What Helped People Through Grief: Words, Rituals, and Support

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What Helped People Through Grief: Words, Rituals, and Support

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Commenters repeatedly returned to allowing grief without a timetable, taking one day or breath at a time, saying the person’s name, keeping photos and stories close, accepting practical presence, and finding meaning in love that remains. Faith-based comfort should be clearly labeled as optional, while secular comfort, support for another person, and professional-help context stay equally visible.

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  • Short phrases people found comforting
  • Practical actions and rituals
  • How to support someone else
  • Faith-based and secular paths
  • Permission to grieve without a timetable
  • Professional and crisis-support context without pathologizing grief
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What the pattern means: It will never be “fixed”. As someone who likes solutions this was helpful for me. As I do art therapy, legacy work, continued bonds activities, yoga, journaling, I keep in mind there is no end date, I’m just learning to manage how to carry this often invisible weight 🩵

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What the pattern means: The book Sibling Grief.

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Tears, thanks and holding each other1,260 records · 7 sub-topicsTears, thanks and holding each other — 1,260 records
Hearts, hugs and no words at all436 index entriesHearts, hugs and no words at all — 436 records
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none, unfortunately

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Hurts so much. 🦋🫶🏻

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Later-arriving source

Go make new memories 💜

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Zero-like source

You made mom happy

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Across 436 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Use a sensory reset” (10 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

436index entries
436distinct source records
34.6%of parent category
6.9%of the complete index
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me as well. 💔 hugs♥ 0source record 14
I hear that. hugs♥ 0source record 19
This really helped♥ 1source record 54
This ☝🏼💙♥ 1source record 59
Just WOW♥ 1source record 60
This comment [account]♥ 1source record 63
Best advice EVER!♥ 1source record 82
This was amazing♥ 1source record 102
Woof.♥ 0source record 143
Inside Out 3 right here♥ 0source record 166
Best advise ever 😔♥ 0source record 185
This is poetic♥ 0source record 195
I’m speechless.♥ 0source record 214
That’s soooo real 🖤♥ 0source record 221
Yes well put….♥ 0source record 229
❤️♥ 1source record 231
❤️❤️♥ 0source record 235
This. Just healed me♥ 0source record 255
Woah 🥺💖♥ 0source record 265
Whoa 🤯 ♥️♥ 0source record 278
This took me OUT♥ 1source record 283
🥰👏👏👏🥰🥰♥ 1source record 290
😩♥ 1source record 291
❤️❤️🥺🥺♥ 1source record 295
🥺♥ 1source record 296
so poetic and comforting♥ 1source record 298
Agreed 💯.♥ 1source record 305
😂😂😂♥ 8source record 310
Te quiero mi nana♥ 2source record 323
What’s this even mean?♥ 1source record 329
It’s pretty straightforward.♥ 2source record 330
I don’t get it♥ 2source record 331
Elegant 🥰♥ 0source record 341
He said something sensible?! 🤔♥ 0source record 342
🙏best ever♥ 0source record 353
Sick burn♥ 1source record 359
He’s not wrong♥ 0source record 360
I remember that♥ 0source record 363
Miss that guy♥ 0source record 366
🥺♥ 0source record 368
😔♥ 0source record 369
💜💜💜♥ 0source record 370
🥺♥ 0source record 371
❤️♥ 0source record 372
This loud and clear♥ 0source record 375
This is the 1♥ 0source record 379
[site removed].like.a brick😇♥ 0source record 382
That’s nice♥ 1source record 396
Omg 😩😩❤️♥ 0source record 401
I’m going that now…💔🥺♥ 0source record 411
This is perfect♥ 0source record 412
Oooooohhhh♥ 0source record 417
This one got me♥ 0source record 420
This…. This one got me.♥ 0source record 427
💓🥺♥ 0source record 431
🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹♥ 0source record 433
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 435
❤️♥ 0source record 437
😥♥ 0source record 444
We have to 💙♥ 0source record 446
Never!♥ 0source record 449
This♥ 1source record 456
Including YOURSELF.♥ 1source record 464
This♥ 1source record 473
This!♥ 1source record 475
That’s gd 💯♥ 1source record 477
yes♥ 1source record 478
This one.♥ 1source record 479
same♥ 1source record 481
This ❤️♥ 1source record 483
I’m so incredibly sorry.💔♥ 2source record 488
Me either♥ 4source record 495
thats amazing♥ 1source record 500
💯♥ 1source record 501
♥️♥️♥️♥ 0source record 502
This !♥ 1source record 505
Embracing this!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰♥ 1source record 508
Yes— this is so important. 💔♥ 0source record 517
Absolutely true.♥ 0source record 521
I’m so incredibly sorry. 💔♥ 0source record 523
Correct 🥰♥ 1source record 525
Hurts so much. 🦋🫶🏻♥ 13source record 528
True❤️♥ 6source record 531
Felt♥ 1source record 533
Yes♥ 1source record 534
Facts♥ 1source record 535
This is a good one♥ 1source record 539
❤️♥ 1source record 546
This ❤️♥ 1source record 566
Same…same…♥ 1source record 570
I hope this is true♥ 1source record 571
amen♥ 1source record 573
I can’t wait 💔♥ 1source record 574
Omg, this. THIS.💜💜💜♥ 1source record 582
Girl byeeee😩😩😩😩😩♥ 1source record 589
🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹♥ 1source record 591
😞❤️♥ 1source record 592
😢😢😢😢♥ 1source record 593
I feel this♥ 0source record 607
Relatable.♥ 0source record 610
this♥ 0source record 613
This.♥ 0source record 614
This.♥ 0source record 618
This!!!♥ 0source record 623
❤️♥ 0source record 625
❤️♥ 0source record 626
🤯♥ 0source record 630
Yes!!!♥ 6source record 639
Much love to you. 🥰♥ 1source record 659
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻♥ 1source record 672
🙏🏻❤️♥ 3source record 678
🫶🙏♥ 0source record 679
that song gets me too♥ 3source record 684
that would be nice♥ 0source record 739
💖💖💖💖💖♥ 0source record 768
🙏🙏♥ 0source record 769
🥺♥ 1source record 772
It applies for my grandson! ❤♥ 1source record 778
❤️♥ 0source record 793
🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹♥ 0source record 794
💕♥ 0source record 796
Gosh 💔♥ 0source record 803
🥹♥ 0source record 808
lol♥ 0source record 820
Oooooooffff! Yea! I feel that.♥ 0source record 822
Expressive♥ 0source record 825
So accurate ❤️♥ 0source record 826
❤️🥺♥ 0source record 830
❤️♥ 1source record 831
This.♥ 0source record 836
💯♥ 0source record 840
Grief is lonely.♥ 458source record 841
I’m so, sooo sorry.♥ 1source record 842
very 😩💔♥ 0source record 844
Aching lonely.♥ 0source record 845
very lonely♥ 0source record 849
THIS🔥♥ 0source record 853
oh i like this♥ 0source record 855
♥️♥ 1source record 859
This is perfect advice ❤️♥ 1source record 862
This!!!!♥ 6source record 872
💛💛💛💛♥ 1source record 886
Yes. This…♥ 1source record 903
Mine too 🥺♥ 0source record 929
I understand. I see you 💗♥ 1source record 932
Same here (daddy boy) ❤️♥ 1source record 934
I’m♥ 1source record 936
💜💜💜♥ 0source record 942
❣️♥ 2source record 950
Thisss♥ 1source record 952
or even remember it♥ 1source record 956
This.♥ 1source record 958
Same♥ 2source record 959
Agh. So good.♥ 3source record 975
That conversation helped me♥ 2source record 976
L♥ 0source record 980
😔♥️♥️♥ 0source record 995
He is a wise man♥ 2source record 1025
father-in-law reveal please!!♥ 4source record 1026
Me too.♥ 1source record 1062
I love you bad 🖤♥ 1source record 1063
My dms are always open💛♥ 0source record 1076
❤️♥ 0source record 1088
Spot on♥ 0source record 1096
…this🥺♥ 1source record 1127
This is perfect explanation 😢to♥ 1source record 1131
Lonely road 🙏🏻♥ 15source record 1138
Yes. We are♥ 0source record 1140
Breathe♥ 1source record 1165
There is none…..♥ 1source record 1194
Grief isn’t linear 💗♥ 1source record 1210
Look for the signs 💕♥ 4source record 1211
Rest♥ 0source record 1220
none♥ 0source record 1251
prey onor them and breath♥ 0source record 1260
Don't look back♥ 0source record 1264
I was the first.♥ 2source record 1337
❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 1345
🤍🤍♥ 0source record 1357
None!!😢😢😢♥ 2source record 1381
"echaale ganas " 😐♥ 1source record 1399
Never stop talking to them.♥ 1source record 1402
🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼♥ 0source record 1408
None. Nobody had good advice.😢♥ 1source record 1431
That sucks♥ 1source record 1436
7777 I love you mom🦋♥ 1source record 1483
Grief!♥ 0source record 1515
dying is part of living♥ 1source record 1536
Don’t waste your pain.♥ 1source record 1553
Of*♥ 0source record 1585
im here when your ready♥ 1source record 1602
Don’t do it♥ 1source record 1626
Left foot, right foot, breathe♥ 1source record 1628
Breathe♥ 1source record 1630
😂😂😂♥ 1source record 1633
???♥ 0source record 1634
None u do u!!!😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇😇♥ 1source record 1641
Where do I even start….. 💔😪♥ 1source record 1643
THIIISSSS♥ 1source record 1726
Your pain is only temporary♥ 1source record 1729
Have mercy on yourself.♥ 1source record 1736
They are ok now♥ 1source record 1748
Rev 21:3,4 🥰♥ 1source record 1770
Stand where you can see.♥ 1source record 1800
None♥ 1source record 1801
his pain is gone♥ 1source record 1846
get on the choppa♥ 1source record 1852
Love never dies♥ 1source record 1886
Grow through it.♥ 1source record 1900
I can’t remember♥ 1source record 1973
So very sorry♥ 0source record 1987
It’s heavy♥ 1source record 2000
😂 nothing♥ 1source record 2004
None 💔♥ 1source record 2010
none💔💔💔♥ 1source record 2011
none♥ 1source record 2013
Let time do its work.♥ 1source record 2067
"Think happy thoughts"...♥♥ 1source record 2071
Nothing grows without water ❤️♥ 2source record 2101
“go gently”♥ 1source record 2122
By just leaving me alone....♥ 1source record 2126
Watch for the signs…♥ 1source record 2132
None so far !🖤♥ 1source record 2147
Just “Be”♥ 1source record 2159
grief is lonely.♥ 1source record 2166
💛💛💛♥ 1source record 2172
That 20 years feels like 5♥ 1source record 2175
Nothing♥ 1source record 2176
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽♥ 1source record 2179
😔♥ 1source record 2187
😁😁😁♥ 0source record 2227
Go make new memories 💜♥ 0source record 2228
Keep talking about him♥ 0source record 2236
Depression hates movement♥ 0source record 2250
Zero♥ 0source record 2255
Life has to move on♥ 0source record 2271
None did it alone 💔♥ 0source record 2274
There is no time line.♥ 0source record 2281
😩♥ 0source record 2285
none♥ 0source record 2312
nothing sorry♥ 0source record 2320
Tincture of time.♥ 0source record 2332
♥️♥ 0source record 2354
Nature.♥ 0source record 2362
Two things:♥ 0source record 2364
I also wanna know…♥ 0source record 2367
grief has gripped my soul♥ 0source record 2403
dont hold back ❤️♥ 0source record 2410
Always have your own.♥ 0source record 2439
Time♥ 0source record 2449
0 it's differant for everyone♥ 0source record 2464
none♥ 0source record 2485
Nothing♥ 0source record 2501
Don’t Grieve 🤗👍😉♥ 0source record 2515
😳😳😳♥ 0source record 2518
Silence♥ 0source record 2547
Get thru the first year 🥺♥ 0source record 2562
Don’t have one♥ 0source record 2564
breathe♥ 0source record 2567
Don’t avoid it♥ 0source record 2580
Love is stronger than pain. 💔♥ 0source record 2630
Know your worth♥ 0source record 2653
Yes!!! Every word 😓♥ 0source record 2686
None♥ 0source record 2728
Following 🥺♥ 0source record 2738
Cry♥ 0source record 2740
From the book Signs…♥ 0source record 2748
None♥ 0source record 2759
nothing♥ 0source record 2779
Life is for the living!♥ 0source record 2785
🥺🥺🥺♥ 0source record 2791
This is temporary queen♥ 0source record 2809
You always made her proud♥ 0source record 2811
Watch for signs!♥ 0source record 2837
grief is just unexpressed love♥ 0source record 2843
MOURNING IS LOVING.♥ 0source record 2863
Time really does heal♥ 0source record 2905
just do the next thing.♥ 0source record 2911
Feel…. Everything♥ 0source record 2934
there is none♥ 0source record 2956
That I’m so strong♥ 0source record 2962
None♥ 0source record 2985
Be still and quiet♥ 0source record 2995
Time♥ 0source record 3021
Nothing♥ 0source record 3038
it happens to everyone♥ 0source record 3039
Remember to breathe♥ 0source record 3054
Death is a thief.♥ 0source record 3065
none♥ 0source record 3107
Silence…♥ 0source record 3120
Grief comes and goes.♥ 0source record 3125
Grief is ghetto.♥ 0source record 3143
Let her cry!♥ 0source record 3170
None 💔♥ 0source record 3178
“Tough days ahead my love”♥ 0source record 3198
Nothing!♥ 0source record 3213
Accept what you are feeling.♥ 0source record 3276
None♥ 0source record 3279
I have none. 😞♥ 0source record 3290
Go right through it….♥ 0source record 3395
cry. grieve.♥ 0source record 3404
Go with your gut♥ 0source record 3416
The book Sibling Grief.♥ 0source record 3422
They’d rather see you happy.♥ 0source record 3443
Rest♥ 0source record 3480
none, no good advice given♥ 0source record 3562
Heal while living…♥ 0source record 3572
None♥ 0source record 3595
Time will make it easier♥ 0source record 3613
None♥ 0source record 3631
Love again♥ 0source record 3652
Oohh I like this one 💙💖♥ 0source record 3658
grief isn't linear♥ 0source record 3659
Accept people's help 💚♥ 0source record 3660
Be extra nice to yourself.♥ 0source record 3670
"Love never dies".♥ 0source record 3720
Do nice things for yourself.♥ 0source record 3760
One blink at a time 🩵🌻♥ 0source record 3768
Dont let this define you♥ 0source record 3772
just.... GRIEVE.♥ 0source record 3776
you'll never forget♥ 0source record 3792
Talk they will listen♥ 0source record 3822
Music♥ 0source record 3855
To watch NDEs.♥ 0source record 3878
Time was my only healing♥ 0source record 3885
This was everything for me♥ 0source record 3898
Advice?♥ 0source record 3944
Just love♥ 0source record 3967
Live your dash ❤️♥ 0source record 4016
A thought is loves currency.♥ 0source record 4026
Grief isn’t linear♥ 0source record 4029
Memories last forever ♾️♥ 0source record 4042
Try. CBD♥ 0source record 4047
Everything is temporary♥ 0source record 4065
I wasn’t♥ 0source record 4094
Just. Keep. Breathing.♥ 0source record 4112
Believe in You!♥ 0source record 4116
Cry♥ 0source record 4126
none 😞♥ 0source record 4145
Grif is loves tax♥ 0source record 4149
None 💯♥ 0source record 4194
Romans 8:28♥ 0source record 4195
there are no 'rules'♥ 0source record 4244
there is none♥ 0source record 4276
Everyday gets 1 point easier♥ 0source record 4306
❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 4337
Put your arm around it.♥ 0source record 4380
A♥ 0source record 4383
Be Still♥ 0source record 4404
It wasn't my fault♥ 0source record 4430
So thought provoking♥ 0source record 4434
Don’t make promises♥ 0source record 4435
What can I control?♥ 0source record 4454
“You tried.”♥ 0source record 4467
Nope. It just sucks.♥ 0source record 4482
it's OK to be mad.♥ 0source record 4524
None….its my journey♥ 0source record 4537
0♥ 0source record 4542
none, unfortunately♥ 0source record 4567
food♥ 0source record 4601
None really♥ 0source record 4614
You be you♥ 0source record 4629
Love is eternal ❤️♥ 0source record 4650
Grieve♥ 0source record 4654
Grief is not a race.♥ 0source record 4662
You made mom happy♥ 0source record 4676
Nothing♥ 0source record 4737
24 years...♥ 0source record 4781
Grief = love♥ 0source record 4798
everything you feel is okay.♥ 0source record 4801
Feel the grief♥ 0source record 4813
Love has no boundaries.♥ 0source record 4881
A hug!♥ 0source record 4884
Grieve is love.♥ 0source record 4891
Grief will soften you.♥ 0source record 4894
None♥ 0source record 4905
There are no shortcuts♥ 0source record 4925
grieve with love♥ 0source record 4949
Music. It helps. It heals.♥ 0source record 4978
Greive♥ 0source record 4990
Don't, be a man♥ 0source record 5018
Their pain is over.♥ 0source record 5025
Nothing..🥺♥ 0source record 5034
It’s ok.♥ 0source record 5095
Welcome to your new norm♥ 0source record 5115
A gun♥ 0source record 5127
Never trust happiness♥ 0source record 5153
“Hold on to Gods hand”🥰♥ 0source record 5156
Nobody cared or asked♥ 0source record 5161
Death fucking sucks♥ 0source record 5162
Get over it♥ 0source record 5165
Stay away from the bottle♥ 0source record 5216
🙏🙏🙏♥ 0source record 5240
Don’t cry♥ 0source record 5281
Breathe♥ 0source record 5291
be a man. she gone 😅...♥ 0source record 5353
Breathe thru your nose.♥ 0source record 5448
Nothing but quietness♥ 0source record 5461
Honestly—- the quiet kind.♥ 0source record 5487
Still learning!♥ 0source record 5528
nothing that really helps♥ 0source record 5543
nobody ever gave me any♥ 0source record 5608
That I will never stop♥ 0source record 5675
none♥ 0source record 5687
Nothing.♥ 0source record 5755
👏😢♥ 0source record 5797
None 💔🥲♥ 0source record 5812
You can’t grieve wrong.♥ 0source record 5834
⚖️🖤💙💚💜❤️🧡💛🤍🪶♥ 0source record 5836
This is a great read!♥ 0source record 5842
rest child, rest♥ 0source record 5871
This part right here.♥ 0source record 5880
GOOD GRIEF!!♥ 0source record 5883
“It shall all pass”♥ 0source record 5884
Breathe♥ 0source record 5941
Solitude.♥ 0source record 5967
Waiting..♥ 0source record 5968
LET THEM.................♥ 0source record 6013
A su life gu !♥ 0source record 6035
Complete silence 😞♥ 0source record 6042
none♥ 0source record 6066
BREATH❤❤❤❤♥ 0source record 6086
None♥ 0source record 6092
He still exists 💔♥ 0source record 6136
Envision everything as broken.♥ 0source record 6148
Embrace what you are feeling.♥ 0source record 6150
Breathe♥ 0source record 6174
Breath♥ 0source record 6202
It’s tough♥ 0source record 6218
Love never dies.♥ 0source record 6245
It’s never linear♥ 0source record 6258
Take heed♥ 0source record 6266
This.♥ 0source record 6267
There’s not any.♥ 0source record 6285
NONE♥ 0source record 6300
each*♥ 0source record 6306

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Beautiful — this whole comment section188 index entriesBeautiful — this whole comment section — 188 records
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Unfortunately this is so true

source record 1060♥ 2

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Most engaged source

This is beautiful 💛

source record 1♥ 769
Later-arriving source

Beautiful way to interpret grief. 🙏

posted about 324 days after the source♥ 0
Zero-like source

“If anyone deserved a “do over” is was her. Let her have this peace, and the chance to heal and start over.” I just know she’s everything beautiful around me in my life now .

posted about 35.5 hours after the source♥ 0

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The exact phrase “a beautiful thing” recurs across 4 of the 188 source records in Beautiful — this whole comment section; the complete archive stays available below.

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This is beautiful 💛♥ 769source record 1
I love this. But the truth is, I don’t want her to come back….♥ 0source record 9
That is so beautiful … and very helpful. 🙏♥ 4source record 24
Beautiful, but useless.♥ 0source record 25
Wow! Just like you said, she comes, I let her in, we talk, cry and I hug her really tight 💔💔💔♥ 3source record 32
wow that's a way of looking at it, I'm going to try.♥ 1source record 58
This comment is making me cry. Beautiful♥ 1source record 66
This is one of the most beautiful posts that I have ever seen.♥ 1source record 88
Love this♥ 1source record 92
Wow. I’m taking this with me. Most beautiful piece of advice.♥ 1source record 93
Beautifully said and so true❤️I have learned how to love her ❤️♥ 1source record 100
Beautifully said♥ 1source record 103
So beautiful♥ 1source record 106
Beautiful way to interpret grief. 🙏♥ 0source record 110
this made me cry. beautiful words♥ 0source record 113
wow. 🥺♥ 0source record 117
Wow! Beautifully said.♥ 0source record 119
This broke me in the most beautiful way possible.♥ 0source record 123
Beautifully said. Remembering this.♥ 0source record 124
I love this way. I often describe my grief as a feral cat- sometimes it wants to rub up against me or purr and sometimes it scratches and claws at me. But I love it and I always welcome it back ❤️♥ 0source record 126
love this, especially for a first comment♥ 0source record 130
Oh my goodness, I love this response!♥ 0source record 132
this is absoutley beautiful 🤍♥ 0source record 136
This was beautifully said♥ 0source record 140
This is beautiful♥ 0source record 146
This was beautifully said♥ 0source record 150
I love this 🧡♥ 0source record 151
That was beautiful.♥ 0source record 154
This is so beautifully put. 🙏🏼❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 156
this. is. profound. 👏👏👏♥ 0source record 160
Beautifully stated, Quinn.♥ 0source record 164
🤯 you say it in much more detail than I do I love this! I have learned grief will walk side by side with us silently till we leave also, some days suck some grief if silent and we’re just fine♥ 0source record 175
I think this is the most beautiful comment I’ve ever read♥ 0source record 180
Damn, this was so intense, beautiful, sad, so many feelings about this. ❤️So true .♥ 0source record 186
beautiful just beautiful !! 🥰♥ 0source record 188
This is a beautiful post!♥ 0source record 196
Wow that is beautifully written♥ 0source record 199
Wow this is beautiful ❤️♥ 0source record 204
Have mercy this hits so hard and close♥ 0source record 205
I absolutely love this!♥ 0source record 206
Wow❤️♥ 0source record 208
Love this!♥ 0source record 210
Beautifully stated ❤️♥ 0source record 211
Literally such a beautiful and positive way to look at it. I’ll always remember this ❤️♥ 0source record 215
Wow I love this♥ 0source record 218
Wow, this is so beautiful 😢♥ 0source record 247
I love this so much 🔥♥️♥ 0source record 250
This is so powerful♥ 0source record 252
That is so absolutely beautiful♥ 0source record 254
that is the absolute most beautiful and real description I've heard. 🥰♥ 0source record 263
This is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever heard 🥺 Your words…. Just Wow 🥹♥ 0source record 264
Oh my......this changes everything♥ 0source record 275
This was such a beautiful unwrapped response.♥ 0source record 280
that is possibly the most beautiful thing I have read.♥ 1source record 284
beautiful 😍 🥰♥ 0source record 288
That’s actually beautiful♥ 15source record 315
I absolutely love this♥ 14source record 316
Wow ♥️♥ 3source record 326
Beautiful yes my family’s passed and I smile now. It took along time.♥ 1source record 336
I love this.♥ 0source record 344
Beautiful.♥ 0source record 347
that's beautiful♥ 0source record 349
I love this for you! The first time it happens is a little surprising. I hope the smiles keep coming 🫶🏻♥ 0source record 350
I love that.♥ 0source record 361
H experienced so much grief. This is Beautiful♥ 0source record 362
so true♥ 0source record 380
Wow♥ 2source record 385
Beautiful♥ 1source record 397
Wow, that’s beautiful♥ 0source record 405
Wow!♥️♥ 0source record 406
Beautifully put♥ 0source record 408
Oh wow. I love this.♥ 0source record 413
So true.♥ 0source record 445
Powerful♥ 2source record 453
Wow that’s deep.♥ 1source record 471
This is so true.♥️♥ 0source record 512
This is so true.😢❤️♥ 1source record 536
Absolutely love this!♥ 1source record 544
Love this♥ 1source record 547
That’s so true!!♥ 1source record 551
That's so beautiful. I'll remember that forever.♥ 22source record 554
This is exactly what I am experiencing now with my twin sister who passed 🙏🏻♥ 5source record 555
I love this. ✨💜✨♥ 1source record 572
I love this one! ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 575
wow. so sadly true. 💜♥ 0source record 608
That’s so true♥ 0source record 622
This is beautiful!♥ 2source record 638
I am going to share my comment here in response to yours. The best thing that someone told me was stop trying to analyze how you feel and why, just feel them…♥ 1source record 699
I lost mine 3 years ago 😞 it’s such a profound loss.♥ 0source record 755
After reading the comments this is the one that just killed me♥ 17source record 773
I love this♥ 0source record 857
I love this 💜♥ 6source record 860
Wow. Powerful!♥ 1source record 902
Beautiful♥ 1source record 907
same here! you realize who truly is your true friends when you lose someone you love thats so close to you♥ 2source record 944
So true !! 💔♥ 1source record 953
The “but it hurts” stings so deeply♥ 2source record 996
sigh yes! 💕 such beautiful words [account]♥ 1source record 1008
wow, put so beautiful♥ 1source record 1019
This is absolutely beautiful 🩵♥ 1source record 1020
This was beautiful!♥ 3source record 1022
Love this♥ 3source record 1027
That was beautiful of him ❤️♥ 18source record 1037
Unfortunately this is so true♥ 2source record 1060
I have not heard that but I love that💛♥ 9source record 1102
I LOVE this💛♥ 0source record 1147
There’s a beautiful poem written by a African woman about welcoming grief like a friend♥ 1source record 1214
Grief can also be beautiful memories that reminds you that love is infinite no matter where your person is ❤️♥ 0source record 1258
It’s a beautiful chance to be still and feel the ultimate power of love and nature.♥ 0source record 1322
Grief is not a burden to be hidden,it’s not a weakness ,it is the deepest proof that love once existed that something beautiful once touched our life.♥ 1source record 1410
To allow yourself the time to grieve but remember they are watching so we must give them something beautiful to watch. Everyday start picking something happy to do, something wonderful to start smiling again ….its been 14yrs, I still have days of grieving her, my beautiful mother♥ 1source record 1417
These should be in a book!!♥ 1source record 1495
Who didn’t screen shot that comment?! 🥹 ♥️♥️♥ 1source record 1518
WHAT A BLESSING IT IS TO FEEL 💔♥ 1source record 1548
to remember that death is but a brief pause in the endless life of their beautiful spirit. they live on.♥ 1source record 1568
This is beautiful 💛♥ 1source record 1816
Grief is a suitcase we never really unpack. Pink said it at her concert last year about her dad. It is so true!♥ 1source record 1842
Hope this helps friend [account] read the comments♥ 1source record 1876
Bigger beautiful things are coming your way. Believe it. Grief is part of the process to get to. ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1933
I promise no tomorrow, But today will always last, And since each day’s the same way There’s no longing for the past. You have been so faithful, So trusting and so true. Though there were times You did some things You knew you shouldn’t do. But you have been forgiven And now at last you’re free. So won’t you come and take my hand And share my life with me?♥ 0source record 2051
You don’t have to be strong…the most powerful thing anyone has ever said to me. It’s so heavy trying to have a Poker face all the time♥ 1source record 2116
This is so beautiful and so true❤️one of the best ways I’ve ever heard grief explained.♥ 1source record 2158
This is beautiful 💛♥ 1source record 2214
I need these comments today.♥ 0source record 2288
Jim Carey said it best♥ 0source record 2333
It must really be beautiful there because no one ever comes back.♥ 0source record 2393
Take your loved one on your new adventures in life and those beautiful moments you laugh so hard it hurts 🥰💗♥ 0source record 2437
Beautiful!♥ 0source record 2481
I am just extremely grateful for all of the time spent and everything she did for me and for the most beautiful life.♥ 0source record 2569
I wish I could download a comments section.♥ 0source record 2604
Beautifully said♥ 0source record 2624
Pain is like a spectrum with claws, it takes and takes, till you realize that the void that hurts so much is from a love so deep, that love is both the curse and the cure.♥ 0source record 2651
Decorate a beautiful box that their memories live in and put it where you can see it everyday. Keep filling it with memories of yesterday to share with them tomorrow.♥ 0source record 2712
Wow, wow.. wow.. (oddly something my deceased father would have said) but these hit. Extra hard.♥ 0source record 2722
It’s not advice as much as what a blessing it is to have loved somebody so dearly that you miss with every fiber of your being. What a blessing to experience a love like that♥ 0source record 2770
In the words of lyrical genius Stephen Wilson Jr ‘Grief is only love that’s got no place to go’♥ 0source record 2776
Grief, is just love that hasn’t left and will always remain. It’s unexpressed love.♥ 0source record 2816
What a powerful thing to read❤️♥ 0source record 2921
It’s not my saying but I read this once and I loved it. “ it is one of the greatest gifts to miss you for it reminds me how lucky I was to love you♥ 0source record 2948
Not everyone has the privilege to experience a loss this profound, and one day you will know what I mean. 💛♥ 0source record 2981
These comments are healing♥ 0source record 3036
This got me!♥ 0source record 3060
“Grief is a beautiful thing, it is all the unexpressed love that will remain with us until we pass.”♥ 0source record 3163
Your life will be beautiful again, just in different ways♥ 0source record 3181
Not told but learned through experience. Grief can be beautiful. Painful yes but it is a reflection of how deeply we can love someone even when they’re not here anymore.♥ 0source record 3219
Lara …those are powerful words and I’m so very thankful you shared them with me. I’m totally honored you thought to send that to me. In my mind our grief for loved ones is an expression of your deep and unwavering love that will last past death. Love never dies and grieving is how we cope with loss of a loved one. But the wonderful thing is that we never the lose the love we have for that person or persons even when they’re are gone♥ 0source record 3236
Grief is one of the strongest love that has no where to go. 😢♥ 0source record 3378
when you lose someone profound, they can see life through your eyes. they aren't missing anything♥ 0source record 3381
Today was a heavy day needed these comments more than anything. Thank y’all♥ 0source record 3411
People often say “they were only a small part of your life, but to them you were their whole life” when grieving pets. I started thinking about this for people too… “to them, you were there for the rest of their life.” And something about that felt comforting. Like what a beautiful thing that you got to be with them for the rest of their life.♥ 0source record 3417
The deeper the grief the more love there was ❤️it’s ok to love that much 🥹. You loved them soooooooo soooo soooooooo much 😢❤️‍🩹.♥ 0source record 3472
grieving is all the unexpressed love and gratitude, and there is something beautiful in that.♥ 0source record 3508
Allow the time to wallow and allow the time to learn that it will never go away. It’s a blessing in disguise. Grief is something you grow with and realize it’s love that carries on with you.♥ 0source record 3575
“Grief is stored up love waiting to be let into the world, and you have the choice where you release it. Go make the world beautiful with that stored up love. Just like they did when they were here.”♥ 0source record 3623
Please never delete this post♥ 0source record 3854
I was heartbroken and my very spiritual Aunt told me to take in the sorrow because its a beautiful emotion♥ 0source record 3858
I love this one♥ 0source record 3933
grief is the burden of love. it is love. you feel grief as deeply as you loved that which is now missing but you are experiencing the magnitude of love♥ 0source record 4039
I was at the store buying a few last things for my moms funeral. The cashier was a little old man and he asked if it was for a bday. I said no a funeral. He stopped scanning things and said “a life is a beautiful thing to celebrate, was it a beautiful life?” And I said yes it was, and he said "then it's better than a bday, it's a day to celebrate the life of someone you love, even though it feels sad right now, be comforted knowing that they are not only being celebrated here but that they were celebrated when they went home" it’s always stuck with me. He helped me through one of the hardest days I’ve ever had to face ❤️♥ 0source record 4249
Not advice but a discovery I didn’t expect. They are still there but in a different form. You will see. It is beautiful and amazing and you have to try to just go with it. A new way of communicating. ♥️♥ 0source record 4256
reading the comments because no one ever said anything while I was grieving.♥ 0source record 4292
I think [account] said it best when he said grief is only love tbats got no place to go.♥ 0source record 4610
“If anyone deserved a “do over” is was her. Let her have this peace, and the chance to heal and start over.” I just know she’s everything beautiful around me in my life now .♥ 0source record 4659
Looks like a lot of others figured it out too based off these comments lol 🩷♥ 0source record 4847
One day not now but one day in the future you will be able to remember the life that was lived instead of the 1 day that took them away , you will be able to honor all those days weeks months years of life ❤️what a beautiful blessing♥ 0source record 4997
Don’t think of it as “I have to continue without them” think of it as “how beautiful is it to experience what I did with them for ____ length of time” it helped during the okay days♥ 0source record 5002
grief is a constant companion sometimes sad with memories of loss sometimes a bitter sweet smile of beautifuldays remembered... but with out it we would have never know that one amazing feeling that we are now missing so bad.♥ 0source record 5110
Grief holds the largest amount if space for love that you will always have for this person. It just feels differently♥ 0source record 5170
What a beautiful thing to have loved something so much♥ 0source record 5242
I wish when we saved a video it saved all the comments too. These are all so beautiful♥ 0source record 5267
This sound is so comforting like the 90s coming back to give you a hug.♥ 0source record 5413
To read David Kessler's books. His explanations of grief are so profound and helpful.♥ 0source record 5431
Both that when it happens, you have a long journey ahead of you and that grief is all of the unexpressed love you had for that person/thing and how beautiful is it that you love something so much that you grieve it years later♥ 0source record 5506
So many deep comments needing to be heard and felt♥ 0source record 5537
TikTok Jack Ciapciak in the comments : The depths of grief only mirrors the great height of our love.♥ 0source record 5709
this post is what helped me through my toughest time, losing my bug brother when he was only 36 to sudep [link removed]♥ 0source record 5726
but to me it feels like everyone will move on, everyone is back to their lives but it seemed like you stand still stop.. it will feel that way for a long time it never ends and it's beautiful that you love someone and i'm sure they know it♥ 0source record 5734
Currently my life. Love this comment ❤️♥ 0source record 5881
Reading these comments makes ne think I need new people in my life that cares & knows what to say that is not hurting me at this forever grieving pain.♥ 0source record 5920
It only hurts this much because you were lucky enough to love this deeply♥ 0source record 5921
Let go of what you thought life would look like, and start seeing it for what it is and what you have…if not you will miss out on a lot of beautiful things♥ 0source record 5961
So beautifully said Quinn♥ 0source record 6166
However many tomorrows I have left I will miss you in every single one. I grieve you when I see something and how it reminds me of you and how much you would’ve loved it♥ 0source record 6176
This gave me so much comfort.♥ 0source record 6180
Also, in the words of Stephen Wilson Junior, “grief is only love that’s got no place to go.”♥ 0source record 6192
Grief and I are old friends. And she’s so beautiful to me, because I’m so thankful that I have someone or something to grieve.♥ 0source record 6241
Hold on….the memories will become beautiful♥ 0source record 6314
I’ve found beauty in grieving. It hurts, yes. Oh how it hurts. But it brings to mind all the happiness that person or being brought into your life. And even though you feel profound sadness in their absence, you wouldn’t trade it for anything else. To have loved and be loved is so much better than to have never loved at all ❤️♥ 0source record 6326

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What the pattern means: I tell people this when they ask why I’m still grieving. I respond, “She loved me since I was born but I have loved her my entire life.”

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I actually gave this thought to myself but hey it’s true so

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Tell me a memory you want to share, I’d love to hear

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"Her spirit has left her body."♥ 11source record 2
I am soooo sorry may u hold strength and to hold on ❤️AMEN♥ 14source record 5
I am sorry for your lost it sux people tell me I’m strong I’m not strong I have just been good at masking my feelings and not thinking♥ 1source record 13
Yes they do mean well but no I would u rather not say anything because I after I hear the same thing so many times it just literally gets me pissed off♥ 1source record 18
You definitely nailed it!!! I MUST do better with her to be better!!♥ 1source record 43
That is the most incredible advice. I hope to remember it forever♥ 1source record 47
ARTICULATED FLAWLESSY. YOU SHOULD BE A POET 🥺♥ 1source record 64
This is amazing, I don’t have anyone to grieve right now thankfully but now I feel prepared for when I do.♥ 1source record 69
...and I just checked your page and saw you ARE a poet. Wow! You have a gift.♥ 1source record 77
This. This is literally it. We have to learn to love the grief and let her feel.♥ 1source record 89
Grief brings you closer to what you’ve lost♥ 0source record 127
I think I just got it…♥ 0source record 128
Just wow! We are so scared to feel cause it hurts but it showed us we loved and were loved♥ 0source record 137
Perfectly said. I have named my grief love and we are learning to work together. I told her she scares me. We are a work in progress ♥️♥ 0source record 145
that's the deepest, most real thing I've ever read, and the best analogy for grief. I'm shaken by that comment. wow♥ 0source record 165
Was trying to think about what I’ve learned and it’s just… this. Nailed it. I couldn’t say it better.♥ 0source record 168
🥺 This hurt to much to read today♥ 0source record 174
Damn. I wasn’t ready for that.♥ 0source record 194
You have to welcome her then send her off…she will be back, it’s not something that stops♥ 0source record 197
I was given very similar words and they helped me get through it 💕♥ 0source record 219
this being the first comment feels like divine intervention. you really needed to say it♥ 0source record 222
Who are you and why did you make me cry♥ 0source record 224
Shoot me right in the face next time♥ 0source record 226
😫 I'm stealing this to read to myself everyday♥ 0source record 243
So perfectly put. I’ve come to realized this too but all too often I view grief as the enemy. I don’t treat her too kindly. 22 years later and it still hurts so much.♥ 0source record 248
Best comment I’ve ever read 💕🥰🙏♥ 0source record 270
I ran so far and so hard from her. And still… she finds me.♥ 0source record 273
I believe this because after his death many pipo reached out to me to tell me how he was always bragging about his daughter everywhere always 🥰♥ 1source record 289
THIS IS THE SAME ADVICE I HAD🥺♥ 1source record 292
How come so many can’t see this?♥ 3source record 308
He’s a kind and good man.♥ 116source record 309
Owning the libs huh Jack Hole?♥ 1source record 313
He definitely knows about grief he’s given it to the more than 1/2 a million Palestinians♥ 7source record 317
Understood. I shared something that brought me comfort, not an invitation to debate. I’m not interested in continuing the back and forth, but I respect your right to your view. Take care.♥ 5source record 320
I am so happy his message found you. Tell me a happy memory you have of her.♥ 2source record 325
I remember this too!! So well said♥ 1source record 335
You must have loved them something fierce 🥹♥ 0source record 339
I vividly remember hearing this from him. 🥰♥ 0source record 346
And then he said “TRUANUNDERNASHINALDEPRESHURR” and we all laughed♥ 0source record 351
Aren’t you so creative, did you think of that all by yourself honey?♥ 1source record 352
He’s not wrong but it’s hard to imagine that day when you are in the thick of it.♥ 0source record 354
Oh yes, you can’t imagine it at first but it does come. 🫶🏻♥ 0source record 355
it's almost here after 25 years 🙏🙏♥ 0source record 357
I rewatch that talk, to the gold star families, when ever I get mad at Joe, or down about life, or sad. It’s a miracle of words and meaning.♥ 1source record 364
Listening to what that man went through breaks me … the traveling he did daily to be with his boys 😢♥ 0source record 365
Not funny at all - consistent with who he is as a person.♥ 1source record 367
This just hit me like a ton of bricks ❤️❤️wow♥ 46source record 384
This is prob the best advice I’ve been given. If I give up there are now 2 life’s gone. 💔♥ 1source record 395
Oh wow.. this just hit me.♥ 0source record 399
Oh this one hits in a really intense way.♥ 0source record 410
Oh my goodness, that hit me hard.♥ 0source record 421
….wow, this comment actually freaking hurt.♥ 0source record 428
this comment killed me. i haven't 💔♥ 0source record 429
I wish I could. My anxiety fills me so much.♥ 0source record 440
Of course its easier said than done♥ 0source record 442
I did neglect myself & my kids. And I was all they had. Still beat myself up for that.♥ 2source record 461
I wish I could live by this♥ 1source record 465
this is very true, I had to start loving the new me and had to let the old version of me go 2 years ago♥ 1source record 482
It’s a true testament of love. You can’t possibly be the same person without them and it’s so hard to come to terms with sometimes.♥ 2source record 487
Love the people the show up much later the funeral♥ 1source record 490
Nearly impossible and I believe it’s a lifelong journey. 😔♥ 1source record 499
I totally understand and validate that. You’re here though. It’s not the ‘you’ you want and I wish I could change that. 💔♥ 0source record 503
There is no me without him♥ 1source record 507
You’re right. It won’t be. It’s such a hard pill to swallow.♥ 1source record 511
Sometimes I have to remind myself that not being okay is the most normal of feelings.♥ 2source record 516
I'm ok not being ok. it's part of being human♥ 4source record 518
This one got me 😢What a perfect way to put it♥ 1source record 541
I’ve heard this too. It’s just a blink of an eye for them, and we’ll be right with them. ❤️♥ 3source record 559
I know… same… but sometimes it helps knowing I’m the one who has the burden and not them♥ 2source record 561
I remember hearing this for the first time and being so relieved.♥ 1source record 568
This ❤️. I soo believe this. Jealous they get to be there already.♥ 1source record 577
This is what changed my grief perspective♥ 1source record 578
This is not advice. It’s wisdom.♥ 12source record 598
Sadly, Couldn't agree more. His sentiments were the first words that ever really hit home and encapsulated how I felt/feel💔♥ 5source record 599
This was my exact thought when I read this.... seeing that clip had an enormous effect on me.♥ 1source record 603
that is it 100%. that description did it for me♥ 0source record 609
I have watched that video atleast 10 times in the past 2 yrs since losing my older sister. his words are spot on♥ 0source record 617
This. I try to hard but it takes over at the end♥ 0source record 619
I respect that🩷 i think we can agree grief is painful and everyone needs different thing when experiencing it.♥ 0source record 631
I know it. My inbox is always open💛♥ 2source record 645
Hello grieving friend may I sit with you.💜🥹💐♥ 1source record 657
Please read my caption below. It’s for all of you - brothers and sisters in grief.♥ 0source record 687
exactly how I feel. same goes to you 😁♥ 0source record 705
people don't understand and while im happy they don't, I wish they did. I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone but it'd be nice for the people in my life to understand my pain♥ 0source record 707
I am sorry…please learn this now…take the rest of your life to heal. Love is Love and it’s pure.♥ 0source record 720
you are going to be ok.♥ 0source record 733
That will come soon enough. Hugs.♥ 0source record 759
I tell people this when they ask why I’m still grieving. I respond, “She loved me since I was born but I have loved her my entire life.”♥ 44source record 771
Sad to join your club… 💔. Does anything help???♥ 0source record 783
No and I hate saying that.♥ 1source record 784
Bbn m l,!”,!!,”.[account][account][account][account]♥ 0source record 791
Sometimes it's okay to say, "I don't know what ro say." and sit there in there in an embrace...♥ 11source record 814
have you seen the movie Tuesday? this comment reminded me of it in the best way. it is a must watch.♥ 0source record 828
This!!! Iv been thinking about that a lot lately.♥ 0source record 829
THISSSSSSSSSSSSSS !!!!!!!!! This is your new journey F them and keep it pushing!♥ 0source record 839
OMG. I’ve never in my life experienced the kind of physical, emotional and spiritual exhaustion that grief brings you. I was concerned but couldn’t do anything about it. So I stopped. I froze. Completely. I don’t know where I went or when I came back, but I am starting to try breathing again. I’m still tired and still feel the loneliest I’ve ever felt, but I’m trying to breathe again.♥ 3source record 843
THIS. This needs to be talked about more!♥ 0source record 847
It really is. But it’s the #1 most painful experience I’ve ever indurred.♥ 4source record 848
Grief is so lonely. I tried to surround myself with family. But the thing that helped a lot was being around those that had lost a parent. Specifically a dad. Someone who knew the pain I felt. That helped so much♥ 5source record 850
I actually had a dream where my sweet girl Saffron told me “don’t worry momma, I just got here before you” 💔🥹😞♥ 10source record 858
u can also go back and fourth on the stages of grief scale its ok♥ 1source record 863
same- I thought there was something wrong with me because it wasn't the "correct" order.♥ 2source record 866
If you ever need to talk to someone about who you lost I’d love to hear about them and your favorite memories with them.♥ 2source record 871
This!!!! I will never speak to you again♥ 3source record 892
Not really a cure, it's more a treatment♥ 0source record 895
I read that we are only traveler’s here. 🥰♥ 2source record 909
I avoid it. It’s the best way for me. Son in 2020♥ 0source record 916
plenty people say that in different ways♥ 0source record 917
I’m 13 months in I’m here if you need a friend💛♥ 1source record 923
We’re all just energy, friend🫶🏽 We’re a soul having a human experience. I think of the mind, body, and soul as 3 separate entities. The mind and body can get sick, hence mental illness and physical ailments, etc… but the soul, that’s eternal and ever evolving, learning, and loving. And the highest of energy and light that’s able to travel through time, space and dimensions. And I refuse to believe otherwise💜♥ 1source record 926
I want to be able to fully wrap my mind around this concept so badly. I get it but I'm missing some part of it.♥ 0source record 927
when we deal with some of the biggest losses in our lives alone, it gives us a new perspective on how to get through other circumstances that once would have broken us.♥ 0source record 941
My sympathies for your loss. 💕🦋Sadly, you're right.♥ 1source record 943
This just about sums up grief♥ 5source record 957
Nope we just learn to leave with a broken heart 💔♥ 1source record 965
This! cause nothing they say eases the pain♥ 0source record 966
Yes! And Anderson’s podcast is all about his mom and interviewing others holding great grief.♥ 8source record 973
Yes, I was going to comment this. Listening to youtube or tik toks and others in person as they explain how they have gone through grief is tremendously cathartic. Their conversation helped me so much.♥ 1source record 977
sometimes we just need someone to sit with us while we sit with our grief. rub our hair, listen and nod. Actions are much louder than words. People get caught up in wanting to say something but most of the time it does more damage than good. Congregation of one 🖤♥ 0source record 992
I still feel this every day♥ 1source record 1004
I've always described it as "the day time stood still". I hope to never sit front row, ever again.♥ 3source record 1018
she's everywhere....i believe this with my soul♥ 32source record 1038
😢❤️… their desires & heart are like our reality checks♥ 2source record 1047
I’m going through this right now💔♥ 0source record 1051
It is so lonely. I wasn’t prepared for that. 🥲♥ 1source record 1069
Tell me a memory you want to share, I’d love to hear♥ 0source record 1075
I’m here if you need a friend💛♥ 2source record 1078
I’m nowhere close to the same person I was♥ 3source record 1084
I love you, so very much ❤️♥ 0source record 1094
You learn that two opposing feelings can exist simultaneously at once. I can be so happy that I’m sad they’re not here to share the experience.♥ 0source record 1097
That is the perfect way to say it.♥ 0source record 1099
Were on all it together but on a different lonely journey♥ 1source record 1141
It was advise I gave at the horrible moment so I hope it helps everyone that sees it♥ 0source record 1143
I actually gave this thought to myself but hey it’s true so♥ 0source record 1149
the hardest/easiest death I've come through♥ 0source record 1157
You’re somebody’s future survival guide of what almost broke you.♥ 0source record 1169
It’s ok to have the pain but don’t forget the depth of the love.♥ 0source record 1291
She would have wanted that for you.. to let go of that burden and let love overtake that place♥ 0source record 1300
she passed 6 yrs ago today .. Elvis died on her bday and now ozzy 6 yrs later ..♥ 1source record 1301
Grief brings us back to square one. The beginning and the ending. Everything in between is survival.♥ 0source record 1323
Here if you need to talk 💛♥ 1source record 1336
First lose their dad. And six months later first to lose their husband. I had no one to guide me.♥ 2source record 1339
This breaks my heart even more♥ 0source record 1359
One of my moms last poems to me❤️♥ 0source record 1698
But as I turned to walk away, A tear fell from my eye For all my life, I’d always thought, I didn’t want to die. I had so much to live for, So much left yet to do, It seemed almost impossible, That I was leaving you.♥ 0source record 2054
I feel this so hard. I have an 8 year old & it’s so hard♥ 1source record 2136
You can always fold down a corner on their chapter to remember happier times but like any story, the next chapter is as important as the last even if a few characters don't come along for the ride.♥ 0source record 2234
Manteca PD is corrupt and has been! . Steve schuler is a racist! I’ve seen best a hamviffrd♥ 0source record 2391
Test the waters mijo. Nothing changes if nothing changes♥ 0source record 2736
Still hard but like this was the life they were meant to live and it went perfectly♥ 0source record 2828
It’s hard but ive been trying (not so much this past month but im alive so that’s got to be good enough for now)♥ 0source record 3111
We all have haters even in death♥ 0source record 3390
Course his parents were still living, and he’d never lost anyone close to him.♥ 0source record 3727
Something not for anyone but for ourselves♥ 0source record 4643
No one ever talks about death it leaves you in limbo♥ 0source record 5224
I’m still grieving. And it’s hard.♥ 0source record 5246
To this day, I still think about that.♥ 0source record 5440
I believe in connections, especially ones that hurt in the veins.. I learned to transform grief.. and now, when I cry I feel comfort not just pain.♥ 0source record 6119
For every woman rising – my Divine Feminine book is live. Link in bio 💫🌹”♥ 0source record 6195
Make plans so you have something to look forward to. Z♥ 0source record 6263

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to expect something simple in like 6 months to stop you dead in tracks crying mine was hearing her favor song randomly in grocery store

source record 1135♥ 6
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I wasn’t planning on crying

posted about 87 days after the source♥ 0
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None! Everything made me cry or fall harder into depression.

posted about 35.7 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 156 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Use a sensory reset” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

156index entries
156distinct source records
12.4%of parent category
2.5%of the complete index
74top-level comments
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Browse the original comments156 preserved records · 156 of 156 source records accounted for
I love this 😭♥ 2source record 35
Very profound. Gave me the chills 💕♥ 2source record 37
I instantly started crying reading this while realizing I constantly suffer because I don’t let her in, grief that is. I lock all the doors and close the blinds. Hide, hide, hide… don’t let that beast in. Reading this I just now can see I must welcome her. Let her do her job and go, otherwise I’m left how I am…in despair, a revolving door of sadness, replaying the past, future, and what has not yet even been. Thank you. 🙏♥ 1source record 41
Thank you soooooo much!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭♥ 1source record 44
This resonates so strongly. Brought me to tears. Thank you for these words ❤️♥ 1source record 45
Sobbing 🥺🥺♥ 1source record 49
😭😭😭😭 your writing is literally changing lives🥺 [account]♥ 1source record 56
This. 💗 copyright this 😭😭♥ 1source record 62
Thank you so much 🥹😭🫶🏼♥ 0source record 78
me crying in grief reading this.♥ 1source record 87
Wow! 🥺😭♥ 1source record 101
I’m sobbing♥ 0source record 115
Brb bawling♥ 0source record 147
Ugh this made me cry 💔♥ 0source record 148
Thank you for sharing this 😭♥️♥ 0source record 149
Damn now I’m crying♥ 0source record 152
This comment has me bawling 😭❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 153
This is beautiful 😭🤍♥ 0source record 161
Crying reading this. Thank you 😭♥ 0source record 169
This is the sweetest way to put it😭😭💕♥ 0source record 171
This made me cry. 🥺♥ 0source record 177
Crying♥ 0source record 178
Full body goosebumps reading this.♥ 0source record 181
We weren’t ready for this one 😭😢😭♥ 0source record 191
That’s beautiful 😭♥ 0source record 198
I’m crying because I don’t know how to deal with mine and it seems like it’s anger and anger and I become a time bomb!♥ 0source record 212
Fucking sobbing at this. Thank you.♥ 0source record 223
😭😭😭😭💜♥ 1source record 241
Crying. I miss you, mommy.♥ 0source record 259
Omg I’m sobbing 😭♥ 0source record 260
This made me cry heaps 😭♥ 0source record 268
This gave me chills. Thank you for sharing your words with us.♥ 0source record 269
This right here is so beautiful, it moved me to tears. I've been grieving the loss of my one true love for 16 years now. This is exactly what I've done. I've given grief permission to come knocking whenever she needs to. If she makes a visit, I allow her to sit for a while. I even let her lead me to the department store that carries my love's perfume just so I can smell her from time to time. I need the visits because she helps me realize that the love I had was very much real, deep and passionate.♥ 0source record 274
I wasn’t planning on crying♥ 0source record 282
Wahhh 😭 😂♥ 2source record 312
I quote this often “May the thought of them bring a smile to your lips before tears to your eyes”♥ 2source record 327
Reading that made me cry and I haven’t even lost anyone close to me yet♥ 0source record 340
😭😭😭😭😭so true.. and so much♥️♥ 4source record 374
😭😭😭😭 ❤️it😭😭😭♥ 0source record 378
Is it or is it just the idea of it? 😭♥ 0source record 381
This made me cry immediately 🥺♥ 0source record 400
Crying♥ 0source record 414
This one made me sob immediately♥ 0source record 423
Literally just gave me goosebumps. 🥺🥺♥ 0source record 425
Whew! 😭 this hit me!♥ 0source record 426
😭♥ 0source record 432
😭😭😭😭😭😭♥ 0source record 434
Wow 😭♥ 2source record 450
Damn. 😭💔♥ 1source record 459
Oooooooo I love this!!!!! Bc ……….. I’ll just stop here 😭😭😭😭😭♥ 1source record 506
I lost my 14 year old son, this is thee truest statement 😭♥ 2source record 524
It’s not them I’m worried about I know they are happy it’s me 😭♥ 2source record 560
I can't wait😭♥ 1source record 569
This one got me bawling 😩♥ 1source record 576
oh my heart [account] 😭♥ 0source record 584
🥺🥹😭😭♥ 0source record 585
My heart says this 💯 but everyone else’s tells me to stop because I’m not letting him rest 😭😭😭😭😭😭♥ 4source record 636
I’m crying 😭✨ love this♥ 0source record 637
Yep. crying♥ 0source record 775
Same 😭♥ 0source record 776
And now I’m crying♥ 2source record 780
I love this quote…makes me smile and ugly cry at the same time. My first born, forever 23, gone 10 yrs this October.♥ 2source record 781
Ok I had no intention of crying but now😭♥ 1source record 786
This comment has hit me to the core 💔😥😥😭♥ 0source record 788
😭♥ 0source record 795
So lonely 😭♥ 98source record 851
Oop- you got me. I was going through these comments near tears but here you go, how beautiful. thank you. so much.🥀♥ 0source record 854
I had to cut ties with some of the closest to me because they couldn't emphasize with the fact that I am not me right now. so one last thing: its perfectly okay to set boundaries for yourself, because your energy should go toward healing. not adjusting yourself to cater the selfishness of others. okie done 😭♥ 1source record 887
😭♥ 0source record 982
Wow. This took my breathe away. What a special moment.♥ 1source record 997
Jeezuz this made me cry hard.♥ 1source record 999
😭😭♥ 0source record 1002
Wheew this one has me in tears♥ 1source record 1003
Oh this had me sobbing. He sounds like a wonderful person 🤍♥ 1source record 1006
😭😭😭😭crying at the nail salon♥ 1source record 1009
In tears 😭♥ 1source record 1014
this made me cry ☹️♥ 1source record 1015
💔💔💔😭😭😭♥ 0source record 1016
😭😭😭♥ 1source record 1029
Oh, I’m crying, this was so beautiful and pure. I can see how they’re so woven into your soul. Thank you for sharing.♥ 1source record 1032
to expect something simple in like 6 months to stop you dead in tracks crying mine was hearing her favor song randomly in grocery store♥ 6source record 1135
comments 😭😭😭♥ 1source record 1159
I have learned that if my love for them will continue on and on until I’m no longer on this earth any more, I’d be a fool to think that my grief won’t do the same 😭 my grief is just a carry over of all of my love for them with no where to go now♥ 1source record 1175
And here I am reading these comments and crying 😢 it begins at any moment, this sorrow sneaks up on you. 💔♥ 1source record 1232
“The greatest honor for a parent is to know they are loved, and your tears tell him he was oh so loved. He knows”♥ 0source record 1257
17 days already since you left me💔😭♥ 1source record 1335
you may not be able to control your tears or what's happening but you can control your breathing♥ 1source record 1351
Cry and cry some more, tears cleanse the soul. Take out all the pictures, cards, little notes and letters and go through them, cry your eyes out. It really does help to process your grief, especially if it is a sudden death.♥ 2source record 1384
Remember me with smiles , not tears for that is how they Remember you. Laura Ingalls Wilder🥰♥ 3source record 1460
Time and tears are the only way through the process.♥ 1source record 1583
“Keep crying; I know that sounds crazy.. but, I mean it.. keep crying; keep doing it because one day you won’t have to anymore.” Annnnnd he was right.♥ 1source record 1620
I honestly cant say I was told 💔😭☹️♥ 1source record 1637
Great. Now I’m crying reading these comments.♥ 1source record 1758
There will come a time in the future, in your grieving, where instead of crying, you’ll smile when you think of the person you lost.♥ 1source record 1759
Losing both parents in less than four months has been so brutal. So much to be done, so many to notify, and accounts to close, etc. You almost forget it’s okay to take time to feel anything until you see others react or start crying for you.♥ 1source record 1775
Just let the grief out. It will come and go no matter what you try to do to hide the tears. Let them free flow and roll. I simply tell people this is normal and temporary. I don't hide them as much now I just let them roll and move forward.♥ 1source record 1958
That you will always feel the grief but instead of looking back with sadness and tears, you look back with joy, remembering the best parts of your time with them.♥ 1source record 2039
When tomorrow starts without me, And I’m not there to see, If the sun should rise and find your eyes all filled with tears for me, I wish so much you wouldn’t cry The way you did today, While thinking of the many things, We didn’t get to say.♥ 1source record 2049
Grief is like a dead tree inside you that’s needs watering , but no one waters it . Don’t let your tree dry the tears you shed water it .♥ 1source record 2100
Umm I don’t know don’t get mad at people I guess 😭♥ 1source record 2125
This is so hard to do 😭♥ 1source record 2204
One day you will be able to look back on the memories without the tears♥ 0source record 2298
It is understood that while grief may not completely disappear, one can eventually adapt to living with it 😭♥ 0source record 2414
Sobbing through the comments 😭♥ 0source record 2441
ride your emotions. someday you'll be on the floor hysterically crying, other times you'll be numb and others you'll be okay. you need to ride them all♥ 0source record 2474
Know you are loved. And that person who spoke to me gave me a big long hug. 🥹❤️‍🩹 I need more. 😭💓sending out caring hands to all who hurt. 🤲💔♥ 0source record 2550
Keep talking about him. 💔 My littles, that never got to meet him, have grown up listening to his stories and they feel like they knew him. When they see the moon they say "there's Papo" 😭😭♥ 0source record 2581
Me trying to read all the comments in here 😢 while remembering and crying and thinking damn they all hurt 😞 [account]♥ 0source record 2730
Nothing. There’s nothing that helps or makes you feel better. You just learn to stop randomly crying one day♥ 0source record 2757
😭😭😭😭❤️♥ 0source record 2780
There is none! 😭♥ 0source record 2884
Remember their whole life 😞 not just those final moments 😭😭♥ 0source record 3022
Everyone told me to shut up but I kept crying silently. Don’t do it you grieve as loud as you need only you know the pain you’re in.❤️🥰♥ 0source record 3079
Hang in. The tears will slowly become subtle smiles when you think of the loved one that you lost.♥ 0source record 3140
There are no right or wrong feelings. It’s OK that you’re not crying. It’s OK that you don’t wanna celebrate Christmas. However, you feel whatever you do it’s OK.♥ 0source record 3397
Perch and cry!😭♥ 0source record 3483
love as they have loved you 😭♥ 0source record 3554
was given garden tools and seeds. the amount of anger and tears while tearing through the Earth while grieving and seeing flowers in the months to come was transformation at its peak.♥ 0source record 3592
Don’t stop crying. 💕🙏♥ 0source record 3607
We cry for our loved ones because we have no were for our love to go.Were crying for ourselves,our loss...♥ 0source record 3667
grief is like feeling like a huge overfull water balloon 🎈.. I'm ok but one tiny hole and I burst open with tears and sadness out of nowhere. it changes you forever..♥ 0source record 3712
Crying is a gift. It shows how much love you have for the person. And for that you are blessed. 🥺♥ 0source record 3803
Now I’m crying 😫♥ 0source record 3860
Grief is like a suitcase that tells the story of your life. It never gets lighter you just build the muscles you need, sometimes you open it and look at everything, sometimes something falls out unexpectedly ...like crying over a purple toothbrush in a store...the longer you live the more you put in there and the more precious it becomes♥ 0source record 4044
Push thru the tears and continue to think about them. Because nothing is worse then hitting that moment of: "Im starting to forget their voice/what they looked like in my head" 😭. Their memory, the memories shared, is the only way we keep them with us. Dont push that out too.. Welcome them with open arms 🥹♥ 0source record 4053
His mother said to me while I was standing next to his casket a complete mess, "Things happen for a reason"😧😭 This changed my grieving process even more. So upsetting and painful.♥ 0source record 4155
The tears are the love you have for her. This is all normal.♥ 0source record 4157
Well my insomnia has been ruined 💔 sobbing myself to sleep now♥ 0source record 4372
When I stop crying will he really be gone♥ 0source record 4469
Grieving Implies It Ends. Grief May Last A Lifetime & Thats Ok!😭😭😭♥ 0source record 4480
So many helpful comments. I’m crying and I’m not even grieving anybody ❤️♥ 0source record 4510
None! Everything made me cry or fall harder into depression.♥ 0source record 4646
One day you will find yourself smiling at their memories and not just crying! One day you will surprise yourself and be able to think of them with joy and gratitude and able to thank them for choosing to be part of your life. They will be waiting for you… you will get to tell them all the things you learned from them that made you a better and stronger person.♥ 0source record 4802
A dear friend once called grief, “Weeping Forward -It is possible to cry and walk at the same time. Some days you can’t take a full step. Some days you take a couple steps. And some days you simply sit and gather strength for the walk.”♥ 0source record 4822
"The person crying the most carries the most guilt. check on them. they are not okay"♥ 0source record 4897
This 😭♥ 0source record 4969
Thank you 😭 for this one♥ 0source record 4970
Your tears are unspoken words♥ 0source record 4973
I wish I could give credit to this random stranger. “Grief is in your time. It may be a minute or the rest of your life but don’t let others tell you how, when it’s over, or where to grieve. This is your journey. You will figure it out, we all do.” I never ask him his name. We both were in tears in a cemetery, sitting on a bench, just managing our grief.♥ 0source record 5053
Weeks without crying ? Yes … but the pain is always there♥ 0source record 5428
Your loved one doesn't want to see you being sad and crying over them. They want to watch you live! ❤️♥ 0source record 5433
Not advice but “tell me what she was like” really helped me 💔😭♥ 0source record 5464
There’s no amount of time that you’ll get over it… You’ll just live to accept the fact they are never coming back 😭😭♥ 0source record 5474
💔💔💔😭😭😭😭♥ 0source record 5551
😭😭these comments 😭😭♥ 0source record 5563
Tears are for healing. Grief as long as you want.♥ 0source record 5622
Your tears are like money in the bank.❤️❤️♥ 0source record 5668
"Remember how he loved you" 😭♥ 0source record 5731
Khalil Gibran's On Joy and Sorrow. This just a bit of the whole passage. "Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain."♥ 0source record 5757
this was years ago .. "we're all going to die he just left sooner. he's there waiting for you "...... now that I think of it I don't wanna die 😭♥ 0source record 5937
Grief and time do not coexist with one another…… and Grief so great follows when there is love so great 😭♥ 0source record 6039
that hasn't happened yet😭♥ 0source record 6040
😭♥ 0source record 6058
Weeping may last for the night, but Joy comes in the morning. 🦋♥ 0source record 6103
one year ago my big brother passed, I cried like I have never cried before, my tears felt thick, my veins felt weak, in my veins I felt the grief the hardest. I am ok thanks to all the crying I did. I didn’t hold back in any emotion I was feeling.. I believe that was my healing.♥ 0source record 6118
Go to a greif group they said... so we did ...✨ we went to camp Braveheart 🌹 crying with people in person was Healing 😔🙏♥ 0source record 6208

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I lost mine as well. and this helped me tremendously today. thank you. I am sorry for yours 🫂

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🥺 THANK YOU! grief is definitely a part of reality and should be treated as such! " it's okay to need to be felt

posted about 225 days after the source♥ 0
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From reading this comment, Embraced her (grief). Thank you kind stranger.

posted about 35.2 hours after the source♥ 0

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Thank u Vicki♥ 2source record 6
To be honest I don’t but thank you♥ 0source record 11
Thank u so much Jerry I just want the pain to go away♥ 0source record 16
Thank u so much♥ 0source record 22
Thank you so so much♥ 1source record 27
Thank you for this ❤️♥ 2source record 36
Thank you 🥹❤️♥ 1source record 46
OMG Quinn, I'm SOBBING reading this!! It's exactly what I needed to hear. 😭❤️♥ 1source record 50
Wow! I needed to read this today!♥ 1source record 51
Wow! Thank you🦋♥ 1source record 53
Wow thank you this was beautiful♥ 1source record 61
Thank you for this. ❤️🙏♥ 1source record 65
Quinn my dear, This is most epic thing I’ve ever read about grief, I will use this as a guide, THANK YOU!!!♥ 1source record 67
I needed this today♥ 1source record 71
Wow. This was needed. Soooo bad today!♥ 1source record 73
Wow. This is life-changing advice and so eloquently worded. Thank you. Are you a poet? ❤️♥ 0source record 76
thank you♥ 1source record 84
Thank you for this beautiful comment♥ 1source record 85
I needed to read this today….thank you.♥ 1source record 91
what a gorgeous description...i have felt this, but couldn't have had the words like this.... thank you, said my aching tired soul♥ 1source record 94
I lost the love of my life to cancer and I needed this!!! So beautiful so true I felt this!♥ 1source record 95
Oh Quinn, all I can say is thank you. Strangers on this app change my life everyday ❤️♥ 1source record 96
Thank you♥ 1source record 98
Thank you 🩵♥ 1source record 107
Thank you.❤️♥ 1source record 108
🥺 THANK YOU! grief is definitely a part of reality and should be treated as such! " it's okay to need to be felt♥ 0source record 111
This is beautiful and what I needed today. Thank you♥ 0source record 112
thank you♥ 0source record 114
Wow! thank you for this Mam or Sir! That's all I do is grieve and think Abt my loved ones bcuz they are all dieing in chunks! it hurts a lot! When you witness your very last support system pass away, I don't care what anyone says, that changes you in so many ways. some for better and some for worse. Yet in still I felt lonesome, decisive, unsecured, needy, helpless. Then, I wanted to honor those ppl so much, I couldn't fall a part and stay down bcuz I thought ppl were thinking that my loved ones didn't prepare me well for the unforeseen, or I didn't have a good upbringing when I did , I've always been strong bcuz of them, so couldn't show weakness for a king time♥ 0source record 116
wow. thank you just put this in my notes♥ 0source record 118
thank you for this, she come to visit almost every day..ill treat her better♥ 0source record 121
Very touching! Thanks for sharing!! 💖♥ 0source record 122
This was beautiful thank you 💕♥ 0source record 125
Thank you for sharing this!! I love it♥ 0source record 131
Thank you so much for these words 🖤♥ 0source record 133
This is so well said. Thank you ❤️♥ 0source record 134
This is so intensely beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. 🥰♥ 0source record 135
I needed to hear this♥ 0source record 138
this is the most beautiful advice. Thank you so much!♥ 0source record 141
Wow. I had to screenshot this comment. Thank you for that. I’m going to keep it close. I really need to remind myself of this sometimes.♥ 0source record 157
Wow, darling. Wow. Your comment, legitimately opened a new perspective for me. Thank you. 🥹♥ 0source record 162
thank you.♥ 0source record 170
Thank you for that. 🙏🏼💚💕♥ 0source record 173
Beautiful… thank you ♥️♥ 0source record 176
I need to print this thank you♥ 0source record 179
WOW…this left me speechless. I’ve been trying to fight her, avoid her, feel angry at her and just ignore her BUT she keeps coming back stronger and more persistent than ever. In the most random of moments. I’ve been letting her in lately because it ‘s just so hard not to. Maybe it’s time I understand that she will forever be with me. She is an everyday reminder that she only exists because I loved him that much and it/she will never go away…Thank you, this point of view was beautiful and gave me some peace♥ 0source record 182
I needed that. Thank you.♥ 0source record 183
This is one of the most beautiful comments I have read in a long time 🖤 thank you.♥ 0source record 189
Incredibly well said, thank you!♥ 0source record 190
nobody has given me any advice. I've just kind of been winging it and taking it as it comes. But this comment right here is perfect and makes perfect sense. Thank you.♥ 0source record 193
I can’t tell you how much I needed to read that.♥ 0source record 201
Wow‼️Thank you for this, Beautifully said♥ 0source record 202
Oh Quinn… 🥺 thank you 🫂♥ 0source record 203
Thank you for making my grief beautiful♥ 0source record 207
I've been doing that for a long time I just never knew how to put it into words thank you very much you should print that😂😂🥰🥰🥰♥ 0source record 217
Quinn, thank you for this beautiful expression that you’ve shared with us❤️with great love comes great grief❤️♥ 0source record 225
I think you may have just healed me from my Suffering & not knowing what to do next. Thank You from the bottom of my heart ✌️🫶💯♥ 0source record 227
thank you Quinn♥ 0source record 242
This touched my soul . Thank you for sharing .♥ 0source record 244
This made me cry all over again 😢 Beautiful advice, thank you ! 🥺🙏🏼💕♥ 0source record 245
thank you. this is 💯 true.♥ 0source record 246
I’ll try to remember that.♥ 0source record 251
I’m in the depth of unimaginable grief and you have no idea how much I needed this♥ 0source record 256
oh i needed this for my soul♥ 0source record 258
Thank u for these words~ beautiful … needed that♥ 0source record 261
this comment is everything. thank you for this.♥ 0source record 262
🙂 thank you... that was awesome♥ 0source record 267
Oh my. Thank you.♥ 0source record 271
From reading this comment, Embraced her (grief). Thank you kind stranger.♥ 0source record 272
Never have I seen it this way thank you so much for sharing this♥ 0source record 276
This is the greatest thing I’ve ever read. Thank you for sharing 🥺❤️♥ 0source record 277
Omg. I needed that!!❤️♥ 1source record 293
What a weird thing to comment but thank you for showing who you are as a person 🥴 sick burn♥ 23source record 311
I needed this 🥺♥️♥ 1source record 337
Oh how I needed to see this♥ 0source record 348
This!! Wow! ❤️🙏 Thank you for sharing…♥ 0source record 376
That is beautiful; thank you 😔♥ 0source record 377
Thank you. Some days feels like a losing battle. But I try. Sending you a hug.♥ 0source record 390
This just hit me to my core, thank you for commenting this. Will deeply help me.💕♥ 1source record 394
This one is brilliant. Thank you.♥ 0source record 398
Thank you for this. ❤️♥ 0source record 404
This is beautiful, thank you. This made me cry♥ 0source record 418
Ohh, this is wonderful. Thank you. 💔♥ 0source record 424
Dang it. Thank you. It’s been 5 years..and. bless it… I needed this. My chest immediately locked up reading it.♥ 0source record 430
Thank you💜♥ 0source record 439
Needed this😩♥ 1source record 441
I'm guilty of this, thanks for the reminder. ♥️♥ 0source record 443
Thank you ❤️❤️really needed to hear this 🥹♥ 1source record 452
You're so right. 100% right. I just think I'm afraid of what I'm going to hear. I imagine my grief impacted them and I shouldn't hide from that. My Love for them is stronger and means more than a heartache when the truth is spoken. 🙏 Thank you for your comment, truly 💞♥ 0source record 455
Very deep, needed to hear this💔♥ 1source record 470
Thank you♥ 1source record 476
Thank you. Im not the same. Im so lost♥ 1source record 480
This hit me SO hard. I think I really needed to hear this. Thank you. ❤️♥ 3source record 489
I needed this. After theee years of trying, you just gave me permission to be the new me 🥰♥ 1source record 510
this hit so hard but helped a lot. thank you♥ 1source record 514
this is what I needed today. thank you 💕♥ 7source record 526
💖 thank you for these words♥ 1source record 542
Thank you 🙏🏻♥ 1source record 557
today was a tough, I needed to read this today♥ 1source record 567
Oh that broke me in the most beautiful way. I needed to hear that. 🤍🤍♥ 1source record 579
It has been a long day, but it was a beautiful goodbye. I'm doing okay. Thank you for checking in. 💕♥ 8source record 641
Thank you. It’s hard sometimes not to get caught up in it all♥ 2source record 644
Thank you Darla. I never thought about a moment of light to include. 💙💙💙 thank you very much♥ 1source record 649
I appreciate you checking on me. seems like most people in my life aside from my family just don't check on me and I've stopped telling people when I'm sad because I feel like they're getting tired of me saying the same things over and over again.♥ 0source record 703
Thank you and I’m being so serious if a days gets too heavy don’t hesitate to shoot me a message anytime 💗♥ 0source record 706
I am so glad I came across this comment today. right now. thank u 🥰 thank u thank u♥ 0source record 812
I lost mine as well. and this helped me tremendously today. thank you. I am sorry for yours 🫂♥ 27source record 816
I love that so much! and thank you💛♥ 1source record 876
Thank you for that it kinda feels better when others understand 🫂♥ 1source record 920
😭 I needed to read this! ♥️♥️♥️♥ 1source record 937
Thank you.♥ 1source record 948
Yes yes yes. I never ask for anything and as the oldest daughter, so much responsibility fell on me. I looked strong on the outside but I was dying on the inside. I just wished someone had seen that because I needed it then and I so need it now.♥ 5source record 968
Thank you 🫂🥺♥ 1source record 969
🙏🏽 thank you 🌹♥ 1source record 990
I love this ✨thank you for helping to heal 25 years of grieving my favorite person on earth ✨♥ 1source record 1010
🥹 Thank you for the share 🙏♥ 1source record 1011
Thank you. Definitely needed this today. 🥹♥ 1source record 1013
I really needed to hear this thanks♥ 1source record 1033
Thank you for sharing this♥ 1source record 1034
This is beautiful; thank you. 💜♥ 1source record 1035
thank you for sharing this. my grieving heart needed to hear that top♥ 17source record 1036
I needed this more than u will know today. Next month will be a year for my girl. I’m sure u know the pain but your fil’s words are powerful. Thank you for sharing 💔♥ 10source record 1039
Reading all of these because I needed to hear it then and I still need to hear it now♥ 24source record 1071
Thank you, that really means a lot. I sincerely mean that. I’m having a particularly hard time right now for various reasons. I mean I’m safe, but I’m really sad the loneliness compounded for a couple of reasons. Thank you for responding. I really mean that.♥ 1source record 1077
I needed this♥ 1source record 1129
Thank you. I needed this.♥ 1source record 1510
Everything that you were going through is normal thank you [account] for listening to me. Your words during sad time in my life meant so much.♥ 1source record 1723
thank you so very much for sharing this completely beautiful illustration 🫶🥰 forever grateful.♥ 1source record 1853
I needed this♥ 1source record 1858
thank you I bet you find that hard to believe well me to I'm still having problem with that part of it but thank you very much♥ 0source record 1986
"ho'oponopono"- I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.♥ 1source record 2072
Thank you friend 💛♥ 1source record 2150
“Thank you for loving her enough to let her go.”♥ 0source record 2516
This made me cry so easily and so much.. thank you all for sharing this.. I feel so lonely and sad♥ 0source record 2668
I love this post and thank you for making it. I’ve been trying to concur this grief but it’s a continuous climb with no ending♥ 0source record 3063
I just cried for 10 minutes reading all these. Thank you for this 💗I needed all these today♥ 0source record 3169
today haven would have been 15😓 she was hit and killed riding her bike 3 yrs ago. rest in power princess angel baby🥰thank u for the signs♥ 0source record 3238
ughhh my fyp is killing me rn 😭♥ 0source record 3445
You don’t have to say “thank you” when someone says they’re sorry for you loss.♥ 0source record 3492
Papa, you know what you meant to me. Thank you.♥ 0source record 3806
“We’re all going to die and we’re three generations from being completely forgotten.” Oh. Ok. Thank you grandfather.♥ 0source record 3883
My bf asked, Do you feel like your guardian angel left to go have a smoke? It made ne laugh..I needed that♥ 0source record 4043
I’m saving this so I can remember all the kind words to use with others💗♥ 0source record 4170
Wow, thank you♥ 0source record 4854
I was applying to medical schools in college and my favorite professor told me I should be teaching the next generation instead. I’ve been teaching for 16 years since. It was the best, most fulfilling journey I could have walked. Dr Kristen van den Meiracker, you set me on my path to purpose. Thank you!♥ 0source record 4902
Mom: It’s ok mija.. we are all going one day. Llora pero vive tu vida. That’s all we can do. Beautiful memories will always be there. She gave me the best advice and remembered it when she passed. Thank you momma! 🥹♥ 0source record 4967
it's amazing the corners we turn and absolute strangers helps us thru troubling times. thank you all♥ 0source record 5073
3 layers under the grief is gratitude... I am grateful for the moments I got to experience that which is uniquely you! Thank you!♥ 0source record 5869

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Condolences and comfort for each other97 index entriesCondolences and comfort for each other — 97 records
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What the pattern means: Commenters treated attentive listening, shared remembrance, and simple companionship as more useful support than trying to supply a perfect line.

What commenters described: “If talking about them keeps you here, don’t stop talking” ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

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“If talking about them keeps you here, don’t stop talking” ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

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You have to remember grief is there bc love came first ❤️‍🩹

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My condolences for all your loss I don’t know how I would function .♥ 0source record 10
I am so so sorry for your your loss♥ 1source record 20
I'm sorry for your loss🫂♥ 0source record 23
Sending you love, peace, strength, and comfort.. 💗♥ 0source record 26
This is beautiful…you’ve sat with her for a while. Sending you love and keep up your courage.♥ 3source record 33
Wow, this is the best description I’ve ever heard and honestly needed to hear ❤️❤️❤️so sorry for whatever loss you’ve endured mama♥ 0source record 167
🥺🫂😢♥ 0source record 285
I agree totally I don't care what anybody thinks but I know she's watching me and guiding me with the right decisions. I'm sorry for your loss! 🙏♥ 3source record 299
Trying is all we can do! 🫂♥ 1source record 391
Oh My heart ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 407
I know exactly how that feels. I’m so sorry. Time did go by too fast.♥ 1source record 485
Sending you a big hug! 💓💕💗♥ 1source record 491
2 years… I’m so sorry. That is both a millisecond and a lifetime in the world of grief. 💔💔♥ 1source record 497
Sorry for your loss 🙏♥ 2source record 558
Thinking of you, and sending love. ❤️♥ 0source record 647
I am glad to hear that they landed with you 🙌 hugs 🤗 🙌 and my condolences to you all. In our language, we say ʕaʕaahatḥ auw̓a - my heart is ripping open with yours. 💔My heart bleeds with yours ❣️🙌♥ 0source record 652
Mines was a week before yours 🫂♥ 1source record 654
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. 🙏🏼😔💔♥ 1source record 656
We are all here for you stranger ❤️🫂♥ 1source record 658
sending you love and light ❤️🥺♥ 1source record 660
Thinking of you 💕♥ 1source record 662
Oh sweetheart. I am so sorry for your loss 💜💙 fly high dad!♥ 1source record 667
Sending you love ❤️♥ 1source record 668
I am so sorry 🙏🏻❤️♥ 1source record 669
Sending love - and I hope at least one person told you he is worth every tear, and every emotion and so are you 🤍♥ 1source record 670
Sending so much love. Almost 3 years here and it’s just starting to get easier. Message me if you need someone to talk to. ❤️♥ 1source record 671
Sending you virtual hugs♥ 1source record 700
I’m so sorry. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 719
My heart goes out to you.♥ 0source record 722
So sorry 😭it’s been a year and it still will hurt. But I’m still just so lucky that I had a dad like him ❤️I hope your journey gets softer…♥ 0source record 723
hugs for you. 💔♥ 0source record 726
Sending you love, stranger♥ 0source record 727
Im sorry for your loss. Grief is lonely but when you need someone we are here all grieving together♥ 0source record 732
Sending you the tightest and most loving hug you can imagine.🙏🏻😞♥ 0source record 745
I'm so sorry.♥ 0source record 748
I’m so sorry for your loss. It has been less than 5 months since I lost my 15 year old son and the pain is indescribable♥ 1source record 782
❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 797
This made me immediately cry! I’m so sorry for your loss♥ 1source record 806
❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 810
I’m so sorry for your loss 🫂♥ 1source record 818
“If talking about them keeps you here, don’t stop talking” ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹♥ 7source record 833
**big hugs** 🫂🫂🫂 im so sorry 😞♥ 1source record 883
🫂 … sending love to you ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 890
Oh my. I’m so sorry.♥ 1source record 900
🥺 13mo I’m sorry 😣 it’s so hard 💔💔💔♥ 1source record 922
I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you a big hug. ❤️♥ 1source record 947
I'm so sorry you had to go through that alone.♥ 1source record 949
I’m so sorry♥ 1source record 963
🫂🫂🫂🫂♥ 0source record 967
🫂 from another person in this world that has lost their mother too. ❤️♥ 4source record 970
oof I'm so sorry. that hurts♥ 1source record 1046
I’m so so sorry for your loss😭😭😭♥ 0source record 1052
I am so so sorry but this is beautiful 🥺🫶🏼♥ 2source record 1058
I know 😞 I’m so sorry ❤️🙏 find your people here ❤️♥ 1source record 1068
🫶🏻🦋Hugs to you.♥ 0source record 1139
🫂 🫂 🫂 🫂♥ 0source record 1161
"Cry until you have nothing left and when you're done, get up and do everything that would make her even more proud of you..." - S.I.P Ma 🥀♥ 3source record 1302
Oh my goodness I’m so sorry😭😭😭♥ 1source record 1308
Sending you lots of love💕♥ 1source record 1313
Gosh I e actually never a made a list of the good advice… there really hasn’t been a lot of it. But the list of stupid things people say when they don’t know what to say and also don’t know that it’s ok to also say nothing is a million miles long. Xx❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1509
Learn to love yourself as much as he loved you ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1524
I understand how you feel ..I've been there.🥺♥ 1source record 1546
Oh my goodness this brought me chills. So proud of you for getting sober. 🥺💛♥ 0source record 1588
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I don’t think grief gets better, I think we just have so many people who love us through it that some days you feel more love than grief if you’re lucky enough❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1797
If you need to talk I’m here to listen no judgment♥ 1source record 1811
look for the signs they will be sending, you will know they are from them in your soul..♥ 1source record 2015
You think of them they are there in spirit you know by you here, feel, smell them they leave gifts and move things ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 2046
I’m so sorry😭😭😭😭 I’m here if you need to talk♥ 1source record 2151
I’m so sorry😭😭😭♥ 0source record 2195
Man I’m so sorry😭♥ 0source record 2219
“….im sorry kid but right now you choose you either a victim or gonna thrive despite”♥ 0source record 2579
Listen for them, notice smells, and look around. They are there and present if we pause and be open to possobilities. Those that have left this earth I love still show me they are with me over and over again and give me wisdom. It has comforted me greatly. Sending you so much love and Aloha.♥ 0source record 2676
All You have to do TODAY is stay ALIVE. From Sun up to sundown🫶🏼🌻🫶🏼And you get to choose WHEN you're sun up and down are🫂 #SUTSD🌻♥ 0source record 2866
YOU GOT THIS!!♥ 0source record 2950
It just shows how much you love them❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 3127
I’ve told myself…Brandi you got this 🥺💔♥ 0source record 3257
When telling someone about what I was going through they asked “what do you wish people would say or do when you tell them this”. Like she didn’t respond, and wasn’t avoiding awkwardness, she opened it up to me rather than saying “I’m sorry” or giving me some kind of fluffy “it’ll get better”. I will never forget that.♥ 0source record 3629
Just, “I’m sorry“ is nice to hear, just being acknowledged and “I know nothing that i say is going to take the pain away but I’m here.”♥ 0source record 3765
When grief hits you in the least expected moments…driving your kids to school, folding laundry, taking a shower, opening mail…its because your loved one is thinking of you.♥ 0source record 3801
I’m sorry the only thing is grief has no limit that time not the pain. Nothing that’s the only thing I can say and I’m sorry.♥ 0source record 3888
From the second their time of death is called, you will not only grieve them, you grieve the “before” version of yourself. Everything changes. ❤️Sending love from a stranger on the internet grieving and pushing through too!♥ 0source record 4027
When someone says I'm sorry for your lost.. we never actually lose someone we know exactly where they're at it's not a loss♥ 0source record 4077
Things wil get better ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4081
to grieve is to honor this thing ... and it's more than okay that it meant something to you ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4159
Like a plant let it grow in time through leaves a bloom will show. (I never liked hearing I’m so sorry)♥ 0source record 4211
You have to remember grief is there bc love came first ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4624
Oof some of these WRECKED me♥ 0source record 4634
No one ever did give me any. They just gave me a hug and said I’m sorry.♥ 0source record 4941
This was the best way I heard to view grief, I hope it helps. Sending you every bit of love and light♥ 0source record 5028
I dont know how you are feeling. Im sorry you are going through it.♥ 0source record 5054
"im here whenever you want or need to talk"♥ 0source record 5199
I hope you are able to find a moment of peace in all the chaos♥ 0source record 5249
You’re only down on yourself, when you’re thinking of yourself♥ 0source record 5492
Thinking of you 🩷♥ 0source record 5712
"I've never been through what you have & I don't know how you feel but know I am here for you." This meant so much to me. 💚♥ 0source record 6087
Make no apologies for how you get through this. It is heavy and you don’t know how to carry it, but you will slowly, so agonizingly slowly, learn how to some how walk again. The world keeps spinning, and it’s so unfair. This is so unfair. You deserved all the love, but not this. I’m so sorry.♥ 0source record 6193

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Tagging someone who needs this75 index entriesTagging someone who needs this — 75 records
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[account] They stopped suffering the moment their eyes closed. We are blessed to have been part of their beautiful lives. Your soul will heal with deep scars. We never move on. We learn to move forward; with the palpable pain of their loss within hands reach. You will get to cry with a soft smile. The pain and sorrow will be as strong as the first moment…as their love and memories touch and surrounds your heart. Don’t forget to live and learn to smile once more, for yourself and in their honor.

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[account] They stopped suffering the moment their eyes closed. We are blessed to have been part of their beautiful lives. Your soul will heal with deep scars. We never move on. We learn to move forward; with the palpable pain of their loss within hands reach. You will get to cry with a soft smile. The pain and sorrow will be as strong as the first moment…as their love and memories touch and surrounds your heart. Don’t forget to live and learn to smile once more, for yourself and in their honor.♥ 10source record 7
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[account] all the comments but this one 🥹 May this be one day my answer prayer for you too 🙏 love you dear friend 🌹” a smile before a tear “ 🌹❤️🕊️♥ 7source record 322
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[account] I watch that clip daily since my brother died from a preventable fall at his job. It gives me tremendous validation for feeling the heaviness I carry around and can’t seem to shake. Now I don’t want to shake it♥ 0source record 624
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[account] and Ollie: My younger brother died by suicide 7 years ago and it’s been a rough grief journey but also very beautiful and healing. Let the grief waves rock you whenever they want to come. Time helps you get used to the pain.♥ 1source record 1450
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[account] So many beautiful comments here. I will add, and echo, that you will not ever be the same person after you have gone through the storm of grieving. We live, experience it ALL (as we are supposed to), we love, we hurt, we cry, and we keep moving. This is the purpose of life & our living it. 💙🩵🤍♥ 0source record 2526
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[account] Watched a video after I lost my sister. “It’s doesnt get easier…it gets more manageable to live with” I thought there would be a timeline of my grieving for her but it’s going on 20 years and from time to time it stings just as much♥ 0source record 3014
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[account] Wierd that the more I hear “this to shall pass” I can tell that there is a limit to how many of those chapters we can bear. Everyone has a breaking point but sadly we are so strong and adaptable by the grace of God that it remains true. And so it goes♥ 0source record 4848
[account] [account] As someone with stage 4 cancer and it has just returned. My fear is that my daughters and other family members will stop living. I will always surround them and the thought they won’t be living their best life pains me! The beauty is I will be the first to greet them in heaven! Until then LOVE and LIVE!♥ 0source record 6043
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I am going to tag you in my answer. 😘♥ 0source record 6108
[account] Say "yes" to every invitation, just for a while. You might not feel like going or doing things, but - take "no" out of your vocabulary, It's usually the immediate response, but change it until you get back on your feet.♥ 0source record 6115

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Limit: "There's no words to help how your feeling right now but just know the pain you are feeling now will never go away. There will be a day you will be able to tolerate the hurt, and continue on with your life Unfortunately it's not today and that is okay."

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"There's no words to help how your feeling right now but just know the pain you are feeling now will never go away. There will be a day you will be able to tolerate the hurt, and continue on with your life Unfortunately it's not today and that is okay."

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“ Do not grieve so much for the dead that you neglect the living “♥ 2,633source record 438
I get it. I lost my dad in may. It’s okay to not be okay♥ 0source record 747
When people are truthful and tell me that I won't recover from this. Made me feel heard. Don't sugar coat my trauma. I will likely distance from you.♥ 80source record 889
It has never been the same since Jessica died. I miss her so much. It’s not old memories that make me sad now, it’s the new ones without her that cut the deepest.♥ 10source record 1073
you are allowed to be sad, mad or whatever you need to be, feel it deeply. Then move on, we are not allowed to stay here. Do it all over again as many times as you need but you are never allowed to stay there. I NEEDED THIS ADVICE!!!!♥ 29source record 1085
Healing is not a linear process.♥ 10source record 1134
Recognition .. “This is as bad as you think it is” .. it’s okay to not be okay. Not everything has a silver lining♥ 1source record 1146
If you feel something that deeply it’s because it’s the proof you’re alive and now you know how priceless this feeling is.✨♥ 0source record 1148
Don’t grieve the day of their death. Celebrate the day of their birth!♥ 1source record 1171
As harsh as it may sound I was told “It’s a choice to be sad” definitely some of the best advice I was given♥ 1source record 1178
It’s ok not to be ok♥ 1source record 1225
Many people hold on tightly to their grief because they feel like it’s the only thing left of their loved ones passed….or a way of honoring their memory. “How can I be happy if you’re not here?” And it’s actually the other way around, I am committed to lead with happiness now that you’re not here, so that everything you taught me would have been worth it.♥ 1source record 1238
It’s ok to not be ok♥ 0source record 1247
To grieve is to know you’ve loved (and still do) 🥺♥ 0source record 1267
It’s ok to not be strong 😥 and to not be ok. Sometimes we think we have to be strong and put on that brave face. But in fact it is ok to not be 🙏♥ 1source record 1287
Its advice I gave to someone “the amount of love you had for them is the amount of pain you feel,♥ 3source record 1289
Losing a grandparent is like losing a piece of your childhood, it’s okay to be sad♥ 1source record 1295
It’s ok to not be ok 💔♥ 1source record 1354
it's ok to feel the pain and cry. let it out, don't fight the grieving 💔♥ 1source record 1456
"that its okay to be sad"♥ 1source record 1507
you're not broken, you're grieving, you are normal.♥ 1source record 1540
There will be good days and bad days and it will take longer than you think. It’s all part of the process♥ 1source record 1565
It’s ok to feel it. Let it out. Cry. Feel it. Because if you don’t, it will never come out. And if it never comes out, it will never go away. My mom who is a therapist taught me this. And I process emotions better than most people I know. It works. It hurts to feel. But I works. Let it out♥ 1source record 1591
Go ahead and grieve. Don’t shove it down, don’t ignore it, let it hit you like the ton of bricks that it is. And then start to rebuild.♥ 1source record 1606
It’s normal to grieve. Allow time.♥ 1source record 1721
I was told by a friend after I lost both of my aunts, both my parents and my grandmother in less than 3 years, “you know it’s ok to not be ok, you just can’t live or stay there”. Nobody in my life had told me it was ok to not be ok… I just thought I had to be strong. Changed my whole life.♥ 1source record 1739
It’s ok not to be ok♥ 1source record 1745
To feel every part of it. The loss of them if grief worthy. Allow yourself to mourn someone you love.♥ 1source record 1810
Grief is the language of love...it's ok to feel it immensely just don't get stuck in it because staying too long can push out the happy memories. I'm 10 yrs out from the loss of my daughter and the grief almost wiped out the happy memories.♥ 1source record 1906
Slow down. It’s okay to feel whatever you need to.♥ 1source record 1955
19 years and I’m still grieving. I’ll let you know when I get the advice. But from personal experience, it’s ok to grieve. It’s ok to be sad, it’s absolutely great to cry out the emotions, it’s ok to crawl into a bed and just lay there. It’s ok to be a little depressed. Just remember that you also have to know how to get out of those emotions to function. NO PILL OR MEDS will ever fix it. It will just numb you. My mom passed and I drank and had some herbals from the moment I woke up to the moment I went to sleep and I never FU**ING GRIEVED PROPERLY, don’t numb yourself feel all that pain, anger and learn to let that go u til the next time you want to feel this way but LIVE!♥ 1source record 1991
Don’t fake feeling okay for anyone. If you feel like staying in bed, stay in bed.♥ 1source record 1996
How does one grieve a living person?♥ 1source record 2005
accept that, despite how hard I try, I will never feel the way I felt before his death ever again. I need to understand that pain is here to stay and even though its changed me, I am still me♥ 1source record 2007
happiness nor sadness is never through with us 💝♥ 1source record 2021
its ok not to be ok♥ 1source record 2070
You’re sad because they were that important for you to miss them♥ 1source record 2075
don’t run from it … it will find you♥ 1source record 2112
choose how you grieve wisely. you can let it lead a path of destruction or a path of healing.♥ 1source record 2114
You can’t fix normal (in the way you feel)♥ 1source record 2118
"It's okay to NOT be okay... until you're OK." Sometimes you need permission to be hurt, angry, anxiety filled etc. Friends & family who make it "okay" are amazing.♥ 1source record 2133
I grieve silently, quietly. You don't want advise at that time.♥ 1source record 2155
(It’s ok to grieve. If u ever need a hug just look for me and cry all you need. It’s ok to be sad) 😢 a resident at work told me this and she knows how much I respect and love her for always being there for me during my pregnancy and after I went thru a miscarriage. 😭❤️🙏♥ 1source record 2170
The more you love the more you grieve.♥ 1source record 2182
Hearing from someone that also went through a death or grief. It made me feel better that I wasn’t the only one going through the loss of a loved one.♥ 1source record 2201
People are always going to have opinions on how you grieve, they will judge you no matter what you do, so do what you need to do to survive and thrive. Moving on in life does not mean you've forgotten them and people who haven't experienced it will not understand it.♥ 1source record 2205
death is hard do whatever yoj gotta do to make it alittle bit easier, dont let people dictate how you grieve♥ 1source record 2210
Grieving are moments of time in your life you really get to stop and relish/relive the best moments of your life. You feel what it was like as if it was the first time. It reminds you that it happened. That for a brief moment you could be something other than sad.♥ 0source record 2300
Grieve how ever you need to grieve without hurting anyone around you 💕♥ 0source record 2313
The sooner you realize he didn’t care the sooner you can get mad instead of sad.♥ 0source record 2314
It’s OK to not be okay♥ 0source record 2338
Highly recommend the book “the wild edge of sorrow” by Francis weller if anyone is grieving, needs to grieve, or doesn’t know how to 🤍♥ 0source record 2351
grieve as much as you need and the way you want it, if not, your body and mind will get sick♥ 0source record 2369
The severe pain you feel is a symbol of the deep love and bond you shared. It’s ok to not be ok. He always protected you from any kind of hurt/harm, and he would not want you to let this change who you are. He wants to see you happy, healthy and living. I have always tried to make him proud♥ 0source record 2373
Feel it. Let yourself feel everything. It’s okay to feel all of those emotions.♥ 0source record 2402
The more you love, the more you grieve❤️♥ 0source record 2444
its okay to not be okay sometimes♥ 0source record 2494
Schedule a time to grieve whether it’s once a day or several times a day. Dedicate this time to giving in completely to your feelings. During the non-grieving times focus on the very task at hand and set aside the grief.. My 4 year-Old son was murdered 25 years ago and this was the best advice I ever got.♥ 0source record 2517
Say yes to everything. Even when you don’t feel like it.♥ 0source record 2531
Don’t run from it.♥ 0source record 2536
For me, commenting on other people's grief tik toks and youtube and giving virtual hugs or just putting it out there what you have gone through yourself has helped me heal a little. Sometimes it's too much and I have to keep scrolling, but other times I feel I have the strength to encourage others. I don't ever do it out of expectation or I "have to." Give yourself time and do whatever your heart feels that moment.♥ 0source record 2544
I grieved the death of a version of my own life I had planned for, but didn’t happen. I didn’t understand it as grief at the time, only the hollow ache of sadness. Someone defined it for me, my perspective changed, and I healed.♥ 0source record 2553
To deeply grieve means to fully have loved..♥ 0source record 2586
Grieve, but not to long for you are next.♥ 0source record 2615
“you cannot pour from an empty cup” it’s ok to grieve and take time for yourself.♥ 0source record 2631
The simple words “it’s ok to not be ok”♥ 0source record 2638
Whatever your feeling right now is the correct feeling♥ 0source record 2639
It’s ok to not be ok.♥ 0source record 2642
It’s always acceptable to have a bad day and you gotta pay yourself up♥ 0source record 2654
“You’ll never not be sad. But sadness is kind of amazing. You’ll feel different 10 minutes from now from now. Remember that”♥ 0source record 2665
feel through it. feel absolutely everything about it. because masking it only brings it back when you think you are over it♥ 0source record 2667
live the rest of your life in honour of them and feel ever feeling that comes with grief♥ 0source record 2682
Have no expectations...... not of yourself as far as like "oh it's been 2 years ... I should be further along in this process or in love or whatever..; not of people bc about 6 weeks after .... all the flowers are dead and the food is gone and so are the people ....⬅️don't expect real that real grief shit to hit until then either.... and don't expect people to check on you.... try to Rememeber that yes your in the stages of grief and they have been there for and with you .... but their world never came to a screeching ass stop like yours did♥ 0source record 2689
“You can feel the sadness, but don’t let it consume you.”♥ 0source record 2698
Tou can grieve as long as you want♥ 0source record 2739
its ok to not be ok♥ 0source record 2750
It’s okay to not be okay, keep on keeping on♥ 0source record 2768
there's no wrong or right way to grieve♥ 0source record 2790
I saw an interview once and I don’t know who it was, I’ve been dying to find it… She said something like- I always imagine when I’m going through something terrible that I was once not here and was asked- do you want to go to Earth for 100 years? You can be and do anything you want with that time. Anything. But what comes with that is emotion. You have to experience every emotion there is while you’re there. Good and bad. My answer is yes every time.***♥ 0source record 2813
“The desperation you feel is perfectly normal for what you’ve just been through”♥ 0source record 2822
It is sad. It is dark. It sucks. The world is over. All of your feelings are valid and grieve how you need to. But also heal how you need to.♥ 0source record 2823
They wouldn't want you to spend time being sad over them.♥ 0source record 2880
It’s ok to not be ok !♥ 0source record 2909
It’s okay to always miss them♥ 0source record 2952
How about the advice I wish I'd gotten? There is no 'right way' to grieve, do whatever you have to do.♥ 0source record 3034
It’s okay to not be okay.♥ 0source record 3049
It’s ok to not be ok♥ 0source record 3069
“Don’t mind what other people say or think because they will never understand what you feel” this line is very comforting especially at that time I’m struggling about everything♥ 0source record 3073
Mad is sad and scared's protector. When you're ready, they'll show up too.♥ 0source record 3077
You can't be sad and depressed when you are busy. Find something to do.♥ 0source record 3119
Grieve for how ever long it takes. It’s about remembering them until it doesn’t hurt anymore when you do♥ 0source record 3191
Grief becomes a best friend when you grieve the living. It is a constant reminder of “what if”? The what ifs of grieving the still living are torture. And sometimes it’s ok to sit in that pain.♥ 0source record 3205
Talk to someone about it, don’t keep it all inside. When you feel overwhelmed by the pain release it ❤️♥ 0source record 3216
It’s OK not to be ok, you should be grieving♥ 0source record 3242
A friend who had lost their dad previously told me when I lost mine, that “everything your feeling is ok”♥ 0source record 3244
None of the advice was what I needed. We figure out our needs, but I believe that this is a process that we all go thru. We discover our needs♥ 0source record 3272
You have the right to to Grieve….. never apologize♥ 0source record 3282
Feel what ever you feel and don’t be embarrassed. You won’t understand all the emotions all the time♥ 0source record 3312
Feel and validate your feelings during the process♥ 0source record 3314
feel every moment. the joy of remembering. the sadness of loss. that empty void - fill it with the strength & struggles. they helped you make it to today. you aren't alone.♥ 0source record 3326
grieve until you're thru it. which may be never. but grieve.♥ 0source record 3336
Being allowed to feel the grieve without being judged by friend and some family. Helps me to just feel the grief.♥ 0source record 3365
“It’s okay to not be okay” a book 🥰♥ 0source record 3383
Not advice, but understanding that the harder we grieve is equal to how much we love them, is comforting.♥ 0source record 3464
Act and feel in accordance the way they would have wanted you to♥ 0source record 3466
We are all passing through. We are born, we learn, love experience every emotion we grow and we go home.♥ 0source record 3469
Your great sadness is evidence of the deep love yall shared. Embrace that also for it is the balance of life.♥ 0source record 3474
Be everything you loved about them and you will feel closer 🥺♥ 0source record 3481
Grief comes in different forks of emotion and it’s ok it’s your journey.♥ 0source record 3482
The degree to which you grieve is a representation of the degree to which you loved. 🖤♥ 0source record 3637
Give yourself space to feel the emotions and feel them in their entirety.♥ 0source record 3653
They don’t want to see you sad. ♥️♥ 0source record 3657
allow yourself to not be ok. it's ok♥ 0source record 3688
Don’t focus on the sadness of the last few weeks. Focus on the funny memorable times.♥ 0source record 3698
Put some lipstick on and you’ll feel better♥ 0source record 3734
Feel what you need to. You’re allowed that.♥ 0source record 3802
validate and acknowledge the sad thought...and then send them on their way. don't stay in your head over thinking things for too long 💯💔♥ 0source record 3815
Everyone needs an outlet for grief♥ 0source record 3845
Someone told me “ it’s ok to not be ok our first fathers were not created to die there for we don’t know how to handle death” to me that comment made all the difference♥ 0source record 3852
It’s okay to not be okay.♥ 0source record 3859
Find a sad place. Mine was the shower. That’s where I gave myself permission to break down. So when I got to a point in the day I felt like I wasn’t going to make it, I just needed to get to the shower.♥ 0source record 3864
It’s OK to not be OK. That’s perfectly normal.♥ 0source record 3880
You are not expected to understand what’s happening. In time you will but the peaks and valleys that happen in life..you’ll feel them more.♥ 0source record 3892
Advice: Just grieve. Be sad. It’s ok.♥ 0source record 3973
“You grieve as hard as you loved.”♥ 0source record 3990
It’s not what people tell you while stuck in grief… is what they do and how they make you feel. Remember that.♥ 0source record 4009
It made me grow and change in ways I can’t even describe. I’m finally able to feel joy again but it’s always a little tinged with sadness. And my feelings and capacity for them has expanded. That’s the best way I can describe it.♥ 0source record 4190
What if you didn’t feel grief? What if ur life went back to normal as if that person didn’t even exist? One day someone will grieve you like you grieved others because you were so loved by someone that their life without you will forever have the pain of your absence!♥ 0source record 4220
it's ok to not be ok. My sister told me this when our mom died.♥ 0source record 4230
All that you are going thru, every thought, every emotion is normal. Honor it all.♥ 0source record 4254
“”Don’t be sad it’s over be happy that it happened” 🥺♥ 0source record 4269
Cry scream let it out 💔❤️‍🩹it’s ok 2 not be ok 🙏🏼♥ 0source record 4300
The best way to show love for the person you grieve is to live in honor of the impact they made on you ❤️♥ 0source record 4309
It’s ok to just not be okay♥ 0source record 4326
You’ll be fine with always being a little sad because that means they were real 💙♥ 0source record 4327
It always feels like it was yesterday♥ 0source record 4331
Its okay to not be okay♥ 0source record 4365
Take a day to yourself at home, listen to very sad music and just let your emotions out! A good cry doesn’t take the pain away but it will make it easier for a little!♥ 0source record 4386
It’s ok to not be ok♥ 0source record 4422
The pain won’t pass, you won’t forget, you just learn how to handle the pain better. You’ll forget their faces. Don’t be ashamed. We remember people from the way they make us feel, now what they say.♥ 0source record 4448
It’s ok to not be ok.♥ 0source record 4501
Given? Everyone keeps telling me to be strong, no dwell on dates…. Makes me feel eveb worse♥ 0source record 4517
That it's normal and it's ok.♥ 0source record 4530
"That I will feel the generational hiarchy positions. shift." I'm the oldest female in my immediate family now I did feel that change. 😢♥ 0source record 4535
There’s no blueprint to grief. We all grieve at different levels, speeds and length. Don’t try to find a way to get rid of it, let it run its course.♥ 0source record 4554
To research the stages of grief and accept that it’s ok to feel whatever you’re feeling.♥ 0source record 4560
That it’s normal and OK but not to stay there very long. Get through the five stages as fast as you can learn how to do that because life never stops giving you something to grieve so life is easier when you’re good at getting through it fast.♥ 0source record 4586
is ok not to be ok♥ 0source record 4635
You can be two places emotionally at once. You can feel grief while you feel joy. Because you still deserve joy.♥ 0source record 4649
grief spirals back around. your will.be fine and then it will spiral back into your life and feel as raw as the first day the person died.♥ 0source record 4686
grief makes weird emotions come out. and that's ok♥ 0source record 4695
Take a chance to fully grieve… to avoid it ghosts -me learning from my own grief♥ 0source record 4709
“You can’t control the situation you’re in but you can control the way you grieve” don’t lose yourself!!!♥ 0source record 4712
Get through one day, if you can’t do that, get through an hour, if you can’t do that get through one minute, if you can’t do that get through one second. And give your permission to grieve.♥ 0source record 4730
quantum entanglement, two things can be so connected that no matter how far apart they are—even across space or time—when one changes, the other feels it instantly.♥ 0source record 4733
I read this quote and live by it…..It’s okay to not be okay♥ 0source record 4749
Don’t resist your sadness. Let it BE.♥ 0source record 4756
The way we grieve is as personal as the relationship we had with that person♥ 0source record 4759
Dont be so sad they're gone, be happy you had them at all.♥ 0source record 4764
Grief isn’t just for the loss of that person but also for the version of yourself you lost with them. Gave me permission to grieve in a selfish but healthy way♥ 0source record 4773
“I know exactly how you feel”. 🥺♥ 0source record 4858
"There's no words to help how your feeling right now but just know the pain you are feeling now will never go away. There will be a day you will be able to tolerate the hurt, and continue on with your life Unfortunately it's not today and that is okay."♥ 0source record 4912
Give your Grace. It’s ok not to be ok♥ 0source record 4988
It’s okay to not be okay. I needed permission to continue to not be fine and that book was eye opening. For anyone in acute grief, read it.♥ 0source record 5044
Time doesnt exist where they went, it'll feel like seconds to them when you arrive.♥ 0source record 5070
It’s ok to not be ok♥ 0source record 5144
How you grieve is unique to you. Don’t let anyone try to stifle this or try to make you grieve based on how they grieve.♥ 0source record 5263
i didnt get advice. People feel awkward 😕 expressing.♥ 0source record 5288
The hurt will never completely go away but you won’t always feel as bad as you do today.♥ 0source record 5297
Was never given the best advise. For me I just had to survive 1 day at a time. It's been 27 yrs and I still grieve for him. I've just learned how to go on till I'm with him again♥ 0source record 5301
Its a heavy heart and alot of feeling will come. You have every right to feel them. And it'll be ok. We healing we will never be healed from it , it'll be easier to manage.♥ 0source record 5312
u can be happy n grieve. at same time ..I work for funeral industry. u loose ur love ones. makes u sad ..but♥ 0source record 5351
we dont grieve for them. we grieve for ourselves. its normal and its necessary!♥ 0source record 5362
It’s okay to feel the vastness of your sorrow— to tremble beneath the weight of it, to let your tears fall like rain on a garden long neglected. You don’t have to have the answers. You don’t owe the world an explanation for your ache. Once, your heart was whole— a brilliant, beating thing. And then, like fragile glass, it shattered. Now, with trembling hands and quiet courage, you’re piecing it back together, shard by shard, soul by soul. It will never be what it was— but oh, how it will hold more. More compassion. More tenderness. More love than ever before. Because those who’ve known the breaking are the ones who love the deepest. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 5467
It’s okay not to be okay. Feel every emotion but don’t let it consume you… me to me. I still tell myself this everyday for the last four years♥ 0source record 5475
it's ok not to be OK♥ 0source record 5488
It's okay to feel all your feelings, you don't have to constantly be trying to make yourself feel better 💐♥ 0source record 5533
It’s okay to be sad on a random Tues 10 years down the road. Love isn’t linear and neither is grief.♥ 0source record 5578
“It’s going to get harder” it was honest and true and when it got harder I didn’t feel like I was doing it wrong and not getting better. I was where I was supposed to be. Now that my grief isn’t so present I sometimes miss it. It’s deep in the discomfort I found healing.♥ 0source record 5605
To grieve deeply is to has loved fully.♥ 0source record 5627
I’m reading this grieving book called “It ok to not be ok”. I’ve learned that grieving is an extension of Love. Love of whom we’ve lost so of course it hurts. Grief needs to be tended to and carried.♥ 0source record 5638
It wasn’t told to me but I learned it after my mom passing in February this year. Grief has its own journey. It’s okay to be okay and to not be okay at the same time. It just sucks but it is what it is. We can’t change the outcome. We can only work on ourselves. Don’t let their memory die.♥ 0source record 5653
It was more of an explanation of what to expect. The mothers of two dear friends said, “pain never really goes away”. It just becomes dull and in time won’t feel as intensely as it does now. It made me realize that grief is part of life, that it’s OK to feel this, life does go on. Its just a different “norm” moving forward. And as you heal, you don’t forget, or feel less love for the people you lost, life just changes, and it’s OK to move forward, that you’ll be OK,.. even though that concept seems impossible, at the most intense moment of sorrow. But it’s true.♥ 0source record 5655
Not to listen to others on how you’re supposed to feel♥ 0source record 5673
Would you feel better if you had died instead and left them grieving ?♥ 0source record 5681
It’s okay to be relieved and sad at the same time.♥ 0source record 5684
I walked a mile with sadness, and never a thing she'd say. But o' the things I learned from her, when sadness walked with me.♥ 0source record 5717
Grief is normal and feeling the feelings gets you thru it♥ 0source record 5765
it’s ok ..to not be ok sometimes🖤 breathe & meditate so you don’t loose yourself♥ 0source record 5767
Feel what you feel, just come back💫♥ 0source record 5775
There is not any good advice when you grieve♥ 0source record 5808
It’s okay to grieve.♥ 0source record 5811
tell yourself, "just get through this moment." Then, "just get through this hour." Then, "just get through this day." Every single day. Walk every day. It's okay to not be okay. Grief is a master teacher/life lesson. It will strip everything away, and put things into perspective. The unimportant will fall away. 🙏🏼♥ 0source record 5873
Its not a linear line but a looptyloop .. so don’t expect that every day you get better until you are all back to normal.. because there will be times where you feel right back in it like it just happened.♥ 0source record 5891
It’s as bad as you think it is…You are not crazy.♥ 0source record 5982
"While greiving" implies it's inevitable. Grieving is an action. It is a choice. It's ok not to grieve. Grieve if you must, but never do it out of pressure or obligation. Such a weight was lifted off when someone told me that. I felt relief over grief and felt pressure to grieve simply because it is what you're supposed to do.♥ 0source record 6006
it's okay to not be okay 😞♥ 0source record 6030
Everything you’re feeling is normal when I thought I was losing my mind was told it was normal♥ 0source record 6052
you’re allowed to be sad about the saddest thing that’s ever happened to you.♥ 0source record 6053
grieve out loud. it honors the love lost and shared.♥ 0source record 6098
That all my feelings were ok no matter what they were♥ 0source record 6105
“It will hurt and you will be sad, and then one day you won’t “♥ 0source record 6109
i learned that "its ok to cry, its ok not to be ok, its ok to be sad, its ok to be mad, its ok to hurt so bad that you cant function." but dont sit in those feelings, 7/16 marks 10 yrs i lost my dad and ive learned to keep pushing and moving forward♥ 0source record 6116
I told my new boss that all I was planning to do was work to not think or be sad and she said “no you’re not.”♥ 0source record 6216
you can let yourself be sad. allow your emotions to move through your mind and body.♥ 0source record 6227
make people feel as uncomfortable as they make you feel. give them the truth answers, that will catch them off and they won’t know how to respond, and those that do are the ones why truly care.♥ 0source record 6236
Sadly none of knows how anyone else feels inside. We can only hope little things daily can bring some light to the eternal sadness.♥ 0source record 6270
“It’s ok to not be ok.”♥ 0source record 6299
The best piece of advice I’ve been given is to not take what others say during that time personally. People say the dumbest stuff to try to make you feel better but they’re trying the best they know how. They’re not meaning to offend or hurt you. Let that shit go.♥ 0source record 6321

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Limit: Feel it and go thru it, the sad truth is You can eat it away, sleep it away. Work it away, drink it away…. It always waits for you to get done unfortunately

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Feel it and go thru it, the sad truth is You can eat it away, sleep it away. Work it away, drink it away…. It always waits for you to get done unfortunately

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When grief hits hard, sit with it and feel whatever it wants you to feel because it will always show up uninvited and without warning. You cannot run from it because it WILL catch up to you so when it shows up just sit with it. 💔

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it shows up at those most inconvenient times. but let it happen. feel everything.

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It is not only about losing someone you love, but also about losing the version of life you thought you would have. A parent, a relationship, a dream, grief sits in all of those empty spaces. Give yourself time to feel each emotion, sit with it, and let it move through you. Grief has a way of rushing in like a storm, then disappearing just long enough to make you think the skies have cleared. Do not rush it away or shame yourself for how long it lingers. Grief is not something you just get over. It is something you learn to live alongside. Hugs 🫶🏻

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Embrace it like a last farewell to piece of yourself that is feeling its own death.

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this is beautiful. I am struggling right now with losing my jack russel almost 2 weeks ago, and I am so sad. but I agree you have to feel the feelings. 💔♥ 0source record 129
This has to be the best explanation I’ve ever seen. My best was that you can’t ignore or go around your grief. You have to embrace it.♥ 0source record 159
I really feel it helps because it does come.♥ 2source record 328
I honestly like reading that perspective. I wish it didn’t make me feel guilty for being miserable, though. I can’t help how my heart feels, and when I think about how my pain makes others feel it makes me feel like I have to fake it and pretend I am okay. I wish someone could explain this in a way I could see it from this perspective.♥ 0source record 448
I feel your pain, lost my dad a year ago and still feel it.♥ 2source record 693
To ALL of you in this thread: when grief comes? Wallow in it, roll around, let yourself feel EVERYTHING (it actually does come in stages). You’ll get through it easier. Pushing it away or ignoring makes it worse. You can even forewarn friends/family. They’ll understand. 😌♥ 0source record 721
breathe. Feel it fill your lungs and let it out. Just breath. 💕♥ 0source record 754
it shows up at those most inconvenient times. but let it happen. feel everything.♥ 89source record 882
would like to add, feel it even if it pisses people off. the right people will see when you're not yourself, and try to help you heal♥ 1source record 888
In grief, we find out how strong we are. Feel it all and don’t feel ashamed. Even if you burst into tears in the middle of the mall.. do it. That just shows how powerful that love was.♥ 65source record 910
Angelina Jolie, never heard anyone say what she said. “Go right through it, feel it, be in it, don’t avoid it. Feel everything, and then to right through it and get out the other end.” The pain will never go away, but you need to let the anger/sadness/emotion out. Don’t hide the tears.♥ 57source record 914
Sit in it. Sit with it. Sit♥ 11source record 1054
Let it come and honor it every time. ❤️❤️❤️♥ 34source record 1072
It’s ok to keep crying, no one has ever died from crying, let it out♥ 2source record 1153
The pain never goes away, only the frequency in which you feel it.♥ 1source record 1167
sit with it. 😢♥ 1source record 1185
Let yourself grieve. No matter how long you need to grieve. No matter what you need to do. Time to yourself. Time with others. It’s your grieve. Do what you need for you.♥ 0source record 1261
It is not only about losing someone you love, but also about losing the version of life you thought you would have. A parent, a relationship, a dream, grief sits in all of those empty spaces. Give yourself time to feel each emotion, sit with it, and let it move through you. Grief has a way of rushing in like a storm, then disappearing just long enough to make you think the skies have cleared. Do not rush it away or shame yourself for how long it lingers. Grief is not something you just get over. It is something you learn to live alongside. Hugs 🫶🏻♥ 0source record 1263
you are allowed to feeeeeeeel this , all of this .♥ 0source record 1274
To sit in it and make sure I’m getting rest.♥ 0source record 1320
Your tears are all the love you have for them that has no where to go now so let them flow.♥ 1source record 1366
A buddhist monk told me the sum total of a person’s life matters. If the sum total of their life was good, then that one terrible day at the end means very little in the big scheme of things. It’s one day, one hour, one moment maybe, in a lifetime of overwhelming good. Focus on the sum total. Don’t focus on the last day. Also feel your feelings, process as you must, but don’t spend longer grieving someone than the time you spent together. They deserve the sum total of their impact on you to be full of goodness, not pain. Give them that.♥ 1source record 1425
When grief comes knocking, let it in. Ignoring your grief only makes it worse.♥ 1source record 1452
The advice I can give…It’s your pain. You have to feel it. Your way. It will be with you always ♥️✌️♥ 1source record 1541
allow yourself to feel and let everything out as much as you need to.♥ 1source record 1604
I am the loss of my mother recently, and I spoke to someone who told me because my past is so complicated with my family to go out into the forest and find a tree and touch different trees until I felt one that was humming. She said once I felt that one that I should feel all of the emotion emotions, grieve, sadness, anger, happiness, anything, and stay there in until I have given it to the tree.♥ 1source record 1673
I'm sorry for your loss. Let yourself cry. The hardest part is learning to live without them. 💞 The movie "A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood" helped me process♥ 1source record 1683
Feel it and go thru it, the sad truth is You can eat it away, sleep it away. Work it away, drink it away…. It always waits for you to get done unfortunately♥ 1source record 1771
That it was okay. Everything I was feeling was okay. The love, the pain, the betrayal, the hate, the denial…it was all okay. Feel it all, just don’t let it consume you.♥ 1source record 1803
When my dad first passed, I didn’t deny myself little moments of joy because I never knew if I would ever feel it naturally again. Doordashing dessert. Fancy coffees. A new shirt. Long drives. Christmas gifts for my family. Anything I could find to MAKE myself happy, even for a literal second.♥ 1source record 1817
Feel it all. You’ll be okay. You’ll find your purpose again. You did what you thought was right at the time. Get out of bed. It’s okay to smile. Sorrow makes your heart bigger.♥ 1source record 1920
I wasn’t necessarily “given” this advice but after loosing 8 family members & my best friend back to back in 2023, I learned to “sit in my grief!” Sit in it because you heed to, feel every emotion you have to because your emotions are very much valid.♥ 1source record 1956
Let it happen when it happens and don’t try to keep it in. Don’t feel like a burden, people understand grief.♥ 1source record 1998
you're allowed to feel , what you feel. for as long as you feel it. But, Don't let it over take your life. They are dead, not you, not yet.♥ 1source record 2017
Let yourself grieve♥ 1source record 2018
Definitely don't suppress grief like I did my whole life. It turned into trauma. If you'd like to hear more about it check out my new book [link removed]♥ 1source record 2047
Sit with it. Make room for it. Feel it. 🔥💕😎♥ 1source record 2076
don't hold it in just cry scream whatever you need♥ 1source record 2120
I had to listen to my own advice I gave people, let the emotions flow. We can't control the grief process. Hold on for dear life of the emotional Rollercoaster ride & just let it flow. Don't hold the emotions of grief in. When the anger stage sets in multiple times have a notebook handy to write them down & not to speak to people cuz the anger is not them it is the grief♥ 1source record 2131
let it come,don't hide from it♥ 1source record 2161
Sit with it.♥ 1source record 2189
Embrace it🖤♥ 1source record 2192
Nothing - sometimes you just have to sit in it , talk to it & hug yourself♥ 1source record 2193
Embrace it. 11 years later, I still look for him everywhere.♥ 0source record 2252
My dad told me to keep my grief in a box on the shelf and take it down and open the box when its necessary or appropriate and then its okay to put it back on the shelf. I was in total despair at the time, but this made me feel it was okay to have a few moments without pain and eventually I was able to keep my grief on the shelf *so to speak♥ 0source record 2296
go right thru it. feel it otherwise it will consume your whole body♥ 0source record 2343
Crying is not something to apologize for. Do it freely and let it out, it’s okay to do so and other people’s discomfort is not your problem when it comes to you crying.♥ 0source record 2374
Sit in it, you can’t run from pain.♥ 0source record 2415
Lean into it♥ 0source record 2417
It’s been 15 years since my brother died and 8 since my dad died. I’m 36. Sometimes I just like to sit and settle into my grief and feel all of the raw edges of it. Still.♥ 0source record 2418
That even if you don't feel it, there is an army of people behind you.♥ 0source record 2436
Allow yourself to feel what you need to but know when to pick yourself up.♥ 0source record 2590
Don’t try to hide it, drink it, numb it. FEEL IT. Feel it all, let it hurt you, let it change you and pick yourself back up again. You will be the strongest person as these times of grief come and go.♥ 0source record 2621
feel your feelings♥ 0source record 2669
You have to feel it to get through it 😫♥ 0source record 2675
That it takes a lot of energy - be okay with not being yourself with all you normally do and are, for you are not that person now, and that’s ok. Be ok with resting, it isn’t always falling into depression but you have been through a lot - a lot of hurt, pain, shock, change, letting go. And don’t be afraid of the depth of the pain, feel it, sit in it, it’s how we heal, take care dear one, be good to yourself. 🤍🙏🏼♥ 0source record 2694
Feel it let it take you over, pain demands to be felt. It’s better to face it head on then dwell on it for years.♥ 0source record 2697
When it’s fresh don’t push away the thoughts or pain-lean in and feel everything.♥ 0source record 2749
There's no time line and to let yourself grieve♥ 0source record 2841
to sit with it and love it because they were worth the grief and to be sad is not bad it's okay if you want to cry it's okay if you want to be silent you're no less of a man for feeling the feelings♥ 0source record 2910
let yourself feel the pain♥ 0source record 2992
Lost my mom and little brother. I try to remember and appreciate how much they loved me, and I’ll literally tell myself to love me the exact same way they would. I will sit with my eyes closed, breathe deeply and allow myself to feel that love. I pretend they’re right there next to me, talking to me. What would they say in this moment? And I sit and just let myself feel all that love that is no longer physically present but still exists so deep within me.♥ 0source record 3012
feel all the pain. All of it. It’s the only way♥ 0source record 3025
you shouldn't force yourself to be okay. embrace the pain. cry all you want.♥ 0source record 3123
Just feel it. Dont resist..dont judge it or yourself….let itflow through. Embrace yourself.♥ 0source record 3155
Feel it to be free & than to you will be expanded to where they are🙏 lost my father in my 30s♥ 0source record 3176
Be aware this may negatively affect all other areas in life. Be in charge of it… also sit in it. Don’t sleep♥ 0source record 3250
You have to face it and feel it, but do so one day at a time. Otherwise it is just too big, engulfing, overwhelming- like a goldfish facing the sea.♥ 0source record 3271
Feel everything you’re feeling. Let it all out. Take care of yourself♥ 0source record 3278
“You need to grieve, accept and allow it. Don’t try to skip or rush through it. Embrace it.”♥ 0source record 3301
Allow yourself to feel it you need it to heal♥ 0source record 3334
Feel it all but do not camp there long! ❣️♥ 0source record 3350
Let yourself grieve, give yourslef grace you are allowed to have feelings, whatever those are.♥ 0source record 3386
I learned it’s ok to be angry with them for not being here and to sit in the grief and not rush the process.♥ 0source record 3405
Something I heard about speaking to those grieving: “The greatest mind cannot speak to a bleeding heart.” Just be with the grieving; allow them to grieve. Hold them. Cry with them. Don’t try and counsel their grief away; it isn’t fair.♥ 0source record 3449
Lean towards your loved ones. Don’t push them away.♥ 0source record 3463
feel it. feel every bit of the sadness and talk about them as much as you want♥ 0source record 3484
Let yourself grieve now and forever. That’s what happens when you love hard. Just don’t let it stop you from living especially for those on earth that deserve you.♥ 0source record 3495
Allow yourself to grieve - take it’s second by second at first then moment to moment then day by day♥ 0source record 3518
tears are really all the love you have built-up for that person and you have no way to give it anymore, that's why it falls from your eyes. Let it out and embrace the feeling of love for them♥ 0source record 3526
I can’t remember exactly but this is what it ment to me “Be happy for them they get to see everyone they ever lost and one day they will be there waiting to see you. So live and be happy your time on earth is not long embrace it. “♥ 0source record 3578
I’ve told myself the pain will never go away. You feel it lessen over the years, but I am just coping with it and managing it better.♥ 0source record 3588
Let it. Let it come & go.♥ 0source record 3597
I told myself to feel what I’m feeling but never to stay stuck. We are allowed to feel whatever we feel good or bad. Just let it come and let it go♥ 0source record 3601
Allow yourself to cry♥ 0source record 3620
Sit still in it, absorb it, don't push it away♥ 0source record 3630
At least for the next year, grief will hit you in the gut Hard when you least expect it. You get to feel all of your emotions when you feel them. You will be happy & mad & scared & tired & confused all at the same time. It is overwhelming & completely normal.♥ 0source record 3636
Allow yourself to feel the pain. Dont ignore it, don’t fill your days with errands an constant mindless running around to keep your mind occupied, allow yourself to grieve.♥ 0source record 3677
stay hydrated — let yourself cry and talk about them as much as you want♥ 0source record 3711
Sit with it. Let yourself feel it. Try not to numb the pain, it makes it worse ❤️♥ 0source record 3735
To allow yourself to feel it when it comes. Don’t fight the feelings. The more you do the stronger them become.♥ 0source record 3766
feel your feelings and keep doing grounding be around a safe person who u can be fully u and in ur grief to make sure you at least eat. moving water is ur best friend. remeber self care because your loved one would want you to be ok and thrive keeping their memory of them alive in how you move in life from here on. leave space for you to have time to break down and feel the sad. dont take on any guilt of the should have could have would haves its not yours to carry. be more present in your life and live it dont just exist even tho you think the latter is easier...is it really? choose your hard. have grace with yourself. everyone gives differently. no self destruction allowed, loveyourself the way your loved one would have done for u if they were there still. dont repress, focus on the good memories and lessons you learned from being with them on this side of the veil. know they will always be with you. have grace with yourself and be mindful of mental regression into old behavior patterns. you came out of them once and you will again. 🫂 im here in the trenches with you. everything feels like betraying them at 1st but its not♥ 0source record 3777
Don’t fight it, feel it.♥ 0source record 3786
just feel it, don't try to run from it or be ashamed, its nothing to rush away. let it envelope you♥ 0source record 3789
let yourself feel. cry. be mad. be happy. feel it all.n♥ 0source record 3842
Grief comes in the most unexpected ways. That’s it. You never know when it will it will hit. Lean into it.♥ 0source record 3909
just give in, don't fight it...just surrender.❤️♥ 0source record 3929
There’s no such thing as stages. You will feel it all at once, sometimes not at all, etc. It will always reappear, but as a different moment, person, etc. But grief means there was great love.♥ 0source record 3938
If you understand grief is coming, then wallow in it, roll around, let yourself feel EVERYTHING (it actually does come in stages). You’ll get through it easier. Pushing it away or ignoring makes it worse.♥ 0source record 3964
No body can see grief it’s comes and goes randomly but it’s reminds us that we’re human and our time is something we cannot ever get back . I was on medical leave for three months and I never thought I’d ever want to go back to work . I lost my friend to suicide and never took any time off when it happened . Whether you want to grief it will catch up to you . Let it come and go and it will always come and go somedays more than others .♥ 0source record 3981
Hurt. Die if you have too because you will die trying to not feel it.♥ 0source record 3984
The pain never really goes away, but the frequency in which you feel it will decrease. When the pain shows up it will still hit hard, and you will become used to it and realize you can and will go on.♥ 0source record 4035
Talk about them. Cry about them. Scream about them. Feel it all. You don’t need to be strong in this. I tell my husband a story about my mom or dad at least once a day because if something makes me think of them, holding it in makes it harder.♥ 0source record 4061
Out again. It’s a cycle . Let out/ suppress helped me get my mental back. I still have my moments but I had to show up for my 3 kids so this is what seemed to help♥ 0source record 4073
Let it all out. And then suppress a little then let it all♥ 0source record 4076
Don’t stop yourself from grieving. Learn to sit with it. Otherwise you rob yourself. They deserve to be remembered and you deserve to know how much they meant to you.♥ 0source record 4099
Sit in it. Don’t try to fix anything or change stuff around. Feel the emotions and let them pass. It’s important to feel the emotions before even beginning the healing process.♥ 0source record 4119
You are entitled to feel the way you want to feel anytime. Some days are ok and other days are harder. But if you need to cry let it out and if you’re angry let it out. There is no “perfect way” to grieve♥ 0source record 4161
Just allow it to flow out without completely consuming you . Curl up and cry from your belly often.♥ 0source record 4203
That grief demands to be felt no matter what! So make space for it♥ 0source record 4209
Cry! Be Angry! Feel Lost! Feel Wronged! Feel how you feel because no one feels the same way like you do, so let it out. don't hold it in, don't let it become you. breathe, and just let it out♥ 0source record 4213
I don’t think it was told to me… but feel it! Go through the emotions! Don’t fight them bc it doesn’t matter if it’s today, tomorrow, next year or five years from now… go through motions and let it! The void doesn’t go away…. It’s just gets a little easier to continue everyday.♥ 0source record 4227
"Lean into it. Its ok."♥ 0source record 4263
Feel it to heal it🥹♥ 0source record 4286
Give yourself the space and time to let yourself feel it. Suppressing makes it harder.♥ 0source record 4287
Sit in it.♥ 0source record 4374
“You are in the warmth of an old sweater. Feel it, hug it, and embrace all your emotions that it brings. One day it will get cold. You will move forward(not move on) with other sweaters that will bring you joy. “♥ 0source record 4451
Don’t be scared of it ❤️♥ 0source record 4541
Feel all the feels♥ 0source record 4590
To actually sit in it. To look at pictures and remember. Do it for 30 minutes to an hour. And then do your day. Things are definitely gonna come up, but you give yourself the grace to grieve. If you need to couch rot for a week do it. But remember our loved ones want us to also live while we’re grieving❤️❤️♥ 0source record 4611
Feel it, let it out, give your self permission to cry, and love your self♥ 0source record 4618
Don't fight the feeling. Feel it and let it go.♥ 0source record 4632
Embrace it like a last farewell to piece of yourself that is feeling its own death.♥ 0source record 4648
Let it happen....❤️♥ 0source record 4694
lean into it.♥ 0source record 4724
Absolutely nothing I just had to feel all the feels try to come to terms and move on so not 100% I’ve been OK. 20 years later my heart still belongs for the love of my life.♥ 0source record 4738
Don’t fight it. Just let the feelings happen. Let them go through your body. The worse thing you can do is hold in emotions.♥ 0source record 4778
You have to feel it to finally get past it. There are no shortcuts. If you numb it with drugs and alcohol, you are just postponing the pain. Don’t run from it, this too shall pass.♥ 0source record 4817
Love never ends. Grieve and feel the feelings.♥ 0source record 4857
Don’t be scared it will hurt too much. It will hurt a lot, but you have the capacity to feel it. And allowing yourself to feel it will allow it to change into something you can hold.♥ 0source record 4899
Walk through it. Dont just bypass it, feel it . It’s gonna be hard but it’s the only way you will overcome it.♥ 0source record 4916
cry intentionally put on a song in the shower or whatever is a private place to remember feel and cry and you need all those moments then you wipe your face and continue knowing you gave yourself a moment to feel your feelings and remember your person. ❤️never feel bad about getting help♥ 0source record 5021
grief means you're still alive to feel it, that is a gift♥ 0source record 5066
Sit with it.♥ 0source record 5100
When grief hits hard, sit with it and feel whatever it wants you to feel because it will always show up uninvited and without warning. You cannot run from it because it WILL catch up to you so when it shows up just sit with it. 💔♥ 0source record 5101
Do not hold on to you emotions. Let them flow through you no matter when they come up. Don’t worry bout who sees you. Let no one stop your healing because they’re looking at you.♥ 0source record 5111
let it out♥ 0source record 5113
Grief will find you unexpectedly in a melody of a song, a scent in the air or a glimpse out of the corner of your eye. Don't hide from it. embrace it, look it in the eye. It is all the love we can not give them any longer begging to be shared. let it flow over you, it is how we honor all they were to us while they were in this world.♥ 0source record 5148
treat grief as its own person. let them come in and have a seat but don’t let them stay too long.♥ 0source record 5154
to not hold any emotion in.. no matter what it is… let it out!!!♥ 0source record 5172
Grief is a continuation of love. All the love you were not able to show or share with them in the physical world. Let it happen, embrace it… continue to show your love and honor them in every way you can.♥ 0source record 5215
Embrace the grief don’t run from it enjoy the memories the moments let the thoughts of them be your light through the tunnel of sadness♥ 0source record 5239
I haven’t been given any.. But I can tell you this, talk about them. All the time. Even if you cry. Talk about them. Remember it all, and then feel it all ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 5307
I was 19yo, caretaker for my grandma with cancer. It was hard year, my boyfriend at the time stuck with me through all the highs and lows of taking care of her. When she passed I turned numb. That night I started balling, he rolled over and held me and said “let it out.. don’t hold it in” I’ve been married to him for 14 years. He still brings her up because he knows it makes me happy to talk about her even if it’s silly stuff like “don’t be jelly grandma taught me how to pick the good watermelons”♥ 0source record 5330
Feel it all. Every tear drop running down. Every pain in your face while crying. Every breath struggling to come out while your chest is hurting. Once you feel that, you can heal.♥ 0source record 5341
Love is energy.. it doesn’t disappear or dissipate. Feel it, embrace it. ♥️♥ 0source record 5347
give it space, as you give space for happiness, anger. do not rush it, do not suppress it, let it wash over you and break you completely and then breathe and know it did not kill you now, it will not be so bad when it comes to visit again.♥ 0source record 5386
Allow yourself to grieve and have all the feelings!!!♥ 0source record 5388
The angry phase is hard because it just sits there and you have to feel it♥ 0source record 5399
Feel it, don’t try to control it..♥ 0source record 5408
Lean into it. Feel every ounce of it. Let it come. Embrace it. Become friends with it.♥ 0source record 5434
Take it one day at a time, and if you can’t do that, take it hour by hour, allow yourself to feel the emotions hug more and remember to breathe.♥ 0source record 5483
“i have every right to go insane. just come back.” feel everything- sad, angry, depressed, etc. you’re allowed to feel whatever grief brings to you. just don’t let it consume you, and come back to yourself from feeling those feelings.♥ 0source record 5510
In the first days/ weeks-take it hour by hour and day by day with no pressure to heal or feel better. If there is ever a time in your life you have to just let yourself feel, it is now. I let go of time for a while.♥ 0source record 5519
go through every emotion and feel everything embrace each moment♥ 0source record 5531
Embrace it grieve learn and grow . After all grief is the way we show love to the person we just lost. Grieving is part of Love♥ 0source record 5549
Nothing in life is linear and grief will show up whenever it wants too. Learn to sit with it.♥ 0source record 5570
sometimes the only way is through. you should grieve but remember you control how long you feel it♥ 0source record 5628
let it all out 🙏 #Forever17♥ 0source record 5631
Don’t put expectations on your grief, let yourself feel it and be easy on yourself grief isn’t linear and never goes away♥ 0source record 5642
Let yourself feel it when you need to and don’t run from it. Let tears flow and your mind and heart to heal from such a painful loss.💜♥ 0source record 5644
Feel it all and allow yourself to grieve how you want to.♥ 0source record 5750
Just let it out! Don’t hold nothing in.♥ 0source record 5802
To lean into it.♥ 0source record 5817
Embrace the grief. Wear it proudly, like a medal! It's the proof of the deep love you shared and the price for true connection.♥ 0source record 5829
feel it now. I let myself feel every second so I wouldn't run the rest is my life. do not drink. u will be OK. u just will. feel it.♥ 0source record 5855
feel it. go threw the emotions. grieve. you will feel better♥ 0source record 5868
To let it consume you until it does consume itself. The more you let it happen to you, the faster it will get over you.♥ 0source record 5896
You have to sit in the pain.. don’t avoid it or pretend it’s not there. Then you can heal.♥ 0source record 5927
let go. see where life takes you instead of controlling everything about it ♡ let it happen for you not to you♥ 0source record 5948
When u need to cry, cry. Don’t bottle it up bc u will down♥ 0source record 5955
As everyone told me Don’t cry cuz then your parents will see you cry one said cry let it out don’t bottle it cuz it’s dangerous and boy where they right♥ 0source record 5989
the day it all suddenly happens that you have the break down. let it happen. because it's going to hurt you all of a sudden. grief lurks in and stays inside forever made me understand and i had my break down not once but several times . Missing my mother & brother, my auntie. my cousin. my grandmother. my mentor in these past 2 years. 😔♥ 0source record 6031
Don’t go above, below, or beside. Go through. Sit with it and feel it 🖤♥ 0source record 6057
Feel everything…. and rest.♥ 0source record 6076
Grief is tangible evidence of love. That love doesn’t die with the person. Take that love and spread it. It will feel different. It will feel hard. But your spark will catch like wildfire and the world will feel it. Don’t keep that love bottled inside.♥ 0source record 6096
Let yourself feel it. I’m glad I did. I think if I had tried harder to numb it, I would have missed out on a lot of those bitter sweet moments. Also, doing stuff to honor your loved ones on anniversaries was very important for me.♥ 0source record 6099
Just sit with it… don’t ignore it. Feel it, cry, let it go. ✨♥ 0source record 6239
Sit with it. If you can’t sit with it when it pops up make time to sit with it later that day.♥ 0source record 6262
feel it. feel it all. don't push it down.♥ 0source record 6284
Time, it’s gonna take time so let yourself feel what you feel. If you don’t you are going to elongate that time.♥ 0source record 6304
feel it all-♥ 0source record 6317

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What the pattern means: Crying is presented as a permitted expression of grief, not a schedule or test of how deeply someone cared.

What commenters described: If you need to cry it's okay too cry...take it day by day but cry when you need too!

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If you need to cry it's okay too cry...take it day by day but cry when you need too!

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cry as much as you can. let yourself grieve. eventually, you will realize you need to accept that you will no longer hear their voice or hug them. eventually, you'll get to used they are no longer here.

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Big girls don’t cry by fergie lol (I lost my big sister)

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If you need to cry it's okay too cry...take it day by day but cry when you need too!♥ 5source record 1120
cry as much as you can. let yourself grieve. eventually, you will realize you need to accept that you will no longer hear their voice or hug them. eventually, you'll get to used they are no longer here.♥ 0source record 1268
'its okay to cry'♥ 0source record 1284
Talk about them. Remember them. Allow yourself to cry it out. It’s been years and I still sometimes need a good basement sob for him, my so so loved and missed father in law.♥ 1source record 1288
grief comes and goes, don't hold it in, cry whenever you have to, laugh when you want, don't hold your life back♥ 1source record 1363
Don’t be afraid to cry. Be afraid not to cry.♥ 1source record 1498
It’s ok to cry♥ 1source record 1502
It’s ok to cry but you need to keep walking forward.♥ 1source record 1531
“It’s okay to cry because that’s just how much you love them” This helped me for weeks after trying to hold back because I was constantly told “don’t cry you have to be strong” it took just hearing that to feel an immense weight off my shoulders♥ 1source record 1599
Grief has no end because the love for my son has no end. It’s okay to cry and feel all the feels and you can have joy in one hand and sadness in the other. 💙You will be forever changed. Be good t yourself. They would want that.♥ 1source record 1654
Sometimes you will cry when you think of them and sometimes it will make you smile but whichever one it is, it just shows how important and special they were and still are in your life. 💕 💔♥ 1source record 1772
It’s ok to cry, it’s part of who we are! Crying shows love♥ 1source record 1777
Breathe and schedule times to cry♥ 1source record 1786
Rest when you need to rest, laugh when you need to laugh, cry when you need to cry.♥ 1source record 2138
Even when you cry, never stop smiling.♥ 1source record 2181
To cry whenever you feel like it. Where ever you are. Just cry and don't suppress it. Then quickly as you crying rembering them, think of a funny/silly memory of them. Your tears are sadness but you'll soon to bring yourself out of that sadness and appreciate the life and love associated with that person.♥ 1source record 2202
Force yourself to get out and do things you enjoy. Force yourself to be around people that love you. One step at a time. Cry when you need to and talk about the love you shared as much as you can.♥ 0source record 2330
Why do I always have to see posts like this and cry right before going somewhere?! 😥😥😥♥ 0source record 2532
Cry if you wanna cry! Laugh if you wanna laugh! Scream if you’re mad! Be silent if you want to be! Just be in that moment, don’t stay too long, Come back when you’re ready, I’ll be here.♥ 0source record 2557
Don’t cry because they are gone, be happy that you found your person and was able to create memories with them. Some people never find their person. You did.♥ 0source record 2729
“It’s ok to cry. You don’t have to be strong.”♥ 0source record 2761
There's no real good advice, We have are good days and bad days, like yesterday for me, watching a movie and i just started to cry after Bradley Cooper kissed De Niro on the cheek and said I love you pop!♥ 0source record 2762
Although you’re now in deep black pit, there’s so come a day when you don’t cry every day, you will smile and even laugh. This doesn’t mean you are forgetting your person. It means you are slowly starting to love again.♥ 0source record 2938
One day, the memories that are making you cry, will make you smile…….it was very true 💔❤️♥ 0source record 2958
"Don't cry so much your time will come and you will also die" from a 4year old child♥ 0source record 3003
cry if you must💔😞🥺🙏♥ 0source record 3062
It’s ok to cry , and feel what you are feeling♥ 0source record 3112
Cry when you need to, and screw whatever everybody thinks.♥ 0source record 3171
Feel the feelings! When you’re emotional, sit with it and let yourself experience the emotions. Cry if you need to cry. Be angry. Laugh. Whatever it is, you have to just let yourself grieve.♥ 0source record 3229
Cry when you need to. Laugh when you can. Rage when needed. They can all coexist at the same time. No one heals the same.♥ 0source record 3335
I don’t think I ever got advice about the loss of my mom. People just shared their experiences. One thing that is true a year after losing my mother is that the pain of losing her does not go away you walk around with this huge void, a feeling that something is missing. I still cry when I hear her fav song or any memory of my mother. 🥺♥ 0source record 3537
Feeel it so it can leave your body. Cry it out♥ 0source record 3690
Cry and allowed yourself to cry when you say, think, see. This can help your future self. One day you be able to smile when you think of them. Doesn’t take a week or a month, it could take years. But that’s okay, everyone grieving is different🫂♥ 0source record 3780
Cry for you but rejoice for them because they go do more for us where they are ❤️♥ 0source record 3862
Don’t listen to anyone that tells you not to cry… you cry as much as you want. It helps 🥹🥹♥ 0source record 3882
Don’t apologize to anyone when you cry even if it’s years later…it’s your trauma n loss♥ 0source record 3895
Give yourself permission to to cry as much as you want♥ 0source record 4007
It’s okay to cry and poop at the same time♥ 0source record 4019
“Your heart is broken. And when your heart is broken. You cry. Just cry”.♥ 0source record 4240
Cry. Dont try to be strong. Just cry as much as you need to. Hug your mom. Be with loved ones. You dont wanna do what i did when my brother and dad *illed themselves on my bday. I stayed strong for my mom. I didnt cry and now look at me. Im weird now. I know that im weird. I shouldve cried.♥ 0source record 4285
Cry cry cry don’t hold back. Get the feels out♥ 0source record 4298
shedding a tear because i haven't got any that has stuck with me yet 🥲 i hope one day..♥ 0source record 4333
If you feel like you’re gonna cry — DO IT. Cry as HARD as your body wants to. Otherwise it’ll destroy you from the inside out and you’re no good to anyone. If you don’t get rid of it, it’ll just come out worse next time.♥ 0source record 4421
Cry it out talk about them remember them all u can because they deserve to be thought about ❤️🙏🏻♥ 0source record 4547
It never goes away, neither do the regrets. But it's okay, pain is part of living, make it part of your thoughts, your actions. Be present, be kind, cry when you need to...so that you will have less regrets later.♥ 0source record 4602
Eventually the days where you think of them and smile will outnumber the days that you think of them and cry.♥ 0source record 4630
I’m going to fucking cry stop it♥ 0source record 4652
Some people say it’s ok, don’t cry but I say cry cry it out until you feel it’s enough crying and you start over again and again until you are better. Grief is long or short, we all have a time in our lives that it will eventually come to an end of grieving.♥ 0source record 4658
Big girls don’t cry by fergie lol (I lost my big sister)♥ 0source record 4670
It’s ok to cry. Wherever you are.♥ 0source record 4768
Cry when you need to. It doesn't matter where you are.♥ 0source record 4791
Cry all you want mama. It’s okay! ❤️🙏♥ 0source record 4794
Cry when the moment hits you to do so♥ 0source record 4818
It will continue to hurt. Just cry when you need to.♥ 0source record 4982
Cry when you need to cry for how ever long you need to! It is Ok!♥ 0source record 5027
Grief is a part of life, it’s ok to cry, scream and be angry. Just don’t stay there too long.♥ 0source record 5064
It’s ok to cry and feel the feelings. You can’t run from grief. It’ll find you. Just let it wash over you when it comes.♥ 0source record 5102
It’s ok to cry but remember your living to make her proud. Live the best life you can for her but more for yourself.♥ 0source record 5303
They tell mother who have lost a child to wake up and cry as much as you can in the morning and it'll help you cry a little less during the day.♥ 0source record 5318
cry as many times that you need to .♥ 0source record 5350
"Be prepared, you're going to cry a lot in front of people suddenly, and you won't be able to stop yourself"♥ 0source record 5625
Be as sad as you need to be... Cry it out , let your emotions take over ... You will heal...♥ 0source record 5711
Write letters to them. Cry when you can, and don’t hold it in. The first year without them is the hardest.♥ 0source record 5741
Cry when you must, hug, love, and appreciate your loved one’s a little more that are still on this earth♥ 0source record 5780
Cry……cry for as long as you want.♥ 0source record 5931
It’s okay to be a bitch just look good while you cry♥ 0source record 6069
Would they cry as hard for you? - Changed my whole outlook on life.♥ 0source record 6070
I figured out I just have to invite the suck not having Momma around you think it’s 60 years old that it makes sense that Momma doesn’t always get to stay here on this earth that people pass away and I’m even in Hospice industry and still can’t believe she’s gone. I just embrace the suck of not making her coffee in the morning not checking on her at night to make sure she’s breathing and has a blanket on her feet. I just let my little girl cry whenever my little girl needs to cry I want my tears put my mascara back on and get on with it.♥ 0source record 6161
Grief blurs words, but I’ll always remember who cried with me, especially the ones I least expected. The ones I thought would show up didn’t.♥ 0source record 6175
Grief is very difficult..so don’t be hard on yourself while going through it. Take as much time as you need until it’s absorbed as your new reality that what happened did in fact happen. Ignore the people who punish you for grieving. Scream if you need to, cry if you need to. But don’t stay there either after time give yourself tasks to get back into the world. Hugs 💕♥ 0source record 6183
One day at a time and that it’s okay to cry 10 years from now.♥ 0source record 6186
walk. just find some time to walk. get away and your body will share some dopamine. cry if you need. exhale♥ 0source record 6295
It’s easier to cry for a few minutes verses fighting it for hours. Cry when you need to. Whoever you lost was important to you and you must feel like their loss and just sit with it.♥ 0source record 6324

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The only way out is through43 index entriesThe only way out is through — 43 records
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The only way out is through

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Appears when: The only way out is through

What the pattern means: These reports frame grief as something a person has to experience rather than a problem another person can solve for them.

What commenters described: Grief is lonely. No one can save you. The only way out is through.

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Grief is lonely. No one can save you. The only way out is through.

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Don’t expect others to know what to say or how you feel, if they did that means they’ve been through the pain too… give grace to the ones who are showing up even when you don’t think you want it

posted about 39 days after the source♥ 0
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“You either get over it, or you get run over by it. The choice is you”.

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The exact phrase “no way around” recurs across 4 of the 43 source records in The only way out is through; the complete archive stays available below.

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Grief is lonely. No one can save you. The only way out is through.♥ 2,405source record 527
This!!! You can cry, talk to a therapist, whatever. The only way is to go through it and it sucks !!!!!♥ 1source record 532
people never know until they go through it, so I always try to treat others how I would want when I’m missing my brother. And that is so funny you say that about avatar because that was one of the last shows my brother introduced me to before he passed. He loved Korra! Thank you for being so kind and for being here💛♥ 2source record 878
The only cure for grief is to grieve.♥ 72source record 894
To go through it. Feel everything and you will have good days and bad days. 😢♥ 2source record 1368
Lean into your grief go through it…be thankful it’s is so hard because the love ease so big!♥ 1source record 1400
The only way out is through——-you have to eventually face that pain and feel it to heal 😭 I ran away from mine for many years♥ 1source record 1767
you must go through it to get through it♥ 1source record 1831
“The only way out is through,” which for me translated to letting myself feel all the feels. Trying to suppress the sadness won’t alleviate anything.♥ 1source record 1901
Go through it, do not skip it. Feel it all the way, but don’t stay there forever.♥ 1source record 1936
There is nothing to tell. We all go through it differently. Just know that you will be ok as hard as it sounds now. Go through the feelings and emotions.♥ 1source record 1963
Allow yourself to go through it, to feel it all. Yes it hurts immensely, but the pain is proof it was all real; when you love immensely, you grieve immensely.♥ 1source record 2038
No one told me but…don’t compare your healing journey- everyone is different. You can’t anylize it, therapy it, or swallow it away. You have to go through it. Accept your life has changed.♥ 1source record 2162
There’s no way around it, you have to go through it whether we want to or not… Also when it hits you, it hits and you have to feel all of those emotions in that moment, it’s very draining.♥ 1source record 2168
Don’t expect others to know what to say or how you feel, if they did that means they’ve been through the pain too… give grace to the ones who are showing up even when you don’t think you want it♥ 0source record 2315
allow yourself to go through the motions. it’ll hurt more trying to fight the emotions than it will to go through it🥺♥ 0source record 2652
Go right thru it there’s no way over♥ 0source record 3010
The only way out is through♥ 0source record 3053
Go through it feel every ounce of the pain.♥ 0source record 3145
its not anything anyone told me but something ive learned on my own: the only way out is to go through it. you've gotta feel it.♥ 0source record 3308
My best friend lost her dad at 12. I lost mine at 22, both unexpectedly. She met me at my mom’s house after driving four hours to get to me. “I’m sorry you’re having to go through this, but you have to go through it. There is no way around it. I’m sorry, your world is different now.♥ 0source record 3325
Go through It. One day grief and joy WILL sit in the same room together, but you don’t have to force It.♥ 0source record 3338
Grief is a long dark tunnel, and the only way out is through.♥ 0source record 3724
You don’t get over it, you get through it.♥ 0source record 3757
You can’t get around the pain.. the only way out is through… feel it.. laugh, cry, scream, tell their stories and share the best memories with anyone who will listen… that’s how they’ll live on.. also therapy♥ 0source record 3805
You have to feel what you feel until you don’t feel that way anymore♥ 0source record 3968
Absolutely nothing. I had to figure it out and realize that you have to let yourself go through it all, all the feelings and all the seasons. Time will make it more bearable.♥ 0source record 4055
When my dad passed, I didn’t cry at the funeral. I was so numb because his death was so unexpected. I had so much to do to handle his estate, but one day I was rummaging lazily through his stuff and came across his drivers license and I lost it. Absolute guttural pain. I would scream cry while driving. Grief is raw and it doesn’t ask permission. We are go through it. Just let it be what it is: All the love you still have left. 💔♥ 0source record 4080
I had a coworker watch me go through it for a couple weeks after a breakup- I had to take breaks to cry In private. Some moments I couldn’t stop grieving- even during a rush. He sat down with me after a shift one day- I isolated myself in a back dining room and had my head on the table trying to contain my sobs. He had a piece of freezer paper and two pens. He told me, ‘sometimes we are traveling through life’ and he took one pen and started slowly drawing a line. ‘ and sometimes we meet people along the way and for a while, they stay with us on our journey’ he started a line next to the first one with the pen in the opposite hand. ‘ but sometimes.. those people take another path..’ the lines separated. The first line continuing straight. My line.. the other drifting off the paper to the right. ‘ you don’t see it now.. but this person wasn’t meant to stay forever. And that’s okay..’ idk if it was the beautiful words or the way he calmly sat with me in my grief to help me understand my pain. But it really helped me let go.♥ 0source record 4084
You can’t go around it. You have to go through. And that path is different for each person.♥ 0source record 4125
The only way out is through. Working through the stages of grief and really sitting with those emotions is the most important work you’ll ever do, and the more you ignore them the more they’ll demand to be felt.♥ 0source record 4725
The only cure for grief is to grieve♥ 0source record 4928
depression is something you go through not something you live with♥ 0source record 4932
Time is the only thing that’s helps the pain of grief. You have to go through it and there is no way around it.♥ 0source record 5030
“You either get over it, or you get run over by it. The choice is you”.♥ 0source record 5085
Grief …..you can’t get over it ….you can’t get around it …..the only way is thru it♥ 0source record 5218
It’s normal to feel this crappy… at least for a while. Feel it. Move through the pain, not around it. Best of luck. 🤞♥ 0source record 5319
My mom died when I was in my 20’s. I asked her best friend if my mom stopped loving me in my teens and 20’s, when I was not so nice to her. She told me when I was a little girl, my mom could kiss away the pain in my life. As a teen and young adult, my mom could only love me through the pain so she loved me more. She understood me more than I realized and so she loved me more. As an older woman with grown children, it is something I carry with me. I love my grown children more because it is all I can do, is love them. I can’t kiss away their adult pain like when they were children, so I love them more. 💔🙏❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 5498
you can't go over grief or under it, u have to go thru it, but don't stay there. feel it, cry, then move on and find something to make you laugh.honor ur loved one by not staying sad. they would want you to be happy♥ 0source record 5738
not advice but someone told me through a recent heavy grief I experienced with the loss of someone close to me "Grief and pain are the price of admission!" everything worth having and experiencing will eventually end and it will hurt to go through it but its the price we must pay for the adventures and love we find along our journey. You dont know when the payment will be due, but it always comes and in time you will pay it again. was very much food for thought for me and it made me look at my grief differently because I'd pay it again knowing what I gained from my relationship I'd lost. it helped me feel and process my grief differently♥ 0source record 6026
It takes a loooooong time, there's no way around the pain. My soul is dead while my body is alive and breathing. I write letters to my sister and update her on the drama and sad times that are Halle jng without her. I signed up to grief share it's helping me every day!!!!! Go to Grief Share ❤️♥ 0source record 6037
Yes ma’am the way out is through it and no one can help you with that. It’s a one man show you yourself and yourself.♥ 0source record 6158
It’s a storm you walk in alone. Don’t use a crutch like alcohol to get through it, feel it and go through it. It’ll get easier, eventually♥ 0source record 6293

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Scream, drive, let it out of your body41 index entriesScream, drive, let it out of your body — 41 records
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Scream, drive, let it out of your body

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Appears when: Scream, drive, let it out of your body

What the pattern means: Commenters described crying, screaming, driving, or moving as physical outlets that gave intense feelings room to be expressed.

What commenters described: Grief is unique to each of us. Whether she brings rage, hopelessness, relief, sorrow, breathlessness or a combination of the aforementioned. She is always present and if you do not acknowledge her, she will kick the door down. The pain and anger,…

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Grief is unique to each of us. Whether she brings rage, hopelessness, relief, sorrow, breathlessness or a combination of the aforementioned. She is always present and if you do not acknowledge her, she will kick the door down. The pain and anger, or comfort that she brings with her is necessary. Do not ignore her.

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Honestly the best thing I was told was “feel it. All of it. Whenever you need to. Cry scream laugh cuss. Feel all the feels. It’s valid. And it’s yours”

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Use it…turn it into aggression and use it to move on and complete a goal, any goal

posted about 36.6 hours after the source♥ 0

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Well that punched me♥ 0source record 419
Nothing at we can do but feel and cry and scream and breath. Ugh. Im so sorry friend.♥ 3source record 530
Hi stranger here but wanted to check up on you how are you doing? I totally relate lost my dad 3 weeks ago and at first i felt the same I keep thinking something is wrong with me I feel all those emotions you mentioned & Wednesday we finished the 9 days of mourning rosary and yest I cried so bad I wanted to scream so bad I saw your comment dated July so I want to check on you 💖♥ 0source record 702
I'm really sorry to hear this. Some mornings are okay and others still feel like a punch to the gut- it's been almost 4 years. Allow yourself time everyday, but don't wallow. I give myself 15 minutes and then try to move through my day. I still write him letters in my notes.♥ 0source record 758
He is so right about it.. I wish I was told that too.. I was forced to not cry.. people kept saying stupid stuff that made no sense .. my mom was sick so they told me to shush to protect her but I just wish that I cried hardest that day I wish I that I could scream and just let it all out and its true I’m still stuck in that day.. now I want to scream on the top of my lungs but can’t cause it will make others uncomfy and they won’t understand what’s howling inside of me.. I wish I grieved my husband more thay day♥ 1source record 993
Grief is unique to each of us. Whether she brings rage, hopelessness, relief, sorrow, breathlessness or a combination of the aforementioned. She is always present and if you do not acknowledge her, she will kick the door down. The pain and anger, or comfort that she brings with her is necessary. Do not ignore her.♥ 7source record 1132
Be angry. Scream. Blame the world. Be sad. Cry. Just don't stay there. You already lost someone, you don't need to lose yourself too. They wouldn't want you to live like that anyway and you know they wouldn't.♥ 1source record 1196
Honestly the best thing I was told was “feel it. All of it. Whenever you need to. Cry scream laugh cuss. Feel all the feels. It’s valid. And it’s yours”♥ 0source record 1262
Not advice, but it was validating to hear someone say that the reason it’s hurts so bad is because your soul was tied, and it’s screaming out ❤️‍🩹. Felt like the pain was acknowledged for how deep it is.♥ 1source record 1352
It’s okay to let out the emotions you have,whatever it is. Cry,scream,laugh let it all out♥ 3source record 1459
You have every right to scream right now. As much as it takes. You owe no one poise. 🥰🥰🥰♥ 1source record 1878
in the very beginning: feel the rawness of your emotions. If you want to cry and scream and curse the world, do it. After getting “through” the raw, unfiltered darkness and pain, lean into yourself and who you are now. Because grief and loss change everything about you. You are not the same as before anymore. And that’s ok. ❤️sending love and light your way.♥ 1source record 2044
Scream! Go for a drive, blast that radio & scream.♥ 1source record 2068
What I tell myself… fuck the stages it’s a journey not a destination. It’s not a check list. It sucks, I am resilient. And sometimes I cry, some times I scream, sometimes I rage against it. Other times I’m quiet in a sunset, laugh at a memory, giggle as I hear his black humor. It’s been 6 years.💔❤️🖤♥ 0source record 2450
No advice but when my daughter and I held each other in our arms as we cried yelled and screamed when my mom passed that’s better than any words♥ 0source record 2540
“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. It’s just there, and you have to survive it. You have to endure it. Whatever happens to you belongs to you. Make it yours. Feed it to yourself even if it feels impossible to swallow. Let it nurture you, because it will.”♥ 0source record 2773
My advice: when your grief hits you, it doesn't always show up in the form of sorrow. Yes you're sad, but that rage you feel is also grief. It's all grief.♥ 0source record 2842
Allow yourself to feel every single raw emotion. Cry, scream, laugh. Never compare.♥ 0source record 2853
Give yourself the chance to feel every feeling in the moment you're feeling it. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to scream, scream. Even if you want to laugh, laugh. Grief demands to be felt... if you numb it, you're numbing yourself♥ 0source record 3008
scream & break glass♥ 0source record 3157
I’ve explained my grief as a muffled scream that most times I’m able to contain. I also remind my kids that their dad was so much more than his death. Always remember the good stuff and not just the moment they left us. Otherwise you make their whole lives about only their passing♥ 0source record 3415
Get in the shower, cry & scream…let it all out. When there is no more hot water, get out, get dressed & conquer the day. It has helped me soooo many times in 7 years!♥ 0source record 3467
Real life rules don't apply- eat the whole cheesecake, book a spontaneous trip, paint every room in your house, scream at the top of your lungs as long as you want to, sleep for 3 days... just do something, anything really, that feels right.♥ 0source record 3524
I hope this helps someone else who’s grieving. Years ago, someone who had lost a child shared something their therapist told them, and it’s always stayed with me. They said: When you’re grieving, imagine stepping into a locked room — a private space just for your emotions. Allow yourself to feel everything deeply, cry, scream, fall apart if you need to. Then, when you’re ready, step out and gently close the door behind you. You can return to that room whenever you need to. It’s a way of honoring your grief without letting it consume every moment of your day.♥ 0source record 3831
Cry, scream, laugh….do anything but hold it in or it will destroy you and they wouldn’t want that.♥ 0source record 3908
I remember screaming after my father died that I felt cheated. My ex husband said, "I never want to hear you say that again! Most people live a lifetime without a father like yours!" I never viewed it the same way after that.♥ 0source record 3993
Sit with it..sounds cliche, but it’s healing. Give yourself the time and find a place you feel safe at to truly break tf down. Cry, scream, rage, write it out if you need to. If you write it out, burn it after. It truly helps♥ 0source record 4041
Well it’s a quote from Scream 4 when Sydney told Jill “you know when people say “I know how you feel.” When actually they no F-king idea how you actually feel … I know how you feel.” 🥺♥ 0source record 4064
Grieve hard and honestly. Need to scream? Do it. Need to disappear for a few days to process? Do it. Don't shove the pain away, embrace it to help you heal♥ 0source record 4193
Use it…turn it into aggression and use it to move on and complete a goal, any goal♥ 0source record 4534
Allow yourself to grieve. Bawl, cry, rage. Then when that storm blows over, make yourself get up. Do SOMETHING. Anything. a walk, go for a drive, do a chore. Keep living. The storms will come and go in different frequencies, and power, but the minute you stop living and sit in the chasm of that grief and depression... the more impossible it will appear to get out of it again. keep living.♥ 0source record 5059
Sometimes it’s just a matter of making it through the day for your head to hit the pillow at night. And if that’s the most you can do it’s OK.♥ 0source record 5083
Memories now painful will comfort you again. You are tied to a universe that is temporary. Don’t rage against it. Know we continue as energy, on another dimension. Find your happiness again. That relationship served its purpose. What a wonderous thing! Good bad or indifferent…that person changed you. If it’s for the better or worse it’s up to you, you write the lesson plan.♥ 0source record 5368
cry yell kick scream and then let go♥ 0source record 5401
a friend told me "get in the car, play the saddest music you have, and scream. just scream until you can't anymore." as awful as it sounds, the day after I lost my husband of 14 years, that was probably the most helpful thing I ever did.♥ 0source record 5466
I heard someone say "Talk about it, if that's what keeps you here". and that has stuck with me. whatever keeps you here, keeps you somewhat sane, do it. scream. cry, hit something , break something, anything you want to do. DO THAT! and if ur not okay, stop saying it. don't let the fear of someone else being uncomfortable with you saying ur not okay, be honest. let's not walk on broken glass with people that don't understand.♥ 0source record 5641
To the friends or outside people: they don’t really need you the days, weeks, or even year of. That’s just an autopilot. When your person really needs you is the year they’re cleaning out the home, storing the heavy shit, yelling Into the void. Please check in your single people, we hide it the best.♥ 0source record 5899
My husband looking at me and telling me cry babe let it out scream I’m gonna be here holding u everytime ❤️losing my mom 7 years ago still hurts as if I just lost her a second ago😞♥ 0source record 5957
I screamed and cried until I couldn’t anymore. Then I cried some more. Somewhere in your sorrow, you accept it. Life continues even when your heart doesn’t 💔♥ 0source record 6063
Someone told me sit through it, don’t hold back, sit in your grief cry scream be sad get angry or sit in silence it will come randomly grief delays for some than others. You are valid on how you feel. I didn’t know her but she told me her experience. She understood what I was feeling♥ 0source record 6313
The best advice :Your love with your husband was between you two. No one has the right to belittle your grieving process. Take as much time as needed. Cry, yell, be mad, remember the good,the bad … feel it all.♥ 0source record 6332

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Sit in it — just don't live there37 index entriesSit in it — just don't live there — 37 records
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Sit in it — just don't live there

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What the pattern means: You’re allowed to go insane. Just make sure you come back ❤️

What commenters described: It’s ok to go insane… you just have to come back.

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It’s ok to go insane… you just have to come back.

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Grieve.. but don’t stay there

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No one has the same time frame how to grieve, take you time, cry and be sad just don’t stay there. You can visit but don’t stay there. Your kids and wife needs their father and husband.

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You can visit grief but you can’t live there.♥ 1source record 1182
Grieve.. but don’t stay there♥ 0source record 1253
Feel it all but don’t stay there forever.♥ 1source record 1416
You’re allowed to go insane. Just make sure you come back ❤️♥ 1source record 1544
you can “go there” in your head but you can’t “ stay there” ( that helped remind me that staying there too long wasn’t good for me 😔)♥ 1source record 1590
it may sound corney, but told your allowed your grief, but dont live there♥ 1source record 1597
its okay to go insane.... just come back 🙏❤♥ 1source record 1645
It’s alright to go to the dark places, just remember you have to come back to the light at some point.♥ 1source record 1796
It’s ok to go insane… you just have to come back.♥ 1source record 1824
Grief is a place you go to, but don't Stay there. Move at YOUR pace!!♥ 1source record 1892
You can’t run away from grief forever. Sit down and just breathe it in. Don’t live in it forever but you have to feel it from time to time .♥ 1source record 2207
Don’t get stuck in it. It will always be there if you need it. But don’t ever let yourself get stuck it’s like quicksand you might not have the strength to climb out again. Coming from someone who sat in it for years and now feels I wasted it all.♥ 1source record 2209
Don't stay in it too long.♥ 0source record 2644
“ It’s good to go through the emotions just don’t stay there. You have to get back up” 💔❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 2755
Not directed towards me but it was from a tiktok video. “You have every right to be insane, just come back”. I went insane, lost myself, drowned, became a shell of myself. But I came back.♥ 0source record 2806
Its ok to go insane…. Just make sure you come back from it 🥺♥ 0source record 2998
be sad but don't stay there♥ 0source record 3017
It’s ok to go into a dark place as long as you come back to the light again.♥ 0source record 3027
You were to focused on the past and the future. Maybe start presenting yourself. Mind advice, but its working for me.♥ 0source record 3175
“you have every right to go insane, just come back”♥ 0source record 3289
Grief is never linear. Allow yourself to have bad days but don’t stay in that♥ 0source record 3402
Do not stay for too long in any stage of grief. Don't get lost in it. It's so easy to stay mad or depressed. but we can't live there. we have to move on, as hard as it may be.♥ 0source record 3534
My own advice I learned through therapy. Don’t be afraid of the pain, grief, sadness, or hard emotions, don’t dull them, embrace them when they come up, but don’t live in them. When you cry, laugh, talk about them, you’re honoring them and what they meant to you. Never hide that.♥ 0source record 3600
Visit grief but don't make a home there. Don't live there.♥ 0source record 3722
“It’s okay to go crazy sometimes, just make sure you come back.”♥ 0source record 4130
“ Let grief visit, but don’t let it stay.”💕♥ 0source record 4475
you can lose yourself. you are justified to lose it. Just remember to come back.♥ 0source record 4483
No one has the same time frame how to grieve, take you time, cry and be sad just don’t stay there. You can visit but don’t stay there. Your kids and wife needs their father and husband.♥ 0source record 4559
My twin sister before she passed told me I know you’re going to grieve , but remember grieve but don’t stay there too long . Live !♥ 0source record 4800
You have to feel it to heal it. Sit in it. Accept it and listen to it. Speak it out. But remember don’t get stuck there.🩵♥ 0source record 5126
Don’t stay there ❤️🙏🏼♥ 0source record 5503
grief is a place we visit, just make sure you dont live there forever.♥ 0source record 5579
It’s ok to go insane just come back.♥ 0source record 5583
It’s ok to go there just make sure I don’t pitch a tent. So go ahead cry, go ahead be sad be depressed what ever emotion your feeling it’s OK but don’t stay in that emotional state for too long. So I will be sad I’ll miss them I’ll cry and then I tell my self ok that enough until next time.♥ 0source record 5585
I just a video yesterday where they said "It's okay if you go insane as long as you come back" and that was validating for me bc I'm going insane♥ 0source record 5651
My heart is with you!! Something I wish i was told is that you'll grieve during milestones they're missing out on, and to embrace the stages of grief, but don't stay in any stage for too long. ❤️♥ 0source record 5730
Sit in grief….but don’t get stuck in it.♥ 0source record 6340

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Anger is part of it too18 index entriesAnger is part of it too — 18 records
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What the pattern means: when the physical human body is gone, it is no longer bound by human emotions like pain, anger, or sadness. What remains is the soul — and the soul knows only love, pure and eternal love

What commenters described: Grief can come at any time. The stages of grief also don’t have to go in order. You maybe be angry then sad, then the next day just trying to make sense of it all. Feel the feels it’s okay to be down and sad just don’t unpack and live there.

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Grief can come at any time. The stages of grief also don’t have to go in order. You maybe be angry then sad, then the next day just trying to make sense of it all. Feel the feels it’s okay to be down and sad just don’t unpack and live there.

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when the physical human body is gone, it is no longer bound by human emotions like pain, anger, or sadness. What remains is the soul — and the soul knows only love, pure and eternal love

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These broke my heart, grief is being angry, wondering why, understanding, and constant memories that are happy, sad, etc. it’s such a complex emotion and so hard to go through

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when the physical human body is gone, it is no longer bound by human emotions like pain, anger, or sadness. What remains is the soul — and the soul knows only love, pure and eternal love♥ 1source record 1364
Grief can come at any time. The stages of grief also don’t have to go in order. You maybe be angry then sad, then the next day just trying to make sense of it all. Feel the feels it’s okay to be down and sad just don’t unpack and live there.♥ 1source record 1702
You’ll be mad at certain people but that’s cuz you’re trying to find someone to blame♥ 1source record 2146
"your tragedy is not their tragedy, your loss didn't happen to them and therefore their lives will continue as per normal, you can't be angry at them for going on with their lives"♥ 0source record 2306
“You are allowed to be mad”♥ 0source record 3877
Slowly discovering ive been full of grief and anger since getting engaged .. and now married , with kids. I picked someone that never even makes eye contact with me♥ 0source record 4056
Cry. Be sad. Be angry. Be whatever emotion you feel and cry.♥ 0source record 4095
It’s ok to have good days. And try really hard to honor all of your feelings as they come. Anger? Fine. Guilt? Also fine. Relief? Happiness? All fine.♥ 0source record 4166
be pissed off if you want, as long as you want.♥ 0source record 4381
It’s ok to be angry about it.♥ 0source record 4439
These broke my heart, grief is being angry, wondering why, understanding, and constant memories that are happy, sad, etc. it’s such a complex emotion and so hard to go through♥ 0source record 4492
Not exactly for me but a social worker Once told me that people grieve as they live. It helped me understand a very angry family who fought during the entire week and funeral. They lived angry. They grieved angry. This is just an example, but the idea of it can be very Informative. If you work with families or if you want to understand your own style of grief.♥ 0source record 4513
I hate grief! Absolutely hate it!!♥ 0source record 4620
Anger is an emotion. Feelings is an emotion. Only women make decisions based on emotions and feelings. So next time you’re angry and going to make a decision based off of anger. You gotta stop and ask yourself if you’re a bitch? Because only bitches make decisions based off of feelings. So, “get out yo feelings” you’re a man. “Lead by example and provide” the rest will follow 🙏♥ 0source record 5174
the accompanying anger will probably need its own grief 🥲 i was so resentful of all the things we missed out on and never got to do and letting that go was (is) its own journey♥ 0source record 5546
Give yourself a year (or longer)- a year of anger, being sad, lazy, stinky, a bad friend, selfish. I didn’t understand this when I was told this but that rest year was so helpful for my mental health to know all is excused bc it’s the first year♥ 0source record 5562
Why do I feel guilty or mad when Josh was friends are having fun carrying on with their lives and His is gone I’m getting angry♥ 0source record 5976
"I sat with my anger long enough until she told me her real name was grief."♥ 0source record 6231

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Faith, heaven and seeing them again526 records · 7 sub-topicsFaith, heaven and seeing them again — 526 records
Lean on God246 index entriesLean on God — 246 records
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Lean on God

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What the pattern means: Faith-oriented commenters described prayer, worship, and reliance on God as sources of companionship during loss.

What commenters described: When my mother was actively passing, I sang our favorite hymn to her. After, my pastors wife said this… it was if the angels waited at the foot of the bed until you finished singing to take her home.…

Limit: Be careful who you let repair your broken heart. It should only be God and you.

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Be careful who you let repair your broken heart. It should only be God and you.

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When my mother was actively passing, I sang our favorite hymn to her. After, my pastors wife said this… it was if the angels waited at the foot of the bed until you finished singing to take her home. I’ve never forgotten that…God was in that moment and allowed me to say goodbye. What a realization it was for me that He saw me and loved me enough to give that to me. Such a sweet God we serve.

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"she needs to go back" "maybe someone up there needs her"

posted about 56 days after the source♥ 0
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The last thing your loved one wants is for you to spend your life being sad. Have your moments when you need to. but live your life and find and spread happiness. I don't know about you, but I believe in God. I pray to Him for those I lost and ask for strength and comfort when I need it.

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Across 246 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (9 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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praying hard for you. lost my dad and my baby boy in a three month span. the grief is overwhelming most days. people don’t understand what it’s like to loose so much in such a little time.♥ 6source record 8
I can feel your pain through your words. May our Lord give you strength to get through this. I will be praying for you. Please don’t give up and keep pushing forward.♥ 1source record 15
Oh my gosh!!!!! I’m sending you all the love I can. I know it doesn’t help but please know I’m praying for you.♥ 0source record 21
🤮 with all due respect. Grief is the cruelest part of living. Yes she pushes her way in and then never leaves but the best part of dying (aside from meeting our Lord) is never EVER having that soul sucker intrude again! 😚 ✌️♥ 0source record 38
You’re the ONLY comment I’ve responded to. I pray you find healing, Angela.♥ 1source record 39
😢 beautiful words and so wisely composed, like a loving map directing you to greener pastures, like a greatful prayer showing up to save your soul. 🦋♥ 1source record 70
Good god, where do I even start? How about Abbey Gate to kick off this miles long list…♥ 2source record 304
🥹 && look at you! Look at God ! You’ve made it this far & you gon keep making it. Keep going mama 💙💙♥ 10source record 467
I pray you hear everything you need to hear & your heart heals from all pain💙♥ 1source record 468
❤️I pray for this♥ 1source record 565
I wish I had the right words to offer you that would comfort your heart. But, the reality of it is, it's just the worst kind hurt. Find your own time and way to say goodbye to him. Don't hold your tears in, it's okay to cry all day and all night if you need to. It's hard, but you'll make it through. If you need to talk, message anytime. I will pray for you, and I hope you are able to feel your Dad's love for you until your last day on earth. ❤️♥ 2source record 648
Thinking of you, prayers for you. We are all here for you ❤️♥ 1source record 663
So sorry for your loss. May the Lord bless and keep you and your family in this trying time.😢❤️♥ 1source record 664
I’m so sorry💔 I lose my dad last October. I feel all the same emotions as you do. Grief is the most confusing thing. My mind feels like it just can’t really believe he’s gone. Sending you hugs and prayers. If you need someone to talk to I am here 🫶🏻♥ 11source record 680
Sorry for your loss 🙏🙏 prayers and a big hug 🫂. 🥺♥️♥ 3source record 688
Because god puts a peace on you that the world cannot understand he’s see you and he’s with you 💜🙏🏼 I’m sorry for your loss♥ 0source record 725
I just lost my father recently too. It hurts so much. Never felt heartbreak like this. Prayers and thoughts for you and your family. I know how you are feeling.🙏😢♥ 0source record 737
I'm very sorry for your loss. God bless.♥ 0source record 749
Oh God. I’m sobbing. 💔♥ 0source record 807
I Pray every day, I go before a child goes first♥ 0source record 813
I just lost my dad on July 4th (still doesn't feel real) my prayers go out to you & your family♥ 4source record 824
When my mother was actively passing, I sang our favorite hymn to her. After, my pastors wife said this… it was if the angels waited at the foot of the bed until you finished singing to take her home. I’ve never forgotten that…God was in that moment and allowed me to say goodbye. What a realization it was for me that He saw me and loved me enough to give that to me. Such a sweet God we serve.♥ 71source record 896
I went to a grief share group and one thing stuck in my mind.... "We are all on loan from God"♥ 66source record 908
it took me a few months before I looked at it this way.. my daddy was so sick but he didn't want to die God had other plans💔💔♥ 0source record 930
Thank you so much. My sympathies to you, may your dad rest in God's embrace & I hope you are healing.🦋♥ 1source record 945
I’ll pray for your family 🙏🏼 . I don’t wish that pain on anyone.♥ 1source record 1050
I was warned it is a lonely journey and it is 😞💔 prayers for anyone grieving 🙏♥ 30source record 1067
When you have a tear for a lossed one, they are telling someone up there that you loved them and cared for them when no one would♥ 6source record 1115
Do you believe in God? Yes! Then your baby is fine.♥ 11source record 1142
When my brothers passed, I never cried in front of my little sister because she’d run away and avoid everything. So I stayed strong. For her. The funeral service came and my godmother hugged me and that’s when I broke. I cried all that I had held in. Afterwards this family friend came over and said, “That’s the first time I’ve seen you cry. It’s okay to cry. I know you’re putting a strong front for your sister, but she needs to see that’s it’s okay to grieve. Remember, tears are prayers too. They travel to God when we can’t speak.”♥ 1source record 1145
My husband died and I was stuck in anger and didn’t know what to do with it. My grief pastor told me it was ok to be angry with God. He could handle it better than I could. It worked.♥ 1source record 1201
Every time I think of my brother who passed, I Praise God and thank Him for giving my brother to me to grow up together.♥ 1source record 1212
Nothing, nobody helped me at all except God♥ 1source record 1213
"she needs to go back" "maybe someone up there needs her"♥ 0source record 1278
My dad is dying of cancer and he said to me “there will be a day when I don’t wake up. It’s in God’s hands when that happens, but I am not sad or scared. I have lived a good life.. Don’t be sad for too long. You have a life to live still and I will always be here for you, just in a different way.” 😭 It hits different when you hear it from the one who is dying.♥ 3source record 1347
I don't know what you are going through but I pray that God should see you through and just know that wherever she is she can't be happy seeing you in the state that you are in right now, I know I am not supposed to tell you this but just try to be the way you used to be that will make her spirit happy and rest in peace please 🙏♥ 1source record 1365
I’d lost my mom around that time and my god, it gave me SO much comfort.♥ 0source record 1393
✨Death is only the beginning, they walk besides us until we are willing to let them go...some return but others have completed their trials...we are spiritual beings in vessels of flesh and bone...interesting isn't that why everything living is sacred on this place called earth...✨♥ 1source record 1415
You’ll go through all the emotions & that’s ok..always lean into God he’ll give you the strength.♥ 1source record 1435
And another phrase that I enjoy, even though I’m not religious is not the day Satan♥ 1source record 1447
There is no explanation as to why or how God let this happen…thee only explanation is that God must have wanted his pure heart beside his…I struggle everyday wondering why God didn’t save him, but I know it’s not Gods fault…. So that’s the only explanation I can think of as to why He didn’t save him…God must have needed him more then we do💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔♥ 1source record 1475
Because they were part of your past, given faith in Jesus, you can look forward to them being part of your future in Heaven. Give yourself grace, you've never been this version of you before. Be the things you loved most about those who passed.♥ 1source record 1480
When I lost my dad suddenly after a car wreck the church pastor whom was also a good friend of my dad’s told me that my dad had been called ahead of us to prepare our castles in Heaven. 🥹My dad(papa as I called him) loved to build and work with his hands to create beautiful things. This was a small comfort. Hopefully your pain lessens a little each day. Your loved one wants you to be happy and not sad…♥ 1source record 1526
God will heal you when you least expect it! And he sure will ❤️🤲♥ 1source record 1551
Literally .. just pray♥ 1source record 1558
I was so angry with God for taking another person away & someone told me, “He has room for you to be angry.” That was the first time I also just allowed myself to have room for my grief.♥ 1source record 1560
I think nothing that was said but I finally grew a knew compassion for those I had not before. I never knew the depths of grief until I lost my mother. It was complex. She struggled with addiction and it shattered our relationship. I just wanted her to get better on this side of existence. I felt like a piece of me left. I learned to lean into my faith on the hardest days even when I could feel nothing. Still go and enjoy the things that bring you happiness even on the days you can’t feel. It will return and you find comfort in the joy that you knew such a great love. I am pastor who is growing a love to help other in recovery. My heart grew for them and now helping them has helped me heal too.♥ 1source record 1562
Yourself up and take care of your responsibilities (my kids) wipe your tears pray and always look your best♥ 1source record 1571
talk to God♥ 1source record 1589
Be still, and know that I am God. I am with you always, I will help you and hold you with my righteous right hand. ❤️♥ 1source record 1625
We were not designed to experience death/loss hence why it’s so overwhelming! It’s ok to grieve, Jesus grieved at the loss of his friend too.♥ 1source record 1677
Go to God!!! Pray constantly even when you’re upset, mad, anxious or confused. Ask for an encounter with Jesus! What you see as a loss is a gain in Gods kingdom! When you know Jesus your grief becomes joy because you look forward to the reunion in paradise!!! 🙏🏼💕🙏🏼💕🙏🏼💕♥ 1source record 1688
God picks the prettiest flowers first 🌺🥇♥ 1source record 1720
I'm not ready for this 😔 I appreciate God and the universe for keeping my family members alive ❤️♥ 1source record 1740
God lost his only son too. God knows exactly how you feel 🌻💚♥ 1source record 1753
Its okay to be mad at god, they have big shoulders and can hold your anger♥ 1source record 1778
You can’t go over, under or around it to find healing. You must go through. But, if Jesus is your savior and friend, you will be amazed at the comfort, strength and peace He will provide in His unending love!♥ 1source record 1806
If Satan can't break your integrity to God... he will break your heart. (backstory) I lost a 3 and a half month old. not a miscarriage. 3.5 months old. hope this helps someone.♥ 1source record 1841
Jesus♥ 1source record 1861
god didn't take them, he received them. ❤️♥ 1source record 1917
I have a profound faith in the fact that dying is going home. Once somebody passes over they never want to come back. They're surrounded by light and love and loved ones. Our time on Earth is just a blip, our time with our loved ones is a gift. They'll always be with you and you're never alone.♥ 1source record 1971
thats God's is close to the brokenhearted and those who are crushed in spirit♥ 1source record 2014
Read Job!♥ 1source record 2025
And when I thought of worldly things, I might miss come tomorrow, I thought of you, and when I did, My heart was filled with sorrow. But when I walked through heaven’s gates, I felt so much at home When God looked down and smiled at me, From His great golden throne. He said, “This is eternity, And all I’ve promised you.” Today your life on earth is past, But here life starts anew♥ 0source record 2052
I really was never given any advice, it was tough and at my lowest point and alone I prayed and that did it 🥹🥹🙏❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 2057
You can’t be selfish and wish them here. They are with GOD.♥ 1source record 2065
God Bless You and everything you are about.♥ 1source record 2129
JESUS was with him♥ 1source record 2139
Nothing yet. I think one day at a time, cry when you can’t go hold it in, do some things that once brought you joy, talk to God a lot, accept the life that is now, do things that would make them proud, do things that would honor them. Hope you find your way ❤️♥ 1source record 2140
God knows what I can handle and what I can’t handle. He is there.♥ 0source record 2217
Come to me. I will give you peace and rest — JESUS❤️♥ 0source record 2254
if anyone wants my pastor's sermons on grief let me know♥ 0source record 2272
Your loved ones memory is better blessed by your gratitude for their life then for any despair at their loss. Feel happy today and forever. Let them give you that.♥ 0source record 2276
Just let it all out and pray for strength♥ 0source record 2280
these comments are beautiful, I miss my friends so bad 🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️& prayers to all that are missing their loved ones as well♥ 0source record 2308
No llores hija … Dios será tu recompensor!♥ 0source record 2317
The Most High has a plan for each of us❤️♥ 0source record 2368
that God is the One who is taking care of my mom now...🥹🙏♥ 0source record 2381
Seek God! For he is close to the brokenhearted! 😭♥ 0source record 2399
It’s not your business or fault, their death is between God and them.♥ 0source record 2406
I lost my twin brother 3 years ago. It was a heart wrenching pivotal moment in my life. I can’t recall much from the months after his passing, but a few things that helped me through it; therapy, crying ANY time it came up no matter where or when, journaling, & when I often felt no drive, direction or purpose my therapist suggested a bucket list. I started making one each new season & it gave me something to look forward to. Any time I felt restless I would do something on the list. It also helped when I wanted to reach out to friends bc I had something in mind to do together & helped create new memories with loved ones. I don’t think we get passed grief but rather grow our lives around it. It’s hard to see at first, one day it won’t feel so consuming & cumbersome but tbh the heartache will always be there. I would sob bc i felt sm guilt to have any new experiences when he couldn’t; now I think ‘god he would have loved this, let me take this moment in for a bit longer’♥ 0source record 2426
I pray for you 🙏❤️hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m so sorry♥ 0source record 2431
Give it God♥ 0source record 2435
Jesus is the truth the way and the life♥ 0source record 2454
It’s ok to be pissed at God.♥ 0source record 2465
if you need to cry, cry. if you need to scream, scream. if you need to pray, pray. as long as it does not harm you or someone else, do it.♥ 0source record 2506
God never gives less, only more. I’ll never forget it or dispute it. He did.♥ 0source record 2528
“It’s going to be so hard, pray”♥ 0source record 2542
A good support system faith pray and OUR DEAR LORD JESUS!! 🙏🏼♥ 0source record 2566
go right through it - Angelina Jolie I did my best today - me♥ 0source record 2587
When my niece who I grew up with (we're almost the same age) died, I was so angry at her parents because I knew they didn't do their best to support her health. She was born with an enlarged heart, caused by an attempt to abort her during pregnancy but failed. At her funeral, the priest said that she was blessed to live that long because she was never meant to, considering her conditions. And that if God had welcomed her, that means she had lived her purpose. It may not be said to me directly but it felt like those words whispered to me to have some closure and be happy for her. From time to time I still dream of her being happy and looking so beautiful.♥ 0source record 2599
God doesn’t make mistakes 🥺♥ 0source record 2603
Someone reminded me that your loved one sees the face of god and how amazing that must be for the person who passed. My advice is to keep asking for God to lift your pain. It will lighten as you go. God bless🙏🏻❤️♥ 0source record 2633
I always say “Find peace in knowing they have already seen Jesus’ Precious Face. Something we all hope to see one day.🙏♥ 0source record 2678
A mother of a murdered daughter told me she use to be so joyful so happy- and then her daughter was murdered and she was beyond sad and angry for such a long time- she ended up praying to God and asking for her joy and her peace back and promised that if he gave it back she'd never give it up or alow it to be taken again. He gave it back and she's clung to it every since.... That stuck with me....♥ 0source record 2680
Lean on God, give it all to Him and surrender♥ 0source record 2764
Be careful who you let repair your broken heart. It should only be God and you.♥ 0source record 2783
Say these powerful words, "God I Trust In You!". It helps me. I recently loss my only son. He would have had his Golden Birthday this past June 22.♥ 0source record 2807
I understood who JESUS IS. ✨♥ 0source record 2881
I'm an Athiest now but I will say when my son passed I had someone tell me I was allowed to be mad at God...he can take it. I thought that was kind, because my religion never told me I could be mad at him. If you are religious you can be mad at God babe, he can take it. ❤️♥ 0source record 2891
Give your entire soul to God. It won’t cure the grief but it will it so much lighter to carry. 💗♥ 0source record 2919
Make a letter…brain storm writing and talk to God every time any time …💜♥ 0source record 2928
that God catches all my tears, and when I see Him face to face, he will return them to me as little diamonds♥ 0source record 2957
At the moment my mother died the room was still so still. I shared that with the Chaplin. I expected something, a rush of air, a flash of light, just something. She said, "Ah, yes that stillness is the peace of ended suffering,and anyway, God need not announce his presence, he's always here."♥ 0source record 2980
it was a tiktok actually. A girl lost her brother who lost his battle to drugs. it said "sometimes the Lord takes ppl who pray for peace." She dreamt that and it lifted her grieving and blame in God.♥ 0source record 2984
To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.♥ 0source record 3088
Don’t focus on earthly objects. Stay focused on God♥ 0source record 3153
I told myself this isn't the end. I believe in God and this is only a new chapter of a beginning of a new life, we will see each other again and I look forward to the time I do and spend eternity with them😔❤️❤️❤️brings me joy and peace. The Soul is forever and a life lived in a borrowed body. we all are headed the same way but a new chapter always begins. I believe in Paradise with Jesus.♥ 0source record 3162
A baby in a womb would never believe there is an outside world. They would never comprehend it. We are in that womb. There is a whole life outside of us with our loved ones waiting for us and praying for us, one day they will meet us, they are watching over us every second of the day.♥ 0source record 3187
not advice but was reminded that when our loved ones are sick and in pain we wish that it was us suffering and we ask for us to be the ones in pain and we are granted that prayer and they pass and it end there suffering and we feel the pain of there loss♥ 0source record 3188
Let go and let God.♥ 0source record 3256
Find the gratitude in everything. God told me this on one of my darkest days. So that’s what I did. Even when they were lowering my sisters casket into the ground I focused on how grateful I was that the gravediggers were so respectful and how kind they were.♥ 0source record 3259
No one taught me but I knew to sit as long as I needed, do as I please, honor the person, pray to them, ask for signs of them -they will show up-I promise. Ask and wait 3days.♥ 0source record 3284
Go to church and cry your heart out pray pray pray and understand the cycle of life what has a beginning has and end even though it doesn’t make sense at the time have faith in God and mother of Jesus♥ 0source record 3294
KEEP LIVING LIFE, yes it’s painful and it’s okay to cry and feel the pain…..you’ll miss them because you really REALLY LOVE THEM. That won’t change. YOU NEED TO KEEP LIVING, if you can’t do it for you then do it for Them . 🙏 The heart 💔 has a way of healing ❤️‍🩹 if promise it you will help in the healing. The only one way I could heal was I PRAYED All day through my healing, through my waking moments in silence and at home when I could raise my voice in pain😭 …….. I PROMISE 🙏 you will survive this 🙏🙏🙏 keep talking to GOD. God Bless you♥ 0source record 3362
Pray♥ 0source record 3379
Pray when you feel alone and empty.♥ 0source record 3448
There’s nothing sadder than the funeral of a baby. Her aunt said she found comfort in knowing our baby girl would grow up in Heaven with Jesus.♥ 0source record 3551
When praying ask for restoration of peace 🙏♥ 0source record 3634
pray♥ 0source record 3635
GOD is our ONLY help. 💪🙏♥ 0source record 3650
Pray a lot!🙏💝💃♥ 0source record 3701
God doesn't give us what we can handle, He helps us handle what we're given. 🖤♥ 0source record 3710
nobody gave this advice I choose to believe God will let me be with those I love for all eternity if I love him and believe. You have to have trials and tribulations to truly appreciate the good.♥ 0source record 3749
I used to tell my grandma I didn’t believe in prayer and now I pray to her, because I know she’s real.♥ 0source record 3762
You don’t have to go through hard things alone. Jesus is always there, cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. ❤️🙏🏼♥ 0source record 3764
It’s funny how so many people experience grief but yet no one knows how to tell someone else how to cope with it. Some days you’re fine and some days you’re not. When I’m really, really sad I talk to God and he makes it better♥ 0source record 3814
pray🙏♥ 0source record 3830
God didn't take him. God received him. ❤️♥ 0source record 3833
Pray…thats all I remember. Coming up on 10 years my Dad passed. Never, ever imagined it was this hard. It still comes for me and I let it💜♥ 0source record 3861
that you can pray for any moment, past or future and that your prayers will help those in need when they need it. So even if your friend was scared when she passed you can pray 10 years later and be with her at that moment. IDK it made me feel better..I pray for her in that moment every day♥ 0source record 3863
Honestly, there hasn’t been anything spoken to me that has been helpful. It’s sad. I must trust the Lord for comfort. People just don’t know what to say, ever.♥ 0source record 3894
God will cure your pain!!♥ 0source record 3959
I was sad because I didn't think my nephew would go to heaven after he committed suicide. A friend to me God lets who he wants to in heaven 🙏🏽❤️He was an amazing kid so I know he's with the Lord #ridetheWave ❤️♥ 0source record 3985
I have seen grief as evil and I have been stuck in a negative tumultuous downward spiral for the last 8 yrs. I’ve been suicidal because the emotional and physical pain became unbearable. I was on a 5 day suicide watch. That was my rock bottom, luckily I was selected to go on an all expenses paid, retreat to Alaska. During this retreat someone told me “You’re not here by mistake. The peace you seek is in god. Let him in.” It was true, I was so angry at god and life, but my heart and eyes are now open to him. God has begun to give me the peace I desperately want and need. 💕♥ 0source record 3987
Honestly I was isolated since in the outside everyone thought I was strong but in reality my father’s death broke me! I had to learn that it’s okay if they don’t understand as long as I grieve all the love that I’ve never shown him through videos,pictures, or simply praying on my own and allowing God to cover me in grace❤️🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 4018
God will test your faith thru grieving.♥ 0source record 4105
That it’s okay to grieve. Allow yourself time to mourn but don’t let yourself stay there. Have someone you trust that you know can pull you out. I also spent a lot of time in prayer and was honest with God with how much I was hurting. Praying that whatever you’re going through that you will find peace and comfort ❤️♥ 0source record 4110
Best advice is to allow yourself to go thru it. It's ok to go thru all stages.., and multiple times! PRAY - God knows what you are going thru! He said walk thru the valley- don't stay stuck! Find blessings- there are blessings all around you! It doesn't feel like it sometimes- but there are blessings! 🙏❤️♥ 0source record 4140
“Jesus wept.” It was so humbling for me while grieving my loss to know that even the God of the Universe can feel as low and I do… it’s okay to grieve and part of being alive. 🥺♥ 0source record 4162
my grandfather took his own life and I was distraught. until someone said.. remember that our Lord is a forgiving God. that made me understand that grandpa was in heaven.♥ 0source record 4177
Grief never ends… but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, or lack of faith. It’s the price we pay for love♥ 0source record 4210
cry and ask God to help you and miracles still happen♥ 0source record 4218
When I remember, I tell God thank you for that person. Because I loved them. And I miss them deeply. I had a friend call me Sis tonight. Just like my dad would. I teared up and went for a walk.♥ 0source record 4251
I made peace with them being at peace! I had the worst meltdown after my uncle passed away & one day I heard God speak this to me!♥ 0source record 4270
When my son, John, passed away, my aunt, who is also an Angel Mom,told me I “never have to feel an ounce of anger or lose an ounce of faith.” I was also told in a grief workshop that my son still lives on, but in a different form, and I now have the honor of being the narrator to his life story. ❤️♥ 0source record 4307
Felt grief for the 1st time losing my Aunt in Dec. Pray for them daily and God will make sure that they know you miss them. He will lead them to heaven.♥ 0source record 4340
I lost my dad to cancer after he was diagnosed 2 weeks prior to passing. It hurt me so very bad. What got/gets me through is understanding how selfish it is of me to wish he was still here. His suffering is over and his wish to be with God in heaven has been fulfilled. Also I talk about him every chance I get bc he lives on in my memory.♥ 0source record 4344
I lost my family when I was 17 and a stranger slipped a note in my pocket at the funerals it read “I go through what I go through because God asks me to”. I’m a surgeon now still have the note♥ 0source record 4346
Death is a punishment but God’s promise that we are not abandoned and shall return to his/her loving embrace♥ 0source record 4354
that God will never give you anything more than he knows you can handle! 🙏♥ 0source record 4358
The best advice was not in words but an experience of a lion’s dose of acid. I went within myself and understood everything. We are all one and we are with God….never apart.♥ 0source record 4468
Don’t question yourself for all what you did for that love one. When you do that you’re questioning god and you know you aren’t suppose to do that.♥ 0source record 4484
To follow Jesus ❤️♥ 0source record 4523
What if every time you think of them, it's them tell God all the wonderful things about you? 🙏🥰 This is what my advice is. ❣️♥ 0source record 4566
None really… my heart is completely broken I feel so sad and no one to tell bc it’s been 4 years without my momma but to me it replays over and over again and most people think you still talk about it for attention but that’s the last dam thing I want I just want my mom back sooooo bad I wish I didn’t exist 💔💔💔💔 like really… it seems that god doesn’t exist here my best friend once said that and she passed 5 years before my mom passed and I miss them both sooooo terribly and no one but me knows how I feel bc I’m also high functioning depressed and no one knows. I’m slowly dying inside 💔💔💔 I wish I could kill my self but idk how to when I have a son and a gf that needs me so I feel like im here selfishly just for them but for my self I don’t want to be here anymore 💔💔💔♥ 0source record 4579
Pray♥ 0source record 4584
Doubt doesn’t come from God. Everytime you think I should’ve said this or done more or been there that is the devil attacking your weakness. God does not send you feelings of doubt. There’s a hope and happiness if you know you’ll see you’re loved one again in Heaven♥ 0source record 4599
Allow God to comfort your broken b cause His saids He is near to the broken hearted♥ 0source record 4677
The last thing your loved one wants is for you to spend your life being sad. Have your moments when you need to. but live your life and find and spread happiness. I don't know about you, but I believe in God. I pray to Him for those I lost and ask for strength and comfort when I need it.♥ 0source record 4690
And put your bare feet in the grass, close your eyes and look at the sun. We all get here!!! We ALL DO!!!! We are human!! You are amazing everyday you wake up on the right side of the DIRT!!!!!! I am struggling everyday and I see you ALL, You ALL, and PRAY for you all always ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 4742
when is was going through my divorce of 19 years. my wife to my kids a left. I laid im my drive way for abou12 hours. my best friend pulled up to check on me. I told him ,I just don't understand how she could just give up so easily. He told most people wasn't raised like us. they never went through the hardship and bullshit we went through. so they never really knew how to love and hold on to the ones you love. at that time I thought it was the end of my world. much later I found someone else that really appreciates me and makes my word truly whole. in never would have ever found my heaven Iran is didn't go that heart break. thank you to my friend to my beautiful wife and Thank you lord.♥ 0source record 4745
Remember you get to pray TO her … no longer FOR her.💕♥ 0source record 4769
Hitting my lowest point after my husband's passing God had him stand in front of me saying what are you doing? live your life stop grieving for me I'm with Jesus be happy 🙏♥ 0source record 4788
Its not advice it was more a different perspective. I was told that when someone's life is taken to early it could be because God was saving them from something in the future that would make them suffer.♥ 0source record 4811
Sometimes things seem so bad and that you can’t finish the day, but they will truly get better as days go on the grief for the pain will be less to stay positive and know that God has your side and you have to believe you have to believe♥ 0source record 4821
everything is in God's hands♥ 0source record 4840
ive pushed everyone away, i only have my wife and kids, but i know if anything should happen i couldnt image life its self without them. so i always ask god to take me first cause theres nothing after them.♥ 0source record 4896
Fear and faith cannot live in the same house.♥ 0source record 4939
Just try your best. If your best is crying all day then do it. You have to learn to re-live with your loss. Only you can navigate this journey. Lean on God.♥ 0source record 4965
Pray for signs from God, little reminders of your loved one. Such a comfort & blessing.♥ 0source record 5010
This to shall pass. Be still & give it to the Lord Jesus Christ, the one who’s been with you even when you turn away from him. He never left you & he won’t ever forsake you.♥ 0source record 5015
God chose YOU to be her mom… no one else💜♥ 0source record 5037
God told me he is close to all of us especially the broken hearted.♥ 0source record 5076
Grief is a gift from god, time will settle the pain but the grief never leaves. The memories stay forever♥ 0source record 5120
Make sure your longings for love are in order….Turn to God first, then you, etc. no human being can satisfy all your longings.♥ 0source record 5134
your grief won't be like anyone else's. its so WEIRD. Give yourself GRACE without a time stamp❤️Lean on Jesus. He is near to the brokenhearted♥ 0source record 5157
God is there when bad stuff happens, I felt his presence when my dad passed away♥ 0source record 5166
Turn to god♥ 0source record 5189
grief can bring someone closer to creator it's traditional to ask the grieving to pray for others .♥ 0source record 5225
They are in a place they can help you. Just talk to them and see .. I was told this at my dads funeral (at the time I was angry at the person because to me alive next to me is where his advice and more can help me) but this is so true… have faith♥ 0source record 5256
God’s redirection for where you deserve to be.♥ 0source record 5257
Someone brought me to the story of Jesus and Lazarus. For some reason it gave me peace knowing, Jesus too, wept for his loss of a friend. Grief is raw and human, a gift we have to grow with and embrace.♥ 0source record 5276
“God must have a needed a good buddy in Heaven.” A friend said this when I lost my brother unexpectedly. I was like…yeah…you’re right. It was an enlightening moment. ❤️♥ 0source record 5313
I celebrate my little girl’s life . She was a blessing from God . Died of cancer at age 7 . So blessed to have been her mother . She had the love of Jesus in her heart. 🙏🌸💕♥ 0source record 5337
Jesus is Love, Savior and peace. With him all things are possible. Through him we are giving Eternal Life with God. Bless you all.♥ 0source record 5358
To be absent from the body is to be with the Lord♥ 0source record 5360
None but I have advice 😌 hold on tight to God.♥ 0source record 5387
What did NOT help me & stuck w:me is that “God only gives us what we can handle”!!!♥ 0source record 5389
And the Lord replied my child. I will never leave you. During your times of trial. When you see only one set of footprints, it was then that I carried you.♥ 0source record 5397
Let Go Let God♥ 0source record 5403
Although painful and hard. God promises to bring them back and he remembers every small detail about them and will bring them back to the person you knew and loved. ❤️♥ 0source record 5406
find peace with God let him help you read the word go to church i thank God for keeping me when i couldn’t 🙏❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 5409
From A Funeral of Sid’s. The priest said “there are reasons we just cannot understand, it’s ok to blame God. His shoulders are strong enough to take it. He understands and loves us anyway”.♥ 0source record 5439
I was told to trust Jesus and talk to him asking for strength and I did….i felt stronger …grieving is a process that truly never ends …it’s the price we pay for LOVE ❤️♥ 0source record 5462
God tells me with grief I will comfort you🙏🏼when grief comes to remind me the what it did to my heart. I let it know God is in control because he created me. I’m stronger than you!♥ 0source record 5478
When we go through trauma and eventually find a way to find PEACE, that is a gift from God. If we can find peace in grief, we can find it anywhere. Just remember how you found it.♥ 0source record 5508
Rather than ask why this person was taken away, ask why God gave them to you in the first place .. of how much God loved you enough to know that person♥ 0source record 5515
When my son was going to turn 6 yo he was runed over by a drunk driving couple. Drs said there was nothing more they could do for him and for hubby and I to prepare. I was allowed to see him while they practically had him and another little boy on the death bed. I saw him breathing and I prayed and talked with God while I sat next to him holding his little hand. God did something in me that instead of crying I stood up and demanded my son be transferred to another hospital immediately. Thank God this other hospital were able to do surgeries on my son and he lived. He’s now 21. But till this day I cry and cry when someone brings it up . So I don’t care anymore of crying in front of people. I feel like I’m healing ❤️‍🩹 slowly but healing 🙏. Pray you heal but it’s ok to cry at a random day 🙏♥ 0source record 5516
Don’t ever put a question mark where god puts a period♥ 0source record 5522
If you’ve lost faith in god, pray to your lost one. I pray to my son everyday and it is so heartwarming to know he’s up there taking care of everything ❤️♥ 0source record 5527
My Mother Gently told me when My 25 year old son was UnalivedI That when we are Born God assigned us all,and regardless of how we leave, My sons assignment was complete ,It Gave me some comfort, I hope it can comfort others,During such a difficult time 🥰♥ 0source record 5544
press into God, press into nature, adopt a dog♥ 0source record 5575
Don’t ask GOD for strength ask him to be your strength it’s a difference.♥ 0source record 5584
Give it to God and trust him. You’re not alone♥ 0source record 5599
Jesus is here with u ❤️🙏♥ 0source record 5604
Talking to Jesus 💯♥ 0source record 5613
This wasn’t for me but I heard someone say that the world is too evil a place and God felt that child was too precious to be here. And I felt that to be so real. This precious child was spared the world’s reality and was allowed right to Heaven♥ 0source record 5623
I’m tired of feeling strong when I personally know this has broken me. I wish I had 12 years later right now verses the end to the beginning of this now. I’m existing only because I keep waking up. I feel nothing other than this feeling. I feel trapped inside my mind. It’s like playing make belief while dressing eating working smiling and breathing. Nothing feels the same. I’m not happy even when I’m seen with a smile. I sleep more. The anger I feel. my silence and loneliness is not loneliness and silence because my mind and heart keeps reminding me he’s gone and my heart reminds me I’m not. I hate feeling a need to be hugged but scared of dumping compressed feelings .so I’m quite. I have faith but I’m still human. Right? Im fighting and wishing this bag of hurt would just pass while fighting not wanting to forget U as it does. The cape I have always worn is not red any more it has holes seamstress would have to patch up and the strength it once possesses doesn’t give anymore . None of this feels right..I have forgotten too breathe while being force too. Like u wasn’t supposed to leave. You were my big brother and u left Us. U always called me when u needed me. Why didn’t u call me I would have pleaded the best of reason’s why not u .. time in the past is all I have. One day at a time is a full time job of trying to escape. It’s crazy that death isn’t a thought till it’s a thought cause I never thought to think it would be moving in again. Like seriously just escaped 15 years ago and this go round Iit’s winning…again.. and it hurts. Smile♥ 0source record 5640
God didn’t take them because he dosen’t love you. He took them because he also loved them.♥ 0source record 5664
Grief is just where love is that can’t be expressed…but God knew we needed them as a Guardian Angels to get through this next chapter in life. They’re with you wherever you go.♥ 0source record 5677
Trust in God…He is with you, you’re not alone🙏❤️♥ 0source record 5682
Cry as much as you want when ever you want… you have loved the way God wants us to love each other .♥ 0source record 5686
God does not allow anyone to be born or die without his permission 🦋♥ 0source record 5694
It helps to talk to them, pray for them, and send them your very best wishes wherever they are. Also, acknowledging that just because they are not here physically doesn't mean they don't exist.♥ 0source record 5695
I know this isnt the question, but why can’t God take the murderer, or the child molestor instead of the good people like my husband, or like the poor children in the hospital fighting for their lives??? When these poor children should be out enjoying time with their friends!!😢😢💔💔♥ 0source record 5751
I wasn't given any advice or comfort. I was left to grieve alone so instead I pushed it away and from time to time it hurts so much I have a meltdown and ask God why I can't go with her (my gramma...she was my best friend)♥ 0source record 5788
I can't think of any. I held God's hand and continue to grieve every day in some way. A reminder of reality is always jolting. love you always Ma💛♥ 0source record 5799
put it in God's hands🌹🥰♥ 0source record 5818
Keep asking God for signs they are okay & he will do that. Just pray and pay attention. It’s comforting 🙏♥ 0source record 5821
it was to myself, the best advice for me was to " embrace the grief." keep my father the Almighty in all my steps. Jesus carries me.♥ 0source record 5828
Even Jesus needed a moment to grieve when John the Baptist was killed 🙏❤️💙♥ 0source record 5843
After losing my mom who was my last parent my faith helped me so the thing that bought me comfort was knowing she wasn’t in pain anymore and with my dad in Gods presence of peace together. 🙏💙😭💔♥ 0source record 5861
I’m sorry for your loss my prayers of Gods love and comfort because grieving never stops days are up n down with it I begin living life to my fullest making them proud to keep going in my walk with Christ and life 💙🙏🏽even missing that big part of you♥ 0source record 5862
God Always says, "You've Got This one, too & I've Got You" 😘🤗🙏💙 Hugs & Kisses to You 😘🤗❤️💙💙💙♥ 0source record 5875
God knows exactly how many days we will live, so no one dies one day sooner than planned. This world is not our home 💜♥ 0source record 5889
When I lost my dad I was devastated. I couldn’t stop crying. I told God I couldn’t do it on my own, and fully trusted in Him and he got me through it. He gave me comfort and peace like I cannot explain♥ 0source record 5893
When my mom passed, yeah it did hurt. I ask Jesus to help me with my grieving and he gave me peace beyond what I could've imagined. Thank you Lord♥ 0source record 5894
Seek Jesus.♥ 0source record 5939
never really got advise but im glad I have someone on earth to share 2 very special angels with 🥹🥹 long live Jaden and Cynthia 🤍♥ 0source record 5945
Every time you dream of them , say a prayer when you wake. That was a visit they did for you.♥ 0source record 5980
see Jesus Christ and pray♥ 0source record 5987
Pray.♥ 0source record 5988
You are allowed to go crazy after this. You just can't stay there. Someone reminded me how blessed that person was. That I grieved the absence of them and that meant they were loved while they were alive too.♥ 0source record 6077
That you go through it not around it. Grieving is linear. Your pace. Prayer for peace and contentment is essential.♥ 0source record 6088
Self taught- but if god asked me if I knew what the outcome would be would I do it over again and i would say yes! Finally figured out we’re all going to pass and we get to be in pain but WHAT a gift that out of all the ppl on earth, we lost those esp the ones too soon out of the millions of ppl, we GOT to have them! I’d loose everyone 100x over to love them all over again in a heart beat♥ 0source record 6178
I wasn’t. Other than being told “it’s ok to be angry at God rn”♥ 0source record 6187
It’s really not advice. It’s about making a connection with God. If you’re not a believer, open your eyes and ears and your time will come. when it does, no advice can get in between that energy. Peace be with you.♥ 0source record 6206
Pray , pray pray 🙏♥ 0source record 6207
Take it 5 minutes at time and work your way up. 🤍 what is God showing your spirit not your flesh? You can only control yourself and your thoughts. Your are strong and courageous ❤️. Breathe it in and out. You got this! Prayers and hugs.♥ 0source record 6229
Affirmation that the reason it’s so hard is because I was so blessed to have someone that is so difficult to not have here anymore♥ 0source record 6268
It will be ok God just wanted another angel in heaven 😭😭😭♥ 0source record 6292
Just being reminded that God is close to the broken hearted helps me tremendous ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻♥ 0source record 6312
Don’t expect anything from anyone. No one will ever understand. Just be- you, grief, the tears. Get a grief counselor. God has been my only strength when everything and everyone else failed me. If they don’t know grief, they won’t understand that you died that day too.♥ 0source record 6328
Take just a moment and imagine your daughter is seeing the face of Jesus right now 😢🙏♥️♥ 0source record 6330
When you truly give your grief away to the lord you will learn to live again. Realize Grief is your friend to truly grow. 🥺♥ 0source record 6333

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That she’s not gone she’s just gone ahead of u she’s ok 🥲🥲🥲💔💔💔💔

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That the time with your loved one was a gift. Be prepared for where you’re going to go when you pass. We are all eternal beings. Where will you spend eternity? John3:16

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I love this. My sister passed a few months ago. She was my best friend. I know I’ll see her again. I just miss her so much.♥ 0source record 279
My heart is with you. I lost my father in March … one day before his birthday. Not a single day goes by that don’t think of him . I cry less , can’t wait till I meet again at his new place in the heavens 💔♥ 0source record 716
I'm so sorry for the heartache you're feeling. One comment that I saw and loved "He's not gone. He's just gone ahead of you."♥ 0source record 743
Every day for me, is a day closer to her🩵♥ 0source record 809
That she’s not gone she’s just gone ahead of u she’s ok 🥲🥲🥲💔💔💔💔♥ 876source record 852
10 years ago this was me when I lost my son and I needed to hear this but instead I kept getting stop crying your not letting him rest. His gone let him go. But I grieved & still grieve cause his my son and I continue missing him and loving him until I see him again. God was and still is my support. I pay no attention to what anyone else thinks.♥ 2source record 912
It was a song that comforted me The song conveys the idea of life, death, and reunion through the lens of reincarnation—suggesting that those we lose (especially loved ones) never truly disappear. Instead, they return in other forms (memory, nature, or future lives). Rather than focusing on grief, it emphasizes the eternity of love,there is “No true goodbye, only see you again."♥ 1source record 1177
Live each day as a day closer to joining them instead of each day as one more day without them.♥ 1source record 1186
I read somewhere that when you find a dime randomly it’s your people on the other side letting them know they’re still around. I find dimes very often♥ 1source record 1199
Watched Near death experience videos and it gave me a calming feeling knowing that the other side is so beautiful and how no one that experienced a NDE wanted to come back to their physical form…made me at peace with death and knowing my grandpa is so happy up there and his energy never died, his shell only expired 🤍♥ 1source record 1200
"we grieve and believe that one day we will see them again " essentially believing we will see them in heaven♥ 1source record 1237
You’ll see him again♥ 0source record 1275
I always think about life like this " we are humans on a planet out in the middle of a solar system, don't tell me that it's not possible that we won't get to see them again" 🥺😭♥ 3source record 1318
They just went ahead to save you a parking spot.♥ 4source record 1326
When I finally started having moments that I wasn’t overwhelmed with grief, I felt so guilty because I was “moving on” and how could I move on when he meant everything to me? I told myself that I’m not moving on and forgetting him. I’m healing so that he won’t have to worry about me anymore and he’ll be at peace knowing that I was going to be okay until we meet again.♥ 1source record 1397
Youll see them again soon enough♥ 1source record 1537
You’ll see them again♥ 1source record 1621
Every sunrise I wake up to, is a day closer to being with her again…♥ 1source record 1646
My sister died 6 years ago. I just always say she’s beat me to the place I’m headed. I’ll see her again someday. ♥️♥ 1source record 1675
“Don’t hide it, live it, feel it, walk through it.” Didn’t make sense a the time, but it is so true, it’s the only way to make it to the other side.♥ 1source record 1749
Picture grief as a tunnel. You have to move through it. As hard as it is…feel everything. Don’t numb it. Your feelings will guide you to the other side.❤️♥ 1source record 1818
Your forever will be when you meet again. Look up they are everywhere as the cool winter breeze blew the branches softly it was then I felt a calm. Then my brother hugged me when I felt so alone and unseen with the unbearable pain. We’re never alone even when it feels like it 😢♥ 1source record 1821
as someone who doesn't believe in a higher being, I was told souls reincarnate close to each other throughout theyre different lives.♥ 1source record 1922
you’ll see them again one day.♥ 1source record 1972
You have to let go of him on Earth. I know it was hard to say that and even harder to receive it. But it somewhat stopped the "what ifs"♥ 1source record 2148
“Live a life so full so when you see her again you can tell her all about it” 🥺🥺♥ 0source record 2239
“Don’t be afraid to ask the one who has passed for a sign that they are OK and on the other side. I bet you will get it”♥ 0source record 2287
“Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before. How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!” - Henry Scott Holland♥ 0source record 2337
I don’t believe that anyone ever leaves you. They are just in the next room and we will see each other soon enough.♥ 0source record 2344
That this is not forever until we meet again......♥ 0source record 2372
Don’t skip anything, feel everything, come out on the other side better.♥ 0source record 2440
Advice from my dead dad from a psychic medium. "Stop thinking of me from when I was sick or my final moments. I'm busy up here. I'm playing catch with my dad. I'm going to the beach. I'm happy." We focus so much on the bad when they pass. But the truth is, they are living their best life on the other side and they're with us through all of those big AND small moments in life. Remember the good times, that's how they want us to remember them.♥ 0source record 2486
Often we say that Christ will meet us on the other side. That is true, of course, but misleading. Let us never forget that He walks with us on this side of the curtain and then guides us through the opening. We will meet Him there, because we have met Him here. - Erwin Lutzer♥ 0source record 2511
someone said after my dad died suddenly when i was 17, “now live a beautiful radiant life, so when you are reunited in heaven you can tell him all about it.”♥ 0source record 2545
It was a write up here on TikTok ,it said remember they didn’t leave us behind the just went ahead♥ 0source record 2598
Death is not the end. 🙏🏼♥ 0source record 2641
It’s not a goodbye just a see you later♥ 0source record 2715
I had someone tell me that you’ll begin to miss the beginning painful grief because somehow you feel closer to them during that time and there’s a grief in that. There’s a book called “the year of magical thinking” that I read in college. It’s a great book. But I love the idea that grief will have us believing in magic again - even if for a short time. ✨♥ 0source record 2744
im one day further away from when I last saw them, but one day closer to seeing them again ❤️♥ 0source record 2778
"Live your life to the fullest so that you have something to tell them about when you finally meet again"♥ 0source record 2987
One day you will look at the sky and have conversations with him"- It was true. 5 years later I do that but I don't miss my boyfriend less. I still let my heart believing in the possibility that one day I see him again calling me "Baaaaaaabe".♥ 0source record 3015
Don’t be too sad. It’s a short walk to eternity 💕♥ 0source record 3018
...healing comes from the other side.♥ 0source record 3023
As much as u want to isolate yourself, don't stop loving/ seeing the people who genuinely love and care about us who r still living on Earth. The pain will never go away, allow us to feel the emotions, be sad and cry how much we want to. But never do any harms to ourselves, our deceased love one would hate to see that. Use the energy to create something beautiful and meaningful in our life. When our mission is over we will reunite with our love ones.♥ 0source record 3033
death is not the end ...♥ 0source record 3087
“She was probably the daughter in y’all’s last life.”♥ 0source record 3102
Grief is not the end. It will get better. Then worse. Then better. It will become a smaller part of you. One day at a time. When thats too much one hour. Or one minute.♥ 0source record 3131
I haven’t gotten good advice or anything like that but as I go on in life grief definitely hits me all the time. I could be in a store and find mug that says best grandpa ever or go into a store and find a shirt that has a clover on it. Anything that reminds me of my grandpa either through music or a man that looks like him. Grief is always there but I just have to remind myself that he’s gone but he’s not gone from my memories and that I will see him again. I can always talk to him about anything and know he’s listening. He was my father when I didn’t have one, he was my mentor, he taught me so much and I’m just so happy I got to live a life with him. 💚♥ 0source record 3240
Not advice I received but came had an image of me meeting my ancestors after I passed, and didn’t want to be a mess when I met them.♥ 0source record 3297
Not advice but I've come to the realization that grief is an acknowledgement of an afterlife. I've always believed in one but grief confirms that we aren't just cells. That pain is still there till the end of our lives.♥ 0source record 3305
“I will go to him. But he will not come back to me”♥ 0source record 3339
You will be reunited one day 😞♥ 0source record 3426
I always think of the last line Eliza sings from the Hamilton the Revolution musical by Lin Manuel Miranda. "Oh, I can't wait to see you again. It's only a matter of ~time~."♥ 0source record 3493
My granny told me that one minute she was playing in the backyard with her sister next minute her kids were grown with kids of their own next she was 93. She said it goes that fast so don’t waste time crying over me because it will be the blink of an eye and we will be together again. She said live and spend every minute I can with the ones I love. I do miss her and I do cry sometimes but I don’t stay there because I want to honor her wishes that I live and love while I’m here.♥ 0source record 3513
believe that they are ALWAYS with you & can be with you in more ways from heaven - than they could be down here 🙏🏽🤍 I've grieved my mom for 13 years, now grieving my dad from just last year. They both didn't get to meet my first child & won't be there to hug me at my wedding...but I wouldn't trade our entire lives together for anything. I find peace knowing my dad is reunited with my mom. I pray we get to be a family again in every lifetime..🤍♥ 0source record 3545
He always loved seeing you happy. He will see you later.♥ 0source record 3576
My therapist told me to imagine that she has reincarnated into the most HAPPIEST life…and just hold onto that image♥ 0source record 3641
No one will do it for you. no one will do the dishes, walk your dog, pay your bills. No one will do it for you so you can’t let the grief stop you from living your life. It’s part of the journey not the end of it.♥ 0source record 3668
Im sorry girly 🙏🏻 CJ is resting one day you will be reunited with him.♥ 0source record 3692
I honestly find peace in knowing that my mom isn't devastated that she left. when I see her again it'll be as if she blinked. I was 15 when she passed away now I'm 30.♥ 0source record 3708
“Your mom isn’t in your past she’s in your future” About joining her in the afterlife.♥ 0source record 3721
We are all going to die someday, so every day that passes by, is one day closer to being together again. ❤️♥ 0source record 3812
Now you have someone on the other side, who has your back, whenever you need him…♥ 0source record 3848
The most comforting thing I heard in the beginning was that every day that past was a day I was closer to seeing her again. Closer to our souls connecting again♥ 0source record 3866
Grieving is your soul feeling the distance separating two souls that have love for each other. It’s proof you’ll reunite. Feelings are real.♥ 0source record 3867
It’s just a farewell, until we meet again. Maybe up in heaven, maybe in another universe, but will be united again, it’s just a matter of time. I’ll wait you if you promise to be right there waiting for me!♥ 0source record 3879
It’s not your fault, nothing you could had done differently, if you tried. It was their time, You can’t make heads or tails of it. Everyone of us has a time, and we don’t know how it’ll end, but one thing is 💯 certain, it will end. We’re all heading towards the same fate. Every day is a blessing. Remember them, rejoice in knowing them, celebrate them and what they meant to you. Until you see them again.♥ 0source record 3896
Everyday is one day closer to seeing them♥ 0source record 3912
You will see them again, love them enough to let them go.♥ 0source record 3943
The same time that moves you farther away from the last moment with him is the same time that moves you closer to seeing him again 🤍♥ 0source record 3998
me to me, we’re all dying and i will see them later.♥ 0source record 4148
None. I’ve learned that grief will always accompany you. Grief becomes part of your day to day. Randomly popping up unexpectedly. You eventually learn too deal with it….somewhat. Most important thing to always remember, and understand is that we were blessed to have spent the time we were given with our loved ones….beautiful memories that will always be cherished. Miss you mami and papi 🥹🙏🏻 until we meet again♥ 0source record 4207
As a Christian: “They’re alive, just in a different world. A world that is eternal”♥ 0source record 4369
To be strong and know that you will see them again.♥ 0source record 4389
I cried, screamed, and let it out. But I know there are people waiting for me on the other side. I still.miss them terribly but you learn to cope and you learn to cover the pain and keep moving until one day you realize the years have passed and you've survived. sweet memories are all that are left. so make the most of time you have.♥ 0source record 4426
The grief and pain we feel through loss pales in comparison to the joy of the reunion♥ 0source record 4549
Don't ever forget the the good times!! Cherish them!! Place pictures all around your home and every day when you look at them say "until we meet again" and have our party in the heavens. 🥰♥ 0source record 4564
Each day we live is one day closer to seeing him again, 💕♥ 0source record 4577
My husband died when we were 30. It’s been so hard on me. And our 7YO. Souls travel tg. We will see them again in the next life 🥰♥ 0source record 4580
They just went before you. Its gonna be a long time till you meet again but hold the peace youll meet again. It still doest help fill the voids.♥ 0source record 4583
That the time with your loved one was a gift. Be prepared for where you’re going to go when you pass. We are all eternal beings. Where will you spend eternity? John3:16♥ 0source record 4626
you're loved one doesn't want to see you sad, why does your journey stop, when they are happy, truly happy and your sad, you will be with them again in a minute, they are waiting for you in heaven. be happy and share notes later.♥ 0source record 4719
Everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok then it’s not the end♥ 0source record 4727
There isn’t any you have to grieve I’ve been grieving for my mother for 35 years I just want to see her again I think of her everyday and cry often♥ 0source record 4770
Nothing no one can tell me anything this is something i have to go through to get to other side 😞♥ 0source record 4805
“She’d never abandon us in our earth lives which means she’s not going to abandon us in her afterlife.” - my sister to me after our beloved grandma/mom died.♥ 0source record 4844
I was crying asking my dad for a sign. I asked in my head, “how about show me a bear in the yard?” And a thought popped in….”how about a groundhog?” I wiped my tears, then walked to the other side of the house and looked out the kitchen window. There, in the yard 10 feet away, was a fat groundhog.♥ 0source record 4874
Make sure you know where you are going when you leave this world. I can’t wait to see him again in heaven.♥ 0source record 4888
There are no shortcuts. Have to go right through it. Feel it. When you come out on the other side, you will be different.♥ 0source record 4911
It’s not the death that’s hard it’s the living without them. That’s the hard part moving on, but it’s ok because we have to keep moving in order to see them again. If we don’t we won’t get to be with them. Don’t stop living because you really stop loving and they wouldn’t want that.♥ 0source record 4913
As my 19 year old cousin who was more like my brother died of cancer (10 years ago tomorrow) he said “this world is just temporary. Our life after this is for eternity. So if you get to be 100, just know that life afterwards is forever and that is something every year here on earth can’t amount to. I will see you again, and it’ll be forever. Never forget that.” 🤍♥ 0source record 4972
This is only temporary. Thats what helps me through it. I will have eternity with my family♥ 0source record 5017
Grief is unexpressed love we have for the dead person. When we love someone we are never ready to let them go. All this grief inside is the unexpressed love I wish to give them. I feel the feels and wait until I see them again.♥ 0source record 5058
" this is only a temporary life kiddo...you'll see them again later down the road"♥ 0source record 5069
You are never alone, you are connected to your loved one through love and memories, always. It’s not “goodbye”, it’s just “see you later.” They will be waiting with open arms when it’s your time to join them on the other side. ♥️♥ 0source record 5129
We can’t fully appreciate joyful reunions later without tearful separations now. The only way to take sorrow out of death is to take love out of life.♥ 0source record 5131
when my mother passed I wanted to go be with her.😭 a friend of mine said what if I took my own life and there is no heaven/afterlife n I still don't see her. I stopped focusing on that immediately♥ 0source record 5143
Were all heading for the same place he just beat you there❤🦋👑✨🙏♥ 0source record 5187
That they haven’t left us. We just can’t perceive them easily (but we could if we tried and listened and looked for the signs). But they are right there- Hearing, feeling, seeing every word and action. They know when you think of them. Often when they pop into your mind randomly, that’s them thinking of you and sending a memory. They want us to be happy. They are more alive once passed than we are here on Earth. We can also still talk to them. When we have a conversation with them in our mind, they are really there. Time there is different than here. 60 years here may only me 3 days there. They don’t stress because they know we will see them again in a blink of an eye, and they know they never left.♥ 0source record 5294
To live a life worth telling them all about when you get to see them again 🤍🤍🤍♥ 0source record 5348
that energy cannot be created or destroyed and that death is not the end, we all return to source♥ 0source record 5364
Better to have spent a short moment than to have spent an eternity without them.♥ 0source record 5369
When my mom passed, my uncle came over to me and sat next to me… we sat in silence and then he looked over at me and said “nothing in life is forever, no one lives forever, you’ll be reunited with your mom again”♥ 0source record 5444
I miss my son everyday, I heard time is different in heaven. what a second is in heaven, is a life time on earth. so by the time he arrives he will turn around snd and I will be right there behind him. together again forever 💓♥ 0source record 5558
I have learned that the hardest part of losing someone is the guilt. The guilt that I didn’t treat them right or say the right things or I could have done something to prevent their death. But I’ve learned that I have 0 control, that their fate is already written before I came and I was doing the best I could with what I knew at the time. We a lot of times don’t understand so much before someone passes and then we recieve clarity afterwards and that is not our fault! Forgive yourself if you’re having a hard time with guilt and realize their death we have no control over, it’s bigger than us and we definitely will see them again. I also believe when people pass they really are still with us, just in a different realm. Hugs to you 🫶🏼 in therapy I was told to write a letter to them, I wrote one to my mom who was killed by DV and I didn’t think it would matter but the whole time I wrote it I cried and I think that helped release some of what I needed to get out. There’s no shame in crying it’s healing ♥️take that space and heal love♥ 0source record 5576
“She is not in pain anymore, she runs healthy in the afterlife. She will always live within you and is part of you. You will always be her daughter” It was so hard to let my Mother go but I had to be selfless and let her rest. I will never not grief her loss, forever heartbroken- big hug to you ! 🫂❤️♥ 0source record 5614
Imagine they are in an assignment for work in another country, you will see them again.♥ 0source record 5719
At this point, nothing has helped me but just writing the person I lost. I will see her again but in the meantime it’s hard.♥ 0source record 5756
For me, Earth is a school and we are only here to learn to ascend so when someone I love is called home and I mean our real home, I find comfort knowing they have graduated and I have this deep knowing I will be reunited so it always I’ll see you soon but not yet! I talk to them like they are here just like I do with Jesus. It’s a life changer to know this is just an experience we are having♥️♥️♥️sending prayers light and love♥ 0source record 5824
"every day that passes you are one day closer to hugging her again"♥ 0source record 5876
I tell myself that I will see him again when it’s my time & if heaven isn’t real at least I won’t feel this pain anymore.♥ 0source record 5950
“This life is a journey and not the end we will see our loved ones again” my father’s best friend told me this at my dad’s funeral😞 I know he is with me because the blood that runs through my veins is his. May God rest your beautiful soul Yabba Allah yr7am rou7ak♥ 0source record 5951
That process gives you a terrific insight into their lives and helps you gently go through the grieving journey. I’m finally on the other side- I’m the elder now. Leave notes, journals, and “Easter Eggs” for your kids in your things!♥ 0source record 6080
Hurt. Cry. Scream. Feel all of it. We can’t get to the other side of loss until we feel every single part of it. It’s okay to be mad, hurt, hate, rage… it sucks. Feel the suck. We don’t heal until we finish hurting.♥ 0source record 6225
My 5 year old son said, “Don’t cry Mommy.. you’ll see him again when you get to Heaven, remember?.. “ 🥹😭🥰♥️🙏 I’ll never forget him saying that..♥ 0source record 6288

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What the pattern means: Some commenters held relief and sorrow together when a loved one's death ended suffering they had witnessed.

What commenters described: My dad was in so much pain and so sick when he passed. That I felt a sense of relief when my dad passed 💙I think he was telling me he’s ok…And most of all he was not in pain anymore. I will always be a Daddy’s girl forever and always.💙💙💙

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My dad was in so much pain and so sick when he passed. That I felt a sense of relief when my dad passed 💙I think he was telling me he’s ok…And most of all he was not in pain anymore. I will always be a Daddy’s girl forever and always.💙💙💙

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Everytime you think about them it’s them talking about how much they loved you in heaven

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I can’t say that I’ve ever gotten advice during grieving, only sympathy. I may have had it a little rough when I was a kid, but that made me a strong adult. I’m at peace with that and actually prefer it.

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May I write this and give you credit?! ♥️Today is my dad’s first heavenly birthday. This made me cry ❤️‍🩹♥ 14source record 28
The first time I began to feel at peace with my grief was when I realized exactly this♥ 0source record 249
My dads was on the 31st! 😔 may they rest in peace♥ 3source record 646
Show up as you need to but remember how much he’d love to see you show everyone the strong daughter he was so proud of. ✨ Sorry for your loss. I miss my dad everyday and went outside after a while, took my shoes off as he would and said thank you to everyone on their way out because being inside was just too much for me. May your dad rest peacefully while you find your own peace in life moving forward. 🕊️♥ 1source record 665
I loss my mom 3 weeks ago. I Felt numb angry sad relief she is not in pain any more confused but mostly numb I tear up here and there but i don’t think I have grieved yet♥ 0source record 762
My dad was in so much pain and so sick when he passed. That I felt a sense of relief when my dad passed 💙I think he was telling me he’s ok…And most of all he was not in pain anymore. I will always be a Daddy’s girl forever and always.💙💙💙♥ 51source record 928
When you go into heaven, the first thing you'll hear is mommy 😔🥹💜♥ 29source record 1048
"Life has to end, Eddie. Love doesn't" The quote is a lot longer and one of my favorite quotes from “The Five People you Meet in Heaven” great book and movie!♥ 15source record 1070
They are in a better place♥ 1source record 1176
that this physical life is merely a dash on the line of enternal life, you will see your loved one again. we'll all be in our best physical form and there will no more pain, no suffering.🙏♥ 4source record 1204
It’s ok the loss of someone but let them rest in peace.♥ 0source record 1276
All the tears I shed for them are simply the leftover love I never got to show them on this side of heaven 😔♥ 1source record 1433
Don’t be sad for too long. Their soul won’t rest easy. Let them rest in peace, if they could comfort you they would but they can’t. Give them the peace they need by taking care of yourself♥ 1source record 1470
My dads first heavenly birthday was on the 11th. He would have been 60. Instead of being sad, I pictured him having his first birthday party with his parents in a long time. He lost them young, and I’m sure he missed celebrating with them.♥ 1source record 1479
Some one told me it would make him sad looking down from heaven seeing me fall apart without him 🥺♥ 1source record 1501
the suffering is over and now she is at peace♥ 1source record 1513
I was told if you were in a garden, would you pick the prettiest flowers or the ugly flowers, then they said, that's why they picked the best ones to go to heaven when you loose a loved one.♥ 1source record 1574
They aren’t in a better place. They are in the best place.♥ 1source record 1678
heaven must be a beautiful place because nobody wants to come back.♥ 1source record 1948
“Get up we are only putting her body back to earth her soul is in heaven “is what my mom said to me the day of my baby girls funeral, 😭😭😭 RIP my beautiful 8 year old daughter 😔🕊️🕯️💕mommy misses you♥ 1source record 1949
I know how much you love me, As much as I love you, and each time that you think of me, I know you’ll miss me too. But when tomorrow starts without me, Please try to understand, That an angel came and called my name, And took me by the hand, and said my place was ready, In heaven far above, And that I’d have to leave behind All those I dearly love.♥ 0source record 2055
I haven’t been given any good advice. Just told to go to therapy as a teen like I even knew how to figure that out to begin with. Blasting Angels On The Moon & Heaven by Noon alone in the car helps some days 🫶🏻♥ 1source record 2119
“ I know you don’t believe in a heaven. There is nothing wrong with that. In time you will find what works best for you in grief. Don’t let others try to control your grief.”♥ 1source record 2141
Every time you think of your person it’s them talking about you in heaven 🥺❤️🙏♥ 1source record 2152
Everytime you think about them it’s them talking about how much they loved you in heaven♥ 0source record 2237
my stepdad who raised me just passed from ALS 0n the 12th of this month .. i guess the best words i was told was knowing he’s at peace now .: he struggled a lot through the end . it’s a cruel disease♥ 0source record 2279
not advice but it was comfort.... shakespeare's 'cut him out in little stars and he will make the face of heaven so fine that all the world will be in love with night and pay no worship to the garish sun' 🥰💔♥ 0source record 2329
Everytime when they come to your mind and tears start to run down your face it is because they talk about you in heaven!♥ 0source record 2360
After I miscarriaged, a coworker messaged me and said "and when it is time for you to meet her in Heaven, you will know it's her..."♥ 0source record 2389
You can finally live in peace 🙏♥ 0source record 2404
I didn’t get any. From anyone. I lost my Mom at 15 and my brother in 2024. I began taking way better care of myself and stopped drinking. With a clear mind and stronger body, I can process losing them and learn how to deeply love from Earth to Heaven. ❤️♥ 0source record 2469
Rip sister …. She’s on vacation in heaven 🤍✨✝️💖♥ 0source record 2556
They never get a chance to miss you- Time moves so slow in heaven…So as they are just getting to the gates, staring in awe at the beauty before them, we end up right there next to them before they even realize they had gone first♥ 0source record 2613
There in a better place and worst they aren’t coming back 😞♥ 0source record 2649
" you gave birth to an angel"♥ 0source record 2658
Do all the things that they dreamt of doing while they were alive that they never got to do! My mom always wanted to go to Hawaii and after she passed I took her ashes to Hawaii. So not only did she get to go, her ashes are now resting in paradise amongst lava rocks in Maui. 🦋♥️♥ 0source record 2702
They’re not suffering anymore. Simple but true! 💓💯♥ 0source record 2847
Knowing that they’re free and at peace! 🫶🏼♥ 0source record 2870
Life a life you will be proud to tell her about when you see her in heaven 🫶🏻♥ 0source record 2874
I need to do good on Earth so I can be with them in heaven 🥺♥ 0source record 2965
' his spirit won't be at peace if you keep on holding on to him. let him go."♥ 0source record 3004
"Maybe some kid in heaven needed a dad to teach them how to fish and make a fire" after my husband passed away.♥ 0source record 3052
Your father and mother have more power in Heaven than they ever did on Earth. 🙏♥ 0source record 3104
My grandma always said that she couldn’t wait to get her new heavenly body. She couldn’t wait to be young and healthy again and to see everyone that she’s missed for so long. It wasn’t hyperbole. It has given me great comfort to think this way when I lose people. I imagine them in their happiest existence. I don’t think they miss us but they’re always with us.♥ 0source record 3150
There could be worse things than your children (with a rare disease) going to heaven early. It’s a hard truth.♥ 0source record 3249
“You have one bad ass guardian angel now” many losses the ONLY comment that ever helped♥ 0source record 3275
I miss my mother everyday. I lost her 4 years ago. She is the lady and I am the child in my profile pic. After her passing I started to see life so differently. The first 2 years were the hardest for me. I felt the need to visit her grave site almost every other day. Now I feel my heart starting to be at peace because I feel her with me everywhere I go.♥ 0source record 3434
The world is a better place with you in it♥ 0source record 3444
That all of the grief I feel inside me is all of the love i can no longer give him here on earth. Rip my big brother♥ 0source record 3510
Was Helped not to be bothered by those unfamiliar w/rip ones. W help from a new friend. Don’t have talk if no wish to.♥ 0source record 3560
Also, I recommend a “penny’s from Heaven” jar. (When you find a penny it means someone is tossing it down to you from Heaven) I felt cheesy buying it but my heart skips a beat whenever I find a penny. ❤️♥ 0source record 3611
“They are no longer suffering.” It’s common, everyone says it but until it hits home, you never comprehend what it truly means. The one thing I was thankful for when my Mom passed. She can breathe comfortably now. She can walk freely now. No more pain. 🕊️♥ 0source record 3756
When my son took himself to heaven, I met another man who had the same thing happen two years earlier. He told me to “be selfish” if I need to rest, rest. If I make a plan w a friend or family and then just can’t do it, cancel. Being selfish in this season is the best way to care for yourself in this pain he said. It’s been 10 years now and this was the most helpful advice. Still doing this on the hard days. 💔❤️‍🩹💙♥ 0source record 3769
Time passes differently in heaven.. by the time they turn around to look for you, you’ll be right there behind them♥ 0source record 3807
Try to imagine him next to me telling me g me it’s going to be ok and we are going to be together in heaven♥ 0source record 3886
Do not mourn as if you no longer exist, THEY STILL EXIST… JUST IN A DIFFERENT ROOM IN THE HEAVENLY FATHERS HOUSE, AND WHEN THIS TEMPORARY WORLD IS BROUGHT TO ITS END WE WILL BE TOGETHER THIS TIME 4EVER 1thessolonians 4:13-18♥ 0source record 3986
drove to Fairbanks Alaska from Michigan and down to Anchorage and back to Michigan. came back at peace. but I tell ppl just focus on not self destructing until you can come to peace. its very difficult not to self destruct♥ 0source record 4025
Not advice, a question that helped me view things differently. “ knowing all you know about heaven and its beauty, no pain, just happiness. Would you pull her out of that to come back to you in this world? “ no, no I wouldn’t do that to her, that would be selfish of me…she’s is so much better off there♥ 0source record 4280
When you’re fully ready and able to listen, the winks from heaven will be seen and heard. What a magical thing!♥ 0source record 4373
If you can, go away to a tropical paradise 🙏✨♥ 0source record 4401
no advice but an epiphany. there is no way heaven could be incredible if I'd not endured loss here.. only to revisit that love all over again there...but for an eternity next time. brand new again. flawless. complete. for always. and that awaits us all.♥ 0source record 4406
They are much happier up there than we are down here.♥ 0source record 4598
The kindest thing you could do for him was to let him go. 💔💔💔 My dad told me that when I had to put my best friend down. My dog Odie. My best friend golden retriever. My heart is still so broken and will be forever. He is with his brother now running around in heaven ❤️♥ 0source record 4623
I can’t say that I’ve ever gotten advice during grieving, only sympathy. I may have had it a little rough when I was a kid, but that made me a strong adult. I’m at peace with that and actually prefer it.♥ 0source record 4691
One lady said to me, don't look for him in the grave he's not there , it's just a shell that is in the grave, he's in a better place.♥ 0source record 4708
That in Heaven your memory is wiped clean of pain or hurtful/sad memories. Truly heaven to only remember the good times in your earthly life.♥ 0source record 4728
“To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. “ helped me get thru- I was grieving deeply but I knew one day I would be happy again even if for moment.♥ 0source record 4783
my dad told me before he passed "my death will hit you strong but warm, because you'll know I'm no longer in pain. It will teach you how to miss and how to go without but survive anyway. Please know though, that I will always be right there with you" He was right. I feel him with me a lot, even more now 14 years later. I smile more now when I think of him and his memory is warm and the color of sunshine. I know he is ok.♥ 0source record 4999
He didn’t get to love me my whole life but I got to love him his whole life ❤️❤️(my husband, 25 years of marriage RIP 4/26/2024)♥ 0source record 5112
She is in a better place.♥ 0source record 5202
The only thing that helps me carry on is knowing, I'll see my parents again.... when my heavenly Father says it's time ❤️‍🩹🙏♥ 0source record 5205
2 days before my uncle passed i asked him how we could help, he said "dont worry about what is taking me, worry about whose keeping me here while im still here! the love is keeping me here our family enjoy the happiness while its here im not gone" 😩 live with those words every day! last words I ever heard from him! made it so much easier knowing he was at peace.♥ 0source record 5232
he's in a better place ... like seriously this does not make anyone feel better 🥺♥ 0source record 5315
look for signs, your angels will always show themselves. 4.22.24 my wedding day... me and my dad and my momma from heaven came down to show herself♥ 0source record 5335
They don’t leave us, they just watch from a different place..and sometimes they can do more for you in heaven than was possible on earth❤️im sorry for your loss♥ 0source record 5456
They are in a better place now🙄♥ 0source record 5569
That when I get to heaven that loved one will be the first to greet me with a huge smile♥ 0source record 5593
When we cry and are sad here on this side of earth that they can’t see us in heaven because there is no sadness in heaven, so do not be sad ♥️♥ 0source record 5667
All dogs go to heaven 💕❤️❤️💕❤️that kind of energy never disappears.♥ 0source record 5676
live your life as usual, continue with your projects in mind, continue with your life as normal, enjoy nature, enjoy sharing beautiful moments with family and friends because I will be watching you from heaven and always be with you spiritually, my mom said this to me months before she died🥺😞♥ 0source record 5705
The memories never die so keep him alive through them and tears are a sign of his memory here in this world. You will laugh again with him in Paradise.♥ 0source record 5729
basically that you will be in a better place at some point and realize you had to go thru this to get there.♥ 0source record 5748
Celebrate the memories. Heal yourself in the parts you hate to feel more connected to them heaven bound. See the synchronizes. Align. Be in nature. Feel your feelings all the way thru♥ 0source record 5778
Their pain must have been so great.♥ 0source record 5981
“You now have a wonderful guardian angel watching over you” my mom told me when her dad my grandpa (I was extremely close too) passed when I was 9yrs I had a lot going on at the time. Years later my grandpa’s hand on my shoulder giving me a jerk and his voice saying “don’t go” as a car was flying over the hill which saved me from a very deadly car accident the awful intersection has stop signs now yrs later.♥ 0source record 5998
Remember when u said u wish u could take his pain away? In a way u did cause now hes resting in peace & ur hurting. ✨😭✨♥ 0source record 6189
“he isnt feeling this pain that youre feeling. he isnt missing out on anything it just didnt happen”♥ 0source record 6209
Not advice but this thought comforted me: "What if every time you think of them, it's because they're telling someone about you in heaven?"♥ 0source record 6224
Grief shatters you deep… it can come and go. A memory, a scent, a favorite snack, a tv show, a song.. my daughter at her tender age of 4 she took her last breath here on earth to take her first in heaven.♥ 0source record 6233
They’re in a better place😭😭😭♥ 0source record 6261

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What commenters described: I sang Psalm 23 to my mom and right after she passed! ♥️

Limit: Grieve….. Then grieve some more when you think you’re done grieving then grieve about your grieving. The best Medicine unfortunately is to walk knee deep in your grief until there is nothing left to grieve.…

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Grieve….. Then grieve some more when you think you’re done grieving then grieve about your grieving. The best Medicine unfortunately is to walk knee deep in your grief until there is nothing left to grieve. You will never forget or stop missing your loved ones. They never left. 🙏🥺 I miss my son Isaiah wh is forever 28 🥺😭

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if u read your Bible no1 is really in heaven, till judgemental day so next time you tell a kid not to have a imagination about all things they believe in, remember we all would like to imagine that our loved ones are safe In heaven.

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2 Corinthians 5:8 : “To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.” And, Jeremiah 29:11 : "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Gods word is and always will be the most comforting and reassuring thing one could ever hope and pray for.

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doesn't the Bible say somewhere where one second of heavens time is like 1000yrs here (or more?) or something like that?♥ 0source record 586
I sang Psalm 23 to my mom and right after she passed! ♥️♥ 1source record 906
Only for believers of God, not necessary religious: In the Bible, God states that if you accept him in your heart and join him, you’ll live forever and in peace in his kingdom. My mom would always tell me that but when I lost her to cancer at 13, I went years hating the fact tht she just… vanished. Until someone heard me talking about my grief and came up and told me once again what my mom said. The person said “imagine how beautiful is that? Plus imagine, you are half your dad and mom, so she lives through you, in looks, actions, through your blood and soul. I think she always is here.” I was shocked and thankful 🥹♥ 1source record 1236
if u read your Bible no1 is really in heaven, till judgemental day so next time you tell a kid not to have a imagination about all things they believe in, remember we all would like to imagine that our loved ones are safe In heaven.♥ 0source record 2937
revelation 21:4♥ 0source record 2969
Grieve….. Then grieve some more when you think you’re done grieving then grieve about your grieving. The best Medicine unfortunately is to walk knee deep in your grief until there is nothing left to grieve. You will never forget or stop missing your loved ones. They never left. 🙏🥺 I miss my son Isaiah wh is forever 28 🥺😭♥ 0source record 3388
Nothing yet; my peace has been reading my Bible 🙏🏻♥ 0source record 3453
To read the Bible♥ 0source record 3563
When you go through deep waters, I will be with you - Isaiah 43:2♥ 0source record 3740
There is none I have lost my daughter at 4mo my mother my dad my sister my grandparents both sides cousins uncles I don’t know why I keep going I guess because what I searched for in [site removed] it showed me what the Bible says I typed in the search button will the dead live again♥ 0source record 3917
For those of you who are people of faith, hold onto that tightly! For those who are not people of faith, consider learning what the Bible says about it and give it a try. You may be pleasantly surprised that the God of all comfort loves you and for you more than you realize. Prayer makes a difference. 🙏♥ 0source record 3931
2 Corinthians 5:8 : “To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord.” And, Jeremiah 29:11 : "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Gods word is and always will be the most comforting and reassuring thing one could ever hope and pray for.♥ 0source record 4486
for my little brother n sister passed.. No one's encouragement was enough to fill the void.. No one wanted to sit n grueve w me, like Job in the Bible.. All I can tell myself is "I need to do better, for them.. For Christ.. Life is too short..."♥ 0source record 4957
My moms body was about to be pulled into the back. I said “is this the last time I will see her” she said, yes. I started to cry. My mom’s pastor came up to me and gave me a piece of paper folded up and said “read it in a week or so and call me”. I put it in my pocket and continued to watch my mom be wheeled away. Went home and opened it. It was a list of scriptures about how I was living in sin. That’s how he chose to comfort me.♥ 0source record 5094
John 5:28 & 29.♥ 0source record 5265
When my Dad passed a friend didn’t send scriptures or “Im praying for you, but a “I’m so sorry for what you are about to go through” that permission to grieve… 🥹♥ 0source record 5278
To be absent in the body. Is to be present with the Lord. 2 corinthians.5:8♥ 0source record 5286
let the dead bury the dead♥ 0source record 5365
read the Bible♥ 0source record 5370
Grief with those that grief and rejoice with those that rejoice♥ 0source record 5768
there is peace that surpasses all understanding that can only come from one place. i encourage you all to seek on your own the holy scriptures. bless you all.♥ 0source record 5831
God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matthew 5:4♥ 0source record 5933
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28♥ 0source record 5936
Isaiah 58:11🌹🌿💦 New International Version 11 The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail♥ 0source record 6152
When a door shuts a window open and it’s beautiful ( HOPE IS ALIVE ✨🦋✨🦋✨🦋✨🦋✨🦋Isaiah 58:11 11 The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.🌹💦♥ 0source record 6157

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What the pattern means: Comments under this label disagreed: some invoked divine timing, while others rejected the idea that every loss happens for a reason.

What commenters described: “Not everything happens for a reason. Some things just happen and leave us with a huge hole in our heart. You’re not crazy for still grieving. You’re human. You’re allowed to still be sad. Take it one day at a time.” - My wonderful therapist 🤍

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“Not everything happens for a reason. Some things just happen and leave us with a huge hole in our heart. You’re not crazy for still grieving. You’re human. You’re allowed to still be sad. Take it one day at a time.” - My wonderful therapist 🤍

source record 1065♥ 13
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Everything happens for a reason😭

posted about 71 days after the source♥ 0
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“Everything that happens to you works out for your greater good”

posted about 37.2 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 22 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

22index entries
22distinct source records
4.2%of parent category
0.3%of the complete index
22top-level comments
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Browse the original comments22 preserved records · 22 of 22 source records accounted for
“Not everything happens for a reason. Some things just happen and leave us with a huge hole in our heart. You’re not crazy for still grieving. You’re human. You’re allowed to still be sad. Take it one day at a time.” - My wonderful therapist 🤍♥ 13source record 1065
"Even if you were with them that day, he was still going to die because it was his time. Don't blame yourself for his sudden death" 💔♥ 2source record 1162
Everything happens for a reason😭♥ 0source record 1242
When you’re trying to get back into a routine, schedule yourself a time to release everything. This way you’re not breaking down to the point of debilitation every time you cry. Schedule that crying fest. If you need it every night, do so until you can get to every other day and then 2x a week to 1x a week. I did it at the end of the night after I got home and did everything I wanted or could that day and then sat on the couch with the comfiest clothes, water and coziest blanket. Don’t sit down right when you get home. Stay standing and do what you can… then Get comfortable so you have one comfort during a very uncomfortable release of feelings through crying. Also… It’s absolutely okay to sit with your feelings—to acknowledge them, honor them, and give them the space they deserve. Emotions are part of the human experience, and they often show up to teach us something or simply remind us that we’re alive. But don’t camp out in them forever. Feelings are meant to be visitors, not permanent residents. You can pause there, reflect, maybe even grieve or process—but eventually, you have to pack up, take what you’ve learned, and keep going. Staying stuck in one emotional place for too long can keep you from healing, growing, and discovering the beauty that still exists beyond that moment.♥ 1source record 1805
Trust in The Lord and His plan for it is the way to happiness. Jesus suffered with me🥲❤️🙏only He knows 😞♥ 1source record 1942
Prayer works. Focus on God. God’s will, plans and timing are best. God knows best.♥ 1source record 1970
I was working at Amazon as a packer and I looked on the screen and all the sudden it said "when things happen unexpectedly just know God has a greater plan" I don't know why it said that I've tried to look for a book title but it gave me strength after my daughter passed.♥ 0source record 2482
What if this is how it was always supposed to be♥ 0source record 2827
No one told me this…but, grief is proof that we were created to live forever and we weren’t meant to be separated.♥ 0source record 2930
Everything happens for a reason.♥ 0source record 2936
"Maybe God needed more Angel soldiers..." my daughter in law told me...my late husband was in the army.♥ 0source record 3035
it was going to happen just the way it did, no matter your circumstances. it was ordained, so let go of the what it's 😩♥ 0source record 3691
He was put here for a reason. And taken when his purpose was done.♥ 0source record 3800
there is never a good reason that someone would be gone but there is a purpose...you may not even know it for years later...but there is a purpose♥ 0source record 4350
“Everything that happens to you works out for your greater good”♥ 0source record 4476
God needed him more♥ 0source record 4739
on my brother in law unaliving himself. they say he did it or God's plan for him was to sacrifice himself in that way....for my husband......my hud and had been going g through it for a while and held a lew pew to his head and still thought about doing it. he has a wife and 5 kids. if my brother in law didn't do what he did. it would've been my husband. so til this day I tell myself and my husband and that he saved his life.......he unalived for him to be here with me and his kids. my brother In law was a friend of mind before I met my husband and was a big part of our relationship when we first got together. he meant the world to us. especially to my husband. 😭😭😭😭♥ 0source record 4942
The Lord is close to the broken hearted. Give it to him and trust his plan for your life!♥ 0source record 5155
"God needed him in heaven for his bigger purpose"♥ 0source record 5158
Not so much advice but when my nephew was born he was already sleeping and my sis who had cancer told the mom when she got there she’d hold him til it was her time. 😭😭😭😭😭♥ 0source record 5441
its soul breaking to lose the only person on this planet who wants you to have a better life than them, your true cheerleader...gone...♥ 0source record 5482
Never given advice but always told myself that time doesn't actually heal the pain, the pain is forever you just gets more time in between the feeling of it. God needed them more than I did. Rejoice the good memories and celebrate their life/legacy every chance you get.♥ 0source record 5619

Archive: 22 index entries preserve 22 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Making peace with death itself19 index entriesMaking peace with death itself — 19 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Making peace with death itself

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Making peace with death itself

19 source records

Appears when: Making peace with death itself

What the pattern means: we are alive on this side because on an alternate universe we are gone in theirs too

What commenters described: Death is just the in between. It’s just like place you were before you were born. That energy goes somewhere, even if we don’t know where that place is.

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Death is just the in between. It’s just like place you were before you were born. That energy goes somewhere, even if we don’t know where that place is.

source record 1868♥ 1
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we are alive on this side because on an alternate universe we are gone in theirs too

posted about 50 days after the source♥ 1
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In the eyes of the old. Death is a friend. I work in a nursing home. It makes sense

posted about 36.3 hours after the source♥ 0

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Within 19 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.

19index entries
19distinct source records
3.6%of parent category
0.3%of the complete index
19top-level comments
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we are alive on this side because on an alternate universe we are gone in theirs too♥ 1source record 1358
Death is just the in between. It’s just like place you were before you were born. That energy goes somewhere, even if we don’t know where that place is.♥ 1source record 1868
I said them to myself and it was ,,,,,, we are all going there one day!!! We have to accept death as part of life once we accept being or birth!! It’s a part of the journey♥ 0source record 2476
We are all just walking each other home♥ 0source record 2510
its not what you know its who you know. start investing as soon as you can. Dont be scared to be different history typically repeats itself in cycles. Not everyone dies but not everyone lives. You leave this place with nothing.♥ 0source record 2735
Our beliefs about death is what brings the pain. In truth, there is no such thing as death. It has been an illusion. A painful, designed illusion. 🫶♥ 0source record 3536
Sometimes bad things happen… and there is no reason why. Sometimes it just is.♥ 0source record 4070
Grief is apart of life. it feels all encompassing in the moment, but your life will continue to get grow and it wont take up as much space as it did♥ 0source record 4274
They finally know the secret. Be happy for them.♥ 0source record 4433
In the eyes of the old. Death is a friend. I work in a nursing home. It makes sense♥ 0source record 4568
“Death is certain, life is not.” 🖤♥ 0source record 4664
As Infants we believe our mothers womb is our only home, adults we believe Earth is our only home, after we pass we will return to our new home, no need to grief we are just going to our new home.♥ 0source record 4808
Bury the dead otherwise they stink up the place♥ 0source record 4883
Longer you live the more people you lose♥ 0source record 5169
There is a rightness to death. Just as we are born, we will die.♥ 0source record 5194
Death is an illusion. This seemed really confusing and odd, but it was given with so gently and with care and I thought about it constantly until I understood. 🥰♥ 0source record 5740
I understood death and lost fear of it .♥ 0source record 5763
you didn't exist before you were here and was ok. why fear after you dont exist here again when you die?♥ 0source record 5984
We’re all going to leave soon enough …♥ 0source record 6143

Archive: 19 index entries preserve 19 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

What they're doing up there9 index entriesWhat they're doing up there — 9 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: What they're doing up there

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What they're doing up there

9 source records

Appears when: What they're doing up there

What the pattern means: Imagining a loved one safe, active, or speaking about them in heaven offered some commenters a continuing story for the relationship.

What commenters described: “what if every time you think of them it's because they're telling someone in heaven about you” 🫶🏻

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“what if every time you think of them it's because they're telling someone in heaven about you” 🫶🏻

source record 281♥ 15,672
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"the thunder in the sky is them doing bowling, the lightning is them getting a strike and winning"

posted about 22 days after the source♥ 0
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There is no time in heaven . When you he there your love ones will have not suffered the pain of time passing as you miss them . You will reunite like time had never passed .

posted about 35.7 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 9 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

9index entries
9distinct source records
1.7%of parent category
0.1%of the complete index
7top-level comments
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Browse the original comments9 preserved records · 9 of 9 source records accounted for
“what if every time you think of them it's because they're telling someone in heaven about you” 🫶🏻♥ 15,672source record 281
Time in heaven moves differently, by the time they are turning around to look for you you’ll be there with them ❤️♥ 2,343source record 552
2 Peter 3:8 (NIV) “But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day.”♥ 0source record 587
I believe that, we will meet again. There is no time in heaven so when we get there, it’s like they barely saw us the day before.💔🥲♥ 4source record 856
“time in heaven moves differently. by the time they turn around to look for you, you’ll be right behind them smiling with your arms wide open for a hug”♥ 1source record 1804
Every time you think of them, they’re telling someone in heaven about you ♥️🩷♥ 0source record 2457
"the thunder in the sky is them doing bowling, the lightning is them getting a strike and winning"♥ 0source record 3094
There is no time in heaven . When you he there your love ones will have not suffered the pain of time passing as you miss them . You will reunite like time had never passed .♥ 0source record 4640
I have become a good man, son and father because I will see my dad one day in heaven and i will tell him my story so he can be proud of me. I can’t wait. - ❤️♥ 0source record 4906

Archive: 9 index entries preserve 9 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Their own losses, told plain464 records · 7 sub-topicsTheir own losses, told plain — 464 records
Losing a mom137 index entriesLosing a mom — 137 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Losing a mom

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Losing a mom

137 source records

Appears when: Losing a mom

What the pattern means: Accounts of losing a mother emphasized wanting presence, listening, and room to speak about her rather than unsolicited solutions.

What commenters described: None I didn’t want advice I just wanted them to listen to me and hug me while I cried about my mom passing away 💔

Limit: Nothing. Unfortunately I come from a family that separated when we lost my mother. Instead of sticking together and grieving and trying to understand it all. But I can say that I’ve learned so much through motherhood all alone.…

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Nothing. Unfortunately I come from a family that separated when we lost my mother. Instead of sticking together and grieving and trying to understand it all. But I can say that I’ve learned so much through motherhood all alone. The best advice that I can give to someone is nobody will understand your pain unless they’ve been through it themselves. And that’s okay. Another thing is it will not get better just more manageable. Sending love and hugs to anyone who’s grieving.

source record 2771♥ 0

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None I didn’t want advice I just wanted them to listen to me and hug me while I cried about my mom passing away 💔

source record 961♥ 205
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We reminisce all the time about him. My mom and I are closer than ever. Oh to grieve someone this way - is proof of immense & great love. What a blessing it is to experience this in our lifetime.

posted about 69 days after the source♥ 1
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My Dad told me after my niece passed from cancer (she was like my own) my mom and dad lost my brother when he was 10 months so when he said this it hit me he said life moves forward and you have to too you have other people that depend on you be present in it grieve and move forward

posted about 35.3 hours after the source♥ 0

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What the counts show

Across 137 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (13 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

137index entries
137distinct source records
29.5%of parent category
2.2%of the complete index
91top-level comments
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Browse the original comments137 preserved records · 137 of 137 source records accounted for
I lost my mom Jan 25 6 weeks later I lost my husband 2 months after that I lost r dog Bear to be honest I know everybody is and was trying to be helpful but none of it was helpful I lost them all in 22 I’m still a mess I don’t sleep I can’t function my daily base♥ 86source record 4
I just lost both my mom and husband in the last couple of months. hugs to you. it hurts and I'm so numb♥ 1source record 12
Of course, darling. All of my love to you. I miss my Mama every day 💚🫶🏼♥ 8source record 29
this made me think of my mom as well. Going on 2 years now. ♡ Thank you for this♥ 1source record 30
The most beautiful analogy. I am grieving my dad- just lost weeks ago. However, at the same time, I am relieving the deep grief and loss of my mother 17 years ago. Trying to make space for it all- but afraid this friend will take me in a never ending trip.♥ 3source record 34
Grief is the only thing I have left of my mom. I welcome grief with open arms. Thank you for putting this into the words that I could not figure out how 🩵♥ 1source record 68
I just have to say. it's been 15 years since my mom died. this is by far the most heartwarming quote regarding grief I've ever seen 💜♥ 1source record 80
This will be my 16th year without my Mama. It’s taken me a long time to get here, love. But here we are 🫶🏼💚 you’re doing great!♥ 1source record 81
That’s beautiful. My mom has been gone ten years now. I miss her everyday. I’ve learned to love my grief and will keep it always.♥ 1source record 109
🥹🥹🥹❤️- then my Mother talks about me a lot ❤️♥ 1source record 301
Oof. Will be a year since I lost my mom this weekend. This made me sniffle in a good way. Thank you ❤️♥ 4source record 324
I think about this quote too, just lost my mom in June, it’s been rough but I am trying to get to this point.♥ 1source record 333
I am so sorry for the sadness you must be feeling over your mother. May her love for you shine brightly in you in this time of grief♥ 1source record 334
This!!!! My mom is so broken without my dad but we are doing the best to take care of her in the ways he always would.♥ 0source record 403
That’s good to hear. I’ve been taking care of my mom for 4 1/2 years (emotionally, business stuff, but she does most of life well).♥ 0source record 422
My mom told me this on her death bed 😢 I still am forgetting!♥ 1source record 460
This one hits hard. Lost my momma suddenly 17 years ago. I grieved hard on momma's day... etc.. and wonder now that my older kids are adults how that impacted their childhood. sigh. This is so true♥ 1source record 463
Me either. Or the me without my mom AND dad. 😞 I can’t even believe they’re both gone.🕊️🙏💔♥ 10source record 494
I don’t like the me without my mom.♥ 28source record 496
I hope this is true. Not regarding me, but I want a million more years with my mom. I hope my brother greets her without having to miss her.♥ 38source record 553
I lost my mom 17 days ago. The grief is gut wrenching pain.♥ 6source record 675
I’m so sorry for your loss of your mom. This pain is so overwhelming. I cry every day. I’m crying as a type this. 💔😥♥ 3source record 677
I am so sorry 😭 my mom left me a little over a year ago.♥ 3source record 682
my mom passed 2 days ago & I'm not sure how to do this.♥ 4source record 686
My mom 2 days ago. 💔😢♥ 0source record 712
My mom passed July 30th this year. I feel the exact same way, I thought it would be crying more I can't tell if its disbelief, acceptance, or I just don't think it has hit me yet. I feel so confused and uneasy and uncomfortable. I'm so sorry for your loss of your dad. ❤️♥ 0source record 713
I lost my mom a month ago tomorrow…i totally feel this way too….😞😞♥ 0source record 744
I lost my mom 2 weeks ago. I understand this completely. I hope peace finds you quickly and when you're ready ❤️♥ 0source record 750
I lost my dad 3 days ago on Monday. I haven’t slept. I haven’t ate. I haven’t done much of anything. I’ve been helping my mom with the entire process because she can’t do it alone and I have to be strong for her cause that’s what Dad wanted. But, when do I get to mourn and grieve?♥ 0source record 753
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom last month and it’s such a pain that I never knew existed. If you need to talk dm me. I’m here for you! Sending you strength.♥ 1source record 764
We reminisce all the time about him. My mom and I are closer than ever. Oh to grieve someone this way - is proof of immense & great love. What a blessing it is to experience this in our lifetime.♥ 1source record 800
My mom & I both did… and it’s unbelievable heartbreak♥ 0source record 805
I lost my Mom in 2009. So many things have happened since then, including having my only child. It gives me peace to know she is waiting for me to catch her up on everything. ❤️❤️♥ 10source record 817
That was the first thing someone told me when my mom died. Grabbed me in for a hug and didn’t even know who it was for a while. After a min they said that, and it’s so embedded in my memory♥ 0source record 837
I lost my mom, dad and last grandparent with in 5 years. They were my only remaining family. I learned a lot about grief and the biggest lesson was to not apologize for my feelings. If people couldn’t understand, I stopped apologizing, if I couldn’t answer a text of call, I stopped apologizing. The ones who stayed were my REAL friends.♥ 3source record 869
thank you. I was too polite after losing my mom and it just made everything harder and more lonely..I was so bitter that everyone was going on with life while I was shattered, but I held so much in when I needed to release ot♥ 1source record 870
my mom to. she was a pet groomer as well 💯🙏😭♥ 1source record 875
I’m reading this while uncontrollably sobbing, going through my first night shift back at the same ICU my mother died in less than 2 months ago ☹️♥ 1source record 884
None I didn’t want advice I just wanted them to listen to me and hug me while I cried about my mom passing away 💔♥ 205source record 961
🫂 I’m so sorry !!! My mom passed away on 6/9/24 . Nothing has been the same . I just feel so alone even if I have my family around me.♥ 0source record 962
I feel this. lost my mom two weeks ago. 💔♥ 2source record 964
this is how I felt when my mom died and I'm sitting here ugly crying♥ 0source record 991
This made me cry for you & my mom (who is still alive), she is my person & my rock. I will never be ready to say goodbye. I’m so sorry that you had to. I hope the memories of her help ease your heartbreak. Pls tell fil thank you for his beautiful advice. ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1000
if I go back in my mind, everyone’s faces feel like a blur. 5 hours felt like 30 minutes. I was in disbelief and couldn’t accept my mom was gone. I almost felt numb, in a nightmare I couldn’t beget out of. 😭♥ 3source record 1021
I just constantly think of what she’s missing and how much I know she’d want to be here to live this. It continues to make me sad when I think of it too much, and I’m going on 10 years of being without my mom. She died young and is missing out on watching her grandkids grow❤️♥ 1source record 1292
mine came in a hail storm ... literally.. I lost my mom while I was incarcerated.. I didn't t get to bury her .. but I ended up outside the house she passed in ... finally letting go of the anger I had at myself... and it began to hail. as if for mom to say ... hell really did freeze over jess♥ 4source record 1299
I love this! I hope I’m making my mama proud.♥ 1source record 1309
I'm busy preparing for my mom's berial which is this Sunday.... I don't know how I feel.. I'm just keeping busy trying to give her a gud send off♥ 1source record 1312
Man I lost my mom a year ago & none of my friends can relate thankfully but it sucks😭♥ 1source record 1338
And “Help your mom, kids are supposed to lose a parent, spouses aren’t supposed to lose their loved ones”♥ 0source record 1486
You will never stop wanting your mom♥ 1source record 1503
I’m still waiting for it. My mom, best friend, passed away 8 years ago♥ 1source record 1529
When I had to put my behavioral reactive dog down after biting me, my mom told me, “this act is so tough but you are giving him another chance to start over. In a happier mind and body.” And that has given me comfort since I had to let him go. ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1640
My mother told me before she passed that she knows I'll miss her, but she doesn't want me to be sad all the time.♥ 1source record 1669
I like to think that the harder days mean that my mom is missing me extra that day too 💔🖤♥ 1source record 1757
I was grieving my mom before she passed her words were “you have a life to live…live your life” 3 days later she passed. 😭 your love one wants you to live. 🙏🦋💞♥ 1source record 1872
felt like I was bothering others with always talking about losing my mom. someone said "if talking about it keeps you here, keep talking about it"♥ 1source record 1907
My cousin said my mother came to her in a dream and told her she had free will I took that as she was free from sickness!!♥ 1source record 1913
Thank you for this post ❤️next month will be a year my mom passed away and it still feels as if it was just yesterday♥ 1source record 1916
I don't have any advice as im still feeling from losing my mom 5 years ago, but I see you and I hope you find some peace and relief❤️❤️❤️♥ 1source record 1929
My husbands aunt, said to me when my mom died. That tears are love that have no where to go. I thought it was sweet.♥ 1source record 1932
My heart aches so much since my mom passed away💔😭♥ 1source record 2026
My uncle told me me, you will never miss someone, like you miss your momma. You will find yourself crying without realizing why, and it is because you miss your momma. He was so right, I miss her dearly.♥ 1source record 2111
Breathe. My seven year old daughter just bawled her eyes out a few nights ago, missing my mom. She cried herself to sleep, then so did I. Never knowing how much she missed her grandma because I was too into my own grief.♥ 1source record 2135
I don't have any. My mom said "you don't need to be crying over someone who died that way." It was a s**cide. So heartless 😒♥ 1source record 2149
I’m so sorry I lost my mom a year ago 😭 it’s so hard♥ 0source record 2185
I wasn't told this but there is something special in that hole that is left, that burns and aches for just 5 seconds, 5 measly seconds more, even 1 second to give one last glance. It is loss, it weighs heavy and cries out for its twin, it cries out for love, for a love lost. For this loss could never had been formed if love didn't exist there first and truly. For my mom -- The sparkles on the lake are where I find you now ❤️♥ 0source record 2319
I miss everything about my mom, my bestie...I was told "continue her traditions; she's with you." I try; it's just not the same. 💔♥ 0source record 2350
i just lost my mom. i wish I could hug everyone in this comment section 🫂♥ 0source record 2370
After I lost my mom, my dad kept telling me to say & do whatever I wanted. It’s so simple but I didn’t understand how adding extra stress in the early stages of grieving can make it 100x worse♥ 0source record 2371
Don’t forget to live amidst the grief. I know that sounds weird. But when my mother died I felt I had to. But my life was thriving. I had just bought a home, bought a new car and got a better position at work. I don’t remember much of any of it but I am now better and enjoying all of it.♥ 0source record 2475
My mama came in my dream when I was at my lowest I ran to her to give my mama a hug she said you’ll be okay I love her so much like she’s a second mother to me♥ 0source record 2495
" it hurts so much because no one could ever love you like your mother"♥ 0source record 2523
The first month after my mom died, my step dad and I would take long drives in the country. Often we drove in silence, it was winter so it was dreary, & there was pogonip everywhere.♥ 0source record 2623
I remember after I lost my mom at 25 I had to go back to law school the day after her funeral. I was so worried everyone knew and I would break down. No one said anything and I thought to myself no one will ever know my pain and the world will not stop moving because I want it to.♥ 0source record 2625
This year will be 20 years since my mom passed. I was just a teenager and it hurts so bad still!!♥ 0source record 2707
Nothing. Unfortunately I come from a family that separated when we lost my mother. Instead of sticking together and grieving and trying to understand it all. But I can say that I’ve learned so much through motherhood all alone. The best advice that I can give to someone is nobody will understand your pain unless they’ve been through it themselves. And that’s okay. Another thing is it will not get better just more manageable. Sending love and hugs to anyone who’s grieving.♥ 0source record 2771
Grief is like a broken rib. No one can see it’s broken, and it hurts to breathe. It was not long after I lost my momma when these words were given to me. Also? People don’t know how or are not equipped to deal with grief…so sometimes they say things that are dumb. Move around to the people that will sit with you in quiet. That’s the best thing my tribe did for me.♥ 0source record 2829
Not really advice, but after I lost my mom someone said to me, “I’m so sorry you lost your mom. She sounded like an incredible woman. Sometime when you’re ready, I’d love to hear more about her.” And that was the only thing someone said that stood out to me. No fake sympathy. No telling me it would be okay. Just hey… tell me about her. And she’s my favorite thing to tell people about. So I loved that. And I say that now when someone else has lost a loved one.♥ 0source record 2840
Read “the places that scare you” by Pema Chödrön and look up Thích Nhất Hạnh, No Death, No Fear: Comforting Wisdom for Life”. There’s a passage that starts “the day my mother died”. It changed my whole perspective on death. Also look up the definition of bardo. Helped with the death of my parents and best friends♥ 0source record 2858
A bit dark but true. My fiancé died on my wedding day and I told my mother to please let me end my life. She said ‘let’s do that tomorrow’ -she knew I needed her to really hear me.validate me.and let me think it was a real option, bc ironically it was the option that kept me going. I’m here 5 years later.Just wait until tomorrow 🫶♥ 0source record 2906
Every time you do a good deed for someone, do it specifically with that person on your mind. For me, it’s my mom… It keeps their soul alive.♥ 0source record 2940
3 different friends of 3 different religions told me to speak to my mom spiritually. It’s been helping me a lot 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 3091
No one was there except my aunt when my mom died. She kept me going. But I never stopped talking about my mom. Strangers have fallen in love with her because of the light I shine when I tell her stories. They may be gone but we make sure they’re never forgotten. 💕♥ 0source record 3095
Nobody says anything when it’s your mom and it’s sudden. You have to learn it. As such I have learned that the pain and grief will never go away.♥ 0source record 3137
my mom just passed on the second of August of this year..... 😔😩♥ 0source record 3172
haha advice, funny. i got none. and 5 months after losing my dad my mom lost her mom and suddenly i was the go to. no, im tired of being strong.♥ 0source record 3217
I had to I.D. my mother's body. My boss told, me to think of the 5 best memories I had with her and hold on to those♥ 0source record 3320
I always felt the day my mother passed… blinders came on. My view was narrower and the colors less vivid. Food & activities never taste the same or had the same feel to it. After many years it showed me to be appreciative & bask in those small unimportant moments. Those are part of something bigger. 💕♥ 0source record 3346
Still greiving my mom every day someone told me you life will never ever be the same & it’s so true your parent loves you unconditionally & as there kid & caretaker u never forget your mom♥ 0source record 3348
My mother when she was dying in hospice last year: "if you even suspect it's me, it's me. When you start crying it's because I'm with you and I'm holding you" the grief I felt & still feel evolved into something else so beautiful when I feel grief & that allowed the pain to evolve into memories, laughter, her. She's everywhere now 🥹♥ 0source record 3382
My doctor who knew me for years, said You have to feel this pain, it's going to hurt. This was after we had a service for my mom. It was a week after she passed and I went to work and just lost it. I was 35.♥ 0source record 3558
You know sometimes when I grieve my mama and daddy, I actually feel closer to them.♥ 0source record 3579
I said I wish you would have met her (my mom) and he said I see her all the time thru you.♥ 0source record 3622
Currently grieving my mother’s death😞 im still waiting for her to call me but i know im never going to hear from her…♥ 0source record 3790
Right after losing my mom in Feb of this year, I was angry. My angel of a cousin said “you’re allowed”. That simple comment helped me allow myself to feel whatever I felt whenever it happened. No apologies. No be this way or that. Just. You are allowed. 💔♥ 0source record 3840
I HATE TUESDAYS--- because of this - the day everyone had to go back to their lives and my ❤️could not understand how they just went on living without my Mama - its been 15 years. I dont know how I have made it this long. but I HAVE, barely♥ 0source record 3849
Crazy how a show reminded me of I still grieve my mom’s passing. Then this shows up on my fyp. Thanks♥ 0source record 3884
I don’t think anyone could say anything to take that pain away, you just have to give yourself that time , it will engulf you like the heaviest storm you can’t see your way out of the pain ,you can’t breathe but then something will happen one day and it will make you feel a bit better like you can. That was me until my mom came to me in a dream2 days after she passed , and I was better.♥ 0source record 3979
I was told not to say “my mom left me or I lost my mom “ as you will always feel left or loss, but instead to say the person transitioned or passed. 🙏♥ 0source record 4102
Read the poem “Death Is Nothing At All”, by Henry Scott-Holland. It was a balm to my broken heart when I lost my mom and dad within 6 days of each other. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4132
I read somewhere you should think of the happy/funny times together and it helps calm you in that moment. I try this everytime. I always pranked my mom so I have tons of great memories I rewind all the time in my head. 🤍♥ 0source record 4167
Following because I need it! Its literally been a whole 365 since I lost my mom and I still cant move forward ❤️🥹🙏🏽♥ 0source record 4208
My mom says that she holds off on taking food or making a visit for several weeks because it’s when that initial crush of people is over that the grief really sets in. That’s when she goes to bring food or comfort or time.♥ 0source record 4216
I wasn’t with my mom when my dad passed and I felt so guilty for a long time. A friend told me that maybe he wait until he was alone with her. It 💯 helped me. He just wanted to be with her. 💜♥ 0source record 4253
none, if someone has one for me. I would appreciate it. thank you. my mom passed.♥ 0source record 4282
This might not be for everyone, but, When my mom passed EVERYONE would say sorry and “anything I can do to help” etc which is appreciate, but I had a buddy just right off the bat after hearing about her passing go “Damn, that F kn sucks, what the fk. Your mom’s a damn quitter dude” and it totally made me crack up, my mom would have LOVED that response.♥ 0source record 4343
I have lost so many loved ones in my life! My Mom, Dad, 2 brothers and a sister! I know and have felt devastating pain emotionally over and over! Now I give people advice I needed to hear—Do not drink, it will only hurt you more! 💔 Stay sober and live life—-love yourself!♥ 0source record 4352
My mom told me after my 16 month old passed you are absolutely shattered and you will never be whole again but we will pick up the pieces; some pieces will be to broken and shattered to pick up; but the ones you can we will pick them up and create a stain glass.♥ 0source record 4402
I might get it wrong, but a good friend told me when my mom passed away - that she got to spend her life - with me! I think she worded it - “she spent the rest of her of her life with you.” And - as much as I want my mom to be here for mine - I’m glad she was loved until the end.♥ 0source record 4628
My Dad told me after my niece passed from cancer (she was like my own) my mom and dad lost my brother when he was 10 months so when he said this it hit me he said life moves forward and you have to too you have other people that depend on you be present in it grieve and move forward♥ 0source record 4674
Nothing. My Mom can’t be replaced, only missed and grieved. Nothing changes this.♥ 0source record 4722
It’s a quote from a movie called wind river that sticks with me till this day …”You can't steer from the pain. If you do, you'll rob yourself of every memory of her. Every last one. From her first step, to her last mile. You'll kill them all. Just take the pain, . You hear me? You take it. It's the only way you'll keep her with you" and for a while I’ve been trying to bury the hurt I feel everytime I think about my mom but that doesn’t help me one bit. So like he said I’m going to have to take the pain 🥹♥ 0source record 4938
Women grieve, men replace. per my mother. and its true!♥ 0source record 4945
The day of my mom’s wake, I looked at her and she didn’t look like herself at all. My ex boyfriend looked at me and said “it’s just a vessel” and it always stuck with me.♥ 0source record 5038
Thank you for posting this. I saved it as I recently lost my dad and my mom is now in memory care. I’ve saved this to help me get through what is to come.♥ 0source record 5084
the level of your grief for someone is directly proportional to the depth of your love for them. that helped me understand why I couldn't stop crying for my mother for over 2years♥ 0source record 5137
When i lost my mom to Covid I just reminded myself she is with me. Although my brain told me different I just allowed my heart to believe it.. still do 💙♥ 0source record 5289
Thank you for sharing this post..I lost my mom a month ago tomorrow…the heartache…it’s sooo hard. 😞♥ 0source record 5332
my husband said "babe your mom died you don't have to be strong, you just have to be and when people ask go ahead and tell them the truth "♥ 0source record 5355
I was told to Tie a knot and hang on. Simple but powerful. My mom died in the Covid crisis. Horrible.♥ 0source record 5366
My cousin reminded me not to mourn over 30 days which I was really upset. I wish I would listen. It was good advice. I’m more for my mom for years. It ruined my life. I’m OK it’s been 16 years since my mom‘s been gone, but I’m OK.♥ 0source record 5453
I lost my father 3 days ago and it’s been the hardest thing I’ve had to experience. My mom has been struggling terribly so a lot of decisions have been made for me to make.. I’m being strong for her and the grandkids they adopted. But when can I properly grieve? That’s all I want to know..♥ 0source record 5596
As someone who lost 2 parents both unexpectadly its hard .Yes i have good days and bad days and its ok. We gather at holidays and laugh at old funny stories instead of crying that they are gone. Lost my mom at 17 miss never having a mother figure in my life.♥ 0source record 5691
Need to save but the 1st comment has me balling and I can’t start my day in tears. Miss my mom and brother so much 🙏💕♥ 0source record 5715
Nothing. I lost my dad in September and my mom in February. Silence basically, I’ve just been figuring it out basically alone. All I hear is the things you least want to hear…♥ 0source record 5887
my mom saw me crying because my GF just dumped me and she told me don't cry over her she doesn't love you that's why she's gone not worth your tears, cry over me when I pass those are tears worth shedding♥ 0source record 5908
I heard a question that someone said was to ask the person grieving about who the person who passed away was, what was your favorite memory of them. I’m waiting to tell my mom’s story to someone. That part I feel have helped me♥ 0source record 5912
is the hardest thing to do till this day I can't 😭 lost my mother 3 yrs ago♥ 0source record 5969
was my mom's last words of wisdom. when I asked her how am I suppose to live without you. she said little by little.😭♥ 0source record 5985
I lived through my grief alone of my mom passing to C when I was 10. When I realized she wasn’t gone, not lost like “I’m sorry for your loss.” But I had gained an Angel, my perspective changed, which changed my life. Anytime I’ve called upon my angels to aid, they carry me.♥ 0source record 6000
My dad had cancer and was in hospice. I had to give my mom cpr, she didn’t make it. Whether you are prepared, or it is sudden, the passing of your parents is never easy 😔♥ 0source record 6104
My mom passed a year and a half, my brother 2 years ago and I grieve everyday. It’s a sad emptiness and no words are comforting but I am appreciative of kindness from people around me for understanding my grief even though I don’t understand it myself♥ 0source record 6126
Grief as a child was difficult, looking back now it was very sad I couldn’t imagine what my mom had went through watching me grieve my dad. As an adult it feels heavy.♥ 0source record 6142
Everytime I said sorry for talking about my mom my best friends would tell me don’t be sorry and let me continue talking about my mom while I cried♥ 0source record 6149
I don’t know if it’s so much advice on grieving per se, but somebody had once told me before and has stuck with me ever since. You can apply to whoever that you are grieving over. But they said. This is in regards to my mom. Our mom’s taught us everything except for how to live without them. That hits so hard and it was so true. I learned so much from my mother, but how to live without her has been hard as hell. Especially as close as I was to my mom. I was my mom‘s everything and she was my everything.♥ 0source record 6254
My mom said never be afraid of talking about it and I never have been (losing my little sister when we were little)♥ 0source record 6275

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What commenters described: I needed to read these comments today. I just lost my father two days ago and it hurts so much.. there are times when I'm numb, times when I'm sad and times that I'm happy and I'm so confused why I'm not crying constantly

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I needed to read these comments today. I just lost my father two days ago and it hurts so much.. there are times when I'm numb, times when I'm sad and times that I'm happy and I'm so confused why I'm not crying constantly

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“They were not here a minute too long or too short for what they needed to experience”. I lost both my parents at a very young age, separately. That helped a lot.

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don't try to control what you can't control. Everyone has a purpose in this life and your father met his already.

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This seems like that advice you hear about in movies. It’s just so incredibly thoughtful and well expressed. I definitely need to remember this one as I’m still grieving my dad.♥ 1source record 83
This wasn’t meant for me but It was EXACTLY what I needed to hear!!! I loss my dad 4 months ago and grief is such a silent creeper 🥹♥ 1source record 86
Wow this is so beautiful! ♥️Thank you for that because I am currently grieving the loss of my father.♥ 1source record 97
Just lost my dad a week ago and this made my heart smile. Thank you ❤️♥ 1source record 99
Thank you for this! I’m learning after a year of my dad’s passing Grief is a part of my life forever.♥ 1source record 104
It’s been 6 days since I lost my daddy. To imagine him sharing about our family, his grand babies, the adventures we all had together….healed a little piece of my broken heart. That would be so him to be talking about each of us with the biggest smile on his face. ❤️Thank you for sharing this.♥ 0source record 287
My parents I belived loved me more then anything. I do need to take care of me better♥ 4source record 387
same. Both my parents are gone. I can't comprehend how I even got here. Time went too fast. Before I knew to love and appreciate what I had they were gone.♥ 4source record 492
That’s so honest and I’m sorry. 💔 I miss the me I was before losing my dad and son. I don’t recognize my old smile anymore. It’s really hard.♥ 3source record 493
I commented this too! Someone told me this (just worded a freckle differently) and it gave me so much comfort knowing my dad will see me again in the blink of an eye ❤️💔♥ 2source record 563
My dad told me this♥ 2source record 564
That’s exactly what I told my dad a few hours before he passed. It’ll be the blink of an eye for him. I told him I’d see him in just a moment.♥ 1source record 581
After my Dad died this was the only thing that made sense 🥹♥ 0source record 615
My dad’s service is next Sunday. Any advice on how to just get through the day?♥ 2source record 642
i’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 10 years ago now and I still miss him every day very hard to lose a parent thoughts are with you.♥ 1source record 666
I needed to read these comments today. I just lost my father two days ago and it hurts so much.. there are times when I'm numb, times when I'm sad and times that I'm happy and I'm so confused why I'm not crying constantly♥ 983source record 673
I just lost my dad 6 weeks ago. I truly needed these comments too.♥ 19source record 674
just lost my father on 7/5. I cry every day.♥ 6source record 685
I lost my father the 13♥ 3source record 690
I’m so sorry for your loss I lost my dad 2 years ago and it still feels like yesterday the pain didn’t fade at all♥ 3source record 691
my dad passed away a month and a half ago, I hug you so much.♥ 0source record 708
I’m so sorry I’m sending you a hug. I lost my dad a couple months ago and I don’t know what to do with myself I’m just kinda existing it’s so strange and unfair♥ 0source record 729
I lost my dad a year ago. The first week was so strange. Then it sunk in and I couldn’t stop crying. I’m not sure when I stopped crying every day, and now I feel guilty about that. It’s just hard.♥ 0source record 731
i lost my dad very unexpectedly last august, you don’t forget them ever, but.. somehow you make peace with it. think of good things, for me it was that my dad worked reallllllllly hard all his life outside as a carpenter, now he can kick up his feet.♥ 0source record 735
I lost my dad 18 yrs ago. 2 nights ago I cried for him. That’s how grief works.♥ 0source record 736
I lost my dad a few days ago…can we lean on each other?♥ 0source record 738
I’m so very sorry. My dad has been gone for 3 months. It’s a journey. Blessings to you. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 741
i lost my dad 2 years ago and i still randomly sob at work in the middle of the day when im seemingly ok. sometimes it just hits that your loved one is no longer around forever. him being gone forever hurts so much sometimes i can’t fathom it.♥ 0source record 742
I remember my long term bf at the time was upset I wasn’t in the mood for hanky panky and I said I’m just upset over my dad it only being months after said “he’s dead and gone and you need to get over it. You can’t live like this forever.” That was that for me.♥ 0source record 834
My daddy too but now it hurts me how much pain he was in. He died in so much pain 😭😭😭♥ 0source record 931
😭This is beautiful and the support and love is amazing. My fil came to my dad’s viewing and said “you have my condolences” like we are complete strangers and I’ll never forget it.♥ 0source record 981
This is actually the most beautiful and most accurate response to losing a parent, but probably any great love! I lost my Dad at 21 and of all the replies here, this one is the one that resonates. You have an incredible FIL. I hope you stayed close to him. Life is so fragile. I still grieve my Dad. I will for the rest of my life. I lost him before I ever should have. You don’t recover from that. You learn to move forward and hopefully become the person they always wanted for you and you for them. ❤️♥ 1source record 989
Gosh the way this made me sob because I felt every part of this when both my parents died and yeah that “stuck” part he talked about yeah I’m there. Just stuck because frick it hurts like nothing else♥ 1source record 1031
Live life for what tomorrow has to offer not for what yesterday has taken away. My parents died a year apart and I truly try to live by this… it feels dark but there will be light eventually.♥ 12source record 1087
I was still grieving my parents and now my dog of 18 years passed it is so hard & never goes away 🥺 I miss them all SOOO much 💔♥ 7source record 1107
I was saying how I missed conversations with my dad and my friend said "You can still have them. And you can revisit the old ones." I do that a lot. ❤️♥ 6source record 1116
My husband would tell me “stop crying your dad wouldn’t want to see you cry” we were so busy comforting family. I told him let me cry my self to sleep. One day I’ll stop and laugh at our good memories. I now cry of happy tears and laugh so much♥ 1source record 1193
for me after i lost my dad i kept repeating "if i can survive this i can survive anything."♥ 1source record 1195
I lost my husband, then my sweet Mom two months later and then my Dad two weeks after Mom. I always feel like I slighted my parents because I spent their last days so sad. They were grieving my sweet Johnny too.😢 These comments are so comforting. Thank you for sharing.❤️♥ 1source record 1235
Be kind and patient with yourself. Your grief will always be there, but you don’t have to unpack and live inside of its walls 🙏🏻 My parents wanted so much for me to live my life and be happy. I owe it to them 🙏🏻✨♥ 0source record 1246
I told a friend that I could not “feel” my dad anymore and she said “ that’s a good thing he was ready to go”♥ 0source record 1249
“They were not here a minute too long or too short for what they needed to experience”. I lost both my parents at a very young age, separately. That helped a lot.♥ 0source record 1282
Where there is great grief there is great love...I wouldn't miss my dad as much as I do if he wasn't a great dad. I'll miss him the rest of my life because that's the kind of dad he was, once in a lifetime. I'm so lucky.♥ 4source record 1325
From my dad “I’m proud of you”♥ 1source record 1367
I wasn't given this advice but my memory was really bad after my Dad died. I started to get worried and learned that grief and memory loss is normal, it's a stress response. So when I see others lose someone close to them I try to warn them this could happen and to be prepared...and to be kind to themselves.♥ 2source record 1370
Honestly Nothing… lost my dad and I’ve heard them all. All that helps is hearing memories he shared with his friends and family that I never heard before.♥ 1source record 1438
Picture them at their happiest stage of life. Gives me peace that my Dad is running the hills of Scott’s Bluff and hiking the Grand Canyon 🙏🏻♥ 1source record 1440
It’s everyone’s destiny. - my dad when my brother (his oldest son) passed away I needed to hear it, as much as he needed to say it♥ 1source record 1610
Don’t let anyone tell you how long to grieve!!! Take as much time as you need. Lost my dad in October and grief is a daily battle♥ 1source record 1651
My daddy said during the loss of my grandmother his mother that it was just life. He handled it so well such a great role model for me.♥ 1source record 1713
Im blank.... My Dad passed when I was 12 and I didn't cry. I suppose I dont know how to grieve.♥ 1source record 1751
That you will never “move on” people who say that have never been through it. Just learn to do things that they would love. I love doing things my Dad enjoyed now. It brings me happiness♥ 1source record 1763
To waste any more time then absolutely necessary when grieving your sweet baby Kayla 💕 wise words from my father [account] that still ring loud 20 years later♥ 1source record 1779
You are going to have to get over it. You can't come home and sit in the dark everyday. Heard that two weeks after I found my father dead.♥ 1source record 1859
I ve Lost babies and my Daddy😳🥰♥ 1source record 1864
While my father was on life support my best friend who is older said your about to find out who your real friends/family are there’s people that are going to come out of the wood work for your fathers money. Don’t give anyone anything♥ 1source record 2041
My dad often asked me- will you remember me often when I’m gone? I replied- you have to forget first to remember later’! He’s with me every single day!♥ 1source record 2083
When the flashing mental pictures start, do not run from them, no matter how ugly they seem. Embrace them instead. - my father drowned. 💛♥ 1source record 2117
I lost my dad five years ago.. I feel I’ve learned a lot but sometimes I feel like I’ve also learned nothing. There’s not a day I don’t think about him. I realised that this year is my 30th and it’s the first decade in my life that I’ll be going into..without him.♥ 0source record 2258
To harden up when my parents died♥ 0source record 2302
“buti ka pa nakasama mo pa Papa mo, ako wala akong tatay simula pagkabata” me hearing this right after I learned that my Dad passed away while Im wailing🤡♥ 0source record 2318
I am honored to grieve my father the rest of my life. He loved me unconditionally and not everyone gets to experience that. I will miss him until the day I die and he better come get me♥ 0source record 2349
I needed this. I miss my dad so much, it’s been about 1.5 months since he passed.♥ 0source record 2558
“They didn’t die thinking you would die with them. They want nothing more than to see you continue growing. They’ll be there with you. Don’t worry.” - after losing both my parents unexpectedly♥ 0source record 2620
I thought I would never stop crying when my Dad died. My husband who lost his Father said “it takes one year to feel better”. A year later the pain stopped being daily. It was nice to know the constant ache wasnt forever♥ 0source record 2643
Do not let death destroy you. My uncle told me this when my dad died.....💔♥ 0source record 2681
Think about my parents all the time. 💔♥ 0source record 2741
count up the times you see your parents each year. think about that.♥ 0source record 2756
There will come a day when you will smile and you will feel lighter… and you may have mixed feelings about that, maybe guilt. I chose to think of those moments as gifts from my parents, they were sending me the lightness and wanted me to have it. It helped me accept my joy as much as my sadness.♥ 0source record 2798
My father passed over 50 years ago. I’m still grieving.♥ 0source record 2826
lost my dad 3 weeks ago 😢 feeling numb♥ 0source record 2996
I said, “I’ll never my dad’s face again.” And my aunt said, “Just look in the mirror, honey.”♥ 0source record 3011
I found ways that life beautifully moved on. Like meeting my new baby cousin after my father passed away.♥ 0source record 3032
I was on the floor, face down, after my dad died. It was more horrible than I could understand. My grandson who was 3 then said “don’t cry grandma. Caption Jack {Sparrow} will be your dad now.” It made me laugh, and I began to stand up again.♥ 0source record 3101
I was told you were lucky to have them to 90 years old. Idk why it’s the circle of life how much longer did you think they would live? Your dad was 92 it mom 90. You should be GRATEFUL. So why not turn it around and look at it like that. I was stunned. I said I saw them everyday some to them 5 times a day they were not old people in their 90’s they were sharp maybe a little slower but u still took them to Atlantic City and they had a ball. Why can’t the person I want comfort from see me cry about it why does he have to say be grateful. A heart that was broke is a heart that was loved. I left, said see ya ed Sheeran. I cried for days♥ 0source record 3262
Someone told me this quote when my dad first got sick they said..I will endure a lifetime of missing you for the privilege of loving you “ and it just made sense…♥ 0source record 3270
My dad told me he did this when his dad died, "Ask them for forgiveness and tell them you forgive them." Little did I know he was preparing me for his death a few months later (stroke due to subdural hematomas).😭♥ 0source record 3295
I lost my dad 5 years ago. We weren’t close cause he was gone a lot of my life. I never got the chance to make a lasting bond with him. And I think that is the grief that I continue to hold on to 😭😭♥ 0source record 3428
You were so lucky to have had your Dad as an adult♥ 0source record 3455
I read Rabbi Kushner book why bad things happen to good peopl. I was 20 yrs old when I lost my dad.♥ 0source record 3617
Thich nhat hahn's "how to live when a loved one dies" helped me manage day to day. I had a dream about my dad where he told me death is the best job he's had because he could be with everyone at once and that makes me feel better sometimes♥ 0source record 3639
Sadly, I wasn't given any beneficial advice. I had people tell me, "Call if you need me." "Stop crying and let their spirit go." "Stop crying and get over it." People really weren't compassionate in my time of grieving! After the funerals, people turned their back on me as if being an orphan was my fault. 🥺 I learned who my true friends and family weren't.♥ 0source record 3648
Grieve on your own timetable. Don’t let anyone dictate what’s appropriate. When my Dad died I was in a dark place, and my husband said to me “it’s been three months, are you over it yet?” Of♥ 0source record 3726
My dad, pain reminds you you’re still alive♥ 0source record 3799
When I lost my dad, I told my sister I felt so guilty for not spending enough time with him. She told me he knew that we loved him and he loved us, that nothing could change that. Even if I told him one more time it wouldn’t stop him from dying. I felt comfort realizing she was right. Regret is just us wanting to change the outcome but we can’t♥ 0source record 3828
I cried on the candy aisle during Christmas when I saw my dad’s favorite candy. I broke down. To my knees. The pain was so strong I didn’t care who saw or heard me. It’s not that bad anymore. I will never forget that pain. The depth it took in my body.♥ 0source record 3965
Your grief is expected , it reflects the amount of love you had for your dad ..it’s the voice you connected to feeling at home and safe , his love is within you always , it’s ok to miss him and cry♥ 0source record 4098
This is a quote from the movie “Thanks for Sharing,” which I found oddly comforting while I grieved the suicide of my brother, followed shortly by the deaths of both my parents and my sister. “Feelings are like kids. You don’t want them driving the car, but you don’t want to stuff them in the trunk either.” I leaned into my feelings of grief and sat with them for as long as I needed in order to permit them a safe space in my soul. Now I feel like I can coexist with tremendous pain and loss without fighting against those feelings. It’s helped me to support others in similar situations, and oddly enough, my wife’s brother took his own life less than two years after my brother did.♥ 0source record 4111
I now think of my dad everyday with love. I can’t say before he died I thought of him everyday. And when I did it may have been out of frustration for having to take him somewhere♥ 0source record 4205
When my dad passed away I told my self to never forget how deeply they loved you because that love was yours alone, and no one else will ever know it the way you did.♥ 0source record 4325
I miss my dad 😞♥ 0source record 4660
don't try to control what you can't control. Everyone has a purpose in this life and your father met his already.♥ 0source record 4704
My husband lost his dad a long time ago and I had just lost my grandfather he was like my dad and I asked him…when does it stop hurting he hugged me and said…”it never does you just learn to grow with it” it’s okay to always grieve you just adjust with it ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4833
“You don’t need to be their mom right now, you can be your dad’s little girl and grieve him when he goes”♥ 0source record 4914
My dad told me this before he passed: grief is like a pack on your back somedays it heavy as hell. After time goes by the pack becomes lighter because you become stronger. Sometimes you need help with it, ask. People will help.♥ 0source record 5061
“Suck it up” - my dad 😢♥ 0source record 5063
being angry won't bring my dad back. stop pushing ppl away that love me♥ 0source record 5151
i have learned not to dwell on how many days I won't have my dad, but how many days I was blessed to have him in it. forever 17,999.♥ 0source record 5177
After my dad passed, someone told me to never feel guilty for feeling happy again. If I feel happiness, it doesnt mean I've moved on or forgotten my dad or that I'm no longer grieving. But this freed me and lit a fire in my soul to live out the rest of my days in a way that would make my dad proud.♥ 0source record 5179
Certainly not my line, and I forget why I heard it from, put the line “what is grief but love without an outlet.“ After losing my dad, I tried to see it from the perspective of a reminder. Grief is a love I had for my dad with nowhere else to go.It’s a pain that reminds me how lucky I was to have him.♥ 0source record 5180
while drinking myself in a super to numb myself, I was asked "do you think your dad would be okay that youre doing this and saying it's because of him"♥ 0source record 5219
To have lived as long as he has still Golfing and to have died in in own bed. Who does that? Your dad he said . You helped him do that.♥ 0source record 5220
I can’t ever stop grieving it’s been 46 years first my Dad a month later my husband it hurt so bad it ruined my life 46 years of hurt♥ 0source record 5223
F you all that commented. Made me tear up, I really miss my dad.♥ 0source record 5230
Get it together Man! Your Dad wouldn’t want to see you like this.♥ 0source record 5260
My dad said if you ever feel a gut feeling listen to it.. it never lies.. so if it feels wrong then it is wrong 💛♥ 0source record 5274
Right before grief when I knew my father was about to die, my best friend told me to record our last conversation and so I did. Well, it’s too painful to listen to it often it’s there and when I need a piece of my father and just sit in my grief again, I can.♥ 0source record 5284
This isn’t advice but a shared experience in grief. My brother commented that “No one prepares you how to live without your parents” You know the day is coming when both will pass away, but you can’t prepare yourself for life without them. ♥️♥ 0source record 5363
After loosing my dad I had to start learning to become grateful for being blessed with a father like him my whole life. Not everyone gets a a dad like I had. It took a while to understand that during my process of grieving.♥ 0source record 5377
It will get easier written on a piece of paper by my coworker. I never told her my parents passed. still got thay piece of paper after 4 yrs💔♥ 0source record 5436
My sweet insanely healthy dad was diagnosed w/brain cancer in ‘19 & died after fighting a horrific 11 month battle in ‘20. I was so so angry. A friend of my dad’s told me at his memorial that the cancer didn’t win. It died when my dad died. It was a draw. I finally slept a full night of sleep that night.♥ 0source record 5539
When I lost my Dad it made me reevaluate how I was living my life. I threw myself into transforming my life so that my time wasn’t cut short like my Fathers was due to poor health choices. Three years later & I don’t even recognize that girl. I honor his memory everyday by my choices. Having that mindset helped me grieve in the healthiest way possible.♥ 0source record 5678
That pain in your chest is your dad hugging your heart so hard. It’s not pain, it’s love, and sometimes love hurts. It hurts because it was real.♥ 0source record 5737
I love my grief. It means I never have to forget them. Miss my dad! 💔♥ 0source record 5752
I lost my dad when I was 22. He missed all of my big moments. Someone told me that I will relive the grief every time one of those big moments happen. Over and over. It’s true. Living without them is harder than losing them.♥ 0source record 5762
I honestly dont remember much of what was said to me after losing my Dad, my first love, & my last love... forever 💔💔💔♥ 0source record 5779
Not much they told I have to be strong for my kids. They need me! But they don’t know I need my dad back too 😢 I missed him every single day.♥ 0source record 5823
Not advice so much but I love hearing stories about the impact my dad on so many people. These are stories my dad never talked about because he helped people in silence. When I hear them it’s like I’m learning something new. Miss him every second of every single day. ❤️Grief sneaks up on you when you least expect it.♥ 0source record 5892
I remember the day my dad died thinking “How is it everyone keeps going on like nothing has happened”. Walking outside and life just continued on all around me. And then not 30 minutes later a friend called me and said “The world isn’t going to stop today for you, but I will. Whatever you need to say, feel, or do, I will just be. I will stop everything my day would have consisted of today to show respect for your dad’s passing”. A decade later that gesture single handedly got me thru the next weeks of my life.♥ 0source record 5978
It took time to think about it this way but now I ask myself is this how my dad would want to see me. Sad. Giving up. Not trying. It motivates now but at the beginning nothing mattered.♥ 0source record 6064
I once read as much as your love was is as much as you grieve.. it’s so true, so hard it’s debilitating at times. I try to remind myself to be grateful for having such a great person in my life. Some aren’t so lucky. He was my Dad🙏🏼♥ 0source record 6067
No one really understands, unless they’ve been through it. Those who have been through it will never tell you to move on. Missing my dad so much. The stomach pain I’ve felt since I lost him🥺❤️♥ 0source record 6068
My dad transition on Sunday and I’m having a hard time♥ 0source record 6132
My dad used to say... Enjoy when you can, endure when you must. Now that he's gone Im reminded of this all the time. 💔♥ 0source record 6155
A friend told me your dad loved and cared for so many, he made the world brighter. His light still shines in you, it’s your turn to share that light with the world. Don’t dim his shine. ❤️♥ 0source record 6318

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What the pattern means: These accounts show grief for grandparents, siblings, and friends remaining substantial even when other people underestimate the relationship.

What commenters described: To not make others comfortable with your grief. It’s is ok to be grieving and you’re not responsible for others being uncomfortable or taking on their mundane issues. When someone, anyone, asks how you are don’t lie or give the polite response.…

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To not make others comfortable with your grief. It’s is ok to be grieving and you’re not responsible for others being uncomfortable or taking on their mundane issues. When someone, anyone, asks how you are don’t lie or give the polite response. “How are you today?” “Not great, my brother just died.” “What are you up to today?” “Burying my brother”. You’d be surprised how many people respond incredibly well and create small moments of honest human connection when you don’t realize you need it.

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Never got any. I was alone and had nobody when two of my friends died.

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I apologized to my best friend & his wife for coming to their house and vomiting my pain/grief all the time. His wife said, “We have an endless supply of warm towels for your forehead or any messes.”

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I could see this being a song as well. I hope you continue writing. My best friend just lost her son, so this popped up at just the right time. Thank you. ❤️♥ 0source record 79
I needed that, you made her come to visit. I lost one of my favorite people back in April, my Grandmother and life won’t be the same without her but I know that she’s always watching and looking out for me💕♥ 0source record 144
This is what I was told when two of my brothers died🥺 suck a learning curve to allow the feeling of grief move through you and not be angry about it♥ 0source record 228
My grandma always said ‘the living have to live’ 🥺♥ 2source record 447
Was told this when I was a child by my grandmother ❤️❤️❤️blink of an eye and you will be with them♥ 1source record 580
Found this years after my sister died. Nothing has ever resonated in me more♥ 17source record 596
Same. Shortly after my sister’s suicide.♥ 8source record 597
He’s right. Lost my brother when he was just 34 in 2022. I’m forever changed.♥ 1source record 604
No truer words were spoken. I feel this to the core of my soul. Life without my brother is so empty. 🥺♥ 1source record 606
I lost my sister 5 years ago and I am still weak!♥ 0source record 611
this. my family has always said I've never been the same since my grandma passed. and she had dementia for over 5 years... where i thought I mourned her before she passed. and she remembered me the night before she passed. I needed that. but her death... she was everything to me♥ 0source record 612
Lost my brother when we were kids. So sorry. I actually KNOW what youre feeling♥ 0source record 620
I've been struggling with this. My brother died on June second and everyone else's life is moving on and getting back to normal and I feel like I should be getting back to normal too but I'm just not. The darkness seems like it stretches on forever.♥ 1source record 865
To not make others comfortable with your grief. It’s is ok to be grieving and you’re not responsible for others being uncomfortable or taking on their mundane issues. When someone, anyone, asks how you are don’t lie or give the polite response. “How are you today?” “Not great, my brother just died.” “What are you up to today?” “Burying my brother”. You’d be surprised how many people respond incredibly well and create small moments of honest human connection when you don’t realize you need it.♥ 118source record 868
my brother died too and he was so good with animals as well. when my dog storm died and it killed me I took some relief in knowing that she is with him and he is loving on her all the time.♥ 3source record 881
I was told that when, I believe, my grandmother had said " There are angels standing at the foot of the bed, it's time for me to go" and passed within a few moments.....♥ 1source record 905
My grandma is currently living but with stage 4 cancer and Alzheimer’s. I feel like Ive been grieving who she was for quite some time now. And ik it will hurt all over again when she passes, but there’s an ounce of peace in that she won’t be living in so much pain.♥ 1source record 933
I lost my mum almost 4 months ago she was my best friend my person ❤️♥ 0source record 983
ty for this. I just getting small chances to grieve my sister and it's been almost 3 yrs.♥ 1source record 998
I know, me either . We were married in high school . I still don’t know how to live without him , and honestly how could I ? I hope you find peace my friend..I’m still trying to.❤️♥ 1source record 1083
I didn't get any, but hearing my papaw say "I love you, barbie doll" one last time was the best ❤️♥ 4source record 1156
My aunt told me this….. it’s so true. That day will rob you of your happiness.♥ 1source record 1172
I lost my only brother twelve years ago. I don't really remember what was said; I was in disbelief.♥ 1source record 1227
My best friend‘s dad warned me. He said the cards will stop coming, dinner stops being dropped off, and almost everyone else in my life will go silent. They stayed ♥️♥ 1source record 1230
Never got any. I was alone and had nobody when two of my friends died.♥ 0source record 1279
I just lost my niece 4 days ago. Tough time for all of the family members.♥ 0source record 1286
I needed this years later this summer when my friend unalived themselves♥ 0source record 1290
Reading the comments made me cry over my brother I miss him so much♥ 1source record 1311
One of my friends called a few weeks after my adult son’s death. She didn’t know him well. She said “Tell me about Zach.” She just let me talk. I stumbled over words trying to describe him. I remember telling her what foods he loved and telling her how much he loved his dogs. 😢💔♥ 1source record 1333
Sometimes I get in the car to go to the cemetery to visit my uncle, and Margaritaville comes on the radio randomly…..that was his ringtone. He is with me, it feels like he is saying hello back to me…they are with you whenever you think of them.♥ 1source record 1369
The hurt and pain we feel, is the price we pay for loving someone . So I do things in my sister’s memory to keep loving them 😭♥ 1source record 1533
I’ve lost a lot of people, like many of us. I recently went to a medium. She told me my brothers had a message: “they gave all their second chances to you…” they both died of drug overdoses. I’ll be sober 26 years in October. ❤️😢 ⭐️♥ 1source record 1587
"When people ask how many siblings you have, and you struggle, just know there's no wrong answer".♥ 1source record 1761
Not really advice, my best friend said this ache will never go away. And the world will continue to rotate. But I am here, if you need silence or a shoulder or memories.♥ 1source record 1851
When my best friend committed suicide: it’s not your fault because it wasn’t your choice. If it were your choice, it wouldn’t have happened.♥ 1source record 1889
My brother passed last November. One of his best friends joined him yesterday. I needed this.♥ 1source record 1951
Not advice... my best friend said "You have to go through this at your pace and I will stand in the fire beside you all the way".♥ 1source record 2016
There was ans is literally nothing anyone could say. Till this day, it is definitely softer now but when it hits it’s still gut wrenching. I miss my brothers every day !♥ 1source record 2027
Struggling with how to help my friend whose son just committed suicide.. thank you for this..♥ 1source record 2030
Something I just said to my sister, sadly we were born to survive. But we do and we have and we will.♥ 1source record 2167
This was a horrible thing, but out of all of us (my friend group), you would have been the only one to come out of this alive. ❤️♥ 0source record 2245
that time is my friend 🕊️💫💫♥ 0source record 2290
My friend told me to expect grief at unexpected times. I could be at the grocery or someone could simply ask how I was doing ….. and tears would flow♥ 0source record 2366
My 15 year old baby brother is gone. My 40+ sister is gone due to her DL husband torturing her to death, he’s married to his mistress. F*ck her and her bastard kids! What about my sister♥ 0source record 2392
My best friend committed suicide a year ago. My mentor said to me the hurt never goes away you just learn how to tolerate it. You’ll never understand why so don’t let that part get in your head. He himself committed suicide in may. Been a rough year. 💔♥ 0source record 2538
I’m not one to say because I still grieve every day. My life hasn’t been the same since both of my sisters died.♥ 0source record 2573
You had 27 years on earth with your brother but now you get to have a new relationship with him, wherever you choose for the first next 20-30-60 years. I have heard him clear as day 3 times in the last 2 years right behind my ear. I think he thinks it's funny to F WITH ME♥ 0source record 2648
You actually die twice…once when you leave the earth and the 2nd time when people stop speaking your name. I talk about my friend Sam all the time. As long as I’m alive, she will be too.♥ 0source record 2709
One of my best friends passed a little after college from a car accident more than 10 years ago now but she still can bring me to tears. Her light, it was beyond special. She was my first friend in HS and we had a special bond but she was so popular and I wasn’t. When she passed I had no one that knew of our friendship except maybe 1 or 2 people. Her funeral was the hardest and I went alone. One of those friends was there and when they saw me, I just collapsed in their arms. I had just seen her a few weeks before. She was telling me about her dreams. I still feel so alone in the grieving since no one knew us as friends. I miss her so very much. 💔♥ 0source record 2825
My friend John lied to me to get out of the house, and when I got there he said he lied and it was just so I can leave the house. He sat on a bench at the park and he told me that in his culture, those moments you’re going through life and something reminds you of your late loved ones, it means they’re with you and want you to know that. 💕♥ 0source record 2895
The best thing someone ever did for me was explain what it is like to have been an addict. They showed me a window into a world I didn’t understand. It allowed me to understand my sister better. I miss her♥ 0source record 2932
“ Your brother will be the person you run to when it’s your time” a lot of peace came with understanding I would get that hug again one day …♥ 0source record 3506
I miss my brother so much it hurts I just wish I could just hug him one more time I wish I could hear his voice.♥ 0source record 3567
Don’t move forward and try to do things their way. (I.e., What would my sister do in this situation?) Trust that they selected YOU for when they were gone because you would do it YOUR way. 💗 This what’s the best advice, and the hardest to embrace. 🖤♥ 0source record 3693
do whatever you need to do to grieve. i held a memorial ceremony for my cat with my friends, nearly 2mo after he passed. i felt really self conscious about it, but it really did a lot for me to be surrounded by my people & get to speak on how special he was. it definitely moved me out of a very stuck place in my grief.♥ 0source record 3743
I didn't get decent advice. I lost who I thought were my friends, though♥ 0source record 3791
only advice I got ... I was 19 just lost my brother, people told me to move on,... but I couldn't, not without my brother♥ 0source record 3955
“Be the best things about him that you loved”. This gets me through every day, as I focus on being my favorite things about my Brother. I am now more kind, more patient, and more forgiving. ❤️♥ 0source record 4237
Time will be your best friend at the end of this chapter. This is my advice to you ❤️♥ 0source record 4349
Grief also gives you gifts. My brother passed unexpectedly at 37yo. I realized how many things in life just don’t matter/aren’t that serious. My MIL passed at just 65yo she was given 6 years to live and lived 6 weeks. I realized how you make others feel matters so much more than anything else.♥ 0source record 4531
That suicide wasn’t the cause of my friend’s death, it was just the final stage of his battle with his disease (depression).♥ 0source record 4545
I apologized to my best friend & his wife for coming to their house and vomiting my pain/grief all the time. His wife said, “We have an endless supply of warm towels for your forehead or any messes.”♥ 0source record 4700
Wasn’t really given any advice but maybe someone can share it now?!? 🥺💜 I miss my brother♥ 0source record 4860
I said, “I miss her.” And my friend said, “Oh honey, she misses you too.” Life changing.♥ 0source record 4963
the best advice was given to me before I lost them. my sister's baby died and I was mad. she told me she wasn't and she was happy for the time she had with the baby. she didn't know she could love something so deeply for such a short time. she said it was just a test in life. A few days later my sister died....her own words are the only thing that has ever made me feel better.♥ 0source record 4984
I was talking to the wife of a Rabbi about the loss of my best friend. She said to imagine he’s just upstairs. It was an instant reprieve from the finality of my loss. Mark is merely upstairs. It gave me room to breath.♥ 0source record 5022
I just made an appointment to put my boy down. Hes my profile picture and been my best friend for 11.5 years. I really needed these comments today, my heart is breaking. 😭♥ 0source record 5072
I could NOT stop grieving (4 losses in one year).. my brother finally sat me down and told me I needed to close the box (think Pandora) I was PISSED at the time. But in hindsight he helped me see it's ok to open the box still, but life here must go on. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 5133
my younger brother overdosed. I couldn't function because he was just a kid, no purpose. felt meaningless until someone said...♥ 0source record 5160
I miss my grandma like every single day. I should have spent more time with her but I was just a kid finally going out and living life..by the time I knew it she had cancer and yes I was there the entire time for her during the last days but my heart aches there was so much I never got to ask her. And share with her. And learn more from her.♥ 0source record 5245
I lost my friend. And I’m devastatingly sad. Her life was taken and the tears don’t stop. Some of these are helpful 💔♥ 0source record 5266
After my grandpa died I saw this quote: “whenever I feel my grief, I will try to remember that I am also feeling my love. I will honor the grief and give thanks for the love.” 💜♥ 0source record 5418
My best friend called me every morning and said get up mo fo me and you are going to fake it till we make it and we did♥ 0source record 5452
I felt excruciating pain after my brother died. I’ll always feel sad. I’m now able to share funny stories and laugh while remembering him. But the pain remains.♥ 0source record 5505
Grief is going to be your best friend so get use to it hanging around. Grief is not a bad thing, it is love.♥ 0source record 5535
My cousin passed saving his brother in a car accident. It was so hard on everyone especially his dad. One day a little boy no one knew knocked on his dad’s door. Asked him if he was Jonathan dad. When he said yes the boy told him Jonathan said he’s ok and for him not to worry anymore or cry. He turned around and left. Before my cousin could talk the boy was gone 💕♥ 0source record 5592
I wish my brother could cope with the loss of his long time wife at 56. We were there but he crawled in a bottle. Lived by himself. He hid it. He doesn’t have much time left 😭♥ 0source record 5634
my friend too ...... it going keep happening. Till I'm gone one day. It will start all over again with my loves when I am gone. sad 😔♥ 0source record 6032
I recommend to pick up those calls you’re sending to vm. Even when I didn’t want to talk , my friends knew. They would leave messages, show up in all different ways. Dark humor, night time drives , silence . They were just what I needed♥ 0source record 6255
An old colleague of mine is of the Jewish community. He passed on some words of encouragement to me when my aunt was called to Glory: “Let their memory be a blessing.” And it certainly stayed with me. 🙏🏻❤️♥ 0source record 6307

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Losing a child62 index entriesLosing a child — 62 records
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What the pattern means: Parents described a child's death as the beginning of an enduring relationship with grief, not a single event they could simply finish.

What commenters described: when I lost my daughter, I was told “losing a child is not an “event” that you have to get over. It is a journey that begins the day your child dies and ends the day you join her”

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when I lost my daughter, I was told “losing a child is not an “event” that you have to get over. It is a journey that begins the day your child dies and ends the day you join her”

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My baby’s name is Snow and she passed away last week. My friend told me that now every winter I get to see her every time I look outside the window🥺🥺🥺

posted about 57 days after the source♥ 2
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I grieved the death of my husband, for years.. he was only 34 at the time.. our children were 3 and 9, I couldn’t let it go.. my grandmother one day, said to me, you’ll never walk among the living, if you live among the dead. I don’t know why, but it helped me let go.

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This is actually the best thing I’ve been told… thank you 🙏🏼 it’ll be 8 months next month since my son left us. Unexpectedly and in a very tragic way. I think about him allll the time. I never know when grief is going to show up.♥ 0source record 139
This is the best advice for me !! My son was my dad’s heart ❤️. His papa I always think how proud and happy my dad is knowing I’m giving my son a beautiful life !♥ 2source record 392
I’ve been struggling so bad lately and this just hit me a different way. I’m no longer the mommy my son loved. I’m broken now without him. I need to be better for his daughters now and it’s so hard.♥ 0source record 409
This was told to me in a small steel voice when my mom passed and I had checked out. I heard just because you lost your mom doesn't mean your son should lose his😭😭 It helped me pull me out of the darkness.♥ 53source record 469
Your words really touched my heart. I told my daughter today that no loss I've ever felt compares to this, in any form. Thinking of you as you continue to navigate. And, I send hugs and thanks for sharing the best words to comfort my heart. ❤️♥ 1source record 651
(This applied to me because I lost my son. It may not apply to you)♥ 6source record 777
when I lost my daughter, I was told “losing a child is not an “event” that you have to get over. It is a journey that begins the day your child dies and ends the day you join her”♥ 1,033source record 798
after my husband died, I told my daughter however she grieved was the right way, as long as she wasn't hurting herself or others.♥ 0source record 838
I was reminded that my son wouldn’t want his death to ruin my life 💔♥ 24source record 1045
A nurse at my Dr appointment asked me “what was his name?” I said “ His name is Daniel”♥️♥️♥️my son♥ 28source record 1055
My son Tucker John....would have 20 in October♥ 0source record 1056
Grieve for your child is NOT for us humans.♥ 0source record 1126
would you want her ( my daughter Chloe) to be this heartbroken? no? than neither woukd she for you. it is ok to be happy.♥ 3source record 1152
i was told to be strong for my baby😭♥ 0source record 1244
" your baby will come and visit you and they are safe "♥ 0source record 1269
pregrieving.... "baby is the circle of life... we ain't supposed to bury our children " that's all the comfort of have now. knowing I kept him from that pain.♥ 0source record 1281
Thank you.. been my baby for almost half my life.. he’s been through so many surgeries etc though so I know now he’s young and healthy… but lonely here without him. Quiet..♥ 1source record 1307
My baby’s name is Snow and she passed away last week. My friend told me that now every winter I get to see her every time I look outside the window🥺🥺🥺♥ 2source record 1334
Lost my son when he was 4 1/2. Someone said to me as I was crying in his hospital room that energy can never really be destroyed, it only takes a different form. He’s ok just home now♥ 1source record 1403
My grief was because of loosing my unborn child. It wasn't so much advice. But just some kind words. "Your baby never knew anything but love"♥ 4source record 1458
My son passed away four months ago at age 25 and I am in more pain today four months later than I thought I would be♥ 1source record 1492
QUINN, I LOVE YOUR COMMENT!! BEAUTIFULLY SAID! NEVER HEARD IT THAT WAY!! I CRIED THROUGH OUT MY SON'S VIEWING AND FUNERAL, IT WAS NON STOP!! THE LOVE I HAD FOR HIM THAT HAD NO WHERE TO GK NOW!! MISS YOU SON!♥ 1source record 1547
to tell your stories. Don't let your childhood memories fade away just because you've lost the people who would talk about you when you were a kid. ❤️♥ 1source record 1693
I’ve yet to hear anything that’s brought me comfort or helped. That being said I lost my 17 year old son last year and I don’t think any advice exists to help with grieving a child.♥ 1source record 1717
I miss my daughter♥ 1source record 1755
The hardest part is being made to be on this earth without them. I miss my son so much.♥ 1source record 1760
I had my still born son April 21, 2025. At our daughter's track meets my friends would come check on me through the day but it's the friends that are still calling and checking on me now that really matters, just a hey girl thinking of you can change your day💙♥ 1source record 1769
take it slow there is no time line or time frame losing a child is a life time sentence. many things trigger the memories. I say it often if your after blood. my heart and soul bled to death the day my son passed. all you get is entrance.and exit wounds.♥ 1source record 1969
It's never going to get better. Matty forever 33. My son 💔♥ 0source record 2268
Loosing my son, he stop talking to me I feel like grief symptoms is being years and I miss him 💔♥ 0source record 2472
lost my first son at16weeks. someone told me my son never knew anything other than my heartbeat,my warmth,&my love& in this cruel world,I gave him a beautiful untainted existence.♥ 0source record 2597
My 2 daughters died= no comfort for grief. Grandparents dying after my girls…they all promised to give them hugs until I could be there with them… with this, I find a bit of comfort♥ 0source record 2663
Look after your children.Don’t allow men to take advantage of you. You will get used to loneliness and healing is a process♥ 0source record 2817
“He got to spend his final moments with his favorite human. He was right where he wanted to be.” When my childhood cat passed in my arms. I felt his last breath and his life leave him. It’s a feeling I’ll never forget.♥ 0source record 2860
Grief is proof of love, absolutely. And I’m not crazy feeling the way I do at 5 months post losing my daughter tragically- amongst several related things.♥ 0source record 2983
Share your grief with your children, they will help you care this!♥ 0source record 3019
I lost my son. One of my nephews said to me, ‘People are going to say stupid things. They won’t mean to but it’s going to happen over and over.’ It happened less then 10 minutes later and I was so glad I was given the heads up. 💔🙏❤️F19💙♥ 0source record 3093
not sure i recd good advice but i kept saying i don't understand why he did this he was so happy..finally someone said happy people don't do what your son did..thats when i stopped searching for answers to make it make sense. suicide has no face, be kind to one another, save each other.♥ 0source record 3109
“Time is your enemy and your cure.” That was from a friend who at the time was dying of ALS who was comforting me after my son’s death.♥ 0source record 3113
If you go back to him you don’t deserve your children.♥ 0source record 3159
I'll need to get back to you. right now I just want to go home, my baby, then my husband now my son. I can't stand 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭♥ 0source record 3185
there is no great advice, you find it in yourself eventually. I maybe moving on, but I am always standing still in my mind. I find humor in my son's death, it's how he would have wanted it. he died while delivering for papa John's, they gave him a pizza party at his funeral. guess it's not just for well job done. it's also for when you're done.♥ 0source record 3544
None! I had heard it all before when my dad passed away! When my daughter died nothing was said that mattered! Nothing!♥ 0source record 3593
Teach others the best parts of them -model those parts and continue to spread their love into your children(or those closest to you).♥ 0source record 3663
Advice I give my children, “we are sad for us, not the person who is gone from us, because they know no sadness or pain and are at complete peace.”♥ 0source record 3752
I lost my son in 2023. I came across this recently and thought about it a lot.♥ 0source record 3876
“In your next life, she will probably be your child and you will be her mom.”♥ 0source record 3951
Breathe, I had just lost my son and all I could do was sleep. I was grieving so hard I couldn't take deep breaths. I remembered a PTSD training breathing got me out of the bed.♥ 0source record 4037
I miss my daughter. Ericka marie forever 20♥ 0source record 4049
I don’t have any phrase. Grief is so hard. I lost my son and no matter what I do it consumes me. Daily♥ 0source record 4412
I grieved the death of my husband, for years.. he was only 34 at the time.. our children were 3 and 9, I couldn’t let it go.. my grandmother one day, said to me, you’ll never walk among the living, if you live among the dead. I don’t know why, but it helped me let go.♥ 0source record 4459
I wish I had this when I lost my mom, my husband, my friends, my son, my dog & cat. All of them were a different experience. I live life with all that to seek who I really iam💗♥ 0source record 4909
For strength I leaned into others who also lost a child to death - Job and Eric Clapton saved me♥ 0source record 5292
when I lost our baby, my best friend told me that all our baby knew was love.. never any heartache, pain, worry, doubt.. nothing but endless, unconditional love.. idk.. that gave me some comfort♥ 0source record 5477
Not one word was given to me to help me with the loss and pain of my son he passed 10/27/24 by a hit and run driver there are days that I fake like I’m ok but the reality of it is I will never be ok when I take a deep breath it feels like my heart is breaking all over again♥ 0source record 5491
I read this in a book the other day. My baby sister was killed last year. She was 17 years old. I’ve had so much guilt because I wasn’t there to protect her.. but I was lucky enough to have known her for 17 years..♥ 0source record 5645
It's been long enough, get over it. I was told this when I was mourning my baby sister and best friends passing.♥ 0source record 5652
that I now will miss my son longer thin I've known him 🥺 R.I.P Devin Lee 💚 forever 15♥ 0source record 5713
When my son had cancer this was my favorite thing to read every morning♥ 0source record 5796
My children lost their mother…. I tell them to switch perspective and see that their mother may have not been able to love them their whole life… but she was able to love them for her entire life and there is beauty in that…♥ 0source record 5946
I have two children. When I had a miscarriage, I was told to take all the love I wasn’t able to give to my baby to give it to my other kids. To be the best mom I could possibly be so that my baby would be proud of me. It’s always a reminder in the back of my head.♥ 0source record 6044
Your family doesn’t want you to go away. They just want you to get well that was in the ER after I tried to kill myself after losing my son my mom and my brother.♥ 0source record 6167

Archive: 62 index entries preserve 62 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Losing a partner29 index entriesLosing a partner — 29 records
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Losing a partner

29 source records

Appears when: Losing a partner

What the pattern means: My husband was dying of cancer at the same time as my mentor who said he believes it's harder for those left behind

What commenters described: 🔥 “Grief isn’t something you fix. It’s something you feel.” (My husband said this to me. Married me after my bf of 10 yrs died) 🔥❤️💪😭🥰

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🔥 “Grief isn’t something you fix. It’s something you feel.” (My husband said this to me. Married me after my bf of 10 yrs died) 🔥❤️💪😭🥰

source record 1847♥ 1
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My husband always had dreams where he was trying to find me, so I hope he is not still looking for me. 😞

posted about 53 days after the source♥ 0
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This line has stayed with me, “We're meant to lose the people we love. How else would we know how important they are to us?” The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. Laying my wife’s grandpa to rest in 9 hrs. 😢

posted about 38.5 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 29 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Move memory outside the brain” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

29index entries
29distinct source records
6.2%of parent category
0.5%of the complete index
20top-level comments
9replies
Browse the original comments29 preserved records · 29 of 29 source records accounted for
Thank you - just buried my husband♥ 1source record 40
My husband was dying of cancer at the same time as my mentor who said he believes it's harder for those left behind♥ 1source record 562
My husband always had dreams where he was trying to find me, so I hope he is not still looking for me. 😞♥ 0source record 583
This comment hit me so hard.. I miss my boyfriend 😭♥ 1source record 790
when my husband passed unexpectedly last year. Had a dream. it was just him by my Explorer and all he said was "Sorry, I gotta go" 💔♥ 1source record 901
Thank you for sharing this needed as will be facing my husband funeral♥ 1source record 994
Wow. My grandmother who was my world passed away- 2 days later, my soulmate in dog form passed away. it was horrible. I just had to think my grandma was protecting my dog and not♥ 0source record 1330
im crying reading these 😭.....after my husband passed somebody told me that there weren't any words or things they could do to make me feel better but that they wish that one day the pain will will lessen and that it won't be as heavy as today.....its been 2 years and while the pain is less, its even more heavy....im still waiting for that day that will never come♥ 1source record 1616
That you can do hard things ❤️I lost my husband almost 3 years ago. When that happened I fell on my face and it took months for me to get back up. I had to show my kids that we can do hard things and we did. It takes lots of time but you also can do hard things ❤️♥ 1source record 1719
I miss my husband everyday♥ 0source record 1840
🔥 “Grief isn’t something you fix. It’s something you feel.” (My husband said this to me. Married me after my bf of 10 yrs died) 🔥❤️💪😭🥰♥ 1source record 1847
I'm so sorry David, I know to some degree how this feels. I lost my partner of 8 years, 4 months ago and no one messaged, called or checked in on me either. It's just me, these 4 walls and my cat now.♥ 1source record 1985
You have to work through it to get through it. Wise words told to me by a Mom who lost her 17 yr old son the year before I lost my husband at 35.♥ 1source record 2023
Don’t throw everything out when you get mad you’ll regret it. I didn’t think I would get mad at my husband for dying from suicide and alcoholism but I did go through a phase of hating everything and throwing it out. I have a small box of things of his I’ll never get rid of. Shirts still smell like him. It’s been almost 6 yrs.♥ 0source record 3000
I realized in the last 5mo. my husband would not survive the grieving of me, like I am for him. I am greatful he will never have to endure what its like to lose his soulmate and wander around soulless w/o a mate. 💔♥ 0source record 3086
I wasn't listening I was so far gone in the dark hole after losing my wife july2023 I still don't function properly♥ 0source record 3130
It wasnt advise but memories. My uncle was a father and best friend to me. I would called him my soulmate. We were both the second born, bullied in our youth, came from broken families but he always made me feel safe and seen. It wasnt until my second nephew was born that I noticed how much he clung to me. i realized he saw and felt about me the same way I once had when I had my uncle. Maybe its coincidental, maybe its not, but it helped me be the Aunt all my nephews and nieces love, all because I had the best Uncle.♥ 0source record 3174
My Pastor who lost his wife shortly B4 my husband and son passed . He Told me people are going to say all kinds of things to me , he said don’t listen to them .♥ 0source record 3180
I was grieving so hard when my husband cheated on me but it made become an extremely more powerful mother. I felt like batman because that was one thing he couldn't take from me.♥ 0source record 3228
There is no end to grief, that’s how I know there is no end to love. I put that on my husband and son’s tombstone.♥ 0source record 3456
[link removed] I wish this link was clickable… but I saw this last night actually. I sent it to my wife who lost both of her parents before the age of 27… as a reminder for the really painful days. I thought it was a beautiful sentiment. I’m sorry for your loss and hope this girl’s story helps you in your grief journey. ❤️♥ 0source record 3633
Move forward, don’t move on in order to heal. You have to move forward, but you don’t have to move on even though you’re a widow doesn’t mean you’re not married.♥ 0source record 3991
Do what you need to do to survive this & don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. I lost my husband to cancer in 2017 & somehow met someone & fell in love in 2018. Some said too soon. We are married now since 2021 & so happy!♥ 0source record 4024
This came after being STUCK for 3 years in a perpetual state of soul-crushing sadness…until my partner finally said “u act like she wanted u to climb into the coffin with her…”♥ 0source record 4339
This line has stayed with me, “We're meant to lose the people we love. How else would we know how important they are to us?” The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. Laying my wife’s grandpa to rest in 9 hrs. 😢♥ 0source record 4375
I love this quote. "I didn't get to spend the rest of my life with you, but you got to spend the rest of your life with me". It was 10 years ago today that my husband was told he had multiple brain tumors and he had weeks to live. He passed away on 8/28/2015. He was my world.♥ 0source record 5438
My sister told me, too stop crying like I had no hope because I know where my husband was going. Okay people cry like that out of desperation of not knowing. It made sense♥ 0source record 5501
A widow friend of mine who was grief guide told me that I needed to take my wife’s picture off my phone cover (around 10 months after she passed). At first I was offended but I did it. I didn’t realize it was a constant reminder of what I lost. In a week I was feeling much better like a ton of weight was lifted. I still love her just as much but not seeing her pic every few min when I was a wake helped me tremendously♥ 0source record 5822
My one friend came over and said can I hug you?... because you probably miss getting hugs...I miss my husbands touch, I pushed it away so many times 🥺♥ 0source record 6223

Archive: 29 index entries preserve 29 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Fresh grief, and grieving the living24 index entriesFresh grief, and grieving the living — 24 records
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Fresh grief, and grieving the living

24 source records

Appears when: Fresh grief, and grieving the living

What the pattern means: This group brings together immediate bereavement and losses involving someone still alive, where gratitude, dread, and unfinished feelings can overlap.

What commenters described: My Dads funeral is in the morning. All I can say is...thank you, all. 🫶🏻

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My Dads funeral is in the morning. All I can say is...thank you, all. 🫶🏻

source record 640♥ 662
Later-arriving source

Thank you for this. I already feel the anger welling up at the people not showing up for my terminally ill husband.

posted about 31 days after the source♥ 0
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Grief is human. It lets us know that we are still alive to love and remember and appreciate

posted about 35.4 hours after the source♥ 0

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The exact phrase “you can grieve someone” recurs across 2 of the 24 source records in Fresh grief, and grieving the living; the complete archive stays available below.

24index entries
24distinct source records
5.2%of parent category
0.4%of the complete index
17top-level comments
7replies
Browse the original comments24 preserved records · 24 of 24 source records accounted for
This!!!!! I needed this 5 and a half years ago, 2008 days ago!!!! Thank you for saying it. I am shook to my core by your words.♥ 0source record 155
You can “grieve” someone still alive♥ 3source record 522
Thank you, i am a hospice social worker and I am going to share this with my families.♥ 2source record 543
My Dads funeral is in the morning. All I can say is...thank you, all. 🫶🏻♥ 662source record 640
I just lost mine two days ago too♥ 8source record 681
I’m the same I just lost my my bff 💔just the past Thursday grief sucks♥ 0source record 763
Dad just passed June 30th I’m lost some days I’m ok some days I’m a mess others I’m scared lost mad it’s hard 💔💔💔😭😭😭♥ 2source record 924
Thank you for this. I already feel the anger welling up at the people not showing up for my terminally ill husband.♥ 0source record 984
I just lost my pug, Oliver, of almost 17 years… absolutely broken and I’m losing myself. I haven’t left my bed much in weeks.. I have no idea what to do.. I feel worthless and don’t know how to “grieve” him.♥ 3source record 1306
Please some for grieving people (like parents) who are still alive I can’t take it much longer 💔♥ 1source record 1704
He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t like you. It’s a lost cause.♥ 1source record 1792
Is losing a pet counted? I lost my dog a week ago. Reading your comments make me think and cry😫♥ 0source record 2976
My moms funeral is in 5 days. I want nothing more than to not go. I was told my kids lost a grandparent, they need their dad more than anything right now. As bad as I’m hurting, I have to be strong for them. I was reminded to set the load down from time to time, I get to grieve, but so do they. Being strong for them, has given me strength. I just worry it’s all a show on my part♥ 0source record 3582
Today was a dear friend’s funeral. Last week was another dear friend’s funeral. Two weeks ago, another. I can’t seem to get away from grief. Thank you for all of these beautiful posts. They are truly helpful.💓♥ 0source record 3661
I’ve only grieved the living, I’m fortunate to never of grieved the dead.♥ 0source record 3811
Grieving those who are alive is often less recognized, and definitely just as valid, as grieving those who have gone; the live ones we’re grieving are also gone.♥ 0source record 3936
What about grieving the living 🥺♥ 0source record 4526
Idk what’s more painful … grieving the dead or alive …. Or old versions of yourself.♥ 0source record 4570
Grief is human. It lets us know that we are still alive to love and remember and appreciate♥ 0source record 4666
My coworker just lost her 4 year old son due to an accident at Daycare. I can't stop thinking about her and I don't have the words.♥ 0source record 5080
you can grieve someone that is alive. dementia.♥ 0source record 5150
its better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. takes on a stronger meaning when the love of your life who is terminally ill is telling you those words as you beg them to continue the harsh meds that only makes them more ill, just to have even a min more together with them while they are ready to go to the next life and end the suffering♥ 0source record 5196
7 months ago. my bf. suddenly.♥ 0source record 5396
I had to make a gut wrenching decision about my 12 year old soul dog who was dying from cancer. I could spend $7,000 on treatment that could possibly extend his life but it would over extend my family. Or, I could let him live out the next few months with a holistic approach. I didn’t know what to do but a dear friend said to me , “Suzie, whatever decision you make, you’ll make with love.” He passed away a few months later.♥ 0source record 5455

Archive: 24 index entries preserve 24 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Losing a pet7 index entriesLosing a pet — 7 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Losing a pet

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Losing a pet

7 source records

Appears when: Losing a pet

What the pattern means: Pet-loss accounts described ordinary traces, objects, and routines as reminders that can bring the absence suddenly back into view.

What commenters described: It’s exactly like this with my dog and her hair. I’ll open an old box of books and see a hair stuck in between the pages and lose it 🥲

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It’s exactly like this with my dog and her hair. I’ll open an old box of books and see a hair stuck in between the pages and lose it 🥲

source record 549♥ 24
Later-arriving source

ride( horse) just ride

posted about 29 days after the source♥ 0
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When we lost one of our pets to cancer: “She loved you her whole life. You will love her for the rest of yours”

posted about 29.7 hours after the source♥ 0

What the counts show

Within 7 source records, 2 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.

7index entries
7distinct source records
1.5%of parent category
0.1%of the complete index
6top-level comments
1replies
Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for
It’s exactly like this with my dog and her hair. I’ll open an old box of books and see a hair stuck in between the pages and lose it 🥲♥ 24source record 549
Had to shoot my 17 year old hound dog today. Cancer won. It had to be done. I will hate myself for some time.♥ 1source record 1570
ride( horse) just ride♥ 0source record 2812
My dog. “Dogs don’t live this long unless they are loved like that”.. she was 17 years old.♥ 0source record 4143
When we lost one of our pets to cancer: “She loved you her whole life. You will love her for the rest of yours”♥ 0source record 5195
ITS a state, A feeling u must endure. a separation of a loved one or pet. You must absorb the pain .U MUST relate it to nature. WHEN IT Rains the green grass / flowers come back to give beauty. u need water 💧 to grow..♥ 0source record 5637
when you randomly think of that person/pet, they are right there with you.♥ 0source record 5659

Archive: 7 index entries preserve 7 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Grief is love with nowhere to go445 records · 7 sub-topicsGrief is love with nowhere to go — 445 records
Proof of how deeply you loved197 index entriesProof of how deeply you loved — 197 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Proof of how deeply you loved

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Proof of how deeply you loved

197 source records

Appears when: Proof of how deeply you loved

What the pattern means: I was told by someone that whenever I’m feeling their absence, to sit in it because otherwise it’ll build up and begin to tear you apart slowly. Sit in that grief because where there is grief there is love. You remember how much you love them and it’s worth feeling the grief if you get to feel how much you loved them.

What commenters described: Try to take care of the person they loved

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Try to take care of the person they loved

source record 383♥ 3,232
Later-arriving source

grief never leaves you, its a showcase of all the love you feel for them and you will for the rest of your life. its a beautiful thing to love someone that much, even when youre sad and its hard, grief is love.

posted about 58 days after the source♥ 0
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Grief doesn't go away, you just get used to it. Instead of being a constant sharp, horrible pain it turns into a low ache you notice once in a while. It reminds me of how much I loved and still love my people, that I won't forget them.

posted about 35.3 hours after the source♥ 0

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What the counts show

Across 197 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

197index entries
197distinct source records
44.3%of parent category
3.1%of the complete index
194top-level comments
3replies
Browse the original comments197 preserved records · 197 of 197 source records accounted for
Try to take care of the person they loved♥ 3,232source record 383
It’s going to get worse for a long time before it gets “better”, idk if it even gets better. You just have to get back up and figure out who you are now living in a world without this person you loved so much ..grief is its own journey I hope you find your way ❤️‍🩹❤️🫶♥ 2source record 692
I’m so sorry for your loss, tomorrow is my dads b day and this Saturday will be a years he’s been gone. I didn’t cry for a vary long time. A tear would fall here and there but I just recently started to fully cry. It’s okay, tears are not an indicator of how much you loved him. We all process pain differently. Shock can sometimes last for some time, and that’s okay too. Prayers for you 🙏♥ 2source record 694
Yesterday I sobbed my heart out when I left dinner and my son drove off with my granddaughters and I said goodbye to my 24 & 26 yr old nephews who lost their dad 10 yrs before their oldest cousin. I was sobbing over what could have been. It is so hard, every first, then the 2nd year I thought was the worst. But say their name, hang the pictures and look for the signs. Even a penny unexpectedly on the floor of my car makes me smile, look up and say thank you. Our grief is so strong because we loved them so very much. You will continue to take a step every day but you will never stop feeling that sorrow. Reach out anytime. Only those that walk through life missing a piece of us really understand. Big virtual hugs to you.♥ 1source record 785
"You havent met EVERYONE you love yet" -6yr old kid♥ 58source record 913
I was told by someone that whenever I’m feeling their absence, to sit in it because otherwise it’ll build up and begin to tear you apart slowly. Sit in that grief because where there is grief there is love. You remember how much you love them and it’s worth feeling the grief if you get to feel how much you loved them.♥ 20source record 1079
The love between us is eternal, and the bond can never be broken. Never.🙏♥ 1source record 1150
Grief is the last act of love quote helped me a bit 😞♥ 1source record 1180
Don’t pull yourself out of it. Allow yourself to feel every bit of it so that you can process it and move forward in the midst of it…. Don’t even try to get back to normal… Because normal as you know it will never happen again. I also learned that it is a huge honor to feel such grief because that means that I have loved and I have been loved so much.♥ 1source record 1191
Grief well.. And embrace every moment with whoever surrounds you right now especially your loved ones. Life is to short to just let time passes without love..♥ 0source record 1241
They knew how much you loved them.♥ 0source record 1259
you don't know what you have until it's gone..... but you did know what you had.... you just didn't know your were going to lose it so soon♥ 2source record 1316
the pain is a reflection of the love♥ 1source record 1355
The harder the grief the deeper love♥ 3source record 1372
How lucky you are to grief, it shows how much you were loved♥ 1source record 1388
Grief is all the love you didn’t get the chance to give them… be grateful for it and give it to others in their name… 💙♥ 1source record 1396
Grief is love. If you don’t grieve you don’t care♥ 1source record 1418
Grief is just love with no where to go. 🦋♥ 1source record 1490
Your grief is all the love you have for them just no where for it to go 🥺♥ 1source record 1506
You never get over it, you learn to sit with it and live with it. Where there is deep grief, there is deep love♥️♥ 1source record 1517
Grief is love that has no where to go. Remember that and be kind to it.♥ 1source record 1564
Grief is Love, Magnified♥ 1source record 1575
“How lucky am I to have loved them so much to make me miss them this much”♥ 1source record 1618
Grief is loves greatest souvenir♥ 1source record 1636
Grief is love with no where to go 🥺♥ 1source record 1642
Grief is love in it’s most true form, take the time you need♥ 1source record 1676
Grief is so necessary. How else could we ever have known how much we loved them. It will carry you into the next life.♥ 1source record 1681
How lucky are we that we have someone that has made saying goodbye so hard . ❤️♥ 1source record 1762
you are there dad but he is their father! Dad loves you boys 😘♥ 1source record 1794
Love like you've never been hurt before. Don't scare the person mending your wounds.♥ 1source record 1812
Ur hurt equals how much you loved them so be greatful for every moment you got with someone so lovable 😭♥ 1source record 1895
“Grief is love looking for a place to go”. So when I think of them, instead of crying I smile because I want them to know this is their home, I am their safe place, and I want them to forever feel welcome. So I smile and say “Hi ______, it’s good to see you. I love you.”♥ 1source record 1959
I talked with and kept loved ones close.♥ 1source record 1992
Grief is love that has no where to go. Embrace the love you had for them! ❤️♥ 1source record 1999
while your loved one is gone their dreams for you are not and true love never dies♥ 1source record 2003
Grief is just love that you didn’t get to dispense. You aren’t hanging on to grief, you are hanging on to love.♥ 1source record 2105
grief never leaves you, its a showcase of all the love you feel for them and you will for the rest of your life. its a beautiful thing to love someone that much, even when youre sad and its hard, grief is love.♥ 0source record 2229
He whom we love and lose is no longer where he was before, he is now wherever we are.♥ 0source record 2249
Grief is love that you think is not received, but that is false. You are felt in everything. You always will be. 🩷♥ 0source record 2267
"It hurts so bad because of how much you loved her"♥ 0source record 2355
Not a chance. He was the love of my life.♥ 0source record 2397
Grief is just love ❤️you’re showing love for those who are no longer with us♥ 0source record 2401
Grief is love trapped inside with no where to go, isn’t it such a blessing to love that deeply. Turn it to gratitude and let it go 🦋🦋🦋♥ 0source record 2419
Someone once told me about betrayal in love "they meant it when they said it". 💔♥ 0source record 2478
Your grief is love displaced 💖 I had 30 amazing years with my dad that some people don’t get in a lifetime and hang on to that deeply♥ 0source record 2496
Grief is love with no where to go♥ 0source record 2524
“You had the best dad in the world for 13 wonderful years. My, how lucky you are. “♥ 0source record 2584
Go all the way through it, the hard days are proof you loved so hard.♥ 0source record 2611
how lucky we are to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.♥ 0source record 2692
How lucky are you to have loved them so much that missing them hurts so bad?♥ 0source record 2705
When it’s someone you loved deeply, you carry them with you for the rest of your life. There’s not a moment you won’t miss them. You move forward, not past.♥ 0source record 2717
I know it’s cliché.. I own my truth tho. “How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard”. “The only thing I could not protect you from was time”.♥ 0source record 2718
That grief is because you loved greatly and love is energy so it never dies. I’ve lost a lot of special people in my life and it’s brutal but there is also beauty in love transcending it all 🩷♥ 0source record 2724
the painful memories that are too hard to look back on now? Will bring you a warm comfort once the initial grief has had a chance to settle.. It's beautiful to be able to miss someone you loved so much and shared so much with.♥ 0source record 2792
Grief is just love in a heavy coat❤️♥ 0source record 2800
if the loss was Great, the love was greater.♥ 0source record 2859
Grief is love with no where to go. So create space for that love in new ways. I traveled solo and imagined him with me♥ 0source record 2907
Grief is just love .♥ 0source record 2924
Grief=love…it just changed form, To greive is to honor the love. ❤️♥ 0source record 2931
Grief is the love that remains♥ 0source record 2953
No one’s given me advice. But what I’ve learned, grief is the love we have for that person. Love is real. It’s eternal. Befriending death and change is what’s helped me. It’s apart of this life and it’s inevitable.♥ 0source record 2970
Grief is love that has no where to go ❤️♥ 0source record 3007
“Grief is love with no where to go” it helps reframe the emotion that pours out on bad days.♥ 0source record 3040
The only way to get through it is to feel it! Grief is just love with no where to go.♥ 0source record 3044
“How lucky I am to have loved something so much 🥺“♥ 0source record 3055
In order to experience pain you must have loved deeply♥ 0source record 3082
"Grief, I've learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give, but cannot"♥ 0source record 3098
If we could all share a price of ur grief with u so its less. We take it in a heart beat. I love u♥ 0source record 3126
Grief is just love with no where to go.♥ 0source record 3132
none , just hugs and love yous♥ 0source record 3133
grief is love. there wouldn't be any without it. the deeper the grief the deeper the love♥ 0source record 3138
How long you grieve, does not determine how much you loved!♥ 0source record 3146
The best way to honor someone who has died, is to love and care for the people who they loved the most.♥ 0source record 3149
I see you. I love you. I want what's best for you♥ 0source record 3225
The saying “grief is love that doesn’t have a place to go” it just reminded why I was struggling so much and not everyone else. Because he was MY best friend.♥ 0source record 3248
What a gift it is to grieve anything at all. It means you loved.♥ 0source record 3266
“You can’t heal what you don’t feel.” “Grief is the love that we hold with us after they left”♥ 0source record 3283
grief is love with no where to go ❤️♥ 0source record 3296
“You are always together it just looks a bit different now, my love”.♥ 0source record 3321
To love and be present with everyone you love every chance you get.♥ 0source record 3323
The bigger the pain, the bigger I loved and was loved. ❤️♥ 0source record 3367
grief is not simply the absence of love.... grief is having loved so much that when it's gone a part of you dies. for without great love we cannot have great grief.♥ 0source record 3384
Grief is all the love you feel that has no where to go.♥ 0source record 3391
Grieving is not a “process”. It has no end. We must move forward with it as it is the receipt that we have been left after loving someone so very much. It’s both a blessing and a nightmare in one. But this, this pain is because you loved. And love, my friend, is what life and love is all about🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻♥ 0source record 3470
You cannot grieve without love. You may not be able to put that love into that person anymore, but you can put it into the universe. Into other people. Into things they loved.♥ 0source record 3512
My pastor told me, ‘It’s supposed to hurt.’ I really needed to hear that because I didn’t want to feel the pain — I was so confused. He encouraged me to take it in and sit with it, reminding me that it hurts because I loved him.(my brother)♥ 0source record 3517
The depth of grief is a direct reflection of the love that you shared, let yourself experience as freely as you did your love ❤️♥ 0source record 3538
Grief is just love with no where to go.♥ 0source record 3566
honestly - this pain meant there was sooooo much love. it doesn't make the pain any better, but it does show me that the love was real and worth the sorrow♥ 0source record 3577
Keep doing all the things they loved 🤍♥ 0source record 3609
grief is love with no where to go...♥ 0source record 3616
That whole, ‘find a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life’ isn’t realistic for the vast majority of people. But, finding a job that you don’t hate that pays for the things you love is. So, get that money - and live your life 😘♥ 0source record 3644
Grief is where love goes when the object of that love is no longer there.♥ 0source record 3686
let it happen. don't hold it in, don't be ashamed or embarrassed. grief is love for the past present and stolen future with someone/something. you don't want to regret missing out on expressing love. so cry, smile, laugh, be angry, feel. there will be days when grief will also come with joy, and days when grief comes with utter misery. let it happen BUT don't let those days of misery consume you.♥ 0source record 3703
The reason there is great grief, is because there is great love.♥ 0source record 3739
You’ll never get over her passing it will hurt forever you will change in a way u might not recognize yourself, grief is love and heartache wrapped together.♥ 0source record 3758
The depth of your sorrow reflects the height of your joy, love and laughter. The more it hurts, the more blessed you were. Cherritina Pankey 2008♥ 0source record 3798
Things i wished someone told me: Let the feels come and go as it pleases. unapologetically. Your heart loved them as much as your mind did, so its going to hurt randomly when it beats and remembers that hole wasnt there before. Grief is just love with no where to go, which is why I think we cry so much. Never be ashamed of how much you loved them, ever.♥ 0source record 3809
I guess it was more like something I read: "How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard"♥ 0source record 3817
From a quote.. “grief is all the love we couldn’t give them..”♥ 0source record 3856
Grieving is the way you love them in the form they are now. Never stop sharing them with others. They existed and they mattered and they were yours.♥ 0source record 3873
“Love is Love and it’s your healing not anyone else’s so don’t compare time lines” this saved me♥ 0source record 3901
Grief is love remembered♥ 0source record 3916
How much you hurt is equal to how much you loved♥ 0source record 3920
It’s how much you loved them why you’re so upset and that’s a GREAT thing♥ 0source record 3924
None. Bcause noone had what i had with the absolute love of my life. If youve never deep connection and love you will not experience grief un its truest form♥ 0source record 3937
Grief is there because you loved so deeply♥ 0source record 3941
Don’t try to make it pass faster. The more you fight it, the longer it hurts. It’s going to hurt but if you let go and love yourself through it, it hurts less. Like being relaxed in a car crash.♥ 0source record 3950
Grief is the last act of love.♥ 0source record 3954
Nobody told me anything meaningful, I had to learn on my own… found out grief is not an enemy, grief is the love we have for the ones we lost and I never want it to go away so I proudly bring it with me anywhere I go. No more demonizing grief, it’s beautiful it’s sad but it’s love♥ 0source record 3970
You grieve because you know what is like to love and to have been loved, and that is truly a blessing.♥ 0source record 3994
I held you every second of your life, and I will love you every second of mine.♥ 0source record 4010
"Find somebody that loves you" Dad♥ 0source record 4012
I heard the quote, “Grief is just love that has no where to go” so find something and pour all that extra love into it♥ 0source record 4023
The bigger the grief, the bigger the love♥ 0source record 4071
I was once told that I wasn’t put on earth for everyone to love, I’m still trying to figure that out.♥ 0source record 4120
time really does heal everything you learn to live this "new" life unlike others your missing a person u loved so much at first u just dont understand but reality is they are closer then u think❤️♥ 0source record 4129
Grief is love with no where to go….it just spoke to me.♥ 0source record 4178
I’m going to share the one statement that hurt me after losing my Dad (I’m certain the person meant to be uplifted). “Well, at least he’s in a better place and he’s not suffering.” His unexpected death shattered me (first person to die that I was close to & loved so much).♥ 0source record 4181
If it did not hurt it meant you were not real. You loved him and that is why it hurt so much♥ 0source record 4257
Grief is all the love we have left to give them♥ 0source record 4264
I told myself that I have been blessed to love someone so deeply♥ 0source record 4311
Take comfort in the ones that share the same love for the person you lost. The silence is piercing and yet comforting because you all know the love and the memories created were real.♥ 0source record 4323
“It’s a blessing to be heartbroken.” It’s means that you got to love someone deeply.♥ 0source record 4334
U only grieve those whom u truly loved, the ones who touched ur soul & shaped who u have become. That means u also have an unlimited well of beautiful memories with them & what a GIFT that is to have…don’t forget to be thakful for that beauty & bask in those moments. For as long as u remember them, they are not gone.♥ 0source record 4338
Grief is a tragically beautiful experience. It means you’ve loved big.♥ 0source record 4408
Grief is your unexpressed love… when you feel it big…, it’s because you loved big♥ 0source record 4417
My hands are overflowing with love and I don’t know where to put it.. 😞 he was a gift that deserved to be opened again and again.♥ 0source record 4447
“You’ll love again. It won’t be the same love but a different love and that’s ok.”♥ 0source record 4453
Death did not win, love STILL wins , even from the grave . Your loved one is still loving you , it’s just from a different location now.♥ 0source record 4493
Grief is just love that no longer has a place to go.♥ 0source record 4499
Love and care for yourself as much as the person who died loved you.♥ 0source record 4503
Grief is love. You grieve because you loved so deeply.♥ 0source record 4505
Just because you and somebody were not on the best terms doesn’t mean you weren’t close. Love is love.♥ 0source record 4506
It only hurts so much because you love them so much♥ 0source record 4519
They may not have been able to love you for the rest of your life, but you got to love them for the rest of theirs♥ 0source record 4533
I learned that gried is love. they are similar sensations... just one is aching. they can't exist without the other and sitting in their space means to at one point meet the other.♥ 0source record 4550
Grief doesn't go away, you just get used to it. Instead of being a constant sharp, horrible pain it turns into a low ache you notice once in a while. It reminds me of how much I loved and still love my people, that I won't forget them.♥ 0source record 4679
I don’t know who originally said it, but someone shared with me the quote “grief is all the love you want to give but cannot” and those words stung when I first read them because of how true it is. Eventually while coming to grips with things, acceptance I guess, I find comfort in the idea that grief is unexpressed love♥ 0source record 4699
Grief is just love with no where to go♥ 0source record 4707
Just because they are gone and don’t get to enjoy the things they loved, doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the things you love.♥ 0source record 4718
Your grief is love- sit with it♥ 0source record 4751
Grief is just love with no where to go♥ 0source record 4835
No advice was good but I learned myself that grief is love. When you grieve hard, it’s because you love hard.♥ 0source record 4846
Grief is love♥ 0source record 4893
Grief is all the LOVE WE still have to give♥ 0source record 4903
grief is love with know where to go...♥ 0source record 4919
Internalizing that my grief was just my love for them that I could no longer directly express to them was helpful. I’m still sad all the time but I also feel incredibly lucky to have loved so fully.♥ 0source record 4929
Where there is great grief, there was great love.♥ 0source record 4931
Focus on the love not the loss. Love is eternal and everlasting.♥ 0source record 4940
“The love remains” I was panicked. Scared. Lost. Called a warm line. She promised me the love remains. After the shock, the loss, the love remains.♥ 0source record 4950
Grieving is the final act of Love.♥ 0source record 4952
Grief really is the price we pay for love.♥ 0source record 4979
Grief if the price we pay for love♥ 0source record 4981
Grief is love either no place to go. 🥹 it’s the heaviness in your heart and the lump in your throat.♥ 0source record 4985
I realized that even though I'm sad because I miss them, I am so grateful to get to love them for the rest of my life. I knew them, I love them, and I get to share their stories with people who never would've gotten to know them otherwise. That makes my grief a little more bearable.♥ 0source record 5007
we grieve like this because we loved them so purely ❤️♥ 0source record 5013
Grief is all the love that you feel for that person that has nowhere to to go, and that you never stop loving them. You just learned to live with it.🥰🥰🥰♥ 0source record 5049
Grief is love in a heavy coat. My friend after my husband died. It was the first time I’d heard it described in a way that made sense.♥ 0source record 5089
Have as many new experiences as you can. Take a different route to work, go somewhere new. It helped me so much to experience things I never did with my loved ones♥ 0source record 5130
It advice but I read someone’s post that said - Grief is the love you have that has no place to go♥ 0source record 5173
🤍How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard 🤍♥ 0source record 5182
Remember often why you loved them♥ 0source record 5331
Anyone else just hoping that the same people I loved here .. are really and truly there. I don’t need new ones - I just want the same perfectly imperfect people to still be.. when I get there. 😞😔♥ 0source record 5345
Grief is love with no where to go♥ 0source record 5356
Grief is the last act of love we have to give to those we loved. Where there is deep grief, there was great love.♥ 0source record 5375
not advice but "Grief is just love with no where to go" so I hold onto it a little tighter. grief and I have become life long friends.♥ 0source record 5407
grief is the last act of love!!♥ 0source record 5424
Every day I meditate and send love and light to my deceased loved ones this is how I connect with him on a deeper level level ❤️♥ 0source record 5450
Grief is loves souvenir♥ 0source record 5490
Grief is love that has no where to go. And never stop talking about them.♥ 0source record 5504
Grief has no expiration date. Grief is love on earth without the person you lost. Grieve how you need to and let go when you’re ready.♥ 0source record 5518
Grief is just love that has no where to go. To live for him, make him proud and get to know the new you. Not only did I loose him, but I lost myself from that very moment too 🥺💔 grieve however you need to, cry all you need and let it out, don’t stay there stuck bc it needs to come out.♥ 0source record 5529
To feel the grief, honor it! Cry when you need to. Scream when you need to. Rest when you need to. Grief has no where to go if we don’t let it out and it will destroy if you let it. The depth of our grief is a testament to the depth of love, honor it 🙏🏼♥ 0source record 5566
We hurt so much, because we loved so greatly. Not everyone gets to feel the pain of a real loss. 💔♥ 0source record 5612
Letting someone go is a final gift. How wonderful to have loved so much♥ 0source record 5636
“Grief is love with no where to go”. It’s the love you are feeling. Embrace it.♥ 0source record 5690
Honestly. I got terrible advice. No one really knows what to say to someone whose world just shattered. And really nothing anyone says will make you feel better. I’ve just learned through out the years that grief is love. To embrace it and feel it or you really will lose yourself. I’ve learned that it’s a part of you for the rest of your life. It’s like it’s apart of your DNA now. It gets easier but it never goes away. I’ve learned that one minute you’ll be fine and the next it hits you so hard. But that’s okay. Because grief means you loved someone so deeply and they loved you.♥ 0source record 5692
you made their life better by loving them so much.♥ 0source record 5693
What is love if not love preserving.♥ 0source record 5725
only love can break your heart♥ 0source record 5747
This was the best thing I heard after losing my husband at 54! “Grief is the last act of love we have to give those we loved. Where there is deep grief, there was great love!” ❤️❤️❤️💔💔💔💔😢😢😢😢 RIP My soulmate Bill 02/06/25♥ 0source record 5761
Don’t love them more when they are gone.♥ 0source record 5814
They are able to love you now in a way their humanly form was not able to. Their love is now free and unrestricted by any worldly restrictions. ❤️♥ 0source record 5839
"The pain hurts so bad because the love was so good"♥ 0source record 5874
It means that the love is stronger than the pain. It doesn’t erase the pain, but it reminds us that we can still live, love, and mean something to others.♥ 0source record 5907
Something that helps me accept it a little better is perspective. In knowing that grief is the final act of love to our mothers. We love them enough to carry this grief for them. Because they will never have to grieve us or know a world without us. In understanding that things are happening the way they’re supposed to even though we would wish to have them for eternity. And to remember that a part of them still lives because we live.❤️♥ 0source record 5929
Grief is love with no where to go.♥ 0source record 6016
Let it wash over you. Sit with the deepest part of your pain and understand it is part of the healing. You loved. That is the gift.♥ 0source record 6020
The more pain you feel the more love you had. I found it comforting that someone loved me so much for me to hurt this bad. A lot of people dont get that gift and I had it for 36 years.♥ 0source record 6133
Grief isn’t just about those that died, it’s also about those that you loved and lost♥ 0source record 6147
It will change forever you will either become more loving, more grateful, for my moments are precious with people you love and even people you don’t necessarily love you will start seeing them differently. We will start trying to appreciate the good things in them or you’ll go the dark side and just not care anymore about anything good. I think the latter part is a big waste with some people do end up going that way. I’m so grateful to have memories. Somedays I sure don’t like remembering.♥ 0source record 6154
It’s beautiful to grieve because it means you loved. It means you still love.♥ 0source record 6177
grief is just love with no where to go , you feel rhat love but cant share it with that person anymore..so it feels heavy..😢♥ 0source record 6217
Grief is love with no where to go.♥ 0source record 6252
It wasn't even advice. It was the way I loved people more. Understood story/movie/tv show plots more. Respected quotes. Was softer. It made me naive. But in the best way possible. I love those that are here. And take the best parts of those gone, into the world I live now.♥ 0source record 6282
Idk about the best advice but a good quote I read was, “Grief is the last act of love we give our loved one. Where there is deep grief, there is great love.” 💔♥ 0source record 6308

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What the pattern means: Grief is just love with nowhere to go 💔🥹 Saffron forever 4 🌈🧚🏻‍♂️

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Grief is just love with no place to go

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"grief is just love with no place to land,it's love that we are expressing through sadness/anger etc bc we can't express it to that person anymore".This thing just made me stop hating the fact that I am still grieving as much but see it as more positive and "pure"thing ,everything that I am feeling truly comes from a place of love and that is beautiful.

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Grief is love with nowhere to go- helped me acknowledge the love and be thankful every time I was grieving and suffering

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beautiful the day grief came to my house. no matter what room I went to grief was there I repeated to myself over and over this is a dream your going to wake up. then you realize that sound of a wounded animal is coming from you. Grief is love with no place to go ❤️♥ 1source record 90
Oh my heart! 💔😢 Grief is just love with no place to go!♥ 0source record 257
Grief is just love with no place to go♥ 0source record 343
Awwww 🥹 & The truth might hurt! Their truth might not feel good but that’s Ok! Like you said your love surpasses that grief & guilt! I’ve been waiting for you to comment back, I truly wish you all the best! 💙💙 Grief is nothing but love with nowhere to go. When you feel that grief coming on, love on yourself, your kids, a stranger. That’s how you learn to cope !♥ 1source record 454
Grief is love that you can’t express to the person you want to express it to. Grief is Love that has nowhere to go.♥ 1source record 1030
Grief is just love with no place to go♥ 27source record 1044
Grief is just love with nowhere to go 💔🥹 Saffron forever 4 🌈🧚🏻‍♂️♥ 8source record 1130
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 3source record 1298
I lost my stepfather a little over 3 months ago. I’m still learning how to navigate grief. Someone told me that grief is just love with nowhere to go.so when i feel my grief is heavy, i just try to imagine that he’s wrapping his arms around my heart and making me feel all of his love. That has comforted me quite a bit. I miss him so much. 😓♥ 1source record 1324
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 2source record 1385
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 1source record 1419
“Grief is just LOVE with nowhere to go”♥ 1source record 1427
Grief is just love with nowhere to go. Hold onto it. Embrace it. Feel. It means they’re still here.♥ 1source record 1445
“Grief is just love with nowhere to go” this changed how i viewed my grief♥ 1source record 1446
Grief is love with nowhere to put it. FIND somewhere to put it! Do things they loved. Start new traditions. LIVE for them like they would want you to do!♥ 1source record 1455
Grief is just love with no where to go, so why not use that love and put it back into yourself the way they would have. Live for them and love for them. Give grief a purpose and she’ll thank you for it. She’s not going anywhere, let her help you. Because in the end, she’s just love with nowhere to go.♥ 1source record 1465
I'm personally grateful for the greif.. it reminds me how real the love will always be.. greif is love with nowhere to go. love and respect♥ 2source record 1467
Grief is love with no place to go.♥ 1source record 1685
“Grief is just love with nowhere to go”♥ 1source record 1742
Grief is just love, with nowhere to go.♥ 1source record 1784
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 1source record 1807
“I like grieving because Grief is just love that now has nowhere to go. It’s proof that there’s still so much love.” was my fav -someone who lost her mom & never got to fix our relationship 🥺♥ 1source record 1809
Grief is all of your love for someone with nowhere to go❤️♥ 1source record 1873
Grief is just love with nowhere to go. That’s why it feels so heavy. We’re holding the love we gave away so effortlessly. 💙♥ 1source record 1894
Grief is all the love left for that person with nowhere to go!♥ 1source record 1953
Not advice but learned that grief is love that has nowhere to go.♥ 1source record 2089
At its core, grief is love with nowhere to go. It’s a reflection of how deeply you cared.♥ 1source record 2106
Grief is love with no place to go🥹♥ 1source record 2115
Grief is love that has nowhere to go♥ 1source record 2188
"grief is just love with no place to land,it's love that we are expressing through sadness/anger etc bc we can't express it to that person anymore".This thing just made me stop hating the fact that I am still grieving as much but see it as more positive and "pure"thing ,everything that I am feeling truly comes from a place of love and that is beautiful.♥ 0source record 2275
grief is love with no place to go ❤️some days are real and some days its like a dream I cant wake from. still waiting for you to wake up and say its all a joke and your still here with us. [account] 🖤🖤🖤Lillies for our beautiful Lily 🩷♥ 0source record 2578
Grief is love with no place left to go. That changed my brain chemistry. Grief was no longer the stranger in the corner of the room♥ 0source record 2593
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 0source record 2635
Grief is just love with no place to go♥ 0source record 2733
grief is love with no place to go.♥ 0source record 2769
Grief is love with no place to go. That's how much you loved who you lost.♥ 0source record 2787
Grief is love with nowhere to go…💝♥ 0source record 2830
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 0source record 2902
Grief is love with nowhere to go 🥺♥ 0source record 3075
Grief is love with nowhere to go. It’s the privilege of having loved, and been loved—so deeply that your heart can’t bear the absence of that love.♥ 0source record 3156
“Grief is just love with no place to go”♥ 0source record 3200
Grief is love that has nowhere to go. Feel it. Process it. Mourn. Talk, above all, do not run or ignore it♥ 0source record 3220
Grief never gets smaller. The room just gets bigger. The only way out, is through. And grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 0source record 3389
A friend told me that grief was love with no place to go, and the depth of that statement really helped to put what I was feeling into perspective. It’s pretty profound.♥ 0source record 3433
Grief is just love with no place to go.♥ 0source record 3436
grief is just love with no place to go... so you have to redirect it♥ 0source record 3468
grief is love with nowhere to go 😔♥ 0source record 3479
Grief is the biggest form of love, with nowhere to go... Remember the LOVE rather than the loss.♥ 0source record 3500
Grief is love with nowhere to go. ♥️♥ 0source record 3565
I barely made it through reading the eulogy I wrote for my sisters service… but I wanted her kids to understand when I looked at them through my tears and said “it was better to have loved and lost, than to have never had at all” 😭🥺❤️‍🩹 they were 9 and 11 when we lost her the week before Xmas… such a tragedy. None of us will ever be the same.. 1.5 years has felt like a life time. Grief is love, with nowhere to go. I really hope we see our loved ones again someday. The hope in that is what gets me through each day. Each day we are a day closer to being reunited,♥ 0source record 3642
Grief is love with nowhere to go. How lucky we are to have had something so special, that we are so sad about it now.♥ 0source record 3647
Grief is the unexpressed love we still have to give and nowhere to go. 😢 It’s a journey with highs and lows. My goal was to get to where I can smile when thinking of them instead of cry. Stay strong 🥰♥ 0source record 3707
Grief is love that has nowhere to go ♥️♥ 0source record 3714
Grief is love nowhere to go♥ 0source record 3717
The feeling of grief is the deep love you have for them, now with nowhere to go. We learn to share our love with them again even though they may not be here in body. They are certainly still here in soul. 💕😇🪽♥ 0source record 3846
You need to feel it. It’s all that love you felt/ feel with nowhere to go…sometimes it crushes you and sometimes it reminds you of all the joy you felt with that person. And it is surprising what will bring it on. You’ll feel fine and the smallest thing will bring those feelings back. That’s okay. Just walk through it.♥ 0source record 3956
“Grief is love with no place to go.”♥ 0source record 3975
“Grief is just love with no place to go.”♥ 0source record 4100
Grief is really just love…it’s all the love you want to give but cannot. Grief is just love with no place to go❤️♥ 0source record 4101
Grief is love with nowhere to go.🌹 Let yourself feel and you will get through the woods... 🌹♥ 0source record 4318
Grief is just love with no place to go.♥ 0source record 4332
Grief is just love with no place to go♥ 0source record 4360
Grief is just love that has nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 4391
Grief is love with nowhere to go ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4436
Grief is love with nowhere to go- helped me acknowledge the love and be thankful every time I was grieving and suffering♥ 0source record 4528
Embrace it. Grief is all the words you didnt say, all the love you still have for them. Its the proof that they existed. I never really got it until my sister died last year. But im always sad even when im happy im sad. Grief is beautiful in its deepest its pure love with no home so it makes a home in you. She moves in fast and swiftly and settles in like a deep breath. Before you know it you forget what its like what she wasnt there as painful as she is shes the last piece of them so you hold her close.♥ 0source record 4553
Grief is just love with nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 4641
Grief is love with nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 4703
Grief is love that has nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 4711
Grief is love with nowhere to go. 😔♥ 0source record 4786
Grief, I've learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.♥ 0source record 4826
“Grief is just love with no place to go” comforted me through some dark times♥ 0source record 4827
grief is just love with nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 4866
grief is love with nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 4872
“Grief is love with no place to go”♥ 0source record 4885
Grief is only love, that’s got nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 4920
Grief is just love with no place to go…♥ 0source record 4954
Grief is love with nowhere to go 😭😭♥ 0source record 5050
Grief is just love that has no place to go💔♥ 0source record 5056
The amount of your love will be the amount of your grief, and grief is love with no place to go. I always ask myself, what would they want for me on earth side? I try to tell myself what I would want them to tell themselves if I was gone. I’d never want someone I love to grieve me to the point they can’t live their life, and I’d imagine they’d want the same for me. Death is real and it’s very random. Love your people while you have them and never forget you’re on borrowed time. Spend it wisely.♥ 0source record 5206
Grief is when love has nowhere to go♥ 0source record 5212
Grief is just love with no place to go ♥️♥ 0source record 5217
“Grief is love with nowhere to go.” When it hits me, you know how it can, thinking this gets me thinking about how much I love this person rather than how sad I am.♥ 0source record 5371
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 0source record 5390
Grief is just love with no place to go♥ 0source record 5393
grief is just another version of love. love with no place to go♥ 0source record 5454
Grief is love with no place to go.♥ 0source record 5463
The saying “grief is just love with no place to go” really helped me 💜 miss my dad like crazy♥ 0source record 5469
Grief is just love with nowhere to go ❤️♥ 0source record 5499
Grief is love that has nowhere to go.♥ 0source record 5513
Grief is love that has nowhere to go♥ 0source record 5523
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 0source record 5526
I lost my son who was 25 and instead of being sad about the years I won’t have with him I choose to be grateful DAILY for the 25 years God did give me with him. I still cry because I miss him. But tears are just love with nowhere to go - and there’s beauty in that too.♥ 0source record 5534
Grief has NO place to land.....♥ 0source record 5554
grief is all the love you have with nowhere to go ❤️♥ 0source record 5697
That grief is just love with nowhere to go anymore. It’s proof that you once had true love in your life.♥ 0source record 5701
Grief is love that has no place to go.♥ 0source record 5716
Grief is love with no place to go.♥ 0source record 5742
I once read that grief is love with nowhere to go . The process to healing tho you never really heal. We just learn to live with it in due time that works best for you ! 💜😔♥ 0source record 5745
Greif is love with no place to go. After I learned this I started to let myself love things again. My dog, the beauty of the world around me. Even when I felt sad that she was gone I would just repeat "I love you" knowing where ever she was, she heard me.♥ 0source record 5786
Grief is love with no place to go.♥ 0source record 5807
The reason grief is so heavy is because it’s all the love you have for that person with no where to go.♥ 0source record 5813
Grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 0source record 5832
grief is love, with nowhere to go…that’s why it hurts so much. but how lucky are we to have loved someone so much, that it makes saying goodbye so hard.♥ 0source record 5964
1. Tears are love that has nowhere to go. One of the most comforting things someone told me while I was grieving my son was that my tears weren’t just sadness — they were love. Love that had nowhere else to go. My body’s way of holding onto him. 2. Grief is the price of great love. Another truth that stuck with me: grief is simply the cost of loving someone so deeply. You don’t get one without the other. The pain I felt was only that strong because the love was just that powerful. 3. Would I give up the grief to erase the love? Never. Someone once asked me, “If you could trade away your grief, would you? Even if it meant you had never known him?” And that hit me. The answer was immediate — no. I wouldn’t trade one second. Even with all the pain, I’m grateful for every moment I had with him. That question helped me understand that grief, in a way, honors the depth of that love.♥ 0source record 6034
Grief is just love with no place to go. You never get over it. Life just changes and you adapt to the new normal♥ 0source record 6110
Grief is just love with nowhere to go...♥ 0source record 6151
Greif is alllll the love that has no place to go… its not grief it’s loveeee♥ 0source record 6205
be kind to yourself, you are not the same person you were, all that love has nowhere to go now, so be kind to yourself while you learn how to keep going♥ 0source record 6210
Grief is love with no place to go..♥ 0source record 6213
“Grief is all love with nowhere to go..”..♥ 0source record 6232
grief is love with no place to go♥ 0source record 6336

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What the pattern means: Grief is the price we pay for love. We loved them so deeply, and in that love our grief becomes something both meaningful and beautiful.

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Grief is the price you pay for love

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Grief is the price of love, and how lucky are we to love so hard it hurts so bad

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Grief is the cost of love. And it is a cost worth paying. But be sure to pay it when it comes due or you'll find yourself paying interest on it for the rest of your life.

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Grief is the price you pay for love♥ 48source record 939
Grief is the price we pay for love. We loved them so deeply, and in that love our grief becomes something both meaningful and beautiful.♥ 1source record 1215
Grief is the price of love, and how lucky are we to love so hard it hurts so bad♥ 0source record 1280
Grief is not a weakness; it is the price of love.💪♥ 1source record 1387
Grief is the price you pay for loving♥ 1source record 1488
Grief is not a place to camp at. Grieving is a passage that we are blessed to be apart of bc it’s the price of love.♥ 1source record 1611
grief is the price we pay for love♥ 1source record 1747
Carrying the pain of their loss is the price of loving them, and it’s a price I’d pay over again in a moment. Genuine love never leaves. I always felt jealous of people who grieved a parent because I thought it was so beautiful they had been so deeply loved to miss someone like that. Being loved and loving so deeply you miss someone profoundly is beautiful in a way, even if the pain is unbearable.♥ 0source record 2479
Grief is the tax you pay for BIG love♥ 0source record 2713
"Grief is the price we pay for love,"♥ 0source record 2799
Grief is the cost of love...feel all of it!♥ 0source record 2824
“You can’t boycott grief unless you want to boycott happiness with it”♥ 0source record 2882
grief is the price we pay for love♥ 0source record 3041
no one lied to me. they said time will not heal this wound. however it won't always be so heavy. it gets lighter. it will never not exist, you just learn how to live with your grief. you'll wake up one day and you will be this person youve never seen or known. embrace her/him. they were built from your grief. it's who your meant to be. also, with great love comes great suffering. we are lucky to have loved someone SOOO much that we feel lost without them. grief is the price we pay for love. and a small part of us are lucky to have had a love like that♥ 0source record 3115
grief is the price we pay for love.♥ 0source record 3196
Go through it. Right through. The cost of loving is the grief when they are gone. Take the time. Heal yourself. Know that you will never be the same person and that’s okay. Find the new you. 😘♥ 0source record 3288
Grief is the price of love♥ 0source record 3401
That grief is the price of love. ❤️♥ 0source record 3755
Grief is the price we pay for love.♥ 0source record 3771
grief is the price you pay to love💙 I learned that right here on TT♥ 0source record 3782
The price of love.♥ 0source record 3784
grief is the cost of love ❤️it is beautiful in its pain because it means connection was deep. also grief is a place to visit, not a place to build a house ❤️♥ 0source record 3891
Grief is proof that you had something important. It's the cost of love. It's a trade that's always worth making.♥ 0source record 4114
Grief is the price we pay for love♥ 0source record 4115
If we never knew grief, would we know how much love we’re capable of holding in our heart? Grief is the price we pay for love in 3D, but all my loved ones will be the ones waiting to greet me on the other side. Live life to the fullest so you have a mil stories to tell them when you see them again❤️♥ 0source record 4144
Profound grief is the price we all have to pay for unconditional love for me it’s an honor to pay it. I would choose to love over and over knowing the pain would eventually come as a reminder of that love.♥ 0source record 4173
Grief is the price we pay for love. And I'd gladly pay it over and over if it meant having my husband. miss you every single day, my love. and good memories can save your life...they did mine.♥ 0source record 4198
Grief is the price we pay for love. And it’s worth every single solitary Penny! 💔 And that grief is like a fingerprint. No two are the same.♥ 0source record 4252
Grief is the price you pay for love.♥ 0source record 4347
Grief is the price we pay to Love💙...♥ 0source record 4428
the price of love is the pain you feel when it's gone. man, I have loved hard. how glorious to have known their love.♥ 0source record 4496
Pain is a gift. Grief is the price we pay for love.❤️♥ 0source record 4572
Grief is the cost of love. And it is a cost worth paying. But be sure to pay it when it comes due or you'll find yourself paying interest on it for the rest of your life.♥ 0source record 4589
The price of love is loss.♥ 0source record 4904
Grief is the cost of love. The deeper the love, the greater the sorrow. It’s a reflection of how deeply you truly cared.♥ 0source record 4918
greif is the price of love♥ 0source record 4923
Great grief is the price you pay for the gift of a great love.♥ 0source record 4983
Grief is the price we pay for love.♥ 0source record 4998
Grief is the price we pay for love♥ 0source record 5008
Grief is the price for love. If you are experiencing grief deeply you loved deeply as well♥ 0source record 5026
Grief is the price we pay for loving so hard. You never get over it, you learn how to get through it. 💔♥ 0source record 5051
Grief is the cost of loving someone🥰🥰🥰♥ 0source record 5184
Grief is the price we pay for love, and worth it a million times over.♥ 0source record 5200
grief is the price we pay becasue we loved and were loved deeply!♥ 0source record 5268
Grief is the price we pay for love…😭♥ 0source record 5283
Grief is the price we pay for losing someone we loved unconditionally.♥ 0source record 5354
Someone told me Hrieg is the price of love. So when the grief is great that just means that is how much you love them and they loved you. So I didn’t mind how much it hurt. It sounds cliche but the only thing that helped is time. It’s always going to hurt but it won’t be as raw when the loss first happened.♥ 0source record 5773
grief is the price you pay for loving someone you loved and passed♥ 0source record 6015
Not advice, but it helps me cope. "Grief is the cost of love. Not everyone gets to grieve." 💔♥ 0source record 6121
Grief is the price we pay for love. To mourn someone deeply means we had the honor of loving them deeply.♥ 0source record 6204
Grief is the price of unconditional love.♥ 0source record 6226

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It hurts because it mattered36 index entriesIt hurts because it mattered — 36 records
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It hurts because it mattered

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Appears when: It hurts because it mattered

What the pattern means: I have learned that Grief is not the enemy. It is the proof of how much that loved one meant to you and how much it hurts that they’re no longer here.

What commenters described: Grief is proof that love existed

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Grief is proof that love existed

source record 373♥ 6,550
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A heart that’s broken is a heart that’s been loved

posted about 55 days after the source♥ 3
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The Greater the Greif the Greater the Love was 🕊️

posted about 37.9 hours after the source♥ 0

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The exact phrase “grief is proof” recurs across 5 of the 36 source records in It hurts because it mattered; the complete archive stays available below.

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Grief is proof that love existed♥ 6,550source record 373
A heart that’s broken is a heart that’s been loved♥ 3source record 1155
I have learned that Grief is not the enemy. It is the proof of how much that loved one meant to you and how much it hurts that they’re no longer here.♥ 1source record 1239
“It’s not their loss it’s yours” has always been a soothing thought♥ 1source record 1421
Love and grief go hand in hand and will never have one without the other u will always miss them and u will always love them and its now apart of who you are♥ 1source record 1867
I thought of all the yesterdays The good ones and the bad, I thought of all the love we shared, and all the fun we had If I could re-live yesterday Just even for a while, I’d say good-bye and kiss you And maybe see you smile. But then I fully realized, That this could never be, For emptiness and memories, would take the place of me♥ 0source record 2053
we couldn't have love if we didn't have grief.♥ 0source record 2559
Anything you did, it was because you loved them. Even if it was fighting, getting angry at them, etc. It’s ok that it happened and it’s ok to say sorry even now because you love them even though they are not here anymore.♥ 0source record 2568
To be grieved. Is to be loved fully.♥ 0source record 2577
Grief is proof that love existed! ♥️♥ 0source record 2683
they are worth every single tear♥ 0source record 2789
Grief is proof that profound and verifiable love existed and somehow still persists even after the vessel you were pouring it into has gone away.”♥ 0source record 3345
What I know of grief is what I know of living. If to love is to truly live, then what is grief but proof of purpose in life.♥ 0source record 3354
Grief is proof of love.♥ 0source record 3356
u will get hurt but the love u shared and felt was so worth this pain.♥ 0source record 3519
grief is not a burden. It is proof of a love that once was💔♥ 0source record 3561
“grief is evidence of love”♥ 0source record 3736
the longer you knew them and the deeper the love the longer the grief. you'll always miss them♥ 0source record 3741
It hurts because it mattered.♥ 0source record 3942
I would rather have spent the years I had with them than never have had them in my life at all. Grief is just proof that love existed.♥ 0source record 4066
That grief is proof of love with no where to go 🥹♥ 0source record 4168
Im okay with missing you longer than I knew you. It was worth it♥ 0source record 4266
The Greater the Greif the Greater the Love was 🕊️♥ 0source record 4424
The person you lost is worth the mourning.♥ 0source record 4693
It’s a gift when you treasure what someone meant to you♥ 0source record 4776
That I don’t need to hold on to the grief to hold on to the love we shared.♥ 0source record 4793
Where there was great love there will be deep grief.♥ 0source record 4886
I’m glad to be sad. Because it means I love him and I miss him so. An exquisite pain that I welcome with love. 💚💚💚♥ 0source record 5305
grief walks hand in hand with love 🤍🪽♥ 0source record 5536
with love comes grieving. they go hand in hand can't have one without the other. 💔❣️💯♥ 0source record 5656
A heart that’s broke is a heart that’s been loved.♥ 0source record 5898
The longer the grief the deeper the love.♥ 0source record 5928
The grief you feel now, was the love you felt before, that’s the deal.♥ 0source record 5971
it hurts so dam much,, because it was real♥ 0source record 5975
In the beginning it was dark like being blind. Fog brain. Terrible. But it rescinds. Then you feel guilty for not being so broken. That where I’m at. I wish I felt like I did - I felt closer to you. I feel you slipping. I don’t want to heal - you’ll go away. I can’t bear the thought of not remembering your voice or smell. I miss you dad. It’s so hard but an honor. It’s an honor of your love you gave us. I miss you every day. ❤️♥ 0source record 6274
When you love, you will grieve♥ 0source record 6339

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Lucky to have loved that hard26 index entriesLucky to have loved that hard — 26 records
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What the pattern means: Commenters reframed intense grief as evidence that the relationship mattered while still acknowledging the pain of the loss.

What commenters described: Grief and pain is a requirement for us humans. Without grief and pain, we would not be able to appreciate love. Let it take you on a journey and show you all you have to be grateful for. Appreciate the time you had.…

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Grief and pain is a requirement for us humans. Without grief and pain, we would not be able to appreciate love. Let it take you on a journey and show you all you have to be grateful for. Appreciate the time you had. Only then will you realize love doesn’t ever leave, it just changes. 💜🌹

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Uhm… be grateful. Whether you’re happy or sad. Join me 💞

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Someone once told me… “You may not have got to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of their life with you.”

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The exact phrase “rest of your life with them” recurs across 7 of the 26 source records in Lucky to have loved that hard; the complete archive stays available below.

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I never had a dad. youre so lucky to have had a father thought loved u n did right by you♥ 0source record 718
Grief and pain is a requirement for us humans. Without grief and pain, we would not be able to appreciate love. Let it take you on a journey and show you all you have to be grateful for. Appreciate the time you had. Only then will you realize love doesn’t ever leave, it just changes. 💜🌹♥ 14source record 1124
It is a privilege to feel such sorrow. You have been chosen to walk through this because you can.♥ 1source record 1454
You had 32 good years with a great dad. You know people who didn’t get 32 days with a an average dad.♥ 1source record 1485
There is a gift in this, you may not see it now, but there is a gift.♥ 1source record 1586
Be grateful for all the years you shared with that person! Be grateful♥ 1source record 1866
Also what a privilege it is to have loved someone so much that you grieve them this big 🤍♥ 0source record 1869
Someone said “you didnt get to be with them forever” but you were there for their forever and that’s so important♥ 1source record 2040
You might of not gotten to live the rest of your life with them. But they got to spend the rest of their life with you♥ 1source record 2084
Uhm… be grateful. Whether you’re happy or sad. Join me 💞♥ 0source record 2520
What a privilege it was to have them in your life for the time you had together. 💗♥ 0source record 3066
You may not be able to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of theirs with you. 💔♥ 0source record 3090
It was said “Remember, you may not have lived your whole life with him, but he lived his entire life with you.” That gave me a little comfort.♥ 0source record 3300
This quote has always stuck with me. “ I will endure a lifetime of missing you, for the privilege of loving you.”❤️♥ 0source record 3621
“You may have not got to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of their life with you” ❤️💔♥ 0source record 3813
Find the Beauty in the Ugly!!💔😩😔🐉♥ 0source record 3841
You may not get to live the rest of your life with them, but they got to live the rest of theirs with you❤️♥ 0source record 3843
Grief and love are conjoined, it's impossible to have one without the other.♥ 0source record 4378
Someone once told me… “You may not have got to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of their life with you.”♥ 0source record 4571
Grief is a privilege.♥ 0source record 4608
There is no words, advice etc. Your loss will stay with you forever. Hopefully you find peace and learn to be grateful to have had that love.♥ 0source record 4994
Be grateful she had somewhere to go.♥ 0source record 5047
You may not have gotten to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of their life with you.♥ 0source record 5191
You may not have been able to spend the rest of your life with them, but they got to spend the rest of their life with you.♥ 0source record 5723
no matter how much time you had, it still wouldn’t of felt like enough. 💛 Made me realize I did the best I could and I’m grateful for the time I did have, no one can take that away.♥ 0source record 6054
Grieving is a privilege. It means you loved someone enough to miss them.♥ 0source record 6135

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Love persevering15 index entriesLove persevering — 15 records
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Love persevering

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Appears when: Love persevering

What the pattern means: The repeated phrase casts grief as love that continues after the person is no longer available to receive it.

What commenters described: "but what is grief, if not love persevering"

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"but what is grief, if not love persevering"

source record 1327♥ 4
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what is grief but love enduring?

posted about 36.8 hours after the source♥ 0
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To quote Vision: “But what is grief if not love persevering.”

posted about 24.0 hours after the source♥ 0

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The exact phrase “is grief if not love persevering” recurs across 13 of the 15 source records in Love persevering; the complete archive stays available below.

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“What is grief, if not love persevering?”♥ 3source record 1304
"but what is grief, if not love persevering"♥ 4source record 1327
What is grief if not love persevering - Vision♥ 1source record 1390
What is grief, if not love persevering?♥ 1source record 1855
"What is grief if not love persevering?"♥ 0source record 2537
What is grief if not love persevering😭♥ 0source record 2967
“What is grief, if not love persevering”♥ 0source record 3252
What is grief if not love persevering?♥ 0source record 3324
What is grief if not love persevering? 💔♥ 0source record 4106
what is grief but love enduring?♥ 0source record 4518
but what is grief, if not love persevering?♥ 0source record 4977
“What is grief, if not love persevering?”♥ 0source record 5400
“What is grief, if not love persevering” -Vision♥ 0source record 5671
To quote Vision: “But what is grief if not love persevering.”♥ 0source record 5710
What is grief but love persevering.♥ 0source record 5943

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Missing them, out loud8 index entriesMissing them, out loud — 8 records
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Missing them, out loud

8 source records

Appears when: Missing them, out loud

What the pattern means: I didn’t find any comfort anywhere but onky Quran gave me hope that I will meet her again! How I miss her 🥺

What commenters described: Cry and smile and remember. Miss them knowing they miss you too.

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Cry and smile and remember. Miss them knowing they miss you too.

source record 4992♥ 0
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They get to see the loved ones they’ve missed too❤️

posted about 40 days after the source♥ 0
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She didn’t give me the chance to 🥺.

posted about 33.7 hours after the source♥ 0

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They get to see the loved ones they’ve missed too❤️♥ 0source record 2309
I didn’t find any comfort anywhere but onky Quran gave me hope that I will meet her again! How I miss her 🥺♥ 0source record 2796
They miss you just as much as you miss them♥ 0source record 3318
Your never going to stop missing them and the last day with them was the best♥ 0source record 3358
The day I lost you starts a journey of forever missing you.. miss you papi!!♥ 0source record 3925
She didn’t give me the chance to 🥺.♥ 0source record 4820
Cry and smile and remember. Miss them knowing they miss you too.♥ 0source record 4992
When you miss them the most, when every cell of you wishes they were there. Go do something they would’ve loved to do with you. Take them with you, they aren’t gone.♥ 0source record 5340

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You never get over it — you grow around it428 records · 4 sub-topicsYou never get over it — you grow around it — 428 records
You learn to live with it175 index entriesYou learn to live with it — 175 records
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You learn to live with it

175 source records

Appears when: You learn to live with it

What the pattern means: People described adaptation as learning how to carry a continuing ache, not erasing the relationship or its absence.

What commenters described: It's unbearable until it's not. It will never go away, but you'll get used to the ache.

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It's unbearable until it's not. It will never go away, but you'll get used to the ache.

source record 873♥ 115
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It never gets easier, you just learn how to manage it better. Hearing that has helped me realize that it’s okay to not be okay, and it’s normal to miss them for the rest of your life. You aren’t abandoning them or their memory, you are just learning how to cope with the loss of them.

posted about 68 days after the source♥ 1
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Time wounds all heals. You have to learn to live with that

posted about 35.1 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 175 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (5 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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You can’t cure grief. You simply find a way to live with it. And one day, you will be able to smile when you think of them. You’re still going to cry until your chest hurts, but not every single time.♥ 2source record 332
I worked for a private school when my mom passed and one of the maintenance women that lost her son when he was in his 20-30s said it best... you will never be okay but will learn how to live with the new normal♥ 0source record 621
I appreciate that this perspective brings you comfort, and I’m not trying to take that away from you or tell you how to grieve. I just wanted to share that for me, hearing “grief is a reminder of love” has never felt helpful—it actually feels insulting. I don’t need pain to remind me that I loved someone. I already carry that love every day. Grief isn’t beautiful. It’s raw and lonely and gutting. When I’m hurting, I don’t want my pain repackaged as something “meaningful”—I want someone to sit with me and acknowledge the ache without trying to make it prettier than it is. I respect that your view helps you, and I shared mine not to argue, but to speak for those of us who find those kinds of sayings isolating. There’s room for both truths.♥ 2source record 633
I’m sorry but that is your perspective. I did not find it dismissive it gave my grief a reason. It made me ok with the fact that I’d have to carry it my entire life. Prior to I’d sink myself in it. Now with that perspective I find comfort in missing my loved ones knowing that if they’re watching I still remember my love for them. Grief is not a blessing but it does not have to be a big ugly monster. You can be with someone all you want when they’re grieving but grief is lonely. Again this is how I handle MY grief.♥ 0source record 634
It's unbearable until it's not. It will never go away, but you'll get used to the ache.♥ 115source record 873
I've cut a few people off for trying to make light of losing my only child. She was 20. There is no way to feel better. Just learning to live with it.♥ 1source record 891
I wish I could say it gets so much easier. But, in reality you just kinda get used to living with grief. July 10th was the 10 year anniversary of my dad's. I miss him just as much as i did on day 1. give yourself permission to be mad, or sad all of it, its ok. ❤️♥ 2source record 921
All of these comments are beautiful but if I could give you any advice it’s that it doesn’t get easier you just learn to live with it and became a different version of you.♥ 6source record 1064
The advice I gave myself, "Nobody is coming to save you". Not because I didn't have people wiling to be there for me. It was just never going to be enough. The truth is, you HAVE to save yourself in order to heal-to move forward with the pain. To learn to live with it. It's always going to be there.♥ 12source record 1080
it doesn't stop hurting, but you learn to live with the hurt. you will go and have a completely normal day, and then suddenly it will hit you all over again. it's ok when it does, it's their soul checking in on you, and your soul reacting to theirs.♥ 24source record 1108
Time doesn’t heal anything it just teaches us to live with the pain.♥ 1source record 1184
people say that grief is something that unifies us all, because everyone has experienced some sort of loss. I disagree. Grief is the most lonely emotion, for you are the only one who has lost who you’ve lost, the only one to have lost EXACTLY what you’ve lost, not just the person but your relationship with them, who they were to you specifically, and whatever your futures would look like. Only you have lost exactly what you’ve lost. So no one can tell you how to manage your grief, it is uniquely yours. Feel it, and learn to live with it in whichever way brings you the most peace. There is no right way to grieve, it is yours and yours alone. Become friends with it, it is here to stay.♥ 1source record 1217
When grieving and you only have 30% to give for that day that is your 100% at the moment. That seriously helped me when things were so heavy and I didn’t have much to give those hard days. 😢♥ 1source record 1317
It never gets easier, you just learn how to manage it better. Hearing that has helped me realize that it’s okay to not be okay, and it’s normal to miss them for the rest of your life. You aren’t abandoning them or their memory, you are just learning how to cope with the loss of them.♥ 1source record 1350
I've learned we have to learn, and relearn, everyday, how to live with it; exist with the hole, that some days can inexplicably be more raw than other days 💔♥ 2source record 1371
grief and grief well... it will not get better, but u will learn how to deal with it♥ 2source record 1382
“Love leaves more behind than death can take away.” I wish I could remember who told me, but that has carried me in all stages of grief.♥ 1source record 1398
I wish someone would have told me the truth.... that it doesn't get better. you only learn how to live with it.♥ 1source record 1476
You will learn to hide it better♥ 1source record 1496
That you never “get over it.” With time you learn to carry it.♥ 1source record 1527
I can’t remember who it was, somebody famous. I read it, your grief never goes away, its not a cold or virus. You learn to live with it. Your life has indeed changed and you’re not the same person you were. So grief is apart of you now. My advice is keep it close to your heart tucked in nice and comfy so you can go on to live. It sucks so so much but your loved one would want you to continue with love in your heart.♥ 1source record 1538
Grieving never gets easier, we just learn to cope with it differently each and every day♥ 1source record 1554
Grieving is a pass through you never forget but you get through it. And you move on with your life, the person who passed doesn’t want you to be stuck in the tunnel. Just through 🥰♥ 1source record 1572
Things don’t get easier , you just learn to deal with it! But every now and then you will be reminded of what you lost!♥ 1source record 1592
Everyone’s words are beautiful. This is boring and practical (which I found comforting and helpful). It takes five years minimum ( not exact) to gain the endurance to live with the grief and not have it dominate you. Everyday you get a little stronger and someday you may help someone else carry theirs. You can feel fuzzy headed, weak, have insomnia and many other physical symptoms. Care for your body as much as your soul. Rest is allowed. Get outside in nature. Remember your favorite things about them and share. Cry! This is weirdly the most important for people who can isolate or go numb. Crying helps release excess cortisol from the body and you will have excess. Schedule the cry if need be but never fully deny yourself. Follow up the cry with positive memories journaling or even meditation. This was the advice given to me in grief group. I have had a hard time with crying but this helped. I have triggers for tears when I am stopped up to help me process. You are not weird for not crying. Your system can freeze up as a mental safety net, but it can’t remain that way. The feeling of floating outside your body is a sign dissociation maybe you don’t drive if you feel this coming on, for myself this was a sign I was hanging out frozen too long. Writing letters to them was also very helpful for me to let myself cry.♥ 1source record 1632
grief is a lifelong honor to be held in your heart forever…it’s love no longer able to be expressed to those who are gone from this earth…..you learn to live with it…it’s not going to go away…it lives in you…you live with it…the last time i saw my dad i felt this feeling and it hasn’t left…i miss him …love you Daddy♥️♥ 1source record 1659
I wasn’t ever given any advice while grieving the loss of my parents. Certainly not any good advice worth sharing. They were both killed in a motorcycle accident when I was 24. So thru 19 years of my own grief process, my advice to someone else would be to feel it. REALLY let yourself feel the it. The loss. Sit with it and let it happen. Dont let anyone tell you you’re “taking too long or still hurting too much.” Those people have never lost someone they truly love. The more you ignore it, the more it will hurt. It’s part of you now. It’s not going anywhere. It’s not just for this moment, that loss is forever now. They will not be here for anything ever again. I feel their loss every single day. Especially while raising the grandchildren they never met. So Feel it, learn it, and adapt. I often say it’s like losing a limb in an accident. You’ll NEVER be the same, but you’ll figure out how to live with it over time. Don’t listen to the people that say “time heals.” Or that use the term “move on.” I HATE that!! I will NEVER “move on.” They were mine and I was theirs. I will never have another Mother or Father. I have to keep moving every day bc that’s just the way it is, but I will NEVER be ok with them not being here. I’m just as sad today as I was that day 19 years ago. But I am able to carry the weight a little easier most days. Grief is a journey. And for me, it will be a lifelong journey until it’s my time to go home to be with them again. I’m in no rush, but what a beautiful reunion day that will be ♥️♥️♥️just keep moving and keep shamelessly loving them and talking about them. They deserve to be remembered ♥️♥ 1source record 1660
I ask my good friend ; when I’m going to be able to feel better he’s answer was take one day at the time because they pain never goes away you just have to learn how to live with it. 🥺♥ 1source record 1661
the day she came i to my life she forever changed who I was...and she forever changed who I was the day she left it..there is nothing in the world as painful as loss♥ 1source record 1664
Time is a gift. Take the time to grieve. Time to remember. Time to adjust to the new normal. Give yourself the grace of time ❤️♥ 1source record 1682
Grief doesn’t get easier or better with time. We just learn to live with the pain of losing a loved one. Time doesn’t heal we learn to live with it . 🩵🩵🩵♥ 1source record 1694
It’s true that when you lose a parent that a part of you dies. It takes time to learn to live without that part of yourself. True whether you were close to parent or not.♥ 1source record 1738
The pain you feel will never go away, but I promise it gets easier. Not because you learn to live without them, but because you learn to live for them.♥ 1source record 1774
and the sad part, no matter how many years go by, it never goes away. I'm sorry. but you learn to deal with it.♥ 1source record 1814
Grief never ends…it just changes.♥ 1source record 1820
You don’t ever move on you just learn how to live without them♥ 1source record 1828
It will never go away. You will learn to live with it. Harsh but true. So many people said things that made me wonder what world they lived in.♥ 1source record 1837
You will adapt - because you have an adaptable personality♥ 1source record 1839
Shake grief by the shoulders until it remembers that it is love.♥ 1source record 1860
I was told by my boss “The pain never goes away, you learn to live with it”… I had this pain for the past 6 years since the last day I heard my mom take her last breath … but I finally surrendered it to God and it’s helped me so much… rather than cry with sadness I cry with joy… God is near the brokenhearted. I pray you feel his love surrounded and know it’s okay to be sad… I don’t know you but I know the pain and I love you sending you the biggest hug 🫂♥ 1source record 1903
try to stay strong for the ones that are here cuz one day we will unite with their loved ones that we've lost had to learn to live with grief everyday and still continuing to go through different things and different phases and stages of grief and never ends you'll mourn your loved one forever♥ 1source record 1974
Some things can’t be fixed, they can only be carried.♥ 1source record 1995
It doesn’t get easier, you just learn to live with it♥ 1source record 2009
That the pain doesn’t go away , you just learn to live with it . ❤️‍🩹 Psalm 34:18 ❣️♥ 1source record 2032
The pain never goes away. BUT you learn to live with it and become stronger because of it♥ 1source record 2066
Grieving is healthy and needs to be done, but the burden of the pain after grieving was never ment for you to carry. Someone already gave there life to carry that weight. Pain belongs at the foot of the cross♥ 1source record 2074
Grief is full of people telling you that it will be okay. The truth is you’ll never be the same and it will never be okay. You’ll get stronger and learn how to deal with grief. Grieving isnt linear, grieving is crying while driving because something reminded of you them. Grieving is forever. I miss you mom♥ 1source record 2079
None. Nothing helps. You just get used to carrying it around. 😭♥ 1source record 2080
Grief is just always there. One second you can feel fine then a memory pops in your mind and the pain floods your body. You learn to live with it, you learn to expect the hurt to visit.♥ 1source record 2082
after my dad died there were two things said to me by two different people that stuck and weirdly helped (there were a lot said by others but it was the usual stuff you hear anyways). 1 was, he will always be with me because I am a reflection of all the things I loved about him. all those wonderful qualities I loved about my dad, he passed to me. I learned from him. and 2, a old coworker who I wasnt close to at all but had just lost her brother a few months prior and was the biggest help to me in so many ways & said so many comforting things, said to me she didnt know my dad but knew thru me his battle thru cancer & that he was clearly a fighter and that I had that in me too. he gave me the strength along the course of our years together & now I'll carry that into forever. it was something I needed to hear. she also told me to be prepared because people will say the weirdest things trying to comfort me, that they'll mean well but it will be crazy and that was so true too, which was the first time I was able to laugh after his passing.♥ 1source record 2095
It will never go away. But you will learn how to carry it.♥ 1source record 2097
No one ever told me anything but what I did learn is to live with the pain the what ifs and knowing I will miss them forever...♥ 1source record 2142
Grief never goes away, you just learn to live with it.♥ 1source record 2145
It's like a limp that never goes away. You learn how to live with it and work around it but it's always holding you back inside.♥ 1source record 2153
You never move on or get over it. You just learn to live with it.♥ 1source record 2154
You will never stop grieving. You just learn how to live with it ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 2173
Also “ people lie and say it gets better with time but that is not true, you just learn to live with it”♥ 1source record 2186
Try your best to learn to live with the profound hole of their absence. 😞💔🙏🏼♥ 1source record 2211
Grief and joy can and will co-exist ❤♥ 0source record 2231
Grief never goes away, you learn to live with it. My best friend died 15 yrs ago and I just stopped crying everytime his name is brought up. I felt guilty at first but I know he'd rather me be laughing than crying♥ 0source record 2289
Grief never ends, it just changes shape..!!♥ 0source record 2335
None. Because no one knows. Even people who also lost a child had a different experience, different way of handling trauma. Grief never leaves, and it's always heavy. Your nervous system just learns to carry it while having to function. You become 2 people, one who is always crying inside yet smiling at your grandkids. That's not advice. Just insight of what's to come.♥ 0source record 2352
There is no time line. There’s no—you’ll be fine in a year. You learn to live with it as your shadow, but it doesnt really go away.♥ 0source record 2358
It doesn’t get better, you just learn how to deal with the pain as time goes on.♥ 0source record 2416
You’ll never forget them…just eventually learn to live without them.♥ 0source record 2432
He is no longer mine to carry… gave me the eye opener I needed as our babies needed me more an are what was mine to carry♥ 0source record 2453
The pain never gets better but you will learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 2461
The pain will never go away but you will learn to live and thrive with it.♥ 0source record 2503
I usually tell people it doesn’t get better. It only gets worse, but you learn to live with your pain.♥ 0source record 2539
The pain never goes away. And every day it never gets easier. But day by day, you’ll learn to manage it. And an honor of the life you miss, a piece of you will always live in remembrance of them. Which keeps a piece of them alive too.♥ 0source record 2546
Don’t fight the grief, you have to let it pass thru you or you’ll carry it forever♥ 0source record 2551
My advice is to be aware of this around you who are also grieving. There is no hierarchy in grief. Try to carry your grief and allow others that same privilege. A parent who dismisses their child’s grief forces them to carry it alone, unprocessed, well into adulthood.♥ 0source record 2565
“it never gets better, you just have to carry it better”♥ 0source record 2582
Cherish the memories and carry them with you as you make new ones.♥ 0source record 2585
That everyone grieves differently, in their own way and at their own pace. It will never go away, you just learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 2602
This pain will always have a place in your life, and you will learn how to keep it in its place.♥ 0source record 2609
it doesn't get easier, you learn to carry it with you. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 2660
all the advice sucked. and that was the best advice. I think the agony, the horror, the immense weight and pain of it all, teaches us that beauty and love is within us if we're willing to search for it. people's advice left me with a loneliness that made things quiet. quiet enough to find the answers I needed.♥ 0source record 2767
Grief is lighter to carry it with you in your heart than on your back. - a monk at deer park monastery♥ 0source record 2834
You’ll never get “over it”…you just get use to it.♥ 0source record 2838
Time does not heal all wounds .. you only learn how to live with it ..😔♥ 0source record 2850
The first cry after losing my little sister was the worse pain I’ve ever experienced. It was so painful that I couldn’t bare to cry after that. I had this huge fear of feeling that deep pain over again…A few weeks later I broke & as painful as it was, it was also a sense of relief (not entirely, just a bit) the more I cried the more I began to heal. Although one never fully recovers, we learn to live with the pain and it’s always ok to cry.♥ 0source record 2908
let it be part of your path 😓♥ 0source record 2997
Grief is a process that changes your whole life. It rearranges who you are because the person you knew all your life that defined you and who you are is no longer with you. Now you have to start over and learn to live without the life you once knew. A painful change♥ 0source record 3024
Grief doesn’t get lighter. You get stronger. You will always carry that heavy grief with you. But you will get stronger over time. Sometimes you will stumble and have to pick that heavy grief up. Some days you will run with it.♥ 0source record 3050
That the grief doesn't get easier. As Humans we adapt coping mechanism that help us manage it better. Been finding it hard to cope ever since♥ 0source record 3068
None known 🥲 U just learn to live with it♥ 0source record 3106
it doesn't get better you just learn to live with it♥ 0source record 3168
Look at every hug as a time to give away one small piece of grief that the person wants to shoulder for you♥ 0source record 3182
Grieve is like a little ball you always carry in your pocket everyday. You always carry it. Sometimes it’s heavy sometimes it’s not♥ 0source record 3218
The pain never goes away, you just learn to live with it♥ 0source record 3311
It’s not so simple and it doesn’t ever go away. You just learn ways to cope with it along the way.♥ 0source record 3332
you can only stay busy, work out, church .. you have to give yourself grace, and know the super intense moments will pass, and come back.... but they are only temporary. don't do what the voices tell you, to stop the pain..to be with them.. you will just transfer your grief to people that love you. so carry it until it your time to be with your love ones❤️♥ 0source record 3396
The pain will never go away. You just learn to live with it. I didn’t want it to go away and had an irrational fear that if the pain went away then I would loose her again. Fly high mommy♥ 0source record 3430
Grief is not something that you’ll ever overcome , you just learn to live with it you learn to go on to move forward but, the grief is always there .♥ 0source record 3521
Just what I learned after a lot of loss in my life, you learn to live with the side of you that hurts and just kind of walk side by side with your grief for the rest of your life♥ 0source record 3685
the pain of loss doesn't every go totally away. you just learn to live with it in a more tolerant way♥ 0source record 3687
That’s you will be forever changed. I kept thinking I should be over it but you just accept and are forever changed♥ 0source record 3753
lost my father to suicide. spoke to one of my cousins who had been the same thing with her mother. I was absolutely desperate and asked does it get better? he answer was the most honest thing about grief. no, you just learn to live with it. the grief will stay, it's part of you now. you have to make room for it so it does not squeeze out all of the good. it's what I tell everyone now when I am supporting someone going through something. stop wasting energy trying to "get over" it. use your energy to make room for it.♥ 0source record 3775
Know, it will never go away. It will hurt less over time because you are getting used to live with it. Meanwhile, just cry whenever you have to. ♥️🙏♥ 0source record 3783
Time does not make grief any better. You just learn to adapt to new way of life.❣️♥ 0source record 3797
there is no advice, there's no escape route. you must simply learn slowly to coexist with the loss and all that comes with it. the tears will lessen the shock will fade, and the whole time life will go on and it will drag you along with it. eventually your body learns to go with the flow that used to be and flow easier. and eventually a calm finally sets in and u acquiesce to it. thats the only "healing" there is. one day u reach equilibrium again. but when the smell of rain hits your nose on a soft November afternoon it will flood back to you. u can heal to a point, but its a fracture in your existence that will never fill. u just learn to live with it, and hopefully ur able to still create your life without that which u still feel u need. it will become normal. but the love remains. and without somewhere to place it grief is how u love them and the way u live is how u love them now.♥ 0source record 3837
We are dead, and they are now forever 🙏🏽♥ 0source record 3881
There is a place for everything and everything in its place♥ 0source record 3963
My aunt told me that grief For a loved one isn’t something you get over but you slowly learn to live with it and live for them because they wouldn’t want your life to stop. Took almost 4.5 yrs of severe depression to find my way back from grief. Mom lives with me now and shows up in my kids/grandkids.♥ 0source record 3971
Feel to heal. I have to go through all the feelings and they recurring change. I also like to tell people that grief is a permanent copilot. It doesn’t go away, but you learn to live with it in a different way.♥ 0source record 3976
“The good news is your loved one will never be forgotten. The bad news is you never stop missing them”. You learn to continue on carrying that sadness with to you.♥ 0source record 4004
That grief & joy can co-exist. It’s not something you get through, but rather something you grow to live with.♥ 0source record 4030
That you learn to live with the pain…♥ 0source record 4051
You’ll never “get over it”. You just get used to carrying the grief with you.♥ 0source record 4062
It never gets easier, you just learn to carry it♥ 0source record 4078
Truth is heavy on the heart♥ 0source record 4089
The advice I gave myself. Realizing it is there forever, in different levels.♥ 0source record 4113
You don’t have to like what happened, but you will have to accept it.🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺♥ 0source record 4117
Nobody told me anything but I do know it’s a life cycle and we’re all promised to go back home. We just learn to live with the grief.♥ 0source record 4136
" This will hurt now, but it won't hurt like this forever "♥ 0source record 4234
You learn to carry it better, like a hiking. You start using better shoes, better socks, a better pack, maybe some walking poles, and then one day you look again and the pain just feels like the love you miss.♥ 0source record 4238
The pain will never go away, you just learn to exist with it♥ 0source record 4265
Grief never goes away, you just learn to live with it♥ 0source record 4284
You’ll be sad the rest of your life….but you’ll learn to live with it. I still think of you everyday. So many times I’ve needed you. I wish you could have seen your grandchildren. See you when I get there. W-♥ 0source record 4288
You learn to live with the pain IT WILL NEVER GO AWAY💔♥ 0source record 4320
I never got good advice. Grief is forever and the only thing that’s ever lightened that load is a friend who knows that it’s true and doesn’t expect me to get better♥ 0source record 4368
It doesn't get easier or lighter. We just learn how to carry it better♥ 0source record 4449
My Pops was my best friend, I asked how do I live with the grief of losing him? I was told to live a life that would make him proud. When you lose someone so close to you, you don’t ever really get over it. You just become strong person like they raised you to be. Idk this makes sense but I’m still trying and it’s almost been 2 years.♥ 0source record 4462
If talking about it keeps you here, you talk about it as much as you need to. Even when you think people are tired of hearing you talk about it. Find people that will hold space for your grief. Rely on them. Tell them when you need them. You don’t have to carry it all by yourself. 💕♥ 0source record 4491
grief.... it mever gets easy, you just learn to live with it!!!♥ 0source record 4521
the pain never goes away....you Just get used to living with it.♥ 0source record 4591
Your life is never the same without them, but you do find a new normal. Like anything you lose in life, you learn to live without it. As horrible as that sounds, it's the only way you can mentally cope.♥ 0source record 4593
It never gets easier you just learn how to live with it better♥ 0source record 4605
That I was never gonna get over it but learning to live with it was crucial. It meant I loved that person.♥ 0source record 4631
time doesn't heal anything, but it teaches you to live with the pain♥ 0source record 4661
Time wounds all heals. You have to learn to live with that♥ 0source record 4698
What the heart has once owned, it shall never lose. Grief never gets better. We just learn how to live with it.💔♥ 0source record 4715
You have to go through it you can’t numb it and you can’t ignore it their is no end in grief but learning to live with it lean into the grief and allow yourself to heal the pain stays♥ 0source record 4763
"I can't say it'll gets better because it doesn't" I guess she didn't know how to word it but let me reword it you just learn to live with it you'll find yourself again even if it's a different version♥ 0source record 4804
There was a no advice that can be given. Grief is a personal thing on its own time. Nobody grieves the same and does it ever really end or do we adjust to the change in our life so it hurts less? Grief forever changes the person you once were, and then you grieve your old self.♥ 0source record 4812
Idk if this is advice but it is more of the reality of grief: Time doesn’t heal your loss but it makes it easier to live with it♥ 0source record 4878
Grief is just learning how to have a relationship with someone who has died. We get to carry them with us into the future, they dont have to just exist in the past♥ 0source record 4943
They said I have to bear the pain of Mom passing because imagine how much pain & grief Mom would have if I passed B 4 her I would never want Mom to have to go thru this 🥺♥ 0source record 4956
Every morning you wake up there is a suitcase next to your bed. This suitcase is filled with your grief. You have to carry it with you all day. You don’t know how heavy it’s going to be each day. Sometimes it will feel heavy, sometimes light but you know there’s always tomorrow♥ 0source record 4976
Just a second for them, to us, forever.♥ 0source record 5005
I hated this but it’s true: It never goes away but you learn to live with it - time heals all wounds♥ 0source record 5032
When they acknowledged the truth. It’s going to be hard, your heart will bear this unbearable pain. Remember , go out walk through the park see the grandness of nature, seek peace. Carry that pain and remember. It’s one day at a time, and I will be right next to you, silently holding your hand.♥ 0source record 5035
Grief never goes away, you just learn to live with it with time. Grief is a reminder of how much you deeply loved them.♥ 0source record 5104
Don’t think the pain will pass, it won’t. It may lay silent but will come back when you least expect it. You can’t beat it, you can only learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 5108
You don’t move on from grief. You learn to live with it for the rest of your life.♥ 0source record 5164
No advise was good to me, I just needed a shoulder and endless hugs 🥺♥️♥ 0source record 5228
You don’t ever forget about that person or “move on”, you just get used to living with the pain♥ 0source record 5280
My social work professor told us in order to 'get over it' one cant avoid or go around grief but must go THROUGH it to heal - but for me- I will never 'get over it' I just learned to live with it✨♥ 0source record 5290
Not given, but realized it never ever goes away. You just get use to the emotions and learn to cope with it. Once I realized this, I could accept what had happened.♥ 0source record 5323
You will never be the same person or get over it but you do learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 5472
that would be a lot cause the grieving goes on and on... never ending♥ 0source record 5555
Another fence post- everything after is changed forever♥ 0source record 5657
Life continues no matter what. You need to learn to live with the pain bc no matter what the pain will not go away.♥ 0source record 5658
The feeling never goes away, you just learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 5669
That grief is like a giant hole in your life that you keep falling into in the beginning. You start to get used to its presence and you learn how to get around the hole without falling in. The hole never gets filled and sometimes you still fall in, but you learn to live with it and keep yourself a little safer.♥ 0source record 5754
It doesn’t get any better. You just learn to live with it. I needed that honesty.♥ 0source record 5784
To feel it, sit with it, address it and learn how to live with it.♥ 1source record 5798
The pain will never go away, you just learn to cope with it. I lost my brother and then I lost my mom a year later. I’m not who I once was. Grief changes you.♥ 0source record 5809
Lost my dad , I always tell everyone "it doesnt get easier you just learn to live with it ".♥ 0source record 5837
I wasnt giving any... but what I will tell you is after loosing a parent your no longer the same person... I changed.. im not gonna tell you " in time it gets better " bc it doesn't you just learn to live without them... I would tell you to CRY even if its been 5 years ... I would tell you to not hate the things you once did with them or for them or even Hollidays.. I hated valentines day and mother's day first year was hard so instead I now give the gifts I would have gotten my mom to other important moms in my life ❤️seeing someone else smile helps ! life is a wild ride but so is death idk if our loved ones stick around but id like to think they do just wish I could see mine sometimes they come in dreams and for me in that moment its not so bad ...♥ 0source record 5838
It never goes away you just learn to live with it. Be gentle with yourself you are learning to live a completely different existence. And will over and over. Let it make you more compassionate not bitter.♥ 0source record 5877
The pain never stops, you’ll just get used to living with it.♥ 0source record 5911
This is all very heavy! I can’t read any more of it.♥ 0source record 5944
Time does not heal anything. It does not get better over time, you just learn to live with the pain.♥ 0source record 5973
It may be a goodbye for now but not a goodbye forever 💚♥ 0source record 6002
Grief doesn’t go away. You le♥ 0source record 6023
Sometimes the load feels lighter not because we it is but we are a little stronger to carry it♥ 0source record 6120
It never goes away. You just learn to live with it. Broke my heart and empowered me all at once.♥ 0source record 6124
You learn through time to just live with it. It doesn’t go away. I stayed in prayer as well. May zgof comfort you!! Scripture says “God is NEAR the broken hearted and crushed in Spirit. So sorry for your grief!!♥ 0source record 6144
Grief is something you learn to live with. You eventually get comfortable with it. Talk about them. People might not know how; show them. We talk about my husband 10 years later everyday. Every now & then, I hear a new story. A friend calls that a God Wink.♥ 0source record 6146
Everyone will say it will get better. But it doesn’t. It gets worse. Your body just learns to live with the pain. Let it.♥ 0source record 6214
Learn to live with it. It’s not going away.♥ 0source record 6251
We’ve got your back, forever - Dad♥ 0source record 6272
Just read a book and found the quote, “we carry it on with it all”♥ 0source record 6303

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the morning of the funeral, my fil called me into his room. he looked me in the eyes, I was mentally somewhere else and angry. he told me, "today is going to be the hardest day you've ever faced. People will show up that never showed up in her life. you're going to want to set the world on fire, but you're not going to. you're going to grieve the way you need to and you need this day to grieve. its not about them. if you don't, you'll be stuck in this day for as long as you live." I said while deadpan crying "but it hurts" he said, "its going to hurt forever. but, you will find your new normal. you have to live to see all of the things she hoped for you. shes everywhere now. make her proud." and he hugged me for the first time. it meant so much to me and I remembered his words every time I was close to the edge.

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I miss my mommy 😭 I’ll never get over it♥ 0source record 216
So much. And there is no cure. No fast forward to ok. It really sucks.♥ 5source record 529
Grief is just a reminder of how deeply you loved someone. To grieve is to continue loving that’s why it never goes away.♥ 2,517source record 627
Grief of losing a mother never goes away♥ 1source record 919
the morning of the funeral, my fil called me into his room. he looked me in the eyes, I was mentally somewhere else and angry. he told me, "today is going to be the hardest day you've ever faced. People will show up that never showed up in her life. you're going to want to set the world on fire, but you're not going to. you're going to grieve the way you need to and you need this day to grieve. its not about them. if you don't, you'll be stuck in this day for as long as you live." I said while deadpan crying "but it hurts" he said, "its going to hurt forever. but, you will find your new normal. you have to live to see all of the things she hoped for you. shes everywhere now. make her proud." and he hugged me for the first time. it meant so much to me and I remembered his words every time I was close to the edge.♥ 2,538source record 979
It’s gonna hurt forever is so real♥ 2source record 1005
"It's going to hurt forever, but you will find your new normal" thank you for sharing that I will never forget it💕♥ 1source record 1024
I'm glad he was honest when he said "it's going to hurt forever." I lost my dad first and my mom 5 years later. I miss them both. My mom was my best friend, my person, my everything. People would always tell me time heals everything, it will get easier with time. I always hated when people would tell me that. I feel lost without my mom. 💔♥ 7source record 1028
Oh my God, I’m glad that you wrote that because that is the most connecting thing that I could ever understand when I lost my mother. I’m melancholy. You’ll never get over. But I’ve have to be 50% sad then I’ll do that.♥ 0source record 1101
When my husband died I was told that you will never get over it but you will get thru it.♥ 7source record 1128
1/2. You don’t get over it. You grow around it like how an oyster creates a pearl. Something gets into it’s shell - a grain of sand, a parasite, whatever it is. The oyster starts to create a coating around it. It creates layers, and layers, and layers and continues to grow into a pearl. The pearl is beautiful, but it couldn’t have been created without that one thing that shouldn’t have been there - shouldn’t have happened.♥ 0source record 1328
“You will never get over it. You will get used to it.”♥ 1source record 1353
Don't wait for closure at the end.♥ 1source record 1414
Never get over it. Just heal. Grief is life long Nd that’s okay.♥ 1source record 1429
You don't get over a loved ones death, you learn to live with that loss♥ 1source record 1444
I’ve never been given advice but from what I learned is that it’s a honor to cry for someone who meant so much to me I will never get over the fact that they aren’t here and that’s ok the memories and tears are proof of my love for that person and they will be with me till I’m 6 ft under and with them♥ 1source record 1473
You never get over it. You learn how to move forward with it.♥ 1source record 1532
You’ll never really get over it…. You just learn to cope♥ 1source record 1652
After losing my mom/best friend I heard a Willy Nelson Song, “it’s not something you get over, it’s something to get through”♥ 1source record 1663
It never stops hurting♥ 1source record 1701
Those stages - they come & go in no particular order forever, just go with it, it’s not something you get over, grief is now a part of you, but you don’t need to be a grief junkie. It’s an altered state, and it’s extremely personal♥ 1source record 1710
Feel your emotions, don’t avoid them. You’ll be happy, you’ll feel numb, sometimes even angry… feel them all. You will never get over the loss but you will learn to move forward and be ok. 💕♥ 1source record 1741
You don’t have to get over it,you just can’t stay under it♥ 1source record 1802
You never get over it so don’t try. It evolves and changes into a different kind of new reality. It becomes bearable after about 2 to 3 weeks of really raw feelings. Take time off and go through things as they come. Perspective and seeing the big picture of life cycles gives a different kind of comfort 🥰♥ 1source record 1863
“Some people will tell you with time it gets better but really it gets harder cause you have to go through the holidays without that person and you never really get over the pain you just learn how to deal with it”♥ 1source record 1871
It doesn’t go away♥ 1source record 1950
They all sting. Just some worse and some longer♥ 1source record 1952
You won’t get over it, but you’ll learn to live with it♥ 1source record 1983
It’s ok to grieve how you grieve, you never get over it, you just learn to live through it.♥ 1source record 1988
You never get over it but you can learn to get through it. My husband passed a year ago and now my son was killed in a motorcyle accident 💔😭♥ 1source record 2028
You never stop grieving. It never gets better, you never get over it, you will never be the same person. But one thing is for sure, you learn to live with the pain💔♥ 1source record 2060
You will never get over grief but the memories will get less painful and you will smile again.♥ 1source record 2090
I was told to give myself closure so that I’m able to move on♥ 1source record 2110
It never goes away and that’s ok.♥ 1source record 2163
Get to know yourself all over again. Loosing someone you love changes everything in your world. It’s lonely. You don’t ever get over but you learn to live with it and give yourself the time and space to let it out through your life in whatever way feels right to you. Don’t try to explain with the goal of having people understand YOUR grief bc they won’t. But do it in a way for yourself to vent. Be with people that don’t require your social battery to be full.♥ 1source record 2164
You told me that I just need to accept that there are things that I will never get over, sometimes the best I can do is just get through them.♥ 1source record 2180
It still hurts and they were right♥ 1source record 2198
That it never goes away. It just gets lighter on some days. Understanding that made it feel less heavier to grieve.♥ 1source record 2208
I've come to learn you develop a new "normal" and that time is a thief and grief never goes away it evolves♥ 1source record 2225
You’ll never get over it. You don’t have to.♥ 0source record 2266
It’s going to hurt forever????? This is the worst advice anyone can give you even if it’s true♥ 0source record 2357
the pain won't go away. and that's okay.♥ 0source record 2425
My mom told me.. I know it's very hard for you now, but loosing your first pregnancy after 4 years of waiting doesn't make you a looser.. it simply means you're fertile.. another baby will come and wipe your tears away💔 but I can't get over it😭♥ 0source record 2451
I thought they said it really well on And Just Like That “the hole never fills but new life will grow around it.” Grief never goes away, and it shouldn’t. It’s your love for that person. But eventually you will accept that your life will go on and it’s actually your job to allow it to♥ 0source record 2499
To a school counselor -“ I can’t get over this!” She then asked me to stand and do jumping jacks for a few seconds. She asked,” Did you think of him once since doing the jumping jacks?” “No,” I said. That’s what you do... you keep yourself busy.♥ 0source record 2500
What u mean im still grieving♥ 0source record 2507
You never get over it, you’ll get used to it. Once you can, then you’ll get to the new normal, of them being gone. You’ll never be the same and that’s ok. You were never the same after you met them either, remember that. ❣️♥ 0source record 2708
You never get over it, you just learn how to carry it. ❤️♥ 0source record 2801
You’ll never truly get over your grief. It will never grow smaller. But YOU will grow. Your life will grow and get bigger and the grief will be a smaller part of you. Be patient with yourself while you go through the pain of growth. But I promise one day the lightness of joy you build will outweigh the heaviness of your grief. 🩷♥ 0source record 2867
You don’t get over it, you learn how to live with it.♥ 0source record 2883
You don’t get over grief. You get through it. There will be days where it is utterly fall to your knees painful. And there will be days when you feel isolated and alone. Your grief is yours and no one else’s. But let people be there for you. Even when it is hard. That’s gonna show you who truly loves and matters in your life.♥ 0source record 2886
You’ll never get over it…you’ll get through it.♥ 0source record 2917
Grief never goes away but it changes. Focus on the signs your loved one is sending you, not the fact your can’t see them.♥ 0source record 2918
It’s okay if you never get over it 😩♥ 0source record 2988
Go through it. While you will never get over the loss you will become more functional in your life. Grieving is messy!♥ 0source record 3121
The grief never goes away, it’s always there, but your life gets bigger around it♥ 0source record 3151
The pain will never go away, it just hurts less. Honest & for me true.♥ 0source record 3194
Not to be insecure about sharing, posting.. it’s the only way we honor the person and the relationship. I’ll never get over missing my dad and brother. How could I?♥ 0source record 3203
You may never get over this, but you will learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 3251
Great loss equals great pain. I don’t care what anyone says you never get over it. You have to wake up everyday damn day with that unbelievable pain and somehow manage to get thru each day for the rest of your life. I miss my brother so god damn much have a guilt that I am still here when he was the strong one. Cancer doesn’t just take one, it takes your entire family.♥ 0source record 3261
Understand and accept you will never get over it. The grieving never really ends.♥ 0source record 3303
“One day you’ll wake up and it just won’t hurt anymore, you’ll be brushing your teeth and you won’t even give it a second thought..It doesn’t hurt forever and if it does, it won’t hurt the same” -my mom♥ 0source record 3439
you don't get over the pain, you just learn to live with it side by side. it's been 15 years but the pain is as strong as that very day I lost my sister♥ 0source record 3471
There is no time limit on loss. No fancy tips or tricks to expeditiously move one’s way through the black hole that is grief. After all, there is no cure. One day at a time. One foot in front of the other. Learning to navigate the new normal as best as one can. 🤟🏻♥ 0source record 3478
Its somthing you'll never get over but learn to live with ... depending the situation/person. but take it in,process and live the best life for that person 🥰♥ 0source record 3553
You never get over loosing someone. When they die, apart of you dies with them. Grief becomes the companion you never wanted, and the one who will never leave you.♥ 0source record 3557
You will never get over it but learn to live around it.♥ 0source record 3665
It doesn't go away, it just becomes different the longer out you get. But the hardest part is you'll never be on the same ebb or flow as anyone else who is going through the same loss.♥ 0source record 3706
You never get over it. You just learn to live a new life without them.♥ 0source record 3715
You never really get over it. Lost my dad 4 years ago today 🥺♥ 0source record 3779
You’ll never get over it but you’ll get used to it♥ 0source record 3794
Grief doesn’t go away. But our capacity to hold it grows.🥹♥ 0source record 3851
There just is. There is no getting over it. Getting through it. There just is and that space is ok to be in as long as you need it. It never goes away, but it just is. That’s ok. Be in the just is.♥ 0source record 3853
My maternal grandmother told me, while grieving my dad, “It will always hurt, but in time the pain will be softer.”♥ 0source record 3897
No ones ever been able to console me, it always hurts when I remember them.♥ 0source record 3980
the hardest part is they left me here and didn't take me with them♥ 0source record 4000
Grief doesn’t go away, how you handle it changes.♥ 0source record 4063
“You won’t get over it ,not today not tomorrow ,not 10yrs from now”♥ 0source record 4085
You’ll never get over it, but you will get through it.♥ 0source record 4163
"You will never get over the loss of your loved one. You will still grieve them 1,2,10 years from now. What will happen is that you will learn to live life without their presence. Any grief you will experience is just a testament of the love you had for them"♥ 0source record 4185
You never get over your grief. It’s always with you. You learn different ways to cope. Once you learn those, your grief isn’t so debilitating,♥ 0source record 4212
You never get over it. It’s like addiction you know you’re an addict but you learn to manage it. Miss you mom 🥹♥ 0source record 4221
We don’t get over our grief, we grow around it, little by little.♥ 0source record 4409
It never goes away. It changes and you learn how to accept, adjust♥ 0source record 4413
The hole never fills, but new life grows around it ✌️🙏🌹♥ 0source record 4460
You never get over it, you just move forward♥ 0source record 4520
Your pain from losing a loved one never goes away, you just get better at dealing with it each day.♥ 0source record 4544
You never really get over your parents death. You just learned to live with it every day and that’s OK. It’s OK to be sad. It is OK to grieve. It is OK to not be OK.♥ 0source record 4582
You never get over, you learn to live with it. But thats the beauty of it. Live everyday for them cause they still live on thru you. Its what makes us Human.♥ 0source record 4644
There's no such thing as closure!♥ 0source record 4671
“You’ll never get over or past grief, you’ll just learn to be stronger each day to accept they’re gone”. It’s going to be okay…at some point.♥ 0source record 4688
Grief never goes away. You just learn how to carry it.♥ 0source record 4696
It wouldn’t hurt so much if they didn’t mean so much. Also, you don’t get over the loss .. you learn to live with the loss.♥ 0source record 4735
“Just know, you will never get over it”♥ 0source record 4777
"it never goes away, it just softens"♥ 0source record 4785
that it evolves, it's big, it gets smaller and can come back bigger at any moment. it never goes away.♥ 0source record 4792
The pain never goes away, but it changes, it does get easier but in the process youll have to lose parts of yourself in order to cope.♥ 0source record 4853
The pain never goes away……..but each day it gets a little bit easier♥ 0source record 4937
It will never heal, so learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 5074
You never get over it, just thru it.♥ 0source record 5236
My kids lost their dad to suicide 4 years ago. I have to gently remind them when they're missing their dad and think they should be past that, that missing the person never goes away. Sometimes you miss them more or less but you will always miss the person.♥ 0source record 5302
Give yourself love, grace, understanding, and comfort just as you’d give it to someone you love. Don’t be hard on yourself and expect to get over it by a certain time or milestone. You will never get over it, and that’s ok. If you want to be alone, be alone. If you want to scream, scream. Just be gentle with yourself 💕♥ 0source record 5316
you never get over it you just get used to it. I will grieve my parents' presence always♥ 0source record 5357
It’s going to hurt forever , today you’ll cry about their absence and how much you missed them, but tomorrow you will laugh at the same memories and be grateful for those memories♥ 0source record 5385
My momma told me when you lose the great loves in your life to death, you never get over it, you just eventually learn how to live with it. She died a year later, and now I understand momma.♥ 0source record 5419
You will never stop grieving. Ever. In ten years you might bawl your eyes out, out of nowhere. ~ Me♥ 0source record 5420
Grieve how ever long you need. There’s no time limit. You will never get over the loss you just learn to life it.And one day you will just laugh again and don’t feel guilty for it. The loved one you lost wants you to be happy and to live. 💔❤️♥ 0source record 5457
You never get over it you just learn how to manage it with time.♥ 0source record 5465
U will never get over it nor should u. Unfortunately it’s your new life to adjust to♥ 0source record 5557
That is never goes away, you just learn to walk with it.♥ 0source record 5571
Learning the different stages of grief and realizing my feelings are ok. Denial, Anger, sadness….i was told I would never get over the loss but the hurt will subside as I learn to cope. Now I know the memories are precious and evidence love existed.♥ 0source record 5601
I’ve learned a few things being part of the dead parents society. 1) Death is not talked about enough in our society and it makes it so much more lonely and scary. Everyone will go through grief and we need to be okay with not being okay 2) you might lose some friends but the people who really love you will show up for you. 3) grief never goes away but changes overtime. I just wanted to get through it but now sometimes I find myself seeking it out cause it’s the only connection I have left to them. I look for them through signs even if it’s not real. It’s real to me♥ 0source record 5609
Grief never goes away. Sometimes it doesn’t even get smaller. But day after day it softens around the edges.♥ 0source record 5615
Grief never goes away it just gets easier to handle♥ 0source record 5649
My cousin once told me you never get over your loss, you just learn to live with your grief and to me this is so true.♥ 0source record 5872
You won't get over it. you have to let yourself feel grief and validate it.♥ 0source record 5888
It never goes away, it just gets easier to live with. ❤️♥ 0source record 5930
Push through it because you'll never get over it😢♥ 0source record 5932
No one ever advised me anything. I learned that time will never heal the hurt. You learn to live with pain as years go by.♥ 0source record 5991
you will never get over it just through it.♥ 0source record 6017
Grief never goes away. It just changes 💔♥ 0source record 6050
You never get over it. You just try your best to get through it.♥ 0source record 6059
You won’t get over it or have closure. You’ll learn to be happy and sad…until you’re together again.♥ 0source record 6130
You never get over it. You build a new life around the loss. 🩷♥ 0source record 6137
It never goes away, you will just learn to live through it and with it.♥ 0source record 6170
My therapist told me “You don’t ever get over loving someone, you have to get through it” she said said “the pain doesn’t shrink and get lighter, you get stronger”♥ 0source record 6172
the same ole stuff , which was nice but no one ever told you’ll never get over this loss because that is reality for me♥ 0source record 6196
Grief doesn’t go away… harsh but the truth. I’m glad I was told that 💕♥ 0source record 6309
It changes everything and nothing is simple anymore, it’s work. But it settles down after awhile, never goes away. Protect ur heart♥ 0source record 6320

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What the pattern means: These reports describe bereavement as changing a person's sense of self, making a return to the exact pre-loss self feel unrealistic.

What commenters described: You’ll never be the same person you were before you lost them so don’t waste time trying to be. Spend time getting to know the new you. 💔

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You’ll never be the same person you were before you lost them so don’t waste time trying to be. Spend time getting to know the new you. 💔

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It’s ok to have surrender days. Give yourself a ton of grace. Grieving is not linear. Grief transforms you and you’re becoming a new version of yourself. It’s a sacred journey.

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Things will never be the same, it will be different but you will be ok .

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Quinn - Your post changed me forever. My daughter died 7 years ago and I have not received 1 single crumb of useful or helpful advice until your response. I read it to my husband and we both cried. Thank you from the bottom of my battered heart.♥ 1source record 55
Beautifully expressed! Lost my son to a drunk driver and my only friends are my beloved pets. Grief visors often but it’s always one on one, just her and I, as nobody else has stuck around after I was forced to be the new version of whom I once was…. The before and the after.♥ 0source record 220
This one. Every time I cry for dad I apologize to him for bot being strong for him. Losing him changed my life and who I am. I’m not the same person he left here 💔♥ 0source record 415
You’ll never be the same person you were before you lost them so don’t waste time trying to be. Spend time getting to know the new you. 💔♥ 3,350source record 472
No one talks enough about also grieving the person you were before they passed or the life you thought you’d have. 😔♥ 1source record 474
I still struggle with it. I miss the old me but I’m learning to heal with the new one. ♥️🫶🏼♥ 2source record 486
♥️♥️It took me a very long time to get there too. It’s still a day by day acceptance. I honestly think you have to grieve the loss of the ‘old you’ just as much as the one you love. Give yourself grace. ♥️♥ 0source record 509
this is helpful bec it will never be the same♥ 1source record 515
Your loved one would be upset if you didn’t give yourself a chance to love the new you.♥ 2source record 519
Yes, he says he’ll never be the same and be don’t want to be- he says that’s how he honors him. It gutted me. So true.♥ 4source record 600
I’ve come to the conclusion that I will never be the same 💔♥ 0source record 616
I lost my dad Feb 2, 2025, what you’re feeling is normal. I felt the same way. Hugs. This is our new normal. 🥺♥ 0source record 715
everyone processes differently. just make sure ur feeling ur grief not suppressing but still attempt what ur new normal is at your pace no one elses♥ 0source record 717
Im so sorry for your loss❤️. I lost mine last September, but if feels like I was holding his hand yesterday. Give yourself time and don't let anyone rush your grieving process. Sometimes I still cry doing simple tasks. Even at 37 at the time, but now 38...It doesn't matter how old you are. It will get easier, but the pain is always there. Sometimes I like that pain from grieving. It means I am not forgetting what an amazing guy he was and how much he really impacted my life when he was around. My husband and I moved in with my parents 5 years ago to help out and I am so happy we did.♥ 0source record 756
My mom told me I would never be the same person I was again. And that was ok, she was right..I was allowed to grieve however I needed to it was my pain, and then let it go or be stuck in hell forever 💔♥ 6source record 1082
Ooofff it’s so real I get so tired of people who are close to me asking me when I’ll get back to being the old me and I just say never♥ 0source record 1093
Be patient with yourself 🫂💙, learn to love yourself the new you 🥺💙♥ 19source record 1118
People often want to back to the life they had and the version of themself when that person was alive. However, that version of you dies with them. The reality is you will never be that same person again who once lived with that person in the flesh. You will never be the you who had a (mother, father, daughter, son, husband, wife, etc) You have to welcome the new you that evolves once that special person leaves you on this side. It’s hard as hell, but it’s your new reality and your only reality! Prayers to everyone reading these! It never gets easier, but the days do become a little more manageable! 🫶🏾♥ 2source record 1173
“ there’s no way around grief and loss you can dodge all you want but sooner or later you just have to go into it, through it, and hopefully come out the other side. The world you find there will never be the same as the world you left.” 🥹💔 Unknown♥ 1source record 1179
Find your new normal!♥ 1source record 1197
try grivieng your loved one thats still alive . My mom had a ruptered anurysm ,i thank God she is with us but lost alot of her ,thankfull we get moments of her old self... But also accepting your reality wanting to scream and be heard but seeing that the world still continues no matter what .🙏💔♥ 1source record 1221
It’s ok to have surrender days. Give yourself a ton of grace. Grieving is not linear. Grief transforms you and you’re becoming a new version of yourself. It’s a sacred journey.♥ 0source record 1245
Don’t forget who you were when she was here♥ 1source record 1489
"take your time, figure out what the new normal is for you"♥ 1source record 1680
Living with a person with loss I can only say recognize they’ll never be the same. You cannot alleviate the pain they’ll forever live with. When I talk to someone who lives with someone with great loss I ask that person how they are doing. No one asks them. People ask how is your husband doing. Others in the household are living with grief too.♥ 1source record 1947
You are figuring out your New Normal. Nothing will be like it was, but there will be a new normal. It just takes time.♥ 1source record 2043
you're never the same... and that's okay♥ 1source record 2088
That a death changes you. You dont "get over" it, you are a different person, and that's ok.♥ 0source record 2269
Be gentle with yourself. Your not the same person you were before now.♥ 0source record 2377
Reminder that the old me died with that person so don’t expect everything to go “back to normal”♥ 0source record 2398
wish I had someone there for my 17 year old self when I was grieving for my Gran and Dad but my siblings were young n mum got bipolar so we move on we♥ 0source record 2483
Stop trying to get back to the old you…the old you had a father on earth but the new you has a father in heaven so you’ll never be her again ❤️once I realized that it I started discovering my new self♥ 0source record 2616
Not so much advice but I learned that you will learn very quickly who your friends are. Feel your emotions or they will consume you. Let them live thru you. Your love for them, your bond will never die. Talk to them. Do things that you both loved, they loved. Face to the sun. Every time the sun shines it’s them. You’ll see signs and feel them. You’ll know they’re there. Life will never be the same. Embrace their memory. Celebrate their life. 🕊️♥ 0source record 2754
Your life will never be the same♥ 0source record 2832
I do not believe it ever goes away, I believe we learn to live in our new reality.. we will laugh again, but it will never be the same laugh, smile etc. I also believe we will be together again♥ 0source record 2833
You can’t go back to the old you cause that one doesn’t exist anymore . You’re a new version of yourself without that person♥ 0source record 2949
Your life will never be the same♥ 0source record 3114
this is the new normal. your life is forever changed♥ 0source record 3118
It’s so simple but it just stuck with me so much, but “it’s your new normal”♥ 0source record 3246
the you before is gone. be nice to the new you, she's trying to figure this out too.♥ 0source record 3299
Forget who you were before the loss. You will never be that person again because that version of you had them in it. You’ve learned to love other versions of yourself, you will come to love this version of yourself with time. Give yourself grace and take it a minute at a time.♥ 0source record 3352
nothings never the same, time doesn't heel wounds, you'll feel better after awhile 😭😭♥ 0source record 3375
It's so lonely and it hurts, nothing anyone can say will change the pain. Let it hurt, feel the pain as it comes and goes but don't let it consume you. Life will never be the same and the reminder can be overwhelming. Take it one second at a time until that second passes then the next until you make it through each minute, each hour, each day as long as you keep moving forward because the world doesn't stop, it just changes and you will adapt to the change. It never gets easier you just learn to live differently.♥ 0source record 3387
youll never be the same person, but be nice to the person you are now, she's grieving. allow yourself to be sad,mad, happy everything.♥ 0source record 3398
That I’m also grieving who I was when I had a dad. We’ll never be that person again, but we still get to decide who we are now.♥ 0source record 3418
Not necessarily advice but, you can’t be the same person you were before they were gone. You were a woman who had a mom, and now you’re a woman who doesn’t have a mom. You have to learn who that person is.♥ 0source record 3488
Gsnow’s comment on grief on Reddit. I read it every day after my mom passed until things took on a new normal.♥ 0source record 3507
I was grieving over a tragedy for a couple of years and went to a church retreat. The priest said the Jewish religion leans in and grieves hard after a loss or tragedy and at that moment I succumbed and leaned in and truly grieved out loud for quite a while. It may never be the same and you will certainly not be the same but we need to really grieve.♥ 0source record 3509
No one told me.. I just learned that that day I lost me and I’d never be the same person ever again .. now I’m just here … praying just pray .. because pray is all I can do, finding the lord is my only hope..♥ 0source record 3585
Don’t try to go back to being the person you were before. Accept that person is gone and accept the new norm .♥ 0source record 3624
you have to figure out a new normal now- nothing will ever be the same♥ 0source record 3649
When you’ve lost your favorite person the world becomes a different place💔♥ 0source record 3890
Do not lose who you were before over how things are now, that is now how the lost would want you to carry your life forward. Bring honor, grace, peace, & a bit of both of you forward.♥ 0source record 3932
I’ve never been the same since my brother died. He was my best friend. So I took mental time away from everyone to process and grieve him. I know I hurt other ppl but I had to for me. I miss him. I enjoy the little things in life now. I think it made me more spiritual. I love life moments more now. Made me a different person. In a weird way it’s made life more special.♥ 0source record 3935
Let it break you down and open you with transformation. You are not the same person after this. Take your time getting to know the new you.♥ 0source record 3966
That’s things cannot stay the same ❤️♥ 0source record 4091
Be still for one year. You’ll face a lot of firsts in the year and you want to give yourself a chance to learn what your new normal is before you make any lifetime changes.♥ 0source record 4219
No one ever told me this, but I learned it the hard way. When you lose someone, you’re not just grieving them. You’re also grieving the version of yourself that existed when they were still here. Part of healing is accepting that you’re not the same person anymore, and you’re not supposed to be.♥ 0source record 4296
Everyone grieves differently, there is no right way to grieve, so always give yourself grace while you navigate the new normal. It’s hard but you grow so much stronger as time goes on…but don’t forget, you can talk to them whenever you want to. They’re always with you🙏🏾♥ 0source record 4315
And life goes on, but never the same.♥ 0source record 4316
I don’t think anyone gave me any good advice but I learned this on my own. People tell you that it gets easier with time and I don’t agree with that. I lost my mom 30 years ago come this September. It hurts just as bad as it did when I was 17. What I do believe is, we get used to our new normal, the normal of them not being here anymore. Every special occasion, every holiday, every happy moment is going to have a sense of sadness because they are not there to enjoy it as well. It doesn’t get easier, you just simply get used to it.♥ 0source record 4387
Grief doesn’t heal doesn’t go away it wrecks you this is your new normal♥ 0source record 4393
Grief changes you and that is okay. It will take time to get comfortable with this new you. But you will never get there if you hold on to who you were before.♥ 0source record 4414
None… my son died… I knew that he wouldn’t want me to be sad forever. It broke me but I had to stay strong. It was new new normal. But he was willing to always be in my heart.♥ 0source record 4416
Not sure … haven’t been the same .. still hurts♥ 0source record 4478
So grateful for every scrap of life she gave me. All the sacrifices the wisdom. The strength. So grateful she was my beginning and that I was there for her graceful end. Grief is the other side of love. I can’t wish she were still here suffering. I pray the veil lets her hear me tell her how she’s still missed still loved. I survived the grief by accepting I would never be the same, but that was ok because someday my energy would rejoin hers again.♥ 0source record 4500
Things will never be the same, it will be different but you will be ok .♥ 0source record 4581
My life will never be the same, but I will make it threw each day♥ 0source record 4864
I’m 4 years in and I’m just realizing that I’ve spent so much time trying to get back to myself but it’s a waste. I’ll never be the same person again and i need to spend that energy on getting to know this new version of myself, as broken as she may be. She’s worth getting to know just as much as the last version of myself was♥ 0source record 5062
You will become a new person but will learn to embrace the new you♥ 0source record 5091
I just know I will never ever be the same. No advise has helped.♥ 0source record 5296
You are changed. It will never be the same. They want you to be happy, so you carry on. Your grief is a testament to the love you shared.♥ 0source record 5320
Grief changes you and that’s OK. I’m not the same person I was before my mom passed away in grief isn’t something that just goes away so don’t listen to the people that tell you to put your big girl pants on because they wouldn’t want you to be sad and you just need to get over it that’s a lot of bologna. Grief is something that you can’t fight. You have to go through it and feel it and sit with it and be OK with it. It’s like a ball bouncing around in a room and there’s a button in that room in the middle. The ball starts out really big and hits that button a lot and you feel that pain from the bottom being pushed overtime The ball bouncing around the room gets smaller. The button gets hit less and the pain doesn’t hurt as much. The ball never goes away and the button still gets pushed on occasion and you still feel that pain sometimes it’s a holiday that your bad day sometimes it’s the anniversary of the person’s passing sometimes it’s the smell from your laundry or the smell of a perfume as you’re walking down the street and somebody pass the by . But it’s OK you are going to be OK. Just give yourself grace and give yourself time and know that grief is always going to be there.♥ 0source record 5344
I wish I was warned about the “before” me and “after” me. I’ll never be the same, and you grieve that too.♥ 0source record 5405
I’ve lost well over 30 people that I’ve known through work, school, friends, family, coaches, teammates, pets …anything you can think of, I’ve lost it. My advice to anyone that may need it. “Nothing lasts forever, not even grief. Time will help you find a NEW normal. In the meantime, grief will pop up in the strangest places, find something to ground you in those moments (A momento, song, friend, a pet) but It’s important to allow yourself to feel it all as often as possible for as long as you need, even the bad feelings. The more you avoid it, the longer grief will take.”♥ 0source record 5417
I'm so sorry for your loss/es. Its hard to go on without them..😢 When grief comes to me, I cry out loud to God, asking for his peace and comfort. I tell him I know they're with you, but I miss my mama, step-dad, and my brother, whom have all gone home to glory since 2021 😇 He is always faithful to provide me that peace in that moment, until the next time grief comes knocking. My brother, 2 yrs younger than me, left 8 months ago due to brain cancer since 2009, and his death has just done me in. I will never be the same, happy person that I was before the losses. I long for them, i cry for them, I can't wait to see them again when it's my turn to go, but I do have hope in Jesus, that I will, after hugging and honoring him, I will hug my family again. ❤️May God always bless you!♥ 0source record 5502
That there aren’t any words… there’s no prayers, no cards no advice bc that kind of grief just has to be felt in your bones. And you’ll never be the same but that’s okay too. As the tin man says to Dorothy as she’s saying goodbye “now I know I have a heart bc I can feel it breaking”♥ 0source record 5556
Accepting that you will never be the same as you were before.♥ 0source record 5607
It’s inevitable that you will never be the same person you were before grief. Take time to become familiar with this new version of yourself.💔♥ 0source record 5683
Have a “pity party” for yourself. Cry, scream, sleep, eat ice cream. Do whatever you want. Then go to bed…the next get up and keep moving. It will never be the same but in time u will move on.♥ 0source record 5739
Let them tears flow don't worry about how long or how often they come realize it's part of the process things will get better they will never be the same.♥ 0source record 5783
you have to stop trying to get back to your old normal….that version of you doesn’t exist anymore 🤍 you have to create a new normal♥ 0source record 5806
you're not the same and never will be. trying to go back to how you were before will only do harm. is best to instead embrace the new you. the people who are meant to accept you will.♥ 0source record 5826
Your life will never be the same and it isn’t♥ 0source record 5866
You were a different version of yourself before they died. It’s ok to be a new version of yourself 🙏🏻♥ 0source record 5934
Grief doesn’t go away. It lingers each and everyday. I remember the good times and laugh, but then I cry. I can be around family but yet I am still alone. I am not the same person I used to be.♥ 0source record 6024
you will never be the same and you will learn to accept and live with that. it takes time to learn and that is the only relief. time and acceptance of a change.♥ 0source record 6159
You have to create a new normal♥ 0source record 6271
When the Einsteins of the world point out that you have changed, you tell them that’s correct. The person I am today is still learning how to navigate life without part of my heart. I may never be the same again. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 6297
It’s pretty simple you’ll never be the same! Your grieve always.. The only thing that differentiates it is that there are some days better than others♥ 0source record 6301
The truth…you never recover and it will never be the same. Once you figure that out you can move on in the second part of your life.♥ 0source record 6322

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What the pattern means: The metaphor says the loss may retain its size while a person's life gains more experiences and capacity around it.

What commenters described: People say grief stays the same size and life grows bigger around it. No, grief can grow larger over time. As you live, you’ll miss out on more and more moments with your person.

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People say grief stays the same size and life grows bigger around it. No, grief can grow larger over time. As you live, you’ll miss out on more and more moments with your person.

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The pain doesn’t go away, but you make room for it.

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Your grief doesn’t get smaller. Your life just gets bigger around it.

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Grief doesn’t get smaller. Your life just continues to grow around it so that it doesn’t take up all the space.♥ 0source record 746
The pain doesn’t go away, but you make room for it.♥ 1source record 1205
I came across a video about grief that really stayed with me. It used the metaphor of a bookshelf. In the beginning, the only book on the shelf is grief…. heavy, all-consuming, and alone. That’s how it feels at first, like grief is the only thing that exists in your world. But with time, more books begin to fill the shelf. New titles start appearing…. joy, laughter, peace, anger, hope, even love. Slowly, the shelf begins to feel full again. Yet, if you look closely, grief is still there. It never leaves. It may not be the only thing on the shelf anymore, but it has its place, a permanent spot among everything else life brings. That’s the truth about grief. You don’t “get over it.” You grow around it. You live, you feel, you move forward, but that book will always sit quietly on your shelf. And that’s okay.♥ 2source record 1315
People say grief stays the same size and life grows bigger around it. No, grief can grow larger over time. As you live, you’ll miss out on more and more moments with your person.♥ 3source record 1464
Grief doesn’t shrink, you just expand♥ 1source record 1782
There will come a time when the things that remind you of them, that hurt so badly now you swear you can’t breathe, will start to bring a smile to your face. My uncle told me that if you can just get through the next fifteen minutes, it’ll be okay. Then you can break down and cry. But eventually the next fifteen minutes will be the next thirty. And then the next hour. And then a day. Your grief will stay with you but your life will grow bigger around it ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1815
The pain won’t go away you just learn to make room for it. You find joy in the pain and pain the joy.♥ 1source record 1875
Our grief doesn’t get smaller, but our life around it gets bigger, but only if we keep going.♥ 0source record 2491
You will not move on, you will move through it.♥ 0source record 2512
Our grief doesn’t get smaller, our capacity to carry it just gets bigger♥ 0source record 2657
You do not have to “move on”… let your life grow around your grief 💙♥ 0source record 2765
The pain never goes away, you just have to make room for it♥ 0source record 2781
You grow around your grief♥ 0source record 2939
It never goes away, you just have to make room for it.♥ 0source record 2978
The pain and weight of grief never goes away. Our shoulders just get broader to carry it.♥ 0source record 3177
you don't have to move on. you just have to move♥ 0source record 3207
Grief is a hole in you that never gets smaller. Instead your heart grows around it.♥ 0source record 3322
Your grief will always stay big and your life will grow around the pain. One day you’ll want the grief. Embrace it.♥ 0source record 3606
You never out grown your grief, you grow around it. 2 years later and its just as true now 🥺♥ 0source record 3612
We never move away from grief. We just learn to move on with it♥ 0source record 4108
Build it a room, it never goes away. Grief lives with me now, like a ghost. Sometimes its there, sometimes not. The harder I try to figure it out, stuff it away, play with in the open the more powerless I realize I am. Grief is like the way the hall smells at a dorm near dinner time. fleeting aromas and curious engagement then gone.♥ 0source record 4258
The grief does not get smaller, we just learn to grow around it.♥ 0source record 4299
The grief may not go away, but the shape of it will change.♥ 0source record 4319
Your grief doesn’t get smaller. Your life just gets bigger around it.♥ 0source record 4477
Healing isn't linear. some days you will think you're on the other side of it, other days you will feel like the ground fell out beneath you. There is no winning or losing in grief, be soft with yourself at every stage, and take it day by day. The grief doesn't get smaller, you just grow around it.♥ 0source record 4862
there's some kind of visual example I've seen where your grief is a ball in a jar. the ball stays the same size but the jar gets bigger. basically your grief never goes away or gets smaller. but your capacity to handle it and carry it with you becomes larger♥ 0source record 4868
Grief doesn't grow smaller, you grow around the grief♥ 0source record 4908
We never move past grief. We must learn to move with it.♥ 0source record 4962
The grief never shrinks, but you, and your life, grows around it.♥ 0source record 5075
Grief never gets easier per say. We just continue to grow around it. It’s always there. Make friends with it. Lean in. But do not unpack and live there. 💕♥ 0source record 5255
You never “get used to it”, your heart just makes room for it.♥ 0source record 5470
1. You can’t live with the dead 2. Your life will grow around your grief.♥ 0source record 5538
Grief doesn’t get smaller, you just learn to grow around it and invite it closer when you need to feel it♥ 0source record 6265

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It comes in waves

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What the pattern means: The wave metaphor captures fluctuations in intensity: grief can recede, return, and arrive through different emotions or reminders.

What commenters described: that grief looks different for everyone and at different times. sometimes its like a crashing wave and sometimes its just one tear. sometimes its a smile or it could be laughing at a memory. sometimes its anger and frustration. it shows up in a song,…

Limit: Unfortunately no one has given me sage advice that meant anything but I have learned on my own and it comes in waves now instead of not being able to get out of bed

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that grief looks different for everyone and at different times. sometimes its like a crashing wave and sometimes its just one tear. sometimes its a smile or it could be laughing at a memory. sometimes its anger and frustration. it shows up in a song, or a picture. either way, its all ok. and its all normal.

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Ride the waves because they won’t stop

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Feel the waves until they smooth out. They will smooth out.

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I needed this. My dad passed in May and every time a wave comes I try to stop it. Then I think the more I stop it, the more she will come. I’ve been letting it hit me. When she comes, when she sees fit. Thank you for this.♥ 0source record 184
I’ve never read anything as true as this. Almost 6 years ago I lost my mother. I had to fight strong to stay up above the waves that continued to knock me down. After four years the waves became more calm, and storms still come, but less frequent. Thank you! I did cry after I read this because it hit home. Thank you♥ 0source record 187
That is so beautiful. I’ve always hated grief. The unexpected waves of tears that hit you at inopportune times. But grief is also proof that we loved deeply. I’m going to think of grief as a friend now!♥ 0source record 253
So beautiful and true. Embrace the wave and let it go. It's the price of love.♥ 0source record 266
I totally understand. My dad passed on March 4. Each day is different, some days I get through almost normally- others are more of a struggle. There’s no rhyme or reason to the waves of grief♥ 3source record 689
I’m so sorry. Sounds like you’re still in shock a bit… it comes and goes in waves. Prayers for you. Miss my mom and dad every day.it does get better…♥ 2source record 695
Yes, I lost my father on the 16 this year also. It’s exactly how I feel numb, waves like a roller coaster♥ 0source record 709
I lost my dad 22 years ago and it still hurts. It comes and goes like unexpected waves. I hear a song that reminds me of him or see a movie on tv that we once watched together. The grief never goes away though, at least for me it hasn’t.♥ 0source record 728
Lost mine 4 months ago. Ride those waves. Be patient with yourself❤️♥ 0source record 751
I’m so sorry for your loss. I am going on month 5 now and I finally feel like I am starting to heal and return to life, but at first I didn’t know if I ever would. Just wanted to share with you that the waves get more familiar, easier to manage, and fewer between. But yes, it changes you forever.♥ 0source record 752
I lost my mom suddenly 5 days ago. I feel same exact way. It comes in waves.♥ 0source record 760
It came in waves for me. The quiet moments when I wasn't needed. I have fallen to my knees so many times in the shower. I have gasped for air and held my breathe to hide my cries of pain for feelings I didn't know existed. Let it out. Yell at your steeering wheel on the way home from work if you need to. Just don't let the pain consume you. There is so much more that you could miss out on while missing someone that may not want this for you. **big hugs**♥ 1source record 765
So sorry sweet girl.. I lost my mom 6 years ago. It’ll come in waves, and there’s no wrong or right way to grieve. Take it a day, an hour, a second at a time if needed. I don’t believe the pain gets smaller, you just slowly make more space for other things. Dont be hard on yourself for “‘not grieving correctly” sending love.♥ 1source record 766
that grief looks different for everyone and at different times. sometimes its like a crashing wave and sometimes its just one tear. sometimes its a smile or it could be laughing at a memory. sometimes its anger and frustration. it shows up in a song, or a picture. either way, its all ok. and its all normal.♥ 55source record 918
Cry when you feel it. Just cry. Mourning isn’t linear, it comes in waves. Cry it out when the waves hit.♥ 1source record 1042
Grief comes in waves, don’t be down on yourself if one day you’re bawling your eyes out another day you’re totally fine ✨ remember to be kind and patient w yourself♥ 7source record 1081
Standing in line at a store and the waves of grief come crashing on you, the simplest daily tasks at first are so hard to do♥ 0source record 1092
Grief comes in waves♥ 6source record 1136
Someone once told me, “Don’t fight the waves let them carry you until they calm.”♥ 1source record 1187
Grief comes in waves, in the beginning the waves come and will knock you down but eventually the waves get smaller. Every once in a while a big one will come again and knock you down but they do get smaller and easier to handle.♥ 1source record 1189
Grief has no timeline! It comes in waves - sometimes with a laugh & sometimes with the memories coming through our tears.♥ 2source record 1340
its ok to be alone and with ride the waves of emotions.♥ 1source record 1545
Grief has no expiration , time helps but it is normal to come in waves . You will always miss your loved ones . I say thank you god fr letting them into my life fr the time I had them♥ 1source record 1566
Grief comes in waves. I may not feel it now where I stand, but comes while I’m driving, sitting and waiting, playing with my kids, looking at a tv, walking into my house, doing something you used to do, remembering the way their laugh sounded.♥ 1source record 1578
when I lost my son, my grandmother told me to take my time, don't let anyone rush me. grief will always come in waves, so be prepared for days to be calm, or the waves crash against rocks. she promised I would be ok.♥ 1source record 1647
Grief comes in waves, ride the wave, feel those feelings, you are not wrong or crazy for feeling the way that you feel, just don’t let the wave take you under♥ 1source record 1666
Ride the waves of grief with the people you love it makes weathering the storm more tolerable♥ 1source record 1788
To not be afraid to cry and feel it when it comes in waves. Where there was so much love means so much grief! Talk about them often! 🥰♥ 1source record 1904
Grief comes in unexpected waves. A shirt they would have liked at the store, a phrase or song they loved, someone reminds you of them, someone uses their same perfume/ cologne. You have to let the wave of grief hit and knock you off your path for a bit. Reminiscing and let the memories roll down your face. They existed, there was love, and they will always have a part of you. Don’t fight it. Their legacy is in your memories ❤️♥ 1source record 1923
There isn’t one way to grieve and it looks different on everyone. You’re allowed to have good days and moments and also complete meltdowns years down the line. Grief is not linear, it’s not always visible and it does actually come in waves. Try to keep your safe ppl around during this time ♥️♥ 1source record 1937
Grief starts out as huge waves that knock you down and take you under but will later be small waves that just lap at your feet. You'll feel them but they won't knock you down anymore. And you will welcome them because they will come with memories and remind you of the love that made the loss so powerful to begin with.♥ 1source record 1976
The pain will come in waves 🌊 one minute you’re ok and the next tears come rushing down. It’s ok to cry. I promise you it will get better with time.♥ 1source record 2002
It’s only you. Grief is like waves, they will suffocate you at times, but every once in a while you will find your breath. Find gratitude. Hold relentlessly onto it.♥ 1source record 2094
Grief is like the waves in the sea. Sometimes those waves are huge and they hit you hard. Other times they are gentle and it’s ok. The sea ebbs and flows and so will grief. 💙♥ 1source record 2123
Ride the waves because they won’t stop♥ 0source record 2261
It's like waves..♥ 0source record 2348
-you will learn that each person within your circle will be able to support you in a specific way. Lean into that specific way with them and don’t be afraid to voice the kind of support you need in those heavier moments. The only person that can “pull you out” is yourself. And that is your strength. Every wave: small or ginormous, expected or hit by a brick wall… will pass. Trust in that and be in that moment. That is your growth ♥️🙏🏻♥ 0source record 2385
It will last for the rest of your life but it comes and goes is waves. It’s okay to not be okay.♥ 0source record 2423
This is my own advice; it will come in waves and when it does let it don’t stop it. I adopted a dog during that time who desperately needed me and it helped so so much. Pet therapy. 💕♥ 0source record 2477
Ride the waves!♥ 0source record 2519
it comes in waves, so just let it. healing isn't linear, and there is no finish line.♥ 0source record 2522
It’s like a wave. It comes and goes. Sometimes peacefully, sometimes crashing waves. 🌊♥ 0source record 2612
Grief comes in waves. One day you’ll be fine and then suddenly you remember that they are gone and the sadness washes over, but then you recover and live and smile in the memories and over and over again. It’s ok though.♥ 0source record 2723
grief is like waves some days it'll be slow and nice other days it'll be like a storm. we just have to keep floating and remembering.♥ 0source record 2777
While they are gone physically, they’re still everywhere around you. They are the wind in the air that’s making the trees wave at you. They’re the flowers blooming every spring. They’re the sun that follows you through your day and gives you bits of warmth. They are gone, but they will never be GONE♥ 0source record 2815
Grief is like a wave.♥ 0source record 2820
That it comes in waves - the moment will pass but also come again.♥ 0source record 2979
It comes in waves…I learned to just close my eyes and let the wave hit me and then ride it out.♥ 0source record 3028
It comes in waves and everyone deals with it differently. At any given moment I am 50% happy and 50% sad. A true melancholy in me that will never go away. To grieve her, if I need to be sad that’s okay.♥ 0source record 3051
Check out [account] “If I would have known” …. His song brought me great comfort and a form of expression for the passing of my friend [account] 💜💜💜 Feel everything. Waves of love ~♥ 0source record 3099
people will tell you to be strong, to stay busy, to move on. But let it hurt. Let it change you. Grief has its own timetable, and pretending you’re fine doesn’t make the weight any lighter. letting yourself feel it, honoring what you lost, and knowing you’re not broken because you still miss them. You loved deeply, and that’s a good thing. So when the wave hits, don’t fight it. Let it come. Let it go. And when it comes again, ride it with grace.♥ 0source record 3167
Grief comes in waves, there’s no in between just prepare yourself when that big one comes♥ 0source record 3235
I didn’t take advice….i made up my own rules. When I thought about them and it made me sad I reminded myself that maybe it was just them saying hi. I reminded myself that it’s not forever and o will see them again. I ride the waves and do my best to accept them.♥ 0source record 3264
“No one is actually dead until the ripples they caused in the world die away.” Their love lives within all those laughs, tears, and memories. If you think of them; they are still here. Ride the waves of grief cutie. You got this! Sending you a hug 🫂🫶🏼💝♥ 0source record 3369
it'll come in waves, no prediction on when or how or triggers. I cry randomly for my dad. could be a song, a dragonfly, a random memory...or just thinking about how my boys are missing out. one day, one minute, one moment at a time♥ 0source record 3429
No one can tell you how to grief, for how long and there’s no right or wrong way. It comes in swells of salt water that consumes you as if it was the first breathe you tried to take while under the wave. 🌊♥ 0source record 3522
Grief comes in waves for decades when they come just ride them out because I feel it’s because they are thinking about you and because you’re connected, you’re supposed to be thinking about them so it’s a good thing. It’s like having a moment with a special one together, even though physically they’re not there.♥ 0source record 3530
It comes in waves. Don’t let anyone rush you through it.♥ 0source record 3543
Grief is like a wave. Sometimes they’re soft, and sometimes they slam you so hard you can’t breathe. 🖤SJ🖤♥ 0source record 3594
Grief is like a storm on the sea. At first, you’re battered and struggling to breathe. Then you grab a piece of wood. And then another. And then you have a raft. And the waves calm. And the sun comes out. But, every now and again, a wave comes and it catches you unaware. And you cling to that raft, but it tries to suck you back. But that raft holds steady. And when those waves come, you know how to steer that raft. But the waves will come. And each time, you master that raft better. But the waves will come. And you know how to steer that raft better and better. The waves become smaller. You are ready for the big wave that will come.♥ 0source record 3608
It’s ok to fall apart. It’s ok to be messy. A month from now, a year from now, a decade from now. Whenever your grief comes in a wave and catches you off guard, just ride the wave and care not what it looks like. That’s the only way to heal.♥ 0source record 3632
Unfortunately no one has given me sage advice that meant anything but I have learned on my own and it comes in waves now instead of not being able to get out of bed♥ 0source record 3674
Give yourself grace. Grief is not linear take time to honor the waves of emotions. Grief is the love with nowhere to go!!♥ 0source record 3679
Let the waves of emotion flow like water. Eventually the waves get smaller and smaller and won’t knock you over.♥ 0source record 3682
it comes in waves, and you need to roll with them.♥ 0source record 3705
Grief isn’t linear. It comes and goes. In waves and heavy currents.♥ 0source record 3868
you don't get over grief, and time doesnt always heal. you learn to live with it... it comes in waves at different times in your life no matter how many years pass♥ 0source record 4045
Im grieving my person. Im not okay. Im having so much trouble pulling out of this. It's been 8 months & 8 days. Sometimes my grief is so big it literally takes my breath away. They said grief comes in waves but I'm caught in a rip current & he'd hate this for me but I don't know how to help myself.♥ 0source record 4046
It comes in waves♥ 0source record 4052
The grief will come in waves 🌊, don’t fight it just allow yourself to ride that wave. Move through it and give yourself grace. Don’t ever feel guilty about allowing yourself to feel and don’t ever feel guilty about feeling happy again when that day comes. 🤍♥ 0source record 4083
Be gentle with yourself. Grief isn’t just sadness, it’s guilt. It’s the I should have, I wish. It’s waterproof mascara everyday because you don’t know when the wave smacks. It’s feeling fine doing life and then crushing emotions that overwhelm even the strongest. Giving myself grace as I grieve my mother’s (best friend) death, her last years alive. It’s making hard decisions to let my dad go so he wouldn’t end up a vegetable. It’s the pain of loss and the pain of what will never be ever again. It’s the end of photos, memories, and the beginning of living someone who is no longer ever present. Being gentle means not beating myself up for things not said. Gentle is just allowing myself to just live in tears, fear, sadness, and anger and pain. The voids are vast and powerful. Gentle with my heart that is mad because there wasn’t more time. She will never leave me. She sits in the corner and whispers my name in the quiet. Grief stays, and now her and I live together forever.♥ 0source record 4118
"No one ever told me that grief felt so much like fear" A qoute that helped me to understand grief on another level, for myself and others. If you understand the emotions behind the grief it helps to navigate the waves.♥ 0source record 4160
I miss you Dad 💔 - it was too quick I should’ve been by his side more. But I had to keep everything going and still do. We had a big fight before his accident. That haunts me as well. But I was by his side as much as I could be being his advocate fighting for the care he needed. Sometimes our bodies just start deteriorating faster when trauma happens. With all the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve in the worlds won’t change reality. It’s just absorbing the grief in waves when it comes. He always said he wanted to live to see my son become a man. He will, just not in the way we wanted him to.♥ 0source record 4204
Grief comes in waves and when it hits it hits hard. I live by this motto after I lost my mom in 2014 and dad in 2021♥ 0source record 4242
In the first days, when a wave would come crashing over me, my older sister would say…..just let it out, in such a soft nurturing way. Now 6 yrs 10 months later, when a wave comes, i hear her tell me and I just let it out. 💜🙏🏻💜♥ 0source record 4279
it comes in waves♥ 0source record 4324
Poem by Erin Hansen: Maybe we're a blink. But a blink in something more, We're still part of what comes after & everything that came before. In truth, we are infinite, Riding on the wave of time. Just because this form will end doesn’t mean we've found the finish line.♥ 0source record 4328
I don’t remember where I heard it but I found it to be true over the past five years as I lost my father, my paternal grandmother, my maternal grandmother, and my dog who was my child and my life for the past 14 yrs. Grief comes in waves and over time the waves grow further and further apart. I feel like it’s a hurricane at first though.♥ 0source record 4353
Let the wave come. Feel it. Embrace and let it flow away. It takes time to asap and get used to. The pain will never go away you will just get used to it.♥ 0source record 4359
Embrace it, it will come in waves, let it flow..♥ 0source record 4397
that the pain never goes away or lessens. and at first it's so huge it exists in every aspect of your life, so t to u keep bumping into it and it sets off waves of pain. but that grief is frozen and your life will continue to grow around it. so you bump into it less often as time goes on♥ 0source record 4411
It wasn’t given to me - but it’s what I ultimately learned. The more you allow it to move through you, the more you ride those waves, the faster you learn to live with it. Sit with it. Feel it. Name it. And don’t feel guilty about times you feel joy. It’s ok to contain both grief and joy at once.♥ 0source record 4461
It’s you that has to go through this, so breath and take it one second at a time. It comes in waves, but you can definitely do this. 🙏🏼♥ 0source record 4498
It comes in waves♥ 0source record 4551
Grief is never linear, it comes in waves. How you ride the waves is the hard part but necessary. Remember a baby step is all it takes to keep moving forward.💕♥ 0source record 4556
That grief is like a wave some days gently lapping at your ankles always there then some days out of nowhere a huge wave you didn't see coming knocks you over 😥 also be kind to yourself don't rush the pain and grief is the price of love and grief is love with nowhere to go♥ 0source record 4587
Let it wash over you like a wave because it will come that way. Take deep breaths and give the best hugs. This was given to me by my mom. I lost my dad at age 4. She is the strongest person I know and will ever love.♥ 0source record 4612
I guess that it comes in waves.♥ 0source record 4683
Feel the waves until they smooth out. They will smooth out.♥ 0source record 4689
Grief is like a ball rolling around in your mind. Every time it hits the side, it brings sadness. In the beginning, the ball is large and constantly bumps into the sides, triggering waves of sadness. Over time, the ball gets smaller. It doesn’t disappear, it still rolls around and occasionally hits the sides when you least expect it. But gradually, you learn to live with it, and the memories it stirs begin to bring more smiles than tears.♥ 0source record 4705
The waves won’t ever stop coming, but eventually you’ll be able to predict when they come so you can get through it.♥ 0source record 4717
Take your time, be present, feel it all, then let it fly. Many take a few rounds, as the waves come back at unexpected times for as long as we too have breath. 🫂♥ 0source record 4723
Grief never goes away and it comes in waves sometimes it’s there but not as obvious it never goes. Away, you just get used to it♥ 0source record 4729
Grief has no time limit. No certain time frame for when you’re supposed to feel “normal” again. No certain timeline for when it’s supposed to stop hurting. Grief comes in waves, some soft, some crushing. Grief is your reminder of how much you loved that person. For you miss them as much as you loved them.♥ 0source record 4845
To ride the waves of your grief. Let the waves of sadness come as it is your body’s wave of coping. It made for a lot of mornings crying for seemingly no reason♥ 0source record 4870
Grief comes in waves. Don’t be afraid to ride those waves.♥ 0source record 4876
That leaning into the grief and letting the grief waves come and go as they please is all you can do. Grief will have its way with you whether you allow it or not.♥ 0source record 4927
It comes in waves♥ 0source record 4980
Grief comes in waves, because our heart and mind can't absorb the loss at once, it's too much. Grief is reminding you of their existence and all the love you still share.🙏♥ 0source record 5014
It sure would be nice to be able to let grief happen. But it requires being able to stop all else . Which can be impossible. Grief for me comes in waves. It may last a few minutes even a few days sometimes weeks. Forget thinking u can pause triggers. Most of them u may not know until it happens. This is not depression it is grief. Remember they are different. Yet can go hand in hand.♥ 0source record 5031
That there is no time limit on grief. You never get over them. Grief comes in waves.♥ 0source record 5121
Don't try to "get over" grief. Think of it as riding a wave. There will be peaks and valleys of waves always. Eventually, the extremes will lessen. Just keep riding.♥ 0source record 5152
There is no time limit on grief or one way you should grieve. It may hit you in waves for years and that's ok. As long as you get up and continue to live. Grieve in the way you need to grieve.♥ 0source record 5293
Grief never ends. It comes in waves , tears will come and go, you will wake up one day and deal. You will only deal never forget . Don’t forget to breathe.♥ 0source record 5333
the pain never goes away it hits in waves♥ 0source record 5343
What I learned was that grief is constant and everlasting because grief is the reminder that you got to experience an unconditional love, and that never truly leaves. Grief is the reminder that you've been loved unconditionally and that the love you shared with that person is still there. I miss my mom every day, but I'm so thankful to have the grief as a reminder of her unconditional love for me and mine for her. You learn to live around the grief and create time for the coming waves of it.♥ 0source record 5468
Let myself grieve.. take all the waves of grief. Truly feel it so I can slowly adjust to your new normal. I have strength to overcome.♥ 0source record 5512
Grief is a journey. Sometimes it comes in waves, especially sneaker waves that out of nowhere. But the biggest thing I've learned is that it hurts so much because we loved them so much. 💜💙♥ 0source record 5567
Grief is like someone coming up and tapping you on the shoulder … it comes unexpectedly and as soon as you turn around — it’s there. The tears and emotions hit like a wave breaking through a barrier.♥ 0source record 5600
It comes in waves. Don't feel bad for being happy, even just for a moment. Feel that happiness because now what they see is only through your eyes. Be sad when it comes but when your happy or laughing it's not against them. It's with them... together.♥ 0source record 5639
She’s still with you. 💕 In the wind. In the birds chirping. In the waves. In the air you breathe. She sees you. 💕💕💕.♥ 0source record 5679
Grief will wash over you but over time the waves will get smaller. ♥️♥ 0source record 5696
When the room is too full of everyone else’s grief and it feels like there’s no room for yours - let it flow anyway or like a wave it will be back later stronger♥ 0source record 5793
Grief is a form of praise. You are praising the wonder of the person you lost. The great pain you are feeling means great love. Grief comes in waves♥ 0source record 5846
Grief is a journey, not a moment. People may see me smiling, working, or carrying on with daily life and assume I’m fine. But behind the strength they see lies a quiet storm—waves of sadness, moments of numbness, and flashes of memories that hit when I least expect them. What they don’t see are the nights when sleep doesn’t come, the times when laughter feels like betrayal, or the exhaustion of holding myself together. Grieving doesn’t have a timeline or a clear finish line. It’s messy, nonlinear, and deeply personal. So, I remind myself: 💛 I don’t have to perform my pain or my healing for anyone. 💛 It’s okay to still not feel like myself. 💛 It’s okay to say, “I’m not ok right now.” Healing takes time. For now, I’ll breathe,feel. Lean on those who understand. I’m allowed to grieve in my own way, no matter what anyone else assumes. I am not alone in this.♥ 0source record 5857
it comes in waves♥ 0source record 5909
Grieve because part of your DNA you can’t see it but only the person experiencing it, feels it. You have to come to terms that grieve will show up randomly, unexpectedly and will make you feel all of her feelings all over gain. It comes in waves some days when you think you’re doing better and it has passed it will come back with full force all over again. That’s because it never left it’s always there a part of you now. It’s not something you can “fix” because you aren’t “broken” (even though it might feel like it) grief is the last act of love you have for someone that has gone with the Lord. By living letting your self come to terms with the idea that things will change (at your own time of course) will allow you to live in peace, it doesn’t mean it will stop hurting but it will allow you to feel every emotion as they come randomly when you’re on your way to work, or hear a song. Grieve because part of your DNA.♥ 0source record 5924
My mom died 4 months ago. It comes at the most random moments. Just ride the waves♥ 0source record 5935
Ride the waves, don’t fight them…if you feel sad/lonely/scared shitless/angry, then feel it. If you feel like laughing then laugh. There is no wrong way to feel as you are justified. What you went through is so unfair. Hugs to everyone on this thread. I lost my husband 4 years ago to cancer and it still feels like yesterday. ❤️♥ 0source record 5947
Grief… you can’t go around it, you can’t go over it, you can’t go under it, you have to go through it. When my husband passed I didn’t want to get out of bed.. I had to get up and go through it.. I remember someone saying grief comes in waves and I didn’t understand that, but yeah it does… it changes you forever… it makes you a different person. Everything I do now is for my husband and I hope I’m making him proud #WayneLee ❤️🥰♥ 0source record 6168
Someone once told me that grief, the overwhelming crashing wave of grief, is simply your loved one touching your mind to let you know they are thinking about you. Their body may be out of reach, but they never will be. ♥️-a motherless daughter♥ 0source record 6199
It takes longer to get through that you’ll even expect. And just when you think you’re through another wave hits you. It’s ok to fall apart and it’s ok to not be ok. Admitting I’m not ok is one of the hardest parts♥ 0source record 6240
You have to go through your grief. You can’t avoid it. Feel what you feel when it comes up, as it comes up — don’t push it away. It will visit you in waves. Keep doing this. You will get through your grief. One day at a time. ❤️♥ 0source record 6334

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Storms, oceans and learning to swim98 index entriesStorms, oceans and learning to swim — 98 records
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Storms, oceans and learning to swim

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What the pattern means: Storm and ocean metaphors depict grief as periodic and forceful while leaving room for calmer intervals and continued living.

What commenters described: After our daughter passed away I used to curse the waves and the storm of grief, but now i watch for the sunrise after it passes. I know she’s waiting for me on the other side of it.

Limit: Grief comes in waves. Some almost drown you and some are gentle waves. They can happen suddenly without warning or you can see them coming. The is secret is learning how to ride them.

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After our daughter passed away I used to curse the waves and the storm of grief, but now i watch for the sunrise after it passes. I know she’s waiting for me on the other side of it.

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When grief hits, it can feel like an intense wave in the ocean that consumes everything, but just as quickly as it comes, it will leave. Welcome the crashes and remember her love. You might not see her, but now you get to feel her and that’s a beautiful moment for you both 🩷🤍

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and everyone HAS to walk through their grief eventually. You can try to avoid or ignore or stuff it away. but it will bubble to the surface forcing your to confront it and walk through it.

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lost my mom 10 days ago, still not sinking in she's not here anymore♥ 0source record 711
I’m so sorry. It’s been 5 1/2 years since I lost my father and the sinking feeling in my chest is there right at this moment. He was my person. It’s gonna be hard-but to me, the fact that it is hard goes in hand with how much love was there. I’m with you. I’m sorry♥ 1source record 767
THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Still can’t hear anything. Lost my husband 6/28/25 & I am drowning.♥ 4source record 955
After our daughter passed away I used to curse the waves and the storm of grief, but now i watch for the sunrise after it passes. I know she’s waiting for me on the other side of it.♥ 10source record 1057
When it first happens it’s like your ship just wrecked. You will be confused and feel like you’re always drowning under the constant waves of grief. But eventually you grab onto something, you catch your breath, and you begin to see the waves coming. The waves will slow and though they may never stop fully, you will not always feel like you’re drowning. You will be able to breathe again.♥ 1source record 1223
Get counselling so you can stop drowning your grief in a glass of wine (me- to me)♥ 0source record 1256
You live with a profound loss for the rest of your life. It doesn't consume you as much, as time goes on. Feel it. Don't let people tell you how fast you're supposed to grieve. Everyone's healing process is different. Just keep swimming.♥ 2source record 1349
My mom (after losing a daughter and 2 nephews): time doesn’t heal all wounds you just learn to live with it or drown in it and I’d rather live with it and make them proud♥ 1source record 1449
Look up “grief is like a shipwreck” I couldn’t put it in better words 💔♥ 1source record 1500
Go to the ocean. It heals♥ 1source record 1672
My lesson in life dealing with loss. Grief is like being thrown into the ocean unexpectedly and unprepared and the waves are pushing you under and you feel like you won’t survive it. However, over time, the waves may push you under but you don’t stay under as long. It’s not because the waves got weaker but you got stronger. The waves never stop coming, but with time, your time under the water lessens. Keep kicking!!♥ 1source record 1737
“Think of your version of God being the ocean, and everyone with a heart beat are waves. When someone you love is gone, their wave isn’t rippling anymore. But they are still in the water, rippling within you and speaking through other waves.”♥ 1source record 1891
my husband took me straight to church when we lost our baby, their twin was still alive and I needed immediate strength to not drown in depression and affect the still living child. he took me straight to the bar when i lost my dad, he said you can drown this tonight and tonight alone, you wont be allowed to live here. both were exactly when i needed at the time. hopefully you have someone who knows you so well they know how to help you through the tragedy.♥ 1source record 1921
I was told grief was like a storm you sit through it you watch it you feel it and you allow the storm to end because our storms too and you heal with that storm♥ 1source record 1943
Something I learned on my own: dont try to numb yourself in unhealthy coping mechanisms. You have to let yourself feel everything to truly move on and heal. It will always resurface if you don't.♥ 1source record 1989
When it springs up, and bursts through your resistance, don’t fight it: let it flow through, like a summer breeze, a friend that reminds you of what you had, grateful they were there, because if you block it, dam it up, it will drown you. Let it flow out. 💜♥ 1source record 2022
grief has no limits to anything. Grief is like the ocean one day it's calm and flat. Next day, choppy and big, and you have an actual hurricane that throws you on the sea floor.♥ 1source record 2035
Let grief move through you like the tide— don’t fight the pull, don’t rush the retreat. Some days it will rise and crash over your chest, other days, it will quietly lap at your feet. But always, it brings with it pieces of love you thought were lost in the wreckage. Feel it all. Hold nothing back. This ache is proof that your heart remembers what your arms can no longer hold.♥ 1source record 2042
visit it before it comes down heavily and you drown, that way when the waves come it won't feel like a tsunami... journal, shower, light a candle, color get a Playlist... but let it out. and dont worry about any expectations just be where you were♥ 1source record 2048
When my therapist just looked me straight in the face and told me there was nothing I could do to change or drown out my reality. I had to face it. And feel it.♥ 1source record 2178
I’ve learned that grief is a storm not meant to be weathered perfectly. It’s not a step by step, guided journey. There will always be highs & always be lows. Time doesn’t heal it, because it’s forever with you. You just learn to take it slowly & remember grief is just love you are no longer able to share. Show yourself grace & take as long as you need to. You don’t have to be happy, if surviving is all you can do, that is a testimony in itself. 💜♥ 1source record 2200
Open your bible Isaiah 43:2 “When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee…”♥ 0source record 2218
When grief hits, it can feel like an intense wave in the ocean that consumes everything, but just as quickly as it comes, it will leave. Welcome the crashes and remember her love. You might not see her, but now you get to feel her and that’s a beautiful moment for you both 🩷🤍♥ 0source record 2251
"Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim." - Vicki Harrison i find strengths in this♥ 0source record 2264
There’s no right way to grieve. You grieve your way! Grief comes in waves. Some moments you drown in tears n other waves, you smile When they come to your mind. Hugs n prayers and pray and talk to them because their spirits live ❤️♥ 0source record 2303
that grief is a wave. some days its slow and steady and others is tough and tumultuous 💖 i will forever feel as if I'm drowning without him 💖♥ 0source record 2502
That grief is often referred to as an ocean because you can be swallowed by it or you can learn to navigate the waves.♥ 0source record 2592
I’m currently reading the book Signs. And looking for them. Our chocolate lab Ellie passed away a little over a year ago. Took our first vacation w/o her this week to a place she loved to go to. While we were swimming in the lake, a yellow butterfly fluttered around us for 5-10 minutes several times. At one point it landed on one of our other dogs water toys and just sat there peacefully for almost 10 minutes. We immediately knew it was a sign. No doubt about it, it was her.♥ 0source record 2608
Imagine myself in a boat and throw out my anchor when the waves crash into me. I still use this 4 years later. I am Kerigan's mom she is forever 6♥ 0source record 2629
That grief is tidal-we may think we are just recovering when a wave washes over us and we feel it all over again…but mercifully, the wave recedes and each time it washes over us less and less and recedes further out. We know the ocean tide is there but we regain our footing in time as we walk its edges and on its past indentations. From “The Redhand Files”♥ 0source record 2672
Grief is a shipwreck..when it happens you’re barely hanging on and the waves keep crashing. Eventually, the waves subside. But every now and again you encounter a storm. Eventually those waves get further and further apart. I’m 28 years removed from my dad passing. I was 9. The waves never change. Just the timeline of those waves. I can think of him today and smile. The months leading up to his death anniversary are just as bad as they always have been. But I know once it passes, it’s sunshine and rainbows. Grief is just love with nowhere to go. Here’s my advice: sit in it. But don’t stay long. I spent so many years purposely stuck in a storm that i willingly continued to follow. Eventually I became the hurricane. I did such a disservice to myself. Understand that a part of you will always feel like it’s missing. That’s okay. I’d rather of loved and lost than to never have loved at all. 💙♥ 0source record 2673
You have to feel it when the wave comes. It will feel like drowning. You will want to punch that shit down. I challenge you to fight the numbness. Try to just breathe. 8 years out and I still have moments, but I know my mom wouldn’t want my tears now. She wants me to LIVE. Sending hugs.💛♥ 0source record 2700
The only thing you have to do today is keep your nose above the water so you can breath.♥ 0source record 2701
take grief like a wave... you just have to ride it, feel it... the wave will not seem as big in time even though right now it has knocked you off your board and you feel like you are drowning... you'll be back on top again riding on the board...♥ 0source record 2720
Someone told me that I was allowed to be an absolute piece of a shit for one year. To be clear I wasn’t, and nothing was going to happen if I still was after a year, but it gave me the space to grieve - really grieve - unapologetically, sadly, angrily, loudly, and without a doubt. Sometimes as women we feel like we have to behave and apologize for our emotions and people please and acquiesce to those around us and we hold in our emotions when our body is screaming to let them out. I didn’t learn that lesson with that loss but the next time it came around, I realized it and let myself FULLY grieve both, loudly, expressively, sadly and with my whole chest. And it did feel better. And it wasn’t locked inside me anymore and it didn’t hurt me as viscerally and yes, it still hurts and I still get sad but it’s a dull pain rather than a knife in my chest. And I don’t feel like I’m drowning, alone, anymore. It’s like flailing in violent waves and your toes finally brush that little glimpse of the sand and you know it’s almost going to be okay again.♥ 0source record 2737
Literally nothing...I'm a year in to loosing my last parent and I feel like I'm drowning without them💔♥ 0source record 2804
Honestly it was someone who just sat with me and listened. She said grief is like the ocean- a wave of emotion comes unexpectedly and you just have to ride it, but there will be calm too.♥ 0source record 2852
Go to the water… I was brought up on an island. Something about the water…♥ 0source record 2914
I haven’t gotten any that works yet. I still feel like I’m drowning and it’s been 1.5 years. I’ll take any advice I can get at this point♥ 0source record 2943
“As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O’Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.”♥ 0source record 2971
We were never meant to understand grief, we were designed to love and be loved. It’s impossible to try to understand something we were never meant to feel. The pain still comes in waves, some are small and some will completely capsize your life raft, the storm will always be there and some waves will be more bearable than others.♥ 0source record 2977
Grief is accompanied by pain; there are days that you won't feel it, but there are also random days that it will resurface. You will just learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 3037
Grief is a storm. It is made up of memories, love, heartbreak and sorrow. The storm never really passes. We just learn how to dance in the rain.♥ 0source record 3064
Every Storm Runs Out Of Rain 🌹♥ 0source record 3201
As they say grief comes in waves. It’s unpredictable. You’ll hear a song, smell a familiar smell, see someone you know…and it will hit you like a tsunami. Out of no where you will feel a crushing, overwhelming feeling of loss all over again. There is no where to go but through the pain. Achnowledge it for what it is. You miss them and it’s a forever pain. It never gets easier. It gets normal. It hets numbing♥ 0source record 3247
just keep swimming... just keep swimming... swimming.. swimming... what do we do? we swiiiim♥ 0source record 3298
grief is like an ocean it will come in wave some times it will be deep and some times it will be shallow.♥ 0source record 3425
It comes in waves. Ride the tide. Some waves are far worse than others. But like the tide the pain will recede.♥ 0source record 3454
The old man describing death/grief like surviving a shipwreck. It was the only thing that helped me. It describes the process perfectly. It’s so raw and so beautiful. I could never find the author♥ 0source record 3487
Grief is like the waves of the ocean you never know when it’s gonna hit u.♥ 0source record 3489
Grief is like the ocean, as a coastal kid this is how I feel. Sometimes the grief is gentle and we float on it, we stare up at the sky and feel the ocean envelope us as we add salt water tears to it and absorb the salt water through every pore. Sometimes we have a board or just play in the waves laughing living. Sometimes we need to be rescued or we will drown because the waves are so high and the wind is so strong. The boat is hope. Hope that it’s one big ocean and we’re all connected. I pray a lot. Jesus can calm the storms, he promises we will be together again. 💔❤️♥ 0source record 3527
Grief is the ocean. At first the waves come crashing in over and over again and it is hard to stand because they keep pushing you down. Over time the grief waves are still there but less often. when they crash again they have the same strength but they are not as often. They never stop but they do allow you to stand back up.♥ 0source record 3614
It’s come in waves some days your swimming, some your floating and others you feel like you’re drowning. Put even the ocean as calmness and peace.♥ 0source record 3656
too much to type just Google "grief is like the waves of an ocean"♥ 0source record 3754
The months after- when everyone else has moved on— that’s when the sticky parts show up. And grief will be the new constant in your life. I’ve found it comes in waves & seemingly out of nowhere. Some waves are tsunamis in disguise & others you eventually figure out how to surf through… but they will never stop. ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 3857
I wish someone had told me how it came in waves. tsunamis, quick and huge and devestating, one after another at first. In time they get smaller and farther apart, but the ocean never settles.♥ 0source record 3903
The analogy of the tide coming in. Sometimes we’re deep in the water when it comes. Sometimes it rushes up around our ankles and leaves small moments in the sand. We let it come in. We let ourselves feel it all. And the tide goes back out.♥ 0source record 3911
Life your life so that they can see through your eyes and see you do things they’ve always wanted, and things you always wanted. Once you learn that they’re beside you always, you learn that their spirit is with you- you can keep carrying on. Reversing that thought of “absence” into acceptance, crying is absolutely necessary too. I cried an ocean it seems, but, one day- I was tired of myself too. I picked my self back up, and my soul was ready for movement again, to live. I accepted and understood my loved one I was grieving wanted me to get up, smile, go live life. So I did. And I still cry sometimes. It gets easier with time.♥ 0source record 4013
It comes in waves and you can ride them or let them drown you but either way eventually the wave will end and you’ll be there still.♥ 0source record 4093
the only way out is through, you just have to feel your feelings. you don't have tontry to cure grief. it's like a storm, there will be more, but it will always pass♥ 0source record 4153
For me it was the story of the shipwreck, at first you are drowning holding on to pieces of the ship to survive, then as the waves settle you eventually find a beach but the waves still come and go.♥ 0source record 4243
Grief comes in waves.. sometimes the wave nudges you sometime it knocks you down and takes you under.. you have learn to swim through it because it will always be there.♥ 0source record 4247
Not given learned hits like ocean 🌊 waves comes and goes with the tide, sometimes sunny sometimes gray . I laugh then cry I’ll carry them with me till we meet again . Mom ,dad & lil bro 🙌🏽😔🙏🏾♥ 0source record 4295
The waves of grief will always be there, its current will always pull you. With time though, you will be a better swimmer. It will get easier with time, you will tread the waters with ease and you won’t feel like you’re drowning one day.♥ 0source record 4379
learn to ride the waves so you don't drown.♥ 0source record 4415
My mother passed when I was in my early 20’s. One of the truest things I was told is: “you will never get over the loss, but it does and will get easier”. And here I am over 25 years later, there are still days the grief comes like massive waves in the ocean as if it were just yesterday but most days are manageable. Though never a day has passed that in some way I am not reminded of my mother🥺♥ 0source record 4464
Grief is like the ocean. Early on the waves are coming fast and furious. Eventually they slow down. You see them coming. Birthdays. Anniversarys. You can prepare yourself for the strike of the water. You don’t go under as long. But the waves always come. Sometimes they catch you off guard. Sometimes they are soft and gentle and you can ride them enjoying the memory.♥ 0source record 4525
It comes and goes like the ocean, but all of the while you’re alone on the coast in the fog♥ 0source record 4529
Grief is like being on a life raft alone in a hurricane. Waves crash over you, you are taking on water - you doubt very much that you’ll survive it. The waves eventually slow down, they aren’t stacked one after the next… you become better prepared for the waves to hit. Still hurts, but it’s not as overwhelming.♥ 0source record 4552
I’ll never forget the day his heart stopped beating and mine didn’t ….my grief is like the ocean, today I am drowning …♥ 0source record 4569
Grief comes in waves. At first it is tsunami sized waves that come frequently but then they get smaller and less frequent. They always pass.♥ 0source record 4682
and everyone HAS to walk through their grief eventually. You can try to avoid or ignore or stuff it away. but it will bubble to the surface forcing your to confront it and walk through it.♥ 0source record 4687
Grief is like an ocean that at first is rough and knocking you down and never think you can come up for air. Eventually it calms and you can breathe, but every once in a while a wave will slap you and knock your breath out. Those waves may never stop but they grow further apart.♥ 0source record 4755
It’ll come in waves. With time those waves will become less frequent and less overwhelming. You’ll still miss and remember them but there will come a time won’t feel like your drowning♥ 0source record 4795
don't compare grief. You can drown in 6 feet of water or 20 feet of water. you're still dead♥ 0source record 4855
I read this after I lost my dad, and I’ve never related to anything more: “It feels like perpetual homesickness. But it’s a heart sinking, gut wrenching, empty feeling because I’m homesick for a place I’ll never have ever again. Like it was blown from the surface of the Earth in a single breath, because one of the few people who knew me all the days of my life doesn’t exist anymore.”♥ 0source record 4867
It's not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning how to sit in the rain♥ 0source record 4907
It’s like falling in the ocean with 15 ft waves crashing you over and over. It’s hard to catch your breath but you get a little breather every so often that gives you life. You feel like you’re drowning but end up surviving. As time goes on, those waves become smaller and smaller and you’re able to get more breath between them, but they still hit you hard. The difference is now you know you can endure them. Eventually,the waves are much smaller and you actually start looking for them to come. Maybe it’s a quick memory, or a scent, or old pic brings them back, and you actually learn to WANT those waves. Time doesn’t heal, but it helps us to endure.♥ 0source record 5163
It’s like a stormy sea, with 100ft waves crashing down on you ever 5 seconds, can’t breath, can’t swim, your almost over. But slowly, the waves subside, come further apart. Until it’s usually calm. But out of nowhere, at any time, a 100ft waves crashed down on you.♥ 0source record 5197
All my closest friends and loved ones always try to give me advice or just their insight about it but honestly nothing ever works. I’m drowning in sorrow and grief.♥ 0source record 5234
I learned grief is like an ocean overtime you emotions will ebb and flow and the more time passes pain gets replaced most if the time with happy memories♥ 0source record 5258
They would want you to be happy and live. Keeps me from drowning. Miss both my parents so much! 💕♥ 0source record 5426
No words will help you but time. The pain comes like ocean waves. They are coming close together rt now but in time they will get further apart to where you will be able to breath again.♥ 0source record 5435
It comes in waves. The first few years they’re tsunamis. They slowly become normal big waves. And when it’s your time to go, they’re small waves that crash at your feet and it’s ok. Because you’re about to dive in.♥ 0source record 5451
Grief comes in waves, but what they don't tell you is those waves come many times a day, and some days they feel like a tsunami.. don't hold your breath and try to fight it but breathe and embrace it.. you'll make it through this. your life will forever be divided into the before and the after, you'll never be who you were before but with their love guiding you, your after can be just as beautiful...♥ 0source record 5514
Grief starts as a conditioned trauma response and depending on how you receive the anchors placed on you such as a gentle pat on the shoulder or hand, Or how you were given the news, you might want to try to redirect that anchor in a manner which supports you or empowers you to embrace what’s ahead. This will determine how you grieve or not. Most importantly, only you can grieve the way You need to. It may be similar to most but just like You, your grief is unique and is yours.💕♥ 0source record 5650
Imagine yourself alone standing on a beach in a storm, facing a raging sea. The pain comes in waves. At first it’s scary, you don’t know how you’ll survive and when it will ever end. As the storm passes, and the waves die down, you realize you are left with the peace of a returning sun to dry your tears, the calm of the lapping waves that are the sounds of the memories of the one you lost and bolstered knowledge that you are strong enough to move on and that there’s always a brighter day.♥ 0source record 5665
Grief is like the waves of the ocean it comes and goes some waves hit harder than others just ride it out♥ 0source record 5680
Grief is a moment (however long) that announces itself at unexpected times, even often. Love is eternal. Grief is rooted by a specific moment(s) & can toss 1 easily about like an ocean wave, causing us to lose breath. Love, however, gives us breath; as it grows the deepest roots so as to not lose balance in joy & sorrows of life. Altho love is victorious & grief is not, it's ok to stop & breathe thru both.♥ 0source record 5704
2/2 and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O’Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.♥ 0source record 5727
1/2 I’m old. What that means is that I’ve survived (so far) and a lot of people I’ve known and loved did not. I’ve lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can’t imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here’s my two cents. I wish I could say you get used to people dying. But I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to “not matter”. I don’t want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can’t see. As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…♥ 0source record 5728
No one gave me this, i had to learn it on my own… It never goes away. It might lighten over time, but it will always be there. It is something you have to learn to live with. It comes in waves. You have times where you can be happy and float through life, and sometimes where it feels like you’re drowning. But you have to go through it and accept it. The only way to get to that point is facing it, let it break you down to the point where you build yourself back up from the ground up. Not everyone can do it. So if you’re here, reading this. You made it. What you have been through, and survived, made you the person you are today. It might not feel like it. But you are a warrior. 🤝♥ 0source record 5776
The loss, the feeling of their absence or anger comes in waves. So big they plant you face down in the sand. Grief is a rip tide. It will suck you out and drown you. Don’t struggle, you have to let it take you, float on your back until you can start to swim parallel to the shore…cause that shoreline that you have known all your life is different now. Swim parallel until you can get back in. Mind you, you will not be where you started.♥ 0source record 6047
Sorry for the ocean metaphor but it’s the only thing I have ever experienced that was that big.♥ 0source record 6048
This is in-terms of grieving a lost relationship. Grieving doesn’t have a time limit. It comes in waves. Don’t feel like you’re “going crazy” when it hits you hard one day. Don’t fight the grief, but accept that it comes to you at that moment. It’s valid.♥ 0source record 6071
My dad had died and I’d taken it every way but well. I was really, really struggling. Even when I was sleeping, I was having nightmares about drowning - it was coming out in every way how I felt. One day, I was outside and decided to spray myself with the water hose - no big deal, it was hot and I was just cooling down. But it was the first time in what felt like a very long time I’d taken a second to breathe and feel the breeze and just BE. My cousin later told me that it was a step in the right direction, and to (more specifically) “be kind” to myself. Everyone else was telling me to talk to a priest or a shrink. He was the only person to tell me to just be nice to me. I’ll never forget that. It’s something I’ve passed along ever since. You have to take care of yourself too. ❤️♥ 0source record 6125
Grief comes in waves. Some almost drown you and some are gentle waves. They can happen suddenly without warning or you can see them coming. The is secret is learning how to ride them.♥ 0source record 6164
You’ll grieve for the rest of your life. It’s like the ocean… some moments it ebbs and flows, and other times… you’re literally fighting to keep your head above water…but you just have to keep swimming. And he kind to yourself… you’re now in a body with a mind that is forever changed. ❤️❤️I am sorry you’ve joined the grieving club♥ 0source record 6329

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Images of their own making97 index entriesImages of their own making — 97 records
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What the pattern means: Commenters created backpack, weight, and other personal images for grief that can fade from attention yet still be carried.

What commenters described: Grief is a backpack you will always be wearing. Sometimes you won’t notice it. Sometimes it will be heavy.

Limit: Unfortunately, it still happens. Again, allow the journey to happen. Each loss is its own journey. No one’s grief is the same as the next person or the way we choose to process it. It is for us. We need to understand that love doesn’t leave, it just changes.…

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Unfortunately, it still happens. Again, allow the journey to happen. Each loss is its own journey. No one’s grief is the same as the next person or the way we choose to process it. It is for us. We need to understand that love doesn’t leave, it just changes. Understanding that, gives comfort. But again, it’s how we choose to process it. Not saying it’s not hard no matter what the loss is. A child, a parent, a sibling, family, a best friend. 🌹💜

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Grief is a backpack you will always be wearing. Sometimes you won’t notice it. Sometimes it will be heavy.

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Grief is finally expressing all that unexpressed love.

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I like to think of it as grief is all the rest of your love you still had to give them

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Grief is a backpack you will always be wearing. Sometimes you won’t notice it. Sometimes it will be heavy.♥ 1,695source record 819
Grief is not an event. It’s a processing♥ 5source record 1121
Unfortunately, it still happens. Again, allow the journey to happen. Each loss is its own journey. No one’s grief is the same as the next person or the way we choose to process it. It is for us. We need to understand that love doesn’t leave, it just changes. Understanding that, gives comfort. But again, it’s how we choose to process it. Not saying it’s not hard no matter what the loss is. A child, a parent, a sibling, family, a best friend. 🌹💜♥ 0source record 1125
Sometimes the only way to deal with grief is to just grieve♥ 1source record 1192
Grief is just all the expressed love you didn’t get to share with them, so it’s ok to hold onto the grief…♥ 1source record 1198
grief is like a piece of glass on a beach, the longer it stays there the less rough the edges will become but it will always be there♥ 1source record 1405
Grief is like losing a limb…It’s hard as hell to function but you make it happen♥ 1source record 1407
grief is not something you have to get over, it's something to learn to walk beside and carry with you on the rest of your journey.♥ 1source record 1432
Grief is an oscillating fan. It’ll come in and come out. Just trust when it’s in that it’ll go out again. Use the time grief is present to remember good memories. And then let it go out again.♥ 1source record 1437
Grief is a form of praise. You are praising the wonder of the person you lost and the great pain you are feeling means great love.♥ 1source record 1471
Grief is a testimony of love. Every emotion is valid but don’t ever try to follow them before it’s your natural time.♥ 1source record 1605
Grief is a burden so you remember love.♥ 1source record 1795
Grief is a drug. it feels better than being high, it is the most feel we will ever feel.♥ 1source record 1826
It’s like a large deep sink hole appears in your living room. At first, you’ve never seen it before so you fall right in. You fight every day to get out. It takes forever it seems, but eventually, you get out! The hole is still there, always.. you start to learn it’s there & avoid it some days - but there are days you still fall in. And that’s ok… as long as you still fight to get out… 💔🥺♥ 1source record 1845
Grief is not to be overcome. Grief is to be managed. It is lifelong. This advice softened the expectation I had on myself. 🥺♥ 1source record 1945
Grief is a thief that steals your most valuable treasures.♥ 1source record 2036
I did not receive any good advice. Loved ones just had to be there, not for advice or recommendations. grief is a process that you have to go through. one day a random day it will be easier.♥ 1source record 2099
Grief is selfish. We mourn for ourself, our loved ones are fine.♥ 1source record 2174
Grief hit me like a ton a bricks as I was packing and came across my infant son’s death certificate. It’s been 11 years and it hurts like it did the day I lost him 😢♥ 1source record 2216
Grief is finally expressing all that unexpressed love.♥ 0source record 2238
Grief is due to the love you have for that person. It’s an honor. ❤️🕊️This changed grief for me, I leaned in.♥ 0source record 2243
“Right now the grief is controlling you, in time you control the grief” from my wise college roommate who also lost her dad suddenly. Mine was a heart attack, hers a car accident 💔💔♥ 0source record 2286
time does not fix everything grief is a place to visit not move into♥ 0source record 2293
“To grieve is to carry love beyond loss” and “the magnitude of grief is the magnitude of love” how lucky to experience such love. It doesn’t feel like that in beginning but it helps the process.♥ 0source record 2434
Grief is a need of connection. How do you want to connect?♥ 0source record 2533
It’s like lifting a 200 pound dumbbell at first impossible but you learn to manage♥ 0source record 2656
Grief is unexpressed love. It’s ok to hold on to grief.♥ 0source record 2687
Casually talking to someone who had lost their husband and I says “when he passed over” she lit up like wow he just moved onto the next phase. 😌 She had like a sense of relief.♥ 0source record 2732
Grief is like an eternity of feeling homesick♥ 0source record 2782
Don’t be hard on yourself - Grief is hard, we are harder on ourselves than anyone else, when that happens, ask yourself how you would help a friend through this. Every time I’ve noticed I’m kinder to a friend than I am myself.♥ 0source record 2795
grief is not for dead one only but loss of big support that goes with them,loss of childishness that remaining within me was about to gone,fear of big burden that will bruise my soul forever,fear of incapable of making strong decision like him make mistake,fear of looking tearful innocent eyes he left with me.♥ 0source record 2846
Grief has no time. We all do it differently♥ 0source record 3047
Grief is still having hope and love to give ❤️♥ 0source record 3135
Grief is a side affect of big love♥ 0source record 3243
Grief is an armor we carry for the loved ones we lost. Where it proudly, especially when it’s hard and heavy to carry.♥ 0source record 3360
Grief is a process, but it will never end. I just continue to wait for that magic day.♥ 0source record 3400
“You want a better half, NOT HALF BETTER” - me. I said that quote. And I stuck with it.🥺♥ 0source record 3447
Grief was the loudest silence I ever heard. 😢 It will sneak up when you least expect it too.♥ 0source record 3497
Someone said to me “grief can last a lifetime if you let it”. I replied: “grief is a lifetime.”♥ 0source record 3559
you didn't ask for this deck of cards but sadly it's the hand that was dealt that you have to deal. life is the dealers choice.♥ 0source record 3733
grief is just a expression of love♥ 0source record 3820
Grief is not bound by time♥ 0source record 3829
Grief is continual. Different levels, different stages, different feelings. Sometimes they hit you like a knife in the chest and sometimes it hit you as a half smile and a fond memory.♥ 0source record 3832
Grief is hurt that we cannot express♥ 0source record 3834
Grief is a personal journey, and no two journeys look alike. How you choose to heal and process is yours, and it’s never wrong. May peace find you. 🕊️♥ 0source record 3918
Grief is a place to visit not a place to live♥ 0source record 3923
“Grief is like having a low grade fever all the time”♥ 0source record 4031
Grief has no handbook, do whatever works for you ✨♥ 0source record 4104
Grief is an exquisite emotion. You don’t get this time back.♥ 0source record 4172
Grief is the most loyal of friends.♥ 0source record 4199
This isn't something you'll get over. You'll cross this bridge back and forth for the rest of your life. Some good, some not.♥ 0source record 4229
grief is the deepest form of ❤️love♥ 0source record 4260
to feel grief is to prove there was an existing love♥ 0source record 4271
that grief is a form of love. we have to relearn how to do it. not sure how to prepare for it. my biggest scare.♥ 0source record 4314
Grief is the one thing all humans have in common 💙♥ 0source record 4317
Grief is a whisper in the room, a scent in the air, the warmth of sunshine on your face. It’s the gentle reminder that you are still alive. So, LIVE for those who cannot, until it is your time to be the wind!♥ 0source record 4348
This quote highlights the bittersweet nature of love and loss, suggesting that experiencing grief is a necessary part of appreciating the significance of loved ones. -AI♥ 0source record 4376
Life and Death are lovers. Life sends Death gifts and she keeps them forever.♥ 0source record 4392
Grief is the reminder that you once loved something so great that although gone, it can never be forgotten.♥ 0source record 4405
If grief is absent, so was love. It is memories we wish to keep♥ 0source record 4485
Grief was the only friend I had for a while. Give a piece of yourself to it, it is a debt we all must pay. It makes the room inside of you so that when the long night wanes, you can feel the warmth of the sun on your face and let it fill you back up♥ 0source record 4512
My grief has shown up after 2 years. I kept myself busy until it came crashing through.♥ 0source record 4516
Grief is also taking the best parts of that person, carrying them with you, and passing them to others. That’s how they still live on. 💕♥ 0source record 4546
Grief is all the unexpressed love you didn't get time to share.♥ 0source record 4558
I like to think of it as grief is all the rest of your love you still had to give them♥ 0source record 4595
Grief is the last thing you have when you're hurting. sometimes we dont let's go because we can't. But because we dont want to. And we're not upset because we're grieving. But because we cant find a way to grief and move forward.♥ 0source record 4726
Grief will wait for you…the sooner you accept, the sooner you can appreciate the time you have left.♥ 0source record 4740
The hardest part of grief is that we can’t see them, but they can see us♥ 0source record 4743
It’s ok your journey is different from everyone, grief is the way of mourning a heartbreak! 😢♥ 0source record 4834
Continued grief is all the residual love we were unable to give before they left.♥ 0source record 5012
it never gets easy. treat it like a incurable disease. treat the flare up and the symptoms♥ 0source record 5033
To become best friends with grief; because I’d be walking alongside it for the rest of my earthly life. It’s the only thing that saved me. ♥️♥ 0source record 5036
The box that contains your life has just been dumped on the floor. As you’re picking up, not everything will fit back in that box in the same way now. That’s okay. Not everything deserves to get back in.♥ 0source record 5057
Don’t expect an ending. Grief is a language.♥ 0source record 5092
the hardest thing about grief is living without them. living a life they would be proud of and growing with it. it'll never go away, there will be reminders everywhere you turn.♥ 0source record 5329
Grief is a place to visit not to stay.♥ 0source record 5361
Not what I was told.. but grief is the risk of love.. a risk worth taking!♥ 0source record 5410
Grief is forever. It shows how much love there was.♥ 0source record 5459
grief is not measured by time.♥ 0source record 5517
what hit me was was when a preacher at a friend's funeral said we have more life behind us then we do ahead of us after grieving my mon for 8 years of otsd anxiety and depression it just flipped something in my brain like a lite switch.♥ 0source record 5530
For me, grief is like something I see out of the corner of my eye. But when I turn to look, it’s not there. So it’s constant, but flickering.♥ 0source record 5541
Grief is a never ending cycle that can last as long as I’m breathing. . . it’s mine though and I know it makes me STRONGER!!!♥ 0source record 5550
this is a door we all gotta walk through♥ 0source record 5610
I scrolled for a bit and didn't see this so I want to share. Google the grief box / button. It helped me understand part of it.♥ 0source record 5654
Grief doesn’t knock, it builds a house inside you and moves in. Grief is a house that keeps adding rooms, each and every room is different every single time.♥ 0source record 5685
Grief is like a ball inside you, it bounces around, some days the ball is so large it has no where to go.♥ 0source record 5841
everyone told me they knew how I felt and never came back to check on me or drain the swamp. I used my grief like a capsized canoe, protecting myself in sorrow as is it was my only pocket of air.♥ 0source record 5850
Grief is an amazing teacher and puts things in perspective like nothing else.♥ 0source record 5856
Grief is waking up at 3am in a panic. Knowing that there is an entire world around you but feel so alone…♥ 0source record 5863
Grief will let you enjoy ur day and even that moment but it definitely will be waiting at the door for you 💔♥ 0source record 5925
Grief is in a way a nice reminder that we still remember that loved one and won’t ever forget them so I always welcome the grieving moments ✨🙏♥ 0source record 6018
Grief is the finally stage of love. ✨♥ 0source record 6131
“Grief is just an emotion knocking on the door of memory and asking you to recall something… but by losing them I get to return to the site of their living that I can recall, and that’s celebratory” -Hanif Abdurraquib❤️♥ 0source record 6182
Grief is complicated. It’s not just the person you lost your grieving. It’s the person you were before they died, and everything you planned for with them.♥ 0source record 6238
That grief isn’t a ladder to climb out of, it’s a wheel you’ll always be in some stage of. 💔♥ 0source record 6249
Grief disguises itself in different ways......♥ 0source record 6281
Grief is selfish and it should be.♥ 0source record 6327

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Glitter, scars and holes29 index entriesGlitter, scars and holes — 29 records
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Glitter, scars and holes

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What the pattern means: Glitter, scars, and holes describe a loss that becomes less constantly visible but can reappear through small reminders.

What commenters described: Grief is like glitter. At first, it’s everywhere, but you start to clean it up. Then, you’ll move a sofa one day and find more. It lingers, gets easier, but it’s always there.

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Grief is like glitter. At first, it’s everywhere, but you start to clean it up. Then, you’ll move a sofa one day and find more. It lingers, gets easier, but it’s always there.

source record 537♥ 2,773
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Listen to Glitter by Patrick Droney!!

posted about 48 days after the source♥ 2
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Time does NOT heal wounds. Mind covers it with scar tissue and the pain lesson. - RoseMary Kennedy . Her quote was in my mom’s phone and I found it after she passed away.

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Across 29 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Move memory outside the brain” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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100% agree. And that hole in your heart can feel different on any given day. But it’s always present.♥ 1source record 484
And I would add to this, accept the new you that now has a hole in your heart, the new you who will feel and be different than before.♥ 4source record 520
Grief is like glitter. At first, it’s everywhere, but you start to clean it up. Then, you’ll move a sofa one day and find more. It lingers, gets easier, but it’s always there.♥ 2,773source record 537
Listen to Glitter by Patrick Droney!!♥ 2source record 538
But what if I want and need everything covered in glitter? 🥺♥ 1source record 540
This comment touched my heart. My mom abhorred glitter because it was impossible to clean. I wish she were here so I could share this analogy. It’s so true.♥ 7source record 545
Grief really is like glitter — it sticks with us, shows up when we least expect it, and catches the light in ways that remind us of how deeply we’ve loved.♥ 20source record 548
Glitter never goes away♥ 6source record 550
You will never heal from this you will always have scar tissue on your heart but you will learn to live while it heal it try’s to heal♥ 1source record 1441
Grief is like glitter♥ 1source record 1629
scar*♥ 0source record 1813
the pain is a scar,it will heal,but there will always be a scar.♥ 1source record 1883
This will hurt. but will scar over time♥ 0source record 2489
The pain of losing loved ones is unbearable.It cuts deep like a wound that never heals.. This grief,its changes everything. Life will never be the same 💔♥ 0source record 3059
the brutal truth..that the pain would never go away..but..the scar will not hurt so much as time goes on and your heart heals..but that pain will always be there..(lost my dad in a house fire..watched them pull his body out..my identical twin died as I held her hand..I found my younger sister when she hung herself..and stood with my other younger sister as she took her last breath because she couldn't get the heart transplant she desperately needed..and had to explain to my 4 year old son that his daddy was never coming back home because he was killed in a car accident) so..I'm still here..living...it's gotten easier..I now have 2 grandchildren..and FINALLY remarried my new love after 30 years since my 1st husband passed...it's easier..but pain gets me every so often..bittersweet♥ 0source record 3461
Grief is a souvenir of love. It will always be with you. Sometimes in the moment you might forget you have it and other times you will feel heavy holding it. Time can heal wounds but it can’t heal scars. They are just a reminder of the love you once had. Grief is the reminder that you once loved deeply.♥ 0source record 3999
Grief is Love with nowhere to go. It comes & goes. Wounds heal but scars remain 😩 I'm sorry for ANYONE MISSING A LOVED ONE. it's HARD♥ 0source record 4165
Grief has carved a hole in my heart where all my dead live♥ 0source record 4179
Grief is like a scar. It fades, but it’s always with you. And it’s a reminder because you don’t want their memory to go away. 💔♥ 0source record 4366
Time does NOT heal wounds. Mind covers it with scar tissue and the pain lesson. - RoseMary Kennedy . Her quote was in my mom’s phone and I found it after she passed away.♥ 0source record 4592
I Always said grief leaves a deep dark hole in your heart , I put back in that hole great memories and fill it back up because it can’t take those …🙏🏻♥ 0source record 4879
Grief is like glitter, it’s a million little pieces everywhere and where the pieces of glitter are so are your memories ❤️♥ 0source record 5124
Grief is like split glitter…. All at once it’s there all over the place, you take a few steps. Then all the sudden it appears again out of nowhere. This perfectly describes losing my parents a month apart.♥ 0source record 5532
Grief is a wound that never fully heals🥺🥺♥ 0source record 5577
Grief is like spilt glitter. You get most of it up, but at anytime, a flash catches your eye.♥ 0source record 5953
Someone told me…you learn to live with a hole in your heart. That has stuck with me all these years.♥ 0source record 5965
Nothing cause I’m still grieving. While my mom is still grieving (for the second time for a husband!!), then I’m still grieving with her. A wound healed just for another wound to open up for both of us♥ 0source record 5970
The pain never vanishes, it fades. The scars will always be there. Showing them to people tells the story of your character. Sit in the pain, stand up despite of it. You owe it to yourself, and yourself alone.♥ 0source record 6019
3 things get me through...1 - the quote 'I will endure a lifetime of missing you, for the privilege of loving you.' 2 - the song Glitter by Patrick Demsey. 3 - the audio on here that start with 'No one at the funeral will tell you...'♥ 0source record 6220

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A rock you learn to carry27 index entriesA rock you learn to carry — 27 records
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What the pattern means: The rock or backpack image distinguishes a continuing weight from the changing strength and circumstances of the person carrying it.

What commenters described: That backpack is heavy and nobody else sees it. Nobody understands how heavy really is. You carry it everywhere in silence and even in bed you feel that heaviness that by irony is caused by absence

Limit: Grief is like a rock 🪨 it’s sharp, hard and heavy, that rock unfortunately will remain with you forever but with time and support it gets easier to carry

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Grief is like a rock 🪨 it’s sharp, hard and heavy, that rock unfortunately will remain with you forever but with time and support it gets easier to carry

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That backpack is heavy and nobody else sees it. Nobody understands how heavy really is. You carry it everywhere in silence and even in bed you feel that heaviness that by irony is caused by absence

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My backpack is filled with heavy stones without them 😞

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Grief is like a rock in your pocket. At times you don’t feel it but randomly you remember it’s there

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My backpack is filled with heavy stones without them 😞♥ 0source record 821
That backpack is heavy and nobody else sees it. Nobody understands how heavy really is. You carry it everywhere in silence and even in bed you feel that heaviness that by irony is caused by absence♥ 4source record 823
Yes. My mom died in her sleep on july 4th. Tears as soon as i wake up & throughout the day the backpack is there & heavy & some brief moments it’s not.♥ 3source record 827
You will always carry those rocks in your pocket… but with time, it gets lighter.♥ 2source record 1461
Grief is like you’re carrying a rock in your pocket it’s always there and never gets lighter you just learn how to carry it with you.♥ 1source record 1708
Grief is like carrying a rock in your pocket for the rest of your life. At first it feels very heavy and you always notice it, as time goes by it's still there but gets easier to carry.♥ 1source record 1798
I have always said it's like a brick on your chest, as time goes on the brick gets lighter❤️❤️🥰🥰♥ 1source record 2102
I watched a video that visualized this big boulder on this persons shoulders. And as time went on, the boulder was easier to carry because the person grew stronger. And as they grew stronger, the boulder got smaller and smaller until the person put it in their pocket. It symbolizes how grief never goes away, we just get stronger. And also how we’re always going to be holding on to it because it’s always with us. We just get better at carrying it. 🫶♥ 0source record 2549
I can’t remember where I heard this but it stuck with me “ grief is like a stone in your pocket, it is so heavy for so long but eventually you get used to the feeling of it and then you accept that it’s a part of you.”♥ 0source record 2572
Grief is like a rock you carry in your pocket . The rock never changes size, but you will continue to grow carrying it with you always and it gets a little easier to carry.♥ 0source record 2745
Grief is like putting a rock in your pocket. At first it feels like a lot to carry, but over time it feels a little lighter. The grief hasn't changed, its still there in your pocket, but you've become stronger. You will always feel that weight but it wont be as much to bare over time.♥ 0source record 2810
The Weight of grief never gets lighter, it’s like a rock you have in your pocket, weights always there and always the same. You just get stronger at carrying it around with you.♥ 0source record 2963
Grief never goes away. It starts out as a boulder in a backpack, heavy and daunting. But, over time it becomes a pebble in your back pocket.♥ 0source record 3231
Grief is like a stone. You carry it in your pocket. At first it’s very heavy. As time goes on the stone doesn’t get lighter. You just get stronger. You’ll always carry the weight of it you’ll just physically get stronger from it 🫶🏻♥ 0source record 3253
Grief is like a rock 🪨 it’s sharp, hard and heavy, that rock unfortunately will remain with you forever but with time and support it gets easier to carry♥ 0source record 3263
Grief is like a big rock in your pocket. It’s heavy and it’ll never not be heavy, but you eventually learned to carry it better.♥ 0source record 3304
Grief is like a stone. When it’s heavy feels like it’s crushing you. As time passes it becomes smaller & can fit in your pocket. It will always be with you but becomes easier to carry.♥ 0source record 3496
Grief is like carrying a backpack with you everyday, sometimes it’s empty and easy to carry and sometimes it’s full and heavy to carry 🥲♥ 0source record 3501
Grief is like a brick in your pocket at first it’s very heavy, but eventually you get used to the weight and carry it with you. It will always be there. It will just seem less heavy. 🧱♥ 0source record 3681
Grief is like a rock in your pocket, at first it’s really heavy but eventually you build the strength to carry it everyday.♥ 0source record 4250
Think of your grief like a rock you have picked up & put in your pocket. You touch it & it's sharp, jagged, & painful. You keep touching it because it's there, with you, all the time. Eventually, you may notice the edges are less sharp than they were when you first got the rock. One day, you will feel the rock, but it will be smooth because you have been feeling it for such a long time that now it is heavy, but not as cutting as it was in the beginning.♥ 0source record 4291
Grief is like always carrying a heavy stone in your pocket. It never goes away, but overtime…you get stronger by carrying it.♥ 0source record 4394
Grief is like a rock in your pocket. At times you don’t feel it but randomly you remember it’s there♥ 0source record 4609
Grief is a backpack that once you put on you can never take it off. Some days it’s heavy & it feels like you can’t keep going and other days it feels lighter & you feel stronger. But you can never put it down. Some people get handed their backpack really young to carry, some are lucky to get it later in life. Regardless we will all carry grief.♥ 0source record 4993
It’s like that backpack you have on, you need it now, you’ll learn to carry it’s weight and you’ll never be able to fully put it down, but you’ll learn to live with it.♥ 0source record 5718
It's like you have this heavy rock in your pocket, over the years you get stronger at carrying it, but the rock remains heavy. You just get better at holding it. I say this floss brush shower I have terminal cancer and all I care about is my wife having to move on. 😔♥ 0source record 6005
someone told me, you now have an empty void in the garden of your life. you will never fill the void, no matter how hard you try. so instead put that energy into planting flowers around it and visiting it every now and then. your life expands around it and it becomes part of the beautiful scenery. another person told me my grief will be a backpack i carry the rest of my life, and it weighs the same the whole journey, i’ll just have some days where i’m extra tired and it will feel heavy and i’ll need to lay down and rest, and some days i’ll be extra excited by certain things ahead and it won’t feel as heavy… but i’m always carrying it.♥ 0source record 6311

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Grief the visitor, and the club nobody joins25 index entriesGrief the visitor, and the club nobody joins — 25 records
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Grief the visitor, and the club nobody joins

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What the pattern means: These metaphors personify grief as an unwelcome visitor or shared club, emphasizing recognition rather than voluntary membership.

What commenters described: Not so much that I’ve been given but I’ve had to grow to understand. Grief is a friend. And she arrives when you’ve got laundry piling up, three things on the stove, people to see and places to go. But when she knocks we have to let her in. Make her tea.…

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Not so much that I’ve been given but I’ve had to grow to understand. Grief is a friend. And she arrives when you’ve got laundry piling up, three things on the stove, people to see and places to go. But when she knocks we have to let her in. Make her tea. Treat her like a friend we’ve known since childhood. Brush her hair, kiss her tears away, help her feel seen. Love her. And when she’s ready to go, hug her. Tell her you’ll be ready when she comes back, that she’s always welcome. Tell her it’s okay to need to be felt. Kiss her forehead and let her go. And never, ever hate yourself for being scared to let her in. She will always return, darling. We have to learn how to love her when she does. Or we will lose ourselves.

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I lost my dad too. #deaddadsclub - one of the worst clubs to be a part of 🥀

posted about 41 days after the source♥ 1
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." grief is a living thing, it visits at random. you can't schedule it. I tried to work it away, I tried to drink it away, I booked myself like crazy and all it did was wait for me to finish. so when it shows up , however it shows up, let it show up." - Tyler Perry

posted about 40.0 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 25 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Remove a step” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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0.4%of the complete index
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Not so much that I’ve been given but I’ve had to grow to understand. Grief is a friend. And she arrives when you’ve got laundry piling up, three things on the stove, people to see and places to go. But when she knocks we have to let her in. Make her tea. Treat her like a friend we’ve known since childhood. Brush her hair, kiss her tears away, help her feel seen. Love her. And when she’s ready to go, hug her. Tell her you’ll be ready when she comes back, that she’s always welcome. Tell her it’s okay to need to be felt. Kiss her forehead and let her go. And never, ever hate yourself for being scared to let her in. She will always return, darling. We have to learn how to love her when she does. Or we will lose ourselves.♥ 16,076source record 0
I lost my dad too. #deaddadsclub - one of the worst clubs to be a part of 🥀♥ 1source record 653
Me too… 💔. Horrible club♥ 2source record 779
I am very sorry for your loss as well. Not the club I wanted to join, but here we are😬♥ 1source record 897
Don’t fight it, welcome it as a friend.♥ 1source record 1915
I had to learn to navigate grief alone because generation of abuse and grief and abandonment of self and others forced me to choose myself or choose the path of my family. Because of it I’m the only one who made it out alive and navigating the grief of being the only one left…you don’t come out of that the same as you entered. Grief is a feral beast and a friend. You have to let her in and listen to her then wail with her. And here is my truth, nothing is the same after grief visits. It simply can’t be. And you will learn to live with spaces that share sorrow and joy when those spaces only held joy or numbness before. Nothing is ever the same again. But if you let her visit instead of ignoring her calls, you will get to the part where nothing is the same but you can see that it doesn’t mean it’s all bad all the time. Grief will show you that you can be transmuted and grow to eventually visit with grief like an old friend, sharing the most tender and painful parts and honoring their spaces. That practice becomes more familiar, even fulfilling. It becomes holy. Where you felt alone and lost before you will find spaces of peace and clarity. It becomes an invitation to see and connect beyond yourself and for me, a friend that helped me build a blueprint for connection when I had only known scarcity in connection. Nothing is ever the same again after grief, it’s just different. Your normal is different. You walk, live, think, talk, and breathe differently. With more understanding. A better connection to purpose and passion. And you do leave banged up. Because navigating grief makes you more tender. Wiser. Forces you to see spaces where only black and white or either or existed before. You expand when you were sure you would crush from the weight of grief before. You become a truth teller. You don’t pad the fall of those grieving anymore because grief makes you uncomfortable. You sit in dark spaces with people with a steady light because you will be damned if they go at it alone like you had to. Because you don’t fully get to those things without first meeting grief.♥ 1source record 2033
For me personally grief greets me as an old friend.♥ 1source record 2134
my daughter calls it "sneaky grief" when it rears it's head & knocks you down ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 2456
Losing your mom is like joining a club you never asked to be apart of. And a person can empathize as much as humanly possible but until they lose their mom they will never understand♥ 0source record 2751
He said “I know it’s hard to believe now but eventually the grief becomes like a friend, because it’s your connection to them now.”♥ 0source record 2898
welcome to the club. you’re not in it, until you’re in it. - there’s a community out there who feels the same way.♥ 0source record 3221
Sit with grief and ask it what it needs to be free ❤️♥ 0source record 3344
I was just a kid and my coach said, “allison, just because your world has stopped, doesn’t mean the world stopped” he had lost his mom over Christmas break too. And we just made space for each other in a world that kept on moving. It wasn’t easy, it wasn’t fair. That was almost 24 years ago… and I treat grief like an old friend now because it’s all I have left of her. And I’m grateful.♥ 0source record 3475
Remember that *emotions are just visitors* and grief becomes a more familiar visitor after you lose something special.. Let it visit & let it go, just know it will eventually be back.♥ 0source record 3568
That it gets easier not because you care less but because you learn to hold the grief and embrace it almost like an old friend who is taking care of those you love. Me remembering and missing them means they aren’t gone. As long as I speak of them, they’re still around and here.♥ 0source record 3587
My husband knelt in front of a high speed train the day before school started; he was a beloved teacher and coach. I lived in my grief but am only an occasional visitor now.♥ 0source record 3723
Be gentle, loving and tender. Talk to grief as if it were a smaller version of you. Compassion will then arise. ❤️🙏♥ 0source record 3960
with time, im learning that grief evolves, you grow, and your relationship with it changes. sometimes its overwhelming, sometimes it’s a familiar old friend, and sometimes all of that grief reminds you how much you loved, or were loved.♥ 0source record 4176
." grief is a living thing, it visits at random. you can't schedule it. I tried to work it away, I tried to drink it away, I booked myself like crazy and all it did was wait for me to finish. so when it shows up , however it shows up, let it show up." - Tyler Perry♥ 0source record 4305
Grief is unforgiving, grief is a friend, grief is reminder, grief doesn't discriminate, but for me, grief is always welcomed.♥ 0source record 4995
Grief visits you. A holy, grateful moment in time.♥ 0source record 5097
Grief is like an old friend. And he doesn’t show up when it’s convenient. He knocks when you’re knee-deep in work, when your phone’s blowing up, when the game’s on, when the garage is a mess and you’ve got ten errands to run. But when he knocks—you have to open the door. Sit with him. Crack a beer. Let him say what he needs to say. Don’t rush him. Don’t shove him aside like some unwanted guest. He’s the friend who’s seen you through more than anyone knows. Let him rant, let him cry, let him sit in silence next to you. You don’t have to fix it. Just be there. And when he stands to leave, walk him to the door. Tell him he’s welcome back when he needs to come. Tell him it’s okay to show up unannounced. Because the truth is—he always will. Don’t beat yourself up for flinching when you hear his knock. Just remember: the better we learn to sit with him, the less likely we are to lose ourselves when he returns.♥ 0source record 5489
Dear comment section. Thank you. I’m four years into my grief and while I can move through my days, most days, without tears or pain, when it hits, it HITS. I needed to read this comment section and I’m saving this post so I can revisit it whenever I feel really really alone and needing my mom and dad. I’m so sorry you all are hurting too, this is one club I never wanted to be part of.♥ 0source record 6083
Grief will live with you forever and whenever a new grief visits all the grief gets together and has a party.♥ 0source record 6194
The feeling it doesn’t go away, you learn to cope with it but the feeling doesn’t go away. You joined the dead parents club, no one wants to be a member, it sucks,♥ 0source record 6302

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The ball in the box24 index entriesThe ball in the box — 24 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: The ball in the box

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The ball in the box

24 source records

Appears when: The ball in the box

What the pattern means: The ball-in-the-box analogy describes reminders striking a pain point less predictably over time while remaining capable of a sudden impact.

What commenters described: Grief is like a box with a ball and a buzzer inside. In the beginning, the ball is huge — it hits the buzzer constantly, and the pain feels overwhelming. Over time, the ball shrinks, and it hits the buzzer less often. But sometimes, out of nowhere,…

Limit: Grief is like a box with a small button on the inside. There is a ball in the box. When the grief is largest, the ball is massive. It hits that sadness button over and over and over, with no warning. It takes very little effort for the button to get tripped.…

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Grief is like a box with a small button on the inside. There is a ball in the box. When the grief is largest, the ball is massive. It hits that sadness button over and over and over, with no warning. It takes very little effort for the button to get tripped. As the event becomes our past, the ball shrinks and the button is hit less and less. The ball never goes away, but the pain can lessen until that button gets hit, but we start to recover better.

source record 6160♥ 0

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Grief is like a box with a ball and a buzzer inside. In the beginning, the ball is huge — it hits the buzzer constantly, and the pain feels overwhelming. Over time, the ball shrinks, and it hits the buzzer less often. But sometimes, out of nowhere, it still does — and all the emotions come rushing back. That’s normal. It never fully goes away, because grief is really just love with nowhere to go.

source record 1113♥ 8
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look up the ball in the box. ❤️it explains grief so well

posted about 54 days after the source♥ 0
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the button and the ball of grief. YouTube has a video. when grief hits me I say it looks like the ball hit the button again.

posted about 35.9 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 24 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

24index entries
24distinct source records
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0.4%of the complete index
24top-level comments
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Browse the original comments24 preserved records · 24 of 24 source records accounted for
Grief is like a box with a ball and a buzzer inside. In the beginning, the ball is huge — it hits the buzzer constantly, and the pain feels overwhelming. Over time, the ball shrinks, and it hits the buzzer less often. But sometimes, out of nowhere, it still does — and all the emotions come rushing back. That’s normal. It never fully goes away, because grief is really just love with nowhere to go.♥ 8source record 1113
After my dad passed a few months ago my friend said “Think of a big ball inside of a box. Every time the ball hits the wall, you feel hurt and pain. On the first day of losing someone, the ball is huge and takes up the entire box, the ball hit almost every second of the day. But as time goes by, the ball slowly will start to shrink, and it will hit the walls less frequently. And the thing with loss is the ball never goes away it will always hit sometimes. But I promise the ball will get smaller. I’m sorry right now that the ball is really big. It must hurt so much. You are loved and we will take care of you when you come home.” I bawled reading it but for some reason felt comforting…and after almost 9 months of not having my dad I can say the ball still hits the walls but it’s def gotten smaller ♥️♥ 0source record 1265
The grief ball in a box♥ 1source record 1722
That grief is like a ball in a box with a pain button. Some days the ball takes up the whole box and you physically hurt so much from the grief, but then there will be days where the ball is small and doesn’t touch the pain button as much if at all. It doesn’t mean the grief went away because it never will. It just means that there will be times that it doesn’t hurt as much.♥ 1source record 1789
look up the ball in the box. ❤️it explains grief so well♥ 0source record 2240
Look up the “ball in a box” analogy. Helped me a lot after losing my parents 6 months apart.♥ 0source record 2380
Something I always think of is someone told me that grief is like a big ball in a small box. The ball hits the walls of the box with great force and after some time the ball stays the same size but your box gets bigger. The ball is still hitting the walls but with less force.♥ 0source record 3048
The grief ball theory. Imagine a box, and your grief is a large red ball inside the box. At first, that ball is so large that it fills the box. But, over time, that ball shrinks. It bounces around, and never really leaves the box, but it does get smaller and smaller, and the bounces inside the box don't hit the sides as easily or often over time.♥ 0source record 3269
The balloon inIn my life sometimes I wish I caught you the box theory is spot on. The grief is always there & certain things will trigger it you’d never imagine. I’ve been grieving for 32yrs-it gets different but never goes away♥ 0source record 3341
The ball in the box was helpful for me.♥ 0source record 3357
I like the idea of a grief box. When it’s fresh, the box is small and the box is bopping around hitting the trigger points. As time goes on the ball stays the same size, the triggers stay the same, but the box gets bigger. So the things that the ball used to trigger don’t do that as much. When they do, the pain is so real, but there is much more in between.♥ 0source record 3499
The ball in the box theory. Saved me from the absolute depths of depression.♥ 0source record 3696
The ball in the box analogy 🙏🏻♥ 0source record 3778
The way out is through… the process is important, it’s sacred. [link removed]♥ 0source record 4188
Grief is like a ball in a box. Sometimes it touches one corner. Sometimes all 4. Either way, it’s always there. Big or small.♥ 0source record 4597
the button and the ball of grief. YouTube has a video. when grief hits me I say it looks like the ball hit the button again.♥ 0source record 4625
It's like a box with a button on the wall, and a ball bouncing around that box. Every time the button gets pressed, that is your grief and everything that comes with it hitting you. When you first experience loss, the ball is huge and will hit that button A LOT. Over time the ball gets smaller...but it still bounces. Happiness keeps the ball small. Some days though...the ball grows and will hit the button more. Idk why, but this has always kept me calmer during an episode of grieving. It's stuck with me and on my bad days I'll mentally be like "damn, the ball is huge today" and it helps. I've lost a lot of close family (including my parents) and pets so idk...hope it helps someone else 🖤♥ 0source record 4758
the ball in a box theory. some days are harder than others, and that's okay.♥ 0source record 4765
Just Feel the feels, all of them. They come like waves, overwhelming, so ride those waves (cry, howl at the void, journal, talk to anyone who will listen). Then notice that the wave passes, you remain. Look up the Ball in the Box theory.♥ 0source record 4831
Grief is like a ball in a box. Every time it hits a wall, it’s just as painful as before. The box will get bigger over time, but the ball still hits the wall sometimes. You have to face and feel it when it does.♥ 0source record 4871
Learning about “the ball and the box” helped me immensely♥ 0source record 5060
Grief button and a ball in a small box. New grief the box is small and the ball bounces around a lot, hitting the button over and over. As time goes on the box gets bigger. It still hurts when the ball hits the button, but because the box is bigger the ball takes longer before it hits.♥ 0source record 5306
my friend told me grief is like a large ball inside a small box at first. you will feel it hit against the box a lot at first but as you go through life the box, your life and experiences gets bigger and bigger and the ball can't hit the sides of the box as much anymore. you will feel from time to time but the time I. between becomes longer so you can enjoy your new experiences more♥ 0source record 5437
Grief is like a box with a small button on the inside. There is a ball in the box. When the grief is largest, the ball is massive. It hits that sadness button over and over and over, with no warning. It takes very little effort for the button to get tripped. As the event becomes our past, the ball shrinks and the button is hit less and less. The ball never goes away, but the pain can lessen until that button gets hit, but we start to recover better.♥ 0source record 6160

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Grace, and one day at a time411 records · 3 sub-topicsGrace, and one day at a time — 411 records
Keep going — this too shall pass189 index entriesKeep going — this too shall pass — 189 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Keep going — this too shall pass

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Keep going — this too shall pass

189 source records

Appears when: Keep going — this too shall pass

What the pattern means: This phrase offered commenters a short reminder that an overwhelming moment is not identical to every future moment.

What commenters described: This to shall pass....everything u feel good and bad Wil pass time changes u nothing stays the same

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This to shall pass....everything u feel good and bad Wil pass time changes u nothing stays the same

source record 1137♥ 5
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As hard as it is you still have. to get and go

posted about 57 days after the source♥ 0
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‘Keep living the life she would want me to live’ I have tried my best but life has gotten the best of me… but I promise I will keep trying sis❤️

posted about 35.1 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 189 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Use a sensory reset” (5 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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185top-level comments
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This. This is what I tell myself to carry on when I don’t want to anymore…♥ 0source record 388
You are not alone! I have to remind myself of this EVERYDAY because EVERYDAY since losing the love of my life, I’ve been fighting for my existence!♥ 2source record 389
you’re not alone. ♥️♥ 0source record 513
My daughter died in September- there is no such thing as getting over it. You learn how to survive it. That’s all we can do. Keep moving every single day and we will see our babies again someday ❤️♥ 2source record 811
This to shall pass....everything u feel good and bad Wil pass time changes u nothing stays the same♥ 5source record 1137
it’s just a phase it’ll pass♥ 1source record 1163
You’re not hurt… You’re HEALING!! Read that a million more times! Your subconscious believes what you speak! You’re healing and this is a chapter. Your story has so much more!! ❤️❤️♥ 1source record 1168
When you realise you have completely hit rock bottom, you can only go up from that place.♥ 0source record 1283
Grief will change your address book. And that’s ok. In fact it’s a blessing.♥ 2source record 1378
Keep going.♥ 2source record 1379
life has phases. some are good and some you have to get through.♥ 2source record 1380
It’s okay to howl at the moon♥ 1source record 1389
People die everyday B ! You’ll be aight !♥ 1source record 1448
I still have yet the opportunity to. Both my parents died last year and I’m starting to feel like my body is shutting down. But I have to keep going , for my family, yet so broken♥ 3source record 1463
Ok now where are you going to place all that love? ❤️♥ 2source record 1468
It can only get better after it’s gotten worse, I promise 🤞♥ 1source record 1474
You can’t save everyone Ashley…and that’s okay♥ 1source record 1478
Keep it together and be strong for your family .♥ 1source record 1505
We are all suffers of the same pain be kind to each other 🩵 I lost my mum to leukaemia end of may 😓♥ 1source record 1528
None…I’m the guy…our option is to stay strong or have it thrown back in our face.♥ 1source record 1543
it is what it is♥ 1source record 1549
You DO. NOT. have to be strong.♥ 1source record 1608
Life’s a bitch but you deal with her. Loss 1 of three close friends♥ 1source record 1696
its gonna hurt like hell, but keep moving, your children need you♥ 1source record 1707
It will get better.♥ 1source record 1727
20 years has passed and I grown . I don’t have to prove that.♥ 1source record 1764
Walking wounded hurts, but moving forward heals.♥ 1source record 1781
Me I said to myself they loved you so much and will always be there but at a distance that is so close yet you can’t touch it. But you will go on you will miss them and that’s ok♥ 1source record 1808
this too shall pass♥ 1source record 1825
I lost my first son at 17, I didn’t have the love of he’s dad, I had no good advice, I had no mental help, I had nothing. I had to keep living just like everyone else was♥ 1source record 1874
You have no choice but keep moving forward🙏😇😇😇♥ 1source record 1887
Take care of you, you have to get through this, it will never change but you can’t let it take you out too!♥ 1source record 1888
do whatever it takes to survive♥ 1source record 1910
There is a day in your future where you’re past this. You made it through this and you’re not only okay but you’re thriving. So don’t make any choices that delay you getting to that place by even a moment.♥ 1source record 1912
Keep moving. Keep busy. move through the grief. walk. sweep. shower. whatever you can do during the most painful parts.♥ 1source record 1926
I was told, you have to keep living until you can live again. Simple but it’s true.♥ 1source record 1962
This too shall pass♥ 1source record 1978
when people ask you to do something, just say yes. i keep moving forward.♥ 1source record 1994
Your strong. You will get through this. 💔💔💔 No i just deal with it everyday. Memories run down my face while i drink my morning coffee♥ 1source record 2001
It’s not going to be ok….but imma be here♥ 1source record 2029
Keep moving♥️♥ 1source record 2092
IT WILL GET BETTER, the pain will lessen one day. There IS hope. You WILL want to live again one day. ♥️🙏♥ 1source record 2156
That it’s okay whenever and wherever♥ 1source record 2157
Sometimes its okay to let grief consume you. Even if you only have a few hours or a day. I make time for my grief now instead of running from it. I lost 5 close family members quickly and in succession...I make space for that..and then I get up.♥ 1source record 2196
Breathe. Deep, slow, breathes. Calm the body. Death os hard but you have to keep living.♥ 1source record 2221
As hard as it is you still have. to get and go♥ 0source record 2230
if you can't be strong..eat chillies..for then you have no choice but to be strong 💪😎💯🔥♥ 0source record 2242
Tough times don't last, tough people do♥ 0source record 2244
“Keep going. This pressure will turn you into diamond”. Mom told me after my wife passed away.♥ 0source record 2246
Documentary called Surviving death on Netflix, especially episode 1 changed my life and listening to all the NDEs on YouTube♥ 0source record 2260
You do not have to be strong everyday, every hour.♥ 0source record 2277
Keep going. Sit with your emotions. Take time off work.♥ 0source record 2294
Isolate yourself from anyone who wants something from you until you’re okay.♥ 0source record 2307
Keep going….💗♥ 0source record 2310
you don't have to be strong♥ 0source record 2326
Just remember, this too shall pass. They knew you loved them.♥ 0source record 2334
That healing doesn't mean the grief intensity or ache changes. Healing is finding your new identity without whatever you lost and with the newfound grief.♥ 0source record 2365
this too will pass🙏. I remind myself that whatever I deal with will one day pass♥ 0source record 2394
It’s ok to sit still and pause everything, you just have to be able to push play soon.♥ 0source record 2460
Don’t stress over something you can’t change right now.♥ 0source record 2504
It’s okay to have a good day.♥ 0source record 2514
Fight. Life's a game n either u play IT or IT will play u♥ 0source record 2534
They didn’t go away, they’re just in the other room. Not much has changed.♥ 0source record 2576
You have to learn how to pick up the broken pieces, put them back in place and carry on♥ 0source record 2583
I don’t have anybody to get advice from everybody’s passed away Im the last one left… 2 years today my life changed tremendously♥ 0source record 2650
just keep going. When you are in Hell, you don't stop♥ 0source record 2666
An old man at a store told me. “Just remember kid. Out of anything bad something good will happen.” He was right. I like myself better now and appreciate life.♥ 0source record 2679
don't kys. that's all i got♥ 0source record 2684
This too…shall pass♥ 0source record 2704
It’s okay that you’re not okay♥ 0source record 2760
Just keep living♥ 0source record 2819
I got none, but I'll tell you this, do what you have to do to survive♥ 0source record 2836
It’s an advice I haven given myself…. I rather go through this torment of unbearable pain, eating me from inside out, then to have her in my place… I will create more stories for her, so when my time comes, I’ll be able to share it with her… she loved my adventures.. so I have to keep going. For myself, our daughter, our 2 families. For her. 💔🖤🥰♥ 0source record 2864
It is okay to not feel okay♥ 0source record 2865
"it will pass..." 😥😥♥ 0source record 2887
Honestly, my best friend in the world that was my soul mate died 8 years ago. I’m still going through it, but reading the stormlight archives by Brandon Sanderson has helped me so much. There’s a scene w/ two characters around a fire talking. “You told me it would get worse.” “It will,” wit said. “Then it will get better. Then worse, then better…this is life, and I will not lie by saying everyday is sunshine. But there will be sunshine again, &that is a very different thing to say. That is the truth. I promise you Kaladin, you will be warm again.” That line, you will be warm again, is something I say to myself on those dark days. My bsf was a green lantern fan. He always told me, “in the brightest day and the darkest night, I will be here for you.” I got him as green lantern tattooed on my leg with that quote. All my friends and closest family have passed away, but I find comfort knowing how loved I was. I raise my kids w/ that love they made me feel.♥ 0source record 2915
The only thing that is born so big and gets smaller by time is sadness. it made me believe in "This too shall pass"♥ 0source record 2922
That it will get better…. It does♥ 0source record 2990
“The bravest thing a griever can do is continue to live” this helped me when I wanted to give up♥ 0source record 3029
You will get through it♥ 0source record 3078
Never got great advice from someone else. But soul told me that everything is going to be ok….♥ 0source record 3089
Never move on- move forward!♥ 0source record 3100
You can stay down for a little while, but i want you to keep going even after im gone. You can’t just stay down.♥ 0source record 3110
Endure happiness when things don’t go as planned.♥ 0source record 3129
endure...cause what is coming is worse♥ 0source record 3148
This too shall pass, but only when it’s time for the pass, but just know the pass comes back again . Be ready . It hurts the same but is easier to get passed. It comes back again later. Never is completely gone. LOVE ❤️🦋♥ 0source record 3160
Get up, let’s take a walk. TY momma 🥺♥ 0source record 3173
I told myself learning from others. Get up no one cares. Get up.♥ 0source record 3186
don't give up♥ 0source record 3195
it's always darkest before the dawn♥ 0source record 3208
you will survive this♥ 0source record 3265
Fake the smiles and go on pretending to live. It’ll suck and youll hate it. One day without realizing, the smile will be a genuine. You have to force yourself to move forward even if you can’t fathom living without them - from a friend whose mom died in the towers 💔♥ 0source record 3302
I lost mom ..in 12/2/24. not so much advice given but losing a parent truly changes you.. and forces you to reflect on your life and re-evaluate it♥ 0source record 3450
Keep goin don’t give up set ur heart ablaze if not for u cuz it’s hard but for them n member y ur doin it♥ 0source record 3504
Live for revenge. Worry about the rest later.♥ 0source record 3523
"Bear your suffering responsibly."♥ 0source record 3528
It will get better each day but not easy just a little better each day that goes by. Let your salt take along as it takes.♥ 0source record 3555
Keep breathing.. for someone..♥ 0source record 3556
This was such a kind thing to give to people.♥ 0source record 3570
this too shall pass.♥ 0source record 3599
Learn that the only constant in life is change♥ 0source record 3654
The moments in time they would have filled before they left. The emptiness you are now left with because how can you ever imagine a world without them in it? It’s not even a decision or choice you were able to make. It was so abrupt and sudden that your mind can’t comprehend and your heart can’t endure. The moments solitude are when you feel them, smell them, hear them once more. Grief is absence.♥ 0source record 3689
Tough times don't last... Tough people do...♥ 0source record 3704
Things my mother used to say: Death is part of life, honey. / This too shall pass. / It won’t always feel this way, I promise. Then I grew up and had a daughter and now I find myself saying these same things to her, and I see that it helps just a little. Nowadays, what helps me is just remembering my mother’s voice. It was the sweetest sound in the world and it still comforts me today.♥ 0source record 3716
It’s going to take Herculean strength, and you have it!♥ 0source record 3838
"as long as you are breathing, you will be okay"♥ 0source record 3844
Okay mind games works sometimes but mostly not♥ 0source record 3887
When my uncle died (he was like a 2nd dad to me when my dad treated us like 💩), I was told people’s energy (their aura) spreads in the air and is always protecting and present. No matter where you are, the universe gains a new soul to share that same love back to everyone else. It didn’t make sense to me then, but after life events, I believe it now. Hang on, it WILL get better. ❤️♥ 0source record 3962
“Remember someone out there has it much worse than you right now” sadly it was true and made me realize how much more agony I could be in. Oddly enough it made me grateful.♥ 0source record 4003
Pain will Change u & U will kno what to do when ur ready & u won’t have 2 get anybody’s opinion.♥ 0source record 4022
Your track record of getting through bad days is still 100 percent.♥ 0source record 4036
“A river only flows in one direction, forward.” Keep going!♥ 0source record 4074
Keep pushing. If not for you, for them.♥ 0source record 4079
you will have better memories in a year. just keep going... divorce chronicles♥ 0source record 4123
😎One sticks out, but I am the one that coined it! “This too shall pass and you will smile and belly laugh again, I promise you”😎♥ 0source record 4189
you are stronger than you think and you are not alone♥ 0source record 4192
Thankfully my mom told me “no matter what happens to me, you get to be sad but you have to keep going”♥ 0source record 4214
No matter what you’re going through , there is someone that is asking for one more day .♥ 0source record 4236
“Life goes on” and when you think about it no matter how bad the situation. It does.♥ 0source record 4261
Take them with you. Keep going, keep living but take them with you. Show them, tell them… take them with you♥ 0source record 4294
Keep chin up. Swallow it down.♥ 0source record 4297
It will get better♥ 0source record 4301
Tomorrow will be just a little bit easier to move forward and each day will be just slightly better.♥ 0source record 4321
This too shall pass 😢♥ 0source record 4367
And now we keep going to take care of the living♥ 0source record 4384
It’s ok that you’re not ok.♥ 0source record 4420
I read The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller. I recommend it to anyone dealing with ANY kind of grief.♥ 0source record 4429
It's hard but you're strong enough.♥ 0source record 4488
Just rub some dirt on it🥺💔♥ 0source record 4639
Do what makes you happy. Rot in bed eat … but always always know that this too shall pass and that at one point we need to stand up and do♥ 0source record 4642
‘Keep living the life she would want me to live’ I have tried my best but life has gotten the best of me… but I promise I will keep trying sis❤️♥ 0source record 4697
It’s okay to lose your mind for a while… just come back ❤️♥ 0source record 4710
Keep going no matter what.♥ 0source record 4713
Just putting 1 foot in front of the other is all you can do at the moment. And that’s OK.♥ 0source record 4732
You ARE stronger than you know❤️♥ 0source record 4761
The best advice was that grief is not a ladder, it’s circular its okay to find yourself back in some similar pain but another day, youll move forward♥ 0source record 4789
Wherever you’re at today, is OK♥ 0source record 4850
That it can become addictive and that if you stay in it too long, it will change you to the core.♥ 0source record 4851
you will be okay, eventually. but your grief journey will be very personal and it can look way different than others' but it's ok. you will be okay, eventually 🤕💔❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4869
With Grief you’ll be self destructive. It’s finding the least self destructive things as you move forward.♥ 0source record 4966
Im grieving now. “This to shall pass” it hurts my heart hurts.♥ 0source record 4968
keep moving and make decisions based on the advise you know they would give♥ 0source record 5000
Someone told me, when you’re going through hell, don’t stop, just keep walking.♥ 0source record 5011
It’s a spiral and you may circle back again and again and that’s ok.♥ 0source record 5016
It will get better♥ 0source record 5046
"I've been where you are and I promise it'll be okay. Just wait."♥ 0source record 5077
Someone is suffering more than you at this very moment.♥ 0source record 5175
There is no “getting over it” - your life is now different and you are fundamentally changed. And that’s okay.♥ 0source record 5186
Put your big boy pants on and knock it off♥ 0source record 5227
"DONT LET THE BAD DAYS WIN"♥ 0source record 5238
Hang in there the road will be rough but you will be ok♥ 0source record 5282
It’s never going to be ok. But every day it’s gets a little bit easier.♥ 0source record 5325
It’s not okay and that’s okay too.♥ 0source record 5328
Everything is going to be ok 💓♥ 0source record 5352
It hurts this bad because you experienced something so wonderful - not everyone does. Be grateful for it and cherish it. And whatever you do just keep going 🙏🏼♥ 0source record 5374
Life is obscure. It’s not really what you think it was, and that’s growth.♥ 0source record 5376
remember to keep going even when you dont want to because life doesn't stop just because you lost someone its sad but they wouldn't want you to miss out on life so why should you.♥ 0source record 5415
“ Its okay if all you do is get out of bed that day “♥ 0source record 5442
It will get better 😭♥ 0source record 5471
You're stronger than you think and more loved than you know ❤️♥ 0source record 5485
I gave it to myself. I said Just keep breathing.♥ 0source record 5496
Never ever burn your bridges. Ever.♥ 0source record 5524
I was once told that I was at the beginning of learning how to live in the world without my love. Be brave it will be hard at first, but you’ll be OK.♥ 0source record 5548
“Quit being a bitch and come on!”♥ 0source record 5611
anyone who says "move on forget about the past leave it behind you" does NOT understand what we been thru & that's okay they'll NEVER understand. -another dv survivor.♥ 0source record 5616
Still losing it honestly after my mom passed just month ago they tell be strong my baby’s that she wouldn’t want me be sad but I realy keep going but it like empty shell inside me♥ 0source record 5662
Tomorrow might be a better day. ❤️♥ 0source record 5707
Find humor in everything; including grief♥ 0source record 5735
It will pass but you’ll be forever changed♥ 0source record 5743
This too shall pass ❤️♥ 0source record 5810
its ok to do it my way♥ 0source record 5815
It is always darkest before the dawn♥ 0source record 5825
You have two choices quit or keep going! I refuse to quit after losing my two sons. I keep going in their honor ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 5827
Suck it up, we got work to do♥ 0source record 5864
This too shall pass, over and over by my best friend. She kept me alive most days♥ 0source record 5886
No one gave me any. My mom killed in auto accident when i was 17. What could anyone say, really. But my advise is that you WILL get through it. It took me a solid 5 years before I wasn’t feeling lost and a huge void all the time, but one day I just felt ‘normal’ again. I still think about her every day but I am 100% functional. If I could get there then anyone can.♥ 0source record 5902
Your relationship with the person you love who passed isn’t over, it just changed.♥ 0source record 5992
"It will take time and that's ok. Be mad, sad, all of it. But get through it. Then get up and live the life he wanted you to have."♥ 0source record 6007
It’s ok that you’re not the same, cause you’re NOT the same♥ 0source record 6009
this feeling wont last forever. its just for right now. keep your head up queen.♥ 0source record 6011
4 years ago my mom died suddenly and unexpectedly from a rare type of stroke. My husband had already lost his parents some years back ( they were both elderly and both had dementia dying within a couple of years of each other) so he had gone through the process of losing a parent. And the absolute best thing he did for me, besides just being there, was after I came home from being at the hospital to my mom's funeral to flying to a different state to attend another memorial with my mom's siblings and so many flights and so many tears... when I finally got home I was so mentally and physically exhausted and everything made me cry and I was depressed in a way I was never depressed before. My husband let me have a day of sleep and then he gently and kindly made me get out of bed. I know I'm using words like "made" and "let me." but you have to understand it wasn't ever in a "I have to do what my husband says" type of way. But he also knew that if he let me just stay in bed for weeks on end that would be very bad for my mental health. So he slowly got me out of bed and we'd walk the dog around the block. Small things like that. A quick trip to the grocery store. And I'd cry over olive oil, etc. And he gave me space and time to take a shower. And slowly I got out of the deepness of the depression. I'll always miss my mom, but my hu helped me climb out of the hole before it for too deep. So make yourself walk. Go to the store. You'll cry over nothing. and the world around you will be a blur and you won't understand how they're functioning when the world has ended. But keep getting up and don't let the hole get too big♥ 0source record 6073
Time. Just keep going.♥ 0source record 6095
This to shall pass🙏♥ 0source record 6097
You will think about him every single day and that’s okay because that is what you are supposed to do.♥ 0source record 6107
dont conpare growth day to day compare week to week ❤️♥ 0source record 6122
That’s it’s ok to and for how ever long I need to.♥ 0source record 6247
Grief owes us nothing. It hurts like hell, but it’s ok to move on and live your life. I’m sad everyday, but I also found a sense of peace. I always look for my daughter in everything I do. I know she’s right next to me and telling me how proud she is of me. I know she’s laughing at me when I’m singing in the car..it will be ok.♥ 0source record 6294
You just keep living until you feel alive again♥ 0source record 6315
keep going. your son wants you to be happy.♥ 0source record 6323

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What the pattern means: Giving yourself grace meant lowering expectations, allowing an uneven pace, and avoiding self-judgment about how grief appears.

What commenters described: I lost my dad 2 years ago unexpectedly. Give yourself grace because this next year will be hard. It was one of my hardest years. Grief does not have a timeframe as you are beginning a new chapter, a book that your dad will no longer be in.…

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I lost my dad 2 years ago unexpectedly. Give yourself grace because this next year will be hard. It was one of my hardest years. Grief does not have a timeframe as you are beginning a new chapter, a book that your dad will no longer be in. Make sure you acknowledge your feelings. When I would get easily irritated I knew I needed a good cry. I would sit in my car and play my playlist of songs specifically for that. Monsters by James Blunt was one I played over and over to help when I needed a really good cry. It will get easier but not right now. I still have moments but not as bad as it once was. 🙏🙏

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give yourself time to process and go through the emotions regardless of what anyone tells you. you do you!

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This is the best way it has been described. Being kind to yourself and letting the feelings come as they need to. My grief has been hard to handle, but I've also been loving myself.♥ 0source record 158
I lost my dad 2 years ago unexpectedly. Give yourself grace because this next year will be hard. It was one of my hardest years. Grief does not have a timeframe as you are beginning a new chapter, a book that your dad will no longer be in. Make sure you acknowledge your feelings. When I would get easily irritated I knew I needed a good cry. I would sit in my car and play my playlist of songs specifically for that. Monsters by James Blunt was one I played over and over to help when I needed a really good cry. It will get easier but not right now. I still have moments but not as bad as it once was. 🙏🙏♥ 7source record 683
I 100% know that was the greatest gift they could have asked for. I do miss them both terribly though. 😢♥ 1source record 787
this oddly doesn't make me feel any better with the guilt I got♥ 0source record 789
you have to forgive to be able to heal !! Thats hard though 😢♥ 1source record 1183
No. Is a complete sentence. Give yourself grace💔♥ 1source record 1240
“One day, you will have to learn to forgive yourself. And you will have to learn to forgive him…”♥ 1source record 1497
it’s ok to be selfish, this is the exact time you can say no i need to prioritise myself and people cannot be mad at you for it.♥ 1source record 1516
your in shock, be gentle with yourself♥ 1source record 1535
"You trusted them in life, now you have to trust them that it really was that bad, even though you didn't see it or cannot fathom why."♥ 1source record 1555
Give yourself Grace 💔💔💔♥ 1source record 1579
During grief, 95% of your brain is going towards learning how to live with out your loved one. The rest of the 5% is left to do everyday tasks. Be gentle with yourself.♥ 1source record 1580
Forgive yourself. It’s not your fault. If love could save someone those you care about would live forever♥ 1source record 1593
show the same grace that you show others to yourself♥ 1source record 1600
“There’s a grace in denial. Denial paces things out so we can digest it a little slower” David Kessler said this in regards to grief.♥ 1source record 1627
it's OK to run the dishwasher twice. if it's between a sink of dirty dishes you don't have the will to soak. Just run the washer twice. You make the rules in your story💜♥ 1source record 1695
To treat yourself with grace and it’s ok to let go and cry and be mad.♥ 1source record 1716
To give yourself grace and the opportunity to feel what it must. It will hit in ways you do not expect and to allow it.♥ 1source record 1744
For once give yourself grace 💛♥ 1source record 1791
Well intentioned people will say the craziest things. They haven’t experienced your profound loss, so they will need your grace.♥ 1source record 1819
Forgive yourself♥ 1source record 1830
Give yourself grace♥ 1source record 1939
Give grace to those who “disappear” or say things that are not helpful. They simply don’t understand because they’ve not experienced this level of pain.♥ 1source record 1944
be kinder to yourself and give yourself grace♥ 1source record 1954
everyone's process will look different....but give yourself grace and mercy to grieve and heal properly♥ 1source record 2019
rest and give myself grace♥ 1source record 2098
Give yourself grace♥ 1source record 2103
grief and joy can coincide. it’s okay to be happy sometimes and don’t feel guilty for having a day or two where you’re not feeling the grief in its entirety.♥ 1source record 2171
Be kind to yourself….♥ 0source record 2282
you don't have to brush your hair on extra grief filled days♥ 0source record 2291
He was a grown man. Making grown man decisions and you can’t blame yourself♥ 0source record 2323
Forgive and forget♥ 0source record 2342
To stop yourself, from thinking in a negative way. All the, should have’s, could have’s… you were enough! They loved you ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 2359
Accept it. Forgive yourself. Then forgive others.♥ 0source record 2363
accepting yourself and all your flaws will make life so much easier to live it♥ 0source record 2382
It’s a journey for a lifetime, it contains no steps or end goals, it’s woven into the fibers of who you’re becoming without them here on earth, navigate with grace & peace for yourself. ❤️♥ 0source record 2424
Give yourself grace and allow your heart to grieve.♥ 0source record 2442
‘Allow yourself the grace to get thru this’♥ 0source record 2462
What you did was, is, and will always be enough.♥ 0source record 2467
My ex said to me “everybody is gonna die Dez even you….give him grace to die in peace” I don’t know why but I stopped crying and understood death is a part of life!!!♥ 0source record 2636
Don't worry about greeting people. You don't have to put on a smile or do anything you don't want to do right now.♥ 0source record 2784
Give yourself the same amount of grace you would give to your best friend♥ 0source record 2793
To Be kind to yourself 🥰♥ 0source record 2869
When you finally crack a smile on your face, don’t feel guilty for it! ❤️♥ 0source record 2885
To give myself Grace 👑 Grief is heavy and forever, to find the Grace of it thru the pain is where you will realize the love was just THAT BIG to grieve so Hard 🌈🐾♥ 0source record 2899
Don’t feel guilty about the relief (after taking care of mom with dementia )♥ 0source record 2925
The will to save a life is not the power to stop death♥ 0source record 2926
It’s okay to rest. Always. You don’t need to earn it!♥ 0source record 2955
“He can’t hurt you anymore, he’s gone.”♥ 0source record 3183
Grieving shows in many different ways. You do you.♥ 0source record 3212
work through these four statements: I forgive you please forgive me I miss you I love you♥ 0source record 3241
I wasn’t given a whole lot of advice. But I learned to give myself grace♥ 0source record 3327
It’s different everyday. It’s always there, you will feel guilty for allowing yourself to be happy, but you are allowed to live your life and feel both things.♥ 0source record 3349
stop torturing yourself with what ifs and do not look behind the past is over keep looking forward.♥ 0source record 3490
Life will always take its course, your not to blame for their passing. We all have a purpose and once we fulfill that purpose our time here is no longer, so no matter how much you tell yourself. “If I was there that wouldn’t have happened”. Maybe not the way it did but it still would have took its place. Regardless because when it’s your time, you can’t change it.♥ 0source record 3742
“We never could have imagined how horrible this is, so maybe we just can’t imagine how good it might be again in the future”♥ 0source record 3744
Be kind to yourself 💚♥ 0source record 3748
A Grace Disguised, by Jerry Sittser.♥ 0source record 3751
To give myself grace. I’m so hard on myself always and even grieving I don’t give myself any slack and when a friend told me to give myself grace rn it was like the weight of the world was lifted from my shoulders💚♥ 0source record 3759
That 2 things can be true at once. It’s ok to laugh and smile while also being devastated in grief. There’s no shame or guilt - it does not negate our sadness if we find our smile again.♥ 0source record 3767
Just what I learned myself ! Loss changes your whole outlook on everything! It’s going to take time to heal and each person’s way of dealing with loss is different! You can think your doing so well and then 💥 a song that comes on the radio, holidays without them, the smell of a dish from a recipe they used to cook , a moment in your busy day where you want to pick up the phone and call them then realize you can’t and the grief is back like it was yesterday not almost 4 years! So be kind to yourself in your journey of loss and grief! And remember that time is precious! 🌷♥ 0source record 3774
You can’t manage what you can’t control♥ 0source record 3788
Even if u had saved him THAT day, he would’ve still found another day to do it. It wasn’t ur fault that u didn’t save him♥ 0source record 3808
Be kind to yourself 🥺♥ 0source record 3871
If you don’t want to go somewhere, don’t go. It’s okay to say no. Also, do something that makes you a little happy everyday. Even if it’s just a cup of ur fav coffee.♥ 0source record 3913
There will be days the pain is crippling and on those days be good to yourself.♥ 0source record 3914
“Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.” Grief and joy can be mutually exclusive…do not guilt yourself in grief for still wanting to seek happiness during healing. 🩵♥ 0source record 3969
Grief has taught me more than any high time in my life. Grief took me to the depths of what felt like hell, but the lessons it has taught me I know I could of never learned without grief 😞💕♥ 0source record 4028
You couldn’t have stopped him.♥ 0source record 4040
it's ok to be selfish. ghost everyone if that's what u need!!♥ 0source record 4121
It's ok to smile♥ 0source record 4122
You did the best you could with the knowledge you had♥ 0source record 4158
Can’t say I was given good advice. It all sucked. But I just finally gave me the grace to feel how I felt, to live in that zombie state. I gave grace to everyone else around me, it’s not their fault they don’t get it. Then I remembered my late wife would not want me to waste away in tears. That thought got me up and going again… ❤️‍🔥🕊️✨♥ 0source record 4164
After the last of my father, someone said to me, give yourself some grace and remember they lived a lifetime without you and you haven’t lived a moment without them ❤️♥ 0source record 4228
I’ve suffered great loss over a short period of time- my mom, dad, brother, 2 dogs and my husband, all within 9 months. A half a heart still beats-and to live in grief takes away life and the ability to make precious new memories-which will fill the other half of your heart.Allow yourself grace. You’re going to be okay. 💕♥ 0source record 4273
Try your best to give people grace when they say stupid things. Most people don’t know how to deal with death. Also, give them grace when they ask why you’re still grieving. They don’t mean to hurt your feelings.. they just don’t get it.♥ 0source record 4281
Don't be so hard on yourself. You're still grieving.♥ 0source record 4302
Don’t try to comprehend it♥ 0source record 4308
Give yourself grace in your worst moments, grief is hard, it’s personal, it’s unlike any others and you define it and your journey not how others feel you should ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 4322
Give yourself grace.♥ 0source record 4370
Give yourself grace. And say it again for those in the back.♥ 0source record 4427
give yourself time to process and go through the emotions regardless of what anyone tells you. you do you!♥ 0source record 4440
Be gentle with yourself.♥ 0source record 4576
Give yourself grace - and one day you will just feel so blessed to have had that person in your life for the time you did they were a gift and you were so lucky to get the opportunity to love them ❤️♥ 0source record 4824
Be good to yourself. Breathe. Cry. Remember.♥ 0source record 4856
Give yourself grace♥ 0source record 4892
Be kind to yourself’ treat yourself with real gentleness♥ 0source record 4936
2 years is acute grief. Know you are grieving and give yourself a break. Be kind to yourself and you will be in a stronger state.♥ 0source record 4958
It’s okay to laugh. You’re are just remembering the good time and they wouldn’t want it any other way♥ 0source record 4975
It’s not your fault….♥ 0source record 5039
Give myself grace♥ 0source record 5071
To give myself grace♥ 0source record 5221
no real advice but just try to remember to go easy on yourself. sometimes a shower is a win. sometimes cheese and crackers for dinner is a win. sometimes just washing your face is a win. just remember yourself, eat something brush your hair, wash your ass lol (seriously tho;) honoring yourself is honoring them..♥ 0source record 5229
Give yourself grace. I lost my husband 5 years ago July 19th COVID. I’m still grieving. I have no expectations of being the person I was with him, happy & we had a beautiful relationship. I’m allowing myself to grieve this loss everyday & make no apologies for it. Grief is selfish. You’ll piss people off, I don’t care. For the first time in my life it’s about me.♥ 0source record 5244
Learn to forgive yourself if you didn’t necessarily end in good terms with the deceased. Understand that there are friends who often fight like sisters. Because they are loved by you as a sister and you want what’s best for them. I ended the last conversation I had with both my sister and best friend in a terrible way. That haunted me for so long until someone told me that. Sisters fight all the time.😔😔♥ 0source record 5252
Be kind to yourself♥ 0source record 5277
When you feel you can’t go on or you don’t know how to do this “be kind to yourself “♥ 0source record 5311
Give yourself grace♥ 0source record 5322
While you're showing everyone grace, remember to give yourself some too.♥ 0source record 5372
Healing isn’t like shooting an arrow the road is messy and that’s okay, be gentle with yourself and allow space for yourself to feel.♥ 0source record 5414
Journey of souls helped me with my grief. Give yourself time. Be kind to yourself.♥ 0source record 5479
Give yourself grace. You don’t have to conquer forever all at once. Just the next few seconds at a time will do.♥ 0source record 5486
To be kind to yourself♥ 0source record 5507
This didn't happen to you. It happened to him. Don't forget that♥ 0source record 5603
I lost my daughter and I was told to give myself grace♥ 0source record 5771
I never got great advice but pamper and be kind to yourself whenever you can 💐♥ 0source record 5790
never feel guilty about not sleeping or resting. same thing with getting up at random times of the night. get up n dont feel guilty, sleep when you need to.♥ 0source record 5816
Be kind to yourself. A shower is a success, one day or one minute at a time.♥ 0source record 5852
My friend just lost her sister and she’s had a lot of loss in her life. When I walked into her office she said, “I thought this would be easier.” I said, “It’s never easier because each person will be grieved in their own unique way because you have a different relationship with each person. You have to give yourself the grace to mourn their loss and navigate each grief journey uniquely.”♥ 0source record 5910
Give yourself grace❤️♥ 0source record 5938
Give yourself GRACE!!!!♥ 0source record 6004
If you could’ve helped and/or done something different.. you would’ve..♥ 0source record 6008
grief should never make you feel guilty. take it and move on. its been a long time yet the hurt is like instant. its okay to hurt and remember♥ 0source record 6036
Give yourself grace. Don’t let their death kill u too. Don’t expect anything to be the same♥ 0source record 6081
Grief will change the way it looks often. Sometimes it’s a memory. Sometimes it’s a feeling, a smell, a place, a milestone, a special occasion, a moment they should have experienced with you, or a person they should have met. The only sure things is that it’s always different. If you can accept that, it’ll be less difficult when it shows up in an unexpected way or time. And it’ll be unique to you and that’s ok. But most times, others won’t understand.♥ 0source record 6114
“Easy on the shoulds “ I should be doing this or I should be doing that. We can feel like a real piece of 💩 when we don’t accomplish all the things we “should be doing.” Give your self compassion.♥ 0source record 6129
that it was ok to smile again. I felt so guilty, like everyone was judging me.♥ 0source record 6276
Don’t beat yourself up for feeling conflicted emotions♥ 0source record 6287

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What the pattern means: Second by second my love. Just breathe. Know that he’s with you every moment.

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Limit: Unfortunately it wasn't good advice. But I've learned to take it one day at a time.

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Unfortunately it wasn't good advice. But I've learned to take it one day at a time.

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take it one moment at a time

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Take it day by day and do not try to hold it all in.

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“Breathe. Take one second…then that will turn into a minute..then a day…then weeks…then years.” Still heartbreaking though. Sigh!

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Sending love & light💙💙 one day at a time 🤞🏾♥ 1source record 451
One day at a time ! 🤎🤎♥ 0source record 458
day by day😭😭🙏🏾♥ 7source record 466
One day at a time.. it doesn’t go away we learn to take one step.♥ 0source record 628
Second by second my love. Just breathe. Know that he’s with you every moment.♥ 3source record 643
So sorry for your loss. My mom just passed away on July 2, 2025. I understand exactly how you feel. So many stages of grief. I just take one day at a time, grateful for the memories that I can hold and share.♥ 0source record 761
It's ok, day by day still.He passed here at home in my arms. It's crushing to say the least. You are never ready for something like this.💔♥ 1source record 899
take it day by day or sometimes minute by minute.♥ 1source record 1166
take it one moment at a time♥ 4source record 1203
If you feel like you can’t get through the day focus on the next hour if that’s rough then then next minute.. then if that’s rough focus on one breath at a time♥ 1source record 1222
2 months since my mom passed. Taking it day by day but the road looks long and dark♥ 1source record 1226
Take it one day at a time ❤️❤️❤️♥ 2source record 1344
Take it day by day and do not try to hold it all in.♥ 1source record 1360
“One day at a time”♥ 3source record 1383
“One day at a time… one hour at a time.. one minute at a time”♥ 1source record 1406
Take it sometimes a second at a time♥ 1source record 1508
Take it one hour at a time.♥ 1source record 1534
I tell people the only thing you have to do right now, is breathe♥ 1source record 1607
One day at a time. Don’t punish yourself for grieving. Let grief visit, but don’t let it overstay it’s welcome.♥ 1source record 1619
Take it 15 minutes at a time.♥ 1source record 1691
Forward motion and doing something with my hands. Walking and crocheting have been life savers. Literally. There is nothing anyone can say that helps- just keep putting one foot in front of the other.♥ 1source record 1709
" JUST BREATHE "♥ 1source record 1848
“One breath, one step, repeat.” 💔♥ 1source record 1849
Take it one day at a time… if that’s too much then take it one hour at a time and if that becomes too much then just take it one minute at a time but just keep going ❤️♥ 1source record 1857
Miss them one day at a time- don’t fast forward and feel the thousands of days in the future- that would be crushing♥ 1source record 1862
Each day is a milestone. Take it one moment and feeling at a time.♥ 1source record 1909
Take one day at a time, one hour, even one minute or second at a time if you need to♥ 1source record 1938
One breath at a time one day at a time 🥺♥ 1source record 1965
Take it slow. Nothing happens overnight♥ 1source record 1975
not much, but take it day by day, that helped 0♥ 1source record 2064
I’m still grieving but for me is not to be hard on myself I know it’s hard but I’m trying my best one day at a time.♥ 1source record 2113
take it one day at a time♥ 1source record 2191
Unfortunately it wasn't good advice. But I've learned to take it one day at a time.♥ 1source record 2199
just take it day by day. if you need cry, just cry. and you cry at places you never thought you would.♥ 1source record 2212
Don’t believe the little voice when it tells you to give up. Honor those who have passed and keep going one day at a time♥ 1source record 2222
my dad... 1 second at a time, then 1 minute, then 1 hour, then 2 ,then...then..then and before you know you are doing an hour or a day or a week! your time, your pace! still live by it. 4 years in and still wake up to remember those words♥ 0source record 2301
One day at a time♥ 0source record 2428
One foot in front of the other. If ya know… ya know.♥ 0source record 2498
Go outside every day. Even if it’s for 15 minutes standing on your porch. Connect with nature. I booked an air bnb in the country for 2 nights. It was very healing.♥ 0source record 2560
One day at a time! ✨♥ 0source record 2973
Baby steps.♥ 0source record 2986
“One day at a time “♥ 0source record 3016
Minute by minute. Hour by hour. Day by day. That’s how.♥ 0source record 3046
Take it moment by moment. Not day by day (that’s my own advice. That’s what kept me going)♥ 0source record 3096
Just take each day one day at a time. Just keep on living♥ 0source record 3142
Don't always take a big step. Enjoy the small steps ahead.♥ 0source record 3179
Take it one day at a time. Grief never goes away, you learn to hold it differently.♥ 0source record 3193
Make sure you do 1 good thing for yourself everyday ♥️♥️♥️♥ 0source record 3374
one second, one minute,one hour, one day at a time!♥ 0source record 3419
I don’t know if it’s advice or just what I’ve come to know. Grief isn’t a journey with a beginning and an end. Grief is a state of being, a forest of paths and trails. You will ALWAYS be surrounded by it but sometimes it’s easy to navigate and you are doing well other times it’s dense and dark and you don’t know up from down and down from up and you just have to keep going feel your feels and keep putting one foot in front of the other. It gets a little brighter and you find the path again.♥ 0source record 3486
One step in front of the other, no matter how slow or how small you walk into the future. You can look back on where you traveled from but can also see how far you have gone. ❤️♥ 0source record 3515
Take it one day at a time 😢♥ 0source record 3604
Just breathe♥ 0source record 3666
Just do the next thing..one foot in front of the other♥ 0source record 3725
Just breathe. Some days that’s all I could do.♥ 0source record 3928
I don't think there are really words for the pain of loss and the pain grief brings with it...We can just take it one day at a time 💔♥ 0source record 3948
Some days it's one hour at a time because one day at a time can be too much to think about.♥ 0source record 3982
Thinking about the past breeds depression thinking about the future breeds anxiety take it day by day and If that's too much take it hour by hour.. it was told to me by my mom when I got my diagnosis..♥ 0source record 4202
Day by day, sometimes minute by minute♥ 0source record 4248
just breathe ✨♥ 0source record 4275
Sometimes it’s not taking it day by day, sometimes it’s step by step or even breath by breath.♥ 0source record 4313
One day at a time..♥ 0source record 4437
No advice was received. Understanding and realizing that every individual goes through something at some point. You aren’t special, pick yourself up. Day by day, year by year. You will grow through what you are going through.♥ 0source record 4466
One day at a time♥ 0source record 4472
Breathe. Just breathe!!♥ 0source record 4479
My mother passed in May, then my father in July of the same year (2012). Before he passed he told me to keep going. Put one foot in front of the other, even when you don’t know where you’re going.♥ 0source record 4489
Give yourself something to look forward to everyday. ♥️♥ 0source record 4497
Take it minute by minute, not day by day.♥ 0source record 4575
Just breathe…drink a cup of tea with your new friend.♥ 0source record 4604
I lost my dad in September. I’ve learned to look at grieving as an honor, because I loved him so so deeply. I’m so thankful I have something that hurts this much. Not sure if that makes sense, but that’s how I look at it. Hugs, love 💕day by day. Minute by minute.♥ 0source record 4619
“Breathe. Take one second…then that will turn into a minute..then a day…then weeks…then years.” Still heartbreaking though. Sigh!♥ 0source record 4692
One day at a time is all I can suggest!! Lost both my parents, had 3 major surgeries and ended a 12 year relationship, and started a new job all within 2 years. 💔🙏♥ 0source record 4747
Just breathe♥ 0source record 4775
“You will never have to redo today again “♥ 0source record 4810
Take one day at a time! Feel and process you emotions or they will process you!♥ 0source record 4865
I haven’t ive been dealing with it on my own just take it day by day hits me out of nowhere I break and cry In places I shouldn’t but I do it on my own with my dogs they help.🙏♥ 0source record 4991
Day by day. Hour by hour♥ 0source record 5003
Take it one day one hour one minute at a time♥ 0source record 5048
Just breathe it in - one day you will find it less painful - it will be a long time but one day …♥ 0source record 5067
Just breathe 🙏♥ 0source record 5122
One day at a time!♥ 0source record 5128
One step at a time. Just breathe.♥ 0source record 5207
Just one more day. Just today. It’s only one more. Just stay today.♥ 0source record 5300
Just breathe♥ 0source record 5383
To live moment by moment.♥ 0source record 5443
One day or even one minute at a time if you have too♥ 0source record 5574
The hurt will never go away, you just get stronger. Slowly, one day at a time. Then one day you will be so strong, you will intentionally feel the hurt so you can remember how special that person was to you. So the more you think about them, the longer they will stay with you, even if it hurts at first.♥ 0source record 5582
take one day at a time...and when that's too much, 1 minute at a time 🥹♥ 0source record 5647
I was given so much advice that I forgot them all. So I clung onto what I thought was best, and it was “one day at a time.” Some days were okay, some days were good.. some were terrible and you’re crying in the middle of the grocery store because they finally restocked the item he was waiting for. But I didn’t think about what the future was going to be like. I just focused on getting through each day. I can say I carry the weight today better than I did on Day 1.♥ 0source record 5660
Minute by minute hour by hour day by day♥ 0source record 5699
One second, one minute, one day at a time♥ 0source record 5722
we didn't hold a service, viewing, or funeral for my mom m sister ( their wishes, they shoulda seen us when we were alive, just breathe) and that time directly after their deaths, was far more healing not having to do the "ritual of death" the funeral n all. they simply were cremated, ashes scattered. it was time i felt numb, but a melancholy of peace♥ 0source record 5849
I’ve never received good advice. 9 years after my daughter’s suicide I am not as tender, however i take it day by day. My heart shattered and it will take a lifetime to put it back together. There’s no end to grief, it morphs.♥ 0source record 5897
Take it one day at a time 🥺♥ 0source record 5954
It’s not explainable, there is no answers or relief. Just keep going, sometimes minute by minute. This is a sacred path, painful and brutal but sacred none the less💔✨♥ 0source record 5986
Breathe and don’t read the news♥ 0source record 6022
One day at a time 💕☹️🫶🏻♥ 0source record 6038
Grieve all the stages. Sometimes it is not one day at a time. Sometimes it is moment to moment.♥ 0source record 6065
Take it one day at a time. I heard it a million times but never understood until my sister and mom died. I get it now.♥ 0source record 6184
It’s hard, the hurting never stops! One day at a time! 😔 I miss my mom….♥ 0source record 6253
One day at a time, one meal to the next. Sometimes, one minute at a time. It never gets easier, you just get better at being uncomfortable.♥ 0source record 6257
I had a miscarriage 6 years ago and I still think about my baby every single day. It’s hard and lonely bc no one around me understands what I feel. Take it day by day. It’s all anyone can do. ❤️♥ 0source record 6277
My walks are heavier and slower. But one step at a time, keep looking ahead, don’t stop walking.♥ 0source record 6291
Take everything moment by moment♥ 0source record 6325

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No timeline, no wrong way359 records · 4 sub-topicsNo timeline, no wrong way — 359 records
There's no right or wrong way158 index entriesThere's no right or wrong way — 158 records
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There's no right or wrong way

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Appears when: There's no right or wrong way

What the pattern means: Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel or how long degrees. I’m angry for you that someone would see you in pain and try to add guilt on top of that. Your grief is not keeping him from resting. I’m sorry someone has said such a terrible thing to you.…

What commenters described: Don't let anyone tell you how you should be grieving.

Limit: There is NO wrong in how a family deals. It's their death to cope with and to heal from. Unfortunately we all get that turn.

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There is NO wrong in how a family deals. It's their death to cope with and to heal from. Unfortunately we all get that turn.

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I lost my husband to cancer December of 2023. I’ve learned there’s no road map through grief. It’s different for every individual person and that part made me mad. I wanted a list of things to expect. But it doesn’t work like that. Giving myself grace to accept grief the way it hits me has been the hardest part. And helping my 3 kids navigate their grief the way it hits them. It’s hard, it’s not fun, but I know it’s necessary.

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Don't let anyone tell you how you should be grieving.

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give yourself grace while your grieve. There is no time line on grief, we all grieve differently

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No one will understand what you are going through, nor should you expect them to. That doesn't mean your grief is not real or that you have to hide it.

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That’s their own discomfort with your sadness. And it’s BS. Grieve however you need to. You’re allowed to be sad. It is SO SAD. ❤️🙏♥ 0source record 629
Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel or how long degrees. I’m angry for you that someone would see you in pain and try to add guilt on top of that. Your grief is not keeping him from resting. I’m sorry someone has said such a terrible thing to you. I think people sometimes try to make those of us who are grieving stop because our pain makes them uncomfortable. My grief is not about someone else’s discomfort and yours shouldn’t be either.♥ 5source record 632
I’m getting close to that day & cant imagine your grief❤️♥ 1source record 676
I'm so sorry. People grieve differently. Hope the journey is gentle on you stranger ✨♥ 0source record 710
Don't let anyone tell you how you should be grieving.♥ 1,114source record 832
….or give you an amount of time to grieve. Every person grieves different.♥ 0source record 835
If it works for you, it works for you. No one can tell you otherwise. My deepest condolences ❤️♥ 0source record 915
dont let anyone tell you how to grieve♥ 35source record 1089
honor your grief, it is sacred. it is a testament to the depth of your heart. -jim Carey♥ 5source record 1110
no two people grieve the same way.♥ 2source record 1158
give yourself grace while your grieve. There is no time line on grief, we all grieve differently♥ 1source record 1216
everybody grieves their own way.♥ 0source record 1273
Feel however you are feeling. No one can tell you how long you should grieve or how you should get from day to day. That journey is yours and you should do what you need to do.♥ 1source record 1491
It's yours, submerge yourself in it, no one can take it from you, no one can tell you how long to feel this feeling. 😶‍🌫️♥ 1source record 1596
There is no right way to grieve or a wrong way to grieve. From my father who was a funeral director. He said we will all do it differently…♥ 1source record 1623
Grief looks different for everyone. If you’re “not doing it right” you are.♥ 1source record 1639
it's your grief noone elses♥ 1source record 1657
Don't let anyone tell you how long to grieve. Its a process, not a race.♥ 1source record 1670
There is no right or wrong way to feel the emotions, just give yourself permission to feel them as they come. Some days you will laugh at memories. Other days you will cry because you long for their presence. Whatever the day may bring….let it be.❤️♥ 1source record 1671
Don’t let your grief consume your life♥ 1source record 1687
However you are grieving, your doing it right♥ 1source record 1780
Everyone grieves differently. Just because someone experienced the same loss doesn’t mean you’re at the same place.♥ 1source record 1822
Grief is different for everyone & just because you don’t seem upset about it with an obvious emotion of crying. You are still aloud to grieve how you grieve.♥ 1source record 1833
There are no rules for grieving. This is yours alone. No one can tell you how. No one can tell you how long.♥ 1source record 1884
Grief isn’t one-size-fits-all. There’s no right way to feel or express it. Whether you’re crying uncontrollably, sitting in silence, feeling numb, or even laughing at memories, it’s all valid.♥ 1source record 1885
No one gave me any advice … but what I can tell you is that people will let you down (whether intentional or just bc they don’t know what they don’t know) and a lot of your relationships will end bc of it. It’s hard and maybe not their fault bc everyone grieves differently, but it is a very sad reality of grief. Stick close to the people who don’t let you down and be sure to thank them for the little things they did that comforted you. ❤️♥ 1source record 1925
Everyone grieves differently. Just be there for them.♥ 1source record 1966
serve other people in the midst of your grief. find ways to do things for others and do them. It changed my life♥ 1source record 1968
Honor your grief.♥ 1source record 1990
unless you are hurting yourself or someone else, there is no wrong way to grieve and everyone grieves differently.♥ 1source record 2037
Don’t let anyone steal your grief♥ 1source record 2081
Its okay to be angry and its okay to be sad. you feel however you need to feel. there is no wrong way to grieve. you may be feeling okay later and then it just hits you out of the blue. that's okay too♥ 1source record 2085
"Grieve at your own pace, you don't owe none of us an explanation but we're here for you" My coworkers 🙏♥ 1source record 2087
Do it however you must and even if it’s forever, so is love…✌️✌️✌️♥ 1source record 2144
don’t think your grief will end. It will be there until you die. It may not make you cry but it will be there.♥ 1source record 2177
Everyone grieves differently you do you ❤️Also no big decisions for at least a year ❤️♥ 0source record 2299
Feel it when it comes and don’t be ashamed how it comes. Everyone grieves differently and that’s okay. Just grieve how you need to.♥ 0source record 2304
It’s the hardest thing to go through but there is no right or wrong way to grieve. It will hit one day and not as much the next. It can be silent and can be loud, every day will be different♥ 0source record 2438
It doesn’t matter where you’re at or what’s happening…if you need to cry, laugh, be mad…do it. Do it all. It’s your grief and no one else’s. Walk your grief path however it makes sense to you. ♥️♥️♥ 0source record 2445
Give into the pain so you can really find your way back because you have a choice now, stay here and get sucked in and take everyone who loves you down with you or get back up and prove that death isn’t the end for them OR you♥ 0source record 2595
The longer and harder your grief is the stronger the love was♥ 0source record 2596
grieving doesn't have an expiration date and grief how you want and need to there is no right way to grief a loss.♥ 0source record 2637
Everyone grieves differently and at their own pace. Every time you see, smell, or hear something that reminds you of him, he’s with you. He’s letting you know you’re never alone.♥ 0source record 2659
Be selfish in your grief.♥ 0source record 2703
Everyone grieves differently, make sure u are go through because it won’t help to suppress it♥ 0source record 2794
honor your grief and so they will always be remembered♥ 0source record 2797
Grief is a journey not a destination♥ 0source record 2835
I grieved alone. During Covid. I learned more about myself during that time than I expected. And I learned that you must grieve at your own pace! Don’t let anyone tell you what you’re supposed to feel or do♥ 0source record 2839
There’s no wrong way to feel♥ 0source record 2848
To grieve however I felt like it. No one does it or takes it the same ❤️way♥ 0source record 2873
Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel.♥ 0source record 2968
There are no rules to grief♥ 0source record 2994
Don’t worry about anyone else’s opinion except yours. People are going to judge regardless so do you and see who sticks around.♥ 0source record 2999
Everyone handles death so differently. Don't let anyone tell you how to do it. Its an awful path and many can't handle it.♥ 0source record 3020
My advice to all who grieve... at the very beginning of their loss: "You are responsible for getting your head off the pillow each morning, and putting it down each night. Your grief will come in spurts, focus on the good moments during the day. The hard ones will get less." 💔♥ 0source record 3045
On the days your grief is unbearable, it’s them telling someone about how special you are 💔🥺♥ 0source record 3081
Never take advice. No one knows your grief better than you. Listen to yourself. And find support.♥ 0source record 3083
That there is no right or wrong way to grieve♥ 0source record 3161
Don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve or how long you are supposed to grieve. It’s for you to grieve and heal on your own terms♥ 0source record 3166
Give yourself grace and time to heal in your own way.♥ 0source record 3206
It’s advice I created for myself. Feel what you need to feel and don’t let people tell you how you should feel.♥ 0source record 3211
be gentle with yourself. there is no right way to grief. forget stages. whatever you are feeling, feel it, be in it. if you need someone to lean on, reach out. you don't need to go at this alone. people who truly care for you will show you. those who don't. cut them out, and don't feel guilty. talk about them. if that keeps you here. 💔♥ 0source record 3260
It’s ok to cry. Everyone grieves differently.♥ 0source record 3353
You never move on, you just move forward {with} your grief. But what a tragedy and what an honor to love someone so much that we spend the rest of our lives missing them, each day a little closer to being with them.♥ 0source record 3394
Everyone grieves differently. Your feelings are valid! Do not ever let anyone tell you otherwise;)♥ 0source record 3407
Not something I was told, but something I learned after a lifetime of grieving different losses & traumas: 1. While grief is universal, it is also uniquely personal. Just as (almost) everyone can relate to having hands with five fingers, no one's fingers have the same prints. Everyone experiences grief, and the chemical, physical and emotional parts of it are universal. But no two people experience it or move through it in exactly the same way. 2. You have your own personal grieving pattern, and after going through grief multiple times, that pattern is recognizable. You can learn your own stages of grief & their approximate lengths, what helps you in each stage, & even learn to recognize when you are on the mend (on the way out of your deepest stages of grief). I have different music playlists that are specific to each stage & I never want to listen to them if I'm not in their corresponding stage of grief. When I start listening to specific playlists, I know exactly where I am in my journey. 3. Be with people who can be with you & your pain. People who try to cheer you up quickly or give you platitudes to make you feel better are projecting their own discomfort with your sadness. They want you to feel better bc they want to alleviate their own discomfort from your negative emotions. Be with the friends who are emotionally mature enough to exist in the same space as your pain without becoming victims to their own discomfort. The people who want you to feel better because you've worked through your emotions not bc you've suppressed them. The ones who know to cheer you up when you're wallowing, but to reassure & comfort you in the moments when you are truly hurting.♥ 0source record 3432
Cry if you need to, scream if you want to, there is no rule book in how to grieve♥ 0source record 3440
Just do the next thing… it might be laundry, cooking - a nap. There’s no right way…♥ 0source record 3458
it's okay to lay in bed and cry, it will never go away , the feeling of sorrow. as you live without your person, you will slowy see the beauty of earth and keep yourself grounded. everything you do, feel. it's okay- there is no rule book. People say stupid things but they don't know what to say♥ 0source record 3540
It’s ok to remember who they were and laugh about the good and silly times. Sometimes grief looks like smiling and telling stories instead of crying. Grief doesn’t always look the same. Grieve them in your own way.♥ 0source record 3541
Everyone grieves differently. Don’t look to others to determine how you should feel or act. It’s your own private journey.♥ 0source record 3547
Do whatever the hell you won’t , doesn’t matter what anyone thinks♥ 0source record 3584
Dad had heart attack &died in front of me. Was a teenager. Had panic attacks for weeks afterwards. Oldest brother comforted me & said “he was my dad too”. Made me realize that people grieve differently & he was grieving silently. Panic attacks stopped & we were there for each other, despite the 10 ye age gap. He’s gone now , I miss him terribly♥ 0source record 3596
When my husband died, I tried to help my four teenagers through their grief by trying to make their life as easy as possible. I later realized you can’t prevent someone from grieving. It just has to happen. You have to let the tears flow and go through it at your own pace.♥ 0source record 3694
every1 kept setting times on when grief should be over or wallowing & i was upset by their judgment and a friend said, I knew u together...if u had been ripped in half by a car accident would u expect yourself to be up & walking now or still healing and hurting? stop judging your grief, its your life, not theirs.♥ 0source record 3697
Everyone grieves differently. Don’t let it come between you.♥ 0source record 3702
Grieve at your own pace. Let your partner grieve at their own pace.♥ 0source record 3729
Don’t let man dictate your religion. Everyone grieves differently. It takes zero time to be kind. Everyone has a soul and struggles.♥ 0source record 3746
Everyone does it differently so do whatever you need to do for you to make it through another day♥ 0source record 3893
There’s no template how to grieve just make sure your still here however you need to grieve ❤️♥ 0source record 3930
Own your grief or it will own you♥ 0source record 3939
You have permission to feel however you feel.♥ 0source record 3997
Feel it all. Dont apologize for feeling it. Your grief is yours, no one else’s. There is no wrong or right way to grieve. There is another side of grief, you’ll get there, on your on time. Miss my Mom everyday ♥️♥ 0source record 4001
Never really got good advice. Had to go through it myself. If I’d have to give advice, grief is different for everyone. It is like a rollercoaster of emotions. Some days are bad (the abosulte worst) and other days are better. Some days I feel at peace with it. Then it starts over again. Then I’d be so mad because I was just starting to come to terms with it. Learned that it is OK m to take steps forward and backwards on your grief journey. Something that also helped is to say a happy memory with the person that passed every once in awhile and keep their memory alive. I have kids now and I tell them about their grandmother. Wish they could have met her. ♥️Much love to others out there grieving.♥ 0source record 4058
Everyone grieves differently♥ 0source record 4087
Grief is your own piece of your world. You can listen to stories and adopt what means the most to you. Grieving is its own ghost, it covers you like a vail at the most random times triggered by the smallest things. Embrace those moments because that’s what your person left to you to remember them.♥ 0source record 4137
That there is no right formula to grieve but that you are in the right path when you can be showing self compassion to yourself ❤️♥ 0source record 4184
I can’t give you advice but I learned that not everyone grieves the same and that’s okay.♥ 0source record 4191
Everything grieves differently it’s ok …♥ 0source record 4196
There is NO wrong in how a family deals. It's their death to cope with and to heal from. Unfortunately we all get that turn.♥ 0source record 4223
Everyone grieves differently♥ 0source record 4330
The best advice that I can give… stop fighting your grief. Join it. It’s there for a purpose. It becomes less scary and more natural when you embrace the nature of being human.♥ 0source record 4336
Everyone grieves differently and that can be so weird, isolating, and hard. Just because I lost my father doesn’t mean that anyone else, including my sisters, lost the same thing. Our relationships with him were nuanced and unique and so will be our grief.♥ 0source record 4371
Grief is a journey that you have to travel alone… no one can do it with you or for you. You will process loss in your own way. Avoiding grief or numbing it will only prolong it. Let it out… don’t apologize for grieving.♥ 0source record 4403
“Tell me about him, if you don’t mind? What do you miss most about him?”♥ 0source record 4425
Grieving is different for everyone/especially with a little time. However, I’ll be in the best mood and just hear a song and instantly I’m in tears missing my Dad. I miss him everyday, but sometimes it’s really hits me to my core. He wouldn’t want me to be crying though. Hugs to you! I’ve turned to the best memories and those make me smile 😍♥ 0source record 4432
There is no right way to grieve. Just do what you need to do & trust that you’ll come out on the other side.♥ 0source record 4465
I know you probably feel like you haven’t touched the earth since losing them but Someday you’ll look back at the beginning parts of your grief and be in awe of the beauty of holding that much love for someone can look. Then I wish them peace in their grief. 😔♥ 0source record 4487
Don’t let anyone tell you have to grieve, no person is alike , your feelings matter , don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.♥ 0source record 4606
I got so angry when people would say, it’ll be okay. No. It is not and will never be okay. But you will get through it. Also, everyone grieves in their own way.♥ 0source record 4617
Respect your grief, be OK with being heartbroken, broaden your circle of experiences outside the shadow of your grief.♥ 0source record 4622
The way you feel is normal, it's no one's journey but your own.♥ 0source record 4656
🥺 you're allowed to be as upset as you need to. everyone grieves differently, others more than some. but dont let anyone tell you that you aren't allowed to be so upset.♥ 0source record 4668
No one can tell you how long or have a time frame to grief or to process anyone’s death. & when its too much to bare?! because It will. CALL OUT TO GOD & he will pick you up & comfort you. 100000% TRUE, mom, bro, dad all passed & indeed God picked me up🥹♥ 0source record 4669
No one will understand what you are going through, nor should you expect them to. That doesn't mean your grief is not real or that you have to hide it.♥ 0source record 4681
Some blossoms bloom faster than others♥ 0source record 4753
It’s your grief no one else’s it’s yours do it your way however it feels white and flows wherever it goes it will be with you♥ 0source record 4767
There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Your only job is to survive it.♥ 0source record 4790
Don’t let anyone should you. I here is no right way to do it. You do what you need to do to get through.♥ 0source record 4809
Everyone grieves differently. ❤️♥ 0source record 4838
None. I just wanted to be left alone and people giving me space was what I needed. Everybody grieves differently and some of us just wanna be left alone. I think 🤔 it’s best to just let the person know you love them unconditionally and that you’re there if they need you. Give them the right to decide when they wanna be around people again. 🙏🏻♥ 0source record 4863
The best advice I have given is there is no right or wrong way to grieve.♥ 0source record 4901
We’ll do this together, you will never exhaust me with your grief♥ 0source record 4933
Grief is a baby, you have to nurture your grief throughout all stages of your life♥ 0source record 4959
The length and depth of your grief is NOT a direct reflection of the breadth and depth of your love. Grieving longer and harder does not mean you loved them more and deeper. Do not sell them short by focusing on the day they died and what they brings but rather the WHOLE of their life and impact.♥ 0source record 5045
“Notice the ones that who how up for you in your grief, they have experienced grief too.” It help me to enter into the present moment every now and then and allow people to support me. Made me feel less alone in the depths.♥ 0source record 5117
it's ok to grieve over the loss of yourself when you were in the accident and lost your identity and personality. You lost how to be the person you were. No one told you that? It's true. and it's okay not to feel like you are okay. but you are alive and you can be however you want, there is a start over. if you all of a sudden don't like the same thing as you did before the accident, it's not wrong and just because it's not your typical behaviors no one has the right to tell you that that's not what you were like because guess what...that is who you are now. and they should get use to you learning how to live again. don't let anyone keep you stuck in an identity you grew out of. you transformed.♥ 0source record 5138
Im currently grieving. Everyone grieves differently, has their own time and thats ok. Ive been through all stages of grief and repeat some but this is me pushing through. Losing my mom this year has been one of the hardest moments in my life to push through but Im still here. I love her too much to give up because she wouldnt have wanted that. 😔♥ 0source record 5178
I was told by my Nana who was dying “ My sweetheart, I’m not leaving you, I’m going to build a home for us, so when it’s your turn to go it ready for us to cook and bake here.Remember me every time you bake and cook, you will hear me tell you a little more salt or a little more sugar or a little bite more of this. I will never leave you, as along as you carry me in your heart and in mind. I will love you from above. Plus Don’t cry for me cry for the living cause it how it’s it written in the Bible. Love me and hold me tight always. This was January 1994 and she past June 13, 1994. I wasn’t told until July 1994 due I was pregnant. I recently went to her grave a year ago, and I know she wasnt there but with our Lord. And every time I cook or bake I can feel her and hear her telling me a little bit more or that to much. My best thing is you will find your own way of how to grieve and how to honor your love one by cooking, baking, crafting or anything they loved to do.♥ 0source record 5209
It seems cliche, but “It’s okay to feel sad, no one can tell you how to grieve. But, you can’t get so lost in the sadness that you forget to be the person they saw in you”.♥ 0source record 5272
Grieving is different for every single person but that’s not a reason to take it out on your loved ones still here.♥ 0source record 5279
Everyone grieves differently. You aren’t doing it wrong♥ 0source record 5299
That you have to grieve in your in your own way and your own time… but do it♥ 0source record 5334
The best advice for me was no unsolicited advice. We all grieve differently and I just wanted to be left alone.♥ 0source record 5346
I know people mean well when giving advise; however, nothing given suited my grieving process. Everyone grieves differently. For me, the best thing was no advice, and just give me space to process it.♥ 0source record 5380
There are no rules to grieving .♥ 0source record 5392
As long as you aren’t hurting yourself or someone else there is no wrong way to grieve. There’s also no universal right way either♥ 0source record 5421
be yourself; there's no preparation; no dress rehearsals.♥ 0source record 5460
I lost my husband to cancer December of 2023. I’ve learned there’s no road map through grief. It’s different for every individual person and that part made me mad. I wanted a list of things to expect. But it doesn’t work like that. Giving myself grace to accept grief the way it hits me has been the hardest part. And helping my 3 kids navigate their grief the way it hits them. It’s hard, it’s not fun, but I know it’s necessary.♥ 0source record 5560
No one can tell you how long and when you can and can not grieve. The grief is yours and yours alone, you handle it the way you know how to♥ 0source record 5586
everyone grieve different and that's ok. we are all valid♥ 0source record 5590
Don’t let anyone tell you how long you’re supposed to feel these feelings…….🥺✌️♥ 0source record 5591
Men and women grieve differently. Be kind, still, understanding, and patient with each other.♥ 0source record 5606
Everyone grieves differently. Don’t let anyone tell you when or how is the “right way.”♥ 0source record 5648
You have your own time frame. Cry when you need to, Laugh at the memories. There is no right way to grieve. Remember you are not alone on your grief. ❤️♥ 0source record 5661
unfortunately there is no best thing but what did help was listening to positive music of God and having a moment just yourself with your loved one. bc everyone else grieves differently♥ 0source record 5720
My cousins said “Grieve at your own pace” that has stuck with me for over 2 years now.♥ 0source record 5724
No advice. Everyone grieves in there own way. You can never be too prepared when you loose a loved one. Time,Pain, Grief is always there you just learn in your own way to hold it in. But always think of them & visit them at their resting place & pray for help to console your pain.its been close to a decade & pain don’t go away. Love you alway.❤️♥ 0source record 5744
One last comment…. Something I didn’t know until I had to HEAVILY grieve, is that “Everyone grieves differently!” ❤️I’m so happy someone told me that after I lost my husband, because then I wasn’t worried that I was losing it too much, or maybe even not enough??? I know it sounds crazy to say, but when your in DEEP grief, stupid things like that circle in your mind over and over!!!!😢😢💔💔♥ 0source record 5746
Everyone grieves differently♥ 0source record 5753
everyone grieves at their own pace. its ok to be angry.♥ 0source record 5772
There is no time restriction, everyone processes it differently, there’s no right or wrong way of doing things♥ 0source record 5845
No one can give you advice or help with your grief. Only you can learn from this as a lesson and not grief and move forward😌♥ 0source record 5853
Every individual grieves differently.♥ 0source record 5903
There is no “right” way to grieve…. just your way…♥ 0source record 5918
Grief is your own.♥ 0source record 5952
“Whatever you’re feeling is right”♥ 0source record 5963
Everyone grieves the way their heart wants to. Goes back to the old saying. The heart wants what it wants. Just make sure your heart is full. And spread that love. Even when you’re lonely and missing that person. Today marks 17 years when my dad left me. But I know he’s with me. I miss him dearly. But I know he’s with me. And I’ve gotta spread that love that he couldn’t. 👍👍👍💛💛💛💛♥ 0source record 5993
the best advice was 'I'm here for you'.. I guess it's more of a lesson. nobody stays during grief. they only say they will. then you spend the rest of your grief life alone♥ 0source record 6025
“Grieve at your own pace, and allow yourself to feel all the emotions “ - My beautiful daughter♥ 0source record 6072
Everyone Grieves Differently 🙏💕♥ 0source record 6075
Don’t let anyone tell you how you get to grieve or how long. Come to peace with your grief on your own terms and in time.♥ 0source record 6128
Grieving is different for everyone♥ 0source record 6140
Grieve as long as it keeps you here♥ 0source record 6200
It’s your journey. You’re going to process at your own pace. There are no predetermined milestones. My sweet wife has been gone 4.5 years and I still have long days. There are certain things I haven’t done yet (ie removing her from the deed).♥ 0source record 6212
Everyone grieves differently... and that's okay!♥ 0source record 6246
“Do whatever you need to do. As long as I know you still love me everything will be ok! I got you”♥ 0source record 6289
Still waiting for one… but I do like the advice that everyone grieves differently… and that I can grieve however I want to♥ 0source record 6310

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nobody told me this- I had to learn it on my own; give yourself grace, feel what you need to, grieve as long as you want. there is no timeline. you don't have to follow the stages of grief- they can be out of order. just know that one day, it will get easier. ❤️

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nobody told me this- I had to learn it on my own; give yourself grace, feel what you need to, grieve as long as you want. there is no timeline. you don't have to follow the stages of grief- they can be out of order. just know that one day, it will get easier. ❤️♥ 125source record 861
“Be kind to yourself, do not set timeline.. allow yourself to grief” 🥺♥ 2source record 1373
There is no timeline on grief. Don’t rush through it to convenience/accommodate others.♥ 1source record 1411
It’s ok to greive and don’t care what anyone says. There’s no time limit on hurting when you lose someone, just don’t let it consume you or you could lose your own life.♥ 1source record 1428
Take all of the time you need, there is no timeline when it comes to grief. Also, be still and watch for signs ❤️♥ 1source record 1442
The time you spend without him will just be the tiniest blip in your timeline of eternity together. It’s stuck with me ever since.♥ 1source record 1487
There’s no time limit.♥ 1source record 1552
Invite the Lord into your suffering and do not put a time limit on your healing♥ 1source record 1656
Grief has no timeline. It takes as long as it takes. Ride it out. You have to feel it and experience it. There’s no rushing it. Also, even though it may feel never ending, it will get better. It never fully goes away, but it does get easier to handle.♥ 1source record 1662
Just keep moving! Feel but don’t wallow. There is no time frame, everyone is different♥ 1source record 1674
Grief has no timeline.♥ 1source record 1732
Grieve as long as you need. It has no timeline.♥ 1source record 1787
there's no time limit on grief. if you feel sad, it's OK to cry no matter how long ago it happened.♥ 1source record 1827
Don’t be in a hurry to move on… just wait…this takes awhile, no rush♥ 1source record 1836
There is no timeline for loss, take your time♥ 1source record 1940
There is no timeline to grieve.♥ 1source record 2031
There is no time limit on grief. ♥️♥ 1source record 2058
We are all alone in our grief. Each person’s grief is as unique as a snowflake. However, we are unified by grieving. No one lives long without losing those they love.♥ 1source record 2069
There’s no timeline for grief. It’s endless. Good days and bad days. And that’s ok. Let yourself feel.♥ 1source record 2104
Allow yourself to feel at all. Anger, sadness… don’t give yourself a timeline or try to suppress♥ 1source record 2108
Someone told me there is no right or wrong way to grieve and there is no time limit on it either. Just do what you feel you need to do to remember your loved one and try to remember to not forget yourself in the process.♥ 1source record 2121
1. They are still around. Talk to them. 2. here is no timeframe, everyone experiences it differently.♥ 1source record 2127
There is no time frame for grief. It may take hours, days, weeks, months..... possibly even years. Do the best you can to make it through each day. Crybit out, treat yourself to a good book, coffee- whatever makes you happy. Turn the music full volume in your car and sing out loud. Do whatever it is that you need to do to make it through. Rainbows show up after storms.♥ 1source record 2223
There’s no time limit.♥ 0source record 2341
Grief has no timeline, do what feels right to you.♥ 0source record 2361
Mourn at your own pace. Dont let ppl put a time limit on it. And dont let ppl tell you how to mourn. Just know you will fundamentally change as a person, and that is okay. And it’s okay not to be okay. Give yourself grace♥ 0source record 2413
when my husband passed, I tried to put a timeline on my grief. But truthfully, everyone grieves different. Do not discount the power of a grief counselor. That helped me tremendously.♥ 0source record 2473
There is no timeline, you don’t have to handle it like everyone else.♥ 0source record 2695
Although they aren’t here in this timeline, we still got to be apart of their journey and cross paths. Now they live and move on with you through memories you’ll never forget. It’s best to let them go fully, you wouldn’t want to tie them here to this plane when they could be free in the next.♥ 0source record 2746
Take your time. No time limits. Cry and laugh all you want.♥ 0source record 2879
there was nothing that anyone can say that will change the fact you are grieving.. some might been there, others hasnt felt it. we diffrently goes to all d phases , in our own timeline that ppol around wil never understand 😔♥ 0source record 2972
Grieving has no time limit. But don't bury yourself with that person while doing it. Turn your grief into acceptance. Because that person wouldn't want you to stop living just because they're gone. It's ok to cry. But hang on to the good memories.♥ 0source record 2989
Best advice I was given 🙏🏾 Take Your Time Greif has no timeline’ 🥀💫🕊️♥ 0source record 3002
You do you. No rush. Don't listen to "advice". Do what you must. Try good habits. But again... You do you... To survive♥ 0source record 3009
Grief has no time limit♥ 0source record 3043
that there is no timeline for grieving♥ 0source record 3074
To take Al the time you need. There’s no time limit when it comes to mourning. Make sure to be extra kinder to yourself, ok? 💜♥ 0source record 3204
Just let yourself feel it all! There is no timeline for grief! Grief and happiness can coexist♥ 0source record 3274
There is no exact time frame with grief and each persons experience is personal.♥ 0source record 3286
grief has no time limit♥ 0source record 3333
Grief has no timeline. Allow yourself to feel all of it.♥ 0source record 3337
there is no wrong way to do it and there is no time limit to it♥ 0source record 3368
There is no timeframe. There is no right or wrong. There will be days that you realize you haven't thought of them and there will be days you do nothing BUT think of them. Both are okay.♥ 0source record 3421
There is no timeline. Everyone grieves differently. So go through the motions. Your feelings are valid.♥ 0source record 3435
There’s no wrong way to grieve. Everyone goes through it differently and at their own pace. There is no timeline. Give yourself grace as you get through it, however that may be.♥ 0source record 3564
Grief has no timeline♥ 0source record 3580
There’s nothing worse than when people expect a time limit on grieving. In my experience, I never “get over it“. I’ve simply learned to live with the unbearable. 💔♥ 0source record 3664
There is no timeframe for grief. Yet, please don’t avoid the process. It must happed to fully accept….♥ 0source record 3675
There’s no time limit or rules!! You grieve how you need and want to grieve!♥ 0source record 3683
People don't know what to say. Honestly there's nothing anyone can say when you are broken. Best to be alone and go through it. Accept it. and cry. always cry. release. heal. At your pace and time. There is no time limit on grief.♥ 0source record 3793
Grid doesn't have a timeline. If your sad and miss them feel it. Don't hide it♥ 0source record 3926
it isnt linear and there's no time frame. to me, its a measure of how deeply that person was and still is loved, so I welcome it. how lucky was I to have that person and now hold them in my memories and heart.♥ 0source record 4060
There is NO time frame to stop grieving. Do it as long as needed💕♥ 0source record 4067
It’s ok to feel whatever it is that you feel. There’s no right or wrong to it. There’s no timeline for healing. It looks different and feels different for everyone.♥ 0source record 4107
Everyone grieves in their own way. There’s no right or wrong way, no time limit, and no one can judge. You just take it min by min, hour by hour, day by day and sometimes it never goes away, and guess what? That’s ok ❤️♥ 0source record 4135
I lost my mom five years ago. I’ve learned my grief is my own and it doesn’t have a timeline. Be gentle with yourself when it feels heavy. 🙏❤️♥ 0source record 4139
Something I was told in a grief support group recently is that people won’t understand that this grief and how it impacts your life is on your own personal timeline. There is no set amount of time for us to expect to feel better. Sometimes it’s many months, sometimes it’s many years but we need to easier on ourselves about it.♥ 0source record 4147
Grief doesn’t have a timeline…♥ 0source record 4217
Grief has no expiration date♥ 0source record 4224
There's no "right way" or "right amount of time" to grieve. Everyone experiences it differently and everyone heals differently. Your timeline is yours. Take as much time, time off, aperol spritzes, pedicures, rage rooms, fire pits, or dark rooms in your pj's as you need. Just don't live there.♥ 0source record 4290
“Don’t listen to ANYONE who tries to tell you that you should be okay by now.”♥ 0source record 4390
There is no timeline to greiving. You can be sitting at a table with 6 people and each in different stages of greiving. Let yourself feel what you are feeling don't try to be strong. Let yourself cry when you need to. Also let yourself laugh if a funny memory comes up. Its ok to feel.😥♥ 0source record 4471
There is no timeline to greiving. You can be sitting at a table with 6 people and each in different stages of greiving. Let yourself feel what you are feeling don't try to be strong. let yourself cry whaen you need to. Also let yourself laugh if a funny memory cones up.😥♥ 0source record 4474
"Grief does not have a calendar" 🥺♥ 0source record 4511
Your grief is yours, no rush take all the time you need and I will be here for you, to help you in any way I can even if it just to sit in your silence so you know you are not alone ❤️♥ 0source record 4515
There is no expiration on your grief. No one gets to tell you when you will be “over it”.♥ 0source record 4585
There is no expiration date for grief. It is a process. One day at a time♥ 0source record 4616
That you will be mad when people say they are sorry for your loss… and it’s ok to be mad. How could they be sorry for something they will never understand because everyone’s loss is so uniquely their own. And that one person’s timeline to grieve is not yours and you take the time you want because it’s your grief to travel through and no one else’s.♥ 0source record 4655
Your feelings are valid and there no timeline to process your grief.♥ 0source record 4762
Grief is your own. Your own timeline, your own way to feel and to act. Your grief belongs to you and nobody else♥ 0source record 4779
That there is no right way or wrong way to grief and no time limit.♥ 0source record 4797
I was told there’s no wrong or right way to grieve nor a time limit. I just lost my father nine months ago. Some people have told me you need to get out of bed. You need to do this do that but those are the people that haven’t been in my shoes.♥ 0source record 4806
Grief has no timeline♥ 0source record 4829
Grief doesnt gave a time limit♥ 0source record 4882
There’s no deadline😭❤️♥ 0source record 4930
Grief doesn’t have an exp. date.♥ 0source record 4951
There is no timeline to grief.♥ 0source record 4971
There’s no timeline, this is it. Where your person was, grief replaces them. So it never goes away.♥ 0source record 4996
There is no time limit for grief♥ 0source record 5023
Don't be ashamed to grieve in any way that you feel will be a comfort and help you. Scream when you have to screan. Cry when you have to cry. Stay bed if you need rest. There is no time limit on greif.♥ 0source record 5042
There’s no timeline for grieving. 38 years later still am♥ 0source record 5055
Grieving has no set timeline and is our own to feel. No one can dictate how or what we do/feel and if so....it's time to part ways with that person who is so cold hearted to micromanage our feelings to fit their timeline so that "it can be done with already" if you're with someone who says your taking "too long" to grieve.....that person is lame and selfish af. Feel your feelings and don't let anyone stop you on that grief journey. However long it takes ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 5087
Grief has no expiration date.♥ 0source record 5088
Grief has no time limit, take all the time you need. sending healing love and light from our side of the river 🌿♥ 0source record 5106
There’s no time limit on grief. 😭😭😭♥ 0source record 5118
There is no time limit!!❤️♥ 0source record 5211
Your grief will never end.It’s a constant journey that navigates and evolves, and there is no timeline as the journey becomes more manageable♥ 0source record 5231
Grieving does not know time✨✨✨🥰♥ 0source record 5269
That I should grieve in the best way that fits me. There is no timeframe, there is no one way to make yourself feel better after losing loved ones.♥ 0source record 5338
Be kind to yourself, this is not right timeline♥ 0source record 5342
Grief has no time limit…♥ 0source record 5493
There is no timeline for grieving. You will in fact hit all the known stages of grief. But you will do them in your own order and at your own length of time. Just don’t permanently move in to one of those stages.♥ 0source record 5568
Grieving doesn’t have a timeline. There is not a designated time for your to be “better”.♥ 0source record 5581
There is no time limit for grief. Don’t listen to anyone who tells you to just move on. You can grieve for, however, long you want to, and go through all the feelings you need to go through. Feel all the emotions, shed all the tears, Laugh, and smile at the memories, and keep moving forward. You will miss that person for the rest of your life, and that’s OK. Just know that overtime, the pain does ease. It may not be in a year, it may not be two years, but eventually it won’t be as bad as it is right now.♥ 0source record 5589
There is no time limit on grief.♥ 0source record 5785
There is no time limit 💐♥ 0source record 5870
I was told grief doesn’t have a specific timeline, and only i would know when it felt right to let go of belongings. A used washcloth from her last days is wrapped in the last blanket she used. The sweater she laid her head on that i wore as she died lays ontop of it. I sleep near it every night. Its been a year and i still cry at random times. But i find comfort in what i was told, and that its okay that im not ready yet.♥ 0source record 5926
There are no clocks in heaven/spirit world. They are not waiting on you. The part of you that feels like is gone is with them. They are at their happiest and with those they love. It’s only hard on those still living. It gave me some peace to think and imagine what we would be doing together in that other world. But, every situation is different for everyone. That was just one I can think of that I don’t hear others say much.♥ 0source record 5990
no rush people will try rush your process . but you take all the time you need . that's healing .took me 4 years to heal from losing my husband of 33yr I still cry but then remember good moments ❤️♥ 0source record 6106
There is absolutely no time limit on grief. It may never truly end and that is ok.♥ 0source record 6127
Give yourself the grace to grieve in your own way. There is no time frame on grieving. 🙏🏻♥ 0source record 6139
Grief has no expiration date.♥ 0source record 6185
Not advice but when I lost my dad someone told me “There’s no time limit in Heaven so when he turns around you’ll be there” and that gave me so much comfort… he’ll see me again in the blink of an eye ❤️♥ 0source record 6188
Grieve as long and as hard as you need to. It is no one else’s journey. Don’t let anyone put your grief on a timeline or tell you it’s time to move on. Sit with it and honor it or you can’t process it. Mountain top scream therapy is a great way to release the pain.♥ 0source record 6197
It's ok to not be ok, there's no time limit on grief!♥ 0source record 6243
It has no timeline. No such thing as “get over it.”♥ 0source record 6280
no matter what, if your feeling. FEEL it fully. cry, laugh, scream, fall apart. but feel it no matter where you are or who your with. feeling means they are not forgotten. or has no time limit, I've lost my mom, and 6 months later my best friend passed and now 5 years later my dad just passed. im 34. I still use this advice and pass it to others. if it's helped me, I hope it helps you. I also write in a book to reach and every single one of them. every day. I miss them. always will. I'll never for get them. how could I. 🥺♥ 0source record 6305
Grief doesn’t have a timeline♥ 0source record 6335

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Take every bit of time you need87 index entriesTake every bit of time you need — 87 records
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Take every bit of time you need

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Appears when: Take every bit of time you need

What the pattern means: This advice prioritizes the bereaved person's pace instead of an outside deadline for appearing recovered.

What commenters described: Grief is just so much love, with no where to go. Take your time, you’re the only person who can get yourself through this ❤️

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Grief is just so much love, with no where to go. Take your time, you’re the only person who can get yourself through this ❤️

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“Take your time to grieve, you don’t have to be ok.”

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My son told me take all the time you need dad when I lost my mom his grandma

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The exact phrase “as long as you need” recurs across 14 of the 87 source records in Take every bit of time you need; the complete archive stays available below.

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“Take your time to grieve, you don’t have to be ok.”♥ 2source record 1151
It’s gonna suck really bad for a while. And you can stay in it as long as you need to, but you can’t live in the suck forever♥ 1source record 1228
I have no words, but I will stay with you as long as you need me.♥ 0source record 1285
Grief is just so much love, with no where to go. Take your time, you’re the only person who can get yourself through this ❤️♥ 3source record 1346
I had just started college 2 months before my mom passed from breast cancer. I was 19, she was 51. That time is still a blur. I honestly can’t remember any advice people gave me because I was so lost in the depression. We were super close. The only thing I remember telling myself was: just because one life ends doesn’t mean yours has to. Take life at your own pace. Take the time you need, but remember you have to live yours too.💕♥ 1source record 1420
“Take your time I know your not alright but I’m always here if you need to talk or just vent about your day”♥ 1source record 1426
everything and everyone is here for as long as it needs to be♥ 1source record 1658
It’s the hardest damn thing I’ve ever went through. My advice is to allow yourself to grieve! As long as it takes. Everyone grieves differently. Do whatever it takes to heal. I’m thankful I had a daughter to go on living for. I kept thinking how much she needed me when I wanted to end my life. There’s hope please keep pushing forward! Light will return and there will be a brighter day. It may not be in the way it was before but you’ll smile again thinking of them. You’ll deal with the pain and finally realize that this is truly the hardest thing in life. Loosing someone you truly loved is heartbreaking.♥ 1source record 1700
Sit in it and take your time🙏💕♥ 1source record 1773
Cry, cry as long as you need to. Find a place where you can go and recharge and reconnect with your soul.♥ 1source record 1911
no one grieves the same. take your time and grieve in what ever way you need at that time. lean into those who offer help. grief doesnt go away after the funeral but alot of your support will. lean into those who stick around for the months after. that will be the most difficult. and always remember to be THAT person for someone else because you have been there.♥ 1source record 1931
Don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve take as long as you need .♥ 1source record 1997
Take your time. You loved them your way, not like others did.♥ 1source record 2077
Take your time♥ 1source record 2128
it's okay to grieve. take as long as you need. the future will be here when you're ready.♥ 1source record 2224
it takes 5 years to start feeling better...♥ 0source record 2263
Give yourself the first two years.♥ 0source record 2278
You loved her and still do with everything you have and that she knew. Grieve her and take your time.♥ 0source record 2379
It’s okay everyone griefs differently … they never go away … time flies by when they are not around …. Take your time♥ 0source record 2412
Do not set a timer ⏱️for when it’s over 🥺people will expect you to snap out of grief but please do it in your own time. Your heart will always guide you ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 2468
“Some people grief for 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, or 3 years. Don’t rush it”♥ 0source record 2488
If it takes you a year, let it. If it takes you five years, let it. If it takes the rest of your life, let it. Just never let someone else tell you ... to get over it!♥ 0source record 2525
It will last exactly how long it’s supposed to.♥ 0source record 2529
Take your time, feel all the feelings, especially on the worst days 🥺🥺♥ 0source record 2530
Take your time ...♥ 0source record 2591
Once the grief is gone, it’s somehow sadder. So hold on to it, don’t try to rush through it.♥ 0source record 2742
To let go when I was ready not when people thought I was ready♥ 0source record 2872
Take all the time you need to grieve. Take care of yourself and connect with nature.♥ 0source record 2875
I always tell people it won’t be okay and that’s fine! You lost someone you love and you deserve to grieve as long as you need to! 21 now lost my uncle aunt and grandma at 11 and 12 and still till this day I grieve over them and that’s fine♥ 0source record 3001
You will see them again. Just don’t rush it.♥ 0source record 3108
experience it. It’s okay to take the time to mourn what you don’t have and what can never have.♥ 0source record 3328
Take your time. Embrace nature to experience the beauty of life and all that comes from death❤️♥ 0source record 3377
Make a ‘date with grief’ every day for as long as you need … literally determine a time of day that you let it consume you. Sit with it, wipe your tears and go back to your regular routine. I did this for years after my mom died. Once in the morning when I was getting showered etc and once in the evening while getting ready for bed♥ 0source record 3491
Grief doesn’t have an expiration date♥ 0source record 3532
Take time to grieve. Don't allow anyone to tell you you should stop grieving & move on.♥ 0source record 3625
For me it is simply to go thru the grieving process. You cannot escape it even if you found ways to put it off, sometimes for Years. it’s coming. So take the time♥ 0source record 3709
Not advice I was given, but advice I give. Don’t rush it. The healing process, I mean. Let yourself succumb to all and each & every feeling and emotion you experience. The more you suppress it, or the more you try to push to get “back to normal” the much more difficult it will be to become “normal” again. And the more painful their memory will manifest itself into.♥ 0source record 3804
There is no wrong way to grieve. take your time♥ 0source record 3874
Don’t let people rush through grief so that you can be what they need you to be♥ 0source record 3927
Give the grief a seat at the table. Sit with it. Take your time and keep giving it the space it deserves. Honor it. Feel it. You and only you know your pain, don’t let anyone tell you you’re grieving the wrong way.♥ 0source record 4005
My therapist gave me “permission” to feel the things I was feeling and to take as long as it needed. I desperately needed someone to say that to me bc I literally felt insane.♥ 0source record 4033
Dont rush the grief let your self feel everything and everyone grief is different🙏♥ 0source record 4034
Take your time, go at your own pace♥ 0source record 4090
Take as long as you need♥ 0source record 4097
I understand you and take your time . How you’re feeling is very valid.♥ 0source record 4138
that grief doesn’t have an expiration date… - from a highschool friend i haven’t seen in years. ❤️♥ 0source record 4141
Take your time your not alone I still need this time it’s 9 months but it still breaks me everyday♥ 0source record 4171
Take your time. Grief is different for everyone. Therapy is a gift♥ 0source record 4175
It takes 2 years to get back to semi normal♥ 0source record 4239
Grieving can take as long as it takes but also my dad would tell time can heal a broken heart.♥ 0source record 4241
My friend told me cry when you want, be mad when you want, take all the time you need but don’t think other people will understand. Don’t have expectations that after a while people will still be wondering while you are still sad. Good advise.♥ 0source record 4398
Let it hurt then let it go♥ 0source record 4444
Feel it as long as you need to.♥ 0source record 4456
It will take 3 years - but I found it good to know♥ 0source record 4522
hearts heal at different speeds, so take your time.♥ 0source record 4536
Take your time. Allow yourself to feel it.♥ 0source record 4600
My son told me take all the time you need dad when I lost my mom his grandma♥ 0source record 4627
To take my time and don't rush it.♥ 0source record 4839
Immerse yourself in your grief and take as long as you need.♥ 0source record 4859
Don’t let anyone…..ANYONE….tell you to get over it and it’s been long enough.♥ 0source record 4915
Grieving doesn’t have an expiration date.♥ 0source record 4934
Take your time 💔♥ 0source record 4960
Take the time you need but don’t stay there. I was depressed for 2 years then contemplated suicide. But God 🙏🏽❣️My advise is…. Don’t stay there too long and push away the people that love you most.♥ 0source record 4964
Don’t rush through it.. it’s like running across water.. you will drag some with you.. instead take your steps one at a time. Before you realize it, you’re not wet anymore and being wet doesn’t bother you like it used to. It will for now; it’s supposed to.♥ 0source record 5024
Take as much time as you need, don't let anyone make you feel bad for how long you're grieving♥ 0source record 5079
Grief is a poop. Can’t hold it in forever. Shouldn’t force it out. It releases on its own time. You’ll feel so much better if you take the time to pass it.♥ 0source record 5098
You take all the time you need. It’s not anyone’s buisiness how you go you. 🥰♥ 0source record 5123
take as long as you need.♥ 0source record 5171
"If anyone tries to tell you how to grieve, or how long you should grieve for, politely excuse yourself from the conversation. You decide how, and for how long."♥ 0source record 5264
Take your time.♥ 0source record 5309
Take your time. Sit in it. Don’t drink alcohol.♥ 0source record 5359
It’s takes as long as it takes. Let it happen. Accept the changes daily♥ 0source record 5564
Feel the feelings, all of them. The good the bad the ugly. Sit with them and take all the time you need. And when your ready you will know how to pick up the pieces♥ 0source record 5588
Take your time.♥ 0source record 5621
You take as long as you need it doesn’t have a time ! I will always care that with me with my son passing it’s been 3 years and I still cry♥ 0source record 5626
Take your time. You are allowed to grieve however you want to.♥ 0source record 5663
That everybody grieves differently. And then take your time because everybody’s timeframe may be different than yours.♥ 0source record 5769
Grief is a journey, take your time.♥ 0source record 5819
Take your time, but don’t decide to live there.♥ 0source record 5854
take all the time you need♥ 0source record 5878
take your time grief is a individual process♥ 0source record 5915
Take your time to embrace what your feeling 😞♥ 0source record 5960
It’s okay to cry. Feel the emotion and grieve as long as you need to. Even if it’s years. It’s only been a year that my mom passed and I’m still learning how to navigate life without her.♥ 0source record 5972
Let yourself grieve as long as you need to. No two people feel grief the same way so no one else should dictate how you grieve.♥ 0source record 6027
Take your time going through stuff. Sort it, but let it marinate a bit. Look at the things they held dear and wonder why? Do a little sleuthing if you have to. Those treasures of your elders will speak to you through their history. Then let go of the things that don’t pull at your heartstrings.♥ 0source record 6079
Your time line of sadness is yours! And its different and difficult take your time give yourself grace. We are not equipped to understand death.♥ 0source record 6219
Don’t rush grief. Take your time in it. Feel it. Because it’s a part of you now. The part that keeps the memory alive. The part that keeps the love alive. Today, grief may make you cry. But, one day, it will make you smile.♥ 0source record 6260

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It shows up whenever it wants

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Appears when: It shows up whenever it wants

What the pattern means: Unexpected reminders and emotional shifts made grief feel unscheduled; the pattern emphasizes permission to respond when they arrive.

What commenters described: same here. No warning and no goodbyes either. Sending a big hug right back to you❤️

Limit: same here. No warning and no goodbyes either. Sending a big hug right back to you❤️

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Explicit limit or counterpoint

same here. No warning and no goodbyes either. Sending a big hug right back to you❤️

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same here. No warning and no goodbyes either. Sending a big hug right back to you❤️

source record 898♥ 1
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When it comes embrace it. It shows up unexpectedly. U can’t work it away.

posted about 13 days after the source♥ 0
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Grief does not discriminate will come wherever and whenever it wants no matter what you are doing or where you are at it does not care.

posted about 37.9 hours after the source♥ 0

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Within 6 source records, 0 explicitly report a benefit and 1 explicitly report a limit or failure. These are attributed experiences, not effectiveness data.

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same here. No warning and no goodbyes either. Sending a big hug right back to you❤️♥ 1source record 898
Hold griefs hand like a friend. This friend will come unexpected and right on time. Take your loved one with you, and know the acuteness will get better in time.♥ 1source record 1967
When it comes embrace it. It shows up unexpectedly. U can’t work it away.♥ 0source record 3254
Grief does not discriminate will come wherever and whenever it wants no matter what you are doing or where you are at it does not care.♥ 0source record 4423
Take it one minute at a time. It’s a roller coaster of emotions and it’s gonna hit you when you least expect it. And it’s okay to feel all those emotions.♥ 0source record 5629
Grieving is when you realize that love does last forever. It shows up unexpectedly♥ 0source record 5996

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What time actually does319 records · 6 sub-topicsWhat time actually does — 319 records
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Give it time — and be patient with it

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Appears when: Give it time — and be patient with it

What the pattern means: People used patience to counter the expectation that a major relationship should feel resolved within weeks or months.

What commenters described: I asked my friend why I was still crying after 3 weeks. She said: he was your father for 53 years! Give yourself some grace. Healing takes time.

Limit: Unfortunately, everyone in my case provided without asking me if I wanted it. I just needed peace and quiet to think. I needed time with my thoughts trying to understand everything.

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Explicit limit or counterpoint

Unfortunately, everyone in my case provided without asking me if I wanted it. I just needed peace and quiet to think. I needed time with my thoughts trying to understand everything.

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I asked my friend why I was still crying after 3 weeks. She said: he was your father for 53 years! Give yourself some grace. Healing takes time.

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grief takes time, so let yourself feel whatever comes. be it sadness, anger, even moments of laughter. lean on God through prayer and His Word, and don’t be afraid to let family and friends support you. remember your loved ones in simple ways and take care of yourself as you slowly heal. 🤍🕊

posted about 58 days after the source♥ 0
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Time Truly heals…….grieving actually makes tou a stronger person

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Across 90 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (5 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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be patient with yourself. everyone grieves differently, and that's ok. one day it'll be a bit easier. maybe not tomorrow, maybe a month or two from now. and maybe you'll be ok for while, then it comes back like a ton of bricks. just know that it will get better, and you will get through this. you're not alone ❤️♥ 2source record 864
I asked my friend why I was still crying after 3 weeks. She said: he was your father for 53 years! Give yourself some grace. Healing takes time.♥ 75source record 893
I’m sorry about your loss. I understand what you’re going through, the pain, the questions that go through your mind. Nothing makes sense and it feels like you’re world is falling apart. I wish I could take your pain away. But I know I can’t. All I can say is give it time. I wish the best. Take care♥ 2source record 954
I’m still grieving.. I relive those 7 months my 4yr old son was fighting cancer and there was nothing I can do to stop time cause he’s time was coming to an end.. and couldn’t take it out on anyone or anything.. it happens every time I’m alone 💔 Daddy loves and misses you Angelo 😞♥ 6source record 1049
When my dad died, the most helpful thing anyone told me was my youngest uncle who said it just takes time. At first you’ll think of them and cry, then you’ll be able to think of them and it’ll feel sad and happy. Then eventually you’ll be able to think of them and just be happy. 🤍♥ 20source record 1066
Be patient with yourself♥ 1source record 1170
Take one day at a time. One step at a time. Any movement is a movement. Be patient with yourself. We end up moving over things and not through them. Feel what you feel. Don’t just ignore it because it becomes so much worse♥ 4source record 1206
grief takes time, so let yourself feel whatever comes. be it sadness, anger, even moments of laughter. lean on God through prayer and His Word, and don’t be afraid to let family and friends support you. remember your loved ones in simple ways and take care of yourself as you slowly heal. 🤍🕊♥ 0source record 1277
Time passes differently up there than it does down here. By the time they turn around to look for you, you’re already right behind them.♥ 1source record 1401
Time really does heal all wounds♥ 1source record 1409
Don’t think about him or anyone else, for the first time, think about you! Not today but in 5, 10 years, what will be important? I thought about it and changed my way of thinking.♥ 3source record 1462
It doesn’t go away but give it time and I promise you it gets easier♥ 1source record 1481
You will never forget her but eventually you’ll stop hurting and start remembering the good times. It takes time to heal♥ 1source record 1512
Only time will help. Not heal but help. Don’t avoid the pain or you postpone the healing. But don’t wallow either or you could get stuck♥ 1source record 1614
“Now is a good time for me to teach you how to crochet.” [account]♥ 1source record 1617
Time. The most annoying answer. It’s just going to take time.♥ 1source record 1655
BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF♥ 1source record 1692
“It never gets better, but it does get easier to deal with”♥ 1source record 1714
Grief is all the conversations we didn’t get to have. Time we didn’t get to spend, love we didn’t get to give them before they left. So talk through the grief, spend time with the grief, and love them through the grief. Grief isn’t going anywhere, they will always be with you through the grief.♥ 1source record 1843
"There's never enough time." Kind of snapped me back into reality. Even if they lived to 100, we'd still want more time.♥ 1source record 2063
Time is the only thing that heals but you never forget♥ 1source record 2130
Take u time grieving ! No matter what people said♥ 1source record 2160
Take it one single day at a time. Some days will be really good and some days will be really bad. It’s doesn’t matter if it’s new or it’s been years.♥ 0source record 2324
Ignore people telling you it’s time to move on.♥ 0source record 2353
For example, if someone close you passes away, it’s hard to not think sooo much about how they were at the end, especially the very end. You almost can’t remember anything from before illness or injury. That doesn’t last forever. The good memories slowly start unlocking themselves. And the grief doesn’t go away, but it changes shade (think inside out movie) . There’s sadness but also joy. Takes time.♥ 0source record 2422
Be patient with your feelings and be kind to yourself.♥ 0source record 2521
“The amount of tears you cry in sadness will one day be tears of joy when you see them again”. Everything just takes time 🥹♥ 0source record 2543
Time really does heal all wounds….♥ 0source record 2552
It will be alright! Be patient. Trust Allah. To him we come and to him we return.♥ 0source record 2571
Time really does heal all wounds..🥺♥ 0source record 2674
Be patient with your grief. It rolls in and out. Just let it.♥ 0source record 2802
If you have to eat an elephant, eat it one bite at a time.♥ 0source record 2856
Be patient with yourself and don’t stop talking about your person.♥ 0source record 2868
Be patient with yourself lots of self care. Take the nap, have the snack, take a bath. Give yourself time to process and feel all the feelings♥ 0source record 2871
To allow yourself time because Grief for me comes in various stages and it takes longer than one would think♥ 0source record 2876
Take my time, be patient with yourself. 🥺🤧♥ 0source record 2894
an older friend told me, it'll hurt bad at first, but in time the hurt becomes less, you'll still miss them, it just won't hurt like it did at first♥ 0source record 2923
Unfortunately, everyone in my case provided without asking me if I wanted it. I just needed peace and quiet to think. I needed time with my thoughts trying to understand everything.♥ 0source record 3139
Just be patient and kind to yourself!!♥ 0source record 3239
I was never really talked to about loss. im afraid when the time comes I won't know what to do.♥ 0source record 3331
"every time you smile or laugh, it is them giving you a hug."♥ 0source record 3412
Don’t wish for the pain to go away, because when it stops hurting it means your love is fading. The pain will change and you will be able to feel joy. Give it time. 🥰♥ 0source record 3437
Be patient. This grief is your love trying to find a new place to live.♥ 0source record 3494
Instead of counting days of them b n gone it’s a day month yr closer to see them change ur perspective n time does heal everything u jus get stronger n better in hiding ur pain keep goin folks no matter wat keep goin♥ 0source record 3503
Grieving takes time. God helps us get through the pain in small bursts. We’d never be able to bear it all at once.♥ 0source record 3546
Time only helps. Be patient ❤️♥ 0source record 3628
The heart heals, it just takes time. That’s what my mom said to my brother the day my daddy died.♥ 0source record 3646
Time is a blessing, not a thief.♥ 0source record 3750
No one gave me advice. It was just something I had to figure out after my mom died. You have to go through it to get through it. Feel all the emotions. Be patient and kind to yourself.♥ 0source record 3904
The time you will see each other again only gets shorter. It was a great comfort.♥ 0source record 3905
Growing old is a gift not everyone is fortunate enough to receive. It’s helped me to appreciate the time I do have with those I love.♥ 0source record 3915
Time slows down for a reason. Take it all in♥ 0source record 3958
Don’t focus on the time, it doesn’t matter and it will only lead you on a dark path. Focus on how you can show them love moving forward.♥ 0source record 3978
I’ve learned that although I know grief. I don’t know her like you do so I don’t pretend to. You tell me about her so I can understand her better but I know she’s yours to make known and you will. In time you’ll stop running away from her, introduced her to me and let us all walk and share her together 🥰♥ 0source record 3995
None someone just being present while I cried and just held me, every time i needed it.Pray with me for healing🙏. My Bible! I am not walking this journey alone, Jesus is near to the broken hearted. Jesus is making me new in mind, spirit. I guard my heart now! The silence is real. It’s my journey and be patient with myself. Cry and release as much as I need, it’s my journey to healing. God is writing my story🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏♥ 0source record 4006
“Someday Time will die, and Love will bury it.” -The Death of Time by Richard Brautigan♥ 0source record 4183
Grief requires recovery time similar to being sick. Rest and heal.♥ 0source record 4509
Give it some time, times heals everything… it was true 😔♥ 0source record 4538
Time Truly heals…….grieving actually makes tou a stronger person♥ 0source record 4561
“It’s amazing how resilient life can be with a little patience”♥ 0source record 4750
I heard this in a song. “ Time is a natural healer it just soothes the pain away”♥ 0source record 4816
Be patient with yourself♥ 0source record 4836
There is no end time for grieving. You have figure out how to live with same and get professional help if you get stuck🥰♥ 0source record 4842
the grief circle is not just once, it will be the rest of YOUR life, but if you remember the phases you can function through them and prepare a head of time♥ 0source record 4849
Live a day at a time. Resolve what you can that day♥ 0source record 4900
The monologue from Rabbit Hole (2010) is the best description of grief over a period of time.♥ 0source record 4924
Next time you meet a grieving person, don’t just say you’re sorry, ask them to tell you something about their person. Let them share their story.♥ 0source record 4926
You can’t get lost in grief. You have to fight for what is here. Take time to heal! ♥️♥ 0source record 4955
Keep talking about the person. Go to a bereavement group or therapist. You will get through it but know healing takes time. 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️♥ 0source record 4961
Time is always the best teacher. It will give us what we need, when we are ready. There is no limit on how much time you need, take it all.♥ 0source record 4986
Don't expect time to Heal all wounds. You'll learn to live beside them. And that's OK.♥ 0source record 5147
I know it corny but it’s really one day at a time . All that takes time to process .♥ 0source record 5183
every time you think of someone they are thinking about you! this is what i hope,and hold onto to keep me going..✝️miss you sis and dad! 🙏😞♥ 0source record 5203
Not so much as advice but a heads up, grief really starts when everyone is gone home, time passes and it’s quiet. Remember this because it hits hard♥ 0source record 5308
It never gets better it just gets easier♥ 0source record 5314
It was just ice cream… we’ll get 2 scoops next time.♥ 0source record 5373
allow your emotions time and space. Don't suppress them let them be as raw as you need them to be.♥ 0source record 5423
each person grieves at their own time but it needs to have an end♥ 0source record 5449
Just grief… There will be a time when you can think about them and smile!♥ 0source record 5572
No matter what people tell you.. time is at a stand still for you. There is absolutely no set limit of time for you to grieve. you can be out somewhere and see something or a scent just takes you back. This is all normal,it is the people who tell you otherwise, they are not normal.♥ 0source record 5749
it may not get better..but it does get easier…in time♥ 0source record 5774
Others may want you to heal faster because your pain is hard for them to see. Don’t rush the process. Grief isn’t a sprint. It’s a lifelong journey. And it takes time to heal.♥ 0source record 5791
‘Be patient with yourself.’♥ 0source record 5835
I wasn't given any advice but maybe I can offer some..... cry when you feel you need to, be patient with yourself, rest rest rest, pray about it. I leaned so hard on God to pull me through it. and don't forget this life is temporary, you'll see them on the other side.♥ 0source record 5966
"Theres at time to grieve and a time to leave."♥ 0source record 6001
Be patient with yourself♥ 0source record 6056
Every day is new. Allow yourself a cry time. Time it. It will get shorter because you’ll find hapiness in the memories.♥ 0source record 6060
It will take time. Give yourself time.♥ 0source record 6101
I learned when my dad died that everybody grieves a little differently and it just takes time and I think the first year they're gone the first Christmas the first Thanksgiving the first Easter the first birthday of not having them around that was the hardest sometimes it's still hard but it's not as hard♥ 0source record 6117
In the words of [account] “We don’t move on from grief, we move forward.” Please watch her TED talk when you’re ready. She also has some pretty awesome memoirs related to grief. Wishing you patience and grace as you navigate this new space.♥ 0source record 6264

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What commenters described: The pain never gets any less. You will always miss them. But it gets easier to bear. It does, I promise. And talk about them. Don’t let anyone tell you there’s time limit to grieve. Talk about them all the time. They are listening I promise.

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talk about it, talk about it till you can't anymore, cry, cry all you need, grive in your time, everyone grieves differently and there is really no time limit on grief. As time goes on you just get use to it, you cope with it a little better, but unfortunately you will most likely grieve for the rest of your life, but not as hard as in the beginning. Make sure you have a strong support system that also helps too, I am so sorry for what ever it is you are grieving, and I will pray for your healing

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The pain never gets any less. You will always miss them. But it gets easier to bear. It does, I promise. And talk about them. Don’t let anyone tell you there’s time limit to grieve. Talk about them all the time. They are listening I promise.

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Please message me if you ever need to talk I’m here for you! I know exactly what you mean and as time passes by the more you want to just talk about them or about your feelings

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The edges of grief you hold will soften over time. And you’ll get to the point where most days the edges are soft and manageable. And there will be days where the edges return to sharp and jagged, but you will get through them.

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My dad passed unexpectedly on 7/6/23, less than 3 weeks after he turned 60. There are times a coworker will be talking about some military history stuff and I pick up my phone to text my dad to tell him to how much he would get along with my coworker because they both love military history. And then I remember. And then I cry. Silent but violent sobs. Other times I'm angry at him. And other times I can think of him and smile. The funeral director was right when he said it would take a while but when I thought of my dad, it would be how he was in life, not how he was when I ran into their house, back to his room, and confirmed what my mom was terrified had happened. When I think of him now, the first image is how he looked when he was about 38. It's hard. It gets easier, but in the way a sprained ankle keeps hurting and you just get used to the pain so you don't notice it as much until something catches you off guard and it feels like it just happened.♥ 0source record 696
Please message me if you ever need to talk I’m here for you! I know exactly what you mean and as time passes by the more you want to just talk about them or about your feelings♥ 0source record 704
The pain never gets any less. You will always miss them. But it gets easier to bear. It does, I promise. And talk about them. Don’t let anyone tell you there’s time limit to grieve. Talk about them all the time. They are listening I promise.♥ 41source record 1041
Don’t look too far down the road … just get through today . Redirect your brain to some happy memories and not what happened at the end . Over time , that will become your default but it takes work .♥ 29source record 1104
It gets easier. Hang in there♥ 1source record 1504
Grief never goes away it gets easier to manage as time goes on you see the world go bye and it hurts but you have to life for them live the life they would want to live or the life they would want for you,♥ 1source record 1519
It gets lighter everyday♥ 1source record 1581
Your grief is your own, no one can know your grief. We shouldn’t compare grief. Things will get better…..With time. Until then, occupy your time with healing acts of the body and mind. Time will heal the spirit.♥ 1source record 1832
They say time heals all wounds this is not true all time does is to help you accept things that you can not change♥ 1source record 1856
The biggest lie we’re ever told is that time heals our pain. The truth is, pain will kill your time. So face grief head-on, don’t suppress it.♥ 1source record 1897
That person always stays with you in your heart. As time goes by, it does help. Remember the good things about that person when you’re ready. Talk to God and pray about it. Talk to friends and family about your feelings and don’t hold things inside.❤️🙏♥ 1source record 1928
It’s just going to suck until it doesn’t anymore, it’ll just suck less over time, but, it’ll always be there.♥ 1source record 2020
I think many words were said, but we healed with time, and God never left our side.♥ 1source record 2093
It gets better...when...is totally up to you. There's no rush. I dont care what people say.. Grief is part of us now, and im deeply sorry. If you need to talk...stranger to stranger im here♥ 1source record 2226
Just keep breathing.. It gets easier every day.. Not better, but easier♥ 0source record 2292
Honestly, everything I was told sucked when my dad passed. I didn’t want to hear any of it. What I learned is that grief never goes away but the pain becomes more manageable with time. Sending you lots of love. 💜♥ 0source record 2328
💙 My advice that I can honestly give is write down everything you can remember. You dont realize how much you forget things over time. One simple memory will invoke more. Put it in a memory box for later. Add to it over time. Keep it forever. 💙♥ 0source record 2421
You will grieve for the rest of your life. The grief will change over time but it is the remaining love left in your soul. Take care of yourself first! If you don't want to go somewhere, then don't! Figure out what brings your soul comfort and do it!!! It's your grief journey!♥ 0source record 2463
I struggle with my grief…they say it gets better but it’s been two years and still hurt, I still cry, nothing helps and even the numbness feels like pain.♥ 0source record 2645
Take. Your. Time. Process, cry as much as you need. Take all the days off. Life doesn’t wait up for anyone, and nobody remembers your worst day. Over time people won’t have the same understanding or compassion for losing someone if you’re still grieving years down the line.♥ 0source record 2662
Grief will always be there. You’ll miss them and love them forever BUT grief changes with time. You’ll still have days where it feels fresh and debilitating but it won’t be debilitating every single day anymore. You’ll remember them with a smile and laugh sometimes but you’ll also have times where you feel guilty for doing it. Something will remind you of them even the smallest thing occasionally and you’ll get sad because all you wish you could do is go tell them about it and when you realize you can’t it will hurt. Most honest advice ever. It really is the little things that get me most♥ 0source record 2671
Time heals all but the pain will forever be lingering on♥ 0source record 2677
Grief is proof of your compassion, your humanity. You will first hate it, fight it, lose yourself to it, but in time, that will change. As time always does, it’ll provide you with the mental strength it takes to hold grief in your heart simultaneously with glimmers of hopes and dreams in new directions. It’s ok you’re not ok… just, remember to allow yourself the grace to let that time come.♥ 0source record 2688
“Right now it makes you sad to think of your dad but as time passes thinking of him will make you smile”♥ 0source record 2696
heard people say after loss" it's gets easier with time." then was told no it doesn't you just get use to them being gone.....that stuck with me♥ 0source record 2699
A year after our dad passed, his number reassigned. My sister recieved a text from his phone number. “Please make some art where you can celebrate and remember him He can definitely see it Pay attention to the art, art changes over time. that's your spirit guide..... Never stop making art, never stop making music. I promise you will find him there soon”♥ 0source record 2721
At first it destroys. With destruction comes change. You learn that the pain never eases but it does becomes a comfortable companion. as time goes on that pain can also come with pleasure in your memories and you're gratefulness that you ever have in the first place.♥ 0source record 2851
It NEVER gets better but it gets easier one day at a time😭😭😭♥ 0source record 2935
You’ll always feel the stab when you remember. Time helps but it will always be there.♥ 0source record 2945
Grief is always there, it takes different costumes with time. Yet, when you get to the day that when you think of them there’s a happy tear, you’ll feel that grief is now in the costume of thankfulness for having crossed paths with that person and all you’ve enjoyed and the lessons they left♥ 0source record 3061
I’ve lost a lot of people in my life. But nothing like loosing my best friend unexpectedly and tragically. It’s been 11 months and it feels like it’s getting harder. So far nothing has helped. I just want to start healing and I fear only time will heal.. 💔♥ 0source record 3084
talk about it, talk about it till you can't anymore, cry, cry all you need, grive in your time, everyone grieves differently and there is really no time limit on grief. As time goes on you just get use to it, you cope with it a little better, but unfortunately you will most likely grieve for the rest of your life, but not as hard as in the beginning. Make sure you have a strong support system that also helps too, I am so sorry for what ever it is you are grieving, and I will pray for your healing♥ 0source record 3158
That the sadness will get better and be gain to fade with time and be replaced by happy conversations about the one who passed away. It’s been 4 years and I miss my daddy so very much, but now I able♥ 0source record 3192
The intensity of the pain never lessens. But the frequency and duration of that pain does lessen with time.♥ 0source record 3234
Best Advice- Grieve on your own time. Grieving has zero time limit. Worst Advice- It will get better with time. It NEVER gets better! For those who remarry- I'll never understand. My heart will always belong to my soulmate...✌️♥ 0source record 3306
Sometimes I think I’m being annoying if I ask about my fiancés brother. I never have the right words but one thing I’ve learned, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to not be okay. There’s no order in grief, sad today, angry tomorrow. The darkest days are the ones ahead when everyone around carries on. The world keeps spinning, it’s not talked about enough. Allow yourself to feel each emotion, don’t bury it. These emotions are going to be unfamiliar and scary, don’t run. It gets better💗♥ 0source record 3372
My grief is a part of me but not all of me. You need to feel it and not shy away from the pain. My father passed away in February. Each day gets easier - you take it a day at a time. I take solace in knowing he’s not suffering anymore. It gets better.♥ 0source record 3451
I always hated when people say “time heals all wounds.” No it doesn’t. Time just allows you to figure out how to deal with the pain♥ 0source record 3590
just wait......it gets better♥ 0source record 3598
Grief never goes away it just gets smaller and easy to deal with as time goes on. Your not broken just because your not healed. Your human ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 3619
I lost my brother in 2023. The thing I've heard that hit the closest was that grieving is like lifting weights in the gym. with time any practice, they don't become less heavy, just easier to bear.♥ 0source record 3671
I learned this I was not taught it. The pain never really goes away. It just stings a little less every day.♥ 0source record 3719
It never goes away but it does get further away with time.♥ 0source record 4072
That it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to talk about them until you’re blue in the face. Keep their memory alive by telling your favorite stories about them. It never gets easy. You just tolerate the grief better over time when you let yourself feel.♥ 0source record 4103
Your life doesn't go back to normal. You life it altered and will create new memories with new people and grief your loved one not experiencing it or guilt when you feel happy. Over time it will feel different but loss is loss. We learn new skills to cope and move forward but never forget ❤️♥ 0source record 4109
I keep his memory alive every chance I get. I tell them about the heroic stuff he did on deployment. But I cry in silence every-single -day. Maybe time heals? But I’m not there yet. Hugs to you. We’re al going through something, so just be kind, even if they aren’t to you. 🙏🏻♥ 0source record 4152
nothing you could say or do Time heals. your loved ones are always with you in your heart❤️🙏♥ 0source record 4272
It gets better with time 😢♥ 0source record 4335
The pain never goes away but the spaces in between get longer over time♥ 0source record 4463
I’m sorry for your loss.I miss my mom every day too.It gets better they say.I just try and stay busy,it hurts,but my mind is better staying busy. trying to focus on helping others and trying to take care of my health.♥ 0source record 4596
It's like a box with a button inside. and when you're grieving, there's this really big ball in there that's bouncing around and pushing the button all the time. but as time goes on, that ball gets smaller and smaller. the smaller it gets, the less it pushes that button, but it still hits it every once and a while. your pain isn't going to just magically be gone one day, that ball will always be there. grieve when it hits.♥ 0source record 4615
The edges of grief you hold will soften over time. And you’ll get to the point where most days the edges are soft and manageable. And there will be days where the edges return to sharp and jagged, but you will get through them.♥ 0source record 4651
well it's not so much advice, it's just a little better understanding of what I'm feeling and where it's going! there's no such thing as it'll get easier over time when you love someone as I did my wife of 43 years. she was the first face and voice. I seen every morning she was the last face of the day and my kiss. good night, before I went to sleep every night for 43 years she was my everything. she was smart, kind, strong, humble, all rolled up into one sweet package. she had been sick for a little while but my brain refused to believe that I was going to lose her and now that I have it's become devastating!! we lived a very quiet life. we had been through many things hardships in life and because of her I was able to survive it. She passed away 7 months ago and there's not a day that passes that she's constantly on my mind. so many things I wish I'd have said and done but my brain refused to let go! but I am a Christian and this is what I was told in heaven. there's no clock. we live for eternity.. when her time ended on this Earth, her soul left this body and I know it's in heaven.. I know it because she loved and trusted the Lord!! But as she walked through that gate even if I live another 20 years or so, when I leave this world and I walk up behind her, she will turn around and look at me as if there was no time lost and that will apply to my children. my grandchildren and everyone that knew and loved her.. that gives me comfort because though I'll have to live the rest of my life on this Earth without her in a moment I will be with her and so will my children.. trust in God be a good servant. teach your children to love God. trust in him and be a good servant. teach them to teach their children.. so when our time is over we will make that journey in the blink of an eye!!♥ 0source record 4684
I would like to think over time it gets easier, but the only way is to know you will see them again through Christ.♥ 0source record 4752
the more it's hurts, the more you both loved each other. it's not goodbye, it's until we meet again. the pain will subside and fade with time but that doesn't mean u didn't love them.♥ 0source record 4784
I wish I had anything to tell you. Cry . Feel angry. One day it gets better. The day after the death, I had to drive , and I could see people smile go about their day. I wondered how could they when it was the worst day of my life, and life hadn’t stopped. I am making peace with it. Remember, you are the one here now. You have to be present for yourself. Take time, but remember that.♥ 0source record 4819
I wasn’t told this, it’s been my observation. Grief doesn’t ever go away, it simply dulls over time. And every now and then it flares up, and then dulls again.♥ 0source record 4877
It never goes away. You just learn to accept it as a part of you better over time,♥ 0source record 4895
That the sharp edges of the pain will soften.♥ 0source record 4921
time helps 🙏♥ 0source record 4948
The weight of grief is always heavy over time you just become strong enough to carry it♥ 0source record 5125
Grief is like a marathon you never get to stop running, over time just like muscles you get stronger, crash, find a second wind, a third, it gets easier to run it but you never get to stop running it.♥ 0source record 5140
You will never forget, but with time the pain numbs.And we all grieve at our own time and pace.♥ 0source record 5185
That time helps 🥺🥺♥ 0source record 5188
Time heals all wounds But that time seems to take forever♥ 0source record 5261
I’ve heard grief is like a broken leg. You heal from it with time, but you have to learn how to walk differently now and then in the future. You’ll always walk differently, but you will walk again.♥ 0source record 5324
Grief is a feeling that never goes away…. It does get better with time… however the memories of what was…will always be there♥ 0source record 5382
It’s going to get worse before it gets better.♥ 0source record 5494
There are no words I can say that will ease this circumstance for you, but I’m here however you need me… even in silence. I appreciate the not telling me it will be ok or time will heal…♥ 0source record 5509
Nothing they said entered my brain. It will be 6 years next month since I lost my mother. And im still grieving. All I know is people lied when they said time heals🙄♥ 0source record 5542
There was none. Absolutely nothing but time helps.♥ 0source record 5633
Just remember, the grief will only get worse before it gets better. That is normal, embrace it all.♥ 0source record 5698
Time heals nothing it only gives you distance from the pain. It's ok to feel it forever.♥ 0source record 5840
Grief does never go away. The pain of not having them around just becomes more bearable with time.♥ 0source record 5904
It gets harder before it gets better 💔♥ 0source record 6074
My mom was diagnosed with cancer when I was 4 years old and died when I was 9. As time passes, the grief gets easier to handle but also harder in the way.. As I watch friends and family parent. I see just how different my my childhood was. I don't feel bad for me now, but the child I was and didn't know what it should have been.♥ 0source record 6112
Just like the sun we rise and we shall set. What counts is when we are at our lowest, or when we reach our highest. If you notice we keep going, with intent or faith it gets better. Don’t forget to breathe, accept and live in bliss for these are the moments you’ll relive when the dream stops.♥ 0source record 6163
The hardest part will pass , time heals.♥ 0source record 6165
Time. Time will heal you and while waiting turn yourself to God. Ask God to redirect you to his will for you. My family friend told me that and he was correct……………♥ 0source record 6190
It actually changes your brain. All the neuropathways developed over time have no where to go…. It’s very biological 🥺♥ 0source record 6201
The pain never goes away, just becomes more tolerable as time goes by.♥ 0source record 6248

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What the pattern means: Grief does not get easier over time, you learn how to navigate it.

What commenters described: The first year is the hardest. It never gets easier or better but the grief becomes more normal.

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The first year is the hardest. It never gets easier or better but the grief becomes more normal.

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It doesn’t get easier it just gets different.

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The grief never gets easier. It just gets different. 🥺

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Lost my dad, my BEST FRIEND 8 months ago!! I'm not gonna lie, it doesn't get better.... You just learn to cope. Sending love and hugs your way❤️💜♥ 0source record 714
I was told it will not get easier when you lose someone but you get stronger.♥ 1source record 1224
Grief does not get easier over time, you learn how to navigate it.♥ 2source record 1303
2/2 - a continuation on learning how to live with grief: it’s like working out. You start out with 100lbs when you’ve never even picked it up before. It is the hardest thing to try to carry yourself. However, the more you work with it, the easier it will get. The 100lbs will always be 100lbs and nothing will change that. You will always know it’s 100lbs whenever you try to lift it, but over time, the more you work with it, enduring the pain and struggle of working with it - it becomes easier to carry because you become stronger. It also is easier to lift and carry if you let people help you lift the 100lbs♥ 0source record 1329
The first year is the hardest. It never gets easier or better but the grief becomes more normal.♥ 2source record 1341
It doesn’t get easier, it’s just different now.♥ 1source record 1434
All the top comments are horrible. The answer is “it will never get better but how you handle it will. They meant something to you so share that with the world”♥ 1source record 1520
It doesn’t get easier, you will learn to cope differently.♥ 1source record 1567
It won’t get better… but you willl get better with managing it. In your own way. 💕♥ 1source record 1569
Death never gets easy. It only becomes more tolerable. Time.♥ 1source record 1624
Something I’ve said… and have to tell myself over and over….It doesn’t get better…. But it gets easier.♥ 1source record 1665
They say, “it gets easier, I promise.“ but it doesn’t get easier. They are gone and you are forced to learn what life is like without them.♥ 1source record 1684
It doesn’t get better with time, you just learn to adapt to the new “normal”♥ 1source record 1734
that it'll never get easier, you'll just grow with it. the sooner you understand this the better off you'll be 💙♥ 1source record 1823
Two things: 1 It doesn’t get “easier”, you just learn to handle it better, and 2. The longer you grieve doesn’t mean you loved them more. 💔💔♥ 1source record 2034
It doesn’t get easier it just gets different.♥ 0source record 2257
It won't get better unless you care enough to let it♥ 0source record 2283
It doesn’t get easier to carry.. you just get use to carrying it.♥ 0source record 2347
It never gets easier, you get stronger.♥ 0source record 2430
That pain doesn’t heal with time, instead the weight of it gets easier to carry with time.♥ 0source record 2548
It never gets easier but the memories will hurt less to think about♥ 0source record 2664
It won’t get better♥ 0source record 2670
It doesn’t get better but it becomes manageable.♥ 0source record 2706
The grief is initially like an unmovable weight. Eventually, you’ll get stronger, and it gets easier to move the weight, but it still hurts when you do.♥ 0source record 2714
never easier .. just more manageable 😢❤️♥ 0source record 2725
It doesn’t get easier, you just get stronger each day with their guidance as your compass♥ 0source record 2727
“ it won’t get better, but it will get easier “ ❤️‍🩹 I thought the person who told me this was evil at the time, but they were right. It’s been two years and it’s not better, but it’s easier to ignore how much it hurts.♥ 0source record 2766
They lied and said it got easier.. it didnt get easier. I just learned to cope. 💔♥ 0source record 2888
It doesn’t get better. It just changes.♥ 0source record 2897
It will never get easier no matter how many seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years pass. It will only become more manageable.♥ 0source record 2913
It doesn’t get better. It gets different.♥ 0source record 2947
It doesn’t get easier with time…you just learn to be super grateful for the time you were given with them. Period.♥ 0source record 2961
My heart hurts like pain it doesn’t get easier just the change of not being anymore♥ 0source record 3071
It’ll never get better, it’ll just get different♥ 0source record 3072
It doesn’t get better, it gets different♥ 0source record 3136
it does NOT get easier. honestly I appreciated that so much cuz the person who said that didn't lie and was very upfront♥ 0source record 3144
That there is no time limit on. grieving during Covid I had to buy my childhood home I took care of my parents when each of them died. My mom was my bestie we did everything together Her death has broken me to this very day it doesn't get better I am broken eternally♥ 0source record 3165
It'll never get better♥ 0source record 3293
Grief sucks. “It’s not going to get easier, you’re going to get stronger at carrying it”.♥ 0source record 3309
A grief therapist told me when I asked when would this go away, his answer, it never goes away, it just gets different♥ 0source record 3319
The weight of grief doesn’t ever go away. The strength you build along the way makes it easier to carry.♥ 0source record 3370
“It doesn’t get easier only a little more tolerable!”♥ 0source record 3626
It will never get better. The only thing that happens is as time goes on. You can go more than a few minutes day by day without thinking about that person one minute maybe you can go more than five minutes without thinking about the person, but pain never goes away♥ 0source record 3718
people would tell me it would never get better. that is a lie. if it didn't get better from that first week I would surely have perished too. don't tell people that. It does get better.♥ 0source record 3839
Grief doesn’t get lighter, you just get use to carrying the weight.♥ 0source record 3865
The weight of the pain doesn’t get lighter, but you eventually get strong enough to carry it. You can’t rush it or take short cuts so just take whatever time you need.♥ 0source record 3972
oh man. i lost my life’s best co-conspirator to an oooo dddd back in may. been in al anon for five years prior and it readied me as best as i could have been, but my best advice is just to feel it. honor every feeling to its fullest. leave the room to cry. write the letters. scream. smash a pillow. It was like going to the bathroom for me, i just had to get it out, and i knew if i didn’t i would get sick. see the psychic if you want. don’t question it if you feel their presence; for that matter, don’t question a single thing you feel that you need to do to move through this. I’d go on walks and flip on ghosttube and talk to her in my headphones. not even kidding, i don’t care at all if anyone has a damn thing to say about that. you will be changed, and that’s okay. it does get easier, it does get different. I lost my fucks almost entirely and i have no trouble speaking up anymore when someone is acting sideways.♥ 0source record 4017
If you’re religious - in revelations it says “death will be the last enemy to be defeated”. Meaning death is not Gods will. Also it just feels like it will never get better but it does. Maybe not for 10 to 15 years 😬 but life can be good 🙏🩵♥ 0source record 4088
It doesn’t get better…it gets easier.♥ 0source record 4201
It doesn’t get better, it gets different 😭😭😭😭♥ 0source record 4312
it doesn't get better, it gets different♥ 0source record 4377
The grief never gets easier. It just gets different. 🥺♥ 0source record 4573
It doesn’t get easier you just get use to it 🥺♥ 0source record 4807
It doesn’t get easier. Just easier not to think about it all the time. 💗♥ 0source record 4947
Doesn't get any easier you'll have your good days and bad days but you just gotta stay strong and roll through it. 💔♥ 0source record 5020
It never gets easier you just learn how to manage♥ 0source record 5132
No one can fix this for you. You won’t ever “get over it”. It does get easier to carry though. You get stronger and it doesn’t hurt as much. You are also more empathetic and helpful to others. There will always be someone else beginning the process. They need your help.♥ 0source record 5198
Honestly it doesn’t get better I miss my husband so much It hasn’t go any better like ppl has told me prayers & love 💔♥ 0source record 5273
It never gets easier - it just gets different♥ 0source record 5298
It doesn't get better but gets a little easier even if you believe it never will. Eventually when you remember them you'll feel something close to comfort. I choose to believe it's her tapping me on the shoulder in a celestial way. When this happens always take the moment to spend with them 💙♥ 0source record 5404
Feel it. Cry. Go through the pain. If you try to busy yourself, it will still be there waiting for you at the end of the day. It doesn’t get easier, it just gets different. 🫶🏼♥ 0source record 5422
I doesn't get easier or better, as the memories fade it gets frustrating.♥ 0source record 5432
You pick it up and put it on your shoulders, next to its kin. Sooner or later your knees and your back get stronger, and the weight just adds itself to your own.♥ 0source record 5547
Cry all you want, it doesn’t get better.♥ 0source record 5632
It doesn’t get easier, it just gets easier to carry.♥ 0source record 5759
It doesn’t get easier. You get stronger 🙏🏻♥ 0source record 5766
It doesn’t get easier. You’ll get used to it kind of. But it surely does come and go. Crying helps a lot for me sometime. And grieve at your own pace.♥ 0source record 6049
Never stop remembering that precious person, that is no longer physically here, talk about them, you loved them and still do, they lived, and loved you!! Welcome grief, until one day grief will be easier to carry, grief will become a family member! So smile and enjoy your time grieving, as one morning grief will leave and stop!!!♥ 0source record 6055
Life doesn’t “go on,” life gets different.♥ 0source record 6191
Not so much advice but a mantra: “It never gets easier… just different.” That saying helps me re-center when the grief sneaks in out of nowhere.♥ 0source record 6237

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What commenters described: Take all the time you need. Time doesn't heal, but helps cope with the loss. Triggers are real. ❤️‍🩹

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Take all the time you need. Time doesn't heal, but helps cope with the loss. Triggers are real. ❤️‍🩹

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This was learnt not said to me but "The grief cycle doesn't have any particular order. It is unpredictable just like life. One day someone will be in your life and the next, they might not be. When this happens, as much as it hurts, learning to sit with those big uncomfortable feeling's and being able to let them pass is an important tool to pull out of the grief kit when it's needed most. Not everyone makes it to the end of our story and sometimes thinking of their chapter hurts a lot, other times it hurts a little less. It's okay to be happy, that its not erasing their memory or a bond shared. It's choosing to live not just for ourselves but for the memory of those we have lost".

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Grief is not linear. Grief is proof that you loved to begin with.

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my husband told me, grief is not linear. there is no order to the steps. that helped me so much bc I thought I was crazy.♥ 3source record 867
Take all the time you need. Time doesn't heal, but helps cope with the loss. Triggers are real. ❤️‍🩹♥ 19source record 1105
Time Doesn’t heal.. it Just Teaches you How To Carry the Weight♥ 0source record 1243
It’s okay to laugh today. And smile when you think of them. There’s no instruction manual on how this goes. Whatever you’re doing, you’re doing the right thing. This is not linear. You’re doing great.♥ 1source record 1422
There is no "best advice". Nothing anyone could say could take the pain away. Time doesn't heal the wounds... it just gives you the means to manage the pain.♥ 1source record 1499
time does not heal you. you just get used to the feeling and it feels "less sharp". no one taught me this I had to learn it on my own and recently how to put it into words.♥ 1source record 1730
Time does not heal all wounds. There will be times that you’ll break down randomly but that’s okay. Cry it out. Don’t keep it inside. In time, you will learn to remember the good times and even though it hurts, remember that those memories are yours. Memories that you created with someone.♥ 1source record 1918
the grief cycle explained and how healing is not a straight line♥ 1source record 1961
It’s not linear♥ 1source record 2096
This was learnt not said to me but "The grief cycle doesn't have any particular order. It is unpredictable just like life. One day someone will be in your life and the next, they might not be. When this happens, as much as it hurts, learning to sit with those big uncomfortable feeling's and being able to let them pass is an important tool to pull out of the grief kit when it's needed most. Not everyone makes it to the end of our story and sometimes thinking of their chapter hurts a lot, other times it hurts a little less. It's okay to be happy, that its not erasing their memory or a bond shared. It's choosing to live not just for ourselves but for the memory of those we have lost".♥ 0source record 2233
“When my husband, Fred, died, my father told me that time does not heal all wounds but gives us the tools to endure them. I have found this to be true in the greatest and smallest of matters.” Patti Smith ♥♥ 0source record 2235
Take your own time to process things. Healing is not linear♥ 0source record 2405
You can't go back to the person you were when they were here, because the person you were then is not who you are now. The person you were then, had them in your life. You have to decide who you are without them and that's ok, and you will not have it all figured out, that's ok too. Grieving is not linear and it never will be but you will be ok.♥ 0source record 2493
The stages are grief do not happen in order, and they’re never completed.♥ 0source record 2614
You get into denial phase, dont believe it and be aware of it♥ 0source record 3056
I wish someone would have told me. Time doesn’t heal it just dulls the pain.♥ 0source record 3291
Grief is not linear♥ 0source record 3317
"Grief is not linear road, it's back and forth, sideways and sometimes circles. Don't beat yourself up for where the road takes you"♥ 0source record 3583
It’s not a straight line. Some days are immobile. Devestating like it was yesterday. Other days I miss her and tell funny stories and laugh. Nowadays, we hang out more than we ever did before.♥ 0source record 3676
There is no timeline for grief and the process is not linear.♥ 0source record 3700
Love lasts longer than life. Don’t run from grief- feel it, acknowledge it, know that it’s not linear (it will ease and then roar back at times). “Become the things you loved most about the ones you loved.” Lean on family & friends. Be kind to yourself.♥ 0source record 3763
Time doesn’t heal all wounds and that’s ok♥ 0source record 3906
Grief is not a straight line♥ 0source record 3952
Time doesn't heal anything, it just teaches us how to live with pain♥ 0source record 4054
Grief is not linear, it’s fluid. Have grace for yourself and know that these big feelings are natural. They express that you’re human and that’s what we are all here for.♥ 0source record 4086
Grief is not linear.♥ 0source record 4128
Time doesn’t heal anything. Time teaches you how to deal with the pain of that person being gone.♥ 0source record 4133
It is not linear. It takes what it takes and it doesn’t go away. We figure out a way to move forward with it. Almost 4 years in to losing my daughter and I’m going to see a therapist today because sometimes it’s just fucking unbearable.♥️♥ 0source record 4169
Grief shows up when we need to be seen, heard, angry, sad, struggling etc. grief comes at the most inopportune time cause it is the time our hearts, mind, body, and soul need it. You can only push so far before pushing starts crushing and pulling. Allow it to happen. Like the individual below said, “Let her in, welcome her” it is the only way to be able to start pushing forward again. Grief is not linear. When we suppress or fight grief it becomes harder to handle. Allow it, be with it, see it, try to understand it, and love it cause you loved the person/thing the grief is about now. When your perspective on grief changes to a need, a sense of peace, or a feeling that is more than sadness it becomes tolerable and you can heal from it.♥ 0source record 4200
Feel everything. Allow everything you are feeling. Go thru it. It’s not a straight line. Pain will turn into memories you can recall with joy. #1 talk to God.♥ 0source record 4215
Grief is not linear. It’s not something that you get through. It’s something that you live with. And allow yourself, Grace.♥ 0source record 4235
The stages of grief don’t necessarily happen in order, and sometimes, you’ll revisit them now and again, that’s human.♥ 0source record 4361
Grief is not linear. Grief is proof that you loved to begin with.♥ 0source record 4490
Ride the roller coaster of emotions♥ 0source record 4563
Time does not heal, but it is your friend♥ 0source record 4636
Two things. 1. Grief is not linear. You will have days where you feel fine. You will have days where you are just leveled. You will brace yourself for anniversaries and special occasions and you will make it through and then a song will come on the radio or you will smell something and you won’t be able to function. Which takes us to 2. Whatever you are feeling is what you were supposed to be feeling. Fuck anyone who tells you that you were supposed to be over it or move on or whatever. You may feel great five days after the funeral and are smiling and it’s OK. And eight years later, you may have days where you can’t function and that’s OK Because whatever you are feeling is what you are supposed to be feeling and fuck anyone who says otherwise.♥ 0source record 4680
Grief isn’t linear there is no time line or concrete plot written in stone. More like a rollercoaster ride that is constantly changing courses. There isn’t a right way to grieve their is just simply grief♥ 0source record 4772
Grief is not linear. And just because everyone else’s life went back to normal, doesn’t mean yours has to. Things are going to feel different forever. No one can fill that void. Eventually it becomes lighter to carry and you will smile more when you think of them instead of cry. But crying is still okay, no matter how much time has passed♥ 0source record 4815
Grief isn’t linear. You’re always grieving.♥ 0source record 4989
It's NOT linear. You don't necessarily go through stages. It comes and goes. Let it.♥ 0source record 5019
Grief doesn't go away. It does get quieter though. And the stages of grief don't go in order. They jump around and repeat.♥ 0source record 5096
Time doesn’t heal wounds acceptance does♥ 0source record 5136
Not advice but I learned that the last stage of acceptance, that realization, hurts most of all. 💔♥ 0source record 5146
Grief is not linear, nor is the process the same for everyone. It’s okay to feel all the feelings.♥ 0source record 5233
Grief and happiness can coexist. Smiling while feeling like you can die is normal with grief. Grief is not linear. Its an ebb and flow.♥ 0source record 5540
Healing is not linear. There are highs and lows. Good days and bad days allow yourself to process and feel it all♥ 0source record 5700
Grief is not linear.♥ 0source record 5792
Be kind to yourself. Grief is not linear. You will have good times and times where you feel guilty about the good moments. You'll have hard times, and days you feel like you can't possibly survive. But you WILL get through it! so be gentle with yourself, especially when life gets hard...♥ 0source record 5919
Grief is what taught me that time is not linear. It could circle back anytime like it was today. And that a nap and a taco will fix almost anything.♥ 0source record 5959
Grief is not linear.♥ 0source record 6021
There are stages… never think you are out of the storm.♥ 0source record 6029
Healing happens in circles alongside grief and reminiscence♥ 0source record 6084
With all the tears there is a balance of laughter to move through the process and grief is not linear; it shows up at any time and you let in what you’re missing and celebrate what you are grieving with tears, the love, the laughter, the kindness, the hope of wellness for who has departed. Human or pets- they are love and for me, pets especially are so beautiful because they are the ones who truly loved unconditionally.♥ 0source record 6094
never give up... just know this too shall...pass ...time won't heal...it just helps... 1 day i will see my Mama again... she was my best friend and I miss her ripmama6-05-25♥ 0source record 6273
Grief never goes away and time doesn’t heal.♥ 0source record 6338

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One day it won't be the first thing you think of16 index entriesOne day it won't be the first thing you think of — 16 records
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What the pattern means: This pattern describes a possible shift from constant awareness of the loss to moments when memory is not the day's first thought.

What commenters described: That you don’t just lose them once.. you lose them multiple times a day. A week . A year. Sometimes it’s hard to breathe. So you fake a smile.

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That you don’t just lose them once.. you lose them multiple times a day. A week . A year. Sometimes it’s hard to breathe. So you fake a smile.

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Some day you will think of her and instead of crying you’ll smile and it’ll bring you joy!!! ❤️

posted about 35 days after the source♥ 0
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There are no words. No two lives, experiences, or loves are the same. You must sit in the pain, honor the memories, find laughter in the soul crushing cruelty of loss, and one day you'll breathe again. Not because it hurts any less, but because it becomes part of your story. 🫶

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Strangers connected by the same type of loss on the same day, 2 years apart. Everything is so raw and sharp for you right now, and you probably feel like I did 2 years ago, just hurt, angry, and bewildered that the world is continuing on as if nothing big has happened. Meanwhile your world has been devastated and it seems nobody else understands. As I've gotten older, I realize just how much I look like my dad. Now I see him in the mirror often. There's a comfort in knowing part of him is still here, in my eyes, my nose, and my love of Star Trek: The Next Generation. Find the ways your dad is still with you. It's bittersweet but one day you will smile to see where he lingers in your life.♥ 0source record 698
That you don’t just lose them once.. you lose them multiple times a day. A week . A year. Sometimes it’s hard to breathe. So you fake a smile.♥ 4source record 1343
Some day you will think of her and instead of crying you’ll smile and it’ll bring you joy!!! ❤️♥ 0source record 2356
The sunset was a breathtaking, brilliant coral orange (my favorite color) the afternoon my Andie passed on. I’ve never seen the sky more radiant and saturated. I thought of it, and every sunset after that, as a message from her to me telling me she knows I miss her, I’m thinking of her and can’t wait to see each other again someday.♥ 0source record 2632
Someday you’ll wake up and it won’t be the first thing you think about, and someday, you’ll go to sleep and it won’t be the last thing you think about.♥ 0source record 2845
That no matter what our beliefs are, one day we will be where they are again.♥ 0source record 2890
Death is the hardest on the living, those left behind to suffer the loss of a friend,confidant, loved one, they have gone on to their next great adventure only this time we weren’t invited. So cry, rage, but then breathe, remember them and one day you’ll smile again 💕♥ 0source record 3465
They’re with you in every moment. I hope that one day you will find the true meaning and peace within it.♥ 0source record 3662
To take as much time as you need. To remember that one day you won’t wake up with their loss being the first thing you think of. Hold on tightly to the memories. Celebrate their life in big and small ways. And to feel immense gratitude you had a chance to have had this special person in your life. 🙏♥ 0source record 3732
one day at time, at this point is not good yo think about future, and everyone's grief differently♥ 0source record 4131
When you or someone else says “It is what it is,” add for now at the end. “It is what it is, for now.” It won’t always be like this… 💔♥ 0source record 4385
You have to learn to love the thing that you wish wouldn’t have happened… grief gives you an opportunity to connect in a meaningful way with the other grieving people in the world. It is a gift to exist. And with existence comes suffering. We all suffer, we all loose everyone eventually. But connecting with others, deeply, is one way to suffer well.♥ 0source record 4445
There are no words. No two lives, experiences, or loves are the same. You must sit in the pain, honor the memories, find laughter in the soul crushing cruelty of loss, and one day you'll breathe again. Not because it hurts any less, but because it becomes part of your story. 🫶♥ 0source record 4603
You might not believe it now but there will be a day when they are not the first thing that pops into your mind and not the last thing you think about when you close your eyes at night. It took 10 years but it did happen 🫤♥ 0source record 5149
It will be your turn one day what would you want your love ones to do about you ? And do that …♥ 0source record 5860
You won’t ever feel like getting up out of bed. Then one day you will.♥ 0source record 5958

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What commenters described: Didn’t receive advice… just learned to be still in it, feel it, cry out, and let it be. The time you find yourself in the thick of it will grow farther and farther apart… the sadness will turn to comforting thoughts… ❤️

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Didn’t receive advice… just learned to be still in it, feel it, cry out, and let it be. The time you find yourself in the thick of it will grow farther and farther apart… the sadness will turn to comforting thoughts… ❤️

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It doesn’t ever hurt less but it will hurt less often with time

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There are bad days; and there are days that aren’t so bad.

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Didn’t receive advice… just learned to be still in it, feel it, cry out, and let it be. The time you find yourself in the thick of it will grow farther and farther apart… the sadness will turn to comforting thoughts… ❤️♥ 1source record 1542
It doesn’t ever hurt less but it will hurt less often with time♥ 0source record 2685
Grief is hard and grief will be forever, it wont feel any “easier” but it will become less often, and once it does become less often you try to end the grieving moment with a happy memory that will make you laugh and not angry.♥ 0source record 2775
It never hurts any less it just hurts less often. You find yourself remembering happy times and smiling more than crying as the years go by. Give yourself room to grieve. Don’t let anyone tell you they know how you feel.♥ 0source record 3643
There are bad days; and there are days that aren’t so bad.♥ 0source record 4734
The first couple days are always the hardest, you’ll level off in a few days and you’ll start to climb out. Focus on the goal, no matter how hard it might seem, focus on the goal.♥ 0source record 5787
The hard Times get further apart.♥ 0source record 5905

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When nothing helped but presence306 records · 5 sub-topicsWhen nothing helped but presence — 306 records
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No one gave me advice — I figured it out alone

128 source records

Appears when: No one gave me advice — I figured it out alone

What the pattern means: These accounts describe grieving without useful guidance or companionship, often because others avoided an uncomfortable conversation.

What commenters described: no one told me anything. Actually I was alone in my grieving. I guess people wanted to avoid an awkward moment.

Limit: I was never given advice unfortunately. I was so alone watching everyone go in with their life as if nothing happened. Yet mine was shattered.

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I was never given advice unfortunately. I was so alone watching everyone go in with their life as if nothing happened. Yet mine was shattered.

source record 6134♥ 0

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no one told me anything. Actually I was alone in my grieving. I guess people wanted to avoid an awkward moment.

source record 940♥ 47
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No advice I was given served me in my grief. A friend gave me a Chicken Soup for the Soul book tho that got me through the roughest parts because it helped me to feel less alone in it.

posted about 51 days after the source♥ 0
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Nobody gives a single good word of advice while you’re grieving. Cuz nobody gets it

posted about 35.2 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 128 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (5 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

128index entries
128distinct source records
41.8%of parent category
2%of the complete index
123top-level comments
5replies
Browse the original comments128 preserved records · 128 of 128 source records accounted for
My family and I have endured endless grief. Children being our most heartache. Nothing phase me anymore but this made me choke on my own air and cry. Thank you for sharing your human with us 🫶🏻✨♥ 0source record 213
Still waiting…it will be 5 years in October 2nd♥ 0source record 338
no one told me anything. Actually I was alone in my grieving. I guess people wanted to avoid an awkward moment.♥ 47source record 940
I’m so sorry. I feel alone in my grieving too 😓 I really miss my Dad♥ 1source record 946
I don’t think I was even given advice♥ 5source record 1061
Nobody was ever there for me when I was grieving the loss of a loved one nobody ever I always had to do everything on my own had to get through everything on my own so no advice you just fucking do it♥ 8source record 1074
No advice I was given served me in my grief. A friend gave me a Chicken Soup for the Soul book tho that got me through the roughest parts because it helped me to feel less alone in it.♥ 0source record 1219
Your own. No one but your self can guide you on how to handle each day. Trust yourself.♥ 1source record 1521
I feel that way too. No one can help!!! It can’t be fixed, changed, etc…. It’s freaks me out♥ 1source record 1598
I LOVE this as somebody who has had to learn that through this journey this is so important.♥ 1source record 1609
don't be alone when you're in pain🥺🥺🥺♥ 1source record 1638
No advice that I was given- but I’ll give some. Let it ride. People will stop checking in to see if you’re okay. They don’t realize that 16months and 9days later you’re still in your grief process. Forgive them. They don’t know. It’s really your own ride and you will ride it forever. Try not to get mad at the world that keeps on going even tho you’re in pain.♥ 1source record 1699
I went through a lot alone. But I learned to stand alone because I’m the only one that understands me best.♥ 1source record 1703
Can’t remember didn’t hear any of it♥ 1source record 1711
I think it speaks volumes when no one gave you advice♥ 1source record 1844
Try to breathe and don’t stay in your room alone all day as if the world has ended. And yes the pain is real my heart hurts♥ 1source record 1964
well I lost my wife of 37 years 2 and a half years ago and not one single person stopped by . called me or not even a single text no one told me I sorry about what happened not a single word♥ 1source record 1984
No one ever told me anything and still grieving after 54 years♥ 1source record 2165
Never Was Given Advice. Always Had To Deal With It Alone.♥ 1source record 2190
I wasn’t given any advice. Instead I was ridiculed for how I was feeling and that’s when I completely shut down and kept it all in🥹♥ 1source record 2194
I wasn’t given any advice that was really helpful. But I can offer advice having gone through this myself and still going through it. Forget taking it a day at a time… Do your best to take it a moment at a time. It is hard it is painful And there is no way through it except through it. 🙏🏼♥ 1source record 2213
Have zero expectations on me. Rely on yourself♥ 0source record 2305
wala. 🙂 kasi never nila nakita, akala nila wala lang, walang iyak, walang lungkot. plain no reaction. not until now♥ 0source record 2321
Still waiting on that advice…♥ 0source record 2322
There was none. I’ve always been alone processing it for 4 years now. Nobody helped me, or cared, or ever will..♥ 0source record 2375
No advice offered was good advice. There’s no such thing. I’m sorry is the best thing someone can offer. I’m sorry.♥ 0source record 2390
“You’re going to get through this.” From someone who’d been there. No one else said anything to give me any hope, but that did.♥ 0source record 2508
I’m still waiting 🥹 tho nothing said would be taken as good advice 😢♥ 0source record 2600
“No one gets an award for being strong”♥ 0source record 2731
I wasn’t given any I was giving it while I dealt with it alone♥ 0source record 2854
When it comes to losing your significant other: Don’t get mad at people for thinking they don’t care or should care more. At the end of the day, you two picked each other to be the closest person in your life. You two chose to live with each other and tangle y’all’s entire world together. It’s not that others care less, it’s just your love is so deep and you haven’t had to live a day without him like the others have. My professor who lost his wife taught me that. I was angry at his best friends posting pictures, living life as if nothing happened when my entire world was shattered. I had to learn that they’re use to not seeing or talking to him every day, I wasn’t.♥ 0source record 2903
None. I was given no advice. People really didn’t know what to say.♥ 0source record 2929
nobody knows I am grieving....accept now♥ 0source record 2964
no one told me anything they showed me who people truly are.♥ 0source record 2966
No advice was beneficial.”Get over it and get a life “That stands out to me for some reason!People just don’t get it!Please tell me how you get over losing a child? I don’t want the empty comments! I just keep in my own lane and ignore the stupid comments!♥ 0source record 3058
Well a pastor who is willing to just listen to how I ended up grieving how I went to that situation no advice but just a pair of ears willing to listen sat beside me when I cried when the lowest suddenly appears♥ 0source record 3124
Still waiting for someone to say something useful.♥ 0source record 3189
no one gave me this advice. is just thought about it and it has helped me tremendously. lost my son, he was 21... I always say when I'm sad or upset... "he does not feel my pain and sadness". it is a human pain. not an Angel pain or sadness.♥ 0source record 3215
nobody is coming to save us♥ 0source record 3226
I was not told this. I eventually figured it out on my own. You can’t help someone, who doesn’t want to be helped.♥ 0source record 3227
No advice was the best !♥ 0source record 3232
None. It was hard. I’m better now. 🥰♥ 0source record 3233
Nothing ….. I’m sorry but no advice helps. It’s a process♥ 0source record 3255
Do what feels right for you! No one can give you advice! Just know that you will most likely allow yourself to do what you set out to do…♥ 0source record 3329
No one gave advice. After she was gone so was everyone else. They came in landing like vultures & left like thieves in the night...because they pretty much were.♥ 0source record 3359
I don’t remember any of it 💔♥ 0source record 3361
Nothing, I was left alone to mourn my dad on my own and figure it out♥ 0source record 3363
No one gave me any advice at all, both parents are dead now. I just had to move on with the emptiness, live my life around that emptiness.♥ 0source record 3373
I was never given any advice that I remember, while grieving, except for the default words everybody says... to everybody.♥ 0source record 3385
I'm still waiting....♥ 0source record 3393
I got no advice. I’m still grieving alone.♥ 0source record 3414
I didn’t get any as I recall♥ 0source record 3459
Haven’t found anything yet.♥ 0source record 3462
I’ve never been given any♥ 0source record 3529
I wasn't told anything helpful. I was told one day it won't hurt so much. I was told I'd be okay. It's been 16 years, I'm still not okay. It still feels like my soul has been ripped apart. Am I able to function now? Sure. But that is a mask. At my core I will never stop grieving. I will never be okay.♥ 0source record 3548
No advice, just a “I’m here for you if you want company.” and just let me grieve in peace.♥ 0source record 3571
Funny no advice given but then everyone sees me as the strong one so I am sure they figured I am fine♥ 0source record 3678
None actually… or maybe I did not want to hear them… I followed my own… 😘♥ 0source record 3695
Never given any advice ❤️♥ 0source record 3745
I don’t think any advice works , your life just keeps going and you start to cry alone and tell everyone you’re fine♥ 0source record 3785
No advice at all. Just permission to cry.♥ 0source record 3824
i havent heard any…but i could tell you a ton not to say🥴♥ 0source record 3826
I can’t remember right now 😢♥ 0source record 3922
I was kicked out as a young teen after my dad died. I dealt with everything on my own. Im 48 & just tired … just tired already♥ 0source record 3934
I haven’t. No one really has anything helpful to say 😳♥ 0source record 3961
Tbh I wasn’t told anything while I was grieving♥ 0source record 4008
None, was always alone. Still am.♥ 0source record 4048
No one gave me advice but they gave me lots of love, daughter, grandchildren, etc.😬♥ 0source record 4082
haven't gotten any♥ 0source record 4150
There was no advice given, only the grief in silence. Some times there is nothing to be said♥ 0source record 4304
I haven’t received any yet and it’s been 9 years♥ 0source record 4399
grieving is only up to you for how long u need. never let anyone tell u to let them go. that's only on your terms no one else.♥ 0source record 4419
Nothing anyone else told me just an understanding I came to on my own after my son died. I seen every tear and moment of sadness as a form of honor and testament to his life and how loved he is. I welcomed the pain because it was such a contrast to the joy I experienced just from knowing him and I will always be better from knowing him and suffering than had I not known him.♥ 0source record 4442
No one makes it out alive.♥ 0source record 4446
No advice. Anything that can sit with u quietly at ur lowest is the only person u need♥ 0source record 4507
I wasn’t given any advice. I was 14.♥ 0source record 4514
After my dad passed away when I was 10, I had to learn things myself… I always tell people their loved one has the best view in the house, from up above!!! And I remember telling someone when I graduated college that I was sad he wasn’t physically there, but he got to hold my hand while I walked across the stage.♥ 0source record 4594
Usually things people say are not helpful. Nobody has given me this advice. I’ve learned it on my own. Sit with your grief. Do not push it away. Make space for it. There will forever be sadness, even in moments of joy.♥ 0source record 4645
Nobody gives a single good word of advice while you’re grieving. Cuz nobody gets it♥ 0source record 4685
Nothing. I’ve done it all by myself.♥ 0source record 4701
none....I was left alone and told to get over it🥺♥ 0source record 4837
Grieving as a kid is wild , nobody tells you anything and assume you will get over it♥ 0source record 4841
I gave myself the best advice. Listen to no one who is trying to tell me how to do it. However I chose to grieve on any given day is ok.♥ 0source record 4910
none. cause its like they just disappeared.♥ 0source record 4922
To be honest, I was never told or taught how to greave. I guess I learned how by others actions. Was it the right way, probably not but, we all do this in our own way. What is interesting to me is that when you have a loss most people’s first reaction is to explain the loss they have♥ 0source record 4935
No advice, most of my friends, family and acquaintances don’t have pets.♥ 0source record 5078
They stay with us until no one says their name♥ 0source record 5214
No one is coming to save you save yourself💙♥ 0source record 5226
Still waiting for someone to give me some♥ 0source record 5235
No advice is best advice.♥ 0source record 5237
I wasn’t given advice. I had to search for it. Ppl only cared about my older sisters grief. I had to learn my grief was important too.♥ 0source record 5275
I bathed myself in memories of her goodness and love. Despite her flaws. Very cathartic, I would take long drives and long walks and cry by myself, but it all worked out. ☺️🥰♥ 0source record 5310
What I've learned nobody told me don't let grief weigh you down this is not easy I'm barely catching my breath after 2 1/2 years she was everything to me it's still knocks me down💔but I have to get up♥ 0source record 5411
I’ve learned that not only was I mourning our daughter, I was mourning the loss of who I knew myself to be. I died with her. Someone different showed up and I had to learn who she was.♥ 0source record 5412
No advice at all... Just sat with me when I was sad.♥ 0source record 5484
I was grieving and I was the one giving the advice, life’s a funny thing!!!♥ 0source record 5495
after my miscarriage, I was given a pair of comfy jamming. no advice, just understanding.♥ 0source record 5620
I've grieved alone. I made myself so independent so no one would have to worry about the 3yo little girl whose big sister was violently removed from her life. the grown ups were not ok so I had to be. I didn't start really grieving until I was 40. now I know her absence has been my greatest teacher in this life 💐♥ 0source record 5635
none. no advice. but now, 8 years later, im in a good place and the pain is still there, but its different.♥ 0source record 5646
When i couldnt move, get up, or do any basic act of hygiene. Countdown from 5. Need to brush your teeth? 5. 4. 3. 2. 1. Up. One day, you wont count as much. Then you wont count at all. This advice is simply about surviving each minute, hour, day. I have no advice for the hurt and pain. Im so sorry you are grieving.♥ 0source record 5674
No advice, because Grieving is a process, cry until you can’t anymore. My process started with denial, sadness, anger, loneliness and the worst was when I felt scared.♥ 0source record 5760
No advice - just acceptance♥ 0source record 5777
none no one gave me any♥ 0source record 5794
I am left to grieve alone.no one stops by to see how I'm doing. I go days without seeing a soul. I'm about to give up. it's so lonely.♥ 0source record 5795
Grief is lonely. You’ll learn yourself that nobody is here to save you, but you.♥ 0source record 5805
There is no advice. Just do the best you can♥ 0source record 5844
Grief reminds us how much love we had when they were here. No advice, other than take it one thing at a time it doesn’t have to be finished and boxed up in a day. 💗♥ 0source record 5859
Grief is lonely.. the only thing that helps is believing that they are always sitting beside you♥ 0source record 5882
No advice was given, just a friend sitting next to me in silence while i cried my heart out till i had no more tears♥ 0source record 5885
I have never ever been given any advice in my times of darkness♥ 0source record 5906
nobody was there, I was alone for 1 year♥ 0source record 5913
I didn’t get the best advice.♥ 0source record 5914
To keep your mind busy. Learn something. Don’t drink alcohol when you are by yourself. It amps the grief.♥ 0source record 5922
I was on my own♥ 0source record 5979
Sometimes no advice is the best advice.♥ 0source record 6010
I grieved all alone ….but it made me stronger in and of itself♥ 0source record 6041
No one told me anything, they hadn't experienced the loss of a child so people had no words. But, now if I was to give anyone advice while grieving, is this.. "Everything you feel is valid"♥ 0source record 6046
I wasn’t given any advice. I just allowed myself time and lots of it.♥ 0source record 6082
No one gave me advice. I had a friend who would go eat with me.♥ 0source record 6102
Grief is a time, “before” and an “after”. No one told me, I came to realize it.♥ 0source record 6123
I was never given advice unfortunately. I was so alone watching everyone go in with their life as if nothing happened. Yet mine was shattered.♥ 0source record 6134
Just cry you’ll feel a little better. No one has the formula for us left behind♥ 0source record 6198
No advice… just be there. Do all the things they can’t at the moment. Meals, dishes, water the flowers walk the dog. Don’t say anything♥ 0source record 6230
Don’t let no one tell you have to mourn….♥ 0source record 6234
To get over it because nobody cares.♥ 0source record 6256
Saving for later. I’ve been the only person pulling myself through.♥ 0source record 6278
The best of advice I got while grieving was don’t listen to advice because nobody grieves the same way♥ 0source record 6331
I've had to walk the grief walk on my own. Its lonely, it's cold and she comes and goes as she pleases but its OK because my tears just confirm that I had the best daddy and my tears are unfrozen memories that have no where to go 😭😭😭💔♥ 0source record 6337

Archive: 128 index entries preserve 128 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Nothing anyone said helped84 index entriesNothing anyone said helped — 84 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Nothing anyone said helped

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Nothing anyone said helped

84 source records

Appears when: Nothing anyone said helped

What the pattern means: In acute grief, advice sometimes failed to register; commenters described needing readiness before words could be heard.

What commenters described: A lot of words were said, but I couldn’t hear anything.

Limit: There is no good advice unfortunately

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There is no good advice unfortunately

source record 3535♥ 0
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There’s nothing that helped. It’s a lonely soul crushing experience that unfortunately you have to go through.

source record 6089♥ 0

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A lot of words were said, but I couldn’t hear anything.

source record 951♥ 267
Later-arriving source

there's someone out there for everyone. "if you give up you give up on them too.. theyre probably feeling the same way at times but if you give up they'll never know you and they'll wonder looking for someone who they thought was theirs but never got to experience with here.. in these particular lives were living right now and then"

posted about 57 days after the source♥ 0
Zero-like source

“Anything worth doing is worth doing half-assed.” This saved my life — literally. I couldn’t keep my house clean, laundry done, kids safe & fed, nothing. Not until I started half assing everything.

posted about 35.8 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 84 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

84index entries
84distinct source records
27.5%of parent category
1.3%of the complete index
82top-level comments
2replies
Browse the original comments84 preserved records · 84 of 84 source records accounted for
I hear you. I lost my mom this Mother's day, my dear friend on June 1st, and another dear friend from high school on July 6th. the grief is overwhelming. nothing anyone says helps. they mean well but..♥ 1source record 17
Hate this. This isn’t comforting. It feels dismissing. Grief isn’t beautiful-it’s painful. It’s not just another form of love. It’s the ache, silence, the missing of what was lost. Telling someone grief is just a reminder of how much you love someone is like telling them to be grateful for the pain. Grief is not a blessing - it is a wound. If you want to help someone griefing, don’t reframe their pain just tell them “I’m here. I know it hurts” BE WITH them, don’t give them empty platitudes.♥ 0source record 635
A lot of words were said, but I couldn’t hear anything.♥ 267source record 951
The pain you're feeling is nothing compared to the joy that's coming : Romans 8:18♥ 13source record 1090
I have yet to hear it♥ 20source record 1114
None. I received none. I am always the one comforting other but received nothing when it's my turn♥ 4source record 1154
Nothing because nobody understand the pain I'm going through I am totally 💔 and I will never ever be the same again 💔♥ 4source record 1160
there's someone out there for everyone. "if you give up you give up on them too.. theyre probably feeling the same way at times but if you give up they'll never know you and they'll wonder looking for someone who they thought was theirs but never got to experience with here.. in these particular lives were living right now and then"♥ 0source record 1248
nothing is gonna make the emotional pain to go away but time is the stitching for the wound. every tear shed, every memory you remember. every sunset that reminds you of them is a singular loop made into that stitched up wound. the pain is never going to go away but you grow with the pain to survive but to still live♥ 2source record 1374
I'm sure there's been something, but I've been too hollowed out and numb to hear...♥ 2source record 1376
This pain is just unexpressed love I never got to tell her.♥ 1source record 1404
I couldn’t hear anyone until I was ready…🥺♥ 1source record 1413
I don’t know I heard everybody talking but I definitely could not make out one thing they were saying!♥ 1source record 1484
Don’t keep asking why, because you’ll never know-mom. There’s nothing you can do about it-dad. They lost 2 kids. One 12, the other 23..♥ 1source record 1946
There is NO good advice during this time nothing you say to us could make it better so maybe try sitting with us while we repeat the story over and over again. I promise someday that story will come to an end and the person you knew will return.♥ 1source record 1957
Noboby tells you what you reeeeealllly need to know.♥ 1source record 2078
My cousin after my lil bro passed away in Feb. we all grew up together. Steph - I really don’t have any words , I am still in shock . I just wanted to text you and say no matter what , you can do this . Take each step slowly and remember to breathe. I will save you the cliche and trite sayings and tell you that this sucks . Please try not to worry about anyone other than yourself and your circle , everything outside of that doesn’t matter . Please take care of yourself and make sure you give yourself some time to decompress. Sending my love.♥ 1source record 2124
no advice can hel me to fill this emptyness. just watch series, do your work and be with close people♥ 0source record 2259
tbh.. nothing. my ears were shut close and until now nothing makes sense to me♥ 0source record 2336
Nothing, no good advice at all and still grieving♥ 0source record 2407
None! There is none nothing helps♥ 0source record 2589
None… no advise helped or will help♥ 0source record 2619
There is nothing that anyone says to help you get over 😔 People keep asking (how are you doing )inside you you are just dying and hate them for asking such a stupid question 😒♥ 0source record 2628
Idk i couldn't hear anyone♥ 0source record 2862
Nothing so far. I actually haven’t been told one thing to bring me out of this darkness♥ 0source record 2900
There is no good advice...your world just ended. Your world is now nothing but pain. I am no longer afraid of death...I just want to see them all again...♥ 0source record 3006
Every one grieving differently you would feel like nothing is like you and it’s suck but normal♥ 0source record 3097
that the dead know nothing...they are not missing us.♥ 0source record 3141
I don't have any words to give. I'm hoping to find ones that make the grief make sense, because her not being here still doesn't♥ 0source record 3307
DONT U GET IT ?U GAVE BIRTH TO A PERFECT HUMAN BEING, THAT HAD NOTHING TO LEARN JUST NEEDED HIS EARTLY BODY TO RETURN AND RECEIVE HIS ETERNAL BODY, HE HAD NOTHING TO LEARN IN THIS LIFE HE WAS ALREADY PERFECT ,HE NEVER KNEW PAIN ,HE ONLY EXPERIENCED LOVE AS YOU LOVED HIM FOR THE WHOLE 30 DAYS HE WAS HERE,YOU AGREED TO SUFFER THE PAIN HIS BIRTH AND DEATH WOULD BRING IN THIS LIFE, SO HE WOULD NOT HAVE TO EVER KNOW WHAT HURT FELT LIKE, YOU MUST GAIN AN EARTHLY BODY TO GAIN A RESURRECTED BODY, YOU WERE BLESSED, YOU HAD THE HONOR OF DOING THIS FOR A PERFECT BEING, YOU WERE CHOOSEN♥ 0source record 3351
I don't believe there's any such advice anyone could give me♥ 0source record 3364
I was waiting for the advice… still dealing!! sorry no help♥ 0source record 3392
Nothing, you learn on your own!♥ 0source record 3420
It doesn’t matter how they died, they are gone and nothing will change that.♥ 0source record 3431
There is no good advice unfortunately♥ 0source record 3535
Nothing. There is absolutely no good advice to give to someone grieving.♥ 0source record 3655
There is neither happiness nor misery in the world; there is only the comparison of one state with another, nothing more. She who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness.♥ 0source record 3713
“ you’re gonna have to just deal, there is nothing anyone can say or anyone can do”♥ 0source record 3869
It didn’t matter what anyone said at the time.♥ 0source record 3919
Everything is temporary including emotions, good days, bad days, heartbreak. Nothing is forever.♥ 0source record 3940
none. there's nothing that can fix your grieving heart. its something you have to feel, to experience, to absorb. its yours to figure out how you want to live with. everyone is different. and every grief is different. losing a parent isn't the same as losing a spouse or a child. losing a sibling isn't the same as losing a friend.♥ 0source record 3946
The pain will always be there but there will be peace in the pain. Allow all the feelings. Resist nothing. Honor it all♥ 0source record 3996
Nothing. I just sit here blinking yhen I go to bed. Its been 4 years now 😳😑♥ 0source record 4057
Iam still grieving & will alway be 💔 loosing a child is something a mother should NEVER have to go thru. I wish something someone could say would help, but nothing helps. Learning to live with a shattered heart & soul.♥ 0source record 4134
have a mind thats open to everything, but attached to nothing.♥ 0source record 4267
I don’t think I ever have. And I haven’t found my own yet. Seems like I’m always grieving but it’s all for different reasons and I do it in different ways.♥ 0source record 4268
Honestly nothing helps. So just be sad. Be mad. Sit in your car sometimes. 😞♥ 0source record 4289
There are a lot of platitudes about grief. A lot of things that try to make it lovely or beautiful or part of growing up. But grief really just sucks. It really fucking sucks. It's not beautiful, it's not a right of passage, it just really, really sucks. And that's okay.♥ 0source record 4293
no one could say anything to me. I couldn't hear it. I just needed to walk this journey alone 😔 I'm still traveling♥ 0source record 4303
None. There is really nothing anyone can say♥ 0source record 4388
I went to the doctor and I begged her to put me on meds. She said “no u have to grab the bull named Grief by the horns and ride it, if I numb u now that bull be bigger, stronger and be worse to ride.” 💔♥ 0source record 4400
It’s so cliche, but if we didn’t have grief, we wouldn’t have love — and love is worth it every single time.♥ 0source record 4539
“Anything worth doing is worth doing half-assed.” This saved my life — literally. I couldn’t keep my house clean, laundry done, kids safe & fed, nothing. Not until I started half assing everything.♥ 0source record 4637
It sucks losing someone you love but ain’t nothing worse that losing your kid…♥ 0source record 4720
My BFF lost her 13 yr old in a MVA they BOTH were in (her friend was driving tho). No words can help. Actions help. I had her move in with me & gave her my car when she left so she would drive again. I was afraid she would NEVER get behind a wheel again. She did. She is a true warrior & the kindest person on the planet!!!♥ 0source record 4803
There's no such thing as best advice for grieving believe me♥ 0source record 4880
I don't really think there's any 🙄♥ 0source record 4974
Nothing in the universe is ever lost.♥ 0source record 5004
nothing. not a daaaang thing has helped heal this feeling.♥ 0source record 5041
Nothing, but going through that grief and PAIN. 🙏🙏🙏🙏♥ 0source record 5043
There was nothing you could do. You have to accept that.♥ 0source record 5145
that healing is a choice. and nothing changes until you make it.♥ 0source record 5159
None. They’ve all been cliques. 🥺♥ 0source record 5193
Not really that it was advice but someone who also lost their dad told me I know there’s nothing I can do to make you feel better and I’m not going to pretend to know what you’re going through but I’ll be here if you want someone to listen or talk to. It gave me a sense of relief to those that said I know exactly what you’re going through♥ 0source record 5222
i got nothing. had to wing it♥ 0source record 5285
There isn’t any good advice out there really. Nothing. You just find a way to make peace with it.♥ 0source record 5321
None of the stuff yall are commenting is helping 😩♥ 0source record 5379
Absolutely nothing. I was inconsolable.♥ 0source record 5497
None, there is nothing you can say or do that helps with loosing your first born son. He was only 19. Killed by a woman who left the scene. Now I have to deal with the court dates. Her mom, her sister who told her to leave the scene and her they show no remorse.♥ 0source record 5565
None, words don’t get thru us when we grieve you become numb and weak♥ 0source record 5573
None no advice can help me heal from this loss No mother should have to bury her child♥ 0source record 5672
I think the best advice is to realize there’s no good advice for something we all end up experiencing. To grieve is to live at all, but it becomes a heavier and heavier bag.♥ 0source record 5688
I never got any advice just powered through..technically have never “worked” through♥ 0source record 5689
None. Nothing made me feel better.♥ 0source record 5714
nothing to share .. everything i heard cause more pain lol♥ 0source record 5733
None, there’s NOTHING anyone could say or do, yer fucked, they are GONE FOREVER♥ 0source record 5800
Nothing anyone said really helped. Grief is a path you have to walk yourself. The pain is loud and insane. And no — it doesn’t go away. It just moves into a quieter place. A file called: I can live with this now. If your heart stays open… you can grow from it. And somehow, find peace. Took me 5 years to get there.♥ 0source record 5803
You can’t listen, because I was in a funnel, brain is in shock♥ 0source record 5833
When the gets numb you'll feel them everywhere...🥰🥰😇♥ 0source record 5848
Nothing can be said or I don’t remember 😌♥ 0source record 6033
There’s nothing that helped. It’s a lonely soul crushing experience that unfortunately you have to go through.♥ 0source record 6089
Pain is static and it’s accumulative when you experience pain it’s collective pain of your unresolved past grief. It will all pass. Nothing will ever be the same but you will find a new, new♥ 0source record 6093
Keep getting up. Even if all u do is nothing. Keep getting up💔❤️💔♥ 0source record 6221
nothing. but I can tell you what i wanted to hear and that was that my late boyfriend loved me. i heard that he loved everyone. it would have been nice but nothing really helps:(♥ 0source record 6228

Archive: 84 index entries preserve 84 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

Presence beat platitudes53 index entriesPresence beat platitudes — 53 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Presence beat platitudes

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Presence beat platitudes

53 source records

Appears when: Presence beat platitudes

What the pattern means: Quiet company, touch, and willingness to listen were described as support that did not demand a response or explanation.

What commenters described: My husband held my hand and let me cry. Without saying anything he just let me grieve but let me know he was there.

Source-record spotlights

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My husband held my hand and let me cry. Without saying anything he just let me grieve but let me know he was there.

source record 938♥ 50
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sometimes just knowing and giving a safe space if they need to just break down and being there to pick them bavk up or doing small things like laundry or dishes can help. its what my mom needed when we lost my dad in 2015

posted about 68 days after the source♥ 1
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Silence. Honestly the most respectful and caring thing people have done for me is not say a word, and instead sit there with me allowing me to just be.

posted about 35.0 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 53 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

53index entries
53distinct source records
17.3%of parent category
0.8%of the complete index
51top-level comments
2replies
Browse the original comments53 preserved records · 53 of 53 source records accounted for
sometimes just knowing and giving a safe space if they need to just break down and being there to pick them bavk up or doing small things like laundry or dishes can help. its what my mom needed when we lost my dad in 2015♥ 1source record 801
My husband held my hand and let me cry. Without saying anything he just let me grieve but let me know he was there.♥ 50source record 938
I was told my mom's funeral was for me and to forget everyone else that showed up. which helped alot. her sister showed up after never being apart of her adult life 🙄♥ 0source record 985
Grieving alone isn’t grieving at all. You have to share the grief to feel the release♥ 6source record 1112
"what's understood does not need to be explained" after i was introduced to out of state family on his side as baby momma #1 even though we had been together for 10yrs went our diff way for 5yrs then spent the last 12yrs together before he passed♥ 1source record 1229
When my Dad died, I never felt so alone surrounded by family. When my aunt died 5 years later my cousin went in a different room he was devastated. I found him alone, crying and i went sat next to him. We didn’t say anything but so much was said just by sitting there.♥ 1source record 1362
Everyone who said they are there for you aren’t. Took me awhile to realize that it isn’t that they aren’t there for you, they just don’t know how to be and that’s ok.♥ 2source record 1469
no words .. just someone being there to listen and give a hug♥ 1source record 1472
No advice, please. Just be there. Give me a hug.♥ 1source record 1530
Best thing for someone to tell you is just “I’m sorry”♥ 1source record 1539
Nothing no one was ever there for me but my kids to help me live another day, I lost my parents my mother when I was 14 then my daddy when I was 36 loosing parents you’ll never have that home of arms to run to♥ 1source record 1766
Although it’s private make sure you check in.♥ 1source record 1790
Always try to remember when grief is hard that the person you lost would be shattered to see you sad or to see your heart breaking. They love you. Regardless if you can’t see their presence, their soul is still attached to your soul. 💝♥ 1source record 1905
It just sucks. Someone said that to me after I lost my stepfather. It was raw and real and just good to hear.♥ 1source record 1980
Its not the advice, its someone just there 🖤♥ 1source record 2220
There is none, just that one person to sit with you no judgment♥ 0source record 2273
No words just a hug. ❤️❤️♥ 0source record 2311
Not while grieving but battling cancer. She came up to me and gave me the tightest hug and then whispered in my ear, “I have no words, but I have hugs”. I’ve never forgotten that. Sometimes a hug and silence is all we need.♥ 0source record 2527
Welp, whaddaya gonna do? Let’s go eat.♥ 0source record 2555
Not advice but the ones who made sure I had food and came over to help with household things.♥ 0source record 2690
You don’t have to have hope rn. We will hold the hope for you 💗♥ 0source record 2808
“It just sucks. If you ever want someone to share the suckiness I’m here”♥ 0source record 2916
it wasn't advise they had, it was that they were here to listen to me♥ 0source record 2944
No one talks about how lonely your life gets after losing your first baby that was stillborn. That none of your family got to meet, everyone says they are there for you at the funeral, but weeks n months later. They distanced their selves from you & no longer talks or checks in 🥹♥ 0source record 3070
A friend (not even someone close) came and dropped off the book “grief soup” and said she would sit with me whenever i needed. It was a comfort I didn’t know I needed 🥺♥ 0source record 3164
I was completely abandoned by everyone who was supposed to and promised my husband they’d be there for me. I received the most support from the most unexpected people and places.♥ 0source record 3408
None. Grief is not something that anyone can tell you what you should do with it or how to feel about it. The only thing that mattered the most… was… who showed up for me and who was there for me through it all.♥ 0source record 3569
Talking to my grandchildren about their Dad who passed when they were young. So they will know memories I can forget of him. To be there for them on all the important moments in life that he should have been there for. 5 years next week💔♥ 0source record 3581
People often search for the perfect words. There are no perfect words. You have to tell the person that you understand they are hurting and you’re there for them.♥ 0source record 3586
The time that your loved one was here was a gift, and if you had to choose them being there for that amount of time or not being there at all, you would probably choose having them there and changing your life♥ 0source record 3795
Honestly, there’s nothing sacred or perfect.. just being present is all people need♥ 0source record 3872
silence...had a friend just sit by me while others said "I know what you are going through"...that silence with presence 35 years later is memorable♥ 0source record 4342
“People only grieve for their own selfish reasons”. It made me furious to hear. It sat with me & I dwelled on it. 😣 Then it hit me. They were right. 😢😢♥ 0source record 4362
Until the sun shines again I’ll walk with you in the rain.♥ 0source record 4502
Until the sun shines again, I’ll walk with you in the rain.♥ 0source record 4508
everyone that says they'll be there for you. no one is....♥ 0source record 4657
Silence. Honestly the most respectful and caring thing people have done for me is not say a word, and instead sit there with me allowing me to just be.♥ 0source record 4702
Those who shut the hellbup and listened to my shit then forgot about it. Not the time for advice. It’s the time for someone to just be there.♥ 0source record 4736
No words…she just held me as I broke…there are no words. It’s a presence that helped me the most. The ones that show up even if you may not want anyone to…they are there♥ 0source record 4852
No advice calmed the pain, but the presence of a good friend who didn’t let me feel alone helped me.♥ 0source record 4917
No words just hold me. Recent widow here♥ 0source record 4987
Just a warm hug was the best.♥ 0source record 5068
Zero advice. Just standing beside me allowing me to feel what I feel.♥ 0source record 5099
“It’s not going to make you feel better now, but one day you’ll be able to help someone only because you’re having the experience you’re having now. That sucks, I know. It doesn’t help. You say, why the fuck do I care about helping someone? I’d rather not have to go through this at all. But when the day comes and you can be there for someone the way I’m being there for you now and your whole heart will swell at the opportunity. THAT will help. That will be healing in ways nothing else could be.”♥ 0source record 5181
I tell them to grieve until they feel better, but we must not be selfish and let them fly freely.. don't slow your own progress. There's nothing you can say but let know your there for them.♥ 0source record 5208
.. a genuine hug and a listening ear 😔!♥ 0source record 5259
my advice to others is...at the funeral of my father who passed suddenly, I realized my grief wasn't the issue, it was all the visitors asking me how they were gonna get over him not being there. I was angry, but, its 26 years later and it's what a funeral is for I guess. so many losses. so much grief. we're all in this together.♥ 0source record 5395
My friend that was sitting w me. Said just let me know when you are ready to talk about it. She held space for me in silence just me crying. I love her to pieces. Miss you Mom, Dad n Brother 💔💔💔♥ 0source record 5617
I needed this today. I lost my husband to suicide 4 months ago, and I haven't received one piece of advice from anyone. all ive gotten is "ill be there for you" and they never are. a lot of life lessons, but never advice.♥ 0source record 5666
Bird Wings - Rumi Your grief for what you’ve lost lifts a mirror up to where you are bravely working. Expecting the worst, you look, and instead, here’s the joyful face you’ve been wanting to see. Your hand opens and closes and opens and closes. If it were always a fist or always stretched open, you would be paralysed. Your deepest presence is in every small contracting and expanding, the two as beautifully balanced and coordinated as birdwings.♥ 0source record 5940
My best friend said nothing. She held space for me.♥ 0source record 6111
Honestly just being given a plant or a card or a text. That felt good♥ 0source record 6169
I was told to ask people for what you need from them. not many people know how to support you, so just ask. ❤️♥ 0source record 6290

Archive: 53 index entries preserve 53 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

What people said that made it worse34 index entriesWhat people said that made it worse — 34 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: What people said that made it worse

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What people said that made it worse

34 source records

Appears when: What people said that made it worse

What the pattern means: This group contrasts memory-centered questions and honest presence with comments that redirected, minimized, or complicated the mourner's experience.

What commenters described: For my grandma: “you might have not been able to live the rest of your life with them, but at least they lived their rest of theirs with you” ❤️❤️❤️

Limit: Unfortunately, I only remember the worst words that was given by my ex husband and that was to get over it. Fortunately, I have memories of acts of love and kindness from strangers who brought me meals for 30 plus days when my third child was stillborn.…

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Unfortunately, I only remember the worst words that was given by my ex husband and that was to get over it. Fortunately, I have memories of acts of love and kindness from strangers who brought me meals for 30 plus days when my third child was stillborn. The compassion and empathy shown to me by strangers changed my soul. 🥰

source record 3202♥ 0

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Most engaged source

For my grandma: “you might have not been able to live the rest of your life with them, but at least they lived their rest of theirs with you” ❤️❤️❤️

source record 960♥ 13
Later-arriving source

Grieve well, your heart and soul are better equipped to guide you through the darkest and worst of the journey 🙏 Let the pain happen, then you may be able to move in to loving memories, unclouded by the pain 💔🥀

posted about 41 days after the source♥ 1
Zero-like source

that I'm not the only one who lost someone, so I'm not allowed to be so upset

posted about 35.4 hours after the source♥ 0

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What the counts show

Across 34 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

34index entries
34distinct source records
11.1%of parent category
0.5%of the complete index
31top-level comments
3replies
Browse the original comments34 preserved records · 34 of 34 source records accounted for
Grieve well, your heart and soul are better equipped to guide you through the darkest and worst of the journey 🙏 Let the pain happen, then you may be able to move in to loving memories, unclouded by the pain 💔🥀♥ 1source record 650
I’m trying to comfort my mom after the loss of my older brother. I don’t know what I could possibly say or do- I think the answer is nothing. I think it’s one of the worst things for a parent to experience.♥ 3source record 815
ugh, this. i lost my 4 year old to cancer in march and it loves to show up at the worst time. one was me sobbing in a dave n busters cause i saw a slushie - he loved those 😅😅❤️♥ 1source record 885
For my grandma: “you might have not been able to live the rest of your life with them, but at least they lived their rest of theirs with you” ❤️❤️❤️♥ 13source record 960
May not be the most healthy coping mechanism, but I hyper focus on positive memories of whatever I’m grieving until it is drowned out. I may still cry of have uncontrollable emotions, but at least they come from a good place.♥ 1source record 1190
I hated every bit of and still do! 😭 Grief will always be with you. Worst feeling ever and no one will get it unless you been through it!♥ 4source record 1375
Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend on their worst day. 🧡♥ 1source record 1743
Stop crying so much. Worst advice ever. However I had one person telling me to let it go whenever I felt it. Crying sucks. But it does get it all out.♥ 1source record 1898
My worst time was at night....find something to do that makes you happy or a distraction. 😪 Sending hugs.🫂♥ 0source record 2484
I was told to man up♥ 0source record 2509
Unfortunately, I only remember the worst words that was given by my ex husband and that was to get over it. Fortunately, I have memories of acts of love and kindness from strangers who brought me meals for 30 plus days when my third child was stillborn. The compassion and empathy shown to me by strangers changed my soul. 🥰♥ 0source record 3202
One of the worst things about my mom dying was I didn’t have her to talk to about it.♥ 0source record 3552
The worst that can happen to you, has already happened. You can handle anything after this. (This is what I learned to live by).♥ 0source record 3910
When people ask you how you are doing, they really do not want to know the truth. They are just being polite. They are busy with their own lives. Just say “as well as can be expected”.♥ 0source record 3953
Today, the first day, is the worst day -you will feel better -it will barely be noticeable because it’s only a smidgen every day.♥ 0source record 3988
you've survived 100% of your worst days. leaving those words on post-it notes in the spaces I would try to escape to.♥ 0source record 3992
Don’t have good words from anybody. His aunt told me “you’ll get over it” . And it was only 1 week♥ 0source record 4069
As a society most people are grief illiterate.♥ 0source record 4127
“People are going to say stupid things don’t let it upset you because People who haven’t gone through it can’t understand”♥ 0source record 4180
my sister who lost her only Son at 37 says the worst thing people said to her was if I can do anything just let me know, she says, like they could bring him back to her..I had always said that to grieving people, I really meant it and never thought about it not being acceptable..♥ 0source record 4226
Idk about best but I can tell u the worst ones 😭♥ 0source record 4382
How you grieve in front of your kids will be how your kids grieve one day. So after my brother died I found something good about every single day to share with them. I didn’t want them to just see the worst parts of grief. Even if it just was the sun coming up I celebrated it. But still to this day we will still say tell us something good about today.♥ 0source record 4504
I can tell you the worst. I had a {former} friend who said to me “it’s been 4 months since your mom died, get over it!” It is then when I realized that she was never a friend.♥ 0source record 4638
that I'm not the only one who lost someone, so I'm not allowed to be so upset♥ 0source record 4667
you survived 100% of your worst days. you can and will survive this 💜♥ 0source record 4782
not advice but a friend asked me "what was your brother like?" instead of "how did he die?" and I loved that. ask them to share good memories with you over asking them how they died and to relive the worst day.♥ 0source record 5107
I didn’t really get any. But someone did tell me 2 years after that I should be over it by now. 😢♥ 0source record 5213
Today is the worst day and tomorrow is less bad and so on♥ 0source record 5587
everyone will show then stop checking on you so be prepared .sure enough it was true♥ 0source record 5643
When my daughter died I was mad at the world. I wanted everyone to know the pain I had. For a long time i struggled with anger. Then my good friend, who also lost a child, said to me: Grief can be beautiful, but grief can be ugly. Grief can bring out the worst in us. Make us see the world in a dark light. You’re not a bad mom, you’re a grieving one.♥ 0source record 5706
At first I tried to hide my grief from my kids. But then I realized that it’s important to let them see. Maybe not the worst parts of it, but to understand that losing someone is part of life, and to grieve is normal. Even moms grieve for their moms.♥ 0source record 5781
Hope for the best expect the worst♥ 0source record 5983
I was widowed at 28- no one could say anything- but I know what my soul said - this is either the WORST thing ever or a GIFT, you decide—-it’s been a gift for 26 years now♥ 0source record 6153
None, people say the stupidest things 😅♥ 0source record 6259

Archive: 34 index entries preserve 34 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

You find out who really shows up7 index entriesYou find out who really shows up — 7 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: You find out who really shows up

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You find out who really shows up

7 source records

Appears when: You find out who really shows up

What the pattern means: “I don’t want you to get used to being surrounded by people, it is like that in the beginning, but slowly, you’ll be back on your own”

What commenters described: Not many really will show up for you.

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Most engaged source

Not many really will show up for you.

source record 1059♥ 29
Later-arriving source

Very little, people moved on with life…

posted about 29 days after the source♥ 0
Zero-like source

When everyone else leaves, I'll be back because thats when you'll really need someone.

posted about 33.1 hours after the source♥ 0

What the counts show

Within 7 source records, 1 ask a question and 0 explicitly say they intend to try the idea; neither signal is treated as an outcome.

7index entries
7distinct source records
2.3%of parent category
0.1%of the complete index
7top-level comments
0replies
Browse the original comments7 preserved records · 7 of 7 source records accounted for
Not many really will show up for you.♥ 29source record 1059
Very little, people moved on with life…♥ 0source record 2831
“I don’t want you to get used to being surrounded by people, it is like that in the beginning, but slowly, you’ll be back on your own”♥ 0source record 3057
none, every one just left....and now it's almost threw years later and I haven't heard from them since ......♥ 0source record 3122
None......people hide from your pain!!!!!♥ 0source record 3154
When everyone else leaves, I'll be back because thats when you'll really need someone.♥ 0source record 4875
Not advice, but rather you find out who genuinely care for you. The people that show up during grief are your true friends!!♥ 0source record 6279

Archive: 7 index entries preserve 7 distinct source records · Every displayed synthesis count resolves to source-record IDs

They're still with you279 records · 7 sub-topicsThey're still with you — 279 records
Always with you, in your heart104 index entriesAlways with you, in your heart — 104 records
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Coping idea, phrase, or supportive action + when it may help + limitation: Always with you, in your heart

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Always with you, in your heart

104 source records

Appears when: Always with you, in your heart

What the pattern means: One more thing! I’m so sorry you lost your momma. I’ve read a few books and tried many things to help me with my grief. Your mom is close and still watching over you, if you’re still you may be able to feel her. Two books have helped me with how I look at death because it baffles me? They’re here and they’re gone,…

What commenters described: Talk about them like they’re still around

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Journey of Souls Michael NewtonChoose brand, size or variantBuy it

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Talk about them like they’re still around

source record 1040♥ 39
Later-arriving source

You know in your heart you were loved... just feel that love inside. Even though they are not here you can feel it.. ❤️

posted about 55 days after the source♥ 0
Zero-like source

Grief doesn’t ever go away, it just gets easier and lighter in your heart and spirit. 💛

posted about 36.2 hours after the source♥ 0

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What the counts show

Across 104 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

104index entries
104distinct source records
37.3%of parent category
1.6%of the complete index
99top-level comments
5replies
Browse the original comments104 preserved records · 104 of 104 source records accounted for
this is beautiful and i will save it in my heart♥ 0source record 209
I lost my Dad in 2016 to Pancreatic cancer. I grieve for him every single day but I live to make him proud because I always feel his presence and know he is watching over me.♥ 0source record 734
As the sister of someone who lost one of her daughter’s, I can confirm this. My sister loved all of her kids, but the grief from the daughter she buried…she never was okay. For those of us left behind, we find a little comfort knowing she is watching over us with her daughter.♥ 1source record 804
I played all my dad's favorite songs as he was passing. I didn't let go of his hand, I needed to be there to usher him, I needed him to know i was there watching over him.♥ 2source record 904
Talk about them like they’re still around♥ 39source record 1040
One more thing! I’m so sorry you lost your momma. I’ve read a few books and tried many things to help me with my grief. Your mom is close and still watching over you, if you’re still you may be able to feel her. Two books have helped me with how I look at death because it baffles me? They’re here and they’re gone, sometimes you see something and they’re the first person you want to call. Okay, sorry getting side tracked. Journey Of Souls & Destiny of Souls by doctor Michael Newton. Journey is his first and Destiny follows and answers more questions. They’re on YouTube if you want to listen? Truly helped me with where are they? Our souls live forever, we are infinite beings. Again, sending you so much love. Love is what life is all about, keep on loving.♥ 11source record 1144
They will always be with you 🥺♥ 0source record 1255
From a person thats going to die soon I have 3 grown children with their children I've asked explained to them remember the funny happy joyful even silly things ive said and done don't want them to remember me in a sad way LAUGH full your soul with joy I live forever within them so we happy♥ 0source record 1266
You know in your heart you were loved... just feel that love inside. Even though they are not here you can feel it.. ❤️♥ 0source record 1272
Although there gone they will still be there in a way. I’ve had moments where I’ve noticed them there♥ 3source record 1457
It’s like watching your favorite movie over and over again. Sometimes you cry, sometimes you laugh, sometimes you can’t watch it, it all hits differently each time you watch it.♥ 1source record 1493
No advice. I love my signs. He is always with me.♥ 1source record 1511
The reality is there is no actual “loss”. We are all the same source of energy experiencing a human existence. You are a prism that reflects the light that passes through you which is the exact same light that runs through all of us. We never lose our loved ones because we are all the same energy. So your loved ones are always with you - and you with them - ALWAYS. When energy is passes through a prism it may appear separated but in truth it is all the same energy appearing different. This is the same with us. We appear unique but we are all one and the same. LIGHT ALL AROUND YOU!♥ 1source record 1522
Death leaves a heart ache no one can heal….Love leaves a memory no one can steal.♥ 1source record 1557
We feel grief because we knew love. I also believe that the body is but a vehicle in this physical world and the soul lives on forever, somewhere out there in the cosmos ❤️♥ 1source record 1577
What we keep in memory is ours forever♥ 1source record 1648
When you no longer have their body, you have to settle for their spirit ❤️♥ 1source record 1706
Grieving can start before a loved one passes. My mom told me “baby girl, you are grieving your dad while he is still here”. From that day I soaked in all my time with him that I had left… he passed a month later.♥ 1source record 1882
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal….Love leaves a memory no one can steal.♥ 1source record 1890
Look for signs. She doesn't leave completely ❤️‍🩹🥹♥ 1source record 1902
He is still with you everyone told me. He loves you to much to totally leave you.♥ 1source record 1914
sadly none. what cracked my soul had to be felt until I healed♥ 1source record 1941
He is always here with me,cause I’m never going to forget..❤️♥ 1source record 1982
Will forever change your life and yourself and the way you see the world. You will heal “one day”♥ 1source record 2008
Always look for the signs- they’re there when you need them most♥ 1source record 2024
So when tomorrow starts without me, Don’t think we’re far apart, For every time you think of me, I’m right here, in your heart.♥ 0source record 2050
Look down at your hands and in one hand remember the time you got with the person you lost, then look at the other and imagine not having that time. 💔 Powerful.♥ 1source record 2061
He’s near. Always. He’s just not with you. Now♥ 1source record 2107
Grief steps into the void left by love. Where there once was a person there is now nothing and everything at once. Every memory and every emotion is there. The silence is deafening. Grief is loneliness and suffocation. Grief. I could go forever without knowing you.♥ 1source record 2137
Sit for a while in the loss and take in love of those around you who are still here…♥ 1source record 2169
If something reminds you of him or it feels like a sign and it makes you feel happy and warm - it’s a sign. Enjoy the little moments♥ 0source record 2297
Sit in every feeling that you have and let those feelings happen. Grief is proof of the love that you have in your heart. How lucky are we to have experienced a love so pure and amazing❤️I lost my Dad a year ago and everyday since is a struggle💔♥ 0source record 2395
Today marks 5 months without my dad yesterday I spent crying just as hard as the day I found out. But when I went into my room I found a paper heart I’ve never seen before there is no way it wasn’t from my dad. So Look for signs they are still with you I promise ❤️♥ 0source record 2396
You are no longer where you were, but you are everywhere I am ❤️♥ 0source record 2429
“They aren’t in [objects], they are in your memories. You can let it go because they are still with you.”♥ 0source record 2563
i was grieving hard before the viewing, close friend of mine told me shes always with me. “Dude you’re not empty you’re a full cup that she helped fill and now that she’s gone you got some of what’s left of her on earth yo! Like how beautiful is that. “♥ 0source record 2575
If your heart is truly open to it. They will give you signs they are still here. Loving you. The most tangible way that they can♥ 0source record 2588
I just told myself he is watching me from somewhere and trying to guide me and protect me.❤️♥ 0source record 2726
Stop crying it's time for me to leave and it's not your fault breath I love you and I'll be watching over you ❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 2772
“Keep them in your heart and memory, and they’ll always be with you”♥ 0source record 2774
Evertime you think of them, they are in spirit amongst you. They'll leave when you are ready to move on.♥ 0source record 2814
When you stop looking for the signs, they’ll come 💚♥ 0source record 2904
They are still with you..❤️♥ 0source record 2942
grieve, let it out. no matter how long or heavy. the loss you feel is real. you will find your next steps slowly, you'll forever be different because they are gone from your life. always in your heart and memories. so celebrate and make those memories and remember them all. ❤️♥ 0source record 2974
Don’t cry she is always with you♥ 0source record 2991
take a shower. I know that sounds crazy but sometimes we forget or the energy isn't there. after you take a hot shower you feel more in control.♥ 0source record 2993
we dont say goodbye we say see you later see you in the spirit realm see you soon ill hold your light for you ill carry your memories ill fly an watch over you my wings are your strength see you soon loved one♥ 0source record 3026
It’s supposed to hurt. That means the love was true. So deep in your heart, that ache will never go away. You’re lucky to feel that.♥ 0source record 3080
They are with you no matter where you go in your heart that’s where they’ll stay 💜🌻♥ 0source record 3152
If you think it’s a sign, it’s a sign. Find them anywhere you can. 🖤♥ 0source record 3224
A bond made of love is never broken.♥ 0source record 3267
I look for the signs when they are there and grieve in the moments they aren’t.♥ 0source record 3287
Read Signs by Laura Lynn Jackson 🫶♥ 0source record 3292
If she could choose to stay where she ascended to vs this world, She would choose to stay. Let her stay with peace in mind. That’s what you can do, give her that energy, that’s love.♥ 0source record 3413
Look for the signs . Makes you feel good that they are around playing with you and showing you little things that they are still there.♥ 0source record 3457
I was once told not to hold on too tight or mourn too hard because it prevents the soul from ascending.♥ 0source record 3505
He’s one of your guardians now. Don’t grieve for his ashes he’s no longer attached to it. His spirit is free and his love is always with and around you. ☺️♥ 0source record 3514
Energy transfers, they are around you and you can still communicate with them. 🥰♥ 0source record 3516
I once read that my love is how they stay in this world, and that settled deep within me.♥ 0source record 3542
Not my advice, but Norm MacDonald, to a fan who asked him for some words of wisdom while he grieved his mom. Norm said: “Take all the love you have for her, Pablo, and give it freely to all that you meet. Your mom will look down upon you, happy and proud.”♥ 0source record 3574
Imagine her being right next to you in everything you’re doing. Show her a good life. Don’t make her be miserable watching you. Changed my life completely around.♥ 0source record 3602
You can continue to bond just in a different way. Look up “Continuing bond in grief”.♥ 0source record 3610
when they come to mind it's because they are right next to you ❤️♥ 0source record 3618
“She’s here, she’s still with us” This was 5 minutes after my mom passed. I was always taught that there was nothing after life. I was lied to for 48 years.♥ 0source record 3645
Get a beautiful journal and write to her/ him. Say everything you would want to say. The important, big, small, nothing all. Here’s the important part…write what you think or hear what he/she would say. You can still have those conversations. It’s just more meaningful to me than talking out loud to a loved one. They are still here. ❤️♥ 0source record 3684
Yep...just saw a Bon Jovi tribute band tonight. I sat still with tears running down my face the during the whole song "Bed of Roses". My mom passed away and it some how just hit me. It's been almost 2 years. I think you never grieve the right way for awhile. It sneaks up on you.... 🥺♥ 0source record 3699
“I loved a boy with the utmost love of which my soul is capable of and he is taken from me. Yet in the agony of my spirit in surrendering such a treasure , I feel a thousand times richer than if I had never possessed it.” ~William Wordsworth♥ 0source record 3731
They might be gone but their soul still lives.♥ 0source record 3796
It sounds so basic but it’s true: They are always with you. Look for signs and believe them when they appear. It’s real 💕💕♥ 0source record 3816
Your loved one would not want you to be sad... Try to smile and know their energy and essence is with you always♥ 0source record 3823
I was told so many times, "this too shall pass." and I thought I had to find resolution. Instead I have learned to accept that the pass means learning to let the memory pass thru you. To remember and rejoice in the fact that those are your memories with them. And not just the good ones but the little ones and the big ones. You loved this person so much that you can recall who they were. Perfectly imperfect. A soul with a story. Let yours twine with theirs and tell the story of what you lived together thru!♥ 0source record 3875
they don't leave until they know you can live without them♥ 0source record 4233
Something I wish people around me knew is that Im glad to hear stories about my dad - im not embarrassed or depressed by them. I love the stories of him. They make me feel like he's still here a little bit, because despite how much time i spent with him i only have so many memories and details.♥ 0source record 4246
They are always with you. Just in a different way ❤️♥ 0source record 4364
Their body may be gone but their soul is with you forever.♥ 0source record 4410
Not advice, but when I was about 5 years old my great grandfather passed away. My mom pointed out the brightest star in the sky and told me that was him watching over us. It comforted me knowing that all I needed to do was look up at the sky and look for my tata. Recently, my mother in law passed away and I pointed out the brightest star in the sky and told my girls that their nana is watching over them🕊️✨♥ 0source record 4443
Just because your world stopped doesn’t mean the world around you did.♥ 0source record 4470
Grief doesn’t ever go away, it just gets easier and lighter in your heart and spirit. 💛♥ 0source record 4578
They come to me in my times of need and comfort me. I have felt a hand on my shoulder. a hand in my hand and in dreams. I ache for their presence but am comforted they are still near and always, always in my heart! Their greatest gifts are the happy memories I will always have and allow myself to have them happily! That is their true legacy! 💝💝💝♥ 0source record 4663
if as in my case, there were multiple people who died in one tragic event, this was the best . The advice was you cannot grieve all of them at once as your mind cannot take it. You have to give each one of your loved ones space in your heart and your mind to grieve them individually. If you try to do it together, you will keep having nightmares. This was so true♥ 0source record 4714
I felt bad I didn’t go and see moms body at the hospital. My dad told me it was okay - that’s just a shell now and her soul is always around us - what I would’ve seen at the hospital wasn’t really her anymore.♥ 0source record 4746
Always cherish the moments you had with your loved one while they were here on earth with you. Cherish the memories as they will be etched in your heart forever ♥️♥ 0source record 4774
no one has ever cared enough to comfort me. I'm grieving people who are still around but chosen not to be in my life.♥ 0source record 4780
When you miss them, and it feels heavy and thick-that’s when they’re closest to us but we’re still associating their energy with grief. Open to them never really being gone💚🧬♥ 0source record 4823
Read Signs the secret language of the universe. And found comfort in knowing she’s around ♥️♥ 0source record 4887
Losses sharpen/deepen/strengthen our spirit. Is not easy. It’s inevitable.♥ 0source record 4890
I sadly had to grieve him for 10 yrs of Parkinson’s/Dem, took my soul. When he passed, took my heart. I am empty.♥ 0source record 4953
My son passed away in 2018 i put in my heart that he is on the most perfect beautiful vacation ever and he’s just waiting for me to join him. ♥️♥ 0source record 5082
just because they are no longer here doesn't mean you stop talking to them visiting them they are still here with you♥ 0source record 5139
Remember you are doing the very best at this moment- even if it means like everything around you is falling apart. What matters is that you survive to see tomorrow no matter how much pain you are in. 🥺♥ 0source record 5142
Grant yourself the honor of loving yourself the SAME WAY they would have loved you if they were still here in the physical world.♥ 0source record 5176
There is no advice. Even if you know they're still with you. Time is the only pain reliever, and even then never completely. The lesson is treat those you love with gratitude love kindness and respect every single day.♥ 0source record 5295
He/she is there alive in spirit, his body die but his spirit lives.♥ 0source record 5381
What I learned about grief. There is no guide to grief. There are no steps to follow. It’s as different for each of us as the person was we are grieving for. It comes in like a lion but thankfully slips away like a lamb. It is a private hell. A sick mix of anger,loss & love. But you learn thru it. Somehow you get thru it. Where the strength to go on comes from I do not know. But there comes a day when the sun in your heart comes out again and you can smile again and remember them without pain.♥ 0source record 5391
It’s been 12 years since my 24 year old son was ran over by a cement truck … and the pain is still there .. can I go♥ 0source record 5427
Be the things you love most about them, then they’re always with you 🤍♥ 0source record 5458
Think about what that person would want to see if they were to visit or are watching over you. It’s prob not sitting there being sad. So be what they would want you to be doing. Then, you’re doing it for them. There is no “guilt” for being “normal”. Bc you’re doing it FOR them.♥ 0source record 5473
It is an honor to grieve, it’s an honor to have known, to have loved, to have held someone in our hearts. Your grief is tribute to everything they shared with you, everything you recieved from them. Embrace your grief knowing it is an extension of love.♥ 0source record 5670
“His body is just a vessel, now it’s time for his soul to find a new vessel!” I don’t know why that helped so much, but it did! 😢😢💔💔♥ 0source record 5764
The song, “don’t think I’ll ever get over you “ by colin haye. I ignore all the advice around me. The song It healed me to know it was okay to be destroyed by losing my big sister who loved me deeply. I miss her still with pride.♥ 0source record 5916
“ Nothing last forever, people we love sometimes leave our lives, but what stays is how they forever change us!”♥ 0source record 5923
The depth of grief can sear or seep into melancholy sleep. The bellowing sound of being hallowed out. The state of a face contorted in pain. Eyes washed into transparent blue. The view from here, this is precious. A mysterious nature. Hovering there. In presence. To love their spirit with reverence. To meet the truest love there is. To be cherished. It is their gift for you. An imprint of the soul of them on yours, ln A forever kiss.♥ 0source record 6012
Embrace good people around you.♥ 0source record 6014
Always believe the signs. If you feel them there, they are there.♥ 0source record 6211

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What the pattern means: Commenters described carrying forward a loved one's qualities, values, or remembered view of them as one way the relationship remains present.

What commenters described: Don’t allow their death to burry the parts they loved about you with them. Honor their memory by being all of the things they loved about you and incorporate the behaviors you loved most about them into you. That is how they live on through you.

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Don’t allow their death to burry the parts they loved about you with them. Honor their memory by being all of the things they loved about you and incorporate the behaviors you loved most about them into you. That is how they live on through you.

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“Maybe that part of you that feels missing isn’t missing because they wanted that part of you to bring on their journey. So you know where it’s at.”

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“Grief is a part of you… she lives with you now… embrace her for she is the love you carried”

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I’m so sorry you’re going through that. Losing someone is hard, losing a close loved one is excruciating, I can’t imagine losing a twin. It must feel like a part of you has been taken. I hope all of these comments bring you some peace until you see each other again.♥ 1source record 556
I loss my dad two weeks ago on 7/6 it hurts so much knowing I won’t see him the rest of my life only in memories, pictures,videos it hurts I feel as if part of me died with him♥ 1source record 697
I lost my dad 11 years ago. When people ask when I can’t honestly remember most of time because it’s honestly seems like yesterday and it’s been 11 years. It hits me hard out of the blue for seemingly no reason and I have to pause and just live in it. I catch myself wanting to call him..and then I remeber. His sense of humor and wit lives on in me and my kids. He was the best ❤️♥ 0source record 757
What a love you shared.. and it still lives on through your tears. You will see your baby again, I just know it. Never stop talking to him ❤️♥ 1source record 911
Don’t allow their death to burry the parts they loved about you with them. Honor their memory by being all of the things they loved about you and incorporate the behaviors you loved most about them into you. That is how they live on through you.♥ 50source record 935
A part of you dies with them and you are a different version of yourself without them in your world. Take it second by second, minute by minute, hours by hour, moment by moment, day by day♥ 1source record 1233
I went to my friends house and her mom said to me “I’m sorry about your mom”. I said “it’s okay.” She sternly told me “it’s not okay. You shouldn’t say that.” I said “I don’t know what to say”with tears in my eyes. She paused and very gently said “say thank you” so I did. And I do every time someone says that. She was a harsher woman but would give the shirt off your back, I just always think about her saying “it’s not okay.” Because it’s not!!! 💞♥ 1source record 1453
You gain a piece of them although they are never seen again.♥ 1source record 1563
I don’t grieve my mom anymore. She’s very much a part of me every day.❤️♥ 1source record 1615
"Grieving keeps her alive in your heart" After that I embraced grieving. I am in peace with it and I never want the feeling to go away ❤️♥ 1source record 1705
“Maybe that part of you that feels missing isn’t missing because they wanted that part of you to bring on their journey. So you know where it’s at.”♥ 0source record 2331
What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.♥ 0source record 2346
My dad died and a friend wrote on the card 'Your bond is so strong it will never be broken. He will always live on in you'. It's the only card I kept♥ 0source record 2384
I will always be with you even if you can see me. Parts of those we lose make us who we are, it still hurts to lose them though. I did my best to focus of what part of me they impacted♥ 0source record 2400
Become the best parts of the ones you loved, so they can continue to stay alive through you.♥ 0source record 2447
i’ve never met them but you keep them still alive, and i know you are just like them ✨✨♥ 0source record 2487
“Use that pain & turn it into power” 😭 “let her live through you”♥ 0source record 2570
you will hear her talking to you when you need her and you will know what her advice will always be... Miss you Mama with all my heart 💔😔 She really is alive in my heart 🙏♥ 0source record 2849
“This too shall pass but live on in your heart forever”.♥ 0source record 2933
My doctor told me your mom lives through you and in you and that helped me.♥ 0source record 2975
When I die Give what’s left of me away To children And old men that wait to die. And if you need to cry, Cry for your brother Walking the street beside you. And when you need me, Put your arms Around anyone And give them What you need to give to me. I want to leave you something, Something better Than words Or sounds. Look for me In the people I’ve known Or loved, And if you cannot give me away, At least let me live on in your eyes And not your mind. You can love me most By letting Hands touch hands, By letting bodies touch bodies, And by letting go Of children That need to be free. Love doesn’t die, People do. So, when all that’s left of me Is love, Give me away.♥ 0source record 2982
you will mourn the other, 10 times the amount of love you gave/had. it becomes a part of you. but what you miss or mourn is the person you were, in that era of life.♥ 0source record 3117
Let them live on through you. Be the best in them.♥ 0source record 3222
“For where there is sorrow, there was once something sacred. And where there is ache, there is still love alive in your every tomorrow” from a letter a family member wrote me when my mom died♥ 0source record 3347
The pain doesn’t go away it just becomes apart of you. It doesn’t run your life forever but it’s always there. Like a raw nerve. It gets hit less and less. But it’s always giving to be there. This comes from a beautifully flawed deep love.💕♥ 0source record 3442
To remember that my mom is still with me always. She lives in me. So I try to do my best to be like her, in all the best ways and spread kindness and love the way she did.♥ 0source record 3477
“They gave you everything you’ll need to get thru this.” 🥺♥ 0source record 3485
The best way to honor them is to take the thing you loved most about them and let it become part of you. My brother was funny and so forgiving….he was so chill. I honor him by trying to replicate those things, cause that’s what I loved the most about him. He would always say, “don’t trip potato chip”♥ 0source record 3728
“It’s okay to grieve.” It is okay if you’re not okay. It’s part of you now, forever 😞 ((hugs))♥ 0source record 3773
“Grief keeps them alive in your mind and heart when they physically can’t be here.”♥ 0source record 3821
The chapters of grief repeat. Also, grief becomes a part of you.♥ 0source record 3899
When we have an incredibly strong bond with someone, we share pieces of our soul with each other. Once they pass, a piece of our soul dies with them, but a piece of them continues living through us. So they still get to experience life through our eyes. ❤️♥ 0source record 3907
When I realized I was also grieving the loss of my identity through their lived experience, I unlocked a whole new level. I was doing so well until I realized, I'm not her daughter anymore, Im not her sister anymore, I was those titles for a short time but in them passing, that part of me died with them.♥ 0source record 4259
That it's better to lose a loving, involved dad who gave me a lifetime of memories and wisdom than to have a living narcissistic dad. I love you, Dad. Your love lives in me and in your grandchildren.♥ 0source record 4396
Grief will never go away. It just becomes a part of you that you learn to embrace.♥ 0source record 4540
“Grief is a part of you… she lives with you now… embrace her for she is the love you carried”♥ 0source record 4647
the advice I gave myself, all the beautiful times now live in me. the traditions are mine now, you see little details and reminders everywhere. I am grateful to have been loved, by my best friend, my queen, my world. my mother ❤️🕊 a part of her is me, and a part of me is her.♥ 0source record 4825
You had a love so deep that is apart of you now ! Don’t ever let go of that !♥ 0source record 4861
a part of you dies. You feel like you have a foot in the grave. even when you feel happy there's something missing. you can never be "that kind of happy" ever again.♥ 0source record 4889
they live in your heart♥ 0source record 4944
A friend told me “ it will take approximately three years to turn grief into an actual part of you that you can live with “ and she was right. Now I hold my grief as part of me and use it to hold the people I grieve for close to me. Never forget.♥ 0source record 5135
Grief is a not so gentle reminder of the love that once physically manifested itself and that lives on through your love and memories. To grief is to know that you were loved and you loved. ❤️‍🩹♥ 0source record 5430
That it will never end.. but it’s a part of you that each day you will handle differently. And accepting that it is a part of who you are now.♥ 0source record 5830
We have a spiritual code connected to the ones we love, when we lose them, that cord is still attached . So part of us is here on earth missing them , and part is with them. This is why it’s so hard to live without them. Embrace it , love them . Let go until you are connected again.♥ 0source record 5997
Because part of you died with them.♥ 0source record 6045
I don’t remember honestly, but when I lost my brother, I felt like a part of me died too. 13 years later, i still feel that way, but I am used to it. And I live differently now. I love harder bc I know loss. 💔♥ 0source record 6138
Dont ever stop grieving it's part of you now 🙏 dedicate your love and always remember them 🙏 #forever27♥ 0source record 6145

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What the pattern means: The relationship was described as continuing through memory, dreams, and influence while changing form after death.

What commenters described: My granny passed away a year ago and at the funeral my cousin, who also lived with her and was her caregiver, said “As long as I live, you’ll never die.” Idk why it shifted my perspective, but it did.

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My granny passed away a year ago and at the funeral my cousin, who also lived with her and was her caregiver, said “As long as I live, you’ll never die.” Idk why it shifted my perspective, but it did.

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something is only lost if you dont know where it is.

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Grieving is a normal part of life don’t avoid it sit with it laugh with em cry do what you need to help you heal there not gone forever they live tru us now 🥰

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I'm so sorry. Losing a parent is so difficult. If you get quiet and listen very carefully, you will see and hear things that remind you they have never really left you.❤️❤️❤️♥ 0source record 740
My granny passed away a year ago and at the funeral my cousin, who also lived with her and was her caregiver, said “As long as I live, you’ll never die.” Idk why it shifted my perspective, but it did.♥ 10source record 1103
When my MIL died, I could only focus on my husband. I didn’t let myself get sad, focusing on his grief and my daughters only. Distractions. She is dearly missed. One less present each year. That stuff never leaves you.♥ 1source record 1231
something is only lost if you dont know where it is.♥ 0source record 1270
They are not gone, they just walked a little faster♥ 1source record 1361
that they would always be still here in my thoughts and stories. that they never left.♥ 1source record 1594
People die. Relationships go on.♥ 1source record 1650
I have lost many loved ones! Mother, father, brother, close friends. But losing my son is a completely different level of grief. It will take time, time and more time. It's a pain that will never leave.💔💔♥ 1source record 1668
Relationship is between two souls. Physical death can’t end that. It just looks different. Find your different.♥ 1source record 1715
Before my dad passed away I was drawn to a quote. “You know the place between sleep and awake? That’s where we will meet.” I see my dad in my dreams so often. He is so real there. He talks to me, answers my questions and told me he has to leave me sooner than I wanted him to bc he is able to help me better now. He was the most amazing dad, but I wanted him to tell me he loves me and hug me, I get that now in my dreams. I dream a lot and sometimes have to remind myself I must also still live. He’s always laughing and smiling for me. I wake up ready to continue for him and the whole family. But it is not easy. I miss asking for his advice. I miss everything. He knowledge, jokes and reassurance. But it’s like he not only never left me, but is with me. “We don’t just live in a world, a world lives in us”♥ 1source record 1733
They are not gone. Your loved one is here. Always with you. Many times speaking softly of love shared.♥ 1source record 1756
“Grief never truly leaves, but neither does love. Let yourself feel it all—rest when it’s heavy, and move forward when you can. Healing isn’t about forgetting, it’s about carrying the love with you in a way that doesn’t break you.”♥ 0source record 2262
Just because the person is gone doesn’t mean they aren’t there. Also that when it strikes the hardest isn’t there always a laugh at some point that makes us smile and say I got this! Go with it!♥ 0source record 2513
Just because they are not here physically doesn’t mean your relationship has to end ..♥ 0source record 2605
It’s not advice but some comfort: the relationship isn’t over, it’s just different.♥ 0source record 2634
It sucks that the world keeps going when you feel like life is standing still. The grief never leaves you; it just changes to be a bit more manageable♥ 0source record 2661
My biggest break taught me to understand that you will always love them. Don't lie to yourself or others about how much you "hate" or "never this&that". That's the anger of hurt puppeteering you. Understand that love never leaves it just changes just as either you or they changed. Acknowledging that you love them and forever will allows your heart and mind to obtain peace instead of wasting away in peril of trying to now convince your heart and mind of your sudden 180 to negativity. You most likely loved the idea of them in your head and not who they were in real life. You're mourning someone who never really existed. You gave love and hope in hopes of it being real on both sides. Just bc the other person didn't uphold theirs doesn't mean yours wasn't real. It was, it is, and it will always be. Now it's just love changed. Not love changed to hate. ♡♥ 0source record 2758
“Try to imagine what it will be like to go to sleep and never wake up… now try to imagine what it was like to wake up having never gone to sleep.” ?♥ 0source record 2951
Some people say "they never really leave you" & some people say "I'm sorry but they're gone". But what's really helped me is "they don't have to leave you until you're ready" & that's helped my grief pacing more than anything else.♥ 0source record 3128
not advice, but during my struggle to process my father's vehicular suicide I found the book We Don't Die by George Anderson. then had a reading with him.♥ 0source record 3214
No one told me anything it was just something I learned. The grief never leaves it just gets less loud.♥ 0source record 3230
there are no goodbyes. I know it seems silly or nonsensical, but it resonates with me♥ 0source record 3285
I came to terms with this through losing my dad & I’ve shared it multiple times over to anyone who is new to loss: “We are not our bodies - we are energy and intentions. Energy never leaves but it does transfer & knowing your person…their intentions would never leave you alone.” 🥹 while so very different, yes… but they are still with you. Actually and truly ☀️🫶🏻♥ 0source record 3310
I try to remember this quote my brother sent me when a close friend died: “Don’t die with your dead.” He died a year later. 💔♥ 0source record 3403
I had a bad day at work and wanted to call my Dad so bad I cried. he died 3 years ago. it comes and goes, but never really leaves.♥ 0source record 3810
Love never dies. The Relationship changes, but the love always exists.♥ 0source record 3870
It gets so much harder before you are ready to find friendship with grief. It never leaves but it does transform & morph into something like nostalgia maybe mixed with a wishful longing. Talking about them always helped me feel less angry… often times you can feel like the world forgot someone you loved but if you keep talking about them they can never be forgotten.♥ 0source record 3957
Nobody is ever truly gone. She’s there; just in a diffrtrnt way.♥ 0source record 3983
Our loved one’s go no where. They are always inside of you.♥ 0source record 4038
A piece of you will always be with me even if it’s the heart ache♥ 0source record 4050
Love doesn’t die it expands. People don’t die they merge. Grief is the shadow of love… in memory of my beloved son Austin. 2/12/97❤️8/26/20♥ 0source record 4262
The electrical impulse put off by living things comes from the energy inside of atoms. While atoms can be split or manipulated the energy they contain can never be altered or killed, it just changes into a different form. Every bit of the energy that’s existed since the beginning of time is still in existence today. The thing ur grieving is not gone, its simply shifted into another form of energy.♥ 0source record 4329
She is woven into the fabric of your life. She’ll never leave you completely.♥ 0source record 4495
Memories never die♥ 0source record 4562
Grieving is a normal part of life don’t avoid it sit with it laugh with em cry do what you need to help you heal there not gone forever they live tru us now 🥰♥ 0source record 4633
Our Relationships with our loved ones (parents,friend, family) never change. Our (parents,friend, family) will always be our (parents,friend, family). The love we have for each other will also never die. Life is just different now and that is the hard part. Their suffering is over and it is important that we go on with ours. For they lived their lives and it is important that WE LIVE OUR LIVES too. MayGod bless all those who are suffering loss.🙏❤️♥ 0source record 5006
That they're never really gone until the last time their name is spoken, so never stop talking about them 🫶♥ 0source record 5114
This pain is yours I can’t feel your pain, and this pain will Never leave you, but you will get used to the pain , like an amputee gets used to having no legs.♥ 0source record 5190
That it’s ok to grieve it’s ok to feel lost and to feel heartache. But don’t die with them. 🥺 It was the one of the hardest things I had to hear because I was truly dying with my dad when I lost him:( it’s something that doesn’t go away. But I try to make him proud every day♥ 0source record 5525
“Your relationship with them doesn’t end, it just looks different” 🥰♥ 0source record 5618
None, I look for the moonlight, the stars, and the sunshine and tell myself that as long as I can see these, they are here with me, they are not gone and I feel them standing by me and I close my eyes and extend my arms to hug them and tell them how much they’re needed, missed, and loved. Only those that don’t know grief, yet, think that words can be consoling. I was one of those until it happened to me.♥ 0source record 5956
That grief never leaves you but you find different ways TO grieve that won’t destroy you 💕♥ 0source record 6283

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Keep talking to them35 index entriesKeep talking to them — 35 records
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What the pattern means: Some people kept an inner conversation with the person they lost, using familiar memories of their voice as a continuing ritual.

What commenters described: When I start crying I talk to my mom in my head. Just telling her why I miss her and need her. I can hear her voice tell me that things will be ok. That little chat gets me by for awhile till it happens again and I rinse and repeat. Death sucks

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When I start crying I talk to my mom in my head. Just telling her why I miss her and need her. I can hear her voice tell me that things will be ok. That little chat gets me by for awhile till it happens again and I rinse and repeat. Death sucks

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Let tita live life through your eyes now. Talk to her, show her the world. She is with you and will always be with you.

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When my big brother was taken from us, "He isn't gone, he just stepped into the next room" so I still talk to him as if he's sitting in the chair across from me.

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Across 35 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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Lost my mom 11/2023. I still talk to her daily, hoping somehow she can hear me. If not, it makes me feels better and still connected. Keep talking!♥ 2source record 300
Don’t beat yourself up, talk to your kids when they can understand, I think they’ll understand 😇 release that off your heart! 🤎🤎🤎♥ 1source record 457
I think it would be nice to talk to your children about it. My love why wonder when you can ask, maybe you can give them some clarity & release yourself of that guilt ! Sending love and light always 💙💙♥ 2source record 462
You’ll be numb…. I was a zombie for about 3 months… thinking back I maybe remember a handful of things….. I’m at 1 and 7 months without my mom… it’s a rollercoaster! You can never really be prepared for what’s to come now but allow yourslelf to feel them!!! Scream when you need to cry ANYwhere! TALK to him!!!!!!!! If you sit quiet enough you WILL hear him!!! 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂♥ 0source record 724
“Live life to the fullest so you have a lot to tell them about”♥ 16source record 1053
When I start crying I talk to my mom in my head. Just telling her why I miss her and need her. I can hear her voice tell me that things will be ok. That little chat gets me by for awhile till it happens again and I rinse and repeat. Death sucks♥ 23source record 1109
That just because the physical relationship has ended doesn’t mean the relationship did. You can still love them and talk to them and do things to honor them keeping that love alive♥ 4source record 1164
Let tita live life through your eyes now. Talk to her, show her the world. She is with you and will always be with you.♥ 0source record 1252
And that I wasn’t losing my mind when I kept having moments I’d be like I can’t wait to tell her about this. I kept thinking, How could I forget when the pain was so great?! It was bc for one moment I was happy and she was the one to tell and talk to for 45 years. So apparently this is normal.♥ 0source record 1321
“Live a life that you can’t wait to tell them about”♥ 1source record 1451
Talking to my loved ones who are gone daily helps a lot. I talk to them like they are in the car or sitting on my couch with me. Sounds weird but it helps me a lot. Also showing them that I can always do the things or succeed like they would had wanted me to. Makes me feel a lot better like they are cheering me on and I feel it 🫶🏾♥ 1source record 1482
Let grief in. Sit with her. Talk to her. Acknowledge her. Because grief is actually just love.♥ 1source record 1559
Talk to him. Out loud.♥ 1source record 1612
I miss our daughter so deeply and talk to her all the time. I also tell others about her every chance I get! Say their name!!! She was killed in a tragic automobile accident 8 months ago. Kaitlin f37. Momma will see you soon baby!♥ 1source record 1712
Give yourself grace. Give your grief a name…oddly it made a difference in getting acquainted with it and I am able to talk to my grief.♥ 1source record 1850
They are physically not here anymore but they are still always with you. Talk to them when you need to.♥ 1source record 1899
Talk to them and the will show you three are still there.♥ 1source record 1935
From my grandmother to me in 1986 before she went silent & gained her wings. I recorded all our conversations bc I knew I would need to hear her voice in later years. ❤️Your loved ones are absent from your life, your arms, your sight for just a little while. Think of & talk to them often as their love is wrapped around you forever. They are good & have hugs waiting for you. May your heart heal from things unspoken, May you have Peace in your life, Clarity in your thoughts, Strength for your struggles, Gods light in your dark times. Know that your Loved ones are in a good place. ❤️♥ 1source record 2183
Cry when you feel like it, talk about your loved one as often as you want, drink water, go for walks, eat good food, eat junk food, cry, cry, cry. Journal, avoid people who make you feel bad. Talk TO your loved one. Cry….♥ 1source record 2206
They are around us! Talk to them♥ 0source record 2411
when my son passed away at 16 years old, it was the most horrific unbearable pain and I did wanna die, but that was not an option. I got a journal and I write to him all the time I talk to him too to make sure that I never ever forget memories♥ 0source record 2607
“I lost my daddy 30 years ago and not a day goes by that I don’t talk to him”. It gave me such relief both for understanding that grieving is eternal and that I would never forget him. I was sad that there were stories or instances I would forget, but this gave me the relief that I had plenty of time to remember it all without rush.♥ 0source record 2618
I toldyaelf, Listen to ur heart and I will know what to do or what she be saying to u♥ 0source record 2896
Simple but “think about the good times”. It takes me back there to when they were still alive. Alive in my memories. Also “talk to them, they’ll hear you” it makes me feel like they are with me. By my side. 🫶🏻♥ 0source record 3031
Take time to grieve… but also take help from anyone who offers. Meditate & talk to them ask for signs & write it down when u see them.♥ 0source record 3199
none really, but I talk to them every day and ask for thier help through the tough times. They never left me really. ❤️♥ 0source record 3539
My friend told me to write all my memories down. You will remember things and people will tell you stories about your loved one. Writing helped me grieve. I also used the journal to write about things I wanted to talk to my mom about.♥ 0source record 3761
Talk to your departeds loved ones, tell them when you see something that reminds you of them. When you’re young the idea of having to remember someone for the next 50 yrs is daunting, knowing someone else is remembering them helps.♥ 0source record 3949
When my big brother was taken from us, "He isn't gone, he just stepped into the next room" so I still talk to him as if he's sitting in the chair across from me.♥ 0source record 4020
Talk to them. They can hear you. ❤️♥ 0source record 4032
I talk to my mother, out loud, whenever I need to.... when I have things to complain about, or things I'm excited to share with her, or just when I'm really sad and I miss her. I know she's listening, she always did🩵♥ 0source record 5384
But also fall apart when it strikes. Everyone can wait. The warm and fuzzies are soon thereafter. Then you can talk to them. Even with tears in your eyes.♥ 0source record 6061
Speak out loud to the person you’re grieving, they can hear you. ❤️♥ 0source record 6162
Told to talk to my mom that she is listening to.♥ 0source record 6235
They are gone physically, but their energy, memeories and love have been imprinted in your divine. Talk to them, think of them, cry about them, write about them. They are forever in you……🫶🏻❤️♥ 0source record 6298

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Energy doesn't die — it changes form21 index entriesEnergy doesn't die — it changes form — 21 records
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Energy doesn't die — it changes form

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What the pattern means: the entire article, "Have a physicist speak at your funeral" it helped me in the deepest pits of grief. especially as an agnostic, but it doesn't disrespect religion, for those who are.

What commenters described: The op-ed titled “The Science of Death: The Best Eulogy, According to a Physicist”. It’s the only thing that ever brought me comfort.

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The op-ed titled “The Science of Death: The Best Eulogy, According to a Physicist”. It’s the only thing that ever brought me comfort.

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the entire article, "Have a physicist speak at your funeral" it helped me in the deepest pits of grief. especially as an agnostic, but it doesn't disrespect religion, for those who are.

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There is no beginning and end. It just becomes a part of you and changes forms throughout life.

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The exact phrase “energy never dies” recurs across 6 of the 21 source records in Energy doesn't die — it changes form; the complete archive stays available below.

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the entire article, "Have a physicist speak at your funeral" it helped me in the deepest pits of grief. especially as an agnostic, but it doesn't disrespect religion, for those who are.♥ 0source record 1254
The pain you feel now is the reflection of how deeply you loved & were loved in return. That bond doesn't end, it just changes form♥ 0source record 2265
“Death isn’t the end. It’s just when we become everything else. “♥ 0source record 2325
We are all energetic beings. Energy can not be destroyed. Only changes shape. It’s science. They are still here just no longer in human form. 🥰♥️♥ 0source record 2752
Energy can not be destroyed. It only changes form. I lost my PawPaw (Dad figure) and got pregnant with ny oldest on the 1 yr anniversary of his passing. Went in to the hospital on Fathers Day and they are both Gemini. My Nanny (mother figure) passed away on February 9, 2018. I found out I was pregnant with my youngest on February 9, 2018. She acts just like her. Says things she used to. Her mannerisms are similar. Energy can not be destroyed. It just changes form. (I was also told by multiple doctors I would never be able to have children.) 🖤🖤♥ 0source record 2857
Energy cannot be destroyed, it simply changes form. Your loved one remains, just in a different way. 💖♥ 0source record 2893
My best friend reminded me that energy cannot be destroyed. He’s still here somewhere♥ 0source record 3085
They are never really gone. Energy never dies, it simply changes form 🫶🏻♥ 0source record 3424
Energy never dies it just changes form.♥ 0source record 3473
It was reading the eulogy from a physicist. As an atheist, I struggled with the finality of death but after reading this I found comfort.♥ 0source record 3502
We are energy. Energy never dies. It just changes form. So I know my mom is still here. She can be in more places now and can see more than I can because her limitations have lifted. In a way, she can be closer now than ever before and we never have to separate again.♥ 0source record 3737
It also helped knowing energy can’t be destroyed only transformed♥ 0source record 3847
✨Energy never dies. So their energy is out there somewhere. Always. (And knowing that helps me. It's why we received keys and messages from those that have passed.)♥ 0source record 4151
Energy never leaves, it just changes form♥ 0source record 4473
Energy cannot be destroyed. It just changes forms.♥ 0source record 4481
There is no beginning and end. It just becomes a part of you and changes forms throughout life.♥ 0source record 4557
The op-ed titled “The Science of Death: The Best Eulogy, According to a Physicist”. It’s the only thing that ever brought me comfort.♥ 0source record 4653
Energy can neither be created or destroyed. They're all around you. You just can't see them.♥ 0source record 5594
Energy never dies, only transferred...my mom and sister are definitely waiting for me to enter their realm. ✨️🤸‍♂️🤩♥ 0source record 5736
It doesn’t stop. It transforms into an energy that if you’re open, can enhance creativity. The desire of darkness can lead to an embrace of clarity.♥ 0source record 5867
Energy never dies. It’s important to remember your loved one is still around in so many ways, filling your cells and encompassing the air. It helped me so much♥ 0source record 6316

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Signs: cardinals, butterflies and pennies20 index entriesSigns: cardinals, butterflies and pennies — 20 records
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Signs: cardinals, butterflies and pennies

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What the pattern means: Cardinals, butterflies, pennies, rainbows, and other encounters were interpreted by some commenters as personally meaningful signs of connection.

What commenters described: I tell myself at least my brother is taking care of all the pets that have crossed the rainbow bridge so they won’t be so lonely. He was so good with animals.

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I tell myself at least my brother is taking care of all the pets that have crossed the rainbow bridge so they won’t be so lonely. He was so good with animals.

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Gonna let her suffer. My actual brain cannot grasp never ever ever feeling someone’s touch or hearing someone’s gentle voice or laugh out of NOWHERE. my boyfriend was killed in a motorcycle accident in 2012, no matter how much time passes I think of him and he sends me signs everyday. 😔

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Every storm eventually runs out of the rain…. And then the rainbow 🌈 emerges.

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Within 20 source records, 3 explicitly report a benefit and 0 explicitly report a limit or failure. These are attributed experiences, not effectiveness data.

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I tell myself at least my brother is taking care of all the pets that have crossed the rainbow bridge so they won’t be so lonely. He was so good with animals.♥ 92source record 874
best advice was seeing a medium.. went in a skeptical but open and man when you truly realize that we can all connect to our loved ones who are gone it makes it seem like they are alittle closer. I still grive but I also still have a relationship with them its different now but if your open you will see their energy.♥ 17source record 1133
Let signs be signs. Don’t try to logic your way out of signs from the person you’re missing. It’s them.♥ 1source record 1234
Gonna let her suffer. My actual brain cannot grasp never ever ever feeling someone’s touch or hearing someone’s gentle voice or laugh out of NOWHERE. my boyfriend was killed in a motorcycle accident in 2012, no matter how much time passes I think of him and he sends me signs everyday. 😔♥ 0source record 1331
You’ll see them in places you feel completely alone, otherwise.♥ 1source record 1439
Grief is a sure sign that REAL love exsisted.♥ 1source record 1679
“I promise you sweet girl, I’m all around you all the time. I see you, and when you see me, it’s the little things like the butterflies, flowers, and animals. it’s the small smiles.. That’s where I’ll be.”♥ 1source record 1697
I heard a very well-known Medium say that everytime you think of them it's because they are right there with you making you think about them ♡♥ 0source record 2626
seeing a butterfly to me is like seeing the soul of a loved one coming to see you, it gives me a spiritual moment with my grandpa and my mum each time I see one. it works for me. sending you love♥ 0source record 2959
Look for the signs. When you find them, know that they are there with you. I live to find pennies 💔♥ 0source record 3223
You will cry at the oddest moments. It’s OK, let it out. My mom died in 2005. A few months ago I was driving with a friend and caught the most beautiful moment of a Ferris wheel in the sunset after a storm with rainbow. I burst out crying realizing how much life my mother was robbed of and apologized. Friend (he) said nothing. I realized I needed to cry and it was OK because I knew she could see that rainbow no matter where she was.♥ 0source record 3850
Remember to see a beautiful rainbow it must rain!♥ 0source record 3945
It wasn’t advice- it was the realization that they never truly leave us, they actually become so much more and are always with us- in warm breezes, in flower petals, in the wings of butterflies 🦋 Ask for undeniable signs 🫶🏽♥ 0source record 4068
My friend came over the night my dad passed and noticed dragonflies near my front porch. Her pointing that out has changed my life. Every time I see a dragonfly I think of my dad.♥ 0source record 4142
She is always with me, because she is a part of who I am. She is my mom. She comes to me when I least expect it. I lost her last month, she has sent me humming birds and a beautiful butterfly to let us know she is always with us 🦋 I want her to know I will be ok, I don’t feel ok at all without her. But I want to comfort her just as much as she has always wanted to comfort me🙏🏼💞♥ 0source record 4154
Grief is also a sign that that deep love existed ❤️♥ 0source record 4182
Every storm eventually runs out of the rain…. And then the rainbow 🌈 emerges.♥ 0source record 4441
Looks for the signs from your loved ones be open to it. I see the signs all the time ❤️♥ 0source record 4757
Something I learned was that mediumship and other spiritual practices will help bring me closer to my loved one. It’s knowing they are always around sending signs. It has brought me some peace.♥ 0source record 6215
You’ll be lonely, disoriented, angry and grateful. You’ll be sad, confused, nostalgic and joyful. You’ll feel everything everywhere all at once. Some days you’ll actually forget the loss. You’ll move about your day unaware your pain is not present. Until you reach to call your person, dialing a number still active bc it can’t be bared to disconnect the line. So you call it - absence the only response. Your heart will shatter all over again, a million pieces strewn across the floor of a house called hope. And then you make the next best decision you can. Without your person in how you knew them, but with your person in a way you’re yet to understand your relationship starts its transformation. Your worldly love’s metamorphosis. Cocooning until you start to emerge. Tear by tear honoring your loss you gain momentum to break free from shelfter. Your love transcending death, your relationship a butterfly experiencing a whole new world, together.♥ 0source record 6296

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They visit in dreams10 index entriesThey visit in dreams — 10 records
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What the pattern means: Dreams were described as hoped-for or meaningful encounters, though commenters' experiences included both visits and their absence.

What commenters described: Grief doesn’t ever get lighter. We just get use to carrying the weight. Ask your loved one to give you a sign or show up in a dream and they will 🩷

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Grief doesn’t ever get lighter. We just get use to carrying the weight. Ask your loved one to give you a sign or show up in a dream and they will 🩷

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My therapist said, "If you dream about your mom and you are in a familiar place then she came to visit you. If you dream about her in a place you don't recognize, you went to visit her." Don't know how true this is but it still helps me 19 years later.

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The mornings where the hardest. I would dream of them and then wake up and remember that they were gone all over again. It’s getting better and time does heal.

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The exact phrase “will visit you” recurs across 2 of the 10 source records in They visit in dreams; the complete archive stays available below.

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Grief doesn’t ever get lighter. We just get use to carrying the weight. Ask your loved one to give you a sign or show up in a dream and they will 🩷♥ 1source record 1649
My therapist said, "If you dream about your mom and you are in a familiar place then she came to visit you. If you dream about her in a place you don't recognize, you went to visit her." Don't know how true this is but it still helps me 19 years later.♥ 0source record 2647
Buy a journal and write down memories that pop in your head. Write down the things that remind you of them. Write down when you thought of them. Write down when they visit you in your dreams. Write to them when you want to talk.♥ 0source record 2710
When you dream of them… means they came to visit you. That’s the only way they can come to see you. 🥺 Gawd!!! I miss my brother & nephew.♥ 0source record 2716
They will visit you in your dreams. I had dreams my first boyfriend would come and take me on a date. They felt so real and logical and I always remembered those dreams, unlike regular dreams.♥ 0source record 3452
Death is just an energy of transformation from one journey into a new one.. just with me.. for now. As we are energy we can really die. They sometimes visit us in dreams, in a whisper, in the wind, in a scent. Energy transformed. I will see u then kid.♥ 0source record 4146
The mornings where the hardest. I would dream of them and then wake up and remember that they were gone all over again. It’s getting better and time does heal.♥ 0source record 4395
“He will visit you in your dreams and it’s going to be beautiful.” (My hubby when my dad passed away). My dad in fact did visit me and continues to visit me. And they are the best dreams.♥ 0source record 5270
They visit you in your dreams ❤️♥ 0source record 5865
when i hear her favorite worship song it makes me so mad. it's the one I sang to her in the hospital and at her funeral. I can't believe the words anymore and it triggers me. my way of grieving is trying to block out the thoughts. I keep thinking if I see a dream of her I will feel better. I haven't♥ 0source record 6171

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Live for them, say their name239 records · 5 sub-topicsLive for them, say their name — 239 records
Say their name, tell their stories103 index entriesSay their name, tell their stories — 103 records
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Say their name, tell their stories

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What the pattern means: Speaking a person's name and retelling small stories kept memories public instead of making the loss a forbidden subject.

What commenters described: Don't stop talking about them. Talk about them all the time remember all the little things keep them alive by remembering them out loud. In the beginging I was so scared and sad to talk about her but its helped me so much.

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Don't stop talking about them. Talk about them all the time remember all the little things keep them alive by remembering them out loud. In the beginging I was so scared and sad to talk about her but its helped me so much.

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that is amazing! im proud of yall. my family it took 6 years to be ok to talk about him at the family house

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I take a button with his picture on it everywhere cool I go. Hikes, concerts, football games, etc. I get to look at it during the event or on my way home and think that he was with me in those moments

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Across 103 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Use a sensory reset” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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I lost my Dad 42 years ago when I was 10, not only do I still miss what I remember, but it hurts to this day, what keeps me sane is these thoughts, cause it keeps his memory alive♥ 1source record 701
that is amazing! im proud of yall. my family it took 6 years to be ok to talk about him at the family house♥ 0source record 799
Avatar and anime in general has always been my thing and I introduced it to my son. He loves anime as much as I did as a kid. I'm here for you too if you ever want to talk about him.♥ 1source record 877
I’m so sorry to hear this, if you ever want to talk about him I would love to hear. It sucks so bad but I really like to believe that wherever they are they are all looking after each other.♥ 1source record 880
It’s crazy how in the small moments like you had today, you remember them in such a special way! All the good, all the love! Hugs to you and your beautiful daughter who has so much of your Grandma in her. ❤️. I believe she sent her to you as well.♥ 1source record 986
Say their name♥ 13source record 1117
Best friend passed away, felt like I would talk about him so much that I was being annoying. Had a homie tell me, “talk about him if it keeps you here”♥ 1source record 1188
“Tell me about her” it’s not advice. But it helped♥ 1source record 1208
Don't stop talking about them. Talk about them all the time remember all the little things keep them alive by remembering them out loud. In the beginging I was so scared and sad to talk about her but its helped me so much.♥ 3source record 1319
Never let the death of someone be greater than the life of them.♥ 1source record 1395
Continue to talk about them and honor their life with living yours.❤️♥ 1source record 1601
ppl seem to soon move on but u keep talking to them and about them let's them live on♥ 1source record 1603
Talk about them often♥ 1source record 1635
If it keeps you here to continue to talk about them/it, continue to talk about it ♥️♥ 1source record 1644
“Say his name. He’s an amazing person and deserves to be talked about.” ❤️♥ 1source record 1686
Talk about it if it keeps you here.♥ 1source record 1689
Concentrate and dwell with all the good memories and the bad times you’ve had with them. Be grateful for it all.♥ 1source record 1725
Talk about them as much as you need to, if thats what keeps you here. ❤️♥ 1source record 1735
Take the pain don’t let pain steal your memories.♥ 1source record 1834
This is from the show blacklist and it always hits me - “And it's hoped that it will be some time before all the memories of him start to fade."♥ 1source record 1854
say their name.♥ 1source record 1870
it's individual, talk to everyone but know you're on your own for most of it♥ 1source record 1893
Actually there is none...you get there on many journeys and memories.♥ 1source record 2143
To never stop talking about them. Don’t let people make you feel bad for sharing them with the world for the rest of your life 💚♥ 0source record 2388
talk about them if it keeps you here♥ 0source record 2448
Death is that state in which one exists only in the memory of others, which is why it is not an end. No goodbyes only good memories!!!♥ 0source record 2455
to mention them and keep their memories alive♥ 0source record 2490
Try to remember the good things♥ 0source record 2497
I listened to a woman’s TED talk and I cannot remember her name, but she said to take time with grief - sit on the couch and let the grief and sadness wash over you - you need to take a moment to sit with the uncomfortable feeling of grief - it’s the only way you’ll learn how to move forward with it.♥ 0source record 2622
"He will visit. How you remember him. Not how you saw him leave." 😢😢♥ 0source record 2691
“As long as we can love each other, and remember the feeling of love we had, we can die without ever really going away. All the love you created is still there. All the memories are still there. You live on—in the hearts of everyone you have touched and nurtured while you were here” - Tuesdays With Morrie♥ 0source record 2747
Keep talking about them. The memories keep them alive.♥ 0source record 2753
Talk about it as much as you can. I do that but to myself because I don’t think people are willing to hear it over and over again♥ 0source record 2818
Talk about your loved one often. That’s how you keep them alive 💗♥ 0source record 2878
Share the good memories everytime you think of them!! Don’t let all the love and positivity your loved one used to bring, be forgotten💜♥ 0source record 2901
After some time, the pain goes away, and you only remember the good times.♥ 0source record 2927
“One day we will all die and when we do we’ll be exactly where they are - but until then we have to live full lives so we have stories to tell them when we do”♥ 0source record 3067
it was not an advice but i went for a coffee with s friend I wasnt in a good place and she was the one that called me snd cheked up on me. We were at a caffee and she let me talk about her for like 3 hours. Shes an atheist and she told me "i never belived something does happen when you die, but I was thinking if I was in your place i could never think someone i love is just gone" That helped me so much♥ 0source record 3092
The movie Inside Out basically teaches/reminds all of us that without sadness, we are not able to grieve. Grieving is our way of moving forward and dealing with the tough changes in life. Also, without sadness we would just take for granted all the good times and moments in our lives.♥ 0source record 3103
Talk about it if it keeps you here♥ 0source record 3190
talk about them♥ 0source record 3273
Talk about it if it keeps you here.♥ 0source record 3315
He’s not coming back. He took his life and I’m angry. It’s ok to be angry. Cry. Talk about him. Remember him in any way you want to!! Grief tells me the pain will never go away. But it’s a beautiful thing to have known him and cry and talk about him 🥺♥ 0source record 3330
Actually seen a TT vid of another girl saying that a stranger told her “then don’t stop talking about how much you miss them. If that’s what keeps you here then don’t stop talking about them.” Basically she felt like people around her were tired of hearing her talk of the person she was grieving over. This stranger at a bar told her “then don’t, if that’s what keeps you here then talk about them.”♥ 0source record 3380
It was a poem. “After your death I’ll still protect you.” I planned there arrangements how they wanted, even if people didn’t agree. I spread there ashes and I tell stories of them when I can.♥ 0source record 3399
The moment you realize the memory of them is all you have(cuz it doesn’t click right away for some reason)…it’s all you need after that…the memories make you smile when once they made you cry…healing little by little 🙂‍↕️♥ 0source record 3406
not advice I've been given, but what I've learned. you can't pick your memories and they all fade. hold onto the good ones. their laugh, their smile, the sound of their voice. too many want to hold onto regrets and what ifs. hold onto them, everything about them. all that was loved about them 💖♥ 0source record 3423
You have to relive all the memories to teach your brain that they wont be in any new ones.♥ 0source record 3605
Always talk about them. I don’t care if it makes others uncomfortable.♥ 0source record 3627
"Give yourself 1000 days." AT first I couldn't breathe, I couldn't say the name. Eventually I could. And now I actively speak the name and share my memories.♥ 0source record 3638
Try to think of good memories. Who ever you are grieving would want you happy. Try to remember them happy, and sometimes I cry happy tears.♥ 0source record 3672
Move on asap, mourn whenever you feel the need and remember them often♥ 0source record 3747
Honestly nothing ... However: My thing is: Remember their laugh. Then you will always think of them having fun. It works.♥ 0source record 3787
Grief comes like the change of weather .. smell . Song .. movie .. will remind you .. sit it in and remember them ❤️♥ 0source record 3947
The way you say goodbye and remember them makes a difference in your grieving process. ❤️♥ 0source record 3977
"Remember The Inspiration She Was"♥ 0source record 4011
You can live without this person that you lost but you can’t live without the memory. Keep them alive that way.♥ 0source record 4021
Let's dress up and celebrate their birthday tell stories about them♥ 0source record 4059
I read on another tik tok someone felt they talked about their grief too much and that people were tired of it and their advice was “if it keeps you here, do it”♥ 0source record 4225
“We are all stories at the end, might as well make it a good one. “♥ 0source record 4283
It’s ok to talk about it♥ 0source record 4455
focus on all the laughter you shared🥰♥ 0source record 4458
Eventually you will only remember the good times.♥ 0source record 4527
Always remember… the sound of his laughter♥ 0source record 4532
“Don’t be afraid to talk about them. Keep talking about them.”♥ 0source record 4548
“Everytine you grieve, you are keeping their memory alive and they come to you because you called. The pain you feel is just overwhelming love they are sharing with you in that moment.”♥ 0source record 4574
That your loving person wouldn’t want you to keep holding on remember them in your memories and let them go because that’s not what they want from you♥ 0source record 4588
I take a button with his picture on it everywhere cool I go. Hikes, concerts, football games, etc. I get to look at it during the event or on my way home and think that he was with me in those moments♥ 0source record 4613
It’s okay to talk about them♥ 0source record 4665
Focus on the good times.♥ 0source record 4672
2 miscarriages. Each time I’ve been told “It’s okay. They are telling the other babies how amazing you are, how softly you talked, how you hummed over them, how you held your belly softly. They are just preparing their brother and sisters to get ready to receive the greatest of love.” I made a wildflower garden and strawberry garden to remember them. When I miss them I go to them and say “are you talking loudly about me up there? I’ve been whispering about you..”♥ 0source record 4673
Remember the good times and hold them close … when it hurts the most. ✨♥ 0source record 4760
Become what you love most about the person you lost so that way you always remember them in those moments♥ 0source record 4766
Find your happy place & stay there forever! Grief has killed my entire family, it will never bring them back, remember the good times and live your life!!!!!!!♥ 0source record 4787
Dont let the person die twice. 1- Actual death. 2- When people stop talking about the person.♥ 0source record 4796
I didn’t speak his name for 20 years. As if it was sacred only to me. Accidentally said it one day and I realized I had nothing but joyful stories to tell about him. I should have been telling them the entire time. I’ve survived 100% of my worst days. And he was 100% of my best.♥ 0source record 4799
“She was here. She was yours.” makes me remember her laugh, her sparkling eyes. I was lucky.♥ 0source record 4828
Remember not how they died…but how they lived…♥ 0source record 4873
Never apologize for how long or how you choose to remember them♥ 0source record 5052
Keep talking about them it helps more than it pains 💙♥ 0source record 5086
The books were written already just different stories I know it’s broad but there’s only one person you will get to really celebrate your life with♥ 0source record 5109
Talk about them. Keep their memories alive. They are with us always 💕♥ 0source record 5119
That it never gets better, but in time you can remember the good memories without crying.♥ 0source record 5141
Always remember the good times Talk about them often♥ 0source record 5241
Death cannot take the memories ❤️♥ 0source record 5247
Remember the good times♥ 0source record 5416
If you need to talk about it. Call me we can Talk about it as much as you want. As long as you’re talking that’s all that matters. 🥺🥺🥺♥ 0source record 5425
As long as you remember them they will never be truly gone♥ 0source record 5445
remember them always♥ 0source record 5480
To mourn is respectful but to remember is sacred.♥ 0source record 5500
Well. Best thing i heard was, “he will always be remembered.”.♥ 0source record 5630
Continue to say their name, and talk about them. When we lost our 17 yr. old son, my husband and I leaned heavily upon each other. Friends and family rushed in and supported us from all sides. I lost my husband two years later. The same people stepped up once again, but there’s no recovering from this loss. It’s been nine years, and I still cry for him. It’s difficult to take or give advice, because we all react differently to loss.♥ 0source record 5758
I don’t remember the words but I remember them acknowledging how big my loss of them was in my life and it helped me having that validation that someone else in this world knew how great they were! ❤️♥ 0source record 5820
There is nothing that anyone can say to advise one in grief. I love to hear stories about my son who passed and I love to hear how much they loved him too. It keeps his memory alive and the pain seems less lonely during those conversations.♥ 0source record 5890
A friend told me to remember the beginning and not the ending. I can't help but remember both.♥ 0source record 5917
Everytime you have memories, hug those memories and cry till you shake. It’s a memory hug.♥ 0source record 5962
Remember the good times♥ 0source record 5994
I call my mom, and we share stories of my late Sister. She would have been 41 this year.♥ 0source record 5999
I’ve been grieving my entire life. The best I’ve ever heard is Neil degrasse Tyson talking about a little girl who passed away and loved science; [link removed]♥ 0source record 6003
Speak Their name. Talk your Them. They will Never disappear if you do this ✨♥ 0source record 6028
A lady from the TX flooding lost her child & hubby & everything they owned...now living in her car. This (stranger) woman whom lives close offered her home...but what she said hit me in the feels "I'll even let you share stories & sit with you in the dark until we can reach some light" I sobbed 😭 😭♥ 0source record 6100
"May the good times help keep you strong, during these difficult times." Once I read that.... I focused on the words and the food memories.... It helped. some days it made it hard but more days it made it easier to get through the day... hours.... grief is tough.♥ 0source record 6222
I choose what memories I take forward and how I remember my loved one. 🥰❤️♥ 0source record 6244

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Live in a way that honors them

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Appears when: Live in a way that honors them

What the pattern means: Honoring them meant choosing actions or a way of living that reflected what the deceased valued or wanted for the survivor.

What commenters described: Just because their life had to stop doesn’t mean they’d want yours to as well;live the life you know they’d want to see for you. Cuz they’re watching and waiting, it’s your time.

Limit: They want to live through and watch you live life to fullest. Unfortunately life doesn’t stop and neither should.

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They want to live through and watch you live life to fullest. Unfortunately life doesn’t stop and neither should.

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Just because their life had to stop doesn’t mean they’d want yours to as well;live the life you know they’d want to see for you. Cuz they’re watching and waiting, it’s your time.

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my mom and i wrote letters to my dad when we lost him in 2015💔. now that i have my own son (newborn) we both take time and do something for him. i eat some of his favorite candy and my mom takes a drive as he loved his 66'.

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You honor them by giving yourself what they would have given you. So when im missing my mom, I mother myself.

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The exact phrase “live the life” recurs across 3 of the 71 source records in Live in a way that honors them; the complete archive stays available below.

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Quinn! I'm learning to let her in and honor her. This new friend, grief, is so bossy ;) I'll miss my sister for the rest of my days. She was my person.♥ 1source record 48
my mom and i wrote letters to my dad when we lost him in 2015💔. now that i have my own son (newborn) we both take time and do something for him. i eat some of his favorite candy and my mom takes a drive as he loved his 66'.♥ 1source record 802
This…I spent many years losing out on time with other family members because I felt guilty for feeling anything but sadness. I now quietly celebrate with my mom then pick myself up and allow myself to experience the joy of living. Living happily is how I honor her. ♥️♥ 1source record 1086
Just because their life had to stop doesn’t mean they’d want yours to as well;live the life you know they’d want to see for you. Cuz they’re watching and waiting, it’s your time.♥ 5source record 1122
You've inherited all their unlived years, their legacy so use them well. Live their years along with your own and feel their presence as you do.♥ 1source record 1174
" she might be gone but she's in a happy place , that's where she wants to be . she was in a lot of pain but remember she loves u so much "♥ 1source record 1202
That they will see life through our eyes and they will want to see that we are happy.♥ 1source record 1310
A deacon told me to think of a quality that I admired in my deceased parents and embody that quality every day!♥ 2source record 1314
Live the life you wanted for her♥ 3source record 1348
the best way to honor one life is to save another. I think this can be applied many ways figuratively and literally.♥ 1source record 1423
That I was my father’s legacy♥ 1source record 1430
I told myself this when I lost myself in somone for 16 years of my life 😔It’s ok to be alone 😏learn to enjoy your own company so when that new person walks into you life they will compliment you becuas u already know how to enjoy yourself so another can to.♥ 1source record 1443
It will never be “fixed”. As someone who likes solutions this was helpful for me. As I do art therapy, legacy work, continued bonds activities, yoga, journaling, I keep in mind there is no end date, I’m just learning to manage how to carry this often invisible weight 🩵♥ 1source record 1523
Her life is over but mine is not. I can’t just lay down and die with her. She lives on where she is and I must live on where I am.♥ 1source record 1525
love legacy and take care of the people grieving with you. set yourself apart, when you can. taking care of other people is a temporary fix but taking care of yourself makes you whole. fix YOU first.♥ 1source record 1561
Someone’s light might have went out, but your light still shines for someone else who needs it♥ 1source record 1573
you didn’t die with them, so live for them♥ 1source record 1653
Its the happy times that hurt more♥ 1source record 1724
Im 60 yrs old, lost my 85 yr old pedohile father 9 months ago & my mother 82 yr old Alzheimer’s mother now. She chose him but lucid times prior…her words…”He needed me more”, “I wasnt as strong as u girls”, “I should’ve lft him” & the end when she was scared she wanted to go home to her mom & dad. I fought my brother for her ashes bc he wants to keep her w/him. I want to honor her wishes & set her free from him finally. It has caused a lot of fights… im alone in this journey,is grief?♥ 1source record 1754
They don't want their legacy to be that of pain or suffering but of who they were and are and how they lived.♥ 1source record 1835
"This is a season of mourning. Enjoy this season." It didn't make sense at first but now it does.♥ 1source record 1896
You can’t LIVE your life holding on to someone’s death..♥ 1source record 2045
the best revenge is to live a happy life!! 💯♥ 1source record 2086
I’m just starting my grief ( my daddy passed away July 1st) but someone told me “ grieve the way you need to but don’t let it consume your whole life that you wake up one morning and realize you forgot to live for them” ❤️♥ 1source record 2184
You can’t die with the dead, it’s doing a dishonor to your loved ones. Your time will come but you have to live for them. Grief is just proof of a great love experienced♥ 1source record 2215
“always forgive, never forget, live your life for your own peace and happiness, even if it means doing it alone”♥ 0source record 2232
that my late Mum doesn't have a choice about whether to go on living but i do 💓♥ 0source record 2295
Seek the how rather than the why. Be fair to the people he/she left by continuing to live.♥ 0source record 2316
I don’t know but I’m committed to carrying a legacy of love that they also had.♥ 0source record 2387
I lost my Mom on May 27. I cannot get the mental picture out of my head of her repeated plea of I want my Mommy. I’m trying to live for her but it is so hard. Today is one of those days where all I can do is cry. I miss her so much I can hardly breathe.♥ 0source record 2574
“Make them proud!”♥ 0source record 2646
Live a life that honors them 💗♥ 0source record 2786
If you loved who they were as a person be more like them to honor their memory♥ 0source record 2788
I tried my hardest to learn from it. Remembering to appreciate and enjoy every nuance of all I love so that I can always know I enjoyed and loved them well❤️in case I ever can’t anymore❤️♥ 0source record 2855
Try to live life as full as possible so when you meet them again, you can tell them everything and they’d be proud.♥ 0source record 2946
Live a life so full, so when you meet them you can tell them all about it 🥰♥ 0source record 3076
Honor them!♥ 0source record 3184
Keep making them proud…..♥ 0source record 3237
Not advice but things I learned and do. I try to make him proud of me and take care of my nephews in every way I can. It made me appreciate a simple photo. Just simply being around someone even when their unpleasant because we don’t know what everyone is going through♥ 0source record 3245
live harder, do more, for them💜🛐♥ 0source record 3280
Live the life they couldn’t by making yourself proud.♥ 0source record 3409
honor them by being the person they were to you, show the world how it felt to be loved by them♥ 0source record 3525
Honoring my mother all of the time, talking about her, placing flowers on her ofrenda, singing songs, teaching my son her ways. It helps me with my grief because she was such a beautiful person, I don't want her to see me in pain. I want to see us living for her. I want to let her know she's free. 🙏🤍🪽🪶♥ 0source record 3730
That if it will give you a moment of peace, or joy, to say yes… coffee with a friend, meeting up for lunch, etc. So often in grief, we don’t want to do anything. But if it can give you a second of normalcy or happiness, say yes and go. I can almost guarantee you’ll be glad you did 🖤♥ 0source record 3836
The amount of pains is directly correlated to the degree of love you had for that person. To grieve is to had loved.......LOVE is the only thing worth LIVING for. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽♥ 0source record 4232
Create a music Playlist that makes you happy and reminds you of happy times with the person(s) you're missing. Stevie Wonder's, "Boogie On Raggae Woman" always me smile.♥ 0source record 4355
“Pain may last for the night, but joy comes in the morning”palms 30:5 not literally always the morning but the idea is HOPE. Things can improve ❤️♥ 0source record 4357
They want to live through and watch you live life to fullest. Unfortunately life doesn’t stop and neither should.♥ 0source record 4543
It’s ok to miss them, they are missing us too, so let’s live life in their honor.♥ 0source record 4565
grief is the way to honor them♥ 0source record 4607
You honor them by giving yourself what they would have given you. So when im missing my mom, I mother myself.♥ 0source record 4621
My mom passed 4/24/24 I've come to the conclusion that she prepared me in the pass 44 years. She taught me so many things that I didn't realize were life lessons. She passed the crown down to me. I've accepted that. Since her passing I've had soooo many people near and far, family, friends and neighbors tell me how much I look like my mother. It makes my heart warm because she was a good mom , a good person in all. I'm going to make her proud!!!♥ 0source record 4678
No one gave me advice but here is my advice to you. Your loved one only wanted you to be happy. That didn’t change once they left. Think 💭 f them with a smile and live for them♥ 0source record 4814
live to make them proud, they see you? best words ever♥ 0source record 5009
Pour into yourself just as he did you…that’s how you will honor him❤️♥ 0source record 5093
Honor them by living the life they cannot.♥ 0source record 5116
One day she will be your happy place. Just like Peter Pan… I didn’t want to hear it then, but she is my happy place and I run to her often.♥ 0source record 5201
The best revenge is to Live Well and Be Happy!♥ 0source record 5336
Give yourself a week to grieve. Get it all out!But, on the 8th day you wake up and you tell yourself to be happy. Keep a smile on your face, listen to happy music, be around happy people, etc. Nothing but happy thoughts! It works.♥ 0source record 5367
Living a happy life honors the person that you lost. They would not you to live in misery.♥ 0source record 5402
Every tear you cry is you honoring your loved one, don't be ashamed or embarrassed to honor them.♥ 0source record 5476
grief & joy will walk hand & hand now. honor them both as they source from love.♥ 0source record 5561
I honor her by completing items in our bucket list. I wear one of her rings when I do them. Makes me feel like we are still doing it together.♥ 0source record 5598
Live for him♥ 0source record 5624
When my older brother passed. He taught you how to live your whole life. Now it’s your turn to teach the younger ones. (Nieces, nephews, and my kids)😔♥ 0source record 5703
“Live for the ones who are alive besides you, not for rhe ones you laid to rest”♥ 0source record 5732
You’ve got to live for them, not without them. It’s hard to do, but it sure does help change your perspective on things.♥ 0source record 5847
To honor their memory. But when there isn’t much to honor, how do you get past it?♥ 0source record 5879
my Dad... before her died.. said remember as long as you are alive, I live. Flesh of my flesh ..bone of my bone. Took me for a ride to talk to me, said one day you will need these these words.(he was right) It helps me to let him go and honor him with my smiles and memories!♥ 0source record 5942
you finally did it and they knew♥ 0source record 6051
don’t let their death be in vain. 9 years sober.♥ 0source record 6085

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Love people while they're still here

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Appears when: Love people while they're still here

What the pattern means: This theme turns awareness of loss toward expressing care, making memories, and saying important things while people are still present.

What commenters described: There will be ‘triggers’. Some will be hard to feel while some will be cherished memories we made with our lived one.

Limit: Grief lets you live for the first time, I mean REALLY live and see how fleeting, moments and life are, and to forgive, cherish, move past, let go and love deeply… because it shows you for the first time that everything you love could disappear without any war…

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Grief lets you live for the first time, I mean REALLY live and see how fleeting, moments and life are, and to forgive, cherish, move past, let go and love deeply… because it shows you for the first time that everything you love could disappear without any warning and all that is left are the memories of laughter, love, experienced with each other and to make sure those are good ones that can be played forever because that’s all you have of that person.

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Grief has unfortunately been a huge part of my life since I was young. My advice is Cherish the Memories because it’s your connection to them & it’s what keeps them close. 💛

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There will be ‘triggers’. Some will be hard to feel while some will be cherished memories we made with our lived one.

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Tell the people you love that you love them. Life is too short. I’m so scared of my loved ones dying so I made a way they can leave me messages that send to me if something happens. Happy to let you use it for free if you’d like

posted about 33 days after the source♥ 1
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Speak of them often and remember you have a responsibility to live life and not waste time, because its not promised. I also try to think of what my brother would think of whatever is happing or im doing. 33 years without him. The older I get, the closer I am to seeing him again 💙

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The exact phrase “life to the fullest” recurs across 2 of the 27 source records in Love people while they're still here; the complete archive stays available below.

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sorry about your dad. cherish those memories you had with him. wish I can remember mine. lost mine at 5yrs old. 🙏♥ 1source record 661
There will be ‘triggers’. Some will be hard to feel while some will be cherished memories we made with our lived one.♥ 4source record 1106
Tell the people you love that you love them. Life is too short. I’m so scared of my loved ones dying so I made a way they can leave me messages that send to me if something happens. Happy to let you use it for free if you’d like♥ 1source record 1294
“It’s all about quality, not quantity” - he lived better and loved more in 54 years than most do in 80 years.♥ 1source record 1494
Grief lets you live for the first time, I mean REALLY live and see how fleeting, moments and life are, and to forgive, cherish, move past, let go and love deeply… because it shows you for the first time that everything you love could disappear without any warning and all that is left are the memories of laughter, love, experienced with each other and to make sure those are good ones that can be played forever because that’s all you have of that person.♥ 1source record 1768
Grief is remembering every single moment you and that person lived, is trying to remember there voice once again, is wishing you would hug them one more time and telling them how much you love them, it's crying at some point of the day to a song or a picture, GRIEF IS ADAPTING SLOWLY 🙏🏻❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1776
People in your life will come and go..♥ 1source record 1924
It’s not going to make them comeback. Don’t get lost in grief and lose your life while you’re still alive. In other words I couldn’t continue to miss work or continue to not interact in social events. It was said out of love because I had 3 kids to still care for.♥ 1source record 1979
Even the best get laid to rest, so make the most of it and don’t be wasting what many don’t get a chance to use anymore♥ 1source record 1981
A family is never whole forever someday, someone will have to say goodbye. In those moments, you learn that love and farewell are intertwined. Cherish your father, your mother, and especially the youngest, for their innocence makes letting go the hardest of all.♥ 0source record 2877
Death doesn’t care. It’s coming for all of us, so go live your life to the fullest.♥ 0source record 2954
Grief has unfortunately been a huge part of my life since I was young. My advice is Cherish the Memories because it’s your connection to them & it’s what keeps them close. 💛♥ 0source record 3281
Almost everything my therapist has said. One of my favorites is “Yes, grief will hurt. But how sweet it is that you have that memory with your mom. It can never be taken from you. It becomes something you cherish with all your heart.”♥ 0source record 3340
I lost my mother when I was 24. Someone gave me a book “The Next Place” and nothing gave me more peace than that book. “I will cherish all the friendship I was fortunate to find, All love and all the laughter in the place I leave behind. All these good things will go with me. They will make my spirit glow. And that light will shine forever In the next place that I go.”♥ 0source record 3476
the feeling of grief, and the physical tears falling are all the unexpressed love you have for them. you can't tell them you love them, or hug them anymore so you found a way to express it without them there anymore.♥ 0source record 3511
The love you have the person or animal you’re grieving was probably matched. Try not to dwell on trivial regrets because they’re most likely irrelevant to the bigger relationship♥ 0source record 3615
How lucky I am that I got to experience the person, who my loved one once was... I got to know them, their laugh, their tears, their love, their spirit. None of those parts will ever leave me. How blessed I am to have been there, right next to them, in their story. What a gift.... I hope when it's my turn to go, people will feel this way when they think of me and they feel happy. Everyone I left behibd, I want them to enjoy life to the fullest. Don't dwell in sorrow, because one day, I will see you tomorrow, and we'll begin again.♥ 0source record 4278
I felt every comment in this whole thread. Life is short. Love those who deserve to be loved.♥ 0source record 4407
Speak of them often and remember you have a responsibility to live life and not waste time, because its not promised. I also try to think of what my brother would think of whatever is happing or im doing. 33 years without him. The older I get, the closer I am to seeing him again 💙♥ 0source record 4450
Most of us learn on our own … I accept everything grief presents me. Grief gave me the ability to truly see the world. The good, the bad, the in between … it has taught me to value the people in my life … to not allow myself to become consumed with the trivial … to simply treat each day as if it is my last and to cherish everything I accept into my life. And to let go of everything that encumbers me.♥ 0source record 5251
what is grief but love enduring = its my favorite quote, I hear it in my mind when I think of brother 2 years younger and lost him last year unexpectedly.. here is one from me... The love will always be there. It was not meant to cripple you but to widen your heart to create a space 4 your loved one 2b cherished...♥ 0source record 5253
Before she leaves, she reminds you to treat everyone as a blessing and every moment as a gift, that you were unworthy to receive♥ 0source record 5262
She was the best mother she could be. And you were the best son you could ever be to her. Regrets only cause useless pain remember all the Great times♥ 0source record 5446
Grief affects everyone differently. It won’t change what has happened. You have to decide how you’re going to move forward. Cherish the pop-up memories and smile for them.♥ 0source record 5481
I often hear of regrets, things we wish we had done more of. The best thing I was ever told was to leave the regrets behind because no matter how much you do, you will still feel like you should have done more and we all have a limited amount of time to do what needs to be done. It’s important to accept it and let that feeling pass.♥ 0source record 5511
time flies, before you know it regret will be you're only emotion♥ 0source record 5900
cherish the memories 🙏♥ 0source record 5974

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Birthdays, rituals and remembering days19 index entriesBirthdays, rituals and remembering days — 19 records
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Birthdays, rituals and remembering days

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What the pattern means: Milestones and ordinary weekdays both became remembrance cues, which is why rituals extended beyond anniversaries and holidays.

What commenters described: My aunt told me, “Everyone will tell you you’ll miss them on birthdays and holidays…I’m telling you you’ll miss them on a plain ole Tuesday afternoon.” She wasn’t wrong.

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My aunt told me, “Everyone will tell you you’ll miss them on birthdays and holidays…I’m telling you you’ll miss them on a plain ole Tuesday afternoon.” She wasn’t wrong.

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I resonate with this a lot. In 2021 I lost my mom in October. Then in December the day before my birthday I lost my brother. I miss him so much it hurts to think about him. I lost my dad, sister and grandma before 2021 so I was already familiar with grief, but my brother's passing has been a whole different process.

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Dont watch your comfort tv shows or listen to music you like. You'll watch or listen to that media again and it'll be tainted (i cant listen to porter robinson without thinking about my dad's death day)

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Across 19 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Attach it to an existing routine” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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I will ever feel that on my birthday with my identical twin that is now gone.♥ 0source record 345
Wow this just hit me so hard I sobbed. It’s my dad’s 2nd passing anniversary today and I have not accepted this.♥ 2source record 498
I resonate with this a lot. In 2021 I lost my mom in October. Then in December the day before my birthday I lost my brother. I miss him so much it hurts to think about him. I lost my dad, sister and grandma before 2021 so I was already familiar with grief, but my brother's passing has been a whole different process.♥ 1source record 602
Very true I lost my mom, sister then my father. But I will say my mother and sister hurt me deeply till this day. Just last week was my sisters 3rd anniversary.♥ 1source record 605
My aunt told me, “Everyone will tell you you’ll miss them on birthdays and holidays…I’m telling you you’ll miss them on a plain ole Tuesday afternoon.” She wasn’t wrong.♥ 6source record 846
Thats so sweet of you. Its crazy how perfect strangers are so willing to listen to each other about their sorrows but yet in real life no one seems to care. This is why I love tiktok so much. It is such a good community!! Went to your profile. love your tattoo. My son and I are big avatar fans and he loves legend of korra!! Keep being a beautiful human.♥ 2source record 879
Yesterday was my dads death anniversary. It's been years. He passed 2001. I still had a panic attack. I came home early from work and cry. Some days are harder than others. 💙♥ 1source record 1750
I needed this today. It is my father’s birthday. I lost him last month. I’ve cried all morning. Just sitting on the porch. Thank you♥ 1source record 1908
Grief is awful but also yours alone. You think that the first year is the worst because you have to get through all the holidays and birthdays but it’s actually the second year when it get worse. It’s then that it settles in that the person is never coming back. It hits differently, in the little moments, when you reach for the phone to tell him/her about something. It’s also a gift because the length of your grief reflects the depth of your love. ❤️♥ 1source record 1960
Take care of you still! All your favorite meals, snacks, movies, shows, places, time, whatever you love and need do that unapologetically for yourself ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 2203
I PLAN! I pick some special that the person shared or taught me AKA grandpa driving a standard- and I do it on their death day and birthday for some else! That was I am search for someone to share my grandfather with.♥ 0source record 3376
Make a plan to take back the day instead of dreading a death anniversary Give yourself a specific thing to look forward to for that date on the calendar.♥ 0source record 3427
Get a meaningful tattoo♥ 0source record 3889
May 13th 2020 my wedding anniversary and the beginning of a global pandemic when everything was shut down and everyone was scared, my mother passed away. After being in and out of the ICU and a rehab all alone for 3 months with zero visitors. I was empty inside and stuck in quarantine in a different state my wife sent me this text. I had never read anything more beautiful. And today 5 years ago we buried her.♥ 0source record 5081
Dont watch your comfort tv shows or listen to music you like. You'll watch or listen to that media again and it'll be tainted (i cant listen to porter robinson without thinking about my dad's death day)♥ 0source record 5192
I was told that I will need to experience a full year before I’ll even be able to properly grieve - I’ll have to experience all the holidays, birthdays and anniversaries- such beautiful advice♥ 0source record 5597
It still hits me and it’s almost been a decade. 2 nights ago I was patiently waiting for the clock to strike midnight, waiting for my best friend to call and wish me a Happy Birthday. I cried like a baby when the call didn’t come, and then laughed so hard thinking she would say pendeja why are you crying? I’m a better friend to others because of her. I miss her everyday.♥ 0source record 5602
My 1st great loss~my Father. I saw a Native American quote by chief Seattle and it said “ there is no death, only change of words. That really resonated with me I tattooed it on my arm, so I could see it every day and that was the beginning of my spiritual journey with my father. Hope it helps. Sorry for your loss.💔♥ 0source record 5708
Never mourn their death.....celebrate their life!! 🥰♥ 0source record 6242

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They'd want you to live19 index entriesThey'd want you to live — 19 records
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They'd want you to live

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What the pattern means: Some commenters gave themselves permission to experience happiness by imagining that the person they lost would want their life to continue.

What commenters described: It’s okay to be okay. Survivors guilt is real. But she would want you to be happy.

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It’s okay to be okay. Survivors guilt is real. But she would want you to be happy.

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I called a helpline once and she told me “your mom would want you to stay” and that hit so deep

posted about 50 days after the source♥ 0
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I always try to remember that the loved one that I lost would want me to be happy in my life. They wouldn’t want me to be depressed over them all the time. My dad died 6 years ago and until I remembered how much he would have wanted me to be happy, I couldn’t stop being so sad all the time. The more you loved the harder the grief. It’s true! And you will never truly be the same again but you have to try to live a happy life. The person who loved you would want you to do so.

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The exact phrase “they wouldnt want” recurs across 4 of the 19 source records in They'd want you to live; the complete archive stays available below.

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This. After my uncle passed I treat my Aunt how I know he would want me to…with love.♥ 0source record 402
This!!! They would want us to be happy♥ 0source record 416
When you’re ready, make sure you enjoy life the way he’d want you to♥ 1source record 655
It’s okay to be okay. Survivors guilt is real. But she would want you to be happy.♥ 15source record 1123
My mom and brother want me to live my best life.♥ 1source record 1296
My Nana told me when her daddy died (my great grandfather) that he wouldn’t want me to be sad. She has since then passed and I miss her everyday. She was the sweetest soul and always knew what to say. It’s so true, our loved ones wouldn’t want us to be sad. Hope it helps. 😊♥ 1source record 1576
THEY WOULD WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY♥ 1source record 1919
I called a helpline once and she told me “your mom would want you to stay” and that hit so deep♥ 0source record 2256
Honor your loved one. They would want you to be happy and experience life to the fullest.♥ 0source record 2617
There is no time stamp or 'allowed grieving time' it never goes away and sometimes happens out of the blue 5 or 10 or more years later. Allow yourself to go through the grieving process, but still enjoy life. They would want you to 💜♥ 0source record 2655
That they wouldn't want to see us hurting 😊😊♥ 0source record 2941
The nurse at the Hospice gave me a note card that said You can be sad. You can cry. But you cant live there. They wouldn’t want you to live there.♥ 0source record 3313
They want you to live the best life possible! Only way is through…♥ 0source record 3438
Even though our loved one is gone...still embrace happy times. They would want us to do that. Happiness and grief can exist in the same space ❤️.♥ 0source record 3827
I always try to remember that the loved one that I lost would want me to be happy in my life. They wouldn’t want me to be depressed over them all the time. My dad died 6 years ago and until I remembered how much he would have wanted me to be happy, I couldn’t stop being so sad all the time. The more you loved the harder the grief. It’s true! And you will never truly be the same again but you have to try to live a happy life. The person who loved you would want you to do so.♥ 0source record 4418
That "they wouldn't want you to stay sad, they would want you to laugh and live". It's hard to do, but I know it's true, it's what I would also want for my loved ones. Don't have guilt bc you start to enjoy life again.♥ 0source record 5398
“You don’t have to leave her behind to move forward. Take her and the happy memories with you. Do all of the things she never got to. She would want you to live a full life and find happiness even without her physically here. The love still lives there. It doesn’t go away because she passed away” I was 8 when my mom passed away. My dad said this to me when I was in high school. I, still at 16 didn’t know how to be without her.. I felt like a piece of myself was gone. I’m 34 now and I still miss her. I’m more thankful now for the time I did have with her rather than all of the things she has missed. I’m blessed to have known her love. ♥️♥ 0source record 5545
Grandma and grandma would want you to be happy.My brother told me this in my worst times....stuck with me. I still can't believe my favorite people are gone. Grandpa November, grandma December 😞This is the most difficult part of life!♥ 0source record 6113
I can tell you what I told my children after my husband died. Grieving now is ok. But being sad forever is not what he would want. He would want you to live a full life and cherish memories of him.♥ 0source record 6173

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What they actually did to survive it179 records · 6 sub-topicsWhat they actually did to survive it — 179 records
Guard your body — and your big decisions69 index entriesGuard your body — and your big decisions — 69 records
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Guard your body — and your big decisions

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Appears when: Guard your body — and your big decisions

What the pattern means: This practical cluster emphasizes basic self-care and extra caution with major choices when ordinary routines already feel difficult.

What commenters described: that person was me. others too, but i know why everyone was concerned about how id be after losing my mom. and i dont take care of myself well.

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that person was me. others too, but i know why everyone was concerned about how id be after losing my mom. and i dont take care of myself well.

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"There's no right or wrong with what to do. If you want to go work, then you can go to work."

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Not to make any big decisions for at least 6 months to a year

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The exact phrase “care of yourself” recurs across 11 of the 69 source records in Guard your body — and your big decisions; the complete archive stays available below.

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that person was me. others too, but i know why everyone was concerned about how id be after losing my mom. and i dont take care of myself well.♥ 18source record 386
mine died last week. we bury him tomorrow. I dont want to go to sleep because I know tomorrow is good by♥ 0source record 730
It was so good. And he has a nice voice to sleep to. Lol♥ 1source record 978
Face it don’t run from it. Feel every bit of it. Grief isn’t just emotional it’s physical too. Rest. Eat. Move. Even the smallest acts of self-care can make a big difference.♥ 5source record 1119
"There's no right or wrong with what to do. If you want to go work, then you can go to work."♥ 0source record 1271
You don't move on from grief, you move forward with it.♥ 4source record 1332
I’ve had some very hard loses in my life. Felt unimaginable pain and grief, but love does conquer all, and just because they are gone the love will always exist. And that’s the magic, it’s also what fuels the anger and the sadness when you miss them. I just try to hold to love the most and let myself feel my feelings as the come and move on. I try to live in a way that I would’ve wanted my son to live if he was here and I was gone. The advice I’ve given to someone before were these words “Losing a parent, losing a child are both indescribable feelings. But what I have learned through all my grief is that I see my mom and my son in me every time I look in the mirror so I try to take care of myself for them because I am them and they are me. And I’m sure you were the apple of your dad’s eye. And I hope you take good care of yourself as you grieve, let me know if you ever need anything.”🖤♥ 1source record 1424
That I should take care of “myself” in whichever or whatever way that meant to “me”.♥ 1source record 1556
Taking care of yourself will be the hardest thing to do. Do it anyways. They want you to.♥ 1source record 1622
Wait a year to make any big decisions and keep an eye out for signs - loved ones who have passed will try to reach you through coins, music, nature, etc.♥ 1source record 1690
Go to work so u can take care of the family♥ 1source record 1838
you don't move past, you move forward♥ 1source record 1881
If you've been married a long time, get a body pillow and put the recently worn clothes of the person who passed on the pillow. You'll be able to hug the pillow with their scent.♥ 1source record 1927
Don’t travel for at least a year. If you do, everything will come rushing back like it was the first day♥ 1source record 1930
Make sure you eat at least 2 solid meals a day to keep your body from degrading while you are in this place. If you do not take care of your body it will go into a bad place also. What you are dealing with only influences your mind and soul. Keep the body healthy.♥ 1source record 2012
Take care of yourself like you would take care of a friend♥ 1source record 2073
Give away the cloths asap. It is one of the hardest things to do. It easier to do at the stage when people are willing to help.♥ 1source record 2109
The year after is a pass of sorts♥ 0source record 2270
Drink water and eat something...seems simple right!?!?♥ 0source record 2376
Don’t make any big decisions within the first year their gone♥ 0source record 2378
Just make sure your medical insurance is paid, everything else can wait. Practical but true.♥ 0source record 2386
We all went to Disney a few months later to cheer ourselves up? It kind of worked a little but really it took a full year+ to truly accept it♥ 0source record 2420
Drink water and get sleep. Your body is in shock♥ 0source record 2505
It’s okay to put yourself first right now. It’s ok to take care of yourself how you see fit and you don’t have to be “strong”.♥ 0source record 2541
Your first year will be so painful you won’t even remember it later♥ 0source record 2640
"You don't move on after loss, but you must move with. You must shake hands with grief, welcome her in, for she lives with you now. Pull her a chair at the table and offer her comfort. She is not the monster you first thought her to be. She is love. And she will walk with you now, stay with you now, peacefully. If you let her. And on the days when your anger is high, remember why she came, remember who she represents. Grief came to you because love came first.” ♥️♥ 0source record 2805
Don’t make any major decisions for a year or so♥ 0source record 3030
Don’t do anything for at least a year, ( moving )♥ 0source record 3042
❤️don't make any really big decisions ❤️like I'm moving to Russia ❤️♥ 0source record 3105
Do not make any life altering decisions the first year after you lose someone.♥ 0source record 3209
No xk dejes de comer va regresar😞🥺♥ 0source record 3268
Take care of yourself and don’t let anyone tell you how to grieve.♥ 0source record 3410
Don't make any major changes! Wait a year to quit a job or start a new one. wait a year to sell your house or move across the country. Making a major life change under duress will cause regret later on.♥ 0source record 3533
For the next year or two, people are going to surround you with love and try to be with you. Take every person who asks you to lunch, walks, drinks, whatever up on it bc you will build a bond that will be needed when the shock wears off♥ 0source record 3549
Take care of yourself.♥ 0source record 3550
Wait a year before making any decisions if you can♥ 0source record 3818
My Grandna. Keep your bank accounts separate. I’ve done this for 25 years.♥ 0source record 3902
You don’t move on, you carry on ❤️♥ 0source record 3921
Equine Healing works. I promise you.♥ 0source record 3989
“Everyone reaches out the first year that’s why it’s hard to let them go, but it gets easy after that year because no one reaches out and you are able to start to heal”♥ 0source record 4431
Not to make any big decisions for at least 6 months to a year♥ 0source record 4675
The funeral is a cake walk, you’ll be surrounded by so many ppl who will be afraid to leave you alone. The week after the funeral is the hardest day, when everyone’s gone. You’re left in silence. Waiting for them to call or text you 💔♥ 0source record 4744
Don’t forget to eat and get rest!♥ 0source record 4754
Don't make any major decisions.🌹♥ 0source record 4771
Drink water.♥ 0source record 4832
I went to a funeral once for a friend who died too young, and his wife spoke about a family member at their wedding who told her “look around, the only time that everyone you love is in the same room is your wedding or funeral”♥ 0source record 5001
Grief could be also somebody out of your life at a time being( children ect)it’s a form of loss i’ve said this over and over you can’t take back time so forgive when you can,love when you can and spend the time with one another as much as possible cause when the time has come, there’s no regrets just memories ♥️♥ 0source record 5029
There is before this loss and after this loss and they won’t look like each other. The other was the year of first is the hardest, after that the pain stays. It just changes.♥ 0source record 5040
Nap♥ 0source record 5065
Do t make large life changing decisions.♥ 0source record 5243
If you can get through the second year after they’re gone, you can get through anything♥ 0source record 5326
Time works differently for him. I pictured my son who was killed 5 months ago saying to me “I’ll see you in a minute Momma, I’m okay. So please take care of yourself”♥ 0source record 5339
“You can’t take care of anyone else unless you take care of you first”♥ 0source record 5349
You don’t move on, you move forward. There’s a difference♥ 0source record 5378
Don’t make any big changes the first year after loss. I lost my first husband almost 7 years ago. I wish I would have listened!♥ 0source record 5394
At year two is the most difficult because everyone else has gone on with their life and think you should not be grieving still … this is when the reality of your loved one is never coming back ..♥ 0source record 5429
Don’t make life decisions while grieving selling home homes moving, etc.♥ 0source record 5553
Never make hard decisions on your own♥ 0source record 5595
Don’t make any big decisions for at least a year.♥ 0source record 5782
Just sleep. Your body is tired and sometimes feelings are too big so sleeping helps♥ 0source record 5801
Take care of yourself before taking care of others.♥ 0source record 5858
Don’t make an rash decisions for one whole year (moving selling their things etc) see how u feel in a year♥ 0source record 5901
Today’s decisions, affects your tomorrow♥ 0source record 5949
Keep easy access, high protein snacks in every room. Eating meals is hard sometimes.♥ 0source record 5977
Grief is personal love and loss to every relationship we hold. Different loves and different meanings….take care of yourself aways! You’re so worth it. This is to anyone out there…. Love each other.♥ 0source record 5995
Take care of yourself too. 💛♥ 0source record 6091
You can make big changes if u need to. Don’t wait a year. Big losses sometimes require immediate big changes 💔♥ 0source record 6181
To feel what you need to feel, say what you need to see and take care of yourself. Allow grief to do its process.♥ 0source record 6250
Take care of my body because grief will take over your body♥ 0source record 6286

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Therapy and grief groups39 index entriesTherapy and grief groups — 39 records
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Therapy and grief groups

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What the pattern means: I told my therapist I had no clue what I was working towards, because nothing we talked about was going to bring my mom back. And she said while they might be true, everyday you’re pushing yourself to grieve well. She told me never stop trying to grieve well. It’s something that will stay with me forever

What commenters described: Every consolation just pmo to be honest no one could say anything to me it just took time and interment therapy

Limit: Our therapist, said to me and my children in the beginning of our grieve journey..... Try not to be to sensitive to people's comments, they will say stupid things, just because the don't know what to say..... That saved us,…

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Our therapist, said to me and my children in the beginning of our grieve journey..... Try not to be to sensitive to people's comments, they will say stupid things, just because the don't know what to say..... That saved us, poeple can only speak from experience unfortunately.

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Every consolation just pmo to be honest no one could say anything to me it just took time and interment therapy

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I told my therapist I had no clue what I was working towards, because nothing we talked about was going to bring my mom back. And she said while they might be true, everyday you’re pushing yourself to grieve well. She told me never stop trying to grieve well. It’s something that will stay with me forever

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I have had a counselor tell me to find a new hobby and work on becoming the best at it. But not just any Hobby one that is opposite of the current you. So if you work out go and learn to knit! If you cook go and be a photographer etc.

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Across 39 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Change the sentence” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

39index entries
39distinct source records
21.8%of parent category
0.6%of the complete index
38top-level comments
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Yes, I searched for this again today.. it gave me permission to cry for the 3rd day in a row.. I’m going to read it to my therapist Monday and maybe again Wednesday……If that tells you where I’m at… The part about giving her a hug and welcoming her back…♥ 0source record 31
I told my therapist I had no clue what I was working towards, because nothing we talked about was going to bring my mom back. And she said while they might be true, everyday you’re pushing yourself to grieve well. She told me never stop trying to grieve well. It’s something that will stay with me forever♥ 1source record 1209
My aunt saw a psychologist when her dad (my grandfather) died. She said she couldn’t move on and felt sad all the time and they said ‘it sounds like he was worth being so sad for’ - the permission to feel sad and grieve in her own way set her free.♥ 0source record 1218
A year ago my dad died. Reading these comments have been therapeutic♥ 1source record 1391
Every consolation just pmo to be honest no one could say anything to me it just took time and interment therapy♥ 1source record 1783
My therapist told me I had to give myself permission to grieve & stop trying to pretend I was okay when I’m not. I’m allowed to hurt. It changed everything for me ❤️‍🩹♥ 1source record 1877
“Nothing works until something does so try everything. “ Walking, music, coloring, therapy, cooking, fishing, etc.♥ 1source record 1993
Grief comes in many different forms. It’s not just about missing someone, it could be as simple as you grieving for yourself. The sadness you go through when being depressed because how people treat you, or how you feel stuck. I didn’t know that until I went to therapy because of course I’m still learning simple things I numbed out for so many years.♥ 1source record 2006
‘If you don’t grieve now (do the work) for the one you’ve lost (my Mom), you will suffer even harder with each new loss.’ Hospice group therapist♥ 1source record 2059
My therapist told me to do the thing that made me feel better. Didn’t matter what it was or how much it costs just keep doing it. I did. I did feel better. Her name was Annie & she was 9.♥ 0source record 2247
After my baby died, my therapist said "You will always miss her, you will.always have sadness , but the sadness won't Always bind you like it does does now" I held onto that for dear life, and 18 years later , she was right❤️♥ 0source record 2248
Seek grief counseling. Changed my life.❤️♥ 0source record 2452
emdr therapy♥ 0source record 2535
Get a grief therapist, a sad playlist to cry and get it all out, journal and start working out immediately ♥️not everyone is going to understand what you’re going through and that’s ok♥ 0source record 2601
when I told my therapist that I wanted to die, she said you feel like that right now, but you don’t always feel like that and that really helped me♥ 0source record 2610
My therapist was heavy on advocating self care. I lost my brother and father 13 weeks apart in 2023 due to them off*** themselves and it’s been a doozy to say the least but implementing self care has helped me so much!!! Grief is like a rollercoaster which you’ll have highs and lows on you have to hang on to the ride and remember to take care of yourself too. Grief isn’t only grieving the people you’ve lost but yourself too. The person you were with them here.♥ 0source record 2693
My therapist asked “If you could see them one more time, what would you say to them?” And phew, the weight lifted when I spoke. Something so simple that helped me in that moment♥ 0source record 2763
Get on meds and see a counselor asap!♥ 0source record 2844
My GriefShare counselor told us the deeper the love, the more intense the grief is. It's a process you have to work through. Rushing it wil only cause setbacks.♥ 0source record 2861
I got referred to a therapist♥ 0source record 2960
Our therapist, said to me and my children in the beginning of our grieve journey..... Try not to be to sensitive to people's comments, they will say stupid things, just because the don't know what to say..... That saved us, poeple can only speak from experience unfortunately.♥ 0source record 3005
Not given but something I said in therapy while dealing w my dad’s sudden death. I said I feel like I’m in a long hallway with open doors and I can’t leave until I close all the doors.♥ 0source record 3197
My husband died suddenly while driving down the highway at 80 mph with me in the car. He managed to pull over before he collapsed at the wheel. His family wanted a memorial in his hometown. On the flight there I wound up sitting next to a grief counselor of all people. Talk about fate. She wrote on a cocktail napkin the name of a book: “how to go on living when someone you love dies”. That book got me through. By Therese Rando, Ph.D♥ 0source record 3573
A grief counselor asked me “if i could go back, knowing your husband was going to die, would I tell him”. This didn’t stop my grief but it gave me peace with the way my husband passed. His death was sudden and grieved al the unsaid things but I know how scared he was about death, I saw he’s fear when he needed kidney stones removed, he was so scared he wouldn’t wake up. So although I wished I could have saved him or at least say my last goodbyes and love on him, her question made me see his process to leave, in a very different light. Grief doesn’t end but this small question made me realize that he was ok♥ 0source record 3603
My therapist had me pick a time of day to cry and grieve. I picture myself walking with the ones I've lost and cry. Getting the sun, emotional release and physical release in one. I think it's helped.♥ 0source record 3640
that it’s okay to have all the emotions. Embrace them and feel. But I had to be in therapy for this.♥ 0source record 4015
not advice,.but I just started reading poetry, then I started writing it. it's so deeply therapeutic to write it.♥ 0source record 4075
I was so overwhelmed with grief and couldn’t think about what I needed but when my therapist starting asking me to think of myself as my friend, suddenly I had the answers. What if your friend said they couldn’t get off the couch? I would lay with them. What if your friend said they hadn’t left the house in days because their anxiety was so bad? I’d take them for a car ride.♥ 0source record 4174
No one person grieves the same! Your world stops but everyone else keeps going. Breathe, once you start to come out of the fog it can be more of a struggle get grief therapy take care of you! I miss my son so much F25 Joshua taken by a wrong way drunk driver 💙💔🕊️♥ 0source record 4187
I have had a counselor tell me to find a new hobby and work on becoming the best at it. But not just any Hobby one that is opposite of the current you. So if you work out go and learn to knit! If you cook go and be a photographer etc.♥ 0source record 4363
Pretty much none. They all had romanticized ideas about the happiness or success of our marriage. Can't ell people who are mourning a person who wasn't that person in his home. My therapist called it complicated grief. Told me it was okay to feel relief. I mourned his death about a decade before he physically died. Nobody other than my therapist really wanted to hear anything about that.♥ 0source record 4438
My mother-in-law was very resistant to join a grief group that was offered by her hospital. It turned out to be the most wonderful thing that she ever attended. Maybe that.♥ 0source record 4843
The grieving process and all its stages weren’t created by psychiatrists. It is an ancient wisdom our body developed to help us process loss snd it is a necessary process our brain, nervous system and body need to go through in order to heal and continue on. It’s not just spiritual, it’s a real process we have to go through properly in our own ways and in our own time.♥ 0source record 5204
A grief group was very helpful for me♥ 0source record 5250
Never rush it. If you need support, therapy is there to help you validate and talk about your feeling. Lastly, grief can happen for years. We never know how long it will take but that is why you never rush it.♥ 0source record 5521
There are beautiful sentiments in the comments. I was only told to go to therapy after the loss of my daughter. I was a walking reminder of their biggest fears.♥ 0source record 5552
I’m a mom, grieving the loss of my mom. I struggled with trying to continue life when I loss her and I wanted to bottle it all up. My therapist told me I have to show my little girls all my emotions because that’s normal and healthy. There are some days we talk about Grammy and we smile, while others we cry. It’s a process 🤍♥ 0source record 5770
Not advice but therapy. I did 3 years of grief counseling and it saved my life.♥ 0source record 5895
remember the moments u felt valued and medicate on that♥ 0source record 6078

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Write to them27 index entriesWrite to them — 27 records
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Write to them

27 source records

Appears when: Write to them

What the pattern means: Writing letters or journal entries gave commenters a structured way to continue telling stories and addressing the person they lost.

What commenters described: “ when abuela passed away, she couldn’t write her own story anymore. But that doesn’t mean it’s done, she’s in our stories now and we write it for her” - my 7yr old son 😭😭😭 I think of that everyday

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“ when abuela passed away, she couldn’t write her own story anymore. But that doesn’t mean it’s done, she’s in our stories now and we write it for her” - my 7yr old son 😭😭😭 I think of that everyday

source record 1305♥ 2
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write them a letter. write down your memories. when your grief starts to lift you will look back on the memories with less pain and maybe even some joy.

posted about 54 days after the source♥ 0
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Grief never goes away. It’s a pain we can feel in our bones but the intensity does lessen as the years go by. Write a letter with everything you wish you had gotten to say or forgive and tear it up

posted about 37.0 hours after the source♥ 0

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Across 27 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Move memory outside the brain” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

27index entries
27distinct source records
15.1%of parent category
0.4%of the complete index
23top-level comments
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You can not imagine how amazing this, what you wrote was…. Thank you so much for going all in on the first comment and for taking the time to write something so powerful, profound and healing. I needed to read your words today. They helped me find myself… a little more today. 💜♥ 0source record 120
wow, I am 58 years old and have grieved all of my friends. This was beautifully written and I have screenshot it and put it into my journal for those that may need it. Thank you for this wisdom and new perspective of grief.😍♥ 0source record 163
Speech writers are the best♥ 0source record 358
write them a letter. write down your memories. when your grief starts to lift you will look back on the memories with less pain and maybe even some joy.♥ 0source record 1250
“ when abuela passed away, she couldn’t write her own story anymore. But that doesn’t mean it’s done, she’s in our stories now and we write it for her” - my 7yr old son 😭😭😭 I think of that everyday♥ 2source record 1305
Write down every single memory. Open your notes app, and jot down every little detail you remember while it’s still in your brain. My mom’s friend gave me this advice 15 years ago after my dad died and I look at the list on his death date each year. It brings him back to life. I would never remember some things all this time after but I do thanks to this list. ❤️♥ 1source record 1550
“Just know that you can call. Text, write I don’t give AF if you talk about the same things over and over, keep talking until you have something different you want to talk about. “ - my brother texted me this 5 months after my husband (his best friend) died unexpectedly. He lets me share anything and everything and lets me know it’s ok to. He drove his ashes home (over 500 miles) for us. They actually drove way more than that to have one last road trip together. He passsed in a different state.♥ 1source record 1785
write a letter to them♥ 1source record 1793
....wait, there's advice??? So someone else has also walked in these shoes? 37, Widow, 2 children son 8, daughter 5, death 3/24/2020, beginning of a pandemic, no funeral, no goodbye for his children, clawing my way to ICU to be with him, told to make end of life decisions over the phone, working full time, bills, responsibilities, remote learning for a kindergarten writer and 2nd grade, instant survival mode, 2 sometimes 3 showers a day just so I could "wash the day off", every holiday or special occasion now deluted with sadness. Grief, what is that? Who has advice for that?♥ 1source record 1865
Write letters to them♥ 1source record 1934
There are two effective ways to release your thoughts and emotions: speaking them out loud or writing them down. If you choose to write, don’t go back and reread what you wrote — the purpose was to clear your mind, not to invite those feelings back in.♥ 1source record 2091
Journal ….IT ALL♥ 0source record 2427
Doing a Time Line of the High & Lows of the interaction of your Lost One. Then after that has been compiled it is time to write a Good Bye Letter to the Person who has past.♥ 0source record 2471
I can’t begin to tell you how special my journal is to me. My dad’s been gone 9 years now and I still write in it.♥ 0source record 2711
Dedicate a notebook to write to your loved one and say all the things you need to say. Helped me more than ANYTHING when grieving my dad’s death♥ 0source record 3013
Write your future self a letter, to be read a year from now. Tell her all that you’re going thru right now, and thank her for not giving up. When your future self reads it, she’ll be so grateful to you.♥ 0source record 3738
When my mother died, a friend bought me a card and she wrote in the card. Your mother would not want you to hurt so don’t grieve too long. It changed everything for me.♥ 0source record 4197
Write down all the things you are not going to miss…the er visits,♥ 0source record 4222
Just wait until that first dream you have with them in it 🥹—make sure you Write it down in a “about them” journal, make that the first entry, & there after, include the “that was them” signs/feeling/times also. So when those super dark days, where you miss them so deeply, &nothing seems to help, go back, and read them. It helps tremendously 😭😭😭 & now I’m bawling.♥ 0source record 4356
Grief never goes away. It’s a pain we can feel in our bones but the intensity does lessen as the years go by. Write a letter with everything you wish you had gotten to say or forgive and tear it up♥ 0source record 4494
Journal. Every thought. Everything that happened. Your fears. Looking back at that I’m so proud of myself for getting through it.♥ 0source record 5210
write about the ending you wish you could've had, the things you wished you'd said, the things you'd wished you'd done. once you've written it down it becomes real maybe not in this reality but somewhere else beyond our imagination.♥ 0source record 5287
Also wrote letter to your loved one and keep them- update them with every milestone or big feeling♥ 0source record 5559
Life is too short to process grief all the time. Acknowledge the emotion and keep your self busy. Journaling helps. Traveling has always helped me and being honest to myself. Do not derail your life for this emotion.♥ 0source record 5804
You are doing and have done the best you could at that moment. Can't live with regret. Don't rewrite the past after it is done.♥ 0source record 6141
Not advice but something I started doing for my own spirituality. I missed my mom so much & there were so many milestones thst happened. I started writing her letters in my journal. I told her about my grief & the special events she could no longer be here to see. Its very cathartic just writing to her. My special communication w her. Somehow feeling like she will read it 🙏❤️♥ 0source record 6203
Write them a letter 🥺💙♥ 0source record 6319

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Stay busy, stay moving25 index entriesStay busy, stay moving — 25 records
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Stay busy, stay moving

25 source records

Appears when: Stay busy, stay moving

What the pattern means: Activity could provide temporary structure, but commenters warned that constant distraction did not replace making room for grief.

What commenters described: Also- Tyler Perry said this one and I completely agree - grief will wait for you to be done. You distract yourself all you need but it will be there waiting as soon as your done. So don’t run from it.

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Also- Tyler Perry said this one and I completely agree - grief will wait for you to be done. You distract yourself all you need but it will be there waiting as soon as your done. So don’t run from it.

source record 1043♥ 2
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Grieve, don’t mask, hide, or distract, it will find a way to come out

posted about 52 days after the source♥ 1
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Don’t stop your routine continue living full spirited as best you can with what’s left………

posted about 40.7 hours after the source♥ 0

What the counts show

Across 25 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Use movement as the switch” (3 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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14%of parent category
0.4%of the complete index
22top-level comments
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Grief never goes away - it’s just something u learned to live with. Just stay busy. It helps some…….❤️♥ 1source record 3
“Accept it as soon as you can” It’s not going to change. You can change your routines, your lifestyle…but THAT won’t change, and you should start accepting it as quickly as possible.♥ 0source record 1012
Also- Tyler Perry said this one and I completely agree - grief will wait for you to be done. You distract yourself all you need but it will be there waiting as soon as your done. So don’t run from it.♥ 2source record 1043
Grieve, don’t mask, hide, or distract, it will find a way to come out♥ 1source record 1207
The first 2 to 3 months it was constant couldn't think straight. Music always triggers something still. its been 3 yrs since I lost my wife. I was with her since high school. I lost a son 2 yrs ago. You have to maintain a purpose. its dangerous without purpose. Plan things to look forward to. Stay busy down time is hard. They visit me a know this through Milo the puppy. He will starting barking for no reason in the early hours of the morning looking at her side of the bed. I know she is only saying hello to him. He has barked at Dillon's picture in the living room. Dillon is a twin and Milo is Colton's puppy. Milo is my grand puppy but he stays with my because Colton went back on orders last July. I found both of them so I bare that burden as well. But better me than Colton he would not have been able to handle that.♥ 1source record 1613
Keep busy.♥ 0source record 2284
If someone asks you to go somewhere no matter how much you don’t want to go……go♥ 0source record 2443
Drive yourself to every social event. In case you need to leave, you’re not dependent on someone who brought you.♥ 0source record 2446
Exercise. Do hard physical exercise. It helps calm the roller coaster.♥ 0source record 2803
Wasn’t anything I heard, It was how the trees felt.♥ 0source record 3258
Don’t isolate. It won’t help.♥ 0source record 3355
Pain won’t go away just because you numb it in whatever way you numb it. Alcohol. Drugs. Exercise. Food. You have to face it.♥ 0source record 3366
That if my son can see me it needs to put a smile on his face not worry. He is gone on to do bigger better things and I can’t be his distraction. If he sees me he needs to be proud 💞♥ 0source record 3589
Don’t stop your routine continue living full spirited as best you can with what’s left………♥ 0source record 4277
Get out in nature go for long walks in the forest . watch the sunset or rise .♥ 0source record 4706
soak up the sun it heals♥ 0source record 4721
No matter what make a list of things to do and complete even 1 task a day♥ 0source record 4731
When you feel them coming, go outside anf put♥ 0source record 4741
“Tomorrow comes whether we are ready for it or not. So be ready, stay busy and try not to cry.”♥ 0source record 4898
Exercise♥ 0source record 5090
I have yet to get any. But I suggest watching Jeopardy so you’re focused on trivia ✨♥ 0source record 5167
Stay busy!! ❤️♥ 0source record 5248
Do one thing you are used to doing everyday. You need to have one constant thing. For example if you used to run, run everyday, if you used to read, read everyday. Etc.♥ 0source record 5520
to keep busy' go on a vacation♥ 0source record 5702
Get back into your routine as soon as possible♥ 0source record 6179

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Purpose, and helping someone else11 index entriesPurpose, and helping someone else — 11 records
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Purpose, and helping someone else

11 source records

Appears when: Purpose, and helping someone else

What the pattern means: 🥹🥹🥹 I’ve read every single comment and am just so in awe. I’m so glad my words were able to help others 😭🥺

What commenters described: This helped me: If you could choose between feeling this pain, or forget you ever knew them- would you give back the memory of them? I let the pain wash over me again and again. And keep the memories.

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This helped me: If you could choose between feeling this pain, or forget you ever knew them- would you give back the memory of them? I let the pain wash over me again and again. And keep the memories.

source record 1728♥ 1
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you have your 2 month old to take care of....

posted about 54 days after the source♥ 0
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go work at an animal shelter it helped me

posted about 32.3 hours after the source♥ 0

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Within 11 source records, 3 explicitly report a benefit and 0 explicitly report a limit or failure. These are attributed experiences, not effectiveness data.

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0.2%of the complete index
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🥹🥹🥹 I’ve read every single comment and am just so in awe. I’m so glad my words were able to help others 😭🥺♥ 1source record 57
This helped me: If you could choose between feeling this pain, or forget you ever knew them- would you give back the memory of them? I let the pain wash over me again and again. And keep the memories.♥ 1source record 1728
be strong, your kids need you. that's why im here fighting for them.♥ 1source record 2056
you have your 2 month old to take care of....♥ 0source record 2241
“Don’t make it about you. Focus on helping others.”♥ 0source record 2480
I think it happens to each individual to help the next person on their grieving journey. To help understand a little to comfort the next one in line to this reality.♥ 0source record 3134
You won’t get it until you’re grasping for life on your knees and begging for someone to help you. Once I was there I realized nobody could. I was angry at anyone who didn’t understand, and then jealous, now I am happy they aren’t there yet. I’ll help others one day ♥️♥ 0source record 3316
Best advice I was given and I always give back is, there WILL come a time when it’s not the first thing on your mind when you wake up.♥ 0source record 3669
go work at an animal shelter it helped me♥ 0source record 4946
Sign up to volunteer and help those who need it. Sharing your love an compassion can help you as well as others♥ 0source record 5447
Find new purpose♥ 0source record 6062

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Small rituals and keepsakes8 index entriesSmall rituals and keepsakes — 8 records
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Small rituals and keepsakes

8 source records

Appears when: Small rituals and keepsakes

What the pattern means: Saved recordings, photographs, journals, names, and small objects functioned as repeatable rituals for remembering the person.

What commenters described: I found the video of him saying that a week after my brother died. I listen to it once In a while. Because it is exactly how I feel. ❤️

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I found the video of him saying that a week after my brother died. I listen to it once In a while. Because it is exactly how I feel. ❤️

source record 601♥ 2
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“Take the pictures” advice from a friend who was grieving, we all don’t want to take pictures, then someone is gone and you have no pic of yourself with them.

posted about 31 days after the source♥ 1
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Nothing.. I put their names w/ wings on the backs of my ankles so they take every step I take from now on🫶🏻🖤

posted about 42.3 hours after the source♥ 0

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I found the video of him saying that a week after my brother died. I listen to it once In a while. Because it is exactly how I feel. ❤️♥ 2source record 601
I lost my Great Grandmother when I was almost 21. She raised my Mother and had a huge hand in raising me because my Mother was 16 when I was born. We lost my Papaw 10 years before that due to PTSD. He was a veteran. When they went through his wallet he had 2 photos. Both were of myself. I was their everything. I went on to have two children. My daughters name is Dawson June. She's named after my Viola June and I truly believe that my daughter was chosen by my Grandma. She is her made over and then some. This morning we made oatmeal with sugar and raisins just like my Viola June made me growing up. I didn't know then why my heart felt the pull until reading your comment and realizing that in two days it will be 11 years since I lost her. FIL is a tough ass but has become soft over the years. We have a wonderful relationship and I love him like my own Father.♥ 1source record 988
“Take the pictures” advice from a friend who was grieving, we all don’t want to take pictures, then someone is gone and you have no pic of yourself with them.♥ 1source record 1293
Not advice but a song on the radio… that song that says turn it up roll the windows down and sing as loud as you can for me like we use to together.♥ 1source record 1595
Get rid of all their clothes♥ 0source record 2920
So much, but a quick reminder that helps when it feels like too much is that grief = love. And also, at least for me, it’s always ok to bring up the people who have passed from this realm. We are always thinking about them. So don’t be afraid to share a special memory, photo, or just share that you miss them too.♥ 0source record 3900
Nothing.. I put their names w/ wings on the backs of my ankles so they take every step I take from now on🫶🏻🖤♥ 0source record 4255
As much as I was suffering. I knew grief was gratitude.. I missed my person so much . It was hard to get to the gratitude. So when I was reaching the gratitude, I told stories of what I missed with lots of tears and crying over and over. The gratitude comes the photos are shared.♥ 0source record 5317

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Borrowed lines from famous voices100 records · 6 sub-topicsBorrowed lines from famous voices — 100 records
Andrew Garfield, Steve Irwin and other credited lines42 index entriesAndrew Garfield, Steve Irwin and other credited lines — 42 records
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Andrew Garfield, Steve Irwin and other credited lines

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What the pattern means: Commenters borrowed credited lines from public figures to name grief as continuing love, changed energy, or something carried forward.

What commenters described: I remember Steve Irwin’s wife saying that energy doesn’t die, it just changes forms. And that always stuck with me.

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I remember Steve Irwin’s wife saying that energy doesn’t die, it just changes forms. And that always stuck with me.

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May there be comfort in knowing that someone so special will never be forgotten. - Julie Hérbert

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Andrew Garfield said of his mom, “ grief is all the unexpressed love you didn’t get to tell her, and I hope that grief stays with me forever.”

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I remember Steve Irwin’s wife saying that energy doesn’t die, it just changes forms. And that always stuck with me.♥ 53source record 925
I second this. And Stephen and Andrew Garfield as well. Both of those convos are with me every time it creeps up on me and feels a little too heavy. 🥲🥹🥲♥ 5source record 974
"I love talking about her, by the way. So if I cry, it's only a beautiful thing. This is all the unexpressed love, the grief that will remain with us until we pass. Because we never get enough time with each other, right? No matter whether someone lives till 60, 15, or 99. So I hope this grief stays with me, because it’s all the unexpressed love that I didn’t get to tell her." — Andrew Garfield♥ 1source record 1181
Andrew Garfield has spoken extensively about grief, particularly in the context of losing his mother. A central idea in his reflections is that grief is a manifestation of love, specifically the "unexpressed love" that remains when someone passes away. He has stated, "I hope this grief stays with me, because it's all the unexpressed love that I didn't get to tell her, and I told her every day," He views grief not as something to be overcome or moved on from entirely, but as a lasting part of the love he shared.♥ 1source record 1297
This picture perfectly explain how griefs stays with us. And I like to remember what Andrew Garfield said, “This is all the unexpressed love. The grief that will remain with us until we pass because we never get enough time with each other… I hope this grief stays with me because it’s all the unexpressed love that I didn’t get to tell her.” It’s a bittersweet statement—but i always remind myself that it is a blessing to be able to love someone or something so much to feel this way. And whenever grief makes a visit, it’s just a reminder of that love.♥ 4source record 1342
"what is grief but love with nowhere to go" and Winnie the Pooh "How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.♥ 3source record 1377
2 things come to mind. First, Grief isn’t something you get over, it’s something you get through. The second is quoting Andrew Garfield and that is “I hope this grief stays with me because it’s all the unexpressed love I didn’t get to tell her”. Accepting grief for what it is and not fighting it to get an end to the pain but instead transforming it into something that aids you is harnessing the ability to get through things instead of over them.♥ 2source record 1466
“The only cure for grit is action.” George Henry Lewes♥ 1source record 1514
Look up Jim Carrey quote on grief. It will hit you to your core.♥ 1source record 1582
“It's so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” - John Steinbeck, The Winter of Our Discontent♥ 1source record 1718
“Grief is just love with no place to go.” — Jamie Anderson♥ 1source record 1977
May there be comfort in knowing that someone so special will never be forgotten. - Julie Hérbert♥ 0source record 2339
“If you can dodge a ball you can dodge a wrench “♥ 0source record 2340
Come what may, time and the hour runs through the roughest day ~Macbeth~♥ 0source record 2408
don't pity the dead Harry....pity the living...♥ 0source record 2459
Dr Seuss. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.♥ 0source record 2594
I LOVE the videos of Andrew Garfield talking about his mom. He changed my perspective of grief. 🥹he actually made me grateful for the pain I feel♥ 0source record 2606
Andrew Garfield when he described grief as “unexpressed love” that really helped my anger♥ 0source record 2627
From one of my favorite childhood shows. "You have indeed felt a great loss, but love is a form of energy and it swirls all around us. Their love for you has not left this world, it is still inside of your heart, and is reborn as new love."♥ 0source record 2719
“I hope this grief stays with me because it's all the unexpressed love that I didn't get to tell her” - Andrew Garfield♥ 0source record 2734
“What is grief if not love unexpressed” - Andrew Garfield♥ 0source record 2889
I always rely on Winnie the Pooh and think about how lucky I was to have had something that was so hard to which to say goodbye. I feel all the things. I go through all the stages. But it's all balanced with gratitude for their influence in my life.♥ 0source record 3210
Depression = deep rest. Jim Carey I think said that.♥ 0source record 3446
I loved how Andrew Garfield stated it about his mom passing “I hope this grief stays with me. This is all of the unexpressed love. The grief that will remain with us until we pass because we never get enough time with each other, no matter whether someone lives until 60 or 15 or 99. I hope this grief stays with me because it’s all of the unexpressed love that I didn’t get to tell her, and I told her every day, she was the best of us.”♥ 0source record 3460
I heard this on greys anatomy I think, but i didn’t get it until I was in it. There’s a club that you never wanted to be a part of. Dead dad, dead brother, etc. And what I learned was once you’re a member, make sure you tell those you know you’re sorry they are in the club.♥ 0source record 3498
Grief isn’t linear, it’s a journey, some days are good and others tough, but Khalil Gibran once said the deeper sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you hold. I’m gonna hold a shit ton of joy some day.♥ 0source record 3591
Every storm runs out of rain. - Maya Angelou♥ 0source record 3825
You honor the dead by living - Dr Laura♥ 0source record 3835
“On Death and Dying” by Marie Kubler Ross book helped me understand there are stages and every one has different timing.♥ 0source record 3974
Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go. Jamie Anderson♥ 0source record 4014
What Andrew Garfield said about him mom♥ 0source record 4096
Their love doesn’t stop just because they aren’t here. Tuesdays with Morrie is and incredible book about grief♥ 0source record 4124
They are in the breeze and trees and never leave you. You can still talk to them. And if you listen close enough? You’ll be able to hear them respond. Grief is love persevering. And of course, “how lucky am I to have experienced something so wonderful that made saying goodbye so hard?” - Winnie the Pooh.♥ 0source record 4186
No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. - C.S. Lewis♥ 0source record 4245
I know this is everywhere but Andrew Garfield said it best: grief is unexpressed love. His films helped me so much when I lost someone very close to me a few years ago.♥ 0source record 4310
After three months of mourning, "Will you get busy living or get busy dying now?"♥ 0source record 4351
Andrew Garfield said of his mom, “ grief is all the unexpressed love you didn’t get to tell her, and I hope that grief stays with me forever.”♥ 0source record 4452
go watch the "Death" speech by Alan Watts. I'll wait. for a "scoundrel" he brought countless people comfort.♥ 0source record 5168
"Grief is just love with no place to go." -Jamie Anderson♥ 0source record 5304
"Now they get to know the secret" Betty White's mom's view on death. Noone really knows what happens when we die but those that have get to know the secret. It makes me happy thinking of this.♥ 0source record 5789
Grief, I've learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go - Jamie Anderson -♥ 0source record 6156
In the form of a Winnie the Pooh quote 🥰♥ 0source record 6269

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Poems, posts and lines they found somewhere21 index entriesPoems, posts and lines they found somewhere — 21 records
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Poems, posts and lines they found somewhere

21 source records

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What the pattern means: Found poems, posts, videos, and shows supplied language commenters returned to when a line captured their own experience.

What commenters described: It was a video here on TikTok…it said, “you didn’t get to spend your whole life with them but they got to spend their whole life with you.”

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It was a video here on TikTok…it said, “you didn’t get to spend your whole life with them but they got to spend their whole life with you.”

source record 770♥ 2,036
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“You can’t quit living because you lose somebody” was a quote from the outsiders that rings in my head on repeat

posted about 37 days after the source♥ 0
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Not advice but a quote “and when I turned to face grief, I saw that it was just love in a heavy coat.” For some reason that healed me

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Across 21 source records, the most common observable tactic structure is “Swap instead of subtract” (2 records). This is a wording pattern, not a measured outcome.

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It was a video here on TikTok…it said, “you didn’t get to spend your whole life with them but they got to spend their whole life with you.”♥ 2,036source record 770
Look up Amanda Kloots 2inchs away clip.♥ 1source record 1392
Science of grieving with Andrew Huberman♥ 1source record 1667
“You can’t quit living because you lose somebody” was a quote from the outsiders that rings in my head on repeat♥ 0source record 2327
Read anything from Megan Devine ❤️♥ 0source record 2383
Read safe passages! Gets right to the point♥ 0source record 2409
I didn’t get much advice but I did watch Undone on Amazon Prime like 5 times in a row….♥ 0source record 2433
Read “Many Lives Many Masters” by Brian Weiss.♥ 0source record 2821
[link removed] This will always connects me with how to heal♥ 0source record 2912
from the poem Pass On by Michael Lee "We are not created or destroyed, we are constantly transferred, shifted and renewed. Everything we are is given to us. Death does not come when a body is too exhausted to live Death comes, because the brilliance inside us can only be contained for so long. We do not die. We pass on, pass on the lightning burning through our throats. when you leave me I will not cry for you I will run into the strongest wind I can find and welcome you home.”♥ 0source record 3277
It wasn’t given to me but I always share a TED video about grief where she speaks about grief in a way I’ve never thought about it, grief moves with you along your life it continues in your journey. I highly recommend watching it. [link removed]♥ 0source record 3342
Not advice, but a song: Let It Matter by [account]♥ 0source record 3343
It was a poem that I hold dear to my heart… “Instead of asking why they left, now I ask, what beauty will I create in the space the no longer occupy?” ~Rudy Francisco♥ 0source record 3531
not so much advice but a quote that is true 💔 I will endure a lifetime of missing you for the privilege of getting to love you.♥ 0source record 3819
I got this from a fb post a few years ago. Grief is a big ball in a rectangle. At first it's huge and all the time, but eventually grief gets smaller and there's more space for something else. There will be days when the ball is pressed up on you and there will be days when you forget the ball exists.♥ 0source record 4092
Not advice but a quote “and when I turned to face grief, I saw that it was just love in a heavy coat.” For some reason that healed me♥ 0source record 4457
The song “Time Adventure” is oddly so comforting to me. It’s from a silly cartoon but I really recommend it♥ 0source record 5105
I heard this phrase on TT- it said Thad when you feel grief, it is actually all the love you still have inside your heart.♥ 0source record 5271
I found a picture in my moms phone of a clipping with a poem on it. I changed the words from he to she. She’s gone away we know not where, And tho her earthly life is done, Perhaps for her somehow, somewhere A broader life has just begun.♥ 0source record 5327
A quote from Euripides' play Heracles “I will endure a lifetime of missing you for the privilege of loving you."♥ 0source record 5580
I walked a mile with happiness, she chatted all the way. but never a thing I learned from her, for all she had to say.♥ 0source record 5721

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Billy Bob Thornton's 50/5015 index entriesBilly Bob Thornton's 50/50 — 15 records
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Billy Bob Thornton's 50/50

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Appears when: Billy Bob Thornton's 50/50

What the pattern means: This account frames grief after a sibling’s death as a lasting coexistence of joy and sadness, rather than something a person simply finishes or gets over.

What commenters described: Billy Bob Thornton…:: “I’ve never been the same since my brother died. There’s a melancholy in me that never goes away. I’m 50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment.…

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Billy Bob Thornton…:: “I’ve never been the same since my brother died. There’s a melancholy in me that never goes away. I’m 50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment. And the only advice I can give for people who’ve lost something like that… Is you’ll never get over it”.

source record 595♥ 1,037
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“the only advice I can give for people who’ve lost something like that… is you’ll never get over it” -Billy Bob Thornton

posted about 29 days after the source♥ 0
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I was about to put the comment up about Billy bob thornton, and it was already up there. It is hands down the BEST explanation of grief I’ve ever heard.

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Billy Bob Thornton…:: “I’ve never been the same since my brother died. There’s a melancholy in me that never goes away. I’m 50% happy and 50% sad at any given moment. And the only advice I can give for people who’ve lost something like that… Is you’ll never get over it”.♥ 1,037source record 595
Have you heard Billy Bob Thornton talk about losing his brother? He says at any given time he’s 50% sad and 50% happy. A melancholy that never goes away, and that he will never "get over it". I have lost more than one loved one in my life, it takes time…time….for it to not feel so raw. It changes who you are forever. Wishing you love, light, courage, peace and happiness. When it’s so fresh in your mind right after the loss…you’re standing in line at a store and you feel like how is everyone doing this? You want to scream out the pain you’re in. Hang in there, find the joy when it’s there. 💛💛💛♥ 179source record 1091
Thank you. Yes. That’s what Billie Bob Thornton said. It struck a chord with me too. It’s true. And it’s okay. 😢😢🙏🙏❤️❤️♥ 0source record 1098
Judt Google BB Thornton and what he says about losing his brother. What he said resonates with me. You will NEVER be over it. The loss will be with you forever, Grief is a tricky bitch.♥ 1source record 1100
I’ve seen it on a couple other comments but, no one has been able to describe exactly how I feel except Billy bob thorton. I lost my brother when I was 15, he was 23. And now my grandma 7 months ago.♥ 0source record 1829
“the only advice I can give for people who’ve lost something like that… is you’ll never get over it” -Billy Bob Thornton♥ 0source record 2743
What Billy Bob Thornton said about his brother and Andrew Garfield about his mom♥ 0source record 2892
Billy Bob Thornton described it best (for me) when talking about the loss of his brother. He said he’s 50% sad or 50% happy at any given moment. And that he didn’t want to stop grieving or forget bcuz it was his way of honoring his brother.♥ 0source record 3116
Billy Bob Thorntons video about grieving♥ 0source record 3371
As Billy Bob Thornton said, you’ll never get over it, and there’s a melancholy that will always be there. But you have a gift now, for relating to others’ sorrow that you didn’t have before. Because you can’t truly understand the void until you’ve lived it. And that is a truly beautiful thing.♥ 0source record 3520
Billy Bob made it perfectly clear to me. Grieving your lost one is a tribute to them.♥ 0source record 3651
Sadly no one gave me advice that resonated until I heard Billy Bob Thornton. And that’s def poem about how at first the waves are crashing and you’re drowning.. look it up. There’s sadly no way through it. You just keep waking up, you keep breathing, you keep putting steps in and somehow you’re propelled into the next day.. without consent.. and then somehow time has its way with you and the rawness of it will get easier. You will carry it forever, but it becomes the norm.♥ 0source record 3673
I watched billy bobs video years ago. Explains how I feel about my mom exactly. I don’t want to get over it.♥ 0source record 3781
watch youtube video of billy bob Thornton on his brother..so good♥ 0source record 4231
I was about to put the comment up about Billy bob thornton, and it was already up there. It is hands down the BEST explanation of grief I’ve ever heard.♥ 0source record 4748

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Presidents and public figures10 index entriesPresidents and public figures — 10 records
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Presidents and public figures

10 source records

Appears when: Presidents and public figures

What the pattern means: Public figures' remarks were used as memorable language about recalling a loved one with warmth, though commenters did not agree on every speaker.

What commenters described: Funny enough, Biden said this and it stuck with me: “There will come a day, I promise you, when the thought of your son, or daughter, or your wife or your husband, brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye. It will happen.…

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Funny enough, Biden said this and it stuck with me: “There will come a day, I promise you, when the thought of your son, or daughter, or your wife or your husband, brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye. It will happen. My prayer for you is that day will come sooner than later.”

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In an accident; Biden lost his wife & infant daughter. Both sons sustained critical injuries & survived; only to lose one later in life. To be humane under these circumstances is miraculous! tRump has lost nothing, yet he remains a tirant!

posted about 28 days after the source♥ 7
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Joe Biden, “After a while you will start to think of your loved one and smile because you’re remembering something wonderful about them”

posted about 34.9 hours after the source♥ 0

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The exact phrase “about joe biden” recurs across 2 of the 10 source records in Presidents and public figures; the complete archive stays available below.

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Funny enough, Biden said this and it stuck with me: “There will come a day, I promise you, when the thought of your son, or daughter, or your wife or your husband, brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye. It will happen. My prayer for you is that day will come sooner than later.”♥ 4,780source record 302
That is beautiful. President Biden experienced so much loss. He remains so compassionate and caring; what’s not to love about Joe Biden.♥ 207source record 303
Biden is a wonderful human but it’s been so many many years and I still have tears♥ 10source record 306
In an accident; Biden lost his wife & infant daughter. Both sons sustained critical injuries & survived; only to lose one later in life. To be humane under these circumstances is miraculous! tRump has lost nothing, yet he remains a tirant!♥ 7source record 307
Being President. That’s what!♥ 0source record 314
I understand the grief in Palestine is real and deserves global attention but this video is about grief itself, not geopolitics. I quoted Biden here cuz his words have helped me through grief so I wanted to share. That doesn’t mean I agree with everything he’s done politically. There’s room for both accountability and humanity.♥ 12source record 318
No you made a comment about Joe Biden that therefore caused a discourse on him so I as a person with free will as well commented back as to why he’s so good at speaking on grief. Completely appropriate moment and comment♥ 2source record 319
Yea ok 👌🏼 morality and empathy roots deep. To be annoyed about me bringing up Palestine in which many have suffered immeasurable grief bc it bothers u in some way. I am Palestinian I am suffering a new grief every single day for the last 2 years. Instead of replying to my comment with empathy and understanding you chose to defend a war monger who sends billions of US tax dollars to kill babies oh and Americans. Here’s a poem I think is more valuable than the Biden quote u shared and feel so much compassion toward. I also do need u to reply byeeee sleep well at night.♥ 2source record 321
I’m not a Biden supporter but I remember him saying this and felt like he was being sincere. He said it in such a caring way.♥ 0source record 356
Joe Biden, “After a while you will start to think of your loved one and smile because you’re remembering something wonderful about them”♥ 0source record 4716

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Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper8 index entriesStephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper — 8 records
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Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper

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Appears when: Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper

What the pattern means: The Colbert–Cooper interview and Cooper's grief podcast were recommended as longer conversations that treat mourning directly rather than as a slogan.

What commenters described: One of my favorite people to listen to on the topic of grief is Stephen Colbert. He has an amazing interview with Anderson Cooper. Anderson has a podcast on grief “All that there is.”

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One of my favorite people to listen to on the topic of grief is Stephen Colbert. He has an amazing interview with Anderson Cooper. Anderson has a podcast on grief “All that there is.”

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“What punishments if God are not gifts?” -Stephen Colbert

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Anderson Cooper’s podcast on grief is pretty great.

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The exact phrase “to watch anderson coopers” recurs across 2 of the 8 source records in Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper; the complete archive stays available below.

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One of my favorite people to listen to on the topic of grief is Stephen Colbert. He has an amazing interview with Anderson Cooper. Anderson has a podcast on grief “All that there is.”♥ 243source record 971
I saw this, it was just shortly after Anderson cooper lost his mother too.♥ 1source record 972
“What punishments if God are not gifts?” -Stephen Colbert♥ 1source record 1584
To watch Anderson coopers interview with Steven Colbert on grief.♥ 0source record 3680
To watch Anderson Cooper’s documentary on grief.♥ 0source record 4002
Anderson Cooper’s podcast on grief is pretty great.♥ 0source record 4830
Watch the Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper interview♥ 0source record 5254
Anderson Cooper’s podcast “All there is” was so influential during my early grief days♥ 0source record 5851

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WandaVision's line, credited4 index entriesWandaVision's line, credited — 4 records
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WandaVision's line, credited

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What the pattern means: Commenters cited WandaVision's love-persevering line because it gave a compact name to grief as love that continues.

What commenters described: Honestly the line from WandaVision was really impactful “what is grief if not love persevering “

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Honestly the line from WandaVision was really impactful “what is grief if not love persevering “

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“What is grief if not love persevering?” Broke me as I watched Wanda Vision while grieving

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That grief is trauma, and it doesn't go away but we learn to live our lives with it. We make room for it. Also, a line from wandavision that I heard right after my mom died: what is grief but love persevering?

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The exact phrase “what is grief but love persevering” recurs across 2 of the 4 source records in WandaVision's line, credited; the complete archive stays available below.

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Honestly the line from WandaVision was really impactful “what is grief if not love persevering “♥ 7source record 1111
“What is grief if not love persevering?” Broke me as I watched Wanda Vision while grieving♥ 0source record 2458
I always tear up when I think of what one of the characters in Wandavision said. “What is grief, but love persevering?”♥ 0source record 2466
That grief is trauma, and it doesn't go away but we learn to live our lives with it. We make room for it. Also, a line from wandavision that I heard right after my mom died: what is grief but love persevering?♥ 0source record 5103

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They're Still Here

478 coded comment records

Signs, faith, and the conviction that a loved one hasn't left — just changed form.

  • “What if every time you think of them it's because they're telling someone in heaven about you”♥ 15,672
  • When you go into heaven, the first thing you'll hear is mommy.♥ 29
  • I remember Steve Irwin’s wife saying that energy doesn’t die, it just changes forms.♥ 53

There's No Deadline

319 coded comment records

Grieve at your own pace — nobody else's stopwatch decides when you're “done.”

  • Don't let anyone tell you how you should be grieving.♥ 1,114
  • Give yourself grace, feel what you need to, grieve as long as you want — there is no timeline. You don't have to follow the stages in order.♥ 125
  • You're not crazy for still grieving. You're human. You're allowed to still be sad. Take it one day at a time.♥ 13

You Never “Get Over” It

274 coded comment records

You don't heal from grief so much as grow around it — it becomes part of who you are.

  • You’ll never be the same person you were before you lost them, so don’t waste time trying to be. Spend time getting to know the new you.♥ 3,350
  • Billy Bob Thornton: I’ve never been the same since my brother died. The only advice I can give: you’ll never get over it.♥ 1,037
  • Losing a child is not an “event” you have to get over. It's a journey that begins the day your child dies and ends the day you join her.♥ 1,033

Grief Is Love With Nowhere to Go

269 coded comment records

The single most-repeated reframe in the whole thread — grief isn't the opposite of love, it's the overflow of it.

  • Grief is proof that love existed.♥ 6,550
  • Grief is like a box with a ball and a buzzer inside… it never fully goes away, because grief is really just love with nowhere to go.♥ 8
  • Grief is love with nowhere to go.♥ 3

Feel It, Don't Fight It

163 coded comment records

The only way out is through — suppressing grief only postpones it.

  • Angelina Jolie: Go right through it, feel it, be in it, don’t avoid it. Feel everything, then get out the other end.♥ 57
  • Sit in that grief, because where there is grief there is love.♥ 20
  • It’s ok to keep crying, no one has ever died from crying. Let it out.♥ 2

Sometimes the Best Advice Was No Advice

91 coded comment records

The comments that helped most often weren't advice at all — just someone who stayed.

  • My fil told me: today is going to be the hardest day you've ever faced… you're going to grieve the way you need to. It's not about them.♥ 2,538
  • There is NO good advice during this time. Maybe just sit with us while we repeat the story over and over.♥ 1
  • No advice that I was given — but I'll give some. Let it ride. It's really your own ride, and you will ride it forever.♥ 1

Say Their Name

55 coded comment records

Keep saying the name — commenters say it's how the person stays alive.

  • Talk about them like they’re still around.♥ 39
  • The pain never gets any less, but talk about them all the time. They are listening, I promise.♥ 41
  • Don't stop talking about them. Keep them alive by remembering them out loud.♥ 3

The images people reached for

When plain words weren't enough, the thread kept circling back to the same handful of pictures.

Ocean Waves

162 coded comment records

The most common shorthand in the whole thread — some days calm, some days you're pulled under.

  • After our daughter passed away I used to curse the waves and the storm of grief, but now I watch for the sunrise after it passes.♥ 10
  • Still can’t hear anything. Lost my husband and I am drowning.♥ 4

A Storm You Sit Through

29 coded comment records

A grief you don't outrun — only sit through until it passes.

  • Grief was like a storm — you sit through it, you watch it, you feel it, and you allow the storm to end.♥ 1
  • Grief is like the ocean: one day it's calm and flat, next day you have an actual hurricane.♥ 1

A Ball in a Box

20 coded comment records

A box that never shrinks, but a ball that eventually stops slamming the sides so often.

  • At first the ball is huge and hits the buzzer constantly. Over time it shrinks and hits it less — but sometimes, out of nowhere, it still does. That's normal.♥ 8
  • Some days the ball takes up the whole box. It doesn't mean the grief went away — it just means it doesn't always hurt as much.♥ 1

Growing Around It

15 coded comment records

The grief doesn't get smaller — you get bigger around it.

  • We don’t get over our grief, we grow around it, little by little.♥ 0
  • The grief does not get smaller — we just learn to grow around it.♥ 0

A Rock in Your Pocket

13 coded comment records

It never gets lighter. You just get stronger at carrying it.

  • Grief is like carrying a rock in your pocket for the rest of your life. At first it's heavy and you always notice it — as time goes on, it's still there, but easier to carry.♥ 1
  • Eventually you build the strength to carry it every day.♥ 0

Glitter

11 coded comment records

Impossible to fully clean up — it resurfaces for years, in the last place you'd expect.

  • Grief is like glitter. At first it's everywhere, but you start to clean it up. Then you'll move a sofa one day and find more.♥ 2,773
  • It sticks with us, shows up when we least expect it, and catches the light in ways that remind us how deeply we've loved.♥ 20

A Scar

8 coded comment records

It heals over, but it never disappears completely.

  • The pain is a scar. It will heal, but there will always be a scar.♥ 1
  • It fades, but it's always with you — a reminder because you don't want their memory to go away.♥ 0
Conversation context and side chatter

What people actually said

Ask a comment section what to say to someone grieving, and it won't hand you a script. It hands you the one line that got them through.

Grief is a friend. And she arrives when you’ve got laundry piling up, three things on the stove, people to see and places to go. But when she knocks we have to let her in. Make her tea. Treat her like a friend we’ve known since childhood.
♥ 16,076
“What if every time you think of them it's because they're telling someone in heaven about you”
♥ 15,672
Grief is proof that love existed.
♥ 6,550
Biden said this and it stuck with me: “There will come a day, I promise you, when the thought of your son, or daughter, or your wife or your husband, brings a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eye. It will happen.”
♥ 4,780
You’ll never be the same person you were before you lost them, so don’t waste time trying to be. Spend time getting to know the new you.
♥ 3,350
Grief is like glitter. At first, it’s everywhere, but you start to clean it up. Then you’ll move a sofa one day and find more. It lingers, gets easier, but it’s always there.
♥ 2,773
My fil told me: “Today is going to be the hardest day you’ve ever faced… you’re going to grieve the way you need to, and you need this day to grieve. It’s not about them.”
♥ 2,538
Time in heaven moves differently — by the time they turn around to look for you, you’ll be right there with them.
♥ 2,343
Don't let anyone tell you how you should be grieving.
♥ 1,114
Billy Bob Thornton: “I’ve never been the same since my brother died. There’s a melancholy in me that never goes away… the only advice I can give is: you’ll never get over it.”
♥ 1,037
When I lost my daughter, I was told: losing a child is not an “event” you have to get over. It is a journey that begins the day your child dies and ends the day you join her.
♥ 1,033
“You haven’t met EVERYONE you love yet” — 6-year-old kid
♥ 58
I remember Steve Irwin’s wife saying that energy doesn’t die, it just changes forms. And that always stuck with me.
posted day 4♥ 53
Angelina Jolie: “Go right through it, feel it, be in it, don’t avoid it. Feel everything, and then go right through it and get out the other end.”
♥ 57
I was told to sit in it, because otherwise it'll build up and tear you apart slowly. Sit in that grief, because where there is grief there is love.
♥ 20
Grief is like a box with a ball and a buzzer inside. At first the ball is huge and hits the buzzer constantly. Over time it shrinks, and hits the buzzer less — but sometimes, out of nowhere, it still does. That's normal.
posted day 2♥ 8
It used the metaphor of a bookshelf: at first the only book on the shelf is grief. With time, more books fill the shelf — joy, laughter, hope, even love. You don't “get over it.” You grow around it.
posted day 14♥ 2
The pain never gets any less. You will always miss them. But it gets easier to bear. And talk about them — don't let anyone tell you there's a time limit. They are listening, I promise.
posted day 19♥ 41
Grief is love with nowhere to go.
posted day 30♥ 3
“What is grief, if not love persevering?”
posted day 52♥ 3
There is NO good advice during this time — nothing you say could make it better. So maybe just sit with us while we repeat the story over and over. Someday that story will come to an end, and the person you knew will return.
♥ 1
No advice that I was given — but I'll give some. Let it ride. People will stop checking in. They don't realize that 16 months and 9 days later you're still in your grief process. It's really your own ride, and you will ride it forever.
♥ 1
Dataset, coverage, and methodology
6,341
captured canonical comment records grouped by emergent theme
5,206
top-level comment records
1,135
reply records
81,988
likes across the thread

How the complete discussion index was counted

The source corpus contains 6,341 captured canonical comment records: 5,206 top-level comments and 1,135 replies.

Every retained canonical record appears exactly once in the searchable index, grouped into 15 emergent themes drawn from what the comments themselves said, each broken into reader-scannable sub-themes.

Similar comments remain separate. The index is a source-record archive, not a count of unique facts, products, tips, people, recommendations, or independently verified claims.

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