed and moderately managed). Yes it's torturous. Yes it's annoying when someone says they have it and it doesn't sound like they're describing the actual pattern of the illness. But it's always better to lead with grace & kindness than to dismiss someone who is opening up and being vulnerable. Making jokes is a common, safe way to test someone's reaction to you opening up about something vulnerable (like mental illness). Reported failure #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Omg yes! I have OCD, and it's gotten so bad I'm struggling to sleep, can barely function and am at risk of losing my job. I had to talk to my doctor earlier today because of how bad it's gotten. I'm so sick of people saying stupid bullshit 'triggers their OCD', and then acting like it's some funny quirk. source record 223♥ 9 Later-arriving source If you choose to be offended I’m sorry but so be it. My comment is very obviously referring to people who do not actually have these disorders but use a fake diagnosis to excuse away their behavior. OCD, autism and ADHD are not just “cleaning too much” and “poor social skills” and “small attention span”. It’s so much more. Hence why my comment is referring to only those symptoms when people automatically assume they themselves must have a disorder, which is offensive to those that actually have been diagnosed. I thought that was obvious posted about 21.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source DSM-V has a new category for OCPD, precisely for things that aren't as serious posted about 5.7 hours after the source #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Religion, culture and “it is just what you do”Attach it to an existing routine · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-3-religion-culture-and-it-is-just-what-you-do)[“It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the threadAttach it to an existing routine · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-1-it-s-a-social-lubricant-the-pushback-inside-the-thread) #### What the counts show Across 15 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 15index entries 15distinct source records 32.6%of parent category 1.6%of the complete index 0top-level comments 15replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 13other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Attach it to an existing routine **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments15 preserved records · 15 of 15 source records accounted for **The irony that your analysis is just as invalid as someone self diagnosis, if not more so since you don't actually know their symptoms and behaviors day in day out. And OCD people already doubt themselves enough. Autistic people already get called asses enough.**♥ 5source record 221 **this is a fucking awful comment. These disorders are real and really impact people's lives. Sure, are some people out there self-diagnosing cynically to cover their own flaws? Yeah, probably. But this comment is so widely, sweepingly dismissive. I just want you to know there are ppl with these disorders reading, and it hurts.**♥ 4source record 222 **Omg yes! I have OCD, and it's gotten so bad I'm struggling to sleep, can barely function and am at risk of losing my job. I had to talk to my doctor earlier today because of how bad it's gotten. I'm so sick of people saying stupid bullshit 'triggers their OCD', and then acting like it's some funny quirk.**♥ 9source record 223 **I, too, despise casually throwing around the idea that "I have OCD" or "I have a touch of OCD." I don't have it myself, but the person I was closest to in my life did have it. It's extremely serious and is torturous to those dealing with it. It ruins lives and takes lives from people every single day. Those who get treatment and fight through it every second of every day are the bravest people I've ever known. Stop casually throwing around these diagnoses for the sake of those who are truly suffering through them.**♥ 3source record 224 **For a long time, I didn't know people didn't have racing obsessive thoughts like me. I was actually being assessed for something completely unrelated when the provider stopped everything and suddenly focused hard on OCD testing, and found I had pretty severe OCD (among other things) It's annoying, and what's even more annoying is I constantly doubt I even have OCD - did I exaggerate the symptoms? Isn't it normal to just want to know everything with 200% certainty, no matter what it is? Maybe I lied at some point in the test, or focused too hard on something. So then I almost obsessively start to search up symptoms of OCD and I convince myself I DON'T have it (or paranoid personality disorder), and that doctors are lying POS that want to turn me into a mindless zombie and control me. So then I start to spiral wondering what I do have, which leads to more looking stuff up and reading, along with combing through my medical records, various body scans and tests from the last 15 years - suddenly, I'm positive I have a brain tumor and that's why I do the weird stuff I do, get headaches all the time and that's 100% why I sometimes have this numbness in my arm and it's definitely metastisized and went to my liver and that's why I get some stomach pain too. It's literally hell, and it's so fucking exhausting. I just want all the noise in my head to stop, I want quiet.**♥ 1source record 627 **It's a horrible thing to deal with. Please remind yourself that thoughts are not facts and that a main part of your disorder is that your brain lies to you. It tries to convince you of a truth that doesn't exist. Only bc I care, I'd suggest you look into DBT if you haven't already completed a reputable program. For the person who I loved more than anything in the world and who suffered unspeakable intrusive thoughts, DBT was the miracle that we had searched for over many years. I wish you the best of luck and commend you for having the bravery, strength and determination to fight against yourself so that you can finally know the truth and be able to deal with this terrible disorder. ❤️**♥ 2source record 628 **Yeah I actually do have OCD, and when ppl say they have it I always assume they do. I know that a lot of times it's probably not the case or they may be joking, because OCD so widely misunderstood. But I will continue to assume it's true every single time, because it's better to lead with grace and kindness than to dismiss someone who is truly opening up and exposing a vulnerable aspect of themselves. The one thing that does bother me is people mixing up the words intrusive & impulsive in regards to thoughts, because the definitions of those are very cut and dry. And when ppl think those two words mean the same it makes it nearly impossible for ppl to actually talk abt OCD without being labeled a monster. People never go to a psychiatrist without already having a good idea of what they have going on, so tbh the whole "you can't give yourself a diagnosis you need to wait for a doctor to" thing is kinda funny to me. Like, it makes me imagine people going to a psychiatrist every year for a check up like a general practitioner lol.**♥ 1source record 631 **If you choose to be offended I’m sorry but so be it. My comment is very obviously referring to people who do not actually have these disorders but use a fake diagnosis to excuse away their behavior. OCD, autism and ADHD are not just “cleaning too much” and “poor social skills” and “small attention span”. It’s so much more. Hence why my comment is referring to only those symptoms when people automatically assume they themselves must have a disorder, which is offensive to those that actually have been diagnosed. I thought that was obvious**♥ 1source record 635 **I can't eat this delicious food - texture issues**♥ 1source record 662 **You don't need a diagnosis to have a texture issue!**♥ 4source record 663 **DSM-V has a new category for OCPD, precisely for things that aren't as serious**♥ 0source record 1024 **Not quite. OCPD and OCD aren't the same, but share alot of traits. OCPD is a personality disorder and OCD is anxiety based. Both can be equally crippling**♥ 4source record 1025 **OCPD isn’t the less serious version of OCD. OCD is an anxiety based mental disorder classified by feelings of intrusive, distressing thoughts that lead to the sufferer doing compulsions to stop them. For example, if you worry you will pass infections to people, you might have intrusive thoughts saying that you’re going to infect a food and will make someone get sick and die. Compulsively, you wash your hands a lot and make sure you have sanitizer on you at all times. OCPD is a personality disorder where the person with it has obsessions with perfectionism and feels the need to always be in control. People with OCPD have obsessions with creating structures to follow, grind a lot at work to the detriment of personal relationships, are severely stubborn and rigid in views, pursue perfectionism to where they cannot accomplish their goals, cannot delegate tasks bc they know they won’t be done exactly how they want them done, etc. OCD is no worse or better than OCPD. Both suck ass, but in different ways. One of the core differences is that people with OCD typically know they have it. People with personality disorders don’t tend to acknowledge their conditions, and OCPD is no exception. People with OCPD may not see a problem with their behaviors and beliefs.**♥ 1source record 1026 **"You don’t have ADHD you have a cell phone addiction. You don’t have OCD you are using cleaning as a poor coping mechanism for loss of control. You don’t have autism you’re just being an ass and have poor social skills because you’ve isolated yourself." I don't doubt some people could be born anti social unsociable unable to be pro social due to mental health conditions they were born with. Even if they didnt have disorders t echnology phone Addiction, cleaning as copying mechanism for loss of control, being an as, poor social skills isolated could be because of neglectful absive parenting childhood trauma cptsd dysfunctional family households. Their upbringing, how they were raised, their environment, influence, factors in their childhood such as school siblings relatives peers local community everyday interactions, how they are treated socialized conditioned by societal cultural expectations of what it means to be a successful human being.**♥ 0source record 1037 **Tbh it's not easy to tell if someone is or is not telling the truth when they're lightheartedly talking about having a serious mental illness. I am diagnosed bipolar, and it's pretty much ruined my life multiple times before I got diagnosed and treated. But the way I usually talk about it would make you assume that I'm "lying for attention". I joke about it. I joke about wanting to be in hypomania because it's fun and energy drinks aren't cutting it. Someone overhearing me definitely would assume I'm not bipolar and am just trivializing the illness. I also have OCD (diagnosed and moderately managed). Yes it's torturous. Yes it's annoying when someone says they have it and it doesn't sound like they're describing the actual pattern of the illness. But it's always better to lead with grace & kindness than to dismiss someone who is opening up and being vulnerable. Making jokes is a common, safe way to test someone's reaction to you opening up about something vulnerable (like mental illness).**♥ 0source record 1038 Archive: 15 index entries preserve 15 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Plans, promises and disappearing41 records · 4 sub-topicsWhat happens to a commitment once keeping it costs something. 41 records. Flaking, no-shows and the party nobody came to17 index entriesPlans agreed to and then dropped, and the events left half empty. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Flaking, no-shows and the party nobody came to Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Flaking, no-shows and the party nobody came to 17 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 270 **Appears when:** Flaking, no-shows and the party nobody came to **What the pattern means:** These answers are not about one cancelled coffee but about events with a fixed date: a child's birthday, a wedding, a fortieth. Several commenters report the majority of confirmed guests dropping out at the last minute. The reasoning offered is about reciprocity rather than manners — one record puts it as wanting a community without being a member of one. **What commenters described:** Being flakey around plans/events. There is really nothing sadder than planning a kids birthday or wedding and half the people who said they'd come cancel or no-show. It's actively harming the social fabric of this country. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 100% agree. Everyone is “protecting their peace” and everyone is a main character. People don’t even have a decency to let people know ahead of time. From the replies♥ 63 Everyone wants to be a part of a community but no one wants to participate in theirs. Even if I don’t want to go to my plans, I still go if I said I would because I value my community. From the replies♥ 13 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Flaking, ghosting, lying, etc; source record 170♥ 228 Later-arriving source only to an extent. at the end of the day it requires the people, the members of the community, to actually feel like they should be investing in it. "Everyone wants a village, no one wants to be a villager." posted about 24.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Thank you and I'm sorry to hear for your bf as well. I took it as a lesson on who truly mattered the whole time. Sounds like your bf has two good friends in life! posted about 23.8 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “i dont want to” recurs across 2 of the 17 source records in Flaking, no-shows and the party nobody came to; the complete archive stays available below. 17index entries 17distinct source records 41.5%of parent category 1.8%of the complete index 5top-level comments 12replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 3asks a question 0says they intend to try it 14other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments17 preserved records · 17 of 17 source records accounted for **Flaking, ghosting, lying, etc;**♥ 228source record 170 **I literally have this happen weekly now. Make plans and one of the three will happen. Sucks. Even family will do it these days**♥ 2source record 187 **People are way too comfortable cancelling plans, especially last minute.**♥ 2source record 188 **Being flakey around plans/events. There is really nothing sadder than planning a kids birthday or wedding and half the people who said they'd come cancel or no-show. It's actively harming the social fabric of this country.**♥ 48source record 270 **Everyone wants to be a part of a community but no one wants to participate in theirs. Even if I don’t want to go to my plans, I still go if I said I would because I value my community.**♥ 13source record 271 **this is something most urbanists and pro walkable city advocates miss, im not against those concepts, but they're too quick to assume that it will automatically create a sense of community, and think the decrease in feelings of commitment is a product of single family homes and a lack of bike lanes (car centric planning is 70+ years old and long predates the current behavior)**♥ 3source record 272 **I never really thought of this but it's so true. I wonder if making those pro-walkable areas helps foster community? I know people are always out on the beltline in Atlanta. I have to believe that the infrastructure helps cultivate community, even if not right away**♥ 1source record 273 **This happened on my 40th birthday. Had an elaborate surprise party planned by my wife. I kept wondering that day what we were doing because we were just sitting around and I wanted to go do something so she eventually spilled the beans that she had a surprise birthday party planned but everybody except two people flaked at the last minute.**♥ 4source record 274 **I'm so sorry. This same exact thing happened to my best friend for her birthday recently. All canceled except me and one other person.**♥ 1source record 275 **I've never had an issue declining invitations, especially far off weddings. Check the No box. No explanation required. I sleep well**♥ 2source record 276 **Yeah. People should be up front. Most of us do not question actions. We question the absence of them. If you cannot make it to a hangout or a wedding, okay. It’s fine. If you can’t but say you can and end up flaking, why? 🥺**♥ 3source record 277 **Not RSVPing or cancelling social commitments with no good reason. I don't cancel on people unless I have a fever, diarrhea, am vomiting, or have a death in the family. You honor commitments. People have no sense of shame anymore.**♥ 3source record 428 **Abandoning plans, especially at the last minute.**♥ 1source record 683 **I mean I'd cancel a social engagement if I felt even a \*little\* bit sick, because I don't want to spread any amount of sickness to anyone. But yes, I agree with your point here. I always show up for things when I say I'm going to and I've actually had friends seem surprised when I do! That says a lot about the sad state of social connections these days.**♥ 1source record 725 **Thank you and I'm sorry to hear for your bf as well. I took it as a lesson on who truly mattered the whole time. Sounds like your bf has two good friends in life!**♥ 1source record 740 **only to an extent. at the end of the day it requires the people, the members of the community, to actually feel like they should be investing in it. "Everyone wants a village, no one wants to be a villager."**♥ 1source record 741 **Not sending thank you notes or texts, I've sent 3 bridal gifts off the registry and 2 shower gifts. I'm been driving myself crazy wondering if the people did receive them did I forget, why is it so hard to say, hey thanks for the money, or 150.00 kitchen pot? Texts, email, anything.**♥ 1source record 839 Archive: 17 index entries preserve 17 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Ghosting, cutting contact, and lies that cost nothing14 index entriesContact ended without a word, and the small dishonesty that travels with it. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Ghosting, cutting contact, and lies that cost nothing Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Ghosting, cutting contact, and lies that cost nothing 14 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 174 **Appears when:** Ghosting, cutting contact, and lies that cost nothing **What the pattern means:** Where flaking is about an event, this is about ending a relationship without saying so. The accounts are long and specific: a close friendship ended by text, an engagement ended by text. The complaint is the absence of a sentence rather than the decision. The small lies grouped here belong for the same reason — they cost the teller nothing and leave the other person holding something false. **What commenters described:** Lost one of my closest friends to this. We had a falling out and she catastrophized, thinking I was going to do something I would never do. She ended our friendship via text and will probably never speak to me again because she needs to “protect her peace”. I miss her a lot, but it was an incredibly shitty thing to do especially since I actively tried to mend things. But now she acts like I never mattered. Hell, maybe I never did. Ironically every time I see her she looks miserable. I had other friends to fall back on, she doesn’t. It’s really tragic. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 Professional victimhood, they are toddlers, nothing is their fault Alot of people are enablers, i think its more common with females than males If a woman is dumped by a man her friends will say things such as, he didnt deserve you, you are worth more, etc; basically not holding her accountable But if the reverse happens and she was a decent partner, his friends will tell him he is an idiot and he ruined it These people then remain immature and always blame others For that indian guy above, i would just tell him exactly how you feel and say if you want me in your life you have to change, if not, then this is where we part ways Reported failure♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Lost one of my closest friends to this. We had a falling out and she catastrophized, thinking I was going to do something I would never do. She ended our friendship via text and will probably never speak to me again because she needs to “protect her peace”. I miss her a lot, but it was an incredibly shitty thing to do especially since I actively tried to mend things. But now she acts like I never mattered. Hell, maybe I never did. Ironically every time I see her she looks miserable. I had other friends to fall back on, she doesn’t. It’s really tragic. source record 174♥ 17 Later-arriving source Oh dang, that would explain a lot. I can understand being mad at me but she seemed convinced I was trying to manipulate her. I’m no expert but I’m pretty sure she was in psychosis by that point. I’m honestly not sure I’ve ever known her while she wasn’t manic, a lot of her behavior seemed like it but it wasn’t off-putting at that point. But the complete personality change she had in March scared me. posted about 22.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source I won’t lie, it doesn’t feel like that. I’ve never had a friend hurt me like that before. She’s bipolar and will likely do this over and over again. I wish I could be there for her but she would rather stay angry forever. posted about 18.3 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show Within 14 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 14index entries 14distinct source records 34.1%of parent category 1.5%of the complete index 6top-level comments 8replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 13other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments14 preserved records · 14 of 14 source records accounted for **Lost one of my closest friends to this. We had a falling out and she catastrophized, thinking I was going to do something I would never do. She ended our friendship via text and will probably never speak to me again because she needs to “protect her peace”. I miss her a lot, but it was an incredibly shitty thing to do especially since I actively tried to mend things. But now she acts like I never mattered. Hell, maybe I never did. Ironically every time I see her she looks miserable. I had other friends to fall back on, she doesn’t. It’s really tragic.**♥ 17source record 174 **I got dumped by an ex over text who had plans with me to get married 🫩. We‘d been together for years and somehow that was an acceptable way to break it off with me. His reason was essentially I was too hard to be with and high maintenance so he needed to start focusing just on himself (the maintenance in question is that I’m chronically ill and physically disabled- i started the relationship in that condition so it wasn’t a surprise). It’s all BS. I sincerely hope you’ve found a bit more peace now with what your old friend did, it wasn’t fair to you.**♥ 7source record 175 **Yeah it was similar to be. Due to my own mental issues I became too needy in her eyes (never mind that we both suffer from something similar). She was bipolar and I’ve read that they can discard you coldly and suddenly for months or years once you cross their invisible line. I also suspect she has some kind of schizophrenia since it runs in her family. The last time I confronted her about her ending the friendship she angrily replied it was always going to be like this and she physically recoiled and hunched over her desk, as if I was going to start hitting her or something. The look of anger and terror she had haunts me. She had completely painted me black and there was no reasoning with her. I don’t think she’s doing okay. She’s been missing a lot of work recently and I just wish I could be there for her.**♥ 3source record 176 **Science is beginning to realize that bipolar disorder and schizophrenia may not be two completely distinct things.**♥ 2source record 177 **Oh dang, that would explain a lot. I can understand being mad at me but she seemed convinced I was trying to manipulate her. I’m no expert but I’m pretty sure she was in psychosis by that point. I’m honestly not sure I’ve ever known her while she wasn’t manic, a lot of her behavior seemed like it but it wasn’t off-putting at that point. But the complete personality change she had in March scared me.**♥ 1source record 178 **Wtf weird. Same exact thing happened to me 2 weeks ago. Taking it as a blessing in disguise 😊**♥ 3source record 179 **These are the same people who cry the hardest about not having friends. Pathetic. My case was a guy who is an Indian immigrant who’s 26 years old, I’m also an immigrant not from there but I’ve been here 9 years, I thought we’d be good. This guy flakes like his life depends on it. And he complains about how he has no friends and people don’t like him. He says it’s because people are racists towards Indians….. Righttt. Goddamn moron. He’s so stupid that he went to doctors for an issue. The doctor told him to do a few things at home, of course he doesn’t follow up and then says “Bro the doctors are soo bad here. I’ve wasted my time”. I’ve stopped inviting him to anything since it’s so much of an inconvenience to him. I also have put him on mute so that I also “forget” to see his messages. He doesn’t do anything by himself and waits for me to call him. When I do invite him , he’s miserable because he didn’t want to come. Why say yes to a thing you dont want to come to? If I meet him somewhere outside, my go to is “I just came out without a plan that’s why I forgot to tell you “**♥ 2source record 180 **Ghosting, both romantically and platonically. If someone bugs you or you're just not into them, say so before blocking them.**♥ 3source record 433 **Lying... people think it's one 'white lie' but that mindset is worrying... one lie turns into another.**♥ 2source record 457 **I won’t lie, it doesn’t feel like that. I’ve never had a friend hurt me like that before. She’s bipolar and will likely do this over and over again. I wish I could be there for her but she would rather stay angry forever.**♥ 1source record 638 **Casually being avoidant**♥ 1source record 688 **Ghosting**♥ 1source record 811 **Lieing to yourself to keep the peace.**♥ 1source record 817 **Casual lies**♥ 1source record 880 Archive: 14 index entries preserve 14 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs “Protecting my peace” as the reason given8 index entriesOne phrase, named repeatedly as the cover story rather than the reason. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: “Protecting my peace” as the reason given Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### “Protecting my peace” as the reason given 8 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 172 **Appears when:** “Protecting my peace” as the reason given **What the pattern means:** One phrase, named repeatedly as the thing that changed. Commenters do not dispute the underlying idea; the sharpest record explains it as a therapeutic tool built for people who cannot say no at all, later adopted by people who were already avoidant. The objection is to a vocabulary that makes dropping people sound like health. **What commenters described:** Yep, they call it self care, i call it selfish care **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 Professional victimhood, they are toddlers, nothing is their fault Alot of people are enablers, i think its more common with females than males If a woman is dumped by a man her friends will say things such as, he didnt deserve you, you are worth more, etc; basically not holding her accountable But if the reverse happens and she was a decent partner, his friends will tell him he is an idiot and he ruined it These people then remain immature and always blame others For that indian guy above, i would just tell him exactly how you feel and say if you want me in your life you have to change, if not, then this is where we part ways Reported failure♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source 100% agree. Everyone is “protecting their peace” and everyone is a main character. People don’t even have a decency to let people know ahead of time. source record 171♥ 63 Later-arriving source Professional victimhood, they are toddlers, nothing is their fault Alot of people are enablers, i think its more common with females than males If a woman is dumped by a man her friends will say things such as, he didnt deserve you, you are worth more, etc; basically not holding her accountable But if the reverse happens and she was a decent partner, his friends will tell him he is an idiot and he ruined it These people then remain immature and always blame others For that indian guy above, i would just tell him exactly how you feel and say if you want me in your life you have to change, if not, then this is where we part ways posted about 23.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source That's why I no longer say "protecting my peace" I started staying " to protect my sanity, or at least what is left of it." Cause I enjoy chaos, but I get burnt out easily due to past life events I am still working through and my sanity and ability to do things outweigh having peace. posted about 22.4 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “and everyone is a main character” recurs across 2 of the 8 source records in “Protecting my peace” as the reason given; the complete archive stays available below. 8index entries 8distinct source records 19.5%of parent category 0.8%of the complete index 0top-level comments 8replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for **100% agree. Everyone is “protecting their peace” and everyone is a main character. People don’t even have a decency to let people know ahead of time.**♥ 63source record 171 **Yep, they call it self care, i call it selfish care**♥ 37source record 172 **Exactly, it's a therapy thing that was only meant for people that already give too much of themselves, people pleasers, fawning types, people who cannot say no until they crash out or burn out. But now that the entire internet has it, all the actual selfish or avoidant people use it and then victim blame you by saying "you're just too needy" or "I need my space."**♥ 7source record 173 **I went through something similar. It was 2 years ago, and I still miss her.**♥ 1source record 181 **I am so sick of the phrase “protect your peace” because it’s always said when trying to justify treating friends as disposable.**♥ 9source record 182 **\>Everyone is “protecting their peace” and everyone is a main character. Everyone is a narcissist... Me, Me, and also Me... And now everyone is not "alone" anymore, they always have a cellphone with them...**♥ 3source record 183 **That's why I no longer say "protecting my peace" I started staying " to protect my sanity, or at least what is left of it." Cause I enjoy chaos, but I get burnt out easily due to past life events I am still working through and my sanity and ability to do things outweigh having peace.**♥ 1source record 619 **Professional victimhood, they are toddlers, nothing is their fault Alot of people are enablers, i think its more common with females than males If a woman is dumped by a man her friends will say things such as, he didnt deserve you, you are worth more, etc; basically not holding her accountable But if the reverse happens and she was a decent partner, his friends will tell him he is an idiot and he ruined it These people then remain immature and always blame others For that indian guy above, i would just tell him exactly how you feel and say if you want me in your life you have to change, if not, then this is where we part ways**♥ 1source record 641 Archive: 8 index entries preserve 8 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs What it costs the person left waiting2 index entriesThe two records that describe a cancelled plan from the other side. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: What it costs the person left waiting Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### What it costs the person left waiting 2 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 186 **Appears when:** What it costs the person left waiting **What the pattern means:** Only two records take the other seat, and they say something the rest of the theme does not: the injury is the promise, not the absence. One parent describes the isolation of people who say they will come by and never do; the other would rather be told no than be given hope. **What commenters described:** I can tolerate not wanting to spend time with me, but dont lie and make false promises, it hurts more since you give them hope **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 I can tolerate not wanting to spend time with me, but dont lie and make false promises, it hurts more since you give them hope From the replies♥ 4 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source I can tolerate not wanting to spend time with me, but dont lie and make false promises, it hurts more since you give them hope source record 186♥ 4 Later-arriving source I totally agree with this. Being a parent is the most isolating thing I’ve ever experienced. No one wants to hang out with you. No one checks on you. They say they wanna come by and never do. posted about 4.9 hours after the source♥ 4 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 2 source records for What it costs the person left waiting together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 2index entries 2distinct source records 4.9%of parent category 0.2%of the complete index 0top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 2other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments2 preserved records · 2 of 2 source records accounted for **I totally agree with this. Being a parent is the most isolating thing I’ve ever experienced. No one wants to hang out with you. No one checks on you. They say they wanna come by and never do.**♥ 4source record 185 **I can tolerate not wanting to spend time with me, but dont lie and make false promises, it hurts more since you give them hope**♥ 4source record 186 Archive: 2 index entries preserve 2 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Being alone22 records · 3 sub-topicsIsolation as an answer, and the objection that some people simply prefer their own company. 22 records. Time alone as the default setting6 index entriesSolitude as the shape of an ordinary week rather than a choice made once. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Time alone as the default setting Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Time alone as the default setting 6 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 189 **Appears when:** Time alone as the default setting **What the pattern means:** The answer treats solitude as an outcome rather than a preference — entertainment that removes the reason to leave, work schedules that never align, a housing market that keeps moving people on. One commenter reports it as something they do and agree with, which is the tone of most of this group. **What commenters described:** Being alone. Too many Americans spend too much time alone (I think) because we have too much instantly available entertainment. The surgeon general called this out a couple of years ago as a serious health issue. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 Our infrastructure is shot too. Driving somewhere to spend money is a requirement, nearly. Neighborhoods are built more like prisons or fortresses, vs neighborhoods. To go anywhere, costs money. Most parks for Americans are not walkable. Rather require driving a car to. Destruction of third spaces. Overworked. From the replies♥ 125 Goes both ways. Some people can’t be alone for any length of time. I’d say those folks may have a problem too. From the replies♥ 36 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Being alone. Too many Americans spend too much time alone (I think) because we have too much instantly available entertainment. The surgeon general called this out a couple of years ago as a serious health issue. source record 189♥ 196 Later-arriving source Work schedules fuck up me, my bf, and the cousins we like to hang out with. Its like they plan households to where someone is gone everyday, too tired to hang out, or nightshifted so theyre only awake at night. posted about 19.7 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source The amount of social (physical) isolation everyone seems to have. And to go with that cell phone/ social media addictions. posted about 3.5 hours after the source #### What the counts show This report keeps all 6 source records for Time alone as the default setting together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 6index entries 6distinct source records 27.3%of parent category 0.6%of the complete index 2top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 6other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for **Being alone. Too many Americans spend too much time alone (I think) because we have too much instantly available entertainment. The surgeon general called this out a couple of years ago as a serious health issue.**♥ 196source record 189 **This. Combined with working from home (which I will not say it the worst because it has a lot of benefits). People's social skills are tanking, or not developing.**♥ 11source record 201 **I’m in Australia and I’m lonely because of the housing crisis. I’ve had to uproot so many times after building community in different places which takes a lot of time as Aussies tend to keep to their own social groups after a certain age and unless you know someone in a group there’s a bit of a “fuck off we’re full” sentiment. Not many people can afford to live where they grew up anymore, communities are disjointed.**♥ 7source record 205 **As someone who does it, I agree**♥ 1source record 599 **Work schedules fuck up me, my bf, and the cousins we like to hang out with. Its like they plan households to where someone is gone everyday, too tired to hang out, or nightshifted so theyre only awake at night.**♥ 1source record 600 **The amount of social (physical) isolation everyone seems to have. And to go with that cell phone/ social media addictions.**♥ 0source record 998 Archive: 6 index entries preserve 6 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Where community used to happen11 index entriesThe places and infrastructure commenters said used to make company automatic. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Where community used to happen Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Where community used to happen 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 190 **Appears when:** Where community used to happen **What the pattern means:** The reply that took over the answer, and it is about built environment: neighbourhoods you cannot walk out of, third places that closed, everywhere reachable only by car and only by spending. Commenters describe the walkable version as a utopia and then immediately price it, noting that the few places that already work that way are the most expensive in the country. **What commenters described:** Our infrastructure is shot too. Driving somewhere to spend money is a requirement, nearly. Neighborhoods are built more like prisons or fortresses, vs neighborhoods. To go anywhere, costs money. Most parks for Americans are not walkable. Rather require driving a car to. Destruction of third spaces. Overworked. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 Ugh it's sad that a walkable city where you work your 4 days a week job that has a livable wage, can easily go to your local farmers market via public transport, then can go home to your communal living space and exchange a quick convo with a neighbor is a utopia for some americans. From the replies♥ 49 That same utopia is several thousand dollars a month due to massive demand in addition to near impossible to find. Seems impossible 🤷 I'm going to keep riding transit, car free is amazing. Use it or loose it! From the replies♥ 21 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Our infrastructure is shot too. Driving somewhere to spend money is a requirement, nearly. Neighborhoods are built more like prisons or fortresses, vs neighborhoods. To go anywhere, costs money. Most parks for Americans are not walkable. Rather require driving a car to. Destruction of third spaces. Overworked. source record 190♥ 125 Later-arriving source Bruhhh that suckkksss. I can just think of those AK neighborhoods in my mind right now, the adults whatever. But the children are being absolutely robbed.... posted about 14.7 hours after the source♥ 2 Low-like source I was going to say this. I live in a city that has quite a lot of all of this and we have some of the highest cost of living in the country, top 5 if you don't count CA & NYC. posted about 11.2 hours after the source♥ 2 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “communal living space” recurs across 2 of the 11 source records in Where community used to happen; the complete archive stays available below. 11index entries 11distinct source records 50%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 0top-level comments 11replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **Our infrastructure is shot too. Driving somewhere to spend money is a requirement, nearly. Neighborhoods are built more like prisons or fortresses, vs neighborhoods. To go anywhere, costs money. Most parks for Americans are not walkable. Rather require driving a car to. Destruction of third spaces. Overworked.**♥ 125source record 190 **Ugh it's sad that a walkable city where you work your 4 days a week job that has a livable wage, can easily go to your local farmers market via public transport, then can go home to your communal living space and exchange a quick convo with a neighbor is a utopia for some americans.**♥ 49source record 191 **That same utopia is several thousand dollars a month due to massive demand in addition to near impossible to find. Seems impossible 🤷 I'm going to keep riding transit, car free is amazing. Use it or loose it!**♥ 21source record 192 **A lot of places in the US don’t even have a good transit system. We went to the UK a couple years ago and we were amazed at how well their transit system was done. It’s very efficient and it seemed most of the neighborhoods were right by the stations.**♥ 5source record 193 **If they have a transit system at all. We have places like Arlington TX with half a million people. No sidewalks, no public transportation, car centric. Thousand year old development pattern in the UK, it's neat I like it. Albeit a very auto centric nation as well sadly.**♥ 2source record 194 **I was going to say this. I live in a city that has quite a lot of all of this and we have some of the highest cost of living in the country, top 5 if you don't count CA & NYC.**♥ 2source record 195 **Aside from the communal living space you just described my town. Communal hangout spaces we do have.**♥ 8source record 196 **Arkansas is about one of the worst for this. They just did a special on the news about it and how isolating it is around that state. It's required to drive almost everywhere just to be able to do anything it said.**♥ 3source record 197 **Bruhhh that suckkksss. I can just think of those AK neighborhoods in my mind right now, the adults whatever. But the children are being absolutely robbed....**♥ 2source record 198 **It’s not intentionally. Most places do not foster community. They foster division. How can you build a community when you have no options to meet people and do things together?**♥ 3source record 206 **Zero, a fortress.**♥ 1source record 618 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs The objection: solitude is not loneliness5 index entriesThe counter-argument raised inside the same branch, by people who want to be left alone. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: The objection: solitude is not loneliness Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### The objection: solitude is not loneliness 5 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 202 **Appears when:** The objection: solitude is not loneliness **What the pattern means:** The counter-argument, raised inside the same branch and worth as much as the answer: people who cannot tolerate being alone may have the problem, boredom does something useful, and being made to socialise is its own harm. One record draws the line the group settles on — loneliness is the involuntary version. **What commenters described:** Being alone if you don't want to be alone is unhealthy I guess. But if you want to be alone, being forced to socialize is unhealthy. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I agree. And people who always need to be doing something... Brain scientists will tell you that you are your most creative when you are bored. From the replies♥ 11 What one person calls loneliness another calls solitude. From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Goes both ways. Some people can’t be alone for any length of time. I’d say those folks may have a problem too. source record 199♥ 36 Later-arriving source Loneliness is involuntary. posted about 17.0 hours after the source♥ 3 Low-like source What one person calls loneliness another calls solitude. posted about 10.3 hours after the source♥ 3 #### What the counts show Within 5 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 5index entries 5distinct source records 22.7%of parent category 0.5%of the complete index 0top-level comments 5replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 4other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments5 preserved records · 5 of 5 source records accounted for **Goes both ways. Some people can’t be alone for any length of time. I’d say those folks may have a problem too.**♥ 36source record 199 **I agree. And people who always need to be doing something... Brain scientists will tell you that you are your most creative when you are bored.**♥ 11source record 200 **Being alone if you don't want to be alone is unhealthy I guess. But if you want to be alone, being forced to socialize is unhealthy.**♥ 11source record 202 **What one person calls loneliness another calls solitude.**♥ 3source record 203 **Loneliness is involuntary.**♥ 3source record 204 Archive: 5 index entries preserve 5 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Cars, roads and driving45 records · 3 sub-topicsA risk taken daily by nearly everyone, and the argument about whether it has to be. 45 records. Driving itself, treated as unremarkable11 index entriesA daily risk several commenters called the largest one most people take. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Driving itself, treated as unremarkable Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Driving itself, treated as unremarkable 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 233 **Appears when:** Driving itself, treated as unremarkable **What the pattern means:** The framing is risk against familiarity: a leading cause of death that most people are obliged to do daily and therefore stop registering. One commenter's whole contribution is to be more careful than you think you already are; another describes needing medication to drive with her baby in the car. And one record declines the premise outright — some people enjoy it. **What commenters described:** Driving. It remains a leading cause of fatalities, yet it's so thoroughly normalized that most of us are forced to drive just to live. **Limit:** Risk framing as commenters expressed it; no figure in this node is sourced or checked. What the replies added1 Similarly, how the (correct) idea that people who can’t be safe on the road shouldn’t drive is combined with the (incorrect) idea that anyone who struggles to get places just isn’t trying hard enough. Even when non-driving methods are technically possible, they’re often not remotely viable especially for people who are already vulnerable (kids, disabled people, the elderly, etc). Those vulnerable people are disproportionately represented in those who can’t or shouldn’t drive… Pushback♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Driving. It remains a leading cause of fatalities, yet it's so thoroughly normalized that most of us are forced to drive just to live. source record 233♥ 122 Later-arriving source The auto manufacturers could do a lot to make driving safer, in tandem with government regulation and investment in infrastructure, but we’ve chosen to not address the issue at all. posted about 22.4 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Oh I should have thought of that posted about 21.6 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show Within 11 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 11index entries 11distinct source records 24.4%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 4top-level comments 7replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **Driving. It remains a leading cause of fatalities, yet it's so thoroughly normalized that most of us are forced to drive just to live.**♥ 122source record 233 **Yes! I hate driving. Post partum it gave me so much anxiety I had to be medicated. Felt like I was having a heart attack every time I had to take my baby somewhere.**♥ 3source record 249 **Similarly, how the (correct) idea that people who can’t be safe on the road shouldn’t drive is combined with the (incorrect) idea that anyone who struggles to get places just isn’t trying hard enough. Even when non-driving methods are technically possible, they’re often not remotely viable especially for people who are already vulnerable (kids, disabled people, the elderly, etc). Those vulnerable people are disproportionately represented in those who can’t or shouldn’t drive…**♥ 2source record 250 **Driving a motor vehicle.**♥ 3source record 447 **And some of us enjoy driving.**♥ 1source record 594 **The auto manufacturers could do a lot to make driving safer, in tandem with government regulation and investment in infrastructure, but we’ve chosen to not address the issue at all.**♥ 1source record 602 **Could you drive on whatever they medicated you with?**♥ 1source record 613 **Yes I’m just on Zoloft.**♥ 1source record 614 **Oh I should have thought of that**♥ 1source record 615 **Driving. It’s the single most dangerous thing most of us ever do frequently, and many of us do it multiple times a day without thinking. Pay attention, don’t do it more than you need to, and be hyper cautious while you do it. However cautious a driver you think you are, you could almost certainly stand to be more cautious.**♥ 1source record 747 **Driving**♥ 1source record 829 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs What people do while they are driving8 index entriesPhones, rage and the specific habits behind the wheel. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: What people do while they are driving Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### What people do while they are driving 8 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 354 **Appears when:** What people do while they are driving **What the pattern means:** The specific behaviours rather than the activity: a phone in hand, rage, stopping on a motorway shoulder, licences nobody ever re-tests. One commenter reports seeing drivers scrolling social feeds rather than merely glancing at a screen. **What commenters described:** Staring at a phone while driving. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 I have noticed more people actually SCROLLING on social media while driving! Insane From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Staring at a phone while driving. source record 354♥ 6 Later-arriving source Using your phone while driving. You shouldn't do it, there are fines for doing it, yet sooo many people don't care because they've been doing it for years and they didn't crash, therefore they're super awesome drivers and they can do it. posted about 16.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source walking at cross walks, newcomers to Canada really are not to good with driving here posted about 10.4 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “phone while driving” recurs across 2 of the 8 source records in What people do while they are driving; the complete archive stays available below. 8index entries 8distinct source records 17.8%of parent category 0.8%of the complete index 5top-level comments 3replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for **Staring at a phone while driving.**♥ 6source record 354 **Road Rage**♥ 7source record 366 **Pulling to the side of the road on a major highway and getting out of your car.**♥ 1source record 485 **we could try having some real licensing requirements**♥ 1source record 608 **Self-driving cars will mitigate it.**♥ 1source record 612 **I have noticed more people actually SCROLLING on social media while driving! Insane**♥ 1source record 697 **walking at cross walks, newcomers to Canada really are not to good with driving here**♥ 1source record 796 **Using your phone while driving. You shouldn't do it, there are fines for doing it, yet sooo many people don't care because they've been doing it for years and they didn't crash, therefore they're super awesome drivers and they can do it.**♥ 1source record 866 Archive: 8 index entries preserve 8 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitable26 index entriesThe long argument about whether the size of the country makes any of this unavoidable. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitable Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitable 26 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 244 **Appears when:** Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitable **What the pattern means:** The longest argument in this theme is about whether geography settles it. One side says the country is simply too big; the other points at China's rail network, at the fact that the United States was already large before cars existed, and at freight, parking and zoning as the real reasons. The most concrete records stop arguing in the abstract — a commenter who could take a train to work except that reaching the station on foot is impossible. **What commenters described:** Amazing fact of the day: The US was big before cars were invented. Please forgive my exasperation. In all seriousness, people once crossed the country on trains regularly, and modern high-speed rail would far outpace cars for mid-length trips. For long trips, we have planes. For short trips, honestly, horses are way cooler than cars and trucks. But American transport infrastructure only invests massively into cars. Cars feel essential because they're the only short-to-mid-range option the government meaningfully supports now. Cars are so normalized that we forget the world was only recently reshaped to serve them. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 China is essentially the same size as the US and has an elaborate high-speed train network From the replies♥ 53 Amazing fact of the day: The US was big before cars were invented. Please forgive my exasperation. In all seriousness, people once crossed the country on trains regularly, and modern high-speed rail would far outpace cars for mid-length trips. For long trips, we have planes. For short trips, honestly, horses are way cooler than cars and trucks. But American transport infrastructure only invests massively into cars. Cars feel essential because they're the only short-to-mid-range option the government meaningfully supports now. Cars are so normalized that we forget the world was only recently reshaped to serve them. From the replies♥ 38 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source China is essentially the same size as the US and has an elaborate high-speed train network source record 235♥ 53 Later-arriving source This is a complex issue. The fact that almost all the train track in the US is privately owned is one huge barrier to that. Decades of dismantling of train infrastructure is another problem. All those "rail trails" are great for walking / biking, sure, but they used to be active rail lines and they never will be again. In my town, a small town of about 18,000 people, I could in theory take a train to the town I work in. But the train station is about 4 miles from my house, there are no sidewalks or shoulders on a lot of the roads, and making that trek in the winter would be brutal. There's a little bit of bus transportation in my town but not anywhere near my area. And the Amtrak schedules are such that even if I could get to the train station, they wouldn't get me to or from work at the right times. posted about 21.3 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source This is just such nonsense. The majority of the population is Urban. Small cities can make use of public transport, bike lanes and sidewalks. posted about 8.5 hours after the source #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Bigotry moving into ordinary speechTurn it into a game · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-9-subgroup-2-bigotry-moving-into-ordinary-speech)[Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argumentTurn it into a game · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-1-hygiene-nursing-homes-and-the-caregiving-argument)[Where the argument stopped being about the questionTurn it into a game · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-6-where-the-argument-stopped-being-about-the-question) #### What the counts show Across 26 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Turn it into a game” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 26index entries 26distinct source records 57.8%of parent category 2.7%of the complete index 0top-level comments 26replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 4asks a question 0says they intend to try it 22other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Turn it into a game **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments26 preserved records · 26 of 26 source records accounted for **There is no way we can mitigate that, it's just a feature of how big the US is**♥ 15source record 234 **China is essentially the same size as the US and has an elaborate high-speed train network**♥ 53source record 235 **Yeah and they also live in ridiculously high density areas if they are to make any money. Fuck that. I don't want an apartment the size of a shoebox that's going to fall apart**♥ 17source record 236 **We’re the best in history at figuring out logistics problems, if we cared we could do this too in a way that works for us instead of making excuses about China.**♥ 30source record 237 **They have normal houses there. Wages are generally good, and rent is generally low.**♥ 7source record 240 **most high earners live in or near cities in the US too. they have houses in China too. sounds like you should visit or at least do a little more research**♥ 2source record 241 **No. There are plenty of high earners not in cities in the US**♥ 2source record 242 **never denied that. but a majority do live within an hour of a city, just like in every country**♥ 2source record 243 **Amazing fact of the day: The US was big before cars were invented. Please forgive my exasperation. In all seriousness, people once crossed the country on trains regularly, and modern high-speed rail would far outpace cars for mid-length trips. For long trips, we have planes. For short trips, honestly, horses are way cooler than cars and trucks. But American transport infrastructure only invests massively into cars. Cars feel essential because they're the only short-to-mid-range option the government meaningfully supports now. Cars are so normalized that we forget the world was only recently reshaped to serve them.**♥ 38source record 244 **I don't want to come down excessively one sided here. I'm just arguing the points that have been obscured by the fact that cars are hypernormalized. Transport trucks are useful for relatively secure point-to-point transport over arbitrary distances. They cause far more wear and tear, and so most investment into car infrastructure is just to support those vital trucks. Cars being able to use the same roads is a bit of a bonus. And don't get me started on the modern miracle that is emergency response vehicles. The real place we overinvest in cars? Parking lots. So many hugs lots, and still never enough parking. Also, just the fact that we rely on roads, so we build important things far apart, so we rely more on roads, so we build things farther apart.... And with bigger parking lots, buildings are even MORE spread out. Visit a village in the old world or an East Coast city sometime. It feels liberating. Building important things closer together would reduce traffic for everyone who really needs to be on the road.**♥ 8source record 245 **You realize that Rome had roads too right?**♥ 3source record 246 **Public transportation is a thing. It's not as good in most cities as in NYC/Chicago due to classism and racism.**♥ 2source record 247 **Australia is the same size and things are far further apart but we manage to use public transport**♥ 2source record 248 **Does their rail system cover the whole country? Not many people live in the west of China, compared to California in the US.**♥ 1source record 622 **it does. why do you and others here want to believe that the US not having a national rail system is inevitable? that is the important point. what does it confirm for you?**♥ 5source record 623 **I love the idea of high speed rail. I don't need it to travel coast to coast, because airplanes will always be better for that long of a trip. I was curious is China did that.**♥ 1source record 624 **depends on how fast rail service gets :)**♥ 1source record 625 **China is huge, but only about 30% of their landmass is habitable.**♥ 1source record 626 **It's not a thing where I live.**♥ 1source record 630 **This is a complex issue. The fact that almost all the train track in the US is privately owned is one huge barrier to that. Decades of dismantling of train infrastructure is another problem. All those "rail trails" are great for walking / biking, sure, but they used to be active rail lines and they never will be again. In my town, a small town of about 18,000 people, I could in theory take a train to the town I work in. But the train station is about 4 miles from my house, there are no sidewalks or shoulders on a lot of the roads, and making that trek in the winter would be brutal. There's a little bit of bus transportation in my town but not anywhere near my area. And the Amtrak schedules are such that even if I could get to the train station, they wouldn't get me to or from work at the right times.**♥ 1source record 634 **Not just Rome, but the broader Roman Empire! Not relevant AT ALL, but important in its own separate historical context.**♥ 1source record 637 **Not from what I've seen. The China Show. Laowhy86**♥ 2source record 656 **It's not all doomsaying, though. A lot of new developments are adopting a modernized village structure: apartments above, shops on the ground. I once lived in one of these, with a grocery store in waking distance of home. It was magical.**♥ 1source record 657 **Same for the US.**♥ 1source record 658 **No, absolutely not. You could have proper public transport without any problem. But you have a giant car lobby. Reducing the car-centeredness would make it a much better country.**♥ 1source record 665 **This is just such nonsense. The majority of the population is Urban. Small cities can make use of public transport, bike lanes and sidewalks.**♥ 0source record 1031 Archive: 26 index entries preserve 26 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs How strangers get treated62 records · 6 sub-topicsBehaviour aimed at people who did not choose to be near it. 62 records. Rudeness taken as normal15 index entriesGeneral answers about how strangers are now treated by default. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Rudeness taken as normal Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Rudeness taken as normal 15 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 281 **Appears when:** Rudeness taken as normal **What the pattern means:** The general form of the complaint, and a striking share of it comes from people who deal with the public for a living. Retail and service workers report the decline as something they can date. The remedy proposed in the theme's top record — bring public shaming back — is one the thread starts arguing about a few records later. **What commenters described:** Yes. I know. I've been working in retail for 20 years. Our basic social structures are declining rapidly. It's so depressing... **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 ✨Behavioral correction✨ Oh how I wish it was more present.. From the replies♥ 18 Was at the dentists today in their tiny waiting room (I'm so glad I don't have to pay more for a huge extravagant building.) Two different people were talking on speakerphone, both kept raising their voices as the other one did. Zero consideration for anyone else. From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Too many people have become comfortable being rude and obnoxious in public. Bring back public shaming. source record 278♥ 42 Later-arriving source It’s a top down problem posted about 21.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source This saddens me deeply. The casualness in your message and underwritten adaptation.. :( Here 🤲🏽♥️ posted about 20.9 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “being rude to strangers” recurs across 2 of the 15 source records in Rudeness taken as normal; the complete archive stays available below. 15index entries 15distinct source records 24.2%of parent category 1.6%of the complete index 11top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 15other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments15 preserved records · 15 of 15 source records accounted for **Too many people have become comfortable being rude and obnoxious in public. Bring back public shaming.**♥ 42source record 278 **Was at the dentists today in their tiny waiting room (I'm so glad I don't have to pay more for a huge extravagant building.) Two different people were talking on speakerphone, both kept raising their voices as the other one did. Zero consideration for anyone else.**♥ 3source record 280 **Yes. I know. I've been working in retail for 20 years. Our basic social structures are declining rapidly. It's so depressing...**♥ 3source record 281 **Lack of basic respect towards one another.**♥ 6source record 369 **Hugging people. People should ask first.**♥ 6source record 390 **The bar is set real real low these days for treating each other with kindness and respect. A little emotional intelligence goes a long way.**♥ 3source record 430 **Casual cruelty. Some people got real mean and inconsiderate over the last decade, and feel both empowered and entitled to saying and doing heinous shit without backlash.**♥ 3source record 431 **Bullying**♥ 3source record 434 **Being rude to strangers.**♥ 3source record 437 **The new behavior of American culture. I've been to other countries. Ours is the most unbelievable when it comes to common behaviors. Lots of people here have traumas that are likely generational and as a result it's normalized it like it's nothing. The sheer amount of cruelty and disrespect we allow as the richest nation is sad.**♥ 3source record 441 **Maliciously gossiping about your co-workers in the workplace and shrugging if off as no big deal even when it destroys their career.**♥ 2source record 471 **It’s a top down problem**♥ 1source record 727 **This saddens me deeply. The casualness in your message and underwritten adaptation.. :( Here 🤲🏽♥️**♥ 1source record 737 **Crowdsurfing and and moshing in concerts I shouldnt elaborate but people get triggered by that**♥ 1source record 869 **Being rude to strangers in public.**♥ 1source record 879 Archive: 15 index entries preserve 15 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs What other people are made to sit through9 index entriesNoise, smell and space — behaviour whose cost lands on whoever happens to be nearby. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: What other people are made to sit through Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### What other people are made to sit through 9 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 405 **Appears when:** What other people are made to sit through **What the pattern means:** Not rudeness aimed at anyone in particular, but behaviour whose cost lands on whoever happens to be nearby: speakerphones in waiting rooms, video calls on public transport, Bluetooth speakers, noise through a shared wall, people stopping dead in a crowd. The unifying complaint is a shared space being used as a private one. **What commenters described:** Talking on the phone in public transport or watching a video without earbuds. We don’t want to hear about your like, have some respect for other ppl **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Being really selfish when you share walls or floors and being loud or noisy and being entitled about being able to be inconsiderate. source record 432♥ 3 Later-arriving source Your video call in public. I assure you are not that important. posted about 20.4 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Taking explosive shits in the work bathroom posted about 0.2 hours after the source #### What the counts show This report keeps all 9 source records for What other people are made to sit through together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 9index entries 9distinct source records 14.5%of parent category 0.9%of the complete index 8top-level comments 1replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 9other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for **Talking on the phone in public transport or watching a video without earbuds. We don’t want to hear about your like, have some respect for other ppl**♥ 2source record 405 **Being really selfish when you share walls or floors and being loud or noisy and being entitled about being able to be inconsiderate.**♥ 3source record 432 **People stopping in the middle of crowded places to take selfies with no f\\\*\\\*\\\*\\\* to give about people walking behind them.**♥ 2source record 467 **Bluetooth speakers in public**♥ 1source record 684 **Not washing properly, the amount of people I’ve run into that are comfortable admitting they either don’t wash their asses is fucking gross**♥ 1source record 787 **Watching videos or having video calls on loudspeaker on public transport.**♥ 1source record 844 **Your video call in public. I assure you are not that important.**♥ 1source record 848 **Taking explosive shits in the work bathroom**♥ 0source record 921 **They need to stop eating Panda Express and Taco Bell every day and possibly see a doctor. It’s not healthy to be spraying like that, and it’s fucked up to leave shit particles in the toilet. The least they could do is flush twice and they don’t even do that.**♥ 1source record 924 Archive: 9 index entries preserve 9 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Jokes with a target10 index entriesHumour aimed at a person, and what commenters said it is really doing. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Jokes with a target Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Jokes with a target 10 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 363 **Appears when:** Jokes with a target **What the pattern means:** Humour used as cover, with 'I'm just being honest' as the standard alibi. The records name the forms: remarks about weight or appearance, insults offered as affection between friends, ripping as a way to look quick in front of an audience. One commenter describes it from the receiving end at industry events and calls the effect dehumanising rather than merely unfunny. **What commenters described:** Over opinionated, making comments about people’s appearance or weight (obvious things someone can’t fix in five minutes or less) & using the excuse that they’re just ‘honest’ when it’s completely out of context. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I hate that shit. "I'm just laying down facts, not my problem if you can't handle honesty." But their facts are just mean opinions. From the replies♥ 2 Im too old for all that shit (mid 20’s so not that old lol) Honestly i just call em out “yo i didn’t like that” in a respectful tone ofc From the replies♥ 1 #### Where commenters report limits Explicit limit or counterpoint After frequenting gala events that included celebrities and theater groups, I started feeling like an object of use to boost other people's egos. It made me think of when I started noticing this culture in the 90s with shows like Beavis and Butthead and Southpark and then many panel shows with celebrities where celebrities often would rip on each other all in good fun and good spirits. As a regular person that works behind the scenes, I am ok with being ripped on by my friend groups and family as we all know each other and the humor is often inside jokes that make sense to us. Unfortunately ripping culture is now mainstream and the humor from the person delivering a rip has become more about them boosting their own ego while appearing quick on their toes rather than being actual clever or humorous statements. The feeling of sitting at a table with a celebrity and having them suddenly deliver a rip to me while everyone chuckles feels dehumanizing when I'm not a part of a click of people and even a solid response is met with another rips that is unfunny and mean spirited. source record 786♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Racism Bullying Sarcasm Competition Judgment Wisecracks for laughs instead of patience and kindness is especially important source record 336♥ 14 Later-arriving source I hate that shit. "I'm just laying down facts, not my problem if you can't handle honesty." But their facts are just mean opinions. posted about 17.5 hours after the source♥ 2 Low-like source The last one is so frustrating. I don’t mind a few good natured wisecracks.. but It’s gotten to the point where if that’s your whole personality I can’t establish any kind of connection with them. Everyone is so desperate to be funny (or the class clown) now for attention. They focus more on the funny part than actually helping posted about 16.2 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show Within 10 source records, 0 explicitly report a benefit and 1 explicitly report a limit or failure. These are attributed experiences, not effectiveness data. 10index entries 10distinct source records 16.1%of parent category 1.1%of the complete index 5top-level comments 5replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 1explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments10 preserved records · 10 of 10 source records accounted for **Racism Bullying Sarcasm Competition Judgment Wisecracks for laughs instead of patience and kindness is especially important**♥ 14source record 336 **Over opinionated, making comments about people’s appearance or weight (obvious things someone can’t fix in five minutes or less) & using the excuse that they’re just ‘honest’ when it’s completely out of context.**♥ 9source record 363 **I hate that shit. "I'm just laying down facts, not my problem if you can't handle honesty." But their facts are just mean opinions.**♥ 2source record 364 **Insulting friends as a “joke” like calling them a b-eye-tch Im all for joking but you could surely use a better word**♥ 4source record 416 **calling other people ugly**♥ 2source record 476 **And stuff like “Is he/she mad?” While laughing…**♥ 1source record 692 **Im too old for all that shit (mid 20’s so not that old lol) Honestly i just call em out “yo i didn’t like that” in a respectful tone ofc**♥ 1source record 693 **The last one is so frustrating. I don’t mind a few good natured wisecracks.. but It’s gotten to the point where if that’s your whole personality I can’t establish any kind of connection with them. Everyone is so desperate to be funny (or the class clown) now for attention. They focus more on the funny part than actually helping**♥ 1source record 702 **Exactly**♥ 1source record 703 **After frequenting gala events that included celebrities and theater groups, I started feeling like an object of use to boost other people's egos. It made me think of when I started noticing this culture in the 90s with shows like Beavis and Butthead and Southpark and then many panel shows with celebrities where celebrities often would rip on each other all in good fun and good spirits. As a regular person that works behind the scenes, I am ok with being ripped on by my friend groups and family as we all know each other and the humor is often inside jokes that make sense to us. Unfortunately ripping culture is now mainstream and the humor from the person delivering a rip has become more about them boosting their own ego while appearing quick on their toes rather than being actual clever or humorous statements. The feeling of sitting at a table with a celebrity and having them suddenly deliver a rip to me while everyone chuckles feels dehumanizing when I'm not a part of a click of people and even a solid response is met with another rips that is unfunny and mean spirited.**♥ 1source record 786 Archive: 10 index entries preserve 10 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Swearing, yelling and the volume of ordinary speech14 index entriesAnswers about tone, and the immediate replies asking who exactly it hurts. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Swearing, yelling and the volume of ordinary speech Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Swearing, yelling and the volume of ordinary speech 14 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 340 **Appears when:** Swearing, yelling and the volume of ordinary speech **What the pattern means:** A cluster about register, and the pushback is immediate and unusually blunt: who exactly is being hurt. The answers that hold up are the ones making an argument rather than a complaint — that swearing works by scarcity, or that permanent anger has become a resting state rather than a reaction to anything. **What commenters described:** Curse words have more impact the fewer times they are used. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 Curse words have more impact the fewer times they are used. From the replies♥ 8 Cursing is like seasoning on food. Some people prefer their language more spicy than others. From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Cursing all the time. It’s no longer edgy. source record 339♥ 9 Later-arriving source Cursing is like seasoning on food. Some people prefer their language more spicy than others. posted about 21.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source You don’t have to cuss 24/7 to get a point across. posted about 12.9 hours after the source #### What the counts show Across 14 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Remove a step” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 14index entries 14distinct source records 22.6%of parent category 1.5%of the complete index 7top-level comments 7replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 14other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Remove a step **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments14 preserved records · 14 of 14 source records accounted for **Cursing all the time. It’s no longer edgy.**♥ 9source record 339 **Curse words have more impact the fewer times they are used.**♥ 8source record 340 **Being angry all the time**♥ 7source record 351 **Yeah, this pisses me off!**♥ 2source record 352 **Yelling**♥ 4source record 400 **“Being outspoken” or “opinionated” when they’re really just dicks.**♥ 3source record 436 **People just saying whatever pops in their head without regard to the audience and with no situational awareness**♥ 2source record 469 **Swearing**♥ 1source record 477 **Safe ass life to not need edge**♥ 1source record 752 **I like to speak in a way that is easy on the ears.**♥ 1source record 756 **"Easy on the ears" is entirely subjective.**♥ 1source record 757 **Being rude about small talk, your coworkers don't have to know you deeply and probably shouldn't, and there's a perfect zone between never speaking to them and giving them your bank account number and it's talking about the weather that's currently happening outside**♥ 1source record 857 **You don’t have to cuss 24/7 to get a point across.**♥ 0source record 1035 **Cursing is like seasoning on food. Some people prefer their language more spicy than others.**♥ 1source record 1036 Archive: 14 index entries preserve 14 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Shaming, cancelling and who actually gets held to it11 index entriesTwo opposite answers sitting in one place: bring public shaming back, and stop cancelling people. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Shaming, cancelling and who actually gets held to it Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Shaming, cancelling and who actually gets held to it 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 287 **Appears when:** Shaming, cancelling and who actually gets held to it **What the pattern means:** Two opposite answers land in the same place. Some commenters want public shaming restored as a brake on behaviour; others find the accusation cycle exhausting and refuse to take part. The record that reconciles them argues the mechanism is simply pointed at the wrong people — that the figures who would most deserve it are the ones it never reaches. **What commenters described:** Then you get the not cancelling of people who deserve to be shunned from society, hedge fund managers who destroy businesses, health care CEOs who fire all the staff who know the place and work well together then hire locums, people who authorise poisoning of water ways because the fine is cheaper than the clean up. These people need to be ashamed to show their face in public but instead are celebrated as innovative businessmen. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I agree with this to some extent. But if someone gets called out for being abusive enough, it can totally affect the way I see their art and make me not interested in their work anymore. Louis CK is a good example; IMO a lot of his art focused on identifying and dealing with the same exact demons he was unleashing on women trying to get a foothold as comedians. From the replies♥ 26 Then you get the not cancelling of people who deserve to be shunned from society, hedge fund managers who destroy businesses, health care CEOs who fire all the staff who know the place and work well together then hire locums, people who authorise poisoning of water ways because the fine is cheaper than the clean up. These people need to be ashamed to show their face in public but instead are celebrated as innovative businessmen. From the replies♥ 11 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Canceling everyone for every little thing or “allegation”. It’s absolutely EXHAUSTING trying to keep up with what everyone is being accused of from one day to the next and then being attacked on social media if you don’t blindly follow the crowd in boycotting. I refuse to partake in it. I don’t pay any attention to the media or what anyone allegedly did in their personal life. If the music or movies are good, that’s all I care about. Most of the celebrities that have been deemed “canceled”, I still listen to their music/watch their movies/ follow them on social media. source record 285♥ 39 Later-arriving source Usually by what they say out loud but how far are we talking with allegations? If it’s Aziz Ansari on a bad date, not a big deal. If it’s Chris Brown beating women, kind of a bigger deal. I’m not one to jump down anyone’s throat for every little thing but I’m also not into giving an abuser the benefit of the doubt. That’s just my view but we’ve all got different thresholds. All I’m saying is, cancellation never has backlash in these times. posted about 22.8 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Do you have any examples? One reason why I am forgiving Louis CK is because he seems quite feminist in his standup. posted about 11.5 hours after the source #### What the counts show The exact phrase “of people who” recurs across 2 of the 11 source records in Shaming, cancelling and who actually gets held to it; the complete archive stays available below. 11index entries 11distinct source records 17.7%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 2top-level comments 9replies #### What commenters explicitly report 1explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 3asks a question 0says they intend to try it 7other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **✨Behavioral correction✨ Oh how I wish it was more present..**♥ 18source record 279 **Yeah I'd love to live in a society where anyone who is out of line gets villified and shamed.**♥ 2source record 282 **Canceling everyone for every little thing or “allegation”. It’s absolutely EXHAUSTING trying to keep up with what everyone is being accused of from one day to the next and then being attacked on social media if you don’t blindly follow the crowd in boycotting. I refuse to partake in it. I don’t pay any attention to the media or what anyone allegedly did in their personal life. If the music or movies are good, that’s all I care about. Most of the celebrities that have been deemed “canceled”, I still listen to their music/watch their movies/ follow them on social media.**♥ 39source record 285 **I agree with this to some extent. But if someone gets called out for being abusive enough, it can totally affect the way I see their art and make me not interested in their work anymore. Louis CK is a good example; IMO a lot of his art focused on identifying and dealing with the same exact demons he was unleashing on women trying to get a foothold as comedians.**♥ 26source record 286 **Then you get the not cancelling of people who deserve to be shunned from society, hedge fund managers who destroy businesses, health care CEOs who fire all the staff who know the place and work well together then hire locums, people who authorise poisoning of water ways because the fine is cheaper than the clean up. These people need to be ashamed to show their face in public but instead are celebrated as innovative businessmen.**♥ 11source record 287 **Not correcting bad behavior in public. You’d get your butt whooped acting like a “Karen” but there are cameras everywhere now so people just get away with behaving like assholes.**♥ 2source record 465 **Nobody gets cancelled. I’ve never seen someone get cancelled and then stfu about it because being cancelled somehow makes money. There’s a lot of people who love shitty people. I wouldn’t sweat it.**♥ 1source record 728 **That’s the thing…how do you know that someone you don’t know is a “shitty person”?**♥ 1source record 729 **Usually by what they say out loud but how far are we talking with allegations? If it’s Aziz Ansari on a bad date, not a big deal. If it’s Chris Brown beating women, kind of a bigger deal. I’m not one to jump down anyone’s throat for every little thing but I’m also not into giving an abuser the benefit of the doubt. That’s just my view but we’ve all got different thresholds. All I’m saying is, cancellation never has backlash in these times.**♥ 1source record 730 **Japan**♥ 1source record 739 **Do you have any examples? One reason why I am forgiving Louis CK is because he seems quite feminist in his standup.**♥ 0source record 960 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs The animals caught in it3 index entriesThree answers where the party unable to object is not a person. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: The animals caught in it Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### The animals caught in it 3 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 841 **Appears when:** The animals caught in it **What the pattern means:** Three answers where the party unable to object is not a person: feeding wild animals for video, dogs taken into shops and bars, and the industrial relationship with animals generally. The bear record is the most specific about consequence — the animal that gets fed is the animal that later gets destroyed. **What commenters described:** Feeding wild animals. Especially bears. It’s the worst . Please stop watching TikTok videos of people feeding bears. A fed bear is a dead bear. They are getting euthanized right and left in asheville NC because people keep feeding them and basically training them to not be afraid to go in houses etc. it’s enraging. Selfish people **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Commodifying, exploiting, abusing, killing, and consuming nonhuman sentient individuals. It’s unconscionable. source record 882♥ 1 Later-arriving source Bringing dogs to public places they should not be at. I’ve seen dogs at supermarkets and department stores more and more of late. I saw one at Macy’s last week. Earlier this year I counted 4 dogs in a supermarket in one visit. I don’t think any of them were genuine service dogs. I have a relative in a nursing home that we bring a dog to visit to lift her spirits and glad we are able to do that, but if there are other residents that have allergies or fear of dogs I worry if our action is intruding on another. Dogs at hardware stores seems to be the norm now. People bring dogs to breweries. In my state food is not sold at breweries, so food contamination isn’t really a concern, but when it gets crowded inside trying to walk with dogs at my feet is a tripping hazard. And sometimes the dogs go after each other. posted about 20.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Feeding wild animals. Especially bears. It’s the worst . Please stop watching TikTok videos of people feeding bears. A fed bear is a dead bear. They are getting euthanized right and left in asheville NC because people keep feeding them and basically training them to not be afraid to go in houses etc. it’s enraging. Selfish people posted about 19.5 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 3 source records for The animals caught in it together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 3index entries 3distinct source records 4.8%of parent category 0.3%of the complete index 3top-level comments 0replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 3other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments3 preserved records · 3 of 3 source records accounted for **Feeding wild animals. Especially bears. It’s the worst . Please stop watching TikTok videos of people feeding bears. A fed bear is a dead bear. They are getting euthanized right and left in asheville NC because people keep feeding them and basically training them to not be afraid to go in houses etc. it’s enraging. Selfish people**♥ 1source record 841 **Bringing dogs to public places they should not be at. I’ve seen dogs at supermarkets and department stores more and more of late. I saw one at Macy’s last week. Earlier this year I counted 4 dogs in a supermarket in one visit. I don’t think any of them were genuine service dogs. I have a relative in a nursing home that we bring a dog to visit to lift her spirits and glad we are able to do that, but if there are other residents that have allergies or fear of dogs I worry if our action is intruding on another. Dogs at hardware stores seems to be the norm now. People bring dogs to breweries. In my state food is not sold at breweries, so food contamination isn’t really a concern, but when it gets crowded inside trying to walk with dogs at my feet is a tripping hazard. And sometimes the dogs go after each other.**♥ 1source record 873 **Commodifying, exploiting, abusing, killing, and consuming nonhuman sentient individuals. It’s unconscionable.**♥ 1source record 882 Archive: 3 index entries preserve 3 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Politics, power and what a country gets used to42 records · 4 sub-topicsAnswers about a threshold that moved without anyone agreeing to move it. 42 records. Accepting things that used to be unacceptable17 index entriesAnswers about a threshold that moved while everyone watched. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Accepting things that used to be unacceptable Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Accepting things that used to be unacceptable 17 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 256 **Appears when:** Accepting things that used to be unacceptable **What the pattern means:** Answers about a threshold rather than an act. What the records name is the absence of reaction: a presidency, constitutional breaches, capitalism itself, all treated as weather. One commenter's phrasing is that the frightening part is how comfortable everyone appears to be with it. **What commenters described:** Accepting a nightmare president without much protest. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 It scares me that people are just.. ok with the destruction of social order. From the replies♥ 5 He didn’t fade until the end. He was absolutely the right man in the wheelhouse in early 2022\. Imagine if it had been Orange Chicken? Russia would be in France now. From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Accepting a nightmare president without much protest. source record 256♥ 97 Later-arriving source There are plenty of protests through… posted about 21.3 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source A lot of people spoke up against Zombie Biden. posted about 7.7 hours after the source♥ -2 #### What the counts show Within 17 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 17index entries 17distinct source records 40.5%of parent category 1.8%of the complete index 13top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 16other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments17 preserved records · 17 of 17 source records accounted for **Accepting a nightmare president without much protest.**♥ 97source record 256 **It scares me that people are just.. ok with the destruction of social order.**♥ 5source record 257 **Accepting politicians breaking the Constitution and still voting for that**♥ 73source record 262 **Capitalism**♥ 7source record 393 **Money being a valid excuse for otherwise sociopathic behavior towards human life**♥ 5source record 394 **Government employees who trade in behind-the-scenes judicial favors to benefit or attack those who they choose. Their influence is undue, corrupt, and undermine the entirity of the judicial machine.**♥ 3source record 422 **Hoarding money and housing**♥ 3source record 426 **Ummmmm maga**♥ 3source record 446 **There are plenty of protests through…**♥ 1source record 715 **Blind support for the general errotion of adults rights to make their own decisions. Edit: Wrong "their".**♥ 1source record 749 **Paying taxes even when the government fails to deliver on its promises.**♥ 1source record 827 **Extremism. On the left and the right side of politics.**♥ 1source record 846 **At this point, voting Republican.**♥ 1source record 868 **Fascism.**♥ 1source record 878 **A lot of people spoke up against Zombie Biden.**♥ -2source record 981 **He didn’t fade until the end. He was absolutely the right man in the wheelhouse in early 2022\. Imagine if it had been Orange Chicken? Russia would be in France now.**♥ 3source record 982 **Naive children hating their own country that they take for granted - even though people the world over are literally dying to get in.**♥ 0source record 1003 Archive: 17 index entries preserve 17 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Police, force and violence7 index entriesPolicing and weaponry, with a reply disputing that any of it is new. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Police, force and violence Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Police, force and violence 7 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 289 **Appears when:** Police, force and violence **What the pattern means:** The answer names militarised policing; the two substantial replies dispute the story rather than the concern, arguing there was never a peace-officer era to return to and that what actually changed is the equipment and the existence of footage. Alongside them sit records about calls for violence entering ordinary speech. **What commenters described:** It is a bit ahistorical to say that they transformed from peace officers. Many police departments in this country were founded as slave catchers. They brutally enforced Jim Crow laws. They participated in lynchings. They participated in the genocide of native people. I think this idea that they used to be good, but now are bad is simply because we did not used to have body camera footage and cell phone videos of their abusive and violent tactics. I assure you the police who were filling prisons with young black men in the 80's and 90's "war on drugs" Crack cocaine epidemic era were not "peace officers." They were corrupt violent racists. The police have always existed to protect the interests of the dominant socio-economic/racial group. But I do agree that the military weaponry and mass surveillance technology they have now is deeply problematic. **Limit:** Historical claims about policing made by commenters and disputed within the same node. What the replies added2 It is a bit ahistorical to say that they transformed from peace officers. Many police departments in this country were founded as slave catchers. They brutally enforced Jim Crow laws. They participated in lynchings. They participated in the genocide of native people. I think this idea that they used to be good, but now are bad is simply because we did not used to have body camera footage and cell phone videos of their abusive and violent tactics. I assure you the police who were filling prisons with young black men in the 80's and 90's "war on drugs" Crack cocaine epidemic era were not "peace officers." They were corrupt violent racists. The police have always existed to protect the interests of the dominant socio-economic/racial group. But I do agree that the military weaponry and mass surveillance technology they have now is deeply problematic. From the replies♥ 11 There’s no transformation. They were never for the people. They’re the original slave catchers, evolved into enforcers of segregation from “whites and colored folk”, and eventually evolved into general protectors of property. There was never a period where they protected the people. Just nowadays, since people cohabitate more regardless of race or ethnicity, it’s become more blatant how violent they are since white people are catching their strays too. From the replies♥ 5 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Militarization of police. They've transformed from "peace officers" to "Law Enforcement - Strategic Weapons Assault Teams" source record 288♥ 42 Later-arriving source There’s no transformation. They were never for the people. They’re the original slave catchers, evolved into enforcers of segregation from “whites and colored folk”, and eventually evolved into general protectors of property. There was never a period where they protected the people. Just nowadays, since people cohabitate more regardless of race or ethnicity, it’s become more blatant how violent they are since white people are catching their strays too. posted about 13.3 hours after the source♥ 5 Zero-like source Murder..in Japan (a real society) it’s highly dishonorable, they even have a phrase for it “Satsujin wa damedayo, warui koda ne” but in the U.S. it’s the norm… posted about 5.6 hours after the source #### What the counts show The exact phrase “transformed from peace officers” recurs across 2 of the 7 source records in Police, force and violence; the complete archive stays available below. 7index entries 7distinct source records 16.7%of parent category 0.7%of the complete index 5top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 7other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for **Militarization of police. They've transformed from "peace officers" to "Law Enforcement - Strategic Weapons Assault Teams"**♥ 42source record 288 **It is a bit ahistorical to say that they transformed from peace officers. Many police departments in this country were founded as slave catchers. They brutally enforced Jim Crow laws. They participated in lynchings. They participated in the genocide of native people. I think this idea that they used to be good, but now are bad is simply because we did not used to have body camera footage and cell phone videos of their abusive and violent tactics. I assure you the police who were filling prisons with young black men in the 80's and 90's "war on drugs" Crack cocaine epidemic era were not "peace officers." They were corrupt violent racists. The police have always existed to protect the interests of the dominant socio-economic/racial group. But I do agree that the military weaponry and mass surveillance technology they have now is deeply problematic.**♥ 11source record 289 **There’s no transformation. They were never for the people. They’re the original slave catchers, evolved into enforcers of segregation from “whites and colored folk”, and eventually evolved into general protectors of property. There was never a period where they protected the people. Just nowadays, since people cohabitate more regardless of race or ethnicity, it’s become more blatant how violent they are since white people are catching their strays too.**♥ 5source record 290 **Normalizing genocide**♥ 3source record 396 **Extremist language. If you’ve ever heard people say “xxxx person should be hung in the middle of town” or “yyyy person deserves two bullets in the head”— calls for violence steadily inch a civil society into extremist territory.**♥ 3source record 424 **Talking to cops.**♥ 1source record 875 **Murder..in Japan (a real society) it’s highly dishonorable, they even have a phrase for it “Satsujin wa damedayo, warui koda ne” but in the U.S. it’s the norm…**♥ 0source record 1004 Archive: 7 index entries preserve 7 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Bigotry moving into ordinary speech13 index entriesContempt for a group, named as something now said out loud. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Bigotry moving into ordinary speech Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Bigotry moving into ordinary speech 13 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 228 **Appears when:** Bigotry moving into ordinary speech **What the pattern means:** The complaint is about relocation rather than novelty: contempt for women and minorities said openly, and from official positions. The most detailed record lists specific institutional reversals; another argues the phenomenon is inseparable from tribalism in general. A single reply asks for the same concern to be extended to men, and is left where it landed. **What commenters described:** Bullying, gaslighting and degrading women and minorities. Our political US leadership does it regularly and is normalizing intolerance. **Limit:** Political claims as commenters made them, including specific institutional assertions this page has not checked. What the replies added2 And then saying we’re intolerant for not accepting their hateful rhetoric as if it should be welcomed. Meanwhile diversity of experience and thought is being pointedly eliminated in military and government leadership. First time in over a decade that zero female Navy officers are getting promoted to admiral, existing female and POC general officers getting removed, DEI being rolled back to such a point that state-funded universities have had to remove such simple statements as “all are welcome here” from their socials. It’s BAD. And it’s systematic. From the replies♥ 31 Can’t we include everyone? You haven’t noticed the flip since the 80s? All tv dads are morons and mom is brilliant…especially white dads… I like your point, but we don’t increase the total sum by reducing anyone else. Reduce bad actors and behavior only From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Bullying, gaslighting and degrading women and minorities. Our political US leadership does it regularly and is normalizing intolerance. source record 228♥ 121 Later-arriving source letting people get away with misogyny... racism... homophobia, etc. even as a joke. one is coping, the other is allowing hate into supposedly safe spaces, dividing what could be community. posted about 23.7 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Racism, transphobia, misogyny. posted about 18.5 hours after the source♥ 1 #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitableTurn it into a game · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-7-subgroup-2-car-dependence-and-whether-it-is-really-inevitable)[Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argumentTurn it into a game · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-1-hygiene-nursing-homes-and-the-caregiving-argument)[Where the argument stopped being about the questionTurn it into a game · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-6-where-the-argument-stopped-being-about-the-question) #### What the counts show Across 13 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Turn it into a game” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 13index entries 13distinct source records 31%of parent category 1.4%of the complete index 8top-level comments 5replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 12other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Turn it into a game **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments13 preserved records · 13 of 13 source records accounted for **Bullying, gaslighting and degrading women and minorities. Our political US leadership does it regularly and is normalizing intolerance.**♥ 121source record 228 **And then saying we’re intolerant for not accepting their hateful rhetoric as if it should be welcomed. Meanwhile diversity of experience and thought is being pointedly eliminated in military and government leadership. First time in over a decade that zero female Navy officers are getting promoted to admiral, existing female and POC general officers getting removed, DEI being rolled back to such a point that state-funded universities have had to remove such simple statements as “all are welcome here” from their socials. It’s BAD. And it’s systematic.**♥ 31source record 229 **Racism and misogyny are allies of fascism.**♥ 15source record 230 **Can’t we include everyone? You haven’t noticed the flip since the 80s? All tv dads are morons and mom is brilliant…especially white dads… I like your point, but we don’t increase the total sum by reducing anyone else. Reduce bad actors and behavior only**♥ 3source record 232 **Tribalism**♥ 7source record 385 **Openly admitting you are a racial or religious supremacist.**♥ 6source record 399 **Racism**♥ 3source record 443 **People think it is cool to hate. Society has normalized open hate for other people and living beings and we have become so desensitized to it that we no longer remember what it means to respect other humans and the presence of empathy causes discomfort. We have normalized hiding behind a mask.**♥ 2source record 470 **Leadership on a wider social scale like politics definitely trickle down to the way the average person thinks. A lot of society shapes the way different cultures or groups see the world so something on such a large scale is definitely an issue. I think this can be seen across time with various issues.**♥ 1source record 596 **Bullying, gaslighting and degrading men**♥ 1source record 647 **Racist dog whistling**♥ 1source record 823 **Racism, transphobia, misogyny.**♥ 1source record 834 **letting people get away with misogyny... racism... homophobia, etc. even as a joke. one is coping, the other is allowing hate into supposedly safe spaces, dividing what could be community.**♥ 1source record 853 Archive: 13 index entries preserve 13 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Cutting off family over politics — and the argument about that5 index entriesAn answer that its own replies refused immediately. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Cutting off family over politics — and the argument about that Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Cutting off family over politics — and the argument about that 5 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 453 **Appears when:** Cutting off family over politics — and the argument about that **What the pattern means:** An answer its own replies refused within minutes. The objection is that the disagreement was never about policy in the abstract: one commenter describes a relative who attended their wedding and votes against their marriage. The node is here as an example of an answer the thread declined to accept, not as a finding. **What commenters described:** Nah, if someone in my family is actively supporting and voting for homophobic policies after having come to my gay wedding, I'm not wasting my energy keeping them around. **Limit:** An answer the thread rejected, kept visible with the rejection. Both are opinion. What the replies added2 They didn't cut you off because of taxes, they cut you off because you support a pedo conman that shits on the Constitution and half of America. Its a moral failing. From the replies♥ 16 Nah, if someone in my family is actively supporting and voting for homophobic policies after having come to my gay wedding, I'm not wasting my energy keeping them around. From the replies♥ 4 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source They didn't cut you off because of taxes, they cut you off because you support a pedo conman that shits on the Constitution and half of America. Its a moral failing. source record 450♥ 16 Later-arriving source Nah, if someone in my family is actively supporting and voting for homophobic policies after having come to my gay wedding, I'm not wasting my energy keeping them around. posted about 6.9 hours after the source♥ 4 Zero-like source Cutting off family because of political views. posted about 0.6 hours after the source #### What the counts show This report keeps all 5 source records for Cutting off family over politics — and the argument about that together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 5index entries 5distinct source records 11.9%of parent category 0.5%of the complete index 2top-level comments 3replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 5other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments5 preserved records · 5 of 5 source records accounted for **Cutting off family because of political views.**♥ 0source record 449 **They didn't cut you off because of taxes, they cut you off because you support a pedo conman that shits on the Constitution and half of America. Its a moral failing.**♥ 16source record 450 **Found the red hat**♥ 6source record 452 **Nah, if someone in my family is actively supporting and voting for homophobic policies after having come to my gay wedding, I'm not wasting my energy keeping them around.**♥ 4source record 453 **Intentionally living in a bubble and cutting off anyone with differing views.**♥ 1source record 682 Archive: 5 index entries preserve 5 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Men and women71 records · 4 sub-topicsThe most contested theme in the corpus; a large share of it is the argument rather than the answers. 71 records. Violence and contempt toward men, on screen and off12 index entriesAnswers about how men are shown and handled, including the bumbling-sitcom-dad complaint. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Violence and contempt toward men, on screen and off Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Violence and contempt toward men, on screen and off 12 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 301 **Appears when:** Violence and contempt toward men, on screen and off **What the pattern means:** The specific complaint is about a comedic convention — men hit, kicked or slapped as a punchline, and the bumbling husband who cannot run a household. One reply argues the convention damages both parties, teaching one group that incompetence is expected and the other that absorbing it is the job. A separate strand challenges the men-as-protectors idea from the opposite side. **What commenters described:** Being verbally and/or physically abusive towards men. TV shows and movies are especially guilty of this. Kicking a man in the balls is not some fucking comedic bit. It's disgusting. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 Almost as disgusting as "Repeal the 19th" trending on Twitter From the replies♥ 20 It’s crazy how many kids shows would normalize slapping men From the replies♥ 12 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Being verbally and/or physically abusive towards men. TV shows and movies are especially guilty of this. Kicking a man in the balls is not some fucking comedic bit. It's disgusting. source record 301♥ 28 Later-arriving source It’s really a shame how men have created their own prisons posted about 21.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source It’s crazy how many kid shows normalize slapping. posted about 17.8 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “its crazy how many” recurs across 2 of the 12 source records in Violence and contempt toward men, on screen and off; the complete archive stays available below. 12index entries 12distinct source records 16.9%of parent category 1.3%of the complete index 2top-level comments 10replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 4asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments12 preserved records · 12 of 12 source records accounted for **Being verbally and/or physically abusive towards men. TV shows and movies are especially guilty of this. Kicking a man in the balls is not some fucking comedic bit. It's disgusting.**♥ 28source record 301 **It’s crazy how many kids shows would normalize slapping men**♥ 12source record 304 **Unless we are talking about self-defense, no one should be hitting anyone. I don't know why that's so hard to understand.**♥ 10source record 305 **I hate how they show the man as some bumbling moron who wouldn't survive without the super smart wife who handles everything in the household. It's so insulting and perpetuates stereotypes.**♥ 5source record 306 **It harms both men and women. Men are seen as pitiful almost, and women are basically told “see? This is as good as it gets. You’ll have a grown man child and you’ll be happy to clean up his messes.” Men are told “See? You can be an inept idiot who can’t function properly. But no worries. You’ll have a woman doing all the work, so it doesn’t matter.” In reality, we should all be capable of functioning independently. Ofc, disability aside, able bodied adults should be able to do their laundry, do basic DIY around the house, cook and clean, etc.**♥ 2source record 307 **Who do you think is laughing at those jokes?**♥ 3source record 308 **Sometimes this applies to sexual abuse too, especially with forms that don’t usually involve physical force (like a teacher having sex with their underaged male student)…**♥ 3source record 309 **that men are protectors? because its always women who do the protecting.**♥ 13source record 333 **And who do we usually need protecting FROM?**♥ 14source record 334 **the MEN.**♥ 12source record 335 **It’s really a shame how men have created their own prisons**♥ 1source record 731 **It’s crazy how many kid shows normalize slapping.**♥ 1source record 735 Archive: 12 index entries preserve 12 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs “Tearing down men”, and the reply thread that became the argument33 index entriesThe most contested branch in the corpus: an answer whose replies turned into the thread's largest fight. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: “Tearing down men”, and the reply thread that became the argument Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### “Tearing down men”, and the reply thread that became the argument 33 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 374 **Appears when:** “Tearing down men”, and the reply thread that became the argument **What the pattern means:** The most contested branch in the corpus, and it stopped being a list of behaviours almost immediately. The arguments actually made: that men's mental health gets raised in response to women organising rather than organised for; that services for male victims are under-resourced; and, from several commenters, that the replies to the answer are themselves the evidence for it. Almost none of it is resolvable, and it is kept in one place so a reader can see the shape of the argument rather than a winner. **What commenters described:** Men complain that "no one cares about mens mental health" but I never see any men organizing awareness events/organizations. I never see men championing therapy or building emotional intelligence. Men suffer and then take it out on everyone else with violence or turning to fascism instead of doing the work to improve yalls situations **Limit:** The most contested node in the corpus. Statistical and historical claims are traded in both directions and none is verified here; read it as an argument, not as a set of findings. What the replies added2 1\. No, it's upwards of 2-10%. Either way, excusing it away because of the percentage isn't making you look good. 2\. Nobody needs to pretend. It happens. 3\. No, I won't 'get the actual fuck out of here'. Women lose more, but men are on the receiving end more. 4\. Incorrect. 5\. You're also leaving out the lack of reporting by men due to being shamed. The causes of death among the rest of the demographics of non-pregnant people are almost identical, except with men dying in each category more. Pushback "Men try to improve their situations. However, women can falsely accuse them, spread rumors, try to break their lives, empty their bank accounts, take their kids away, commit dna fraud, isolate them" While I'm sure there are female psychopaths out there, the only time I've ever known women to keep kkds away from their fathers there was a very good reason. No one wants a broken family for funsies. All of that behavior is still less than the amount of violence men commit daily. Men kill women significantly more than the reverse. Reported failure♥ 9 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source It's not normalised enough tbh. If men would police each other the way women do to other women, there'd be no need. A teen got gang raped on holiday, the people doing it asked a random group of 5 men going past the hotel room if they wanted to join in and instead of helping her they raped her too. Sort yourselves out, absolute animals. source record 371♥ 61 Later-arriving source Wrong wrong wrong. You’re wrong. Women do not have that level of power over men. Especially not today. posted about 13.6 hours after the source♥ 3 Zero-like source If women policed women, false accusations, paternity fraud, romance fraud, and the increasing trend of rape of young male students wouldn't be an issue. Men have had their lives ended while on holiday because their wives planned it. A woman just strangled her kids, and women were at the courthouse and online posting their support for her. Sounds like there are plenty of animals that need to sort themselves out. posted about 1.7 hours after the source♥ -5 #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Hygiene, nursing homes and the caregiving argumentChange the sentence · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-1-hygiene-nursing-homes-and-the-caregiving-argument)[Where the argument stopped being about the questionChange the sentence · 3 there](#rich-node-0-group-3-subgroup-6-where-the-argument-stopped-being-about-the-question)[“It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the threadSwap instead of subtract · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-2-subgroup-1-it-s-a-social-lubricant-the-pushback-inside-the-thread) #### What the counts show Across 33 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Swap instead of subtract” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome. 33index entries 33distinct source records 46.5%of parent category 3.5%of the complete index 2top-level comments 31replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 5asks a question 0says they intend to try it 28other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. #### Observable tactic structures Swap instead of subtract **3**Change the sentence **2** Counts show source records whose wording matches the tactic structure; biological explanations remain commenter claims unless separately checked below. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments33 preserved records · 33 of 33 source records accounted for **Tearing down and demonizing men**♥ 10source record 370 **It's not normalised enough tbh. If men would police each other the way women do to other women, there'd be no need. A teen got gang raped on holiday, the people doing it asked a random group of 5 men going past the hotel room if they wanted to join in and instead of helping her they raped her too. Sort yourselves out, absolute animals.**♥ 61source record 371 **Men complain that "no one cares about mens mental health" but I never see any men organizing awareness events/organizations. I never see men championing therapy or building emotional intelligence. Men suffer and then take it out on everyone else with violence or turning to fascism instead of doing the work to improve yalls situations**♥ 28source record 374 **Cos they'll say it in response to women's organisations, as if they expect the women to make one for them too 😂**♥ 27source record 375 **Lol yeah my life as a man is so hard, everyone hates me, woe-is-me. No dude, you just suck**♥ 25source record 376 **In general or just the pedophiles?**♥ 8source record 377 **Men complain that "no one cares about mens mental health" but I never see any men organizing awareness events/organizations. I never see men championing therapy or building emotional intelligence. Men suffer and then take it out on everyone else with violence or turning to fascism instead of doing the work to improve yalls situations**♥ 7source record 378 **Male and females tearing each other down. We’re all just people and some of us are assholes.**♥ 3source record 379 **Responses to this comment prove what you’re saying**♥ 1source record 380 **women\*\* corrected your statement!**♥ 2source record 381 **Said by every male who hates accountability. Stop stalking harassing sexually assaulting and billing women animals and kids first**♥ 2source record 382 **Ironic how almost every comment in this thread does exactly the thing. Tear down & demonize men.**♥ 2source record 383 **The replies to your post just prove it. Then people wonder why male suicide rates are so much higher than women.**♥ -3source record 761 **Women attempt more. Males are only more successful cuz they use more violent means. You’re not proving anything**♥ 6source record 762 **Not a single person wonders that, we just don’t give a shit because y’all only use that fact as a gotcha. None of you are interested in putting in any of the work to change it, and we’re done trying to fix your problems for you.**♥ 3source record 763 **Mask fully off here, wow.**♥ 1source record 764 **FAMINISM**♥ 1source record 849 **Mens support is actively torn down by feminists though. The first shelters established for domestic victims were established for both men and women. But femisists drove the founder out of their project because she refused to turn away men. And now today, in England there are about 4,500\~ bedspaces available for domestic victims, with about 380\~ of them being open for men. And to say that you fail to see men championing campaigns for mens mental health is ludicrous. Men are in work everywhere except the places they aren't allowed to work. The campaigns for mens mental health are ran, advertised and organised by men. The biggest barrier is the fact that governments refuse to allocate the same support and resources to men as they do women. It's for this reason that male victims of sexual abuse are recorded as 'female' victims in the UKs crime statistics. And it is done precisely for the reason that it could cause a reallocation of support funds.**♥ -10source record 955 **You took one complaint about a homeless shelter founder and transferred it to "all feminists". Ironically, its feminists who want boys to be able to cry and express normal human emotions. The patriarchy demands "toughness" and you all suffer for it. Why do you think she wanted men out of the shared space? Who runs the government? Not primarily women, that's for sure.**♥ 11source record 956 **I don't think you realise how many women operate within the government, and that such a simple fact somehow manages to elude you is impressive. The government hasn't been 'male ran' for over a century. Simple fact is, the average man isn't in a position to manipulate crime statistics. Or allocate relief. It's the same stinky old, tight tied, heel-kissing, posh blokes who couldn't give a damn about actually helping people. They just want to placate those who would yell loudest and secure their votes and support. And that's women. But now that men want to be open about their mental health, they get shamed for it, and nobody wants to hand over resources out of fear that it makes them fall out of favour with women. Get that patriarchy spiel outta here. I've yet to see average men prevent anyone from taking shelter or harassing those who offer it. And then setting a precedent that only certain demographics of abuse victims deserve a place to take shelter. That isn't a minor complaint, its a sick and sad truth that men are still dealing with today, but you try to brush under the rug. Go ahead, get your downvotes in.**♥ 0source record 957 **No it’s not lmao. Like you proved it’s EVERYONE else’s fault but y’all’s and yall are victims**♥ 7source record 958 **The way women police other women? In what fantasy world do you live in?**♥ 0source record 959 **If women policed women, false accusations, paternity fraud, romance fraud, and the increasing trend of rape of young male students wouldn't be an issue. Men have had their lives ended while on holiday because their wives planned it. A woman just strangled her kids, and women were at the courthouse and online posting their support for her. Sounds like there are plenty of animals that need to sort themselves out.**♥ -5source record 965 **1) false accusations make up less than 1% of all accusations 2) I don’t have specific statistics on paternity fraud but Ik guys online like to pretend it’s \*way\* more common than it is. 3) “romance fraud” oh get the actual fuck out of her, men do that shit \*far\* more often. 4) “the increasing trend of rape of young male students” \*men\* are the ones saying shit about how he “should have enjoyed it”m not women. 5) the number one cause of death for pregnant women is their male partners. The \*vast\* majority of intimate partner violence is man against woman.**♥ 4source record 966 **Alright I'm not a man hater so I'll help you all out a bit: men are statistically more responsible for committing crimes and they are more likely to commit these crimes against other men, no pesky women involved at all! U guys are suffering so much 🥺❤️‍🩹 So if u wanna do a bit of self reflection with your mates then maybe you won't hurt each other's feelings as much and will be less violent 🩷🥰**♥ 3source record 967 **There definitely are organizations, and men have been trying to champion it. However, men are taught to encourage and/or often encouraged by their wives to require the sons to be the filial, unquestioning, unfeeling protectors and providers, which then leads to the mental issues, which then leads to the violence. The problem is built into the fabric of society. Men try to improve their situations. However, women can falsely accuse them, spread rumors, try to break their lives, empty their bank accounts, take their kids away, commit dna fraud, isolate them, and things that keep put a stop to self-improvement. The Urumova case, among many others, showed that one demographic has the ability to, for a time, bypass the law and remove Constitutional Rights at will. I don't support or promote violence or fascism, but when your rights can be removed on a whim, is it surprising that people are pushed to such horrible things like fascism?**♥ -5source record 990 **"Men try to improve their situations. However, women can falsely accuse them, spread rumors, try to break their lives, empty their bank accounts, take their kids away, commit dna fraud, isolate them" While I'm sure there are female psychopaths out there, the only time I've ever known women to keep kkds away from their fathers there was a very good reason. No one wants a broken family for funsies. All of that behavior is still less than the amount of violence men commit daily. Men kill women significantly more than the reverse.**♥ 9source record 991 **Not all the men in the comments being like "we'd be just fine if it weren't for you women"**♥ 7source record 992 **Wrong wrong wrong. You’re wrong. Women do not have that level of power over men. Especially not today.**♥ 3source record 993 **Literally proving their point. You know they suck based on those 5 words? That’s a logical response to you? Get a grip**♥ -4source record 994 **No. I know they suck because of their “complaint”. I am a man and have never had this “issue”, nor have any of my friends.**♥ 3source record 995 **\*The government hasn't been 'male ran' for over a century.\* This is such a ridiculous statement I'm not even bothering to read beyond that. Lets Google it: In the U.S. federal government, men hold roughly 72% of congressional seats and women hold about 28%. In the UK government and parliament, women make up roughly 41% of the House of Commons and 44% of cabinet attendees. This reflects a male-to-female ratio of about 1.4 to 1 among Members of Parliament, and roughly 1.3 to 1 in the top cabinet ranks. Women are the minority in both the US and UK governments. The US hasnt ever had a female President. They are outnumbered by men on the Supreme Court and Congress. There are no laws on mens reproductive systems or talks about repealing men's right to vote. Your statement is blatantly false. Maybe the men in these governments should spend less time creating wars and cutting healthcare and more time worrying about mens mental health.**♥ 1source record 1039 **1\. No, it's upwards of 2-10%. Either way, excusing it away because of the percentage isn't making you look good. 2\. Nobody needs to pretend. It happens. 3\. No, I won't 'get the actual fuck out of here'. Women lose more, but men are on the receiving end more. 4\. Incorrect. 5\. You're also leaving out the lack of reporting by men due to being shamed. The causes of death among the rest of the demographics of non-pregnant people are almost identical, except with men dying in each category more.**♥ 0source record 1040 Archive: 33 index entries preserve 33 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Misogyny, and what women said they take for it5 index entriesAnswers naming the treatment of women as the normalised thing. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Misogyny, and what women said they take for it Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Misogyny, and what women said they take for it 5 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 836 **Appears when:** Misogyny, and what women said they take for it **What the pattern means:** The counterpart answers, mostly short: misogyny itself, violence against women, and the abuse that follows women who speak about it in public. One record refers to a child-killing case that also appears in the branch above — the same event cited by both sides for opposite purposes, which is a fair summary of this theme. **What commenters described:** The abuse and attacks women endure for standing for women. Abusing women especially in public has become normal. **Limit:** Short answers plus one reference to a criminal case that other commenters cite for the opposite purpose. Neither reading is endorsed here. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Sexist jokes. Women doing sh\\\*t for men. Giving kids smartphones. source record 353♥ 6 Later-arriving source Apparently , strangling your three kids to death with exercise bands and blaming it on the mental health system posted about 21.7 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source The abuse and attacks women endure for standing for women. Abusing women especially in public has become normal. posted about 19.1 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 5 source records for Misogyny, and what women said they take for it together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 5index entries 5distinct source records 7%of parent category 0.5%of the complete index 5top-level comments 0replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 5other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments5 preserved records · 5 of 5 source records accounted for **Sexist jokes. Women doing sh\\\*t for men. Giving kids smartphones.**♥ 6source record 353 **Fucking misogyny**♥ 4source record 413 **Violence against women.**♥ 3source record 442 **The abuse and attacks women endure for standing for women. Abusing women especially in public has become normal.**♥ 1source record 836 **Apparently , strangling your three kids to death with exercise bands and blaming it on the mental health system**♥ 1source record 850 Archive: 5 index entries preserve 5 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Where the gender argument became about the arguers21 index entriesThe point at which both sides stopped naming behaviours and started scoring each other. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Where the gender argument became about the arguers Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Where the gender argument became about the arguers 21 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 675 **Appears when:** Where the gender argument became about the arguers **What the pattern means:** The point where the two branches above stop naming behaviours. The records trade grievance ledgers — voting rights, statistics, who stayed silent about what — and several are explicit that they are answering a side rather than a claim. They are grouped rather than dropped because the volume is the finding: this is where a large share of the theme's records went. **What commenters described:** You know what's funny, I never felt the need to do this until abortion and voting rights came under attack. Since yall want to stay silent on those, why should we care about your complaints? Legitimately, if I saw more men stand up to misogyny I would be more supportive. **Limit:** Records grouped for honesty about where the theme's volume went. Little of it is a claim about behaviour at all. What the replies added2 You know what's funny, I never felt the need to do this until abortion and voting rights came under attack. Since yall want to stay silent on those, why should we care about your complaints? Legitimately, if I saw more men stand up to misogyny I would be more supportive. From the replies♥ 14 Completely different issue. Two things can be true From the replies♥ 11 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Almost as disgusting as "Repeal the 19th" trending on Twitter source record 302♥ 20 Later-arriving source You're very welcome. Have a good day posted about 23.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source You said that men should be torn down and demonized more. This is literally the problem. This literally led to the return of the orange idiot (along with the warmongering of the last administration, and yes, the orange idiot chickened out on peace, fuck that guy). Go after toxic individuals all you like, but treating men as a group and pretending we were all red hatters if we didn't accept every woke catechism was.......problematic. posted about 1.6 hours after the source♥ -13 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “hatter then youll try to understand” recurs across 2 of the 21 source records in Where the gender argument became about the arguers; the complete archive stays available below. 21index entries 21distinct source records 29.6%of parent category 2.2%of the complete index 0top-level comments 21replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 19other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments21 preserved records · 21 of 21 source records accounted for **Almost as disgusting as "Repeal the 19th" trending on Twitter**♥ 20source record 302 **Completely different issue. Two things can be true**♥ 11source record 303 **Women treat other women like shit. I don’t want that**♥ 2source record 372 **What do you want then? I'd quite like a trip to the Maldives myself**♥ 5source record 373 **Notice how we cant even talk about something that affects men without someone bringing up something that affects women.**♥ -1source record 674 **You know what's funny, I never felt the need to do this until abortion and voting rights came under attack. Since yall want to stay silent on those, why should we care about your complaints? Legitimately, if I saw more men stand up to misogyny I would be more supportive.**♥ 14source record 675 **Not all men out here are against women's rights. At least not this one.**♥ 1source record 676 **Thank you. I genuinely appreciate that.**♥ 1source record 677 **You're very welcome. Have a good day**♥ 1source record 678 **Maybe if you didn't treat people like shit, others wouldn't treat you like shit, forever continuing the cycle of needless hatred. Be the one that breaks the cycle.**♥ 1source record 746 **That’s… not normal.**♥ 1source record 755 **Every. Single. Time.**♥ 2source record 860 **I don't know where you're from, but since you're speaking English I'll assume either the US or UK. As for your claim that men are "staying silent", women's voting rights were enacted by overwhelmingly male legislatures in both countries, and the UK's Abortion Act was passed by an overwhelmingly male Parliament. More importantly, men continue to vote for and openly support those rights today. In the US, for example, a majority of men (55%) support abortion being legal in all or most cases compared to 64% for women. Pretending that men have collectively stayed silent on women's rights whilst women fought for them on their own is a complete fantasy and honestly quite insulting.**♥ -2source record 952 **It's almost like the legislature and parliament were compromised mostly (if not ALL) of men because women weren't allowed to to have a government official position 😱(even if they were one, they were likely not respected or, ya know, they simply weren't valued unless it supported an agenda in favor of maintainig conservative values). Rather, they had to use sympathetic men in politics to amplify their voices and to vote in their interests. I just wanna say... this is such a dumb argument. OBVIOUSLY in a time where women were given less opportunity to acquire a government position, men in politics would have to vote to give women their right to vote because they can't even vote for the right because men told them they couldn't beforehand 🤦🏾‍♀️**♥ 9source record 953 **“The group of people who decided you didn’t deserve rights gave you rights after you fought for them” Not the flex you think it is.**♥ 4source record 954 **Make deranged comments like that one up there which made the current young male population the most right-leaning young voting block in modern American history**♥ -1source record 1047 **Ah you men and blaming women, always the same**♥ 4source record 1048 **You said that men should be torn down and demonized more. This is literally the problem. This literally led to the return of the orange idiot (along with the warmongering of the last administration, and yes, the orange idiot chickened out on peace, fuck that guy). Go after toxic individuals all you like, but treating men as a group and pretending we were all red hatters if we didn't accept every woke catechism was.......problematic.**♥ -13source record 1065 **Omg I'm barely active online, I think this may be my first man related comment outside of reality tv subreddits in my entire life. I'm not American either so I'm not an active participant in your politics or online culture wars. If you aren't a red hatter then you'll try to understand my comment, you've currently missed the mark.**♥ 7source record 1066 **\>If you aren't a red hatter then you'll try to understand my comment hmm.... >Sort yourselves out, absolute animals. So hard to understand**♥ -7source record 1067 **Blame it on the cultural difference hun, sarcasm and critical thinking ain't for you is it 😘**♥ 3source record 1068 Archive: 21 index entries preserve 21 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Children and the adults around them28 records · 4 sub-topicsAnswers where the person affected is too young to have a say. 28 records. Children as content9 index entriesChildren posted online by the adults who are supposed to be protecting them. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Children as content Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Children as content 9 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 838 **Appears when:** Children as content **What the pattern means:** Nine commenters arrive at the same thing independently: a child's image, name and routine published by their own parents. The most developed record makes the argument about time rather than embarrassment — the child cannot consent to a permanent, searchable audience, and sharing the same moment privately costs nothing. **What commenters described:** Recording children for public content before they can understand what a permanent audience means.A cute moment can be shared privately without turning someone else’s childhood into searchable material. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source This includes parents that film their kids for content and post it online. Irks me out. source record 127♥ 3 Later-arriving source Posting videos of children on social media...that are then saved hundreds of thousands of times by strangers doing god knows what with them posted about 21.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Recording children for public content before they can understand what a permanent audience means.A cute moment can be shared privately without turning someone else’s childhood into searchable material. posted about 19.4 hours after the source♥ 1 #### Related evidence elsewhere in the index [Location, data and the identity you hand over“on social media” · 2 there](#rich-node-0-group-1-subgroup-1-location-data-and-the-identity-you-hand-over) #### What the counts show The exact phrase “on social media” recurs across 3 of the 9 source records in Children as content; the complete archive stays available below. 9index entries 9distinct source records 32.1%of parent category 0.9%of the complete index 7top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 9other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for **This includes parents that film their kids for content and post it online. Irks me out.**♥ 3source record 127 **I would add, posting Photos of your children to this as well. It's too much.**♥ 2source record 265 **Posting. Your children. Online.**♥ 3source record 425 **Putting kid's pictures on the Internet.**♥ 1source record 750 **Putting your kid's names and/or hobbies on your rear windshield.**♥ 1source record 751 **Posting about your kids on social media**♥ 1source record 781 **Posting your kids on social media**♥ 1source record 831 **Recording children for public content before they can understand what a permanent audience means.A cute moment can be shared privately without turning someone else’s childhood into searchable material.**♥ 1source record 838 **Posting videos of children on social media...that are then saved hundreds of thousands of times by strangers doing god knows what with them**♥ 1source record 877 Archive: 9 index entries preserve 9 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Screens and apps in a child’s hands3 index entriesThe devices and apps commenters said children are handed too early. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Screens and apps in a child’s hands Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Screens and apps in a child’s hands 3 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 822 **Appears when:** Screens and apps in a child’s hands **What the pattern means:** Three records about devices handed over early and supervised late. The most specific describes reading children's live locations over their shoulders at a public event. Another names the sequence directly: give the device, then blame the website for what the child finds on it. **What commenters described:** Letting kids use SnapChat. It’s horrifying. If you’re near a group of kids or at a sporting event or concert where you can look over shoulders and see their phones, they’re all using SnapChat WITH THEIR LOCATIONS ON. Me, a stranger, I can now see where a dozen kids that I do not know are located. And that’s \\\*if\\\* they’re actually other kids. Get your kids off SnapChat (and any other form of social media). **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Children buying products at Sephora. Adults behaving like children. Just the role reversal between adults and children in general as a society lately. source record 830♥ 1 Later-arriving source Letting kids use SnapChat. It’s horrifying. If you’re near a group of kids or at a sporting event or concert where you can look over shoulders and see their phones, they’re all using SnapChat WITH THEIR LOCATIONS ON. Me, a stranger, I can now see where a dozen kids that I do not know are located. And that’s \\\*if\\\* they’re actually other kids. Get your kids off SnapChat (and any other form of social media). posted about 16.3 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source giving ipads and such to kids younger than 14 yo, then blaming websites for "exposing the kid to unsafe stuff" posted about 14.2 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 3 source records for Screens and apps in a child’s hands together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 3index entries 3distinct source records 10.7%of parent category 0.3%of the complete index 3top-level comments 0replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 3other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments3 preserved records · 3 of 3 source records accounted for **giving ipads and such to kids younger than 14 yo, then blaming websites for "exposing the kid to unsafe stuff"**♥ 1source record 812 **Letting kids use SnapChat. It’s horrifying. If you’re near a group of kids or at a sporting event or concert where you can look over shoulders and see their phones, they’re all using SnapChat WITH THEIR LOCATIONS ON. Me, a stranger, I can now see where a dozen kids that I do not know are located. And that’s \\\*if\\\* they’re actually other kids. Get your kids off SnapChat (and any other form of social media).**♥ 1source record 822 **Children buying products at Sephora. Adults behaving like children. Just the role reversal between adults and children in general as a society lately.**♥ 1source record 830 Archive: 3 index entries preserve 3 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs How children are raised9 index entriesParenting practices named as normalised harms, from corporal punishment to sleep training. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: How children are raised Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### How children are raised 9 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 445 **Appears when:** How children are raised **What the pattern means:** Parenting practices named as normalised harm rather than preference: corporal punishment, religious indoctrination, sleep training, and the breastfeeding rhetoric one mother reports being on the receiving end of while unable to produce milk. The most unusual record is about performance — a parent whose children told him that adults using an exaggerated television voice read to them as untrustworthy. **What commenters described:** Talking to children like you're a character in a tv show. You know, like super exaggerated facial expressions and the purposeful exaggerated inflections in tone. Yeah...Kids eventually learn its fake and then question the authenticity of every person who uses it. Been through it with both my kids, where they came to me and expressed that they now felt that all adults who did that were untrustworthy and off putting and they were glad I didnt do that. **Limit:** Parenting opinions, several of them strongly worded and none of them verified. Nothing here is guidance about a real child. What the replies added1 Is that really how it is? I don't have kids so I honestly don't know. But in my area there are a lot of well-maintained parks with clean, safe playground equipment and stuff like that. I feel like there are more spaces set up specifically for children now than there ever were when I was a kid in the 70s and 80s. But on the other hand, we could just wander the woods and have a grand ol' time without anyone calling the police on our parents for being neglectful. From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Corporal punishment on children source record 347♥ 9 Later-arriving source Is that really how it is? I don't have kids so I honestly don't know. But in my area there are a lot of well-maintained parks with clean, safe playground equipment and stuff like that. I feel like there are more spaces set up specifically for children now than there ever were when I was a kid in the 70s and 80s. But on the other hand, we could just wander the woods and have a grand ol' time without anyone calling the police on our parents for being neglectful. posted about 21.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source The Cry it Out method for babies and children. posted about 9.7 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show Within 9 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 9index entries 9distinct source records 32.1%of parent category 0.9%of the complete index 8top-level comments 1replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 7other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for **Corporal punishment on children**♥ 9source record 347 **Idk how to phrase this properly but basically how nothing is set up for children anymore. Im not entitled to a world where my child feels like she has a place but as a kid life had so much more whimsy. There were more parks and play places and things for kids to do and now its 2 aisles at Walmart amd hand em a tablet at home.**♥ 3source record 423 **Religious indoctrination of innocent children. Normalized child abuse.**♥ 3source record 429 **Talking to children like you're a character in a tv show. You know, like super exaggerated facial expressions and the purposeful exaggerated inflections in tone. Yeah...Kids eventually learn its fake and then question the authenticity of every person who uses it. Been through it with both my kids, where they came to me and expressed that they now felt that all adults who did that were untrustworthy and off putting and they were glad I didnt do that.**♥ 3source record 445 **Breast is best online rhetoric. Got told that my baby was going to be mentally stunted if I dont breastfeed. Guess what? Shes not, guess what shed be if I fed her what was in my breasts? Dead. Because there was nothing. But obviously since im a person who has basic empathy I think the support for breastfeeding mothers shoild absolutely be expanded.**♥ 1source record 484 **Childhood Obesity. It's Child abuse I will die on this fucking hill**♥ 1source record 487 **Letting kids do whatever the hell they want without consequences**♥ 1source record 685 **Is that really how it is? I don't have kids so I honestly don't know. But in my area there are a lot of well-maintained parks with clean, safe playground equipment and stuff like that. I feel like there are more spaces set up specifically for children now than there ever were when I was a kid in the 70s and 80s. But on the other hand, we could just wander the woods and have a grand ol' time without anyone calling the police on our parents for being neglectful.**♥ 1source record 717 **The Cry it Out method for babies and children.**♥ 1source record 791 Archive: 9 index entries preserve 9 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Pressure, protection and the questions people ask7 index entriesPressure around having children, and harms commenters said adults avoid naming. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Pressure, protection and the questions people ask Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Pressure, protection and the questions people ask 7 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 438 **Appears when:** Pressure, protection and the questions people ask **What the pattern means:** Two kinds of pressure sit together here. One is interrogation about children and marriage, reported as relentless and as something other countries do not put into small talk. The other is blunter: a few very short records naming harm to children as the thing that has been normalised, with no elaboration offered. **What commenters described:** Asking women if they have kids, when they're going to have kids, commenting on them having kids in the future, asking why they don't have kids... and on and on. Just shut up. Having a uterus is not the most important and interesting aspect about a woman's life. Other countries do not obsess about these questions in their small talk. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 Yeah, I'm pushing 40 and after like the 6th time people asked me and I responded with a long winded answer as to why, I just say, "no and I have no desire to be a mother." and shut that shut down From the replies♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Asking women if they have kids, when they're going to have kids, commenting on them having kids in the future, asking why they don't have kids... and on and on. Just shut up. Having a uterus is not the most important and interesting aspect about a woman's life. Other countries do not obsess about these questions in their small talk. source record 438♥ 3 Later-arriving source Yeah, I'm pushing 40 and after like the 6th time people asked me and I responded with a long winded answer as to why, I just say, "no and I have no desire to be a mother." and shut that shut down posted about 17.9 hours after the source♥ 2 Low-like source Asking, if you have or want to have kids. posted about 11.7 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 7 source records for Pressure, protection and the questions people ask together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 7index entries 7distinct source records 25%of parent category 0.7%of the complete index 6top-level comments 1replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 7other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for **In many Asian countries, the pressure from parents to get married can feel like harassment. Many people constantly face questions, reminders, and intense pressure from their families about finding a spouse.**♥ 3source record 435 **Asking women if they have kids, when they're going to have kids, commenting on them having kids in the future, asking why they don't have kids... and on and on. Just shut up. Having a uterus is not the most important and interesting aspect about a woman's life. Other countries do not obsess about these questions in their small talk.**♥ 3source record 438 **Yeah, I'm pushing 40 and after like the 6th time people asked me and I responded with a long winded answer as to why, I just say, "no and I have no desire to be a mother." and shut that shut down**♥ 2source record 439 **P3dophilia**♥ 2source record 466 **Asking, if you have or want to have kids.**♥ 1source record 803 **Pedophilia**♥ 1source record 804 **Grooming young girls to have kids and be “wife” material by giving baby dolls and cleaning/cooking toys encouraging them to play pretend life.**♥ 1source record 828 Archive: 7 index entries preserve 7 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Bodies, food and medicine27 records · 3 sub-topicsHealth answers — reported opinion throughout, and not verified anywhere on this page. 27 records. Weight, eating and the denial around it11 index entriesWeight and food as answers, with a reply arguing the problem is being misdiagnosed. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Weight, eating and the denial around it Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Weight, eating and the denial around it 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 321 **Appears when:** Weight, eating and the denial around it **What the pattern means:** The answer names weight; the reply does the more interesting work, arguing that people who deny the problem generally know, and that treating it as a character failure misreads it as badly as telling an anorexic person to eat. Around them sit records about sugar, portion sizes and eating for reasons that have nothing to do with hunger. **What commenters described:** I think most people denying it's a problem, know it's one deep down but use denial to cope. Being overweight is a mental issue, it's like expecting an anorexic person to just eat. Both groups have an unhealthy relationship with food which is a very hard thing to improve. **Limit:** Opinions about other people's weight and eating, including a commenter's own reframing of it as a mental-health issue. No clinical claim here is checked. What the replies added2 I think most people denying it's a problem, know it's one deep down but use denial to cope. Being overweight is a mental issue, it's like expecting an anorexic person to just eat. Both groups have an unhealthy relationship with food which is a very hard thing to improve. From the replies♥ 17 Or not recognizing what the real problem is. My cousin told me she gained a lot of weight due to having a desk job… as she simultaneously fed us her insanely massive, home baked cinnamon roles with 2x butter. 🤷🏻‍♀️ From the replies #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source I think most people denying it's a problem, know it's one deep down but use denial to cope. Being overweight is a mental issue, it's like expecting an anorexic person to just eat. Both groups have an unhealthy relationship with food which is a very hard thing to improve. source record 321♥ 17 Later-arriving source Or not recognizing what the real problem is. My cousin told me she gained a lot of weight due to having a desk job… as she simultaneously fed us her insanely massive, home baked cinnamon roles with 2x butter. 🤷🏻‍♀️ posted about 19.1 hours after the source Low-like source Takeout. Eating out. Takeaway coffee. posted about 8.7 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 11 source records for Weight, eating and the denial around it together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 11index entries 11distinct source records 40.7%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 7top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 11other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **Overeating and being overweight; and not recognizing it as a problem.**♥ 16source record 320 **I think most people denying it's a problem, know it's one deep down but use denial to cope. Being overweight is a mental issue, it's like expecting an anorexic person to just eat. Both groups have an unhealthy relationship with food which is a very hard thing to improve.**♥ 17source record 321 **Hell that’s more than half of our country. U.S.**♥ 5source record 322 **Consuming 30+ grams added sugar in a day. I think the average American slams like 100 each day. Crazy to me**♥ 7source record 346 **Eating unhealthy most of the time**♥ 1source record 593 **Over eating.**♥ 1source record 777 **Takeout. Eating out. Takeaway coffee.**♥ 1source record 780 **Diet culture**♥ 1source record 881 **Emotional eating.**♥ 1source record 884 **Weight-loss drugs**♥ 1source record 890 **Or not recognizing what the real problem is. My cousin told me she gained a lot of weight due to having a desk job… as she simultaneously fed us her insanely massive, home baked cinnamon roles with 2x butter. 🤷🏻‍♀️**♥ 0source record 1023 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Appearance as a permanent project8 index entriesCosmetic work, tattoos and the glow-up — with commenters disputing whether any of it matters. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Appearance as a permanent project Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Appearance as a permanent project 8 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 418 **Appears when:** Appearance as a permanent project **What the pattern means:** Cosmetic injections, facial tattoos, permanent hair removal, the endless glow-up. The disagreement is generational and the thread has it directly: an answer worries about sixty years of consequences, and two commenters with twenty years of piercings reply that the identical warning was issued about all tattoos and did not survive contact with time. **What commenters described:** All of the facial tattoos and piercing. Is any thought given to how it will affect your life over the next 60 years? **Limit:** A generational disagreement about consequences, with both sides arguing from their own case. What the replies added2 The answer is “not at all” That same thought process was used for \*any\* tattoo a couple decades ago, now you look like an idiot if you say that. From the replies♥ 3 I've had a double nose piercing for 20 years. I guess I'll let you know in another 40 how I've continued my completely normal life. From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source All of the facial tattoos and piercing. Is any thought given to how it will affect your life over the next 60 years? source record 418♥ 4 Later-arriving source I've had a double nose piercing for 20 years. I guess I'll let you know in another 40 how I've continued my completely normal life. posted about 17.5 hours after the source♥ 3 Low-like source Wearing pajamas 24-7. posted about 11.7 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show Within 8 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 8index entries 8distinct source records 29.6%of parent category 0.8%of the complete index 5top-level comments 3replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 6other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for **Botox**♥ 5source record 365 **All of the facial tattoos and piercing. Is any thought given to how it will affect your life over the next 60 years?**♥ 4source record 418 **What is it you think will happen?**♥ 3source record 419 **The answer is “not at all” That same thought process was used for \*any\* tattoo a couple decades ago, now you look like an idiot if you say that.**♥ 3source record 420 **I've had a double nose piercing for 20 years. I guess I'll let you know in another 40 how I've continued my completely normal life.**♥ 3source record 421 **Constantly trying to “glow up”**♥ 1source record 486 **Wearing pajamas 24-7.**♥ 1source record 802 **Tattoos**♥ 0source record 1006 Archive: 8 index entries preserve 8 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Risks people said we quietly stopped mitigating8 index entriesVaccines, masks, food inspection and prescribed medication, named as risks that stopped being treated as risks. Reported opinion, not medical guidance. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Risks people said we quietly stopped mitigating Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Risks people said we quietly stopped mitigating 8 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 362 **Appears when:** Risks people said we quietly stopped mitigating **What the pattern means:** A group of answers arguing that precautions lapsed without any decision being taken: vaccination, masking in clinical settings, food inspection, and one long record about antidepressant withdrawal. What they share is a claim that the default moved rather than the evidence. The claims themselves are the commenters' and are checked nowhere on this page. **What commenters described:** Not vaccinating (cough cough largest measles outbreak in the US since 1991 when they at least did something about it and added in the second does and then it was basically gone in the 2000s) **Limit:** Vaccine, masking, food-safety and prescribed-medication claims made by commenters. This page verifies none of them; the long antidepressant record in particular is one person's account and is not a reason to change a prescription. What the replies added1 The government has shut down and severely downsized any infrastructures or systems that were doing checks. It’s gonna get worse. So…🫠 From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Not vaccinating (cough cough largest measles outbreak in the US since 1991 when they at least did something about it and added in the second does and then it was basically gone in the 2000s) source record 362♥ 9 Later-arriving source Traveling, particularly through international airports, without a high quality respirator. posted about 20.3 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Catching COVID. Even if the initial infection feels like nothing, it can still cause a lot of long-term, serious damage. posted about 19.8 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 8 source records for Risks people said we quietly stopped mitigating together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 8index entries 8distinct source records 29.6%of parent category 0.8%of the complete index 7top-level comments 1replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for **The amount of recalls on foods weve been having lately.**♥ 8source record 349 **The government has shut down and severely downsized any infrastructures or systems that were doing checks. It’s gonna get worse. So…🫠**♥ 3source record 350 **Not vaccinating (cough cough largest measles outbreak in the US since 1991 when they at least did something about it and added in the second does and then it was basically gone in the 2000s)**♥ 9source record 362 **Shunning vaccines. COVID killed a lot of Americans. A lot.**♥ 3source record 444 **Not masking, especially in hospitals and health services areas.**♥ 2source record 463 **Taking antidepressants and psych drugs when they are not absolutely necessary. I'm going to talk about antidepressants; very commonly prescribed psych drugs that are widely considered safe. Antidepressants can cause long-term side effects that persist after you quit them, like PSSD (post-ssri sexual dysfunction), emotional blunting, tinnitus, and anhedonia (inability to feel pleasure). They can also cause long-term or permanent damage if you quit them cold turkey or taper too quickly. However, withdrawal injuries can also occur when tapering slowly under the supervision of a doctor (which is why I recommend hyperbolic tapering). This long-term damage is called protracted withdrawal syndrome (PWS)/post-acute withdrawal syndrome (PAWS). Symptoms of antidepressant PWS can include brain fog, brain zaps, cognitive impairment, anhedonia, akathisia (feeling of inner restlessness), severe insomnia, inability to relax, central nervous system hypersensitivity, tinnitus, severe depression, severe anxiety, panic attacks, PSSD (genital numbness and erectile dysfunction), and many other awful symptoms that can last for years or even be permanent. Despite antidepressants being widely prescribed and antidepressant PWS being a hellish condition, no one seems to talk about it. Most people believe that antidepressants are completely safe and that antidepressant withdrawal can't cause lasting injuries.**♥ 1source record 766 **Traveling, particularly through international airports, without a high quality respirator.**♥ 1source record 845 **Catching COVID. Even if the initial infection feels like nothing, it can still cause a lot of long-term, serious damage.**♥ 1source record 870 Archive: 8 index entries preserve 8 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Sex and relationships38 records · 4 sub-topicsAnswers about intimacy, and the replies telling them to mind their own business. 38 records. Meeting, sleeping with and marrying strangers11 index entriesAnswers about casual sex and meeting strangers — and the replies that refused the premise outright. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Meeting, sleeping with and marrying strangers Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Meeting, sleeping with and marrying strangers 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 863 **Appears when:** Meeting, sleeping with and marrying strangers **What the pattern means:** An answer about promiscuity that its own replies refused: if nobody is being harmed, what is the objection, and the puritan version does more damage. A separate strand about dating apps gets the same treatment — a warning about flying across the country to meet someone is answered by two commenters with fourteen and twenty-two years of marriage. **What commenters described:** Being a puritan is far more harmful. I see the Baptist ladies who married at 19 now divorced and hanging out at dive bars trying to sow their wild oats that they didn't sow back in their twenties, and it's sad. **Limit:** Moral positions and personal outcomes, including two that directly contradict the warning they reply to. What the replies added2 Being a puritan is far more harmful. I see the Baptist ladies who married at 19 now divorced and hanging out at dive bars trying to sow their wild oats that they didn't sow back in their twenties, and it's sad. From the replies♥ 14 I met a guy on FB who lived on another continent. We are celebrating 14 years of marriage next month. From the replies♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source As long as it isn't hurting anyone, why care? source record 862♥ 18 Later-arriving source When I met my wife she lived 1000 miles away in another country. We met on a dating site before "apps" were a thing. Been together 22 years, married for 10. posted about 21.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Being sexually promiscuous posted about 0.1 hours after the source♥ -1 #### What the counts show Within 11 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 11index entries 11distinct source records 28.9%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 7top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 9other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **Just flirting with strangers.**♥ 1source record 770 **sex**♥ 1source record 793 **Buttsex**♥ 1source record 799 **Being sexually promiscuous**♥ -1source record 861 **As long as it isn't hurting anyone, why care?**♥ 18source record 862 **Being a puritan is far more harmful. I see the Baptist ladies who married at 19 now divorced and hanging out at dive bars trying to sow their wild oats that they didn't sow back in their twenties, and it's sad.**♥ 14source record 863 **Hook up culture**♥ 1source record 883 **Meeting people off of dating apps and even flying cross country to meet them. It’s honestly terrifying.**♥ 0source record 999 **I met a guy on FB who lived on another continent. We are celebrating 14 years of marriage next month.**♥ 2source record 1000 **When I met my wife she lived 1000 miles away in another country. We met on a dating site before "apps" were a thing. Been together 22 years, married for 10.**♥ 1source record 1001 **Casual sex. It is quite literally how multiple civilizations have destroyed themselves.**♥ 0source record 1005 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Porn, fetish and what gets sexualised11 index entriesWhere commenters said sexual content stops being a private matter. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Porn, fetish and what gets sexualised Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Porn, fetish and what gets sexualised 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 807 **Appears when:** Porn, fetish and what gets sexualised **What the pattern means:** Answers naming pornography and the industry behind it, clothing marketed to teenagers, and fetishes practised on people who never agreed to be part of them. The industry claims are the commenters' own. The clearest line the group draws is about consent: the objection is not to the interest but to a bystander being conscripted into it. **What commenters described:** Engaging with porn… the porn industry is an abusive vile industry that enables sex trafficking. **Limit:** Claims about an industry, made by commenters and not checked here. Some supporting records describe non-consensual sexual behaviour in explicit terms. What the replies added1 It’s one thing to show them under clothes cool but blatantly having them out just to have titties out is —something.. From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Sexualized clothes for teens. source record 462♥ 2 Later-arriving source It’s one thing to show them under clothes cool but blatantly having them out just to have titties out is —something.. posted about 24.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Provocative clothing esp where there may be families /children. For context I’m 31 & I’m so sick of seeing bare nipples that aren’t feeding , ass cracks, ass cheeks, and just hella skin. Can we be more modest and mindful posted about 8.3 hours after the source #### What the counts show Within 11 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 11index entries 11distinct source records 28.9%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 7top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 9other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **Sexualized clothes for teens.**♥ 2source record 462 **Fetishes. They destroy relationships and should not be public because many of the public ones involve innocent bystanders, it's akin to nonconsensual sexual assault. I've read stories about a dude who learned when a convenience store clerk was on her period and would go fish her used products out of the bin and get an erection talking to her while wearing them. Or the dude who made his girlfriend drink coke and mentos because of his "blueberry" fetish. He liked to watch her belly rise and listen to it gurgle. He couldn't get off without it. Meanwhile she's dosing Valium just to have sex and facing pressure to "be more enthusiastic" as she was wracked w abdominal pain. GTFO ya pervs. Bring on the downvotes from the people who don't see the multitude of problems. These are just two examples I have come across in my research. I could do a couple dozen more. These harm the people who have to deal with it. The convenience store clerk was a teenager, will that change your mind?**♥ 1source record 689 **Sexualizing of almost everything.**♥ 1source record 771 **Engaging with porn… the porn industry is an abusive vile industry that enables sex trafficking.**♥ 1source record 807 **Porn**♥ 1source record 810 **Provocative clothing esp where there may be families /children. For context I’m 31 & I’m so sick of seeing bare nipples that aren’t feeding , ass cracks, ass cheeks, and just hella skin. Can we be more modest and mindful**♥ 0source record 1007 **So you’re okay with sheer/fish net clothing broad day light nipples out at the mall? The grocery store?**♥ 1source record 1009 **Nipples aren't hurting anyone lol**♥ 1source record 1010 **It’s one thing to show them under clothes cool but blatantly having them out just to have titties out is —something..**♥ 1source record 1011 **I said all of it to say there’s just a time and a place for scantily clad clothing not that we shouldn’t be able to wear it. A thong bikini at a family resort around small children is an interesting choice**♥ 0source record 1012 **Being an E whore.**♥ 0source record 1013 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Cheating, consent and honesty between partners8 index entriesDishonesty inside a relationship, including one record arguing that a withheld truth voids consent. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Cheating, consent and honesty between partners Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Cheating, consent and honesty between partners 8 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 323 **Appears when:** Cheating, consent and honesty between partners **What the pattern means:** The most developed record is regional: a commenter describes a saying in South Africa that treats a partner's infidelity as expected, and argues the outrage around it is performative. The rest of the group is about the same asymmetry — who the arrangement is permitted to apply to — and one record makes a harder argument, that consent obtained by withholding the truth is not consent at all. **What commenters described:** Cheating is so normalised in South Africa. There is a saying that shows just how normalised and expected it is: at the end of the day he comes home to me (more or less the translation). There sad part it is low key encouraged. Oh the might be some performative outrage but no real calling out. **Limit:** Accounts of one country's norms as one commenter describes them, plus a contested argument about what makes consent informed. What the replies added2 And it’s never about women. Men don’t say, “At the end of the day she comes girls to me”. It’s women being boo boo the fool. From the replies♥ 2 I had to search what this is. All I can say it yikes. From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Cheating is so normalised in South Africa. There is a saying that shows just how normalised and expected it is: at the end of the day he comes home to me (more or less the translation). There sad part it is low key encouraged. Oh the might be some performative outrage but no real calling out. source record 323♥ 16 Later-arriving source Withholding or even straight up lying to get consent. If someone wouldnt continue a relationship with you if they knew you were cheating, and you do not tell them. Its SA. Full consent is informed. posted about 24.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source controlling behavior. i think society has normalized being controlling in relationships and friendships. posted about 12.8 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “at the end of the day” recurs across 2 of the 8 source records in Cheating, consent and honesty between partners; the complete archive stays available below. 8index entries 8distinct source records 21.1%of parent category 0.8%of the complete index 4top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for **Cheating is so normalised in South Africa. There is a saying that shows just how normalised and expected it is: at the end of the day he comes home to me (more or less the translation). There sad part it is low key encouraged. Oh the might be some performative outrage but no real calling out.**♥ 16source record 323 **This explains Die Antwoord lol**♥ 6source record 324 **And it’s never about women. Men don’t say, “At the end of the day she comes girls to me”. It’s women being boo boo the fool.**♥ 2source record 326 **I had to search what this is. All I can say it yikes.**♥ 1source record 733 **Very true.**♥ 1source record 736 **Lusting after other people on the internet while you’re in a committed relationship.**♥ 1source record 826 **Withholding or even straight up lying to get consent. If someone wouldnt continue a relationship with you if they knew you were cheating, and you do not tell them. Its SA. Full consent is informed.**♥ 1source record 854 **controlling behavior. i think society has normalized being controlling in relationships and friendships.**♥ 1source record 858 Archive: 8 index entries preserve 8 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Relationship structures people said to think twice about8 index entriesArrangements named as entered into without much thought about the cost. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Relationship structures people said to think twice about Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Relationship structures people said to think twice about 8 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 461 **Appears when:** Relationship structures people said to think twice about **What the pattern means:** Arrangements entered into faster than they are thought about: a threesome inside an existing relationship, sex work, sex as a coping mechanism, marriage itself. Most of these records are careful rather than moralising — the threesome answer says that if it works it works — and one reply widens it, noting that the same caution applies to relationships generally. **What commenters described:** Threesomes if you're in a relationship - I've heard from multiple friends that this irreparably changes the dynamic. If it works it works, but it sounds like people really need to think about it more before saying yes. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I'm fine with women choosing to do something like working at a strip club or doing OnlyFans because she genuinely wants to do that kind of work. What I'm not fine with is late-stage capitalism eroding the social fabric to the point where some women find that the only way they can make rent is to engage in sex work. I don't want to hear "but she could just get a job doing..." That's the thing - these days finding any job is so difficult that it's entirely possible that someone can find themselves in a position where sex work would allow them to pay the bills and literally \*nothing\* else will. From the replies♥ 1 That's true of relationships in general, threesome or not. From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Threesomes if you're in a relationship - I've heard from multiple friends that this irreparably changes the dynamic. If it works it works, but it sounds like people really need to think about it more before saying yes. source record 461♥ 2 Later-arriving source Getting married and having kids. Also hyperfixating on physical attraction. posted about 22.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source That's true of relationships in general, threesome or not. posted about 21.7 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 8 source records for Relationship structures people said to think twice about together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 8index entries 8distinct source records 21.1%of parent category 0.8%of the complete index 6top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 8other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for **Sex work**♥ 3source record 455 **Threesomes if you're in a relationship - I've heard from multiple friends that this irreparably changes the dynamic. If it works it works, but it sounds like people really need to think about it more before saying yes.**♥ 2source record 461 **I'm fine with women choosing to do something like working at a strip club or doing OnlyFans because she genuinely wants to do that kind of work. What I'm not fine with is late-stage capitalism eroding the social fabric to the point where some women find that the only way they can make rent is to engage in sex work. I don't want to hear "but she could just get a job doing..." That's the thing - these days finding any job is so difficult that it's entirely possible that someone can find themselves in a position where sex work would allow them to pay the bills and literally \*nothing\* else will.**♥ 1source record 719 **That's true of relationships in general, threesome or not.**♥ 1source record 721 **Sex as a coping mechanism**♥ 1source record 783 **Getting married and having kids. Also hyperfixating on physical attraction.**♥ 1source record 852 **Marriage**♥ 1source record 872 **Polyamory**♥ 0source record 944 Archive: 8 index entries preserve 8 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Money, work and status35 records · 4 sub-topicsDebt, housing, hours, and the things people let themselves be measured by. 35 records. Debt, and buying what you cannot afford12 index entriesBorrowing to buy, and the culture built around it. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Debt, and buying what you cannot afford Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Debt, and buying what you cannot afford 12 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 266 **Appears when:** Debt, and buying what you cannot afford **What the pattern means:** High-interest credit for ordinary consumption, and the culture that keeps the purchase coming: replacing things that still work, tipping as a substitute for wages, third-party delivery at several times the price. One commenter in the UK reports the pattern as recently imported and so far mostly visible online. **What commenters described:** Using high interest credit cards for things you can’t really afford. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 OK, I definitely agree with the fact that third-party delivery services are just not worth it. I've only used one maybe twice and at least once they botched the order. Pushback♥ 1 Is that really as big a thing today as it used to be? Most people are too broke to live that way. You can only do it on credit for so long before banks just won't issue you any more credit. Reported failure♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Using high interest credit cards for things you can’t really afford. source record 266♥ 64 Later-arriving source OK, I definitely agree with the fact that third-party delivery services are just not worth it. I've only used one maybe twice and at least once they botched the order. posted about 23.1 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Is that really as big a thing today as it used to be? Most people are too broke to live that way. You can only do it on credit for so long before banks just won't issue you any more credit. posted about 21.4 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “things you cant” recurs across 2 of the 12 source records in Debt, and buying what you cannot afford; the complete archive stays available below. 12index entries 12distinct source records 34.3%of parent category 1.3%of the complete index 5top-level comments 7replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 2asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments12 preserved records · 12 of 12 source records accounted for **Using high interest credit cards for things you can’t really afford.**♥ 64source record 266 **For things you can afford there's money. For everything else there's credit cards.™**♥ 25source record 267 **Buying things you can’t afford, with money you don’t have, to impress people you don’t like.**♥ 2source record 268 **Consumerism. Buying the "latest greatest thing" even though the one you have works fine**♥ 16source record 332 **Tipping culture (but also just pay your employees what they deserve)**♥ 3source record 427 **Summoning (potentially dangerous) strangers to your home when you have the ability to pick up whatever is being delivered, and paying obnoxious sums of money to do so (very little of which goes to the potentially dangerous stranger.)**♥ 1source record 482 **This is relatively new in the uk, imported from the USA I believe. I’m glad I don’t know anyone that does this (other than for mortgages), but I see it online**♥ 1source record 700 **Is that really as big a thing today as it used to be? Most people are too broke to live that way. You can only do it on credit for so long before banks just won't issue you any more credit.**♥ 1source record 716 **Why are you afraid of delivery people??**♥ 1source record 722 **“Afraid” is strong, but my husband used to work as a mechanic for a Buy Here Pay Here dealership. The people that dealership took advantage of were often people who dashed/delivered. There was not a single one who came in to have their car serviced whose vehicle was not Filthy (roach traps, cat feces, one guy apparently urinated regularly in his seat) all them were employed as delivery drivers. Also there is little to no oversight or accountability for either the driver or the customer. Delivery drivers who work for Pizza Hut (an example) are accountable to Pizza Hut. If I have a problem, I can go to that company and have it resolved. There is little accountability for 3rd tier, underpaid delivery drivers. And the expense is Outrageous. Double paying for an order that is soggy, lukewarm, and wrong 80% of the time is not my way.**♥ 1source record 723 **OK, I definitely agree with the fact that third-party delivery services are just not worth it. I've only used one maybe twice and at least once they botched the order.**♥ 1source record 724 **mindless overconsumption, shopping addictions, and “iNfLuEnCiNg” others to develop the same addiction to buying plastic trash**♥ 1source record 797 Archive: 12 index entries preserve 12 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Housing prices, treated as a fact of life9 index entriesOne answer about overpaying, and the branch working out who can still buy at all. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Housing prices, treated as a fact of life Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Housing prices, treated as a fact of life 9 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 269 **Appears when:** Housing prices, treated as a fact of life **What the pattern means:** One answer about paying far above value, and a branch that turns it into arithmetic: buyers purchasing a monthly payment rather than a price, owners who got in before a crash, and no obvious route for anyone arriving now. The disagreement is definitional — a house is worth what somebody pays — and the reply narrows the claim to the last two or three years rather than the market as such. **What commenters described:** Paying $100,000 more than a house is worth. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I guess I meant 100k more than it’d be 2-3 years ago. It’s ridiculous right now. I don’t know how people do it. From the replies♥ 4 Agreed, prices are nuts. We were only able to buy our first home because we bought in 2009, when home prices had just crashed. I don't understand how young people are supposed to get into homeownership now. Have a wealthy family, I guess? From the replies♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Paying $100,000 more than a house is worth. source record 269♥ 47 Later-arriving source If they bought it 10 years ago maybe. posted about 19.9 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Do you mean that much over asking price? That's a ridiculously large amount of money! On the other hand, a house is only "worth" what someone is willing to pay for it. posted about 5.1 hours after the source #### What the counts show Within 9 source records, 3 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 9index entries 9distinct source records 25.7%of parent category 0.9%of the complete index 1top-level comments 8replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 3asks a question 0says they intend to try it 6other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for **Paying $100,000 more than a house is worth.**♥ 47source record 269 **that's not going anywhere soon, because most people buy the monthly payment**♥ 1source record 707 **People can still afford to buy houses?**♥ 1source record 713 **If they bought it 10 years ago maybe.**♥ 1source record 714 **Do you mean that much over asking price? That's a ridiculously large amount of money! On the other hand, a house is only "worth" what someone is willing to pay for it.**♥ 0source record 1014 **I guess I meant 100k more than it’d be 2-3 years ago. It’s ridiculous right now. I don’t know how people do it.**♥ 4source record 1015 **Agreed, prices are nuts. We were only able to buy our first home because we bought in 2009, when home prices had just crashed. I don't understand how young people are supposed to get into homeownership now. Have a wealthy family, I guess?**♥ 2source record 1016 **or just wait a \*really\* long time**♥ 2source record 1017 **They won't ever be able to! With the astronomical price of rent, there will be no way to save for a down payment. Owning a home is a luxury for the rich.**♥ 1source record 1018 Archive: 9 index entries preserve 9 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Overwork worn as a badge7 index entriesHours presented as an achievement. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Overwork worn as a badge Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Overwork worn as a badge 7 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 311 **Appears when:** Overwork worn as a badge **What the pattern means:** Not the hours but the display: what commenters object to is the boast rather than the shift. Several separate genuine need from performance, and one describes the tell precisely — three hours of sleep in a week, reported with a smile. **What commenters described:** Picking up overtime time constantly, working as hard as you can all the time and actually bragging about it. This isn’t normal, you need at least a little bit of time where you’re not putting your body under extreme stress. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 Ugh the busy brag. I remember as a kid adults working 9-5 and there being much more downtime. Hussle culture doesn’t benefit anyone. From the replies♥ 8 Totally agree sometimes it’s necessary but yeah having a sense of superiority because you’re burning yourself out is just dumb. From the replies♥ 2 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Picking up overtime time constantly, working as hard as you can all the time and actually bragging about it. This isn’t normal, you need at least a little bit of time where you’re not putting your body under extreme stress. source record 311♥ 22 Later-arriving source Grind culture influencers. posted about 18.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source What it takes to get into Ivy League colleges. These kids are going on burn-out level to get through HS classes, along with AP/Community college credits, a sport, an instrument, community engagement, research projects, businesses…etc. These are the people who go on to become leaders in our society and what we call “exceptional” is really either a well funded parents who are paying other adults to make these things happen for their kids, or a kid that is normalizing an unsustainable pace. With how much college graduates impact and shape corporate America, future teachers and political leaders, this crazy ask has a direct impact on every facet of our country. It shouldn’t be allowed. posted about 3.9 hours after the source #### What the counts show Within 7 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 7index entries 7distinct source records 20%of parent category 0.7%of the complete index 3top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 6other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for **Picking up overtime time constantly, working as hard as you can all the time and actually bragging about it. This isn’t normal, you need at least a little bit of time where you’re not putting your body under extreme stress.**♥ 22source record 311 **Ugh the busy brag. I remember as a kid adults working 9-5 and there being much more downtime. Hussle culture doesn’t benefit anyone.**♥ 8source record 312 **I work in second shift a factory and we're doing mandatory OT. I'm so tired 😫**♥ 1source record 709 **I get that some people do genuinely need the money, but when there’s “I’ve gotten like 3 hours of sleep all week” with a weird smile it gets really odd. It’s not healthy, people need to set boundaries for their own sake.**♥ 1source record 753 **Totally agree sometimes it’s necessary but yeah having a sense of superiority because you’re burning yourself out is just dumb.**♥ 2source record 754 **Grind culture influencers.**♥ 1source record 835 **What it takes to get into Ivy League colleges. These kids are going on burn-out level to get through HS classes, along with AP/Community college credits, a sport, an instrument, community engagement, research projects, businesses…etc. These are the people who go on to become leaders in our society and what we call “exceptional” is really either a well funded parents who are paying other adults to make these things happen for their kids, or a kid that is normalizing an unsustainable pace. With how much college graduates impact and shape corporate America, future teachers and political leaders, this crazy ask has a direct impact on every facet of our country. It shouldn’t be allowed.**♥ 0source record 1002 Archive: 7 index entries preserve 7 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Status, clout and who gets admired7 index entriesFame, followings and wealth as things people organise themselves around. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Status, clout and who gets admired Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Status, clout and who gets admired 7 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 417 **Appears when:** Status, clout and who gets admired **What the pattern means:** Fame and following as things people organise themselves around: stan culture, clout chasing, wealth treated as merit. The branch under the top record spends most of its length on the etymology of the word rather than on the behaviour, which is a small illustration of the theme in its own right. **What commenters described:** Stan culture with celebrities. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 At first I thought that meant obsessive, like Stan from the Eminem video. From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Stan culture with celebrities. source record 417♥ 3 Later-arriving source Oh lol I had no idea posted about 22.7 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Social climbing / constantly wanting to be the center of attention posted about 21.3 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 7 source records for Status, clout and who gets admired together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 7index entries 7distinct source records 20%of parent category 0.7%of the complete index 4top-level comments 3replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 7other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for **Stan culture with celebrities.**♥ 3source record 417 **Clout chasing behavior**♥ 1source record 481 **At first I thought that meant obsessive, like Stan from the Eminem video.**♥ 1source record 710 **Yeah, that’s the origin of the phrase.**♥ 1source record 711 **Oh lol I had no idea**♥ 1source record 712 **Idolizing the wealthy**♥ 1source record 774 **Social climbing / constantly wanting to be the center of attention**♥ 1source record 876 Archive: 7 index entries preserve 7 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Belief, information and how people decide things39 records · 5 sub-topicsWhere facts come from, and what happens when they do not arrive. 39 records. “Doing your own research” on a social feed9 index entriesAnswers about where people now get their facts from. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: “Doing your own research” on a social feed Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### “Doing your own research” on a social feed 9 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 408 **Appears when:** “Doing your own research” on a social feed **What the pattern means:** Answers about where conclusions now come from, and one record makes the cost concrete: an employee who concluded he was demonically possessed from a run of videos, with symptoms the commenter recognised from family experience of psychosis. The rest name the sequence — a position taken before the facts, then defended. **What commenters described:** A worker of mine confided in me that he is possessed by a demon and realized it by watching TikTok videos of demonic possession. His symptoms are clearly some form of psychosis. My great grandma and an ex boyfriend were both schizophrenic, I know what it looks like, but this guy is convinced it's demonic possession solely because some chick on TT, that was his "research". **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 A worker of mine confided in me that he is possessed by a demon and realized it by watching TikTok videos of demonic possession. His symptoms are clearly some form of psychosis. My great grandma and an ex boyfriend were both schizophrenic, I know what it looks like, but this guy is convinced it's demonic possession solely because some chick on TT, that was his "research". From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Giving into the pressure to take a stance on everything, whether you have all the facts or not. People do more harm than good jumping to conclusions and getting angry just so they can feel like they’re “making a difference.” source record 348♥ 7 Later-arriving source absorbing the opinions of others and agreeing with it without taking a second to form your own. i see this everywhere on social media and i cant have in depth conversations with people bc they can't explain their thinking posted about 18.0 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Believing documentaries, based-on-a-true-story fiction, and other infotainment are more factual and informative than pure fiction. posted about 6.1 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 9 source records for “Doing your own research” on a social feed together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 9index entries 9distinct source records 23.1%of parent category 0.9%of the complete index 8top-level comments 1replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 9other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for **Giving into the pressure to take a stance on everything, whether you have all the facts or not. People do more harm than good jumping to conclusions and getting angry just so they can feel like they’re “making a difference.”**♥ 7source record 348 **Posting your insane rhetoric on social media that goes against known facts. It’s dumbing down our country and I’m sick of hearing “just do your research” when their “research” comes from facebook**♥ 3source record 407 **A worker of mine confided in me that he is possessed by a demon and realized it by watching TikTok videos of demonic possession. His symptoms are clearly some form of psychosis. My great grandma and an ex boyfriend were both schizophrenic, I know what it looks like, but this guy is convinced it's demonic possession solely because some chick on TT, that was his "research".**♥ 3source record 408 **Accepting the first they read without conducting even a moment of critical thinking….**♥ 3source record 409 **Forming opinions on topics we're not educated about.**♥ 4source record 410 **Being an obnoxious cunt or a conspiracy theorist. A good punch in the face used to limit the numbers of obnoxious cunts and a base level of education and the scarcity of echo chambers used to limit the number of conspiracy theorists. Now not only do we tolerate these types of people it is actually profitable to be one**♥ 2source record 454 **Distrust of any positive data**♥ 2source record 459 **Believing documentaries, based-on-a-true-story fiction, and other infotainment are more factual and informative than pure fiction.**♥ 1source record 681 **absorbing the opinions of others and agreeing with it without taking a second to form your own. i see this everywhere on social media and i cant have in depth conversations with people bc they can't explain their thinking**♥ 1source record 832 Archive: 9 index entries preserve 9 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Handing the thinking to AI10 index entriesA cluster of short answers naming AI use itself as the normalised risk. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Handing the thinking to AI Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Handing the thinking to AI 10 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 406 **Appears when:** Handing the thinking to AI **What the pattern means:** Ten short records, most of them a single line, naming AI use itself as the normalised risk. Where they expand, the worry is capability rather than accuracy: the practice of reasoning through something is what gets lost. One commenter who used it only for grammar during a technical master's describes even that as more trouble than it was worth. **What commenters described:** Using AI for EVERYTHING!! People shouldn’t be relying on what it says as fact, and it’s making people stupid; they just don’t know how to think critically anymore or have a single expression without it. **Limit:** Short opinions about AI use, mostly asserted rather than argued. What the replies added2 Also: people chatting with AI like it's a person. It's the canned responses of people who wrote stuff years or decades ago hoovered up from the Internet. From the replies♥ 1 Yep!! AI can be useful but when I was getting my masters degree in an extremely technical field; graduated in May. My classmates would use AI to write their discussions or help them write papers… it was completely obvious and sooo frustrating… the only thing I wanted AI to do was fix my grammar in these huge 20+ page papers and even then it would try to mess with my wording so I gave up on it lol From the replies♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Social media but that ship has sailed. AI will finish the job. source record 384♥ 7 Later-arriving source Using and simping for AI posted about 20.3 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Yep!! AI can be useful but when I was getting my masters degree in an extremely technical field; graduated in May. My classmates would use AI to write their discussions or help them write papers… it was completely obvious and sooo frustrating… the only thing I wanted AI to do was fix my grammar in these huge 20+ page papers and even then it would try to mess with my wording so I gave up on it lol posted about 19.0 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 10 source records for Handing the thinking to AI together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 10index entries 10distinct source records 25.6%of parent category 1.1%of the complete index 8top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments10 preserved records · 10 of 10 source records accounted for **Social media but that ship has sailed. AI will finish the job.**♥ 7source record 384 **Using AI**♥ 5source record 392 **Using AI for EVERYTHING!! People shouldn’t be relying on what it says as fact, and it’s making people stupid; they just don’t know how to think critically anymore or have a single expression without it.**♥ 3source record 406 **Outsourcing thinking to AI**♥ 2source record 464 **AI**♥ 1source record 488 **Also: people chatting with AI like it's a person. It's the canned responses of people who wrote stuff years or decades ago hoovered up from the Internet.**♥ 1source record 704 **Yep!! AI can be useful but when I was getting my masters degree in an extremely technical field; graduated in May. My classmates would use AI to write their discussions or help them write papers… it was completely obvious and sooo frustrating… the only thing I wanted AI to do was fix my grammar in these huge 20+ page papers and even then it would try to mess with my wording so I gave up on it lol**♥ 1source record 705 **Ai in job ads and answering job ads**♥ 1source record 816 **Using AI, whatever the reason**♥ 1source record 855 **Using and simping for AI**♥ 1source record 871 Archive: 10 index entries preserve 10 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Not knowing, and being comfortable with it8 index entriesNot reading, not knowing, and refusing to be corrected. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Not knowing, and being comfortable with it Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Not knowing, and being comfortable with it 8 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 389 **Appears when:** Not knowing, and being comfortable with it **What the pattern means:** Two related answers: not reading, and the pride some people take in announcing it. The record that generalises best is about correction — being wrong treated as an injury to defend rather than something to update, which is a different problem from not knowing in the first place. **What commenters described:** Feeling ashamed of getting something wrong or not knowing something. People should just say ‘oh I learned something new’ and move on. Digging your heels in to remain stupid for the sake of your ego is infuriating. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 And then bragging about it (a few of my friends do this 😭) From the replies♥ 10 “I haven’t opened a book since high school!” And you’re…proud of that? 😬 From the replies♥ 4 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source And then bragging about it (a few of my friends do this 😭) source record 316♥ 10 Later-arriving source People Defending their views rather than being flexible in their views and when they are challenged they respond with anger rather than listening posted about 14.3 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Feelings as facts with no reflection posted about 7.2 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show Within 8 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 8index entries 8distinct source records 20.5%of parent category 0.8%of the complete index 6top-level comments 2replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 7other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments8 preserved records · 8 of 8 source records accounted for **Not reading books**♥ 23source record 315 **And then bragging about it (a few of my friends do this 😭)**♥ 10source record 316 **“I haven’t opened a book since high school!” And you’re…proud of that? 😬**♥ 4source record 317 **Ignorance**♥ 9source record 337 **The low literacy of the united states.**♥ 8source record 361 **Feeling ashamed of getting something wrong or not knowing something. People should just say ‘oh I learned something new’ and move on. Digging your heels in to remain stupid for the sake of your ego is infuriating.**♥ 6source record 389 **Feelings as facts with no reflection**♥ 1source record 686 **People Defending their views rather than being flexible in their views and when they are challenged they respond with anger rather than listening**♥ 1source record 815 Archive: 8 index entries preserve 8 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Telling other people how to live6 index entriesThe inverse answer: commenting on choices that are nobody else's business. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Telling other people how to live Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Telling other people how to live 6 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 358 **Appears when:** Telling other people how to live **What the pattern means:** The inverse of most of this thread, and it belongs here for that reason: commenters naming unsolicited judgement about choices that affect nobody else. The examples given are pointed — bathroom policing, think-of-the-children as a general-purpose veto, and protection imposed on a group that says it does not want it. **What commenters described:** Everyone telling others how to live when it’s not affecting anyone but the person doing it. Bonus points if the only reason a grown adult can’t is because think of the children. The one that’s annoying me the most rn is people who don’t know any trans people and still say they shouldn’t be using bathrooms/be in public. I’ve jumped through the hoops let me be. **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Everyone telling others how to live when it’s not affecting anyone but the person doing it. Bonus points if the only reason a grown adult can’t is because think of the children. The one that’s annoying me the most rn is people who don’t know any trans people and still say they shouldn’t be using bathrooms/be in public. I’ve jumped through the hoops let me be. source record 358♥ 10 Later-arriving source Being overly cautious of everything posted about 15.4 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source being incredibly judgemental of the relatively innocuous but inconvenient behaviour of strangers while at the same time excusing genuinely violent/alarming behaviour because of mental illness/addiction. i see it in my city’s subreddit all the time. posted about 6.5 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 6 source records for Telling other people how to live together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 6index entries 6distinct source records 15.4%of parent category 0.6%of the complete index 6top-level comments 0replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 6other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for **Everyone telling others how to live when it’s not affecting anyone but the person doing it. Bonus points if the only reason a grown adult can’t is because think of the children. The one that’s annoying me the most rn is people who don’t know any trans people and still say they shouldn’t be using bathrooms/be in public. I’ve jumped through the hoops let me be.**♥ 10source record 358 **Voicing opinions unprompted about anything and everything, but definitely none of that person's business to be giving forth so freely without being asked. Just because you can, doesn't mean that you should**♥ 3source record 412 **being incredibly judgemental of the relatively innocuous but inconvenient behaviour of strangers while at the same time excusing genuinely violent/alarming behaviour because of mental illness/addiction. i see it in my city’s subreddit all the time.**♥ 1source record 748 **“Protecting” people and doing things that actually ruin their lives and cause harm. Doing this to vulnerable groups so if anyone is like “\*hey that’s fucked up and harmful!!!\*” the ones causing the harm can be like “\*you can’t say that! That’s \\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_ist, or \\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_\\\_obic.”\* Even if you’re part of that same group being offered unwanted protection and saying it’s a bad idea and what’s happening is a pre-cursor to Facism. Then you’re disregarded because you said the ‘F’ word. We really need to start saying the ‘F’ word. We don’t need protection. No one but Facists and people who want to cause harm which are mostly the Facists, care anymore. Most people like you more and think you’re cooler. The ones causing the harm are the same ones offering this abnormal protection.**♥ 1source record 782 **Word policing.**♥ 1source record 813 **Being overly cautious of everything**♥ 1source record 818 Archive: 6 index entries preserve 6 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Religion treated as the default, and the objections to that6 index entriesReligion named as normalised, and the records pushing back on that framing. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Religion treated as the default, and the objections to that Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Religion treated as the default, and the objections to that 6 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 809 **Appears when:** Religion treated as the default, and the objections to that **What the pattern means:** Religion named as normalised, in registers from a single word to a short argument about whether morality that requires a threat counts as morality. The group is kept intact rather than trimmed because one record pushes precisely the other way, objecting to science being used to dismiss what it has not explained. **What commenters described:** Genuinely being religious. It's just... Rediculous. If you need the threat of eternal damnation to be good, then you aren't a good person at all But also it's just silly in general. I stopped believing in Santa Clause when I was like 6 to 8 years old. Why do people continue to believe in fairytales beyond that? **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Religious psychosis source record 344♥ 9 Later-arriving source Religion and organised spirituality. posted about 14.7 hours after the source♥ 2 Zero-like source Demonising Christianity across TV and film whilst allowing other religions a free pass. posted about 1.8 hours after the source♥ -1 #### What the counts show Within 6 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome. 6index entries 6distinct source records 15.4%of parent category 0.6%of the complete index 6top-level comments 0replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 5other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments6 preserved records · 6 of 6 source records accounted for **Religious psychosis**♥ 9source record 344 **Christianity**♥ 3source record 440 **Religion and organised spirituality.**♥ 2source record 473 **Genuinely being religious. It's just... Rediculous. If you need the threat of eternal damnation to be good, then you aren't a good person at all But also it's just silly in general. I stopped believing in Santa Clause when I was like 6 to 8 years old. Why do people continue to believe in fairytales beyond that?**♥ 1source record 809 **Using science to dispprove the unexplained.**♥ 0source record 931 **Demonising Christianity across TV and film whilst allowing other religions a free pass.**♥ -1source record 985 Archive: 6 index entries preserve 6 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Turning inward23 records · 3 sub-topicsAnswers about attention pointed back at the self. 23 records. Self-care that turned into self-focus7 index entriesAnswers arguing that a therapeutic idea got repurposed into something else. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Self-care that turned into self-focus Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Self-care that turned into self-focus 7 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 402 **Appears when:** Self-care that turned into self-focus **What the pattern means:** The argument is that a useful idea got repurposed. The most substantive record separates the products from the practice — a ten-step routine and a fully planned day are not care if sleep, food and movement are missing — and the exchange under it lands on 'I deserve' as the phrase where the shift happens. **What commenters described:** I think people are just investing in the wrong types of self care, which creates selfishness & exhaustion They think using 100 expensive beauty products, having a 10 step skincare routine, planning out every second of your day, constantly eating like shit, not exercising, staying up late when they have to get up early, and DOOMSCROLLING are all self care when they’re really not Self care should be basic needs first (stable shelter, food, hydration, sleep, sunlight, exercise) then social needs/mental health needs (you can switch the last 2 around but physical health MUST come first) **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added2 I think people are just investing in the wrong types of self care, which creates selfishness & exhaustion They think using 100 expensive beauty products, having a 10 step skincare routine, planning out every second of your day, constantly eating like shit, not exercising, staying up late when they have to get up early, and DOOMSCROLLING are all self care when they’re really not Self care should be basic needs first (stable shelter, food, hydration, sleep, sunlight, exercise) then social needs/mental health needs (you can switch the last 2 around but physical health MUST come first) From the replies♥ 3 I agree with all of that! Especially social conditioning and having wrong ideas about what health and self care actually are (people think self care is putting hedonism over physical health to make themselves feel better \*emotionally\* not \*physically)\* From the replies♥ 3 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Self affirmation/self love. It’s gone a little too far IMO… All this me me me thing has created some really bad side effects, from relationships and friendships and beyond. Somewhere along the line we forgot us and others… source record 401♥ 5 Later-arriving source Toxic positivity; spending too much time on antisocial media; lack of depth in conversations. posted about 20.6 hours after the source♥ 1 Zero-like source Affective empathy. It's a trauma response with marketing. posted about 1.6 hours after the source #### What the counts show This report keeps all 7 source records for Self-care that turned into self-focus together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 7index entries 7distinct source records 30.4%of parent category 0.7%of the complete index 4top-level comments 3replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 7other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for **Self affirmation/self love. It’s gone a little too far IMO… All this me me me thing has created some really bad side effects, from relationships and friendships and beyond. Somewhere along the line we forgot us and others…**♥ 5source record 401 **I think people are just investing in the wrong types of self care, which creates selfishness & exhaustion They think using 100 expensive beauty products, having a 10 step skincare routine, planning out every second of your day, constantly eating like shit, not exercising, staying up late when they have to get up early, and DOOMSCROLLING are all self care when they’re really not Self care should be basic needs first (stable shelter, food, hydration, sleep, sunlight, exercise) then social needs/mental health needs (you can switch the last 2 around but physical health MUST come first)**♥ 3source record 402 **For sure, mainly the “I deserve x,y, and z” it really has build a very narcissistic culture sadly and one where lots of people are miserable and alone because some have false ideals of what’s healthy and right. It’s tragic because I just keep watching it snowball and not many seem to be aware of what’s happening. Social conditioning (intentional or not) is something real, and like anything in life it has side effects. Sociology and psychology can help us understand life and modern life more.**♥ 2source record 403 **I agree with all of that! Especially social conditioning and having wrong ideas about what health and self care actually are (people think self care is putting hedonism over physical health to make themselves feel better \*emotionally\* not \*physically)\***♥ 3source record 404 **Professional victimhood**♥ 2source record 460 **Toxic positivity; spending too much time on antisocial media; lack of depth in conversations.**♥ 1source record 874 **Affective empathy. It's a trauma response with marketing.**♥ 0source record 996 Archive: 7 index entries preserve 7 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Main-character energy and entitlement5 index entriesShort answers naming a way of moving through the world. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Main-character energy and entitlement Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Main-character energy and entitlement 5 source records **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 794 **Appears when:** Main-character energy and entitlement **What the pattern means:** Short answers naming a stance rather than an action: entitlement, no accountability, other people treated as scenery. The one record that expands it makes the social argument — the pose only works by pretending there is no society to be responsible to. **What commenters described:** “main character energy” - it’s just pretending narcissism is fine and we don’t live in a society and have to be respectful and responsible for the world we live in or people in it **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Lack of accountability. source record 391♥ 5 Later-arriving source Selfishness of human race posted about 19.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source “main character energy” - it’s just pretending narcissism is fine and we don’t live in a society and have to be respectful and responsible for the world we live in or people in it posted about 10.2 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show This report keeps all 5 source records for Main-character energy and entitlement together and surfaces traceable examples without converting anecdotes into proof. 5index entries 5distinct source records 21.7%of parent category 0.5%of the complete index 5top-level comments 0replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 0asks a question 0says they intend to try it 5other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments5 preserved records · 5 of 5 source records accounted for **Lack of accountability.**♥ 5source record 391 **Entitlement**♥ 1source record 480 **Self entitlement**♥ 1source record 785 **“main character energy” - it’s just pretending narcissism is fine and we don’t live in a society and have to be respectful and responsible for the world we live in or people in it**♥ 1source record 794 **Selfishness of human race**♥ 1source record 842 Archive: 5 index entries preserve 5 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs Avoiding anything that feels hard11 index entriesDiscomfort, boredom and conflict treated as things to be eliminated. Source-backed index report #### Pattern card naming the normalised behaviour, what commenters reported about it, and what the thread itself disputed: Avoiding anything that feels hard Source-backed answers are shown before diagnostics; the complete source archive remains below. #### Avoiding anything that feels hard 11 source recordsDiscussed **Evidence Status:** Community-reported opinion; not independently verified**Representative Source Record Id:** 483 **Appears when:** Avoiding anything that feels hard **What the pattern means:** The longest record here argues that permanent comfort was sold rather than chosen, and that boredom and mild discomfort do work which removing them prevents — written by somebody who describes a life of addictions. Around it sit the smaller versions: apathy, and the reply that apathy is exhaustion; and being pleasant to people who are not, which two commenters name as avoidance rather than kindness. **What commenters described:** I think people are getting way too obsessed with avoiding discomfort as well as boredom, you're not supposed to be happy 24/7, our mood is supposed to ebb and flow Assuming your baseline neutral way of existing should be happy and engaged leads to feeling like something is wrong when that's missing, take it from me, I've struggled with addictions my whole life But the constant pursuit of dopemine is something modern society has pushed on you so that when it's missing, they can sell you stuff it's especially bad with the hyper personalized algorithmic bubbles we all live under Even though studies have shown that things like boredom are actually healthy for us, the calm moments help our brain process our experiences and kind of... log information And learning to be OK with discomfort is how we learn to coexist with other people in society, because you're not always going to agree with how other people interact with the world, but you shouldn't let it ruin your day People feeling like they're entitled to never feel any discomfort ever has honestly lead to a lot of bigotry, because people conflate feeling bad with having been wronged People need to learn that feeling unhappy or irritated or angry or any other negative feeling isn't something that you need to immediately fix, it's just part of being human, and you should let those feelings arrive and naturally pass through you without struggling against them **Limit:** Reported opinion only. These are things commenters said we have normalised; nothing here is verified, several answers are contradicted a few records later by other commenters, and none of it is advice. What the replies added1 I think people are getting way too obsessed with avoiding discomfort as well as boredom, you're not supposed to be happy 24/7, our mood is supposed to ebb and flow Assuming your baseline neutral way of existing should be happy and engaged leads to feeling like something is wrong when that's missing, take it from me, I've struggled with addictions my whole life But the constant pursuit of dopemine is something modern society has pushed on you so that when it's missing, they can sell you stuff it's especially bad with the hyper personalized algorithmic bubbles we all live under Even though studies have shown that things like boredom are actually healthy for us, the calm moments help our brain process our experiences and kind of... log information And learning to be OK with discomfort is how we learn to coexist with other people in society, because you're not always going to agree with how other people interact with the world, but you shouldn't let it ruin your day People feeling like they're entitled to never feel any discomfort ever has honestly lead to a lot of bigotry, because people conflate feeling bad with having been wronged People need to learn that feeling unhappy or irritated or angry or any other negative feeling isn't something that you need to immediately fix, it's just part of being human, and you should let those feelings arrive and naturally pass through you without struggling against them Reported failure♥ 1 #### Source-record spotlights Most engaged source Apathy. People need to start caring about stuff again. source record 313♥ 25 Later-arriving source Oh man! I mean, enabling jerks is a behavior that’s almost always problematic, but being a human carpet and making avoidance your lifestyle has terrible consequences, good on you for calling out that sadly common modality. posted about 21.5 hours after the source♥ 1 Low-like source Being polite to people who are impolite, people respect the boundaries of an environment over an individual. I don’t mean cause a scene. But sometimes I’d rather see collective effort to challenge rudeness over collective effort to ignore it. posted about 9.7 hours after the source♥ 1 #### What the counts show The exact phrase “people need to” recurs across 2 of the 11 source records in Avoiding anything that feels hard; the complete archive stays available below. 11index entries 11distinct source records 47.8%of parent category 1.2%of the complete index 7top-level comments 4replies #### What commenters explicitly report 0explicitly reports a benefit 0explicitly reports a limit or failure 1asks a question 0says they intend to try it 10other source context These buckets are a deterministic partition based on explicit phrasing in the source text; they are not sentiment scores or effectiveness findings. **Reading limit:** Counts show source-record support for this index node. Explicit language and exact-phrase rules do not establish uniqueness, semantic exhaustiveness, or effectiveness. Browse the original comments11 preserved records · 11 of 11 source records accounted for **Apathy. People need to start caring about stuff again.**♥ 25source record 313 **I would like to but I'm too exhausted from existing.**♥ 7source record 314 **Being nice to mean people**♥ 7source record 367 **Being a pseudo-nice bitch out of avoidance**♥ 2source record 368 **overextending grace to a clearly bad person**♥ 6source record 387 **I think people are getting way too obsessed with avoiding discomfort as well as boredom, you're not supposed to be happy 24/7, our mood is supposed to ebb and flow Assuming your baseline neutral way of existing should be happy and engaged leads to feeling like something is wrong when that's missing, take it from me, I've struggled with addictions my whole life But the constant pursuit of dopemine is something modern society has pushed on you so that when it's missing, they can sell you stuff it's especially bad with the hyper personalized algorithmic bubbles we all live under Even though studies have shown that things like boredom are actually healthy for us, the calm moments help our brain process our experiences and kind of... log information And learning to be OK with discomfort is how we learn to coexist with other people in society, because you're not always going to agree with how other people interact with the world, but you shouldn't let it ruin your day People feeling like they're entitled to never feel any discomfort ever has honestly lead to a lot of bigotry, because people conflate feeling bad with having been wronged People need to learn that feeling unhappy or irritated or angry or any other negative feeling isn't something that you need to immediately fix, it's just part of being human, and you should let those feelings arrive and naturally pass through you without struggling against them**♥ 1source record 483 **Caring about stuff? In \*this\* economy???**♥ 1source record 708 **Oh man! I mean, enabling jerks is a behavior that’s almost always problematic, but being a human carpet and making avoidance your lifestyle has terrible consequences, good on you for calling out that sadly common modality.**♥ 1source record 738 **complacency. when settling is considered the better option. When silence is the preferred sound. When the will to live happily is a memory from a distant past.**♥ 1source record 784 **Being polite to people who are impolite, people respect the boundaries of an environment over an individual. I don’t mean cause a scene. But sometimes I’d rather see collective effort to challenge rudeness over collective effort to ignore it.**♥ 1source record 790 **Not doing things just cause they’re hard or take a long time, in that same vein accepting bad things happening to you all the time instead of doing anything to try and change your scenario. Sucky shit that you can’t change happens sometimes but you don’t always have to sit back and let life happen to you. You are allowed to have a say in the matter**♥ 1source record 801 Archive: 11 index entries preserve 11 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs How this catalog was built **How this guide is organized** The complete source archive contains all 1073 captured comments. 952 of them name a behaviour or argue with one, and are cited by 74 visible reviewed pattern cards across 17 themes. The remaining 121 are reactions, questions, insults, moderator notices and off-topic replies; they stay in the labelled source archive and are not credited as answers. Every answer that drew an objection inside the thread carries that objection in the same card. Source: Reddit comments — 1 thread, 1073 comments (290 top-level, 783 replies) ## Selected comments from the discussion This export carries real like counts and timestamps. The first 18 are the most resonant on-topic top-level comment from each stage of the discussion, ranked by resonance within their arrival-time cohort so later arrivals are not penalised for having had less time to accumulate likes. The last 6 received no likes at all and were chosen for the specificity of what they describe. Circumcising children who don't need it. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 600 Gambling. Can't watch a sports game without sports betting advertising. Then there's all the other online casinos and things like Ploymarket etc. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 120 Filming without consent most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 474 Too many people have become comfortable being rude and obnoxious in public. Bring back public shaming. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 42 Location tracking. It’s weird. People can try and justify it all they want, but it’s weird to normalize tracking somebody on a tracking device 24/7\. The only time it’s acceptable is when it’s a parent doing it to their young child. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 10 Not vaccinating (cough cough largest measles outbreak in the US since 1991 when they at least did something about it and added in the second does and then it was basically gone in the 2000s) most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 9 Money being a valid excuse for otherwise sociopathic behavior towards human life most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 5 Forming opinions on topics we're not educated about. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 4 Voicing opinions unprompted about anything and everything, but definitely none of that person's business to be giving forth so freely without being asked. Just because you can, doesn't mean that you should most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3 Feeling ashamed of getting something wrong or not knowing something. People should just say ‘oh I learned something new’ and move on. Digging your heels in to remain stupid for the sake of your ego is infuriating. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 6 In many Asian countries, the pressure from parents to get married can feel like harassment. Many people constantly face questions, reminders, and intense pressure from their families about finding a spouse. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3 “Being outspoken” or “opinionated” when they’re really just dicks. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3 Asking women if they have kids, when they're going to have kids, commenting on them having kids in the future, asking why they don't have kids... and on and on. Just shut up. Having a uterus is not the most important and interesting aspect about a woman's life. Other countries do not obsess about these questions in their small talk. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3 Violence against women. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3 Shunning vaccines. COVID killed a lot of Americans. A lot. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 3 Children buying products at Sephora. Adults behaving like children. Just the role reversal between adults and children in general as a society lately. most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 1 Can we all put our godforsaken phones down for 20 minutes??? At least while driving?? And when you have to speak to present human beings? It's become so normalized. People think nothing of it. Wtf is happening most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 1 Bringing dogs to public places they should not be at. I’ve seen dogs at supermarkets and department stores more and more of late. I saw one at Macy’s last week. Earlier this year I counted 4 dogs in a supermarket in one visit. I don’t think any of them were genuine service dogs. I have a relative in a nursing home that we bring a dog to visit to lift her spirits and glad we are able to do that, but if there are other residents that have allergies or fear of dogs I worry if our action is intruding on another. Dogs at hardware stores seems to be the norm now. People bring dogs to breweries. In my state food is not sold at breweries, so food contamination isn’t really a concern, but when it gets crowded inside trying to walk with dogs at my feet is a tripping hazard. And sometimes the dogs go after each other. Read more most resonant in its arrival cohort♥ 1 What it takes to get into Ivy League colleges. These kids are going on burn-out level to get through HS classes, along with AP/Community college credits, a sport, an instrument, community engagement, research projects, businesses…etc. These are the people who go on to become leaders in our society and what we call “exceptional” is really either a well funded parents who are paying other adults to make these things happen for their kids, or a kid that is normalizing an unsustainable pace. With how much college graduates impact and shape corporate America, future teachers and political leaders, this crazy ask has a direct impact on every facet of our country. It shouldn’t be allowed. Read more no likes — selected for specificity Streaming. Watching someone watch something is weird. Or you can frame it as: you consuming someone else consuming something without any of the tangible benefits. It’s an odd interest and I do silently judge people for it. no likes — selected for specificity Provocative clothing esp where there may be families /children. For context I’m 31 & I’m so sick of seeing bare nipples that aren’t feeding , ass cracks, ass cheeks, and just hella skin. Can we be more modest and mindful no likes — selected for specificity Murder..in Japan (a real society) it’s highly dishonorable, they even have a phrase for it “Satsujin wa damedayo, warui koda ne” but in the U.S. it’s the norm… no likes — selected for specificity Naive children hating their own country that they take for granted - even though people the world over are literally dying to get in. no likes — selected for specificity The amount of social (physical) isolation everyone seems to have. And to go with that cell phone/ social media addictions. no likes — selected for specificity ## How the discussion breaks down Relative volume of distinct source-backed records across every reviewed category in this corpus. ### Infant circumcision — the thread’s top answer and its longest argument 234 distinct coded comment records 7 normalized answers ### Drink, smoke and bet 115 distinct coded comment records 6 normalized answers ### Men and women 71 distinct coded comment records 4 normalized answers ### How strangers get treated 62 distinct coded comment records 6 normalized answers ### Naming your own mind 46 distinct coded comment records 5 normalized answers ### Cars, roads and driving 45 distinct coded comment records 3 normalized answers ### What people publish about themselves 44 distinct coded comment records 4 normalized answers ### Politics, power and what a country gets used to 42 distinct coded comment records 4 normalized answers ### Plans, promises and disappearing 41 distinct coded comment records 4 normalized answers ### Cameras pointed at other people 40 distinct coded comment records 5 normalized answers ### Belief, information and how people decide things 39 distinct coded comment records 5 normalized answers ### Sex and relationships 38 distinct coded comment records 4 normalized answers ### Money, work and status 35 distinct coded comment records 4 normalized answers ### Children and the adults around them 28 distinct coded comment records 4 normalized answers ### Bodies, food and medicine 27 distinct coded comment records 3 normalized answers ### Turning inward 23 distinct coded comment records 3 normalized answers ### Being alone 22 distinct coded comment records 3 normalized answers ## Nearly every answer here was argued with This thread does not agree with itself. 783 of its 1073 records are replies (73%), and a large share of them exist to argue with the answer immediately above them. That is the single most consistent finding in the corpus: almost every widely-liked answer here drew a reply from somebody who does the thing, thinks the answer proves nothing, or reads the same evidence the other way. **Some of the pushback disputes the premise.** Under the loneliness answer: *“Goes both ways. Some people can’t be alone for any length of time. I’d say those folks may have a problem too.”* and, more plainly, *“What one person calls loneliness another calls solitude.”* Under location sharing: *“You get to decide what is and isn’t acceptable for consenting adults?? My husband and I both find it preferable, more convenient, and SAFER than the alternative of texting or calling someone who may be in transit (e.g., if I can see that he’s already left the store where I remembered something we need, it saves him from looking at his phone while he should be paying attention to his surroundings instead of reading a text). If either of us wants to turn off our own location, of course we are free to do so. Who are YOU to say it’s unacceptable for us to use that feature?”* Under facial tattoos: *“The answer is “not at all” That same thought process was used for \*any\* tattoo a couple decades ago, now you look like an idiot if you say that.”* Under promiscuity: *“As long as it isn't hurting anyone, why care?”* And under streaming: *“1) there has \*always\* been people who made a career out of reviewing things. There’s a reason Michelin star restaurants are a thing. 2) there’s literally no difference between streaming and live tv.”* **Some of it disputes a fact.** The claim that second-hand smoke is worse than smoking drew *“2nd hand smoke is not worse for you. This is an absurd take I dislike smoking but ffs, this is just ignorant”*; the claim that cannabis causes schizophrenia drew *“It doesnt cause it, stop spreading disinformation.”* and a longer correction. The self-diagnosis answer drew the sharpest reply in that branch: *“The irony that your analysis is just as invalid as someone self diagnosis, if not more so since you don't actually know their symptoms and behaviors day in day out. And OCD people already doubt themselves enough. Autistic people already get called asses enough.”* The article does not adjudicate any of these. They are recorded here because a reader deciding what to make of an answer needs to see that the thread itself did not settle it. **And some of it comes from the people being described.** Under constant phone checking: *“100%, the older I get though the worse I am. I'll be an ipad granny at this rate, won't take my tablets without my tablet. If it wasn't so normalised then we'd be less likely to give in and we'd all be better off for it.”* Under smoking: *“There was a time I would’ve made some kind of wisecrack about you being lame, but you actually are right. Two years free of cigarettes! Let’s go.”* Under apathy: *“I would like to but I'm too exhausted from existing.”* Under the cannabis argument: *“I'm not sure what your stance on weed is here, but I'm addicted to it and I agree that its hard-core defendants go way overboard with it. "Natural" is a made-up religious concept. Chemicals are natural, what the hell do people think we're made of? However, weed detractors also demonize it. Everything in excess is bad. This includes substances that can be otherwise helpful, or even just fun, to people in the right conditions So no, weed is not a miracle, but it's not the devil's plant either. And it definitely doesn't cause schizophrenia. Saying as a nursing assistant and weed addict with a schizophrenic ex-partner.”* That is why the sub-patterns below keep the objection in the same place as the answer. Of the 74 sub-patterns, several exist only to hold disagreement — *The objection: solitude is not loneliness*, *“It’s a social lubricant” — the pushback inside the thread*, *The people who have the diagnosis, answering* and *Car dependence, and whether it is really inevitable* among them. Browse the original comments1,073 audited comments and replies PreviousNext Dataset, coverage, and methodology 1,073 comments read and classified 952 records naming a behaviour 17 themes the answers fall into 783 of the records are replies ## How this was counted The working unit is a comment record, not a person and not a distinct behaviour. All 1073 canonical comments from this one thread (290 top-level, 783 replies) were read in four passes and each was assigned to exactly one sub-pattern or one exclusion bucket. 952 records name a behaviour the commenter said people should be more cautious of, or argue directly with one, and all 952 appear in the complete index below. The other 121 break down as agreements, one-line dismissals and GIFs (44), insults and exchanges about the arguers (27), jokes and tangents that leave the question (15), questions put to another commenter (13), automated moderator notices (8), commentary about the thread itself (5), sympathy or advice offered to another commenter (3), records naming an account or a private individual (2), records writing a word with “@” in place of a letter, which the mention redactor cannot tell from an account handle (2), and fragments and text the platform had already removed (2). 952 counts classified comment records, not distinct behaviours. Repeats were deliberately kept: nine records name posting children online and each stays its own row rather than being merged into one. Scores are the raw numbers as captured. The first hour of this thread holds 49.0% of all its score, so a ranking by raw score would mostly rank arrival time; themes and sub-patterns are ordered by how many records they hold, not by popularity. Nothing here is verified beyond what people typed. Health, safety, legal and parenting claims in this thread are reported as the claims of the commenters who made them, several are disputed a few records later by other commenters, and none should be read as guidance. A strongly-worded answer with a high score is still one person's opinion arriving early.